Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Solo Dolo | Seeds & Seasons: A Cozy, Quick Episode!

Episode Date: November 27, 2025

#897. Happy Thanksgiving, Vinos!Kaitlyn’s solo today with a message that hit her harder than she expected — something she heard at church that completely shifted how she thinks about timing, growth, and the quiet little “seeds” you plant without even realizing it.Then she’s diving into your questions with a cozy, candid Q&A sesh.A Thanksgiving drop with heart, humor, and a perspective shift you’ll want to carry into the rest of the year. The perfect quick listen to set the vibe for your day. And as always — from the Off the Vine team to YOU — we’re so thankful for our Vinos. ❤️Tune in and get ready to see Andy Richter like never before — sidekick? Not anymore.If you’re LOVING this podcast, please follow and leave a rating and review below! PLUS, FOLLOW OUR PODCAST INSTAGRAM HERE!Thank you to our Sponsors! Check out these deals!Booking.com: Head over to booking.com and start your listing today! Get Seen. Get Booked on Booking.com!Better Help: OTV listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/VINE.MicroPerfumes: Find your scent soulmate today and get up to 60% off at MicroPerfumes.com/VINE.Nutrafol: Right now, Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription plus free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and use promo code VINE.Paka: Right now during PAKA’s Black Friday/Cyber Monday sale, you can get 30% off with the purchase of 3 items or more. Head to GO.PAKAAPPAREL.com/OTV.Progressive: Visit Progressive.com to see if you could save on car insurance!EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: (3:15) Kaitlyn breaks down the church message that hit her — seeds, harvests, and why the smallest things you plant can grow into something huge.(4:00) She dives into “gap thinking” — that space between where you are and where you wish you were, and why it can hold you back.(20:10) Q&A sesh: the one emotion Kaitlyn avoids, what real love looks like now, and the tattoo she’s this close to removing.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Please, that one simple thing helps more than you even realize it allows me to keep growing on this podcast and making these episodes the best they can possibly be obviously for you. That's the only favorite I'm going to ever ask, okay? It truly means the world to me. Thank you. Now let's get into it. Hey, everybody. Welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow, and I had a whole prep doc planned for this solo episode. But today I just was like, something hit me right in the soul. And I decided, nope, we're going to regroup and rewrite and talk about my experience that hit me in the best way today. So I went to church. It's Sunday. I went to church today. And if you know me, you know my spirituality and relationship with any sort of faith is like kind of all. always there. It's not complicated. Well, yeah, it is complicated, actually. My relationship with

faith is complicated because I'm not sure what it is I exactly believe in. I believe in a higher power. I believe in a God. I'm still questioning, but the fact that I went to church today, I just wanted to kind of lean into the message. To me, I really want to find an inclusive church that is accepting of everyone. But what I really was going for today was to get some sort of message. And that message was received loud and clear today. I just feel like I always question what the higher power is. I wonder. I lean in. I pull back. Sometimes all at once. And I'm just, I don't know. I'm just still figuring out what I really am choosing to believe in. And I know a lot of people have opinions on that. But it's, it's our own personal journey. And, you know, sometimes I see

DMs that they're like, well, Caitlin, you just need Jesus. And I hear you. But I am going to take my own journey there and today was a big part of this journey. And I just feel like faith doesn't always come wrapped in certainty. It sometimes is showing up even when you have questions. And that's what I did today. I went with Hannah Brown because she's special. She's a special person to me. She's a special friend and two women showing up in church exactly how they are. Open hearts and open minds and me still seeking. I just feel like that was already a win. And then this message was just so powerful. So the pastor priest, see, I don't even know which one to call him, was talking about Thanksgiving. But he wasn't talking about Thanksgiving as in like in a holiday sense. He was talking about it in a spiritual

