Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Jillian Harris

Episode Date: September 4, 2017

Kaitlyn visits former Bachelorette and fellow Canadian Jillian Harris (and her puppy Nacho) to talk about what it takes to make her beautiful Instagram page, how she met her current fiance Justin, and her decision to keep her ring from her former engagement from The Bachelorette. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Because there's more to life than Instagram, right? What's that supposed to mean? Welcome to Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Now here's Caitlin. Okay, welcome to Off the Vine. I'm Caitlin Bristow, and as per usual, I'm drinking wine in my sweats. But this time I get to do it from my girlfriend's stunning home. She is an incredible designer, and it shows.

And it makes me want to just pinch myself that this is one of my jobs. I'm just sitting with my girlfriend talking, drinking wine. So that's cool. You may remember her as the first Canadian season five Bachelorette, who went on to being the host of Love at her list. in Vancouver now she is a fiance to Justin mama to sweet Leo her website is on foiego her Instagram is the prettiest thing I've ever seen and her passion for giving back is oh is inspirational please welcome my friend who just played her

Instagram video back and it went to the mic sorry if you heard that Jillian Harris hello oh my god this is awesome I've had to learn actually now that I'm thinking about it I should probably turn my phone on silent do you have you You have wine. Is your glass full? My glass is full. My phone is off. The baby. No, your phone doesn't have to be off. Just the sound. Cheers. Cheers. That's nice. I know. We can do that all our. Should we have a game? Yes. Where we ask our listeners to pour a glass of wine. And every time we say something, what's it going to be? What do you mean? They have to drink. They have to drink. Oh. Oh, I should have tweeted that out before. I'm sure they better be drinking wine.

They can pause it, right? It's not live. Oh, push pause and go get a glass of wine. Yeah, push pause, go get a glass of wine and come back. And every time I say, um, Jillian. They're going to be so drunk. They have to drink or anything. Yeah, Jillian.

No, let's see what I say a lot and then we'll call it a drinking game. Okay. I feel like I could go on, like in a creepy way about the kind of woman you are. Woman. You're my friend, but I also feel like I have a bit of a girl crush on you. I do. I feel is mutual. You have like this cute little dress on.

Your home is the most stunning thing. You're just like, I just put the baby to bed and you look like this. Okay. Oh, my God. I'm a haggard mess right now. Thank you very much. You pull off the haggard mess look. The hair on my legs has to be at least an inch long right now.

Oh. It goes from my armpits and everywhere else. So use your imagination. Okay. Well, I don't have to. Can I see? After. I'm just kidding.

I'm like after. I'm like, which part? We'll do it on Instagram live later. Yeah, sounds good. I do that all the time, but here's the thing. You have a fiancé, you have a baby, you're busier than anyone I ever know. Notcho, don't forget Nacho, he's more high-mainteness than all of them. And the dog, Nacho, look at him.

He's a little cute peanut. And so you're allowed to not shave your legs. What is my excuse? I've had like three weeks off and I haven't shaved my legs either. Because it's annoying. It is really annoying. It's so annoying. Like a super inconvenient thing.

Like Tori, my cousin, fresh, she, she has her. her legs every day. How on earth? No, she doesn't. Yes. And she has two kids? Two children. And she's building a house and she's got two dogs. She's literally superwoman. I'm like how that personal hygiene has gone, what's going to happen to me when I have kids? My personal hygiene is already questionable. Yeah. It's going to what? I don't understand. Just braid your leg here. We'll make it a thing. Yeah. We'll bring it in. So you've got so much going on. I talked about balance in my last podcast, but I honestly don't know how the hell you do it. Oh, is it Leo crying? That's Nacho. That's notcho. Notcho. Shh. It's okay, Nacho. We're right here. So Shea, if anybody

watches my Instagram and his own stories, Shea works for me. Yeah. And she just got a new dog, um, Moose. His name was Moose. Oh, Moose. I. Yeah. Yes, the goal. He's on your Instagram. Yes. And anyways, Shay, we've had a crazy week of work and She hasn't been able to see Moose. Yeah. So I was like, bring Moose so that they can play together. well nacho and moose went too hard and now nacho's got like something wrong with his ACL and now have to bring him now to spend like $1,000 and I was because they put him down not put him down. I'm like I'll take him we're not putting you down we're just putting you under oh he's like I heard you that's why I'm crying mom oh nacho he's a whiner Leo's but he's so cute okay Leo doesn't cry but your dog does uh balance oh balance balance but let's okay I know do you get sick of talking about bachelorette stuff no Really?

No. Oh, why do I? I think maybe... Do you get past like the hump? I never get past the hump. Yes, you get past the hump. Okay, wait. How long has it been since you did it?

Two years. Oh, God, yeah. See, I'm at like 12 or something. I'm at like eight years. But yeah, eventually you want to start talking about it again. But for a while, it's really annoying because that's all anybody knows you by. Yeah, yeah. But then eventually because you are like an entertainer and you are this, eventually people

are going to be like, oh. off the vine I didn't know that you were on the bachelorette like really yeah oh that'd be cool yeah okay because sometimes I actually do forget that you were the bachelorette yeah because then you've done so much since but I watched your season because I felt like you were like this badass Canadian and I heard you're from a small town in Alberta Canada so obviously that's where I'm from naturally I was like oh she's obviously going to be cool and you had one of my favorite seasons I feel like you were very funny and real which people tell me all the time, which I don't get. I'm like, what do you mean? I am real. But don't you feel like now looking back that you could have been even more real?

Absolutely. People are like, oh, you were so real. But I'm like, I do feel like I did filter myself. And now knowing what I know now, I would have made out more guys. I would have just gone off the wall because it's a once in a lifetime opportunity. You've got to take. You would have went nuts. I was a little bit worried about what everybody thought about me. Oh, yeah. Eventually, no matter what, no matter what. what somebody's not going to like you so you might as well just do whatever you want i feel like i kind of did i yeah you're like i made out with everyone and i and i went into it being like i'm going to make out with everybody why wouldn't i yeah see i was like oh i don't think i'm going to make a little too many guys oh dear okay okay i'll do this one and take it okay fine and then you

went on a roll yeah you're like oh wait just one more just one more you had good guys though you had really funny good guys the best guys are you still friends with any of them okay i think i am But I don't talk to them lots because I feel like I'm so busy. I barely have time. Friends as in like you could reach out to them. But Reed just got married. Oh, did he? And he was probably my favorite of the mall just because I remember him.

Yeah. I felt like we were best friends. We had so much fun and we laughed and we had like such a great. I think that I don't, I think it wouldn't have never worked anyways. But anyways, I'm so happy for him because his wife looks beautiful. And that was like, because now Kipton has a baby. Yeah. Oh, Kipton. Okay, Kipton, you were season five. Yeah. You got engaged to Ed. Ed. Ed is married. And Ed is married. Ed is married. Ed is married. And I did you see a picture in Vegas without a ring on? I was like, I got to see this. But I don't wish anything bad on him because. No, I didn't see a picture. No, I didn't see him. But I don't wish anything bad on him because. No, you've always said good things for him. For him. Not about him. Not about him. No, no, not about. But four. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so Ed got me. Oh, God.

Wait, who were your top three? My top three. So, Ed, I got in case two, then Kipton Reed and, I think Wes. Wes? Oh, yeah. Was he a music guy? Does anybody remember? I'm going to tweet something.

