Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Solo Dolo: Boats N Joes ... Joey Graziadei, Joe Jonas & Joe Exotic

Episode Date: February 1, 2024

#708. Join Kaitlyn for a solo episode where she unpacks her trip to California: Recording multiple podcasts, hanging out with Clio, finding the bright side of LA traffic, and a spontaneous trip to San Francisco to cheer on the Detroit Lions with their biggest fans, THE Taylor Lautners.  Kaitlyn also hits up the hottest headlines, from Sophie Turner's latest lip-lock to T-Swift and Travis Kelce (or as Kaitlyn likes to call them “Tavis”) to a surprising revelation about Joe Exotic’s technology access in the slammer. Speaking of Joe's... Have you heard about the time Kaitlyn met Joe Jonas? Well, she shares that, too! Adding to the Joes within the episode, Kaitlyn reacts to this week's episode of The Bachelor including why she thinks Joey Graziadei is so fun to watch, her thoughts on wedding dress dates and you won’t want to miss her insider perspective on Daisy’s one-on-one. Plus, to wrap it up on a positive note, Kaitlyn shares her gratitude list and encourages you to do the same. Don’t forget to submit your Vinofessionals for next month’s “Sexy Time Gone Wrong!” Thank you to our sponsors! Check these deals out, Vinos: PELOTON — Get moving with a Peloton Bike or Bike+ rental at onepeloton.com/bike/rentals. Terms apply.  OUAI — Go to TheOuai.com and use promo code VINE for 15% off any product.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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I did five really good podcasts. I'm excited for you guys to hear. I did Joey. It's already out. I did Heather McDonald, which already came out. I did Alex and John. Have you ever seen these two? On TikTok, I mean, or Instagram, I follow them on both.

Alex and John, they're this couple. They were videographers and they just blew up on TikTok and they are so funny. They do everything together and I was like, how? We also did Victoria Garrick Brown, who bless, I love her. Always an important message there. We did Stassie Schroeder of nine years in the making. Been trying to do that one for a while and girls got to eat. They're hilarious.

No, I've met Stacey before. I met Alex and John for the first time. And, well, I think. You know when you hit it off with people and you're like, that went really well. That's how I feel. I'm hoping they felt the same. So I also went on three other podcasts while I was out there. I'm excited for those to be coming out.

Again, I did a swap with Victoria Garrick Brown, who I don't know what it is. When it's my podcast, I think I just like talking to people and asking them questions. But when people are asking me questions, I'm like, that really intrigued something in my brain or made me think differently and I feel like I answer questions differently than I usually do. And I just feel like my true self kind of comes out well on both. But I really think about my answers on other people's podcasts. But anyways, I got to spend some time with Clio, which is always so much fun. I swear we pee our pants a little every time we hang out.

I feel like she's my best audience. I feel like she thinks I'm just hilarious. I feel like she's just very yes, go with the flow, fun, caring, so positive. And we got to talk about how positive she was, because another podcast I went on, which I'm not sure when it will come out, maybe February, but I went on the squeeze. So Taylor, which I always thought it was Lautner, but from hanging out with them over the last few days, it's Lautner. We went to the Detroit Lions game. It was Cleo's first CFL game. How adorable is that? I'll get into that later. I also got to hang out with Bailey. We did hot yoga. Have you guys ever done hot yoga in a hundred

degree rooms. We both had to leave the room twice. And the lady was like, please try and not leave the room. So I felt like a failure. I was going to faint. I was going to faint. I was going to throw up. I was going to shit my pants. But I was like, she said, don't leave the room. And I'm very competitive. So I just, I had to leave at one point because I literally was going to do all three fute and poop. But I made it through. But Bailey just moved to L.A., which is crazy. I feel like she knows L.A. better than me. I think I've been probably. more times than her, maybe more years I've been going there. But she knows the spots, man. If you guys want to know where to go in California, I stayed in Santa Monica for the first time. I usually just

