Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Drunk Dial: Hate to Blake it to you

Episode Date: August 9, 2019

This week, Kaitlyn answers your questions about Nashville as she and Jason share their favorite places to go dine, wine, and feel fine. Jason and Kaitlyn give their opinions on the drama between Blake and Caelynn surrounding Bachelor in Paradise. And the do their best to explore the state of mind the show can put you in. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Honey. Online savings simplified. We are in Kelowna, Jason's first time in the old Okanagan. First time in the old Okinaugan. This place is just... Definitely not your last time. Definitely not your last time. It's a hidden gem.

I cannot believe how gorgeous this place is. Well, now you just told the world. It is. The world needs to know if you haven't been to Kelowna, put it on your bucket list. But I don't know because we don't want it to be too crowded here because then the wineries get too busy. Everyone should experience it.

The wineries are beautiful. Quailsgate is my favorite. Quowlesgate. Yep. Quail's gate. We went to Grey Monk. Yeah. That was a really good one.

Gray Monk is one of my favorites as well. Gray Monk and Quail Skate are my two. Well, no. I lie. I have a lot of favorites. Gray Monk, Quailsgate, dirty laundry in Summerland, and what was my other one? Oh, the hatch. Wow.

And you've got to paint the picture because you've got to imagine there are these huge hills, beautiful landscape, wineries, and then somehow, some way. in Kelowna, the water is as blue as the Bahama water. Yeah. Like, it is so crystal blue and turquoise blue. It, like, changes. So there's two. There's Okanagan Lake, and then there's Kalmalka Lake, and Cal Lake is actually manmade,

and it's just the most clear, beautiful water. But you really feel like you're in a tropical destination here. It's just incredible. I mean, they have something for everyone, too. They have unbelievable golf course, wineries, good restaurants. There's a casino close by. You can go boating, jet skiing. One of those...

They have one of those bike... What is it called? Smile Cycle Club. No, Smile Cycle. It's where you bike and drink and go around Colonna at the same time. That's so cool. Ooh, I think actually, you know, you just stop at breweries and get drinks because you can't drink on with it. And I found my new happy place.

It's at the Sparkling Resort. There is an Infinity... Sparkling Hill Resort. There is an Infinity Pool looking over. It's at the highest pinnacle of Colona looking over everything. we're not supposed to have our phones up there, but I think we did sneak a couple photos and put them on Instagram.

That place is serenity at its like the best. It's unbelievable. I could see myself doing summers here for sure. Like when we're like, we're only doing the month of August, I'm like, why aren't we here for more than just a month? I know.

July, August, September, my favorite months out here. I know. It's pretty incredible. It's kind of ironic because we're in Canada, in Kelowna, but we're going to talk a little bit about Nashville. And then we're going to address, we're just going to give our thoughts and opinions on the Blake and Kalin situation, even though I hope maybe we're over it by now, but probably not.

I'm quite interested to see how this week's paradise goes. It'll be interesting. I'm like, did they have to change edits now? Oh, for sure. Yeah. They have to. Yeah. Yeah, because, I mean, we'll talk about that.

We'll talk about that. Maybe not. I don't know. I get a lot of questions about Nashville. I said on my last podcast that I would kind of do a fun little drunk dial about places to go in Nashville. So everybody get your, I was going to say pen and paper. Is that really old school? That's old school.

Get your app out. Get your notes. Get your checklist app out. Yeah. Or a pen and paper if you're feeling old school because I'm about to tell you some good spots. Somebody asked me, let's see, there's a Gwen. Gwen wants to know. I was wondering what is your daily routine in Nashville besides podcasting?

If you could tell somebody about my day in Nashville, what would you say? Never the same. Never. Never the same. Because there's always, especially in like the world that we live in, it's just things change daily. Opportunities come up weekly. And it's just, it's just never consistent, which is so cool because you have a lot of flexibility and you get to see different things and do different things. But it's really tough, especially when you're moving in together, a lot of the difficulties are getting, like I talk to other friends and my parents.

and family, it's getting on the same routine. Yeah. And we don't, there is no routine. No, we just don't have one. No. I mean, a day in the life is in Nashville. I feel like I wake up. When I'm home, I try to relax.

So I have sleep-ins. I'll get up and work out. I like to cook. I like to take ramen to play. What else do we do? Just like really boring stuff. Just I'm really boring when I'm home. I mean, lately I've got this group of friends, and we have friends in Nashville that were yours from college that we like to do things with.

