Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Arielle Vandenberg: It's 2023 and the Jig Is UP!

Episode Date: January 3, 2023

We’re starting the New Year off right with a highly-requested member of the OTV family… Arielle Vandenberg! While both Kaitlyn and Arielle spent Y2K feeling like the world might end, this year is very different; they’re both excited and rejuvenated as they head into 2023. This year, Arielle will become one of the stars of The White Lotus and Kaitlyn’s pod will be turned into a TV show for both your eyeballs and earholes to enjoy. The two are recapping Arielle’s recent visit to Nashville (after a very enlightening experience that Arielle will tell us all about), manifesting for the year ahead, celebrating what they’re thankful for in the present moment, and getting into their 2023 bucket lists. Plus, they’re sharing worst date stories, finding out the truth about Libras and potato socks, and telling us why the jig is officially up this year. Thank you to our sponsors! Check out these deals for the Vinos: PELOTON - Explore Peloton Row and their financing options at onepeloton.com/row.  PROGRESSIVE - Quote at Progressive.com to join the over 29 million drivers who trust Progressive.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Welcome to Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Get ready to laugh, connect, and feel empowered with Caitlin and her guests as they sip wine, lots of wine, and get candid. They say vulnerability creates connection. So save the highlight reel for Instagram, because when we're among vinos, there's no filter. It's time to unwind. Here's your host, Caitlin Bristow. Welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow, and I feel like Ariel needs no introduction.

You all know her. y'all love her but i guess if you are new here in the new year welcome to the pod we are happy to add you into this judgment-free empowering beautifully weird little family that we've created over the past five years isn't that crazy look at us go ariel happens to be a part of that family she is one of the funniest most genuine people i know and that says a lot because i know a lot of funny people i also knew i needed to start off 2023 with a bang and she did not disappoint with side note one time I tweeted started off

the new year with a bang I've had better I said that once oh my god that was like 22 year old Caitlin anyways laugh along with us as we reflect on the year

of 2022 and try to set some intentions for the new year you look so refreshed what yeah You look like glowy and refreshed

and like you've just been getting good sleeps. Wow, I have been getting good sleeps. I also have a shit ton of highlighter on, so. Oh, I should have put something on. I mean, I'm literally just letting my face peel off in front of you right now. Oh my God, you're so, so sweet of you.

I did a workout this morning, and this is probably sweat and highlighter. No, I get that. I did a like hot yoga sculpt class with Jason's mom one time, and we came out of the workout. And she was like, you're glowing. And I was like, it's wet, but thank you. And then I kept it on for the rest of the day. Kept it on. Kept that shit on. Okay, first of all, I've just,

I cannot stop going down rabbit holes on Britney Spears. I can't stop. I am the same. I am with you on that. It's like TikTok, the app knows we are all just so invested. So that's like just all they're feeding us in the feed is just every conspiracy theory. or like guests or anything and it's driving it's keeping me up at night to be honest with you oh my god really yeah that's a problem i oh she i just talked about this on my last podcast with my sister and this was did you see what i did with potatoes last night no with potatoes you don't look because i feel like you'll puke what'd you do with potatoes last night alicia and madison my producers were saying that potatoes potentially could suck toxins out of your body if you're sick

that if you put them in your socks that this happens and I was like well I'm going to try it and then they sent me potatoes to the house yesterday I was like why is there two two potatoes in a bag and they were like you're welcome and so I was like okay I'm going to try this so I I sliced the potatoes. I put them in my socks last night. And in the morning, they're like, the potatoes will be black because they'll suck all the toxins out. And so I was like, let's see.

So in the morning, Jason was like, check your socks. And so I pull out the potatoes. Check your sock, potato. Check your potato socks. And they were black. Are you kidding? Can I show you? Show it to me right now.

I'm sick. I'm sickened already. And I'm also so excited. to see this because like do I have to do this hold on no those are toxins coming out of my body so I'm negative also a negative so it worked I'm healed I am very impressed and I can't wait to try this got a cold put potatoes in your socks depression potatoes in the socks Potatoes in the socks. Do you think it would work for stuff like that?

I don't know. I'm going to try now. Yeah. Anytime I'm like feeling a little sad, I'm going to put potatoes in my socks and see what happens. To bathe in potatoes. Just sleep in a bath of potatoes and see, like, you'll be like living on the highest vibration ever. I am obsessed. That is so great. Also, are you wearing six sets of headphones right now? What's going on with you? Can you not hear me? Wait, the funniest part, and I just realized is that it's not even attached to the computer

right now and I need to look it up. You are crushing it, yeah. I was like, she's got so many earbuds. There's a lot. There's a lot going on in here. Like, my face is peeling. I got potato feet. I've got eight sets of headphones.

It's a lot. Also, you know, it's exciting. You're my first guest of 2023. Oh, my. God, what does it mean? It means that you're very special to me and that I feel like you would be good at setting intentions for everybody and like starting the year off right. I love that so much.

Thank you for having me first of all. Second of all, happy 2023. Can you believe? Isn't that sound weird? I have the chills. Yeah, 23. Jeez. Like, I remember when the year 2000 hit, oh, God, I was so scared.

I thought the world was going to end and I was at a party. Why too big? A Y2K. I was so scared. I had such bad anxiety. My mom forced me to go to my friend's house because I was going to stay home and cry. She was like, just go. And I went. And when it hit, we were doing the countdown. And my friend, Coulter turned the lights off when it hit like midnight on year 2000. I thought the world was ending. Were you scared because your friend's name was Coulter? I was like, Coulter is clearly an alien and he is. I'm at his house. and the world is ending because his name's Coulter. Such a sick name. I love that.

