Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Cammie Scott

Episode Date: September 29, 2020

Kaitlyn’s guest for the week is openly gay influencer, YouTuber and host of her own podcast Uneducated, Cammie Scott! Kaitlyn tells Cammie about her experience living in LA and shares a story about how someone came up to her and asked her dog to be in his movie. The two also talk about anxiety, hormonal and menstrual depression, plus how to deal with reactive emotions when you’re feeling sensitive. Cammie explains the topics she covers on her podcast including: politics, mental health and the pursuit of knowledge! GEICO – Go to geico.com, and in fifteen minutes you could be saving 15% or more on car insurance EXPRESS – Text VINE to 397-737 to receive $25 off your purchase FRAMEBRIDGE – Go to Framebridge.com and use promo code VINE to save an additional 15% off your first order CUROLOGY – Go to Curology.com/OFFTHEVINE for a FREE 30 day trial, just pay shipping and handlingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Tabby topics. On filtered advice and wine. Lots of wine. Get ready to shake things up. Here's Caitlin. Welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow. Today on the pod, I got to speak with an openly gay influencer who encourages all of her followers to unapologetically be themselves.

I obviously love that message. I love her. She posts on her various social media channels about everything from dating and relationships to fashion and health and wellness. Her YouTube videos alone have actually over 29 million views. She recently started a podcast called Uneducated. We talk about that where she has the uncomfortable conversations we all need to have in order to learn and grow, learn about the world around us. It was actually such a pleasure to speak to her. She's so sweet. We talk about anxiety, the menstrual depression, the hormonal depression, how to feel your feelings, sitting in the funk. You know how it is. Please welcome to the podcast, Cammy Scott. Nice to meet you. How is it going where? You're in L.A. right? Yeah, I am. I'm in the valley. Oh, okay. Well, I don't, I've lived in Nashville for four years and I still don't know like the little pockets and areas and what that means. But like right now, I'm looking in the building across from me and I can see the Hollywood sign and the reflection. Am I close to you? Sort of. You're, you're over the hill. You're like in

Hollywood then. Okay. I was so scared. Last night I saw Tyler from Bachelor World, like, did an Instagram story and said, was like reposting something that this girl was robbed in Hollywood and like telling everyone to be careful. I was like right about to go walk my dog. at like 11 o'clock at night. I'm like, oh, cool, cool, cool. You're like, where is that, though? Is it near me? I'm like, is this person caught?

Are they still on the loose? Should I be worried? I'm, and another guy, you know, you know, you're in L.A. when, like, somebody stops you and says, oh my gosh, do you want to be in a movie? Do you want to be in my movie? And I was like walking, I was walking my dog. And this guy just pulls over on his bike and he goes,

hey, do you live here? And I was like, no, I'm just staying here right now. And he was like, oh, because I'm filming in a movie and we really need a dog. I would love for your dog to be in my movie. And I was like, not even asking you asking for your dog. Asking for my dog. I was like, oh, I'm sorry. Am I not?

No, I'm just kidding. I can play the dog. I'm fine. Yeah. It's like I'm really good at playing a dog. But I was like a little creeped out just because he like came out of nor on his bike. And so he's like, is your dog friendly? I'm like, nope, nope.

he's uh he's pretty aggressive bites a lot scared of other people oh god really he's just like the most precious calm emotional support animal for my anxiety oh same with my big guy my guy's like 95 pounds and everyone's terrified of him i know okay i saw that you had a huge dog it's like the same size as you tell me everything about your dog his name is frank he is going to be three next month and then i got him at i think he was like a year and a half when i rescued him And he is just a massive, massive teddy bear of a guy. He is a gentle giant. He's definitely had some trauma.

So he's very skittish with people and other dogs. But he could definitely protect me. Yeah, absolutely. And I love the name Frank for a dog. That's amazing. Roman is like, we'll just lick you to death. Like, I just wish you could see him right now. He's just over there like, he just keeps like licking his own paw and like doing that to his face.

