Ologies with Alie Ward - Ergopathology (BURNOUT) with Kandi Wiens
Episode Date: November 13, 2024Exhaustion! Numbness! Anger! You’re stressed out. I get it. Let’s fix it. I cornered one of the world’s experts on Ergopathology, scholar and author Dr. Kandi Wiens, to ask about the causes of b...urnout, warning signs, what professions are more at risk, how to recover from burnout and prevent it in the future, which was the focus of her book, “Burnout Immunity.” We also chat about neurodiversity, hockey mascots, childhood trauma, how do you tell your boss you're burned the F out, grit, and guilt. Also, you don't need to wait until you're on a tropical vacation to recharge. In fact, don't.Visit Kandi Wiens’ websiteBuy her book, Burnout Immunity, on Amazon or Bookshop.orgA donation went to Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes’ FoundationMore episode sources and linksSmologies (short, classroom-safe) episodesOther episodes you may enjoy: Eudemonology (HAPPINESS), Personality Psychology (PERSONALITIES), Attention-Deficit Neuropsychology (ADHD), Funology (YES, FUN), Genocidology (CRIMES OF ATROCITY), Suicidology (SUICIDE PREVENTION & AWARENESS), Traumatology (PTSD)Sponsors of OlogiesTranscripts and bleeped episodesBecome a patron of Ologies for as little as a buck a monthOlogiesMerch.com has hats, shirts, hoodies, totes!Follow @Ologies on Instagram and XFollow @AlieWard on Instagram and XEditing by Mercedes Maitland of Maitland Audio Productions and Jacob ChaffeeManaging Director: Susan HaleScheduling Producer: Noel DilworthTranscripts by Aveline Malek Website by Kelly R. DwyerTheme song by Nick Thorburn
Transcript
Discussion (0)
Oh hey, it's your co-worker who makes bunt cakes, Ali Ward.
And speaking of work, let's get right into it.
How are we doing?
How are our brains?
How are you feeling?
Are you feeling like a little bit like wilted lettuce?
You feeling like a swollen infection gonna pop?
We get it.
I get it.
So this episode has been a long time coming and I cornered one of the world's leading
experts on burnout.
They got their MBA at the University of Oregon and a doctorate of education at the University
of Pennsylvania where they are currently a senior fellow.
They're the director of the Penn Masters in Medical Education program, too.
They wrote the book on burnout.
It's called Burnout Immunity.
So ergopathology, it's the science of Ergon, which is work in Greek, and pathology, which
is something bad.
But what exactly is burnout?
Okay. mythology, which is something bad, but what exactly is burnout? Okay, obviously we're gonna cover it, but if you're experiencing
exhaustion, cynicism, and
professional
inefficiency, you're gonna want to keep listening. Before we get to it though,
thank you to all the patrons at patreon.com for submitting your questions for this episode.
You can get sneak peeks at future episodes and you can submit questions for them by joining Patreon for as low as a dollar a month.
And for $0, thank you to everyone leaving reviews, which helped the show so much.
Like for example this week, Euphonium Shorty left a review that said,
I couldn't possibly care less about the making of street murals.
At least that's what I thought until Ali explained it all to me.
That's happened to me at least a dozen times with this podcast.
That's why I love it. Amazing it all to me. That's happened to me at least a dozen times with this podcast. That's why I love it.
Amazing really the frequency with which they come out.
If I could change one thing, they write,
it'd be Ali taking better care of herself.
Euphonium shorty, timely.
I'm doing much better.
And I'll tell you how I balance life with work that I legitimately love.
Also speaking of love, lots of love back to reviewer Amari.
You know who you are.
Okay, let's get into it.
Please take a load off, lie down on a carpet.
You can recline against a tree trunk.
Take some time to listen and absorb the teachings
about what is burnout, who burns out faster than others,
who doesn't burn out.
What professions are more at risk for fatigue
and mental health repercussions?
How do you tell your boss you're burned out? Neurodiversity and burnout, grit,
the myths of guilt, hockey mascots,
childhood trauma and lingering anxiety and how to tell your brain to tell your
body that you got this and when to acknowledge, no, I do not got this.
Baby needs to rest.
Also how you don't need to wait until you're on a tropical vacation to recharge.
In fact, don't.
With scholar, author, and burnout expert, ergopathologist Dr. Candy Weins. Candy weens, she her.
Burnout expert.
How does it happen?
How does one become a burnout expert?
Just like diving right in.
I'm like, tell me everything.
Well let me tell you, when I was probably nine, 10 years old, that's the last thing
I ever thought I would be.
In fact, I didn't even hear the word burnout until just probably, I don't know, eight,
well, 12 years ago.
So becoming a burnout expert for me anyway, started with me having a life-threatening
wake-up call experience with burnout, the kind where I was having a hypertensive emergency
and just decided to go on a quest to figure out
like what was going on with me, learn how to deal with my stress.
And then as I started nerding out and geeking out on the whole thing, I decided to go get
my doctorate.
It was like one of those, okay, I'm going to go figure this out for real.
I'm going to science the shit out of this thing.
And I'm going to find out why some people just seem to be somewhat immune to burnout. They are clearly experiencing a lot of stress, but they work alongside people
like me that are experiencing the same sort of stressors, but they're not burned out.
What's going on with them?
Can you tell me a little bit about that hypertensive emergency, if it's not true, traumatic, but
what was the moment you realized that it was related to stress?
Yeah. So at the time, this was back in 2011, I was a management consultant on the road
a lot, had three young kids at home, living the whole type A personality sort of career.
Loved what I did, threw myself into it, super engaged in work, loved my colleagues and my
clients and all of that. And I felt at the time like I was experiencing
a lot of stress, but to me it felt like the good kind
of keeping myself motivated sort of stress,
alongside a lot of the other bad stress too.
But my approach back then was just stuff that stress,
like put it in a box, put that box in a closet,
like lock that closet and don't touch that stress
until you're ready for it.
What happened was when I had this hypertensive emergency, which I had no idea I was even
having one, I went into my doctor's office just for a routine annual physical, you know,
that kind where you go in and they check your blood pressure and they check all your vital
signs and you're in and out in about 20 minutes.
They give you your A and say, see you back here next year.
I thought it was one of those, but what happened was I was in the exam room, the nurse checked my vital signs. She checked my blood pressure
four times before saying anything. And the only thing she said to me was, I'm going to
go talk to the doctor. And instead of like taking that seriously and thinking, holy cow,
like what is this about? What's going on with my blood pressure? Instead, I picked up my
phone and started working again, because that was the norm for me.
And I know it's like, I'm hearing stories
from so many people that that's what they would have done too.
Because the stress I was feeling at the time
had just become to feel so normal to me
that I wasn't recognizing the fact that
when my doctor came in,
she told me that my blood pressure was 200 over 110.
Yeah, I didn't know what that meant at the time.
Just a side note, I had to look this up.
Normal blood pressure, 120 over 80.
It's considered high around 130 over 80.
Stage two is like 140.
