Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Brandi Cyrus | Family Fame, Female Dj's & Finding an Age Appropriate Partner!

Episode Date: February 27, 2024

#714. Join Kaitlyn Bristowe on this electrifying episode as she dives deep into the dynamic world of Brandi Cyrus, renowned DJ and sister to music sensation Miley Cyrus. Brandi takes us on a whirlwind journey from being a grandma in real life to rocking the DJ scene with her upcoming Wynn residency. With insights into the challenges of the music industry, Brandi shares how Wynn is pioneering change by embracing female DJs, shattering stereotypes in a male-dominated field. From Miley's groundbreaking Grammy win to candid discussions about dating life and family dynamics, no stone is left unturned. Brandi opens up about her personal journey, including her unique upbringing and the profound impact of being legally adopted by her iconic father figure, Billy Ray Cyrus. In a heart-to-heart with Kaitlyn, Brandi delves into her aspirations, both professional and personal, shedding light on the misconceptions surrounding her last name and her humble approach to life. As she sets her sights on headlining international gigs and finding genuine love, Brandi's resilience and authenticity shine through, inspiring listeners to embrace self-reliance and pursue their dreams fearlessly. Today’s Highlights: (5:15) - The challenges and realities of the music industry, particularly for female DJs like Brandi Cyrus. (11:45) - Celebrating Miley Cyrus's first Grammy win and her evolution as an artist. (15:50) - Brandi's unique perspective on sibling comparisons within her high-profile family. (20:10) - Insights into Brandi's podcast with her mom and their unique dynamic. (32:00) - Brandi's heartfelt discussion about her relationship with her father figure, Billy Ray Cyrus. (36:10) - Brandi's dating life and the challenges of finding love in the public eye. (42:26) - Brandi's humility and the misconceptions surrounding her last name, addressing notions of privilege. (43:45) - Brandi's thoughts on manifesting her dreams, both professionally as a DJ and personally in her search for a life partner. Thank you to our sponsors! COVER GIRL: Say hello to your real life makeup filter in a bottle, COVERGIRL’s Simply Ageless Skin Perfector Essence. Glowing and radiant skin is only a pump away. Only from Easy, Breezy, Beautiful COVERGIRL. SKIMS:...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Such a grandma. But then you're like doing day clubs and night clubs in Vegas, which is so badass, though. Thank you. I'm like super pumped about it. But it is funny. Like I think all the time, like, how did I end up a DJ? It doesn't make any sense. How did you end up a DJ?

I don't know. Because you legit know what you're doing. You know there's some DJs out there that don't know what they're doing. You know what you're doing. I do. How did you get into that? I don't even know the answer to us. I mean, the short.

The short answer is I was in a band first. Right. I was like a band girlie. Right. I do remember that. That ended terribly because the music industry is horrible, for lack of a better term. And then I didn't know what I was doing. So like, I started going to all these events in L.A.

and seeing like girl DJs and was like, oh, I want to do that. Yeah. It was like one of the many things. I'm like, oh, I want to do that. Oh, I want to do that. And this one just stuck. Well, I love that for you because worked out. Now you're just kidding.

Like, how cool is it to say that you have residency in Vegas? I mean, that's been like, you know, like it's been like the goal of mine. I mean, it's the peak in the U.S. to have the Vegas residency as a DJ. So it's something I've really like worked for for so long. You've worked your ass off at that too. And it doesn't feel real yet. Well, it probably won't until you're like two weeks in. Yes.

And then I'm going to be like, oh, we're doing it. I'm tired. We're doing. The music industry, I know not from like, because I grinded in it or anything, but like I know from everybody else that's like, like a actual musician, how hard that grind is. Yeah. But how frustrating that you're like, but Miley did it?

Like, why are you hard on me? I know, but Miley sold her soul for it too. That's true. My gosh, I can't even. It is. It's tough. And it's like, I think for people that aren't in the music industry or really the entertainment industry, period.

Yeah. It's very like glamorized. I think it just like looks really glamorous to everybody on the outside. It's dark. Oh, being on tour. So glamorous. No. You're like living out of a suitcase.

You're showering and. locker rooms every night like it's grow it's not great and the bus life is not ideal flying isn't great none of it's great it's a schlep and it's hard on your body your mind your soul like everything it sucks life out of you and you're constantly doing things for other people and everyone's just getting a little piece of you and needing something from you and i know because i've dreamt of being living that life and then you get like the tiniest taste of it and i'm like i don't think i'd be happy yeah i really it really is brutal. Yeah.

It's like you really have to love it, you know? Like you really have to love it. That's true. And set some serious boundaries and have some serious therapy and even just going on tour. I'm going on tour. I know. I mean, yeah, you know. And I'm going to miss you.

I was just talking to somebody today about it. I was like, oh, they're so the best times. Your humble beginnings on off the vine and now you're in Vegas. Truly. That's, I'm like, who the heck is going to DJ for me? I have no idea. Balaca. Belaca.

Has he also moved on? He's having a baby. He's seriously, I'm like, DJ Blake started on just pressing play on the laptop for my tour now. He's like also a huge DJ. I have a question because I feel like you worked your ass off for so long to become a DJ. Blake literally hit press play a couple times and blew up. Do they treat women differently in the DJ world? Oh, absolutely.

They do? Absolutely. So there's another female DJ named Charlie Jordan. I'm familiar with her. But she's also playing at the win this year. and she actually made a post recently talking about this. Yes. And she made a really good point.

Like, the win is one of the only major players in Vegas that is championing female DJs right now. Yeah, they've got like four or five girls on their roster. And nowhere else in Vegas really does. Really? Yeah. It's hard. Why is that? It's a man's world.

Yeah, I was going to say, is it the same reason that in the music industry, the country music industry, is it the same like a man's world in the DJ world? Very much. And not only are most of the DJs, men, but everybody you're dealing with, the majority are men, promoters, stage managers, you know, they're all men. So it's like a man's world, you know. But how cool that you're going to be part of the change. I know. I'm so excited.

