On Display with Melissa Gorga - Makes Me Wonder (w/ Joe Gorga)

Episode Date: September 29, 2022

Melissa welcomes back the wonderful Joe Gorga onto the show to talk about a certain singer's recently uncovered DM's, an embarrassing mishap at the Gorga's new house, and why some texts are just better left unsent.  Melissa and Joe also discuss the hot topic of "yellow flags" in a relationship; things that aren't immediate deal breakers, but can become big ones down the road.  This week's sponsor:  Chime - Credit Builder Visa Credit Card: chime.com/melissa

I want to be honest here. I'm so afraid in this woman. It's this one. She's got my Happy Thursday everybody and welcome to another episode of on display with me Melissa Gorga. Whatever. Did you say whatever? Whatever. I brought my hobby along today. I want to do this. I'm so mad at you. Why? Whatever. Don't say whatever. Say hi darling. Say hi to everyone. First of all. Hi guys, I like them. I like them. I don't like you. Say hi to the listeners. No, I don't know. How about the Joes and hers, whatever? No, no, this is my podcast. Get you.

I really think it's yours. I imagine you took it all. It's over. Mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, me, me. No, what's mine is mine and what yours is mine. We had a fight one time. She's like, I'll take it all. I will. I will take it all. I will take it all. I will take it all. You have nothing.

I will. I will. I will. Try me. I will take everything. I will. I will. I want one thing and I can't even have it.

I come home. What? Don't say you can't have it. Nobody wants to hear it. Listen, I always get, why, how do you keep your relationship tight, right? Cause I come home and I go and I look at it and I do something funny. I'm like, hmm, hmm.

And I let her know. Wait, wait, wait, run that by me again. I look at it and I look, as I look at it, I look down on it like up and down and I kind of give it like a little like wink and I'm like, yeah, like, hmm. Oh my God, it looks to you like oh yeah. Oh yeah. They know what I do. What is that a warning? And that's like 18 years late. I'm just letting her know like listen, let's get it on.

You know, and I go to the butcher. No, no, you just walked in the door. You're supposed to like, first of all, when you walked in the door to today. Boy, wait, let me finish. So I go, I look at her and I give it a look and then I go to pinch her and went to go picture. She swings and hits my hand. She's like, absolutely not. This is where I'm going to call you selfish. This is why I'm going to take it. No, no, no, no, no, no, I'm going to correct you when you're wrong. Geno got sent home from school. Sick, right? So he was here. I was running around. I was at building

departments. I was doing stuff for the house. I ran to the food store. No, no, no, no, no, no. I ran to the food store on the way home, right? I was making dinner currently when you walked in and also giving Gino an at home COVID test, which he passed, by the way, everyone. It's negative. He's just had like a little fever and he doesn't feel good. So I just take precautions. I'm doing all of this and this guy is like trying to grab on me when he just walks in the door like, hey, I'm like, are you kidding me? No, what do you want me to do? I at least listen. She went to the building department today, guys, because we're building the house,

but I'm building a bunch of other stuff too, right? So I got a lot of pressure, I got a lot of work, and my job is extremely hard and stressful. So she's dealing with it a little bit now because we're building this house. And I'm taking it very personal. She's in the bad mood, right? So I come home, it's all over for me

because I just dealt with 13 hours of hell. So when I come home, I'm gonna be happy. I'm in a bad mood every day now. Right, and everyone asks. If I can't, it's so much work. And everyone asks me, how do you keep a relationship so tight and ongoing? This is how you do it, because no matter how hard your day

is you come home and you forget, I forget it. Well, as soon as I walk through that door I forget of all my troubles and my problems. Whatever. Well, why? Because you have a girl standing there that you are just in love with. No, it's not about that. And you're like, oh my god, I forgot I want to say love. Yeah, you know, but it's like, all right, let's talk about this. You know, I've had, and it's like eating at a restaurant, right? You got a restaurant once, twice, 10 times, 15. I've eaten at that restaurant. Okay.

18,000 times, but you know, it's a very high-end five-star Michelin. What's that called? The high-end's get born and tired, and you know, you're like, I ate this meat flamin' down. I ordered it six thousand times, it's the same one. Let me add some juice on it.

Oh my gosh. Catch up to poppy juice sauce. All right. Let me add some juice on it. Oh my gosh. Catch up to poppy juice sauce. All right. So this is what's getting us. Pepper corn sauce, but whatever. But so what you gotta do is you keep it fresh. So I came home. I looked at her cute because I know she went to the building department. She was in the bad mood. I look at her. Hey, I wink. I grow to grab her.

No. All right. And then I start thinking, then I start thinking of Adam Mulavine, right? And, you know, I heard he got caught text in everybody. He's texting all these girls. And I'm like, what's a poor guy?

He's probably did the same thing. The poor guy. What? Probably careful. First of all, he hasn't been caught yet, by the way, like actually with a woman. I don't think they have any proof that he was with a woman. But he was definitely flirtatious and multiple DMs and text messages.

They did, because he probably was. Are you saying big deal? So are you saying that in our world of worlds, I'm married also, right? That it's okay for you to go ahead and DM and text other women who cares? I'm not answering the question. The problem is this.

