Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Grape Therapy: Tori and Lulu Piskin

Episode Date: June 25, 2020

Kaitlyn’s guest for this week’s Grape Therapy is the mother-daughter podcast duo from the Got It From My Mama podcast, Tori and Lulu Piskin! The ladies all chat about how they got the idea for their podcast from Lulu giving Tori’s friends advice through social media and the handsome men on their favorite news channels. They also discuss if it’s possible to find love during the pandemic, ways to date while quarantined, and hilarious dating confessions! CALDREA – Get free shipping on orders of $50 or moTre when you buy online at Caldrea.com  GEICO – Go to geico.com , and in fifteen minutes you could be saving 15% or more on car insurance MERCARI – Chec k out Mercari on the app stores or on Mercari.com.  WATERPIK – Get $ 30 off plus free shipping by visiting Waterpick.com/OTV and using promo code OTVSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Caitlin Bristow's going to answer your question. Drink to your confessions and hear what you have to say about anything. Batchelor. Let's shake it up some more. Here's Caitlin. All right, welcome to this episode of Grape Therapy. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow today. I'm speaking with an actress, comedian, and content creator, and her mom. My guests are a mother-daughter duo who have their very own raw and unfiltered podcast called Got It From My Mama. They explore the relationship between mother and daughter, plus give and receive dating advice that may not always be what's expected, but is always hilarious. So please,

Welcome to the pod, Tori and her mom, Lulu. Thank you, ladies, so much. There's been, I feel like we've rescheduled this a couple times now. Then I push back the time today. You've been so patient with me. I appreciate you and welcome. Oh, thank you. Thank you.

Oh, my God. By the way, we need like a full minute. My mom likes to give, when we have our own podcast, my mom likes to give a full minute of a guest of complimenting them. So we might need that full minute. We'll probably go from your hat to your shirt. It's gorgeous. gorgeous gorgeous girl you know what i'll i'll take it that's sweet yeah i mean if you'd like to keep

going i'm all ears love your outfit love your hair oh my god thanks it's not mine oh wait the hair's not yours no oh it looks so real yeah i have extensions in but you know what i usually especially in quarantine i'm usually like a disaster but i had to film something today so i have like full makeup hat and the hair and everything right but i love these these are great You should get those. The pick-down. Anytime someone else has something, my mom's like, you should do that. I'm like, thank you.

What, I have nothing good to offer you. I came out of your vagina. She's like, you should do that. If anything, I will come back in another lifetime with your hair, Tori, because it's everything I could ever want. Like, my dream hair is like big lioness curly red hair. It's like my dream. Well, I am here.

She has it. Yes. And she hated it. which was little. She used to say that she had hair like pubes. And I would send her on the subway and she told me she had a pub head because I made her cut her hair up to her chin. And she said, because I used to like Japanese straight in my hair when in eighth grade because that was like the thing. Everyone had straight hair. That's all I ever wanted. And then I decided in high school to cut it all off. But remember when you grow out chemically straight hair, half of your head is

straight. So the top half was curled. Chop the straight part off. No, it wasn't curls. It was frizz. It was frizz. I just don't want to. I want to be honest. Yeah. And then, you know, I went to high school and it was a very sophisticated haircut for a 16 year old. It was like a curly hair bob. And they kept calling me pubic head. And I would tell my mom. And I was like, mom, they're calling me pubic head. And this was like such a mother response. She was like, they're jealous. They probably were, though. I'm jealous. And I'm just mature enough to admit it to you. Okay, well, thank you. Funny.

They have two dogs, right? Oh, yeah. Oh, this is Pino. Pino's here behind me. Oh, stop it. Oh, my God. And then Raman is, well, let me show you. Oh, my God.

They're beautiful. I'm like an animal freak. I am, too, and they're literally the best thing that's ever happened to me. We rescued them from South Korea. How old are they? We don't know. Oh, you don't. No, because, yeah, so we rescued them.

They came from South Korea, and we think they might be around one and a half, too. Wow, South Korea. Yes, they are just little angels. Yeah, they, the South Korea and China isn't very friendly to their animals, to their dogs out there. So there's a rescue company called Bunny's Buddies, and they rescue so many dogs. Tori, right? that I want to, I have, this is my fifth dog. I have a sheepadoodle now.

Oh, I love those. We talk a lot about on the podcast, but it's my fifth. All right. So, and I've had a golden. I'm great. I'm like nuts. And I live in the city. One time we had four animals in our apartment.

If you live in New York, do you get to just say the city and we all know it's New York? I think people usually say Manhattan. Do they? I guess I'm just so used to saying, so I live in New York. city yeah you can tell by the accent i think yes you can and now tory you live in l.A. now which yes which you told me before we started recording that you decided to move in the pan during the pandemic well i already was planning to move prior to the pandemic i actually came to ala the beginning of march to look for an apartment i flew back when things started like hitting the shin

hitting the fan and then i just kept waiting but i knew i was moving anyway so i just kept like waiting for it to happen and then obviously my parents were like don't go wait until this is over and I'm like I don't think this is ever going to be over you know either way I think this was like not the there was only 15 people on my flight I think I was in the safest you probably there could possibly be I think right now everyone who's flying home I feel bad for the people that decided to go home to their families because after three days they're like first off they're going to kill their parents and secondly they can't get back on the flight they're stuck there so I was like I'm out Okay, but wait, and you used to live in New York.

Did you two live together or not? No, so I, so I grew up in Manhattan. Yes, the city. And then I moved to, like two years after college, I moved back home, and then I lived in Brooklyn for a little bit up until now. I've always five years in Brooklyn. Yes, not so little. But anyway, thank God.

She's always correcting me. No, because we would have killed ourselves. So, Tori went to look for an apartment just to let you know in L.A. She comes back. She's not feeling well. Now, I know she doesn't want me to talk about COVID, but I heard you, I watched you on an interview and you have a lot of anxiety. Yeah.

And, okay, and Tori's just like that. Well, you were talking about if you have it here and the symptoms and I'm the same way. Yeah. So Troy comes back sick. She now comes to stay with me for a week. And we really, at this point, the beginning of March, you know what? We didn't know that much, right? back then.

So, you know, she comes to stay with us, and Troy is Lyme disease. So we thought it was her Lyme and she's in the bed with me and we're fighting our usual. Anyway, so because she was like going to let her apartment go at that point. Yeah. She goes home and she calls me, she goes, I think I have the coronavirus, but you want to know even then, back then in the very beginning of March, you will like, I was like, oh, don't be ridiculous. Don't stop complaining. Right.

