Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Girls Gotta Eat: Deep Dark Secrets & Being Happily Single with Rayna & Ashley

Episode Date: March 15, 2022

Pour a glass of wine & grab a snack because... Girls Gotta Eat! Rayna and Ashley reunite with Kaitlyn for a LONG overdue catchup about all things sex, dating, and relationships. Nothing is off limits with these comedians and podcasters, and on this episode they’re sharing what goes down behind the scenes on their tour, a deep dark secret that’s affected their friendship to this day, and why one former guest made them buy into the saying, “never meet your heroes.” The three are also diving into the most important relationship of all – your relationship with yourself – and why meeting a partner should always be the cherry on top of an already incredible life. From ballsack tattoos to Bachelor Nation hookups to funeral confessions, this episode will have you LOLing from start to finish. Oh, and make sure to listen to Kaitlyn on Rayna and Ashley’s pod, Girls Gotta Eat! GOMACRO - Go to gomacro.com and use promo code VINE for 30% off plus free shipping on all orders over $50! JENNI KAYNE - Go to jennikayne.com and get 15% off your first order when you use code VINE at checkout. VIZZY - To find out where you can purchase Vizzy go to vizzyhardseltzer.com/VINE. OSEA: Get 10% off your first order with promo code VINE at OSEAmalibu.com.  PROGRESSIVE - Get a quote today at Progressive.com.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Hey, everybody, you're listening to Caitlin Bristow's podcast, Off the Vine. Take it away, Bree. Lots of wine. Welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow. Today you will L.O.L. Through the whole podcast because I have Ashley and Raina, two comedians and podcasters based in NYC who talk about everything, sex, dating, relationships. They have their super popular podcast. Because I have Ashley and Raina, two comedians and podcasters based in NYC who talk about everything, sex, dating, relationships. They have their super popular podcast. girls got to eat i just love talking to them i always have so much fun their sense of humor is like shock value and that's my kind of sense of humor and i love it we talk about if they've slept with anyone from bachelor nation a lot of manginas somehow ducks get they get brought up a lot mushy little slugs in your mouth uh you're gonna want to stay tuned in to find out what that means and you know

how to be okay on your own so i'm gonna be on their podcast to such a hilarious conversation sit back and laugh Here we go Hi How are you How are you? Good are you How are you?

Oh, I am such a hot mess But that is I was talking to my podcast producers before this They're like, but that's so you And I was like, oh shit Is it? It's so funny That is so funny you're like a hot master like of course yeah and then it made sense because I said to them

I guess I am oh like every time I come on they're like probably scared to ask how are you because I'm like oh get a load of this one I'm what city are you in right now I don't know I feel like that all the time like actually I don't know what day is we're like what days yeah we're going to be in five cities in five days next week oh my gosh it's oh yeah you're right that's been my last since about January 3rd third we've been doing that i'm in colorado springs which have you been no just denver okay yeah we're going to denver to no we have a show in colorado springs tomorrow and then we go to denver the next day and i don't really care to go out and explore because it's like my one day off and one of my

producers was like she goes i don't like it there i was like why she goes it reminds me of a place where like husbands murder their wives and i was like cool i will be staying inside the hotel i mean we feel like that too sometimes we're like we've one day here but like it's so i did that in st louis i never left the hotel I was just like, I can't do it. Yeah, I mean, you're busy. You're so busy and you're so on and, like, having to do everything all the time that, like, when you have a day off, you're like, let me do nothing.

And it feels good to, like, lay in a hotel bed and, like, watch Netflix. Like, I don't do that at home. So I'm like, I like to get it in on the road. It feels so good. I get it in with Netflix. That's what they call Netflix and Chill. Isn't that, like, what the kids say about hook it up? Hey, wait, you don't do that at home?

Ashley is much less want to sit around all. day long at the house. No, no, I watch, I'm just saying, I'm talking about, like, physically being in a bed. I don't have a TV in my bedroom. So, like, laying in a big hotel bed and, like, watching TV is, like, a really nice thing. Yeah. So, yeah, super luxurious. What shows are you watching on Netflix right now? Because I am sucked in to, um, love is blind. We just finished. We finished. Yeah. Okay. I'm on episode seven. Okay. Caitlin, get it together. You've got to get to the reunion. You got to get to. I know, because I start seeing like all these people are going on other people's podcast and I'm like, no, I'm behind. Yeah, you got to get somebody on from there.

We will love it. Ashley and I actually, we want to know like our, obviously our thoughts and our feedback for dating shows. So 10 o'clock on Sunday night last week, we recorded our thoughts on the finale. We're like, we can't release the episode on Monday without doing it. We don't want to be so behind. No. Yeah, we just wanted to be timely with it. But yeah, it's, I mean, did you watch the first season? Yes. Yeah. I felt, I was talking to this girl about this last night. she has a reality TV podcast and she so she feels like such an expert on all this and we were both agreeing that like the first season

we just felt more invested in the couples and also it was like a new like do you remember when like Cameron proposed to Lauren and you were like what they're like getting married on this show like I was like crying I was like screaming I was like I had no idea what was coming so love is blind to the first season

we were literally in Australia dream trip like we were like on like a cliffside giant home overlooking the harbor and watching it like watching it at home. And Raina went on this day with this guy. She met him in Brisbane. And she was

like, do you care if I like, I mean, we were together for weeks at a time. She was like, do you care if I like leave you and go out with this guy? I'm like, girl, the love is blind finale is on. I got champagne room service to the room. I was like in my bed watching it. I was like, Rana's getting like dick down. I was like, this is the best night of my life. Yeah, she said date and let's

date is a strong word. We had like two drinks before we went home and f*** all night. He spit my mouth, and that was, that's how COVID started. It was, right before God. You heard it, you heard about it that one of the first cases in Australia, it was you. It was me. He worked at a bar called Felons. No, you're lying.

You f*** Tom Hanks. I would fuck Tom Hanks, but no, this was a, this was a, what is he, Cuban? He's from Tampa. I hate when she said that. He's from Tampa, Caitlin. He's from Tampa. Right? I thought she was fucking this exotic.

Australian guy. He's from Tampa. He's stressed enough. He's a Latin lover, okay? He was sexy. That guy really choked me like he meant it. It was nice. Wow.

That's what, like, romantic novels are written about right there. Yeah. Probably make you get a husband. Oh, my God. Yeah. Latin lovers who spit in your mouth. Oh, my God, that's so romantic. Yeah, I'm romantic, you know?