Look at me. Look at me in my eyes right now, Joe. You will get so far. I'm not looking at it right now. I'm going to be honest here. I'm so afraid it is woman. It's just, she's got my Instagram on. She's got my Instagram on my text messages. You know my friends say, yo, when I see you, it's like the mafia.

We talk like the mom. They're like, when I see you, we'll talk. We talk and go. And every time my friends text me, they're like, what's up? Melissa, you know, no, but it's a, I'm afraid it. Sometimes I send the text. I'm not read your text. Yeah. Who knows? I guarantee you every text. No, I don't know. Something I should know. I don't do nothing. I mean, Adam Levine obviously had a little bit more, you know, freedom. The poor guy probably came

home from work. He's probably, he went into the studio and he tried to come up with all these songs and he was having a bad day and he just couldn't do it. So then he came home and he went to touch his, what is she, is she a model? She's beautiful. Yeah. I mean, I don't know. The poor guy just maybe, maybe didn't do anything. Maybe just want that to feel something like, Hey, you're hot. You know, sometimes you just need it. So is it okay? So then that's a question. Is it okay to sex people, right? Like you're sexing because that gets it out of your system and you're flirting back and forth.

So you're telling me that if you don't want to cheat physically and physically touch another woman, but it's okay to have that flirty moment through like sexing or DMs because that gets it, like you need attention. For me that gets it like you need attention. For me, that's saying you need attention. You're sometimes you do things that I don't accept, too. You've got a hot guy on your thing, right?

And you go and send it, no, I don't know. You'll see a guy and you send a toy or your cousin's on quarantine. I just found that. And I'm like, he's talking about, oh God, he's talking about the group chat I have with my girl cousins and my sisters We call it quarantine cousins because during the quarantine we just text each other on this quarantine cousins all day and One time, you know, we talk girl stuff one time. He's he's a famous guy by the way one time I Picture Zuggles how I'm looking me. You should be sending pictures. She is not ugly.

But I sent his picture through to quarantine cousins. And like I even ratted on myself and told you. I'm like, she did. That's how I know. I told him myself. So is that is that cheating? Well, look, like these are things we could also talk about. I know.

This is also things we can talk about. Or like when you're dating someone, when there's a yellow flag, right? So it's like, you know when there's red flags and your friend's dating someone and you're like, wow, this is not gonna work, they are horrible person, this is a huge red flag. But what about when you get a half a red,

and it's a yellow, right? It's a yellow flag, and you're like, So what does that mean? He's not horrible, or she's not horrible, but this is like a little like, they don't agree on something. It could be politics. It could be the way that they decide, like, one likes to go to dinner, one doesn't like to go to dinner, or one's messy and one's clean and one's very organized,

one's not. Like little things that are yellow flags when you're dating, right? That you're like, we don't really vibe here but like well I dated this girl right and she was so hot you dated a girl before you and but she really she really was crazy which what was it one of your ex-fiance possibly oh so there was more besides the two fiancés of course there was I'm wonderful that's why I'm so good today because I've had too much my stomach full. My stomach is full. Oh my god. You know, but no, I dated this one girl. She was so hot. She really was and you know, no disrespect to you. She was. Where's your meter?

But she was where? She was and she was great in bed and everything and let me finish Where did you meet her but she was sloppy? She was sloppy, and I went to her house and she was kind of like dirty And she had this dog and this cat and the cat will lead the food on the floor, and I'm like, oh, you want to clean that up? I can't believe you're telling me this story because I'm telling that, that was a yellow flag for me because I just couldn't give past. I could have passed. I could have passed. You aren't the type that you couldn't be with a messie girl. I couldn't do it, man.

It was just wouldn't. So you know, you give that advice to Antonia sometimes. Like sometimes Antonia's room looks like a damn bomb. Hit it. Like literally whatever she wore in the last four days is on her floor. And like her water bottles upside down and her beds on made.

And like, we used to always like make sure her room was perfect and I refused you now. I'm like, nope, it's not gonna be perfect for you. Like you're gonna walk in there and make it perfect or you're gonna live like that. And like her wet towels on the floor or whatever it is. And you know Joe's advice to her all the time. His advice is like, how are you gonna get married

and get a man good? So if you're messy and you're dirty, they're not going to look at you or talk to you because that's your true like pet peeve. Well, because if I go, if you, if you meet a girl and you're like, wow, she's beautiful, she's nice, she's great. But then you go to her house or her apartment and it's a disaster. And you're like, holy shit. Is that something that what if you really vibe with someone and you're obsessed with them? And they're, do you take something like, and this is, this is a question for my listeners to, I mean, if you, and I'm sure this has happened to you guys out there that are single and that are dating, if you're dating someone and everything seems so right, right?

Perfect. You're attracted. The dates are good, he's kind, but like he's just, they're a hot mess. Or the girls are hot mess, you walk into their apartments or even their cars and they are clusterfucks of a mess. Like shit everywhere, like almost like borderline dirty. Like what do you do? Does that turn you off instantly or?

It turns me off. For you, that would be like a deal breaker. Listen, yeah, I had to hang out for a little while because the sex is pretty good, you know, so I hung out for a while. That's it. You know, it was. Joe, Joe, who talks this way? Can I discuss what I've had in life?