Yeah, like that is such a big deal. It is. And I will say, I say this a lot, but like, the win, everybody at the win is so lovely. Really? Like, I have played in many a club and dealt with many a shitty person in this industry. street. Every single person on the team at the win is phenomenal. They are lovely. They're great to work with. They're fun to hang out with. They're respectful. They're just so great. I couldn't be happier to be at the win. That is amazing because like you said, you've dealt with so many just awful humans

in that world that you're like, I've put in my time. You deserve to be in a place where you feel respected, appreciated and championed. Like, that's amazing. Yeah. We to go win. They know what? They really are the best. I want to stay there when I'm not just saying it like no that's that's really amazing yeah that makes such a difference astronomical difference like and just also once you've done this long enough like you start to realize really quickly how much hospitality like good hospitality goes such a long way yeah like to me it's really not worth going back and playing somewhere if they don't take good care of you yeah you're at that point now where you can it's like do that that's yeah and I mean for you I always wonder this because do you think it helps that because you're not a party girl no

Do you think that helps you in your career because otherwise you might be even more drained because you'd be like getting after it or do you wish you were more of a party girl? I can truly like I usually have the thought of like it's really a shame I wasn't doing this at 23 when I wanted to party and it's and it's funny like most people show up to shows with a you know a crew of like 20 people like a posse and like my friends won't stay up past 9 p.m. Right. So it's like it's a shame that I wasn't doing this when I was younger when my friends wanted to come and party. I think the part of it that hurts me is that a lot of people, you might be able to relate to this a bit, but like in this business, like making the relationships in this tiny world of DJing means the world to people. So going out and partying with other DJs and partying with the promoters goes a long way. And I don't do that because I don't party. Right. Like I've had people

say to me like, well, you know, you'd maybe be further along and you'd maybe be booking bigger shows if you were seeing out at other DJ's shows and hanging out with other DJs. Okay, like, I have a couple of DJ friends, but, like, I don't want to spend my free time in the club. Like, that's work for me, and I love it and enjoy it. But, like, for my free time, I don't want to be out with the other DJs. I'm such a firm believer in aligning yourself with what makes you happy. That wouldn't make you happy. And look, you're still succeeding and getting where you want to do.

Maybe it took you longer. Maybe it didn't, like, who knows? I think it did, and I'm okay with that. And don't get me wrong. Like, if I'm in Vegas and Diplo's playing the night before me, I will go see Diplo. Like, I'm all about it. Yeah. But it's just like I, you know me so well.

Like, if it's not authentic, I don't want to do it. But that's what I mean. I'm just such a believer in that working, though. And like, even if it takes a little bit longer, I still think you're going to get to the place you want to be truly unauthentically where you want to be if you're doing, you know, your way. I'm so sick of the greasy sharks and the, I'm so sick of the people that just like, you got to never. work and get here and put yourself in front of this person I'm so over that it feels so icky to me but it sucks because it works I know this is for a lot of people this is what I talk about in therapy and with my spiritual coach every time because I start getting angry about it

because I'm like it's not okay with me why does that work for people when I'm just you know it's I do think it will all make sense what like for you personally getting a residency in Vegas you're like okay I did it my way I did it my way and you feel good about it you didn't You didn't, you know, go to the bottom of the barrel and feel really gross about how you got there and you got there. I don't know. I think that's cool. I think that's something to be really proud of. Thank you.

I am. I am proud of it. It's so cool. I also like it feels like I've reached a milestone in a cool way getting the residency, but I also know there's just so much more to do. And like it feels like it's just the beginning in a certain way to you, which is cool. Yeah. That there's still so much more. So much more.

Oh my gosh. Like, you know that saying the best is yet to come. I really feel that for you because. Yeah, I do too. Yeah, you just, you're about to start a really big thing. Crazy. That's so freaking cool. And you all, everybody knows if you need a party friend.

I mean, come to Vegas anytime. And a lot of people are like, oh, Vegas is so, listen, if you do Vegas with me, I do Vegas right. That is, I always say that. I'm like, I'm not a big Vegas girly. If I do, I have to do it right. I don't want to like, well, first of all, I don't do drugs. Me neither. I'll like maybe dabble in an edible once in a blue moon.

Sure. But, well, I did mushrooms once and I did not enjoy it. I did not enjoy it. Did you not? Or you do the microdose? Yeah, and I didn't do it right. I was like drinking. I think I would maybe enjoy it if I was microdosing if I wanted to do it and like have a good conversation or get some work done or not if I'm in a group of people partying.

Yeah, I don't think I would drink and take them. No, I, that's not the way to do it. And I've heard so many good things about if you do it the right way. I don't think I was doing it the right way. I think I just shouldn't do it while I'm wasted probably yeah I mean for me I hate drink like I love drinking but hate it right like you are just the anomaly that doesn't get hangovers but the rest of us I know have two drinks and take two days to recover so that's my thing is like I can only have one or two drinks and then if I go keep going I feel like shit the next day yeah so I'm looking for something to do instead yeah that's fair I mean you smoke weed with your mom right I mean I will but it's not really my thing I was going to ask because I don't I don't recall you being like a big weed smoker. I'm really not. And like when we podcast, I don't smoke because if we both smoke, there's no podcast.

Like someone's got to keep us on track. I was going to say, because we'll talk about your podcast soon. But I was going to say like if I was smoking weed and podcasting, I would sound so stupid. Yeah. We can't both be like that. I already have a hard time articulating like thoughts that go on up here and like getting it out here. If I was stoned, I would make no sense. I would just want to sleep and eat.

And I'd be like, I don't want to be here. I want to be in my bed with snacks. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I have to ask just because how cool that Miley won her first Grammy. And you were there. I was so cool. I was. That is, I can't believe that was her first one. I mean, that's not everybody, every, we also can't believe.