He's like Coulter. I've never heard that name and I'm obsessed. What a backstreet boy. That does sound like a boy band name. Yeah. Like could you be any more One Direction? No. No, he couldn't.

How did we get to Coulter? Oh, Y2K. I was like, how did we get here? Oh, did your mom like save food and stuff just in case the world ended? I wonder if she did. She wouldn't have told me because she never wanted me to feel scared. So if she was scared, she probably would never let me know because she would freak out about other things, but like she never wanted me to be scared. Yeah. For example, I think I might have

told you this, but I was just talking about this the other day and you were here. So it makes me think I told you. But when there was the tornadoes in, yes, I did tell you this. When the tornado we were in my Jeep driving. And when the tornadoes came through Nashville, my mom was here and it was 3.30 in the morning we poured herself a whiskey and we sat in my tiny little powder room bathroom and we sat there and I was like mom I'm actually scared I feel sick she was like I'm not scared she's like we're gonna be fine and in the morning she was like I was scared oh my mom is the exact opposite she's like everybody down just just like for no reason I'm like mom it it's raining like you know she just she just gets so she gets worked up

And so when Y2K hit, did she? Oh, you better, we had, we had water for everyone in the town. We, she was prepared. We had, like, space food. We had, like, she bought, like, food for space. Okay. Like styrofoam ice cream that, like, for astronauts?

Yes. Well, hey, if it did happen. And then after Y2K, like, nothing happened, we just ate, ate weird ice cream for, like, two months. it only lasted you two months. Wow, you guys wouldn't have been very sad. I got hungry. We weren't very sad. Actually, there was like, there was like 10 years worth. I don't know if I would just throw it away. But I remember being like, we have astronaut food at my house. Like I was like that girl at school. I mean, that is kind of cool. I remember thinking that stuff was cool too. But you know, it's funny is my mom's like so chill about that thing. But she's going to kill me for saying this because she listens to my podcast. But she would like cry. I got a haircut. Like, she would be dramatic.

Like, she'd be like, ah, like, I cut my hair and she'd cry. Is your mom's birthday in September? September. What? Because I used to cry every time I got my haircut. I used to cry, and I never cried when I was younger. And the only time I ever cried was when I got my haircut. And my birthday is September 27.

And I looked up one time on some, I don't know, website. thing that was talking about your sign and everything if you're a Libra it says like most likely cries when you get your haircut and I was like that was the most it was like the most scene I ever was when I read that because like the horoscope stuff I like don't really get into it I mean fine whatever some of it's kind of cool I know sorry and I read that and I was like horoscope okay well yeah my mom is going to feel so validated because I think I bring that up in like therapy sometimes where I'm like, my mom cried when I got, now, now she can be like, it's just science.

Because she's a Libra. It's science. It's because she's a Libra. Now I forgive her. I don't even need to go to therapy anymore. That's just that I'm telling you, I can't wait to tell her that because that's pretty crazy. And you also tell her that it's from me and she'll like it even more.

Your mom loves me. She, Ariel, she genuinely like, like, she asks about you daily. She wants, she just like, I think she thinks. thinks you're like a daughter from another mother like she really that didn't make sense i kind of am a daughter from another mother you you are technically but she like feels like you were meant to be hers i think it's yeah she really she cares about you she really does we had such a fun time in national even though we were just like hermits but i like that yes and we just like had nice conversations we went to top golf that was fun we did i had so much fun at your house i don't think you understand

I when I was at your house I felt so like I feel like I don't have enough of this in LA where I can go to someone's house and just be on the couch or go to someone's house and just be yeah but the thing is is like I think I could do that I have friends in LA that I could do that with but for some reason when you have your own house you just don't do that you want to be home so it was so nice to be in your town and be able to sit on your couch and talk and like have wine and just like chill and not have an agenda and I just felt so taking care of and safe at your house and I just I loved it. It was perfect. And then like that makes me so happy. She made Christmas juice on the stove and it just smelled like Christmas juice. I don't even know

there was like berries and like burnt oranges. It was crazy. You don't understand how much I love hosting people that I love. Like I love it was the fact that you just said that makes me so happy because I'm as I've realized over time like I'm just such a acts of service kind of like person when I want to show love so when my friends come over I just want them to feel so like

safe and cozy and taking care of so the fact that you said that makes me so happy I when you left and I was podcasting and I didn't get to say goodbye I like choked up a little bit because I was like but I got used to having you here and I really liked it I full blown like choked up in the car

I was like I didn't give her a hug and like I felt I I don't have brothers and sisters. So when I feel like sisterly love, I truly, it like makes me feel, I don't know, I'm obsessed. Like I wish I had brothers and sisters or I wish I had a sister. And so when friends treat me like a sister, I feel like that I could cry. But like I, it's so important to me to have those types of relationships and the fact that I feel like so safe around you or like the fact that I could tell you anything. And the fact that you're like podcasting, I was like, I was going to bust in.

there, but you were like talking about vaginas or something with someone. I don't know. You literally were talking about vaginas with like a doctor. I really was. I really was talking about vaginas with a doctor. Wait, that would have been so funny. I would have just been like pause because you know what's funny is ramen started barking. And so I was like, oh, so I said hold on to her for a second because I was like, oh, I can just go say bye. And you were already gone and I was like, yeah, goodbye to my love. No, I truly was like, I went to like, I went to like knock and I was like no what if she's like on the phone with her gynecologist or something like I just didn't know what was going on you're either podcasting or talking about something crazy

