Off The Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe - Tunde Oyeneyin: Living a life in purpose, on purpose, of purpose

Episode Date: February 23, 2021

Kaitlyn interviews one the most inspirational (and one of her favorite) Peloton instructors, Tunde. Tunde shares her inspirational story of not what she’s lost - literal and figurative weight of her past - but what she has gained - confidence, purpose and strength. Kaitlyn gets emotional, shares how Tunde’s Speak Up ride forever changed her and is in complete awe throughout the entire interview - she claims it may be her favorite interview yet.  You can follow Tunde on IG at @Tune2Tunde   GEICO - Go to geico.com , and in fifteen minutes you could be saving 15% or more on car insurance STRAIGHT TALK - Straight Talk Wireless. No contract. No compromise. TURBOTAX - File with the help of an expert, or let an expert file for you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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when i say dang i don't know what i said i'm just excited i am sitting down with someone who i see all the time but i've actually never met that sounds like a riddle who have i seen all the time but i've never actually hung out with to explain i see her on my peloton when i take classes from her She gets me, she gets so many others, so hyped up, motivated, mentally, physically challenged, and inspires us. And just she gives me all the feels. When I started learning more and more about her story and background, I knew I had to have her on the podcast.

I'm so happy she was up for it. We talk about how she got to where she is today. She surprisingly hasn't been in fitness forever. She used to be a makeup artist, super cool. She's so good at her makeup. I actually learned how to do a wing eyeliner from her. How she stays motivated. and really what's most important to her in life, honestly, this, I say this a lot.

This truly was a podcast that you will walk away from it feeling like you want to be a better person, your day has changed. She has such an impact on me and I know she will on you guys listening as well. So enjoy today's podcast with my favorite Peloton instructor, Tunday. Also, be sure to stay around after my interview with Tune Day because I'm going to be introducing a new segment called Pump Your Tires. You guys know I like to pump people's tires. And after having a conversation with Tune Day, who's so, so inspiring, it really got

me wanting to hear about other inspiring people and businesses out there doing such amazing things and who truly deserve to have their tires pumped. So the segment will pretty much be all about promoting small organizations and businesses that myself and my vinoes find inspiring. And I want to get all of you guys to be a part of this segment. So stay tuned after my interview to hear more about it and how you can get involved. It's really a story, Caitlin. I, my, my audition process was a year.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It was a story. Not necessarily that I was auditioning every day for a year, but I, I flew out, Cody Rigsme, actually, Cody Rigsby found out Instagram. He dropped into my DMs. I thought it was like, you know, when people was dropping your DMs and just say wild shit, basically.

So I thought he was one of those people, and I wasn't even going to give him. him attention like in terms of like responding but I saw he had that little certified blue check I was like maybe this is like something legit and I looked him up and was like he actually like is who he says he is and so long story short he asked me if I'd come to I did all audition tapes all that stuff yeah you're going on to the next level come out to New York and audition went out to New York audition finished my audition everyone like cheering basically what I've done. Cody, great job.

Everything was wonderful. You know, it'll be a while before you hear anything. They were like opening London at the time. And so that's where all the focus was. Every day for two months, I'm looking at my phone. When I say that, girl, when I say every time my phone, ding, I'm looking down. I'm like, like, I would be at work and I would always keep my phone in my pocket and I'd feel a buzz.

And I'd be with a client doing their makeup. Let me look down. like my life was waiting for Cody Rigsby and two months later November probably second I think it was I get an email I wake up to the email from Cody Rigsby 8 a.m. I regret to reform you that it was not a unanimous decision you will not be moving forward. Stop it. Why? Girl you want to do another podcast on that? No but uh so you know what why though in short because I I believe in divine timing. I wasn't supposed to start then.

I really wasn't. I was supposed to start when I started under, like, the conditions within, like, I was just, it was supposed to be, and it's, you know, I think failure will call it is in hindsight, you know, like, you can't call it a failure until you actually move out of it because I realize now I was not supposed. I was not supposed. I probably wouldn't be sitting here having this conversation with the likes of you had I gotten the first time around.

It wasn't supposed to get it then. It wasn't mine then. Yeah. I'd manifested it. I'd seen it. I'd had a dream probably like three or four years before that. I had what I call a premonition. And you, this is after my first cycling class I'd ever taken. Like I had taken a cycling class at a big box gym with like the lights on, but not like the experience. When you clip on the studio, the fanatics. So I live in L.A. at the time. And I was here in New York on a makeup gig doing makeup. And I, my hotel gym, the gym was horrible. So I said, let me walk down the street. Let me figure out with this, this cycling thing, sensation craze that everybody's talking about is. So, where I paid my $35 for my seat, I bought my water bottle, I bought my shoe. I had spent $40. I was mad at myself for spending that $40 because I was like, why are you this way that you just spent $40 to work out?

You should have just done jumping Jackson, called it a night. So in your tiny little New York hotel room. So anyways, I am in this class, mad at myself, people, the people start coming in the class. they're cheering for the instructor like she's Beyonce. I have no idea what's happening. And three minutes into the class, I'm in a state of euphoria. I leave the class.

I'm walking home. I walk turned to a skip. I'm skipping back to my hotel room. In like a five seconds, in a moment, I felt this blue light, this blue light move throughout my body from my toes to my fingertips. And in that moment,

I knew that not only would I be cycling for the rest of my life, I finished that class and I said, oh, my God, this is something I'm going to be doing for the rest of my life. I said, not only are you going to be cycling, you're going to be teaching it. Oh, my God. Not only am I going to be teaching it. I'm going to be teaching on the world's biggest platform. Oh, my God. And everyone is going to know my name for it.

