Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Nelly Joy & Colbie Caillat of Gone West

Episode Date: January 14, 2020

Kaitlyn sits down with Colbie and Nelly, half of the four-person country band, Gone West. Not only is the band a group of four friends, but it's also composed of two couples. Kaitlyn asks what it's like working so closely with friends and romantic partners and compares it to her experience with Shawn after her season on the Bachelorette. We learn about Gone West's early music inspiration and what its like for Colbie to perform as a true introvert. Colbie and Nelly encourage Kaitlyn to show her music to the world and face her fears! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today I'm here in the studio with two of the members of the country band Gone West. The band is made up of four friends who also happen to be two couples, like you said, a couple of couples. A couple couples with all different backgrounds and coming together to bring a new sound to country music. One is a songwriter and Academy of Music Country Award. nominee. One is a multiple Grammy Award winner whose songs you've likely sang along to on the radio. They now live here in Nashville. And you guys also live in California or just strictly in Nashville? We consider that our second home. Okay. Yeah. That's safe. That's safe. We would be there as much as possible if we could. Yeah. I mean, who doesn't love California. But yes, you live here

in Nashville where you write, perform, put out music, full stories, harmonies that you're going to want to hear everybody who's listening. I was listening to them the whole way over here. Please welcome to the podcast, Nellie Joy and Colby Kelly, like ballet. Yes. Well done. Thank you. Can you please just spread that around the world so everyone can say it right? Well, because we were talking before we started recording, we were talking about how to pronounce last names. And what did you say? Where were you again? Well, in France. So, like, my last name is French. And so they corrected me on how my family says our last name wrong. And how did they say you should say it? Like,

Kaya or something like that. Kaya or something. You can say your last name, however you want to say your last name. Thank you guys so much for being here. Thank you. And drinking wine with me. I've done a couple podcasts before this, but we didn't drink. Why not?

I don't know. Sometimes I'll go to L.A. and have like five in a row. And on my fifth one, I'm like, thank you so much for being here. So, yeah. So this is good. I'm not on that level. We'll get there, though. We'll get there.

We'll get there. support you if you take that plunge. I will take the plunge. Actually, what's the weather like other? Because I was pouring. It's terrible. I was sitting here with Walker Hayes and behind him was just a lightning show going on in that window there.

And I was like, holy shit, what is happening outside? It's terrifying out there. Traffic hour, yeah. Just the worst. Nashville traffic is a joke. All right, everybody's got a to-do list. Drop off the dry cleaning, pick up some milk. Here's an idea.

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And how about you? Me and Justin have been engaged for like five years. We've been together 10 years. Whoa. Oh, that's awesome. Yeah, that's awesome. And wait, so you've been engaged for five years. Is that probably something that everyone asks you all the time?

Like, when are you going to get married? It is. And rightfully so. I mean, I know it's a natural question that people are going to ask if you're going to get engaged. But our answer is always we don't like weddings. So it's simple as that. Wait, tell me more. You don't like weddings?

I'm not that I don't like going to weddings I just don't like big crowds and big audiences like I get overwhelmed like we're both introverts so we both know we just don't want to have a wedding and now that all like obviously so fascinating that you don't like big crowds if you perform in front of them but I get I get it too because so I had this whole conversation with my boyfriend we were by the way I always feel so weird to say boyfriend just because I was engaged before and then I'm like boyfriend boyfriend so we were all hanging out with a group of friends and we were talking about introverts and extroverts and he was like, Caitlin is the definition of an introvert. And everyone was like, what are you talking about? Are you sure about that?

I watched your show. You got us all fools. No, I'm not. So what we realized is that my whole life I've wanted to do any kind of performing. Like I used to sing at the dinner table

and I just like was always in theater and my mom was a performer. I was always meeting new people, making new friends. I was definitely an extrovert. After the show, I started getting anxiety. Oh, that makes sense. So I think what happened is I'm really truly at heart, like an extrovert where I love, I used to love thrive in crowds and just like love it.

And I still do, even when I do like a live podcast, I love crowds. But I think I get anxiety in social situations when people know who I am and I don't know. who they are and I feel responsible for their feelings for sure and I think that's what has so so Jason sees he's only known me for a year so he sees that side of me and now I really love to stay home and I've become a home body and I love it so it's so funny that he sees me that way when everyone else that has known me forever is like you're an extrovert of course it's I'm they think I'm the definition of that and he was like no you're the definition of that and he was like no you're the definition of that but I'm like you can be both yeah I think you can yeah I think you can yeah yes Nellie's

are extrovert in the band the three the other three were more introverted yeah but I are my best friend she's like Nellie she's a combination and basically you can totally do well and thrive out with people and being chatty but you need to go home and recharge yeah so I would always be like you're not at all an introvert you're just extrovert she's like no I can do that it doesn't mean I don't need to go recharge and have quiet time is well yeah so i think it's there there should be a word for it in the middle like yeah you're well i guess they call it what a introverted extrovert but yeah there should we should invent a word that means you're just in the middle you can do both you're by introvert better to be both i'm just

yeah yeah i mean i feel like i have a battery and so i'll go go go go go give energy give energy yes and then i just crash that i'm like i totally relate to that and then i got to go plug it in the socket and just however long it takes recharge or else i'm just not worth very much out there in the crowds and whatnot you but you guys you extroverts don't know what it's like to be an introvert where you are literally like okay here i go i'm about to go and walk into that room and be with a thousand people and okay you can do this you can do this leave in 10 minutes like it's it's a draining thought in but that's what i love most about colby because she is actually an introvert as she said yeah she had stage fright wow and yet you go

and you watch her play these shows and anyone out there in the audience would have no clue because like you truly conquered the stage right thing you get up there you're so natural you own it you're very um i feel like relatable and just yourself and i think that takes like a lot of courage and bravery to get to that point so i've never really had nerves or anything on stage so i don't know what that feels like but a few times i have had it i'm like i couldn't do that and you do it yeah that's so a lot of time especially like are you more like when you're on stage is that worse for you or being in like a smaller situation where you're just like conversing with people like is because to me I would think your talent could help the situation because you probably are comfortable singing

maybe not like being in front of thousands of people but you're comfortable in your voice so does somehow my nerves affect my voice and it affects like my speaking and all that capability it really depends so like ultimately if I have to go into a room and talk with people at a party that to me is like way worse than like my own show when it's my own show I actually am not that nervous because I've learned to well I was but I've learned to actually I've opened up to the audience the past few years and I've let them know I'm nervous which actually has made me more comfortable and I have a better show it's really bizarre like no that makes sense I would let them know and it took all my guard down I noticed that shift after you did the idol American Idol thing so she went on there and you were what like a mental tour or coach. Yeah. And it was really cool because Colby opened up about her stage right with the contestant she was helping. And it was like one of the most beautiful things on reality TV that I've seen just because you were really, really honest and vulnerable. And then I feel like from that moment on, like I saw a shift because then we did the Malibu Sessions tour. And that was like the first time all four of us were on stage together. But we were opening for Colby and we weren't

a band yet. And it was like storytelling and funny banter. Our boys were really funny. And I feel like that was like when you really let go and just like let the stories fly and it was awesome yeah i think it just helped me rather than hiding my introverted quietness to the crowd and feeling like i had to show them i was an extrovert i just was like i'm not that and it and then they were like cheered and i'd be like oh you're cool with that like why was i so afraid of it's true i think i think um people crave vulnerability yeah and honesty and when you can be at your level and you know All these people think if you have fame or Instagram followers or anything, you must be just this confident performer who puts themselves out there.

And especially if you have a talent that you just have all the confidence in the world. And choosing to be in the entertainment industry. Exactly. Exactly. And I think once you open up to people who do look up to you, you create like this like bond with them where they trust you. and your music can even mean more to them. Totally. And they just see you as a human being.

