Omnichannel - Master Emotional Resilience & Boundaries By Leaning Into Your Human Design with Alina

Episode Date: December 22, 2023

Send us a textEver found yourself nodding along to conversations you'd rather not be part of, just to keep the peace? Join us for a transformative dialogue with Alina Grayson, as we discuss the art of setting boundaries and upholding personal standards. We delve deep into the nuanced dance of expressing our limits, sharing how to navigate the holiday chaos with grace and maintain serenity by consciously choosing our surroundings. Together, we dissect the difference between the aspirations we hold for ourselves and the uncompromising boundaries that form the bedrock of our self-respect.Tackling the sticky situations that arise in relationships, we reveal how a steadfast commitment to our own boundaries can foster respect from others and cultivate emotional resilience. It's a candid look at the trials of enforcing personal limits and weathering public scrutiny. Alina and I share our own journeys, demonstrating that while relationships might waver, a steadfast commitment to self-care and integrity must remain unshakeable.Prepare to be inspired, as we illuminate the ways in which human design and emotional intelligence can revolutionize your interactions and emotional well-being. You'll learn about the powerful influence of emotional centers and their impact on our processing of experiences. Plus, Alina will offer a sneak peek into the "Self Mastery #BadassMode" program, designed to empower entrepreneurs with the tools needed for both personal and professional triumph. Our heartfelt conversation supports the belief that respecting and understanding our emotional landscape paves the way for truly mastering the self.Get a FREE Copy of the High Converting Online Events Book: https://book.dominikalegrand.com/

Right, like a lot of like turmoil to not go projected on other people. And then for us, we're open. If we're naturally supposed to be zen, calm, we can actually have a still mind and be calm. It's an understanding that like when we're not feeling good, it's because we surrounded ourselves with the wrong people. People that if they behave this way, speak this way, or treat me this way, that I actually exit the relationship for good or exit the environment. And then you have to communicate that. and that's something we have to communicate and then we also

have to uphold I think I wanted to go to the standards and boundaries here a little bit if you don't mind especially the holidays are coming I think a lot of us are like so much trigger is coming you know the family and like stress and everything let's go there how do you define that for us like can you define like standards and boundaries i think you did such a great job in the program as well yeah so there's the difference right there's standards and then there's boundaries our standards are like are the the best that could be in a moment, right? Like if your standard is like,

I walk into my family's Christmas house on Christmas day and everybody's happy and peaceful, that's a standard. Like that's like what we want at the peak, right? The boundary is like the line in the sand, sorry, where we don't cross. It's like, this is what I will not tolerate, right? So in relationships, my standards are very high.

I want to be treated very well. I'm reciprocating that um but the boundary but even if the standards are low and I'm not having the high of like all affection whatever it is the state the boundary is like there is no name calling there is no abuse there is no like none of that like you know I'm the kind of woman that's just like you call me a certain thing like the relationship is going to be done if there's any violence or anything like that like it's it's a it's a glance like the line in the sand it's it's over right so when it comes to families I think it's important before we get together with her family to share our boundaries and what is acceptable and what's not and if there's certain topics that you wish not to discuss because I think that's where things kind of get all riled up in family

environments or situations. It's just like having those conversations like, hey, I want to come over. I want to have an amazing time. I want to be here with you guys intentionally. I want to look you in the eyes and be the goddess, right? We're in there. We're so intentional. But the boundaries are like, let's say maybe you're going through something with an ex that I don't want to speak about this and I don't want to go here about this right and and sharing that and then also sharing like my boundaries are like no name-calling or anything like that like those are extreme things but they're your line in the sand if this gets crossed I exit the space you know and