I knew that after my very first class. I knew it. And so when I didn't get that yes from Cody, it was so much more than just not getting an audition, not getting a job. For me, it was you saw something. It was the most clear thing I have, I've ever. seen felt witnessed in my life. And so for it to be so close, like, oh my God, this thing is coming true. This is what I saw. Oh, my God. I am psychic. Yeah. And then this, this no happens. It felt like a loss. And I know tragedy very well. I've lost so, so many of my family members

in some short amount of time. And so I know loss. This felt like a loss because to me it was a vision, a dream that I, something that I physically dreamed and saw for myself, that I'd lost. And so, like, eight months past, I'm teaching at a mom-pop shop in L.A. having the time of my life, so happy. And I get a call from Cody Rigsby. Fucking Cody. He's never just Cody to me. I still have him in my phone saved as Cody Rigsby. Yeah. Cody Rigsby calls. He's like, Tuesday, you know, wondering if you would. be interested. I know you've got a lot going on. I'm like, don't let my Instagram

lie to you, boy, I got nothing going on. Because I was like doing something on like auditioning for things and doing a commercial or something. I think he thought I was really tied up with that. And he was like, I don't know if you'd be interested, but we would love to have you come out and audition. Again, I said, absolutely, he goes, you would have to start from the beginning. Because that was his way of saying, sister girl, you're going to start a process up because it takes time. You're going to start all the way from the beginning. I said, absolutely. Of course, there's nothing else that I'd rather do. so I went girl this is a long answer to your question so I went back I love it I'm like I'm like I see I love it

so I go back to New York they fly me out I met within three in a matter of three days I met I went on 12 interviews my first interview of so William Lynch is our president of peloton he is usually the last interview yeah because of his schedule and he was going to be out of town I was going to meet him first so we're working and he work up the ladder right it's robin and it's the president and i worked backwards because of his schedule that to me was a sign i was like they're not going to put me with the big guy first if i'm so full on this list right here you know what i'm saying like i told myself in that moment i said tunday this is already your job if you you want to mess it up for yourself you can but know that this is already yours all you got to do is going there and

validate and confirm what they already know about you, period. So with that, I walked into that. I think when you walk into an interview, you're kind of like, like interview, like energy. Girl, when I say, I satiating, I sit down. I'm sitting down. I'm talking to him. I think I said, I think I dropped an F bomb in the interview.

Like I was so, and he said it right back. Yeah. We taste from Texas as well. And once I found out that I looked online, I'm like, oh, he's from Texas. I was like, I got him. Because Texas is like, if you're from Texas, you're from another planet, another country. We like, we speak different languages to each other. Like, I was like, oh, he's from Texas.

I was like, got him. So we sit down. We talked for, I think, an hour, hour and a half, which is always a good sign. And I remember, I left and I thought to myself, he didn't ask me, he didn't ask me one interview-type question. I think at one point he said, what kind of music do? Like, everything we talked about, we talked about my brothers, we talked about his wife. We talked about Chips himself saying, K-So. And I realize now, and I know this now about the brand is that Peloton looks for people who are themselves, who are able to be themselves.

And for me, maybe, I don't know, let not be F bond, maybe it helped me. We're talking about all these different things. And so I think he was just, he wanted to see me as a person. So to your point of, you know, when I worked at different places, you do this interview and you do that interview. I did, like I did an actual physical interview, absolutely. But the odds are if you're interviewing to work for this, you know, the greatest. Black, or I'm staying in the world, you've got that technical piece. They wanted to see if I was just a fit as character, my person, who I am.

And so, yeah, so I, I, I'm so happy that I walked into that interview the way that I did with the confidence that I did, because he was able to see me for my real self. So that, I love that story so much. My cheeks hurt because I was just smiling the entire time. That's just such a cool story because I kind of can relate to a couple of those things where I saw things. I had vivid dreams about things about where I was going to be and what I was supposed to do. And I didn't go to college. I didn't do things I was supposed to do because I had this vision. I was like, no, I will end up eventually doing something. I saw myself in like a little interview room with lights and cameras and I like said I was going to somehow get on like TV. I was going to do something. I was going to build a brand. I had all these visions. And the same thing with the timing. I did all this. And they didn't call me for. a year to go on the show and I thought okay well that didn't happen for me but like I'll find a different way but then they called a year later and now looking back it's the same thing like the timing

was not right I wouldn't have been myself on TV and one of the things I'm the most proud of in life is being my authentic self on TV and I just wouldn't have been able to show up like that in the first place wow yeah so I totally I really relate to that story and I just think you're right that the timing and where you're supposed to be. And I love that you got that from being who you are because that is why people show up for your class because you have this ability to, I said it in one of my Instagram stories, you just get my mind right. Like physically I'm there and I'm pedaling and stuff, but mentally I leave your workouts

being like, like I feel like a badass leaving your workouts. You Cody and Jess King are my three go-toes. And I know that if I want a mental workout as well, I'm, in your class. Thank you. Yeah. It's amazing. You just have this fierce energy.

