Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Solo Dolo | Kaitlyn Gets Nostalgic About 2016!

Episode Date: January 22, 2026

#913. In this solo episode, Kaitlyn dives into the viral “2026 is the new 2016” trend and takes a trip back to all the iconic (and messy) moments that made that year unforgettable. She talks Beyoncé dropping Lemonade, Leo winning his Oscar, Taylor Swift’s breakup with Calvin Harris, and some of the things she personally went through that year!Nostalgia isn’t always warm and fuzzy. For Kaitlyn, it can hit like a chokehold. She gets real about online bullying, public scrutiny, and all the messy moments, but also reflects on growth, therapy, and learning how to survive it all.Then she flips the mic to listeners. Kaitlyn answers questions and wants to know, what was your 2016 like? Comment, leave a review, and let’s get nostalgic together!If you’re LOVING this podcast, please follow and leave a rating and review below! PLUS, FOLLOW OUR PODCAST INSTAGRAM HERE!Thank you to our Sponsors! Check out these deals!Covergirl: Go the distance with COVERGIRL’s new Eye Enhancer Wrap Tubing Mascara for a lash extension effect. Shop at your nearest retailer now. Only from Easy, Breezy, Beautiful COVERGIRL.comBooking.com: Head over to booking.com and start your listing today. Get Seen. Get Booked on Booking.com!Bombas: Head over to Bombas.com/VINE and use code VINE for 20% off your first purchase.Apartments.com: The Place to find a place!Progressive: Visit Progressive.com to see if you could save on car insurance!EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: (2:10) – Diving into the viral “2026 is the new 2016” trend, laughing at old photos, and getting real about the messy, hard parts of that year.(8:10) – Beyoncé dropped Lemonade, Leo won his Oscar, Taylor and Calvin broke up… revisiting all the iconic 2016 moments you forgot.(14:20) – When looking back hurts: Kaitlyn gets real about time, memories, and growth.(25:30) – Answering some listener Q&A’s.(34:00) – Kaitlyn asks the big question: what was your 2016 like? She wants you to comment, review, and get nostalgic together.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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occurrences. It may help in reframing one's response to negative or frustrating situations. Though it is not directly supported by science, it may help improve perspective and optimism and contribute to a mental well-being. Well, there it is, because this has some tough stuff in it, and I was going through it. I thought with all of you, but it was just for myself. So maybe this podcast is about to be even more authentic because I would have read through my notes already. I don't know. I believe that. Hey, everybody. It's Caleb Brits. I welcome to Off the Vine. We're talking about 2016 because there is, I just got to do it. I just got to do it. 2016 is obviously a major trend happening on social media right now.

And everybody is going back and posting from 2016 through their rose-colored glasses. Everyone's hyped up about it. And it just felt like I know it felt like to you guys, and I hope this for you, that it felt like a simpler time. I guess in hindsight, if I remove a lot of the stress I felt post-bachelorette and all the shame I was going through, yes, it was a simpler time. It was a time of connection, more vibrant and easier trends. Remember the mannequin challenge?

I just remember that. Black beetle in the city. And everybody just like paused. And the camera work was like, ooh. And that's really all we like knew. Now trends, I'm just like, oh God. Now I just feel like a try hard when I'm doing a trend. I don't know.

Nothing feels genuine anymore or authentic. But 2016 was just a time of Snapchat, the dog filters, Rick and Donna. which I posted about on my social media today, which I'll get there. It felt like more of a relatable time, like more of a touchstone for feeling lost in the times that we're in now. Like, part of me liked going back in 2016 and looking at the photos and part of me was like, oh yeah, that was a terrible time in my life. It's not a good way to look at it, but it's the truth.

There wasn't cancel culture in 2016. I totally agree with accountability and holding people accountable, but the cancel culture got so real, but 2016 just what, it didn't feel like a year. It felt like more of like a personality trait. Like it was just like the beginning of something fun. Social media was fun. It was like, ooh, what's this going to be? And life just felt, it still felt chaotic, but it felt like maybe a little bit later, question mark. I don't know. The internet seems to agree with that sentiment while I go through everybody's post of 2016. I was like, let me hop on this trend. How fun till I went to my photo album. I'll get there. I'm still on 2016 when Instagram just,

It wasn't even like a job interview yet. Like, you know how now you get that link in bio anxiety and everyone's trying to make a career out of Instagram and it's overthinking and algorithms are not algorithming? I want my algorithm to show me things I want to see, not things I don't want to see, which that's all it's doing now, which is causing it to be a darker time.