I got to go wait you know it's so funny is yesterday I was podcasting with my sister and we were like playing games of like finish this movie quote and my sister was like stop staring at me and I was like swan and we're like quoting billy madison and like talking about like inappropriate things and when I left the podcast I'm walking out and my headphones somehow connected to j in podcasting upstairs and he was like like talking about Forbes 30 under 30 and like all this educational stuff about and I was just like wow our podcasts are very different I was like shit I want 80 under 80 because you know I don't know when this shit's going to pop off but it will and it'll pop off but I'll probably be you know a little bit over 30 and so 30 under 30

and suck my penis. I'm just kidding. Forbes told me. But also, you know, I just, I really wish there was some kind of 60 under 60, 80 under 80, you know, something. Yeah, something a little bit easier. Realistic, I have to ask because when you were at my house, I had girls night. And poor Ariel is not, she was not caught up on White Lotus.

She went and sat in her bedroom with like headphones and like when you FaceTime Matt for like an hour while we watched the finale. and but you are caught up and you watch so spoiler alert for anyone who hasn't watched but if you haven't it's probably all over the internet anyways we were talking about this the other day disappointed are we allowed to talk about this i mean spoiler alert because i just watched it actually yeah because i mean you should have seen it by now actually but yeah you were late to the party you're late you're late so it's a spoiler for us what yeah what so basically i'm a little disappointed because the guy gets the money like the guy that the husband gets the money anyways and the thing is is like I was like oh hell yeah like get it you get yours right right she didn't she died like why

didn't she take the stairs I mean that was so her the way she died was so her I know but I'm I was seeing the same things you I'm like so wait that whole episode we were just waiting to see who died she dies at the end and then it's just over and now we're just supposed to think that but that liar of a man that she was married to gets the money? Right. And so, I mean, I guess we get a season three, you know, that'll be fun.

But what, okay, who did you think was going to die? Like, what were your predictions? I had so many predictions. Can I just tell you my first prediction? Please. I just asked you a question. I'm like, let me talk. So I thought, okay, so Albie,

the youngest son who's dating the, like, the escort, yeah you know yeah I thought yeah I thought that he was going I thought that that escort was going to turn out to be like his long lost Sicilian sister oh I know that's a great that would have been way more juicy I know because they went there to look for the family and then she's like trying to get money and she doesn't know like you know she didn't know if that was her family or not but she drove them to go find their family and I thought she was going to be like mama you know or something and then he would be like what no and then yeah I mean that's smart I that my brain didn't even go there but now that they look alike they look alike when they were looking into each other's eyes in bed I was like this is the time where she's like my mom's name is Janice and he's like mine too and then they just you know and then they're like is your mom born in September and then they're like oh my god what a Libra. That's, you know what? Does your mom cry when she gets her haircut? It's a lot.

I tried to call it back and it didn't work. You did. That was perfect. Wait, I wonder if season three will be, you know how they kind of did a whole new one for season two? Maybe season three will be a continuation because there is so much left unsaid and so much more to figure out that maybe season three. And maybe that will be part of season three. Whoa, that would be crazy. Honestly, Mike White, call me, can I play? a character. Mike White, yeah. I'd like to interview that guy. Actually, you know what? One of the executive producers from The Bachelor is good friends with him. And I was like, could you get him on my podcast? Tell him to hire me for White Lotus season three, please. You would be freaking great in White Lotus. I know. Wait, let's put that out into the, I know you don't believe in like, well, you believe in a little bit of the astrology stuff, but do you believe in manifesting? Yes. Oh, yeah. You got to put that stuff.

out there you got to like give it out yeah i i believe in like i believe in saying what you want and uh it being able to cultivate i don't know how to describe that but like right like no that was a good way of describing it it's it's the like i mean it's the whole movie that i always watch and listen to but the secret of like the law of attraction that is it's proven and i've experienced it through so many parts of my life. So maybe I would die if you were on the White Lotus. Oh, my God, now I'm going to manifest this

for you. Like, that's going to consume my brain. It's, that's going to take over my Britney suckle. Let's, okay, I want every single person listening right now to just really focus on the fact that I'm going to be on White Lotus season three. You could be, though. Do you think they've already started filming?

I hope not. They probably have, on. Okay, well, maybe season four. I don't think that show's going anywhere that i feel like this is like the show of life that everybody is obsessed with like the fact that jason hasn't watched it makes me a little turned off i'm obsessed i feel like it is such a a show that can just go forever because of the constant change in people right like that you can keep going forever and it's a whole new show every time so that's the cool part where i feel like if you're watching a normal show you're getting you're kind of

like I don't know the jig is up you know what does that even mean I never said that in my life I actually I think it's the gig is up but I but I but I I don't look at it I look at it I think it means like the act is up like its story's over you're not fooling anyone is it not the jig I'm pretty sure it's the jig it is up this scheme is revealed okay well then I've been saying it wrong my whole career. The gig is up. Wait, the jig is up does sound better. The jig is up. Well, either way, I'm glad to use that in a sentence today. What's funny is... I've never in my life said that. Well, now, today it's a new year, new you. New year, new me, the jig is up. That's, I, well, today, you know what we're doing, how we're reflecting and setting some intentions.