So there's a lot of restaurants we love to check out. Yeah, and I'm a go-out guy. So when I am, it's funny, when we're in Nashville, I try to get Caitlin to like go to a restaurant. I go do it. She's like, no, I just don't want to leave my house. I'm here. Because I'm always in different cities doing stuff. So when I'm home, I'm like, oh, I just love my home.

Which I totally do. But I also like to go. Okay. And Casey Huntington asked if I had 24 hours in Nashville with you. She said she loves food and wine and coffee. Where would you take me? So Casey, I would take you to Erington Vineyards Winery because it's the only winery. But I would. No, we haven't. I need to take you. It's beautiful. I wonder if I could take my own wine there, probably. Yeah. Yeah. Give and take. Yeah. I mean, I'll buy a bottle of theirs. I wouldn't put us one. I would take you. Oh, where for coffee? Frothy monkey for coffee. And then for wine, I would take you to Barcelona wine bar or, um, I can't think of other places we go for wine. That's, yeah, I think that's, I haven't, we haven't gone to any places for. Yes, we have. Where have we gone? I feel like we went to a lot of really cute little spots, but anytime I'm put on the spot, I can't think of them. Well, this is also funny too. Oh, Bastion. I love Bastion for cocktails. That's where we played.

Oh, Bastion. That's where we had the air bubble hockey game. Yeah. And the coolest place we went to was Ataboy. Oh, Adaboy. That's a speak easy. It is so, it's got so much character. The bartenders are incredible.

Yeah. They're not bartenders, babe. They're mixologists. Apologies. No. Mixologists. Okay. I think you've got a little game for me.

So fill in the blank for you because you are the Nashville expert. And this is now, I keep feeling like, ugh. This is the Bachelorette capital of. America. The world. The world. Yeah. All right.

When I want to do karaoke, which I love to do, you will find me at. Well, I keep wanting to go to Santa Claus pub because that's apparently the best karaoke and I haven't been yet. So I'm just going to say that place because I really want to go. So you got to do it justice because people have told me about it. Tell people about it because it sounds like the coolest place ever. It's like a trailer, like owned by a guy that looks like Santa Claus. and there's like Christmas lights, and it's just like a little piece of crap hole in the wall

that's just the most fun anyone's ever had. And there's like two, I think there's only like two or three options for drinks. Yeah. And they're super cheap. Yep. And you just like rage. But someone was telling us a story like Eric Church or there's some like big performer.

Just like hanging out, raging, buying $2 beers. Yeah. All right. Next one. When I want a solid cocktail, I'd like to go to. Addaboy. At a boy. For sure.

Okay. My favorite place to stop for a coffee is. other than Starbucks I'm going to say it's so wrong I'm like Starbucks Is there a good cafe Smoking a pancake I'm gonna I feel like that frothy monkey

Which I said Is the last place I went to But I feel like there's one more I'm missing Because now like You talk about mixologists Like mixologists of coffee is a thing now Like gourmet coffee places is such a thing Oh you know what

What is that place called um barista parlor okay that's where barista parlor yeah amazing okay next one when i have a guest from out of town my number one place i have to bring them is oh that's such a good question gosh there's so many places i love to take people number one place i like to take people well probably broadway yeah i mean it's just the all the live music and the honky tonks and everybody's just like having the best time like I feel like people are really in the moment on Broadway. It's like a very lively place where it's just like bright lights and live music and

everyone's like kind of nobody's dressed up. Everybody's kind of dressed down and everyone's just really in the moment I find. I think right now on a Saturday night there is not a street in the entire world that's more electric than Broadway and it's good electric because it's like when I was down there everyone to your point, smiling, laughing. I didn't see any fights, any arguments, you know, lot of the stuff that goes with drinking in downtown areas, it is unbelievable down there. Yeah.

Not to mention, like, you see live music around and you're like, okay, these guys suck. Yeah. But this live music down there, these people are incredible. It's the best of the best. I don't understand how they're all not just like super rich and famous. And no, Jed could not get a gig down there. Oh, I said Jen. I was like, oh, I already forgot about Jed.

What do you think? What? You think Jed could get a gig down there? No, not anymore. Not anymore, maybe before. No. My favorite place to go for a long weekend Within driving distance from Nashville is

Chattanooga is beautiful and Gallatin. Galaton is where Dollywood is. Galaton, I would say. It's very quaint. It's got lots of cabins. It's beautiful. There's waterfalls. I love it.

Amazing. Okay. My number one date-night with Hassan is. Huh? I just said Jason, but I was just thinking Spanish. That's what my Spanish name is. Oh, isn't it Yason?

Hason. I was the whole Hasson. Oh. What's mine? I don't know. Okay. Date night spot? Yes.