I'm willing to work on a relationship but these are the boundaries and having you know like for instance like you and I know like in your reflector talk a little bit of human design but you know I I have some open spots too and it's just important for me like I'm here to be really optimistic I'm really here to elevate consciousness I have a big big big vision in the world like I want to make a big impact. But in the world that we're in right now, there's a lot happening. There's a lot of wobbliness. There's a lot of also, I feel like fear being projected in the news. It's a bunch of lies. Like these are my opinions. So in my family, my boundaries are that when you're in my space, we are not discussing certain things that's happening in the world or certain things,

because I have a very strong sense about that because I will get affected about it too right everybody's impending doom the world's gloomy you should know your reflector it's like oh my god and you take that on right so in my relationships people know my standards not just the way I'm treated but also kind of conversations that I'm in I I'm not about having lack, you know, the world's ending, every human's horrible. Like, those are just not the conversations. So I have conversations with my family so that we can have a present, amazing family time that's about us and what's happening in this house and not what's happening in the outside world.

But having those conversations before you get in those environments are everything. Because if people don't know your boundaries, how can they honor them? That's another thing we do. on the outside world, right? But having those conversations before you get in those environments are everything. Because if people don't know your boundaries, how can they honor them? That's another thing we do. We just think that we expect people to know, but we don't actually tell them. Or a lot of women have a lot of issues where like, these are my boundaries, da-da-da-da, but then they happen and they don't enforce them because they're afraid to be the mean one or the not nice one. And so that's something else we have to work on.

But boundaries are important and you've got to sit down and know what are your boundaries? How are you willing to be the mean one or the not nice one. And so that's something else we have to work on. But boundaries are important, and you've got to sit down and know what are your boundaries, how are you willing to be treated, and what's the line in the sand where you would leave a relationship, you would leave an environment. I think in God is Cool we talked about even racism. I'm not even okay with racist jokes, because I believe that's how the subconscious paradigm of racism keeps getting circulated collectively,

is that we still think that some of the stuff is like funny even if it's a joke my friends and my family know my boundaries even if it's a joke i will exit the environment and if you continue to be this way we will not be friends because i do not believe in that i don't want to hear jokes i don't want to think anything about that is funny and so i have strict boundaries like that and same with my friendships i have boundaries with my own friends. We don't talk about other friends. That's like a no-no. Because really, like, if you talk about other friends, I know you talk about me. So it's just you have to know as a person what's my standard, what is, like, the best that I could feel and be treated like.

That's like the golden gate. But then it's like what's the line in the sand? Where am I going to communicate to people that if they behave this way, speak this way, or treat me this way, that I actually exit the relationship for good or exit the environment. And then you have to communicate that. And that's something we have to communicate. And then we also have to uphold. And then people will respect you. This is how I've gotten so much respect in my life is because I know what they are, I'm very vocal, I communicate them, and then I will enforce them if anything happens. But at this point, people don't even cross my boundaries ever. I think when you get to a place where you hold high standards,

you treat people well, you're very effective at communicating your boundaries, it's like people don't even cross them anymore. And this reflects us. When you treat you like not good people think that's okay to treat you that way and then they don't care about your standards this is why we talked a lot about in goddess code about being a woman of high standards and how we communicate how we treat ourselves because how we treat ourselves shows other people how to treat us and if you treat yourself last, you're mean to yourself, you don't practice self-care, you always put yourself last.

People do not feel bad about giving you crumbs and they do not feel bad about crossing your boundaries because they're like, I watched you do it to you, so why would I honor that, right? So very important. What's your boundaries? What are your ideal high energetic standards? And then communicate them with people.

And when they happen, you have to have the courage and the bravery to actually enforce them, to actually step outside of the house so that people know you are the real deal serious here. And that's how that respect will be earned as well. I love that. And I was taking notes as you were speaking. I'm still sitting down with myself to do this, like define your boundaries for the holidays with the fam. Because I feel like it's almost like, you know,

you stop into a bear trap and like, shit, I didn't know there was a bear trap there. You know, it's like, that's how it feels kind of like if you don't communicate what is like a no for you. Like, oh, I'm not not gonna talk about these topics and that topics like hey can you respect that if not i'm gonna exit you know i'm gonna leave i'm not gonna be here and then really like you said enforcing them and i think for me especially with families right and boundaries um the last time things got heated i actually stood up and left you know that was the first time I walked off

on the farm because I was just like I'm not gonna be sitting here listening to you talk about me in a way that I don't like yes and I'm just I'm I I just stood up and I left and that was the first time I experienced my anger rising in me. I'm like, oh, cool. I have this emotion too. And it's not dangerous. Awesome. I'm not going to die from it.