That can be like your phrase for the year. You know what? It won't even make sense. And you'll be in a meeting, you'll be like, the jigs up. They'll be like, sorry, that's my intention for 2023. I said some very important intentions on the podcast the other day and the jig is up. Oh, I love it. Okay, when you've got a lot going on, it can be really hard to find time or motivation for a workout. I know I've been there a million times before, but Peloton has really motivated me to get it in,

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slash row. Speaking of manifesting, I, like I said before, I feel like I've lived so many of my like things I've written out and put it out there. It's crazy. But I feel like I'm off my game a bit lately. I feel like I'm wanting things too bad where I'm like trying too hard to manifest. So I'm not actually just like, I don't know. Letting it happen.

Yeah. And or like feeling it for real. I'm like, I will have a billion dollars. And then I just like focus on that. And I'm like, no, Caitlin, that's stupid. But I feel like, first of all, I have a really good segment for us to do. It's a Peloton segment because I went to their showroom. I need to shut up about this because I'm telling everybody how I went to the showroom over the, like, holidays.

The mall is packed. And I choose to go to the showroom to row. And anyways, I'm calling the segment Romance Roundup, where my guest will be talking about all things love. So today I thought we could talk about something that luckily neither of us have had to deal with any more bad dates. But I'm sure in the past, have you ever,

what is your worst date story? Oh, my goodness. Oh, well, the first one that came to my mind was something. But I also feel like there could be worse. But my, I actually, I will say, I haven't had the craziest. bad date stories. This one was just so bad

because the person got so drunk. And the thing is, like, we were having fun. It was like we were at dinner and everything was fine. I feel like people have horror stories. And so this is like nothing compared to what I've heard people have.

Hey, you know what? Did you tell them the jig is up? You know what? The jig is up. Schemes out. I'm out of here. I'm done. but yeah he got he like it was weird because like he was shorter than me yeah that was first part that I was like oh but that's fine he was just way shorter than me so I think like

he just drank too much and like couldn't handle it and he drank he drank like maybe five drinks or something four drinks at dinner it is but like it didn't feel like a lot because we were there for so long like i'll have another one sure and um by the end of it though i was like bro like because i only had maybe like one glass of wine or something i don't drink that much and he i think he was just so nervous and didn't like no one to stop drinking or whatever bless up yeah he got so drunk and then we get in the car and oh so we shared this like thing that had a lot of garlic in it and it was like a like a dip a garlic thing with like bread and his breath oh no oh no so he was drunk with garlic breath did he go in for it oh he went in and I and I was like oh this is my house and I literally just oh no no but he was like the sweetest and I feel so bad oh my god wait he's not gonna listen to this I hope not he's a big Caitlin Bristow fan he's a big wine guy I have two guys that listen to this podcast and one of them is my dad

well katelyn i have to tell you something oh god went on a day with your daddy got hammered he loves garlic yeah it was but like the shitty thing was

is I think like he probably wished he didn't drink that much because we were having a great time but it just was it was too much I guess that's the worst date I've ever had oh that's so sad no that's pretty bad I mean

a wasted garlic breath dude who's shorter than you that went in for the kill? Not great. Not great. Also, not. Went in for the kill. He tried to murder me. Yeah. He tried to murder me after we got dinner. So aggressive. He went in for the kill. Breath. Hey, breath can get close to murdering someone when it's garlic. I actually had this morning I put, because I made these ice cubes that are cayenne pepper, garlic, ginger, apple cider, vinegar, honey. what cinnamon and then you blend that with water and you put them in ice cube trays and then in your socks and then you put them in your socks and you let them melt

overnight and then in the morning you smell like garlic but you're cured but you drop oh and six cloves of garlic in this mixture blend it with water put it in ice cubes ice cube trays and then in the morning you just drop one of those in hot water stir it up drink it boom Flu balm. Whoa. That's really cool. Yeah. Send me that recipe.

I'll send you that recipe. It was crazy. Today was my first one, but now I feel like I smell like garlic. But really, it's six clothes of garlic over two ice cube trays. That's fine. Yeah. It's fine. And also, garlic is fine.

Like, I actually don't mind if, like, you smell like garlic as long as you don't, like, try to murder me in a mad with your breath. Yeah, you know. So I only have one bad dating story, but I've told it on my podcast a million times, but this guy was a pilot. And he, that was just like a, I don't know why threw that in there just to paint a picture, I guess. He was a pilot that has nothing to do with the story. We get it. You date pilots. He was a pilot for a private jet. No, he wasn't. It was like Spirit Airlines. And he, just kidding. I don't even care if it is. That's cool. But he took me to a gay bar. And we, and it was in the day. it was at like after my shift at like 4 o'clock we went to a gay bar and he ordered me food which I don't like what people do and he ordered potato skins what's with potatoes so you just don't like potato skins I mean I do but I thought it was a weird date food to order for us to share at a gay bar why were we at a gay bar is the real question why we got a gay bar in the first place I don't know but now I literally have potato skin so

Full circle. Okay. Also, I love including Bino's in the fun, so I have to share the story with you from my Facebook group of this girl's date story. Okay. Oh my God, I'm so excited. I enjoy this one. Once I went on a date with this guy that talked a lot about squirrels, it was during the shutdown. So I went to his apartment where there was no furniture in the living room and a mattress on the floor. It turns out his squirrel obsession is because he is a carnivore and he wants to hunt and kill squirrels to eat. He showed me. me his camera of all the squirrel photos, and he took my photo before I left. Thank you so much for revealing that. I have so many questions that... Wait. He showed you a bunch of pictures of squirrels and then took your photo after he told you he wanted to eat the photograph squirrels? Yes, with no furniture. That sounds a little Jeffrey Dahmerish. Sounds a little Dexter. It sounds a little Dexter to me. Except Dexter's a hero. Yeah, this guy ain't...

