Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Intentions for the New Year — A Throwback Ep. with Haley Bristowe

Episode Date: December 26, 2023

Dust off that time machine, Vinos! Today’s episode is from back in 2019 and it aged like a fine wine. Kaitlyn and her sister Haley kick off the New Year with 12 months of 30-day challenges. Forget the overdone New Year's resolutions; it is all about setting small, achievable goals that stick.  So, grab a pen and paper to jot down their approachable month-by-month intentions for the new year. From making your bed in January to embracing zero gossip in July, it is a refreshing reminder that big changes come from the small, consistent efforts. Recorded five years ago, but these timeless tips are still kicking it. [No video for today's episode]See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Oh, crap. Merry Christmas. Let me clear my throat. No, it's not Christmas anymore. Hey, guys, welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow. I'm starting off a little pity party here. Okay.

Ready. It's hard to podcast over the holidays, traveling everywhere, and get guests. So I'm left with a last resort, my sister. I feel so special right now. So special. You know what? Thank you for being here. I had no other options.

I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. People actually really like when I podcast with people, I actually have good conversation and like banter and chemistry with. How are we related, by the way? I don't know because I'm drinking water. Like what is it? You just don't enjoy.

I don't enjoy just a casual drink. You need to get f*** up. But Caitlin, I haven't got f*** up. in a really long time. It's just not my thing anymore. I'm over it. Is that called growing up? Ugh.

Is that what growing up? Yeah, is that what that means? You don't enjoy wine or? No, because all my girlfriends do. Yeah, what is it? I don't know. You like beer? Yeah, I do.

You like the vodka. Oh, it gets me a little crazy. Oh, me too. Oh, my gosh. Have we talked about this before? I think so, yeah. I cannot drink vodka. It makes me loser drunk.

drunk. But whiskey makes me loser drunk. Vodka just makes me super hungover. Mm, whiskey makes me pretty fun. I'm a, I'm a little whiskey girl. A little whiskey and a teacup. A little whiskey girl. Mama's such a whiskey girl. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Here it goes. I'm trying to make it so not Canadian. So not Canadian. No, be as Canadian as you can be. Okay, I'm gonna. We're in, we're in the homeland. But vodka makes, okay, whatever, vodka makes me crazy. I always warn people when I hang out with them. They're like, oh, I got you a vodka. I'm like, no, no. Is there vodka in that? Don't give it to me. Yeah. I will, I will, I will, I will, I will, roundhouse kick your ass. I will, you will be mad at me because I'm mean. Yeah. Yeah, stay away from the

vodka. I'm still lingering on my cough. Mm-hmm. I noticed that earlier, which is really frustrating. You know, when you have, like, everybody knows I was really sick because I was really searching for attention on Instagram. I feel sorry for me. I was like, you know when you're like alone and sick, all of a sudden you're like I think a little you have a bigger pity party yeah for sure for sure oh my god you didn't even mean to do that no I didn't um but I was like I was looking I wasn't looking for attention on Instagram I was just so bored yeah my couch by myself and no one was taking care of me that I was just trying to entertain myself fair enough did you did you see about the NyQuil yeah I did yeah I love me some NyQuil well I don't it makes my legs go numb really

Yeah, not me. It makes me like, does it do like opposite for you? Yes. Oh, yeah. I drink NyQuil and all of a sudden I'm like, and my body wants to shut down, but my mind's like, n-uh. Really? Yeah.

Oh, that's weird. It's anxiety central. Anyways, did I introduce you? Nope. Oh, okay. It's in the description of the podcast, but I'm here with my sister, Haley Bristow. Haley, Jane, Bristow. Hi.

Hi. I love podcasting with you because you have the same sense of humor as me. Yeah. No? Oh, that was not convincing. I just, I think you're more witty than I am. Oh, yeah, definitely. Oh, yeah, for sure.

Oh, yeah, for sure. For sure. Definitely more witty than you, eh? I was talking to one of my friends on the phone and he goes, you are so Canadian when you get home around your sister. Oh, really? Yeah, and I think people said that on my last podcast with you. I think I just, like, pick it up.

It's not that I pick it up. It's that it comes out. It's that when I'm in the States, I'm really adapting and becoming, I'm really channeling my like, Miley Cyrus, like, hey, y'all. For sure. I wish I had that kind of, like a southern draw. I love that. I'll tell you, there's this one time, I really nailed it.

This lady called me, I got off the pedal tavern in Nashville, where you just peddle down the streets of Nashville and drink and I got off the pedal tavern obviously a little tipsy and I went to go back to the hotel that my friends from out of town were staying and I called what I called a cab or an Uber I called someone to figure out the address or something and I'm talking and she goes well now here's what you're going to have to do my god I love it honey you're going to have to go back just take a lift because honey you're right at the hotel the the pedal cavern drops you off right at the hotel okay and i was like could you say that again yeah please that was i just love a southern accent i'm secretly hoping you know when people go to australia

and all of a sudden they come back three months later and our cousin did that yeah and she has an australian accent she doesn't anymore but she did for the longest time but are they putting it on or is that real because i've been in i've been in nashville for three years now and i still can't bring myself to say all really yeah so i wonder anyways and I'm the type that would look for attention you know well I wouldn't pick up a southern accent just for people to be like oh isn't she darling bless her heart anyways love being home oh we love having you home it's just Sydney said the cutest thing today oh twice actually she laid there and we were you know we've we have a lot of fun at this household if you guys

can't tell from Instagram stories we have a lot of fun when we're around family our family's pretty nuts. You're not very nuts. You're not the nuttiest. No, I'm not the nuttiest of the nuts. I would say I'm the nuttiest of the nuts and mom's up there. You think mom's up there too. Oh, Sydney's right up there with me. Do you think mom's nuttier than me? Yes. Okay. So mom, me, Sydney. Yeah. And so when we're all together, oh, look out. It's just a bag full of nuts. so just a bag of nuts and you know how people say like oh you're two peas in a pod sydney and i are two nuts and a sack that just came to me wow yeah that's good well i was we're thinking of nuts and then i was thinking of saying two peas and a pod and i was like huh two nuts in a sack

we're two nuts in a sack brodie would kill himself laughing at that really oh he loves anything to do with penis jokes pretty much and farts today i said happiness and he died yeah yeah Yeah, see. So we're dancing, we're having fun, we're playing the drums, we're being crazy. And then we lay down to have a good little, like, quiet time, Christmas movie. And Haley and I grew up watching Pee Wee Herman's Christmas. Yeah, we did. Holiday special, it was our jam.

