Pablo Torre Finds Out - Share & Roast & Tell with Charlotte Wilder and Sarah Spain

Episode Date: May 10, 2024

It appears that, as a (crumbling) society, we have arrived at Peak Roast. With Tom Brady, Kendrick Lamar, Drake, and Taylor Swift all recording their own versions of diss tracks. And the viral messages are both conspicuous and — even better — concealed. So, are Swifties and Rap Geniuses the same? Is it impossible to be a pop star if you’re old? Are fish just a gateway pet? Also: compliment competitions, beta or betta, Charlotte’s Mario impression, and why octopuses are ideal sex partners.Further reading:Justin Timberlake’s Air of Desperation (Esther Zuckerman) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Pablo Torre finds out. I am Pablo Torre, and today we're going to find out what this sound is. Michael Jordan, like the hottest person ever. Right after this ad. You're listening to Draft Kings Network. Oh, are you wearing your fucking awful shoes? First off, how dare you? Okay, I don't... Have you seen them?

You expect me to respond to that? I don't want to gas Pablo up, but I saw those before I saw that you had them. and I wanted them and I was really pissed They were sold out Because they ruled But did you want them as a joke? Like, oh, I host a basketball show

Ha ha ha Or like for real Somewhere in between Sorry, Paul. Full sincerity Somewhere in between I am not wearing them

because I left the house in a rush And you forgot And I forgot How did you get them Those were hard to get I feel like I'm on a mentor Podcasts

I'm like how'd you cough those I just want you to know I got a text last night from our mutual friends, well, Josh Bard and Tony Reale, who I'm going to try to meet for lunch. And I was like, I don't know if I'll have time. If Pablo's on time, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot,

then I should be able to make it. If anybody knows. And then this morning, Pablo. If anybody knows. Sorry. How I roll. It is Josh Bard, who has not seen me on an around-the-horn conference call

in approximately 10 years. That explained your performances. I'm going to confess to you guys that I'm moving slowly today, mentally speaking. For the obvious and standard reasons or otherwise. I don't know. I'll confess to you that I feel like my brain has been some mix of Swiss cheese and scrambled eggs for at least a month now. And what's your deal?

Couldn't tell you. I don't know if you believe in the planet stuff, but somebody who does believe in it told me like a week and a half ago that some lengthy thing ended, and if you felt like you were a mess for a long stretch, it should have ended about a week or a half ago or so. So no, wasn't the planets messing with you? I'd like to embrace the planets as an excuse here.

You know, someone once said to me that astrology is not as much like mysticism as it is a collection of data points over centuries about what people who are born at certain times are like. I'm Aries, Sun, Scorpio Moon, which is potentially... Are we in astrology podcast? Well, that didn't mean...

I'm just saying it's potentially like the most horrifying combination of person could be, I think. You know, so an Aries is like, you know, out there and... I actually don't really know, because it's also like confrontational. Wait, what's the... Just like, oh, it's me, I'm a Rory. It's a me, Aries. I'm a... I'm a sun sign.

Is it sun sign? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. That's the main one that people know. Right. So I'm sun sign, Libra, moon, uh, Waluigi. Yeah.

I'm peach rising. Bowser descending. The first topic today is obvious from a big picture perspective because this has been, I would say, peak roast, peak beef. We are living in a world where the things that everybody wants to be. talk about are people humiliating each other verbally? Tom Brady, Netflix roast. You retired, then you came back, and then you retired again. I mean, I get it.

It's hard to walk away from something that's not your pregnant girlfriend. It's tough. Of course, Drake, Kendrick Lamar, all of that. Say, Drake, I hear you like I'm young. You better not have a go to sell Black one. But, Sarah, you brought a different sort of an angle that I did anticipate that I feel comfortable in your expertise about. Okay.

Let me briefly explain how I got there, which is, Also fascinating to me, because my job changed in the last year and a half, and for the first time in eight years, I didn't have a nightly radio show. And for the first time in 12 years, I didn't have just daily radio of any kind, where I needed to know all the things all the time. As a result, I decided to step back from social media. Now, if you follow me, you're like, really? I'm like, did you?

Haven't noticed. So Instagram's still very active because it's joyful to me, and it's just I use it to document my life in ways. Other people are much more sparing. And Charlotte on this episode before, on this genre episode before, it's Sarah and 50 Friends in a given Instagram photo. Yeah. And I just like, I'm an overshare just in general.

But on like Twitter slash X, which is also another reason, it's just getting progressively worse and less tenable. So I just, I didn't need to be on there to engage every day and keep up with every joke and meme and thing to be able to host. And it's made me just want to be nicer. Now literally, I think like neuroplasticity and the adversarial brain, which is, You're telling your brain to go down these pathways the more you use them, and it creates shortcuts so that you can get there faster. And that's great. It's an adaptation that helps us, but it also can be bad.

Like when Charlotte lapsed into a Mario impression. Exactly. For sure. I actually, that's Rainbow Road. That's a that pathway is called. Your brain created that to get there. And you use it a lot. Yeah, thank you. But because I stopped engaging in a space that is so often, like literally, I'm sure you guys understand this. If you're going to tweet something, you check every word to make sure there isn't some loose. poll that someone can be like, well, actually. And so I stop having... I hate a typo.