You all, she probably did. then I got really sick. Oh, no. And I've actually been sick for like the last two months. But wait, we've all tested negative. We have a problem. So what the heck is wrong then? We don't know.

We have every symptom. So I was listening to you. And my husband, he brought her, he's a dentist. So he brought him an oxygen tank from his office. So now Troy goes to L.A. Because now I'm just like, oh, get rid of her. I can't be sick and deal with her, too. So then she would call me and I'd have the oxygen mask on my face talking to her.

Could you imagine seeing your mother like that? Oh, my gosh. And I mean, I have to- Well, first the thing is my dad picked when I called my mom. My dad picked up and I was like, oh, where's, like, where's mommy? And then he didn't show her. And then because I think my mom does this thing where she'll like be like, I don't want to scare her. But then two seconds, she'll be like, no, no, you know what?

I'm going to scare her. So then she takes the phone and she's like, see, look at me. Look at me. Look at me. And she like said, she went. to the doctor on point and she was like I made you a video like a goodbye video like she this has always been her though not just in COVID that is telling me like who's going to get the jewelry since I was like three I was like what jewelry I was like this is your jewelry this is your sisters I love moms okay it's that time of the pod where I sit back taking the beautiful scent

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to start a podcast together because as much as I love my mom and love having her on the podcast to actually work together, I feel like it would be really challenging. Oh, it's tough. There are a lot of blowouts before the podcast we hit record. Okay. But, Tori, go ahead. How did you decide? Well, so about almost two years ago, I went through a very bad breakup.

And a lot of my boyfriends I've had, only two. I don't know why I say boyfriends, because I'm sure my mom's going to correct me, being like, you've only had two. Let's be real real. Still plural. Yes. So anytime I've had a boyfriend, they've always gotten very close to my family. This boyfriend did get very close.

We were going to move in together. Then I had a relapse of Lyme disease. I got very sick. He dumped me like out of the blue. Oh, we went on a family. Oh, here she goes. She loves to tell the story. You know, okay, we treated him.

We all went away, him included, just to let you know. We, you know, paid for everything. Just have to throw that in. We met his parents three weeks before. They were going to move in. All right, go, Torrey. Now you're going to have. I needed that little piece of information.

Thank you. I did. I did. So, yes, he dumped me. I was so depressed and shocked that we were going to move in together. It was very serious. And, you know, my mom would always, she would, she was saying things about my ex that was very mean but very funny.

And she was only, really the only one that was making me feel better at that time and whenever I had my mom on my Instagram people would be like your mom so funny my my mom started giving like advice to my friends and it was all just very funny but I but it always even though the way she said it was funny it was actually very good advice and I thought and people kept saying I did videos at the time with her and people kept saying why do you do longer content with her so I thought oh why not you just do a podcast with her and almost a year and a half later that's that's how it started from a skateboarder dumping me that's how the podcast took off I I think it was therapy for both of us to kind of get out. Basically, we trashed him for the first

year on the podcast. I mean, it got to the point we had to like stop. Yeah, no, it felt so good because I was broken up with. Yeah. So I always still wonder if he heard us because that's all goal. But honestly, that is how it's not. Listen, she wasn't just hurt. I was very mad at him and very hurt. So it did start out of that, but honestly, I did not know, and I will say this to everyone that, you know, has a podcast, how much work it was. Of course, yeah. Well, I mean, it is.

It's a ton of work, but it's cool that you guys did that. And if you've lasted a year and a half, then I think you're doing something right. Well, we're barely lasting. Don't worry. We're like the relationship where it's like, we have nowhere else to go. So I guess you're here. I'm here. That's true.

but that's and it's probably a nice way now that you know you're in different very far away cities to reconnect and you can podcast you probably get along better when you're further apart we actually do yes it's been great therapy really that's I should have thought of that because when I went through bad breakups that same thing my mom would just drag them and it was hilarious because you're like I I feel that way I'm glad someone else does but like to talk about it and have your mom do it it's it's funny and it is there And they always have like a chart. I feel like mom, not maybe mom's, but after breakups, you always have a chart of like when the things occurred. So my mom's like Nancy Grace. She's like, he dumped you six weeks after we met. She's got like a bulletin board, like an imaginary bulletin board. She loves

to repeat like every like three weeks about it. But you can understand from your mom how, you know, listen, it's your daughter. What close a person could there be to you? No, I can't even imagine thinking about the day a guy dumps my daughter

I will be wanted for murder. Right. Now, wait. I'm going to ask you, how did your mom feel when you were on The Bachelor? Oh, gosh. Well, my mom's funny. I think she was just always kind of expecting me to somehow end up on a crazy television show. Oh, really?

So I feel like when it happened, she was like, well, yeah, of course. Like, this was your path in life. You're supposed to, like, just somehow get on this crazy TV show. Like, I feel like she saw it coming somehow. and but while I was going through it she I mean both of my parents they were like emotional roller coaster sometimes more than I was and my yeah my mom would have viewing parties but nobody could talk so people would come over and want to like say something she'd be like shh shh because it's like a performance a little bit because you were a performer too you know

yes so my mom my mom was a professional ballerina and a performer growing up and her dad would be like okay honey you're on and she'd have to like entertain friends and family and then my mom was kind of the same way to me and then it was totally a performance like she's watching me on national television right and she's just like I mean there was a whole thing about how I had sex before the fantasy suite and it was this controversial season and my mom's like cheering me on and like yeah yeah my dad high fived me it was really weird but uh but it did change your life, am I right? Oh, absolutely. Yes. And now she's just, you know, so proud and my whole family is proud. And they love coming on the podcast, too. So it's so cute. But I heard you

interviewing Pilot Pete. You know, I'm like, no, I'm a big, excuse me. Well, here's the thing. My mom and my dad watched The Bachelor. Okay. Amazing. Now, most of the demographic, I feel like is people my age, but my mom and dads love it. Like, we'll have episodes where my dad, literally, my dad's like he says the same thing to every girl listen i don't want to tell you but i'm falling in love with you and then my mom's like you know my dad would be like i think he's nice and my mom be like what do you mean he's nice it's like you went out to dinner with him what do you know like all of my mom they trash the people then my mom trashes my dad for like 30 minutes then i get one word in you should do a podcast with your husband doing bachelor recaps oh we have we have he's very good

but he like sometimes he won't come on sometimes he's very inconsistent sometimes he's in the background. I'm not coming on. You know, he's not so happy. But listen, the show is there's a reason it's so popular. Oh, my gosh. Yes. I mean, they know what they're doing. It's been 30 however many seasons of both Bachelor and Bachelor.