sense. And the main word that was in the lesson today was gratitude. And I was like, okay, here we go. And you're probably thinking the same thing. Oh, another gratitude podcast around Thanksgiving. Groundbreaking, Caitlin. But this was a very specific message. And it was kind of about gratitude, harvest, and seasons. So he talked about how every beautiful harvest starts with something almost invisible, like a small, tiny seed. He even had a bowl of seeds, a bowl of seeds, and then a beautiful large harvest behind him. And so he would say, look at this one seed that makes that. And I'll get to the point. The point is that sometimes we don't even realize a seed has been planted within us. And that just got me. And that just got

me it was just that thought alone because I think so many of us and myself included we get stuck in what he called gap thinking so it's kind of that space where we are and where we wish we were and that could be in marriage in a relationship in a friendship financially with a job it's like where we are right now say we're stuck say we don't know what we're doing with our job we're financially struggling marriage is failing we're still thinking of course we're thinking what a perfect marriage could look like. What if I had this income? Or it's, I have so much. Like, I feel abundant in my life. I look around my beautiful home with my beautiful dogs and I love my job and I actually feel quite abundant. And my gap thinking leads me to believe that there's something more. But what does this

look like or would it look like if I had more of this? And so I really got taught a lesson today that gap thinking is basically holding your hand like this and not allowing a seed to even fall into your hand when you could be opening your hand and receiving so many seeds to plant so many beautiful things to grow. I'm holding it like this because I'm scared. I'm scared of the failure. I'm scared of things falling apart and I have what I have here like how do I hang on to that? And I'm not allowing to receive anything more. Now for you watching on YouTube, this is more of a visual because I'm showing my hands. If it's audio, I hope you get what I'm saying. I'm scrunching my hand and I'm not being able to even receive one tiny seed.

So that gap thinking, yeah, it's kind of like we're focusing too much on the things we don't have yet. And everything that hasn't happened yet and everything that we're afraid that might never happen. Gosh, do I ever have that gap thinking mentality? And I am working on it. I think I talk about it a lot. But we just always wait for that next big moment or that next big sign guilty. I'm always looking for the next big sign, the blinking lights, the this, the getting this job, you know, kind of looking for the next big moment. answer and we miss the fact that maybe right now in this moment something so small and quiet

and meaningful is already being planted for anyone struggling right now think of how small a tiny seed is in the farming world okay and then think of the harvest that grows in the harvest season you might be in the planting season you might be in the season where everything is going to shit but a small seed is about to be planted for you and you have to trust in whatever this higher power is that you believe in or just on the path of life that that seed is being planted for something beautiful to grow. Now, I had to really think about this with my dogs and the fact that I have to accept that they will pass. And I started crying because the pastor said, you know, I was consoling a woman who

lost her baby three weeks old. And when something like that happens, how do you believe in God? How do you have faith? He said he held her and he goes, it was awful. It was devastating. It was the worst thing that could ever happen to anybody and he goes and three weeks later today we are celebrating her mom getting baptized and having faith again and she was able to smile and that alone I was like that there's nothing that anyone could think about that could be possibly worse than losing a child and I have to remember that like we getting a dog I have to know that this will be part of life this will be part of the cycle and that life will go on and that that in some way will be a tiny seed where I go, what is the point of life? I will go doomsday. I will go,

what is happening? And eventually it will lead to possibly like maybe I get to rescue a dog that's in need or I don't, I can't think of the beautiful things that'll come right now because that's not how my brain works. But I have to know that there will always be a plan and that I will be okay and things will be okay because it always is. And I really thought about the last 10 years. And I'm like, I've always had that mentality of like, what's next? What's big? or what's better? What's this? And along the way, I have not really been able to view, I guess, the harvest from a lens of gratitude and from thinking how beautiful life has been to me in these last 10 years. 99% of the worries I've had have been lies to me. I've been lying to myself about