But if you get a blood pressure reading over 180 over 120, you need to call 911 or go to
the ER immediately.
Like you could die on the spot.
And again, Dr. Wien's was 200 over 110.
What?
So this is what's called a hypertensive crisis
and it's usually caused by people forgetting
to take blood pressure meds or kidney disease underlying
or heart disease, some pregnancy complications,
taking meth or really high anxiety. And according to the CDC, heart disease, some pregnancy complications, taking meth,
or really high anxiety.
And according to the CDC,
heart disease is the leading cause of death
for women in the United States,
killing over 300,000 women in 2021,
or about one in every five female deaths.
We do have a cardiology episode coming up, of course,
but yeah, her blood pressure was well into the range of all hands on deck holy shit. And then of course she gave me a
huge dose of Xanax which I'd never had before and brought my blood pressure
down and so like an hour later she called my husband to have him come pick
me up and about an hour later I was finally you know stable enough where they
could send me home and not to the emergency room.
I was basically like ordered to be on bed rest for several days.
And my first thought when she told me that was, there's no way I can be on bed rest because
I have this big leadership development program to run.
And I almost panicked, like it almost sent me back into another stress spiral.
But then the second thought was, well, thank God someone's finally telling me
I can go home and rest, like giving me permission to rest because I wasn't giving myself enough rest.
And I hear this so often from people that I work with and people who hear me speak.
But then my third thought was, you know, she's absolutely right. My doctor is telling me I'm
not fine. I need to take this seriously. I need to stay home and not work.
So for a few days, laying on the couch on Xanax and blood pressure medicine, I had a
lot of time to think and started reading some books and started digging around on what are
the best stress management techniques and doing just also a lot of self-reflection.
And it started to dawn on me then that I needed help. I needed to make changes because
my work environment was not going to change anytime soon. So I needed to think about for myself what
were some immediate things I could do. But then also it really dawned on me too like longer term,
I really need to find a work environment and the right conditions where I can really thrive without
burning out. So that's kind of how it started, my interest and my geeky curiosity
on stress and burnout.
And then it eventually turned into me wanting to get my doctorate
so I could study it for real.
When you realized that you had to make some changes,
where do you start? Like, did the doctor say, like, OK, you need to do it?
Or are they just like, your blood pressure's good,
you gotta figure out the rest?
It was like, gave me medicine and told me to go home
and basically figure it out for myself.
She didn't recommend anything at all.
And this was again, back in 2011,
where very few people, if any, were talking about burnout.
Like I wasn't really hearing about it.
And I worked in healthcare consulting.
So it wasn't really until like 2012, 2013 that I started reading studies about this stuff and reading some other
stress management books and like practitioner kinds of books. But then when I started digging
into the research, I started seeing, okay, there is this thing called burnout. And then I was able
to put my finger on what I was experiencing. What exactly, looking back now that you have your doctorate
and now you've been working in this for so long,
can you pick apart a little bit of what was happening
during a burnout episode?
I imagine that it can show up in your heart or your brain.
I imagine that whatever crisis people might finally get to
can show up in all kinds of ways, right?
So there are really a number of ways that we can pay attention to the fact that stress
is turning into something that's a little bit more dangerous, potentially getting to
a point where we're going to break down or burn out.
And I would say first and foremost, pay attention to the physical signs.
Most of us can notice things like headaches, not sleeping well, not being interested in
exercise, not being interested in intimacy with our partner, you know, all kinds of physical manifestations that if we were to just
really pay attention, they are there, those signs are there. But then also like some of the
psychological ways that burnout manifests, things like just, you know, lack of interest in things
that we once loved to do, starting to feel more negative and cynical
about work or about other people.
And then we also might notice changes in our relationships.
Some people tell me that they notice
the first signs of burnout when they start to notice
their relationships are kind of fraying
and starting to become more tense,
that they start lashing out maybe at people
that they really love or they even enjoy working with.
So there are a number of ways that you can pay attention to how stress is affecting you.
And it's really noticing the fact that burnout is really this thing that can be quite insidious,
meaning that it can really sneak up on you if you're just going through the motions of
life and keeping with the grind that you've always been doing,
which was my case, and a lot of people that I talked to
who have been burned out, that's how they experience it.
Because they're so focused on performing or achieving
or helping other people or just juggling life
and family and everything all at once
that it's really easy to lose track
of what's going on with yourself.
And what's happening from a scientific perspective?
I know the amygdala has so many things to say when it comes to stress.
I know we've got cortisol, we've got adrenaline, we've got dopamine, we've got serotonin, we've
got all kinds of things going on.
What is happening under stress where it
finally just like the roof caves in? Well, so for some people it caves in on a physical level.
And burnout for the most part is a psychological experience with stress. Our body goes through all
kinds of chemical reactions. When our amygdala goes off, it's that part of our brain that triggers
the fight, flight or freeze response. And very few of us though are actually threatened by bears
coming out of nowhere.
Yeah.
Are being chased by a tiger. Or, you know, in my case, I actually am going through something
that it's not physically threatening, but it's psychologically threatening to me. So
that to me is much more stressful than something like
coming on the Ologies podcast where I was nervous to come on. But also excited, like there's stress involved in both of those scenarios, but one triggers a threat response to stress. The other
one coming on your podcast triggers what's known as the challenge response to stress.
So our body's going to react differently in each of those situations.
And what's really important,
and what I write about in my book,
is learning how to pay attention to those signs
so that you can regulate your nervous system.
Whether you're truly being threatened,
or if the stressor is something that you are excited about
and looking forward to,
you can learn how to regulate your nervous system
in a healthy, productive way
so you can show up as your best. So Dr. Wiens says that the challenge response to stress kicks in
when we want to perform or achieve something. And why it doesn't freak you out is because you've
told yourself that it's not life-threatening. And so your body uses those fight or flight hormones,
like if you were exercising or trying to beat
your brother-in-law in a potato sack race. So the challenge response gives you
energy and focus and motivation and getting just a little bit of swagger. So how do
you respond that way instead of throwing up in a garbage can before your annual
performance review? Dr. Weins writes that you have to like gently brainwash
yourself or you have to un gently brainwash yourself or you
have to un-brainwash yourself by telling yourself inside, hey you can do it, you
can go crush this. So don't try to suppress the stress because that makes
it worse. And she says to tell yourself, I'm stressed right now but that's okay
I've experienced stress before I always get through it. Or say, hey, why not go for broke? I'm
stressed right now, but this ain't my first rodeo and I'm going to kick some ass. She
writes in her book. She also says other quick mindset shifts include remembering all your
strengths, remembering all the prep you did for the challenge, all the times you overcame
similar challenges, imagining your loved ones rooting for you, or having a mantra
like, I've got this, I can handle this.
Or again, her personal favorite is, this ain't my first rodeo.
And she confesses in her book that she'll actually wear a t-shirt that says, this ain't
my first rodeo, under her suits when she gives like a big keynote.
I tell myself to show up like you belong and have fun,
which I guess I didn't realize that I was shifting my terror
into a challenge response to stress.
