Omnichannel - Why Do Some People Captivate Us? (Presence, Charisma, Self- Expression)

Episode Date: June 9, 2026

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Are you fully in it or are you helping the thing? He was fully in it like everyone was paying attention at him. He got the biggest applause from the audience. I started to use this mic mic setup for a couple of reasons. One of them being the fact that every time I was putting the mic, first of all, this is a balky mic. And if I was putting it on my dress somewhere, it would, my hair would swoosh. and rub against it. If I put it inside my clothes

and you guys, I tried so many ways and the last time I used this for recording it was making this weird popping sound. So I'm using the fur ball on top of it. Hopefully this will help improve the audio. Guys, this month on this channel, I want to talk about expression. And the reason I want to talk about expression

is because I'm running a program in June called expressed or expression program for lack of better terms. But the reason why I want to talk about expression is because I've realized that especially online, the way we express and the way we show up matters a lot. And especially now in the age of AI where people can't even tell if this is you or not, in terms of your own writing, people using AI to write comments and posts. it's so hard to tell whether or not, like, is this even you? So it's like people like, who is this person? Am I even interacting or seeing the real person? And being well expressed

and felt in your humanness is going to be what will help you get your message across. So I want to give you and start by a story. And that story was one of my friend. His name is, his name is tea. And there's something you need to know about. Like he's a very quirky nerdy guy and he has absolutely no inhibitions when it comes to dancing and singing. So many times, for example, at weddings, he can just drop on the dance floor and he would just be making the craziest moves and he would not care what you think of him whatsoever. And so we went to a wedding the other day and when we were at that wedding, there were two performances happening. And I want to found, imagine this girl brown hair, also slightly introverted, a bit shy coming with her guitar and just singing for the couple. And what happened was that she was, you know, in her guitar, her voice was actually really nice, but you could tell she was kind of nervous.

And what happened in terms of the audience reaction is that they were just having a conversation in the entire performance. They were not in the performance with her. She was kind of like a background character on stage with her guitar. And when T. stepped on the stage, he was singing perfect by at Sharon. And what happened was that he was in it. You guys, he did not hit one note in that song. He butchered the lyrics. He was kind of blah, blah, blah at some point.

But you guys, he was fully in it. Like he was committed. He was in it. He was doing it. And the audience was in it with him. Everyone's silent looking at him, cheering him on. Even when he was trying to hit notes, he couldn't. Like the audience was cheering him on.

Everyone was paying attention at him. And he got the biggest applause from the audience. And we're going to look at in this video. why and what exactly happens. So what we can see on the surface is that we have two people both on stage and one is actually technically a better performer, right? So she's a better singer. She actually brought her own guitar and she had the ability to sing and also play at the same time. You could argue that technically she was more skilled and she was actually objectively more skilled as a singer, right? But when it came to her performance, you could tell that there was just

something about it that did not quite capture attention. And when we look at tea, who butcher the lyrics, who was actually really not hitting one note of that song, the fact that he was fully immersed in it is what captivated people. And when someone is also fully in it, like not just a shy mouse with the guitar, but like fully owning it, then what we ended up feeling is this magnetic pull towards the people. Because we think, oh my God, this is the best thing, right? And it's not even about who's good or who's bad. It's about who owns all of that, right? Who fully owns their expression? It doesn't matter if it's good, bad, technically off, but you own it. Like, I own myself. I own myself. this is who I am and I'm fully in it. And that is the second part. Are you fully in it or are you

helping the thing, right? There is a difference between your attention being split because you're so nervous about how people perceive you versus you're just in the moment because when we are splitting our attention, essentially what we're doing is fragmenting our attention. And that takes us out of flow. I don't know if you ever seen someone just be so immersed. in a performance that you could tell that they are in it and I get to witness that, right? So it's not so much about having the split attention and split focus and be like, how do I look like, how do I sound like? But it's more about I'm in it and I'm fully in it and I like you witness that.

The other day, actually, just Tuesday, we had to sing in front of the class. It was like an improv comedy exercise that we do. And I think this was a second time we have done it. And obviously this is either someone who hates it or someone really loves this. Like obviously it's a mix. Like if you have this thing in front of people, you have some kind of way you feel about it, I'm sure. So this time, I remember just having a lot of people who didn't mind going into the circle. But I also noticed one thing.

