Office Ladies - Best Friends Day with The Moth
Episode Date: June 10, 2026This week on Office Ladies 6.0, Jenna and Angela celebrate Best Friends Day with a very special episode all about friendship. Inspired by a heartfelt listener letter, the ladies reflect on the highs a...nd lows of making friends, share some of the best friendship advice they’ve ever received, and talk about the people who have shaped their lives along the way. Then, in collaboration with The Moth, they present three unforgettable true stories about the power of friendship, connection, and community. So call that friend you've been meaning to text, celebrate the people who show up for you, and enjoy! Find The Moth wherever you get your podcasts. Office Ladies Website - Submit a fan question for Around the Town, Chit Chat, and Second Drink favorite moment: https://officeladies.com/submitaquestion Follow Us on Instagram: OfficeLadiesPod Follow Us on YouTube Follow Us on TikTok To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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I'm Jenna Fisher and I'm Angela Kinsey.
We were on The Office together and we're best friends.
And now we're doing the ultimate Office Lovers podcast just for you.
Each week we will dive deeper into the world of the office with exclusive interviews
behind the scenes details and lots of BFF stories.
We're the Office Lady 6.0.
Hi there, Angela.
Hey, good morning.
Good morning.
We have a really fun friendship episode for you today in honor of Best Friends Day coming up.
We teamed up with the folks at the podcast The Moth to help us share some stories about the power of friendship.
You know, last year for Best Friends Day, we shared our own stories of friendship as well as some of yours.
It was such a lovely episode.
So I'm excited to dive into the theme of friendship again this year.
So big thanks to The Moth.
Yeah.
But first, let's start with our chit-chat suggestion from Sienna in Australia.
Sienna says, hi, Angela and Jenna.
My name is Sienna, and I'm an 18-year-old.
old osteopathie student from Australia. I've had a rough couple of years as I was severely bullied
by my so-called friends, found out my mother has a luckily benign, vasavagal tumor, as well as being
diagnosed with ADHD all within my final year of schooling. I was aiming for a career in medicine
and fell short, which was honestly devastating for me, as it felt like I had failed my one and
only lifelong dream. However, then I found your podcast.
And having struggled with friendships recently, and always being told I was born 40,
it was so comforting to find my two new best friends that I could listen to anywhere.
The show is honestly just so comforting to me and has helped me to feel supported,
less alone, and like I can continue to strive for dreams even after setbacks.
Your friendship has helped me know what I would like in a friendship and has helped me to build
the confidence to make lots of new friends at university with you behind me.
So I just wanted to say thank you for the comfort that this podcast brings me.
It always helps me to calm down and feels like I'm having a chat with old friends.
Love you guys.
P.S. I've also started a crochet business at at Sienna Rose Crochetes and love to make wacky little decorations that are perfect for a podcasting closet or that's what she shed.
Oh, Sienna, thank you for your really touching and vulnerable letter.
And she included a photo of her with her friends.
that is just amazing.
Just such a lovely group.
You know, Sienna, you are a bright spot in the world.
I loved your letter.
I also went and checked out your crochet business.
You are so talented.
And I just want to thank you for writing in.
I want to thank you for sharing your journey with friendships.
I'm just sending you a big hug.
I also want to say to Sienna and anyone else out there that might be experiencing a rough patch in friendship.
is that I've had ebbs and flows of friendship bonds in my life too.
I had a really tough middle school experience.
It was that kind of subtle, mean girl energy, but coming from people who were my friends.
And it was just such a heavy load.
And I actually ended up leaving that school.
And I found a wonderful friend group at my new high school.
But then in college, I had a hard time making really good friends again.
Like I had the theater folks, but I didn't have like that really great bond.
So like middle school was rough, high school was great, college was me.
And I know I've shared this before, but it really wasn't until Angela and I met in my 30s that I experienced that kind of best friendship bond that I had felt with my high school friends.
So I had droughts too.