But, yeah, Wes, and everybody hated Wes. Oh, yeah. Because he was such a, like, he was kind of like a bigot and he was kind of like a jerk and all the stuff. But I just thought found him so funny. And I knew I was never going to pick him. Yeah, yeah. and I knew that he wanted to advance his music career.

Oh, so you helped him out. Like, for example, he helped a brother out. Michael Stagliano. Yes. Who was the breakdownster. He really truly loved me. So it was between, I have the guy, let him go or West go. Well, I'm not going to drag on poor Michael.

Right. I might as well drag on the guy that doesn't even care about me. And just wants his music career. Yeah, because he was my buddy. And I just felt like if I dragged on Michael more, I would have destroyed him. Oh, that's true. But then I wanted to protect him. But then everybody's like, why would you keep?

It's like, in the end, I knew it wasn't going to be either one of those two anyways. Do you want me to tell you a little secret? Yeah. I knew it was going to be Sean. And I knew what's going to be. In the last little while, I wanted, oh, this is a big secret. I wanted my final two to be Ben and Sean because I knew that I would hurt Nick. Yes. So I was like, but I couldn't because apparently then it would have been boring my season, I guess. It would be boring. Yes, exactly. And at that point, I was like, whatever, I don't care. I know it's going to be Sean. I feel He told me this one night when we were drinking. Oh, I probably told you for sure.

But now I'm telling a lot of people. So Nick. So he was the second. See, I don't really remember even who was on your season. I just know Sean. Who went to be the bachelor from your season? Jake. Jake was on your season?

Jake was on my season. Oh, man. Yes. I shouldn't say Jake like that because he's always been nice to me. No, no. But it was, yeah, I know what you're saying. Oh, and then he went to be the bachelor from your season. He was a bachelor.

Oh. Oh, yeah, he did. I feel like Reed would have made a great bachelor. We should bring him back because who the heck's going to be the bachelor this season? Because he's married now. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, I remember. Who is going to be the bachelor?

Peter. I don't care what anybody says. It'll be Peter. It's not going to be anywhere else. I have something to tell you. What? No, I can't. Yes, you can.

Hey, at the end of this, if anything, we can edit it out. What? Tell me. Jill. Gillian, drink. I have a confession. Okay. We're going to change things.

Okay. The next season of anything. Yeah. It's not going to be me writing the recaps. Okay. It's going to be Mindy. Okay. Because she's funny and she's awesome and she actually watches the show.

Oh, that's okay. I haven't watched the last two seasons of anything. And Mindy writes it in my voice. I read it. I edit it, but I don't watch it. I thought that secret was going to be. Oh, my God. I don't even know who Peter is.

Okay. First of all, that is not a very juicy, juicy secret. Well, I have more, okay? But second of all, that's okay. Peter was runner up on Rachel's season, who was the last bachelor. Who won? Brian. Who was the other one that everybody liked?

Peter. Dean. Dean. Yeah, but Dean's blowing it on Bachelor in Paradise. What's happening? He's blowing it. He's like playing girls and he's like... Oh, so you're supposed to do?

Yeah, that's a good point. So he's killing it. But he's really... Yeah, he's doing what you. should do in paradise but he's like dragging along one girl and she like really cares about him she's so sweet and smart and then he's like but this girl's so eth and hot and he's like really you're right that's what you're supposed to do on if you're going to be on that show that's kind of like it's not going to be classy you're right no no offense i'm going to get so in trouble no you're not doing

this kind of stuff before i'm like well yeah classy too i can be classy me on hey let me tell you something about the the listeners of of uh off the vine they don't care they are so low and precious and they all just like support anything so okay speak your mind I'm going to speak my mind and you don't even know who Peter is so I don't know what Peter is but Dean I thought I liked you even though I don't know who you are but Mindy liked Dean Mindy everyone liked Dean but I called it from the beginning I was like this guy is way too young to fall in love he needs to just date and now he's doing that so the girl Christina she needs to just be like bye oh Christina she's the Russian Russian I did see her crying last night, but I didn't watch it because I was arguing with somebody on Instagram

about Harvey, Hurricane Harvey. I was not arguing, but I was sensitive because... Because if you don't post about everything that's going on in the world, then you're a monster. So I wanted to watch Bachelor in Paradise, but I really wanted to explain myself why I hadn't posted about Harvey, and then I got all confusing, and then I went to bed. Because, okay, here's the thing, if you have a platform of any kind, and there's something tragic going on in the world. Everyone thinks you are the biggest asshole if you don't talk about it.

When the truth is you didn't even know there's a hurricane going on. I read something on your Instagram. Yeah, because I got an email in my, and it was if you purchased these necklaces from gold thread, then all the proceeds go to, like they'll get basic needs and bring them. And so I just put it on Instagram. But part of me was encouraged to do that because you were like, oh, I didn't even know. And I was like, oh, should I be doing something? Yeah.

But it's so funny because we've had so many fires here, of so many floods here. But what's happening in Houston? Here is in BC, Canada. But what's happening in Houston is, but I actually had no idea because I was traveling with Justin and we had the baby and the dog. And Justin and I, not I, I actually love to be on my phone all the time. But Justin prefers that if we're traveling as a family that I'd not be glued to my phone all the time.

What a stupid rule. So I wasn't on my phone. Yeah. And then he left to go on his fishing trip, and I had the baby and the dog. Yeah. And I was just juggling everything. And somebody, I think I'd seen somewhere that there was a hurricane, but it feels like there's hurricanes everywhere these days. Well, and you're in Canada. So I never really looked into it. Yeah.

And then all of a sudden, somebody asked me, like, do you even care about what's going on in Texas? And in my head, I'm like, holy crap, what is going on? But I had just gotten in my car. I was about to start driving. Yeah. I'm not going to pull over, screaming, maybe, dog crying. No. Whatever. went to my appointment, drove back in four hours, and I'm like, okay, what is going on? Yeah.

But by that time, I had four people that were mad at me that I posted about my eyebrows and I posted about my shirt from Nordstrom, and I'm like, so then I'm like, should I be keeping more up to the news? So I know what's going on? And then at what point do you stop? No, it's depressing. In America or do I think? Well, here's the thing.

Was it an American that said something to you? Because if you asked an American, what's going on in BC with the wildfires, they would have no idea. So it's really, it's really okay that you didn't know about the hurricanes in Houston. I am no Nancy Grace or whatever the heck, her name is. Is that her name? Nancy Grace, I only know that name because Peter Griffin made fun of her on family guy once. And he said, in your face, Nancy Grace. So whatever, you're not Walter Cronkite. Who's that? I don't know, a news guy. Okay. Weatherman. I don't know. I love how we went from like Bachelor in Paradise to Walter Cronkite. I bet you all the people listening to are like, who's Walter Cronkite?

Because I think he's pretty old. This podcast, just so you are listening, will go from one and to the other and then back. It's like playing ping pong. Yeah. Is that what happens? That's our friendship. That is our friendship. It's like a ping pong.

I'll ping you, you ping me. And it's back and forth and full of wine. Yes. Is that what ping pong is? Sometimes we fall off the table. Yep. Roll down the street. Numerous times.