And then there's Bachelor in Paradise and all of that stuff. Like the show clearly knows what they're doing. Now, my favorite part is that there's all these douchebags that come on to promote their music and like, I'm a singer songwriter and then they like come on with a guitar. And then ABC is so sick of people being like, you know, ABC sets them up for success after.

Then they go out and now they have all these followers and now they can promote their music. So ABC was like, you know what? We're going to make a show about musicians. And then they did listen to your heart. And I'm like, that's hilarious. I didn't watch that one. I think because we're in the COVID period. Listen, I literally am attached to CNN.

If you turn it off, I'll stab you. All right? I don't, I have some. No, it's not stab anymore. It's like, I'll cough on you. Like, that's the new. of hurting. I feel like I have to stay connected.

Like there's some weird anxiety going on. But do you get more anxious because you have that on at all times? Like I have to shut it off because I get too overwhelmed. Yeah. I think most, I have an older daughter. And she definitely feels like you and she has a child. So I think she like won't watch it. So when she's over, I'm almost annoyed baby.

I'm like looking at, I'm like, wait, is she leaving it? Like I got to get on my CNN. okay two hours time's up get out of there i know it is addicting to watch the news because there's so much different information coming to you at all times so it's like keeps you on your toes i think this is such a surreal period in history right yes and i think that you watch it because you cannot believe you're in it that's true that's very true right i mean i just can't and we all have the people you know for us for me it's governor como i mean i'm going to sign up to get on a date even though they're 37 years for you know screw the husband but you know he comes

on and it's like you know like your mother is with the bachelor but i just think that's what it's about today is that it's that connection with whatever whatever you're feeling you know for me at CNN i have landis and cooper i have boyfriends on you know i have a big crush on Anderson cooper oh my god yeah him and what's the bravo Andy um yeah yeah i knew you'd like that I mean love, love. Yeah, mine's a new obsession. I never watch Bravo TV and I started following Andy on Instagram

because my boyfriend's mom is also in love with him and now I'm in love with him. Well, I think that's where he's had his best, by the way, on Instagram and his stories with the baby. But let me tell you, they aren't in love with us. No. They're definitely not in love with us. I have this weird thing where I am attracted to gay men,

like my instructor on Peloton. I like have the biggest crush on him every morning I look forward to seeing my Cody and I like, I'm like, Caitlin, he's gay. But it's funny because every guy I've ever, like, thought was cute. My friend will be like, I think he's gay. And I'm like, is he? Maybe it's my thing too. Yeah, apparently we can't tell.

No. I mean, Andy Cohn is you could kind of tell. I mean, no. I think he's a tricky one to tell. Oh, Anderson Cooper is definitely tricky to tell. He's very tricky. Yeah. But they're both, they're just so, like, handsome and like.

Yes, just very handsome. That's a great word. And also smart and successful. Oh, yeah. And those two. Besides the looks. I got my line up at night. And my husband comes in and I'm like, he says one word.

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It's been in the works, right? Yes. Okay, are you allowed to talk about it? Because that is something I would tune into. So right now we're in a shopping agreement. We're trying to pitch it to some production company. So that's where we're at. But yes.

Well, then you're in a good place because L.A. has so many, you know, different people. Are you able to do that all online right now, like through Zoom meetings? Well, it happened before this. That's the crazy part. Yeah. It's that they came to us. It's the craziest part of the whole thing. And it was everything was signed and then the whole, you know, the apocalypse hit.

Right. The world started. Right. So now it's in, it's going, it went to an agent, now it's in a production company. And so, you know, it's definitely was delayed a lot because of all this. Oh, well, I just signed for nine months. So we'll hope. Okay. Well, I'll put out all the good energy because I mean, talking to you for even 30 seconds. I'm like, I need more. I need more than whatever this 30 second podcast is going to be. And now I'm going to start listening to your podcast. So this is great. And so you do, you do relationship advice. Now, and Tori, you said you went through a breakup. Are you still single now? Are you dating? No, I'm still single. Okay.

I don't know why I had to think about it. Sometimes you want to answer it in a certain way. So maybe you were like, ooh, how do I say this? I told her to go on the back. I'm like, why don't you? No, this is what she'll say to me. Okay. My mom is like a very mother that will give you like a backhanded compliment.

She'll be like, you should go on the bachelor. And then I'm like, I don't know. And then you're like, you're not hot enough. I'm like, what? And then she'll go, and then she'll say this. Oh, no, you know what I mean. You know what I'm, you're not blonde. You know what I'm doing.

You don't have big tits. You know what I'm talking about. You're gorgeous, but you're not what they're looking for. You know what I mean. She'll say the meanest thing and then end it with the word. She'll say the meanest thing and end it with the word, you know. It's like when people say something mean and then just go, just kidding. But they're really not kidding. Or when they start with no offense and then say but, which is completely contradicting the no offense part.

Exactly. So she tells me to go on it. Because he's had been so brokenhearted. And so, you know, as a mom, it's so hard to watch that. And I'm like, by the way, not that the show is not like a showstorm. I was going to say, well, then she'd have to get brokenhearted. I mean, there's a 99% chance she gets her heart broken on national television. Yeah, the last one with Pete, that was, I was like, she shouldn't go on this.

This was like, the poor guy. I mean, my husband and I were like, yes. at the TV, make a decision already. Is it that hard, Caitlin? Like, is it that complicated and weird? I mean, yes, because you have so many different producers talking to so many, like, talking to all the different girls and talking to you and you, it just feels like they try to confuse you at some points.

So it does get confusing because you're like, wait, do I want to spend the rest of my life with that person? And then you're thinking about like you're forever. So then you just, it's, you're easily manipulated because you're already so like you're a little fragile mess in there. And you don't have your family or your friends to like ground you. You have producers trying to make a show. So it really does get that confusing. But Peter was like a whole other level of confused.

I never saw. I was like, I was like, what about? Who was the Hannah, Hannah, wait, Hannah Ann? Hannah Ann. Yeah. I was like, she's gorgeous. My husband and I is screaming. kick her already what the hell's wrong with you and then the mother was the best part of the whole thing oh barb was the show

she was the show they needed her they really did sorry no they did and she i think she i think barb knows it like she was honestly she was so she was the perfect amount of like dramatic and like a mom but also like going a little too far and then the whole barb cam on the like um after the final rose oh that was phenomenal It was the best TV I've ever seen. Yeah, it was. It's so funny because everyone was always like, oh, the season of The Bachelor is the worst. But it honestly was just good in a different way.