And I have to do it every week before I record.
Hi, I'm doing it right now.
Neuroscience researchers who look at this stuff
and look at really all the chemical reactions to stress,
and not just burnout, but every day stress
for long periods of time.
Sometimes that may lead to burnout, other times it may not.
It may lead to other psychological conditions.
But yeah, when we get stressed and that turns on our nervous system and that nervous system
switch is turned on for a long period of time or it gets stuck in the on position, we start
to burn through our adrenaline first and then our cortisol kicks in and
that's meant to protect us. But over time, burning through all that cortisol really,
really quickly can lead to other physical symptoms. It will immediately cause your blood
vessels to constrict. So you're then experiencing lack of oxygen and healthy blood flow to your
brain, which then puts you in what we call fast thinking mode.
So it's like a chain reaction where we first have an unconscious physical reaction through
the release of these kinds of hormones, whether it's adrenaline or cortisol, or in some cases
with good stress, it's dopamine and oxytocin and other things that help us manage stress.
But it's those physical things that happen without us even knowing it
before we start to feel the psychological effects
of stress and then eventually burn out.
So the chemical background here is that adrenaline helps you
survive in physical stress.
It gives you this fuel boost in the form of glucose,
which helps you get out of dodge or fight or hide in a bush
or whatever it takes to evade an attack.
Now, the hormone cortisol,
this is outlined in the Frontiers in Psychology paper,
Burnout and Hypocortisolism,
a matter of severity, cortisol responses
to acute psychosocial stress.
Cortisol gives us the energy mobilization
to fight off that attack.
But as anyone who's ever had nervous diarrhea knows, it's not always helpful. And it continues this paper that long-term
exposure to stressful circumstances without enough recovery is hypothesized
to be the cause of fatigue and exhaustion symptoms in people experiencing
burnout. So things might be happening physically to you under stress, but like your own BO, sometimes
you can't even detect it.
You're just accustomed to it.
And you might not even notice your burnout and your anxiety symptoms until your body's
very mad at you or your sanity starts to fray.
And I'm speaking from experience.
Do you think some people are more predisposed to burnouts?
Like if you have an anxiety disorder
pre-existing or you have depression or if you're neurodivergent, do those people tend
to push beyond their limits or have a lower threshold for this kind of stuff?
Yeah. So there's interesting research that shows the relationship between, you can look
at it by temperament. So each of us is born with a certain type of temperament
that doesn't necessarily change as we age and get older.
And then we also all have personality traits
that may change through life experiences.
Anxiety is an interesting one.
So people who have just like underlying anxiety disorders
or tend to be, one of the personality traits is neuroticism.
So people who are high on the neuroticism scale tend to be more prone to
burnout in certain contexts because they are more easily triggered.
But it's also not just with people who tend to run anxious.
I would say what's important to look at for everybody is not necessarily whether
you have an anxiety disorder or depression
or anything like that, but really think about the interaction between what you want and
need out of a work and life environment and what you're actually getting. What is the
environment that you're actually in? Because it's really the interaction between you and
that environment that makes you more vulnerable to burnout in certain contexts or in certain
environments.
Yeah. I'm laughing about the neuroticism because we did a personality psychology episode. I
took a test and it was like, your neuroticism is so high we can barely measure it. It was
just like, oh, shit. How did they know? So I know definitely some of us are predisposed.
And we'll link to that personality psychology
episode.
It is a banger.
We'll put that in the show notes.
But the cheat sheet is that there
is a scholarly five-factor model of these five core personality
traits, which are agreeableness, conscientiousness,
extraversion, neuroticism, and openness.
And there was a 2023 study titled The Big Five Model
Personality Traits and Job Burnout, a systematic literature review. And it
showed that higher levels of neuroticism and lower levels of agreeableness,
conscientiousness, extraversion, and openness are associated with higher
levels of burnout. No surprise. So the neuroticism and hiding
from the world and being stubborn that I think protects me from failure. Nope, it does not.
Why are we like this? Do you think that there's anything in our pasts that makes us more prone
to pushing through? I understand things like, you know, childhood trauma or codependency issues, things
like that might make us take on more than we necessarily should be handling. Does childhood
experience or does codependency or does like, I can give more than the average person because
I should. Does that figure into being predisposed for burnout?
It absolutely does.
Yeah, absolutely.
So if you think about like what really contributes to my vulnerability to burnout in yours, Ali,
your vulnerability might be different.
It's two things.
Like what are we born with?
We're born with a certain kind of temperament and personality, but then also what's the
environment? What are the conditions that we're exposed to in certain kind of temperament and personality, but then also what's the environment?
What are the conditions that we're
exposed to in our early childhood,
all the way up until where we are today?
And so aside from personality and temperament,
which are hard for us to change in general,
when we are able to reflect on the early experiences we
had in childhood, and not just the experience itself,
but who helped us or who did not help us through stressful experiences.
And chronic trauma, like surviving long-term intimate partner abuse or war or sex trafficking
or childhood trauma, that can result in what's called CPTSD, or complex post-traumatic stress
disorder.
And as for CPTSD being distinct from PTSD, some experts fight
about that, which is not chill. And it's interesting because there's really good
research that shows a correlation between people who have had a number of
what we call ACEs, adverse childhood events or experiences, and the studies
are mixed. It's really showing that people who have a number of ACEs, like in my case, the whole first chapter of the book
describes my experience from early childhood
and how I went through a lot of adversity.
And her book details more of that, but she writes,
I grew up on an Indian reservation in Eastern Montana.
Picture big blue skies, golden wheat fields,
and the rich beauty of Native American culture, alongside abject
poverty, little opportunity for education, and, on my mom's side of the family, a long
history of mental illness and alcoholism.
She writes, my parents divorced after the tragic death of my two-year-old middle sister,
leaving my mom to care for a newborn and me.
Needless to say, she shares, "...we struggled. A lot. My mom was traumatized and grieving in ways I couldn't begin to
understand, and we lived in government-subsidized housing and relied on food stamps and Indian
health care for basics. I was constantly bullied at school for being too skinny. Not my fault,
I would think to myself. I've barely eaten in the last five days. So began my struggle with adversity induced stress," she writes.
So childhood adversity is even more crushing with systemic oppression and lack of financial
resources and support. And at the same time, I had a really loving supportive family environment,
even though it was very unstable. And I felt at times very, very insecure, and that led me to all kinds of bad patterns and habits around overachieving and immersing myself
to an unhealthy level.
That was offset by the fact that I had parents who loved me and I had other caregivers and
people in my life who were supportive and tried their best to give me as secure of an
environment as possible.
So that all factors into both my patterns and how I've responded to stress up until today,
as well as how I perceive stressors now and into
the future and how that might make me more vulnerable to burnout.
One that's really interesting that I'd want to hit on a little bit,
because I think a lot of people can relate to this one is,
we hear a lot about grit.
That grit is a good thing,
the ability to persevere and work through things,
big hard challenges.