Yeah. We actually and I were sharing a wall and, like, really shout out to this hotel for having, like, concrete, thick walls. Like, I didn't hear a thing. We, the bed was halfway across the room in the morning. But when I walked in the next morning, I was like, it smells. I just can feel the sex that happened here last night. Like I walked in, I was like, I just perched on like the edge of the couch.

You know, you're like, where can you sit? You're like, where did you not do it? Where can I sit down? And you did that to me last weekend, Rana walks in my room. I had just been fucking this guy for like hours. And she came in and she was like, where can I sit? Where can I sit that doesn't have come on it? we didn't we didn't we didn't on the little bankette you can you know yeah that's fair enough yeah

that's fair enough wait I'm dying because I heard uh that you guys obviously you talk about sex on your podcast it's literally what you talk about all the time and Chelsea handler comes on and literally knows all of the like she had to have been prepped and then talk to shit about you guys about how it was all about sex and made her uncomfortable like that actually pissed me all for you. Yeah. I mean, you know how we do stuff because you're on our show this week as well. I mean, we prep everybody. We send topics ahead of time. We are really respectful. We always say it's anything off limits. We couldn't be more prepped and kind. And also we tell everybody if you say something, we're happy to edit it out. And she decided to go on her show and slam us. It was pretty

crazy. And then she announced her tour. It was called vaccinated and horny. Our fans were so upset. Like her whole brand is she's naked. She's, which we love. It was like, it was so upsetting to me because she was like my idol and she was who made me want to go into comedy so it was like extra hurtful we were like what didn't what the fuck happened here like we thought it was a solid interview like her PR team was on the zoom in the room we were like how did this even happen like you left our studio went straight to record a podcast where you opened with like can you believe these girls like what that's so weird because does she have like you know how I have like I call them the vinos that listen yours are called snack heads is that what it is? Yeah, it's like crackheads, but snack heads, yeah. Oh, I get it. Okay, okay, okay. And then Chelsea Handler probably, like, did your both listeners, like, go to war for each other and be like, like.

Hers didn't. Our listeners, I think just, they don't, Ashley and I, I think, handled it with a lot of grace and kindness. We could have gone on the show and slammed her. We didn't. We were just like, we know you guys heard this. Thank you for acknowledging it. I mean, but our listeners were just like, this is hypocritical.

This is bullshit. That's what I was thinking. That's why I brought it up because I was like, that makes zero sense for somebody to know they're coming on your podcast. be prepped and then go talk shit. But you know what? If Chelsea Handler was someone you looked up to as a comedian and now she's bashed you, I was going to be like, that would be like if Paul Rudd started talking crap about

me, my feelings would be really hurt. But if Ellen DeGeneres was talking crap about me, I'd be like, sweet. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it was a very like, never meet your heroes moment. And it just, it was, it was strange and we don't know. And her PR team took a very weird direction where they tried to like blame it on someone else that was, I mean, outrageous.

outrageous who they said it was it just wasn't it was a very weird person to scapegoat um and we're not going to like reveal it because it would start a whole thing right it was uh yeah it was it bothered us but we loved like in terms of our listeners our fans were so supportive and so nice and they were like it's it's kind of doesn't matter who she's saying this about it's very off brand anyway like right the the slut she mean the sex like right who talks she said that she said who talks about this stuff we're like you do literally you Literally you, Chelsea. And also, everybody else, she's talking,

which she was referring to as me mentioning masturbation. And it's like, aren't we normalizing these things? Isn't that what we're doing now? It's normalizing that everybody, like, wants pleasure and touches themselves. Like, that's, I just had a, I think she's a sex expert on the pod. And it was like all about masturbation and how we should normalize it. And if I'm going to pick like a top five, top five people that would probably talk about masturbation. Chelsea Hamler would be in my top five. Right. So bizarre. Maybe she was having a bad day. I don't know. Who knows? You know, whatever. Whatever. That's it's, you know what? It probably got some downloads and people are talking about it. And I hate when people say that actually. It's not positive attention. We don't want something like that. We don't want anybody to come to our show because they think we're going to like bash somebody or say something terrible about that. Well, it would it would stress me out too. I don't like having like beef with people. Like I don't like.

I don't like it. It's like I. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's icky. I don't like the tension and I would lose sleep over it. Like, I know people like even drum up like beefs and drama for attention and for relevancy and things like that. I'm like, I don't want to be a part of it. stresses me out. No. And you're doing just fine without it because your podcast is so successful. You're traveling around to every city. You have so many people that come to support you and love you. Tell me what a show looks like for the two of you when you are on the road. We like to say it's just like the wildest girls night out you'll ever have. And a lot of people are bringing. their significant others now so a lot of couples but we have a ton of audience participation it's really chaotic um we bring people up on stage we have dancers we just have like so much energy and music and it's just a one of a kind like laugh with your friends come let loose anything goes kind of night yeah that's so fun has anyone ever like taken it too far where they've gotten kicked out because that has happened to me and mine are like not that chaotic but not that chaotic. Yours look so fun and I've seen this stuff. I'm like, oh, yeah,

the TikToks, I'm like, we could never. You know, you just like really like it seems, it's great. I love to watch it. Um, kicked out. I mean, no. We were, we had like very early on, we had a few scenarios where people just, you know, we're like, I mean, positive heckling, but like drunk

won't shut the fuck up. Yeah. And honestly, we'll call it out these days, but the shows are just kind of off the rails where we kind of embrace the chaos like I used to do a little bit more storytelling a little bit more I mean you know stand up for for lack of the better word between the two of us and we still do that people want to hear from us but we're like they just want to get crazy like they just really do you know they hear us talk every week like we know they know everything about us already like we want to share some stories that they've never heard before but we're like they just want to get wild they're pregame

it they want like chaos so we've just the show has evolved so much in terms of just like honestly like leaning into that and we go into it with way less of a plan like I use Dallas for an example there was a point at the Dallas show we were an hour in I was like what the fuck is going on in like the best way we were like this show is unbelievable like we were like I don't even know we hadn't

looked down at our outline for an hour like this was off the rails the stripper was like we have strippers and this one took it a little too far now we have to set boundaries because Raina felt a little assaulted but it's fine I felt like assaulted because he assaulted yeah we have like a million different i think we've gotten really good at pivoting you know we have tons of different segments we can do so sort of whatever comes up comes up and we find that our audience

they're like weirdly well-behaved and chaotic at the same time yes you know they like dress up they come with their friends they come as like a birthday party or a bachelor at or they come with their boyfriends their husbands and people like know one to participate and whatnot too and it's pretty interesting to see i love that i feel the same way about my listeners i'm like they get social cues they like get it they know how to party and they like have the same sense of humor as me because you build your own community you know like people know what they're going to get from you so they like feel safe in that space to be who they are and let loose and get chaotic and they know like you're going to support that I love it I think it's great yeah so we would love to

come to one of your shows as soon as you're anywhere near here and doing a show will come oh my gosh could you imagine the three of us on stage that would be the best time ever every day You could be one of our dancers. You could, like, open with, like, the NBA dancers we have opened the show. You could be up for them. I'm, like, trying to do, like, a Latin dance because I've been so used to dancing with the stars. I, like, come out doing a fox trot.

