Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Monica the Medium: Messages & Signs From Our Loved Ones

Episode Date: August 16, 2022

Get ready for an emotional, intense, and incredibly revealing episode as Monica Ten-Kate, gifted Spirit Medium, joins Kaitlyn and co-host Lo virtually, as she is feeling under the weather and experiencing mom-brain, but still as intune as ever. The three of them chat about Monica's life as a new mom and the amazing ability children have to communicate with the spirits around us. In today's episode, Kaitlyn and Lo are not holding back from asking the big questions: What happens when we die? Do dogs go to heaven? What signs should we be looking for from our loved ones who have passed? And then, Monica taps into an unintentional reading for Kaitlyn as several of her loved ones come through, including one of Kaitlyn’s best friends who finally has a chance to share messages with KB. You will not want to miss this emotional reunion. Thank you to our sponsors! Check out these deals for the Vinos: VIRGIN VOYAGES - Get all the details at Virginvoyages.com or call your travel advisor.  HYUNDAI - Learn more at HyundaiUSA.com.   PAIR EYEWEAR - Go to paireyewear.com/VINE for 15% off your first purchase. TALKSPACE - Get $100 off your first month with Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use the code VINE. CONAIR - Treat yourself and your hair by searching “Conair SmoothWrap” on Amazon.com to try the new drying experience with SmothWrap today! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today we have Spirit Medium reality TV star, author, mentor, and podcast host, Monica, the Medium, joins me on the pod. Now, yes, we talk about her crazy life as a new mom. If she thinks her gift will be passed on her baby boy, she's actually a mat leave right now. So I was happy we could do this. but unintentionally we get into a reading and the reading is for me and holy canoli this one was really emotional for me i'm not going to lie i actually had to cut some stuff out because it got really personal but um i left a lot in for you guys to listen to and um i'm pretty sure i cried through this whole podcast so do i say enjoy

So sick of love songs. What? What? Why are you singing that? I don't know. I was just singing that. That's weird. Out loud?

In the bathroom. And in my brain. So sick of love song. I'm tapped in to my psychic abilities. That is. That's such a specific song. That's like from 2007. That was weird.

I was just singing that song while I was peeing. But that's, I feel like because we are really on. the same wavelength today. We are. Oh, yeah. Pena butter and jelly. Hi. Hello.

Oh, can you hear us? Monica, the medium. Oh, yeah. Can you guys hear me? Yes, I can hear you. How are you? To be honest, I feel kind of like crap. But it's okay.

I am going to persevere. Oh, my gosh. So, I'm sorry. Apologies in advance to all your listeners. If I am hack coughing through this entire podcast, I will do my best. Where are you podcasting from? Oh, I'm. Low, by the way. Hi. Hi. Hi. I always assume everybody just knows each other. Why do I do that? My name's

Lowe. I'm based in Los Angeles and I'm Caitlin's bestie, Silas, and I'll be co-hosting today. He's so exciting. So nice to meet you. My favorite little co-host ever. And every time I come to L.A., I just get so excited to one, hang out with him, but two, to just like be able to hang out while podcasting because we are really on the same wavelength all the time. But today specifically, even to the point where he had a song that popped into his head. I was singing Neo, so sick while I was peeing. And I came back and I was singing that song. And we didn't.

No. And we didn't sing that song in front of each other or anything. It was so wild. We are all so incredible. Like, all of us have intuition. It's just some people, it comes a lot more naturally or you're able to really strengthen it or tap into it a lot stronger than others. And Caitlin, you have always, from the last time I met you, I remember being like, why isn't she, like, why isn't she in the spiritual new age realm, like, as if you don't have

enough on your plate, right? No, I would. I told you in the past. I have a course. I know. Spots waiting for you if you ever want to take it. Can anyone take the course? I mean, I recommend, here's, some people will say, like, because other mediums will have

courses and they're like, anyone and everybody, come take my course. It's not like I'm trying to push people away, but I don't want, I also want to be realistic. Like, yes, everybody can learn how to strengthen and develop it, but. It doesn't necessarily mean that everybody's meant to really take that type of course because I just feel like if you're more naturally already experiencing feeling and hearing and sensing things, maybe you get really strong dreams or signs, like then it makes sense because I can help you develop it further. It's something you already are naturally tapping into. It's kind of a little bit hardy if you're like, I just woke up today and I want to quit my job and talk to dead people. So it's not necessarily that. I tend to say it's better if you have, you know, some sort of experiences.

You don't have to be a full-blown medium the way that I am. But some, you know, especially like the interest, the passion, the feeling, the intuition, the science, all of that. I've got the feeling. I've got a good fit. I've got the feeling. I was telling Lo, even if people don't believe, like remember last time it was, well, now my now X, but I was like, you're just going to be blown away. And I wanted to know what a day in the life looks like as a medium. Like, like, what does a day of the life look like for you?

I mean, it depends right now. I've been, I'm like just coming out of like tipping, dipping my toes back into work after being on maternity leave. So right now my days have looked like, you know, poopy diapers and nursing and the meeting and all of those things. Not as much connecting to spirit, you know, these days. But on a typical day when I'm not in the mom mode, you know, it kind of just depends on the time of year.

So like I mentioned, I teach a course. I also do live events that I call messages from above events because of the pandemic. I had to kind of pivot. And I went from only ever doing live in person events to now, you know, on Zoom virtual. So that's been that's been cool because it's allowed me to share my gift with, you know, more people. And especially in like random middle of nowhere towns that I would never probably go to. Like it's cool that I give that those people opportunity to witness or potentially receive a message themselves. I was podcasting for a minute here,

but I have been totally slacking about the podcast games. It's one of my goals to get back into. I have a book, an Oracle deck. I'm like always working on like different projects that are within the realm of like sharing my gifts. Yeah. But is it like me sitting giving readings all day every day?

I actually don't even offer private readings, scheduled private readings anymore. It's been like that for like seven years. Uh, except outside of like free reading giveaways that I host throughout the year for my followers and stuff or like charity stuff that I'll do. I, uh, it is so draining and exhausting and, you know, to be honest, sometimes pretty depressing. So is that why you don't do private readings anymore?

It's one of the reasons. A big, the biggest thing is the energy that it takes. It's just, you know, it's so energy consuming. And I'm only one person. And so it's like for me, where I can do a live event, like you're still going to get a little hello from heaven or a little sign or a little message. I always say like the piggybacking, you know, you'll get those little little fits and pieces through the readings of others. So you still connect to your loved ones or get a hello from them, even if you're not the one that I'm directly giving a reading to. And so it's just an opportunity where I can reach so many more people, even just from

them witnessing that and, you know, change lives that way. Because again, I'm only one person. And it's, you know, it would take a long time to do all day, every day, one-on-one session. So, and the part about it, it's gotten to a point where, yeah, just I love what I do. I love bringing healing to people, but I'm also the medium that's like, look, it's not all fairy tales and butterflies. It's so heavy. And I'm also very much an empath, which means I feel and like soak up and absorb the emotions of others as if it's like my own. And so you have to be really like careful, like always cleansing your energy, like letting go of stuff that

comes through, which is why I typically don't even remember my ratings period. Because it's like holding on to all of that. It just starts to weigh down. How do you cleanse your energy? I have, like, different little kind of processes that I go through. So I kind of go through, like, grounding techniques, and I go through, like, even just little visualizations at the end of the night. So, like, I will picture myself, like, with a bunch of pieces of bubblegum stuck to me. And each bubble gum is, like, a person I would have connected with or a spirit. And I, like, visualized myself, sniffing all the pieces of bubble gum off me.