go right into Beverly Hills, right into the nitty gritty depths of the dark souls of L.A. And this time I was like, bitch, why don't you stay by the water? Change my whole trip. Stayed in Santa Monica at Viceroy, went for walks on the beach, on the pier. But there's just something about being by the water. I was like, wait, why do I not do this every time? I'm usually in like the chaos and the crazy and like, go, go, go. But being by the water at Viceroy made me be like, oh. And then we went to dinners on Abbott Kinney and Venice and Marina del Rey. And it was just such a different change of pace. Big important thing that I did when I saw Cleo was plan and figure out the last details and steps of the podcast tour I'm doing. So we had really big meetings

about the podcast tour. I'm so excited, you guys. We finalized a lot of things. I'm I'm going to a lot of places that I haven't been yet before. So this tour is going to be the E word epic. I feel like I'm just every time I go to these live tours, I feel like I open up a bit more and I trust you guys a little bit more. And I know the people that really like me and align with me want to, like nobody that is going to pay to come hang out with me that doesn't want to be there. So I find I really open up because I'm like, these are my bitches.

These are my trust worthy girlies. Okay. So I'm really excited for this tour. it's going to be unlike any other, and we're going to do it really big. So let's fast forward to going to the Lions game. I'm with Cleo and the two Tees. So Girl, Tay, Boy, Tay, Lautner. Oh, no, I'm getting insecure when I say it, Lautner, Lautner.

So we were at dinner. Oh, gosh, I'm not even remembering the name of this place. It was incredible Greek food. Cleo and I got on the PCH. If you guys don't know what that is, I don't either. Pacific something highway. But it's this highway that just goes along the wall. water. It's like Venice, Santa Monica, Malibu. And we were going for dinner in the Malibu area. I went to

the bachelor mansion. It's around there. I'm not going to tell you where, but I went there and the gate was closed and a guy was trying to get in. I was like, well, it used to be the bachelorette. Can I come in? He was like, no. I was like, bye. We went to go to dinner. It was supposed to be a 30 minute drive and we were stuck in traffic for two hours and 30 minutes. And let me tell you about my mind shift and my mind, state of mind lately. The burnt toast theory is really coming in clutch for me. Usually I'd be stressed out. I'd have a bit of anxiety.

I was feeling stuck. And I went, this is probably a accident. Something bad has probably happened. And I refused to complain about being stuck in traffic for two and a half hours when somebody's life is either ruined or changed forever or is having a way worse day than me. And Cleo and I ended up, you know, being productive on the drive, talking about life, talking about priorities, what's important, how being stuck in traffic isn't. It was actually really, the burnt toast theory has changed my life.

I've talked about it on the pod before, but if you don't know what I'm talking about, look it up. Anyways, we got to dinner, the Lautner's. Oh my gosh, it's like when I moved into the states from Canada and everyone made fun of how he said a boat. So I wanted to go over the top and say about. And now I just say it awkwardly. That's me with Taylor and Taylor Lautner.

Anyways, we were at dinner. And he's talking about his passion for the Lions, the Detroit. Lyons, how this is the first time they've been in the playoffs in, I think, 33 years. And then if they made it to the Super Bowl, which is February 11th, that would be the first time ever. So obviously, I'm rooting for them. The teams that I care about are already out of the playoffs. And I love rooting for my friends because at the end of the day, I'm from Canada. And I've never like, I didn't grow up loving a team. So I like to support the people that are like die hard fans of certain teams. So when he was telling me about his fire and his passion, they kind of reminded me of