Yes. But then after that, I was like, okay, so that's a clear no. And going into the family holidays, I'm going to make a phone call and just put the line in the sand and say, hey, if this is how you're gonna speak to me, I'm not gonna tolerate that. Again, I'm gonna walk off on you again. See, it happened before. So I'm just saying to you, so you know, right? And so I love that. It's so important to define that for yourself. Yeah, that's it's such a beautiful message, right? Because we're not even in December, guys, we're like two days away. And now's the time to really get clear. Okay. And this could be a great way to set up your new year

to start right now. I believe momentum starts right now. So if you sat down and been like, okay, how do I how am I going to treat myself? What are my boundaries? And then call those people up. If you know that you've had a hard time with certain family members, call them up and be like, hey, we're getting together in a couple weeks. I wanted to set some precedents and context here. This is how I feel. These are my boundaries. And what are your boundaries? And let's honor them.

And then I'm so happy that you walked out and that your family knows that now you're someone to take seriously right because a lot of people do this this is where women have a lot of issues they have the boundaries but they do not enforce them they won't get up because they're afraid of like everybody hating them all the fears and so it's like you've got to also enforce them and you know i think you mentioned something about bumping into things or maybe i did but like you know a of our boundaries, we don't find them out until we bump into stuff. We didn't even know we needed a boundary somewhere. And in business, we learn that the hard way. It's like, oh, okay, this is why I should redo my terms here.

This is why I need to have this conversation, right? Because sometimes it is about trial and error. And sometimes things will happen, and you'll be like okay this is the boundary but then once you know you've got to go and communicate it to people and then hold it and hold that standard and I promise you the more you are someone who holds your boundaries and you raise your standards for how you treat yourself and other people people will respect you and I'm one of those people who I'm like I don't like hear people to admire me I want to be someone who is respected where they're like i know this woman i would never

blah blah blah because i respect her and because i reciprocate i treat myself so well i also treat people so well and that's like you know it's that reciprocation there like you said when you have you know difficult situation where people are saying shit about you online or whatever you know something comes up some trigger and some projections um you have to come in terms of the fact that not everyone will like you and even if it's your own family and i think it's just i got me you know i'm i'm still here you know i i love myself i can treat myself i can be my own mom and dad at the same time but like come in terms of not fearing a relationship to be lost in a way because I know I got myself at the same time and also if people don't respect me or love me enough to care about me to respect boundaries then it doesn't matter really it's not worthy for me to

keep that relationship going no and families and families are tough, right? I will say I have someone in my family that is going through a bit of a psychosis, drug-related. And, you know, my family tried doing intervention, I'll just tell you a little bit. And now it's a lot of projection onto me just for trying to help where I'm being slandered all over the Internet. And people are like sending me stuff and they're like you're not bothered by this and the reason I don't get bothered is because it's a projection it's something that someone has to work within themselves they're not ready and I mirror that back to people and so then they project that it's really your fault and this is the reason when we know it's not and so I don't get offended

