Passion Struck with John R. Miles - Master Your Mind: 6 Proven Strategies to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear w/ John R. Miles EP 383

Starting point is 00:00:00 Coming up next on PassionStruck, you face a crucial decision. Will you let fear and self-doubt steer your path? Or will you take control of your story using the insights and strategies that you've learned to break free and fully realize your potential? Welcome to PassionStruck. Hi, I'm your host, John Armiles, and on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you.

Starting point is 00:00:29 Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself. If you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener questions on Fridays. We have long form interviews the rest of the week with guest ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes. Now, let's go out there and become PassionStruck. Hello everyone, welcome back to Momentum Friday

Starting point is 00:01:00 and episode 383 of PassionStruck. Ranked by Apple is the number one alternative health podcast. And thank you to each and every one of you who come back weekly. Listen and learn, and live better, be better, and impact the world. I have some truly amazing news to report. Earlier this week, I found out that my upcoming book, Passion Struck, was selected by the next big idea club, a club that's curated by Adam Grant, Susan Cain, Dan Pink, as well as Malcolm Gladwell,

Starting point is 00:01:25 to be one of their must reads for 2024. I was truly blown away and it's such a humbling honor to receive. You can purchase the book anywhere that you purchase books, including Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Walmart, etc. And then once you do pre-order it, you can go to the PassionStruck website under the book page, put that information in, and you'll get access over $300 free bonuses, including a masterclass that I give, access to the first chapter of the book, access to our exclusive Facebook as well as also getting access to two exclusive e-books from topics that I feature in the book. If you're new to the show, thank you so much for being here, or you simply want to introduce

Starting point is 00:02:06 this to a friend or a family member, and we so appreciate when you do that. We now have episodes starter packs which are collections of our fans' favorite episodes. We've put in to convenient playlists. I give any new listener a great way to acclimate themselves to everything we do here on the show. Either go to passionstruck.com, slash starter packs, or Spotify to get started. In case you missed it, we're learning the week I had two phenomenal guests. The first was retired astronaut Mike Massimino. From growing up as a working class kid, with a dream as vast as the cosmos,

Starting point is 00:02:33 distracting himself into a NASA space shuttle. Mike has experienced a journey that's nothing short of extraordinary. In our interview, we discuss his new book, Moonshot, which is not just a memoir. It's a road map for success packed with wit, wisdom, and the unique perspective of someone who's traveled parts of the universe a few of us will ever get to see. The second interview was with my friend Gordy Ball, the founder of the conscious thought revolution, an author of the new best-selling book, The New Millionaires Playbook, seven keys to unlock freedom, purpose, and abundance. Please check them all out, and if you liked either of those episodes or todays, we would

Starting point is 00:03:06 so appreciate you giving them a 5 star rating and review. These go such a long way bringing more people not only into our community, but I know we and our guests love to hear feedback from our listeners. Now let's talk about today's Momentum Friday episode. Have you ever stood on the brink of something extraordinary, only to hold yourself back with thoughts like, I can't do this, or my efforts don't matter. Perhaps after achieving something remarkable, did you ever doubt your worthiness? Feeling like an imposter in your own success story? You are not alone in the struggle. In our personal growth journeys, we all confront the

Starting point is 00:03:39 daunting barriers of fear and self-doubt. These silent adversaries have long shadows, so-and-douts about our abilities and worthiness, often halting our progress and dimming the dreams of a more fulfilling life. Yet the human spirit possesses incredible resilience. When we confront these fears and doubts with the intention to overcome them, we find that they're not the impenetrable walls that we imagine. Instead, they can become catalysts for growth, the key lies in understanding these emotions, and consciously applying strategies to dismantle them. In today's episode, I'm going to dive deep into the world of fear and self-doubt. I'll uncover their roots, examine their impact, and unfold effective strategies to help