Bill's fans. I was like, I get the passion. I get the love. I get the underdogs. I get that you guys haven't done this in a minute. I know how big this is. So they asked me to go. And Cleo and I were like, well, Cleo was heading to Napa to see her husband anyways. So I didn't get the dogs back until Monday night. So I was like, I could go for a little football Sunday, you know, root on the underdog, the Detroit Lions. So I went out to San Francisco, which is really close to San Jose, where one of my best friends lives with her kids. And so I was like, yeah, I'll go. Let's change our plans. Yolo. Let's do it. And I ended up going on a beautiful hike with Bessie Cat and her two kids. And I needed that. Sometimes I really need some grounding. And sometimes I really need some people in my life who

get me and who can take me out of the bullshit or the noise and go, let's, go on a hike. Let's be in nature. Let's take off our freaking shoes and socks and get in the mud and get in the water. Put yourself around some kids, some childlike energy. And it was perfect. Hikes in San Jose. I was like, I think I'm meant to live on the land. So if you guys don't see me ever again, that's why. Buy me in San Jose living on the land. Off the land. Living off the land. I should probably get that right if I'm going to be one. I hugged a tree. I hugged a tree for so long. and I thought I was high on mushrooms. Like, I was like, did you put something in my tea before we came here?

I was hugging trees. The greens were more vibrant than usual. The water was clear. The sounds of my feet in the ground. Oh, I feel like something, I was supposed to be there. Anyways, a piece of birch fell off the tree that I was hugging, kept it. Put it under my pillow now. You guys know I'm still on the soap, right?

The soap where I'm bringing up the chakras. Have I talked about that? I'll tell you later if I haven't. Anywho, Sunday comes. We go to the game. I am in lion's gear. Taylor is like, both tailors have brought all the merch. I had pins of Taylor on me.

I had a Detroit Lions jacket. They were the underdogs. They're supposed to lose by six and a half points. We get there. We had a beautiful suite. And I know that Taylor was really like, like he splurged to get the suite for him and his family. I felt so honored that he invited us.

And we had the best time. And they were up 24 points to seven. going into the second half and we were like clear winners and we happen to be sitting beside the other box next to us was the Detroit Lions owners and we're like well luckily the sweet to the left of us they were amazing they were 49ers fans but could not be more gracious and kind but man being a football fan is so draining emotionally physically I was like getting on and off my chair I was screaming I was crying I was happy I was sad it was just the big guess roller coaster. Now I'm like, am I a Detroit Lions fan? I saw the passion and the same kind of

passion I know from being a Bills fan, the same kind of passion I know from being an Edmonton Oilers fans. There's just certain fans that have grit, you know? It was so sad to see them lose like that. If you guys watch the game, you know, they were crushing until they weren't. I think the pressure got to them. And I felt so sad. I felt so sad for everybody because I was like, oh my gosh, this is not even my team and I want to cry. We did have the best time. And I know Tate And Taylor and Taylor were so proud that like their team made it that far and they were having the best attitude about it. But, uh, being a football fan. It's exhausting. Grab a coffee and discover nonstop action with Bud MGM Casino.

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But MGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with Eye Gaming, Ontario. We know that the Chiefs and the 49ers will be in the playoffs. So happy for them. I really am. Well, I know Claire Kittle and her husband, George Kittle, and they're really good friends with my friends. And I'm happy for them. I'm excited for them. And obviously T. Swift is a friend up here and in here. So I'm excited for her. But like fingers

crossed, she makes it from Tokyo. She has a concert in Tokyo. So apparently it takes 13 hours from Tokyo to Vegas. The show is Saturday, February 10th at 6 p.m. The Super Bowl is Sunday. February 11th at 6.30 p.m. Eastern time. Will she make it? You know how there's bets on like what coin toss it's going to be? How long Reba McIntyre will take to sing the national anthem? It's going to be such big money for if Taylor Swift makes it to the Super Bowl, will she perform at halftime? Now, is there some sort of controversy that I'm not aware of around Super Bowl and women? Because I remember Rihanna performing and one of my girlfriends who was a strong feminist was like, I can't believe that aligned with her. And I forget now what it was, but I'm curious. I'm like,

