Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Drunk Dial: Kaitlyn & Jason Give Relationship Advice

Episode Date: September 7, 2019

On Todays Drunk Dial, Kaitlyn and Jason are back from vacation. They talk about life off the grid and what it's like to vacation with your significant others family. Plus it's game time! The happy couple plays a game of "Who's most likely to", Kaitlyn talks about her upcoming music video feature and they're answering your relationship questions. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Hello, Vino's. It's me, Caitlin Bristow. And Jason Tartick here. Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee. Nashville, Tennessee on Friday. No. Oh, yeah, I was like, no, no. Drunkdale comes out Friday.

Yes, it is Friday. This drunk doll is coming at you for the weekend because we were off the freaking grid this week. Man, it was good to be off the grid. But here's what I will say. It was, but at the same time, it was so stressful because I didn't realize how off the grid we were going to be. Like, I thought we would have Wi-Fi at the hotel. And it's like, it's like anybody out there that takes vacations, it's like the vacation is so resting and peaceful.

And then when you get back, it's like you just paid hell for that seven days you took off. Right. You have to play catch-up for an entire week of full day of work. Yeah. Full days of work. And we also just finished sweating our tits and dick off outside. Off the vine headcour just almost got showered with the spain sparrows in my mouth. Are you really still surprised about stuff that comes out of my mouth?

Every day, you say something where my jaw drops. And today, we hadn't had that moment until right now. So I'm glad we did. Oh, gosh. Well, we did. I was literally sweating my tits off. We were weeding and doing adult things. And I just felt like, I was like, look at us.

Just pulling out weeds. Yard looks great. The yard looks great. Anyways, that's boring. So we're off the grid. And we were in Jackson Hole, Wyoming and Yellowstone. which we highly suggest everybody should put it on their bucket list. Just absolutely serene, beautiful, unbelievable.

I've never really seen anything like Yellowstone. Jackson Hole reminded me a lot of like little ski towns or ski villages like Whistler and like Vale, but just in a more western way. More western way, right. Still really cute. I loved it. I was obsessed with it. Downtown fort.

If anybody's been to downtown Fort Worth, if you take that and put it a little bit out there on a ski resort, that's what it was. Yeah. Big Western vibe. Right. And mountains. It was really pretty. But Yellowstone was my absolute favorite because it's just, I've never seen anything like it.

And it's great. Like if Yellowstone, which pretty much is a big volcano, right? I mean, if that blows, it's crazy that almost like half of North America will be wiped out. And to just see the size and scope of this national park coupled with the elk and the buffalo and Caitlin's favorite, the ravens. Oh, my God. We were out there. Those ravens are fucking ruthless. You had a day with those

Like they are They're not afraid of us And I'm definitely afraid of them They say they're the smartest bird And that they sense fear And the one tour guide Was telling us that There is a guy in Jackson Hole

That trained the Ravens To go to cities And bring them back change So they would carry change Come back to him He was dead serious And then he fed them in food And I've read that Ravens

Are the smartest bird out there Anybody that watch Game of Thrones knows because three-eyed ravens are all crazy. Birds are all idiots. So there has to be one that's smarter than the rest. Like a pigeon is dumb as shit. How do you know that? Have you met a pigeon? There's that whole thing on Bachelor in Paradise.

It was like pigeon versus, what was the other thing? I don't remember. This season? Yeah. I don't remember. Yeah. Anyways, we were off the grid. That was great.

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Okay, cool. All right, so I want to go back to Jackson Hole real quick because I think it's a topic that a lot of people can relate to going on a week trip with your significant others family like were you nervous about it was i yeah like what did you expect i meet your expectations i well because i've spent a little time with your family before i think i knew what to expect they're all so fun and the thing i will say is you won't get this because it's a friends reference but i felt like joey off friends when he buys, he gets like suckered into like a door to door guy who's selling books to make you sound smarter, like encyclopedias and stuff and all these books. And he, because he says he can never

fit in into the conversation with him as friends, because they'll talk like politics or certain things. And then he just like sits there and smiles and nods. And that was me because your family is so fun. Your dad will come up and be like, let's get after it tonight. And then, but he's so intelligent. And you guys have the deepest conversations and everybody has an opinion. And everybody speaks like you guys speak so eloquently and and like in depth and everybody has such strong opinions but you all hear each other out and I'm like yeah another glass of wine please well I think no but my brother made a really good point said like everyone in our family kind of has an additive like we all have this like weird unique value and when we come together it makes like really

fun dialogue conversation right and you have my dad who's always been in in corporate America and a sales manager my mom's always been an accountant my brother's got a super creative mind. I have more of a finance background. Billy is an attorney. And Caitlin has a high school education. No, no, no. Caitlin is super creative. Out of this world imaginative. I have emotional intelligence. And it's like Captain Planet. And to hear everyone's opinion and angles on things were great. But anyway, it's good to know that you weren't nervous going into that. I was not. One thing I've learned from you for anyone out there that does get nervous in those situations or any situation, I find that when you're open and honest, it completely just eliminates the nerves.