Starting point is 00:04:19 liberate you from their grip. I'll be drawing upon insights from my upcoming book, Passion Struck, both powerful principles to unlock your purpose and ignite your most intentional life, to explore foundational concepts about this topic. I'll go into ways not just to avoid fear and self-doubt, but for transforming them into driving forces that propel us towards our true potential. To bring this to life, let's look at the inspiring story Wayne, the Rock Johnson, a Hollywood icon who tackled these very challenges head on and emerged victorious, channeling them into his extraordinary success. Join me as we explore these complex emotions and learn how to harness them as forces for empowerment and growth. Thank you

Starting point is 00:04:57 for choosing Passion Struck and choosing me. Be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life now. Let that journey begin. Wayne Douglas Johnson, globally known as the rock, epitomizes the remarkable journey from the throes of self-doubt to the pinnacle of stardom. This story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of self-belief. Born May 2nd, 1972, in Hayward, California, Johnson's early life was a battleground of adversities. Young Johnson grappled with uncertainty amid his family's financial struggles, and the fluctuating fortunes of his father's wrestling career. At the age of 17, Wayne had already faced multiple arrests for engaging in things like fights, theft, and check fraud. On one occasion, the police even

Starting point is 00:05:45 arrived at a school to pull him out of class for an arrest. However, his athletic prowess shone through these hardships. Opening the door to a promising football career at the University of Miami. It was that the University of Miami amidst the tough competition and high stakes of a top-tier football program in its limelight, that Johnson started to hone his resilience. Despite facing formidable challenges and being overshadowed by more celebrated teammates like Warren Saab, Johnson embraced each hurdle with tenacity that would later define both his wrestling and acting careers. After college's football aspirations led to an initial foray into the Canadian Football League, where he encountered a string of rejections and setbacks, culminating in a career and in dismissal,

Starting point is 00:06:27 faced with financial difficulties and an uncertain future, wrestling in the heirloom of his family legacy, emerged as his beacon of hope at this critical juncture. In 1996, despite the skepticism of his father and the doubts of wrestling trainers, Johnson boldly stepped into the world wrestling foundation. The WWF, now known, as the WWE. Yet the wrestling ring was no immediate sanctuary. Initially introduced as Rocky

Starting point is 00:06:51 Mavaya, a nod to his fathers and grandfather's wrestling legacies. Johnson was met with criticism and cheers from the crowd. This could have been a crushing blow, a reason to retreat for many, but not for Johnson. He perceived these hurdles not as setbacks, but as stepping stones, accrucible for his reinvention and rise. This early phase of his career, marred by self-doubt and early skepticism, was the forge in which the charisma and the character of the rock was developed. It is here that Johnson's unyielding spirit transformed adversity into opportunity, having the way for the legend that he would become, a beacon, a perseverance, reinvention,

Starting point is 00:07:28 and triumphant self-belief. As Dwayne Johnson's wrestling career reached stratospheric heights, he dared to envision a new chapter in Hollywood. This transition from the wrestling ring to the silver screen was fraught with doubts. Hannah wrestler truly become a leading character he wondered, yet Johnson shows to confront these doubts, head on, determined to realize his full potential.

Starting point is 00:07:48 His forey into acting began with roles, the mummy returns in 2001, and the scorpion king in 2002. But initially modest, these roles were crucial stepping stones that propelled him into the limelight of the entertainment industry. Though him by film, Johnson steadily built upon his success, eventually becoming one of the highest paid actors globally. The whispers of doubt that once echoed in his mind were now silenced by the overwhelming acclaim of audiences and as a resounding box office triumphs. Johnson's narrative is a masterclass in mastering self-doubt. Instead of yielding to it, he harnessed it as a catalyst for growth and self-improvement.

Starting point is 00:08:23 His journey from a football player whose career was cut short or wrestling icon in a Hollywood magazine, not to mention a successful entrepreneur with ventures like Hermana T. Kila Brand, 7 bucks production's company, and the XFL American Football League exemplifies the power of resilience, adaptability, and unwavering self-belief. Today, Dwayne the Rock Johnson is a symbol of the abdominal human spirit. His life story serves as a personal reminder that self-doubt is not an insurmountable barrier, but a challenge to be embraced and overcome.