I related to that.
There's definitely hills and valleys in the course of your life when it comes to friendship.
You know, my mom gave me advice years ago. I was in my late 20s and struggling with some friendships.
You know, it's hard when you move away or if your life takes you in new directions. I was feeling a little lost.
And my mom said, and you have so many amazing people in your life. I encourage you to invest in those that invest in you.
That has stuck with me. I remember it like the day she said it and something just clicked for me.
and I looked around at the people in my life, at my friends at that time, and there were always
people that I was chasing after to be my friend. And then there were these core people who were
there for me no matter what. And they offered me this unconditional love and friendship and support. And so
I made the decision right then and there, I'm going to choose to invest in this group of people
who builds me right back up. And that really was a turning point.
for me and how I look at friendships. That's great advice. Yeah. Well, this is a little bit of a tangent,
but I just read the book, The Correspondent. Oh, you said you loved it. I loved it. It lived up to all
the hype. People have been talking about this book. This is like a late to the party moment.
Like in the book world, everyone's like, yeah, we read the correspondent already. Yeah.
But I just read it. It's great. It's told all through letters. So it's just a series of letters.
and the main protagonist is this woman.
She's in her 70s, and you're seeing her right to all kinds of people, and then you see their
responses.
But I was particularly taken with the letters between her and her best friend.
It was such a wonderful friendship.
Angela, it reminded me of our friendship because there was just this unconditional love between
these two women who had known each other for a very, very long time.
and I just loved it.
And I think if anyone out there is looking for like a really good example of a great female
friendship, you can find it in this book.
Well, I've got to read it.
It's so good.
So good.
Well, listen, why don't we take a break?
And when we come back, we will hear three wonderful stories from the folks at the moth.
Yeah, the moth is hosted by Chloe Salmon.
And it features true stories told live.
It's real people.
anyone from like an astronaut to an actor, a teacher, a truck driver, scientists, singers,
people who are getting up on stage and then they tell a story about their own lives in their
own words.
I love nights like this.
I did some of this back in my theater improv days.
I did it too.
Open mic nights where they'd have a monologist.
Yes.
They're so great.
Well, the stories featured on The Moth are really funny, sometimes enlightening, heartbreaking,
sometimes all three at the same time.
And we think that if you like the sense of connection and fun that is office ladies
or that feeling where you're getting a new perspective on someone's life,
that the moth has a lot of those same vibes.
Absolutely.
And the episode we're sharing today, BFFs, is about something we explore quite a bit on
office ladies and that is friendship.
And then later, we will be back with some final thoughts on friendship.
Welcome to the moth.
I'm Chloe Salmon.
There are so many stories about romantic love, which is fair, I guess.
But I take your romantic love and raise you a different relationship,
one that can be just as fulfilling and, honestly, sometimes even more so.
Friendship.
I'm grateful for my friends every day,
because each and every one of them is a perfect, beautiful angel who supports me fiercely,
but is also willing to give me an honest opinion about the new haircut I want to try out.
Without them, I would be a lonely girl with a girl.
the bowl cut I thought would look French, probably.
In this episode, three stories all about friendship,
from how they can be there for you during challenging times,
to a friend's unconditional love to the gummy bears.
Don't worry, we'll get there.
First up is Lauren Karch,
who told this story at a main stage in Dayton, Ohio,
where the theme was more than meets the eye.
Here's Lauren. Light at the Mock.
So a couple years ago,
I started to notice that people were sounding quieter to me,
which did not track with world events,
but only when I was on the phone
and only when I had the phone to the right side of my head.
And it wasn't like just that.
I also noticed like I would get dizzy sometimes
and sometimes I kind of felt like my head was underwater.
So I held off, but eventually I made an appointment
with like an ear, nose and throat specialist
and got my hearing tested.
And I found out exactly what I did not want to know,
which was that at like 32, I was losing my hearing.
But only on one side.