I think people get nervous because they want to achieve the expectations of everyone else, accept the expectations of like what they are. And one thing I've learned from you is you cut to the core of just who you are. So there's no reason to be nervous. And you kind of, you're self-deprecating at times, you're honest as times. And you're just like, listen, this is me. You're going to get all of this. So there's nothing to be nervous about.

You can like it. You can hate it. And I partake in some of the conversations, but I know when to also step back and just listen. And I also really enjoy listening to your family's conversations because I learn so much. I'm like, I really take away a lot from your family's conversations. And then they'll like rip shots and everybody's hugging and telling each other they love each other. Like it's, you really do have a really incredible family. It was fun.

Like they are just all. The funny, one of my funniest moments was there is we're sitting there. And everybody in Yellowstone for whatever reason was, I would say the average age was about 65 in Yellowstone this week. That's just a clear observation. But then there was three girls. And you could tell they were definitely fans of the show. And they came to sit right behind our table. And you could see Caitlin like kind of perk up and it was like, oh, boy, we better like watch what you're saying.

How many girls, Blake bangs. Just kidding. Just kidding. I'm just joking. But all we're talking about in that segment was like prime interest, Ray, what's going on the next? Yeah, they, like, stood up five minutes later. All these, like, deep political conversations. The three girls get up after 10 minutes, leave.

Caitlin's like, whew, why? They clearly didn't partake in that. Well, I always get scared that people are going to hear one sentence that, like, they shouldn't hear. But, you know what I thought about getting up and joining their table. They were having cocktails. You guys were talking politics. This is great.

But back to the Friends reference. They're talking about, like, a Nobel Prize. And it's so funny because everyone's, like, agreeing. Yeah, he should. And then Joey's just sitting there smiling and nodding. And then everyone else is like, no. And then he's like, oh, no, like, but he doesn't know. But that was part of on the Bachelorette reunion.

They were asking questions like, who out of all the Bachelors would win a Nobel Prize? And I was like, what's a Nobel Prize? That's so funny. But I think that is a good topic for a drunk dial is just relationships in general. Because, first of all, my Vino's always have some really deep, hard-hitting questions. And so I thought this would be a good little segment to just talk about relationships. Sure. Relations.

Sexual relations. I have relations. Sexual relations. So, first of all, I thought we could talk about what we learned traveling together. We might have already touched us on this before, but I learned that we all know you can tell a lot about a person by how they travel. You are very, like, nothing really fazes you, which is nice. Things can phase you in other ways, but not traveling. You just, you're fun.

You're like, should we grab a drink? Let's play a car. You just are really easy to travel with and you don't stress and it rubs off on me. That's good. Yeah. I think about our relationship, like I kind of, when things are really, really good and going well, I still kind of say it's centered. And when things are like a complete shit show, I kind of still say it's centered.

And what's good about our relationship is you do the highs and lows. So I just stay in that boring, like that heart monitor. And you're five. I'm either a nine or one. You're like, you're 10 or one. That's for sure. But, you know, it's what makes traveling fun. I'm not stressful to travel with.

I mean, like, when your flights run a little late and we're just about, we're crunching time a little bit, full sprint. I mean, this is unbelievable. I disagree with that. I think I'm like, oh, I'm always going to make it. It's not a bit, like, sometimes I'll get a little stressed out, but I always know I'm going to make it. Okay. Agreed to disagree. Okay.

What other travel takeaways? Anything else? Well, you tell me what you get from me. You can learn a lot about a person from traveling. What am I like to travel with? The biggest thing that I have to say is in interviews, in any company, they should do an interview and make you go through security because there is just like a can you not. You're sitting in line, right?

Have them check your boarding pass. Then you go to security. And then you decide to take everything out of your pocket, everything out of your yours to your left. I mean, people that it takes them a half hour to put the stuff in the bin, it drives me crazy. And one thing I love about you is your efficiency when you hit that security line. You are all business, elbows up, things are going, and it's smooth. That's true. That's true.