Will we really like Varago? And because we like sushi. What's another place that we love? Barcel. Oh, yeah. Barclow, yeah. Okay. All right.

Keep going. My go-to place to grab wine and hopefully one day spade and sparrows is. Barcelona. Oh, Barcelona. The other place. Date night place, the place, the place we'd. just went with the best um the tie place oh um sunda sunda yeah oh game changer it's it's it's we don't really like the vibe in there but the food is the best food i've ever had my best ever okay

favorite dog friendly place to take my noodle is oh just the dog park Nashville's kind of dog friendly it's getting better but i just i like i don't know i just like to take them to the dog park in franklin that one with the little hole in the wall water Yeah, that one's cool. Okay, last but not least, one touristy location in Nashville that is actually worth the visit is. Hmm.

Probably Broadway. I don't know. Maybe Arrington Vineyards, maybe East Nashville's really cool. East Nashville's got a lot of really cute restaurants and cute shops and it's kind of like hipster vibes. A little bit outside Nashville there is the core vet museum which i've never been to but passing it it looked kind of boring i don't know about

that franklin franklin's a really cute place to visit too okay that is all we have is that it from nashville i'm fully ready to go i'm trying to think if i like no look it you missed one oh okay there was one on the second page here we go my go-to spot when i want to hear live music is i really enjoy this blues bar just off broadway i think it's called what's that blues singer king very popular it's bbby kings that's what it is bb kings um it's i honestly have never once left there and been like that was the best music i've ever heard it i like blues though and your dad loves that place too that's what my dad that's where i took dad and that's how i discovered it it's such talented people there.

All right. There it is. Okay. So there is Nashville rapid fire questions. You want to fire them off real super quick. What's your favorite thing about living in Nashville? Go. The people.

If you could change one thing about Nashville, what would it be? The people. Just kidding. The humidity. Wait, wait. The traffic. What is one thing that most people don't realize about Nashville? That it actually snows there and gets cold.

What is your favorite street or hood in Nashville? Probably 12 south or east Nashville. What do you see? think the biggest misconception about Nashville is um i don't know is there a misconception what's your second favorite city in tennessee uh galaton what has surprised you what has surprised jason most about nashville since he moved there that's for you humidity the weather and actually it's crazy it rains more in nashville than it doesn't see at all it's constant storm so bizarre what's your favorite time of the year in nashville last but not least

honestly the fall all right the fall is stunning there and that is your Nashville 101 lesson with professor Caitlin Bristow you're welcome I feel like I've already said that on Instagram and stuff but anyways let's just touch on this I don't really know how to approach the situation

but I feel like I need to chime in just because everybody's been talking about it if people don't know what we're talking about I guess Blake okay let's start from the beginning Blake and Kaelin are on Bachelor in Paradise. So they had a little something before the show. And I think Blake had a little something with a few girls before the show.

Blake is a friend of ours. And I told him, I said, if I ever talk about this, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. You were an idiot. You were, but the most lovable idiot because he is the best, sweetest heart. But he, you know, got a little in over his head with some girls. It must be really difficult to be color. I'm off the show, have all this attention, not to mention, I don't think people really realize that he was in a real heartbreak after Becca.

Oh, he was in a serious heartbreak. Yeah. Yeah. So, of course, Blake and I are on the same season. Him and I are very close friends right after the show and have remained close friends. And when I tell you, there are times post show would be hanging out. I'd catch him in the days. And I'd be, hey, what's going on what's on your mind?

And he was still distraught about the Becca situation. I mean, he was heartbroken. Right. And I truly believe that this, a lot of his behavior in the last year was aligned with his heartbreak. Of course. Who does it go through heartbreak and rock bottom and then just want to distract yourself? Just distract yourself and cover your pain. Right.

With other things. Is that what you did? Is that what I did? Yeah. After Becca broke your heart, did you just go on a rampage? I think my relationship with Becca was great, but it certainly wasn't at the level. It wasn't Blake. Um, so yeah, I just, I'm not trying to make excuses for him, but we're just trying to, like, kind of understand the behavior, right?