Absolutely not. I don't know. Who you dated or who you have searched for. Oh, oh, okay. I don't want to hear it, please. Okay, but I got to hear it because I'm a confident woman and guess what, I don't care who you had before me, honey, because obviously it didn't work out and you're right here. Look. Okay, but I got to hear it because I'm a confident woman. And guess what? I don't care who you had before me, honey, because obviously it didn't work out. And you're right here. Look where you are. I don't want to hear it because then that's one of my

other yellow flags. What then I get then I get to be like, wait, I got to get a baby you crab. You know, I want to kiss you and I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait, she kissed this other guy. Oh my god. You're one of those. You know, we're not breaking news here. We all know Joe was like this. So he's just confirming it all. You know, when we get off the podcast, he likes to make me, Tannie married mother Teresa. When we get up, get off this podcast, we're going to go upstairs or whatever. She's like, yeah, how did she do it? You know, she'll put your bus in my pocket. I'm just not afraid to talk about it. I'll be like, which girl are you talking about? Confidence. I have come. I have

come because I can talk about it. You know, I'll be like, which girl are you talking about? I have confidence. I have confidence. I have confidence. Because I can talk about it. You know? I'll be like, which girl are you talking about? Yeah. Yeah. Is the piece of plastic in your wallet doing enough for you? Because with the secured chime credit builder visa credit card, you can start building credit with everyday purchases and on time payments. That's the magic of credit builder.

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No, actually, we were the single woman to dinner last the other couple nights ago We we have some guy friends that are single. We have we know single people believe or not, right? We we come across a lot of people that are single A lot of my hairdressers make up artists. There's a lot of people we know What about when you know the guy's really happy and he's with the girl and like no But any any takes her to dinner and he's really happy and he's with the girl and like, no, but any, any takes her to dinner and he's really committing to her, it seems like they're very like monogamous, they have a relationship,

but like he has to constantly DM other girls. Like, and he has to constantly like get more attention. What, why does that happen so much with, with a lot of stories I hear in relationships? Well, because I'm gonna tell you something because today it's a different world. These phones, you know, you could just DM anyone. You get like, you know, back then, remembering you would cell phones just came out or when I was younger, there was beepers and it was just so.

Oh my God. I used to be pound side one, one, four, three, one, four, three. That means I love you. I love you. No, I used to be like 69, 69, 69, come over. I know you did. And I have like, oh, I love you. I love you. I used to be like 69 69 I know you did I know you did I'm coming that was the cold how attractive. Oh, how did you get me? 169 69 I'm like mommy. I got to go play with the friends. I'll be right back mommy. I'm gonna go play football What a loser mom. I'm gonna go study at

Uh-huh, what a loser. I'm going to go study at Brian's house. We got to study. We got a big test tomorrow. Okay. But get back to the facts. So this is not about all about you. Okay, so listen, back it, it's different back than it was beepers. Cellphones just came out now.

Look at the technologies and say, so I think you could be a, there could be a woman in California, LA and you just posted some, she hit you up, she's like, you're hot, and you're like, okay, you're hot too. You just start talking, it's a text. It's insane. So it's so easy. And I believe today, it's just so much women or more like men, women hit on men today.

A lot more than they used to. There are a lot more like responsive. I feel like they're more into yeah, it's it's honestly it's not just about the man hitting on the women anymore the women also hit on the men a lot of you guys tell me that the women are worse than the men. It's more aggressive. Yeah, it is more aggressive today going out like as a man you go out and if you're if you're married you got to you got a ring on and women just, they send drinks to you.

Like I used to send drinks when I was a single-tool girl. They'd send you over drinks, then they come over and they sit down next to you and they're very aggressive and they're like, oh my God. You told me married women are the worst. Of course they are. I mean, you know, they're just, because a lot of married people. Because are they bored? You know what they're just looking for like extra attention?

Is it you know what is it? You know what happens when married people that you just get married and then kids come and involved in life and struggles and everybody just thinks like okay It it becomes a routine and I'm with this man or I'm with this woman. Okay, it's gonna be the same bullshit. And I think it's so wrong. Like I cherish our relationship. Now that I know you 18 years, I'm like, oh my God, this is my baby, 18 years.

Like I just wanna keep going. You know, so I don't get to the point where... Well, not all men are like you, right? So there's a lot of men out there that literally still want to go out and they need extra attention. Like I'm saying, like the DMs, like Adam Levine, exactly what he did, right?

Like he's, we don't know that he went out and touched another woman, but we know that he definitely wanted to tell another woman that she was beautiful, that she was hot, that he was getting compliments from someone else. Like, why do people in relationships stray that way when it's like sexting, I will call it?

Is that some type of like, is it a safe haven for someone to get attention without actually crossing the full line? Like, maybe that's what it is. And that's, to me, it's still cheating. Like, if you're texting another woman, Joe, and you aren't telling her how beautiful she is right? Yep, and how her body is banging and like add a control. Oh my god

I'm just saying to me you might go ahead you might as well go the full mile because I'm so afraid of you're ready not gonna have a house to live in I can imagine a Melissa saw and there's shit all over the press. Joe Gorgas said your body is banging and he wants to hook up. Melissa, I'll be dead. I come home. I'm walking to the room. Bang. Shot dead. Joe Gorgas died. Suddenly, she'll still stage it. You like there was a robbery. Came in the house. Feel like a Lorraine above it all over again up in here. No, honestly, listen, is it right? No, I wouldn't like it if you were doing it.