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It's fucking starving. I was hungry. They starved you all freaking day. And they run you around like a chicken with your hair coat off all day. I was laughing sword because I was like, I'm going to look up a couple clips just to like remind myself. Yeah, I did. and oh hello good i was going to say morning it's night um no you i well you were on a date with ed

and he was telling you something i can't remember what it is now but you're eating and then the whole time you're covering your mouth like this while you're talking i'm like that is why people don't eat on the show anymore but it makes sense because it's like why wouldn't you eat the food in front of you but what people don't know is that they fed us before we went so that we didn't eat on the dates they didn't be me and then as soon as the date was over i drank so much i was hungry again that when they left I'd be like gobbling up because it was always delicious food but you ate on your dates I ate yeah I was hungry I was kissing a lot of boys making a lot of boys yeah by that time it was probably overnight dates so who knows what was going on I

girls got to eat I was exhausted and needed to eat well I love it so if anybody's out there just YouTube Jillian eating and don't nacho don't cry baby it's always poor legs probably somewhere no he's bored yeah now have you now have you notice the show evolving not only in the eating department but over the years like or do you feel like it's pretty similar to when you were on no for sure it's evolving and i feel like even when i was on it trista i was like archaic back then but i remember on my season like i wasn't even allowed to be out in public and like now they have like dates in public um nacho you can't hey nacho hey that's enough okay we're trying to podcast if anybody's seen my i we're starting to youtube but it's horrible we don't know

anything about anything so anyways our first one that we did notcho did this the entire time and was like he kept on ramming his ball into my crotch and i kept on trying to end it was partially funny but he basically ruined the entire webisode yeah oh my god get up and get him on treat um so yeah no it's totally evolved but what blows my mind is what other tv shows out there have lasted that long which ones like people made fun when i went on it people like oh that was such a tacky show. I'm like, tacky or not, it's lasted. It's still tacky. Yeah. It's a weird concept that, like, is not normal. It should be, though. It will. It'd be so much easier if you could find, if somebody could scout, like before when I was single. Yeah. I had such, even after Ed and I

broke up, I knew that I wanted to find somebody so bad. I so badly just wanted to be a mom. Yeah. Yes. Not a wife. You are, no, you are meant to be a mom. I was so badly wanted a family. Yeah. But I could. not find people that were like me. Yeah. And even Justin, like Justin and I are a lot of like. Yeah. But he's almost 10 years younger and we have a lot of things that are not in common.

Yeah. But God, I love him. But he was just a fluke. Yeah. It was a total fluke. Yeah. But the great thing about The Bachelor that I did love is that they kind of did find people that were somewhat, not all of them were aligned with you because they have to have

some like a hole. Yeah, of course. And stuff. But yeah, I mean, that would be nice if somebody. could just line a bunch of guys out and be like, here you go. Okay. Here's a mortgage board. I feel like I've never really said this, but on my season, I was against Britt.

Did they scout guys for me or for her, or were they a bunch of randoms? Because I do really feel like every time I sat down with a guy, I was like, there's like a couple here I could see for Brit, but I feel like these guys are scouted for me. Okay, but at least forget it, forget if they were scented for you or Brit. At least they were good looking, which doesn't, doesn't, doesn't all. always matter but whatever good looking or and they were um they had a personality of some sort yeah oh yeah right whether they were crazy or whether they were in but at least they were like multifaceted yeah okay i'm not joe come here come you need a treat i'm gonna it's okay get him a treat get him get him a treat oh and like anybody listening there's only five hours

left to shut my stuff for the private this will be on tuesday and so it will be over but we can still get them go um go get him a treat can i have 10 seconds to get a treat yes yes stand by Stand by. Do I do like a waiting song? Yeah. No. Tell them what my house looks like or something. Okay.

It's okay. We can hear your every step. Okay. I'm back. Okay. She's back. The reason why Nacho was so whiny is because we went to Seattle and he sat in the car the whole time. And then he came back and then he had a big play and now his legs hurt.

So now he's just blurt. He's restless. And he's still a young pup. He's a puppy. He just like. Oh. it is in pain he's holding it up oh not show um one more question about bachelor then let's move on do you still have the ring i still have the ring yeah because i remember i feel like this was

you were one of my um like go-toes after the show for me to be like like i was not okay and i was like how do i cope i just need like friends it is a mind start part of it's mine yeah you're it is it is such a mind you go through so many and people say like oh well you signed up for it so you should you should be whatever but the thing is when you sign up for it like i don't know about you but we're the kind of people they're like sure i'll go skydiving sure i'll give it a shot and sometimes we don't always think about the repercussions or we don't even know you can't even wrap your head around like oh skydiving you might die yeah whatever but going on bachelor you're not really sure how to wrap your head oh you might get famous oh well that doesn't sound bad yeah

that doesn't sound bad but it is it's so crazy because you get off of it and you've been mindful the entire time yeah yeah about relationships and love and marriage and if you're good enough, if you're not good enough, all that kind of stuff. So you're feeling so insecure and so weird. Then you're engaged to a stranger. You do not on this person. You're just hoping somehow that they are going to last or they're going to treat you good and you're not going to wake up.

You are like literally crossing your fingers being like, please let this guy be who I think he is. I can wake up in a freaking million pieces on the bottom of a river. Like, who knows? I don't even know this person. I moved to Chicago with Ed had never even been to Chicago because we never had a hometown date because he was cheating on me. He went home. So I had a hometown date.

Well, he wasn't cheating on me. I guess I was cheating on him, too. We're the side of it, guys, but whatever. But anyways, you get off of this, and your brain is, like, ready to explode. And then all of a sudden, everywhere you go, people are recognizing you. Yeah. And so you have no safe place, except for in your home. Yeah.

You try to go for dinner. You want to go with friends. People are pulling at you, and you don't know those people. And you can't just go for dinner with friends. No. And then also, then there's full. forums and you go on these forums and you read these horrible things about yourself and you people who are listening saying don't go on them yeah no you want to know if somebody's saying bad

things about you and you want to defend yourself and eat you up inside nobody in their right mind would go on a TV show come off and have everybody in the world talking about them and not want to know what they're saying yeah everyone does and it's just it's a crazy crazy position to be in because that's right everybody says you signed up for this but you're like well you know like yeah you got so let's see you get in a car You get a car accident? Oh, did you sign out for that? Oh, you got in a car.

Yeah, exactly. That's a great analogy. I'm so much smarter when I'm drinking. But the thing, so you have the ring still. So what are you going to do? Okay, so this is how. So you were together with him for two years long enough to keep her, oh, this was. They asked for it back.

And I was devastated when Ed and I broke up. So I essentially broke up with Ed, but only because I could tell he didn't want to be with me. And he, I think he did love me. Yeah. But he wasn't ready for that level of commitment. Yeah, of course. And he wanted to have fun and party. And all I wanted him do was to impregnate me.

I just wanted to live in a little farm. And he just wanted to. You should have been on Chris Sol season. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Totally. But he just wanted to be at Rocket Ranch in Chicago getting wasted, right?

Yeah. So it was the first time that I felt like that somebody was the one. I've never felt that before. Right. And it was the first time I were really engaged. And that was very precious too. And so I just didn't want to let that go. Yeah.

And so I remember telling them, no. And they were like, well, we're. And they said, okay. No, then I got the lawyer. What was that lawyer guy's name? Oh, um, Katie is the new one. And I'm for, I'm blanking. Anyways, he, he called me and said, like, you've got to send it back.