moving on really quickly, how cute are Taylor and Travis. I was not a believer at the beginning. I was like, not PR. So jaded. I was like, okay, how much money are they? paying her to be there. How much money are they getting to be a couple? He's probably a douche. I saw him in Miami once and he was with a stripper so he can't be good for our tailor. I was judging. I take it all back. I'm obsessed. I want them to get married. Can you even wait to see what a, what do we call them? Tavis. Tavis? Traveler. Tavis. I'm going to go with Tavis. I could the people could be yelling at me being like, it's Duh, it's Tavis. Could you imagine what a Tavis baby would look like. I saw a meme. It was Hillary Duff with Chad Michael Murray in that

football movie where she's like one of the ugly stepsisters and then he falls in love with her and he pushes her up against the wall and makes out with her and they're like the cutest ever. I feel like that's them. I just can't with Taylor Swift. Like she has won over 300 awards. She was named Time Magazine's 2023 person of the year. Sold out stadiums, stadiums of worldwide tours. but watching her boyfriend make it to the Super Bowl is one of my favorite things. I'm such a believer. I believe in love. I believe in fairy tales. I believe in Travis and Taylor a little too much. This is what's scary. I can't turn into a crazy. I can't be one of those that gets too invested in the relationship and like my world is over if they ever break up. Because again, all we see is how precious and perfect they are on camera. Moving along to other love stories of the week, The Bachelor. Why do they always make girls dress up in wedding dresses?

It seems to be like a really big thing they always do. The table jumper was incredible. Well, Bachelor Data actually had a statistic that on these wedding dates from past seasons, the winner has been on those dates. So thoughts on that? I know there's a lot of speculation, but after talking to Joey last week, I'm like, I seriously don't know what happens. If it's never happened before, it's not like that there's a clear winner then and he picks her and all gravy.

I do have thoughts and I think a lot of people do as well on the fact that producers gave a one-on-one date to a woman with impaired hearing to go on a helicopter and then to a loud concert. Like, I have two sides to this. On one hand, that date could have already been planned and I know how much goes into planning these dates with production. I really do. I know that. And so this could have already been booked. And sometimes they'll say, hey, do you want to take the girl that you really like or do you want to take somebody and we'll pick inside scoop? I think he really wanted to take her on this one on one. So I don't know if someone's to blame for that date or if that just happened to line up like that. I've learned my lesson by not just jumping to conclusions and blaming people. So either it was poorly set up by producers and that's mean or it was actually just a coincidence. And if anything, it built a little bit more empathy and compassion for her because she, she's such a beautiful soul. And I feel like, oh, I hate saying this, but challenges in that show make you grow.

And I feel like the challenge that she faced from a loud helicopter date into a date, it gave Joey such an appreciation for her and for what that must be like. No one can ever imagine what that must be like. To this day, I know I've talked about this on my podcast before, but I dated a guy with a cochlear implant for a couple years. And I still, to this day, like to walk on the certain side of people because him and I walked everywhere for two years. We didn't have a car and we walked everywhere and it was his good ear. I just have learned so much about people with cochlear implants. It's so interesting because it's like she's still the same person. She has a bit of a

disadvantage with hearing. And like she said, the cochlear implant at first makes it sound like everyone was chipmunks. The guy that I dated, he said everybody sounded like rose. robots. Like it does take a lot of getting used to. She's such a caring human that obviously has been through something in her life that has made her appreciate just the gift of life, the gift of hearing. And I feel like Joey really saw that in her. And I feel like she's going to bring out such a beautiful side of him. He already has so many beautiful sides. But I feel like she's going to bring out a really beautiful side in him to appreciate life and the little things. Because I think as The Bachelor, you get really caught up in the numbers and what you're doing. And

of people like you. And I think those two together could be really solid. I always root for the people that get the beginning one-on-ones, though. And I'm so scared that it won't be her. So I'm already rooting for them. She's one of my top three favorites. I think one of my favorite things about Joey is I don't think he ever expected to be the bachelor. I won't need names, but there has been people in the past where it's like, nobody wants a bachelor who wanted to be the bachelor. You know, and I think Joey is really humble and he didn't expect it. And he isn't like putting too much pressure. I feel like he's really being authentic, which is super cool because he's not trying to be the bachelor. I actually think it's who he is. And I only say that because I really hung out with him at the wedding. So I feel like I