I remember taking out all the boxes from the basement to get the decorations out, and we were like, where are the VHSs? Because we need to watch Pee We Herman's Christmas. Which is how we opened to this podcast. What? podcast i haven't even had to sit in my wine yet yeah oh that's ew why do i do this to myself i was just trying to bug you because you're my sister i like to push your buttons but really it bugs me and that was just like backfired a backfired sydney would say

instant karma instant karma that's what that was anyways that's what that's what we were singing at the beginning of the podcast yes yes christmas merry merry merry christmas If you guys don't know, Pee Wee's Christmas, do yourself. Go watch it on Netflix. It's on the flicks. And so we were dancing and we laid down and we were just having this moment of quiet time and watching Christmas movies. And Sydney said, Mom, I'm just so grateful. Thank you for everything.

I kind of, I feel like I'm going to cry because I'm just so grateful. And I'm like, yeah, she's amazing. She is. She's amazing. She is such an amazing kid. Both of your kids are amazing. And then she said it again on our way home. You know, we went, we took them swimming tonight with their cousins.

Yeah. And we had pizza and on the drive home. She goes, I'm feeling that grateful feeling again. And I said, you know what, Sid? Being grateful is probably the best feeling you could feel every day of your life. Absolutely. If I could feel one thing for the rest of my life, if you had a choice, what's one thing you would want to feel every day for the rest of your life?

It would be gratitude. No, for sure. For sure. No, it's okay. You say Frigg and for sure, and it's hilarious and I love you. But I thought that would be an interesting podcast to do is on the same note as gratitude and being grateful is everybody makes these crazy New Year's resolutions. And I'm always like, new year's resolutions. I hate it.

I hate them too. And I talked about this on another podcast of just having better intentions for 2019. I like that way better. Even just saying that. Just that thought of just having. Waking up, better intentions for 2019. And so my last two podcasts were kind of like, actually, there are a lot of therapy. You can tell, you know, you can always tell what I'm going through in my life from my podcast.

This is true. You know, and I'm clearly going through a time of self-reflection and self-love. Which is awesome. Yes. And it's just the healthiest thing I could do right now. And I'm feeling a lot of gratitude. And I'm going into 2019 feeling. excited for my intentions.

Right. That's good. That's such a good thing to be excited about. And people have these unrealistic expectations of this, what are your New Year's resolutions for 2019? And what I've always said and what I always think to myself is setting small goals. Well, there's nothing small about a year. No.

So we're going to break it down now. We're going to break it down for you. Okay. So instead of you feeling overwhelmed with 2019, we're going to break it down for you. And Haley and I will be discussing 12 months of 30-day challenges. So each month will be setting a goal for yourself to do every day and 30 days, which they're small goals. Yeah, they are small and very reasonable.

And they're all about just waking up, they're attainable. And they're about waking up in the morning and saying, this is my intention today. And I'm going to do it for 30 days. and then I'm going to reward myself and I'm going to feel good that I just did something for 30 days and I'm going to reset and I'm going to move into the next month

with different intentions and then each month you can feel good about what you've done and not disappoint yourself Yeah, not have these huge expectations on yourself But all while all while, is that a saying all while? All the while.

That doesn't really apply to this. So I'll just restart my sentence. maintaining your expectations in small goals like all showing up each day for yourself right okay so let's let's start with January at no actually we encourage everybody to take take a minute go get yourself a pen pad of paper pad of paper old school it because you know what today we old schooled it we old schooled it um my laptop is dead so haley brought me a pad of paper and a pen and I said you know what this is very appropriate for what it is you know I would perfect who doesn't like crossing something off their list or writing something down

person and I don't use my phone I use post-it notes all the time or a pad of paper there's something about it even my grocery lists I do on paper oh me too and then you wrap it around the little buggy handle yeah yeah what else would you do uh hold it oh stupid that's what that's for that's what the handles for not pushing it's for wrapping your grocery list around so okay yeah I don't I don't know. There's something, I think, oh, actually, I did a podcast on this with Ben Nempton from the buried life where he said, you've got to write things down. Yep.

Because that's the first step to achieving your goals. So we are encouraging everybody to write these down instead of putting them in your notes on your phone or getting on your laptop. Kick it old school. Kick it old school style. Break it down. And, and wiki, wiki, write it down. Y'all. A.

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So we're going to start it off real simple for you, but, you know, quite challenging for others. You're going to set your alarm 10 minutes earlier than you usually would. And you're going to make your bed. You are going to make that bed. You're going to make the shit out of that bed. And you are going to do it for 30, well, 31 days, January. No, 30. Nope, 30.

Oh, I am. You know, the knuckle trick. January. Yeah. Um, 30 days. January would be 31. Yeah, what? Actually, January is 31.

Well, that is a big trick. Wow. What a mind. What a mind. Wow. We're smart. Okay. S. S. M.R.T.