And I said, this is when I started to make a little bit of money. And I was like, this ring, it means so much to me, not just because I, was still in live with it at the time. But it represented some of the my highest moments in life and some of my lowest moments. Yeah. And not sure, please, just let me have this freaking podcast. Yeah, he's sitting there. He's trying to crawl up on my lap, you guys.

This is a 75 pound boxer. Oh, just sit, okay? Oh, good boy. And it meant so much to me. It symbolized so much and I had learned. I knew I was going to learn so much. And I said, I will sell my car, which we would pay for like a quarter of it. But I'll do it ever to keep this ring.

And also, the ring is free. The ring is, it's given to the show by Neil Lane. Neil Lane has already gotten his publicity. Yeah. So what are they going to do? Give it back to, Neil Lane doesn't want it back. He says he doesn't care. And I'm like, this is ridiculous.

And if I do buy this ring back, I'm going to tell my story. And it's going to look stupid. Because I just, this means so much. I'm like, I didn't want to break up with him. Yeah. I still want to be with him. I said, I will never sell it. And they're like, they're like, never?

I'm like, well, one day, maybe. So my plan is... What's the plan? So my plan is, depending on how we do financially. I mean, right now, I don't need the money. But I was thinking that maybe one day I would auction it off. And part of the proceeds would go to, like, say, Leo's university and somebody else's university or something. Or maybe Leo's wedding and somebody else's wedding.

But I think one day I will sell it and there will be a charitable component to it. But I'm not going to give it all away. Because I can't see you ever doing something for money, like just to get the money. Like I knew it would go towards something and I thought myself, I was like, oh, maybe I would keep part of the money. Yeah, of course, but I mean, I'm saying portions of it. Like we want to sell, you may or may not know Rick and Donna from Snapchat, like we want to sell like Rick stocking stuffers and like Rick wine gear and obviously I'm not going to keep all the money. But it would be fun to do. But you don't say, obviously, I'm not going to keep all the money, but a lot of people do.

So everybody, and that's another thing that we should talk about is everybody, even though we are public personalities, we're not like Brad Pitt. We're not making millions of dollars. We're still like hustling and we have this following, which we love everybody, and that's awesome. But you still want to make a living. And I still want to be just like anybody mortgage free one day or whatever. So I love doing charity stuff. But you should keep, when you say, obviously I'm not going to keep the money. Why not?

Because you guys need to make a living too. You're right. Don't you want to be mortgage-free one day? Don't you want to be able to pay for your kids' university and not have to stress out about it? So don't be apologetic for coming up with an idea and keeping all the money. That's okay. You can keep all the money.

Some girl absolutely pooped on me for doing something with a brand and saying like, oh my gosh, you're such a sellout, get a job. And she was holding a bud light beer. So I wrote her back and I said, I see you like Bud Light beer. I see you're holding a can of Bud Light in your profile picture. What if Bud Light offered you 10 grand to post that picture when it's already your profile picture anyways, would you take it or would you turn it down?

Yeah. And she wrote back and said, touche. Yeah. And I was like, you know what? And we are so lucky. And that's part of the reason why you want to do stuff for charity for sure. Well, it's so nice to have like obviously the platform to give back. But I mean, yeah, what?

We're so lucky in that. way to be able to like work with brands that we love and appreciate and make money and like let us live our lives. I have some friends who are doctors and lawyers and they still make a lot more money than me. Well yeah. I'm not making that much money. But you make a good man. I'm going to good. I make a good. I'm doing. I see your house. I'm sitting in right now. Yeah. No, I haven't paid for this all yet. I actually don't worried about how I'm going to pay for those beams. Anxiety's kicking in. So unfortunately summer does not last forever, but you can stretch that feeling of sun and fun just a bit longer

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I will wash it away. I'll wash away your sins with my wine if you just confess to the people. Give me two things, sure. Okay, so this is something, I feel, Justin is never going to listen to this, but how many women out here have done this? So it was that time of the month. Yeah. And so that was my excuse to, like, not have sex.

Yeah. And then it was done. Yeah. And then Justin was like, oh, like, no, well, came to bed. And he was like, are you still in your period? I'm like, mm-hmm. But I wasn't. I was so tired.

I was like, mm-hmm, I am. I am totally full-blown yeah when's it gonna be done I'm like oh a few days a few days I'm like yeah sorry honey I really want to too which I could have like you know you can I bet I bet 98.9% of women do that that was like recently I was like yeah this is a confession and there was something else it was oh because oh my god okay I'm gonna think about this but there was another one that was like this is another really good confession I love that you've thought of it because my confession that's a good one actually the period one that's good what was yours well mine's like grosser than that grosser than that oh yeah tell me you ate your boogers pretty much mine was that i waited till

sean fell sleep and i was i found myself biting my toenails oh my god but i was fresh out of the shower that's still disgusting it's so disgusting but i appreciate your honesty well then i can get grosser give me some time okay like time like you need me to talk yeah let's keep talking can you can we pour a little more wine oh my god of course um i'm there listen isn't really that gross to bite your toenails you i bite my nails i you know what listen i would bite my toenails i i'm one of those people people you're not flexible enough oh yeah i am you don't go on the bachelor you know that my guys that come out of it not flexible um but no i am one of those people that's so funny the people like you're so cute and everything i'm like actually

I don't like to shower. I know you don't either. I hate it. I don't like getting ready. I don't like wearing shoes. Like my feet are so nasty right now. Like look at them. They're black.

Oh, yeah, same. So, so are mine. I don't have great personal hygiene. I don't wash my fruits and vegetables. I got a lot of mushrooms. Yeah. I never wash them. And they're grown in shit.

Yeah. And you know what? That's why we have good immune systems. No. I feel I really. I go poop in the morning if Leo in my lap. Like I'm sure most moms have to. You have to.

Okay. But you use. to send me Snapchats from the toilet all the time, and I really miss them. I'll start to do that more often. No, I don't believe you. Instagram stories different. You can still do it. You can still send me Instagram stories.

But you used to send me snaps from the toilet all the time. And I was like, oh, my daily dose of Jillian on the toilet in the morning. And then... What about that time? I did a Snapchat of me in bed in the morning. And I thought I was being so cute. And I posted it. And then I went to the washroom and I made myself a coffee.

And then I went back to my phone and I had like 40 notifications. I was like, what the heck? And everybody's like, your nip, your boob, your nipple, my entire boob, my entire boop, my entire boob and nipple, everything was out. No. And not one, I thought for sure somebody was going to screenshot it and send it to me. Nothing? No, I had a lot of, like, guys sending me messages being like, thank you. That was amazing.