This guy's a squirrel murderer. Hold on a second. So, I mean, I just have questions. Can we get her on? I know. I really wish because a lot of times when they tell me these stories and I'll read them, I'm like, I have so many questions. Yeah.

I mean, maybe he just, maybe, I mean, think about, okay. I'm just like on the squirrel guy's side. I'm just trying to give everyone like a little benefit of the doubt. Okay, what if he just like got nervous and he's like, he's if you hunt you do eat squirrels

you do I guess have you ever seen the series alone naked and afraid oh that too yeah they'll eat anything

I mean they're like oh I've stabbed a scorpion I'm like what they'll eat protein protein so like that's the thing I'm

maybe he's a hunter and he likes squirrel meat clearly but why would he take a picture of her after showing her all the pictures of the squirrels. I don't know. Maybe she's hot. Maybe she looked like a squirrel. Maybe she looked like a squirrel. Maybe that's why he was attracted to her in the first place. Okay, so real quick, a little bit about the Peloton Row, which I promise is much more enjoyable than these dating horror stories. But Peloton Row offers a variety of classes for all levels and game-changing features that help you

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Well, also, like, I don't want to, like, just steal your intention, Thunder. No, this is, it aligns. It's perfect. It aligns. Okay. Same way of life. So I recently went to, like, this wellness retreat situation, and it is the most beautiful experience I've ever had. It's called OnSight. and it is truly like it's such it was it's just incredible yeah and it they have um all different types of like programs that you can do where you can go and like do a couple's thing or you can do horse therapy or you can like go in a big group or you can go for a really

long time there's all these different things i went for seven days i turned my phone off i got away from it all and it truly was like it was so incredible and you should look it up if you haven't heard about it. I haven't been talked about it yet, really, but I haven't talked about my experience really with anyone except for like Matt and you. But I really like want to shout it from the rooftops on how cool and amazing this experience was. I've never done anything like it. And what's so crazy is when you're there, you're like, you kind of think, this is so weird. You know, this is so weird. You're with a bunch of strangers and you're meeting people and telling You feel like exposed.

You feel exposed. You feel so vulnerable and you don't have your phone. You're like sleeping without a phone next to your head. This is so weird. No, that's normal. Like that that is normal shit. We are so weird in the real world. We are weird that we have our phone next to our head and then right away when you open your eyes, you're scrolling things, you're emailing, you're taking phone calls during dinner.

Like, no. We should be like. we should be in nature. And that's the other cool part of it is you're like out in the middle of Tennessee. It's so beautiful. And there's animals. It's just gorgeous. And so you wake up and you're just at this beautiful place and then you're with strangers and you're just conversing.

And it's just incredible. Anyways, so I went and did that. Check it out. If you haven't heard of it, it's pretty incredible stuff. Every single person that I've heard that went to that, that and Hoffman. Those are the two where I'm just like, people come out of there and say they're in like a euphoric place in their life where they're just like they know what the beauty of life is. They have done so much inner work. They've connected with people.

It's amazing. The connection you can make with somebody if you're not looking at your phone, even for 10 minutes is massive. If we're standing in line at Starbucks and you're just like this, you're not making eye contact. There's no way for someone to talk to you. there's no way for you to talk to somebody we are just shut off from everything that's around us right now and then we wonder why time goes by so fast yes cape nobody's in the moment everything goes by fast and then also like if you're single how is anyone going to talk to you if yeah or like how are you going to talk to anybody or if you're if you're lonely like no one's going to see your

eyes and want to talk to you i don't know when you were when i was there i just i i met the most incredible people that I hope to know for the rest of my life because they're just so special. You probably will because you shared that with them. Definitely. I mean, they're they're amazing, amazing people. But anyways, I got this thing. It's called Discovering You card deck. And it has all these like, it's like kind of like journal prompts if you want them to be or if you're in a group of friends or at dinner or something, you could like pull these out and be like, pick a card. We've got present. We've got past. And we have future. And if you want to try it, we can. If not, we could do your intentions.

No, I would love to because we did this the other night. And I was like, I didn't want to go to bed because I wanted to just keep doing that because it sparks so many different conversations and like deep thoughts and it makes you feel gratitude. Which you know it's crazy. Like a huge part of manifesting is gratitude. But I found out that your brains are wired. Our brains are wired to overlook the good things. Now, don't quote me on this, but I heard it somewhere. But that's something that our brains are hardwired to do, like take in negative things that happened to us because it was how we used to survive, like back in like caveman days. So like if I eat that berry, I will die. Negative thought, need to remember that to survive. It's like a survival mode. And so we have to be really intentional about calling out what we're grateful for in our lives to override the negativity. So I feel like what we're about to do with these cards is such a good practice for that. I love that.

Yeah, that's so true. Isn't that crazy? That is really cool. So are you saying that like if you have a negative thought, you have to counteract it? Or what do you do in those situations? Yeah, like because our brains are just hardwired to hang on to a negative thought. So usually we focus on that. So we have to shift and focus on something that we're grateful for to, yeah, to kind of override it.

Right. And then you can train the brain. I love that. Yeah. Drain the brain. Drain the main brain drain the main vein Drain the main vein Drain the main vein

Shit Do you want to try one? Yeah, I do Do you want to pick out past, future, or present? Let's do Present Present What is one thing you can celebrate

In yourself right now? Oh, I can celebrate in myself right now like in the second or like in my life right now i think in your life right now i have never or whatever you want i i okay i have never been more intrigued and excited to learn more about myself than ever i have in my life like i'm just in this place in my life where i'm like i really love who i am and i want to dive as deep as possible to to learn even more about why i am the way i am and i'm like so excited about that. I love that. Yeah. That is really cool. That's something to celebrate for sure, because a lot of people don't maybe don't care about that or don't even think to think about that.