Yeah. And I think people just crave that for these days. And that's really, that's cool. Yeah, it's helped me enjoy the process. I wish I had done it a lot earlier in my career, but I'm doing it now and it feels good. Right. Yeah.

Never too late to be honest with yourself and everybody else. I mean, it's a great lesson to learn that like when you do open your hearts up and you just tell the truth, it might be scary, but in general, the reaction is just going to be. way more positive than you would have anticipated. Every time. Every time, yeah. Honestly, like, I mean, they can get you in trouble, too.

I've been there, but. Please do, share. The world already knows what I got, I get myself in a bit of trouble every now and again with stuff that comes out of my mouth. But that's just because you're a girl and your hat and you probably have an opinion that needs to be heard. It's going to be okay. You think I'm hot?

Of course I do. And what I love right now is I'm staring at you with, like, without all the glam and without all the dresses that they probably had you wear on the show and whatnot. And I think this is even more beautiful. Oh, absolutely. Natural, healthy, fit, everything. Yeah, beautiful. Oh, my gosh, I'm going to have you guys on more often. I appreciate you saying that because I always say I feel sexier like this than I do all dolled up.

I just do. I'm like, I'm just more comfortable in myself when I'm dressed like a boy. Yeah, not fidgeting in all the other things. If the world would let us, Colby and I would probably get on stage in our sweat. let us let us do anything we can do whatever we want okay if our manager our teams would wait you guys should do that you should just have and you should invite the audience to do it and just like make it like a comfy show like no we should I mean at lila fair Erica Badoo she went and performed and she had this amazing sweatpants and sweatshirt outfit yes keep in mind she had

gigantic heels that were incredible and a big hat and her her afro it was she was looked incredible but I was like, hell yeah, she's like so comfortable and looks amazing and I want to start wearing sweatpants too. And who, why are we conditioned to think we need to be so glammed up for these things? I don't know. We don't know. But our goal is definitely to at some point walk a red carpet in a onesie. Oh, yeah.

Like a, um, like what you'd wear Christmas. You can't onezy but make it fashion. Well, we can't make it fashionable. Yeah. Yeah. Or you can't. It doesn't matter. I would respect the hell out of that.

There's a little too much. Too much pressure that we put on ourselves. I think it's also what we put on ourselves. There is a thing with a society what we put on, but we ultimately put it on ourselves. And I mean, look at like Alicia Keyes wearing no makeup to everything. Like it's, she's doing it. And I'm sure her team suggested not, which why, she's gorgeous.

But it's what we're all used to. But she looks amazing. And she's happier. And she's happy. And I know someone else that also wore no makeup on a music video. Have you seen Colby's video for try? It's single-manedly one of the most amazing. She starts with all this makeup.

and then she's saying you don't have to try you don't try and she's taking her makeup off and she has no makeup I'm pretty sure she might be the only girl in the world that's taking like everything off and just put it on camera that's incredible and it was super powerful what how um when was that because I remember I have this like four years ago yeah I have this um five image in my head of seeing that and I didn't remember that till you just said that now and I remember being like that is really empowering I cried it was like when I saw it the first time I watched it again and I cried and I just thought wow the world needs this and then it you know took on a life of its own yeah so interesting because when i did it too like every day i

walk around with no makeup and i don't care what people think but for some reason in that room and i that was my plan i i i wrote the music video i wanted it to be that way but when it came time and i was in high definition cameras and lighting and i was like what do they i'm like but everyone sees me every day like this i walked in like this why do i care that the camera is recording it's so weird i think felt good i think like sometimes you worry or Or maybe I think this way because I was on TV once, that I was more, I was like, oh, am I going to see a version of myself watching this back that I didn't know? Yeah.

And because I feel so, I feel really comfortable and confident with no makeup. But if I were to see something back, would I be hard on myself? Totally. And like, it's weird when you can watch yourself back on a screen, you know? So weird. With the, like you said, the high definition cameras and all the lighting. And I think it's just like you're a little nervous to see what other people see. Yeah.

Yeah. totally but again it was her act of vulnerability really transcend into the hearts of fans and I think that's what we just have to remember is like when we're scared to do something that's probably a sign we should probably do it absolutely and we I mean you'd walk around with no makeup every day too like and you look incredibly gorgeous it's just something that we do but then for some reason feel like when we're on stage or on camera we have to put it alter ourselves and and again I think it should be a choice like if we want to do it have fun but don't feel like it's mandatory

makeup's fun and you do really good with it thank you I just don't want to have to do it every day all day I'm the I am the biggest fan of Botox you've ever said like I love Botox because you don't need it well I'm sure I don't but I just I like like same thing with putting on makeup or coloring my hair or something I just like I really genuinely enjoy skincare like it's like something I enjoy it when I wake up in the morning I'm like I can't wait to like wash my face and put on my like it's a weird thing that I actually like yeah and same thing with experimenting with makeup sometimes like sometimes I like it. Botox to me just I always laugh because people give me a hard time because I'm very open about it but I'm like but you color your hair like it's it's just something that I enjoy that

it doesn't change my appearance so do you feel like you notice an instant difference in your face in your skin when you have that done yeah I Botox like it takes a couple weeks for me to really see but I just feel like I struggle

growing up with OCD with symmetry and it really bothered me when things were uneven and so I remember going on a field trip and we were going skiing and I had two layers on the bottom but three on top and it really bothered me. That's amazing. Wow, you really cared. Yeah, it was like this thing of it was uneven to me and if you touched the shoulder, I wanted to touch this one because it was even. Totally.

And I don't know how I like, I didn't grow out of it, but I didn't. it has not affected me like my whole life, but it was something that I really focused on growing up. And then I find myself doing that in my adult life with, and Botox to me makes me feel more symmetrical. And I swear that's like part of my love of Botox is just symmetry. Well, good for you for being open about it. And I think that people, you know, sometimes people think on our Instagrams and stuff that we just woke up that way. Yeah. And it's just not true.

I mean, a lot of social media people who are, you know, somebody's that we have teams. Yeah. We do hair and makeup. All right, tis the season to get cozy. It's cold out there, peeps, and no better place to snuggle up with a good book and a warm drink or a glass of wine than your very own home. Your furniture should suit your needs, like supporting you while you're having a Netflix binge or being there for your family, friends, and dogs. But it should also feel uniquely you, and that's where Joybird comes in. With over 50 fabric and leather options, three shades of wood, and over 250 unique silhouettes, do the math.

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This is Caitlin's wine and it's so delicious. Oh, yeah. I'm so glad you guys like it. I love it. I love that next. Thank you so much. It's so delicious. It's a rosé. I recommend it for everybody. Thank you. Again, I need to have you guys on more often. Spade and Sparrows, yeah?

Is everybody else okay for drinks right now? Yeah? Yeah, we're good right now. Are you good for that? Yeah, okay, perfect. I think Hillary wants to get drunk back there. Oh, well, let's get out there. Has it been a day? Yeah. Well, we're mastering our album tomorrow.

Oh, my gosh. So it's like the last thing we have of the year. And I'm telling you, it's been a long time coming. It our heads are kind of spinning because literally it's just been cram, cram, cram, cram, cram, cram, get this done, get this done. Scramble, scramble, scramble. Last minute stuff falling apart that we have to pick up the pieces. And it were doing it and we did it. But today was like, everyone was like, you know, 11th hour.

Like, yeah, freaking out. Oh, my gosh. Thank you so much for being here after all of that. Oh, no, no, no, of course. This is a great break. Yeah, no, this is like, wonderful distraction. I can't talk. That's what I want when people come in here.