got to know him off camera and then seeing him on camera and then interviewing him. I'm like, oh, this is a really genuine guy who's looking for love, not fame. I believe it. I believe it. Now I'm begging him. Please, Lord, baby Jesus, please don't let him change after this because some people get a taste of the drug and they need to have a fall from grace and humble. I mean, I think it even happened to me. You get so, like, you get a little spoiled almost, but I'll never forget. Like eight years ago now, you kind of get used to people putting you on a pedestal, riding that high horse, having people do things for you.

And you get to a point in your career where you really have to think about what's important. And I hope he stays true to himself, but I have all the faith in the world that he will. Okay, The Bachelor Boot Camp date, I was a little confused on it. I wrote down, I didn't get how the game worked. Like, you could just run from one end to the other, and it didn't matter if you were hit with paint. It was very confusing. I don't know how I ever feel about them just choosing one girl at the end to spend time. I mean, it's the same thing every season, but I'm like, oh, I don't know.

I like like like it and I hate it because I'm like, oh, stop doing that. But also I'm like, yes, she deserved it. Or did she? Did you just run from one end to the other? I don't know. What did you guys think about the unnecessary age drama at the cocktail party? Sometimes I'm like, okay, if that's the drama we're doing, fine. We got to make it somewhere.

But what did you guys think of it? Because I think what she actually said was Medina, you're 31 years old. Own it. Joey probably loves it. But it just felt like there's a lot of unnecessary drama. Curious what you guys think. I just saw the preview for Love is Blind, by the way, season six. It comes out February 14th, which I'll be on my way to Hawaii.

But I'm interested to know how many of you are going to be watching. I always want to know, I'm like, do I. get people to come on and should I interview them? It's going to take place in Charlotte, North Carolina, which I love. When are they going to do in Nashville one? Not for me. God no. God no, not for me. Could never. But I just feel like it'd be cool. I feel like there's a lot of really interesting single people in Nashville. And another reminder, before I get into some hot headlines, who am I gossiping doing hot headlines? I'm probably going to read them and be like, well, you never know. For this month, I heard that there are some really good celebrity encounters.

So reminder about that, I cannot wait to hear them. The deepest darkest secrets where you tell me about an encounter you had with a celebrity. And our next Vinofessional topic will be sexy time gone wrong. Send in your emails to Off the Vime Podcasts at gmail.com and give us a jump scare with your subject line, okay? Okay, hot topics. I don't usually like to talk about this, but I'm going to, just a few ones that I saw, ones that I thought I would talk about. Sophie Turner, she's linked to a new guy.

I don't know how to pronounce his name, but he cute. But she was on a ski trip, and she was with friends. And amongst those friends, he was there. He's a 29-year-old aristocrat. And he's from Britain, but they were caught kissing in the streets. I'm here for it. I really felt like I had hope for women in our generation when they went through a breakup because they saw right through Jonas.

They were like, Team Sophie. And everyone's just been rooting her on. And like, it gave me a bit of hope. I was like, yes, okay. We're rooting for the woman. They always get beaten down. I don't know whose fault was what. I don't know what to believe, whatever.

I just felt some level of comfort that people weren't just hating on her for being the woman. Did I tell you guys about how I met Joe Jonas at F1? He was in my suite. He was sweet. He was nice. I just don't know any truth. So it was fine. I said, hey, how's it going?

And he said, do I know you? And I said, I don't know. If you do, I don't know where from. And that was our conversation. Courtney Kardashian posts a first look at her baby Rocky, and by post a pick, there was no face. There was, I wonder if she's going to, how do you keep your kids life private as a Kardashian? She posted the photo and clearly his face isn't showing and there's white, like he's in a little white angel outfit. I just don't know how you keep your child's protection and identity safe as a Kardashian.