Right, a typo, or like you say something in their... Let alone, an misinterpretation. I'm just like that neurotic where I'm like father. You said many instead of some, and I wouldn't say many. I hate the extra space that I accidentally... Oh, that is the worst. Or an errant capital? So anyway, long story short, it's made me want to be mean less,

and it's made me just less interested in diving into these beef. So when this Kendrick Drake thing started, first of all, I'm not a super fan of either. I appreciate Kendrick's. I understand that Drake can write a bop and he was funny on SNL. I don't really care about either. They're not my like number one. And so I thought to myself, like, I also don't like people's pain and misery being just harvested because like Drake's pulling up Ken for getting abused as a child.

Pretty much everything possible to embarrass the other person by they are going to. Right. And then all the like, oh, he's gay or he's actually white or like it just felt so mean spirit. And I was like, oh, do we really need this? there's like multiple wars happening and the world sucks. Like, this isn't where I want to spend my time. And then I took a step back and realized that I had spent a good month listening to Taylor Swift's tortured poets department, like getting really involved in like, who's this one about?

Oh my gosh. Okay. So this is a song that Maddie Healy in the 1975 covered and like blah, blah, blah. Oh my God. Hell of a diss there. Like she got him with that. Like smallest man there, but like whatever. And then I was like, oh my gosh.

Like this is the shaking hands meme of like Swifties and Kendrick stands. where we're dissecting lyrics and, like, decoding, like, disses. And, like, we can all bond over that. We can come together as a community and be like, sometimes it is fun to see who might be getting ripped. So I'm on the total outside of the Taylor Swift-Divinci Code Industrial Complex. It's the best way I've ever heard it to describe as someone very much on the inside. As a member of the Illuminati.

So why I brought you guys here today is that the decoding of beef, Taylor Swift is actually a master of leaving. clues for her army of fans and enemies to try and decipher. And I didn't make the connection that Sarah made in the course of her usage of this social media hellscape. And I realized, oh, right, this is an enormous part of how we do humiliation now, is that there is the explicit, there is the overtext of like, you suck and you have ghostwriters and I'm going to murder you.

And then there's a subtext of everybody trying to figure out the clues, Beyond even, I would argue, what the author even intended. And that part, I was like, oh, I'm in English class again. Oh, for sure. Which we used to always do. Like, do you think the author meant this? Or are we just over-analyzing every freaking word? It's like, it actually doesn't matter.

Like, that's sometimes what makes things great is that there's enough depth for everybody to find something of their own in it. I'm about to say one of the most obnoxious things I've ever said on a podcast. So please forgive me. when I was in, you know, taking English classes in college and we came across new criticism and Derry Dada and like, this is... How did you become the first person to say Derry Dada on my own show? I sort of wanted to one of you, if I'm being honest.

I was like, I don't think Pablo's done this one yet. So, which is the school of thought of like you have to divorce the author from the text. I was like, this is bullshit. I was like, I want to know everybody who, you know, this person was talking. about, because this is something people have done forever. Oh, since the Bible, when I took theology class in high school to one up you with the word exegesis, we would analyze the Old Testament and try to divine the divine. Yeah.

And of course, we have no fucking idea whether this guy meant it that way, but civilizations were actually formed on the basis of these interpretations. Judaism has a whole, the Kabbalah, the Talmud, the mysticism of where these guys went back, because they were all guys at that point, and read the Bible and then wrote texts on the side of the Bible being like, I think this, I think God was dissing Abraham. The original rap genius. Yeah. Also, guys, when I took a Hitchcock class in college, this is a real thing. I was aware that he was intentionally putting himself into every film at least once as a cameo. So we knew that the artist. A little Stan Lee of him. Stanley in the MCU, just inserting himself into the story. Yeah. I do think what attracts me to all this,

I also, Sarah, spent, I mean, any Taylor Swift song. Like, I got so deep in the lore that I'm like, well, okay, so if the 1975 used that beat because Jack Antonoff produced both of them. And Jack Antonoff actually plays into the Kendrick and Drake beef as well. How? How? So Drake had a song called Taylor Made that was AI, which also used some of Tupac's, his Tupac's estate was like, you can't use this.

We were going to sue you, so Spotify took it down. And then Kendrick had Jack Antonoff produce his next disc track, so it was literally tailor-made because the guy who makes Taylor songs. I'm so out of my depth on all of this. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway, what I think all of this is is gossip,

and we all love gossip, and we always have them, we always will. And my friend Kelsey McKinney, who does the podcast, Normal Gossip, has a book coming out about it. Absolutely amazing. This is the most fun way to bond is by what are other people's... Yeah.

Yeah. And I think for men, it's kind of like how I think WWE for a lot of guys is basically like going to a play, but they don't want to say it. It's, I mean, you're just watching a play that's very homoerotic as well. So, like, maybe you're kind of wanting to see a little bit of that, but you don't want to say. I want to see a giant man in a banana hammock hugging another giant man in a banana hammock. Yeah, Rikishi shoving his ass cheeks or another man's face.

That's super. So straight. It's mask. But I think also, like, with rap beefs or other sports, like, remember, and this is still the case, but there was a pivotal moment where we all recognized that the NBA off-season and who was going where was a bigger draw than the actual games. People cared more about that stretch of like, who's going where, who hates who, is somebody literally getting trapped in a room with a chair under the door so that they don't sign with

another team? Let's post them emojis about it. Like, we were following that more than the games because everybody loves it. You just need to package it up in a way that people feel comfortable saying they're into, which Kendrick is basically turning everyone into Swifties. Yeah, so I, I, what a take. Let's aggregate that. He also, they have a song, they did bad blood together.