Like, I know it might sound really silly, but intention is everything with this work. So by putting out that intention and, like, asking, like, my angels and spirit guides and my loved ones, like work with me to help me disconnect and release the energy. Like a lot of it is really just setting that intention and going through those motions as like that process to really make it clear to the spirit world. Hey, I'm off the clock. I'm not working. Don't bother me.

Yeah. Yeah. So that's kind of how it goes. Because it's, I always want to know how people just like if you can shut it off or not, but it's more of like the intention, I guess, of like putting yourself in a position to not accept it or take it in. And yeah. So it's funny because when I first.

kind of, so now it's been almost, my God, I'm getting old. It's been nearly a decade now since I've publicly came out of the medium closet and started doing this work professionally. And at the beginning, I was in that place where I was just so wanting to also grow in my gifts and really get even more experience where I would be walking through the world, like just open to spirit, like anywhere and everywhere, I'd be like, please, connect to me, like, you know, connect with me, talk to me. So I actually embrace that opening up. But then, of course, I had a television show with Freeform, formerly ABC family. And then, you know, as more and more people heard about me and the wait list and all of that,

it started to get overwhelming. As you can imagine, we're going out and about where everybody and their mother wanted a reading or a quick message. And it was just like, it's so hard because people always think, like, I have been through the worst thing imaginable and no one else has gone through worse. When it's like height to break it to you, sweetheart. But it's like a lot of people have been through worse. Like, no matter who the person is, it's. like, oh my God, I wish I could do that for everyone. And so, you know, it would just get to be difficult because I was starting to get bombarded a bit too much by not having boundaries

with the spirit world. So now I've learned how to really maintain boundaries, set and maintain boundaries, shut it off. I call it turning off the light switch. So I shut off those dang lights and make it like a blackout mode, like do not. And then every now and then, even if I do have my light shut off, they'll be like every now and then a really pushy spirit that somehow manages to squeeze and squeeze their way in somehow. But for the most part, they respect it. That's so wild. Oh, my gosh.

Yeah. Pushy spirits. Also, you like beat it. I would be the pushiest of the spirits. I have to show you guys. I was so excited to drink a glass of rosé with you, Caitlin. And so I was so bummed that I didn't get to do that. And I didn't have time to stop to get a rosé, but I had like a random beer in my little

fridge at my office. So I poured a beer into my wine glass. And it says, I don't think you can see it, but it says, by the way, I talk to bad people. That's amazing. I had to use, I had to use my special. I wish, I wish it could be in person and that we could have a glass of rosé, but, hey, you know what, life happens. Life happens.

It's all good. And honestly, these are those moments where it's like everything really does happen for a reason. Who knows? Maybe I would have gotten in an accident on the drive there. Like, I'm still such mom brain. I swear I'm like, I am convinced, okay, this is going to sound terrible. But it's like, I've literally started like telling my husband like, are you sure this is just mom? brain and I'm like, what if I had like a brain tumor or something?

Like, is it really like all these women who have kids aren't talking about the fact that we just get extremely like so dumb after having a child? I forget words. I stumble over. It's probably going to happen in this interview on top of me being sick, but it's like, I forget words all the time. I like stumble over my words. I forget where I put my keys constantly.

I'm like taking wrong turned. The mom brain is. I've heard about this. It's a real thing. Wait, as a mom and a medium, do babies have thoughts? Like, could you, does your son have, like, angels around him? Can you see certain things like that? So it's funny because that's everyone's questions like, oh, do you think your baby's

going to have this gift? What do you think? Right. And I don't know he'll necessarily, uh, if he'll have this gift or not, but what I can already tell even at this age, oh, gives me goosebumps. There was one day specifically that I, and I, this might sound weird, but it's like, I actually don't really like miss and talk to my own loved ones as much as somebody would think because I am so okay with that, with them.

Like, I'm so at peace knowing that they're safe, you know, everything's good. But one random day, this was like, I forget how old Tegan my son was at the time, but he was probably like a month, maybe six weeks old or something. And it was just like a random day. I was changing his diaper and I actually was missing my loved ones and I was talking to them and everything. And I don't, again, I don't normally like feel them even like in the room or like exactly like, oh, you're standing right here, grandma or whatever.

But in that moment, I remember like feeling my loved ones gathering in a specific. specific spot as I was changing the diaper and I mean he was only like four to six weeks old so it was still like he wasn't even like full blown like smiling at us yet or doing all you know it was like maybe random like fart smiles kind of thing but I swear where I was sensing the energy I saw my son turn and like get this smile on his face and was like reach like I swear he had this moment where his eyes were like locked into something and it was right where I was sensing the energy and I was like he's totally saying that and they're validating it for me yes freaked out but in the best way possibly. Well, because it might not be that you pass it down. Like, I don't know. Is anyone in your family? Like, did they have the gifts that you have? Yeah. So my mom side of the family, she's very Catholic, conservative, Hispanic, was born and raised in Costa Rica where, you know, in that Catholic cultural type upbringing was told that this is, you know, witches and talking to the devil and you should never do this and yada.

But, oh my God, my God, I always tell my mom, I know this comes from your side of the family. Like, she's incredibly intuitive. her mom and grandmother, like her grandmother used to have dreams before people would die. Like I know that it totally is passed down from that side, but they just never really developed

or kept into it the way that I have. And it can run in generation. Sometimes it skips a generation. Sometimes, you know, it doesn't. It just kind of depends, I guess, on the family. I feel like, don't babies just, like, in general because, like, babies and dogs and certain because they don't have, like, people telling them,

like, this is not a real thing. Like, they can see. absolutely what do you call it yes so so children they haven't been uh they haven't been influenced really by society their peers their friends their parents all the people around them when you're young like especially in the prime ages of like eight i would say like 16 to 18 months is when it starts till all the way till about three and a half four years old is like this wide open like not every child obviously but like where if your child was going to be open open the spirit that that's usually the time frame where they're like talking to your

grandfather that's passed away or they're connecting to you know the aunt they never met you know that past many years before they were born and have certain they say certain things about past lives and memories and things that are so jaw-dropping I actually share a bunch of stories in my book about it because some of those stories I'm like if you don't believe in all of this but yet you just did so you know looked into like just the topic of children and past lives and children connecting the spirit. It's like those children, how could you ever think that they're like, I mean, yes, kids have imaginations, but there have been actual children who have talked about their past life. And like, I remember seeing an interview. I forget what, I forget what news channel or what

special it was. But I remember saying this one interview. It was like a little boy who described his past life. And they ended up like, he brought them to like a grave site or something. Like, how would he know where the body was buried? I forget the details. I don't want to like mess that. Do you think that was reincarnation? You hear the craziest things. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, no, I absolutely feel like they, we have memory, like a lot of these children will have memories of their most recent past life and, and are just more open at connecting with spirit in general. But kind of what I was saying earlier is like because nobody, they haven't been influenced yet by the people around them, nobody has yet said, oh, you're crazy, you're making shit up. It's just, you know, make believe. That's your imaginary friend. So most children, what will happen is even if they are open and they're experiencing that connection with spirit, they just naturally like outgrow it as they get a little bit older, go off to school, again, people start, like, you know, giving them weird looks if they talk about that stuff. And so they just shove it down and suppress it. Oh, you hate for them. Yeah, I know. So sad. What would you, if somebody asked you what happens when we die, what would you say?