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gratitude in tiny things. Like in this moment right now, I'm like, I'm just sitting here getting to do what I love. I had a beautiful morning with about seven beautiful humans and we went to lunch after and we got to kind of download what that service meant to us and all have different opinions of what we took away from it. And that was a little seed for me today because who knows what path that just put me on of gratitude. Now I'm constantly going to be thinking about the little things and being in the moment and trying not to have my gap thinking way in my brain. But like even the breath in your lungs, that's a tiny seed. Just the fact that you're still here you're learning, you're loving, you're growing, you're evolving. I just feel like all these little

things we aren't conditioned to think that way too. I don't want you to think that you're a bad person if you don't think like that. This is a constant battle for me. And even still today, after working on it for so many years, I'm still getting slapped in the face with this message of that it is a constant reminder. It's not how your brain is supposed to think. You're not supposed to think all positive. Your brain protects you. Your brain is a brain that is in survival. mode at all times. So it doesn't make sense for your brain to constantly choose content and gratitude and happiness. So that is why I will always be here to remind you. And that's why I always need to be reminded as well. But the pastor just kept talking about how the harvest does not

come instantly. There is a process. There is a season. There is watering and tendering times. And there is a lot of trust. There has to be a lot of trust in the process. Something greater than us is always working even when you feel like nothing is happening. Maybe that's what faith really is. Is not real. Now this might only make sense to me or some of you. Maybe not to others. I feel like it's one of those topics, you know, religion, politics, money. It's always controversial. But it's almost choosing to trust that the seed that you can't physically see with your eyes is there. That something really beautiful can grow from something extremely small, that your story might be unfolding in ways that you don't even realize. How many of you listening right now or watching can

look back when you thought it was the worst time of your life or you thought you couldn't get through something or pass something or you were struggling in some sort of way? How many of you can have that benefit of hindsight now with the gratitude of wow, that happened to me because of this? Now, I'm not saying in the moment of being depressed or going through a rough time, you're not allowed to be sad. You can be like, that's a seed that's planted and something beautiful is going to come. But it's just more of like the trust and the awareness of sitting in the vulnerability of being upset and knowing that you've done this before and you can do it again and the seed is planted for something beautiful to grow. Today was just a really good reminder that I needed that I wanted

to share with you guys at home or wherever you are that you got to stop living in the gap mentality and start living in the gratitude. And I know that is preached to us all the time, but clearly not enough because we all need this reminder daily, sometimes hourly. I think hourly I actually need the reminder to not think that way because gratitude is where the seed grows and gratitude is where the harvest begins. I'm very visual. So this analogy really helped me. The fact that he had seeds, the fact that he had the harvest, he was holding this one

little seed in his hand to show how big and beautiful something can come from it if you treat it with care and love and tenderness. And he even had Hannah Brown's husband come up on stage and dump a bowl of seeds onto a closed hand and then onto an open hand. And just to show like that what one seed can do and then what it looks like to open your heart and hands to receive. And another big, big message of today was giving back. I just feel like gratitude can really open your heart. It softens your grip a little bit. And it just creates space. And that's what I don't do enough of is creating space. I've always got a tight grip on where I'm going, what I've got to do next, what this looks like, what's more and what's out there. And from having space really comes giving. Because when you feel full, you naturally kind of want to pour into others. I think we can all agree on that. And gratitude turns into generosity, not always in big, flashy ways. More in like,

small moments that matter, showing up for friends, showing up for family, encouraging rather than judging. I need a lot of help on that. Helping people feel seen. And I think when I'm in a position of go, go, go, and I'm learning. Look what I'm doing. And I'm doing all this. And then I hold other people accountable that maybe aren't where I'm at. I need to soften and have that space of giving. And then giving to me leads to growth. So these are all gratitude into giving into growth. Your own growth, yes, the kind that kind of stretches you from the inside out. But more importantly, the growth that you could spark in someone else. And that was part of his message today, too, because it's a cycle. Gratitude fills you, giving expands you, and growth transforms you. And when