Bad blood, which was ostensibly not a great song. Kendrick's verse made it better, but it is very catchy. Who is the Drake, though, of Taylor Swift if Kendrick is Taylor? Oh, everybody. It's a long list. Whoever wronged her. On the most recent album, everyone thinks the manuscript is probably still throwing back to John Mayer based on the age remarks. Or Jake Gyllenhaal.

Or Jake Gyllenhaal. Maddie Healy, the guy from the 1975, is the focus of a lot of it, which a lot of people were critical of because Swifties would bring. prefer that whole era didn't exist because he's a real douche. But at the same time, it presents this much more multidimensional portrait of someone who was in a long-term relationship with someone who seemed like a good choice, but it turned out was probably like emotionally abusive or at the very least completely distant and never wanted to take credit for her or show her off.

She gets out of that long-term relationship literally writes a song fresh out the slamer, which is like a really lame name and also a pretty lame song, but it's okay. But writes about like then she immediately runs to the arms of this awful bad, boy douche and everybody hates it, but it provides all of this artistic influence that makes these songs that are very different than a lot of her other ones in the sense of like the guys she's singing about is not just like, he's like everyone's mad at her, the fans are yelling at her for dating him. Like it created this great aspect to the album that people didn't expect. They thought it was going to be a whole album about Joe Alwin, the long-term guy she broke up with

and instead it's about this guy that was a couple months fling. I just want to acknowledge how stupid my question was. Of course. But also, you could say... The Drake for Taylor is everybody who she's ever dated. You could say it's Kim Kardashian. You could say it's Kanye West. You could say it's Carly Claus.

You could say it's Scott Borchetta. You could say... There's so many... I don't even know the last one. He was a big machine guy who sold to Scooter Braun. Her master's that she wanted to own. I think, too, that, you know, I have gotten so deep down this rabbit hole

that I'm like, okay, I think Taylor and Maddie for 10 years, years has had a will they won't they they started maybe dating in 2014 then they then they weren't dating then she was with this guy but she said that the ds cardigan which she wrote in 2020 was about him and then but and so i think that taylor at the age of 34 had the experience that i think a lot of women probably had in their 20s where you think that this man who is you know very affectionate and then withdraws and then like is some sort of poet and you think he's smart and then and then you you realize you're like, oh, he's just... Right.

He's just a non-committal douchebag who's treating me poorly, and then you move on. I think because she got famous, it was all mixed up, and then it happened to... Well, I think there's a song, Peter, where she references specifically, 1975 stuff, so you know it's about him and he has a whole thing, Peter Panphase, whatever.

She mentions that she, like, basically waited for him to grow up enough for them to give it a real go, and then that that was never actually going to happen. I have never felt less in control of my own show. Yes. But, okay, the Peter Pan thing, though, right? I think that brings us to this general sense of like, look, no one here is especially mature.

Is that fair to say? So part of what feels like an arrested adolescence, which I am not above, I embody this, actually my take about like the NBA of soap opera for men is actually, it's too limiting. It's that we all see soap opera in everything all of the time, music, art. everything. And when it comes to what the armies of interpreters are bringing, there's also, I would say, a brilliance to the strategy that feels at this point quite deliberate and intentional, which is part of how you win an argument, how you win a roast, how you win a beef, is that you get democracy on your side. You become, you are the trending topic above all others. And the whole idea of I'm going to have my army of volunteer detectives solve this mystery is playing to the very mechanism of how the internet works.

What it is, though, it's all like great storytelling because great storytelling is like when do you reveal what information. And that is what's so impressive to me about like keeping this going through. And the fact that I actually think that for me this goes back far. Like I've spent the most time on genius that I've ever spent in this year, this calendar year. This has been peak genius between Taylor and between Kendrick and Drake. Also, for me, Beyonce. Cowboy Carter is my favorite album, maybe of all time. It's insane.

Maybe of all time. I've never felt so connected to an album. Who's she roasting? She, well, America. America. And slavery. But also, she includes, she rewrites Jolene to be about the, you know, Becky with the good hair. Right.

So she is also, Beyonce, I think, is a step above everybody here because she is not only using her personal lore and the things that fans can connect things to. And even musically, I was like, oh, I think I heard that exact rhythm. If you listen to Switch on Pop, they literally call it a research paper album in a good way. Yes. They're like the amount of work that went into understanding every instrument, every person, every, like the language is based on specific,

like, routes that used to be taken for black country artists, going to different cities, all the stuff. Oh, and she puts album of the year in her song, by the way, AOTY. So speaking of roasting, her husband literally gets on the Grammy stage. Thank you for this lifetime achievement. Give my wife a fucking album of the year. What are you doing? I don't want to embarrass this young lady,

but she has more Grammys than everyone than never won album in a year. So even by your own metrics, that doesn't work. Think about that. The most Grammys, never won album of a year. That doesn't work. And then she throws AOTY. How about now?

or whatever, in the middle of a song. It's hard to talk about roasts for me without sounding... I don't think you'd be good at roasting, Charlotte. I hate it. I hate it. You're so nice. Thank you so much. I hate it.