I just want everyone to just feel like it's a chill conversation. We're having wine. It's, and it's, it feels that you're relaxing us right now. Okay, good. I mean, the wine helps, but, um, okay, well, tell me about the band and how it started and everything that you want to tell me about, gone with. Yeah. So, okay, um, so Nellie's husband, Jason, um, him and I wrote my first album, Coco together.

So we've been, uh, writing songs since 2005. and so we've just been writing songs together since then and we both met my fiance Justin in L.A. in 2006 and I asked him to join my band and I was a fan of his Hawaiian music. He was a Hawaiian artist. Oh, that's cool. So we got to tour the world together in my band for like two and a half, three years and then fell in love. And so yeah, we just celebrated our 10 year anniversary of being together. Thank you. And so the year that we started dating, Nellie and Jason met here in Nashville and she'll tell you. heard yeah so jason i was his first co-write in national i've been here 15 years and um it was love at first right for jason and i had a boyfriend so he had to play it super cool yeah and uh we actually wrote an entire album called a love sick about a girl and that's how we fell in love and i didn't know who was

about i knew who it was about you knew the whole time well yeah because i knew he had a crush on you and i knew how long did you know i didn't know this well i didn't know you at the time so he just he was like There was this girl that I just love or I like or whatever it was. And you were the one singing on all the songs and you wrote the song with the whole album together. And so I was telling everyone but me. Oh, so then I found out and I was like, that's pretty cute. How do you not fall in love with that? That's very cute.

We dated for about a year because we were already best friends. And then we got married and we've been married eight years. That's so great. And then you all just decided to come to. How long have you guys been gone west? For like two and a half years. Two and a half years. So Justin and I moved here to Nashville.

three years ago because of Jason and Nellie and they introduced us to all their friends and musicians in town and we both wanted to try somewhere new. I had never been away from California and he had only been lived in Hawaii in California. So we moved here and it was instant like that we went on that Malibu Sessions tour and it was the first spark of like, wow, this is fun being two couples and friends touring together. And so that summer we got home and we wrote our first song for Gone West. So now it's been two and a half years of since like our first writing session. to right now mastering our new album. So we put the EP out.

Well, we signed our record deal in January and a week later put the EP out and then about midsummer put the single out to radio what could have been. So it's just been kind of a whirlwind all year. Gradual process. Yeah. And you guys got to make your debut at the Granul Opry.

Yeah. That was so cool. Yeah. That's such a like obviously iconic spot. But like to be able to be, because you have to be asked, right? Yeah. Oh yeah.

it's a big deal for people who don't know um usually it takes years so that's what was so wild about it we were like what because we had only released a video called uh this time of us playing it and singing the song live yeah yeah and they saw it and then they reached out and wanted us to come and so colby and i our parents both came in so they got to be there i mean it was honestly our first show has gone west we didn't have any other shows no that's pretty crazy it was like the first time our name was on a bill you're like okay guess we're a thing we're a thing now. Yeah.

No turning back. Yeah, no turning back after performing there. And we pull up into the parking lot and it says, what was it? Gone West. It was a, we had a parking sign. I was like, well, this is a good way to start. And they welcome, oh my God, like our own dressing room. They are the most incredible, honestly, like we all play venues all over the world

and they are, they're really rude, like crew, everything. It's just stressful. Every TV show. And the Opry, who is this well-oiled machine who doesn't need to be nice to people. Obviously, it's important. Everyone is nice, but, like, they really, we weren't expecting that, and they, they're wonderful. I feel like they're almost, like, family vibes over there. They just want, if you are invited to come and play there, like, your family.

Yeah. And speaking of family, our friend Rita Wilson, who's one of our dearest friends. Oh, I love her. She was there, and she was playing that night, too, and she's, like, one of Jason and I's, like, mentor, dearest friends. And so we got to celebrate with her. It was just like, and I was freaking out because I was always wanted to meet Rita. And so I got to meet her.

And I love her, too. Oh, that's really. That's a cool story. Yeah, and my dad is a six-foot-four cowboy from Texas, and he cried because it was so special, and that made me so happy. Liz Rose was there who wrote one of our songs that we performed that night. It was just a family event. Yeah, magical. That's, I was just going to say magical.

I feel like that's like a memory, obviously, you will never forget. But it's, I got to, I took my mom on a tour there. You know how they do the tours and you can go backstage because she's such a fan of the show Nashville. and they, like, had some sets there and stuff. That's so great. And she, my mom is, she was a professional ballerina growing up. She's, like, a performer. And she was like, they were like, do you want to sing on the stage?

And my mom, like, stood in. No way. Yeah. And she just, like, belted the song. I can't even remember what it was. That's so cool. May the circle be unbroken is. Oh, whoa.

Oh, yeah. And she, like, belted it. And I was, like, laughing so hard because my mom would do something like that. But it was so cool. Even just, like, doing the tours. there I thought was really special and just how they treat people and seen behind the scenes and backstage and stuff. It's a really unique special spot for musicians.

It is. We'll be back with more Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. Where are you from, by the way? I'm from a very small town called La Duke, Alberta in Canada. Oh, yeah. Okay, got it. So why Nashville for you?

So I lived in Vancouver for 10 years. I, first of all, just, I love singing, and I used to take voice lessons in Vancouver. And then when I went on the show and met Sean, he lived in Nashville. And so I had never been to Nashville in my life. But my sister was like, my sister had been and she goes, that is your place. Like, you were going to fall in love with that with Nashville. Like, it's just so your vibes. And so I didn't, I just moved here like without really, I mean, I took a chance and fell in

love with it here and when we broke up i was like i'm staying i love it i'm grateful he brought you here yeah i'm so i just love this this place and i it's i still take voice lessons all the time you are you gonna sing well i mean i didn't hey now don't be shy come on oh i'm definitely not going to sing right now okay well later but i will show you i'll show you after one a song that i've recorded but um good for you it's just something i've always enjoyed doing and it's i'm not like um 2020 is it's a goal of mine to like put it out there I sang on my Instagram the other day and people like you need to put something now good but your music was what I would work on um when I came and I started um training with this girl Janet here and we would always work on your because she said that we had the same range oh cool Colby is in alto I don't know which is very beautiful it's a lower sing very low and I talk very low she can sling lower than any girl I've ever sang with. Really? Yeah, I can't sing high. I can't.

I only sing high. Well, then you guys are a great match. Yeah. I'm always on top. That's what. Sorry, bad joke. No, I, the boys love it. Oh, yeah, they do.

You don't even know how I appreciate any kind of bad joke. Oh, really? So I can let loose. Please. Okay, perfect. If you, yeah, anyone who knows this podcast is I like to just inappropriate humor, women empowerment, and wine. Okay, pretty nice. My prayer is that my mother doesn't listen to it

Because she's the skirt police And the mouth police and everything else police And I will get a phone call later And be like, she'll say, you said shit Oh yeah, no, I, my mom has embraced That I just have a trucker mouth Like she's just a She used to try and like change it

And then she's like, that's who you are Like you just Can your mom train my mom? Could they eat coffee? My mom only drinks wine Well, my mom doesn't drink Maybe that's a problem That's probably why my mom just started to say

I'm trying to get my parents to skip the alcohol and go straight to the greenery, but they haven't really hopped on that train yet. Oh, well, get on it. Rents. Come on, rinse. Rinse. Yeah, we need to make that legal in Nashville. It's coming. It'll happen. Really? Anytime soon? It will. Oh, I mean, it's legal everywhere in Canada now. Everywhere. Yeah. I know I invested in some stocks up there. Smart. Probably lost some money, but that's okay. Did you also invest in like nachos, like what it, Ritos. I feel like that was a combination. Yeah. Taco Bell. Yeah, Taco Bell. That's yeah. Oh, my God. That's actually really smart. I like where you're going with that. Thanks. Yeah. I'm, uh, I always thank Jason now because Jason,

my Jason is so smart. He's such a financial guy. He was like in banking and he's all about like investing your money and he's really smart with that kind of stuff. So now I'm like, like he'll tell me something and I'll be like, oh, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't even know that was like, yeah, like he's so smart with all those things where I'm like, I'm like, oh, my money's just sitting there. Is that not good? No, it's not. I'm saving it. You're losing it though, because, you know, the inflation happens and it's worthless. I am so clueless with that kind of thing. I'm like, I'm just, I'm just happy to be here. Like, well, that's how my husband is and that's a good way to go, honestly. But is he into the green rush? Yeah. No. No. No.