You're just such a presence and your, you're just, your intention is always there. How often do you do these classes? Girl, talk to my quads right now because I'm on, you know what I'm saying? We obviously, we teach on the live schedule, but the live schedule is not always really what's happening. We do a lot of things that we shoot and then drop later on demand. I eight to 12 classes a week and then for me personally I still do like my personal workouts because I like to zone out when I work out because I do it from mind as well and I when

I'm cue it and telling you to speed up bump up add resistors bring it down tap it up I can't zone out and so I still have my personal workout in too so a lot a lot that is so it is impressive though because I mean every time you you show up and I'm always thinking like people have bad days things happen in life but you always have to show up and you're doing it for everybody else when you're putting out that much energy for other people every day i was going to ask you what you do for yourself to to get that energy back yeah you know it's the first part of it it's like you there i've had i've shown up on the bike and had many bad days and you know you go to work right everyone goes to work even though you're having a bad day um but there's something about

you once the light you know this like once the right's on you're you're on you're on And it's almost like, for me, because it's something that I truly love to do so much when that light is on. Just like I asked him a writer to like let go, like if you let go of your baggage when you get on this bike. Pick it back up if you want in 30 minutes if you want. But for right now, let it go. I actually remember it was bad, like the day after George Floyd was murdered, day or two. And I had to go teach a class. I think I text Alex.

I was like, how am I supposed to go teach a pop class right now? Right, right. Give me hit. get me and so yeah and i was i used that and i channeled it and it was it was a very intentional and poignant ride yeah um but yeah i you know what i i'm really working on uh just like when we talk about like becoming a better person becoming better self i think it's so let's say that you have a friend a girlfriend who's going through stuff in a relationship you can easily like give your friend relationship advice. Like, girl, da-da-da-da-da, boom, boom, like this, and you should,

and you should, and you should, and you should, you step back and you look at your own situation. You're like, now, why can't I take a little advice, right? And so I am like, just really practice, practice, not just practicing what I'm, like, I practice practicing what I'm saying, right, to live more intentionally. And so, you know, a lot of times on the back, people ask me, specifically classes like my speakup rides or my year of yes rides were definitely as much mental as it is physical do you you have those things planned i will have a message uh an idea of my story if you will but in terms of like the one-liners or the things that just come out i think i just i let go and i just trust that the things that are that i'm going to say are going to be the

right things i think that if you trust everything you're saying even if i mess up i trust that my mess up was intentional. I trust that the fact that I didn't get this job the first time. I trust that that was intentional. And so sometimes I say things. And as I said it in that moment, Caitlin, I say it. And I'm like, and I feel it too. So it's like I'm saying something and I'm almost coaching myself in those moments too,

especially when I'm having a bad day. I almost coach harder when I'm having bad days. People always say, oh my God, how did you know how to tell me when the second, you told me not to take my resistance off. How did you know I took my resistance off? Because I wanted to take my resistance a too. Yes, that's so funny. I remember looking at you one time on the screen and going,

do you see me? Because it was like the perfect timing of calling me out. And I was like, oh, my gosh, it was like, Eerie how bang on you were. That's famous. That's so funny. Do people, like I said, I'm like, I feel like I know you just because I've seen you on the screen so many times.

And I feel like some people say that, you know, from listening to the podcast, they feel like they're one of your friends. Do people say that to you and they see you in the city? Like, hey, and then I don't know all the time. And, you know, at the beginning, I didn't know it was new. And so there was my dog's name is Caesar. And, you know, I live in New York. So you walk, you walk everywhere, you bump into people, right?

And so I'd be walking my dog and people would be like, oh, hey, Caesar. And then I'm like, oh my gosh, because Caesar's such a star on Instagram. Caesar is a star. I remember when you, because I wanted to know how you did your eyeliner and I remember watching that video and Caesar was just being so good. He's staring at us right now. Oh, we have nothing for you. He's such a good boy.

Oh, girl, he lives rent free though. He eats and eats again. That's what he does. Yeah, that's a dog. I've got two of them over here at my feet and they're the same way. I would love to live in New York for a minute, but I don't know if I could do it with two big dogs because they like live for a backyard.

It's hard. Yeah, but you've got to, he's just a little guy. He's so cute. You're in Jersey. You what? Like if you bought like a really beautiful house in Jersey. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's true.

Oh, you heard us talking about. Oh, my gosh, I love him. He's so stinking cute. I wanted to talk to you a little bit about your journey just because I was doing some. research and you look like just such a natural up there on that bike but fitness was such an important journey for you from a young age and i wanted to hear a little bit about that just in case my listeners don't know about about you as like was it 12 years old and and how it changed for you

13 14 i can't yeah you know what it is is i had a fake ID for a while you did and it's like it's i i have no concept of time and reality what i really am anymore um yeah yeah i I came out the room thick, like, people are like, when did you gain weight? I was like, no, I didn't. That's how it was just, that's what it was. I remember I was in, the first time I lied about my weight was probably in, I was in elementary for sure, like third or fourth grade. And it's wild that I remember that because I remember people were just going, you know,

kids don't know not to ask people things. Right. And so kids were going around. they were asking like each other how much they wait and I think I'd said the truth and I was I think it was like in the hundred and I think everyone was like 85 74 or something like that and I was like 120 something I don't remember what I was and I remember the kids reactions everyone's expressions and in that moment I realized this is something I have to not be truthful about because I just told the truth and the reaction was not good and so in third the next time and again it was like third