Like it was just like a hot mess in a way different way. Exactly. But, you know, like you, I listened to the whole interview. You were so good with him, though, honestly. Yeah. Because I'm sure he's coming off this, you know, whole season that it doesn't make them look too good. But you handled it so beautifully.

I really enjoyed listening. I really did because of you. Thank you so much. That's so sweet. I think he needed you probably as a producer. He needed you to be his producer. I could never be a producer because I can't help. Like I can't handle hurting people's feelings or like disappointing anyone.

And I feel like I would just be like way too nice to be a producer. I mean, I'm not way too nice. But like I can't manipulate people like. So they're that tough. Oh yeah. And I love them. I'm friends with like mostly all of them. even though they put me through hell, but it's, it's their job and you have to always remember that.

But yeah, it's Peter, Peter, I think means, well, he's just, he's a young boy. I was going to say they're so young some of them. Yeah. I think this is the problem. My husband, I would scream at the TV, 23. I have a great, wait, I have a great idea. You and your husband need to be someone that they go on a date with for relationship. No, all three of you, because you give relationship advice.

So all three of you. And then the date could be like they come on a podcast and you guys could like be in the studio and do a live thing and do relationship advice. That sounds good. Because you're so entertaining too that that would be a really good date. And my mom is not afraid to ask the question. She'll be like, Pete, what's going on?

What's going on in your head? What's, wait, and she can pecker. And mom, why did you kept saying the word pecker about him? I think you were referring to his dick. You kept saying, you kept saying, please. Pete the pecker. What was it?

You're like he's getting his pecker something? Pete the Piper, I think I said. Peter Piper Piper Piper. You kept being like his peckers getting wet. Like you kept saying that. Oh, God, Torrey. Yes. We were just like, we were just like getting the goddamn fantasy suite.

Do it already and pick one of them. Come on. We're doing so fresh. No, my husband would be like, I'm on my way home. And I'll be like, dinner's. He had the trays, like, in front of the TV, and I would have to pause it if he was a minute late. No, I swear. Oh, gosh.

That makes me so happy. I'm like, I usually do recaps when the show is on every Thursday. And now I just have new guests to talk to every recap because this is incredible. I mean, okay, now I have to ask, do you have any relationship questions for me? If you, I like, I like being, like, outside the box, you can ask me anything. Tori, go ahead. You need help. Wait, I do?

No, me, me, me, me. She always says that. I know you're in a relationship now. Yes. I'm like, am I a stalker? I mean, I could be. I know. No, you did research.

No, you did research. That's good. She's in a beautiful relationship. Yes. So ask her how the hell you do this. Okay. Well, oh my God. Even through miles away, you're still harassing me.

I mean, I don't know if I have any, like, advice. I mean, I guess right now it's so hard to date with quarantine and I kind of said this on my podcast. It's like either you're meeting up in the park with the mask and then what or and then the second date is always leading to like the apartment. Like it's just it's just kind of hard and it's just hard to see. And also I've noticed in L.A. and I asked my friend, I was like, it's very interesting in L.A. I don't know if it's a quarantine thing or an L.A. thing where guys would be like, just come over or like let's hang out. And I'm like, that's so weird. I ask my friend in L.A. And she's like, I think that's an L.A. thing where guys in L.A. just, like, want you to come over.

I don't know. That's so strange. I mean, like, why would that be an L.A. thing? Because this was her excuse. It didn't make any sense. She was like, because there's so many famous people in L.A. that they can't leave the house. So they had the people that go on the dates with the famous people have to come over. And I was like, so what, it just trickled down to the normal people in L.A. too? Like, where are you getting this advice from? That's so.

strange. I mean, if I ever just met a guy, I probably wouldn't want to just go over to his house. Yeah, but I'm saying, like, what do you think is the appropriate type of, like, dating in quarantine? I don't even know. I can't even imagine. Like, I feel like no matter what situation you're in, whether you're dating or you're single or you're married or whatever, it feels like impossible to be around somebody this much or be so lonely during this time. But I feel like my sister has been going on a couple of quarantine dates. And what they do, is they where is she from or where does she live she's in like the small town i grew up in in alberta canada wow okay it's called le duke and she will go with guys she she's been on

two dates um again um so they'll go and they'll pull their cars up into like a park and they'll face backwards and like sit in the back of their vehicles and like talk and that's like their quarantine date yeah is it so sad on i mean that's so sad that's so sad that is sad. It's so sad. You can't, you can't even hug. Well, it's funny because, I mean, it's not so funny. So my other daughter is married to a doctor. So I said to him, how could Tori date? What can she do? What is the parameters? He said, only touch the hand. Because Tori was like, I can't go with a mask on. And I said, you better go with a mask on. First of all, she's a hypochondriac. So now she's going to leave herself open for COVID. I'm going to kill myself. And we told her.

But the thing is I already had it. And then do I tell the dates that? And it's also like this weird thing. It's like, oh, it's like, do I tell? It's kind of like it, you know what it feels like dating in COVID if you had code? It feels like you had an SD that was curable, but you don't want to bring it up. So it's like a weird situation.

You're like, do I tell them I had COVID? Do I not? Do I just let it slide? Yeah, like I was just saying that same thing. It's like having herpes and being like, but it's not flared up right now. So we're okay. Yeah, or like, I had chlamydia, but like it's fine. You know, those things go away.

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It's the thing. Can you find love in a pandemic? I want to know you're feeling. I think you can because look at the couple from Love is Blind, okay? They were in pods and they didn't get to touch and they got engaged. within a week of filming and they're still married like a year and a half later good point and and so dating in quarantine is kind of like dating on love is blind where you're like in pods and like just doing online but you still get to know the person in fact you could almost argue that you could find

more sincere love in the pandemic because all you are probably having more conversations and getting to know each other better before taking it to the physical level right I would agree with that yeah yeah i i you're so right that that was another good show yeah it was a good show i got to interview jessica from it for my podcast oh the blonde yeah the voice yes and she was so good about it because you know she had a rough edit or whatever you want to call it yeah and so i kind of talked to her about that and she just said like it was so hard for her to watch back because she was like i definitely did drink too much i was wasted i was in this like intense situation that I've never been part of it's like a social experiment and I was just kind of like

she's like I was almost like really anxious that I was drinking and then they showed my drunk parts and yeah it was great like a real noosh one you know what I mean we had Kenny we had Kenny Barnes on our podcast you remember him he was like the tall blonde guy yeah oh and he was yeah he's with the girl who was like the life coach and she was a fit they were kind of like the like the least exciting couple I would yeah well I'm dramatic they were the least dramatic yes yeah but he was saying like i'm sure that's how you feel on like the bachelor or bachelor it's like you're when you're under these circumstances like you say the word love but it's like in that moment i don't know he was like trying to explain it and also but i