January, you're going to make your bed every morning. Love it. Because, you know what they say? A messy bed is a messy head. That's deep. Deep. It's pretty deep. Especially for this podcast.

It's true. Actually, lately, this podcast has been pretty deep. Yes. Suck it, Ian. I'm still clearly hanging out to the one guy on my season of the bashway that said I was surface level. Oh, I'm like, who the hell is Ian? Thank you.

And you know what? Who the hell is Ian? Yeah. Anyways, if you wake up every morning and you make that bed, number one, it's just going to start your day off, right? You're going to feel organized and you're going to feel a little motivated. Yeah. And you're going to know that at the end of the day, you get to come home to that freshly made bed.

Totally. Wash your sheets a few times. How often do you wash your sheets, Haley? be honest this can be a confession for me oh i don't like it i don't like it once a month that's gross really yes think of how much dirt and grime and grease you drag into your bed every day and i'm not a big shower guy so i i'll see i shower every day okay okay then i then i forgive you a little more because i despise showering but i do eat in my bed before bed before I go to sleep.

So you got crumbs going on in there. Yeah, but I like, you know how you try and brush crumbs off of like your bed? Yeah, and then it just goes onto the floor and then your floor is dirty. I vacuum my floor a lot, okay? Once a month. Is that a lot for you? Anyways, gross. I wash mine at least once every two weeks, but that still is like, I just love, I sleep better in fresh sheets.

No, I totally agree. Totally agree. But how much of a bitch is this? it to put the duvet covers on my god i hate it i would rather shit in my own hands and clap then wash my duvet cover and put it back on i agree we just did that last night i actually make randy do it yeah yeah you got to make somebody else do i make my house cleaner do it she's a saint every time she's like oh weird that your duvet covers in the dryer when i need to put the towels in there i need to get me a cleaning lady mine is a she's just my hero she's my hero

Oh, and her accent, her southern accent, she always goes, girl. Oh, my God, I love it. Girl, I eat pizza every day. Oh, girl. I like her. Oh, no, she's awesome. She's awesome. Okay.

So, Jenny, right, and you know what? We're going to hold you guys to this. We want you to report back to us every 30 days of your Mott challenge. And you need to say, Caitlin, Haley, I did this? I felt really good about it. Yeah. You can tell us the truth. Did you miss a couple days?

Yeah, and that's okay. Forgive yourself. Totally. Not a big deal. It's about your intention. Did you just run out of time? Yes. Oh, are you kidding me? Well, I always make my bed.

I do not. That is something that I will say starts my day off, right? And that's why I'm suggesting it. And that's why we're starting off easy in January. Let's get into February. Okay. Give someone at least one compliment a day. I love it.

Which is so simple. It really is. Standing in line at Target. Yeah. Welcome to Target. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. I love your shoes.

Where'd you get them? That's my Target, lady. I just woke up your kids for sure. Oh, for sure. I did that on purpose. Give somebody a compliment. Yeah. You know,

reach out. I do that. It's so simple, but if you set those intentions every day you wake up and you have an alarm. Each month, you should send an alarm for every day of the month. Do this.

And then it'll remind you. Love you. Yeah. Like lots of the time, I'll just be scrolling through my Facebook. And, you know, there's friends on there that you, you know,

you haven't talked to or seen for quite a long time. And lots of the time I'll just, you know what, I'm going to send them a message because, you know, and I'll just say, Hey, hey, you were looking really good in your pictures or, you know what, your kids are adorable and, you know, and every time people come back and say, you know, that's so nice. Like, thank you for even, like, taking the time to say that.

That's, uh, Dara and I on the last podcast. We're talking about, um, how weird it is for somebody, if you just look them in the eye and actually want to know how they're doing. Yeah. Right. Like, people are like, mind blown by a baby these days. Yeah, they're like, oh, you really want to know. Yeah. You really care.

So don't just say it and a compliment to somebody just to say it. Pick something now and mean it. Like, do you really, don't be mean girls and go, oh, my God, I love that skirt. Where'd you get it? Oh, it was my mom. Oh, my God. It's so vintage of that is the ugliest skirt I've ever seen in my life. Yeah, not cool.

No. Actually mean your compliment. Tell somebody compliment. Be genuine about it. And be genuine. Yeah. Love that. Be genuine.

March. Spend five minutes focusing on your breath every day. Now, people are like five minutes. Like, people can, don't, people do not have time to watch a, one minute video on Instagram. I know. I don't. I'm like, oh, minute video.

Good luck getting through that. I know. Randy always tries to show me these five minute videos. I'm like, are you serious? See? No. But it's not that. Again, set your alarm five minutes early.

You wake up and this is what Dara taught me is to, maybe I'll make an Instagram video about what I'm about to do because it's this cleansing motion of a meditation that you, it's like you're scooping water and dumping it on your head and scoop and scoop and dump and scoop and dump and you do that for three minutes and you focus on your breath three to five minutes let's say okay focus on your breath every morning before you look at your phone yeah for sure pee do whatever you got to do there but don't look at your phone don't just just pee if you have to go right back into your bed and sit up and do the scoop and down motion an instagram about yeah i will that you can yeah for three to five minutes and focusing on your breath

every morning and then again report back to us at the end of 30 days and tell me if you feel different at the end of your month yeah you know yeah i love that and commit to it this is the challenge about you know we're not giving you a year thing we're giving you 30 30 days every month to focus on one thing and challenge yourself to not you know even those days you're like no no i'd rather sleep for five minutes no no sit up and you scoop and dump that's march This is why you guys need to write this down because you need visuals for every month. Okay, April. This is Haley's favorite.