grade or something, I remember I lied. And so, yeah, I was, I had two older brothers, one younger brother, and they were all incredibly athletic and basketball, football, soccer, every sport also meant that they ate everything. Like, we like lived off of the 99-set menu from Burger King, Whopper, Wopper, fries, nuggets, whatever. Yeah. And so not to say that boys can eat whatever they want, but they were very athletic. And they ate what they wanted. And I ate with them. I ate like them. And I had to learn to eat fast because if you didn't eat fast, you didn't get any. And if they got two or three whoppers, that is what I got. And I remember, I remember eating a lot and consuming a lot. And I remember my mother being very, in hindsight, in hindsight, I remember my mother

not wanting to me to single me out, meaning if the boys were getting seconds and I wanted seconds, I remember now her not doing what I see some people doing, meaning like, no, you can't have more, but you can't, right? And I think what she was trying to do was to not create a complex and not create this thing of me feeling like I have to be small. I was hungry, have more food. You're hungry. I also know culture. Eat, eat, eat, eat. It's like a sign of respect to show that you like the food, right? It's your plate. Great job. Um, and so I, I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in a wedding, in my aunt's wedding. And she had this horribly, hideously, terribly ugly, hideously, hideously bad, very bad, bad, horrible bad day dress. It's ugly. So you

liked it. I liked it. It was so gorgeous. I love the dress and I was supposed to wear it. And the dress did not come in my size. At the time, I was like a size 16, 18, which honestly, again, in retrospect, they should have had my size, but they didn't. I remember the dress didn't fit. And so my aunt suggested another blue dress that was actually beautiful. And I think it was like double the price. And she said she was going to pay for the dress. So I say, no, I don't want to wear that dress. So my mother is hitting me because she's like, she's going to pay for it, let her pay for it. And it's way prettier. And that dress obviously came in my size.

And I told my mom, I said, no, I don't want to wear that dress. She said, why not? I said, because if I am the only one not wearing that dress, everybody's going to know I couldn't, I didn't have that dress because I couldn't fit it. Everybody's going to know that I'm the big one that couldn't fit in a dress. And so I'm in the dressing room. And my mom's sitting on the chair in the dressing room. I fall down onto her thighs, crying in her lap.

I'm crying. I'm crying. She's crying. She's holding me. And she says, A, tune day, this is something that is important to you. you, then you're going to have to make the change. And that for me, the world, people, you know, told me I was big. People made fun of me.

I never laughed too loud because if I felt like if I laughed too loud, people would notice I was there. If they noticed that I was there, they'd see how big I was. I'm a dancer. I'm a dancer at all. But I like to dance. Yeah. I didn't dance then.

Not because I didn't want to move, not that I didn't feel the beat in my soul. I didn't dance because if I danced, they'd see me. If they see me, they'd see how big I was. And so... with that said at home my brothers made fun of me but my parents always told me i was the most beautiful girl on the planet and in that moment when my mom said if this is something that is very important to you you have to make a change for me that was finally her validating it that was finally her saying i see it and in that moment that realization for me it meant something so anyways we left the dress store

that day my mom bought two of the very bad horrible hideous bad day dress sewed them together to make me one dress to walk down the aisle so that I looked like the rest of the girls oh my gosh you have the most beautiful stories or maybe it's the way you tell them but like I just could listen to you talk all day I mean so many people think if you do X, Y, and Z, you'll be happy. It can be anything from, you know, getting the promotion at work or having the title you want, the relationship you want, the number on the scale, then I'll be happy. But, you know, you had that shift. I know that number was not important to you anymore. And it was probably more about how you felt. But how did that mindset shift happen

for you? How did it happen? It happened because I told myself I had to. To your point, you know, so then I start working out. I start, stop eating whoppers. Let's start there. Okay, stopped eating whoppers. Burger King is going to send me a very nasty message after that. So I stopped that. I still do burgers, though.

But, yeah, so I set out to lose 70 pounds. So I started working out. I started eating everything that people told me, eat this. Don't eat that, eat this, don't eat that, eat that. Work out. Use this machine. Don't use that. You know, I did all those things.

The weight was coming off. I got to a point and I set out to lose 70 pounds. I did lose the weight. Ultimately, and I say this story a lot, but ultimately my life has become so much more than what I lost. It's been so much more about what I gained. I love that. You say that.

Lost the weight. Great. Okay, but I gained confidence, gained a sense of purpose, gained a sense of strength, gained a sense of understanding. I gained, I gained. And I was at this place where I was weighing in multiple times a week. And I, you know,

the funny thing is now I don't weigh myself and that's just my own personal decision in that the scale started to control my atmosphere, my energy, my mood. I would eat really, really great. Let's say that I was eating great for a week. All the things people told me to eat recommendations. Worked out all the things somebody told me to do to work out. Step on the scale. Scale said yes, thumbs up. Green light, you're moving in the right direction. You've lost. next week would roll around. I'm working out more doing two a date. I haven't had a carb in.

I haven't had, I don't know what sugar is anymore. I'm doing all the things people said. I step on the scale. Scale says red, revert, you're going in the wrong direction. But mind you, I thought, like I felt good. Like I was getting on the scale, thinking, this is, you know, today's the day. I'm hitting that dream number.

And I look at it and it completely shifted my energy. And so I decide, I said, you know what, rather than letting this little box with a line that zigzags and then you go to the doctor, the doctor tells you something totally different, rather than letting this thing control me, I am going to create control and be the gatekeeper of my own piece, the gatekeeper of my own energy. I'm going to go base off the way I feel. I don't feel good today. I know that if I work out, I'm going to feel better. I don't feel good today. I know that when I lift weights, I feel stronger. I don't feel good today.