And my doctor started going through a list of other tests I could try and possible diagnoses.
And I interrupted him and said, did I tell you my dad has Meneers disease?
And he looked at me, you know, like how you do when you're looking at the answer to a trivia question.
My dad lost his hearing completely within like 10 years of being diagnosed.
So I knew that if I had the same deal, like the same thing could happen to me.
You know, I'd probably lose the rest of my hearing on my right side and maybe both ears.
like within a few years or sooner or later or not at all.
And usually I'm not like the kind of person who's like,
oh, I got to know what's going to happen.
Because I'm not picking the restaurant, okay?
I'm not like a type A person.
I do not have what the teens call main character energy.
But in this moment, like I wish that I did
because there's not really a treatment for Mnirre's.
So like you can take symptom stuff so I could do like short-term steroids
to word off the vertigo.
And my doctor told me to avoid caffeine and salt, which are like my two favorite food groups.
So that weekend I visited my parents.
And it's never like nice to start a conversation with,
what if I end up like you? But that's basically what I did to my dad.
And you told me, you know, a few things. He was like, there's all this assistive technology
and like supportive community for people with hearing loss.
And frankly, it's not a huge tragedy, not hear everybody all the time in this economy.
My dad's a very, like, Zen, very, like, believes in a higher path kind of person.
So that kind of brought me out of my, like, basement of depression.
But a few months later, I was back at the same doctor's office
because I kept getting these episodes of, like, room spinning vertigo,
and my hearing was worse.
So they retested me, and I was up to 80 decibels of loss in my right ear,
which they have the little, like, dumb layman's term chart in the soundproof booth.
So that means that on my right side, I can hear things that are louder than, quote,
a lawnmower at close range, which is awesome.
And so I went home, and I got on Reddit like you do
when you're looking up rare diseases.
And I found this interview with an artist
who also had Maneer's disease,
and the interviewer had asked him,
I thought it was such a good question.
What sound do you miss the most?
And he was like a poet or something.
So he said, I most miss the soft sound of a cat laughing water
because it sounds so satisfying for the cat.
So I found myself then sitting on my living room floor,
sort of like sloshing a water bowl towards my increasingly disgruntled cat.
And Teradactyl, that's my cat's name.
She was not satisfied.
She just looked at me like, I don't get paid enough for this.
But the question had given me kind of an idea of something I could do
to feel a little bit more in control.
I thought, I should make a list of everything I want to hear
before I go deaf, in case I go deaf, like,
a playlist bucket list, right?
Like, yeah, I probably can't afford to go to the Amazon rainforest
right now, but I could leave the window open when it rains.
And like, I didn't want the last thing I heard
to be like a spam call or like myself repeating gossip, you know?
And so when I saw a few days later that my favorite band
was going to be in Cincinnati, I bought tickets right away.
I did not think about who I was going to take with me.
But then I happened to go to Warehouse 4,
my favorite coffee shop later.
And yeah.
And my friend Stacy was working.
And Stacy is like the kind of person who was up for anything.
Plus it was really swamped in there.
So it was the perfect time to entrap her with an invitation.
And she agreed to go.
And like, yeah, were we a little old to be at Bogarts
under like the no-moshing sign?
Yeah.
So were the mountain goats, my favorite band from 2005.
Yeah.
And Stacy used to be a youth choir director.
So in exchange for me taking her to see a sad dad band,
she asked me if I would want to go with her to see a children's production of cats,
which, yeah, like, I don't have time to wait for professionals to put on cats for me.
And I realized, like, I could knock off a ton of kinds of music
if I started going to, like, the free concerts put on by, like, the library and YSO.
So, like, jazz in the park.
jazz at the Culture Center. Jazz at the library. There's a lot of jazz. I got really into it.
I accompanied my boyfriend, who was on his own journey, of trying to see every Boston sports team
play in the Midwest. And I don't really like sports, but I did want to hear his accent being
used for its intended purpose, which is cursing the Red Sox.