I am very efficient when I go through security, and I got a lot of shit to work with. Yeah. The other thing about airports, it's funny that it doesn't matter what time of the day it is. You're always drinking. Always drink it. So acceptable. And you're my partner in crime because you're always down to have drink. Ew.

Spoken like a true alcoholic. What is it? Wait, what's your love language again? You're, you're, are you words of affirmation or you physical touch? I honestly, name the five again. Okay, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time. I'm quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation in order. Wow, I was way off.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, your words of affirmation. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Wait, did you say your acts of service? Axis service. First? No quality time is first. I love that.

I love that. And then because to me, there's nothing like I always say, and I think you'll learn this in corporate America is everyone talks a talk, but. no one walks a walk in my opinion actions speak louder than words and when you do just the smallest things that just let me know that you like you're caring of me or thinking of me while thinking you to me that just means the most well that's not quality time I know I said that's access oh that's access service quality times implied right I think I always like today when I was out for lunch with my girlfriend I always bring you something home to eat or ask you at Starbucks I got you

your grande Americano with one inch of steam steamed almond mill well we're pretty just we're really good to each other. We just do it all. We're like, we guys shut the fuck. No, they don't. They love it.

Everybody thought we were engaged on Instagram today. I got excited because I was like, dot, dot, dot, like, here comes an exciting music video. It's a people thing. And as soon as I post, I'm like, oh, everyone's going to think

we're engaged. And then the comments start flowing in. I'm like, oh, that's kind of fun, but I don't want to tease people too much. So I just added a few music notes. I forgot to talk to you about that. What? Okay, you started, you put that out

with that picture, which was beautiful. And it clearly shows how, like, in love and intimate we are and I got seven messages getting ridiculed but my boys back home like you have something to tell me what's going on tell them to find this out through instagram I know you need to be it too loud that's what you should have said no but really I was good people were like you didn't tell me this is how I'm going to find out I promised all my best boys out there that is not how you'll find I will never yeah I will call all of my girlfriend's family everyone first anyways when are we getting engaged just kidding just kidding okay

let's play who's most likely to just relationship wise okay okay I know what you're going to say who's most likely to leave a mess you you no me yeah that is the most outrageous thing I've ever heard my life okay I was literally ready to go off I'm not a slob I'm not messy I love things clean but I will leave a mess once in a while but you don't want to clean them no you're you're like I'm just all over the place I have time to clean sometimes if one is a slob that's That's an excuse. Yeah. One is a slob.

Ten is like super clean. I would give you about six. No. No, I'm like a hard seven. I am. I love clean. We all love, who doesn't love clean? Well, some people, I don't like to live in a mess.

It's just that I will leave a mess when I'm in a rush. Your mom, your mother is a 10. She's a 10. Her and Robert both a 10. My brother, 10, my dad, 10. My mom, six. I don't know about six Anyways

Who out of the two of us Is most likely to need more alone time You Yeah Definitely I'm like I always want I'm a bit I always want to be around people Well and your quality time guy I like don't like to be alone

I love being alone The older I get the more I like to be alone It's not sad depending on how you use your time alone Exactly usually if I'm alone It's very productive Like I'm just doing work or working out And I am not I use my alone time as

rest and relax? To reflect, rest, relax, and just be. And I think to each their own, right? Yeah. Yeah. Who is most likely to forget an anniversary? You. Really?

I sound like a terrible girlfriend. No, no, no, just because you're not a plan guy. I need, I'm messy. I need a lone time away from you. I forget anniversaries. Wait, do you disagree? No. I agree.

I agree. But that's funny because anniversaries are very important to. me and certain things are very important to me like that, like certain dates, but I never know what date is. That's my problem. It's not that I would forget because it doesn't mean anything to me. You're right. You're right. Because if it like, if you did, if you did know it's anniversary, you're the person that would like plan so many special things. Yeah. Exciting. Memorable. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I love how we find loopholes for all these. Uh, who is most likely to send a dirty text. Oh, I was going to say 1,000% me, but then I thought.

about it. Tie? Tie? I sent you a dirty text today. I said, a white horse jumps into the mud. Okay. Get it? Because that's dirty.