But yeah, it's, it is crazy. I mean, don't be wrong. Like, I'm the president of the club that thinks she should have many grannies. But, you know, I think it's cool because this last record, like, endless summer vacation, she really made that with no expectation. she wasn't trying to please anybody like it was just like I'm just doing this for me and like it is what it is kind of thing and that happened to be the album that was so huge for her and flowers like not to say we didn't think it was going to be huge we all loved the song but nobody could

have expected it to do what it did yeah so for that to be what got her the Grammy I think is pretty cool it's that's what I'm talking about yeah you know doing things that align with you that you're like I'm not doing this for somebody else anymore I'm not going to that person because They're at the top and they're going to get me that Grammy. I'm going to do this for me. And then boom, she wins a Grammy. It was cool. That must have been so cool.

It was very cool. And, you know, there's always the fear that, like, you show up and don't win any. You know, I mean, that can happen. And my mom and I were talking about it and I was like, they're going to, shortly, they're going to give her one. I mean, she's performing. And my mom was like, they didn't do your dad. Like, your dad showed up, performed Ake breakie, was nominated for a few awards and didn't win a thing. No way.

In the 90s. So, like, I was like, well, shit. Hopefully it's not like the Cyrus curse, you know? And thank God, like, we were all sitting out there. Yeah, for the first award, I was like thinking, like, please, just at least this one. Because it's before her performance and like, at least let her win this one. So it's not like you lose and then have to go sing. And when she, when Mariah Carey walked out, I was like, because like no one, it was like a secret that Mariah Carey was there.

And Miley idolizes her. So like, Mariah walked out and we're all just like, oh my God. And I knew. Like in my gut, I was like, we've got this. Like, it's a sign. Like I just knew, you know. I mean, what an insult. moment to idolize someone and them hand you like that makes you want to cry and hand them hand

you a grammy yeah it was awesome and knowing that she did that one that album for her and you can just tell you know she's when she's up there and like lately there's just some shift that's happened in her where she is doing things for her and she's just like beaming yeah and I think for me like she's kind of been in this mode for the past couple years yeah but I forget that people haven't seen her really yeah right exactly all the time but so it's like not not new to me, but, like, she really, like, she hadn't performed a year and a half. She hasn't really been on TV. Like, people haven't really seen this version of her.

That's so true. So for people to get to see her like this, like, makes me happy because I'm, I know she's so happy. And I loved the reaction from people. Everyone was like, she is such a vibe. I know. She is. She really is.

Iconic. She really is iconic. Like, there's just, everything she does, I'm like, uh, she just does it different and embraces, like, being different. Yeah. And it's just so badass to see. I love it. You have so many talented people in your family. It's just insane. It's silly. Like, it's silly. I know. You know my mom takes all the credit. She's like, my DNA is, I mean, top tier. Was she a singer? She would never sang, but she was a dancer. She did ballet for years. Oh, she did. Yeah, she did. Like, a lot of competitive cheerleading, too. But ballet was, like, kind of her thing. So definitely, like, a performer in her own right. You know what I mean? Yeah. Did you ever have that feeling of, like, comparison. to your siblings, like growing up and even later?

Or, because I don't know the answer to this. Yeah. I think because I was the oldest, I didn't have that as much. Yeah. I think the younger you are in the lineup, the more you probably feel the comparison component. But I really haven't. I think the only thing that I feel sometimes is because everybody is so talented and Miley is such a star, like, if I'm going to do anything, it can't be mediocre because

the standard is so high. Right. But I think that's. a good thing. Yeah, it's cool. Like, I think it's a good thing. But I also do think you're, because you are like the older one, I feel like you've had this caretaker in you, but also, which makes you not like, like, you almost like root for your siblings to succeed and be happy. I just always think because if it was me, I'd be like, but I want to be the star. But you don't want to be the star. No, I really don't. Yeah. I really don't. And I think maybe that's probably held me back in a sense

with a lot of stuff. Like maybe I would be a much bigger DJ if I wanted to. be a star and I was like had that level of desperation for it in a sense of like I just kind of don't yeah and maybe that holds me back in a way but I'm I'm like cool with it like I have my priority straight like I love DJing yeah I love getting to play I love that I get to call it a job but like I'm and I of course like want it to grow and want to keep doing cooler and better and bigger things but I'm also good right I'm also like I really love my life yeah and I love that it's not all one thing like I have my farm and I have my friends and I spend time with my family And yeah, I DJ.

And, like, I want to still be able to do all those things. And you can because you don't have that level of desperation to be a star. And I think if you did, you wouldn't be happy. You know what I mean? Like, you get to have so many different aspects of life that fill your cup. Totally. Like, what? I wish I lived on a farm.

You know this. I know. There's still time, K.B. I will one day. Mark my word. We can play this in 10 years. I will have a horse farm. Yeah, I believe you.

Okay, so let's get into your podcast with your mom. You guys revamped the whole thing. Oh, major revamp. You took some time off. It's called Sorry We're Stone, which is hilarious. Hilarious. New branding. You're on YouTube now. How do you like that? I like it a lot better. You do? But, man, it's a lot bigger of a commitment. It's a huge commitment. Which I'm sure you know. Yes. Yeah, but it was kind of one of those things where if you're not on YouTube and you're not doing the video component, like, good luck to you because that's the new standard. You know what I mean? I tried so long to stay away because I was like, no, I don't want to have to worry about my looks. How great is it to roll up looking like shit? But yeah, that was, I drug my feet on that too because there's something about just sitting in my house and my PJs to podcast that's

really appealing. We don't need to see people glammed up all the time and looking so fire. And like, I'm like, I like a mixture of both where the setting is nice, the lighting's good, but like, you're comfy. I know. I agree. Alex Cooper is a great example of somebody that's created something that really filled a hole where I think people don't. watch TV as much anymore like cable is just like who watches that you know right um and so i think like the younger generation i think youtube is their t rl like i just i've seen so many like 20-sum things and younger younger people like are just watching youtube in their free time whereas like i went home when i was young and turned on the tv and turned on tierr like they're turning on

youtube and watching podcasts and watching stuff on you like it's crazy it really is like the new cable in a sense that's true which i kind of like because a lot of podcasts are educated or you learn something or you feel good watching them or a lot of TV made you feel like shit. Yeah. So that's cool. Totally. What can we expect from the revamped version of Sorry We're Stoned? My mother, she is a star.