I know when I sweat, I feel better. Let me jump on this bike. Let me jump on this treadmill. Let me go for a run outside. And so I transitioned my validation, if that's what you want to call it, into activities, into things that I can control. I can do all of the things that people say to do

and get on the scale and the scale still still say, bad or whatever. But if I say, hey, I like sweating and sweating makes me feel good, nobody can take that away from me. Yeah, yeah. That's so fair. I felt my mom has always kind of been like anti-scale because of all of these same things we're talking about. And so I don't really believe in a scale either. But I mean, obviously there's so many other things in life that are in front of me, oh, if I have this, if I do this, if I do this, that I have to, you know, mentally work on. But the scale for me, I love that you say that because I suffer really bad for her. hormonal depression when it's around that time for me i am like the lowest of lows can't get off

the couch or my bed and i'm just so depressed and it doesn't make any sense to me but i know it's that time for me if i do a workout it's like it's a like two days ago i think it was i couldn't get off the couch yesterday i did an hour workout and i was in the best mood of all time yeah and it was just and that's why i think people love peloton and stuff so much too because it's so inspirational and it's such a like you feel heard even though you're alone on your bike in your living room you somehow feel heard and there's such a sense of community there and it just makes you feel good after and it's it's i i just live for those moments on the bike and my girlfriend too we talk about it every morning like she she does all different kinds of rides all the time and she's like

are you in a mood today i'm like yeah she's like get on the bike get all right yeah it just makes you feel so much better and people should definitely take that advice of like don't be looking for the number or what you know you think you're supposed to be do what makes you feel good no matter what that is i i i always agree with you i always say that the bike is a confidence builder it's a piece of hardware that is a confidence builder you get on this confidence builder you attack it for 20 30 45 60 minutes you leave it and you feel better it's a confidence booster i will say this though to anybody who's watching and like their goal is to lose weight. I'm not saying, I'm not anti-lose weight at all.

What I'm saying is that by virtue, you do these things. The weight is going to fall off. It's going to, that will happen. But if you redirect your focus, because another thing too is like you get, like I would get on the scale, I'd be like, oh my God, I lost five pounds. Great. Let's celebrate.

Where's a cheesecake? I like that you call it a little box that numbers zigzag. Like, what is there? And that thing lies, girl. You go, then you go to somebody else's house. Somebody else at scale tells you different. If you weigh yourself in the morning versus the night versus wet or versus dry, it's a lie. That box is a lie.

It is. It's a box of lies and I hate it. It's a box of lies. Just like a man. Just kidding. Just kidding, but kind of seriously. And then I wanted to also hear, because you're the founder of Speak and Instagram live series, which elevates the voices of those dealing with adversity.

So I wanted to hear you speak about it. Because you also did a ride called Speak Up on Peloton. was that the one that I took and I wrote you first like do you remember the first I'm going to go back and look I took one of your rides where I was literally like my life changed and I wrote you and I like tagged you in it I think and it was a while back I wonder if it was that ride but I wanted to hear you talk about it because I just love what you're doing thank you yeah so I'll start with a speak up ride the speak up ride was actually it was birth just after the murder of of George Floyd. Our chief content officer came to me. Yeah. And she, you know, obviously the world was not even a standstill. The world was upside down. The world was upside down. And I can't believe it's almost a year. And, you know, she asked me. She said, do you want to do a ride? And I said, yes. And I didn't know what it was. She didn't know. We were thinking we was going to do it that night we were on a call and thankfully our head of customer service just happened to be on

that call and he said why don't we wait why don't we give this two or three days so that we can let the members know so that we can come together in solidarity as a community let's do it right not rush and so I think you know 48 hours later and I think that when you are living a life in purpose on purpose and of purpose you are living a life of service like you're serving in the way that you're supposed to serve the world. I think ultimately as humans, we're all here to support each other. Like in my belief, we're all here to be of service to each other. And when you are living in purpose, on purpose, of purpose with purpose, your service is something that comes so natural to you. It's your gift. It's your

thing. And 48 hours went by and I don't know that I slept and I don't know that I cared to. I don't know that I missed it. I was just writing. I was writing. Every thought in my head. I interviewed people that work for Pelotan. I would lay down. It'd be like three, four, five o'clock in the morning and I'd just be laying there with my eyes open. And rather than like trying to get myself to shut it off and to fall asleep, I was able in that moment to recognize that my thoughts were special.

And so rather than shutting them out and telling myself to shut up and go to sleep, I took a pen and I wrote everything down that I was thinking. And it birthed what became the speak-up ride. I think some 22,000 people took that live ride.

It was powerful. Upwards of like 200, thank you. 200,000 people have taken it to date. And to give you context, MGM Madison Square Garden holds 20,000 people. So J-Lo are there. It was a Madison Square Garden arena. Wow. People that were willing to listen, willing to listen.

And the ride was incredibly uncomfortable. It was intended to be uncomfortable. I said things that a week before, I would have never said. I would have never said. I would have never said publicly in that way. I don't think. I don't think that I would have had the courage to step into that. And, you know, halfway, I happen to look at the leaderboard in the beginning of the writing. And I don't know that I don't do that too often. Like sometimes I'll write after the class ends or towards the end, I'll look at it. Oh my God, there was 10,000 people in here. Wow. I just don't look at it. And I happen to look at the class, maybe the first or second song. And I realize there's 22,000 people. And then the rights. maybe halfway through. And I think to myself, if 7,000 people are still here, that would be awesome.