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You. Jesus. This is rigged. No. Because some of these aren't good. It's not good that I would forget an anniversary. It's not good that I would leave a mess. Okay. Who's most likely to, wait, this is also me. Who is most likely to throw a fit during

Monopoly? You. Yeah. Who's most likely to burn dinner? I only did it once. But I'm more likely because I'm the one who cooks. I would say I'm more likely. Yes. I'm definitely like in the relationship. I'm super clumsy. Like if I try at something, if I have to walk down a tightrope and there's a hundred feet below me, I will walk down that tightrope. Oh, easy. Perfect. Big tightrope walking guy now? Hang on. But if I literally am not paying attention, I just have to take like one step outside the door, I will fall over, spill my coffee on my head, burn my scalp from the heat of it. You trip over your own feet. I'm a straight disaster. You really are.

When I really focus, I'm good. But when I'm not, it's like a tornado. Tasmanian devil. Bull and a china shop. Bull and a china shop. Who is most likely? There are places in my home, sorry to interrupt that my mom won't even let me sit. She's like, nope, Jason, you're the only one in the family that's not allowed in that room. I can't believe I let you sit on our white couch. with a glass of red wine. Who's most likely to eat an entire bag of chips during one sitting? You? Well, really?

Yeah. Okay. You think so? You think me? Yeah, you always crush chips and salsa. Maybe it's a tie for that one, too. If it's Cheez-I'd crush a whole box of Cheez-It's. Ugh, Cheez-I taste like cardboard.

I can't believe. They taste like cardboard. Put it out there, the fact you think goldfish are better than Cheez-It's is one of the most outrageous things I've ever heard. The nice air. Crunch in the goldfish. There's no flavor though. It's the perfect amount of flavors. Cheese ets are like cardboard mix of cheese. No, it's just a stream burst. I love it. Sour Patch or Swedish fish? Sour Patch. Yeah. No, brand. Gummy bears or gummy cherry gummy bears. What? What the hell are

cherry gummy bears? I'm going to give you A or B and then we'll go back to your game. You can either have Sour Patch watermelon and Sour Patch cherries or... Oh, like the flavor. Sour Gummy Worms and Gummy Bears. What? I am so lost. In a tag team. Sour in a tag team match. Because tomorrow we're going to the U.S. Open and there's going to be the women's doubles. Okay.

Championship. Okay. In a doubles championship, you have sour gummy worms. Yeah. And gummy bears on the same team. Mm-hmm. Verse, we'll do a sour watermelon and sour cherry candies. Who wins the matchup?

Oh, definitely a sour cherry. You think cherry and watermelon be gummy bear versus gummy worm? I would take gummy bear or gummy worm. Cool. Wow. How many minutes is that? We'll never get that back. Who's most likely to walk around the house naked?

You. What? Yeah. Oh, yeah, I do do that. Do you do. Who's most likely to hog the covers? You. Yep, I think me.

Because. Yep, definitely me. I feel like you. you're just always I like to like you ever take the covers and just like kind of mummy yourself

I like you like turn and roll and mummy take it right off me yeah I'm sorry okay just wake me up I give it back maybe I point something

out yeah would you like me to give you a little boyfriend tip right now yeah I should pour you some wine too yeah

you poured your wine glass I was so I was so curious of what you're gonna say if you like I ask you first if you wanted the advice because you could have said

no and I wouldn't have told you good strategy all right so we were very direct with relationships advice but hopefully in there you got some but i like these questions can we talk about sure the music video yes please i think we should i mean it's super sexy it's it's kind of a cool story and it comes that we have to drop it tomorrow okay so i think like let's just why don't you kind of tee it up tell people because

people were asking how did you even end up in a music video okay what's going on in the music video just tell the story and so brett kissel is an amazing country singer he has been just absolutely working his dick off. He's been working his ass off since he was really young, performing. He's just an incredible artist. And he's from a small town very close to my small town in Alberta, Canada. And now he lives in Nashville with his adorable family. I'm obsessed with all of them. And so he, we kind of became friends because he golfed with my dad. And then I had him on my podcast. And then we just hung out. And so he was like, I really want an authentically in love couple to be in this video. Because I want, I want it to be like really believable and I want people to feel that through the music

video. Yeah. And so he asked us and we were like, hell yeah. And so we went to the Bahamas and we basically were told to make out for two days straight. And luckily we were. First soft core. Luckily we were in. We were having a good week.