That's a really hard question to answer in like a couple of minutes. Oh, like, oh, yeah, I'm curious. Do you believe in heaven? You can call it heaven, the other side, the afterlife. I don't believe in hell. So the way that spirit has kind of showed it to me is more, is it's more like levels on the other side. So, you know, there's no, like, dungeons of fiery hell from the way that they communicate it to me. But if you did, if you were a shit person, you know, sorry, we let a curse on the floor. Yeah, of course. So, like, is it kind of like the Titanic, like bottom deck of the Titanic, second class,

first class, you're living it up? You might be a little bit lower, but you have opportunities to kind of grow and evolve once you're on the other side and get that, you know, close, closer, higher parts of the other side. And what they do show me, like, the biggest thing that I see about what happens when we cross over is one, they always communicate it as a very, you know, pain-free, you know, peaceful experience. There's always like a reunion of people welcoming you in.

I've had people talk about the light, kind of like their soul, leaving their body, like that whole experience and seeing it from the bird's eye view, no matter how, you know, they passed, and then instantly being reunited with loved ones and angels and spirit guides and God, if you want to call God, all the, you know, however you want to call all the other people on the other side as part of your spirit squad.

They first and foremost talk about the life review. process. So when you cross over, we go through a period of life review. And so this is really a chance to watch back your life, but not just through your own eyes or your perspective, but through the lens and the eyes of everybody around you. So you go through this life review and you really see how you impacted. Yeah, it's almost scary. I'm like, you really think about like certain times of your life. Like I would not want to see my teenage like rebel years in my life. No, thank you. Me with my first ex. Like, oh, sorry. Right. So yeah. But you. do go through that experience of life review and you kind of sit down with your spirit

guides, which are like souls that have been assigned to like help you in this journey of earth school, as we call it. And they'll kind of go over what we have, what we call this soul contract, which is, you know, what we, before we're even born here in the physical world, we all agree to certain ups and downs and life lessons and experiences and all the in between that we're going to go through in this journey of Earth school for our evolution, our growth and learning for our souls. So we go through this review and we're sitting with our spirit guides and we're checking. Did we actually accomplish the things in our soul contract? Because we still have free will. It's like how closely did you achieve kind of the lessons or accomplishment you wanted

to accomplish here in the physical world to learn and evolve as a soul and that growth and everything? So we go through that life review. We watch it back. We sit with our guides. We go through our contract and all of that. You really have this full big picture perspective that you won't have here in the physical world ever. It's only until you're there on the other side one day that you get to have that big picture perspective. And it just completely shifts the way you also view yourself and some of the stuff that you go through,

but like people around you and all of that. So it's pretty profound. That is profound. Yeah. Yeah. Do dogs cross over and go to heaven? Yes. Oh my gosh, Caitlin.

I need to send you my book because you would love chapter. I think it's chapter 10 or 11 is animals have souls too. And like the entire chapter is all about dog stories and all. I mean, dog lovers will love this because it is, and cats, or any, any animals, because yes, everybody, including myself, like, we all wonder and think about, like, are our furry friends also living on here in the next world in the afterlife? And the answer is yes.

And sometimes they come through just as strong, if not stronger, than people's loved ones in spirit. And what's always funny is, like, when they'll, like, sob harder for their cat than they do for their dad or something. Hey, that's fine, but it's just, it kind of cracks me up. Yeah. But yeah, they absolutely come through. And how do they come through?

Like, just because. The same way everybody else does. But they don't speak, though. Do they give you, do they say words like, hi, I'm Pino? You know, like, hey, mom, I love when, I don't know, grab your mask when you come inside the house or because that's what Pino does, right? Ramen does that. In general, when, whether it is somebody's human love one that,

comes through for their dog or cat or their horse or whoever it's like that process of communicating with spirit is the same for me there's no language barrier even if your loved one you know spoke Korean versus English versus Spanish it's like again people are like would you be able to connect to my mom if she didn't speak English it's like there's the there's it's almost like the language of love there's just one kind of world universal language when it comes to connecting the spirit but it's not this is the biggest misconception and I feel like why so many mediums get such a bad rep is a big part about mediumship is it's our job to really explain the process and I feel like a lot of mediums fail to really explain like hey guys it's not this

black and white full blown sentences type of communication it is all about interpretation so we're using the clairs which are like senses of spirit communication so you know you have clear audience when I hear spirit in the form of my thoughts voice or clairvoyance when I see spirit and I don't typically see them outside of myself. 99.9% of time only in my mind's eye, kind of like how you would see like a daydream or whatever. And it's like through seeing, you're feeling,

you're hearing, you're sensing. Sometimes I'll just know things. I call this spirit vomit where it just comes down to my mouth. And I'm like, I literally don't even know where it came from. But all of those senses are being used kind of simultaneously. And I'm having a combination of the feelings,

the images, the sensations. And I'm putting it together like a puzzle piece to interpret as, you know, the message for you. And so a lot of it is signs and symbols. We have what, you know, I called the Spirit Dictionary. So I have go to every medium Spirit Dictionary is going to be different because it's

based off of our own personal frame of reference and experiences. So, you know, if I've never heard a name before or a certain type of illness, there's no way they can communicate that to me. They might be able to describe symptoms or give me something close, but they ultimately have to work within my frame of reference and Spirit Dictionary to be able to communicate. but it's yeah it's not these full-blown sentences it's all the combination of everything and then it's almost like doing like sign language or something like you really are the interpreter and I always say like nobody's going to be 100% accurate there's you know always going to be room for misinterpretation

which is why I always tell people like don't take what I say as the end all be all at the end of the day you know your loved one's better than I do and I'm not going to ever like try to make you feel like no because I the medium said this it's for sure right like sometimes I do misinterpret it because again, it's based off of my life circumstances and whatnot. And sometimes they might give me like the exact opposite or what it's like things will happen. But for the most part, I've learned how to develop it enough where I would say my interpretation is pretty dang good.

So I would say so too. I would say so. Yeah. So yeah. What are like common signs that we can look for from our loved ones? I know like a lot of things. I might have told you this story. But when I lived in Newfoundland in Canada, I used to feel I was in a very old house.

I, when I was only in a state of like, I was about to fall asleep, but I wasn't asleep, I would feel either a cat or a dog doing paws on my body, only in this one house. And it was like very, and I would be like, oh my God, it's happening. And I like, I can like, like, I know I wasn't sleeping or dreaming. It wasn't like, did you ever see a small fluffy white cat or small fluffy white dog by any chance? I don't know. The weirdest thing. Weirdest thing happened last night.

And I was like, I wonder if this is like going to be for the podcast tomorrow, like spirit showing up early. I like, like I was saying, I almost never see spirit outside of myself. Like literally, I've connected to thousands and thousands and thousands of souls. I've only seen spirit outside myself like two times. They were both randomly Puerto Rican grandmothers. So I don't know if they just have like a stronger energy, who knows. But until last night and it scared the crap out of my. No way.

He's like, I don't want to hear this. It's bringing me out. We were looking at our dog bed and our, we were sitting in our living room and I was looking at our dog bed. And I kept seeing, I was like, hi, am I, like, hallucinating? Because I'm so not used to seeing spirit this way. I was like, I see this fluffy white little cat that's like shifting into a fluffy white white little dog. And I was like so confused.