Donate. Donate or toss something every day. And that sounds crazy to people, but I did this podcast with the home edit ladies who they're mega organizers. And they say the people who feel cluttered, it's just starting with, you know, getting rid of something. Yeah. Whether it's a blanket, a big, bulky, sweater that you never wear a casserole dish that you don't use a casserole dish like you got a couple of those laying around i'm a mom i do a strainer you know yeah i just bought a new

one and i had two other ones see get rid of that clutter girlfriend's the two other ones yeah it's but that's so easy and you can take it to second hand stores absolutely they love that google your local people will come pick up things from your house um there's um i can't remember what There's donation bins all over. Yeah, yeah. Whether it's a bag of clothes, a blanket, no matter what it is, a plate, just something, get rid of something or donate something every day. And maybe it is trash.

And maybe you do need to just get rid of it. Someone's trash is someone else's treasure. I disagree with that. Why? What if it's like something sentimental that you're hanging on to from a relationship like five years ago that you just need to get rid of? You just, you burn that shit. Yeah, you burn and turn.

That's right. You burn it and you turn the. page love on to the next one and on that note what did you have something else to say no i did not but i'm trying to think something better like okay not a blanket like what else could you oh look at your christmas trees it's beautiful so pretty that's a nice one i know um except it has glitter on it oh so you have glitter there's glitter puking all over your house and i hate it glitter glitter throughout yeah um oh hangers look all those hangers you got now i'm like just going to Look around your house and pick apart the clutter.

Look at all those cups you have. You don't need all those cups. Look at that stupid book you got laid in right. Give her that stupid. That's my favorite book, Caitlin. Okay. Keep the book. Keep the book.

What month are we on? May. This is a good one because we decided this is a nice month to get outside. Every single day. There's people out there who suffer from depression, anxiety, from anything. If you just get outside. Oh, it does so much. It's crazy.

It's crazy. Even if you're going to get groceries, park farther away and then just walk and just breathe in that air. Yeah, breathe in the air. It does wonders. It's the simple things in life, and that's one of them is fresh air. Yeah, fresh air does so much. May, not too hot, not too cold. Just right.

Just right. Just right. Get outside. Move. Breathe in the air. Five minute walk. I mean, I'm going to go ahead and say a little longer than five. Well, you've got to start somewhere.

Day one, start at five. Day 30. Keep going. Yeah. Yeah, like keep moving up. 30 minutes. June. This is my favorite.

Hey, May, get outside that you really like that one. That's your birthday month. June, my birthday month, laughter journal. Oh, I love this one. Laughter journal. Like everyone says like, oh, a gratitude journal or a thought journal or whatever, but my God, a laughter journal? What made you laugh today?

Just anything. Think about that. If you wrote down what made you laugh for 30 days and then you go back and read each day something that made you laugh. That is good for the soul. What made you laugh today? Sydney's Fortnite dance. Oh my God. She's intense.

She's hilarious. She is hilarious. Yeah. The one thing that sticks out to me, not from today, but not long ago, I had to say to Brody, Brody, take that Cheeto out of your belly button. No. Like, it's stuff like that, right? That I just, like, I write those things down so that I can look back and laugh.

Moms would have some real funny laughter journals. Oh, man. This is what I heard this morning, Lane. Layne downstairs, Sidney's upstairs talking to her friend on FaceTime. And she goes, you know what I used to think poop was? Your butt throwing up ice cream. Like, what? It doesn't even make sense.

I was like, oh my gosh, she doesn't know I can hear her, but I want to write that. See, I should. You can write that down. You write it down. Yeah, you write that shit down. And you laugh about it later. What's that from? Well, I don't know.

Anchorman. Veronica, I wrote it down in my diary and I was going to laugh about it later. Veronica made a very funny joke today. I love it. Okay. So that was June. Laughter Journal. Do it.

You will not regret that. 30 days. I love that. Laughter Journal. I mean, look at all these things. We're only half the month. through and imagine what you would feel every day and at the end of the month and I'm so sick of people making excuses yeah do these simple things for your own freaking soul and your own

happiness think about how you'll feel at the end of all these months are you speaking right to me right now right into your goddamn crystal blue persuaders your eyeballs oh okay July July July. You know on Saturday Night Live, when Will Ferrell does Robert Goulet, Robert Goulet, Goulet, Shibang, she bop, pop, thong, stuff like that. July. Anyways, July. This is going to be a tricky one, but it's going to bring everybody a lot of joy.

Zero gossip. Yes. Okay. We all do it. We are all guilty. of it definitely oh way to transition i know right i didn't say for sure yeah good for you yeah i know good for you um zero gossip like that's it's hard that's so hard and even like you can take it next level and like no negativity right like no well that would be i mean imagine a world well we can all dream

but i i happen to enjoy a little negativity every once in a while you're the devil I'm just I just I don't know there's something where I'm like no I you know what this is who I am and I'm a little negative right now so I need a more realistic goal because I think it's impossible to not be negative for 30 days okay I mean I love where your head's at but come on good effort there's no way like I'm like today I woke up had a freaking moment about the wrinkles under my eye did you yeah I did. I was like,

eh, Botox can only do so much. But I just, I was like, you know what? I have to embrace this because there's no fighting aging. I mean,

there's fighting it because there is Botox. But I mean, there's no, you can't help, but get older. And I've really tried to work on my mindset of,

you get to get older. But I was negative for a hot second. And that's okay. You're allowed. And that's okay. So the no, because then it makes you,

no gossip. Yeah. It's realistic. But the negative thoughts almost make you, human oh yeah but i mean oh oh oh yeah yeah yeah yes but it does it it makes you appreciate other things you know it does let's say let's go with that okay but no gossip yeah wow that's gonna be and you're gonna catch yourself and that's okay right as long as you're aware yeah like be aware and then do