I have become so strong especially being in this industry almost five years that like literally like and I will say like the only people that project on me are people who like don't know me people who just misunderstand me but it's never been from a client or someone in my world it's just someone from the outside right and a lot of projections are literally me just being like this is what you should work on and then it's like and so you got to be okay with it and it's okay but I find a lot of projections are literally me just being like, this is what you should work on, and then it's like, and so you've got to be okay with it, and it's okay, but I find a lot of people get really triggered. They go do the work, and then they end up coming back,

and things will be okay, but it's okay. It's going to come with it. This is why emotional intelligence is everything. Hold the pressure. Hold the tension. The more you can do that and still lead yourself like a leader, even when you're angry, and you have the right to write someone could be slamming you all over the place you have the right to be angry but is it worth it is it worth compromising everything you've built in who you are as a person

for that one moment where you are really angry and it's clouding your judgment and your wisdom and this is why I'm like is it worth it compromising this no it's not and then you just take space and you understand people come and go. Some people stay with us for a lifetime. Some people come for seasons. And it's all beautiful and it's all flowy. But my heart goes out to you. And I think you're going to be A-OK.

I'm fine. I'm OK. I'm good. Thank you so much for that. And yeah, I understand how you feel. And I'm sorry to hear that. But I think you're strong enough much for that. And yeah, I understand how you feel. And I'm sorry to hear that. But I think you, you know, you're strong enough to handle that. And you're just given just as much as you can handle as well.

I believe that, you know. So of course you can handle this, you know. Of course you're going to be okay. And, you know, projections or not, I think what's most important is to, and I learned this a long time ago. Like my peace is so so important to me like i'm not giving that away like as long as i'm happy in zen and peace people trying to mess with that like no thank you like you you guys you know you need to just stay out of this right that's how i feel really yeah that's so important your space and

your happiness and your peace that's it at the end of the day we're all sovereign humans right and we just got to be able to be happy alone and know that like we can't have attachments to people we just can't some people go and come and flow back and you just got to trust people's own life pattern but not make it mean anything about you That's the thing we do is we take a projection. We think, oh my God, is it me? Did I do this? And it's like, no, right? Like this is somebody else that you're mirroring back to what they need to work on.

And you just got to trust their path. And that's it. I think for, especially me, like being reflector and we can go to the human design factories, but I'm like people project for me for everything yeah yeah and i'm a six two so the two line is a projection field too right and i've known that my whole life because it'll be just like literally someone blamed me that the fact that the cat died like five years 20 years ago like i was like 10 i don't even know like you didn't mean just silly stuff sometimes but um you know very well too too, as being a reflector, like, you reflect back the environment, like, the community, right?

So in your family, you're reflecting back things that your family has to work on. But then they're projecting it back onto you, right? Because you're literally taking in everything. And so as a reflector, if anybody has an open emotional storeplex that'slexus that's in like human design like we take in people's emotions and we amplify them right and then sometimes we make it mean that there's something wrong with us but it's like no if you just took space for you and you know this right as soon as you get out of a space that was making you feel really bad it's like the emotions go away but it's crazy how that you can be near

people's auras and all of a sudden feel Everything and it's so like strong and it makes me feel like there's something wrong with you We actually get even more angry than the person that's angry that we're taking on that energy, which is so wild, right? So there that's why I love you and teaching human design now and understanding that half the world is walking around projecting Broadcasting 24 7 their emotions and then half of us open one and you're open and i'm open we're taking it in and we're amplifying it and so for the people that have open emotional surplus it's so crucial you have space to be completely alone and knowing

you're emotional that has nothing to do with you we're actually supposed to be cool cucumbers when we're in zen right that's actually our natural alignment. It's the moment that we're very manic, anxiety. Like, it's because we just walked into an aura of someone that's defined, that's projecting, broadcasting their energy, and we're taking it in. In my house, we have four people that are open and then two kids that are defined. And I will tell you, as soon as they're going through something, they walk in a room and all of a sudden, like, I get angry.