I wasn't on my period. So we were. What is that? anything to do with anything? Because I get, like, I don't want to touch. I'm not, I don't feel sexy. I'm just like, ah, okay. So it was a good week to be all formed up on the music video. Carry on. Anyways, and so I didn't know like, I've never, oh yeah, I've been in one music video. Oh, please Google, the cruiseros load me up. Can't even imagine. Just do it. How old were you? Just do it. 19. And I was a cheerleader. And the men were about six.

60 years old. Can I tell a funny story real quick? Wow, we are really getting off topic, but yes, of course. So you bring up a music video and you get, I just think that people need to hear of this. So Caitlin's at family dinner. Okay, we're at family dinner. After a few drinks. Oh gosh, we're going to get towards like dessert. So, you know, we're pretty into it.

And Caitlin starts telling this story about how when she was younger, this producer kind of like manipulated her into coming up with choreography. And this is why I'm thinking of the story because she was talking about dancing. I've already told the story on my podcast. I don't know. I'm going to make a long story short. She comes up with a routine. She's paid for the routine. She presents the routine.

And then she's telling our family that she finds out that this is all for a porno in my family, who is relatively like, you know, I guess politically correct was like, what the fuck? So she's telling, yeah. And you can't say they said what the fuck have been politically correct. No, not politically. I mean, they're very open, but they're just like, wait, what? Like, this took a wild shirt. So you're talking about how you came up.

with a choreography you didn't know it was a porno but it was for a porno and the whole purpose of your story when you told it was that you were pissed you didn't get paid so yeah Caitlin's on the story and all of us are like well well forget about the $2,200 the guy owed you you came up with choreography for a porno but I didn't know it no but then you didn't know it and then you're like yeah and then you're like well it worked like it fit the script I want my money of course I'm not gonna I'm not going to choreograph porno dance moves and not get paid for it.

Did you, when you did the choreography, you did know it was a porn. No. What did you think it was? That was a question. I thought it was just for a movie role. Like I thought it was a girl.

What kind of movie? I didn't know because this guy had lied to me and he had been in the restaurant with some pretty legit actors. So I thought it was for like a big movie. I didn't ask questions. I don't know. I was like 20.

And what kind of moves were they? They choreographed. Sexy one. Like what do we? talking like a sexy jazz routine because i've seen you go like it's just like it like it was like on a poll i'm just kidding no it was just like a sexy jazz routine and i wasn't that i just i never in a million years thought i would be choreographing for a porno it was just so funny the way you're telling this way you're like here i am choreographing for a porno my moves were great and i'm just pissed i didn't

get paid we're all like whoa whoa back up all right so carry on about the first music video i I apologize for an interruption, but I had to bring that up. So what I'm saying is technically this is my second music video, but we're really excited about it. Brett is just incredibly talented. He's such a great human. We were honored to be a part of his music video, and you guys can watch it on YouTube, I believe, but we're going to put it up on Instagram too.

The song is called Drink About Me, and it's the catchest freaking song. It's so good. And, yeah, go check it out. Yeah, super intimate. Leave a comment and rate and review. The island was picturesque. and it was honestly it was like one of the most beautiful moments I think we've shared like it was just it was even though there's cameras I think we might be used to them but we kind of

blinded it out yeah I'm also getting a text right now for my Canadian buddy David that tomorrow at the U.S. Open when we're there serena Williams is playing Bianca so we have an American versus Canadian Bianca's Canadian for the women's championships go Canada some good battles here we're going to have to put some money on this loser take shots something like that I don't know listen to this question from a Amanda, one of the vinos. I'm really actually very curious to hear your thought on this, Jay. Amanda asks, how do you address your insecurities with your body to your significant other?

I lost a lot of weight and absolutely hate the way my boobs look now. I'm too uncomfortable to take my bra off when a guy tries to cop a feel. I pull away. It's caused issues in the past. And I feel like it turns guys away, especially because most men are all about the body image. What are your thoughts on that? First of all. most shitty men are all about the body image is my thought on that okay well so here here's what

here's my thought is that in the beginning parts of a relationship like your first date being realistic are you going to bring that up absolutely not no but if you're in a relationship and I've been in relationships where I have and where I haven't and now I'm in one where I haven't but you can't address some of your insecurities I think the deeper rooted issue is communication because you're so invested and worried about what they think, but you can't tell them what really matters more than anything. And I think this example was what her, what was it? What her boobs? Because she lost a bunch of weight, so she doesn't like the way her boobs look out. So in this example, it's what her boobs look like because of the way she lost weight. The core of that,

if you bring it down past that, it's communication. And think about the strength and bond that you can build within your relationship. If you were to talk to your significant other and say, listen, like for us for me and for my happiness I've lost this weight and it's making me a better person but as a result of that this has happened and I'm really insecure about it like and I'm not asking for you to do anything I just want you to know it's a touchy subject because there's so many things that go unknown now you don't say anything you try and cover it up you try and hide it and he makes one comment that even touches the surface of that insecurity and it could create a blow up that ends the relationship.