I don't like watching it. The only thing Charlotte hates in the world, I think might be hate, is roast it. Yeah, I do. I mean, I do have some hate in my heart. I told a really bad joke on Lovartre last week. Mip. Tell my own. other favorite joke.

What's that? So a grasshopper walks into a bar, and the bartender says, hey, did you know we have a drink named after you? And the grasshopper goes, you have a drink named Steve? Such a simple soul. I think it's really funny. It's really funny imagining a grasshopper named Steve being like, oh. Meanwhile, it's like, let's punch that up.

Hey, Steve, Steve, fuck you. The wife got fucked by your manager. And your manager liked her Instagram. comment about it. Steve's like, what? Topic number two today. I feel like we're going to stay in the realm.

Mostly related. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm going to mute my laptop. It's very popular getting texts from my mom. It's about a thing that feels like a roast-worthy subject. Charlotte, do you want to introduce it?

Yeah, sure. It's very related to what we're talking about. It's about aging pop stars. It's pop stars who, basically, Basically, this was based on a Justin Timber, an article about Justin Timberlake in the Atlantic after he hosted SNL. And Sarah, I didn't host. Musical guest. One important distinction.

Thirsted seemingly. Thirst seemed to be thirsting. And Sarah, you sent that to all of us. And I was like, oh, this is yes, because I had watched that episode. And I was like, oh, God. And my husband and I actually went on a deep dive of his older stuff of like when he hosted in 2006 with the Tennessee kids. and it was electric.

Oh, he seemed invincible. It was a little cringy in that he's always been a little cringy. Also, I think that... See, I don't find him cringy in the past. I have always... Maybe this didn't, like, when I was a teenager and people were like, oh my God, Justin's so hot, I was like, I do not see it.

I have never seen it. This is going to be a good point, counterpoint, because I have lusted after Justin Timberling for long stretches of time. But Sarah's also lusted after Benny the Bull. Fair. Added to the list. someone start making a chart of weird things.

Things Sarah's horny for. Which always comes back around when we do this, which I love. Michael Jordan. Oh, I thought you were going to say always comes around to Michael Jordan. Oh, don't look shocked. That man is fire. Why did you just make that face to Michael Jordan? Sorry, sorry.

No, he's beautiful. Like the hottest person ever. Basically, all of this to say that he has not aged well as a pop star. I would also argue J-Lo, which we and Katie Holland talked about, has not aged well as a pop star. People who are aging well, I mean, like Taylor's world. and Beyonce. And to me, it's a little bit like athletes, right? Like, pop stars, what they're doing physically, like what Beyonce is doing at, I think she's 42, maybe 43, physically is insane to me. It's like watching LeBron play basketball at the age of almost 40. It's like, how on God's Green Earth

are you doing this? Or even Taylor at 35 or 34 doing three hours. Yes, exactly, where you're like, oh, your body's the holding up. But hold on, because J-Lo is like, look at what I've been up. And so there's something else happening here. Yes, except that you can tell, I think audiences can immediately tell when people are trying too hard. Yep. And I think that what J-Lo and Justin Timberlake always had was this pop persona. They had hits.

They also did not have lore. The lore that they had was bad. Justin Timberlake was like, wait, actually, are you a shit guy? Like, you, Britney Spears comes out with her memoir and says he made her have an abortion in these ways, or like all the stuff comes out of the Janet Jackson thing. The Janet Jackson thing, exactly where his career is untarnished, maybe even takes off more because of that. She loses whatever she had in the industry. Briefly banned from the Grammys and things that, which by the way, I did a deep dive into that after we decided on this topic.

And I was like, what a different time. She had a full nipple cover on. We didn't even see nipple. And she was banned from the Grammys. Disney took a statue of Rhythm Nation out of the park. It's like we see almost 90% of every woman's. boob all the time now. It's just like very common.

Yes. Most dresses are just a nipple cover. What Jala wore to the Met Gala was just nipple covers with some sparkle. Rita ORA was just wearing some strings that hung in front and somehow managed to cover the 40 bits. Emily Radikovsky's dress was fully serious. So, so. Nice one.

So basically, I think that the pop star part of it is very interesting because that's sort of the physical part of it. But it's also as a singer-songwriter, I think it's much easier to Like, if you look at Joni Mitchell coming at the, coming on stage at the Grammys, and I'm weeping. Yep. It's beautiful. Because what we go to singer-songwriters for is wisdom and feeling. And as you get older, those are things that you can keep imparting.

And what Taylor Swift and Beyonce have done is incorporate, they are singer-songwriters, and they have brought more into their world. I think there's something else, too, on that, right? Because it is about thirst. It is about someone trying to visibly. seem like they still got it, that their prime is actually going on right now. The window is still open. And I think Joni Mitchell's whole deal, right, has always been, or Tracy Chapman, who is like an even more extreme example, right, of like, I don't care about public perception. That's the singer-songwriter, I think, sort of aesthetic far more than the pop star, who is a pop star

by definition, a box office concept. And so I think about just like people who are, I guess it's What's this, what we're getting to is this question of, like, what does it mean to age gracefully? I think there are pop stars who somehow keep it authentic and working. So I think it's more the thirst that you're talking about. I think it's the desire to try to figure out the zeitgeist and continue to evolve with it in a way that for some people just works and for other people it doesn't. I also think whether your songs are good. Like, I think if Justin Timberlake's latest album had some bangers on it, even if we looked at him and thought he seemed a little desperate, he would be back on the radio and he would be back on the radio and he would be back. and we would be, even in spite of ourselves,