And we find that a lot of people
who go through really advanced education, like physicians,
go through med school and then residency fellowship,
that they learn how to persevere.
They have grit like nobody's business sort of thing.
So I started digging into that. And sure enough, there are studies that show that grit protects people from burnout.
LESLIE KENDRICK So according to a 2018 paper, the relationship
between grit, burnout, and well-being in emergency medicine residents, grit is this personality
trait marked by perseverance and passion for long-term goals, especially over a sustained period of time.
And this study found that residents with higher grit
appear to be less likely to experience burnout.
So how do you know if you're gritty?
If you're the Philadelphia Flyers hockey team mascot gritty,
a huge furry orange thing whose lore involves
being disturbed from his secret hideout
while the Wells Fargo Stadium was being built, you definitely have grit because Gritty
gets his name from the grit of the Flyers team because when you're from
Philly you go through things like corrupt public officials and winter. Now
Gritty looks kind of like a Jim Henson character who owns more than one bong
and he was designed to represent someone that you'd high five
but not hug, and they really got that dialed in.
So, gritty has grit.
Maybe you're not gritty, but you have grit.
There's a test for that.
It's called the grit scale.
And grit, I just learned this, it's not just about like someone who'd rub dirt and a wound.
It actually stands for something.
It stands for growth, resilience, instinct, and tenacity.
And this scholar, author, and psychologist, Dr. Angela
Duckworth, pioneered a test for it,
which includes statements like, setbacks don't discourage me.
I finish whatever I begin.
And this quiz tragically, honestly,
reads like a reverse assessment for ADHD,
which we cover in depth on our three-part ADHD episode linked in the
show notes with Dr. Russell Barkley. And we'll also cover neurodivergence later
in this episode. So the grid scale though has its critics. Scores are kind of said
to be in line with higher GPAs for students and spelling bee championships
and military academy success. But as Dr. Wiens explains, it's not an immunity
amulet to future despair.
But in my case, I thought, you know what, I'm a really gritty person. I'm kind of off
the scales when it comes to grit. But why did I get burned out? Well, my theory and
what I found through my research is that grit without self-awareness can get you in trouble.
It may serve us really well to get through things like medical
school or whatever these hard things are that you're working for. But then at some point,
that pattern and those ways of working become so ingrained in us that we lose track of, lose sight
of the fact that it's actually pretty unhealthy for us to keep going at that pace. When you do
research on this, how do you approach that? Do
you have to go and find subjects? Where do you even start? I imagine people who are going for a
burnout are like, I don't have time to talk to you. Oh, totally. I was worried about that. Actually,
when I started my first study, which was my dissertation, I thought, okay, here's what I
want to do. I want to find people who are in probably one of the most stressful jobs I've ever been exposed to and a lot of my clients were really busy
physicians and clinicians and and then there are a number of physicians who have both clinical responsibility and then they also have leadership
Responsibility, so I thought okay
Let me study chief medical officers because I know I've worked with a number of them and they just, the pressure and the demands on them is just like so extreme. So I thought, but wait, they're probably not
going to talk to me or it will be extremely hard to get on their calendar. Well, I was
actually surprised because many of them wanted to sign up when they heard that I was studying
stress and burnout. They were like, oh, let's talk about that.
I have some thoughts.
I want to tell you my experience. So I started
studying that group of people and the findings were really the basis of what
turned into more research. The next big study I did was with over 200 police
chiefs and other senior law enforcement officers. So again I went after what
what profession do I think has very regular,
very high stress for very long periods of time.
And sure enough, when I studied police chiefs
along with the chief medical officers,
what I would have them do is first tell me,
like on a scale of one to 10,
how would you characterize your stress
with 10 being worst possible, zero, no stress.
And the ones who showed up as a seven or above,
which think about that for a second,
they were telling me that their stress
for a long period of time is severe,
very severe or worst possible.
And then I have them, I actually measure them.
I have a psychometric tool that a lot of researchers use.
So this quiz is the burnout risk assessment,
and it's included in her book.
And it asks participants to rate their degree of
agreement or disagreement with statements like I feel comfortable asking others for help when I'm stressed out. I'm
experiencing a lot of conflict with other people at work. I'm working longer and harder than I want to.
My stress level does not feel sustainable, and I feel emotionally
exhausted at the end of the workday." So this burnout risk assessment, it's kind of like
a quiz in a magazine about like, should I have a threesome? But instead, it's used to
determine feelings like, does my life stress make me wish I was a box turtle so I can hibernate
five months out of the year? That's what it boils down to.
So I found that there's this unique population of people who have this high level seven or
above stress for a long period of time, but they're not burned out. So then I conduct very
in-depth interviews with them, sometimes speak to them multiple times or follow them over a
couple of months period to really dig in and understand what are they doing to protect themselves.
And that's really the basis of the research.
But aside from these really high stress jobs, I also interview people who are frontline
workers and bartenders and baristas and babysitters, people who just experience everyday stress
that, you know, a lot of people can relate to.
And we're going to talk about money issues in a bit.
Especially in the medical field, I've
heard from so many friends who are going through med school.
It's just beyond.
I mean, you're learning everything for the first time.
You're studying.
You're on the floor.
You're expected to work 20-hour shifts.
How does the medical field come into this
when a lot of the culture and the work around
it is already pretty fucked up?
It is really.
This is one of the things that some of my colleagues and I have really been looking
at is I did a study with a number of physicians who wanted to look at why are our residents
and fellows getting so burned out?
Why is the rate so high? And
why are they not coming forward to ask for help? First of all, in the medical professions,
there's a lot of stigma around coming forward about mental health issues. And there's a
lot of concern that if I raise my hand and ask for help, that's like shameful. Like,
I should not be asking for help. I should be an expert. I've been getting straight A's throughout college
and medical school, and now I don't know
what the fuck I'm doing.
And then there's a lot of pressure on me.
And so if I'm the one out of these other 12 residents
who raises my hand and asks for help,
what is that gonna say about me?
Yeah.
And so there's that kind of culture.
And I'm seeing it change in some institutions,
which is a good sign, but we need more research on this.
We need more just awareness of what's going on.
What are the cultural conditions that are really
both causing the burnout, but also preventing people
from coming forward and asking for help?
You know, there's a lot of folks too,
who just are feeling so burned out from,
you know, four and a half years of pandemic, from lockdown,
from increased screen time, from decreased social interactions.
For more on some current stressors too, you can see our episode on genocidology with genocide
expert Dr. Dirk Moses, or just look at the news in any capacity. So we've been trained to be on high alert, looking for information at all hours of the
day and night.
Is there something about the way that we are so tethered to devices that doesn't allow
us to rest the part of our brains or our souls that need it?
Totally.
Yeah, totally. It's become so common.
Like if you walk through any airport,
I mean, just about anywhere you go, bus or train stations
or whatever, you see people on their phones.
Like how often do you actually go through a public place
where more people are engaging and talking to each other?
It's much more common that people are looking
at their devices.
So there's that, there's not enough time for people to really take their brains offline because when our
brains are always online, even if we're consuming good productive content, it's not allowing
your brain or your psyche enough time to rest.