Right. And I'm like, yeah, like this morning I was meditating and I was just like, like, I was like, I love my heart. And I was just like, and I thought about everything that's made me that way. And so many things that I've learned about myself through like therapy and this brain spotting I'm doing and all these things. and then I'm doing what you did and doing that week retreat and I'm doing inner child work in January where I'm not going to have a phone for a week and I can't wait to meet up with you after

so that we can be like, holy shit. You better invite me to whatever trip you go on afterwards because I will be there. You're going to be my person after that. I will be holding space for you however you need me.

I will be quiet. I will talk. I will just listen. I'll do whatever you want, but I need to go. I will cry. We will cry together. I'm so excited.

We will cry. I love. that um what are you going to do past present or future i'm going to answer the same one you did because it says everyone answers but um what is one thing you can celebrate in yourself right now um i would probably say that kind of similar to what you said but i'm celebrating the fact that i am making big changes in my life with with not eating a bunch of sugar like i love sugar i love not just because it's the new year. Like I truly, I love anything with sugar in it,

but I recently have been kind of like pushing it away. And yesterday, like, picked something up and I was like, I want this, which is clearly just sugar. And I was like, no, I don't want that. And I put it back. And instead, like, I got a green juice with apple in it, which is sweet. And you can like, you can just like figure it out.

Well, I'm big on intuitive eating. I did an eight-week course twice on intuitive eating and how it actually like nourishing your body and listening to what your body actually needs and how that will make you feel satisfied and energized and like you sleep better and you feel better and your skin's better and your brain works better. Like it's crazy how beneficial that is to you and you're like clarity. And I'm also, I have a hard time working out because I get really, really dizzy when I work out. And so I just sometimes, like, I just won't or if I work out, I go really easy on myself. But I've been doing Tracy Anderson classes.

Have you ever done a Tracy Anderson class? I've heard about them, but I want to do it so bad. Girl, I am J-Lo. Like, I am, like, if you do some Tracy Anderson workouts, yes, they're hard. But, like, even if you do half the class, you're getting the best. best workout you've ever gotten. Are they in Nashville? You could do them online, but I don't know if she has a studio in Nashville, but

she, her home workouts are like, it's the same thing. Well, obviously in a class, it's probably more fun. But they're, the online studio is great. But I've been going to the classes and they are like, you're jacked. I'm jacked right now. Hugh Jackman. Okay, so you're working on. like the inside out like you're just like yeah i'm going to focus on nourishing myself and feeling

good on the inside because that i had i had a sign on my mirror forever i don't know where it went i think um i don't know it's gone but it said i don't need the message anymore because i read it every day and now i believe it so it just like magically disappeared but it said if you work on the inside the outside will fall into place which you know what i mean like you won't care as much about the vain things of life where you'll just feel so good inside that you'll just shine from the outside. I love it. I think that's so true. And I feel like that's such a new year, new me type like answer. But I think that's a celebration because I actually want to do it. Most of the time when you set that kind of goal for the new year, it's like you dread it. Like, I'm not going to drink.

Like, no, like I actually like want to not. I actually want to eat better. And I eat. I eat. really really healthy actually like I'm very good but I still will just like dominate sugar like it's nobody's business like I'll just bring it I love it like sugar is an addiction your phone's an addiction like these are all things that are like distracting our brains and bodies from feeling it's best and the phone thing I've been so good about like not scrolling right before bed and scrolling but to fall asleep like I just put my phone away and I close my eyes like a normal freaking worse. And I bet you sleep better than anyone now because I know it's so, I really got to try

that sometimes. I'll tell you one thing I won't give up with sugar. I'll never give up wine. I just, I love it so much and it's a joy in my life and it makes me happy. And I just, I don't, like, I just love it. But. Well, we have to have, we have to have things that we enjoy. Yeah.

Like eating or drinking or whatever it is. Like, I'm not going to stop eating every sugar. Like, I just can't, I'm not going to have freaking sugar after every meal or, you know, or something. Like, that's crazy. You know what you should try? Do you like peppermint chocolate? No, I don't. But I'll try anything once.

Well, I actually am not the biggest peppermint chocolate fan either. I feel like I talked about this with a guy from The Bachelor's name's Justin. You wouldn't know because you don't watch the show, which I also want to talk about. Just calling me out. It's so funny. It's funny because of the big one guy meeting that I just wanted. want to touch on after but it tastes like you're just eating like toothpaste and that's gross but i will say one of my favorite treats after dinner is putting like a um spoonful of cocoa powder like zero sugar

cocoa powder in peppermint tea it's so good oh that would be good because then it like tastes more like fresh it's less uh-huh like i don't like chocolate peppermint like candy cane vibes or something like that's gross to me and i also want people to know that it's not an I know you feel this way too. It's not about like, because it's calories or we're going to gain weight. It's actually about how it makes you feel. And it's like I said from that intuitive eating course I took. Like I, it's crazy how much that makes a difference in your like mental clarity.

No, it's it's not about that at all. I actually feel like when I eat sugar, oh my God, I'm such a dick for saying this. But I'm like, I lose weight. Like, no, I don't. But you know. But you don't like feel it. I don't like feel. But I know that it's not good for your brain.