bopping along to it and being like, oh, this is fire. And he doesn't. The last two albums have not had a lot of great music. And J-Lo, for all the talents that she does have, is not a great singer. And hasn't had, like, when she lasted SNL, same place as Justin, where you're like, this song sucks. I think what we're circling, though,

is something that I find fascinating, which is what does it mean to be cool? What it means to be cool is that other people can, tell that you're cool with yourself. Yes. Basically. And I think that with part of what I mean by like singer-songwriter, like, Beyonce and Taylor Swift are still very much pop stars. But I think that their music is still good. Right. And Justin Timberlake's last album, no offense to Justin Timberlake, it was ass.

Right. So I think that that plays into it. But I also think that Jaylo and Justin Timberlink, I would argue, have always had a little bit. You're like, oh, God, you were trying hard. really hard and people, I think the audience picks up on that. Taylor Swift is always trying really hard and tells everybody she's trying really hard. There's an earnestness to Taylor Swift that feels also like she's self-reflective and aware of like kind of being dorky sometimes and all this stuff. Whereas like J-Lo and Justin would never let you see a crack, which makes it hard to then feel like they're being authentic because everybody has flaws. But I would say with Justin,

I don't know if it missed you somehow, but, like, at one point he was, like, infallible. People did not cringe looking at him. He was the biggest star. Like, between S&L and Jimmy Fallon and his music. And he was an actor in movies. He was an actor. He was, every S&L was, like, appointment.

His comedy stuff was hilarious. Like, there wasn't that feeling if he's trying too hard. It was like, this guy owns the industry. Yeah, now that you say that, I mean, Dick and a Bob, was... Yeah. But also, like, he... I want to say

that I think Justin Timberlake is an unbelievable musician. Like, and his... He called him... His new album. I just said his new album.

I think that he's... Like, the... What comes around, goes around... Like, the 2020 experience. Like, I love that album. I... Yes, I am being too harsh on him. Right.

But there is this dynamic of, like, it's not just about age. So, like, there are lots of old people who feel young. Right. Like Jeff Goldblum. Oh. Like king.

The... The... Just the panther-like physical presence. Yes. People who can show up on a red carpet and are just like their pores are leaking confidence. Oprah. Oprah. So these are people who are the elderly at this point.

Right. And yet if you're saying to me, like, who feels like they're more comfortable in their skin? And even more than that, who feels like they're young right now? I would say, I think of Jeff Goldblum before I think of fucking Justin Timberlake. Right. Because it doesn't feel like Jeff Goldblum is fighting the hands of time. Right. I think Justin still looks good.

He's not like... Yes. I mean, he's clearly aging. That's what it's about. But he's still a handsome person. Yes. But something about him doesn't feel young. Yeah, it's not about...

And he can still dance well and he's fit. But like I watch this thing of Jeff Goldblum at this red carpet at the Meggala. Really into him. And I know. I just, guys, I just can't. I can't blame you. I can't... Have you guys seen this video?

It's just like, again, again, This is just like one example of just like... There's some Me Too stuff around him, so I... Is there really? He's not been my king. Oh, I just disappointed you guys so much. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I'm not to speak from authority, but yeah.

God, damn it. It's hard for me to get into it that way. Before I tee up a Jeff Goldblum shot. Hold on. Let me just... Jeff Goldblum defends Woody Allen is the first... Oh. God damn it. God damn it.

Why? So my trainer, like, is a sports guy but doesn't follow anything other than watching the game. So every week he'll have some new athlete that he comes up. I love this guy. He's like, I'm like, rape someone. This guy's amazing. He has nothing wrong with him. I'm like, homophobic slurs.

And he's like, why do you always do this to me? I'm like, I wish I didn't know. I wish I could just enjoy sports like everyone else. But once I learn, I'm like, ah. I can't even quote Jurassic Park anymore. The thing that sticks out in my mind when I think about, like, a J-Lo, for example, is the scene in This is me, dot, dot, dot, now, the documentary

where she's sitting in her gym and she's in workout clothes and she's like touseling her hair and she's like, my hair's curly. It reminds me of when I was a kid in the Bronx. 16. And all these people in the Bronx are like, okay, first of all, also, it's come out

that that scene took her like 12 takes. People in the Bronx have been like, you never came, like you left a while ago. And like we weren't, like you're using us now. And so I think it's when things like that happen, I don't know what Justin Timberlake is. I also feel really bad that I was so mean about him because I used to love him and I forgot. So that's what I was, okay, so that's what I was trying to. The roast is going terribly. It started off so strong.

I said he was ass and I'm like, wait, he's an unbelievably talented performer. But that's what I'm trying to figure out. So like you can be in that place because you were never that into him. I'm still clinging to wanting to, I'm like planning to go to his show this summer. I want to keep loving him and he's giving me cringe. And this is coming from someone that is like wholeheartedly supportive. And I'm like, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt on everything and you're still cringe. Like, I can't figure out exactly what it is.