That's so true. So in my perspective, like what I have found with Caitlin is like even though it's tough, when I'm insecure about something, I try to get ahead of it to let you know of it. And what ends up happening is you actually value the fact that was proactive in that communication

more than anything, which is wild. What can happen when you're just open with your communication? And to me, being open in communication about that sort of thing takes a lot of confidence too. and I think confidence is such a sexy thing on another person. Like if she was like, oh, my gosh, I lost all this weight because I was like, you know,

I kicked ass and I worked hard. And then as a result, this happened and I'm super insecure about it. I'd be like, God, that's kind of hot that she just said that. Yeah, right. So the other thing, too, is I think in communication where people fail is execution and delivery, right? Because when you speak with your ego and you're condescending or you have an attitude or there's tone, you completely remove the entire value of what you're saying. So in my opinion, when we're talking to each other,

if I say something that's direct, negative, commanding, no matter what I'm saying, the value of that's gone. So I think in conversations like this, you have to be vulnerable, non-confrontational, and you have to lead kind of with your heart and not your ego. And I think the things that will solve that are just immeasurable. And I think also he probably has insecurities about his body too, that you know like everybody does and it's just a matter of talking about them sure in my opinion

is what everything you just said but we've talked about our insecurities like my insecurities i'm insecure about like i'm insecure about the fact i snore like i'm embarrassed by that which is so crazy to me told you about that yeah um so there's things you know that's one of them but there's other things too we talk about that we don't need to bring up now but you're so perfect that you have to have one thing wrong but stop it so you snore up just kidding but no i i I get it. I'm, I've been so insecure about, I mean, so many body issues, but I've worked on that for so long. But like, I'll tell you, like, what girl in the world likes to be spooned? So you're laying on your side. And why does the guy always go for your lower tummy? Always. You're spooning and he just wants to rub the one part that's just like the hardest place on your body to lose weight. Always. I mean, I can't relate to that. If you have a stupid flat stomach, no, body fat.

Moving on. But yeah, I think you nailed it with what you said. And what's funny is because I said, well, then that guy's a piece of shit. She said, also, why the hell do I keep attracting unavailable shitty men? Where are the Jason Tardix at, she said. Oh, that's cute. Honestly, forget about the Jason. Oh, that's all bullshit.

But what matters is I think you have to do the screening. There's red flags. Like, if you're looking for someone to date, you can easily identify. what makes a good person in a quick conversation, right? I mean, and if you're not looking for a person a date, that's some fucking fun. And the guy that wants to marry you is going to love your boobs.

There you go. Exactly. Lauren asks, what's your advice for working on open communication with your boyfriend or significant other? Lately, my boyfriend and I have been bickering about dumb shit and I've realized that our communication skills with each other aren't vibing right now.

I'm very open and want to talk about how things make me feel, but he is the total opposite. opposite and even says he's not good with words. So help a sister out. I'm going to help a sister out. Oh, no, it's sister. You know how you always call your friends, brother. I'm going to help a sister out, brother. So Caitlin's got the queen of the podcast. Something I have fun that's coming out soon is YouTube. It's going to be a program called restart. And whether you're in your pursuit of health, wealth, or happiness, we're going to try and address Q&A and also interview prominent people within their respected industries that have gone through restarts to try and get to where they are who have hit

rock bottom and climb back to the top in ways they never expected. So I'm glad this question was asked. And I think the only answer I would give to that is that people, when they're communicating, forget that they have two ears in one mouth. And when you only have two years in one mouth, all you do is talk over one another. And while the other person's talking, you're thinking about what you're saying when you should be listening to what they're saying. So I think communication starts with a lead of a different perspective. Bickering never gets anywhere. But I think you have to be the leader in the relationship.