Yeah. And infections, like, live and eat sugar in your body. Like, that's fucking gross. It's crazy. I mean, that's another one thing to cut out when you're sick is because your body fights infection better if you don't have sugar in your system. It's, yeah. I don't know if people know this, but I'm a doctor. You are Bill Nye, the science guy, and it's science.

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Mine was, like, mine was, in a good way, extremely busy. So I would say busy, but also transformative because it made me want to slow down and, like, actually take care of myself. So I've been really focusing on, like, my mental and physical health. and maybe I would say a little scary. Wow, I felt that. Yeah. There's a lot of things that like came up that I was like the unknown and unsure of and got confused on and didn't know what the next steps were and like a little scary.

Girl, can I take your answers? Like it's perfectly perfect. I feel like how you felt too. I feel like a lot of people felt that way this year. Yeah. I think, I think. transformative is such a good word and enlightened I feel like but that's a recent feeling that's what my word is like the 2023 I want to feel clarity and enlightened yeah I felt

very enlightened at the end of the year so you know feeling like having that come into this new year is so perfect I will say it was hard I had a hard year, whether that was because it was so busy or moving hardships in the workplace. No, you know, just like things were, like, it felt very hard for me last year, actually. So some things in people's life when they're hard, you're like, I'm not ready to share this yet. So that can be a word that you don't have to explain.

Yeah, it just felt it was hard. But hard in so many different ways, it's just crazy. But yeah. And then I would, I'd say also just, I guess, did I do, I guess, transformative? Yeah. Hard. Busy. Yeah.

Those are three. And enlightened. I want to keep that one because I truly feel like very enlightened at the end of the year. So I feel like that, that's a great word for. I mean, I saw that in you when you were here. You were just, you seemed like you had shifted into a very enlightened place in life. Yeah. really starting not that you didn't before but like it's really important to you the relationships

you have yeah the conversations like that the stuff that matters in life is really becoming apparent to you well i think like i've always always felt that way i've i've always been like the person to never want to leave a party because like there's always someone you know having a deep talk by a fire pit or something like i never want to be the one to be like hey got to go like I stay for all the deep talks and I've always been that person and recently I've been like I need because I love that so much I need the I need to start being the person that brings those deep talks to conversations if I love them so much. Why can't I just start them and hold them and have dinner parties where you know you bring out these and you're like this is what we're doing tonight. Everybody put your phone in a basket and it stays in the house and or whoever needs to check their phone first has to pay for dinner. You know, like, I love that. Like, just, it's, yeah, I feel like that's. At Cleo's wedding, we had bets with each other.

I was, it was awesome because, I mean, especially in certain places and times in your life where you want to be the most present, like put away your phone. And that could be around a fire pit or talking with friends or at a dinner or at a wedding. Yeah, whatever that is. Also spiritual. Okay, but anyways, I feel like that's a word that I really. What the better. I have so many better.

Better, I have so many words. Yes. It was also very spiritual. I feel like last year was. Okay. I love that. I love that. Okay.

Who came into your life in 2022 that you appreciate going into 2023? Oh my goodness. My friend Rachel. Okay. I have this with you kind of where like we just like clicked right when we met each other. Yes. And that's, I feel like. you know, you're an easy person to talk to.

Like, I feel like we can kind of, I don't know, we have that thing. We're kind of similar. So when I met you, I was like, oh, my God. Like, I could tell this girl anything. Like, that's not always the case, right? And I really feel like that with you, obviously. But I didn't meet you this year, so I can't say you.

Fair enough, fair enough. But my friend Rachel is very like that. She's just an incredible person. And she's become a person in my life that, I can't imagine, like, not knowing her forever. And also just, I can't believe I haven't known her forever. I just. Oh, I know that feeling.

Yeah. She just adds so much value into your life. She is, she is truly, like, a sister. Like, I just, I don't know. I keep saying that because, like, I always wished that I had that. And I feel like I actually have those now. You're about to choose your sisters. Yeah, I love it.

It's so cool. And, yeah. So my friend, Rachel. She's beautiful and amazing and she's been there for me in such crazy moments of my life. Like most of the time when you meet a friend, you don't like, you don't have crazy shit happening. You're just like, we're going to go to this party. Come with me here. Come with me there.

She like came into my life in such a perfect time for me anyways. She was probably like, dear God, this girl needs help. But like she she's been there for me in some crazy times already in last year. and it's just she's incredible that's i love a cherished friendship it's so important it's so yeah that's i feel that i was trying to think of who came into my life but i'm like god i feel like i've had the same friends since i was like two but uh my i got a new therapist who really it wasn't just talk therapy anymore she like really dug into like my child self and i feel like i really appreciate her and that she's going to add so much value in my 2023 i love that

I love that so much. Okay. What do you need to leave behind from this past year? I want to say fear. Yeah, that's probably mine too. But I also want to be careful about that because I learned a lot about fear in that everybody has it, right? Like everyone has fear. It protects you.

That's why we have that feeling of fear. Yes. but leaving behind like the fear that doesn't make sense yeah no that's i totally understand what you're saying because that's my thought process too i want to leave behind the fear of like what am i supposed to be doing what should be happening where i should be at in life the shoulds the shoulds in the woods and the coulds like that yes totally yeah i think like i think unnecessary fear is what I want to leave in the past in that in that yeah because moving forward focusing on facts and being able to like this is the facts and moving on with that I

don't know yeah no more shudding and cutting and wooding no yeah just facts just straight hard facts cold hard facts okay switching gears for goals and intentions into 2023 because I'm again write like we said writing it down and some magical shit happens and what I like to say is if you write it down it'll come to town I knew you'd like that such an idiot I love it

are you giving you a pity laugh fine I'm blaming it on my producer she said it not me I'm kidding I love it I loved it if you write it down it'll come to town that's what I always it's literally perfect I love it.