Because I'm thinking to myself, Tuna, you're going hard, girl, you're going hard, you're going hard, you're saying heavy things. This is too much for people. I looked down every single soul was still in that class. And in that moment,

it gave me information that what I was doing, it was in the moment feedback that what you're doing is right. Keep speaking your mind. Keep speaking your mind. Keep sharing. I have the messages and God, I wish that, you know, there was a way to go back and see everything that I got deleted because I just, there was impossible to move through all of it. But the messages that I were, that I was able to get through. I had people that had said I was on quote unquote, quote unquote, quote unquote, the other side. And I thought that the, the phrase Black Lives Matter, I found it

incredibly offensive. And I didn't understand it. And I stand with you. Black Lives Matter, I stand with you. I had people that said, Tomb Day, I had a lot of women, white women, that had said not just in DMs to me, but have the courage to post on their page. And I say courage

because you can receive a lot of heat for being honest. On their page, they wrote, I never taken a class with her before, with Toonday before. I'm embarrassed. to admit that I'd scroll past her face hundreds of times. I never gave her a chance because she looks different from me. And because she looks different from me, I didn't think that we would have anything in common. When I did the second speak-up ride, I complimented those women in that they were

because I think that's how you, that's how you implement change is that we have to acknowledge a problem. And so I complimented them for that, where I asked people who maybe found themselves in a similar boat where they didn't give me or someone who looked like me a chance on a Peloton digital app in a cycling running class, if you're not able to invest 20 minutes in me because we look different, then I ask you to acknowledge other areas in your life where you have not invested in somebody. be it in a hiring position, be it in a position of power, when were you not willing to invest in someone because they look different? If you won't invest 20 minutes in me in a cycling class, why would you commit to hiring somebody who might potentially work with your brand for five years? So, and again, I salute, I salute that courage. And then I also invite that open and honest self-reflection as well.

Yeah. Wow. I got a little emotional there. That's so beautiful. I took that class and I remember it changed, it changed me. Like your, your words, your passion, everything. I was like, it changed me. And it started such, way more conversations for me than I've ever had with friends, family, with people I would have never had these conversations with. And it's, it was, it, it was. was just it was really powerful and everyone you can still go back and do any of the rides right yeah they're they're all up on demand there's uh three now to date the last one was recently it was in honor of uh dr martin luther king and from that the point that you just made i had people that mentioned that they sat around and had conversations where in the house the the the wife and husband arguing and then the wife would say go take two days ride and then come back and then they had the conversation and it was a new conversation it was different and so my thought was like, I want to create a place where people can safely speak their truth and equally as safe

and as important. I want people to feel safe listening. And so I had in LA, I created something that I called speak. The acronym was different. It was more targeted towards women. I wanted women to have a safe space to, I feel like as women sometimes, we come together to either A, talk about our men or our partners or to talk about other women. I was like, why can we get together and talk about positive things, y'all. And so I created that. And then it evolved into speak, which now the acronym, I think that in order to speak, you must be willing to surrender, surrender to your truth. You must know your power, like your power, that tingle, that thing that you're on the planet to be doing. You have to lead with empathy. You have to come from a place love, not hate.

You have to be yourself. You got to be authentic. And you have to have the knowledge to back it, S-P-E-A-K. And so I, girl, I know what I was doing. I was like, let me. just create a little something on Instagram, Jess Sims, who's one of our Treadin instructors. I was like, hey, can you be my first guest? Can I interview you? And she said, yes. She's biracial. She spoke a lot to

what it is. And the, you know, she talked about how when you're biracial, it's like belonging to everybody and no one at all. And so she was my first guest. And then I reached out to Venus Williams, and she responded. Venus Williams responded

to me. And she was my second guest. Alison Felix has been on. Common has since been on. Cynthia Revo has since been on. Amarie and singer as, you know, the list goes on and on. I've had so many people who are like, yeah, girl, I'll come on. I'm like, what? Really? So it has been this thing where, you know, I want people, and it's interesting. I think people look at celebrities, specifically black celebrities, and they think, well, he made it, she made it, why can't you? This person's successful, you're making an excuse. And I wanted people, and it's not necessarily the always the truth, but I think that that is true. And so I wanted people to hear these

stories specifically. Cynthia Revo talked about being black and being an opera singer. And only having so many roles to play the lead in when you're telling these stories that don't, the stories that have been written that don't involve people of color when you are as talented as Cynthia Rebo, what role am I supposed to play? And so I just think that there's something interesting. Venus Williams talked about how her and Serena, they, you know, been practicing, practice and practicing. They finally get to Wimbledon for the first time. They're so excited to be there, worked their butts off to be there. And then they receive an instrument. amount of hate and racism when they were there.

And so for that first experience to elements of it to be so stripped and to be so robbed from them, I thought it was an interesting perspective and Tori to tell. And do you save these for people to be able to go back and watch as well? Yes, they are on my Instagram to T-U-N-D-D-A. So it's T-U-N-E-T-U-N-E. T-U-N-D-E. That's me, girl. Oh, my gosh.

Well, everyone should go follow you because you're just someone I look up to, and I love taking your classes. I love listening to you speak. I love your stories. You just have, you're a very powerful woman, and I love it. Thank you so much. So how do you? Oh, thank you.