But other than that, nobody screenshotsed it. It was very, thank you. Sorry, a lot of cords going on here. Notcho, you can't sit on my lap, honey. Notcho is, like, more needy than a child. is he's just sitting here you guys staring at me trying to crawl up on my lap just sit well do you want to wash away our sins with yes hey you know what anybody out there who needs to bite their toenails or use their period as an excuse we wash away your sins with wine i want to hear some stuff from people can people go on my

instagram and tell me their confessions yes yes i want to read some stuff okay if you guys have any confessions hashtag Caitlin's confessional and go to jill at jillian is it dot harris on your instagram somebody else says jillian harris and they won't give it to me oh really that's so obnoxious and they have like two followers oh come on what do they want money from you no i told them i'd pay oh okay go to at jillian dot harris and what on your last post yes my last post give give your confessions yes and we will tell you it's okay we'll make you feel better about it. I know I have way worse confessions. Why are they not coming to me? Probably because I block them on after I do them. Like, cool. That's okay. You only need one. We're getting to your Instagram

anyways, so. I feel like your page is one of the prettiest pages on Instagram out there. Tell us about your Instagram. Like, you've got recipes, you've got good style, you've got good decor. You've got an eye for everything. My sales is not that great anymore. I feel like I'm getting mom's style. No, you're not. And, but the part I love about your Instagram is that your page is so pretty but your Instagram stories are so raw yeah like and I love that yes because see it's such a good balance my Instagram page to me is like my gallery of artwork and so it is really important I know too do you just want to say hi to the people it's artwork go on you might as lie down and go to sleep okay go to sleep you don't need to be on my lap if you guys saw his eyes right now

Follow, go to Nacho Cicantro on Instagram and you will see his eyes. He's actually so cute. He is such a suck. Sit. He's so cute. So I'm actually pretty, oh, it's the cheese isn't want me. He wants the freaking chicken tenders. Oh, it's because we have chicken tenders on your lap.

No, what do you have new? Okay. So, and I actually, people ask me about it, I have an unhealthy obsession with how my Instagram feed looks. Yeah. So here's my analogy, for anybody who's listening that wants to be an influencer, I do think that Instagram right now is the best platform to start out to give people an idea of what you're all about.

I mean, if you want to be like somebody who inspires via photographs, if you're somebody who wants to talk more than maybe Facebook or YouTube is your thing. But for photographs, Instagram is the way to show you. It's like a magazine. And when you go to somebody's page and you're not following them yet, you look at those first nine pictures, which is that grid, and then you get that story in those nine pictures. And you're like, ooh, this person's all about food. This person's all about fashion. This person's all about alcohol, whatever. They're part of here. So those first nine pictures, I'm always obsessed

with how they look because people who are always following me, they're not going to go to my page and look at my full page. They're just going to see my pictures on them. But if I get tagged or somebody finds me and they click on my profile, they're going to see my nine pictures. And that's my first impression. That's my opportunity to get them. You are such a business woman. So I'm so almost, I always want to tell what's that story happening that week. And I don't want it to be just pictures of Leo or just pictures of me because those nine pictures should represent what I'm all about. So I always like to have like a food picture in there, a Leo picture, a fashion picture.

And I like to be all well balanced. And I like them to all look like the same feed. Like you wouldn't a magazine. Everything kind of looks like a spread. Yeah. Yeah. So I use a specific filter all the time. And sometimes I'll have a really great picture.

but I can't use it for three weeks because I already have a picture like that that I've just posted. Oh my gosh, teach me your ways. I'm the most random Instagrammer on the planet. No, and there's an app that I use called Planoly. Yeah. And so what you can do is any pictures that you like that you think are Instagram potential, you upload them to Planoly and you can move them around. So your feed looks. And then sometimes you do filler pictures like a little cup of coffee or some flowers. The filler pictures help people rest their eyes. so it's not just so busy oh jill but sometimes i'll post a picture i'm like oh my god my skin's too yellow oh my my skin is too yellow it doesn't look good with this picture because it's like i'm like

hey just get over it like this is the things i think about while leo's napping like i got to delete this picture because the this is too often do you have so much anxiety looking at my page yeah let's look at it right now i i'm like thinking about what my page looks like Sean no Sean's got it what yeah Sean right let me look at he did for a while I was like oh my gosh Sean really yeah Sean well he not I think he's kind of let it go maybe a little bit but that was probably when Klee and T were running his yeah probably because it all the filters where I was like oh my gosh yeah that was back in the day yeah and he right here see this is this he's got it this is beautiful they use all the same filter some black and white so this was back in February of 2017

Oh, Sean. Was that when somebody else is running it? I don't know. Not that they were running it, just doing his pictures. Doing his pictures, but uploading them and stuff. So this, see, look at how pretty that is. It has like this muted tone of pops of red. I get it.

And then go to mine. But the thing is, this is the difference about you and me and our followers, is that a lot of people, but yeah, I don't know if this would still apply to you. See, people love following you because you have such a personality, and it's is i have a personality too i feel like people follow me for my captions maybe so it's like i don't even panic about the filter or how i look or that is but yours looks pretty good actually right now come on now really yeah okay okay because see right here like you've got a picture the only thing is like right that that drives me crazy is you got a picture of you from the from the

waist up and a picture of view from the waist up i would never i would never even think of this stuff but you can't do a picture of you and Sean two times in a row, but what's cute, you don't even know you did this, a picture of you with a dog, a picture of just you, and a picture with you and a dog, but they're nicely balanced. They're flanking each other. I would never think of this stuff. This is so funny. See, but that's why your Instagram's so good, because then you go to your Instagram stories, and it's like still so pretty, but also it's like you in a messy bun. No, my hair is like sticking up like a chicken hawk. But I love that. Yeah. I love that. I feel like you've got your hair in like a messy bun and you're like, I'm tired and you like own everything of like being raw.

So, so this is funny because I have gotten messages before and I had, what's the guys, Carson in Vancouver? He has a radio station. Oh, Kid Carson. They did the confession segment. And one of his confessions one day is that him and his wife had to unfollow me because my Instagram, this is before Instagram stories. my Instagram made them feel bad about themselves. Oh, like Pinterest, kind of, like everything's so perfect. Right.

And I was partially flattered because I was like, ooh, my Instagram looks good. But I was really hurt because that's never my intention. My intention is to make things beautiful and inspire people. And so I really had to think about this. And so I asked him if I could come onto a station and talk about it. And so he did. I remember that. And I was like, okay, so your job.

is to entertain people and do a good job of doing it. And then you have sponsors. That's how he gets paid. It's your sponsors. So if you got on the radio station, Kid Carson, and you were mumbling and your content was shit, you would not get sponsors. Right. So on Instagram, my content has to be beautiful. Yeah.

Because that's how my business runs. That's how people listen to you because what's coming out of your mouth is interesting. And so, and so everybody might be saying like, oh, I wish. I wish I was as funny as him. I wish I as his witty as him. They're not going to stop listening to you. Right. So, but it's not my responsibility to make you feel good about yourself.

So I'm not going to feel bad and be like, okay, I've got to put up a shitty picture now so that this person can feel good about themselves. Yeah. This is funny because this is going to lead me to another thing that you are very a part of. Yeah. And this is the raw talk. Yeah. And this is, Nach, please, I'm talking about something very serious. And that's why I love Instagram stories.

of no problem showing who I'm about. And I don't have a problem showing me without makeup or in my element on Instagram. But part of my thing with Instagram is this is my business. So a lot of people who run a business, do they sometimes wear no pants at home? For sure. But they're not going to go into their store in the morning with no pants and be like, I want you to know that you can relate to me today. So I'm not going to wear pants.

This is my business and I'm a professional. This is how I want it to look. And so I sometimes have a hard time. I have no problem not editing pictures or whatever. No, no, no. But I don't need to make myself go like, this is my worst self ever. I hope everybody feels better about themselves now. No.