Like, it was interesting. Jessica Beale, his wife, posted this kind of thirst-trappy photo of him and was like, he's never going to post this. But I will. Like, you're welcome or whatever. And instead of the comments being fire, hot, love, oh, my God, thank you. It was a lot of people that were like, nobody wants this or like he definitely told you to post this. And I'm like, he did. my theory. Oh, no. Like, of course. Of course. But, like, we all know that's how the internet works, right?

Like, everyone, oops, someone caught me looking amazing. Oh, sorry. Was I too hot there? Right. Exactly. Like, oh, what a funny photo. But my ass just looks amazing. But it's definitely about how funny it is. But anyway, like, it was writ large for me. Like, I already could feel the cringe. And then I saw that. I was like, oh, man, everybody is having this same, like, weird. Of course, it has to do with Britney. Of course, I have to do with Janet. Of course, to it, this reckoning that we're doing about, like, white male power and how they were elevated for years while others were taken down and yada yada, but it's also... But there's other people who have survived that and are perfect...

We're fine with it and we're able to say that was then, this is dot, dot, dot now, and we know that things are different and as long as they say... And he has said the right things about, you know, cultural appropriation, about his band, about Britney, about Janet, about race, about... He did say I'm not apologizing for shit. At a concert. Oh, I didn't see that. But in statements and in commentary, like,

How does it feel, Sarah? How does it feel like to lose your Jeff Goldblum? I was saying about fish sticks the other day. What happened to him? No longer? Is it a thing kids eat? Pablo? I haven't seen.

Ooh, good transition to children. Nailed it. This is a touchy topic. Violet doesn't need fish sticks? Violet just got her first pet. Oh, and it's a fish. It's a fish. And it's a fish.

Okay. So many questions. She's not feeding her fish sticks. Does she eat fish? Yeah, but the fish sticks. Okay, so on the subject of fish sticks, my frustration is that they're not really sticks anymore. They're just like nugs.

That's what I'm foreseeing. How have I never even thought before about kids having a pet fish and eating fish? Yeah, that was the first time I thought of it. Seemed like a different species. Like, if we would be very aware of, like, if you had a pet dog and then you tried to feed your kid's dog, that they would be like, wait a minute,

Isn't this, you know, Ruffy, which was the first name of my dog that I named myself? So truly what I wanted to get to here in my topic is our first pets and whether I'm doing it right. Okay. Okay. This is her pet fish. Oh, a sponge bob pineapple. We got a sponge bob pineapple. Like an angel fish thing?

This is a, it's pronounced apparently beta, B-E-T-A, but beta. Beta. But their YouTube videos to call it, Betta. It's a beautiful fish, Pablo. I don't know how. to pronounce it. It is a beautiful fish. I got real live aquatic plants. Those are real plants except for the SpongeBob pineapple. Everything else there is real. It's beautiful. Hate fake plants. And this is the fish that Violet picked out. The fish's name is Coop.

Like cooped up? Like hanging in with Mr. Cooper? Coop as in she wanted to name it poop. And we were like, let's negotiate. And we settled down a coop. So that's Violet and that's Coop. That's the story of my life today. That was my weekend. And it's a big step. A first pet, I didn't realize how big of a step it was until I was at Petcoe, holding

like a total cliche all of the things you need to get a fish tank. Cleaner, gravel, substrate, real plants that are not baked, the fish itself, the air pump cleaning thing. fake plants are actually my least favorite thing. Fake plants are asked. You're very proud of your plants.

And also just like fake plants don't do anything. Right. They are a depressing simulation of something that gives you none of the benefits. Do you like the fact that the real plants like give nutrients to the water and stuff? Absolutely. Yeah. You can watch them grow and oxygenate and feed Coop. If nothing else, the goodwill of the planet that we have destroyed.

destroyed and taken him from or her. I don't know if Cooper's... No way of knowing. So what are you worried about in terms of whether you're doing this right? So we start with the fish and I just wonder, I've been warned that this is just one step. The gateway fish? A gateway pet.

Towards what I am not ready for, which is ultimately a dog. As an apartment dweller in Manhattan. But I was curious what you guys, what your gateway pets were and how you felt about them in retrospect. Oh, man. Well, my mom has always loved animals and had dogs and cats. I think when my parents met, my dad was not a huge dog person, and my mom had two huge dogs,

and then he quickly became a dog person. And so I've just grown up, we always had a dog, and we always had a cat. And it wasn't, it was sort of more of a given for me than like a please, can I have a pet? And now looking back, I'm like, wow, my parents really, like, they were ready to take care of stuff. if they had, because it's not a small thing to have a life and pets. And Sarah, you have dogs. You have to, you know, they require a lot. They require a lot.

Yeah, I have three. One of them is a 57-pound 10-month-old puppy right now that we just acquired. So that one's adding a lot of work and he's the best. His name. His name's Indy because we rescued him the day we left for Indonesia, which is a great plan, is to rescue a dog and then immediately have to find somebody to watch him. watch him for 12 days. Immediately abandoned. Well, he was in the shelter for, his name was Spain in the shelter. They named him Spain. I saw a photo. You could have kept it. I know. I saw a photo, well, what do we call

my own name? Like, run around Spain? Spain. It's a little, it's too much. Even for me. Leo? But, yeah, exactly. So his name was Spain. So I spotted him in January. I'm like, oh my God, his name's Spain. And he's so cute because I follow all the rescue things in Chicago. I try to post the dogs for other people to see. And then February, I'm like, Spain's still there. That's wild. Like, what a cute dog. And then March. And I'm like, man. man, this dog might not make it because he's at the pound in Chicago. It's completely overflowing, and there's no warning on which dogs get put down every day. Even the volunteers don't get told.