Performative vulnerability is so real on the internet now, where then, for me, it was a survival mode. I was like, I need to somehow have like some sort of connection with people because I was so isolated at the time. I don't know. I feel like we used to live our lives and then post about them later where now we live our life for the post.

Was that deep or what? I feel like it was. I used to just upload Facebook like albums and not give a shit. I used to post everything to Snapchat and be like, this is so fun. I get to have my own little story and live TV show.

And now everything feels like it has to be perfectly cute. curated or at least doing a trend or the social media won't push your content out and then brands see that and then they're like, well, why would I work with her if her numbers are low? It's so icky. It's all icky. But 2016 was icky for me. And I'm going to tell you why. It was a year of major slut shaming for me. Online bullying. If one more person told me to eat a cheeseburger while I was so stressed out I couldn't eat, it's not helpful when you say, eat a cheeseburger. like that's miraculously going to make me go gain a couple pounds and not have a stressful

life anymore. I was confused. I was in a relationship that I've talked too much about and it was so long ago, but I was coming out of obviously a very public relationship. We were engaged. There was supposed to be a timeline of when we were going to get married. There was pressure behind the scenes. We were just like so confused and I was getting shamed in that relationship for what happened on the show while really two massive events. happen that nobody nobody knows about except for my closest friends and two other people that were involved it was a really really tough time i don't even think and that was 10 years ago and i still don't think i'm ready to talk about it one the personal thing i'm not ready to talk about two i

even though these people deserve it i don't want to throw anyone under the bus i do but i don't but i do but i don't but i'm not going to um maybe one day but i just why bring up the messy but the two things that I was going through in 2016 were heavy, heavy, heavy. It was like pre-burnout culture, but I was burnt out. I came off this show where the ratings were crazy and I was traveling the world and I had to go here and be on and do this and this interview and be on red carpets. And I was posting about this all on social media and I was just going through it behind the scenes. And I know I open up with you guys a lot on social media and I have and especially in that time, but nobody really knows how dark 2016 was for me. And I'm not looking for attention. I'm not here to open up a

a wound and ask for sympathy. I'm not. I'm just reflecting on the year that is trending right now. I didn't really feel permission to show up messy. I just, I really feel like that was just who I was. I was messy. I still am. I'll probably always be messy.

So maybe 2016 wasn't like the year for everybody, but maybe it was who we were before we learned about being afraid of feeling seen. I feel like everybody's really afraid to truly be seen now. And if they are admitting that, it does feel performative. Even for myself, when I go to like try and be vulnerable online, I'm like, am I doing this for connection? Or am I doing this because I'm needing attention? I talk about that a lot, having to step back and look at what I'm doing. But that's because everybody overthinks everything now.

And I do miss the time of 2016 where I just posted anything. Everything. So then I went down like an internet rabbit hole of what went down in 2016. God, I wish it was the year 2017. I would have way cooler things to talk about. Like I started my wine label. I was on Broadway. I was in a much happier.

Well, things were just better in 2017. Anyways, going down the rabbit hole online from a decade ago, not just for me personally. I was looking at like big pop culture events. And Beyonce dropped lemonade. Remember lemonade? Which was not just an album. It felt like it was a cultural reckoning.

I feel like there was visuals. There was feminism. I loved the album because I was like, I didn't love that Beyonce stayed with Jay-Z after the cheating affair, but I was also like, at least she just dragged him and that probably felt like enough. If I was like committed to a marriage and it was like through, you know, sickness and health, cheating or not, I would put in there somewhere, but I could write a book or an album on shit that you pull that pisses me off. Good job, Beyonce. Adele released 25, which I feel like had people who didn't even like Adele, like crying in their cars.

People who didn't even like a ballad. We're just sitting there bawling over Adele. Leonardo DiCaprio won his first Oscar, which is mind-blowing. I feel like the world celebrated with him, but it was so insane because he never won an Oscar. Think about the movies this guy has been in. Think about the movies. Titanic? Why am I blanking on all other movies?

What's that airplane one? What's that travel one? Catch me if you can. I'm really blanking right now because I just feel like it's the end of the day and I'm like, but he didn't even talk in the role he won an Oscar for. I think it was like some kind of inside joke. Sometimes I feel like the politics of Hollywood, like behind the scenes, they're probably like, don't give Leo an Oscar. And then he does this movie where it was filmed in my hometown of Alberta.

And not the hair flip. And he literally didn't talk the entire movie. He didn't even have a line. He like fought a bear and won an Oscar. Anyways, that was 2016. Game of Thrones, 2016. Taylor Swift was with Calvin Harris. Where'd he go?