No, that's okay. Everyone will be on it soon enough. I think so, Tio. That's, I mean, I'm not even, I don't know how to even talk that lingo of getting into investments and all that. I'm like, that's a podcast for Jason. Well, we don't have to talk about that. We could just talk about greenery. I'm a big fan of edibles.

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That's M-E-R-C-A-R-I-M-C-A-R-R-R-E-Selling app. I would like to know what challenges come up for you guys as like couples working together. Because I know from experience, like coming off the show, with Sean that kind of became our career and we were all of a sudden just thrown into this world together and doing everything together and if you were like if they want one they want the other yeah and I found it to be lovely in so many ways but also very challenging and now I mean I'm kind of in the same situation with Jason but it's it can it can be challenging to constantly be working especially on something that you're so passionate about with yeah somebody who probably has different views or thoughts or anything so how How do you guys do that? First off, cheers to you because the boys aren't here. So, cheers, ladies. I'm cheers into that.

I'll cheers to that. All right. So then we'll answer your question. Ladies time. I think it's a balance. I mean, just like you said, like there's so many wonderful parts about it. And, well, to be honest, for both of us, we started out working together. So that's all we knew.

Yeah. And all we know is, you know, me and Justin toured the world together. And we were with each other every day. And then he stayed in my band for most of our relationship. And so I think that there's so much that we're lucky that we get to see the world together and be with each other all the time. And I know I've heard so many people say, oh, if I had to work with my husband or whoever, I'd kill myself and whatever. Yeah. Traumatic. Yeah.

Yeah. For sure. Like people, then there's different personality types and people need their space. And for us, for both of us couples, we've loved it because we truly love being with each other and we get to see the world together, all that amazing stuff. I will say with this band, it's a heightened version. of now there's we're constant everything is like literally i've i've actually been feeling personally just a little claustrophobic of i'm never even in a car by myself i'm never on an air anything i sit on her most the time you know they don't give they don't buy us two seats so you guys we go

real cheap we go in a sedan and i just sit on coldie claustrophobia it happens no but it's true and i think that i'm just i'm i'm wanting some more of that independence and not that i don't want to be around people or him, Justin, I literally, I think I miss just listening to music in my car by myself or, you know, anything like that. And that's okay. It totally is. For sure. Yeah. You got to know when to just kick them out and like, you know. Some people, some people really do need that. And some people don't. That's, I always want to say now my Jason, because you have a Jason. Yeah. We all got Jason. Everybody's got a day. But Jason, like, is very much loves to be around people. If he could always be around people, he'd be happy. And I'm like, I, same thing. I just

love sitting. I love my drives to the gym because I'm by myself. I love a long time. I love sprawling out on the bed and it doesn't take away from how much I love him or anyone else. It's just like that is something I need in my life to stay sane. Yes. We're individuals. It's healthy to recognize that too, you know? And it's just been, well, first off, I'm the only like extrovertis, she said. So do you know what Enigram is? Yeah, of course. I'm a three. of course you're a three so yeah we just kind of all got into the enneagram and it's been so enlightening and i'm like oh my god i'm gonna eight but no we're all different numbers well colby and justin are both nines which is fascinating i think jason is a seven but he still hasn't taken

the test um but it's been really enlightening for me and it's helped me so much just to realize like oh everyone else doesn't think like i think no you know what i mean like it's just like trying to come from another perspective is so important and And it's respectful and it's loving. And so I'm glad that we just found that because it's really, I mean, I want to continue to learn about it. But I think it's a great tool. It is a great tool.

I've been trying to get an Enneagram like, um, expert on the podcast because I'm so fascinated by it. Can I sit in? Of course. I'll just watch. Of course. I'm so in love with it. Yeah.

No, absolutely. And it's, it is because I think it's so important to realize other people's, um, you know, there's the love languages, but this is just a deeper level of how people communicate. Yeah. For sure. And it is so important. business relationships, family relationships, all of it, you know, everything, it's just, I just find it so interesting to think, okay, if I look into who that person is and read up about that, okay, well, now I know how to communicate better with them and it avoids so much shit. It gives me a lot more empathy, which I think as a human race, we could all just have more empathy for each other and more like grace for one another. And by the way, my best friend, Lindsay Ray is a three. She's awesome. You would love her. Really? Yeah. And she's very fun. But, you know, we're opposites in some ways. Like, we're eight and nine. But what's cool about it is that the more I've read about it, like when we're at our healthiest, like, we're actually could be each other's greatest strengths. Because where Colby is weak or where I am weak, the other person is strong. So it's just a matter of like finessing and fine-tuning that. And being aware of it. And being aware of it. And being okay and comfortable and knowing like, oh, yeah, I'm different from you. We're two different humans.

Personally, you know, like the fact that you can understand that Colby might need a loan time or like that it's just too much. Like it's some people's feelings get hurt very easily by things like that because because they don't understand because they don't feel that way. Yeah. And that's the thing we're all learning is like this is a lot. We're working together. We're friends. We're family. And we're in business.

And so it's just that that balance. And it's totally cool if one of us is like, I've had a lot. I need to peace out and go to Hawaii for two weeks. I feel like that's normal. Like, you can't just be around people 365 days out of the year and be like, yeah, let's keep going. Yeah, no, no, no, yeah. I don't care how much you love them.

Yeah, unless you're a robot. Yeah, that's the only way. Do you go to Hawaii off? And then we actually have not been for over a year. It breaks my heart. We've been too busy this year with our band and stuff. But it's, we'll go at some point. Yeah, of course.

It's the most magical place on the planet. It's the smell when you just land there and just, Everything goes away and you're just, it's, it's my happy place. Even when it rains, it's perfect. Perfect. It is. You're right. Except for too much rain on Kauai.

Nelly's first trip there. Oh my God. We were like, it's amazing. And it rained the whole day until the sunshine came out when she was on her way to the airport. I was like, you guys, this place isn't that great. No offense. I love rain, but like, I didn't want rain every day. No.

And that was a lot. And I was like, I don't like this place. And then I went back the next time and I was like, I was wrong. It was perfect. Yeah. That place is. The breeze. I also was the biggest lost fan.

Oh, my God. So, like, going there, I did the Lost tour of, like, were they filmed? And I was like, oh, my gosh. Yeah. So I haven't watched Lost. Did I miss something here? Well, it was all shot there, so it's beautiful. But also, I mean, don't tell me.

Don't tell me. What if I want to watch it? We won't tell you the ending. We're not going to tell you. It's too confusing. Also, you would need, like, three years to watch it all the way to the end. It took me two and a half years to finish. So what, let me just say this.

Having watched the end, is it worse? me starting from beginning and going to the end? Yes and no. Oh, no, I'm not going to do it then. No, it's hard to say. It's kind of like Game of Thrones. I was super bummed on the ending because we have this expectation in our mind of what we hope it would end to be. And Lost was something that I think it messed a lot of people up because you're like, what the

like we put so much time into something and it's, it blew our minds. So I find that it's hard for any show to wrap up and for people to be. you know like really get that closure yeah okay well that's confirmation i'm gonna stay found i'm not gonna get lost but did you watch breaking bad yes uh four times okay i'm obsessed and that ending was like yes yes gave me what i wanted that's true breaking bad was one of those ones where it just wrapped everything up and just from start to finish you were just like in it with everybody and did did you watch it no i didn't oh you have to never too late well we started it but we haven't yeah are you watching marvelous miss i was just going to say there is a fourth season

Yes. I just saw her post about it on Instagram. She said they're working on season four. On Marvelous Miss Mason? Yes, I did. I do a promo for it on the podcast. So I was like, yes, yes. This show has changed my life.