No, I mean, but. So there's the thing, like if I'm texting someone telling another guy, like those abs, damn, like that face of yours, like, so is that cool with you? No, it's not cool. So let's go like this now. And Adam Levine's relationship now does his wife is it his wife? Yes, it's okay does his wife say

Just that she say now like hey, what am I doing wrong and let me step up Let's have a conversation because I do love you. You're my husband. I'm pregnant Maybe I'm maybe I'm not giving you too much attention What if she's doing nothing wrong and he's an asshole I've given you too much attention. What if she's doing nothing wrong and he's an asshole? There's always that. There was always that. We cannot say like, this man is looking for attention

from someone else because this woman did something wrong. You see, I love you. No, we can't ever say that because that's not the case. It's, if I'm married, I have to be, the key is to be happily married, I guess, because if you're not, you're gonna stray a little bit possibly, or you might not stray, but you're gonna have an attitude or something.

It's gonna say, like if I, I just wanna be happy too. If I go to work and struggle all day, I gotta come home, you gotta give me, and I gotta give you, not just you, I have to make you feel like a woman. I have to make you feel sexy, I have to make you feel loved.

I give you everything that I want. So if I know that like if we're going out, like if you go out to a restaurant and you a man comes out and hits on you, right, and he says, Oh, you're so hot, you're so beautiful, you're sexy. Look, look at the way you look. I should continue after 18 years, talk to you that way because I never want you to go out and feel that. Okay. So that's why I get it. So like if a guy's at home and he's not telling his wife every day, like, wow, you're beautiful or like he's not trying to grab her or like just, you know,

it doesn't always have to be about sex, but just give her any type of attention. When she goes out and someone gives her attention, she's going to be blown away. That's what you're saying. Yeah, of course, because you know, many women are out there that are married. I come up to, you know, they come up to me really. And they hit them. They're like, I'm married. I'm like, aren't you married? You know, they're like, Oh, yeah. But my husband doesn't give me an attention and they're hot and they're beautiful women.

And I'm like, damn, you know, it's giving you an attention. And but really it's, it's, it's, it's sad like because it becomes a routine. But why if I'm stuck with you, right? Not stuck if we're married. If I'm stuck with you, but if I'm stuck with you for 18 years, I'm gonna make it good. Like I'm gonna make it good every day. Even though sometimes you might say something.

What if you, okay, you do, you do, I agree. But what if you were not attracted to me, right? What if you were not attracted to me? Like we got married. What do you mean? No, a lot of people are get married and then they're in love. It's a great partnership.

It's a great, you know, they make a great mother. I make a great mother, right? I can make a great home, but you're not attracted. Because you know what makes you unattractive is your personality changes over time. This marriage thing is getting such a bad rap because everybody's like, all right, I'm married. And social media doesn't help it

because everybody's out. Think about what it would have been before, like even when our parents were married, you would have had to call my house phone if you wanted to call to flirt with my father. You would literally have to ring the house phone, right? So it's like, that's crazy. And so the other thing was a beeper.

So it's like, you'd have to beat me and have to find time to call you back. There wasn there wasn't like hey I could just shoot you a text in three seconds and tell you how hot you are how about when they call through the phone and emergency breakthrough from Melissa you're on the phone yeah the girlfriend so no but I was saying what was I saying before you cut me off um well what was I just saying I was just saying something you cut me off? Oh no. What was I just saying? I was just saying something. You're just saying that it becomes like a contract opposed to what marriage, like you just get stuck in a bind. And you don't, you know, people get

to repetitious, right? It's just like, they repeat every day. It's like, we get up, we do this, we have our coffee, we eat dinner, we lay down, we do this. No, no, there was a time, and there was a time we were going through our thing, right? We went through a little problem, guys, right? You saw it on the show, but she was,

it was just your personality that made you, that made me not like you, just like me, no really. It was the way you changed. You were going through something as a woman in your head, right? Maybe through stress and work. Yes, and I made me feel like you were holding me back from certain things and then it just kept, we were backfiring on each other. Whatever, whatever you think, you know, it was going on, it just happened, right? So what happens is you have, you, people get this attitude, right?

And what turns me off is that attitude. You could get, you can gain 50 or 100 pounds. You're still my wife. I think you're still beautiful. But it's, it's, it's how you treat me and how sweet you are and how nice and how you make things happy in life. That is attractive. That's a turn on to make a happy house.

Yeah. I mean, I don't want to come home to somebody and bitching and nagging. That's mean and nasty. Well, lucky for mean, I don't want to come home to somebody and bitching and nagging that's mean and Lucky for you. You don't most of the time good. I mean, so I mean, but it's so Adam Levine might be coming home at this moment And they could be going through something or whatever and she's probably not in a happy mood And she's being nasty so the guy started texting sitting in the corner of his house And he's miserable. He's like, I'm Adam Levine. I can get anybody I want. Well listen, she is also a gorgeous, she is a Victoria secret supermodel. Of course.

Just FYI. And and and I just want to say I saw something on TikTok actually the other day that was historical. Oh, some girl was doing a TikTok and she was like, you know, this should make everyone feel better out there. This girl's literally like a victorious secret supermodel and she still has a guy saying, you know, texting other girls behind her back and she was making a joke out of it saying girls. So basically, if you want to eat the cake,

eat the cake, enjoy the cake because if they're gonna cheat on you, they're gonna cheat on you, whether you look like a victorious secret supermodel or whether you ate the cake. That's basically what she was saying. But that's exactly what I'm saying. You could look like this goddess or this goddess of a man, but you have the shittiest personality or you're miserable or you're not happy and you want to look elsewhere.