And I started listening to my mom's favorite true crime podcast because I wanted to see if I, like
her, could learn to discern who was guilty based on the guilt in the murderer's voice.
And kind of, yeah.
But the biggest victim in all this was my best friend, Katie.
I had told her about my hearing problems,
but I didn't tell her about the playlist,
because it's insane.
But the problem is she's like the perfect person,
perfect man for the job, because she is a theater person.
We actually know each other from the theater
because we came close, like, we became close
in our rural high schools production
of the soul musical The Whiz.
And which is, because it was from the before times.
And so we'd always kind of dreamed of like aging into being those like costume jewelry ladies who like have season tickets to the ballet.
So I texted her and I said, remember how we were going to become theater ladies?
Like, what if we just do that now?
And she just said, I thought you'd never ask.
So we went, we went to the opera.
We went to all the Dayton Playhouse shows.
And like the Broadway series when it came to town, the poetry slam.
We went and saw that band that dresses like vampires.
You guys, they just got a hearse.
And it was great.
Her younger co-workers wanted to go see Post Malone,
and I was so into it that I not only got a ticket to Post Malone,
I bought us like wide-leg jeans so we wouldn't stand out among like the youths.
And it was a great time.
But I wanted to see this one really artsy play that was out of town.
So we decided to go to that.
And what I learned is there's a level of artsiness that I do not get.
But that's okay. Like, I still heard it.
And we had a great hotel that I'd booked for a great price
because I did not notice that it was a micro-tel with bunk beds.
So I'm laying in the top bunk.
And I've realized, like, I've brought Katie on so many goofy situations now.
I have to tell her what I'm thinking.
So I, like, leaned over, like, I'm at camp.
And I said, you're being a really good friend.
And I spilled, like, everything.
I told her about how I was worried that I would go deaf
and maybe I wouldn't be able to communicate with people that I care about,
and what about my job?
And, you know, would I still be able to enjoy the things I enjoy now?
And at that time, Taylor Swift had only put out the first Taylor's version album,
and do I look like I want to miss that?
And she said, okay, okay, I think you're a lot more resilient than you're giving yourself credit for.
Also, I'd like to see you try to get rid of me, or any of your friends.
And then she got, like, deadly serious and said,
Should we try to learn ASL?
Because then we could talk about people in the same room.
And I am trying to learn ASL.
I have made it through Soto Pop.
So, but a couple weeks later, Katie texted me
because her mom had tickets to the Dayton Philharmonic.
And like, would I want to go with them?
Of course, because the orchestra is classic theater lady,
because it's fancy.
So we got dressed up.
You guys, we went to the Spaghetti Warehouse.
And yeah.
And we came down, and it was a, and it was
at the Schuster's a beautiful theater, like the whole orchestra. It was so great. But there
was this one player in the orchestra, that's a cello player, that I noticed. Because, like,
if I had to describe him, unfortunately, hunky, like, just very tall, very good looking. And he was,
he had those protagonist vibes that I've always wanted. Like, he wasn't just playing, he was
performing. And I pointed him out to Katie, and she said, oh, he's on the cover of the program,
and he was. It wasn't the whole orchestra. It was just like him and his cello and a fog
Like he's the front man for the Dayton Phil Harmonic.
So we're like kind of laughing about this.
And, you know, but the music's like really enthralling.
It's really cool.
It's a nice experience and I'm having fun with my two friends.
And then it's over.
We walk back to the arts garage where we were all parked
and get in our car.
Katie's driving.
We like get to the garage exit and we're just hooting and hollering
about how funny we are and should we wait by the stage door
and all this.