And burnout, for the most part, is a psychological syndrome.
And so when we're not giving our psyche a break, it's more likely that we're going to
be susceptible to burnout.
And you can see our recent episode about fun
with Catherine Price, who also wrote the book,
How to Break Up with Your Phone,
the 30 Day Plan to Take Back Your Life.
What about working hours?
Because our open signs are just kind of always on.
We're like, I got my phone on me.
Like we're always at a computer because it's in our pocket.
Has it been helpful for some people to be like, I start work at nine and I'm off at 530 and no one can tell me otherwise?
Although even if you did that, what if you've got kids and they're like need food and bathing?
This is obviously from someone whose dog is asleep very gently in the corner because he
could not handle it.
But like where do you start to put limits on it so that your psyche can sort of repair
itself?
That's the question of the day that each of us needs to really do some soul searching
on.
Here's how I look at it and how I think about it.
This has been one of the most helpful things for me because
during this research, which I consider to be action research, meaning that when I was
researching people, I was applying this stuff on myself. So one of the things I've learned
and I still use to this day is to do just a daily or for me sometimes it's even a couple
of times a day, just a quick check-in, like where am I on my stress curve?
So if you think about, like we all need a little bit
of stress or even some, a good amount of stress
to feel motivated and engaged and all of that,
it gets us motivated and makes us wanna perform
and do good things for the world
and other people and all that.
But then at some point we get way too much stress,
like way more things to do with all the kids
and all the home things and all that,
that we get out of what we call the sweet spot of stress.
So the exercise where I really find a lot of value is just checking in to see,
have I tipped over past my sweet spot of stress? Not just today, but like if I
were to think about this past week and how it's gone for me, what am I doing and
what is it really doing to me? So what am I doing to take care of myself and how it's gone for me. What am I doing and what is it really doing to me?
What am I doing to take care of myself and how is that really helping me
create conditions to keep me in a zone,
in a sweet spot of stress where I'm really challenged and engaged,
but I'm not flipping out and breaking down and burning out?
Or what am I doing that's not good for me?
Maybe, okay, turns out that I'm saying
yes to everything. I'm not setting boundaries or I set boundaries but I don't uphold them.
How can I focus on the things I can control to keep myself in that zone of sweet spot of stress?
LESLIE So what if you're in a sour spot, not sweet at all? So Dr. Weins writes in her book that optimism can prolong longevity
if you do want to live longer, but also optimism going into stress can help you make choices
that kind of better equip you to handle the stress. And some of those choices are like
engaging in more movement or less alcohol or tobacco consumption. And if Dr. Weins knows
she's going to have a tough week,
like the day we recorded this, she had a few important meetings,
and then right after we stopped recording this,
she was headed straight to a big book signing event.
Or if she feels overloaded,
she dials down some things and adds others.
You know, not drinking, eating really well,
exercising, getting enough sleep.
I know those things for sure will set me up for a day or two of just good clarity and a good ability to focus and a good
ability to tolerate stress that I knew was going to come along. And sure enough, today is one of
those days where I've got both the bad kind of stress, the threat response kind of stress,
as well as some good challenge response kind of stress coming on. So I feel good about what I did the last several days just to help set myself up to be
able to handle today really well. And then I also know that at the end of today, because it's going
to be a long day and there's a lot going on, I know that I have a really fun dinner to look forward
to. It will be a long day, but I get to go do a book signing
that I'm looking forward to and I get to have dinner with three people that I absolutely
love and adore. So those are just like, for example, for me, it's all about not just how
do you manage stress in the moment or how do you take care of yourself afterwards, but
it's also what do you do to set yourself up when you know you're going to go into a period
of high stress.
That makes total sense. Can I ask you some questions from listeners?
Sure.
OK.
We have a lot, because I think a lot of people
are feeling very burned out.
But before we get to your questions about capitalism
and neurodivergence and prevention of burnout,
we're going to donate to a charity of Dr. Bean's choice.
And she selected the Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation,
whose mission is to reduce
burnout of health care professionals and to safeguard their well-being and their job satisfaction.
And they also worked to pass in 2022 the Dr. Lorna Breen Health Care Provider Protection Act,
which supported health care workers' mental health and well-being. And we're actually going to hear a
little bit more about that backstory in a few minutes, but they're linked in the show notes
at drlaurinnabrine.org.
And that donation was made possible by sponsors of the show,
who you may hear about now.
Okay, on to your questions.
This one's right on the money.
A lot of people, Jess, Sydney Koenig, Anna Lauren,
Jacob Shepherd, Olivia Rempel, Earl of Gramelkin,
Jennifer Fero, Brianna L, Vanessa Adams, Diana Cojelo,
all wanted to know, in Jesse's words,
how do you deal with it when you got to have a job to live in this capitalist world? Anna
asked about, is burnout primarily a phenomenon of living, working in such an intensely capitalist
system? Does burnout exist outside of capitalism?
Well, I need the names of everybody who submitted that question because I want to send them
all a handwritten thank you note for asking that question because those are the kind of
questions that we need to be asking.
And I would say one is to focus on what I call meaningful connections.
And so for people who actually in these kinds of experiences are like their jobs, they might
even love their jobs, but there's just too much of it and there's not enough breaks and they feel the capitalism sort of pressure, is to be very clear
about the things and the people in your life that bring meaning to you. And that means getting super
clear on what your values are. And values might be really small things like, I value a good night's
sleep, I need to get at least six, seven hours of sleep a night or more, or a big value like I value quality time with my
partner or with my pets, even just sitting down with my dog for half an hour
every day and just like connecting with my dog. Or your human children. Dr. Weins
has three of them. Or maybe it's volunteering at a raccoon rehab center,
or whittling, bird watching or coding or reading
about sci-fi apocalypses, whatever makes you go, ah, this is so good, I like this.
And maybe the big thing for all of us to be thinking about is that for many of us, the
type of companies that we work in are not going to change the fact that they are capitalist-oriented
organizations.
They just, it's not going to change the fact that they are capitalist-oriented organizations. It's not
going to happen overnight. So how do we continue to operate and survive in these conditions?
Well also creating workplaces where there are microcultures that support people to raise
their hands when they need help, to not make them feel bad when they need to take a mental
health day off. So if you run a company or if you manage people,
you can be part of the solution rather than the problem.
Now, if you're undergoing this also,
if you're on the receiving side and you feel like you have no power,
consider asking other employees if they're having similar experiences
and maybe approach management as a unified force.
And you can remind your bosses that more burnout leads to higher turnover and staff, and also
reduced efficiency at your job.
Now, what if you were raised Catholic, like me?
So many patrons asked about guilt, such as Jennifer Froe, who said, why do I feel so
much guilt when not working? Full-time mom and author Samwise asked about this,
Rebecca Fitchett, Sarah Manns, and Mims who asked,
how do you stop yourself from feeling guilty
about needing a break, asking for me?
Mims, not alone.