I'm genuinely curious. I mean, North has a TikTok. She's one of my favorite follows. There's Kylie who just took her daughter on a red carpet. I would be so paranoid, but at the same time, I wouldn't want to shelter them from things, but then you're exposing them to all these cameras and lights and TVs and people knowing who they are, but you want to try and stay normal and give them a normal childhood, but how do you do it? I have a lot of empathy for them because I don't know how I would handle it. I don't know how I would want to run and hide into a corner, but then I'm like, well, what if I've a kid one day? And I'm just so, proud of that child and I think they're going to change the world and I want to show them off.

I don't like the idea of showing off my kid. Feels weird. Also, did you guys see the comment under Courtney Kardashian's photo of her child? Joe Exotic, I still to this day, if I'm hanging on by a thread, I always say I'm just, I'm Joe Exotic's eyebrow ring. You know, I was just like hanging off. It's like barely there. That's like me sometimes on bad days. I'm barely hanging on. I'm like Joe Exotic's eyebrow ring. But he comments and he says, oh, cute. Also, please have your sister get me out of this hellhole. Like, you know, Kim helps get people out of jail? How the hell does Joe Exotic have access to Instagram in the slammer?

That doesn't seem right. I couldn't even have my Instagram at Hoffman and that wasn't jail. Joe Exotic gets Instagram access in prison? Who's dicky sucking? Actually, you know what? I'd probably suck a few dicks to get Instagram in jail. Okay, I think we should wrap this up. It's getting weird.

It's getting weird. I need to go to bed. I'm tired. And I have an early morning workout. So we're going to wrap this up with gratitude. I like ending this with gratitude, a little feel good moment. Sometimes I feel so slimy, even talking about headlines. But today I'm grateful for getting my dogs back today.

We've been doing two weeks. And this, it just feels so hard on my mental health because the longest I'm usually away from them would be like a week of travel. But I try to even not do that. I try and just get a few days in and come back. I get a few days and come back. But two weeks is not feeling good. It's not feeling good. But I'm trying to be grateful for the time I do have.

I love them. I'm just looking at them right now, wanting to cry. But getting back into bed, crawling into bed with them last night, like, they really do a lot for my soul. I'm so grateful for them. I am grateful for my creative brain or just my ability to sit here and chat by myself. My brain keeps me on my toes. I've been writing a lot.

I have been really wanting to write music a lot more. So I've been getting really creative with putting the right kind of music on. When I am on an airplane, I seem to get creative. So instead of, you know, it's being like, can I have a glass of wine and put on a movie? I try and write a bit. And that's been really amazing. I feel like I could write a whole album right now, which I might. I might.

I'm grateful for my love of writing lyrics. I'm no Taylor Swift. There are people in Nashville that can help me tell my story. But I love writing and feeling creative and coming up with ideas for music. Obviously, I'm really grateful for my health being sick that first while of January and then watching, you know, I've been watching a lot of documentaries and certain things. And even hearing Daisy on The Bachelor, I feel like what she went through with Lyme disease and everything, I just feel it made me grateful for my health. And of course, I'm grateful for you guys. And I would love to hear what

you're grateful for. I think that always changes my day. Sometimes when I'm in a dark place, or I feel like I get angry or I want to clap back at people. Instead, I'm like, I wonder what people are grateful for. And then it changes my whole mood. I love hearing what you guys are grateful for. I love you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for watching. Thank you for supporting. Thank you for being here with me. And thank you for allowing me to do what I love. And I can't wait to take this baby on tour. We're going to go to places that I've never been before. And I know it's going to be a wild ride because I picture like Iowa, like, oh, Wisconsin. Like I just know you guys are going to be the best and I can't wait to meet everybody. So stay tuned. Make sure

you're following off the Vine podcast. Make sure you're following me. Make sure you're subscribed. to make sure you're commenting like I want to know where you guys are at in this whole world what you're grateful for and when I can meet you okay okay good night everybody I love you good night I'm Caitlin Bristow your session is now ending and if I'm being honest I wouldn't mind a rating of you