Because I want people to feel better about themselves, not because of me, because of them. Yes. I don't want to show myself ugly for somebody to feel better about themselves. No, I totally hear you. I want them to find themselves and find, I don't know if it's making sense. No, you make sense because. you have such a good balance and you are more like about not not about what your body looks like what your face no you're about making a pretty business for your instagram and making everybody everybody go to your page

and be like wow this is really like a feel good page i'm telling you the food that i post on my recipes and stuff it does not look like that no it does not look like that but i want to inspire you to make something beautiful i want to inspire you to try to try the recipe and if it looked like crap you wouldn't want to make it yeah so you have to make the lighting pretty you have to style it you have to it's like a cookbook but that is your business and and my instagram and other people's instagram is very different everyone is different that's your style and that's your business and you're not preaching everything being perfect because if anybody watches your instagram stories they know that you're not doing that and that's what i want want people to know i'm going to let them outside oh that's a good

idea. Okay, Jill, have you ever had an awkward shopping experience? Like, if you go into a store and people are like, oh my gosh, this looks so great on you and you get home, you're like, no, it doesn't. Thanks for getting. 99% of the stuff I buy. Or how about you order things online and then you get it and you wear it once and then you never wear it again. Thank you. Everything I own. Well, guess what? Let tote. That's your solution. It's a personalized box, a brand name, rental clothing, and accessories right to your door. For a low monthly fee, you can get a personally crafted box that's always in style that you send back for an updated box of looks.

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It is that easy. Again, it's leotot.com, enter code Vine, and feel fabulous with fashion delivered right to your door. I'm going on their website right now. Perfect. Now I'm like lost in my notes because, see, and I love how. Notjo, what's outside? Hello? Who's here?

Go see. He knows. He's smart. Go see. Go see. Go inside. He's like a top. one of my favorite parts about following you is that you have that duality of being so raw

and you have that Instagram platform where it's so pretty and you also give back and I want to know about mamas for mamas. Okay. So I do this often. I get so many emails of people who just have had a rough year and want me to join them for lunch, people who are in the hospital and want me to visit people who need makeup like and you can not help everybody but you sure want to yeah and it's hard because um either it takes your money or your time and your time is money but i'm always thinking like how can we help these people and so we have now we're starting a new system where we have like okay how much time a month are we going to dedicate you towards charity because the last few months it's been almost like 50-50 and so you don't make as

much money when your staff and you are spending so much time on charity projects and how will I pay them my staff if we're not but anyways this is something that we've realized is very important to me and very important to them and they love it so mama's for mamas um when I you need to sit down and you need to shut up I'm getting I'm sorry people I'm not a dog beat my dog is driving me crazy what is this it's chicken go get it go get the chicken go get all of it i'm throwing all the chicken press onto the driveway go get the chicken it's everywhere okay go get it

jesus christ i was like okay hopefully leo goes to sleep yeah but i thought about nacho ruining everything look at him He brings the chicken back. Oh, what a nugget. So when I was pregnant, we started getting stuff sent to us by brands. Stuff that I could have bought, but I was getting it sent to us.

And I felt guilty that because I'm an influencer, I'm getting sent stuff that I could afford to buy and other people can't. And how expensive it was to have a baby. Actually, I retract that statement. Now that I have a baby, you actually don't need a lot. It's not that expensive because you literally just need diapers and your room. Necessities. Yeah, there you go. Everything.

You don't need wipes. You don't even need bimbs. You don't know what I used hardly anything. Yeah. But I got sent so much stuff and I felt bad. Yeah. And I wanted to start to donate some of it. And I was in between Colonna and Vancouver.

So in Vancouver, there's a company called Baby Go Round. Yeah. And because I was in between two cities, I was with them. And Colona is mom's for mom. months. What they do is if you make under $30,000 a year in Canada, you can apply for government assistance. $30,000 when you have a family, it's not a lot of money. A lot of people make $30,000 a year and you may know if your rent, especially in somewhere like here in Vancouver, if your rent is not even such a thing as rent under $2,000 a month anymore, is there really? And if you

have babies, you have to have a two bedroom. So this year rents $2,000 a month. You got to have food, everybody, you have a vehicle, you have this and that. Well, all of a sudden, $30,000 a year goes by very quickly. If you make under $30,000 a year, you can apply for government assistance. If you make even a penny over $30,000 a year, you can't. So those families that make anywhere from 30 to 40, they are still struggling, and they're struggling to make their mortgage, car payment, their car payment, their food. And so they can go to somewhere for moms and they can get just other diapers, gently used items. So the idea is, If you are in the Okanagan or of any city, I'm sure, has an organization like this,

but you can donate gently used items. But this woman was running it out of like her garage. Oh my gosh. It was actually a Facebook thing where literally moms would be like, I have an extra case of Sunny D. And moms would go and pick it up. So it'd be like anything from like food, like the worst, like the, my worst, like, oh my gosh, Leo eats like organic quinoa and like all. Yeah. I can imagine needing a case of Sun Idiot, and it just broke my heart.

But anyways, Shannon, who started it, it got so big that she got a location. And she just wanted me to pick out some paint colors. Yeah. But I went down there and I was like, oh my God, we could do this. We could do this. We could get a sponsor. Yeah. We get somebody to donate this.

We can get shelving, all my favorite baby brands that have been giving me stuff, teethers and diapers and pamper's and all these people who've been wanting to give me stuff. And I'm like, please, do not send me any more pamper's. I can go buy my own. Yeah, yeah. So I'm like, leave this with me. So now this is turning into this colossal project where we're going to like make over their whole space and reveal it to them and hopefully stock the shelves with all my favorite things. But we're running into roadblocks because now we need to get like city permits and that takes too much time and we have designers helping us.

But now it's gotten too big. And now we're running enough time. And now we need to get storage containers to put things. And it's turning into a colossal project, but hopefully in the end it will be good. And lots of moms will benefit from it. That's so nice of you. I feel like you always think outside, like you're always like, okay, wait, I'm doing this, but how can I help other people in the same situation?

Because I really do feel so lucky. Yes. I have a great roof over my head, and I do have an amazing family, and I just sometimes, my mom called this, I've actually made mistakes in my life because it's like survivor's guilt. But not only that, like I feel very fortunate and I feel guilty. yeah and I feel guilty that I have like this beautiful house and these like nice dishes and from the cross and from pottery barn and I feel like guilty and part and so I guess this is a selfish thing but a part of that what helps me with that is I enjoy making other people's day

happy and whatever it might be sending flowers to somebody who's in the hospital or going one last year it was so much fun somebody reached out to us and we just happened to have the time and we this woman, it was her 50th birthday, and they went out for lunch, and when they got there, I was already sitting there with a bottle of champagne. I remember that. And we had an entire four-hour lunch, and we just sat and, like, I can't do that, obviously, all the time, but it was so much fun. And so we try to do stuff like that.

So it's not really a charity thing. Like, there was nothing wrong with her. She wasn't sick. She just was a super fan, and we were able to make it work. Or there was another thing. There was a huge fan, and they came here. It was their bachelor party, and I had them pop over for champagne, and they just came for champagne, and then they left.

my gosh but it was awesome but anyways you know what i feel like there's not enough of that stuff going around and when you do it it feels so damn good you feel so good and so powerful and you're so excited to do something else and it's so easy and it's so easy it's so easy yeah like there's nothing left noncho the chicken is freaking gone you've eaten it all nacho you're like a little baby uh literally people were commenting on my last um jail talks or whatever yeah and um they're like not you ruined it this is what people are going to say to you not oh on um jill talk no it was oh it was asked jill anything it was our first vlog oh and not sure ruined it you can go ahead and eat the bag well there's so many dog lovers out there i bet they just look they're like

that's cute it's my dog um do you want to do some questions from from fans yes i know i read some of them oh you did you cheater i read some of them okay well then you'll probably know the answers But Twittledbug 7 wants to know if there will be more episodes of Jillian and Justin or a wedding special. So our season did really good. This is only in Canada, right? Yes. You and your fiancé made a show. Yes.