It has made me a happier person. This season three is gorgeous, too. Have you started season three? I feel like I've seen all of them. Wait, that's what I'm promoting. The third season. There's a fourth. She just, I just followed her on Instagram yesterday and I saw her say,

we're starting on season four for you guys. And I was, I heard there wasn't, so I was excited. Oh, okay. Wait, wait, I can't wait now. That's what I'm going to go home and watch, even though I'm binging Gray's Anatomy right now, because I'd never watch that. You've never watched Gray's?

No, and I'm starting from the beginning. I'm the Grey's fanatic of fanatics. And my friend Lindsay Ray, that I just told you about, this is three on the anagram. She has two songs in the last season. Really? Yes. Oh, that's cool.

Not just one, but two, you know, like my favorite TV show, my friend just plops on there and you're singing. Wait, that's really cool. It's badass. That show has great music. Every, okay, every season, I'm only on season three, but like the end of it. And I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm in the thick of it right now, man.

I'm like crying every episode and like feel like like I go to bed. I have dreams. I'm like, I'm so attached to the, to the characters. The character development is the best it's ever been in that show. But then people spoil because this show's been out for so long and I'm tweeting about it now. So then I see people are like, don't get attached to that character. I'm like, damn it. Oh, God.

I will say a lot of people die. Yeah, that's what I'm hearing. And I'm like kind of unexpected. I don't like that. Be careful, and I won't ruin it for you. That was like Game of Thrones. I'm, again, only on season three of Game of Thrones. But I'm like, everybody, you guys just die.

Oh, they always just die. And you're gone? There's a lot of sex, too. I'm just getting to know you. There's a lot of, only in the first two seasons I found. Oh, really? So that's as far as I made it. Yeah.

Or maybe, I don't know. That's, I found that Jason has to talk me through each episode because I get so, so lost. Yeah. He will pull up family trees. You do have to. It's confusing, for sure. Okay, if a show is going to make me think, I'm so out. Because the point of entertainment, like, television for me is to zone out.

I get that. I want to watch the Bachelorette. I want to watch, what's the other one that, where the Paradise. Oh, yeah. That show is gold. It really is. So, like, anything that makes me not think, I'm in, sign me up. Yeah, especially if it makes you feel a little bit better about yourself.

Like you're watching. But it doesn't always do that because when I watch The Bachelorette or The Bachelor or Bachelor in Paradise, I'm like, God, everybody's so hot. I'm like ripped and in shape and I'm not like not like that that's not true well thank you but you look great I appreciate that but you haven't seen what's under the skirt oh my god that's that's that's that's me all the time people are like you're so small I'm like you haven't seen me naked oh my god you girls are and it's a podcast so we I mean we can be naked right now and they wouldn't even know it we are we are we are right guys you're really missing it the we'll we'll do some socials Instagram stories in the back for that all right so we all right so we all

been watching Siesta Key super into it. Season 3 premiered last week and I'm going to be really dramatic and say that I almost had to take a trip to the nearest hospital. I'll start off with Juliet because I really am proud of her for moving on from Alex. We all know he did not treat her like the queen that she is. Okay. She seems pretty happy with Robbie and that's all we want for our girl. Now there's Kelsey. She pissed off Kara by trying to talk to Garrett at Juliet's grad party and confronted her calling her a liar and a cheater. Kelsey tells her, her that she can't wait to watch her life fall apart. And Kara yells back, you don't even have your GED. Oof. Okay, guys, here's the piping hot tea. Madison started dating the old producer

for Cesta Key. They literally met through the show. He's 46. I'm getting worked up just talking about it. And imagine how Brandon must feel. He got all up in his face trying to start a scene and thank goodness it didn't get out of hand. Do not miss the new episode tonight on 8-7 Central on MTV. I wanted to talk about how you make country music, but it's not like your typical country music or what people might expect when they hear country. I wanted to know what the inspiration was behind your music. I mean, I think because there's four of us with all different backgrounds, you know, my music started off as like acoustic folk pop and Jason was doing like folk music and singer-songwriter. But I mean, he's also written like pop music and all that.

Justin was doing Hawaiian and then went to like folk. but then went to R&B, and then Nellie was, you know, you started off doing country music, but she can write any kind of song. She can write a pop song too. So I think the thing is for all of us being a harmony-driven band and writing all of our songs and loving acoustic organic instruments, it really, and honestly, I think we've all grown up with different styles of music that we were influenced by, but the main for all of us was classic rock, which was like Fleetwood Mac and the Eagles and just that raw, organic

instrumentation like it was bright and sunny and the harmonies um i think that's what we all really wanted to bring back in the music that we were creating for gone west so funny story the first time i kid you not i ever heard colby kelly's single bubbly yeah do you want to know where that was where cmt oh really yes cmt gave her so much love and so i feel like with colby's music in particular because it's storytelling it's honest it's organic country music has always like embraced it to some degree and then so when we started writing these songs like we're just writing songs from our hearts and a lot of our friends were going through like divorces or breakups or just heartache so there were a lot of storytelling aspects of the

songwriting that came to life and I feel like it just made sense that it fits for country even though I mean I don't even like to put labels on things really because I think it's just music that we're writing from the hearts and then my favorite part about our album is the steel guitar and what's so cool about that is that we didn't realize the steel guitar originated in hawaii oh really yes no way and so it's like and with justin's old hawaiian music which is spectacular if you go listen to it it literally sounds like old school country music it's so brilliant and so i feel like we've all had these roots and you know colby just being around fleetwood and stuff like that and jason's main influence is bob dillon so it totally makes sense that we end up here

Even realize when Jason and I wrote it and produced it, there's like it's, it's not a steel guitar, but it's like a slide kind of guitar. And it sounds country, which again, we were always surprised that pop, you know, took it in because it actually, my music would have fit better in country. But so yeah. It's just so cool that it worked out the way it did. So there's just, yeah, there's a lot of inspiration behind. Yeah. Everybody brings something different to. Exactly. Yeah. That's something. I was listening to it on the way here to Sophia. Like I looked it up online and I'm like, it just, it was very, it's very, it's very. It's very. very unique but like like it kind of takes you back to like what music used to be you know thank you for saying that that's totally the goal good because that's what i got i was like wow they just people don't make music like this anymore oh man yeah no you thank you yeah that's it means a lot we'll be back with more off the vine with kaitland bristow all right the dish with trish hosted by trisha pettis is a new podcast here at podcast one but she has had some amazing guests both Shane Dawson and Jeffrey Starr have stopped by to talk with Trisha about everything from relationships to gossip to feuds. Nothing is off the table when you dish with Trish.

If you haven't had a chance to listen, you have to catch up on this podcast. Be sure to subscribe on Podcast 1, Apple Podcasts, and many other podcast apps so that you can get the new episodes every week. Now back to Off the Vine with Caitlin Bristow. I just bow down to people who can sing and write and have that talent. because I just, I'm so moved by music and some people really feel that and some people kid that, you know, they're like music, but some people are moved by it and I think my, my dad's dad was a musician and he could play any instrument and it was just like, I think people who have it don't really realize how cool that talent is and how you change people's

lives with it. For sure. And it is wild. Yeah. It really is. You probably hear so many people come up and say like, I, you know, I don't know, I listened to this song and it changed my life and it got me through this. And I love that about music.