better that's one of my favorite sayings do better do better just do you hear me i'm actually having notes on to the next page do better yeah along with the no gossiping just every day think do better yeah i love that that that's usually my intention going into the next year is do better than the last yeah just be a better person than you were last year yep yep uh august this is good these are getting a little tricky but they go back to but you're going to be a pro by august right and you're going to be so because what was the stat we looked up it takes 21 days 21 days to break a habit to break a habit and 66 to form one yep so if you're doing all these challenges every month august you're going to be like give me a new challenge your new habit your new habit is going to be

forming new habits your new habit is going to be getting addicted to your 30 day challenges yes august yoga or 30 minutes of meditation every day that's a lot that's that's a lot but why not challenge yourself that's 30 days of 365 days 30 days and you're going to feel damn good after it oh your mind is going to be so clear so fresh so clear so clear so clear so fresh and so clear so clear so fresh and so clear so clear oh my but seriously think about that yoga for 30 days okay do it and tell me you don't feel better number one I've never done yoga in my life what never why never had the desire but I think you'd really like it I think I would too but I'm so intimidated to go into yoga everybody knows all these friggin yeah but there's so um there's other places for you to go you don't need to go into I get intimidated going into yoga I used to be the yoga queen when I lived

in Newfoundland I would do yoga every day yeah and I loved it and they wanted me to instruct there because I was there every day yeah and I still get intimidated going into yoga studios yeah because i haven't done it a long time but there's there's yoga for like just stretching or just like your mind and meditation is so huge i do it all the time i've actually started to do it a lot more yeah i love it i can't believe how clear yes my mind is after and you get excited to do it you're like i'm feeling a little anxious throw on a meditation and then you feel better after so do it for 30 days, you little assholes. What is wrong with me right now?

I'm getting in a weird zone here. I know, I know. And I've only had two sips of the... I mean, I had wine before this, but... Yeah, but only, like, a glass. Like, that's nothing. What's going on? I don't know.

Tis the season to be crazy. La la la la la la la. Oh, I tried to harmonize. Horrible. Little pitchy dog. Little pitchy. Learn a new word. September.

Learning a new word of the day, I think is... And applying it. Applying it in a sentence. That's the real tricky part. That's right. Word of the day. Okay. So like, sufficiently sophonsified?

Pardon? What's that mean? Use it in a sentence. After you finish a meal, I am sufficiently sophonsified. I am sufficiently full. I am. Oh, so just say satisfied. No.

Okay. Because you want to expand your vocabulary. You say, what do they say it was? Sufficiently sophonsified. That's like when on Clueless, remember when Cher tells her to learn a new word and she gives her the word sporadically. Yes. And it's like, what did she say? It's like, oh, not very often.

Like sporadically, like once in a while. Oh, once in a while. Yeah. And then she has a, this girl has a crush on her brother. And then the brother comes in and she goes, he goes, yeah, hope to see you soon. And she goes, yeah, hope it's not sporadically. Word of the day. Word of the day.

See, this one is. is this what my phone listens to me what do you mean how do you say this canoris yeah canoris pleasant sounding or what how do you say that word which word melodious sounding or melodious melodious melodious melodious like a melody I think it's melodious melodious no no no we need the other word this is where I struggle with the word of the day because I'm like I can't even pronounce the definition okay but I think I know we were talking about pleasant sounds earlier and what we were satisfying sounds yeah anyways so canaurus I'm going to use that in a sentence later in this podcast now think about if you learn 30 new words and applying them and you'd sound I would sound

like the Vienna who is on my podcast the therapist god she's well spoken oh my gosh I was like this girl's good you know like on Billy Madison when at the end he goes, we are now all dumber for him listening to that. She talks, I'm like, I am dumb. I am. I'm dumb.

Dumb. Because I can't speak like you. October. Right? This is easy. My health and wellness coach, Aaron Trelor, maybe if I was ever like having a panic mode where I was like,

oh, Aaron, I'm feeling. She's like, go to sit at your computer and send me a hundred things you love about yourself. A hundred. Yeah, that's great. crazy one freaking hundred things one thing is heart well yeah well i mean i got down to like i was like i really love that one freckle on my back shoulder blade it's pretty sexy perfect shade of brown it's the perfect circumference and uh diameter is that in radius yeah it's just good it is good stuff

Anyways, did I mention my one eyelash that grew overnight? That thing's good, too. That's like, I had, like, that's where my mind was going by the end of it. But 30 should not be hard every day. No, one a day. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

So by the end of it, you only have 30 things you love about yourself. Like, that should be peanuts. Mm-hmm. It should. It should be. So October, write down one thing you love about yourself every day. Next to your laugh journal. Maybe it's a canaurus sound you make.

Too soon, too soon, way too soon. Okay, November. Now, this one's going to be a real bitch for me. Okay. Drink eight glasses of water a day. Oh, me too. Drink eight glasses of water a day. I know.

And that's just the norm. That's what you're supposed to. I drink one a day and I'm like gagging it down. I drink like one a day and I'm like, like oh I am doing good yeah I like I'm like I'm so hydraining yeah I am so healthy healthy a I'm like peeing every eight hours I'm so hydrated today I peed once what pardon me well actually twice I woke up this morning okay last night last night I peed sorry everybody but like I don't know what time like nine before we got into bed yeah it was an early night um and then

I didn't have to pee this morning until like 10.30. Yeah, you really need to drink more water. And then 10.30 and then until like, I don't know. Have babies. Then you'll have to, you'll pee a lot more. Well, soon enough, my friend. We were joking today. I'm like, oh my gosh, I have, I have eight nieces and nephews on dad and Kathy's side.

Is that what it is? Well, going to be nine. Going to be nine. Going to be nine. And. No, I'm not pregnant. No, Caitlin's not pregnant.