Where's Calvin at? He was so cute. They broke up that year. Brad Pitt, Angelina, divorce. Snapchat, again, was at its peak at Snapback Bean. God, I posted, I think. I already talked about this about Rick and Donna, but I still go to Rick and Donna's Instagram page

and give myself a giggle sometimes. There's no TikToks. There was no reels. There was no soft launches. I feel like celebs felt more human and less managed, where now influencers are becoming celebrities. and I don't even know how we are treated. Am I an influencer?

I guess so, technically. But I'm not a celebrity, I know that. So I guess that makes me an influencer. Not here on, you know what I mean. You know what I mean? I'm not Brad Pitt is what I'm getting at. But when people say 2016 was iconic, I do kind of feel like it was more of like a pop culture iconic time.

It felt lighter. And I guess the pandemic had not dressed in the butt yet with a sandpaper condom. That hurt. 2020 hurt. I feel like it is still hurting. We're all still hurting from that butt. And that's not to yuck your yum about if you like butt stuff. I'm just saying that would hurt for me personally.

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Like, nostalgia kind of wrecks me. Like, maybe for a hot second, I'll feel warm and fuzzy. And then I'll switch gears and feel so panicked. It's the dogs going gray. It's the watching your parents get older. It's my niece and nephew getting older. It's my stepdad having cancer and just like losing that young freedom that we're you feel invincible. It's real life shit starts happening when time passes. We all know how I feel about

the passage of time. You just can't go back. Not that I would, but the fact that you can't, I don't know, it's scary. I hold on to things so tightly, good and bad, which is so interesting because in like, in an argument, I disassociate and I want to let it go and then I want to move on. But in life, life moments, good or bad, I hang on to them so tightly. And some people like love throwbacks, but for me, nostalgia is proof of time moving. Yeah, nostalgia to me is proof of time moving and that to me is my Achilles heel time. I want to use it so wisely. I want to do so many things. I am doing so many things. I want dogs to live forever. I want people to stay young. I have this weird connection to youth. I also am woo-woo, as you know, and I believe this is my last life. It might not be. I hope I

come back as a golden retriever. Not a rescue though. They've been through too much. See, I just did it. I just, I just went there. I just went dark. Okay. But nostalgia to me is more of like a, this is your last life. Tick-Tac, babe. You better be doing everything you can in this life. And maybe that's why I'm so scared to get attached so tightly to dogs to children because I'm like, well, this is my last life. I won't come back and see them grow up. I just get so weird and I just do have this belief that this is my last life. I don't know why. I don't know why that's my gut feeling. I don't know where it came from. I don't know why I feel this way. I just feel it. And not in a dramatic way, more like an existential urgency, if that makes sense. I say I'm not afraid to die. I am. If it's old age and I'm

like the crazy cat lady in my 90s who just like doesn't know who anyone is, like not afraid to die, but I'm afraid to waste my life, which is kind of contradicting because sometimes I find myself wasting my life because I'm too scared to commit to things because what of this, what if this, I've been so hurt in the past, blah, blah, blah. I'm just confusing. But time just doesn't feel neutral to me. It doesn't feel neutral. It feels personal.

So I don't know if you'll relate to this. Let me know if you do. But nostalgia to me, it's not just like a memory. I don't go back and I don't just see a memory. It's I see distance. I see past time. I'm seeing that I can't go back into that moment the same way. I miss things.

Good and bad. I miss things. I want to go back and feel these feelings again. When I see old photos or I hear a song that brings up something for me, I might go on for a second, but my brain also goes, you didn't know how good this was and now it's gone. I know that's a very dark, morbid way of thinking, but I can't help it. Do you agree with me or are you like, bitch, you need more therapy?

Like I look back at old friends or a time in my life of an old relationship or old. or older versions of even myself, times when I felt lighter without knowing why. And I want to go back and experience that. And again, I don't go like, wow, I go, uh, does any, please tell me I'm not alone on this. It feels like grief for a life I technically lived, but didn't fully inhabit, if that makes sense.

I feel guilty for this. I feel really guilty about how I feel about this, but I'm just trying to be truthful. A lot of times I'm like, God, I hope I don't come across as poor me or pity me. I never want to be pitied or felt sorry for. It's just I'm very honest about certain things that I feel and I'm just trying to be honest with you in this moment. So I want to also normalize it for people at home that experience time differently like I do. Like some people are just planners.

Some people live in the future. And I constantly live in a state of awareness of time passing. And I really am working on it. I notice seasons changing so deeply. I notice birthdays hitting harder. I notice endings lingering longer. in my brain and in my heart. I don't just feel change. I feel like I register it. And maybe some of us are just born with a stronger sense of impermanence. Maybe that's part of just who I am and I need to embrace that.