Cool. I will love that. All I want is Latin. I just, I want only Latin all the time. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, you'd have a field day with that. That's so funny. Is that your type, like, the Latin lover?

She has a type of music. And, like, she listens, like, to Latin music exclusively. like I will like if I believe I not peek in on her like getting ready or something she's just got like bad bunny radio on like all the time it's very funny that she is like a really specific type and like she has this deep dark secret that she doesn't have Spotify and she still listens to what is it called Rhapsody Rhapsody. Napster now. What is it? Rhapsody. Napster. I mean I don't tell you. This is my embarrassing moment. This is her confession. Caitlin when I realized this we were on the. road and I was like let me get let me she was controlling the music was like let me see her Spotify and it got weird there I feel like I could cut the cut the tension in knife we've been friends for years we'd have the podcast for years I found out on the road in the car that Raina did not have Spotify and she was using Rhapsody which I didn't even know it was still a thing it wasn't that like shut down your phone and give you viruses a lime wire

yeah and then Ash then you know you have to break it to people you're dating too so Ashley was there when I broke it to my last ex I filmed his reaction he was was he had to lean up against the wall he was like what and we too we were like six months into our relationship before i let him know and then this current guy that i'm talking to asked me if he could have like my spotify name because he like because he wanted to see what i'm listening to and he's like oh are you like private because you're famous and i was like yes yes that's exactly what it is that's exactly why wait is it just you've gotten to a point now where you're like i'm not getting it just to say i don't have it or is like what's your beef with

Spotify. So Rhapsody, nobody's even going to remember this. It came out around the same time of Spotify. Just downloaded it first. And I have all my music on there. And I was just like, I'm staying with this platform. I know, listen, maybe I'll change a Spotify this week. Raina, no, you won't. We've enjoyed this for years. I was like, I will help you migrate over. Like, I'll do whatever it takes. Even if you want to do Apple Music, like, just you've got to get like, our podcast is on Spotify. We've got to say. Ashley builds these amazing Spotify playlist for our live shows when the girls are like filling into this space. They have this great playlist like I'm just I'm not on these Spotify streets yeah well you know what I think that's like

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but he has to be bald with a beard and two sleeves. Not one. And he's six to. Very specific. Yeah. I mean, I, I don't know. Profession doesn't matter. Have no profession.

I don't know. Raina, come. We've, okay, recently we've decided that Rayna has one standard and we want the guy to have a LinkedIn. So we want him to have a career of some sort. Yeah. So. Yeah. Because recently I said to her, I was joking.

I said something about I looked at this guy's LinkedIn. She's like, I just want a guy with a LinkedIn. And I was like, oh my God. And we started reflecting. We're like, that's your new bar. You know, that's, yeah, I was good to say, are you on online dating? And like, you have to, that has to. that has to be in your bio.

No. Must have a LinkedIn. That's good. Have a history of gainful employment. That is my bar now. Must have a professional headshot of some sort. And must be bald with a beard and two sleeves. I had an ex-the-otherly to tell me that I date down.

I was like, I literally dated you. Good one, dummy. That's so, wait, Raina, you have a new tattoo. Let's talk about that. I have three new tattoos. Three. Which I said on the show this week, sounds like a cry for help, but it's not. She just didn't stop.

She was like, I'm in, we were in L.A. and she was like, I'm going to go to some tattoos today. I was like, oh, do you have tattoos, right? Yeah, I do that all the time where I'm like, I'm just going to get a tattoo today. I did it. I was wasted in Mexico at the finale of The Bachelor, and they had a tattoo artist in the lobby of the hotel. And I was like, sure.

Yeah. What'd you get? I mean, my options were limited. It was either a taco filled with hearts. a limousine, a quote that said here for the right reasons, a rose, which I already have, or a diamond. So I went with the diamond. Where is it? It's like right here, like on my ribs kind of.

It's just a little cute, little thin. It's well done. He did a great job. I like here for the right reasons. I think that's really funny. I like the top of filled with hearts. I know. All those are right.

It was between the diamond and the taco filled with hearts for me. And I kind of regret not getting the taco filled with hearts for me. go filled with hearts because how funny. Well, you can always go back, you know? Yeah. Someone can always. Wait, are you guys in L.A.? We're in New York right now.

We're going back in L.A. Are you normally in New York? Is that where you're like home bases? Yeah, for now. Okay, because I want to come, judge me all you want, but I want to see the Michael Jackson musical so badly. Yeah, totally. And so I want to come to New York and I will get tattoos.

I will go with you. Anytime. But the reason why I actually got so many in California is that it is kind of expensive to get tattoos in New York. Like the price to just sit in a chair is pretty expensive. Yeah. Usually they'll charge like $2.50 because they don't want you to get those little baby tattoos. It's a lot of money to like set that up. So the reason why I got them in California is it's just a little bit cheaper.

And so these weren't like a knee jerk reaction. I got a breast reduction. I wanted to get a tattoo that I drew of these boobs. So I got it on my arm. And I went with this guy that we met that we went out with. And he texted me like 8 in the morning. I thought he just was drunk. But he texted me 8 in the morning.

You still want to go get those tattoos. And I was like, yeah. So that was our first day date as we went and got tattoos together. It was fun. What did he get? Oh, my God. He has tattoos. What he got that day was unbelievable.

It caused my dreams. Oh, I'm so glad I asked. His body is chaos. It's really crazy. He has a thigh sleeve. He's a thigh sleeve. He's a thigh sleeve. Oh, so is it.