understand it's kind of like when you spend like two days with like a guy and it's like a vacation it's like nothing's really like real yes it's such an experiment because you're put in unique like especially on the bachelor you're put on these extravagant dates it's like the most romantic setup i mean that's why we will love it exactly but it is kind of ruined when you're there you're like but all these producers are watching me and there's cameras everywhere and like you kind of it kind of takes away from some of the romance but you are put in these unique situations where all you're supposed to talk about is love and where you came from and you're like how you are in a relationship and they break down your walls and they obviously do that in the pods too on love is

blind and it's just like a whole other situation that you would never be in in real life. So it does totally break you down and make you so vulnerable with your emotions because you're forced to talk about them. Well, like I look at that, the two, what's at Jojo and Jordan, right? Yes. So they were very successful. Yes. Right. I'm very intrigued by them. Yeah. See a lot of that. Yeah. So I've talked to her about this because my relationship out of the show lasted three and a half years, which is a long time for, it's a long time for, you know, coming off that show and and not working like for it to work for three and a half years and I was talking to Jojo about it and she said like you go through really hard times after the show because it's such a crap foundation to start on while you're like you know dating other guys all at once where they have to all live together and then you like weirdly become friends with them so you like you just know too much about that person's dating life while you're falling in love with them and so I think you go through like a really really rough patch it's just about if you can come out of it and move forward because time heals all and well most time can really heal like some wounds and I think that they just made it past that

really hard time and have seen like the importance of their relationship which is so incredible for for the couples that are able to do that right the few are able to do but why do you think that the bacheloretts always seem to have longer relationships or actually make it work besides the bachelors i don't know um i remember at one point i was trying to figure that one out and i was thinking like Is it because men are able, and I don't know the answer to this, and I'm not trying to say women can't get over things. I'm saying, are the men more able to get past it than women afterwards? I'm married 37 years.

Yes. Yeah. Totally. Men get over it much quicker. Yeah. Absolutely. And what? Women just want to, like, stay and make it work more?

Like, they're willing to put the work in? I think women want to have relationships. Yeah. Yeah, and a man could go on and he can get another woman in two weeks and be in love again. It feels like, yeah, it feels like the woman like, like she can, you know, women are like nurturers and can fix and like take care of them. And then I think guys just are more like, oh my God, I can't put up with this. And they're off to the next. Yeah.

Right. Yeah. And I think, you know, that's what the show epitomizes in a lot of ways, right? Especially when you become like The Bachelor. I feel like men feel like they have this special, like, you know, they all of a sudden they have this vibe about them that they're like, I was the bachelor and they, you know, go on to think that maybe they can get, I don't know, I don't know. Well, my husband's like, what a head trip.

Like he loves it. He's like, like, mesmerized. He's like with the guys that goes, could you imagine all these women like flaunting around? Like, he cannot get over that. I know. That's why he runs home. Not for me to watch this. He's like he's slipping through it.

I mean, it is so fascinating. And like you said, there's a reason it's been on for so long. And I mean, the franchise, but here's the thing. How do you think this is going to move forward with the pandemic? I have no idea. I think they'll probably do it like Big Brother with the cameras. Like cameras will be in the room and they won't be traveling as much. Yeah, they can't.

I don't think they can travel anywhere this if they record this season. But you have to, I think. in the any especially in that first of all you have to have people that are willing to maybe get sick I mean it's scary we're not we're not talking about what it's scary my mom's like tory I think you got a better chance this season finally better chance I'm gonna you really have to put your life on the line for love this time I think they have to COVID test everyone every day like you're in the white house yeah they probably do and like take take your temperature when you wake up and like monitor everyone and I don't think you're going to have a lot of people like running to do this

right now. That's true. I feel like you might because think about how many girls have been single in this quarantine. They're like, I'm done with this. I just want to find. I think the quarantine might actually help people want to be in relationships more because you're realizing like life is short. This is scary. Yeah, but how do you get everyone kissing? Because it's about saliva. So, no, I thought of this. Listen, I'm going to miss my show. What do you want? I mean, I've had to think about this it's true and you could say like all the single girls are blah and then all the people in relationships are like I want to be single and we're living with quarantined with their with their partner I've been really

not like that because we have he's he goes upstairs at like seven in the morning to work doesn't come back down till 7 p.m. and then we're like oh like we like miss each other somehow oh wow that's so cute though well we're only a year and a half in so talk to me in five. So you live in Canada, right? No, I'm from Canada, but we actually live in Nashville. Oh, wow. I love Nashville. Oh, do you like it? Oh, we love it. I mean, it's tough right now because we're not doing anything. But I love, love, love live music. I actually love blues music and I grew up loving country music. So I'm like in the right place. And Jason is actually like, he's from Buffalo, New York and he yeah and he's like he loves a big city he loves New York he loves he lived in

Seattle and he was like oh this town so sleepy I need like action and then he came to Nashville and I live out in the burbs and like I just wanted two dogs and a backyard and like he came out here and after about six months of living this he's like I love this and so now yeah we really really like Nashville it's it's it's like feels like home now I've been here for four years Is it shut down there? How is it there? It is. It's phase one has started like things are reopening this week.

I went to my dentist appointment. Oh, look at you. Yeah, I was, I'm doing an Invisaline. I don't have them in right now. But I was like, what a shitty time to go through Invisaline because I was like five weeks late with like the same old gross trays trying to like put them in every day. And I'm like, I need my new ones for my teeth to move. And anyways, not big problems to have during quarantine. You could have just got embraces at this point.

No one's going to see you. I think it's the best time to get surgery. I keep thinking, what should I get done? No one's going to see me for a while. She actually said to me, I want to get my lips done. I said, were you out of your mind? I said, sit your ass home. Crazy.

But actually, there was a plastic surgeon that wrote an article about all his celebrity clients because they're always on Zoom that they want to come in and get surgery. now and he has to say to them I'm not doing it. I think his name is Stephen Levine. No, I just read this whole thing. People are like they really wanted to work. I'm like oh my God. It's funny because

my girlfriend in Nashville she actually had just opened up a small business called Indy Skin Care where she does skincare and Botox and all that stuff and she had just like had her grand opening and of course this happened and she said she's never had so many phone calls in her life

of people just begging to come during this time or for her to do house calls you know it's so amazing how lexon when you live in new york when you live in new york city i always say when i go outside it's like i'm in world war two and i've got the military outside and i'm dodging one guy then the other and it's just it's it's really not an easy situation in the streets we're so dense here and everything i used to love about it i really hate it now i know Jason's brothers in New York, and he's saying, like, how they're on the Upper East Side, Upper West Side. Is Upper East Side, like, where it's like a friendly, like, dog area?