Oh, yeah, you're drinking water. I'm definitely not pregnant. One of our stepsisters is pregnant. Yes. And I was like, God, my poor kids,

my poor unborn children because they're going to have all adult cousins by the time. But then we figured that there'll be already second cousins coming around. Right. So really the timing.

It'll be fine. It's fine. Everything's fine. Everything's fine. Everything's fine. We're fine. Everything's fine. Everything's fine.

I'm not. worried not worried about it don't worry about it no there's nothing to be worried about no no we're good no worried at all no no october right one thing that you love about yourself yes yeah that was a poor sentence uh what's one thing you love about yourself right now i love my freckles i love your freckles i used to hate them oh i love them i used to like dread the summer because they come out so much more in the summer um freckles are so beautiful but now i like don't i mean i should but i don't want to put on, like, sunscreen on my face because of my freckles. I mean, that's...

Well, aggressive. Okay, fine. But I just love them. Yeah, they are good. I love your freckles. They've inspired me to... I know. I know.

When you got them, I'm like, that's right, Caitlin, you want to be like me. Yeah. Because you're probably like, your whole life, you're probably like, Caitlin doesn't have freckles. And I was always like, oh, I want freckles. It's true.

And now you embrace them. You want what you don't have. Always. Yeah. Who doesn't want what they don't have? I mean, I'm learning and I'm getting better. Yeah, but I think it's just human nature. That's just how humans are.

The grass always looks greener, right? Even though it's not necessarily, because they say that grass is watered. No, it's fertilized with bullshit. Oh, that's true. We like that. Right? With bullshit. Boshit.

Borset, bullshit, bullshit. Drink eight glasses of water is also bullshit. But that's what we're doing, guys, for November. December. Now, this one, you have to, we have to clarify. we have to um no expectations in December yeah but within reason yeah you can't just you can't you can't just throw everything away as a crutch no can't use it as an excuse oh well I don't expect it only I don't expect this you have your morals and your values but

also don't expect things from people or like like like with my podcast with with Vienna it's like your boundaries with family at the holidays. We thought December would be a good month for no expectations because it's like if you go into family stress or you're like, uh, someone's going to do this or someone's going to do this. Yeah. Go in with no expectations. You go into work and you're Monday to Friday and you're going in every day being like, my boss is

going to piss me off. This person's going to get on my nerves. I'm going to eat this bad. I'm going to not work out. Go into it with no expectations. So, you know, my boss might piss me off. but I'm going to just is that yeah yeah yeah like don't expect it and don't look for it like throw out the negative yeah um like because I I'm a big believer in whatever you put out into

the universe will come back to you yeah right so don't throw that that negative energy yeah don't have those expectations of negative things that's right that's what it yeah that's it don't expect negative things to happen to you that's right because then negative things will happen to you yeah and that's not bullshit that it's bullshit it's just not cool bro but that's it's it's just having yeah no expectations in into into certain situations in your life and i feel like december's very hectic for people it's nuts it's nuts it's it's supposed to be like the most wonderful time of the year but it's hell that's bullshit that's bullshit we we calm ourselves down with christmas happy movies but really, we're all very stressed out.

Oh, and as a mom, I feel like there's just so much more expectation. Yeah. To live up to. But don't. But you know what? When it comes down to it, you're doing that to yourself. Yeah. Right?

You really are. You are. You're putting that all on yourself. Don't do that to yourself. And then you're also putting that on your kids because they're going to have high expectations every Christmas. That's right. Mom. You know what?

You know what, mom, if you're listening, you really set the bar high, okay? Because now every Christmas when I don't have 80 presents under the tree, I'm like, what the hell gives? Like this year I put up a Christmas tree and I was like, oh shit, there's not one present under there. Well, you did ship your niece and nephew's presents to your own house instead of my house. And your present. And my present. But you told me. That is classic Auntie Katie right there.

Oh, it is like to a tea. To a tea. Mm. Mm. Mm. Mm. Mm. Mm.

Should we get to some Q&A's? Oh, let's do it. We did the 12 months. It's all about setting realistic small goals over big, ambitious, yearly resolutions. We hope this helped you guys go into your 2019 with good intentions. So Haley and I talked about doing this podcast, and we were trying to come up with what to talk about. And we realized that it was a perfect time to talk about 2019 because we're just getting into it. But we also wanted to answer some questions from listeners because my off the vine Facebook group,

just my little vinos in general. They're just the best. There's gems. They're just rare gems. And they are just so supportive. And they're like my kind of people. Like I feel like one girl said to me the other day she tweeted me and she goes, I was rocking a power pony with a dew in my hair.

And some girl came up and said, scrunchy gang and they fist bumped. Oh, that's all. I was like, you know what? Life made. If there was any reason I went on the bachelor. that is it it was to create my own scrunchy line and have girls feel like they're part of a gang

and fist bump that's so awesome yeah I really look my maiden I really felt good about that okay what kind of questions we got going on here well lots of we want to know about our childhood and

some of the yeah the crazy stuff we did as kids but I mean I was an angel compared to you Really? Well, yeah, I guess. Yeah. You think you're an angel compared to me? Well, in different aspects.

Yeah. You were more of a little biotch to mom and dad. Correct. But you were more of like a rebel and like a, yeah. But I was like a mom and dad's girl. It's more of a second child thing to her like the baby of the family. I got away with more anyways. Yeah.

you oh I definitely got away with more um okay so um favorite tv shows growing up what did we always watch full house t-g-i-f oh um full house step by step family matters and the last show always like switched it was like it always switched it was hanging with mr cooper she could put that do that hanging to mr Sabrina was in the mix sometimes. Yeah, which I liked. Oh, I know. Today's special. Come join in the fun.