No, well, he has a heart around mom and dad on one thigh. And then the other thigh is just chaos. It's like a little over a dozen tattoos on his thigh. yeah that's a lot they're all random he got a garlic bulb oh but it's huge and it just looks like balls it looks like a ball sack it looks like a ball sack like on his thigh it's wild does he feel does he feel good about that i don't think he cares i think there's a point you reach at which your body is just chaos and you just lean in i don't think he cares at all yeah i like that i think you do it again and i got two more i got one that says snacks um and then i got a crown

because my name means queen i don't know i love i love that because i like those random arm ones when they're like dainty and cute. Yeah. Ashley has none. I have like 13 and she's zero. Did you ever get one? I don't know. I mean, I probably, not to be like so morbid.

I mean, I probably, you know, I lose a parent or something. I'd probably go with my brother. My brother is a bunch of tattoos. I hate to even say that, but that's like, because that's the worst thing this will ever happen to me. But I just have gone this long. But it's interesting because I like really like guys with tattoos. I'd prefer that they have them than don't. So it's kind of a funny thing.

and this guy that I was, that I hooked up with when we were in L.A. and San Diego, same, same guy. Like, he, I was telling him, I was like, do you think that's weird that I was, like, drawn to you because of your tattoos? I want a guy with tattoos and I don't have any. And it was funny because the day that she went with this guy to get tattoos, I kind of went on like a day date with his friend. We had gone off then the night before.

And our day was totally different. We took like a ferry to Sausalito. We had like a little nice lunch on the water. We were just, of course, it ran us out of tattoo parlor for three hours. They were like, just totally different vibes. And the guy I went with didn't have any tattoos either. But I, yeah, it's a thing that, like, I prefer them on a person that I. I feel that.

But I just don't have any. But you never know. I agree with her, though. I mean, when she said, like, she just never started. So, like, I started like 17. So then you just start getting them. And then I think by the time I was like 20, I had three or four. And then you're like, I'm just going to keep going at this point.

Yeah. Yeah. That's same with me. I'm like, I, I mean, I don't. I really actually love tattoos. and I love what other people have tattoos. I love what other people don't. Jason doesn't have one tattoo. And I think that's cool too.

I just love like, I don't know what it is about tattoos. Like I see it as art. And then I'm like, oh, look, people just like expressing themselves with art all over their body. Yeah. Really committing to the like fact that it's permanent for life. I respect it. I think it's actually. Yeah, I had an appointment once and then I just bailed on it.

You did? Yeah, I was going to do. So my brother has a whole, like I guess he has a half sleeve. and he's a huge person Is he bald? Does he have a beard? He's married He's married but yeah He's Rayna's actually he's way too

He's six seven He's too big for Raina But like physically he's kind of your type I mean he's handsome He's also like my brother I'm very very close with Ashley's family But his are all like Our dad hated tattoos grown up

Again our dad It's not like a strict religious family He just wasn't into them So he was always like Don't come home with a tattoo But then my brother started getting them And they were all like family related so what can you say?

You know, like, my brother was like, and this signifies our family, you know, and my dad's, what the fuck? I can't say anything about that. You just love our family so much. He has two, I guess, two sparrows that signify he and me. I guess they're the only bird that flies from the nest but comes back or something. It's like really sweet.

I have two on my arms because of that. Yes. Yeah. I didn't know this. So I was going to get them like here. And then my brother was like, you're not going to be able to handle on your ribs. That's not how you start.

No. No, no, no, no. That's a ballsy way to start. So I canceled. Yeah. Oh, fair enough. Well, you'll get that. When you want one and if you want one, then you'll get one. But yeah, it's so funny because I got those two birds. My high school sweetheart tattooed them on me at three in the morning in his tattoo shop while we were hammered. And I woke up and I was like, oh, I did a thing. And I had two. Not one, but two birds. In high school? No, no. This was just my high school boyfriend. I did this. I was like 24. Got it. And, yeah, there's, and I'm terrified of birds, so it doesn't really make sense. I love the meaning of that bird.

So that's cool that he has those. I love that story. And also, if you hate birds, getting the birds tattooing on your body is like a immersion therapy, you know? Exactly. Exactly. I'm like, what better ways to face your fears that to tattoo them on your body, but I can't see them.

So it's great. Caitlin, that is so funny that you hate birds, but you have tattoos and your wine label. I don't think you hate birds. Ashley, my vibe is I would say she tells me something about myself all the time that I just had no idea was like a fact. Then I'm like, she's so right. Like, I feel like we're just realizing you don't really hate birds.

I think I want to love them. Mm-hmm. Like, I don't. I truly am scared of them, but I want to be able to love them because I do think some of them are beautiful. Like, fuck a pigeon. I hate pigeons. No.

But, like, other birds are beautiful. But I'm just terrified of them. They're so unpredictable. They're afraid they're going to, like, poop on you? No, it's the flapping for me. It's flopping. It's I don't know. It's like when, you don't know

when they're going to just start going all like spazzy. Yeah. I love birds. It's a whole, my mom's like bird lady, you know. It's not like creepy, but like, but Not like home alone to bird lady. Not like home alone too bird lady, but the pigeons are a different story. And so we're like ducks. Like ducks are terrifying. They'll like chase you down, you know.

Yeah, that's okay. We just stayed at the Peabody Hotel in Memphis, Tennessee, and it's like a duck hotel where they have a duck master and there's ducks in the lobby and you like master, I don't know what do you call it, like heard them, I don't know, into like the elevator and they go up to their penthouse and they're like trained ducks. There isn't just shit all over the floors. No. Maybe I'm thinking of geese. Geese are crazy. Geese are psycho. Yes. They'll chase you. This one comedian does a bit. I can't remember who it is of like, why do we say? like silly goose because they're not silly they are not so terrifying they will like hunt you down yeah

that's that's a good question why do they call it silly goose okay i wanted to talk to you both about how because i think a lot of people and a lot of my listeners every time they like write in or leave a message or anything a lot of them is about relationships but i love that you two are just like if we're in a relationship great we enjoy being single like you're not like looking for anything you're like i need a timeline to settle down and have this this and that How do you get to that point in your life where you can like embrace just being with yourself or loving just dating around or not feeling that pressure to be with somebody? Well, so I don't want children at all. Raina 90, 80 percent.

When I met her, she did, but now she's leaning towards not. So that takes a lot of the pressure off. And we always say like if you really want children, it sucks. It sucks when you get, not it sucks. It sucks when you get into your 30s and your. feeling like your clock is ticking and you're single and you're like, do I freeze my eggs? I just want a partner. Like even if you are happy really being alone, you're not wanting some sort of codependency,

but you just want a family. So I just, that's one thing that makes it so much easier. I feel so, like, I feel so grateful that I don't because it kind of takes that pressure off. And I think that doing the show and learning everything that we've learned and living this life that we've lived, I don't even know that like marriage is for me, maybe, maybe not, you know. So I just think us and like a lot of people in the world are just looking at things a little more untraditionally. You don't need to do things the way you always did them. For me, I mean, we have this dream life, this dream career that we built for ourselves.