So sweet. You rescued him from a place in L.A.? Yeah. So I was volunteering with I Stand with my pack and doing a couple different things with them and just helping them run different. They did like little dog shows where all the rescue dogs did like costume and talent show kind of thing. And I wanted a dog so bad. And I was waiting and waiting and I was just going to foster because I lived in an apartment still. And then Frank, my dog actually had puppies. So I started looking at them. And they were going really quickly. So I wanted the one little girl had three legs, which was adorable, but they're such big dogs. It was going to be hard. And then all of them got taken. But Frank, so I went to go meet him. And it was love at first sight. He's just a little

teddy bear. So I had to get him. That's so sweet. How long have you had him now? About, yeah, like a year and a half, or two years in December. Yeah. And is he an emotional support animal? Not legally, but not like on paper, but he is 100%. He's like, it's crazy. If I cry or I'm upset, he will just come and lay next to me the one time he never licks people, which is really odd, but I love it because he's a slavery guy. So I don't really want that all over me and everyone else. But one time I was crying and he just came up and the only time he's ever done it and just licked me. I was like, he knows. Oh, that's so precious. He's the kind of dog that you look in their eyes in your life. Like, there's something going on. Like, you're like, you are reincarnated something. Like, you have a past life that you get it. Somehow you get it. I'm like, you're my grandpa or something.

I don't know. Yeah, he's just an old soul. Oh, that's so sweet. Quick question. Did you know that right now, GEICO is offering an extra 15% credit on car, motorcycle, and RV policies? That's 15% on top of the money GEICO could already save you. So what are you waiting for?

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because that's part of this too. Because I saw you posted a YouTube video about dealing with anxiety during coronavirus and your home body and thought you would be thriving during this time, but you've just been really struggling. which I kind of related to because for the first little while, I was like, oh my gosh, this is great. I get to just be at home and, you know, and then anxiety kicked into high gear. But that was kind of the same as me.

So can you kind of talk about that and about your anxiety in general? Yeah, definitely. Like you said, I thought this was going to be a breeze. But I also think as none of us did, I didn't know how long it was going to be for. So my home body side was like, this is great. I work from home already. Nothing's really going to change for me. I'm fine. I'm chilling. And I have PMDD, which is basically PMS intensified, and I get really

depressed the week before my period, which I think is somewhat of a blessing because I'm not depressed at the time. I always have said that I don't know how people deal with that. I think that that would be so difficult because having that little light at the end of the tunnel for me is so helpful. But yeah, quarantine's just been so bizarre, not knowing when anything's going to And my girlfriend and I had pretty much just started dating. And then... Really? Yeah, she came down for my birthday, which was in March, March 11th, and never left.

She was living in San Francisco. We were doing long distance. And now we live together and have been like going from distance and only seeing each other for long weekends here and there to on top of each other 24-7. We rescued another dog during quarantine. So it's been like really amazing, really high highs and really, really low lows. It's just, it's weird to find your groove. And I am such like a schedule person and I like to be productive.

It gets done and work kind of declined during everything. So it's just been an adjustment and hard. I think it's just been heavy for everyone. And my girlfriend has health anxiety. So that's been really hard on her. It's just, I don't know if you could hear my dog's barking now too. they're talking to yours. But yeah, it's just, it's just been a learning process and there's really no, there's no guidebook to this. No one's ever had to deal with anything like this. So I think

anyone who struggles with any realm of mental health, it's just been amplified. And then people who have never had to deal with anything are starting to. And that can be really scary to deal with everything for the first time when so much is going on. Yeah, that's true. I feel like I almost like have the tools and know how to deal with anxiety and can work my way around it sometimes. But I wanted to jump back to what you said earlier because I've talked about this on my podcast. So many times I put it on social media. I too get like I didn't know.

I think someone had mentioned that to me. What did you say it was called again? PMDD. PMDD. What does that stand for? Pre-menstrual dysphoria disorder or something. God, I forget. I know that.