Right. You know, so that's the bottom line. And that's the bottom line. And that's it. I mean, I rather hope be with somebody that's, I have a great time with personality. Have fun. That's attracted to me. Somebody that's nice to me.

How many does, you know, that's attracted. But if I got to come home and be in, right? That's, it's true. I get what you're saying. You're, you're let off a lot of personality. So, yeah. So there you go, guys, there's Joe's advice for that. Just be happy when your man gets home because he says that really drives the not just the man, the attraction.

Both. No, I know. I'm saying you're talking from your man's point of view. So I'm going to just say like that's that's your thing. I feel like that is most man. They want to see someone who's excited for life, someone who's happy with where their living is happy with what's going on around them. Like, I think that's everybody, because you know what, listen, mostly men, I know that go to work everything's just like, I go to work all day, I'll support my kids and my family,

but I want to come home. I just want peace. They want to be fun and happy and just normal stuff. But if you think about it, women want the same thing. Don't they? Well, most of the time, yeah, we don't want you to come home grow up. She that's where she comes home to a miserable man.

And it's not always sometimes, a lot of times now, women come home from work grow up. She as well, because we're working all day. So it's a little different than, you know, I think you go to work all day. I think everyone comes home sometimes grow up. She at this point, because the women are working just as hard as the men. You know what? Everybody has to learn to go to work all day. I think everyone comes home sometimes grouchy at this point because the women are working just as hard as the men.

You know what everybody has to learn to go to work all day, deal with your battles all day, go fight when you want to leave that office or you leave that job so you leave whatever you walk in that house. You are a different person. You have to shut it down. That is true. That's the one advice we'll leave off on this subject is that we do know that there's a whole world out there, the kids stress you out all day.

Your job stress you out all day, whether you're a man, a woman, whatever you have, whatever it is, when you come home, you really do have to leave it at the door and like not take it out on everyone who's in the house. Just start fresh with dinner and like life and like when you go back to work the next day, you got to go back to the grind or whatever you have to do. But it is good to leave it at the door. That's a fact. No, my friends envy me.

And they always say, I don't know how you do it. They'll talk to me throughout the day. You see, you're dealing with these fires over here. This is blown up. Then you just, once you come home, you shut it down. A lot of my friends like, I can't do that. Well, you gotta learn. Yeah, gotta learn.

And they're wise of complaining. They don't shut down. Like there was a time that Melissa was like over working, right? Overwork, working all day. I'd come home and she'll start, keep working. Like, all that, a computer and all night. And I'm like, listen, are you gonna hang out? We gonna have a little, us time.

I mean, it's getting boring here. Yeah, I was like addicted to work. I was getting addicted to just ordering to do my orders for envy and like, just I could go on and on and on with emails I literally can check emails until I wake up the next day. It's crazy But we all can keep working, but then you have to shut it down. So what I tell you I tell you I used to tell you You need to learn to shut it down. Yes. I think that is important. So

Anyway guys, so you know if you if you agree with me on this yellow flag thing Let me know because it's true like if you have any friends out there that you feel like it's not a complete red flag, but there's definitely a couple yellows, is that a deal breaker? I'm so curious what you guys think about this. So let me know what you think about this. Well, here we are on lockdown. How are you? It's Booker of the Puresse, Elton podcast with Chris Booker.

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the Poress Hilton podcast with Chris Booker, and everything that's entertainment will be covered. Bravo cons coming up, which is awesome very soon. That's not only going to be, that's like two weeks away, two, three weeks away, Bravo con. What a, what a weekend that is going to be. When I tell you guys, that's going to be a whirlwind, like crazy. That's gonna be four nights just like living in New York City, just meeting fans, getting on like Q&A's, questions. It's gonna be the first time. I'm gonna talk about this.

Can I tell you guys, Housewives fans out there what I'm gonna talk about? That they literally put, they literally write as one of the shows that you can go to is the Jersey Girl Show, right? So they literally say like, the first time the Jersey Housewives will all be together since they filmed the reality

and since like Teresa's wedding. And like, I'm in shock that they're putting us on a panel together for basically a Q&A. When it sounds to me like it's so a reunion thing. It's so safe for like the reunion or like something else. I cannot believe they're putting us all together for Bravo Con. I'm like, right? Yeah, we're all kind of in shock over that. And we're filming a reunion in what two, three months, right? Correct. No, we don't know. No, I don't know. Whatever. Yeah. This is way before. So that's that's that's crazy. But I'll be on what I'll be on a watch when happens live panel too. Oh yeah. We're going to do watch what happens live. And you're going to do you're going to do

something with the Jersey men. Yeah, we got all the Jersey boys going. Yeah. That's going to be fun. You guys got a show. I got a show that Thursday at Caroline's on Broadway. Yeah, you got you you just put a second show and he sold out the first show guys So if you do want to go see Joe if you're going to Bravo Connor You're gonna be in New York City on October 13th Make sure you head over to Joe's Instagram or to Caroline's dot com Because you will be able to get tickets for his show with Frank attend Yeah, which is gonna to be so much fun.