I feel so fulfilled and like my life is so full of love. I mean, I'm lucky to have an amazing family and friends that, you know, I've said, built my group of friends myself and this thriving career and this dog that I'm so obsessed with. And so I, yeah, but I'm open to a relationship. I have frustrations like everyone else. Like I get bummed out. And I'm like, God, I like this guy. I didn't like me back or whatever it is. And I'm totally open to a relationship with the right type of person that fits into my life.

But I'm also open to just having fun. And I'm, I feel like as of late, you know, I've wanted to maybe live a little bit more, I don't know the word. Transient sounds just be a little more all over the place, like not, you know, New York, we're in L.A. And we're thinking of kind of like changing our life up a little bit and still being kind of all over the place while we're still young we have the money and all this stuff so I'd be fine having like you know different guys in different cities and living that kind of life and we met this girl recently that we loved and she's kind of got that going on and I have a friend of mine that's like I don't I have a guy in LA I have a guy and you know DC you know and it's

there's no commitment which that can get old too I just I feel like I'm kind of open to whatever and we always just say build a life you're proud of and you don't need somebody and you're just happy with everything else you have going on outside of a partner. Yeah. I love that. And I think just to piggyback when Ashley said, you know, our show is about dating a relationship just, but the predominant theme I think in our show is always the relationship you have with yourself and building this life and this job and this friend

group and relationships with your family that you're proud of so that a partner is really just the cherry on the top. So that the decisions that you make around having a partner is, does this person enhance my life? Do they give me good advice? Do my friends like them? Do they fit in with my family? rather than this is the most important thing in my life,

the only thing in my life. And so I have to make sacrifices and decisions based on I don't have anything outside this person. And I feel like, very much like, Ashley, if there's a relationship, a romantic relationship in my life, I'm super open to it. And I love that. If there's not, fine too.

I was with somebody for a larger part of last year. And he was wonderful and great and a cherry on top of a life that I'm already really proud of. And that relationship ended and I was fine and my life went on. You know? So I think that also as relationships end, after you get over that first big, giant heartbreak, we talked about this on our show last week,

you realize that you're going to be fine no matter what and that you have you. And I really like being by myself. I like my company. I like watching TV or reading books. You're just going to walk alone. So you do have to enjoy yourself and love yourself. I know it's so cliche, but I'm happy on my own

and I'm happy with a partner. And I think that makes me a good partner. I love that. I'm like going to take that clip of the two things that you just said and I'm just like going to put it as a clip on my Facebook page for everyone to listen to every day because I love that answer. I just think I talk about it on my podcast all the time and as you probably do too. It's just like the relationship you have with yourself is so important and that's I think why I'm in a relationship right now that thrives is because I've never just been so solid on my own and with myself and happy in my, you know, all the pillars of my life. I'm like, yes, yes, yes.

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That's freaking huge and amazing. Thanks. You two were like one of my first guests I ever had on my podcast. So that was like a long time ago that we chatted, but that's crazy. Do you, when you podcast, do you try and keep parts of your dating life private? Or are you both like such open books on all aspects of sex and dating and all that? And do you look for in a guy that he has to be okay with that if you talk about it? We love this question.

also I just have to say we went on your podcast so early in our career like it was still the first year it was 2018 it was in the fall we started the show in February we were so honored that you even wanted to have us on and it really helped us like people find people find us and we would hear you know for years after that like we would like just want to know where people heard of us and a lot of people would say off the vine and so we just thank you again for having us on and we just had such a good time we were able to do it in person with you in Nashville on our very first like tour it was the day of our third show we ever did ever had yeah yeah yeah live show that's amazing I love that well I felt like you were just like two peas in a pod that I needed to like have in my life at that point I'm sad that like we couldn't live closer or be more involved but like it's I remember being like those are my kind of girls oh it's fine you're gonna come to New York we're gonna tattoos Michael Jackson musical the whole thing yeah yeah but I mean so this this question I mean it's always I think every case is different you know I think when we feel like something could be real like we're a little more private about it and if we don't then I don't give a fuck you know like I'm just like that's not

going anywhere but we always for respect people's privacy you know but not we're not like revealing names and identifying details but we we're open we talk about everything and um but I think if we feel like someone's like going to be a real match we'll keep it a little closer to the chest but still tell people what's going on our lives like I don't I don't know people are like you don't own anyone anything it's like well sure but like this is why people are here they're invested in our lives and they want to know what's going on. So we like to be open. And as far as a guy, I mean, I do think they would have to be okay with it.

I haven't really run into it yet. I don't think a guy that's really super private would date me in the first place. But it's, I don't need to like put somebody on blast. But I think that it's just I've always said like I don't think a person that's like crazy private and be like you can't talk maybe on the show like would be a person I would be with any. way just given that type of like personality type so it's never been an issue i mean anyone i've dated i think i've that i that i like and respect i've talked about them really nicely and i've said they're great in bed i mean who doesn't want to hear that so it's never been an issue totally far um with me and yeah i think when we first started the show it might have been a bigger fear of mine

like well people want to date me i have this public show but i think ashley and i have such a good handle on it such a great track record i don't think anybody who i who i've ever dated has into the show and felt like they were mischaracterized. Got a bet at it. That I, yeah, that I said something terrible about them and we released it. We certainly do not reveal any, like, identifying details. The last person I dated, I probably, I probably, like, revealed who that was. In my opinion, a little sooner than was probably good for me.

Yeah. Because it does control the way you have to speak about the person and how you to speak about the breakup. You know, we, we broke up and I was about to, Ash, and they were about to start like a four city tour a couple days after that. And so I had to talk about the breakup on the podcast, like three days after the breakup. And that was not my dream.

He was very understanding. I told him what I was going to say and that it was going to happen. He was wonderful about it. But, you know, it's all about balance and just respecting somebody else's boundaries. And I think Ashley and I do a really good job of that. And exactly like she said, if somebody's ultimately super private, they're probably not going to date us. But I think you'd be hard pressed to figure out almost anybody we've ever talked about on the show.