Totally. She is truly a star. And I think the one thing I love about this podcast is that it's finally, it's giving the people more tish. Like she's been so in the behind the scenes and behind the camera of like everybody else's career. Right. like Miley and Noah and my dad and me like all of us she's like very much just the person behind the scenes but she deserves she deserves this moment the people deserve more Tish Cyrus I agree and she this is it for her what was holding her back before you know what I remember

when I was younger she used to be terrified to be on camera really like my dad had a TV show that we filmed in Canada called Doc and my mom had a roll on there like a quick cookie like you know roll and they wanted her to have a line and she couldn't do it she like couldn't even and speak on camera so they just showed her like walking by and I remember that her having like this intense stage fright so it's it's so cool to see her now yeah just totally let loose and I guess the weed helps her do that the weed helps but she's so unapologetic now and she's so damn funny and I'm just I love that people are getting to see more of her because I think she's an icon I agree I can't imagine staying in a relationship for so long that just feels comfortable

and I know like that's her and Billy were like best friends like at the end of it they were together i mean they've been they were together since friend vibes i should say not best friends but yeah i mean i don't want to speak for her but like i mean she was in that relationship from the time she was like early 20s to yeah like i wonder if now she's just feeling so free and like truly loved for who she is like without putting words in her mouth right like this is just from my perspective when i've been in relationships no matter how much you're your own person you still start to identify yeah like as a pair with this other person or like like you start to take on their traits and vice for, you know what I mean?

Like, I think there's such a freedom and like finally being your own person again. Totally. And I think she's finding that freedom, right? If it's been so long that she's just been Tish. Yeah. That it's like it's like turning over and she's been a mom and she's been a manager and she's been a wife and she's been all these things where now she gets to just kind of fly fly. Yeah. And everyone in the family is like, yes, you deserve this.

She does. Yeah. She really does. She is a star. I mean, it's crazy. Yeah, she's just got that. You know when people walk into a room and you're like, they've got it, she's got it. She's absolutely gotten into it.

But I think before she was like afraid to shine for lack of a better term. It's scary. And now she's like, we shine in baby. I love that. And I do think Dom, her new husband, has really like helped her embrace that. You know, like he really encourages her and like affirms her verbally of like all the things that I think are she's, she's so like. self-deprecating in the sense like she's so beautiful but she'll be the first person to be like I feel hideous you know and it's like are you crazy but like having him every day be like no you're

so beautiful like you're you know like he affirms her every single day and I think that's so great and I think that's one of the reasons why she's been able to just like let herself shine more is that wedding so special it was so cool it felt very intimate it was small yeah very small was at mylie's house it was so cool and like it was just beautiful yeah so great dedicate in an hour a week to talk in your mom, does that bring you closer? Or are you like, Mom? Because if I podcast it with my mom, I love hanging out with my mom. She's one of my favorite people to hang out with. But that would be too much. Podcasting with her, I'm too, I don't even know how to describe it. I think I would just be like, you can't do that. You know, it works for

us. That's good. Somehow. And I do talk to her other times. Like, we FaceTime a lot, you know. You guys do. I mean, she's in L.A. I'm in Nashville, the majority of the time. We FaceTime almost every single day. So it almost just feels like another FaceTime, you know, or it did when we were remote. And now that we just do it in person, it just feels like we're hanging. How are you doing it in person? So I go to L.A. every month now. Because since we're doing these videos, she set up a whole studio in the house.

And I go every month and we do like four episodes, like bank them. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, that's amazing. I know. That's nice because it gives you that consistency of being able to go to L.A. And then come back and then have those banked because I know how important that is. and it's like just a weight off your shoulder

when you have like the podcast line up. And now that I go to Vegas so much anyway, it's like I got to go to Vegas. I might as well go to L.A. and do a couple episodes so it works out. How often are you going to be having a show in Vegas? It's like roughly, I have 12 shows for the year. So roughly once a month.

Oh, amazing. Yo, it's awesome. But like there's some months like April, I have two shows and then like July I don't have any or something. So it's like a little, excuse, but ideal situation. I was going to be like, how are you going to do both? Oh my gosh. That's perfect.

It's so perfect, yeah. Okay, so what do you do with your farm? Well, I have help. Okay, good, thank God. So, like, during COVID, I did it all myself. Yeah, I know. Because I could. Yeah.

I had nothing else to do, so it was great. But then as soon as work picked up, I hired a girl who's lovely. She's the farm manager. Oh, that's awesome. And basically, like, I just oversee it. And then when I am home, I do, like, some of the feed shifts and obviously see the horses every day, but it's nice to know, like, she's got it. Yeah, your hands on.

But I could see you only. you know, having somebody who you trusted that you're like... She's the only one. Like, if she ever leaves me, I'll be devastated. I feel like on your podcast, you both kind of like light up when you talk about family memories. I feel like that's so sweet because you probably have so many. I feel like just from knowing you and you telling me stories, you guys have so many cool things that you've done in your life, like all of you. So what is a story that is super memorable to you from your family and like something that just something that you're like, well, and sure, name 10, I don't know.

I'm like, I don't even like, no, where to start. I mean, it's funny because some of the memories we bring up are ones that at the time weren't great memories and now we laugh about it. Yeah. You know what I mean? Isn't that nice? I often think when I'm in a bad moment, I go, one day I will laugh about this. And that's a really nice perspective to have.

Yeah. Yeah. It's like, for instance, like we went to Italy. My mom and I went to Italy last summer with some friends and Dom's girls. And I think she would laugh about this now. But we took the train to like a small town, you know, like an hour outside of Rome to like a little wine country vibe. And my mom, God bless her. She's used to some luxury travel, right?