Because it's not better. It's not worse. It's just heavier. And there is a downside to it. There's a downside of looking at life like this. It's like this pressure to make it count. But putting things off in case they aren't right. And then there's guilt when resting.

because I feel like I'm not doing enough with this one life. And then there's feeling behind even when I'm not. And sometimes I am not sad because something is wrong. And I'm just genuinely sad because time is moving. I'm a sad girl. I do have this duality of being this outgoing fun, nice. In my opinion, lighthearted, go with the flow gal. And then I also at the same time as I'm like a sad girl at heart who thinks of things

heavier than most and can't accept the passage of time. I think that's so sad to be both, but I am. Because joy can trigger anxiety for me and that feels so sad. My brain immediately starts mourning things. Like, I even do this. My mom made fun of me one time because I went to eat dinner and I went, I'm already sad for when this beautiful dinner is over. And she goes, so enjoy it. And I'm going to, but I'm already sad for when it's over. Christmas time, I get so nostalgic. I put up my tree like November 20th. I have Christmas lights up at November 1st. I'm already trying to make that time count because I'm already sad for when it's over. Again, joy triggers anxiety for me because my brain immediately starts mourning it. Now, I don't want you to join me on this spiral. I really don't. I want us to walk through it together because what I'm learning really slowly and even from talking through this out loud is that nostalgia isn't telling me I failed. I need to remember that. Nostalgia is telling me I failed. It's telling me that I felt and I feel deeply. And that's beautiful. So we have to reframe. And again, we know that I always think of this as an active, hourly

practice. And it's pain doesn't equal regret. Awareness doesn't equal doom. Sensitivity doesn't equal fragility. And maybe the ache isn't because it's over. Maybe the ache is because I was actually there. And again, it's my last life. So bitch, let me have it. I just, I don't want to escape the passage of time, obviously. I don't want to escape it. I want to feel it. I want to learn how to stay inside of it. I don't want to escape the feeling of passage of time.

I want to learn how to stay inside of it. I keep repeating myself when I say something good. I hope you're taking it all in. I think naming it out loud, saying it out loud, thinking it out loud with you guys right now. This is time grief. I grieve time. And that's okay. You got to put your feet on the ground.

You have to name it. You have to have gratitude, which I really do. and I work on daily. And you've got to let moments be imperfect. We've got to just let them be imperfect and we've got to let them pass. There is no going back. This is what I find so hard and confusing about my feelings. When people say,

ah, you can't do this. It's out of your control. I think that scares me. Things that are out of my control only in certain ways. Like other things I'm so loosey-goosey about and I don't have a care in the world. And then other things I'm like, I don't have control over this and I'm scared. I get scared.

When I don't have control, I get scared when I'm scared. in the passenger seat of a car because I don't have control. I get scared of the passage of time because I know I can't go back. I get scared of aging because I know it's precious. And I just have to remind myself that I don't have to capture life to honor it. And not everything needs to be a fucking core memory. Okay.

That's for me and for you if you needed that. I just, I don't think I'll ever be somebody who is casual about time. It's not who I am. It's not my DNA. It's not how I'm built. But I'm just trying to be kinder to myself. and I'm trying to help you be kinder to yourself if you're relating to this. And if this really is my last life, I don't want to live it being afraid or sad.

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Okay, this is a weird Mary FK. I love that you say FNK because I hate saying those words too. So let's say Mary Fooke and put to slug. I'm going to sleep. Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, Kim Kardashian. I would marry Angelina Jolie because I feel like she seems like a saint who does good in the world and she would probably bring out the best in me

and make me want to like do more giving back. Megan Fox, take her for a roll in the hay. Don't mind if I do. Kim K, I love you, but I'm out. Put you to sleep. Okay. What are you the most grateful for in the last two months? I'm grateful that I have not put pressure on myself to do the next thing.

I've really settled into a slower, not slower pace. I've settled into more of a, you are where you're at, you're here, you don't need to chase anything, take it in, and things will align. And I'm grateful for that feeling because I feel like something's coming up that's really exciting, that obviously I can never just talk about, but I love teasing. But I'm grateful that I've allowed myself to not. chase the next thing. Somebody said, do you feel comfortable talking about your mental health journey going through similar? Oh, girlfriend, I'll tell you, when I look back on that time I was talking about

