Passion Struck with John R. Miles - How Do You Create Your Own Success? EP 120

Starting point is 00:00:00 The success equation starts with our mindset and controlling our thoughts. Good ideas create positive habits, which yield favorable results. Once you realize this, you will make the space within yourself to realign harmoniously with your essential self and become the best that you can be with the gifts that you have been given. Welcome visionaries, creators, innovators, entrepreneurs, leaders, and growth seekers of all types to the PassionStruck podcast. Hi, I'm John Miles, a peak performance coach, multi industry CEO, maybe veteran, and entrepreneur on a mission to make Passion Ho-Viral for millions worldwide. And each week I do so by sharing with you an inspirational message and interviewing

Starting point is 00:00:45 high achievers from all walks of life who unlock their secrets and lessons to become an action-struck. The purpose of our show is to serve you the listener. By giving you tips, tasks and activities, you can use to achieve peak performance and for too much action-driven life you have always wanted to have. Now, let's become passion-struck. Hello everyone and welcome back to episode 120 of Passion Struck and thank you to each and every one of you who comes back weekly to listen and learn, had to live better, be better, and impact the world. And if you're new to the show, on Fridays, I do an inspirational episode.

Starting point is 00:01:25 We call momentum Fridays for answer listener questions. On Tuesday, we have long form interviews and conversations with some of the world's most inspiring people from astronauts to authors, thinkers, creators, scientists, CEOs, and athletes. This week, we had on U had on US Air Force veteran, consultant and TEDx speaker Dr. Janelle McColley, and Janelle and I spoke about how to take command of your mindset to discover your high performance path to sustainable success and joy, which is a great lead-in to our episode today. We hear the term success all the time, and it carries considerable weight today in society, both in how others perceive our success and how we define it for ourselves. As I've

Starting point is 00:02:12 discussed in previous episodes, many people define success as earning a degree, buying a house, a car, or a yacht. It could also be determined by their career, awards, accolades and recognition. For others, it may mean getting married and starting a family. But have you really thought about success as giving back to the world and making a difference in other people's lives? Or perhaps success is doing the things you love when you want to do them and with whom you want to do them with. Renowned author and leadership consultant,

Starting point is 00:02:45 Miles Monroe once said, true success is not a project but a journey. This quote does an excellent job summarizing that success is not determined by a single event, but through a succession of steps and actions. It shows that we are never to conclude that a person is unsuccessful simply because of temporary situations that do not fit into the general description of success. In today's episode, I will be diving deep into the true meaning of success. I will discuss the habits of successful people and how you can achieve great things by defining success on your own terms. First, let's examine the unique rags to riches story of American business woman

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Starting point is 00:06:06 And I know all these codes can be difficult to remember, so we put them in one spot at passionstruck.com slash deals. Now, let that journey begin. It was another school day in Barbara Cochran attended the reading class she so dreaded. Her teacher, Mrs. Marie, wrote a sentence on the board and looked around the room to see whom she would call on to read it. Hey, Barbara, she called out, pointing at her with the ruler in her hand. Read this out, timidly, Barbara stood up and nervously attempted to read the sentence. But she couldn't. She then stared at the sentence for what appeared to be hours,

Starting point is 00:06:49 but couldn't figure out how to read it. Steadily, Mrs. Marie walked towards her seat and thwack. She landed her ruler on the back of Barbara's neck. She leaned over close enough for Barbara to see the black hairs twitching on her chin. And she said, Barbara, and if you don't learn to pay attention, you will always be stupid. Hearing this, the entire classroom burst out and laughter. Barbara sucked in her breath, counted to 100

Starting point is 00:07:17 and concentrated hard so that the tears burning in her eyes wouldn't leak out. After class, she cried all the way to their house on undercliff avenue, ran up to the woods and sat on a rock by a stream. She was convinced she would never learn how to read. Every time she guessed she was wrong. And when she knew she was right, she was still wrong. She often found herself distracted and unable to concentrate.

Starting point is 00:07:44 She couldn't understand the words unless they were read to her. B always looked like D. P looked like G and E just looked plain weird. Unknown to her at that time, she suffered from dyslexia. Barbara stifled her tears in time for dinner, not wanting anyone in her family to know that her teacher had said that she was stupid. How could she be she thought to herself? She was the family entertainer.