Like she's usually traveling with Miley or my dad. So she's used to like a chauffeur taking her to and from and someone escorting her through the airport. And she, you know, and I'm the opposite. I shlm it. Like I'm used to like schlepping and dealing with it myself and taking the crowded train. And like I think it's worth it to get to experience a great. country or a cool town or whatever so we take this train it's so crowded it's the middle of summer it's so hot she's absolutely miserable and we get to this little town and it's and it's we have a good time

and like a couple hours in she's like my stomach hurts oh and i'm like no you're fine i'm like i'm like the queen of like no it's all fine yeah yeah you're like you're totally good it's just in your head and she's like no i have to go a bathroom right now and i was like mom i was like this is silly like let's go find a bathroom but this is not an emergency like you're totally fine I was trying to calm her down. Oh, no. She just starts spiraling. So she's like, we have to go back to the apartment right now.

I'm like, okay. But we're in our train ride from the apartment. So let's just take a beat here and let's just think about this logically. Like, is it worth leaving early and getting on the train right the second to be home in an hour and a half? Because that's the reality. Right. And she's like, yes, yes, I have to be home right now. And I'm like, okay.

So we like walk down the mountain, start to get on the train. And we get on the train. And she's like, you promise there's going to be a bathroom on the train, right? It's the anxiety. of there's no bathroom. I get it. And I'm like, yes, Mom, I've never been on a train without a bathroom. Oh, God. There's no train. There's no bathroom. It's our order. Oh, no. Please tell me she had a X or something. I'm laughing now, but it was not funny. She was so terrible. Oh, my gosh. She's probably like sweating and like. She was so upset. So upset. And I'm like, we're standing there and

they're like, we need to close the doors. Are you guys on her off? Because I'm like, do we need to get off the train, mom, and go find a bathroom? And she's like, I don't know. I'm like, just having a panic attack, and I'm like, mom, like, easy, this is fine. Like, it's not the end of the world. Like, are we getting on or off the train? She decides to stay on and just, you know, I can go on and on. But all that to say, like, we finally got back. And then, of course, we get home and she's totally fine.

She's like, there was no bathroom accident. She never got sick. It was just like, but she in that moment was like, I'm never doing this again. I'm only traveling with Miley Cyrus. I will only fly in private jets. I will only have a chauffeur and, like, I'm not doing this ever again. this is not worth it. I'm never leaving the house. And it's just like, oh, my God. She sounds like me. I'm, I'm quite dramatic like that. But she is so funny. I'm just, I'm like,

I love that you're like the calm one in the situation. I would be like, oh, shoot, now I have to go to the bathroom. I'm like, eat off people's anxiety. The certainty that there was a bathroom on that train, I was like, mom, yes, I've been on many trains. There's always a bathroom. Out of order. Of course. That would be my luck. I'm curious about this. And again, you don't have to talk about it if you don't want to. But have you ever talked about? We haven't as friends. And I've been curious. Do you remember being adopted or is that something you've ever talked about or want to talk about or don't want to talk about? No, I can talk about it. To be clear, like my mom is my biological mother. Yes. And then my dad is my stepdad technically. Yes. And then when I was, I don't even really remember how old. I want to say 30.

14, 14, somewhere in there, he, like, legally adopted me. Yeah. But he's truly the only dad I've ever known, really. So, yeah, to even hear you say the word, like, I don't even think of it like that. You know what I mean? Because that's all you really know and remember. Yeah, and just, and the adoption really was just more so I could, like, take his last name and, like, be part of the family. You know, like, legally be part of the family.

Right, because your mom is your mom. Yeah, but, like, I was always a Cyrus, and I always went by that, and, like, he was always my dad. I mean, you clearly look like one. Well, the Tish DNA, like, she loves to take credit. It's real. It's strong. But do you have a relationship with your real dad? I don't.

Mm-mm. Yeah. That's, and you don't need to. Yeah, I really, like, I just don't feel the need. Some people do feel the need. I know, I know. And sometimes I feel guilty that I don't. No, you shouldn't.

But, I mean, I'm 36. It's like, I feel like, not to say the ship is sailed, but, like, I just, I'm good. And to me, it's a little bit of a respect thing to my stepdad, too. It's like, I don't know, he's treated me as one of his own for so long. Like, who am I to go need a second dad? Like, I just don't feel like I need that. And, like, my dad, the dad I know, like, he's taught me everything that I love. He just put me on a horse.

He put a guitar in my hand. He took me on the road. Like, I owe everything to him. He is your dad. So, yeah. So it's like, I just, like, feel like that would just be not the move. I just think there's some people out there who are like, I need to know and have a relationship. And then there's some people that are like, I actually am like more happy just having my dad who is just on paper my dad, but is my dad.

You know what I mean? Yeah, totally. And yeah, I just don't feel like I need more than that. So whether that's right or wrong to other people, I, it's not, it can't be because it's what is right to you. I know. So it can't be wrong to other people. Because I haven't caught up with you in so long. Are we dating what's going on in the dating life?

I, nothing. Oh, great. Isn't that crazy? It's funny you ask though. So like, I do this thing. I hate dating apps. The only one I've ever used is Raya, which is absolute garbage. But I feel like the main reason, like, that's the only one I do, I guess, is because,

I mean, not that I'm anybody, but it's hard to be me and date. I get that. I mean, that makes me want to barf to even say, but it's not about me. It's about my family. It's not me. But it's hard. It's just hard to be on apps and, like, do that. Well, and your lifestyle, it's nice to have somebody that could understand that lifestyle.

Like, on paper, that would be great. Right. But so I hate, I hate Rye. I hate dating apps. And like I, every now and then I'll turn it on for like a month. Yeah. And then I'm like disgusted by it and delete it right away. But I've been texting this guy from there.