Yes, that's where I lived. That's where I, so I was on Broadway for six months. I did, like, a Christmas special out there. It was so much fun. And I got to live in, on, like, it was on 93rd and Broadway. Okay. Right by the park. Yeah, right by the park.

And it was for two months, and I absolutely loved it. But I can't even imagine it there during this time. It's wild to think about it. I think, you know, we're very shut down. Yeah. I mean, although, you know, you still have a lot of people. I mean, you cannot control all these people. Yeah.

It's impossible. I would never get on a subway or no, I don't even know when again I would. I don't care what yellow blinking light they show me their clean with. What do you mean? Wait, what are you talking about? They show this, like, blue and yellow that they're sanitizing. I'm like, I'll never get on that thing again. Then you got, I wouldn't go in an Uber.

And my husband's like, just be fine. Put a pair of gloves on in a mask, no way. Yeah. I wouldn't take a cab. Now, I have a problem. How the hell am I going to get around? I'm going to be living on a block. You're going to be, like, gray gardens.

Thank God we live in a time where we can Zoom, we can get food delivered to the house. alcohol delivered like thank god for the the world we live in during this time because i don't know what people would have i mean this happened but like the was it the spanish flu yeah 116 years ago i think that's crazy it's so crazy i mean it's nuts okay it's that time of the pod where i sit back taking the beautiful scent of my home and tell you about the company i love i'm talking about Caldrea. You've probably heard me talk about how I've been loving this brand and Jason's been reaping all the benefits too. Caldrea is a consciously crafted home and body care brand that combines thoughtful ingredients with amazing, amazing, amazing sense, making caring for ourselves and our

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and I'm here to listen. Okay, well, I'll tell you something. I don't think my mom knows the whole story. Well, the thing is, I think she kind of knows it because I did a reenactment of it on TikTok, but my mom doesn't know what's real or what's fake for my sketches. So right before I left L.A., I was staying at my parents' house,

and I was FaceTiming this guy that I think I had like two dates with in New York. I don't even know if I told my mom this. This is news for her. and we were FaceTiming and things every time with this guy I always got like very like sexual I don't know why I'm whispering my mom's here the one person I wouldn't want to hear things go guys very sexual and anyway so things are getting like kind of hot and heavy on his end all of a sudden my mom barges into the room I'm staying in her apartment and then she's like where's daddy she doesn't even say where's your father she's like where's daddy where is daddy he needs to pull out the bed you're not going to sleep on the couch now this guy is basically like holding up his dick at this point on my phone okay my mom just keeps repeating where's daddy where's your daddy okay i'm 29 she's calling him daddy now the guy is like what like you could see his face i'm trying to hide the phone now once you hide a phone your mom is like she wants to know who it is who you're talking to who are you talking to it's nine o'clock and i'm talking to i'm like mom it's my friend and i can feel my face getting

bright red and all she keeps saying is where's daddy where's your father not it doesn't say father where's daddy and then the guy is literally like holding up his hard dick being like should i call you back. And I'm just like, no. And then she left. Mom, do you remember this? No, but I saw something on TikTok with the spatula. I thought it was a joke.

And so now I'm thinking it's real. You held up a spatula like you were going to have sex with her. Someone was, and I honestly. No, the sketch was that I, the spatula was like his dick. So my mom saw the video on TikTok, okay? Now, you know, with your mom. Daddy. She's laughing. And I go, what that is she? Is that a dick? She's supposed to be telling. Oh my God. This is amazing. So I, that was like, but I think a lot of people can really, like, I feel like, you know, people are who are home.

They went home with their family. Like, maybe they went on a few dates with a guy in their city. Now they're at home. They want to, like, keep things going. But their mom's walking and being like, with daddy, which daddy. That's so funny. I bet a lot of people, like reached out and said oh my god i'm living at home trying to get sexy too yeah that's awesome yes that's a good one very good one what about you what about you okay so i will admit which i think i should tell this i have a few stories of course but i'll make this quick so when we all thought we had covered you know which we were panicked you know like hysterical i mean you know we get the chest is hurting. It's not even funny, and I don't want to make this facetious because it's a scary,

scary thing. But it's comical how it went down. Okay, so Tori has a comedian friend who now finds a surgeon on the Upper East Side that does barium surgeries. Okay. You know, barium. What is that? Am I saying right? I think it's through the backside. Okay. Okay. But anyway, this guy has decided to do COVID tests at the house, your apartment. I shouldn't say apartment. So Tori calls me up and she goes, don't worry. I found a guy through this friend, Natalie Friedman. Natalie Friedman, she's going to call this surgeon and he's going to come give us all a test.

And I was like, oh, thank God. So my husband, so they call my husband the doorman and they say, there's a guest here. Okay, well, my husband now says, you have to understand, And we're within a dormant, everyone's very afraid, obviously, of COVID. They send out letters, you know, please let us know if you have any symptoms. You need to quarantine. You know, you go on an elevator. I mean, it's a scary shift in, you know, in Manhattan.

So the guy comes in and my husband said, do you want to change, you know, in our apartment? And he goes, no, I'm already changed. Now, any comes and literally, it was like he was taking off today on CNN in a hazmat suit. I mean, you couldn't see a part of him, all right? He had, it was the full-on more than they wear in the ER. I've never seen anything like it.

Okay, so he comes in and he's got, and I wanted my husband, I was like, I'm so scared, it's going to hurt me, so my husband is a dentist and he brought the numbing stuff that even numb my gums and up my nose.

I was like petrified, and I got him, just wait, my husband's going to numb me. He goes, don't be silly, And, you know, he takes out the big, you know, the big, you know, the tube, you know, you swab and the two tips. So then I'm looking and I'm going, wait a minute, maybe I should fix him up for Tori. So he takes out the swab and he got to go to him.

Wait a minute. I said, doctor, I won't say who he is. Doctor, I said, are you single? And he goes. And he goes and he's like, he goes to me. No, I'm not. And I was like so disappointed. I'm like, all right, put it up my nose.

Meanwhile, Tori, then tell her to Caitlin what happens. So, all right, so he gets the, you know, swab. He leaves, shuffle, shuffle out. Like, you know, like he's ready to take off. I mean, he has not taken anything off. He can't breathe. I don't give a shit. It's a walking doctor.