And you can only watch it in Canada. Yes. And so just the gist of it, the first episode, just so you know, if you do watch it, you cry. I cried. I cried every episode. I did. I got to give you the other episode. I did.

I cried every episode. My mom saved them all for me. I watched them all. I cry every episode. um and it was awesome so the first episode is basically leo was born so it's like lead up to that and the film crew was never supposed to be in the hospital but justin talked to me into it and end up being an awesome idea it was so much fun and so exciting um i love our film crew like i've worked with him for four years so it was just so fun and it was a little bit about the house and just and i fighting

and about us selling the house and um i love it all this to getting canceled or canceled on put on hole or whatever yeah so it the season did really good um and they did call us right away asking us if we're interested in the season it's hard because at what cost because the problems you do something like that it's every day and it's every weekend and anytime there's something special that happens in your life yeah they have to be there yeah so you don't get to really enjoy it and if you do you have to go back and do it again yeah because they didn't get the right angle or the right moment and I really really just I'm loving this time with Leo right now. Yeah. I sing and dance with him. Yeah. And we spend lots of time together. And Justin and I went through some rocky moments and it was really

hard on our relationship of me being pregnant, building the house and doing the shows and everything. I just didn't want to put money first. I wanted to put our family first. So I just kind of said to them, this is what we have going on. And I'm going to leave it in your court. I'm not going to continue to push you if you guys come and say here's the contract we want to start filming this is what we're going to do i will do it but i'm not going to be like push push push and they've just kind of given us a break and i kind of have been enjoying it and you know a year from now when i'm like starving i'm like oh my god i might regret it but right now i'm kind of i want to do another episode because it was fun yeah but you also you have to do what's best for you in a moment and a lot of people think

you know, long term or a short term or you have to do when you have a little boy and I feel like you need to be in. You cannot do it all. Exactly. You have to be in the moment. And I feel like you as a mom and how much you love being a mom, you would regret if you just put other things first than just being in the moment as a mom. And if there's any working moms out there or families that are listening to me, especially

working families with multiples, this literally came out of Tori and I's mouth today. I said, I feel like I'm dying. And I felt like that back then. I feel like I'm dying. Like my feet hurt. I'm tired. I know I'm not taking care of myself. I know a lot of people feel that way.

And gosh, my heart goes up to people that have to have two or three jobs and they're single moms with kids. Yeah. How in the hell are you doing it? I'm somewhat complaining right now. But I was, I just,

I had a choice to not take on the extra job. And I don't know what's going to happen. I'm not to say that there isn't going to be another one. I feel like it would be a shame. if there wasn't another one but I feel like I'm not ready I'm not I'm not done having my break yet well because people don't realize like in your day how busy you are because they think well you have time to do an Instagram story and everything seems so great on there but you you pointed out the other day like that you're like yeah I did Instagram like however many

times today but that's actually 13 minutes of my 24 hour day but that's all you saw so It seems like I'm just like, eh, but that's 13 minutes out of 24 hours that I was on Instagram. Must get a calculator. Yeah. So do it. Because somebody messaged me and said that I'm on Instagram stories too much and that my family is going to suffer and that it's sad that I'm on Instagram stories all day.

And I was sensitive. Is this part of the can you not? It can be. I was so sensitive about it because I always read these comments and I really take them to heart because I don't want to be reckless with my life and my family. But you're not. I was kind of like, oh my gosh, maybe I am. No.

So I pulled up the calculator. 30 Instagrams, 30 Instagram stories. Okay. Times 15 seconds. Yeah, which is so every Instagram story is 15 seconds. It's 15 seconds. Hold on a second. I've had two glasses of wines and I'll have to go remember.

So 30 times 0.15. No, how would you do this? It would be 30 times. So 15 is a quarter. of a minute? No, wait, wait. 25 would be a quarter. Wait. So 15 and 15 is 30. Yes. 30 and 30 is a minute.

Yes. So 15 is a quarter. Yes, you're right. So I was thinking. We are so stupid right now. Somebody rescue us. So if you had 30 Instagram stories times 0.25. That would be 755. Wait. Wait, what? So like you're on it a lot or not? I don't get it. Somebody tell me, but 15 seconds times 30, right? Oh, I don't have to do point anything.

I guess so 15 times 30. That's 450 seconds. 450 seconds. Now, how do we figure out? You are doing way too much math right now for this podcast. How many minutes is 450 seconds? I don't know. Do that divided by 60.

Oh, 7.5 minutes. Out of your whole day. And it's also my job, kind of. But also, I enjoy connecting with everybody on my Instagram stories. Don't feel guilty, Jill. You're, you let people. I just realized how stupid I am. Oh, me too.

As you were asking, I was like, damn, I am dumb. I do feel guilty, though. And I take. But don't. I just do. But you know you will not please everybody. I want to. No, no.

Change that mindset. You can't. So don't want to. Carlin, Carlin Hunt. Carolyn. Let's spell Carlin Wants to know if you would ever do

your own podcast I would but I don't know how to do it I'm scared Would you be my first Would you be my first guest? Absolutely Let's just do it right now We'll just

Post this on mine Yeah post this and we'll do another Haley Thrasha I don't know if that's like an Instagram or Twitter name Ask what's your favorite memory As The Bachelorette And how has it been adjusting

as a working driven mom. Let's just do the first one. What's your favorite memory as The Bachelor? 100%. We did this. I just want to go back there right now. I love this date so much. I want Justin and I to do this date.

We were out at a cabin in the middle of, like, Whistler, in the middle of nowhere. And we went sco doing that day. And at night, we did an ice bar and we had a bomb fire. I love bonfires in the winter. I love being chilly, but being by the fire and having a few drinks. And I just love being outside. and I love snowmobiling, and I was with all these guys, and there's good food, and I had a little plaid shirt on and, like, snow pants and Sorrel boots. Yeah, your style killed it on that season.

It was awesome. Okay, so that was your favorite moment. Yeah. Okay. Jesse Gigi wants to know how you and your fiancé Justin met. We met at a bar here in Colonna called Roses. Been there. Yeah, been there.

I was very, very single, and in fact, I was dating several guys at the time. Nice. Oh, I could make it. a big confession. I'll tell you this one of these guys. Um, some very, very old guys. Like he was the first, the one guy was dating was almost 50. Another guy was dating was just turned 19. All at the same time. At the same time, I had a guy that I was dating. Can I slow clap? Yes. That literally, I think was a drug dealer. I didn't know that when I first met him. But as I got to know him, I was like, oh yeah, I'm just running off to do, um, uh, appearance with, um, big brothers. And he's like, yeah, bro, like me and we're

gonna go get some weed i was like oh my god who is this guy so i had all these horrible horrible people not horrible some people were nice some people were horrible some were very old some were very young but they were all i realized now they think about it they were all guys i dated on purpose because i wanted somebody who was not going to be mr right yeah i wanted somebody who yeah couldn't hurt me 19 year old can't hurt me a 50 year old can't hurt me yeah right like i was like i want people who i get to be in control of yeah because i was just so hurt from the previous relationship. Yeah.