But the first show sold out, but he did just add a second show. So make sure you guys grab tickets for that. Yeah, it's going to be a wild time. I only want people that are going to come in and have a good time. You got it. Because it's going to be, don't come if you're not going to be happy. No, you're going to have so many like true, true fans there that are just excited to see you. And just, yeah, it's going to be, I'm going to be'm gonna be there guys I gotta come support. I gotta do a little rehearsal. I'm doing something fun at watch what happens live

And I have to rehearse I can't see. Yeah, can we say no? No, because we can't give away watch what happens live secrets will be in trouble the bravo gods are listening We'll give it a little hand. You're not gonna do that. No, a little hand. No No hints. So anyway, yeah, so watch what happens to lives, gonna be fun. Bravo cons is gonna be a whole thing. I'm sure so many people are coming. So that is gonna just be a thing in itself.

Could you imagine like every housewife, every show on Bravo from every city, whether your housewives, whether your, you know, winter house, summer house, whatever it is, they are all going to be there at the same time in New York City, in the same, where are we at the Jacob Jabbat Center? Something like holy cow, this is something. Oh, is that the Jacob Jabbat Center?

I think it is, yeah. Wow. Who would have known that like Bravo created their own like celebrities, literally created their own like celebrities. Literally created their own like world that you can enter the Bravo universe. It's crazy. It's like we're the Avengers. You can come out and meet the characters.

Some meet the characters. Oh, I know what I wanted to talk about. There's another subject, honestly, that I wanted to talk about because Joe. This is what Joe did to me guys the other day and here we go. Let's talk about Joe. No, but like this leads into a very important conversation. What? This is kind of like wrong, like kind of stupid and silly to talk. It's a little silly to talk about. And don't go into depth with like the description because then I'm going to get really annoyed. But anyway,

she's the other day Joe. You bring stuff up. I'm going to get, I got got a protection. Well, you can't go into depth. So the other day we're all not we're all me and Joe are at our house. Obviously, you know, we're building a house. We're wrapping it up about to move in getting the final touches together to get in there very shortly. And you know, we had like a bunch of workers, I would say. There was men coming in and out. There was, you know, people working on the house. I am there. I am standing there.

It was panning the ass, you know what I mean? Directing traffic. I am telling everyone where to go, how to get there. I'm throwing everything up. What to hang on the walls and wallpaper and you name it. Anyway, so I'm there and there was a couple other men workers working, you know, they were working whether it was, I don't know if it was the floors or whatever it was. Awesome.

I'm standing there talking to Joe and these guys and then I go inside and I get a text message from Joe. He's still at the house, just like somewhere else in the house and he's like, he said, like, I don't remember what are you trying to say? You said fix your camel toe. Oh yeah. That's literally what you text me. While I am standing there talking to another guy in the house, working.

I got so self-conscious, I'm wearing my yoga pants because I came from the gym. I have on my workout clothes. I just like was in mid sentence to this, somebody working on the house, and I'm in mid sentence with him, and I get a text from my husband, fix your camel toe.

I'm like, I can't even finish my conversation with the guy. I just look at the text, I really just want to look down and like see what the fringy is talking about. I was out of whack. It was. It was. I had yoga bands. It was like from a movie. No.

Oh my God. It was not. Well, you stop it. Listen, well, the biggest problem is why you come to a construction site in yoga pants and she's got the wall. Okay. Should I be tank top on it? She just came out of the gym.

Who cares? That's how I run around all day. Oh listen men men when you win when women wear those yoga pants men are like yeah As best you come to construction man men are not like that. She was staying She was standing on like the fourth to fifth step right and I was down on the bottom and you know I had a Straight view of that. Only you were looking at it. You don't have to explain. No, but only you.

No, everyone could see it. Okay. You could be across the street. Oh my god. Damn, what's going on? So I walked outside and I texted. He texted me and I literally answer him back. I say, what did I say back to you? I was like, I was. He texted me and I literally answer him back. I say something. What did I say back to you?

I was like, I was like, oh my God. I don't even know what I said to you, but I'm like, I don't know. See, but I'm a good husband. I looked out for you. I was telling you, I could have just let you sit there and look like a momo the whole time. Okay, but that's my question that I want to roll into. Like, I was like a first for us.

I'm like, my husband has texted me from the other room about a camel toe to like, fix my leggings. What the hell is going on here? But that leads into a bigger conversation that I want to talk about. Do you let your significant other know when something is embarrassing? In other words, if you're sitting there talking to them and you wanna tell them like, hey, you have bad breath. Or something that's gonna be embarrassing.

Do you go ahead and do you tell them? Like what's the real protocol on that? What's the right thing to do? And I think like every relationship is different. Do you tell them like, you know, that hair looks really bad or your armpit smell, you need to order it. Like, do you know what I'm saying? Like, what is right and what is wrong in that situation? I think yeah, because you're like, you're together,

man. So it's like your best friends. If I can't tell you, you know, I can't tell anybody. I want to tell you, listen, there's, there's, if your breath is humming, I'm like, yo, babe, whoo, your breath's humming. So you believe in telling, telling. Absolutely. Yeah. But like, is that right? What if the person gets super insulted? And it causes like this big problem because you're insulting them and then they're self conscious and then they get all weird with you. And it's like, are you together? Is this husband and wife? Yeah. I'm talking about like your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your spouse,

your someone you're married to, like yeah, like someone that you're together with and close to you, obviously you're not gonna say that to a stranger. Most people are not gonna walk to a stranger and tell them, hey, your breath smells or you need deodorant or you know, you, oh wow, you gained a lot of weight.