And like the garage,
the garage, like the arm thing lifts, and she kind of guns it to pull out of the parking garage
and then slams on her brakes. Because there, in the middle of North Ludlow, and we're barreling
right at him. It's the hot cellist, and he's got his cello on his back, he's got his headphones
in his ears. He's on his own audio journey, clearly. And Katie's mom points straight through
the windshield and screams, don't hit him. And at that moment, I realized, like, this is something
of a universal experience, really. Whether I go deaf or not, everyone's going to be.
hear their last thing. And so now I get my hearing tested annually. And the last few times,
like yeah, I am pretty deaf in my right ear. But I always ask the tech, like, oh, is there
any change? And she usually tells me no before the doctor, like, even comes in, at least the last
two times, which is such a relief. So I might still get to hear reputation Taylor's version
with my own natural ears. But I learned about, like, a new way to connect.
with people, and I supported the shit out of the arts.
And I learned that Dayton is like full of these big, bold main characters, and there's still
time to be one.
So thank you guys.
That was Lauren Karch.
Lauren is a writer and local government employee, and she says yes, it is just like Parks
and Rec, in the happiest place on earth, the greater Dayton area.
She tells stories in Dayton and encourages you to check out your local art scene.
Also, if you were wondering, the hot cello player.
who Lauren talked about in her story,
heard through the grapevine that he was mentioned on stage.
We hope you're listening, Hot Chello Player.
The summer before my last semester of college,
I had an internship in New York City.
I knew it was going to feel very different
from my Kansas college town,
and I was scared.
Enter Sean.
A friend of a friend who had just graduated
and was moving to NYC to start a new job.
We made plans for a polite, lonely desperation meetup,
which turned into us hitting it
off in a real way and spending almost every free minute together that summer. We got our bearings,
stayed out late bar hopping and eating cheap food, and screeched in panic as his toilet overflowed
and flooded his tiny studio while I shouted, how do you turn off water at my dad over the phone?
A real bonding kind of summer. Almost 15 years later, I am no better at troubleshooting plumbing issues,
and he is still one of my closest friends. Our next story is from Valerie Walker,
who told it at a story slam where the theme was chemistry.
Here's Valerie, live at the moth.
So on Sunday, I had a reunion with a woman that I went to college with.
I hadn't seen her for 34 years.
I know I look good.
And the thing, you're probably wondering after 34 years, like, what do you care?
I had actually been caring her in my heart for the intervening time.
And we were an odd pair, for sure.
We met in college a very impressionable time.
She was from a small town in Arkansas.
I still had the grit from New York City in my pockets.
She was artful with her makeup and painted on a natural-looking face
and smelled like beautiful perfume.
And I smelled like a mix of soap and whatever moisturizer.
I was using.
And so looking at us, you would think, like, what do they have in common?
And I wondered that myself, but there was such, she was so kind.
There was such a space that we created that was just joyful and very, very loving and super
duper fun.
And then I came out as a lesbian.
And one of the ways that I processed my internalized homophobia was that,
I was suddenly scared that my really rich friendships with women were going to be called into question,
that she would no longer be as affectionate or wonder what was my motive for being affectionate back.
And we had such a great relationship.
Like, I don't know that song, I love you, a bushel on a peck, a bushel on the pack, I don't know all the words.
But one day, she wrote that entire lyric on my door, like as a note.
Yeah, it was just adorable and very...
very, very dope. And we had this ritual where, like, when we would go to dinner, I would go to her room.
She would change out of her fabulously stylish outfit, but she was shy. So she'd go into her walk-in closet,
and then we would continue to talk while she'd change. And when she was in the closet, her voice would be muffled like this.
And then when she came out, it would be really clear. And so one day I'm in her room and waiting for her to change,
And I am playing with the stuff on her dresser,
so I'm not really paying attention.
Her voice went from muffle, muffle, muffle, back to clear.
And so I look up, except she had changed the routine
and had come out of the closet not completely dressed in her sweatshepants and bra.
And she was very easy on the eyes.
Okay.
So.
Now in that moment, I'm saying to myself, don't stare.
You're staring.
Oh, my God, look at her eyes.