A bunch of people wanted to know,
in Win Constantine's words,
how can people deal with the shame and guilt
that comes with literally
not being able to be productive? Mouse packs to one show, any tips on feeling guilty when
you're too burnt out to do things with people?
Yeah, that was my experience for a long period of time. And I felt like I should not be raising
my hand because everybody else around me is going through the grind and performing in
there. They don't seem burned out. So I was carrying that shame and then the shame creates
more stress. So it's a total vicious cycle, which you've got to get yourself off that
hamster wheel as quick as you can. The sooner you can find someone to connect with, whether it's
someone that's currently in our circle of relationships or a professional that we can reach
out to, it sometimes really just starts with one conversation with the right person
to get a head start on the support and the help that you need.
LESLIE KENDRICK And in her book, Dr. Weins explains that excess
pressure on yourself, like should statements, impose a set of expectations that aren't likely
to be met because they aren't grounded in reality. Like it's not possible to make zero mistakes.
And believing that you should be flawless just sets you up for a lot of self-blame and
shame and guilt.
And she calls this a form of thinking trap or a cognitive distortion that you pull on
yourself.
And it's about as effective, from my experience, as punching yourself in the kidneys.
So what do you do if misplaced guilt is ruining your life?
Dr. Weins tells a story of a physician's assistant she met
who went through therapy and learned that her work guilt
was itself a stress response,
and it stemmed from a traumatic event from childhood,
which helped her tap into self-compassion instead.
So she was able to brush it off
and not take the guilt seriously, just giving herself a damn break. Because again, giving yourself
a break and some self-compassion and lowering the stakes could actually save
your own life. And on that note, Daniel Opedahl, Neen, Kelly Dooling, Essie Rue, and
Sugar Puff Daddykins asked, in Sugar Puff Daddykins' words, can we please talk
about mental illness and burnout?
Yes.
Let's.
A bunch of people did kind of ask about that mental health
aspect too and about reaching out.
And like Cleb and Farron want us to know
if there are links between burnout and suicide.
We just did a suicidology episode.
So could burnout ever lead to suicidal ideation for people?
Sure, it does. Yeah, there is a correlation there. You know, studies are showing that,
but we've also heard stories of individuals who are suicidal with previous history of
expressing stress and burnout issues. And we do see higher rates within the medical
profession, for example. That's where some of these studies have been done.
And I hear actual stories like this is really sad, but I hear, I would say at least one
story a year from someone that's close to me and someone that I work with that I know
well telling me that someone who's a resident or a fellow that they know of or mentored
or something like that, you know, died by suicide.
Fortunately, we've got some organizations out there
that are working as hard as they possibly can,
and they have some really dedicated, talented people,
like the Lorna Breen Foundation.
It's one that I'm starting to get involved in.
And Dr. Lorna Breen, who we talked about
and whose foundation we donated to,
was an emergency medicine physician who died by suicide
in late April of 2020,
after being on the front lines of COVID.
And despite having no known mental health difficulties
prior, experienced a burnout and a fear of poor performance
that was so intense that it led to her taking her own life.
And the foundation started in her honor,
states that in the US, 400 physicians die each year
by suicide and female physicians are more at risk, especially in emergency medicine.
And for more on these statistics, you can see the 2010 study, Burnout, Hopelessness,
and Suicide Risk in Medical Doctors, which concluded that even 15 years ago, people in
charge of workers' health
should pay particular attention to the burnout in doctors and intervene with changes in the
work environment.
Another 2012 study titled High Risk Occupations for Suicide found that there were increases
in rates of suicide in the occupations of coal mining and construction laborers, too.
And I've gotten questions in the past about veterinary medicine and mental health.
And there was a 2015 paper, Suicide in Veterinary Medicine.
Let's talk about it.
And it cites that the rate of suicide in the veterinary profession has been pegged at more
than twice that of the medical profession and four times the rate of the general population.
And the American Veterinary Medical Association said that burnout among animal healthcare
workers is even higher lately due to higher expectations from pet owners, overwhelming
workloads, the impact of the global pandemic, educational debts.
And this was surprising, instances of cyberbullying are taking a toll, which then leads to compassion
fatigue, which is this physical and emotional exhaustion
that can result from caring too much about your job and high stakes matters.
And from vets to vets, military personnel are also experiencing post-traumatic stressors
and burnout, and we go more into depth on that in the Traumatology episode, too, which
we'll link in the show notes.
So jobs are hard in a lot of sectors. The world is
tough. And of course, people are trying to help the helpers, like the Dr. Laura Bring Heroes Foundation,
Dr. Wing continues. And that foundation is doing some incredible research and some incredible,
just like philanthropy work to change the way hospitals evaluate their physicians and the types
of conditions that physicians work under.
You mentioned working with police chiefs and medical residents and chief medical officers.
What do we see about burnout on the other side of the finance scale where, like Tyler
Bates asked, how does one balance not working extra because of burnout but when you low
key need the money?
Teo, also known as Nasty Garden Rat, says, what's the effect of money or financial stability
on burnout?
My job had me so exhausted at $18 an hour, but much less so at $20, even though I'm doing
the same work.
Still burned out though.
Woof, they say.
Dave Cannon wants to know, would winning the lotto help burnout or is it something deeper?
When you've got to grind or you need that grit because you're working three jobs,
how can you even begin to start to balance that? Yeah, well, I would say first of all, I think one of the things we haven't really talked about is that oftentimes people characterize what
they're feeling and experiencing as burnout. When these examples you just shared, I wonder a little bit. It may not be burnout. It may actually be overwhelm, overwork, over-functioning,
meaning that you have just way too much work, not enough resources, not enough time, not
enough support. A lot of those people are just overworked and overextended. The remedy
for people who are overworked is oftentimes more recovery time in the form of not just,
I don't mean just
like vacations or spa days and all that. I mean, micro recoveries where you're truly
taking a mental, physical, psychological break and you are forcing yourself like really intentionally
creating space in your life where you are connecting to the things and the people in
your life. You're giving yourself positive energy to offset the feelings of overwork.
So that you can have that psychological capacity.
So you can go to your boss and say,
I've been working 70 hour weeks for the last however long,
I can't do it anymore.
Like this is what it's doing to me.
So the goal is to help people get the psychological strength
to go to their leaders or whoever and say,
here's what I need in order to be my most effective at work.
So yeah, if you're thinking every day,
one day I'll just go to an island for a week
and I will fix all of this.
It's actually easier than that.
I mean, yes, it's wonderful to have something to look forward to.
And this positive anticipation
has been shown in studies to fight depression, but it doesn't have to be an expensive escape
to a piece of land in an ocean.
You can create a tiny little safe space every day, even for 10 minutes, sitting and meditating,
listening to chill music and closing your eyes, breathing deeply, reading a chapter in a book
or doing a craft.
And I know it might feel more stressful at the beginning
to carve that time out.
Trust me, you're like, I have no time.
How can I possibly do this?
Or maybe you have to wake up a little earlier
than your kids or work,
or you have to ask for support to carve out that time.