Today's special. It's forever one. There's magic everywhere. A world for us to share. With friendly faces, hoping that you're want to meet us there or today's special it's about to begin it's about to begin today's special sing it loud and clear today's special today's special is garbage there is a different special every day oh and it was trash not garbage but trash

it was also a Canadian show where a mannequin then why would they say trash because it's garbage here not trash who knows they're probably americans but it was a comedian a canadian show it was anyways love that show but we were big full house people huge full house guys oh wow full house family matters oh sorry not family um today's special and there's one there's some mom used to watch her shows she called it her shows and she'd watch like days of our lives and all my children yes and i'd call today's special my show i'd have to watch my show today and it would be today's oh and lots of the elephant show like Sharon Losenbram. Sharon Lousen Bram.

This is all Canadian. Is that Canadian? Is Mr. Dressup Canadian too? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Fred Penner? All Canadian, Haley.

What about Mr. Rogers? That's definitely American. Red Rogers. R.I.P. Oh, I know. I got to pour one out for him. Don't pour that on my table. Yep.

Just did. You're a bitch. I just poured red wine on my sister's table to pour one out for Fred Rogers, everybody. For my homie. For my home boy. My homeboy, Fred. Um, what were the biggest things we fought about as kids? Uh, who got the bathroom to get ready for us before school?

Yes, the hot rollers. The hot rollers, we fought over those hot rollers. I hated you over the hot rollers. I won, I won all the time. You had to get mom to put in your hot rollers and I could do it on my own. Okay, Missy, who, uh, tried to curl her own hair when she was in kindergarten and fell off the bathroom counter and broke her arm. Yeah, well, you know what?

That's called determination. And guess who became a hairstylist? Yeah. Me, not you. Yeah, because I didn't need to make money off of it. I was just, I was too good. Oh, God. Definitely broke my rest, though.

Lots of people want to know, like, what's the hardest thing about having my sister in the public eye? Oh. Yeah, what is it? And that's a good one. You jealous, bro? Get right. Kailen, you set it on your podcast a couple weeks. There is no way you would like that.

I would not. I am happy with, like, being in LaDucal. and just live in my life and just there I know I know that for a fact I wouldn't have joked about it if I thought that was a trigger so true definitely would not like it's so true um but I you know what having you like in the public eye the hardest thing is as much as I try not to is the negative comments like I try not to read them but don't you see that like it doesn't really affect me no it does not affect you but so that I'm mean sometimes it pisses me off but don't doesn't it make it easier that I'm like yeah but I

understand because if people were talking shit about you I'd get so mad right right and that goes into another question who's who's most um you know what I'm trying to say sensitive no not sensitive like I don't know I like who has each other's back more oh you know what I mean like who's more protective I think I'm more protective of you yeah yeah I think that goes with being the older sister that's true yeah i'm protective of you but i'm also like i want to challenge you where i'm like oh you challenge me so much and i'm like screw off kately but it's because i care i know if i didn't care i just would ignore you and i would avoid you i like to challenge you i'm never i like to challenge you because i think you're capable of a lot yeah i am capable of a lot it's just

doing it's the execution it's yeah that's i have a problem with you're capable but your execution is lacking. My thoughts are like amazing, but then the execution? Yeah. Yeah. I hear that. Um, favorite summer memories. Oh, driving road trips up to our cabin at the Shuswap Lake in B.C. where mom would pack us, like the best goody bags for the road trips. Oh my gosh. Like flashlights for the tunnels. Yeah, because when you drive through B.C., like around like golden and stuff, there's all these like tunnels that you have to drive through. And I think we would get scared. so mom would get us little mini flashlights. Oh, I just thought she did it for fun.

Oh, I think we were scared. I was scared. I was scared. I was scared. Um, but yeah, we'd have flashlights. Yeah. And, uh, what was it? Oh, the, the, um, the tapes.

Oh, the story tapes. Yeah, there was like, um, when you hear this sound, ding. Yeah, turn the page. Oh, turn the page. And then we would go to our cabin that had no run. running water yeah no electricity yeah no phone lines no there was a party line there was a party line finally oh yeah where you could pick up the phone and like if it was three beeps you would hear it through all the cabins but if it was three beeps it was your phone yeah but if it was two it was a neighbor but you could

still pick up and listen yeah god i love our child i love our childhood memories too but you know what i got to bring up at the cabin oh i already know two things that you could be talking about right now okay either me pulling down my pants yes that's exactly what i was going to talk about you just went to the bottom, like right by the dock, right by the lake, and just frigging whip down your pants and just stood there. You just frigging stood there. Yeah, but I know why. It was my move where if I was angry, I would pull down my pants. If I was mad. Sick move, Kate. Yeah, thanks. If I was mad at mom or dad or you, pulling down my pants in my brain, in my three-year-old brain told me that I'll show them. I'm going to whip down these pants right now. I remember being

in a cookie monster. Yes. Pink sweatpants. pants? And I remember going, I'll show them. And I walked down the steps of the cabin. And I pulled down my pants and I crossed my arms. And I remember thinking I was proven a point. Oh, my God. I should still do that. There's a picture of that. You have it? I could probably find it. I need to find that. It was my move. When I got mad, I would pull down my pants. That is so funny. And I remember thinking like that was like a logic. Yeah, it made sense to me. It made sense to you in your brain. Yeah. And pull down your pants and you're going to teach them a lesson. Yeah.

But really, everybody was just laughing at me taking photos. Absolutely, we were. Too bad there wasn't boomerang back in that day. That would make an epic boomerang. Yeah, I would. Okay, what's your favorite thing about me? And then I'll tell you my favorite thing about you. Your sense of humor.