Sometimes I forget what PMS is. just know it as PMS. But I have that. I get like crippling anxiety or depression um around that week. Sometimes it lasts three days, sometimes four, sometimes one. Like I never know, but I always know that that's what it is. And like you said, it's, it's nice to know that there's light at the end of the tunnel because I'm not a depressed person, but I really am during that time. And I've never understood myself until I realized that's, that was the timing of it. I always just thought like there something wrong with me and I didn't I didn't ever put yeah I didn't ever look at the calendar and think oh this is when it happens I just knew there was going to be a time where I spiraled and I didn't

know when it was going to come and then when it did I felt crazy and it's it's crazy that at the age of 35 I recognize what it is now but it's you have the same thing that's wild yeah I mean I'm 29 and I only recently really realized it I kind of had heard of it thought oh maybe I have this but Most people are self-diagnosed because the only way to really figure it out is by ruling out other things like actual depression and making sure that that's not the case. So it's hard to really pinpoint and it's crippling right before you get your period and you just, I don't know, I feel like I'm worthless. I question every decision I'm making in my life. And then it's bizarre because my period starts and then I'm happy and I'm really positive and I'm thrilled about life. And yeah, it's. Does your girlfriend understand that or does she ever go through anything like that? Because I think for Jason, my boyfriend, he's kind of like, what the hell? Like, how can it just be that? And then you're fine.

And he's, well, he's been really great about it. But he just can't even comprehend because he obviously doesn't understand the struggle of any kind of PMS or being a woman. So it's hard for him to understand. But does she, what is her name so I can not keep calling her she? Taryn. Taryn. Does Taryn understand? Yeah, absolutely.

I mean, yeah, definitely a perk of being gay along with like sharing clothes and just getting each other a little bit more. But she's experienced anxiety. So she gets it in that realm. It's definitely very different types of anxiety and depression that we've experienced. But I mean, yeah, living together through all of this and the heightened emotions we've had to learn how to deal with each other in those moments pretty quickly. So I think it was confusing for her for a little bit because her techniques of dealing with her anxiety and depression are. are different than mine, but we like hit our stride and figured it out and know like a couple days, maybe just leave me alone because I'm sensitive and miserable and like, you can't even breathe right around me. But then after that, good. That is so me. My gosh, I always feel like such an asshole in that time because I, I mean, it could be anything. It will just throw me right off. And, oh, and like you said, I question every decision. I question all of my life. Like, and even when I'm in the thick of it and know what it is, I'm still like, but still, I still feel that way.

Yeah, I'm like, I know this is just the PMDD. My peer is going to come in time. But maybe this is like when you're drunk and you have crazy thoughts and you're like, but drunk thoughts are drunk words or sober thoughts or whatever it is. Yeah, exactly. Is there something like is there, I don't know, medication or is there some solution for PMDD? Yeah, there's different things for everyone. My cousin actually has it, and it's known that it can be hereditary, so that makes sense. And she takes different vitamins and supplements and got on the right levels that have really helped her. Other people actually get on medication for depression, and sometimes it's just for that week. I just have, like, CBD gummies and wine. So it's really like whatever works best for you. I know, like, I I should probably be doing more for sure to handle it.

And therapy is very helpful. It's just kind of you have to figure out what's best for you. There's no one type of like solution or medicine you can take to just make it go away, unfortunately. But there's a few things that you can do to cope. Honestly, my way of coping is to just like be completely by myself. Like I just want to be alone. I want to be in bed.

I want to like cry, watch Gray's anatomy. me. I want to just like eat whatever I want, drink wine, maybe get high. That's like, that's what I want. That was all me yesterday. Yeah. I'm like, don't, don't talk to me. I'm not going to like it. You're not going to give me what I need. I watched like 12 episodes of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills yesterday and like ate everything in sight. Now I'm good. That's perfect. And that's what you're so needed. What have you and Taryn done to like transition into living together that quick and being full blown because of, you know, know, COVID and everything, some couples have had to experience that. I know a few people who have

like, they were like just trying to start out, you know, by like being at each other's house all the time. And then it was COVID hit. And not only are you around each other all the time, but you're in this weird time of life where you're, you know, irritable and overly sensitive and scared and everybody deals with being scared differently. I'm like totally irrational when I'm scared. And And how have you too gotten through some tough times and learn to work well with each other? I think there's been so many different phases of quarantine. Like in the beginning, we were just trying to make it as fun as possible. We had like Nerf gun wars and like played little games and we're doing Zoom calls every day.