you transform, that's when magic happens. That's when things you love to do all of a sudden become your job. Everything just kind of opens up into something that you couldn't even imagine. And like even a simple thank you today could turn into a seed of something beautiful tomorrow. I guess I just wanted to share the message with you guys and share that if you're in a season of uncertainty or waiting or questioning or anything that feels like doom and gloom, maybe this could be your reminder. And maybe if you're in a season of, you know, really beautiful things blooming in front of you and you're happy at your job and you're finally where you want to be, maybe it's to encourage you to not gap think and think of what. else could be what could be better how much more you need and just receive what you have okay i know this time of year gets so busy there's holiday parties family gatherings photos all the things and i don't know about you but when my hair feels good i just feel good and i know you know this but i've been taking neutral fall

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I think shame makes me feel like I'm a bad person, like I've done something wrong. And I think it's trying to teach me to possibly self-reflect and obviously ask myself the question of why. Why am I feeling that way? What's the root cause? And I think I'm just scared to face my own shame. I think at the end of the day, I'm just scared. So the feeling would be shame and it's trying to teach me to let go of fear.

Wow. I think it just, I think because I opened the Q&A with that I went to church, I think people are like, you know, asking some real questions. Somebody said, what does love, real grounded love look like to you right now compared to what you used to think it meant? I am very appreciative and grateful for these deep questions because it's really making me think. Real grounded love to me is not performative. It is like, I'm not sure I believe in unconditional love for a human and I think that's my trauma speaking. But I think it looks like complete trust, not performative. I think it looks like calm and quiet, not loud and in everybody's face. This is only for me personally. And I think

that's what I used to think it was maybe a bit performative. I used to think it was maybe the loudest love was the realest love. And now I think it's the opposite. I think it's the people who are quietly loving behind closed doors that are the happiest. And that doesn't mean I'm right. That's just my belief. But I think it's, uh, it's definitely different than what I used to. I think it's, I think it's really wanting to understand your partner, accept them. Okay, that's what it is. Not unconditional love. I would say full acceptance. Full acceptance of who they are and that to me is real grounded love. Radical acceptance. Oh, somebody asked what's something you've healed from that you haven't given yourself enough credit for. Probably self acceptance. Self love. And,

and body dysmorphia. I used to talk so horribly to myself and talk down to myself. And I believed I was not good enough. I wasn't pretty enough. I wasn't hot enough. I wasn't funny enough. I wasn't kind enough. And I've worked on that tremendously over the years. And the difference that I don't give myself enough credit for is just how incredible my growth has been over a decade of just how I show up for myself. I don't think I give myself enough credit for that. Thank you for asking that one that's nice somebody said what is your most unhinged intrusive thought that you would never act but definitely giggle at i can't even tell you my intrusive thoughts are so disturbing and i'm sure we all have them but like my the fact that you just asked me what is my most unhinged

and intrusive thought i'm like this is the most caitland bristow question because all of my thoughts are unhinged and intrusive to the point where i to like smack myself and be like what Why would you even go there? Like, I'll be holding a huge kitchen knife and I'll be like, what if I develop schizophrenia right now and I just go, bah! And then, or like, what if I trip and fall and I stab my dog with this big kitchen knife? Like, that's immediately when I'm pulling out a knife. Like, my heart rate goes up because I think something bad's going to happen. God, that is an unhinged, intrusive thought.

Like, that's not going to happen, you weirdo? What is the most embarrassing thing that you've done to impress someone who definitely didn't deserve it? probably like learned hockey stats to try and impress someone and then they actually found that to be a huge turnoff because they were a hockey player and I had my ringtone to be hockey night in Canada song