I'm going to, I shall, I'll make the wedding. I was like so disappointed. Go ahead, Tori, Susan. No, so then he came to my house because I was saying in Brooklyn at the time. And he is in that, my mom says a full hazmat. You can't, you could, you could just see his eyes. And you can't even really see his eyes. He's got glasses on.

And he opens the door. And the first thing he says, he's like, oh, my God, you look exactly like your mom. Now, I don't know the story, right, that he tried to set me up with him. Now, he's talking to me like a little more than, like, usual. I mean, not that I've ever had this experience, but I'm like, all right, he's being fun. Like, then my dad tells me the story. Your mom tries to set you up with him. And I was like, but mom, you couldn't even see what he looked like.

And my mom was like, I don't know. He said, doctor. I didn't care. I was in he looked like he was 40 I was like good age he's a doctor on the up east side let's go let's do this but oh by the way we follow each other on Instagram so things might be looking up oh yes wait was he just saying he wasn't single because he was like thrown off and he really is single yes I think so I think he didn't want some yenta mother that he didn't even see the daughter yet fixing him up who probably had it was hysterical that the husband was going to numb her up

to get the chest off her nose so even if my mom's most darkest time she's still thinking about me being single i think that's every mom though that is every mom and then when you aren't like when you find the one then they're going to want babies then they want to be grandparents yes that is that's that's the phase uh my mom's in right now is she yes she wants she wants she wants babies and I said, Mom, let me get married first. Aw. Not that I, like, go in some traditional order. Like, it's fine.

Yeah, listen, you don't have to today. Yeah, exactly. Maybe I'm pregnant right now. I'm usually drinking during this podcast. No, I'm not. No, I'm not. Who are going to be drinking right now? I cannot wait to pour myself a glass of wine.

I'm going to tell you that. I've had a day. I've felt. Okay, I'm going to just ask, I asked some people on my Facebook group and listeners to ask a couple relationship questions for you guys. to answer and then I'll let you go. But Hannah asks how long after a divorce or long-term relationship should you wait before you start dating again?

No, that's any either either. I'm more experience, but that's okay. Well, I think, I don't know how it is with a divorce, but after my breakup, which was very serious, but no way near a divorce of marriage. But I think sometimes it's a catch-22 because you want to go on dates to like kind of get over so you're not obsessing about him, the ex. So that's what kind of I did. I kind of like jumped into dating quickly. And I think that did help because it helped me get over him. And it also kind of helped with the dating because I wasn't so obsessed with these other guys because I was thinking

about my ex. So it was almost like I think it's different for everyone. But I think going into dating like a month after, I think definitely helps. Mom, what do you think? You know, I think it depends on the person, right? I think it depends on what happened in the relationship. they need to heal, if they need therapy. I mean, there's a lot of different scenarios that happen. I think it's a very personal decision. Some people like to jump right in. You know, and you always hear about that people.

They dated someone for 10 years and then they found the one the week after. And then you talk to people that it took them years, you know, to meet the right one. So I think it's really, you have to have, you know, the instinct to kind of decide, do you need this space alone to heal? and also go through a process. I agree. I went through a terrible breakup that I've talked about before the Bachelor one. I read that too.

Yeah. And I was like not okay and needed time to heal. Whereas my last relationship, I was just in a much different place in my life and found somebody quickly. And it's just, you're right, it depends on the situation. So two different scenarios. Yeah. Two very different ones.

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Get $30 off plus free shipping by visiting waterpick.com slash OTV and using promo code OTV. Okay. And then Sierra asks, when is it an appropriate time for a daughter to give input on their parents dating life? Like, for example, like how do you handle it if one of your parents' is in a relationship and you don't like the person they're dating? Like when are you allowed to have input in that?

Well, I think I can answer that pretty well because my mom passed away young. And so my dad had like three marriages, three engagements, and I always had input to say. Most of it was negative. So I think you really, as I reflect back at obviously, you know, this process that he went through, I really should have just cared about was he happy, but I think it's really difficult as a child to watch your parent date someone that's not your own parent. I completely agree. I've been in that position as well.

And I don't know if I've ever actually told this on a podcast or not because I repeat myself all the time. But when my mom first started dating, who's now my stepdad, he came home and they had just been on like their first date, I think. and he came back to where I was living with my mom. And I was like, well, you're not staying the night here. And he was like, oh, no, no, I'm not. I'm staying down the street.

And I was giving so much attitude. I can't remember how old I was, but old enough to know better. And he was like, no, I've got to. And my mom looked at me and she's like, Caitlin, take this seriously. And I looked at her and I said, mom, the guy you brought home has frosted tips in his hair. How am I supposed to take this seriously? because he had like blonde frosted tips and he was an older man and I was like and I just called him out for having frosted tips and now I love him so much and he's like

makes my mom so happy but yeah I can understand there is times where I just want my mom's like what do you want me to just sit on the couch and be alone and sad and I said yes right and you really the truth is you kind of do but then I could always remember my father coming into the empty house and feeling so awful but not awful enough I just couldn't never like anybody it's hard it's it's a tough thing it is you know what therapy yes i am a big believer in therapy too we all yeah absolutely episcuits are yes and also like like you said it's you have to really dig deep into thinking if that person makes your parent happy yeah i mean huge uh okay um julia says i have a 16 month old daughter and while i'm many years away from her dating and i'm

already worrying about her getting hurt. How do you protect them from heartbreak or help them through it? Any advice on how to raise your daughter and keep an open narrative when it comes to dating and anything in general? All right. Let's hear this mom. What do you have to say? I think that and Caitlin maybe, I think if you're a relationship with your child,

whether it's your daughter or even son, I would guess, I don't have a son. But I think that if you always keep that relationship as open as you can, also with some boundaries, right? Yes. That you can be there for them through the bad and the good times because that's what being a parent is. And the hardest part I find that I know about your mom is that it hurts me as much as Tori and I can't separate.

I have a really hard time and I bet your mom does too. Yes, she does. So I don't think your mother or I can, could, would be able to at 16 months old if I was necessarily thinking about that time. but as the years go on, you almost prepare yourself bringing you guys up for that when it does happen. Yes. And you know what?

It hurts so much. As much as you guys are hurting, we're hurting. And you know what? There's not a lot of ways to prevent that. But to, I think, communicating, to be there and listen, you've got to listen to your child. Yeah. And you've got to hear them, even though you're in pain and underneath you're going that or what I guess you know you you have to be there so you were the shoulder for them to

cry on yeah that's good advice but it's funny because my mom will always like you know I think she always like she just wants me to be happy so like I'll tell her about a guy that like clearly there's some like red flags but she think like for instance the other day I was like this guy I met on bumble was like texting me like he was like you're hot and I'm like I think that's weird we've never met and my mom's like oh that's he's giving you a compliment I'm like, no, that's weird. You know, she always tries to see, like, the good, because she's wanting me to be happy. It is true.