And then it was the like intensive boring phase where we did nothing. But like we did the same stuff every day. It was like woke up, had the same thing to eat, watch the same shows. And my girlfriend actually left her previous job in the beginning of quarantine. So then she wasn't working and I was still kind of working. And I don't know, we've just kind of had to go with the flow and definitely made a lot of mistakes along the way. But we've learned to just communicate, I feel like we just are like, sit down, explain what we're feeling. Her aunt is incredible and actually like coaches couples.

So we had a meeting with her. we had a Zoom call and it was incredible and she taught us about there's this thing called your lizard brain which everyone needs and it helps protect you but it can make you have irrational fears as you experience so if if taren tells me like well as she did earlier I put my salad bowl on her side of the desk earlier and she's like why do you always do that and I got so offended and upset which is my period talking but I got offended because I was like, I clean all the time. What are you doing? So we learned how to kind of check that thought and think, okay, what did they say? What was the intention behind what they said? And why did it make

me feel the way I feel? So instead of lashing out, I say, oh, so hard. I have to like storm off for an hour first. But then you can come back and say, I'm so sorry, that made me feel sensitive because I was trying to really pitch in a lot this week. And then that made me feel like you didn't notice. But how do you put your ego aside to be able to do that? Because my ego totally gets in the way of being like vulnerable and apologetic. Like I just, I'm, and it is always in that irrational time, but I find it so hard. Like, like, I would rather chew glass than go and say I was wrong and apologize. What is that about? Why is it that hard to just put your ego aside? It's like, impossible. I like to sometimes sit back and like write a note in my phone from the perspective of

the other person so I can kind of step outside of myself. So instead of focusing on like, why am I upset, breaking down why they might be upset and they might be hurting. And then Taryn and I come to each other and say, I'm sorry for my part. And that feels like you're not taking the blame for the argument. You're not saying like, I'm sorry because then you want to say, but you did. I'm sorry for my part and then she can say I'm sorry for my part and then we can say this thing really did hurt me though and it can kind of ease into it instead of having to be the one who's apologizing for everything first because yeah that's like oh I don't want to do it oh it's tough like you'd think that would get easier with like maturity levels and like growing up but no maybe harder because you get more stubborn

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Because you were pretty young doing things on like Tumblr before everything. Right? Oh my God, you did your research. Oh, my. like damn yeah i it was all just kind of a happy accident i won my first girlfriend ever was on vacation and i missed her and i had a tumbler that i had started to save like interior design stuff i was really into interior design and i kept saving them to my desktop and finally made an account and then months later or maybe even a year later while my girlfriend was away i posted a picture of us and then went to

sleep and woke up the next day and had all of these messages on tumbler people being like oh my god i didn't realize you were gay and i don't even think i was fully out then so i was like oh what is happening yeah and yeah people just seem to relate to the idea of me sharing and appearing very comfortable in my skin even though i was anything but and it kind of just snowball effect affected from there i got into a different relationship and within that relationship we actually started our youtube channel together we just had people we both had a small follow following on Tumblr and people are just like, you guys need to make couples videos. And it kind of turned into our date night. We would just make videos together doing stupid little like games and

drinking and just being weirdos. And people liked it and it moved to L.A. And that was like five years ago now, six. Wow. So that's how you moved. Where are you originally from? I'm from Pittsburgh. Pittsburgh. So that's, so it was actually your videos and and being able to do that to move to to L.A.? Yeah, I knew I always wanted to end up in New York, L.A. That was always the thought. I was going to, I planned to go to school in one of those places. And then when college came around, wasn't ready to move too far away from home, so didn't do that. And then I actually moved to Dallas to be with my ex-girlfriend. She was from there. And we were making a list of where we wanted to move because we knew we didn't want to stay in Dallas. And L.A. was one of them. We had a few