And I was that it And he was like You're a fan. Get out of here. I really did that. I think I was 19 and I tried to learn hockey stats and had my ringer as a hockey night in Canada song

and he was a hockey player and he was like That's embarrassing. Okay. That's funny. Good question. This question's funny. Someone said if someone wrote a passive aggressive email about you, what would the subject line be? Probably something like requesting context for Caitlin's inspirational podcast that she thinks she's Jay Shetty in. I like that I can giggle it myself. Somebody asked me what my net worth is. I wouldn't even say Google it because I don't think it's accurate, but I'm not going to share that. I'm, I don't like talk about money. I think I have shame around money. I think I feel like guilty sometimes for it. So I'm not going to talk about it. I don't like that stuff. Somebody asks who I think will win dancing with the

stars. I go so back and forth. I used to be like Robert Irwin, but now I'm like, he's so obvious, will he? Or now I see the power of the internet with who they want to be together with and unify on who's going home. I think people are really rooting for Elaine. I've loved watching her journey. I think Alex Earle is a beautiful dancer. And I think Dylan, is like the sweetest, cutest, cutest human ever. I don't think he's going to win, though. I would love for him, too, because I love Danielle, but I love all the pros.

Who do I think will win? I think Alex Earle's going to win. That's my prediction. Somebody said, do you think you'll ever get any of your tattoos removed? I actually have thought about getting my birds removed, which they're like the most recognizable part. Like, people will see me at the airport,

and they're like, I didn't know as you, but then I saw the birds. And it's not, I don't care about that. Please always come up and say hello. It's more of, I feel like they're, tacky now? Like, I used to think they were so badass. And now I'm like, I get it. I hate birds and I have birds tattooed on me. That's already stupid. But I just feel like they, I don't know. I would love them if they were a little more dainty. I feel like I have so many dainty little tattoos. Those just like stick out like a sore thumb a little bit. But I also am like a true believer in bitch, you got those tattoos and you knew that was forever. So stick with it. You know? Someone asked if I would ever share my relationship if I'm in one that got to a point that it was very serious. I don't know. I still don't know the answer to that. I'm really, it'll be a very in the moment genuine thing if I do. I guess I would

want to share if I ever got married or if I was pregnant, of course. But again, it goes back to that performative love thing for me. I just, it feels really safe to not do that right now. So if I do ever feel ready, then yes, but I can't say if I ever will or not, because I don't know. Someone said, how is your heart leading into the holidays? I feel very grateful for my memories and experience around the holidays. The holidays have always been a very happy time for me, always about family and friends and love and connection. So I'm very lucky because I know the holidays are very hard for a lot of people. And I know there's a lot of toxic family dynamics and, you know, sometimes a lot of toxic drinking that goes on in families or tension or politics or whatever. And it's just like you all feel forced to come together because it's Thanksgiving. I'm here to tell you you don't have to. You can just say no. Protect your peace is my advice on that one. You didn't ask, but I gave it to. Somebody said, did you talk to two people who shall not be named at Dancing with the Stars? Um, no. Somebody, somebody said, on a scale of one to 10, how dramatic are you? It really depends. In my everyday life, like, I'm pretty chill. I used to be

like level 12 dramatic. And now in my life, I feel like I'm dramatic in a car because I think it goes back to my best friend dying in a car accident and I just have a lot of anxiety around car crashes. So I'm very dramatic in a car if somebody else is driving because I don't have control. I'm dramatic with my dogs. I'm very dramatic with my dogs or about them, I should say. But other than that, I've also been like quite dramatic. And no, that was a long time ago. Yeah.

I'm like level, I would say three unless it has to do with my dogs or being in a car out of control. Petty is different. I'm a little petty with some things, but I wouldn't say dramatic. Someone said, if someone told you, don't make this about you, how long would you last before making it about you? I do have a problem with this. I do it, I think, when I podcast too, but it's because I try to relate with people. I've really had to check myself on this and think, like, am I doing this because I want to make it about me or am I doing it? Because I have done that.