I think that's our favorite thing about writing songs is like it's therapy for us. But then when you can hear it back that it helps someone else, not only that it helps them, but then you feel like you're not alone in it and they feel like they're not alone in what they're going through. It's like this circular. It's group therapy. Yeah. It really is. It really is.

And it can mean different things to people when it meant one thing to you. They can listen to it and hear something else. It's just really cool. example of that is so our single what could have been we actually have a phone number now that's like online and stuff yeah and one of our fans texted us saying that what could have been inspired them to reach out to their ex and that they were going to do it and if it worked out they were going to bring that ex to our show i don't know if it happened or not but we can check back in and text some yeah point being like how cool is that like our song inspired this person to go wait a minute i messed up I let go of the love of my life. Like, I'm going to reconnect with that person and just try one more time. Like, if that works out and that was the only thing our song did, that's pretty dang cool. That's really dang cool.

Yeah, that's really cool. So for you with taking vocal lessons and loving singing, do you write your own songs now? Do you? Yeah, so I've been like co-writing. I don't really understand writing a song like format-wise. So I find that really challenging. So when I go to like do a write with somebody, I need their help. guidance on

just format. I don't know how to, I don't understand how to write a song. I have a lot to say and I have a lot of feelings and I can like definitely be involved in the process but I definitely need help on on how to write a song. For sure. That's cool though. Good for you for

putting it out there and trying and that's the best thing you do. I just put yourself in the room and just keep learning. Yeah, I absolutely love it and I felt a little silly at first because because I came off a reality show and And I didn't want people to think, like, oh, you're just now that you have people following you, you think you can become a singer. Because I don't think that it's just something I've loved doing since I was little, little, little. And just even if I do nothing with it, it helps my anxiety.

I love being in voice lessons. I love singing. I love going to these writing sessions and just learning from such talented people. Like, you go, I mean, you guys know, you are the writers. You're in the best city first off for that. But it's like, it's intimidating because you're like, everybody is so. talented. Yeah. And I just love learning. I love sitting in and being like, wow, you can just hear that and just put it to the piano or like mix up. And we can just make a song right here

right now in a couple hours. That is crazy to me. Also, song structure, like, that's just song structure. You can look at any lyrics and see that. But to be able to say something, that's something a lot of people struggle with. And so if you have something to say, that is all that matters. Someone can put a melody to that and they can figure out the structure. Yeah. Having something to say is really important. It's almost more valuable than the other side of it really. For sure. Yeah. Thank you for saying that. It's a very important factor. So keep doing that. And the structure will come. Or someone will help

tweak that with what you have to say is very important. Yeah. It's, I mean, it's same thing with I've always wanted to write a book. But I'm like, I could do that through music because that's what I really genuinely just love singing. But I just get so scared. It's the one thing I I feel like in life, I, I, if you're scared, that means you should do it. You're right. Damn it. It's, it's, it's the one thing. I'm literally the, I am a fearless human being. Like, I really am like a risk taker. I like doing things that are like people wouldn't do. I like putting myself out there. I'm totally fine with it. Singing scares the shit out of me. That means you should do it. I'm going to check back in six months and we'll see where you're at.

That is. It's my 2020. I don't like resolutions, but it's my goal of 2020. We will hold you to it. It's going to be fabulous. Dang it. I can't feel you guys. Just start somewhere small. Just no pressure. Just something fun and see how it feels. That's what I've kind of done.

I've recorded three songs now and it's it's not like I have to put anything out. It's just I'm proud of myself for even doing that. And I tease it a little bit here on their own Instagram where people are like, we want to hear more. And I'm like, see, they do. And honestly, like, minus Colby and Jason who are an anomaly of a situation like a day.

your first songs in my wrong they're right yeah her first songs that they wrote together they were each other's first co-writes and that became her album bubbly realized all those songs were on that yeah i've never heard of anything like that honestly but in my case i sucked when i moved here i would all i was like i was like you i just not you don't suck i was i was being brand new i was like i was like you in a sense that i didn't know structure yeah and i didn't know how to do melodies i didn't know I don't do any of that. All I knew is I wanted to pour my heart out. Yeah.

And so if that's your starting place, then you can learn the rest. Because literally for me, it was like a 10-year still is adventure of just learning how to write a song. And we're all on that journey still. So it doesn't matter. If you have something to say, that's more valuable than the other part of it. Because so many times we'll be in a room, we'll stir each other and we'll be like, what are we going to write about? Well, no, we don't have anything.

We're stuck. We know structure, but we're like, what do we say? I mean, I've been there too I don't walk into every session to be like, I have something to say I've just have this feeling what you're doing is going to be really great Really? Yeah, I do Really? Yeah, I do. I'm putting it out there into the universe

I love that I'm a big believer in manifesting And me too, the universe and this is why you need to meet my friend Lindsay, she's the same way Okay, let's have her on the podcast Oh my God, you would love her So she landed like two Samsung commercials in the last year and the grades, everything She's all over TV. She's one of the best singers I've ever met and like writers and she has all these sync songs.

And she writes, produces, mixes all of it. Like I don't know very many girls that can do that. Wow, that's very impressive. Yeah. But she manifests and she does all that and she's a three like you. And I think you guys would be like, yeah. Okay. Introduce us.

I will introduce you. Introduce me to my new BF. Yeah. And you got to share us. You got to share at least your music with us. I will. Okay. I will.

I will show you one song after this. We will cheer you on. Okay. Thank you. And you can be honest because I'm, I'm okay with constructive criticism. It's all about the delivery for me. If you're like, oh, that's not that you ever would. But if you were like, that's, yeah, that is not going to work.

I'd be like, maybe break it to me a little easier. Yeah. Just the fact that you're trying and going for it, I think that's great. And I think more people should try to tell their stories, whether it's on paper or in audio or whatever it is. Because it's a great avenue to help. with anxiety, stress, depression, whatever it is. You're battling. I'm a big believer in talking things through, whether it's with my therapist, whether it's

writing a song, whether it's talking to my boyfriend, my parents, like, I just need to like get it out through words. I love therapy. Oh, me too. Literally every person in the world should have it. There is no thing about it being weird or something's wrong with you. It is actually, we need someone to talk to to help us decipher, like, through our thoughts. Yes. I always say that probably every podcast I talk about therapy, how important I think it is because I've seen it firsthand how much it's helped me. And I don't, I feel like I'm pretty blessed where I don't feel like I come from baggage or like a lot of issues. I feel like I just people need it. And it helps me to talk through things. And just struggling with anxiety alone is enough to need somebody and who doesn't deal with something in life. Absolutely. Sometimes you don't even know what it is. It's triggering you from your childhood that wasn't even.

necessarily bad sometimes it can be that or sometimes it's like a small thing that it's triggering all the things of the decisions you're making that's true 100% I found out that I reacted very poorly to people if something bad happened I would I don't know I would like get mean or I would be insecure and it was like something that shouldn't have made me feel that way but I learned through therapy that I have terrible coping skills so it was like like I was just saying I was word vomiting to my therapist and I just felt this way after a ball and I said this and she was like oh you don't have great coping skills and I went holy shit you're right I have never thought about that I just don't have good coping skills so I've worked for the last 10 years on like my coping skills and it's wild how much I've just like and people sometimes think it's too late or I'm too old or I'm like no no no no no no never too late never never and if anything I think like well for us we're in our 30s and it's just like, thank God, because my 20s were a wreck.