Starting point is 00:08:53 It is a clarion call to all who face self-doubt. Believe in yourself, or in that belief lies the path to extraordinary achievement. Like Dwayne Johnson, through my own journey, I've come to recognize that fear and doubt are more than just fleeting emotions. They're potent forces that intertwine in a destructive dance, each fueling the other in a relentless cycle. Fear insidiously creeps into our thoughts, asking doubts on our abilities and work, and creating long, daunting shadows

Starting point is 00:09:20 over our dreams. It plants the seeds of self-doubt, us and us to question our every move and undermining our self-confidence. This self-doubt becomes fierce, perfect to accomplish, anchoring us in a place with chains of hesitation and a fear of taking risks. It limits our perspective, lines us to opportunities, and silences the voice of our true potential. The outcome is a self-imposed confinement where aspirations are stifled and dreams are choked by a cloud of what ifs and ifs and ifs only. Fuelled by this paralyzed and self-doubt, fear of failure leads us into a cycle of procrastination and evasion, a downward spiral that seems to distance us from our goals. We find ourselves immobilized, held back by the fear of missteps.

Starting point is 00:10:02 But here's the thing about this cycle, it's not just a trap, it's a test, a test of our resolve, courage, an unwavering spirit to break free from these shackles. This cycle of stagnation is not our destiny. It's merely a challenge, an invitation to rise, to face our fears, to look doubt in the eye and say no more. Yet, in confronting these obstacles, we discover our greatest victory. The moment that we step beyond the shadows of fear and self-doubt is the moment that we ignite our true potential.

Starting point is 00:10:32 We come to realize that the key to breaking free has always been within us, waiting to be unleashed. This epiphany is not merely an escape but a reawakening, a revelation of our inherent strength and the boundless possibilities that lie ahead. In our exploration of self-doubt, it's very important to understand that it's more than just a fleeting emotion. It's a matter of perception that can significantly distort our self-image. This ever-present voice of uncertainty isn't an enemy to defeat, but a skewed view of

Starting point is 00:11:01 ourselves, inviting us into deeper self-awareness. On one side of the spectrum, our individuals who are reaching for extraordinary achievements, yet they're threatened by the weight of self-doubt, plagued by feelings of inadequacy, they perceive themselves as unworthy of success. On the opposite side, our individuals, who, despite their remarkable achievements, struggle to internalize their successes, they often attribute their achievements to luck or other external factors, leading them into the shadows of imposter syndrome, where they unwittingly diminish their own accomplishments. Imposter syndrome is akin to a masquerade, a relentless feeling of being an imposter, despite glaring achievements. Those grappling with this syndrome find themselves doubting

Starting point is 00:11:42 their abilities, attributing their successes to mere chance. Rather than their own merit, the phenomenon is widespread, sparring no one, not even luminaries. May Angelou, Tom Hanks, and countless others, have voiced their personal battles with these daunting, imposter feelings. The American Psychological Association notes that about 70% of people experience these feelings at some point. Have you ever wondered what fuels this persistent doubt of imposter syndrome? This complex condition doesn't just appear spontaneously.

Starting point is 00:12:12 It's born from a nuanced mix, personality traits, and environmental influences. Imagine growing up in an environment where a team at rain supreme, planning early seeds of self-doubt, or a picture entering a professional landscape where you stand out due to your gender, race, or background, constantly feeling like an outsider, delving into the origins of imposter syndrome, means uncovering the deep layers of fear and self-doubt. These aren't merely temporary emotions. They are deeply rooted perceptions that significantly influence how we view ourselves and our roles in the world. This exploration is a journey to the core of our insecurities. A quest comprehend why we feel unworthy, even when others recognize our value.