It's the wildest thing. And I know, like, some people as they're going through something, they walk in a room and all of a sudden, like, I get angry. It's the wildest thing. And I know, like, some people are not open to human design yet, but it's been pretty much of a game changer in my family, too, to understand, like, okay, now people who define emotional storeplexes, we're broadcasting their waves all the time, 24-7, need to be more radically responsible with themselves and take space, especially if they're going in a high wave, right? Like, a lot of, like, turmoil to not go projected on other people. And then for us, we're open. If we're naturally supposed to be Zen, calm, we can actually have a still mind and be calm. It's an understanding that like when we're not feeling good, it's because we've surrounded ourselves with the wrong people. You as a reflector, you know you're in alignment when your environments make you feel happy and at peaceful and at Zen. You know when you're out of, you know you're in alignment when your environments make you feel happy and at peaceful and at zen. You know when you're out of alignment, when you're depressed, despair, think that there's something wrong.

And that's the same thing for me. And it's just an understanding like, oh my god, I was just totally absorbing someone's stuff. Let me go take space alone. So it comes back, all of us again need emotional intelligence. Whether you know your human design or not, we're all either broadcasting, projecting our emotions onto people, or we are taking them and thinking that there's something wrong. And it's like, that doesn't work. Everybody needs to take space. As a 6'2", I'm like here really showing people, I'm like, take space for yourself. It's okay to be alone. It's okay to be a hermit. It's okay. And that will make you so healthy and more consciously aware of just who you are and how you're supposed to naturally feel

and that's such a big thing to like actually focus on imagine if everyone knew like their human designs and also emotional intelligence and be like i i can i can see your world where they're like okay sorry I'm just I tend to project a lot so if you are reflecting okay cool so if you take that it's not about you just like letting you know okay I imagine if that would be our world I laugh because like it's it's so woo but if my story you guys know like I came from the corporate world so it was really weird I said first start talking about manifesting you know I was like corporate

world to this and now I'm like teaching human design but it's so funny I have like a bunch of clients who are watching with like their corporate husbands and their doctors and they're like this is better than like the Myers-Berg like personality this is better they're like holy crap right especially the ones who have the the defined emotion so because they're like this is why I'm always emotional I'm like yeah people if you ever look at your design people who have like that emotional solar plexus defined like those people will never not have emotions they go through waves all day long they're the ones that think that they literally are bipolar i feel like those are

people that end up being the most medicated but they're literally going through waves you would have to look at your gates to see what gates but they're walking around constantly like from one moment they're happy for no reason another moment they're super sad and despair and they're just like this like in a storm right and so just understanding that is so my god like it's changed like my teenagers will both have like in a mind defined one like they're understanding that they're like oh my god is this why I always thought I had bipolar or something I'm like you don't bipolar and then i teach them the tools it just means take space you're in a high it's cynical it's temporary it's going to go in this is why all

the teaching goddess code they they work for people who are open and they work for people who are defined because it's like okay what do i need to do to process this and what do i need to do to make sure i'm radically responsible the fact that i'm going through a huge hormonal like huge wave so maybe i shouldn't walk in the aura. People are open and broadcast that for everybody to take on. Right. And then vice versa. It's like if you're open and you know, you're not feeling good.

You know, Dominic, if you're not feeling good, it's like I need to take space out of the auras of everybody around me and then I will realign with how I'm supposed to feel right now. So that's been really game changing too. So my like I have four spots that are open on my church so the emotional solar plexus and then my head in my mind and it's so funny so this is why like I forget but actually we're actually really wise because we're so open to universal knowledge like I was just doing a training on this I'm like people hate that they have a open mind and open head

they're like okay so this is why I struggled in school they just can't memorize things I'm gonna like yes but the thing is is actually they have an open mind and an open head. They're like, okay, so this is why I struggled in school, because I just can't memorize things. And I'm like, yes, but the thing is, is actually you're an open channel to all universal knowledge. People who are defined, they think one way. So I have people that surround me, they think one way, they see through one filter, through one lens. You and I, oh my gosh, it doesn't matter where we go, we have an inflow of like, oh, this is one way to do it,

this is another perspective. And in the world, it's like there is not one way to do something not one way to look at something and so I what I've loved about the Human Design Program is I'm giving people the gifts of the spots where they're open and they think there's something wrong with them and it's like you're got you have access to the God portal like like divine channel to come through you with all the wisdom through time and space I don't know if you have any feelings of like, sometimes you feel like you can see in the future or in the past, but you are completely open. So you are literally a vessel through where all knowledge comes through.