Your sick, twisted, weird sense of humor that, like, aligns with mine that sometimes I can't even portray on the podcast. It's true. It's pretty f***ed up. Pretty f*** up. Um, really? That's what you pick? Well, I mean, that stood out immediately, but I would say more of you, you have a very generous heart. Um, okay. And my favorite thing about you. Okay. Are you ready? No. What? No, nothing. It's just, I already think I know. What? No, you go. How I am with your kids? Oh, well, of course. That's obvious. No, but the amount of self-respect you have for yourself. Oh, I love that. Cool. Yeah. I love that. I, I, buyer to be like that oh i do that's really nice because that's something i work really hard on i know you do but it's it's something that i am not jealous of but i i do strive to be like that i that's

really nice yeah i feel like i feel like i went through i mean i talk about this all the time 20s of like um not knowing who i was but i always wanted to get to know who i was yeah and then i got to a point where i was like actually dig deep kately and get to know you're and that from I'm getting to know myself and going to therapy and being open and honest with the world and looking at myself from a different place than like a judgmental place, which I've done definitely a lot. But where I am now is, I do. I have so much self-respect.

You do. I mean, I am like, there's things I need to work on, but I know what I deserve. I know I deserve happiness. I know I'm like so unique. And I know that my heart is. It's cheesy, but it's pure. I know, I want good things and we were raised with good morals, good values, and we do have peer hearts, even though we have sick, twisted senses of humor.

And can I be a huge bitch? Absolutely. Everybody can. And that's okay. But it's all because, you know why? Sometimes I'm a huge bitch. Yeah. It's because I'm, I say no to things.

And because I'm like, no. But saying no is okay. Right. That's what I'm saying. It's, I can, I can go through life and go. this doesn't make me happy and maybe it's a little bit selfish too but but this doesn't make me happy this doesn't fill my soul this isn't what I want to do being selfish in that regard is okay yeah that is so okay and so good for your soul yeah you you have to do I am all about taking care

and you know what I do think that came a lot from going on TV because I think I realized how you can get caught up in social media or yeah some level of fame and reality fame is very short-lived and I think I was like, I need to stay so grounded and I need to do a lot of soul searching and I need to do a lot of work with professionals and I need to always work on self-love. But I remember coming off that show and crying about my hair being thin or crying about this or throwing fits about like being this person and I just worked so hard on that. And three years of hard work on yourself will go a long way. So imagine if you start now and you, you know. Yeah, no, it's very noticeable that you have self-respect, which I think is huge. That's nice.

Yeah, you're, thank you. You're welcome. That's probably one of the best compliments I've received. Oh, huh. Yeah. Okay, well, I'm glad, but it's, it's the truth. I mean, you can only be told you're pretty for so long. Oh, I mean, come on.

I'm just not more than, I used to get so annoyed at, like, dance competitions. The judges would always be like, you, you, you know, you're always, as dancers, I feel like you're always looked at for your parents. You are. And getting older, realizing, like, I think I talked about this with Dara, too, like, with Victoria's Secret models. Like, it's a dying breed because women are so much more than their appearance now. And people know it. Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's very, it's made very aware. And it's made very, um, like it's, it's, it's acknowledged. Yeah, it's acknowledged and it's respected. And it's okay. Yeah. You know. And I think too, like, like, um, seeing how much I can, like, um, seeing how much I can,

like accomplished like I'm like oh what else can I do what else can I do because I'm my own person and I can do anything yeah that's great Bree is one of my favorite things she always says um she calls herself super brie or super mom and Seb her little boy started calling her that because he's like you can do anything mom oh okay so the note that sidney gave me the other day says dear my lovely mom I love you and always remember that we all appreciate what you do and it shows a lot stay strong big girl stop swear to god and then it says we love you yeah that's like when on uh stepbrothers when he says when she says stay golden pony boy stay strong big girl that's awesome that's amazing

oh sidney i know okay bless her little soul oh she's got such bless her heart just bless her Her little soul. She's got an old soul. She does. Okay, one more. Okay. Do you think we have time? Yeah, one more. Perfect timing, actually.

Okay, good. Weirdest family tradition. Oh, do you know what this is? Yeah, ready? Wait, wait, wait, wait, I got to think. What is our whole family do? Oh, okay. One, two, three.

Hanging spoons off your nose. Yeah. That is weird. See, that's just like in my mind. It's kind of normal. But it's like all of us can do it. And I did it for at work the other day. And no one else can do.

no one else can do it nobody else oh that's how we should excuse me promote this podcast yeah let's do a picture of hang spoons okay yeah I'm full of weird weird talents that's definitely one of them it is and it runs in the family it's like the whole mom's not like we have big like scoopy noses like they're actually quite they're quite well I got a little bit of a piggy nose oh see I wish I did mine's a little bicky yeah see mine kind of tilts up a bit but it's weird because everybody has different nose is yet everybody can still do that it's the trick it's good oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh I hate that and on the spoon and then hanging it yeah but no but other people try yeah but yeah but no but yeah but no but

but no but yeah but other people try and they can't they can't do it's a skill you know what it's a life skill and my kids can do it too what it's in our blood it is it's creepy well some people are athletes we hang motherfucked spoons and Some people are a spoon hangers. And on that note, let's tell a joke to end this podcast. All right. This comes straight out of Brody's mouth. Straight out of Brody's mouth.

Why did the smartphone need glasses? Well, I know the answer, but please tell me. Because lost all its contacts. Hey, oh. Thank you for podcasting with me tonight. Thank you for having me even though I was just the only option. You know my sense of humor. I know.

You got the same one. It's true. You were joking. I'll just keep telling myself that. And we really hope everybody took some notes away from this podcast and got inspired. Please do that for yourself. You deserve it. And report back.

We're going to hold you accountable. Seriously. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Your next Tuesday. Thank you.