Starting point is 00:12:53 Understanding the roots of imposter syndrome is crucial. It allows us to recalibrate our self-perception, oftenately embrace our true identity and acknowledge our achievements and potential without self-imposed limitations. It's about stepping out of the shadows of self-doubt into the light of self-acceptance, viewing ourselves through lens, clarity and confidence. Self-doubt, which as we've discussed, is a complex emotion, arises from various internal and external influences.

Starting point is 00:13:19 Let's examine its common triggers and manifestation. The first is negative self-perception and self-talk. Often originating from past experiences or social pressures, a distorted self-image can cultivate feelings of inadequacy. This leads to a cycle of negative self-talk, correcting mental barriers that prevent individuals from achieving their full potential. Second, there's perfectionism and procrastination.

Starting point is 00:13:41 For high achievers, the quest for perfection can be both a motivator and a hindrance. While aiming for excellence is commendable, an unyielding drive for perfection and fear of mistakes can spiral into self-doubt. This quest for perfection often results in procrastination, where fear of errors inhibits starting tasks, leading to missed opportunities and stunted growth. Next, there's the fear of failure and success alike. The dreaded fear of failure, coupled with an equally intense fear of success, is a classic sign of self-doubt. This fear isn't just about the outcomes themselves, but about the changes that they bring. Adapting to change whether failure or success can be daunting and contribute to mental

Starting point is 00:14:22 paralysis that impacts goal pursuit. Intriguingly, though, is very well-mined, explains, this isn't just about the fear of failure or success itself, it's about the change that comes with them. And let's face it, dealing with changes is not exactly a walk in the park for most of us. Fourth, their sensitivity to criticism. Handling criticism is always a challenge, but when it starts to define your self-perception, it indicates that self-perception, it indicates

Starting point is 00:14:45 that self-doubt is at play. If criticism tends to linger in your mind, overshadowing your thoughts, it's a sign that self-doubt influences your narrative, and then lastly, there's comparison with others, constantly measuring yourself against others, and dwelling upon your perceived flaws, while magnifying others' successes, is a fertile ground for self-doubt. This relentless comparison not only exasperate dealings of inadequacy, but also crafts a harmful narrative that can prove a different aspect of your life, obstructing personal growth and well-being. Understanding these triggers is key overcoming self-doubt by recognizing and confronting these factors.

Starting point is 00:15:21 We can start dismantling the negative narratives that we've constructed and pave the way for more confident and fulfilled self. So now let's explore the mental toll of self-doubt. I know from my own personal experience self-doubt doesn't just visit it storms in, turning our mental world upside down and rearranging everything in its path according to psychology today. Self-doubt can be constructive when used as motivation. However, the harsh truth is that for most, self-doubt is less a seed to be written, and more an overwhelming force that tramples our mental well-being. If left unchecked, self-doubt and morph into something much more sinister, anxiety or depression,

Starting point is 00:16:01 which starts as a faint whisper of uncertainty about our abilities and quickly escalate into a deafening roar of fear and apprehension. Research from PubMed Central reveals that individuals prone, chronic self-doubt, experience higher levels of stress and depressive symptoms, compared to those who manage their self-doubt more effectively. Self-doubt and city of nature also extends to clouding our decision-making, often dredging up past failures. Cognitive psychologists Dr. Gary Klein notes that this can lead us to analysis paralysis,

Starting point is 00:16:32 where we become mirrored in overthinking an indecision. When engulfed in self-doubt, our self-esteem inevitably suffers. What was once a fortress of confidence begins to erode, crumbling under the weight of persistent doubt, a study published in the personality in individual differences journal highlights that chronic self-doubters typically have lower confidence levels, putting them at risk for diminished self-esteem. So how can we combat fear and self-doubt? We can implement strategies like cognitive restructuring and anxiety optimization.