So, like, at any moment, he could just be like, well, okay, you've been here three months. No one took you, so you're dead. It's awful. And most people don't realize how many dogs get killed every day. And then they go buy a fucking fancy puppy instead of rescuing, and then I want to sit them down for a nice long talk. But the point is, we had a dog when I was first growing up, that, passed away when I was pretty young. Then we got Ruffy, who my sister and I got to name Ruffy. And then we had Toby. So we always had dogs, just one dog growing up. I think they're really important

for kids so that they're not afraid of dogs. I think it's hard to raise kids. They don't have to have one, but they should be around them so they get comfortable with them. I also think it, best case scenario, they learn a little responsibility, although that's a lot to ask. Usually the parents end up doing everything. Yeah. Right. But, um, uh, and then then I had a fish that was so fat and lazy that it floated upside down instead of having to like use its fins to keep moving. So we always thought it was dead over and over and over and then you'd hit the thing and it would flip back over and be like, I'm alive. That's me trying to wake up everyone. Noticing a real bias in how Sarah views and empathizes with different species

of animal. Yeah. No, the fish was great. It was just hilarious that we kept thinking. names ending in Y fish Roughy, Toby, Indy, good call. I have two other dogs sletch and banks they don't have Y's

but I actually forget the fish name right now which is sad. My dad watched him when we went to camp one summer and he didn't make it and I'm like either he forgot to feed him

or he was not dead and my dad was like oh looks dead down the toilet I'm not dead yet I'm getting better Can I tell you guys the name of the cat that I was brought home to?

What do you mean brought home to? Like when I was born... She was born, the cat existed already in the home. We had a dog named Bear and a cat named Aaron Purr. This is explaining a lot. You were ahead of the game on Hamilton. If anyone wants to know why I am the way I am, is because I have parents who named a cat, Aaron Per.

Okay, well, I have a neighbor who has chickens, and they're named Gloria Steinhen and Ruth Bader Hensberg. So those kids are also growing up in a very specific home. They're also going to be a big home. I want to roast all of you. Wait, so, Paulo, I like... the fish. My gentle suggestion, if you can get another fish of the same type, it's going to loosen or lessen the blow when the fish inevitably dies. They just don't live very long, usually.

I feel like the beta-beta fish is, there are two T's. It's been, I've been, it's confusing to me. I've always heard beta fish. Me too. Okay. Until I got into Betta fish YouTube and all these people are like. So I've been wrong the whole time. It feels like the conversation we had about a pickup artist, Alpha fish, beta fish, yeah. Yes, yes. I'm trying to avoid these fish truly, I would say, Kino-escalating on each other, which is to say ramming their bodies into the other, because that's a thing that these fish do.

Is there another kind of fish that you know gets along with a beta that won't ram or eat each other? I think it's sort of like a so, I think it's like a, this fish is a real gunslinger. Okay. Low Ranger? Yes, solo. will occasionally ram its own reflection in that reflective, beautifully clean glass. I actually have a different take, Sarah.

I think that part of having a pet, which is good for kids, is understanding that death happens. Like when our dogs died, it was absolutely devastating, but it was also like, hey, this is a thing that happens. I do think that there was something that felt almost spiritual about it because it was like, oh, wow. okay, this isn't, it gave context to life. Life ends and that which is a horrifying thing as a kid, but is also like instead of growing up sanitized from it or being like this doesn't happen, it happens. Momentum mori, remember we all die,

which is the whole value of life. Life would mean nothing if we didn't alternately have death. Yeah. I agree with that. I'm just trying to save Pablo what could be. I mean, look, people have heard who've heard me talk on various platforms know that my pet experience involved hamsters. Right. I had hamsters, and I feel like I need to ritually remind America of this fact.

The hamsters I had were not just drug addicts. They were cannibals and murderers because I had hamsters too. This story is horrifying. I go by hamsters. I get a wire cage. I get a plastic spinning wheel, like an exercise wheel, not unlike the one we saw in that video, except vertical. attaches to the wired cage. So hamsters, what do they do?

They procreate a lot. All of these hamsters are born in the circle spinning wheel, right? That's cool, a little nest. But you know what else hamsters do, Katie Nolan? Hamsters eat their young. So what happens? Well, the hamsters begin to eat their babies inside of the plastic translucent Patrick Bateman Ferris wheel of death.

And what else happens? The hamsters decapitate their babies. And so you have a spinning wheel that they're still exercising on. So the wheel is still spinning, forming a literal death rattle of hamster baby heads that I watch every day

when I wake up and see how are my pets doing? The answer, very badly. They're doing very badly. This is why you are the way you are. It explains so much. It explains so much. I can never trust or love again.

Did they eat their own babies? Yeah. Yeah, that's what happened. I once witnessed that. Never came back from that. It just decapitated their own young and ran around in a wheel full of baby heads. I understand being worried about dogs in a New York apartment and the work. And I certainly don't want people to get dogs who don't have, you know, the ability to give them love and time.