And so I like, I give like people who are like struggling in school. I'm like, my God, 70% of the world is open head, but we have a system that defines our self-worth and our intelligence based on memorization through school i wonder why people either burnt out become overachievers or they literally think that they're so dumb and not made for the system that they have low self-worth and completely quit and so i've been teaching this lately and people are like oh my god this makes so much sense but there's gifts there's pain in your open center but there open center, but there's so much wisdom. There's so much gifts. And you're not stuck. You're fluid.

We're fluid, baby. Like, info, the way we process things, the way we feel. And it's just got to, like, know. The more consciously aware that we are of ourselves and of other people, I swear it's been a game changer for me in my relationships, too. It's just like, oh, this is why I'm thinking this way. Oh, this is why I'm feeling this way. This is not me, but it's awareness awareness awareness instead of like what we talked about in goddess code is like when you're feeling really bad what do we tend to do there's something wrong so let me like tap into my

impending due mind that creates scenarios that aren't even like real and then we we get in that state of panic and we start manifesting things we don't want but it's like no I'm feeling something really off this is not me all I need to do is at some point today take space for myself and realign with who i am and just understand not feeling good but i'm going to hold this pressure and tension in my body until i get space to kind of process it and not make it mean anything don't make your emotions mean anything you're not your emotions they're constant they're fluid and if you take space you'll get back in alignment. I love that.

And I wanted to add here when you said about open head and how open we are to like everything and all. I go so deep to topics that I start contradicting myself. So I don't, I can never really settle on like is this the universal truth and I'm like nope it's not because I'm digging and I'm like shit I find evidence of the opposite and I'm like oh like so it's never really stopping no and this is why like everything's apparent everything's duality everything is duality there is not one way right like so there's duality and everything that's just understanding that and i know what you mean because sometimes i'm like wait a minute but there

is this this is also possible right but you live by your real truths right there it doesn't mean that open heads and defined um open ajas can't have fixed beliefs because i do like i'm very well aware that we create everything we are are the creators of our life. We are responsible for our happiness. Like there are things that I stand by and then other places I'm totally open. And when I learn something and I'm like, oh, this works better, then that's perfect. Right. And then I'm open to something else and then I'll change it. And that's okay too.

I was telling people in Coach Academy, like my clients that I teach to be coaches, I'm like, never online say you're definite in things you know like where you're like you should never do a free sales call because truthfully if you're starting those are great to do consultations so you can get like a testimonial to share right so we don't want to say that because I have a lot of you end up being like I used to say that now I actually believe in this and I've changed my mind we're allowed to change your mind you have your truths I have my truths. And then I'm always open to different ways of looking at something

because there's not one person that's the same. That's why defined heads, if there's 30% of them, if the world's philosophy is calm your mind, that doesn't work for them, and we make them feel like there's something wrong with them. So see what I mean? So there's not even – I wrote a post a couple weeks ago. I wrote a post where, like, this is so brilliant because people are like I wrote about how there's not one-size-fits-all solution philosophy to

anything and what I say to people is that even if you don't take on my truth you'll learn yours through contrast because this is how we learn we either learn validation I I agree Alina that's totally true with me or you believe the opposite which is you learn through contrast. But either way, you learn your truth. And so even in all my programs, I say, take what you like and leave the rest. But either way, you're going to learn through me, either through validation or contrast. But whether it's contrast or not, you're going to learn what your truth is, and that's what we want.

We want to know what really is true for us and what works for us and keeping that open. And if we get to change our mind. That's fine. Yeah, I love that. And I agree with you. There are certain things that I believe as well. Like you said, we are responsible for our life and happiness and all of that. But of course, there are certain areas when I'm open minded.