It was so weird. But maybe it's not connected to you. Maybe somebody else. Anybody here have a white fluffy cat or dog that has passed? So weird. It was so weird. Okay. So you saw, oh, wow.

There's like a Ruby or something our name. I'll just throw that out there. I don't know who it's connected to. Okay. So weird. It'll just happen randomly. Yeah. And I don't always know where to place it or who it belongs to.

That's the most frustrating thing sometimes is sometimes you'll just have like a random dead person show up and you're like driving somewhere. What do you want? It's like why I've had to learn to shut it off a little bit because otherwise I just had like random people like standing at the foot of my bed and I'm like, man, no, thank you. Oh my. I would love to have that gift. I'm sure there comes with so many like, you know, ups and downs and like it's draining.

But, like, that is such a gift. Yeah. No, there's definitely a lot of amazing aspects to it. Yeah. In addition to the harder parts of it. But wait, I don't even feel like, did we talk about signs that you can look for? Oh, that's what I was.

Sorry, that's what I was saying, is that I, like, that to me, I'm like, who's dog or cat or something? Like, obviously it wasn't my house, so I didn't know. But I know a lot of things happen with, like, light fixtures happens for a lot of people. this is the i'm slightly feverish right now so it's probably that uh so i'm like oh god's time okay so to answer the question yes flickering light messing with technology your tv going on and off randomly maybe you parked your car and you're missing your dad and that light just went up you know the street lamp above you just went off at that moment um things with wings are a big one

butterflies dragonflies uh birds you know blue jays red robins all the all the things ladybugs rainbows, dreams, spirit visitation dreams, which are always amazing because when spirit comes through in that dream, it's them in that exact moment coming through to let you know that they are with you and that they're at peace. Repeating numbers. So my favorite, I have a tattoo here, 4-4-4-4-4-4-4-4-1-1-2-2. So repeating numbers, 4-4-11, 11-21, 2-2. And it doesn't always have to be the same repeating number. Maybe you see your father's birthday all the time. Oh, I see 9-11. 9-11 on the clock all the time. That's really weird. I know. I see. I said I wasn't going to go in a reading mode today because I felt like so shitty.

But maybe I have to now because I was like, give me a sign if I'm supposed to. And I kept getting September 11th connections, the whole drive here. So that's really weird. I'll tap in in a second. Can we put it on pause for a second just so I can give listeners a couple more signs that think of a laundry list, guys, clearly. And I'm sure I'm forgetting other, oh, smells, perfumes, clones. Maybe if your dad was like a mechanic, you might get like a gasoline smell or oil

or whatever like all sorts of there's so many different ways that they um well songs music is a big one songs that will come up on the radio when you're thinking of somebody um and whatnot so heart shaped clouds and rocks the list goes on and on and it's not always just like the pretty signs too like you can specifically ask your loved ones to like send you something maybe more special or unique to you so i had one woman whose father um he was a carpenter so she would ask him for rusty nails and she would see like rusty nails randomly all the time on like a significant day like or you know when she was really missing him so i always tell people like you like my biggest thing and my biggest goal with my work is not just to share my gift and help people through like

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like I know my when I'm at a 10 like it sounds like I know in my when I'm like super in my group of connecting and then other times people don't realize like how much energy like influences the connection so if you are feeling under the weather if you're you know it kind of make it a little fuzzier or harder for me so at the expense of you know maybe I don't look as strong as I normally do whatever I don't even care I still want to give you some messages because I feel like somebody is definitely trying to come through. So I will open that door. What was your friend's name again?

Lowe. Low. Don't get upset if nobody comes through for you. It's not as to me, Lo, who chooses to come through or what they have to say. I feel like, I'm not upset. Because it's funny, Caitlin, like I so badly wanted you to get messages last time. I don't think you did. It's fuzzy, but I think it was just the ex at the time.

I think it was just your ex. So maybe I think Spirit was like this time, it's for our girl. like it's for you this time. Okay, just a couple of things before I open that door to connecting a spirit is I do have to close my eyes for about 30 seconds or so. So this is my time to clear out all of my shit, my to do list, all my anxieties, worries, whatever. Out of the way, to have a clear blank slate to let your loved one step forward. During that time, I ask that you also close your eyes and that you ask whoever you might want to hear from. Again, no guarantee.

It's not like a 1-800, you know, like a call to have. Am I doing that too? or is it? Okay. Yeah, you can. You can. Let's ask Spirit to come through and then I'll let you guys know in about 30 seconds. I'll open my eyes and I'll and I'll jump into it. Sound good? Yep. I'm already closed. Okay. Okay. Just a heads up. I do when I am like a one-on-one or like a small group like this, I do like to have a blank notebook in front of me just showing you. It's totally like. I do like to, if you see me scribble, that's why sometimes the information is coming so fast that I need to. like jot stuff down so that's what i will be doing over here also this is the other tricky part about me being sick because so much of like things that they'll communicate connected to like how they pass or like illnesses or like illnesses they'll physically make me feel things it's really hard now right now like distinguishing stuff with like my throat my cough yeah yeah like it's really I'm like trying to like be like just connected to somebody's ailment too or is it just me so right

just bear with me a little bit I might need your guys just help a touch more okay because of that but I'm going to do my best to figure out who this is. Okay, so just a yes or no. So the less I know the better, which is why I like to know like as little as possible because when I'm a blank slate then I don't have like bias coming. Like even the fact that I'd met you before

makes me a little nervous. I'd really try to like separate that so that I don't let that influence or bias me with what's coming through. Yeah. A couple of things. First, you have a very strong grandfather that is trying to come through.

But I feel like, I want to acknowledge mom's side of the family. So his mom's dad crossed over. Are both grandpas passed on? Yeah. Because as soon as I said, mom, I heard like, dad's dad's here too. Like, don't forget about me. But I feel like you were closer or got to know the mom's side of the family or those grandparents better.

Would that make sense? And I feel like the mom's dad, I feel like his wife has also crossed over. And they show me the holding of the hands. One of my favorite signs are symbols. It's their long last. lasting love together forever, soulmate connection. They feel like young love or high school, college, sweetheart, type of a vibe. Kindergarten. Oh, my God.

Talk about young, young, young love. So right off the bat, acknowledging and wanting to make it very clear that they have reunited on the other side and that they are together. I do feel like it's not like fresh, fresh, but are we still within the last five or so, around five years? Yeah. um since both of these grandparents passed um five from yeah my grandpa yeah got it he okay your grandfather is funny because you would think normally it's the grandmothers that are like more chatty and like want to take the floor more but it's actually the opposite your grandpa has more

of like a funky like funny um personality like chatty talk like he's the one that's like no you like let me talk for it's really funny he's trying to acknowledge that you get a lot of your best qualities or traits from him he's being silly that way he's like yeah she gets most of that from me. You're welcome. Like, there's like this confidence or this like, there's like this. He was like equal parts like, I don't want to say like mysterious or reserved, but like there's a side of him that's more reserved. But then there's this side of him that is like super goofy and fun, loving, outgoing, carefree. And he is just like a hoop on the other side. The two of them together have, oh gosh, the beautiful like soul connection between them two is so special.