Yeah. Um, and then, and then with Kalen, I don't know her as well as I know Blake. So I don't know and I never want to, um, dismiss her feelings or, or discredit anything that she went through before. And she surely isn't going to move forward and not ever hook up with guys. You know, she's, she's moved on. But my problem with it was that she came in. in and I think her and Blake had said something like let's just be cool on paradise and like see what happens and she came in and she was just like in attack mode on him and you could kind of see in his face he was just shell shock like you could see when she was saying all these things to him he was kind of like what is that what are you doing like I thought we were going to be chill about

this well and a lot of the stuff is that I think she was saying those things in the ITMs right so a lot of these things weren't said until right and then i have something i was thinking about is what is you know obviously there's a bit of a love triangle here going so what are the other girls thinking when she's saying some of those things because who know who knows what they knew right he just he just dabbled in too many areas of the bachelor world but the thing is i just don't like that kaelin wasn't speaking a full truth and who knows what was edited out so we don't even know but i it just seemed to me that she was trying to make herself a victim and Blake the bad guy when she wasn't owning up to her truth of that she just wanted you know like Blake clearly released the text messages and it said that

like she was very clear that she just wanted sex and it was almost the other way around where he was like I don't know I don't know but what do you think about Blake releasing those texts that's the question that everyone's kind of up in the air about and here's here's what my thought on it is that We go into this world of reality TV, and we are asked to open up almost everything in our lives, right? Our emotions, our past, our family gets involved, our heartbreak, and on a day-to-day basis on Instagram, it's almost like, and I think we're happy to do it, but it's like Truben Show, like we open up, Caitlin and I get in fights, we talk about it, it gets ugly. So I do think you first have to, I mean, like, when things are good, we talk about and things are bad. talking about it. So I do think that it's you have to first recognize that we live in a world that we kind of do share a lot. Okay. Now the thing about the text is that Kaelin had already

admitted that they had sex, right? And so did Blake. So it was definitely consensual sex and the world knew they had sex. Right. So Blake sharing those text messages, I don't think that he's putting something out there as far as like, like he's not, it's not like she said they never had sex. And he's like we had sex right so let's let's move that away so i think one we live in a world we're very open two it was very i was obviously consensual sex and wanted to get out there the last thing i'll say is i go back and forth with this but i talked to blake and blake was a mess and he's crying he can't he couldn't breathe and he's a 30-year-old man in his mother's arms considering like calling everyone and considering like going to see a doctor and therapist because of

how broken he is because hundreds of thousands of people online are coming at him for some stuff he deserved right and then some stuff that wasn't true and that stuff's heavy and that stuff's heavy so the stuff that you deserve you deal with it yeah but i could ask everyone out there if you have hundreds of thousands of people attacking you for something you didn't do that wasn't true. Why would you not stand up yourself? What do you do? Do you sit in the corner and let these hundreds of thousands of people continue to beat you up? Or do you say, hey guys, like here's just a small snippet of the truth. Please, like I screwed up. I didn't do anything right here, but this part's not true. Those kinds of accusations given what Kalin has been through, it just felt a bit heavier than

than usual. And I think his perspective is, like, yes, I was a player. I was an idiot. I'm learning life lessons, but also I'm not this part. This is a different. He's not a monster. He's not a monster. That's the perfect world.

So he's like, you know, it's fine. I get a far, you know, a fuck boy player. But like this, I'm not. And I feel like I can't live with myself otherwise. Which I totally understand. Do you think, what are your thoughts about it? From like a woman's perspective and just, I don't. I don't know. I mean, I think he even let Kaelin know that he was releasing the text messages just to give her a heads up. And then he felt so bad because people went and attacked her, which is the last thing he wanted. He was just in such a shitstorm of emotions that he, you know, he probably wasn't thinking about how people would go after Kailen. Of course, which is disgusting. Leave Kailen alone. Right. Just like every, it's just. Leave them both. I don't know. It's hard because nobody's ever going to leave them alone. But it's like then he felt so heartbroken and sad and was upset because people.

were coming after her and that's not what he wanted he just wanted you know i i would have probably done what blake did in that situation i know a lot of people in bachelor world were like why would he do that and nick came out with a text that said or a tweet that said like i had the opportunity to show text messages but i didn't to have respect for the other person whatever and and dean was saying something but it's like yeah but this was next level we all know what caylin had been through in her life which is absolutely traumatic and devastating and can change and ruin a person's life and we all had this empathy and compassion for her and would never wish that upon anybody and we just had this like soft spot and sensitive feelings towards

what Kalin had been through. So then those accusations that what she was saying towards Blake when really, you know, that wasn't the truth. To me, I'm like, yeah, well, you didn't go through that. So of course he's going to release those text messages because he's being accused. of some pretty deep things from what she's went through. And I think, you know, Monday quarterback, what I would say they could have done differently is if they could have just talked before or after that episode, and they said, like, let's figure out a plan to like come out clean together. Like, like, Kalyn and maybe admit so that you don't have to release the text messages.

I'm like, maybe they could have figured out some way. But I do ask everyone out there, I always like to look at things like this and say, If you don't do this, what do you do? And I think the only two, there's three options. You do nothing and let everyone think it's true. You stand by your ground with your words, but then is there validity and credibility behind it just saying what the truth is?