Like, I don't think that you'd ever be able to know who those people were. Right. And, yeah, I mean, that was a kind of a crazy thing we had to deal with with Reynus breakup because we were like, she was sharing stories about their relationship at the live shows, like some funny stories. And then they broke up and we were both like, you're not going to feel comfortable saying this and lying for one, like acting like you're still together when you're not. You're going to hate it on stage, like knowing that this isn't a relationship.

So we had to like restructure. A, we had to speed up the breakup episode. Then we had to restructure the content for the live show. Like, it's just a funny way to have to live your life because I hope that our listeners like respect that we just want to be upfront and honest and let them know what's going on. Even if it's a little vague at first, but they followed along that thus far they kind of do deserve to know. That's probably why they love you so much is because they know like even if something happens, you're eventually going to tell them.

You're honest with them. You're so open on your podcast. That's the dating a private guy is so funny because if anyone knew Jason and his family before, they'd be like, how are you going on The Bachelor? You're such a private person. And then he had to learn very quickly that, like, privacy was not going to be a thing in his life anymore if he was going to date me. So we have you coming on our show after this. So I want to dive into that more. Yeah, yeah, we will.

I think that, you know, both things can exist. You can be a public person and have private things about your life. You know, I mean, there was certainly. traumas and people I've dated lives. I would never share something like that. I have obviously personal family relationships and issues. I'm never going to talk about publicly and embarrass somebody. Yeah, you have boundaries. Yes. That, I mean, that situation was very crazy with the breakups. We broke up on a Sunday and Ashley and I were going on tour like nine days later. And so that Sunday, I think three days later, we recorded the breakup episode.

Wow. Released it Monday. We're on tour by like Wednesday. And people are like, what? Like, what? And I feel like I couldn't get on stage and pretend that nothing happened. Totally. Because, and I couldn't get on stage and talk about him in any type of, we're still together like, because, like, I couldn't have gotten through the show. It would have been so upsetting for me. So I was just like, well, we're recording in three days during the breakup. I was like, so to wrap this conversation up, Ashley and I have discussed what we're

going to say on the show with him. That's what you had to say to him. Oh, my God. Yeah. That's amazing. And you're, like, doing it all in real time. and like it's like a like real life bachelor world like where you're like okay I got to edit this and make this happen and then I got to turn it around to make it come out by the time we do this

we have to get our joint statements together yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah do you guys watch the bachelor yeah are you are you are you yeah caught up caught up yeah caught up or on jared oh yeah I'm caught up on jared so Jared freed who's like a former guest of ours yes a lot of times does the live screams on Monday night and I mostly watch that Yeah, I mean, I just, I go back and forth. Like I get, I don't know. I've missed a couple weeks now at this point. And I'm kind of behind, but I will always tune in for the end.

I just love a finale. I'll, I'll like not follow a sports team an entire season. I'm like, and now I'm rooting for them in the Super Bowl. Like, I just don't care. I love a finale. So I was, I don't know if last. Like, I want to see where he like tells everybody he slept with them. Like that's what I'm waiting for that moment.

And I don't know if I missed it yet. That's why they told us at the beginning of the season. Like that that was going to happen because we're all like, okay, waiting for that one episode. That's so true because the rest of it, I don't want to say it's boring. I mean, it's very funny a lot of the things. But like, you know, I feel like we had two back-to-back really cool female contestants and we have this male contestant now. It's just sort of a return to the old, you know, white Christian male. I actually have this question on my notes because I was like, I wonder, because there's probably some crossover here.

Have you guys ever hooked up with anyone from Bachelor Nation? I've been trying to get Mike Johnson. Yeah, Ashley has been trying to fuck Mike Johnson. And Rachel Lindsay said she was going to put in a good word. That's amazing. He's so cute. I have not. I, no, I, I've slept with a lot of people, but not nobody from Bachelor Nation somehow.

Fair enough. Fair enough. I knew you'd tell me if you did. So I was like, I wonder. And I know on your podcast, you do, fuck my phone, which is so funny, where basically your technology is f***ing things up for you. And I do confessions. So I want to hear like a dating confession from each of you, or pretty much a

confession about anything. I know maybe your Spotify one was one of them, but I'm going to need a juicier one than that. And then I just have a game for you before I let you go. I had this really embarrassing situation happen. I don't think I ever told on the podcast. I was trying to think of something that I haven't talked about publicly on the podcast. It's not like so juicy. It was just an embarrassing moment. So this summer of 2020, you know, we've all exited quarantine. No one remembers how to like talk to anybody at all. more. So we were just sort of like, all of our senses were gone. You know, is somebody flirting with me? How do I talk to men? And I was sitting outside

at Domino Park in Brooklyn on a Sunday. And this, I was with a couple girlfriends, was two girlfriends. And this guy like walks up right next to us with a dog. He was gorgeous. He looked like Bradley Cooper. And I was reading the book. I had the book Sapiens like on my blanket, which all men love. If you want to get attention from men, go outside, sit in a park with the book. It's a trap. Yes, it's a trap. planes to airports can't suggest it enough. It's like a guy with a dog.

Yeah, yeah, it's like... Yes, it is. Cryptonite. Yes, also Adam Grant. Adam Grant books, but Sapiens, specifically. And this gorgeous guy comes over with his dog and he starts talking to me and he's like, I have that book too. And I just like realized I don't know how to talk to men anymore.

I have like completely forgotten how to interact with the world. And I'm stuttering my way through it. I'm like, yeah, it's a good book. And he's like, how long you've been reading it and joy? And I was like, uh-huh. And he was like, I'm reading that. that book too? And I was like, uh-huh. And I see my friends just like staring at me in complete disbelief. They cannot believe that like I hosted dating podcast. This is how I'm interacting with a man

right now. And he walked away and both of them were like, I hope no one else saw that because that was so embarrassing for you. And I'm like, okay, I have to get it. I have to get it back. I have to like get my mojo back. I'm going to find this guy. I'm going to go on a date with him. I'm going to like close this deal on him down. So I walked around Domino Park for like 15 minutes trying to find him on my hunting this man down in the park and I see that he's waving your book I see I see and I see that he is on the phone standing a line for this water fountain so I just sit down next to the water fountain and I'm like I'm actually I didn't know the second part of this yeah I chased him down through the park and I waited for him to finish this water fountain and

I was like hey remember me and he was on a face time with some somebody else. And so I somehow make my way into the FaceTime and I start talking to this person that he's on a FaceTime way. What? I didn't remember how to talk to people anymore. You went totally rogue. I went completely rogue. I'm hunting him down in the park. He realizes this is crazy behavior and he just walks away. And it was so embarrassing. And then I was like, I really want to find this guy. So I put out like an emergency APB, EPB. What is it? Amber Alert. No, I put out an Amber Alert for him on Instagram stories. I post this story and I was like, if you are a man around the age of 35 and you're Justin Domino Park, you look like Bradley Cooper, you've like ex kind of dog, I am looking for you.