And I do feel like the way that they are glowing together is like, if anything else, also, like, just acknowledge that they have reunited, like, they'd be like, we would be good. But, like, they say that there's a bunch of other people that are also here. So, like, we'll see, they might pop around a lot. Like, sometimes, like, grandma or grandpa will bring in somebody else, and they'll leave or, like, take, like, move for a second and that somebody else will come in. So kind of might jump all over the place.

But I know that these two are here. And I all, okay, slow down. I also feel that they're, they're with a son or they're with, do you have an uncle that's crossed over? Yeah. Okay. You also have uncle on the other side. do feel like be married or have kids still that are still here like let that like we don't have time to get to everyone he's like you at least need to let my family know that I'm okay he passed more

swiftly suddenly or unexpectedly or things happen quicker where he didn't necessarily have a chance to say goodbye to everybody or like not everyone in the family got to be there for like a final goodbye he says it's okay because like we still had those last moments where my soul came through around to everyone but he's saying I'm good I'm good I'm good um I also Danny or Donnie or Dan or something. Okay, perfect. I was like, give me something more. He's like, I need to validate this specifically you that we're talking to.

Okay. I don't know if this is related to him or you, but he keeps talking about real estate or maybe this is one of his kids or one of them working in real estate or what's with the real estate or he was in real estate. He is showing me, he's showing me there is something like he's trying to guide. He's actually, normally our loved ones in spirit aren't also like our assigned spirit guides. usually, like, our spirit guides of people that aren't related to us, but he kind of acts as a little bit of a guide role for you. He's like, believe it or not, like, it's probably like maybe

you wouldn't expect that, but he's trying to help you with some stuff. And I don't know if you're looking to move or if you're thinking about investing in other property or something like that. He wants you to put a pause. Don't do that right away. Okay. Maybe with everything going on with it. Who knows? But he says like people, like the right timing will have like all in divine timing. Like don't force or push anything. If he's been thinking or maybe that thought is across, like, cross your mind. He says, like, I'm not a psychic. This is just sometimes you see what's going on in our lives or what's in motion.

You have free will. Sometimes things change. So don't hold me to that. But that was a message. He's trying to, like, help you with different things involved with that. I also feel, okay, uh, that, okay, going back to 9-11 situation is just a yes or no so I don't misinterpret this. Is this connected to a friend that's crossed over or do you get messages from a, like,

a younger female that's crossed over here slow down okay um she feels like maybe early 20s late teens younger vibe to her feels like a friend's connection okay almost like a sister but not a sister okay she shows me young unexpected this younger female i'm like who the hell are you so do you okay just yes you know do you have a friend that's crossed over that would be teenage early 20s age range she's showing me my mom who's Marlene Marlena however you want to pronounce it so who's connected whenever they show me my mom because that's not as common of a name like I always know that it's usually connected to either their mom or a grandmother that's her mom that okay perfect amazing she is like now that I'm really letting her in

there's other people still I know the grandpa okay this is where it's hard because I know we only have so much time is it okay if she takes the floor for a good bit like she kind of wants to talk of, is this who you would hope to hear from the most? Yeah. Okay, because she's like, it's okay, Monica. Like, she loves all the family and it's not that she doesn't care about them, but like we haven't, I don't think you've necessarily had this opportunity to connect with her this way. And she's been waiting and waiting and waiting a long time.

And she says that, I was like, well, why? It's funny. Okay, just yes or no. She passed long time ago, like, like maybe close to 20 years ago feels like at least over 10, 15, 20 years, long time. Yeah. yeah okay because she's acknowledging like whether it because i've met you before and i don't know like she's like that you've met other people where she could have come through but she's such a kind genuine soul that she's always stepped aside to let other i'm gonna cry she's gave me chills

she said i've always stepped aside so that somebody else who might have needed it more in that moment or wouldn't have had that opportunity again could have that opportunity and she was like waiting for like the right time i guess um but this is like a very very close friend that i feel like is very, very much around you and with you. Now, this is where she's giving them my symbol where I get, this is why hate reading, sorry, I don't like to use the word hate. I really strongly dislike reading celebrities because so much of your lives are out there and, you know, public, you know, for people.

Yeah. Have you talked about her on the podcast before or like shared about her before? I shared a little bit on Dancing with the Stars. Okay. So again, disclaimer, because I'm always the medium. I'm like I want to be very, very clear and up front. Like, I follow you on Instagram. I'm like, hey, vaguely heard you post about this person before because it's like,

I'm like, oh my gosh, was there like a younger person that I've seen before? But I'm going to really put that aside. You don't want that to bias. I don't know if that's the same one or different. But now that just came to me and I'm like, that's my ethics. Like I have. That's, I'm all about ethics and mediumship. Like, I have to very much explain when those things happen to people know.

Yeah. But with that being said, like that's all, like I don't, not aware of anything else but what she is showing me very very clearly is that that you talk to her and connect with her all the effing time like all the time you talk to her while you're driving while you're traveling while even like you know in the shower sometimes or in bath or whatever like you have these conversations with your friend all the time and I get this feeling can you give me her name I'm trying to get it but I'm Lindsay this is me being sick okay because I like to know what to call them like not just be like spirit yeah and it helps me kind of zone in on that energy but She feels like she is so very much like this, like, anchor, like, this guiding force for you and, like, all these amazing things that you have done and accomplished and everything.

She's kind of like, I have helped you along the way and that she's very, very proud of, like, who you've grown into and the person that you've become. And she's showing me the 9-11. I don't know if you knew who it connected to, but she's the one sending that to you. Is there a connection to September when she passed because she's making me feel like perhaps it's connected to her. her passing. And if it's not actually like the day that she died, maybe, I don't know if this is like anniversary of like, you know, when you would have like buried her or late to rest or something like that. But it feels like 9-11 is significant around her and time of timing of when she would have crossed. Does that make sense? Yeah. I never thought of that. Okay. She's saying that

she's the one that has sent that to you. So she's like, you can now know that I'm claiming that time. Okay. She's also acknowledging she shows me one very, very clearly one and one brother sister. So I do feel like there's still living brother and sister that you would still be able to pass on a message to. Would you understand that? She is acknowledging like and her mom. I mean, her whole family. I feel like dad's also still living as well, her father. I feel like you can pass on a message to these people and she is really wanting that because I, as much as she's excited to come through for you as like, you know, such a like a bestie, almost like that sister connection. It's like mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, like so intently or intensely like trying to get that

to mom and the rest of her family that I'm okay. Blow down. So this is when it gets to be a little bit tricky with my fame of reference and signed symbols, but I want to give as much validation as possible. So when I bring it back to the time of passing, I don't bring through information to make you relive and like be depressed or sad or this or that. Like I do it one for validation purposes, but two, because sometimes there's still things we're holding on to surrounding like how somebody died or whatever, like questions or whatever

that we still need answers to. So I think that's why she kind of wants me to bring it back to that. But she is acknowledging that, and just yes or no, because I don't want to be biased or second guess this. But she is showing me very clearly my symbols for car accident. And she does also show me, okay, she passed very sudden, swift or unexpectedly, okay? She's saying that there was a technicality of her still holding on or like they thought she was still maybe like her brain like her brain was still going or her heart was still beating

and then passed short like like brought to the hospital and then passed like afterwards was she like meta like air vac or something yeah holy shis i don't see that all the time that's like a more thank you spirit um so it was like give me something like i want to see this scene and i don't see that all the time so that's pretty cool um and she was showing me like let me make it clear like especially my mom i did not feel pain i did not suffer so even though she was still technically still alive for a period of time like her soul had already transitioned she was already at peace already with the angels already okay and this can also be helpful for people to hear or know like to understand that there's nothing they could have done differently or maybe if they'd gotten her into the

hospital sooner or done this or that like maybe she would still be here she's saying this was part of my sole contract that i was supposed to cross over when i did yeah she did not feel any pain that's the biggest thing her soul transition from the moment of um of impact i also okay whoa okay so spirit will sometimes bring me back to other like past connections if there's like something that's been added to my spirit dictionary that I hadn't seen before and then I saw it and then it relates. So I'm seeing a couple different connections that I have experienced in the past where she's making me feel like one there was when I'm asking her bring me to like the accident like showing me what's happening. I feel that there is a collision of two vehicles just yes or no