They're higher.
And so I'm, you know, having a little bit of gay freak out.
And so, but we regulated, went to dinner and everything got normal once everybody had their clothes back on.
So, you know, super cool.
And I, she was just really.
just a great person, our friendship was so enjoyable,
and yet that's the casualty of being a lesbian, right?
It's the chemistry.
Women are so cool and dope.
It's really easy to fall for you guys.
It's just the hard part is finding out
the appropriate person to fall in love with.
And I'm not going to lie,
I slept with a few varying genders in college,
meaning straight women, but she was not one of them.
And then after college, we lost touch.
And recently, she started following me on Instagram,
and then more recently,
DM me that she was coming into New York
and wanted to meet up.
And I went to the place at the appointed time,
and I was super curious about how it would feel to see her again.
I knew that she meant so much to me,
but I also understand that what means something to you
doesn't mean the same to somebody else.
And then suddenly she was in front of me,
and then she was in my arms,
and I was in hers, and it was a great hug,
a long hug, a strong hug,
one of those hugs where you just rock side to side.
And then we stopped, and we sat down, and we caught up,
and we cried, and we laughed,
and we held hands when shit was super,
hard to say. And it was really beautiful. I could recognize it for what it was, a blinding, furious,
and beautiful love that it was absolutely okay to have, and that was not in any way base.
And we're sitting there, and I'm telling her how much her friendship is meant to me, and then
she flipped it and told me how much my friendship had meant to her, and that she's not nostalgic,
and she doesn't even have any pictures from college, but she has two that she's printed out.
and one of them is of me.
Yeah, I know, right?
And so it was just so affirming in that moment
to know that she was mine and I was hers.
And if anyone ever asks me about the great loves of my life,
she will be one that I talk about.
Thank you.
That was Valerie Walker.
She is an activist, artist, and storyteller
whose stories challenge perceptions and build community through shared feelings.
Survival as triumph and vulnerability as straits are key themes in her work.
Our final story is from Matthew Dix, who told this at one of our open micke story slams in Boston.
Here's Matthew, live at the moth.
I'm sitting in the break room of a McDonald's restaurant in Milford, Massachusetts.
I'm eating an egg macmuffin and I am not happy.
It is the spring of 1987.
I'm 16 years old and it's not the egg macmuffin that's causing me to be unhappy
because an egg McMuffin is the most guaranteed source of joy in my entire day.
But not on this day.
I'm upset because I'm about to meet my mortal enemy for the first time,
and I know it's not going to go well.
I've been working at this restaurant for two months now.
I actually live three towns away in Blackstone, Massachusetts,
but I found out that this place pays $4.65 an hour,
and that's 20 cents more than the White Hen pantry,
five minutes from my house.
And I figured, even though it's a 30-minute drive,
of the 20 cents will absolutely make up for the time and the gas, which it does not. But it changes
my life in a really significant way because when I arrive here, I discover the joy of a clean slate.
I'm growing up in a tiny town, 82 kids are in my class, so the same 82 kids I knew in kindergarten,
and they remember everything. And so when you want to be something different or you decide you
could be something better, no one lets you because they remember everything. They still talk
about the time in sixth grade when I exposed myself to class because my gym shorts were a little
too short and my underwear was a little too big and it was a little too much man spreading. They talk
about it to this day. And they remember the braces and the buck teeth and the bad haircuts and the
free and reduced lunches and all of that has prevented me from becoming something that I think I could be
and being trapped in what they think I should be. But I've arrived in this new town. Nobody knows me. And on the
first day of work, Aaron Duran comes and asks me if I have a girlfriend and the way she's hoping I say no.
And that's never happened to me before. So this is something. And it turns out that because they don't
know me, I can be the thing I think I can be. And suddenly I have more friends than I've ever had in my life.