And but like he, he doesn't ask me any questions. Ew. I know. And I'm like, everyone's like, you're so picky. You're so this. You're so that. But I'm like, okay, so I'm just supposed to keep driving a conversation with somebody. You're like, no, the bar is just like above hell.

And it's like he's fine. Like, if he was asking me questions, I'd be like, like great we're talking to this guy but I'm like how many times have I just going to keep asking questions and like he's not asking any questions that that's one of my biggest pet peeves in a conversation if people don't even if it's a friendship even if it's like ask me questions I know it's like it's like it's like it's not that hard well and why are you on a dating app if you don't want to ask somebody questions why do like men just like want women to come to them would you call them out would you be like why can't ask me questions I should that's it because like at this point I

I like have you been talking like a few days but it's like we wouldn't have been talking a few days if I hadn't been asking questions. Right. Like, so, like, at what point do I just, like, let it fizzle out if he's not going to ask questions or, but then, like, my mom would be like, well, that's on you that you just, like, let the conversation. And I'm like, mom, like, zip it. Like, I truly cannot.

Well, I think you should call him out. Yeah, maybe I will. Just be like, so. I just, I think you should be like, hey, this feels very one-sided. Like, do you want to ask me a couple questions or should we just nip this in the button? Because, like, why are you even talking to me if you're, you know, you're not interested enough to, like, ask a question. right yeah it's weird how old is he older than me which is shocking he's like the first person

that's my like age appropriate that i've talked to everyone single's 25 what is that about what the heck i don't know like the past couple guys that have like been interested in me or that i've like hooked up with or like whatever have all been like 25 which is way too young for me to actually have a relationship with but it's like there's finally an age appropriate person and he's not can't ask questions i don't like it i'm like well i don't You don't have to obviously say who it is, but would, like, would we know him? I don't think you would, but I'll tell you offline. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

What the heck? Yeah, you got to call him out. Rise full of people that aren't anybody. Well, is he from L.A.? No. Oh, well, no, I'm baffled. I know. I'll tell you more later.

But, yeah, I just was thinking today, like, how much longer can I do this without him asking me any questions? Like, I already, it's already like a no for me. Yeah. My mom would kill me. She'd be like, you're going to be alone if he's this. And I'm like, well, then. No, mom. I would like somebody to ask me questions. Yeah, I just, you know, just a question here and there would be great. That's, I can't even believe I was talking about on a podcast how I felt asexual at one point. And I was like, I genuinely like was worried about myself. And I was like, okay, well, it's, you know, I've got really wacky hormones. I'm not happy in my relationship. I am on antidepressants. Like perfect storm to have no sex drive. But like, what if I am asexual? Because I wasn't like interested in dating someone else. And then I was like,

maybe I want to date a woman. I went through, like, all these different thoughts. And, of course, headlines, like, ran with my sexuality. And I was like, what the, like, not something to, like, everybody to laugh at. I can make fun of my own sexuality, but nobody else can. You're like, yeah, I mean, that's the problem with, like, the clickbait is they just take something. But I'm like, it's so hard when I, because the thought of, you know, having conversations after going through a breakup, I'm like, it is so hard out there. Yeah.

To find somebody that actually would make. you feel something and be like okay I'm I'm interested I'm like he's got my attention I'm turned on like I know why is it so hard to find that it's so hard it's crazy it's so hard have you ever thought about dating a woman I wish I know I wish that I could get there but like no I only ask because I have thought about it many times yeah and I'm yeah I said in I think I said it in my last podcast what when I was talking about that I'm like I think I can appreciate like I could totally be turned on by a woman, but at the end of the day, I see myself with a guy. Yeah.

I mean, same. I think for me, like, I'm at a point where it's not even about their gender. Yeah. People in general, I'm just like, it's just easier to be on my own. And then you'd think an older man would kind of get it. You would and wouldn't. Like, I'm like, I'm old enough that it's to the point where I'm like, well, maybe he's not good with the phone. I'm, like, making excuses already red flag.

But I mean, also, maybe you'll meet someone in Vegas. Is that the place we want to meet people? Well, if they're like, I guess I'm there, so maybe. If they're like an implant from somewhere else, like I see you with like a Montana guy. That, I mean, I would like somebody that's like outdoorsy and wants to live out west eventually and have horses. Like, I want that. But maybe they live outside of Vegas and they're coming in. Yes, and they're just coming in because their friend is a DJ.

Yeah. And you too happen to meet that way. They do put me on quite a few of the like PBR weekends and stuff like that where there's some cowboys around. So, like, maybe. Yeah, you have, I mean, do you have a type? I don't mean looks-wise, like, just like what you are looking for. And somebody, like, obviously they have to be outdoorsy. Yeah, I would like somebody outdoorsy because I am and that's my whole life.

I don't know. It's hard to say because, like, I feel like I did have a type for so long until my ex, my most recent ex. And he was so far from that. Yeah. Then now I'm like, do I have that type? I don't know. I don't know. Well, and do you feel like people have misconceptions about you just because of your

Like DJ presents, your family, there's so many things. There's so many things. What's one thing that you're like, I would like people to know this? I think probably the biggest misconception I deal with, not just dating, but anything, is like everyone's just like, because your last name is Cyrus, like, you've been fed with a silver spoon and you're rich girl and you like, all the things. No, I'm still a flying coach. I'm flying southwest. Yeah, you're carrying my own luggage. You are a humble queen.

I'm taking the Uber X because it's. the cheapest. Like I'm not, so true. I'm not a spoiled rich girl. I know you very well and I know that you are not like that at all. I'm not. And anyone who hangs out with you for like a couple hours would see that. But that is the misconception. But that is the misconception. You just see me on Instagram. Like maybe you think that. I don't know. No, that's a good point. I like that. So that would be my thing. That is you are you are one of the most humble people I know, especially in a family like with that last name, not saying that they're not humble. I mean, yeah, that's the thing is like really the whole family is kind of like that.