It might not feel like it's helping immediately, but the routine of doing something even for 10 minutes a day
that feels chill and feels like a treat that's not scrolling helps you know that you have
that little respite daily reliably and that you have your own back.
I wanted to get back to this because you were mentioning the people who don't experience
burnout even though they're in the seven to 10 scale.
What did you find in your research that was common to that?
I'm like, are they just sociopaths?
Do they not feel emotions or do they have really good recovery systems?
Exactly.
That's what I wondered too.
Who are these people?
They have like, I don't
know, were they raised by unusually cool-headed parents or they have like Jedi mind tricks
that they play on themselves so that they can survive in some crazy stressful environment.
I mean, that's exactly what I went after in my research. That was my primary research
question. So a lot of it has to do with our emotional intelligence. That's the whole basis
of my research in the book is that stress creates emotional responses.
So it's learning as much as we possibly can
about how we respond emotionally
to different types of stressors.
That includes things like understanding
what triggers my stress,
and not just what triggers me and ticks me off,
but what's underneath that?
Where did that come from?
What happened in my past that led me to have this trigger? So it's not just about
avoiding stress entirely, but understanding and clocking your own
reactions to it and your own unique sensitivities to it. So emotional
self-awareness is a big attribute that these people with burnout immunity have.
They're very in tune with their emotional response distress,
very clear on what their triggers are, what ticks them off.
They're also clear on what makes them tick,
what motivates them, what gives them good positive energy.
And then they're able to regulate,
this is the emotional regulation part
of emotional intelligence.
They're able to regulate their emotions,
their thoughts and their behaviors working in very stressful conditions. But just emotional self-awareness and emotional
regulation are some of the big cornerstones of creating burnout immunity. But it's also
things like staying really connected to your values, to people that you love, meaningful
relationships. It also has a lot to do with your outlook on life.
Some people thrive in certain conditions better because their outlook on that type of an environment
is more positive. And so that passion, that calling that they felt is protective, our
general mindset and the way we think about the world, the way we think about work.
So emotional awareness and regulation
being the cornerstone of burnout immunity
means a bit more challenge to folks who are neurodivergent.
My hand is raised right now.
Now, the National Institutes of Health ADHD support toolkit
recommends people wanting to support someone with ADHD
up their empathy and refrain from blaming and shaming
someone who's struggling to handle a heavy load with executive function issues.
So be patient, be empathetic, and it encourages for those with ADHD to take short breaks during tasks that require continued focus.
And there's this brand new study in 2024 titled, executive function deficits mediate the relationship between employees ADHD and job burnout.
And it found that, hell yeah, lower executive function
contributes to faster burnout and fatigue.
Not to mention masking, which is a term that
means you spend a ton of your energy
pretending to be neurotypical in a world built
for this productive grind of working like 10 hours a day, usually sitting at a desk.
And this masking is common in autistic adults
and kids as well.
And Stanford Medical School has a neurodiversity project.
And one presenter, Katie Oswald, laid out
that autistic burnout arises from chronic life stress
and this mismatch of expectations and abilities
without adequate support.
And symptoms include long-term, typically over three months, exhaustion and loss of function
and a reduced response to stimuli. And some causes of this autistic burnout are life stressors and
masking and cumulative overwhelm, lack of empathy and dismissal of struggles and lack of support from others. But it recommends some interventions like peer-led support groups and
meditation and exercise, trauma-informed care, art therapy, animal assisted therapy,
and interventions that are peer-led help a lot. So without this kind of support and
empathy shown from others and ourselves, it's much
harder to maintain this optimism and self-confidence and self-care like rest and time away from
screens and healthy hobbies that we need to avoid burnout.
But for all of us, Dr. Weins has a chapter that details how to recover from burnout using
what she's coined the 3R prescription or 3Rx.
And that means recover, reconnect, and reimagine.
And she acknowledges with the recovery that a certain painful irony exists that comes along
with recommending tips and strategies for making a full burnout recovery.
Because the ultimate responsibility for burnout recovery and certainly prevention lies with
the employer, she writes, not the employee. But we can try to do what's in our control, and sometimes you can't get better in the
environment that's making you sick, in which case you gotta bounce.
But you can try to change your mindset and set boundaries.
And the reconnect R involves getting in touch with things outside of work, like people and
hobbies and downtime and group activities, or even your values or your vision of your ideal self.
And then the third R helps you reimagine your life going forward.
So she details all these strategies in her book, but they can help you regulate your
approach to stress and the emotions that come up from it to lessen the impact on your life
and your brain and your body.
And emotional regulation, I understand, is not the same thing as stuffing your feelings down and not feeling them.
No. That was me. And a lot of us think, oh, well, that will just make it all go away if I stuff it.
I have one guy tell me, one of my research participants, he was a chief medical officer,
told me that he was a professional stuffer, like stuff distress, like crazy, until he ended up with diverticulitis,
which is like really bad things happening to your intestines.
Not to mention, of course, cardiac and metabolic disease and autoimmune diseases.
And there was one study, a 2018 paper, Association of Stress-related Disorders with Subsequent
Autoimmune Disease,
and have found that yes, stress-related disorders were significantly associated with increased
risk of autoimmune disease. So being exposed to high stress and not having the outlets
to cope or to explore it or to get support or essentially developing what psychologists
call emotional intelligence or regulation,
can be deadly.
Yeah. Oi. No. Better to deal with the emotions than whatever's going on in them guts, you
know? But yeah, I was like, I have an idea. What if I just don't feel the bad feelings
and I scroll instead? Hmm. Poof. I made them disappear. It's like, no, you didn't.
Until they come back again and they haunt you.
Exactly. Well, this is, okay, this was my last listener question. Matthew Walker, I mean,
so many people, the lady is a geek, Katie Byardi, wanted to know in the ladies words,
does burnout leave a scar? If you've had one burnout, are you more likely to have another
or experience it more easily? Same thing, Katie had that question too.
If you get it once, are you more predisposed to it?
Depends what you do with that information. Totally depends on how you were able to recover from that
burnout experience and what did you learn from it? What do you not want to do again? Because all of
us, when we're burned out, all of a sudden it becomes clear like, oh, that's what was causing
the burnout. Oh, that's what triggered me. Oh, that's what I wasn't doing. And that's what I was doing that made
me more vulnerable. So it depends what you choose to do with that information. In my
case, I was like hell bent on not ever getting burned out again. And I, you know, like I
said, when I was nine or 10, I never wanted to be a burnout expert and never even never
crossed my mind. But now I'm glad that I am because it forces me to really pay attention.
I made a commitment to myself, I'm not going to let that happen again.
I want to live a full, happy life while I'm here.
I want to have stress in my life.
I actually want to have good stress and stress that will challenge me and help me learn and
grow, but also know I have a limit.
I need to be really, really aware of what that limit is.
And it's my responsibility to get myself out of it.
And that doesn't mean, and I get it,
people might be wondering, well,
I don't have the luxury of getting myself out of it.
I didn't feel like I had the luxury either
when I was burned out.