So when I write things down and I always write it as if it's already happened. So what is one thing that you will write down as a business goal as if it has already happened? Or do you want to keep that to yourself

because I know how you are about that? Ooh, no, I can, let's do this. A business goal? Yes. White Lotus, season four. I was just thinking. Good. That can be it.

Honestly, yeah, I think like White Lotus, season three or, wait, is it four? Wait. Well, if they're filming season three already, season four, if they're not season three. Yes, yes, so let's go with season three because that would be like around the corner if they're doing it. So White Lotus, season three, hire me. Or I've already been hired. Congratulations. See, this is what you have to do.

You are so grateful now that you've already got that role. And then how, so now say. I feel so proud that I I feel so proud that I I don't even feel proud I'm just so excited to start filming White Lotus season three I just I'm so excited I can't wait to get on set and meet my co-stars

yeah yeah okay great and then what is one personal goal a personal goal let's see I think to just continue what I have been doing that has been working, which is, because like I've already done a lot of like some work where I feel like I just need to keep that going, whether that be the inner child work stuff I think is like so cool

and I'm starting to like really understand why that works and and focusing on treating that person, that little person, that beautiful little child. Just like, as if she's here, like, she's here, I got to take care of her. And so I think that that would be that, yeah. I get emotional whenever I think of myself as a kid and if she was right beside me and I, like, think about what she would need.

I'm like, oh, God, I love you. Same. I know. And we're so lucky that, like, we think about, us as a kid and we love that kid a lot of people unfortunately do not or they get they get scared or they get nervous thinking about it or it's yeah you know it's like a scary time i feel so grateful that when i think of like my little child that i'm like oh i love her and she's the best like she's just the best she was the freaking dork i love her

I do. I love my little awkward weird self that just didn't know what was ahead of her in life. She was just so innocent and pure. Yeah. And I think that's how people have to think of their inner child. Not like, I mean, there's so many different things that could have happened in the past. But I feel like if you really just focus in on the fact that it's a child and go, wow, dork, love her, you know, or whatever. just and the people who get scared or like it like can't go back and love that little that's when you know you need to do the inner trial work that's so important it's i'm just yeah i know i'm going to feel that way even more after i do my little retreat i'm so excited i'm i'm actually like i'm going to skip in there and be like help me i i skipped right in right in with

You better believe the second I left or got into Nashville, I bought a cowboy hat and I drove, got to Caitlin's house in my cowboy hat and my like, my like jacket that looks like a freaking, I'm Lloyd Christmas and walking up the stairs of the freaking home. The guns, you literally were a chic Lloyd Christmas. It was perfect. It was absolutely perfect. Okay, last one. What is something that you want to cross up your?

bucket list in 2023, something you want to experience that you're like, why have I not done that yet? Ooh, get married? That's great. I think that's a great one. Yeah, I guess get married. Go to Italy. I really want to go to Italy. Have you never been?

I've been thinking about going to Italy my whole life. And I've never been. And Matt's been. And he loves it. And I just, I want to go to Italy this year. You would love it. I just yeah it's everything about it especially the lifestyle everybody is so happy nobody's on their phones everyone's just enjoying good food that is like not processed and like it's just everything

I love it over there so much I wish I live there it's it's yeah I can see you thriving in Italy do you want to come with me yes I will go I mean you don't even have to ask I will be there I am perfect Italy I I belong there you do I see it in your eyes. I really do. I don't think of what my bucket list would be in 2023, but all my bucket list things have turned into what I want to do for my family now. Like, I'm taking my mom to Italy.

I want to take my sister on a safari. I want to take my dad to a golf course in Scotland. Like they've become, but for me personally in 2023, I feel like, oh, I just, I mean, every time I think about this, because it's such a passion of mine, and I truly, I feel like I want to turn my off the bottom podcast into a TV show and I want to like try and pitch that out

and like get it to be a thing. Yes. That's all my manifestation list, my bucket lists, my journal, my goals, my intentions, my word for 20. Yeah, that's all the things for me. Oh my God. I love that. I used to remember going to be again after I came off.

Well, then I got dancing with the stars. That was a whole different experience because it was so wonderful. Yeah. But I never wanted a show that was like, around my life or like me. Mm-hmm. But now I do. I'm healed.

Yeah. I'm back, baby. I'm traumatized from television anymore and I'm healed and I'm ready. Yeah, I am a sad. She's back. That's me. Dude, that would be amazing and you should do that and you could do that. Also, we're getting rid of kids and should, so you will. Thank you.

You're welcome. I will. And I, you know what? It feels so good now that I have my own TV show. Isn't that insane? It's beautiful. It's a beautiful thing. Also, I want to buy a horse.

Oh, my God. You made me want to buy a horse, too. You need to buy a horse. I think I need to rescue a horse. That's another thing I must do this year. White Lotus and rescue a horse. Yep, there you go. Those are two really great goals for 2023.

I had so much fun doing this with you today. Me too. This was the best. It felt like it felt like way too abrupt when you left after I really got used to having you around and then I was really looking forward to podcasting with you today because I was like, oh good, we get to just have another conversation. We had so many good conversations.

I know, I know. But now it's recorded for everyone to hear. That's true. I'll fall asleep to this without my phone by my head. I really enjoyed this. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening to this week. week's episode of Off the Vine. Don't forget to rate, review, and follow on your favorite podcast platform. And we'll see you next Tuesday.

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