And I'm good at my job, shockingly good. In 1980s, the job at the McDonald's that is the hardest is
running the bin. I have been a public school teacher for 24 years. And I can tell you that I have not had a day in my
classroom as taxing as a day running the bin at McDonald's during rush hour in 1987.
It is coordinating a kitchen full of 16-year-olds and 60-year-olds and convincing them all to do work
for you at the same time and watching a drive-through screen and listening to cash registers and
figuring out how much food needs to be here at any moment without causing waste and making sure
profit.
It's really hard.
And for some reason, I can hold all this information right here and I'm good at it and people
respect me for it. But as soon as I got good at it, all I heard was one word, Benji. You're great,
but Benji's better. Benji's the best bin person in this restaurant. Actually, he's the best person
in this restaurant. He is fantastic and everyone loves him and everyone respects him. And I hate Benji.
All they do is tell me how great he is and with every single word they say, I hate him more.
And then I discover they're telling him about me. And they're saying how this guy came in and he might be
better than you. They're spreading gossip about me to him. And so we have never met each other,
but we hate each other. And so this day, we're coming together for the first time. Our shifts
are crossing, and I'm going to meet him. And so I go out into the dining room at the end of my
break just to see him, because he's already working. And I see him, there's nothing to this guy.
Like, he's not that good looking. He's not an athlete. He's got the body of a bass player
and a failing high school rock band. He has nothing. But I watch in a couple minutes,
Later, I realize I'm wrong because he's funny, effortlessly funny.
And he's endearing to everyone.
He makes the older customers who are waiting for Big Macs actually happy to be waiting for
their Big Mac and the managers love him.
And he's good at the bin.
Like he is really good at calling Bin.
I hate him so much.
And because he's doing my job, I have to run for drive-thru today, which is the second
hardest job in the restaurant.
80% of the orders go through the window.
so 80% of the food will pass through my hands,
but that means I need to work with the bin guy the whole time
to coordinate and negotiate and make sure everything runs,
which means I have to work with Benji.
And so for the first hour, we don't talk to each other
unless it's about work.
And we clearly hate each other.
We're not hiding it in any way whatsoever,
but unless it has to do with work, I don't say a word.
And then after an hour, it gets, like, awkward,
and I start to think maybe he thinks I'm afraid to say something to him.
So I'm like, no, I'm going to do something here.
And so I go up to him and I say, why are you coming in at 10.30 on a Saturday? What's 10.30? And he says, I watch Saturday morning cartoons. Which in 1986 is a thing. All the new cartoons, the Smurfs and the Snorks and Super Friends are all out in the morning. And we eat sugar disguised as cereal and we watch these things. And he says, the gummy bears start at 930 and they end at 10 and then I come to work. And he says it without irony or embarrassment. I can't believe it.
And so I walk over to the drive-thru, I drop a bag off, and when I come back to the bin, I say, listen to me.
Dashing and daring, courageous and caring, faithful and friendly with stories to share.
And I take some food, and I walk back to the drive-thru.
And as I come back over, he is singing before I get to the bin.
He says, all through the forest, they sing out in chorus, marching along as their songs fill the air.
and standing next to the bin with Benji, we sing together,
Gummy bears, bouncing here and there and everywhere.
High adventure that's beyond compare.
They are the gummy bears.
There's a second verse, a bridge, and another chorus.
I will not share them with you, but we sing them that day.
Because I watch the gummy bears too.
And to this day, I can sing that song.
And that's it.
A single theme song to a cartoon melts all the ice between us.
And 37 years later, he is still my best friend.
It is the most significant relationship in my life, with the exception of my marriage.
When I get thrown out of my house when I'm 17, Benji takes me in and lets me live in his college apartment.
And when I'm 21 and I need a credit card and can't get one, he gives me his extra card and says,
just use it and pay me when you can.
He saves my life again and again and again.
And this day, we live in Connecticut,
two miles from each other.
And when I think back on that day that I stood at that bin
and sang a cartoon song to him,
I'm reminded how little it takes
to sort of reach out to someone
and just open the crack of a window.