But also, I feel like I'm like for dogs, what people are with babies, where they're like trying to convince me to have kids and like, you'll just never understand love until you have your own. And I'm like, I'm like, I'm good. But dogs, I'm like, I don't know how people literally. live without coming home to this thing that's like so happy to see you, wants to spend every second with you, gives you emotional love and security and snuggles and like... The snuggles are so good. Yeah. When we come home from vacation and our dogs are like staying with someone else and it's late.

Opening the door to nothing is so sad. How do you do that? Yeah. I can do more of it if you want. Just let me know. What, the doggie boys? Oh, you see a really good girl. Oh, my goodness.

I once accidentally hit my phone recording and recorded myself, I love you, you're the best thing that's ever, I love you so much, did you know that I, and it's just like, on it and I read it and I was like, oh my God, get a hold of your life. This is why, I mean, partly why I can't have a dog. Why?

You'd have to feel something? Beyond dog voice, also just the clear anti-fish bigotry that you guys are both exhibiting here. You can't hug a fish. Not with that attitude. Fish doesn't remember you. Get an octopus if you want a tank.

Octopus, remember you will play games with you, has feelings. It's probably smarter than all of us, might be aliens. A fish, it's just... That escalating quickly. Oh, do some research on octopus. No, I have, but I haven't seen the alien part. People, there's this thing about how they don't share DNA with almost any other species on Earth, so it's like where'd they come from and who are they?

Oh, sick. Right. And also, like, don't we think it's a little weird that this animal can just, like, change shape and color and dexicon? just anytime they want. Like, nothing, like, a chameleon's like, let me get a little green. Octopus, like, makes their entire body look like a rock. Yeah, you can squeeze an octopus through the size of a quarter, like a whole size of a quarter.

Yeah, there's a octopus that's found a way out the, like, air conditioning shafts of, like, of a aquarium to become. And octopus can unscrew a closed jar lid from the inside. Octopuses also have a different personality in each of their tentacles. like there's a little brain in each tentacles. So like one, like, would be a great lover, by the way, if you think about it, which everyone started talking about after that my octopus friend movie

where that guy was definitely fucking out of 1,000%. But if you think about it, which I did after watching that movie, I was like, did you fuck that octopus? If they each have a different brain in their tentacle, like you could have a tender lover and... Guys, I'm busy tonight. I'm having a nine-way with this octopus. What do we find out today, guys?

We're at the end of the show. We've talked about more than I imagine. and more than I even remember at this moment. Same. Well, because our brains are Swiss cheese and scrimmeled eggs. That's right. Our brains are moving slow, as we said. Sarah, what did you find out today?

I found out so many things. One thing I found out, which I already knew that Sharr came from a very specific household, but the combination of Aaron Perr and then also her remembering and reciting important facts she learned in English class continued to build my personal lore of who Shar is. Agreed. It's a lot of boats. Wiki Shar is going nuts right now. There's a lot of boats and very East Coast,

but also like the kindness during the roast. It's all coming together in a way that's very predictable, but it's just fleshing out the portrait I have of her. Yeah, I'm trying to diagram mentally the sentence, the paragraph really that Charlotte had that started as a roast of Dustin Timberlake, then ended up with an apology. She said he was ass and immediately was like,

I feel awful. He's one of the most tough people on the planet. What am I doing? What am I doing? Oh, what are you doing, Charlotte? You're so silly. Such a silly one. He's not ass.

I have really nothing to say to that because it's exactly right. That is who, that is, that is who I am. I think I found out that similarities between all of the stuff we talked about, the, the, the, the, the, the, the roasts. the distracts, even the aging part, it's all based on, you know, people's perceptions of things they don't have complete information on. And I think that is fascinating because we fill in the blanks where we don't know things. And I think that with the idea that these things can go beyond what the author intended, it goes to everything. It even applies to the fish. Because Violet's relationship with this fish will be what she projects onto this fish in a way that's beautiful.

What I found out today is something that I did not even think was possible, which is that Charlotte Wilder could inadvertently mention the name of a Taylor Swift song without intentionally calling out the blank space aspect of this entire conversation. That's right, guys. He pretends he doesn't know what he knows. No, he knows. Oh, I know. You guys could roast me. I would let you guys roast me. It would just be about, like, dockers.

And the other day when you wore your amazing princess dye outfit and completely pulled it off. Thank you so much. It would just be you being of, like, a cute millennial. Your Mario impression is masterful. See, I don't believe anything anybody's saying. Feels like you're reverse roasting me with compliments. It's never good when you get it. a compliment and you're like, I can't tell if they're...

Because you don't believe me. Most of the things people say to me that sound nice, I'm like, is it good? I take all the compliments. I'm like, I think they meant that in a nice way. Like the meanest thing I get, I'm like, I think they meant that in a good way. Big Leo entered. I'm going to write the footnote on this. Yeah. I'm going to interpret this myself.

But as for the people who help me fill these episodes with tiny breadcrumbs to use in wars of ego, Pablo Torre finds out is produced by Michael Anthony Nucci, Ryan Cortez, Sam Daywig, Juan Galindo, Patrick Kim, Neely Lohman, Rachel Miller-Howard, Ethan Schreier, Carl Scott, Matt Sullivan, Chris Tuminello, and Juliet Warren. Our studio engineering by RG Systems, our post-production by NGW Post, our theme song, as always, by John Bravo. I gotta go feed this fish. I'll talk to you Tuesday.