There feels like there's a collision of two vehicles. And I also feel like there's something very significant about the truck. She says, talk about the truck, talk about the truck. So either she was in the truck or there was another truck or something like that, but there is a feeling of talk about the truck. And I also feel like this is like a stand, like maybe like a bluish green or like a green blue or something like that. But there's a very vivid color associated with the truck as well.

And I feel that when she says talk about the truck and she's showing this to me, everything happened very, very, very fast. and she was not alone. And she's showing me my symbol where, and this is where now more people are starting together. Other souls pass away in that accident or that same evening. And she says, actually, morning, mom. Whoa.

Were we, like, between the hours of 2 to 5 a.m. Yeah. When she would have crossed over, she says teenagers being teenagers. So when I hear that, it's usually connected to, you know, maybe not always making the best choices as teens or somebody associated with the symbols of, like, you know, taking responsibility there's a feeling i don't think her but i feel like somebody else she wasn't

the one driving correct i feel like she's not the one driving but somebody who was either in that car or the other car there is my i am getting a symbols of drinking and driving um or distracted driving or speeding or something like that feels like somebody's like there's some sort of pointing the finger or somebody was blamed or something like that um and then there's also this feeling of again that i wasn't the only one to go um i also got my symbol for not wearing seatbelts so and I got my flying at a, whoa, whoa, hi, God, sorry. I try to keep my emotions up big because it's harder to connect to spirit when I start pride, but this is another symbol that I will get if they are outside of the car

and got ejected. So I am, oh, God, I am seeing that. She keeps, like, acknowledging, like, the horrific, like, tragic manner in which she was seen or how her body appeared or just like that whole, obviously the entire circumstances surrounding that she says i don't want you guys to remember me that way because i was so so so much more than the way that i died and that tragic incident um but she's saying again for the purpose of needing to make it that much more clear that she did not feel that pain and then i also get this feeling of who's drew or andrew or andrew was the other guy that died

who chill god i love i love one spirit closer even when i'm sick and feeling like i'm having an off day were you in the grade above them or something or okay because there was this feeling of she was the cool one who had already gone like gone off to school or gone off the college or lived the real world or something and we were still all like stuck behind in the hometown or back at school or whatever so this happened back like high school days i had graduated she was in the 12 yeah got it but you were older um there's this feeling of you always kind of uh um she says like you taught her a lot or like you taught her a lot or like you you showed her the way a lot in like the most ridiculous of thing like the most ridiculous things. I don't even know like again might not be in my frame of reference but like silly things like whether it be like I don't know like just like oh I'm going to teach you how to play hopscotch or like throw the pebbles in the pot or like I don't know like face painting or singing karaoke like there's just this like let me like holding like I see you like holding our hand behind you and like walking together and then like in a neighborhood together.

we lived like next door neighbors like we would walk around the neighborhood all the time perfect yeah there's this feeling though of like all these um like growing up and and you kind of showing her the way or something like that and then uh with that other guy he's like yeah we looked up to you like there's this feeling like she's so cool like even before like because this must have been then far before you were known but like even back then you were always the one to like look look to or like where is she like what is you up to or something like that um I also feel, whoa, okay, were there other souls that also crossed in the car that would have the collision? Do you know if people died in that other far?

Okay. But there was this feeling of also other young people that unrelated, though, like they wouldn't have known these people, but we're also like young teenage, early 20s type energies as well. I feel like female energy. So I don't know. Two girls. But they're acknowledging that they too are also like. all even if you didn't know them like they're trying to like maybe somebody will hear this that will like connect to our families too and they were like please like pass on that message that we're

okay i keep hearing like a linley or a lynn or a l another elf you know so i don't know where that connects but hopefully that'll connect to somebody um i also my husband's Tyler and she's showing me and god so many people name connections with my family um who's Tyler is this like boyfriend brother dad somebody in the inner circle that's still live i feel Tyler is her brother perfect um she goes bro um i also got this feeling of did you ride to school before you and her did you carpool in the suburban i keep hearing like the or the sedan or the sedan did you drive together in like a smaller car together yes okay um and there was this feeling of the blasting of the music singing together at the top of your lungs as like a really fond memory when you think of her yeah um and she

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drying experience with smooth wrap today she's bringing back to her mom again Her mom must paint or do something creative or artistic because she's showing mom likes to connect with me through like the arts or through drawing or painting or something like that. So maybe you'll have to check with her or do you happen to know you'll have to check that. You'll have to check that. She's acknowledging that pretty strongly. She's also saying thanks for the matching tattoos that a bunch of people got met or at least several people got tattoos for her or in memory or an honor of her. No, that's a common thing, but she did want to acknowledge it. Do you have something related to her name that you have? Yeah, yeah, her initial.

She's reunited with dogs on the other side, as we were talking about dogs earlier. It's kind of funny. Maybe this was her dog. Did she have a little white dog or a little fluffy dog that's passed over? No. Wait, did she? Maybe someone in her family that. Yeah, maybe I don't know.

I always say the gift of a reading keeps on giving when you have to say no. And then later you talk to her mom or friends or whoever. It's like, oh my God, yes. It all makes sense. Wait. But I did just see that. Wait, her mom has a little fluffy dog. Hmm.

There is a little fluffy white dog, so perhaps it's this one or somebody else in their inner circle. But there is a dog that she's acknowledging little fluffy white dog, who I believe is crossed over. There's also another bigger dog. It's like a German shepherd or maybe a pit bull, but it feels like a bigger, more like a bigger, more bulkier breed, I guess, like a medium-sized dog, but like a darker coat. And I feel that she's trying to acknowledge that whoever lost,

I feel like it's either her brother or her sister or somebody had a dog that crossed over that she's also with with the other family pets that they're all together. She's also with other loved ones, of course, but she really wanted to acknowledge the dogs that she is reunited with as well. She's talking about that you need to write a book. So funny. She wants you to write a book. She's trying to guide you. I feel like maybe this has crossed your mind or you thought and you think that you're not capable or like you don't have something as valuable to share. that she says, you're going, she's like, you think you've already impacted millions of people,

but the book will reach even more people that you are meant to, like, connect with or impact through your story. I also keep getting May 23 is a big thing. Again, I'm not psychic. She's just showing this to me. Really? So something big's happening in May 2020. I don't know if that's when you're planning on getting married.

If that's when you're planning, I'm starting to have babies. That's her wedding. No. Oh my gosh. Okay. Something May 23. It's not the wedding. Something's happening.