And sometimes that leader position is going to change. But you have the leader position to sit down, change the tone, change the direction. And what I would recommend is ask questions. Because if you're bickering and bickering and jabbing and jabbing, you're never going to get to the root to it. But there are times, Caitlin, will get really upset about something or I'll get really upset at something. You do this with me too. And you'll say, right here, what is the real issue? And there have been times we've both sat back down and said, we take a deep breath because

we're just like on our high horse. And we're like, I don't know. I need time to think about that. And we're arguing because our ego is driving our emotion rather than our heads. So I think for clear communication, effective communication, if you're having trouble with it, start with real questions that you want the answer to and communicate those in a manner that you would want someone to communicate a question to you. That was so good.

Wow, I mean that. You should be a relationship counselor. That's what we're working. So health, wealth, and happiness. And on the health side, I don't have expertise, but I have a cardiologist. And he's a babe. Who's going to join me? He's a stud.

He's a cardiologist from New York City. And if I, you know, there's a chance he might be looking for some dates. Maybe we can get them. From yours to the matchmaker, yours, Julie, Caitlin Bristow. Can we do Blair Witch 2.0? It's not Blair Witch. It's the Blair at you do it every time. I think Blair Witch.

What's his name again? Paul. Paul. Dr. Sapia. Dr. Saps. Paul. Sappia, Instagram, Dr. Saps. Oh, wow. We're going there. Okay. Go look them up, ladies. Okay. Emily asks, would you rather have an engagement be a complete surprise or have gone have gone ring shopping with your boyfriend and talked about things more in depth before taking that step? My boyfriend insists that he wants to be, he wants it to be a surprise, but I'm like, dude, normal people talk about the stuff. Am I wrong? Take me ring shopping. I'd rather know it's coming than be shocked having never discussed it. Well, I would not want to be shocked if I didn't want, if I didn't know that I wanted to get married. If I knew and I know this is my person, I would want to be surprised. If I didn't know

when I was on the fence and we hadn't really talked about it, I would not want to be surprised. So I think there's, it's a little bit of both. You talk about it. You make sure you're both on the same page. He knows what you want. But then it's like you don't know when it's coming. Yeah. Totally. So I think you nailed that when you said same page. a relationship cannot move to the next chapter until you're on the same page and then once you get to that chapter then you move forward together and I think you can't still be a surprise yeah and you can't but you can't do that unless you know now I wouldn't do it unless I knew that you were committed to that I knew that your family was on board with it I knew that my family was on board with it and and damn I better know what kind of ring you want but I don't well I guess I learned from from experience that what I do and don't like but to me Me, I'm like, I don't really care what I get. I just know what I like. But I know that no matter what was put on my finger, I'd be like, oh, my God.

Like, I just wouldn't. I'm not like a snob. It's my under the rules that I know. When I think about the ring that you would want, I have two contingencies. And anything else goes. And tell me if I'm wrong. But it cannot be Neil Lane. No, I'm in mind if it was.

Okay. All right. That's good to know. That's whacked. Neil, call me next week. So it's coming. And two, it can't be a double halo. Right.

It can't be any halo. No halos. It can be if you wanted to be. Okay. What's your room? But also, what did I say last night to you when we were laying in bed? Do you remember? Oh, yeah.

That was really cute. So she's laying in bed and sometimes I think when we're too cute, it's annoying. No freaking way. I love love and I love when other people are cute and happy. Yeah. So we're sitting down and you put your hand over. And I was holding your, oh, this is like sad. Why?

Why did I say that? And why am I sharing this? What? But I remember like I was like, I think I was so zonked out. I was tired. And we were both lying there and we were holding hands in bed. And ramen was in between us. And I said, I was like when I, this was really fucked up.

What? I was holding your hand. I said when I die, I hope this is like if when I'm on my death bed, I hope this is how I go. Like ramen's in between us. I was holding your hand. I know. I was like, so morbid. I was like, yeah, it will happen like this because we're going to go out together

at age 100 and we're just going to get so drunk together. Let's go. And hold hands and die together. Yeah, so it was like, really. Yeah, that was a little dark. It was super morbid, but I was just thinking. But it was romantic too. It was romantic in the fact that I felt like I was just in like such a happy state and

comfortable. That you talked about death. I don't know. It's fucked up. It's cute and really fucked up. Anyways. It's talking about yiny. Anyway, then you took a whole freaking detour

And you said, well, honey, so just so, you know, like, when we engage, like, can you not tell my friends for me to get my nails done? Because my nails are never done. I bite my nails. And if you tell them to get my nails done, then I'll know that you're going to get engaged to me. So just don't tell them to do anything with my nails. Because quite frankly, I don't give a shit what the pictures look like when my ring on if my nails are chewed or not. Well, it's just not me. I'm like, I just, I mean, sometimes all rock nice nails, but 90.

percent of the time they're chewed up and right now they have dirt under them from gardening. Anywho. Okay. So I think we addressed that one. Now last one, we're going to talk to Sidney. We're going to call her and Sidney asks, how would you genuinely feel if a guy you have a thing with Snapchat's his ex every day? She lives across the world and she also wants to know some tips to show someone you really

like them without coming on too strong. I hope this is not the same person because you should back off that guy. Snapchatting is X every day. There's a lot. You know, we talked about red flags earlier? That's a few red flags. That's just one big red flag, actually. Okay, let's call Sidney.