But anyways, we were at the bar and we're standing in line and Justin was wearing these like perfect jeans and flip flops and a blue blazer, like a navy blazer. He had a tan because it was like summer. And I remember telling my friend Katie, I was like, oh my God, he is gorgeous. Look at him. He's so young and cute and, oh, he's just like a little fresh peach. And I'm like, I'm going to talk to him tonight. Anyways, the guy that I was dating, the bad guy, the drunk guy, is more horrible.

I did not, I've never even done drugs before. And I was like, oh, my God, I can't believe this. But he was, he looked like Channing Tatum. Oh, sold. He was beautiful. But, yeah, he's smart on some things, stupid on others. Anyways, oh, my God. Part of this girl, another glass of wine.

He left me that night, and Justin was dating a girl. Yeah. She got mad at him for something and left him. So we ended up at the bar just chit-chatting about, like, life, just like real. Like, it wasn't, it was so awesome. Like our conversation was so about careers and I don't know. It was so cool. I didn't ever did.

It was a very advanced chat. Yeah. Yeah. And he asked me what I did and I just said I was in the TV industry and he later told me, he was like, only know, she's probably like a stylist or something. Like he never, which was awesome. Yeah. Because I felt like a good style.

Great. He asked for my phone number. I gave it to him. And then he left with another girl. Nuh. But you might know her. Chloe Hunter. No.

Beautiful. Oh, my God. She lives here. She's beautiful. Oh, God, she's so gorgeous, tall, big lips, beautiful. But he didn't leave with her because they were dating. They were just friends. Yeah. They were buddy, buddy. And so they were like, oh, come on, let's go. But here I am, this, like, little short, like, dwarfy, single. Like, I'm never going to find me. I'm like, oh, God, here. Now he's going with long legs, McGee. So anyhow. Stems McGee. So he then I was like, forget this. Justin guy. I'm going to go back to my tree. Yeah, my trio. There was another guy too. I can't remember who he was. For as many guys. But it was so, would you remember being in that stage of your life where you're juggling multiple guys at a time? Yeah, it was called the bachelorette. So fun. Oh my God. So fun. But so I ignored him. I ignored him for like two days. He asked if he could see me. I ignored him. And then I messaged the one guy one day to see if he could hang out. And he responded back to me something that I knew I didn't deserve and it made me feel icky yeah I was like wait a second I'm the catch not you yeah yeah you're gross yeah yeah

I was like you and I'm like why am I doing this to myself I'm smart and I have something to offer and I knew that if I started chit chatting with justin again it was gonna flake off because he was so nice yeah so I just messaged him and I said Tuesday night seven o'clock at rods this is my address pick me up please don't be late don't ask me another question this is it and he was like done because i knew that if he was like asked another question that i would just like find a way to get out of it yeah and he showed up so done up with a massive bouquet flowers like like i could barely hug the size and the flowers were like not tacky like now actually he kind of buys me tacky flowers why now i don't want baby's breath in my flowers but then it was

like freshest beautiful as blooms and he was standing outside his jeep waiting for me and it was the best date and I was like this I felt like after that date I was like I will definitely I it's going somewhere and after that first date I stopped talking to all of them screw the drug dealer yeah screw the 19 year old screw the old man did and let's screw justin yeah yeah exactly yeah well that's a great story I love it okay we've only got a couple more this goes everything it goes by way too fast I can talk to you all night God. Maddie C.88 asked, what's our funniest memory together, the two of us? I know.

What? You tell me. Well, the concert. Yeah, I was going to say. Kenny Chesney. Oh, my God. That was so fun. And I got so drunk. So Caitlin and I actually had friends in common. We are very much alike. Yeah. Similar raspy voices, similar sense of humor.

Similar hygiene. Similar for hygiene. Um, and actually when, um, Caitlin got asked to be the bachelor, I didn't know who you were, but we, our friend Kenny was like, you would love her, you would love her. And I was like, yeah, I'm right. I'm like, oh, my God, another Canadian bachelor. I never, she's going to, oh, shine me. You didn't like me. No, I was so nervous. Like, I was the Canadian bachelor and there was something. I get that. But you know, whatever. So then you went on and I started watching you loved you. And then you came off and I reached out to you and said, like, if you need anything, yada yada. Yes, you did. But we communicated back and forth for a long time, but it kept on trying to connect together, but we just never, I remember I came once. Do you remember this? Yes, you came to my girlfriend's house and helped me pack and gave me, like, advice. Before you went.

Yes. Because, yeah, and then you came off and you, had you come out, did people know you was Sean yet? No, no. Oh, you were at that really crazy time. Crazy time. And so anybody was listening, Justin and I actually, I never, ever, ever talked about this, but I was talking about it now. we actually broke up for like a month and a half yeah um and i was devastated but justin was going

through a very very similar to ed and i at 10 of his life he justin's young he's 29 yeah um so four years ago he was whatever 25 i remember my math is horrible um and he was going through a time where all of his friends were single and it was summer and he was partying with girls all the time coming home at like three four in the morning i was in my 30s i just wanted tim to propose i was so sad. And you're at such a good point in your career. Career. And Justin was just figuring out his new career. And so we really, really struggled. And I was being controlling because I didn't like who Justin was hanging out with. I didn't like his lifestyle. And the only way I knew how to fix that was just to control him. So then it caused us to fight and we broke up. And I was sad and

devastated. If you scroll back four years in my Instagram, I was so skinny. God, I almost want to break up now. Just get that. Do you remember how skinny. You are very tiny. You are very you, but like, this kind where I think you thought this was flattering if people said they were worried about it. Yeah, they were worried about me. I'm like, oh, thank you so much. Oh, my gosh, I'm doing really good now. Hey. Not funny thing to joke about because a lot of people do have eating disorders, but I was very sick. I was so sad and did not want to eat. Yeah. But Caitlin and I finally figured, Caitlin asked me if I wanted to come to his Kenny Chesney concert. Yeah. And I was like, it was like an angel. I was like, oh, yes, take me away. And we had so much fun. We went

backstage. We got so drunk and we were eating pizza. We were drinking in this like back trailer. We were on stage with Kenny Chen, like just hanging out. I was so drunk. I woke up the next morning buck naked. I was like, Caitlin. I was like, you weren't even with me. Did you sleep over that night? No, you went home. I was like, oh my God, that must have been a fun night. I'm by myself. I was like, I'm by myself. But you looked great. And because we drank so much I'm so dehydrated, like even skinnier. We did drink a lot. Oh, God.

I remember pouring, like, serious Jack and Cokes in this trailer. It was so fun. Ah. Anyways, yeah. That's... I wish this podcast could be more than one hour. That's fun. We can go on Instagram Stories after this.

Oh, that's a good call. That's a great call. I mean, I had it a whole other game, but we've already been like an hour and a half, so... Do one more... Do what, wouldn't you? Why not? Because I can edit it? Yeah, but the...

studio time oh they're like all falling asleep right now like this you think this is funny we're like half a bottle down like this is not funny my podcast producers like actually i'd really like to go to pan so what's your name heather heather get a glass of wine heather okay fine okay not so starting to cry again anyways well nacho guess what it's your lucky day nacho and heather it's your lucky day we are done we will do a part too because i could go part three, part four, maybe part five. I love it. And if everybody out there, if you guys don't want to miss an episode of Off the Vine,

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