So I took my time.
It took me a couple of years for me to create an exit ramp
and a path, a new plan for myself to where I was going in a direction that I knew was gonna be right for me to create an exit ramp and a path, a new plan for myself to where I was going in a direction
that I knew was gonna be right for me
and wasn't gonna cause burnout for me.
I think it's also interesting that everyone else
can see you on an absolute crash course a mile away
and you're like, nah, I got this.
And a lot of times there's at least, you know,
one or two people in your life that are like,
you're gonna burn out and you're like, other people in your life that are like, you're going to burn out.
And you're like, other people might burn out.
Not me, watch this.
And then you're just in a ditch crying.
Oh yeah.
Denial.
It's a thing.
Yeah.
I always ask people the worst thing about their job.
And I am wondering, what is the hardest thing about your work in burnout and not getting burned
out?
It's a hard one, but maybe it's actually an easy one. The hardest part for me is, well,
I feel really, I guess blessed that I get to hear that people feel comfortable opening
up to me about their burnout experiences and I feel honored that they do. So that's a good
thing, but at the same time,
the hard part about it is I want to help everybody.
Yeah.
I would love to take everybody under my wing and just say,
follow me, let's do these things and you're going to be just fine.
I promise you, we're going to get you out of this.
I can't do that. I help as many people as I can.
Then I also have my limits where it's just that,
that's what can cause me to burn out
because I'm expressing so much empathy
and compassion for other people
that then it turns into me not having
good boundaries for myself.
What about the best thing about what you do?
The best thing I think is really just bringing awareness
to something that so many people are struggling with.
And after a speaking event or a podcast
or people will reach, you know,
people will reach out and say, you know, your story really resonated with me. I felt like you
were in my head. And I just feel super honored that people are opening up more about it. And my hope
is that the more we talk about it, the more we bring awareness to it and try to really decrease
the stigma associated with it, that we will
start to see cultures change, but it's going to take people like me and you and others
who have been burned out and recovered to get back in there and say, look, there are
ways to create cultures where we can expect really high performance out of people, but
also not to the point where we're going to lose them.
Yeah, it is. I think speaking out about it
is so helpful for me to hear other people talk about it
and to know that it's not just like a moral failing.
No, it's not.
I'm so glad I got a chance to talk to you.
I imagine there's so many avenues you can go down.
Do you see yourself doing this,
just wanting to ask and answer questions for as long as
you can?
It's so fun.
That is one of the best parts of my job too.
I've always been someone who's just naturally curious.
I love researching itself.
To go in there and dig into people's lives and really truly understand at an empirical
level what is going on.
Burnout is a phenomenon, so it's one of those things that we can get in there and study
by talking. But we need to talk to people and hear about their life experiences,
and that's pretty fun.
I mean, there's no shortage of need or examples. That's great.
That's true.
You are guaranteed a job in this culture and economy.
I don't know if that's a good thing.
Yeah, exactly.
So ask experts amateur questions,
because honestly, it might save your life.
Now, this was recorded a month or two ago,
when optimism and hope may have been easier to come by.
So it might seem like easier said than done,
which, let's be honest, that's like most things in life.
But unfortunately, keeping tabs on your mental health
is more important than
ever because you're an ape wearing a shirt and you're really not built for this, I'm
sorry to say.
So part of combating global stress is learning when it's getting to be too much and taking
care of yourself in constructive and not just numbing and dissociating ways.
Trust me, scrolling's not helping you.
So heed my warnings, please.
And for more info, you can pick up Candy Ween's book, Burnout Immunity, which we'll link in
the show notes, and we'll also link where you can follow and find out more about her
work.
So thank you so much for being on, Dr. Ween.
So you can learn more about Ologies, and you can follow us at Ologies on Blue Sky and Instagram. You can find me at Allie Ward on both platforms. We also have shorter
kid-friendly episodes available in their own podcast feed. It's called Smology's
where we get podcasts. You can look for the new green logo which was designed by
Portland artist Bonnie Dutch. We also have Ologies merch available at
Ologiesmerch.com where the link in the show notes. Erin Talbert admin Zoologies
podcast Facebook group. Aveline they'll link in the show notes. Erin Talbert, admin zoologies podcast Facebook group.
Aveline Malik makes our professional transcripts.
Noelle Dilworth is our scheduling producer.
Kelly Ardwyer makes the website.
Susan Hale, managing director, the whole shebang.
Jake Chaffee co-edits the show and lead editor.
And Canadian, who is trying not to burn out with American and global genocide
stressors, is Mercedes Maitland of Maitland Audio.
Nick Thorburn, Nick Thorburnout
made the theme music and if you stick around until the end of the episode I tell you a secret. And
this week it's I'm the ghost of burnout past and future and I'm here to tell you no matter how
strong you are or how good at suffering or how much you want to fix the world, you have to take care of
yourself or you will possibly be sick and sadder and less able to do the things
you want to to change the world. So I have been through that. I thought I was
tougher than anyone else and I thought I could just get through things. As you
might know, last summer I had an excruciating burnout that landed me in
the hospital a few
times, and then I had to take a bunch of time off and relearn how to talk to my own brain.
So everyone warned me for years ahead of time I was going to burn out.
I love this job.
I love a lot of jobs that I have and have had all at once, and I just didn't know how
to live like a normal person.
I was like, I'm a robot. I'm a machine, I keep work.
No.
So you're a person, if you're listening to this, unless you're an AI, which is weird,
but you're a person and you got to take care of yourself.
So what I do, which has been helping me a ton, I mentioned this in another episode,
but I have a list of things that I do to keep myself alive, and I print it out. I check it off every day.
It's helped so much in the last few months.
Again, I print out a new sheet every week.
Each day I get a point for things like drinking at least 64 ounces of water, or meditating,
or going on a walk, or reading a book, even one page, journaling, avoiding too much caffeine,
avoiding alcohol, avoiding
scrolling, doing a hobby.
I love cross-stitch because I can't use my phone and it's zero stakes and for some reason
it calms my nervous system.
I literally get a point for showering and then I add up the points of the day to see
how I'm doing and it's kind of like a game to play.
But doing something, if you need to gamify it, if you need to have a checklist of stuff
you do, don't do it because you have to do it because you deserve to do it.
And it'll start becoming a routine that helps.
So checking in with yourself and giving your little ape brain the comfort that you need
takes less time than what you would spend staring into space and worrying.
Whatever you want to do to contribute to a more just world, you'll be able to do it if
you're nice to yourself first.
So there is my secret, there is my advice to not grind yourself into a nub.
The world needs you to take your survival and your health seriously.
And I honestly, as your dad board, as your internet dad, let me be a cautionary tale
that it just doesn't work
long term.
You will nosedive at one point, and you deserve it.
Every single person deserves to take care of themselves.
So if you're still sitting under that tree or lying on the carpet, just think of things
that make you happy and make you feel better, and please do them for yourself.
Doesn't have to be a vacation.
Okay, go drink some water.
All right?
Bye bye.