Or am I doing it to relate and try and make them feel seen? And I do both. But I would give it 30 seconds. Somebody wants to know what my red flag is. Probably just my competitiveness. To be honest, my competitiveness comes out. in a lot of different ways, sometimes healthy and sometimes unhealthy, I think what I'm striving for now is to be in a healthy relationship where I, again, goes back to the radical acceptance

of if they're doing something that I feel competitive with, it's, well, who are they as a human being? What is their heart? And are they trying to be you? Because that's scary. I think I've felt that before. And that's weird. I think it's more of like, do you trust who they are and why they're doing it. Like if I was, oh, that's a good, this is a good one for me to think about, say I was dating someone and they got asked to be on Dancing with the Stars. I actually think I'm in a place where I would be excited. And if you would ask you that five years ago, it would have been fear because I wasn't safe. I would actually be excited because I'd be like, I get to be back part of Dancing with the Stars. See, I made it about me in 30 seconds. I'm moving on. That's

embarrassing. But I would be excited. Because I feel like I'd get to be back in the ballroom. I just love it there. Someone said, how do you handle crazy mother in laws during the holidays? First of all, I don't have to handle that, which is great. I don't have a crazy mother-in-law. I'm trying to think of what my advice would be. I mean, I think it's just, again, going back to acceptance of you're never going to change her. So I would just either not deal with her, ignore, not even go possibly, or go ignore and protect your peace by just reminding yourself that you're safe in your own body and that that energy can't. Just put a shield of external invisible shield up.

Her energy can't get to you. Your energy is too important for her. Just ignore it. Find the gratitude and all the other little things while she's being crazy. Good games for Thanksgiving gatherings. I went to Kat's birthday yesterday. She had a little dinner, pajama party with a few people at her house. And we played Fishbowl where you put everybody writes three things on a piece of paper.

Rip it up three different pieces of paper. A person, a place, and a thing. And then everybody puts their stuff in the fish bowl. Nobody knows who's who's. The first round, you go over. round and you have two teams either team one or team two team one pulls out you have 30 seconds to try and get through as many things through the bowl as you can and it's you can say as many words as you can without saying the words and then you go around and then you put all everything back in but

you keep you keep all the ones that you got that you got your team to guess those are your points then you put them all back in the bowl and then round two happens there's three rounds round two is you can say one word so let's say Vegas was a place the one word I would use to describe I would say gambling. People would know already from the first round that the word Vegas was in there. Vegas. And the third round, you can only act it out. So what would I do for Vegas? God, I don't even know. Money. All in? I don't know. But you get the idea. That's a fun game for Thanksgiving. Someone said if you could ask your dog one question and get a real answer, what would it be? I would just want to know what upsets them the most. Or I'd want to know why the ramen barks at everything

always. What food do you eat that makes people think you're weird? Well, probably black licorish. I always say that's my toxic trait. I love black licorice, licorice all sorts. All the old people candy. If you could rename yourself for a day, what would your alter ego be called? I want to be like a Scotty or like a Stevie or like something like a boy's name that's for a girl. But I don't know what my alter ego would be. I'd probably just be like a really badass guitar player, singer, drummer. Yeah, yeah. Name Stevie. Get out of here. That's my alter ego. Oh, someone actually said any plans to move to New York. So, I will tell you three years ago, I said, I wanted to move to New York.

First of all, I'm obsessed with New York. I always happen. And three years ago, I started looking at tiny little studios because I was like, maybe I could set up like an off-the-vine set up studio in a tiny little shitty apartment that's like 300 square feet. And then I just have a Murphy bed that comes out. So I can just like, because when you're in New York, you're never in your apartment. Well, that's a lie because when you're stuck in the winter there, it is kind of hell.

But I would just come back here for the winter. But I thought about having this tiny little studio. and I've been thinking more and more about it, and I still want to do that. So, yes, I have thought about moving to New York, and I would love to start looking in the new year. I think that would be really fun, but I would never give up my house here in Nashville, and I would bring the dogs everywhere I went. Like, I'll drive out there with them if I'm going to spend a few months there and drive back. They're just my whole world.

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