Starting point is 00:17:03 These techniques offer a path to reframe our thinking, managing anxiety effectively, and enhance our intrinsic motivation, providing a roadmap to reclaim control over our mental landscape and steer away from the quagmire of self-doubt. So let's explore using cognitive restructuring as a way to tackle fear and self-doubt. Cognitive restructuring is a potent therapeutic method designed to dismantle and transform limiting beliefs that underpin fear and self-doubt. Pognitive restructuring is a potent therapeutic method designed to dismantle and transform

Starting point is 00:17:26 limiting beliefs that underpin fear and self-doubt. This technique involves pinpointing, alleging negative thought patterns with the goal of substituting irrational or harmful beliefs with balanced and realistic ones, thus fostering healthier mental perspectives and emotional well-being. Here are some steps on how you could apply cognitive restructuring. It starts with awareness. The first initial step is recognizing negative thoughts. This self-awareness is vital for identifying the self-doubt patterns that may act as barriers. And then this leads to identification. Pinpoint specific negative thoughts linked to self-doubt, such as, I'm not good enough, I will fail or I'm unworthy. Then there's examination. Critically, evaluate these thoughts. Are they instances of past successes?

Starting point is 00:18:10 Are there instances of past successes or positive feedback to contradict these negative beliefs? Then that moves us to a challenge. Actively, dispute and reframe these negative thoughts. Replace them with more grounded and affirmative alternatives, like I might encounter challenges, but I have triumphed over difficulties before. And then this leads us to practice. Insistency is crucial. Regular practice of cognitive restructuring solidifies positive thought patterns over time, gradually replacing the old self-limiting ones.

Starting point is 00:18:40 By incorporating cognitive restructuring into your routine, you can effectively rewire your thought processes, leading to a more empowered and self-assured approach to overcoming fears and self-doubt. Now let's explore anxiety optimization. In my upcoming book, Passion Struct, I explore the transformative journey of overcoming self-doubt, run from my personal experiences as a high school runner. Initially, I was plagued like many people with pre-race nerves that hindered my performance, but a pivotal shift in mindset led to a profound transformation in my approach to both running and life. This transformation involved key strategies to break free from the shackles of self-doubt. At first, strategy I employed was acknowledging fear.

Starting point is 00:19:20 I realized that fear of failure was a natural response, but I refused to let it control my actions. Understanding that anxiety about new challenges is normal, was the first step in overcoming it. Second, I challenged the status quo. I pushed beyond the comfort of familiarity, understanding that real growth and self-discovery occurs when I stepped out of my comfort zone. Third, I learned how to reframe failure. I began to see failure not as a setback, but as a vital part of learning. Each failure became a lesson, a stepping stone, propelling me towards future successes. And the fourth thing I did was build resilience.

Starting point is 00:19:54 Hacking small challenges and gradually increasing their complexity helped me to build resilience. This practice not only boosted my confidence, but also lessened the grip itself out. Through persistent practice and the power of mindful visualization. I was able to transform my approach to running. Furnishing anxiety is a driving force for peak performance. By learning how to thrive in the zone of optimal anxiety, I pushed my abilities to new limits while continuously progressing. This personal journey encapsulates a universal truth.

Starting point is 00:20:24 Optimizing anxiety and conquering self-doubt are crucial whether you're striving for extraordinary achievements or battling feelings of unworthiness after success. By embracing challenges, reframing failures and fostering resilience, you too can turn self-doubt into a powerful engine for growth, pushing past limitations to realize your full potential. As I discovered on the track, these principles are applicable across all facets of life, guiding you not only to achieve, but also fully embrace your extraordinary accomplishments. So now, I want to take you through some actionable strategies for overcoming self-doubt and fear. In order to do this requires more than just understanding, it demands practical everyday

Starting point is 00:21:04 strategies. Let's dive into actions that you can take to strengthen your mental resilience. The first is to cultivate self-awareness. Use meditation and mindfulness to become acutely aware of your thoughts and emotions. This practice helps you identify when self-doubt arises, empowering you to address its root causes effectively. Second, challenge negative self-talk. Don't let your inner critic dominate the conversation. Question, it's negative assertions and replace them with positive affirmation.