Like most people are not gonna do that to a stranger I'm talking about someone you're very close with someone you love very much Like you told me I had a camel toe is this something that is normal like what is the protocol on this? What were you feeling at that moment when I was feeling like you got that type of I wanted to look down and I wanted to fix it and you were around a bunch of people at the time, right? So what were you doing? I was standing with three men when you texted me. So did you instantly try to pull your legs

and move out of the way? Oh my God. No, no, like put your hands down. What were you thinking at that moment? I was thinking Joe's probably being dramatic number one. Number two, I need to use the restroom and check my legs. So what were you doing?

When you were trying to make the, who were you with? Maybe like some blind guy or something. What? No, me. Who were you with? Like the curtain guy. I don't know how the blinds guy are saying. And now you were trying to say,

where were you with the blind, like where were you doing at that moment? I was probably talking to the guy with the curtains, probably who knows? All I know is that I was uncomfortable instantly. So it's like, do you take offense to it? So like if you, if I have BL or if somebody doesn't have proper hygiene, right, proper hygiene

and you love them, you love them so much, do you tell them this? It's a very uncomfortable thing. You probably want to tell them, is there a nice way to say it? Is it, do you just buy the deodorant and slip it like in their room? Or do you discuss like, hey, your armpits smell a little bit too? Yeah, I would just say, listen, honey, you got, you smell, you got a little odor right now. I got to make sure you clean yourself. What? Is that a bad? I just

don't know how I would like handle that. Like it's, I don't know how I would handle that. I don't know. I guess some people, and this is gonna be a personality trait too, because some people are definitely gonna be more sensitive in this area, just like some people burp in front of the others and whatever. I don't know. I guess this is a very touchy. But if my armpit just smelling, or my breath is smelling or something and we're talking about like

We're not talking about like once in a blue moon. I'm talking about like it's a constant thing. Oh constant Well, not I mean that could more than once that could put somebody in depression Yo, your breath stinks. All right. You go to kill yo your breath Did you brush your teeth today? Did you use that list of green that I told you? I mean this? Are you wearing, are you using that? Listen to me. That I tell you. I mean, this poor person, yeah, I think they're going to get a complex.

You're going to insult them. I have to, if you tell them 15, 20 times. Listen, I just think it's a delicate balance. It really is a very delicate balance. And I don't know. You might have some friends that say something, and you have some that don't say anything at all. I heard on a radio, right?

I heard on a radio, this girl was going to the bathroom. And they were talking about some gain. They were talking about some gain. This girl was going to the bathroom, and she was doing number two. And she calls her boyfriend in there. And she's like, come in here baby. I need you to hold my hand,

because they were talking about moments and relationships. Oh my God. Where does it go too far? So she's taking, she was a moment she was so funny. She goes, yeah, yep, I went in. I was taking a dump, but I, I mean, she was in a bathroom, but I needed him.

I need him at that moment. Why did she need? So she called her magic. He came in and they saw he was holding her hand. She's like, please hold my hand while I was doing this, because she couldn't go to the back. She was constipated. So he's holding her hand and she was pushing.

Oh my God. Yeah, it was pretty wild. So would I ever do that with you? I had. Where did you hear this story? Where did you hear this story? I heard on the radio. I heard on the radio.

You hear a lot on the radio. I'm just telling you. I drive a lot. So I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I Z100 told me, like, right? That's what you tell me. I have another situation too. Like, that was one situation that happened. Okay. I have another situation that happened to us recently. And this is like, can tell you guys,

like, how crazy the press is for real. So the other day, my, oh, pair that lives with me, got into a car accident. So, and she didn't get hurt, she hit the guardrail. It was literally around the block from my house. She hit the guardrail, but she did completely total the car. Yeah, much to my dismay. Completely total the car she was driving.

I literally go and I run over to her. She calls me, oh my god, Melissa, I'm so sorry. Like, come over here. I said, are you okay? She was fine. I ran over there. The car is an accordion. Okay, it's an accordion.

Very stressful. But to make it look so sure, it happened in front of a couple of houses. It was on a block with houses. And we had to call the police. Yada, yada, yada, the police had to come. We had to call the police. Yada yada yada. The police had to come. We had to do the whole police report.

We needed to get the car towed away. The whole thing. Well, come to fight. I did see one or two neighbors like standing outside and, and you know, of course, checking what's going on. I'm sure they're noticing it's me as well standing out there. We get a call. My assistant gets a call from

TMZ within literally within 30 minutes to 40 minutes and says, hi, we have a story that Melissa Gorgher was driving and she was texting while driving and she crashed her car. And like, how did someone get that? Now, even if you thought I was the one who crashed the car, where from now, now, it's fine to have an accident, right? It's not fine to be texting while driving, right? So whoever this person is out there decided to put a little twist on the story

and say, Melissa was driving and she was texting while she was driving. And then TMZ calls us and says, we're gonna write the story and say Melissa was driving and she was texting while she was driving. And then TMZ calls us and says, we're going to write the story. And we're like, okay, well, you could write whatever you want, but why don't you look at the report first because Melissa was not the one driving and she wasn't even in the car. And I basically just came to like, you know, pick our nanny up. So it was, it's really crazy. It's why you guys cannot believe everything you read in the press. You can't believe everything you hear

about people and celebrities because that was such a perfect example to me. And what made me a little upset about that, if I'm being honest, is like, yeah, sorry. You're the same type of people that I put those bad messages on Instagram and social media. Yeah, it's the same type of people. Oh, and I can talk about I have another story for you. Cause I like to give people, you know, no, but I do. I like to give people good advice and compliment them and say something nice, but I want to be negative.