I agree. And I have a lot of people tell me that about Miley. Like, oh, my gosh, she's so chill. She's so normal because, like, for her, for being who she is, like, she really is. Yeah. But that's just a testament to my parents. Because she's an entertainer. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, I agree. You're, I feel like your whole family is quite humble and down to earth, but you're also performers. Like you being a DJ, you can turn it on and be the party girl for the DJ. But that's because you're a performer. You're an entertainer. Your families, all of your family are, they're entertainers. Do you believe in manifesting? Okay. You've been able to see yourself in Vegas, exactly where you want to be. Beyond that, what do you see for yourself? Career-wise, I think, like, all right, we've got the residency, right? But I'm playing like Wednesdays and Sundays in Vegas. So, like, for me, it's manifesting, all right, you know, now let's take this up to being like headlining Friday and Saturday nights. I want a billboard. I want more than one billboard in Vegas. You know what I mean? I want to play, you know, overseas. For me, that's a really big one, like to get to play some international festivals and do some international. Do like a collab with marshmallow? Club runs, yeah, stuff like that. Like, that's

kind of what's next for me, I think career-wise that I'm trying to manifest. I'm going to start putting out some remixes this year, which I've really drug my feet on and never done because see, but every time you've drug your feet and then you've done it, it works. I know, I know. So it's scarred from the band days. No, but this is good because this is part of the process. Yeah. And then you do it and you do it scared. Right. Yeah. So I'm doing. doing it. So going to manifest some really cool collaborations with cool artists that I enjoy. And then personal life wise, I just don't know. Like I go so back and forth because I truly think I could be happy just being on my own. Yeah. But I also, like there's a part of me that really wants a

partner. Yeah. And it's not that I, I don't really even want kids. Um, that's just never been like a priority for me. So like it's not that I see kids necessarily. But I love the idea of like having somebody to travel with and someone to do life with like don't we all like it's a great concept yeah but i'm also like i could also see me being okay without it i've so it's hard to say like i'm manifesting some man every day because i'm not because it's like if i could find it awesome but if i don't like i'm good i love that that is such a like i feel like our generation kind of thing where we're all realizing that we're doing what makes us happy and we don't want to just rely on somebody else to make us happy.

So if a partner came along that enhanced our life, how perfect, but we don't need it. Yeah, that's cool. Which I think makes it harder to date. Absolutely. You know, like the times are different. We don't need somebody the way like we did before.

I don't know. Like, things are just different. I agree. And I do like, my mom, gosh, she's like, you know, truth bombing me out. She's like, you'd be hard to date. And I'm like, good. She's like, you're just such a strong personality and so independent and da-da-da.

And I'm like, I know, but it is what it is. But that's, and somebody will appreciate that in you. Yeah, they have to or it's not going to work. That's the only option or bye. Well, I just think there's so many people out there that are listening that would love to be in that position to say like, I'm so solid in myself and I could see myself doing, you know, life of whatever. How do you get there?

How did you get there? Heartbreak. Yeah. For one. I mean, geez, you know, you'd have mercy to that for most of it. Heartbreak. And like, you know, I dated as a teenager and in my early 20s. and went through heartbreak,

but this one was different. It was really different. That was like a, you thought that was your person. Yeah, I really did. And I think like for the first time, I let myself slip into like,

seeing my identity a little bit in that, you know what I mean? And kind of banking some future things, like, you know, future plans for myself on that. And having that disappear, it's like,

shit. Well, like, I've had to do so much work to be at this place. like I can't do that again. I can't do that again. And so that like definitely like doing the work to like work through all that damage is a lot of it for sure.

And I think the important thing is working through it because you also don't want to be so jaded that you're closed off to that happening again, which I still feel like I'm trying to think like 10 years later after like the worst heartbreak. I'm still jaded of like, you know, like slipping a little bit into like letting myself be totally in love and seeing that future. and because you're scared of it being taken away again, but also working on yourself to go, I don't know. Being open.

Yeah. It's a really fine line. It really is. And I'm not sure that I've, that I'm walking it very well. Like I, there are days where I'm more open than others, and I think it's always going to be something where I just have walls up.

Yeah. That's fair. I mean, who doesn't? Yeah, I just, I don't know. Being self-aware is important and working on it is important. And I think those are two things that people can take away. Okay. Quick game.

It's called DJ. Name that song. I'm going to sing them. No, I'm just kidding. Okay, I'm going to read a line of a song. You have to tell me what song it is. And bonus, if you get the artist. I didn't make it too hard on you. Oh, okay. Actually, this one's kind of hard. I feel like a zombie gone back to life.

That is hard. That is, I wouldn't know that one. It's DJ, God has fallen in love, Usher. I actually, okay, that was a tough one. I would have never gotten that. Okay. A smell of wine and cheap perfume. I can hear it. Mm-hmm. But I can't.

People at home are like screaming. right now. Are they? Yes. Smell of wine and cheap perfume. Is it a country song? No. Smell wine and tree perfume. Oh. Oh, really great impression there. Wait, I'm still. What? Girls just want to have fun? No. Wait, what is it? Don't stop believing. Don't stop believing. See, it's hard when you're in the hot seat. Okay. Those two songs are kind of similar in like melody and the way they sound. I can almost see it. That dream I'm dreaming. Oh, the climb. Come on. Bonus point for the artist. Ellie Cyrus. The fact that there was no Grammy for that song, by the way.

It's crazy. Same with party in the USA. I mean, I know. But the climb? The climb is iconic. While he's having a smoke and she's taking a drag. Oh, the killers. Yes. What's the song called?

Not Mrs. Bright side. Too high can't come down. Losing my head, spin him round and round. That's weird because it's easy, but it is hard. Too high can't come down. Losing my head spin him round and round. I like know it but don't Oh, Brittany I can come down

Toxic Okay and last game It's called high patheticals Oh, you know Like if you're high We might need to steal that for a segment idea You absolutely should We give you credit that

Okay, okay, okay We also need to have you on Sarverstone I know I'm thinking about I should like If I should get stone to come on it Because I don't go really well The tower stone is when people smoke with fish. Okay, it will either go really well or horribly wrong.