First of all, when I stepped into the circle, I actually technically wanted to sing well. So I didn't just want to step into the circle and be butchering a song because that's the exercise. But some people kind of did. So some people were just getting on the circle, like getting inside of the circle to sing. And they were just like half-heartedly singing the song, right? You could tell that if you were really, really in it, that's now how. how you would be singing. But there's just something about being fully committed

to actually hitting those notes and not just making it a joke. And there's something about, I'm just going to do it, this exercise, and I'm going to get through it. Right? In your expression, when you put your all, your heart and soul into something,

versus, well, I'm going to do the exercise. Technically, you could, and even I could, like the people who put themselves into actually singing well and trying to sing really well, there's a difference, right? And the difference is their relationship with vulnerability and the relationship with their own expression, right? And I think the level and the difference is actually quite noticeable, right? Just like when we talked about someone being on stage with their guitar, technically good

singer, but very shy and I kind of don't see me, versus someone who is actually. putting it out there and just like in it, right? Like in it. Like there's just something about that commitment that is just I'm fully like I'm doing this. Right. And there is there is an energy of like doing it like fully with your full power leaning into something versus just kind of cruising and I'm doing it. And I'm sure you guys have experienced this.

Just think of a time when you went for participation trophy. when you went for, you know, I'm just, this is, I'm doing this because I have to, but I kind of don't enjoy it, but whatever I've did it. And I think to my experience, right, and whenever we do this as humans, like whenever we are kind of doing it, but like either we don't want to be seen in that expression because we don't feel safe or we are kind of halfeiting it, I think that it's a protective mechanism, right? Because then I said the bar, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, don't fail. It's my own measurement of what I think is good and what I think is bad, right? So I set my own bar and I can't fail. I lower my own expectation in terms of performance, right? Because then I go, oh, whatever, I'm just doing this thing, you know, like I'm trying this thing. It's a different vibe and different energy. We're not going to show up with that much enthusiasm. But we also cannot kind of fail, right? Because we think, oh, well, I wasn't trying that hard anyway. I was just like going back to the singing exercise.

I was just kind of like I did it because that was the exercise. I think it's such a good way to keep us protected. But also, I really fully letting ourselves be seen because if you think about it is a vulnerable state to be fully in it with your own and trying. Like it is a vulnerable state to be like that. Truly, even on a business side to show up and even to all, all your desires. In the Art of Approach program, I was teaching this program back in February earlier this year. And this is the program if you want to learn how to approach absolutely anyone

in business, anyone, and be welcomed and build a connection with people than when you reach out there, like, thank God. Part of that program was teaching them how to own their desires, you guys. Like, how do I own my desires of what I want, right? Even is to connect with people. or even if there is an outcome that I'm after. Part of the program was like getting clear on what those are and owning that, and trusting that. And I think whenever we owe something, like we own that we want something truly.

And by the way, you guys can get this program if you want to take it. It's you have all the replays bundled up with all the worksheets. It's, I'm going to put that in the description of this episode. And it also comes back to your expression, right? because when we are like, okay, I kind of want to say this, but I don't want to raffle feathers. So like, I kind of want to put myself out there and I kind of want to do this, but I kind of want to.

It's a different energy, you guys. It's a different energy that kind of want to maybe someday, oh, yeah, would be nice. Let me just put there, put that out there. And this is something I observed with myself too, because I do believe, to me, expression is an ongoing journey. and the biggest reasons I was committed and I am committed to get better at expressing myself is because the things that I want to talk about more, the things that I think matters, I really wanted to be really good at communicating that to people. Because I wanted it to get to people.

I wanted it to help people, right? That was my intention. So to me, everything else was getting comfortable speaking on camera, getting on a podcast and running that for the past five years and getting comfortable talking to industry leaders or getting comfortable singing in front of people getting on stage, right? To me, those were all steps towards how do I become more and more fully expressed so that what I want to say, I think it matters will get to the right people. And this is exactly what we're going to do inside of the expression program. You can come in for $47 as a starter. The price of the

as the whole program unfolds. So if you want to come in to work on that because you have something that you want to say and you're ready to stop into fully owning that, that is a program that will help you get there. Okay? Link in the description. Once you have secured your seat, you will get an email from me immediately and it will point to a group where a program will take place. You will have lifetime access to this round. I am excited to be seeing you. you inside of the program. Cheers. Bye. Thanks for, thanks for listening and watching this one. I'll see you guys very soon.