This whole thing. I have one more quick thing for you. Usually I play lighthearted games at the end, but I still just have. important questions that I want to ask you. So we're calling this game going deep. But what is the thing in your life that you feel the most proud of? Being so me. Being so me, I think that it is easier to, it's easy to pick up the energy that's in the room, right?

So when you reach these different levels of success, When you're sitting at the table, you're finally allowed into the room. You look around the room at how everyone else is behaving and you mimic that and you become who you think people think you should be, regardless of what they told you to be this way or not, we pick it up. I am so mean, and I'm so proud of that because it's difficult. I say that because every single day, I have to make the choice again to be me. My career is public facing, right?

And so every single time I say something on the bike, I have to make the decision that day to be myself. When I say something on Instagram or on a podcast or article, show, whatever, I have to each time consciously say, you're going to show up as yourself today. And I'm really, really, really, really proud of myself for that. I am my mother's daughter. I am my father's daughter. And every single day, I remind myself of that.

And I say, your mother's daughter is good enough. Your father's daughter is good enough. So go out there and just be you. Gosh, could I hang out with you every day? Oh, my gosh. I love, that's a beautiful answer, beautiful. What is one thing that genuinely makes you happy in your days? Cheese.

I don't even really eat that much cheese, but it came into my mind because I want some cheese right now. I want some pizza. My dog. What's wrong? My dog makes me really, really happy. My candles. I love candles. Make me so happy.

I love music. Lately, I'm super into, like, joggers. I'm just really being honest with you right now. I'm into that. Yeah. Music candles. my dog and hot water. Oh, oh, sorry. And I don't have it

here too much in New York, although my apartment I can see water right now. I love the ocean. I love me. Oh, me too. I think I'm supposed to. Actually, a medium told me once that I am like, I am drawn to water. I'm supposed to live by water. It like does things for my soul. And I believe that. We might be best friends

because we are wearing this. Have you noticed our color story right now is the same? I did notice that right from the get-go. Yes. We like be best friends. I think that's really. really good that you said that because I felt that, but I didn't know if you did. So I didn't know if I could put it out there. But the fact that you said it, I feel better now. No, you had me at satin curtains. You had me at satin. Go from the get-go. I saw that neon light. I said, that's my

sister. I saw your nail colors and your lip color because every time you put the best freaking lip colors, every time you're on the bike, I'm like, okay. Like, how do you freaking look like that when you work out. Okay. Who is one person that really inspires you? My mother, rest in peace, my mom, for sure. Absolutely. My mom, my best friends too. I can't say, I can't name by name one that I got a name all and then somebody's going to be mad at me if I forget somebody. So my best friends with an S. plural. What is the most important thing to you on your bucket list? The most important thing on the list. Yeah, that you want that like you're going to do you know when this is over meaning like when the world is in motion people can go places

easily and understandably it's not there yet but when it is when i say that it is going to be difficult to pin me down and keep me in the state of new york like i take all my classes right now because when this it's over girl it's you look at the schedule it's going to be like you know what the new on the tv when it's like blee under tunday's name it's like bluie tunday ain't here tunday is somewhere on a beach with a margarita like oh yeah i want to travel so much like and you know the wild thing about life is like you look at the simple things

when this first started i said to myself what i would do for grass to be able to lay on grass and drink wine to be because it's like it's new york and it's It's, so just the simple things, to be able to go to the movies. So when this is different, to be able to say every single weekend, so I might teach early on Saturday and then I'm not back on the bike until Tuesdays, I will be gone every weekend. I will be somewhere every weekend.

And so everywhere that I've ever wanted to go, I'll go. You know what's the silly thing that's place wise? That's on my bucket list. This is silly. Like, number one in the United States, Chicago. I've never been. I really want to go to Chicago. I love Chicago.

I think I'm going to love Chicago. The best restaurants. I just love the vibe there. I love everything. Every time I go to Chicago, I love it more and more. Yeah. Well, we might be soul sister. Something's going on today.

You know what? The timing was right. We were supposed to podcast today and we realized our friendship. I love it. Okay, this is the last deep question. Okay. This is a deep one. What is the one thing you want people to remember you by?

That I lived a life in purpose, on purpose, with purpose, and of purpose, in purpose, on purpose, of purpose, with purpose. That my mission was to serve, that my calling was something so much greater than myself, so much so that I have only begun to step into it, so great that I don't even feel. fully recognize or see it myself, although each day I peel back a layer and I unveil and I'm beginning to understand. I'm beginning to see. Think one of my ex-boyfriend actually said to me, he said, Tunday, I wish that you could see yourself through my eyes just once. Just one. I wish you could see yourself the way that other people see you. Yeah. And I think that I get flashes of it. when I'm, I move a lot.

I'm one of those people, I'm doing 12 things at a time. When I finally slow down, and that's why I love candles and music and hot water, that's my still place where I finally stop. And when I finally stop, I'm able to let in, let things in. And I understand and I recognize everything that's happening, everything that's going on around me. And the more that I do that, the more that I think I'm able to access and step into a line it because I think in order to like move into your next level of great anyone to be able to move into your next level of great you have to first understand and establish the level

of rate that you've already achieved and I think in order for me to access and enter that new space I have to first acknowledge the one that I'm already in and I think I'm starting to get there wow I think this is my favorite interview I've ever done there's like I'm a talker and I've just sat here and listened and loved every second of it and learned so much and I feel like I'm going to walk away like I'm going to really take something away from this podcast so thank you thank you I enjoyed you too sis every second of it and I can't I cannot let you go without getting a confession from you because I make all of my guests confess and I'm like there's got to be something that's happened to you on the bike or and I mean maybe not maybe it's something else but I need a confession from you because I feel like it'd be a good one. Okay, I'm going to give you one that I wasn't, I didn't even think about, but I'm going to give it to. You know, I know a lot of them are about like restroom things. I'm not going to, I have no restroom things for you. Although Matt Wilpers almost did open the, he did open the restroom on me once, but he didn't see anything.