in 2016, I remember I was in my fiance's car, 2016, not in the passenger seat, but in the, in the floor area where you put your feet. I was compacted in that, having a massive panic attack and not knowing that it was a panic attack. I was pulling out my own hair. I was screaming. crying. I was rocking myself back and forth. I was hitting my chest. My mental health was in a toilet in 2016 and I have gone in and out of that. And the last few years has been really profound to me because I see all of my therapy finally working. And I, I have the capacity to handle so many difficult things now compared to when I used to have bad things to try and handle. That wasn't a great sentence. But you know what I mean. So yeah, I'm very open and comfortable about

talking about, I used to call myself crazy. I'd be like, I'm crazy. And I do feel crazy in those moments, but mental health is a real struggle. And now there's so many resources out there. But I, I mean, all I can recommend is intense therapy, because it's really what changed my whole life. And medication, but I'm not a doctor and I don't want to tell you to do that. Man, I feel this PSA so hard. Somebody said, I need you to give a PSA for the people to go to the bathroom and not toot openly on planes. My PSA is can we please put music in all public bathrooms? Why are we sitting in DMV lighting, hearing other people do their business right in the next stall with like open, like get some heavy duty doors, play some music and like maybe make the lighting a little more.

I don't know. I just feel so like I'm in jail when I'm in there. But anyways, PSA, don't toot openly on planes. And like don't shit on planes. Please. Hold your bowels. Somebody asked how Chandler started calling me fairy. I'm going to do that trend. I know the trend is beaten to a pulp, but it's, I want to do the trend where it's like, when you're asked to be somebody's godmother,

it is important that you say yes. And then it's Chandler calling me fairy. I'm his fairy godmother, and he calls me fairy. I've seen other people copy that trend, and I want to be like, yeah, isn't it great? I'm like, no, I'm fairy. I'm the only fairy. I love it.

It's like such a special role for me. I love being fairy. So he calls me fairy because I'm his godmother. Somebody said, will you ever apply to go on Big Brother or Traders? This is my application. Please put me on either one. Somebody asked,

would I ever adopt a small dog? If I could, I would adopt any dog that needed a home ever. That's my like 10 year plan. Right, Rommies? I want to adopt out of doggies and live on a farm. So somebody said, what do you think about 2026 being the new 2016?

I don't. Believe it. I have, now I have the, again, the capacity, the tools in my belt, if you will, for therapy talk sake. You know, I just mentally don't think I can be in that place again as 2016, but the lightness of 2016 felt around the world. I hope so. That'd be cool. Somebody said, is there a petition we can sign to get you on traders? Just tag them, you know? Say my name, tag them. This bitch, okay? This is the one where she sounds like my mom. She has said some really nasty things and then she said she loved the podcast today and then she said can you genuinely go a week without drinking this is the first drink i've had in about six days so go fuck yourself yes i can i actually love

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popular rom-com quotes. And if the person doesn't get the movie idea, you have a sip of your rosé, rom-com rosé. I've never really been a Valentine's girly. So you could do like an anti-valentine heartbreak hotel theme, like iconic yet unhinged. Like you could like smash a pinata that's your ex's face. You could write anonymous breakup notes and then read them out loud. You could do it worst date ever storytelling hour. You could have like ripped heart. confetti everywhere and like listen to emo music. I'm into this. Even if you're in love, that still sounds fun. Somebody said, since you stop making do scrunchies, what scrunchies do you use now? I still have a scrunchy drawer full of do scrunchies. They're the best in the world. I wear them all

the time. Someone asked how to pick yourself up out of the winter ugly's rut seasonal depression. I feel that. I would say get like a light therapy lamp. There are those out there. Red light even helps me sometimes. Sweating always helps me. Moving your body always helps me. Just open the blinds immediately when you wake up. Make sure you're getting like proper morning sunlight. Make sure that you're getting proper rest and sleep. Force yourself to do that. Winter also depletes like I think it's vitamin D. Yeah, that's what yeah. So give yourself some vitamin D. That dude, that vitamin D, baby. That too. Get it. Girl. I would say don't isolate yourself even though it's very easy to in these winter bluey times, but like plan a girl's night. And then I would just say get thoughts out of your

head. Write it on paper. Like right now, this whole podcast just got thoughts out of my head. Feelings out. I got to talk through it. And I literally am like, I feel happy right now. I'm really down. And then I would suggest just like using chat GPT. Sometimes if I have like feeling in a rut, I just ask chat GPT for advice and boom. It's really helpful. Why are people mad about chat GPT though. They're saying it's like ruining the environment or the world. Sometimes it helps me get the juices flowing. Okay. I'm going to go get that vitamin D. I love you guys. Thank you for listening to my rants always. Thank you for being here. And 2016, what was it like for you? Do you hope that 2026 is like the new 2016? Can you believe that was a decade ago? Tell me. I'm Caitlin Bresto. I'll see you

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