And this is a misconnection. He never reached out. He never. If I was him, I would never reach out either. It was so humiliating. But I mean, listen, we were all in that headspace like June July of summer 2020. None of us had like, none of us had been in public in so long. Yeah, why was he acting like that was crazy behavior? Like we hadn't just been through like a pandemic for the last two years. It was crazy. It was crazy behavior by anybody. He was being weird too. Yeah. Maybe he didn't know how to act. I appreciate you guys being so nice about this. He acted normal and I hunted him down on a Sunday in a park and waited for him to finish at a water fountain. And crashed to space time.

So listen, we all have our hiccups in life. Now I'm doing great. I'm slaying all over the place. Yeah. Hell yeah. You're killing it. I'm crusted it. That's a good one. I like that. um katelyn i not too long ago had a soft dick in my mouth i'm not proud of it and it's not something that i ever want to do again and i just felt like i had to get that off your chest not a boyfriend dick like the first the first interaction with this dick i was just like trying to get it hard we got there eventually i've been doing a whole bit on it and it was it turned out to be a good dick but at the i have you had a soft dick in your mouth in a long time it's not good and it's like it's been like 10 years you you start to like

question your life choices you're like how is this like mushy little slug like in my mouth it got there eventually I was so proud of like a proud mother I was like a proud mother I was like It's like, when you rock a baby to sleep, you finally get there, you're like, I am amazing. Like, I was like, I don't want children, but I get it. Like, I did this. I made this. It's all grown up. Holy shit, that's funny.

Oh, I'm not going to get that image out of my head for a while. I'm so glad I didn't say that on our show, so I'm glad I got off my chest. I just. Oh, gosh. Yeah, this is a safe place. I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing with you. You can laugh at me.

Oh, my gosh. I actually genuinely gagged when he said Oh my God that is freaking amazing Thank you for sharing that I'm never going to get over Caitlin's gags now

And she was like Your whole body flew forward I mean listen We're not shame as my parts But how often do you see it in that state No no no I never ever I don't think actually is doing that anyways

I'm just like How often do you see a soft dick Like even if you live with a man you're just not, like, looking at it that often. Or you don't put it in your mouth if it is. I know, I know. I just don't even, listen, it was a dark time, and it was a journey, but, like, we got there eventually. But we were talking about this with some friends recently, just soft dicks in general. Yeah.

And we wanted to talk to you about Jason's dick on our show, but just because you post about it. But, like, one of my best friends who's married, she's like, been married for 10 years and she was, the quote was so funny about her husband. She was like, when I see it, I'm just like, I hate to see you like this. You know, like, it's just, you don't want to see it. They don't want you to see it either. Like, they don't want. I don't think they do either.

No. No. That's, I mean, I've been with Jason for so long. And even when he loves a morning bath, like morning bath, like, with his coffee and, like, it's going on his email. He lives for it. And I'll walk in and he'll, like, cover it. Like, I haven't seen it before. But I swear, it's like, what he's doing?

Yeah, he's like, he's like, I don't want you to see. See him like this. Also, what's worse? A soft dick? I don't know. Is that a better word? Yeah. No.

Or a tucked one. Well, in what capacity? He tucks it. What do you mean? He makes a mangina in the back. A mangina? He makes a mangina in the back. What?

They're both the same in my eyes. Honestly, a mangina is funny. Okay? At least we can both stare at it and laugh. I'm not going to stare at your mushy. you're a moisteny little worm in my mouth and laugh at it. Okay, because I'm the joke if your soft dick is in my mouth. Yeah, Caitlin's like, I'm not laughing at you.

I'm like, you should. I deserve it. Oh, my God. Mangina, for the record, he doesn't tuck. He just puts his hand to her. Like in stepbrothers, we're like, Jason has a mangina. Yeah, Jason has a vagina. Oh, my gosh.

That's funny. Okay. Wait, I'm sad. I'm like running out of time. And I, well, I'm glad that I get to come on your podcast because that's going to be fun. But last thing, do you want to listen to a couple of my listeners confessions and rate them? Or do you want to do a can you not ex-boyfriends? I could do, I feel like I don't have a can you not queued up.

So I could do the confessions. We could rate them on a scale of one to mushy penis in your mouth. Oh, yes. That's a great idea. Yes, okay. One being mushy penis in your mouth, 10 being what? Oh, I was thinking that was the 10. Oh, yeah, that would be the 10.

That would be the 10. Okay, I went on a first date at a bar. We met on Tinder, had a few too many drinks, and went back to his place. When he started showing me his bedroom, it was covered. What? It was covered in ducks. Like, seriously, ducks were everywhere. duck wallpaper, duck comforter, duck lampshades.

I was a little freaked out to say the least. After that, I ordered an Uber and left without saying bye. Yeah. How if we talked about ducks for the second time, this show? That's why when I read the ducks part, I was like, wait, what? I mean, I feel like I need more information. Is this like a hunting cabin in the woods, or is this like his home that he is outfitted with ducks?

What is his relationship to the ducks? I feel like she would have mentioned if it was like, he was a hunter and they went to his house and he like, you know, he was like wearing all camo or something. That would make more sense. Shouldn't he have said something like, hey, the ducks? Also, was this the Sex and the City episode where Trey's mom bunny?

One duck, though. One mallard. Oh. It wasn't all duck. No, it was like, I was like, but also that whole place was like plaid and it was like Scottish themed. I mean, I don't want anybody that's obsessed with anything. I think that like, It's just, it's too much.

I mean, my obsession in the world is girls got to eat. I think it's the greatest thing in the entire world. It's my child. It's our baby. My apartment isn't girls got to eat themed. I just couldn't not say anything. I would have been like, what's up with the ducks? Like, I can't, I could, I couldn't live with myself leaving that scenario without answers.