Or do you show it? And when you have, those are the three options. And I think everyone kind of has to look at themselves and say, what would I do in that scenario? Right. Yeah. I just feel bad for everybody involved because it's just messy.

It's so messy. And I hope that things, I mean, that that's, the saddest part to me is that this is every season. Someone is getting absolutely torched. Torched every season. And it really affects people's lives. Oh, like you can't believe. And it's, I, I just don't know how it's like, you know, it's not just like one season of year. It's Bachelor, then it's Bachelor, then it's Bachelor in Paradise.

And it's just every few months, somebody, I'm just like, I don't know what to do to help them because it's such a manipulated situation. and some of it's true and some of it's not and people end up getting really hurt in their lives like not even being able to get out of bed and and people who are happy go lucky people all of a sudden getting depression and it's just so sad to me yet it's like there's so much positive that comes out of it too so it's i don't know and the thing is it's like we're talking about actions here and discussions but if we look at a higher level i don't really know kailen too well but i know she's best friends with Cassie and she's like everyone that meets her speaks highly of her right and I can talk I could speak to Blake like Blake like at at the core of Blake he is such a great guy yeah he would run into a bus for

his friends and family he means well he really does but there's obviously mistakes every single person in the world makes and unfortunately his were made on a national right national stage yeah and he I think he's the first one to say like I screwed up but I think I go back to the point that regardless of the text Regardless of what was said, like these are two people that injure, and you've met Kaylin, so you know more, but they are at the core. Good people. Good people. Yeah, they want to, like, impact their communities and do good things in life,

and they have good friends, and they're good and loyal. Yeah. It's just, you get caught up. You get caught up in this world, and it's, I don't know, it just gets so confusing, and I never know how to deal with it. But I'm trying to just, I like to have a platform and the podcast to speak about it and have an opinion, but I just want everyone to know that I'm not taking any sides. I just think it's, it was just something to be talked about.

Tough situation. I wish, like, if looking at a solution, I wish you could get all of them in the same room and just talk through the differences and, like, come out with a way to, like, somehow feel okay about it. Yeah. And, like, maybe move on together on the same page with a statement altogether. Right. Right.

Yeah, I'm just, I'm curious to see how the rest of Paradise plays out now from. this situation but I just want everybody if I get like anxiety I'm not like tight talking about this because it's just real it's real yeah and they're both like both these two have been so impacted by it yeah it's just hard we just want everybody that's listening and hopefully that's a lot of people to just have compassion for people on TV what they might be going through because there's still human beings on the other end who make mistakes just like we all do and and it's just so you never know the full story and you also may think that you know people like us aren't reachable or that we're not going to see it but I know there's a lot that we do see and it like it

does have an impact you know really does really does mentally um you know I agree to stir I agree I'm like depressed now I know I get really like I'm like I'm like crying right now I know because it's just like we've kind of been through stuff too and you just know how real emotions are How's that for a drunk dial? I just want everyone to get back happy and feel good again. We might need a drink after this drunk tile. We should be drunk right now. It's early.

Okay, well, that's all I got. Usually we call people, but I just wanted to touch on that and give a little. And a big weekend coming up. We got Ashley and Jared's wedding. We're going to be going to celebrate. There's going to be a ton of bachelor nation there. Yeah, so I'll have a really good drunk dial for you next week. Yeah, really good drunk tile.

We'll have everyone's opinion. Yeah, because there's going to be a lot of. Because everyone's going to be drunk and talking about it. I should just mic myself and make it a podcast. I know. Because you got, I think, tell me who I'm missing, but Dean's going to be there. Nick's going to be there. Carly's going to be there.

Amanda Stanton's going to be there. JJ from my season who we didn't get along very well. I don't know who JJ is, but it's like a high school reunion for Bachelor Nation. It really is. There's going to be a lot of the Bachelor world there and I'm a little nervous. But more importantly, and I don't mean this one about her. Like, this is all about Ashley and Jared. Absolutely.

And what a cool story they've had. And I guarantee you we're going to all have so much fun together. We're going to have a blast. And they've had, that's a story that tells you that if you're consistent and persistent, you'll find your way to love and good for them. Can't wait to watch my ex-boyfriend and my friend gave married. Because Jared was up. What a weird world.

God, I hope everybody has a great weekend. And if you have any weddings that you're going to this weekend, maybe you can write in about those and we can do a drunk doll all about weddings. because there's probably a lot of can you nuts to be had there. A lot of Keny Knotts in the wedding game. All right. Love you guys.