Oh, everybody is, I mean, if your 20s weren't a wreck, did you even live through your 20s? I mean, some people aren't like that, but a majority of people, 20s are, 20s are tough. Also, I think that therapy should start truly, like when kids are young, because also parents don't understand, they shouldn't know how, no one knows how to, you know, understand every individual person and what little things can affect them. but like if kids were to know and have someone to talk through it when they're younger, they might- A professional. Yeah, professional. It might help us through all those weird years that we all go through, but it doesn't

start that young. It's true. I mean, I do love the weird ears, though, because they sure shape you a little bit. You learn. The weird years shape us into who we are. So we have to be grateful for having being bullied or being a misfit or a dork or whatever it was because, like, truly, we wouldn't be who we are without those experiences. so it's just part of our life i try so hard to tell my 11 year old niece those things and i'm like

you just won't get it until later in life but believe me yeah wouldn't it be so cool if we had a what like a button we could push and we go back oh my gosh and we're like 11 years old and then we're like someone's making funny me you're like you i don't care and then you just move on for sure i would i won't care about you in 20 years so i'm not going to cry about this and just flip them off and walk away i don't even remember school like i don't even remember things like that is such a insignificant part of your life and it's just like you get through that and then I think we block it out but yet it shapes you it does crazy it really does and that's probably something I should talk to my therapist about we all blacking it out oh add it to the list add it to the list I should

you should look at my notes section on my phone there's a lot of weird shit in there yeah we do okay so we confess on this podcast Oh, I can't wait. Okay, good. I usually lube people up with the wine and then get them to confess to me. So, mission accomplished. Yes. Do you both have confessions for me?

So what is your definition of a confession? It doesn't matter. It can be anywhere from, like, in junior high, I peed my pants at a school dance or, like, I had one girl told me, actually, this was off podcast, but I was like, that needs to be a confession. She was auditioning for a Broadway show. and she belted a note so hard that her tampon fell out and she was wearing a skirt.

Oh my God. Yeah. Without underwear. Yeah. Oh, my God. Maybe I should stop wearing tampons on stage. Now I'm scared. Yeah.

Oh, man. That's awful. Yeah. To like, what was walkers? We just talk about how uncomfortable it is to play a show when you're, you know what I mean? Not fun. I can't.

Well, because it's all about breathing, right? Like, well, you probably don't have to. think about it anymore because it's just like muscle memory to singers but to me i have to really think about like and then you're always in these cute outfits yeah there's shows everything angles from everywhere and like you're trying to like like for me when i have to try and sing i have i have to push out my stomach yeah i just have to well it's good to push from your stomach so she was probably doing the right thing that's probably there you go there you go if i could do any one thing to my husband i would make him a girl in that time of the month so he could just

experience what I do I it is dark it's so dark I talk about this all the time and Jason looked at me the other day and he goes this sounds traumatic I was like yes and it's every month it's basically like the aliens have come down from outer space and they've taken over our bodies and invaded every inch of us and made us a crazy person pain and emotions it's just yeah it's a great vibe and it's every like that's crazy every month you have to deal with that thanks god and like a week that's like not a short amount of time it's like a week i am i am not myself and then there's the before and after like the before where you're PMSing and after where you have like your face you have a pimple from whatever and you're recovering for you really only have two days to be normal basically

i get so bloated i look six months preggers i'm the exact same i can't wear anything showing my midrift in this moment yeah it's so embarrassing and i just like there's nothing i can do about it But it's not embarrassing because it's normal. If we all just were to speak about that more, then it would just be something normal. So, in other words, if I just, like, post a picture on Instagram of my pregnant, whatever, and they'd be like, I'm not pregnant. This is PMS.

Is that going to free people out? No, I've actually thought about doing this. Girls would feel like, oh, thank God, I'm not the only one. Well, because with endometriosis, it makes you really swollen. So, like, I legit, I took a photo once. I was in the bathtub and my feet were up and I'm like, I look so preggers. I couldn't believe it. Yeah, no, it's disgusting.

It's not. you probably feel it's not disgusting but I feel gross in the moment yeah of course but that's I mean it's so real I've thought about that um you know how the internet can be and people are mean and um Jason posted a photo one time we were on a double date with Colton and Cassie and I was having love them I mean I don't know them but they are incredible people good and so I it was my birthday I was so happy we had just sat at dinner and did a we did a feel good circle where we each said something we just really genuinely love about the other person and we we went around. I was on a high and we took a picture after and Jason posted it and the comments

flooded with that I was pregnant. Oh, God. I had just ate a huge meal. I'm a tiny person, but that was out there. It is so not okay. And I was just like, and I, it bothered me. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. But it like, I'm glad it bothered me because it also gave me a reality check that I was like, why did I just get so upset about that? Like, I just had the best night. Yeah. And it was just silly for me to care, but obviously when people are calling you pregnant. Yeah. Back to back to back. But it was crazy because I'm like so insensitive. All these

women are being insensitive to this bloating that you all go through. Was it Mexican food? Because Eric really does it. It was a sushi. Oh, that'll do it to the rights. Which then it's also odd because if you were to be like, don't worry, I'm just, like, we shouldn't also have to explain why we have

You don't want to acknowledge it. It's just a weird combination. I got your back. Next one that happens, I will tell off all those ugly fans thank you that stuff no courage sitting behind a keyboard typing rude things when you probably are bloated and that's okay yeah we're all bloated we're all bloated

like at least a fourth of our life get over it oh that's sad a fourth oh god trust me I've thought I've thought about this like how many days out of the year do I live in pain well yeah at least a fourth oh my gosh that's it is it's like Jason said it's traumatic it sounds like he at least has empathy he does

He really does. You should keep him. Because I'm very open and honest about it and what I'm going through. He's like, oh, my God. So I'm open and honest with my husband, too, and he gets very perturbed if I bring it up at dinner time. He's like, I'm eating. I don't want to think about that right now. I get so mad when Jason does it because I'm like, it's part of my life.

I'm going to use that next time. I'll let you know how it goes. Yeah, let me know. Okay, so don't think you're getting out of confession. Oh, I almost talked out of it. So, no, mine is actually, I'm very comfortable with it. It's ridiculous. though.

Perfect. And 100% confirmation that it's true because the other day, Justin, Colby's fiance, hung out with a guy that I was, oh my God, that was my belly. No, that was my throat. Oh, I thought it was my belly. Unless they were talking to each other.

They're talking. I heard that too. I think I'm hungry and you're thirsty. Okay. So he ran into Tanner, this guy that I knew from middle school and Tanner was like, oh yeah, and those was in the cool crowd. but, you know, she was prude and a goody-goody, like she didn't party or whatever.

So totally true, and I'll give you proof of that. I was called The Clamp in middle school and then in high school because my mom always told me she's a very conservative, sweet woman, but she felt the urge to go into detail about what to do if a guy tried to go down your britches or up your bra. Oh. And so she said, yeah. So she didn't cross your legs, obviously, if they're going down. But if they're going up, she said, you just do this. and you take your sorry you can't see this podcast people um you take your arms and you clamp

them to your side side and you stop the hands from going where they want to go isn't that sad though that we couldn't just say no well i could have just said no but this is that's another thing well that's a whole other conversation but my mom trained me to just clamp them so lo and behold the clamp making out with probably one of the first guys i've ever kissed in middle school and he tries to go up to touch my boobs and I'm like and he's like what's that? I'm like, the clamp I didn't think about it I just said it

and then he went and told all you told him what it's called. I saw it was like it's the clamp and it's a new move it's called the clamp he's like so you don't want me to touch your boobs and I'm like no and so then he went and told all of his friends that you're the clamp that I'm the clamp

I mean there are definitely worst nicknames to be called like the clap would have been terrible The clamp is much better than the clap Oh my gosh But it totally stuck with me It wouldn't go away And then I finally just owned it

I'm like I'm prude whatever I'm not anymore I'm married by the way So I'm just saying in that moment I was very rude Does your body still like naturally clamp When you're like husband You know it's funny