Also, this is a message I don't sometimes get. It's always funny. They're just being like be extra careful with protection if you don't want to have a baby because there is a baby that's waiting for you so strongly. There's a baby that's like right here. I know it's 50-50 chances. Like, oh, yeah, 50-50 bored girl. Normally 99.9% of the time they are accurate unless they don't want to ruin the surprise.

So again, don't home me to this, but I am feeling a lot of female energy. So I don't know a little girl may be waiting for you. Have you actually thought about taking Lindsay's either her first or middle name and like carrying that. down if you ever have a daughter because there was this feeling of like you may or she's like you don't have to but it's like the thought that counts you're like Lindsay

you know I'm just saying that for my grandma oh my gosh no but she's like laughing like hey I wouldn't mind it like not like you have to that would be so sweet wait I've been to some another medium who she doesn't really actually practice being a medium she just has a gift told me she was like

you better be careful there is a little girl waiting to you're kidding nope So here you go. Now, again, we're absolutely a little girl waiting. There may or may not be some IVF involved in that, but the purpose is just knowing that, like, whenever that time, like in divine timing, that time will happen. And to be, again, be careful because, you know,

you never know how soon that could be happening. I'm a case in point. I got pregnant three months before my wedding last July. So. Oh, my God. And I had a postpone in a year from the pandemic and all of that, only to be knocked up and half the piece over at my own living. But it's all good.

I joke. I'm like, I probably wouldn't have remembered the way. think so I also just got this really strong feeling of butterfly. I know things with wings are a big one, but butterflies specifically for you and dragonflies are going to be signs that either you've already been getting or you're going to start getting even more. So be open to butterflies, dragonflies, that's going to be a big one for you. And then I also keep hearing in addition to the book, have you, are you thinking of writing a song in memory of your friend or like writing some sort of, I don't know, I don't know. I don't

what it is of like a poem or a song or something I what or her no I mean I have that's a great idea though I haven't been thinking about writing a song but I didn't even I was actually questioning on what to write about so she wants you to there's this feeling of there's I get this all the time I'm like I'm no singer otherwise I would write it and sing it myself but I can't sing for shit but there's not enough songs that talk about like yeah there's lots of songs talk about grief and loss but like this specific type of circumstance of like your like situation and, like, those memories, like, incorporating that in a song.

I just, I keep hearing, she's like, it's going to help a lot. Like, I could, like, oh, my God, I'm going to cry. Like, I see you singing this song. I can see you in a recording studio, recording the song, and I see people taking the song and using it at, like, their memorial service for their best friend. Or, oh, I'm getting full-blown chills.

I, you are going to do this. Absolutely. Okay. In the next six years, it doesn't have to be anytime soon. Okay. But she's showing that this is something that she will help you when the time, again, all in divine time, maybe she's going to help you with that, which is really, really cool.

Again, sorry, this is what happens. Spirable. No, you. Bopson and Popson can't speak. Again, I can't speak. Mom brain flash sick. Definitely. Also, was your friend late to rest where they had a viewing of the body before they buried her?

I did get like a burial as opposed to cremated. Would that be accurate? Because she is showing me you like seeing her and like having a moment with her and talking to her or something. Or maybe there's like the intention. If it's not you, then it would be like somebody else very close. Did you have that moment where you spoke to her? I couldn't. It was our other best friend.

Yeah. Okay, got it. Slow down. Who was Bree, Brianna, Breel? Yeah. Brea, yeah. Cool. Is this like, they're showing me, me and my, I have like two best friends from high

school. They were like the three musketeers. It was like the three best friends that anyone could have. Yeah. Was that kind of like your guys is dynamic? Yeah. Because as soon, as you said that, she's like, the three musketeers, the three musketeers. Does she have two.

children. She keeps talking about the kiddos, the kiddos, she says that that Vasi, like, she's an incredible mom and that she's constantly like asking your friend for like, even though your friend wasn't, I don't think she's, she's not a mom. She was like felt really young, but she's like very motherly, like maybe her energy is just very motherly that she kind of like calls upon her when she's having struggles with the kids or something. And they feel like more like elementary school, younger kind of age where she's like dropping them off at like all the sport plays and all the things or whatever. She says she's very proud of her and the mom that she has become. And she says that, uh, did you guys use to argue that they were

closer than you and her or something? She's saying, Caitlin, I'm just going to answer. Yeah, we were a little. They did get. They were. I don't, I don't bullshit around. I'm not going to be like, oh, you bet. No. She's like, yeah, to be honest, we, we, we were homies. We're, they were like, we were inseparable. They're inseparable. Yeah. Brie, and then it was a competitive threesome of friendships. It was like you were always fighting for the others' attention in a way, but still are all such best friends, but she is laughing like,

okay, you're not wrong there, but it doesn't mean that I am not just as much around you as I am her. And there's also this feeling of, it's a symbol I'll get where, you know, you'll lose touch or you'll not maybe see each other or communicate for a period of time in the months or years preceding their passing. So did you not get, were you like not as close? Or did you only like maybe like sent a postcard or I don't know, like talk off like when you were a home or something before she died or have, I don't want to say have a falling out. But I just feel like you weren't as.

Oh, okay. Maybe that's why it was. Yeah. Okay. Again, all about how I interpret it. I'm like, why am I? Okay. So that's why.

Because she says nothing but forgiveness around that situation and that you, this is another thing where you carry a lot of guilt around like not like especially because I don't even it was so petty and such stupid bullshit to be like like it feels very like just so trivial I don't know exactly but it's it almost like like fighting over maybe it's not boy but it's like almost like the feeling of like something as dumb as like fighting like letting a guy come in in between your friendship or like just like sorry I don't even remember what it was yeah it's like it's so trivial that you don't even remember it's just so stupid but she says like to not, to not let that get to you because when she looks back,

like when she, again, in her life review, she sees, she saw not just her perspective, but yours and like all the many, like the, all the years of really close, beautiful memories and times together and beautiful, you know, sharing laughs and all this fun stuff together. It's like that's what she remembers, not like this falling out the last, you know, a couple years or whatever where things weren't as close. Yeah. She says that doesn't matter to like not feel bad.

about that. She knows your heart. She knows how much you love her and like how much you talk to her and how, uh, how what you do feel for her and everything. And so she's like no hard feelings about that. She keeps showing me like, in one of your homes, did you put up one of those little like stages as a child and put on little like performances, either like dance performances or plays or theater type things. But like with the costumes, like there's so much of that, um, where she's acknowledging of like having fun um dancing together or singing together uh and that being like some of your like fondest memories with her yeah perfect was she dating somebody at the time of her passing there was like a guy that she had a like either they were dating or maybe they were

like an unofficial fling or something um but she's watching over him did he recently get married or have a child or something or i don't i don't know because um brie would know this because she keeps in touch with him and I actually don't. Okay. Is there a J or a G or a C or a K name connection to him? C. Yeah. It's for the,

it's for that. There's definitely for that guy. I know there's some sort of, I can't get it. My energy's draining, but I know that she's trying to get the message to him. And I got celebratory like, congrats,

I see everything you're all going like that's going on in your life. So I feel like something significant happened. Maybe, you know, an engagement or upcoming child or something significant within his family or around him, but I did get this feeling of I'm watching over him and that he still does think about her and talk to her quite often. Since I know we have to wrap up, I am going to, I know this was all over the place, to be honest.