Starting point is 00:08:08 She created the games and came up with the ideas for the shows that she and her four siblings would often hold in their basement. She had always thought that she was brilliant, but now felt like she was the dumb kid. After the family had dinner and the table was cleared, her mom asked her to stay with her in the kitchen. Barbara, I got a call from your teacher today, Mrs. Stella Marie. She told Barbara while she was sweeping the floor. She said, you are having trouble

Starting point is 00:08:34 reading. Barbara's eyes wailed with tears. Her mom put down the broom, held her shoulders with both hands and looked her straight in the eyes. Barbara, she said, encourage me, don't you worry about it. You have a wonderful imagination, and with it, you can fill in any blanks. With that, she smiled and picked up her broom. Years later, Corcoran revealed, I feel like my whole life, I have been insecure about looking not smart.

Starting point is 00:08:59 So I feel like everything I do is in constant attempt to prove to whoever is around me that I measure up. I am also proven to myself that I'm always running around with insecurity. In the years that followed, she didn't let that feeling of insecurity halt her ambitions, but her success surely didn't come overnight. By the time she turned 23, Corcoran had already had 20 jobs and was working as a waitress. This is the point when she obtained a $1,000 loan to launch her real estate company in New York City.

Starting point is 00:09:33 30 years later, she oversees a $5,000,000 real estate business. This is a successful TV personality and is the author of Shark Tales, how I turned $1,000 into a billion-dollar business. This story leads to a series of essential questions. Is there a wrong view of success? What is the meaning of true success? How can we define it for ourselves? Is success measurable?

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Starting point is 00:12:17 Author Stephen Covey remarks, if the latter is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take gets us to the wrong place faster. This statement clearly indicates that it is possible to pursue the wrong kind of perceived success. You may find it interesting to know that many people's definitions and ideas of success

Starting point is 00:12:38 are inaccurate, deceptive, and unacceptable. They often adhere to what society tells them is important. The pursuit of materialistic things, or what others might call the quantified society, where we are judged by various metrics, such as followers, likes, grades, types of car we drive, salary, size of our house, etc. The higher someone scores on those metrics, the more successful society determines them to be. And if you want to hear more about this topic, I would encourage you to listen to the episode I did, number 96, where I covered materialism in an entire podcast episode. When you base your success around fame, wealth, possessions, titles, or accolades, you find yourself unable to enjoy and be passionate about what you

Starting point is 00:13:26 are doing. Thus, success by that definition is by definition made up and doesn't exist. Instead of following an explorative or creative mindset, we turn life into a competition. In short, we pursue the made up system of what society tells us we should be doing instead of the life we were meant to be living. When this happens, you are almost certain to suppress your natural instincts to pursue true and lasting success. This will most certainly lead to a general sense of discontentment with life. This is why you must define the version of success for yourself and yourself alone before attempting to achieve it. So now that we've explored that first question, let's delve into

Starting point is 00:14:11 the second one. What is the meaning of true success? And how can I go about defining it for myself? True success always begins with who you are as a person and the unique abilities, talents, and gifts that you have been given. On your road to becoming successful, you need to first ask yourself, what does success mean to me? Success begins in our minds, said another way, our thoughts become actions,

Starting point is 00:14:38 and actions produce outcomes. So the success equation starts with our mindset and controlling our thoughts. Good ideas create positive habits, which yield favorable results. Once you realize this, you will make the space within yourself to realign harmoniously with your essential self and become the best that you can be with the gifts that you have been given. The goal of defining your own success is to begin by living a life based on your own terms and expectations. This starts by focusing your actions on activities that bring you joy, a sense of fulfillment,

Starting point is 00:15:17 service to others, and advancement. In defining true success for yourself, you need to stay true to a more profound sense of purpose and meaning. You need to have the courage to pursue your own journey when confronted by fear, uncertainty, and obstacles that life will throw at us. You need to choose your own path, especially when those things hit you, instead of merely following the empty promise of conventional success. In doing so, you must be conscious and intentional about living to your core values that genuinely

Starting point is 00:15:51 allow you to connect to a cause or community that goes beyond yourself. Whatever success you achieve should connect you with others and positively impact their lives. So, that begs the question, is success measurable? According to the article, the true measure of success, which appeared in the Harvard Business Review, there is a sequence for selecting metrics that allow a company to comprehend, track, and oversee the cause and effect relationships that determine its performance. These same steps taken in this exact order can also be used and applied to charting one's personal goals.