But, like, there'll be red flags, and she'll be like, oh, well, you know, and then she'll always, like, related to my dad. She'll be like, well, your father used to do this. There's always, like, a connection. I'm like, but I'm not dating my dad. I'm not dating daddy. You know what I'm talking about Patty. Yeah, now every time you say daddy, I'm just thinking about the penis.

The spatula. The penis spatchel. The penis spatchel. that's amazing um okay rachel asks this is a good transition rachel asks how much should mothers and daughters share with each other about their sex lives just told me about the hard dick i mean so here's the thing i before starting the podcast my mom i was on one of my friends podcasts and his podcast is very much like about sex and like you're crazy and he's like 23 so it's very bad now that is really a dirty podcast so i was

telling this story how I did this thing to my ex and my mom heard the podcast. I did not know she was listening. I wasn't thinking, oh, I'm recording this so my mom could listen. I even know how she, I didn't even know she went down the radical. I didn't know she knew how to use iTunes. Like, I don't know how she found it. Yeah. So, you know, I don't, on the podcast, people always think, like, I tell my mom about my sex. I don't tell her details. I'll just say, I slept with this guy or we did everything besides sex, but I don't go into, like, details. I think that's too weird. Mom, do you ever feel uncomfortable? Well, I mean, I didn't know as much

until we started the podcast. No, I didn't know as much until I heard his podcast and I heard what Tori did. And then I said to my husband, you can't believe this. And then he's telling my dad. I'm like, why are you doing this? And then he's like, I don't want to hear this. So I was intrigued and I just kept going.

But then I was sorry I heard it. But it kind of started the podcast, but we don't we do have boundaries but until the podcast what tory was not telling me her sexual life and my other daughter i don't know i i hope they have sex and we have no clue what else going on that it makes for good podcast content but it also makes you have a like very open and healthy relationship yes i definitely think it's it's healthy and it's not like too weird i think it's a very like normal amount look i'm going to tell you something that i'd i'd Again, don't know if I've told on this podcast, but if I have, I feel like I would remember because this is so embarrassing.

So we'll end this with a confession that I hope I haven't shared before that I'm really embarrassed to even tell you guys. But my, as I have said earlier, my mom and I have this really, really close relationship and we tell each other a lot. And I always, my sister and her would always talk about sex. And I'd be like, no, I don't want to hear it. And I always acted like sex was this bad thing. And I was like, no, I don't really do it. And like, I don't really have a sex drive. and I always was saying that kind of thing.

So anyways, my mom was like, I'm worried about you. Like, why don't you enjoy sex? And anyways, one night I fell asleep in her bed. We were watching a movie. And she, the next day we were out for lunch. And she goes, can I tell you something? And I was like, what? And she was like, well, last night you fell asleep.

And I kind of heard some noises. And I was. She goes, I look over. And she goes, I think you were touching yourself. And she goes, so I just walked away and I said, you enjoy and I shut the door and I'm not sure of you're doing it. And she was like, but I was very excited because it let me know that you do have a sex drive and I was mortified. I mean, that's. She told me at a restaurant, I like started sinking in my chair because she like heard noises and looked over and it was me touching myself.

Oh my God. And what a good mother. She's like, I just let her be. I just want to do. You know what? That is something I definitely would do. I totally relate to your mother. I need to meet her because I would have been so happy.

I would have been like, go enjoy. Oh, let me step back. That is such, like she's such a good mom. Oh, my God. I die. Even just like thinking about that moment back in my head, I'm like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. And it's so funny that she told me.

Like, she could have just not said anything. And we, you know, I would have never known that she knew. but she decided to tell me at her brunch. That is hysterical and something I would have done 100%. I would pay good money to have you and my mom in the same room. You might have to set that up. We will set it up. Listen, when I move, because I keep saying I'm moving from New York City to Nashville, we can do it.

Oh, amazing. You're going to move to Nashville? I hear ambulances every five minutes. And also, Mom, why are you in the dark all of a sudden? Oh, I know, because the lights went out and I didn't want to move. because it's so dark here that's okay we're we are wrapping up i appreciate you i appreciate you ladies it's so cute because it did just keep being darker and you just kept getting closer and closer to the screen i did see that it's okay though because it's a podcast so we we don't need to use

this footage i know it's so it's pitch black and listen if you too i can open the you know we have you know it's 7 p.m everyone's clanging the pots yeah You got that? No, I always, Jason's brother showed us once because I love that so much, but we're literally in the burbs and nobody does it out here. Right. Well, we have a lot of banging. I've broken three spoons, by the way.

Oh, it really shows your heart, you know? You were just really into it. Yeah. That's sweet. Well, why don't you tell everybody where they can find your podcast, Instagram, anything that you want to promote, I guess, right now? Yes. So me and my mom have a podcast, obviously.

Everyone knows. It's called Got It for My Mama. And it's on all podcast platforms, Spotify, iTunes. And we also just launched it on YouTube. So we have full episodes now on my YouTube channel. So now only can you hear us, but you can see us like after the last episode. We had like a full blown mother-daughter fight. Oh my gosh. I'm going to watch. I'm going to watch. My YouTube channel, Tori P-I-S-K-I-N. You can follow. follow me on there as well on my Instagram. We have a podcast, Instagram called Got It from My Mama podcast. Mom, do you want to say your Instagram? Sure. Mine is Lou Piscan. Oh, you have Instagram. Now I'm going to follow you too. Oh, my God. There's a lot of the dog. It's all about the dog. Not even the grandchild. It's the dog. You'll relate. Well, I can't wait to do this. I'm so glad that you guys even came into my world somehow because it was such a pleasure talking to you and I you're so sweet you're

special thank you I appreciate I appreciate you saying that and I can't wait to chat more because I feel like you guys are special too oh thank you it was so much fun and listen stay safe yes take a breath I hope you finish your construction thank you yes tomorrow it should be all done by this week so you know that means three more weeks good and I you're just you're just like a breath of fresh Oh, thank you so much. And I can't wait to just chat with you guys again. Once this season of The Bachelorette starts, then we're doing recaps together. We got to do it. Absolutely. Okay, well, thank you. And stay safe to you both as well. Thank you. Bye. Bye. I'm Caitlin Bristow. Your session is now ending.

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