I have another story to follow that up. I had a lot of things happen to me this week. So so it just wants, you know, it goes to show you that someone out there decided to call up a new station, tell them Melissa was driving, and she was texting. Where, when they're right mind, would they get that I was texting?

Obviously, they would never know something like this. They're, they're making it up, but they're putting a little twist on the story. But I thought it was horrible, especially because it was definitely a neighbor type situation, because it happened around the block for my house, right? Like and for me, I'm just like, what you know, that that's horrible. And so this is just a little story

that I like to share with you guys. This is kind of the unfiltered behind the scenes, right? That you that you want when we're on the podcast, but that's one thing that happened to me. I'll tell you another thing that happened to me this week. And this goes to show you kind of people like this. So at the gym, what about people who, they're just like, I know what my pet peeve is. Like if I were doing the rapid fire questions and you ask me about my pet peeve right now, I would tell you, it's people that don't mind

their own business. It drives me crazy when they just like, they worry about what you're doing and they watch you, right? And it's like, I don't know, the other day at the gym, I think I put the I put the heavy weights back by where the light weights go. And I feel like this woman looked at me like, Oh, absolutely not like she was going to like cut my head off and she was just another like, you know, patron of the gym. And like, okay, I get it. She was the way that she said it to me.

Because I was like, oh, I wanted to keep some heavy weights in this area also, because I lived heavy. And she was like, no, heavy weights go over there. And it was just, and I just, like, it's just, what are those, you know. It's just something about like people who are watching other people and getting, like, I would never tell someone, hey, don't put those weights there.

Go put them over there. I just wouldn't. I'm just not that person. So it's hard for me to understand the people that are like that. Yeah, maybe she's unhappy at home and her husband was sex taxing somebody and she was pissed that she came to the gym and she got to get out on you. Maybe or maybe she just ordered the wrong sandwich at Starbucks the wrong sandwich came out her coffee had milk in it She doesn't like milk maybe that too. I can I can I can only

Respond in that way, you know, either you're you're very angry and you're not happy in life Do you do that? Are you that guy do you pay attention to other people? I don't pay attention to anybody listen to people do their own thing It's I don't get involved. I'm busy every day. I don't pay attention to anybody. Listen, the people do their own thing. I don't get involved. I'm busy every day. I worry about me and that's it. Now, if there was a man out there beating a woman, yes, I get involved. I'm sorry, I'll jump in.

If that was something like that, for a woman beating a man. Yeah, either something like that or somebody's doing something like, and that they shouldn't be doing yes, but otherwise it's not in my business. Right, you know? And you know, it's not saying, like I'm too busy working on my own grass

to notice if yours is greener. Like that's such a good statement right there because it's like pay attention where you are, worry about yourself, you know, stop looking at everybody else's shit. And that's really such a strong statement, right? And that's my pet peeve. So I wanted to share all these little stories with you guys today.

So all right, shout out. Well, as always, thank you for joining me and giving us all of your very manly opinions. The women just, I will say without blowing your head up more than it is. People love when you're on the podcast, they do love to hear the marital stuff that goes on in this house. And you know, why they love it? I'm going to be honest. I don't have a big head. It's just realness. I speak real. I tell you how it is. You speak the truth. The truth. That's

it. And listen, guys, also to everyone out there listening, I am so into all of this info with yellow flags. I do find it so interesting. And if any of you know everyone out there listening, I am so into all of this info with yellow flags. I do find it so interesting. And if any of you know anyone out there who, you know, you want to throw a yellow flag on who you're feeling like they might be giving you a yellow flag that you're noticing your friend is not noticing some yellow flags. Like give me all of these stories if you're dealing with any type of this because I'm very into it.

And I do want to talk more about yellow flags and relationships and how important they are if you should kind of turn a blind eye to them or do you should we pay more attention to the yellow flags and not just the red ones because sometimes the yellow flags may turn into big red flags. And we just need to like keep our eyes open for that. So make sure you guys let me know Joe and I are off to watch our favorite show right now that I sucked you into. We are major handmaids, major major handmaids fans in this house on Hulu. Anyone hasn't watched it yet.

This is not a promo. I love handmaids. It's it's so interesting and if you're going to watch it from the beginning This is just my PSA announcement. You will get like it'll get a little confusing after the first or second You'll get like what's going on? Trust me. Don't leave the TV. It's amazing like I It's amazing the actress isn't it the actors in Elizabeth Moss. It's it truly is like such a great show. I am looking forward to going to watch it right now actually. So everyone have an awesome week. Have a great weekend. We love you so much. Thank you for the support always and thank you for listening to PACE! PACE! Yeah!