Yeah, that's fair enough. This person said, I did some psycho shit yesterday. I've been chatting with a guy and he didn't respond to my text for 12 hours. So I downloaded an app that gives you a new phone number and texted him. on that and he responded never spoke to him again sometimes you got to do that we we had a guy there this was a while back i just hadn't heard from this guy i was like he might be dead so let's just find out and we had a guy friend call him from his like google meetup phone number um it was a wait so he ghosted he ghosted you and then you got someone else to call him and see if he was there

and he was yeah and he ended up resurfacing but it was like i was just like did he die truly you know yeah so we had our guy friend call him from from, like, his other phone number. But then it was like, we realized that if he called back, he would hear his voicemail. So we had to have our guy friend change the voicemail. It was a whole ordeal. We were cracking up.

Yeah, you've got to use Google Hangouts if you want to do that. That's how you create fake phone numbers. You can't do the Google Meetup or any of that. You need Google Hangouts. But I just do, because I prank people on my podcast and I just do Star 6-7. Oh, yeah. Oh, you can do Star 6? That's so old school.

I love that. We would do that like in high school. I know. It's still a thing. I was actually hoping. I was hoping you guys would pick, can you not? because can you not ex-boyfriends. I literally, my ex, I don't know if I've told this on a podcast before.

Let's do this. Let's pivot. Yeah, we can't ours too. Okay. A few of the vinos from the Facebook wrote in a couple of theirs, so it's actually kind of funny, and it might inspire you with some of yours. Okay, so mine was, can you not message my best friend to get your Nintendo back after we've been broken up for two years.

Sir, what are you doing? Get a new Nintendo. Do you think he was trying to hit on the friend? No. That's crazy. Grow up. Yeah. Right?

I thought that was wild. Okay, someone else said, can you not send Snapchats of your new girlfriend to our mutual friends when you know I'm with them? Oh, that's dirty. Yeah, that's gross. That's so gross. Okay, can you guys think of a Keny not?

I mean, in line with, like, exes and picking up stuff, I have, like, a can you not from a long time ago. My ex asked me to get his stuff because he, I, he, he, moved out. Well, I wouldn't let him back in the apartment. So I moved his stuff out. And there was still some stuff left behind. So I told him he could come get it. He brought his new girlfriend to our shared apartment. He had just moved out of like a month ago to get his stuff from it with him. So when I came downstairs and opened the door, she was there. Like with him. Oh. That's so, yeah, that's a can you not for sure. That's so stupid. Can she go literally anywhere else? She has to be here.

That's so awkward. I guess my. this is going to get morbid, but let's just do it. Can you not email me about my dead dog and the details of his death? I had an ex-reach out and he just, he didn't know that my dog had died who died over a year ago. But like, thank you. I don't need to be reminded. You know what I mean?

Like, he was like, oh my God, I can't believe he died. I didn't know he had cancer. I'm like, why are you outlining the details of his death? And it was like, it was the week that he had died a year prior. I'm like, I didn't need this from an ex. I didn't need to be reminded of the trauma. of doing pasty it was pretty wild and of course it was coming from a good place but I was like I don't want to talk so traumatic though I'm not trying to talk to you B I'm certainly not trying to have the details of his reminisce outline reminisce yes oh my god and also I didn't tell you this you found this out on social media so like this wasn't even a discussion I want to have with you at all ever yeah that is yeah can you not bring up my dead dog thanks why yeah that would be great this what you said that was dark I was literally reading one where I was like, oh, my God, that's dark.

This one, somebody said, can you not break up with me on the way to a funeral? He's like, that person's dad and so is our relationship. Oh, my God. We have gotten over the years, we've gotten some of the most insane listener stories, messages. And the ones that are related to like a funeral or like a morgue are like an extra level of dark, but they're always so insane. we like can't help but like there's something

we had a friend that got broken up right before a funeral I remember that story too we had this girl talk about how I figure what her job is called but she was like at this person's house when she's like a nurse when she works in hospice

when the mom died she she worked in hospice and the mom had just passed and the son and the daughter like the daughter tried to hook her up with her brother the son and like she was like this is a weird time your mom's dead body is still in the room

And like on the way out, the son whose mother just passed, like, slipped her his number and was like, would love to connect. And she's just like, she's a hospice nurse. The body was in the home. It was still warm. Crazy. Too soon. People are just, I mean, I don't know. It's crazy because I'm like, people have probably always been this crazy. But now with like podcast, social media, like everything, we get to hear so many more like crazy ass stories of things people do and be like, I can't believe there are people out there. They probably. live in Colorado Springs. It is so true. That's kind of why we like have, like our live shows are largely in part, like audience participation because they have wild stuff to share. Yeah. It's, and I'm always like, please tell me that's true and that you didn't make this up for the podcast because that is f***ed and it is gold.

Oh, no. We play also a game called Are You Lying? And Ashley can sniff out a lie. We had a lie half at one time on stage in Charleston. And the audience started booing and they could just feel the lie. She made up his crazy story. because I do my I think in my heart I'm a PI like I think my other career would have been like somebody that can like what's the word when you just like it's her super question somebody like um interrogate yeah I just live to interrogate people and like catch them in lies I don't like to do it but I just think I have a knack for it and so yeah I was just asking these questions on stage and it started to become very clear that she had like submitted the story that was a total lie and when the audience when the audience turned on her it got a little weird they booed her and her friend on stage and we don't want that energy you want to everybody to feel great in our shows.

But this was so egregious and a lot. Yeah, well, that's what you get for lying. Yeah. Don't lie on our stage. Oh my gosh. I friggin love you guys. Thank you for being on the podcast today. I can't wait to jump on yours and talk more.

Tell everybody, I mean, obviously they can find you on. Mastor. Mush. Mush. Mush. Mushyms. com. Yeah.

Well, we love you. Thank you for having us on. We have so much fun. And Ashley always takes us out. So she'll take us out. Yeah. Take us out. You could listen to us wherever you list of podcasts, Apple, Spotify, Rhapsody, Napster, LimeWire,

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Good job. Good job. Okay. That's amazing. Thank you so much. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening to Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Get new episodes every Tuesday exclusively on podcast.1.com, the Podcast One app and subscribe on Apple Podcasts.

I'm Jenny Mullen, and Third Wheel is an absolute must listen this week with none other than Heather and Terry DeBrow. I remember my mom saying, When I got into med school, she goes, oh, girls are really going to like you now. And it wasn't really true. Oh, my God. I got into general surgery program. She goes, oh, girls love surgeons. It wasn't really true.

And then she said to me, when I got into plastic surgery, UCLA, she goes, oh, girls love plastic surgery. And finally it was true. I'm like, finally. So listen to and follow Third Wheel with me, Jenny Mullen, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podcast 1, and wherever you listen to podcasts. Thank you.