And you just get the window open and then it becomes a door and it becomes a lifetime.
Thank you.
That was Matthew Dix.
He's an elementary school teacher and novelist whose books include memoirs of an imaginary friend, something missing, and unexpectedly Milo.
He's the founder and creative director of Speak Up, a Hartford-based storytelling organization.
Matt loves ice cream cake, tickling his children, staring at his wife and not sleeping.
That brings us to the end of our episode.
Thank you to our storytellers for sharing with us and to you for listening.
We hope that this week and every week, your friends are there for you.
Chloe Salmon is a director at the Moth.
Her favorite Moth moments come on show days when the cardio is done, the house lights go down, and the magic settles in.
Lauren Karch's story was directed by Sarah Austin Janice.
This episode of The Moth podcast was produced by Sarah Austin Janice, Sarah Jane, Sarah Jane,
and me, Mark Solinger.
The rest of the Maw's leadership team includes Gina Duncan, Christina Norman, Marina Clucay,
Jennifer Hickson, Jordan Cardonale, Caledonia Cairns, Kate Tellers, Suzanne Rust, and Patricia Orenia.
The Moth podcast is presented by Odyssey.
Special thanks to their executive producer, Leah Reese Dennis.
All Moth stories are true, as remembered by their storytellers.
For more about our podcast, information on pitching your own story, and everything else,
Go to our website, the moth.org.
I loved all the stories.
I know.
I thought they were also thought-provoking.
I mean, they're really great storytellers.
Yeah, I love, as you know, getting to know people.
And I felt like this podcast was just like a window into people's lives.
I absolutely love it.
Well, when I was listening to that first story about the young woman who's losing her hearing,
remember when I was talking about that book, The Correspondent?
Yeah.
In that book,
the main woman is slowly going blind.
Oh.
And she talks all about the things that she wants to see before she can't see anymore.
So it was really interesting to me to then hear this story about someone who wants to hear
all the things that you want to hear before you lose your hearing.
Anyway, it resonated with me because I think, and, you know, as we're getting older and after
all my health stuff in recent years, I'm very aware of the things that I want to do in my life.
and like that gal in the story,
I know, lady, you will be right by my side
making sure I check everything off my list.
I absolutely will.
I know it.
And I know there's going to be times
where there are things that you're going to want to do
that aren't with me
because that's the nature of life.
There's going to be some things on your list
that are with Lee,
or with your kids,
or with your mom, your sister,
or your friends from home
or just a solo adventure, right?
But you will make sure I get all those things done.
sure it and then I want to hear all about it. I know. I want every detail. Well, I loved this episode
of The Moth. I loved the stories as well. But wow, Matthew and Benji really got me bonding over
that gummy bear theme song. Come on. And then there was something Matthew said that I just thought
was beautiful when he said he was reminded of how little it takes to reach out to someone.
That just really hit me because you never know where people are at in life. And those
small moments of kindness have a huge impact. And look, now Matthew and Benji have been friends for 37
years. Yeah. Lady, it made me think of that day you sneezed and I reached over with a box of
tissues at the inside of the office. I know. It's true. Your allergies plus my proximity to you
and to Kleenex. Here we are. Best friendship. Well, we hope that you enjoyed this episode
contribution from The Moth to access a whole bunch of episodes just like it, along with two
new episodes a week, subscribe to the Moth wherever you get your podcasts.
We hope you have a great week.
And happy Best Friends Day.
That's right.
Thank you for listening to Office Ladies.
Office Ladies is a presentation of Odyssey and is produced by Jenna Fisher and Angela Kinsey.
Our senior producer is Matt Beagle and our audio engineer is Sam Kiefer.
Odyssey's executive producer is Leah Reese Dennis.
Office Ladies was mixed in.
mastered by Bill Shultz.
Our theme song is Ruppertry by Creed Bratton.
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