I'm like, OK, that's true. And that's also true. But I also can see sometimes both sides. And I'm like in the middle as an observer. I'm like, OK, that's true. And that's also true. But I also can see sometimes both sides. And I'm like, in the middle, that's an observer. I'm like, okay. Be an observer. Yeah. Keyword.

That's something I was telling everybody. I'm like, even if you're a defined head, be the observer of your thoughts. And just witness them. Never be like, this is the true. This is what it's supposed to be. But just really observe them. Because if you're open head, and I'm an open-headed, or anybody else is listening to this that understands human design,

you're going to take in people's thoughts and ideas and actually think they're your own. So this is, again, why take space. And as a hermit, I literally teach people, I'm like, it's so good to be alone. If you really want to know what you're thinking, how you really feel, like what's your truth, you've got to be alone. You've got to be out of everybody's auras and tap into like what is your truth here. But we're supposed to be open because like I said, I can only teach open heads how to meditate calmly, but a defined head needs a meditation that actually stimulates their mind because their mind will never be quiet.

So if you're a defined head, you got to make peace with the philosophy that like, no, I will never quiet my mind because it's An act of mine that's going going going versus an open head We're like we can actually be Zen and calm and observe our thoughts and just be quiet and listen to meditations But you can't say the same thing to a defined head This is why I've loved bringing a little more human design into my work because it's actually help people like okay What works for me is not going to work for you, but I have another solution So what's great about you being a reflector is that like you're gonna be

attracting clients whether they know they're human design or not you're gonna know that some people are gonna need this philosophy and some people are gonna need this philosophy but what's great about us is that because we can actually mind read if you're an open head open Aja I know so cool so you can read minds you can read energy you know very well what your clients gonna need so even if it's like you're telling one client right now about something that's helpful, the next client could be completely defined, and you tell them something else that's helpful for them. That's what makes us great spiritual leaders and great mentors, in my opinion,

is because we know that no two people are the same. So me saying one thing to one person is not going to be accurate for the next person. And even in my teachings in Goddess Code, there are some things I teach I don't do for myself anymore, but I know a lot of my clients still love blah, blah, blah. And here's like breath work, for instance. I don't practice that much breath work, but I brought in a facilitator into that program, right? But again, so it's for you. It's like don't get in your head being like, oh, now I'm conflicting.

No, it's an understanding. Every human is different, so you can't teach one thing that's going to apply to every single person. But there is universal wisdom, right? Emotions are high intelligence. So there are those universal truths. And I think if you trust yourself, I always say to myself too, I will always tap into universal truth. I always pray, God, universe, thank you for this human, this soul, this client that I'm about to talk to. Let what needs to come through, come through for them and be the thing that makes them better than they came to me and that's kind of how i trust it being open is good you'll know exactly what your client needs because you won't be able to think of an idea unless you're absorbing it from

them and then you'll be like oh okay well let me decode this here actually because i can actually read your mind it's so true it's so true and um i think it makes us also to pick up on like non-verbal cues that they are not even saying like i had this conversation with one of my friends she's not even client but she was like you should be a therapist and i'm like i hear this all the time but thank you i mean it's just because I'm very observant of their issues and their problems, and I can really ask good questions back, and they're like, oh, my God. I can't believe that you're seeing it so clearly. I'm like, okay. You're reflecting.

You're literally reflecting, and so am I. So my open head and open agita literally picks up their thoughts and the way they're processing something, plus I open shoulder, plus this is why it's actually good for a coach to have this pick up their emotions I know what they're feeling I have empathy and I know what they're thinking and then I tap into my universal truth and I have it's like the wisdom comes through and that's something for you like never ever feel you're contradicting yourself it's just the fact that you're hearing different things and it's being like okay this is for this client and this is for this client but you literally tap into their thoughts their energies their feelings