I also really like her name because it's my niece's name. Okay. I hate when I call people and they don't pick up, but she probably thinks this is from a long time ago. Please leave your message for, Hey, Sydney, it's Caitlin and Jason, and we really wanted to talk to you and tell you that this guy that you're seeing who Snapchat's every day.

needs to go. You're better than that. You've got to set boundaries, and my whole thing is boundaries. You let him know. If that bothers you, you let him know it's negotiables and non-negotiables. And if that's something that you don't want him to do, and that doesn't, he can do other things, but if that's a non-negotiable for you, you set that boundary now and you walk away if he won't accept and keep fishing.

I don't know, whatever, accept it. Sid, yeah, I wish we could have talked to you more. I have some insight regarding that, but it's all good. I mean, my only advice to that would be like, one, just understand, again, so many issues happen at the core, but no one wants to dig deeper. Like, what's the real issue? Is it a recent X? Is it a past X? Are they just friends?

Why Snapchat? The only form of social media that's not trackable? I mean, just things that you got to think about. And like you do everything in life, like evaluate the situation, does it make sense or does it not make sense? After you have a conversation, can you fix it and can you not? And if you could fix it, great. But to me, just from the outside, hearing what I'm hearing now, it doesn't sound like it's appropriate behavior, given where you guys are at.

Especially if it's making her uncomfortable. Now, if it's a situation, like, is she trying to break the friend zone? Are they dating? Are they not dating? There's a lot of variables here we don't know. So what would be some tips to show someone you really like them without coming on too strong? That was her other question.

Yeah. So, I mean, what do you have to lose? Like, in my opinion, there is A and Z. But that middle area, that gray area is the worst area to be in. When you don't have answers to your questions, why stay in that area? Because you can't make a decision. Game theory, people that were colonels like generals back in the day, every decision was made by game theory. So whatever you did, you knew the outcome to and then could then make your decision with a clean head.

But if you don't know answers, you can't make a decision. You're sweating. So my, I'm getting excited. I love it. So my recommendation would be understand which route this relationship could go. And once you understand that, there's going to be a clear path to take and crystal clear questions to ask. Gosh. Hope you enjoyed that.

Sidney, we love you. We love you. Oh, man. Okay. Well, I think we're out of time, but that was, I feel like I learned a lot. It's serious today. It's deep. Yeah, but that's good.

Drunk tiles can be funny. Drunk dials can be deep. Drunk dials can be drunk. That's the thing about you and I, like, you're super funny. I'm not funny, but like I can tell, I'm like more of like serious, you know? You're, you're just really well spoken and very insightful and, and you're very level-headed. So it's, it's nice. It's good balance.

It's a great balance. And then I'm just here to talk about tits and dicks, sweat. And that's when I shake my head. And that's the yin-and-yin relationship. Hey, you said yin-yang. Yin and yang. All right, everybody. I hope you guys have such a great weekend full of spade and sparrows.

And please, for the love of God, please go to the. link at my bio on my Instagram page and vote for me for the People's Choice Awards favorite podcast. I'm in a very tough category filled with amazing people and I just feel like Vinoes have the power to make me win. And if I don't, I will know that shit is rigged. I'm just kidding. No, and I want to just lastly, before we go, I want to thank all the Vinos out there that support this amazing human. Caitlin Bristow, she is so special. She empowers people daily and she sticks to her core while other people I think chase what might be entertaining and attach on to things that are relevant Caitlin always sticks to her mission and she's motivated

by helping and empowering others and it's a tribute for you to be among these unbelievable podcasts the best in the entire world and whether you win or whether you lose you won because of a who you are and be the community we've built the community you've built So all the support is awesome, no matter what happens. God, I love you. You're the best. You're here. Oh, that was so nice.

Okay, I think this is a good time to get down on one knee and ask you. I'm just kidding. Bye, guys.