friends out here. We came to visit. We're like, let's do it. Let's come out here and see if we can make a career out of this, I guess. And you did. So you said something, like you, people said they didn't even realize you were gay. So did you, because you didn't, you said you didn't ever really come out. Was that just something that you felt like, why do I need to make an announcement? That's just who I am. Can't I just be? I think about this a lot. And I used to say that. And I think that was kind of a cop out. because I was terrified to come out every like for years I'd come out to one person and then you it was always somebody new because I don't look quote unquote gay so whether I got a new job or I met new friends it was always this big to do for probably five years until I was just comfortable in my

skin and it just naturally comes out in conversation but yeah I would always say like I don't need to tell people like unless I'm trying to date them who cares what I am like it doesn't matter but for me, that was a cop-out because I was just terrified to do it every single time. Really? So obviously you were terrified of people's reaction. Is that what it is for most people, just terrified that you won't feel accepted or something? Or do you feel in this time? How old were you when you realized you were gay?

Oh, gosh. I have such a bizarre story because I think I realized when I was pretty young and I started dating someone in secret for five years or something. something like that was a very long time. And I like at first it was just like, oh, this is my exception. I just love you as a person. And back then, I mean, this was, I'm 29 now. We were dating when I was like 15. So I didn't see gay characters on TV. Like we live in a very different world already from when I was growing up closeted. So it was just, yeah, it was a weird time. And I, I think I was, it was like conditioned in me that people wouldn't be okay with it. And spoiler, not a single person in my life ever gave two shits.

I was going to say it probably once you did and just saw, like, I'm sure people's reactions were just so excited for you. Most people were like, yeah, we're well aware. Like, you don't hide it that well. I was constantly accidentally outing myself. And I was dating my best friend. Like, we weren't very good at hiding it. We had a clear, like, relationship.

We would fight in front of people. it was very obvious but in my like teenage brain i was like nobody knows no one knows yeah so well some people go their whole life without you know being able to come out but do what would you say to someone that's you know no matter what age they are who is afraid to come out what what would i'm sure you get asked this a lot or what you would say but what would your advice be i think the key is just being comfortable with yourself even after i was out The hardest person to come out to was myself. Nobody else. Once I was comfortable in my skin, I didn't really care if people didn't accept me or love me because of it because I accepted and

loved myself. So it was way less terrifying. And I just, it's not worth having those conversations in your head without giving the other person the opportunity to save their side of the dialogue. It's just not fair. You don't know what anyone's going to say until you allow them the chance to do it. most people are going to love you, no matter what, unconditionally support you. And if not, that's their loss. I actually just did an episode on my podcast with my friend Kate and her family is not supportive. Her siblings are, but her parents aren't. She has like worst case scenario. And she has an amazing life. She's so happy. She's a beautiful fiancee. So even worst case scenario is so much better than having to hide who you are your whole life. Yeah. I agree with that.

got to be so hard though but I mean a lot of times I say if you you know family's blood but you don't get to pick them but you can you can choose family too like you know all the people that support you and love you unconditionally that can that is family too but that's just it's just so heartbreaking for I will just never understand or my brain can't really like access those feelings of why you wouldn't love your own child through who they are like it just never could register. It just doesn't make any sense to me. But obviously, she's probably got a different lovely support system that would help her through that. Exactly. And you did a podcast with her about it? Yeah, it was wonderful. I just, I feel like that's the number one question I get asked from people is either

about being religious and coming out, which her family is very religious, or what you do when coming out doesn't go well. And I didn't experience either of those things. So it was really interesting to get to hear her take on that and kind of shed some light and give some hope to people. Of course. And where can people listen to your podcast and tell me about that? It is called uneducated, which I feel like I've been working on it for a year and it came out at the perfect time. It's all about just having those conversations that you're afraid to have. I feel like we live in a world where we are extremely ignorant on things because we just don't know how to ask or don't want to ask and we don't have the people to ask. So it's kind of a way to, I can only answer so many DMs online and I