That was amazing. But I'm so sorry you didn't have your people. I'm so sorry. I really wish I could bring through all of your life next time. I've lost like 15 people, those bastards. Caitlin can attest to this for Kate like as a host last time she can get nobody and I didn't know Sean was going to be at that podcast and everyone came through for Sean and known for me and I was like no one for me.

Caitlin's probably because they knew that you wouldn't still be together. They're like she'll have her chance in the future. It's true. Oh yeah, are you going to pull a card for us? Yes, I would love to. So I'm going to I'm going to pull a couple cards and I can pull some for low too. Yeah. Just like what you need to know for your highest and best good in regards to the exact moment.

Two just fell out. So I'm going to put those aside. Morning ritual was one. And let me just set the intention because I think, I don't know who this is for you, too, since they just fell out, but then I'll set the intention for you both. Morning ritual, create a morning ritual that nurtures your mind, body, and soul, how you start your morning, sets the tone for the whole day, and then quality time, carve out time in your schedule for quality interaction with the people that you love.

But I also feel that this morning ritual is also important for you as well, not like you don't have a great. I'm sure you already do have a good morning ritual, but maybe if you've been flapping lately where you're having more mornings where you're dragging your feet out of bed and like not starting your day with the workout or feeling good or like a healthy breakfast, that kind of thing. I'm just trying to give you that little nudge. I also feel like you have in the past journaled, but you've kind of fallen off of it a bit or like you used to do gratitude journaling or whatever, but you haven't been sticking with it as much.

So that'll also help you as well as doing some journaling before bed and when you wake up and things like that. So next card, time to play. So you need solitude, but also you need to have some fun in your life. So I know you have probably tons of fun, but when's last time you just did something just for it? Not because it's an ad, not because it's an event or a podcast or, you know, whatever photo shoot. It's like when was last time?

Like you just genuinely did something that was fun without social media. Perfect. So that is encouraging you to keep doing that and to do things that will bring you. Joy. So this says unleash your inner child and make a point to repunish yourself through play. So something that really gets laughing, maybe a game night or something fun like that. But that is going to be something that they also want you to focus on seek balance. Okay. So we don't need more balance in life. Caitlin. Balance plays a significant role in managing your energy and avoiding burnout. So I feel like you've been up like just nine stop. Go, go, go, go, go.

And that's amazing. And you are like so proud of yourself. And you get that feeling of like accomplishment. but at the same time at what expense like you know like your just overall mental health your well-being your relationships with family friends the things that are really important life what I can tell you is at the end of the day nobody's on their deathbed saying you know I wish I worked harder and no one's coming through in spirit ever in all the years I've done this saying I wish I made you know I wish I made more money I wish I worked longer hours I wish I was more successful they're saying I wish I spent more time with the people that I love I wish I got back home to see my you know grandkids or my nephews or nieces or whatever it's like we you know we kind of compare and have

this pressure of like what happiness looks like but really when we're all dead we're all none of that ego like all of that stuff is gone that doesn't nobody cares about how much money you made that's what's what's really important in life finding the balance you can have it all though like you can still be that bomb bomb you know boss babe all of that successful entrepreneur doing your thing, but at the same time, remember the importance of boundaries. They know. You say yes, a lot of times of things that like, then you're like, wait, why did I actually say yes to that?

So being able to really set boundaries and finding more balance in your life so that you don't get burnt out because I do feel like that's a big thing. You've been burnt out almost like nonstop. She's like in a constant state of burnout. Oh my gosh. And then this last card, I'm just asking just a final wrap up message for her highest semester. Actually, you tell me when to stop and then I hope.

I also like to do it that way. Stop. All right. Deep breathing. Okay. I like that card. When feeling overwhelmed, focus your attention on your breath. Deep breathing will help dial down your anxiety and stress.

So just simple, basic message, but something that we all so often are guilty of where we're like, we just sometimes forget to breathe to really sit down, slow down, focusing on those really restorative, meditative breaths. will really help you, especially when you are dealing with anxiety or stress or burnout, whatever those things are, that that's important. I love the overall theme of your cards, too, is need for solitude, get having some fun. So it's like the balance, like the balance of all these things with the seek balance and then keep breathing.

So getting in touch back to yourself, getting quiet, getting clear, and the clarity will come. I wish I could just tell you, this is what you need to do, do this, do that. I don't, I'm not, I'm like, I've always say, our loved ones aren't. God. I'm not God. We don't have all the answers. Ultimately, only you can kind of really make that decision. I can tell you where they're like trying to nudge you. Yeah. But only you will like, only you are capable of making those decisions and choices, but it all will work out the way it's meant to. So lots of love from above. Oh, can I make one plug before we hop off for something.

Yes. Thank you. Um, you. Um, you just gave me like a life changing, like reading. No, you can't play you so plug everything. It's just that like I was talking about earlier. I no longer do private schedule readings outside of like giveaways and stuff. So if you guys are listening and you want a chance, make sure you're following me at Monix the Medium on Instagram. That's where I do give away right now. But outside of that, since I, again, I'm only one person and I try to find ways to share my gifts with as many people

where even if I can't connect with them one-on-one, the project more than my television series on free form, more than my podcast or my events or anything, the project I'm most proud of in my whole life. is my book messages from above what your loved one from heaven want you to know and it is something that I poured my heart and soul into it's been a couple years but like the timing of when it came out was like first right before the pandemic so I felt like it never it reached it has reached so many people but I know that it's only just barely tap that you know that audience that would really

really get so much relief from reading it and there's also an audio book you can find the audible as well but this book I answer all the burning questions there's different chapters based off what type of loss you've gone through. So their chapter dedicated to the loss of a child, losing a loved one from illness, losing a loved one to suicide or overdose, all types of different passings, unexpected, tragic passing, like a car accident.

You know, all the different types of passing, all the different common themes and messages of when Spirit comes through, what they really want our loved ones here in the physical world to know, and really giving you that ability to help you heal and move forward and trusting that love never dies, death is not the end, and that our loved ones in spirit are always,

and forever with us and right by your side. So best thing I have shared in the world is if I die tomorrow, I always joke. I can die tomorrow now because I've left this in the world. And I know that it's awesome. It covers everything that if you're like, oh my God, I had all these other questions listening to this podcast. I still have, you know, I still want answers to check out the book. Messages from above what your loved ones in heaven want you.

Oh, we'll put that on Instagram too. Thank you so much. I was going to bring you like sign coffee. I was so excited. I was going to do the whole thing. but now you'll just have to have me back in like an other one thousand and ten percent you have to come back always yeah and we'll do it in person yeah always yes i will always have you on any time you want um you really did so much for me today and probably so many other people so thank you and thank you even though you're feeling sick and that is so draining thank you for doing that yeah no worries again this was me on an off day so i'm like guys don't touch me based off of my ability and after being off for five months for maternity you were in my mind you were in my mind you were in my own insane. Are you kidding me? I'm like so, I'm my worst critic.

That was, yeah, of course, we all are. But you're incredible. Thank you. Go snuggle your baby and rest. I can't wait. I'm going to go, yeah, right to bed. Yes, you rest. But cheers to you guys. Thank you again for having me on the podcast. And I'm wishing you all the best. And hopefully it gets to see you in person next time. Yes, 1,000%.

Awesome. Okay. Bye, guys. Bye. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Off the Vine. Don't forget to rate, review, and follow on your favorite podcast platform. And we'll see you next Tuesday. Hey guys, I'm Sam.

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