We both screamed. We both screamed. That's funny. I will say this, though. This is my fear. And I'm going to only say this because the world knows this. Matt Welper, Matt Wilper is one of our cycling and tread instructors. He one day, like, he was teaching the class and, like, he was only like 10 or 11 minutes

in the class. And he looked and he goes, folks, go ahead and finish this run on your own. My stomach's talking to me. And, like, walked out and ran to the rest of the room. I was like, you didn't want to just say, like, hey, I got a crap. My leg hurts. Yeah, yeah. So I would never do that.

And that is my fear. That is always my fear. Well, I do, I do a nervous peeve before, like, every time. they're like Tuesday, you got like 60 seconds before we have to walk out. And if I had just gone to the bathroom before, it doesn't matter. I have to do a nervous peeve. My confession, and I did not even think about this until you were talking about, like, wanting to, your vision, you saw yourself on TV.

I auditioned for The Bachelor when I was like 20, probably like 24 or something. And I thought that I was so old and so single. child, I'm 35 and I'm still so single. A little did I know that 10 years later, I was going to stay place. But yeah, I auditioned for the backer, I guess it would have been if I was trying to be one of the girls. And when I tell you that I seriously was like,

I am looking for someone and I believe this show is going to bring me love. Like I was I was not trying to be on TV. No, I was auditioning for that show because I was trying to find my husband. And I, and a girl, nobody can tell me that I wasn't going to find my husband on that show. that's so although the producers did tell me that because I did not get picked and thankfully so it worked out no wait wait that's crazy that's a great confession because i did not see that one coming no way do you remember whose season it would have been i have oh wait uh wait 10 years ago i'm the same age as you um 10 years ago i'm trying to no i know uh what's her name first black

bachel what's her name rachel who is the guy um She was on, oh, God, whose season was she on? Nick, is that his name? Nick. Nick, Nick would have been it. Stop it. And he's so cute. Oh, that's so funny.

He was my runner up on my season of The Bachelorette. Like, he proposed. He was? That's right. Was. Small world. Oh, my gosh. I'm glad he didn't get.

We're connected. We're connected. We really are. And we're connected forever now because you're my friend. friend for life. And I just really appreciate you taking the time to come on the pod and talk to me. And like, I can't wait to hear people's feedback from this podcast because I know people are going to absolutely love it. And if you don't have a podcast, you need to get one. I would listen to that every day. Thank you. I feel like you're supposed to have a podcast because your voice just

it matters and it changes people's lives. I said it. I said it. Thank you. Thank you. I'll up. I'll see you on the bike, but also on Instagram. And I'm probably going to slip you my phone number and your DM. Yes, please DM me. It was so great to meet you. Anytime you're in New York, please meet me. I want to be friends with you in real life. We'll go and do things and the whole thing. It'll be so nice. New York. And I will 1,000% let you know next time I'm there. Awesome. And I need to know what this is. I don't know if it's your moisturized or your highlight. What is this down the nose? Oh, yeah. It's, you know what I use is Anastasia. She's got like, like a palette that has four different glowing colors and I just go, who. Oh, I know the one. It's

beautiful on you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Okay, have a good rest of your day. And I'll see you when I see you. All right. Do you not feel just like the most inspired after that conversation? I literally was speechless during so much of it because I felt like I had to just take it all in. I just kept saying, wow. Yeah, wow. You guys need to go follow Tune Day on the ground. so you can get that daily inspo from her. And if you have a Peloton, obviously, be taking her class. So I teased a bit about this segment in the beginning of the episode. I'm so excited for the Pump Your Tire segment.

I know how hard it can be to start a small business. And I really want to use my platform to highlight some incredible small businesses and organizations that maybe most of us haven't heard of before, but maybe they deserve some serious tire pumping. So every month, I'm going to pick a theme and want you guys to nominate a business or business owners that you think the world needs to. to know about. You can do this by leaving a brief description about them in reviews section on the Apple podcast. I'm going to pick one winner from the nominees to have on my podcast. So go nominate

your friends, yourself, or just businesses you're a fan of. Since it's Black History Month, now and Women's History Month is coming up next month. I thought it would be perfect to kind of make the first thing black women own businesses. Go to Apple reviews, nominate the Black women own businesses that you love. I know not everyone listens on Apple, but the reason I'm doing this on Apple reviews, by the way, rather than DM or email, is so that you guys can go see all the businesses and people who are nominated there. I think that's kind of a cool idea. And I want these nominations to be public. So I encourage you to go check them out on the reviews. So if you don't have Apple, get your friend or mom or sister or someone who has an iPhone to write it in there for you.

So go do it. What are you waiting for? I'll be choosing the first feature in the next couple of weeks. So get on it. Okay, that's enough for me. See you on Thursday to talk batch. I'm Caitlin Bristow. I'll see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening to Off the Vine with Caitlin Briscoe. Get new episodes every Tuesday exclusively on Podcast1.com, the Podcast One app, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts. Who's not with OTV?