only know so much about so little. So I have a different quote unquote expert each time on the episode and they kind of talk about either their experts because of their experiences or because we've studied something and just kind of having those hard conversations with out any judgment or anyone like getting offended. We just chat and you can find it. anywhere that you listen to podcasts that's awesome um something just crossed my mind and then i lost it because that's what i do all the time on podcasts i'm like wait what was i going to say it was so good um no you're so wonderful at it i'm like taking notes of how to be a better podcast host from you oh come on now i'm like i'm like well all you got to do is just like blank out on what you're

talking about uh just be honest about it it's relatable people love it um But I was going to say, because you have so, I mean, there's obviously so many topics to discuss with making, you know, having uncomfortable conversations. There's so much right now to discuss. But do you ever run out of ideas? Like how often do podcasts or is every week you're like, oh, I easily can talk about that? I have like a doc on my computer of just, and I just feel like there's so much to talk about. There's so many things that can be interesting.

I think it's been hard keeping up with it every week. It just launched about a month. month ago. So yeah, I just, it's hard to make sure people are going to be interested and get educated in finding that balance between the two. But with, I feel like this year, as awful as it's been, has been so important because it's made so many people wake up to things that were already going on. So it's been the prime time to have people listen in here and be willing to hopefully get educated. It's crazy that you've been working on it for a year. And it's, it is like you said just such a prime time for that kind of podcast to be out there to listen to that

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YouTubers and saying how there's a divide between races within the lesbian YouTube community and she specifically said my name a couple times which at first I did get defensive and want to shut down and was so bummed and was so hurt as I felt like I was I was reading books and having book clubs and really trying to educate myself so to get called out hurt. And then once I checked my white privilege a little bit and I was like, okay, why am I getting offended by this and broke it down and had conversations with her? And then later got to share those conversations on the podcast. I think it was really powerful to see that and to see that we could have this common ground and understand each other. And just because

she was calling me out didn't mean that I needed to get offended. I could just listen and hear and understand why she was feeling the way she was feeling and hopefully help change that. right that's another thing with you know i mean that's a very important conversation to have but i'm i need to work so hard on that where i'm not i'm not like a super defensive person but i don't take feedback well if it's questioning my character i find that really hard yeah because you're like but i'm a good person like and i have good intentions so isn't that enough but obviously no it's not enough all the time. So that's good to recognize that. And then what do you like about podcasting so far compared to more traditional social media or vlogging or YouTube? How is it different

for you and do you like it? Like do you love having these conversations? Yeah. I love it. I hate being in front of a camera, which is so ridiculous because it is like 90% of my job. So I've always wanted to do the podcast because my favorite YouTube videos are when I just get to sit and talk. But it's just this long-winded monologue of me like yammering on about God knows what. So to be able to sit and listen to somebody else and have that conversation and bounce ideas off of each other is so fun. That is my favorite way to like learn anything either. She'd be like, I never thought about that. Wait, I thought that. And have my mind change. It's, it doesn't feel like doing any work. It's so much fun. It's just like, oh, it's way better than everything. Yeah. And you're talking to people

who are experts at these conversations. So you probably learn so much. And then your listeners get to learn so much. And that's awesome. We'll be back with more Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Tell you, Chico Pitpool, Mr. 305, better said, Mr. Worldwide. Amandito Gritamperez.

I had to use the real name. Why? Because now it's the podcast. From negative to positive, which you can catch on Apple Podcast, podcast one, and Spotify. Flow to the rider. I don't even know if you know how much they play you around the road or anywhere, my brother.