Okay, so hypothetically, what would you do if you're on the tables doing your thing and someone throws their dirty underwear at you? Ew. Would you just keep playing and pretend to? The show must go on. I would for sure, like if I saw who it was, give them a super dirty look though. Yeah, sunny side up panties just in your face. You come across a magic genie and he tells you that you can have a lifetime supply of one thing.

What is it? Money. D. Obvy. I would be with you. Some people would be like, love. No, fuck that. Oh, money.

No. My first thought was horses, but you know what gets you horses? Money. Money. Yes. So that's, that's... Are you still at the same place? Yeah.

Oh, I need to come there. Okay, you're dropping the beat at the club. I sound like 80. You're dropping the beat at the club and accidentally drop some ass that might have been untrustable, if you know what I mean? You sharded. You sharded. What do you do? This would never happen to me.

Well, this is hypothetically. But I think I would have to keep going I mean like that's the thing about being in the DJ booth Like there's no one there to just take over for you Like you you kind of have to keep going No matter what Yeah wow Yeah brave

You really yeah That's brave It would be awful But I think I would keep yelling What about if paparazzi is around Snap some picks of you after show You see a dip slip after the photo leaks What happens? What do you do?

Embrace the nip You gotta Yeah Once something's on the internet It ain't never coming down. Do you pay attention to it, though? Yeah, I would ignore it. Okay.

Completely. I would not, and I need to learn from your mom. You wouldn't? No, I'd be like post it. Yeah, I'd be like, ha-ha. I like, oh my God. I like to be in on the joke sometimes. It depends.

Like, if it's a flattering photo, maybe. Yeah, okay, that's fair. But if I'm like, and my nips out, like, definitely. I've had two nips lips on Instagram. Really? Oh, yeah. And it's so funny because the first one, people were like, oh, my God, Caitlin, in the DMs. And I was like, oh, shit.

The second one, nobody said anything. and I was like, you guys, a nips, and they were like, yeah, we thought you were just, I thought it was part of the dress. Like, nobody said anything. I was like, okay, go, go, go, go. I remember, like, when I first got Instagram, like, way back in the day, I posted something that I didn't realize there was, like, a mirror, and I was in my underwear, but, like, just I thought the photo was just, like, waist up.

And then, like, I, somebody was like, yo, girl, I can see, like, your ass, like, in the mirror behind you, whatever. And I was wearing a thong, like, just straight up underwear. And I was pretty young at this point. And I was mortified. I took it down immediately, but, like, lost sleep for days over it. Oh, I was probably like 22 or three. Like, I was young.

I can't believe I haven't told the story yet. You just reminded me, okay, this is my confession for the pot. I usually run out of confessions, but I totally forgot that I have one. I, okay, in my new house, my front door is like right here and my bathroom's right here. Okay. For those listening, you can see into the bathroom from the front door. And I went to the bathroom. And something was happening where Pino

kind of like attacked Raman or something And I stood up to do something about them Fighting and FedEx Man was putting down a package Pants completely at my ankles No underwear down too And my doors aren't tinted like nothing Like he fully and it's like a fish bowl in there And I just looked and he looked and he just dropped the package

And walked away and I was like He completely saw like everything What do you do? What do you do? you just say hey Tom next time he's at your door hey Tom FedEx man that comes to my door every day but yeah yeah like he probably walked away being like I just saw that girl's vagina yes I'm dead I mean surely he's seen that before surely this happens a lot no oh like as a FedEx man yeah I'm sure like being a window washer yeah you've seen some shit yeah I think so I was having sex one time in a window washer saw me see like you people've seen some shit that's true I think so

I should have a window washer on my podcast and hear some stories. Honestly, you should. A window washer, an Uber driver, and a FedEx delivery man. Yeah. It's too good. That is too good. Oh my gosh. So when do you leave for Vegas and when can I come visit?

My first residency show is March 18th. Okay. It's an excess nightclub. It's coming up. I know. I'm so excited. So the win is two venues. They have Excess Night Club and Encore Beach Club.

Oh, I've been to both. Yes. Excess is chef's kids. I mean, I love both, but I love excess. Yes. And I only have a few dates there. So if you can come to one of the access shows. Damn it, that's like right in my podcast tour time.

Yeah, April 24th is the other one. Okay, I can do that one. It's a stagecoach week too. So it'll be like a little bit of a country night. Oh, shit. And then I have dates throughout the summer at Encore Beach Club. Oh, that'll be so fun. Oh, man, Encore Beach Club.

It's fun time I drank so much vodka. And I don't drink vodka. I was 21. And you know how like people can step in the pool and it's like only up to your waist? Yes. I was holding a cup. I just stepped in with completely under makeup, false lashes, gone. That water

from the pool got in my drink, still drank it, had a full anxiety attack and got sick the rest of the night. Oh, no. Cool trip, Caitlin. Do you like country music? Obsessed. Okay, so Morgan Wallin is playing in Vegas, August 8th and 9th or 9th and 10th, and I'm headlining Encore Beach Club in between his shows. Oh, sick.

So that would be a really good weekend to come to you because you get to see Morgan Wallen and then you get to come after party with me in the day club. Say less. Or pre-party. Say less. I'm wedged in between. I'm there. So that'll be a fun one. Wait, tell me the date again. August 9th.

Oh, August. Oh, yeah, I got time. Okay, I'll put it in the Cal. Okay, I'll put it in the Cal. I'm coming. Yeah, it'll be a good one. Okay. Yeah.

I'm excited. I'm so proud of you. I'm so excited. You're freaking crushing it. Like, you've worked so hard for this, and I can't wait to see you shine. Thank you. I can't wait for you to come. I'm Caitlin Bristow.

I'll see you next Tuesday. See your next Tuesday. Thank you. Thank you.