Because like once you get married Like all my modesty and stuff Gone And it's like I don't have a lot of boobs I'm pretty flat And I'm totally fine with it And luckily my boy isn't like

totally a boob person he's like i care more about the butt i'm like i got that but but yeah no i don't even care about boobs i'm like you can have them yeah no i've got nothing yeah there you go yeah it's totally fine i think it's beautiful we're in proportion by the way yeah it doesn't matter yeah it doesn't matter no colby you're not getting out yeah i'm trying to think of which what what what would make the most a sense of a confession but um great we have options well I mean I haven't even thought of I haven't thought that far through it

but Natalie knows this because we were just at this award show up for CMA week and so Hillary Lindsay the night before at the ASCAP Awards did this amazing speech and we loved it and the next day we were at the BMI Awards and I saw

Natalie Hembe in the bathroom and we were all hanging out and keep in mind I wrote with Natalie like eight years ago or seven years ago but I haven't really seen her since and in my opinion her and Hillary looks similar. Okay. So

we're in the bathroom and she says hi and I was like oh my God I love you. Your speech last night was amazing and she's just nodding and I was like why is she just nodding I don't understand why she's just nodding and then oh no

and then she's like she just kind of went like that and then like other people came up and it that was the end of everything and then I walk out and I was like that was weird and then like five seconds later I was like oh my god you did this again first first stop I was in the bathroom too I also thought it looks it looks similar and by can I also just set up the day that we had done five and a half hours of interviews right before that yeah we were fried like literally had hit a wall so Colby I think it's more understandable for just getting someone mixed up but I've written with with Natalie

but it was almost a decade I know I know I know but yes anyway so I never owned up to it and I'm going to at some point when I see her I have thought about texting her and saying I'm sorry but I've been too ashamed so we will set up a co-write and we will have a confession in real time and it will be funny maybe we should

get her drunk first yeah exactly that's my trick you could take it that's I think she would appreciate that though if you you know owned up to it yeah I maybe I should I mean it would be different if you would wrote with her like 30 days ago but 10 years you're allowed like seven maybe that's anything more than one okay you're totally allowed you are forgiven anyways this is what happens to me often this is why

we have the confessions because also a lot of people know who you guys are Caitlin Colby and it's a lot to remember more people probably know who y'all are than you know them but it's a lot to remember It still makes you feel like a complete asshole When you don't remember But I just think you guys need a little hall pass Because it's a huge amount of responsibility Like you have to remember most of the world Might know who y'all are

But that doesn't mean you know who everybody else is It's a lot to keep up with And especially for and I don't know if you're like this too But I definitely take on people's energy And like if they are upset with me I'm upset with myself Totally I'm empaths Yes. And I've actually bonded with a couple people who listen to the podcast or fans of The Bachelor World or whatever because they're like, you respond to some like assholes or negative comments, but I've been loving you for four years. And then I'm like, oh my gosh. And then I like get into the DMs deep with them where I'm like, tell me about your like childhood.

Oh my gosh. Because then I want to make up for it. And I just I take up where I'm like, I'll have honest conversations. with people where they say something. I'm like, look, I know you feel like you know me because I put a lot out there and I'm on Instagram stories all the time and I'm talking to you like we're friends. But I, this is the first time I'm seeing you. And I don't know anything about you. But that I also want you to know that that makes me feel sad. Like I wish I did know you or I would. And I take it on too much where I don't ever want people to think I'm an asshole because I actually care too much about other people. Absolutely. Yeah. For sure. You got to build a bubble. Yeah. You know. what that is. I have a life coach. She says, build a bubble. And you keep the certain people in the bubble. You keep the energy that you need in. Oh, okay. And you put out energy when you need it, but then you just, you don't have to take everyone's energy in. Because sometimes feeling everyone's feelings isn't good. Yeah. It can be unhealthy. So you got to build a bubble. And visualize it and go, I'll try to build one with you. Because I don't know how, yeah, I truly will feel anyone's anything. and it's it's just a lot it's it's exhausting and and it all comes from a good place totally but it ends up doing

more harm than good yeah but i'm going to build that bubble build a bubble i'm going to write a song called build a bubble and i don't mean like i don't mean like bubbly or like drinking bubbles i mean like build a bubble like visualize it okay yeah i'm going to i mean you could listen to colby's bubbly and you can be drinking bubbles simultaneously and build your bubble and that would be fine there you go there's a lot of bubbles there that might be a good combo i feel like colby's music's very meditative this might be a thing you could start a whole thing you got it now you know what i'm gonna make a tic talk about this oh my god i have you on that app i have you show me how to do it no i was just before you guys when we um when i came out and you guys had just uh come in walker hay's manager was

trying to show me how to use ticot because i was like i don't get it i don't get all the 12 year olds on ticot i mean it doesn't mean we shouldn't do it but let's do it I haven't even seen what TikTok is I've heard of it It's dancing Okay cool It's a lot of things The thing is there's so many things that come and go

That's another exhausting thing That you have to like keep up with Another thing to keep up with Which I just You don't have to keep up People should also feel like you don't have to You know what you're right And it's hard to keep up with

You know social media And everything going on I usually do on the podcast I give away Instagramis And I like to give them to people who are like inspiring or doing something good and for people to get like a little a refresh on the scroll

instead of scrolling and seeing things that you wish you had scrolling and feeling inspired. That's cool. Yeah, so this Instagrammy I'm going to give is to an account that's very near and dear to my heart because it's bunnies buddies and that's right. Yeah.

I follow that. Yeah, I've actually been in contact with the girl to get my sister a dog. But anyways, yeah. Oh my gosh, sweet. That's amazing. Amanda? Yeah.

Yeah. So she's one of the most passionate people I've ever met about saving animals. That's awesome. We rescued both of our golden retrievers from Bunny's Buddy. Oh, Colby needs a golden. Where do you find one? Well, so she rescues them from, like, from Asia. Yeah. And they're, yeah. So this is, this is we should go shopping.

Yes. And that's, I want everybody, I'm sure I've talked about it on the podcast so many times, but I'm, I'm still going to preach about them because, yeah, they rescue dogs from slaughterhouses, shelters. Oh my gosh. That's awesome. farms and they're not all goldens they're mostly goldens but they're also some random ones yes they um one of my girlfriends rescued a corgi from there yeah there's it's just it's incredible what she does um and so yeah that's where i we got both of our dogs from what do you call it insta what

um and it's an instagrammy i thought it was an insta gummy and i was like that's awesome what's on your mind yeah i wish i had an instagram it is i was like sum me up yeah i i wish i had an instigummy for But no, it's an Instagrammy where I just like to like acknowledge people who are doing something good in the world. Good for you. Yeah. Social media should be used more for positive things. Because there is a lot of positive things out there on social media. It's just like the negative ones seem to be more in your face and you consume it more.

Where the positive ones, you're like, we need to pay more attention to those ones because they are out there. There's a lot of good out there on the internet. But just the bad is loud. It's true. It is loud. Yeah. Well, I just adore you both. Thank you.

I really appreciate you both. I am not going to be offended if I run into you in Nashville and you don't remember me. Now you'll know. The disclaimer is out there. I get it. Well, thank you both so much for being here. I would like to know where people can find your music and you guys and tell us everything that we need to know. It's probably easiest if you go to our website, gone westmusic.com, and it has all of our social media, all the places you can get our music videos, merch, all that kind of fun stuff.

learn about us everything well people are going to want to learn if they don't already know after this because you you both are just so wonderful and thank you so thank you for taking time out of your freaking busy crazy data just have a little glass of wine we're glad we got to do this with you it's been a while we've been trying to get on the books and you're wonderful and thanks for not inviting the boys it was perfect this is girl time yeah we need it it's our recharge the bad moment cheers thank you so much I'm katelyn bristow and I'll see you next Tuesday Thanks for listening to Off the Vine with Caitlin Brisco. Get new episodes every Tuesday exclusively on podcast.com, the Podcast One app, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts.

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