No matter how much bread we make, dog, you can't take it with us. No matter how many houses, cars, whatever we acquire, can't take it with us. With that said, anything we make is always a give back, dog. Why are we starting a podcast? Well, it's real simple. With the times that we're living in right now in the world, I think you need to be motivated, inspired, educated, aware, positive. So what I'm here is just to motivate the world And let them know

When we talk, we call a spade, a spade So you're going to hear the truth So I look forward to the podcast I look forward to showing y'all teaching y'all how to take it from a negative to a positive So get ready From negative to positive

Which you can catch on Apple Podcast Podcast, Podcast One, and Spotify You're listening to Off the Vine With Caitlin Bristow It's that time of the podcast Where I feel like people dread it But it's always fun You have to confess something to me

let's do it let's do it let's do it I think the perfect confession for this as we were talking about how I very often times outed myself growing up yeah have you ever texted somebody when you meant to text somebody else of course yeah I was like I was really bad at doing that growing up all the time nonstop doing it and it really taught me to like never say something behind some of his back that you wouldn't say to their face so I was driving home from seeing my girlfriend and I side confession was texting her in my car don't do that kids please don't do that and I had her I don't know what her name was in my phone something with a B but I accidentally text my friend Bailey so it was like

baby or something similar to Bailey. I sent the mushyest, most obnoxious text ever. Like, I love you so much, honey boo, whatever. Something disgusting. My teenager self thought was so cute. And immediately realized, panicked, like pulled over my car. I was freaking out. Text her back, made up some insane lie of like, oh, we were making fun of her sister and her boyfriend because they were being so gross. And she texts me back a screenshot of everything I just said. I was like, did you mean to send that to our friend, our other friend? And she's like, she just owned up to it. She's like, yeah. And we just never spoke on it ever again because it was just so awkward that I had text her this like, at least it wasn't a sext. Like at least it was very like just gushy and

whatever. And then her getting caught back, we were just all like, you're like, okay, we're even. Yeah. I was like, so we're good here, right? We just never need to have this conversation ever. And I didn't even come out to her for like two, three more years after that. So I'm like texting the wrong person. I have done that a few times in my life. I don't even know if I've actually shared this one on the podcast, which is, it's quite funny. But I thought I was texting with one of the producers from The Bachelor. And, um, It was under an email, and for some reason, I had been texting with this producer under his email.

So in that time, Ashley I, who was on the season with me, on Chris Soul season, she texts me from an email address. So I thought I was texting the producer back, but I was texting her. And I was talking about how disgusting she was when she was kissing the guy. I was like, ew, I can't even watch her kiss. this is so bad yeah and then she went ha oh my god katelyn and then i just fully like leaned into it i was like well sorry it's it's you are not like you need to practice kissing like i just totally

leaned into it because one that's my sense of humor like it's it's always my sense of humor to kind of like make fun of people um in like a loving way and she knew that and she's so good about that kind of thing and so she just thought it was hilarious but i definitely didn't She didn't know. I didn't mean to send it to her. Well, she knows now. Yeah, I'm like, oh, dear God. Sorry, Ashley.

But to be fair, she was just like, at that time, I don't think she had kissed many people. And it was just very awkward. And she knew that. And they, everyone knew that. So it was like, I mean, I didn't have to be so harsh about it. And I feel terrible for, but I was literally mortified watching her kissing. Like, I was a bitch, but it was true.

That it was true. Oh, sorry. I'm not sorry. Anywho, I'm sure someone will tweet her and tell her about this. That's okay. That's okay. Well, to end things off, we're just going to do a little rapid fire. I just sounded like Boston from Boston or something. Rapid fire. Rapid fire of the last. So the last photo you took. Oh, I just posted it to my Instagram because I have a cute yellow dress on today. It is a cute little dress. Gosh, you look so adorable, and I'm just like, I had to get dressed today. I felt too down. I was like, got to get ready. Oh, I'm like, I feel, well, I just

got to L.A. And I feel like I'm just really taking in these last few days before my life gets crazy to just like hair treatments, no spray tan, no makeup, lounge and just, that's been me for six months. So I can get dressed one day. Good for you. Um, the last text message you sent. oh god oh god i don't know she's looking oh i said oh i i didn't answer my friend's call right when we were starting so i said sorry recording a podcast oh thank god that wasn't anything it's like yeah i'm like that's not juicy it was me telling everyone you were late i'm kidding