Starting point is 00:16:29 And the four steps go like this. First, define your governing purpose. Second, assess the drivers of that purpose by developing a theory of cause and effect. Third, identify the specific activities that you can execute to achieve the desired objectives. Fourth, measure your outputs to ensure that they constantly align with your end goals. A clear governing purpose is essential to individual success because it guides the allocation of time and effort. Defining one's objective requires us to outline what success is to each of us individually,

Starting point is 00:17:06 considering, as I spoke about before, our unique abilities. Developing a theory of cause and effect to assess, presume drivers of the objectives translates to examining your reasons for choosing that goal and what achieving them will result in. Identifying the specific activities that can help achieve the governing objective translates to consciously making actionable plans and taking steps to lead to your desired goals. Measuring your outputs to ensure that they align with the objectives, translates to consistently reviewing your plans and ensuring they are well in line with your and destination. So now that I've given you a technique

Starting point is 00:17:45 to measure your success, let's talk about what you can do to achieve true success. In achieving true and lasting success, you need to actively pursue what you aim for. Let's go back to our story about Barbara Quarkren. Because of her dyslexia, Quarkren was labeled the dumb kid by her teachers and classmates.

Starting point is 00:18:03 However, she later said that that bullion drove her to work harder and learned the skills she needed to succeed. In like manner to Barbara, you can use the rejections and obstacles that you face in your own life to fuel your desired future. Realize that success is a continuous process and not a fixed destination. It's not just a state of being, but an evolving journey of achieving your goals by taking actions step by step.

Starting point is 00:18:33 Most importantly, it would be impossible to achieve your goals without having the full faith in yourself and your own capabilities. No matter how hard you try, even though Barbara Corcoran had a learning disability, she learned that her past did not define her future and she could rise above that and believe in her ability to be successful.

Starting point is 00:18:54 Corcoran made significant personal strides without recognizing the extent of the odds that were stacked against her. Her success alone is confirmation that looking good on paper, that is being at the top of your class, the best athlete, or even progressing at the same rate as your peers, does not equate to the success that you can have in the future in your life. Without belief in yourself, the hard work sleepless nights and effort that you put in along the

Starting point is 00:19:21 way simply goes down the drain. Do not permit yourself to have self-defeating thoughts and don't give in to excuses and reasons why you cannot achieve a successful and fulfilling life. As we heard a few weeks ago from New York Times best-selling author Jen Bricker Bauer, an episode 107, everything is possible when you believe you can achieve it. Begin where you are. Study the daily routine of other successful people and adjust your routine accordingly. Follow your plan strictly and with focus and dedication, you can achieve the seemingly impossible and become the genuine success that you hope to be. So I've given you a lot of information today to digest. So let me wrap this up for you. American chef and author, Marcella Véidoulid, said, true success will come when you have the courage to be yourself. When you start focusing on yourself and stop trying to be like

Starting point is 00:20:19 everyone else, you will be able to recognize and put to practical use all your unique potential and abilities that you've been given. And doing so, you will be able to recognize and put to practical use all your unique potential and abilities that you've been given. In doing so, you will realize that true success is not found merely in materialistic things, but in maximizing your potential for the benefit of yourself and the others who you impact in your life. I'll leave you with this quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, where he says, What is success? To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people, and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics,

Starting point is 00:20:54 and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate the beauty, to find the best and others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition. To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived, this is to have succeeded. And I've learned throughout my life that I and I alone determine my own version of success. Therefore my parting words to you are that you have to define success for yourself, and no one knows the end result better than you. I wish you all the success in your life. And if you're new to this show or you want to introduce it to a friend or family

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles - How Do You Create Your Own Success? EP 120

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