their intuition and you reflect it back to them that's why what's therapist stuff therapist is usually asking you questions like oh so what you're telling me is this and so when i'm hearing this and why is therapy so powerful because it's someone reflecting back to what you're thinking. I always say this. Like, sometimes you don't need anybody to talk to. If you were just to go talk to a tree and actually speak out your mind, you would get the guidance you need. But it is helpful when you have someone who listens, reflects back,

and then can tap into some universal wisdom to, like, oh, my God, wow. But really, they're feeling healed because you're literally saying what they're already thinking, but now they're saying it out loud and you're like reflecting it back to them. So it's such a powerful gift. That's why Dominika, you're a powerful like mentor and coach for people. Like, you know exactly. Thank you. And so you are.

And so you are. It's amazing. So you know how like everybody's always like, oh, I hate being so open and all this. But no, so much wisdom. It's part of your your purpose look what you're doing with the world you work with clients of course you have these gifts to reflect everything back on them but also you have to have boundaries where you know like there's someone that does not make you feel good this is might be a not aligned relationship okay so what is what are you doing for 2024 i'm so i'm so excited and curious because i know we can go forever talk about i know there's so much to do to talk about but i'm just i just

want to wrap it up and just like see where you're headed in your in your life business like absolutely so you guys will see i'm going to be uh launching masterclass. I'm supposed to launch it this week. Just a lot of things happening. But there'll be a final masterclass. And it's going, I have the best cool name for it. But you guys will see. But it's really geared towards entrepreneurs or people who are ready to take power back in their life. The thing that I'm seeing in the world is people complaining that they don't have the resources and the money, all the stuff.

When again, I feel like victimhood doesn't help us get out of that. I believe that we have the power to create anything. I believe that as long as you're learning skills, this is why Dominique and I love to learn. The more skills you learn, the more valuable you are. Even coaches, like there are skills coaches. If you can teach people how to build a TikTok video or reels, do a VA work, like it's not about being the smartest.

It's about understanding that I have the power to make money and create anything that I want if I actually have the courage to go learn. So I'm going to be talking a lot about really tapping back into our personal power, learning the fact that, like, if I want to be a valuable person or people want to pay me, I need to go learn skills. So let me take the courage to go learn skills. Just like school. We all got educated, but for some reason now we're like, i don't want to learn anymore from a coach who could teach me how

to do social media how to sell how to build the business how to monetize my passion so it's going to be a lot about monetizing passions how to build out your social media because it is one of the greatest platforms in the world it's free we're globally connected i mean to be grateful unless you're using it like a consumer is the's the only reason people hate social media. But if you use it as a creator, I believe that people can create generational wealth, free their life, design a whole lifestyle based on their passion. I am very passionate about this. So you guys are going to love this.

This will be open to anybody. If you're an entrepreneur, you'll love this because we'll talk a lot about strategies and social media and energetics. And then I will be opening up in January. My first program is Self Master self mastery hashtag badass mode and this is the program for everybody who doesn't have the discipline and the personal power this is all about emotional intelligence too but more about like getting you to do the things you said you're gonna do at the end of the day we have the goddess she's in

charge of the emotions but we need the badass which does the things can't just think about things we need to become them we need emotions, but we need the badass, which does the things. Can't just think about things. We need to become them. We need to do them. We need to show up on social media to build it so the people can come, right? And so there'll be that program, and there'll be a social media program and a sales program. A lot of entrepreneur stuff, and then the badass self-master is going to be really for people who have a hard time honoring their words so if you have a hard time and you're still the same person every year the same resolutions i can tell you the reason you still have resolutions in new year's because you don't have the discipline and so that will be the program but stay tuned you guys will love this master class it's going to be kind of all but everything

we've talked about but more geared to taking our power back and using social media, how to build a life and the business that we really want in an organic way. Love it. I love it. Thank you so much, Alina, for sharing on the Winstomp here again. Every time you come back, I'm like, oh, girl. I love our conversations. I love our conversations too. I love it.

It's just we are flowing so well together. So thank you so much. So excited for your programs. Thank you.