oh shots fired this bitch is late oh that's amazing i know i'll own that one i'll lean into that one too. That was freaking late. The last time you had too much to drink. Probably a couple days ago. I had quite a few margaritas. I love a good margarita. There's just nothing better. Well, wine, but yeah, yeah, yeah. I love a good margarita. Spicy, yes. The last TV show you binge watched, Real Housewives. Yeah, Real Housewives. All day yesterday. Gosh, there's something wrong with me. I've never watched Real Housewives, and I really think I'd get into it. Really? It's juicy. I just heard Denise Richards was on it, and I was like, got to see this. Yeah, I hear that. The last thing you searched for on Google. Oh, God. I don't want to know. Who the f*** is Caitlin Bristow? No, I looked up Haley Bieber outfit, white button down, because I knew she wore a cute outfit, and I wanted to copy it. Haley Bieber everything. I actually went to my eyebrow lady to get microbladed and said, Haley Beaver brows.

Yeah. She's just so freaking cute. She's adorable. She seems like such a sweetie, too. I know. I'm like, you just seem like a good one. Yeah, she does.

She does. Okay. Last, hmm. Last piece of advice that made an impact on you. Ooh. To let yourself feel, I've just been so freaking depressed during quarantine.

And I've been mad about it. about feeling depressed. Yeah, I hear you. Yeah. And my girlfriend actually was like, you've got to just like allow it. It's okay. You're going to be okay, but you've got to feel it. Yeah, I totally get that.

It's just like you, I feel like, and I think you're probably the same of the phases of quarantine. Like sometimes you're like, you know, it is what it is. And then other times you're like, when the hell is this going to end? I'm actually scared. I've been getting in a pretty bad rut because my, this is, you know, usually the time I'm in Canada with all my family. I usually go and spend the whole month of August at my parents' lake house and see everybody and my nieces and nephews and they're all together

right now at the lake and I like, you know, we can't even cross borders and this whole thing happening and this is the longest I've gone without seeing them and I'm so close to all of them and they FaceTime me and my niece was just like, I really miss you, Antia, it's just not the same and I was trying to be so strong. I hung up and I was like, blah. It's so hard. It's so hard. It's hard to be so far from family and yeah oh my gosh that must be so difficult not knowing when the borders are going to open and what's going to happen it's tough but yeah you're right we have to just feel it and it's it's okay it's okay to not be okay right now let's take a quick moment this segment is sponsored by curology we've all tried so many products skincare routines and for the

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Well, I do a little sip-sip, hooray. To some good news because that's what we need these days. So today I am toasting to a man named Kenneth Feltz, who just came out as gay at 90 years old. Yay, I know, isn't that so sweet? That's incredible. imagine how alive he feels right now yeah my god he has like a whole other life he gets to live now and just be so happy uh he had originally planned to take this to the grave he said but he began writing a memoir while in quarantine and decided it wasn't something he could keep hidden and his story

is so incredible and inspirational and amazing and a reminder like you just said that it's never too late to be true to yourself so we're cheersing to kenneth today um and i'm just I don't know the guy at all, and I'm like genuinely proud of him. Me too. I want to go hug him. Go Kenneth. I want to meet like his whole family right now. Let's party.

I know. I want a virtual hug, Kenneth. Maybe I could have him on the podcast. That would be amazing. You should have him on your podcast. Okay. I'm calling him up right now. Yeah.

Kenneth, Kenneth Feltz, go get him. Well, thank you so much for being on the podcast today. You're so lovely and tell everybody, again, the name of your podcast and where they can find you on, you know, YouTube and Instagram and all that. Yeah, absolutely. The podcast is uneducated. You can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts and also over on YouTube. And you can find me on all social medias at Cammy Scott. And that's C-A-M-M-I-E, right? Wow, well, done. Yes. Oh, thanks, girl. Well, thank you so much. You're just so wonderful and I loved talking to you. And let's do it again sometime. Yes, please. Have you.

Have a good day. You too. Bye. Okay, bye. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening to Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Get new episodes every Tuesday exclusively on Podcast1.com, the Podcast One app, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts.

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