Starting point is 00:21:30 Remind yourself of your capabilities and worth. Reinforcing beliefs like, I am capable. I can learn and grow. I am worthy of my achievements. Third, set and pursue realistic goals. Law ambitious goals are admirable. They must be attainable. Break your goals into smaller,

Starting point is 00:21:45 achievable milestones. Each small victory builds confidence and propels you towards larger aspirations. Fourth, practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness, particularly when faced with setbacks. Understand the mistakes are part of the journey, not failure. They offer invaluable lessons for refinement and grow fifth, celebrate your strengths and progress. Regularly, remind yourself of grow fifth, celebrate your strengths and progress. Regularly, remind yourself of your strengths, skills, and past achievements. Egnolge every step forward however small. Celebrating progress nurtures a positive self-view and maintains motivation.

Starting point is 00:22:16 Six, integrate positive daily habits. Build daily habits that enhance your well-being, such as exercise, nutritious eating, and continuous learning. These habits boost your mood, energy, and self-perception, fortifying you again self-doubt. Remember that overcoming self-doubt is a continuous process. Hation, self-kindness, and consistent practice of these strategies will gradually replace self-doubt with a strong, confident inner voice leading you to realize your full potential. As we conclude this exploration into the depths of fear and self-doubt, we've unearthed

Starting point is 00:22:47 their insidious nature and the profound impact that they can have on our lives. This journey isn't just about awareness, it's a call to action, a challenge to transform your inner narrative and embrace your true potential. These strategies we've discussed are more than just theoretical ideas. They are practical tools designed to reshape your mindset, challenge limiting beliefs, and build the resilience that you need to overcome in your battles. Now you face a crucial decision. Will you let fear and self-doubt steer your path, or will you take control of your story

Starting point is 00:23:18 using the insights and strategies that you've learned to break free and fully realize your potential? The choice is yours and it's a powerful one. Choose to transcend your self-imposed limits and step into a life filled with passion and purpose. To dive deeper into these concepts and solidify your journey into conquering self-doubt, my book, Ashton Struct, 12 Powerful Principles, to unlock your purpose and ignite your most intentional life, offers not just insights, but a detailed workbook for high achievers. If you pre-order your copy now,

Starting point is 00:23:48 you will gain access to an invaluable resource guiding you step by step with different exercises and templates to overcome, self-doubt. In the words of Marianne Williamson, our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we're powerful beyond measure. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give permission for others to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear,

Starting point is 00:24:11 our presence automatically liberates others. Embrace this truth, let your light shine, and become a beacon for others. Live fearlessly, overcome doubt, and inspire those around you to do the same. Remember that your journey to a passion-st struck life begins with a single intentional step. Take that step today. I hope you enjoyed the show and I wanted to thank everyone who wrote in this week and

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Starting point is 00:24:53 at John or Miles, or you can also sign up for my work oriented newsletter, work intentionally, Unlinked in. You're about to hear a preview of the PassionStruck podcast I did with Dr. Lucia Aranaka, a lecture at Stanford University and instructor for the Stanford Genomics Certificate Program. She has dedicated her life to understanding the intricate dance between nutrition, genetics, and epigenetics. Her research and teaching

Starting point is 00:25:16 have illuminated the profound impact of our daily choices on our genes and our overall well-being. This episode is a treasure trove of information about epigenetics. For me, individualizing epigenetics can be done right now and in a very easy way. So we first start from the universal principles. In general, we know that an epigenetically complete diet involves animal foods and plant foods. We know how these foods nourish our epichinum. Then we need to personalize to people, preferences and conditions. We rise by lifting others, so share the show with those that you love and care about. You know someone who's dealing with self-doubt and definitely share

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles - Master Your Mind: 6 Proven Strategies to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear w/ John R. Miles EP 383

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