Passion Struck with John R. Miles - Nick Thompson on Grit, Growth, and the Miles That Matter | EP 683

Episode Date: October 30, 2025

In this powerful conversation, John R. Miles sits down with Nick Thompson, CEO of The Atlantic and author of The Running Ground: A Father, a Son, and the Simplest Sport. Together, they explore how running became a thread through Nick’s life—a tool for resilience, self-discipline, and understanding his father’s complex legacy.From the early memories of running beside his dad during the American running boom to surviving thyroid cancer and breaking the three-hour marathon barrier, Nick shares how the sport has shaped his mind as much as his body. The discussion expands far beyond the track—touching on fatherhood, AI and authenticity, the psychology of limits, and how pain can be both teacher and truth-teller.This episode is a reminder that sometimes the hardest miles—whether in life or on the road—are the ones that teach us who we really are.👉 Read the full show notes:🎧 Listen + Watch + Go DeeperAll episode resources—including guest links, my books You Matter, Luma, and Passion Struck, The Ignited Life Substack, and the Start Mattering store—are gathered here:👉 linktr.ee/John_R_MilesTo learn more about Nick Thompson, visit nickthompson.comFuel your body with purposeGet 20% OFF BUBS Naturals Collagen — clean, NSF Certified, and veteran-founded.Use code PASSIONSTRUCK at bubsnaturals.comAfter checkout, tell them our show sent you!Feel younger, sharper, and stronger — from the inside outGet 20% OFF Mitopure Gummies from Timeline, powered by clinically proven Urolithin A.Head to timeline.com/passionstruckYour cells will thank you.🧠 About the EpisodeRunning as Identity: How movement connects memory, focus, and meaning.Breaking Mental Ceilings: The invisible limits that look like data but are really belief.Discipline and Flow: What marathons teach us about self-trust and persistence.Fatherhood and Legacy: How Nick’s turbulent relationship with his father shaped his resilience.Authenticity in the Age of AI: Why real voices matter in writing and leadership.Pain as Information: Learning to differentiate discomfort from danger.Join The Ignited Life CommunityIf this episode stirred something in you, The Ignited Life is where the transformation continues.Each week, I share behind-the-scenes insights, science-backed tools, and reflections to help you turn intention into action.🔗 Subscribe free at TheIgnitedLife.netSupport the MovementEveryone deserves to feel valued and important. Show it. Wear it. Live it.Visit StartMattering.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Coming up next on PassionStruck. The other thing that's really important is this principle called cognitive offloading. And so that's the principle whereby once you start to rely on a tool, a technological tool to do something, you get worse at it. So you use a calculator all the time. You forget how to do long division. You use ways you forget how to navigate. That's fine. Who cares?

It's better to have a calculator do long division than we do long division. But when it comes to thinking and writing, I don't want to get worse at it. So I don't want to rely on an AI for it. Welcome to Passionstruck. I'm your host, John Miles. This is the show where we explore the art of human flourishing and what it truly means to live like it matters. Each week, I sit down with change makers, creators, scientists, and everyday heroes to decode the human experience and uncover the tools that help us lead with meaning, heal what hurts, and pursue the fullest expression of who we're capable of becoming. Whether you're designing your future,

developing as a leader, or seeking deeper alignment in your life, This show is your invitation to grow with purpose and act with intention because the secret to a life of deep purpose, connection, and impact is choosing to live like you matter. Welcome back to Passion Struck episode 683. I'm your host, John Miles, and I am so grateful you're here. Whether you're a longtime listener or joining for the first time, thank you for being part of this growing movement to live more intentionally and unlock the power of mattering. If this show has ever given you clarity, courage, or momentum, here's how you can help it grow. First, share this episode with someone who will find it meaningful and leave a five-star rating

or review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. It helps more people discover passion-struck and become part of this movement for intentional living. This week, we're continuing our series of forces that shape us, where we explore the unseen dynamics that define how we live, lead, and connect. Earlier this week, Claude Silver helped us rediscover the power of belonging and emotional bravery at work. But there's another force, one that threads through all of them, endurance. Because the way we move through struggle, uncertainty, and self-doubt shapes who we become.

To explore that, I'm joined by Nick Thompson, CEO of the Atlantic, long-time journalist, and author of The Running Life, a father, a son, and the simplest sport. Nick's story isn't just about running. It's about how movement helps us make sense of challenge, legacy, and the search for meaning. His journey through racing fatherhood and leadership mirrors the ones so many of us are on, finding rhythm, meaning, and endurance amid chaos. In today's conversation, we explore what running can teach us about failure, focus, and perseverance, how discipline becomes a language for self-respect, why endurance isn't about toughness, it's about trust, and how to find your stride when the path ahead feels uncertain.

My hope is that by the end of this episode, you'll see your own challenges differently, not as obstacles to avoid, but as invitations to grow stronger, slower, and more intentional. For deeper reflection and companion prompts, subscribe to the ignited life at the ignited life.net. It's where I share tools and insights with building resilience, purpose, and meaning, one intentional choice at a time. Before we begin, a reminder, that my upcoming children's book, You Matter Luma, is now available for pre-sale. Links are in the show notes. It's a story about courage, kindness, and the ripple effect of one small act, a message that resonates deeply with today's theme of persistence and purpose. Now, let's step

into episode 683 with Nick Thompson. Thank you for choosing Passionstruck and choosing me to be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life. Now, let that journey begin. I am absolutely honored and thrilled today to bring you Nick Thompson, the CEO of the Atlantic. Welcome, Nick, to Passionstruck. How are you today? Oh, thanks so much, John. I am thrilled to be here, delighted to talk with you. You and I have something in common. We both grew up in our childhood, at least a part of it, in Chicago. And then, as I understand it, you attended Andover. What was young Nick like? Were you curious, rebellious, driven? I was pretty driven. I was pretty curious. I was rebellious in a little bit rebellious in high school, like a little bit

anti the system. I had hair down to here when I was at Andover, which sometimes surprises people. My kids laugh when they see my yearbook photographs. But I always had, I think one of the things that my father gave to me, for better for worse, but I think mostly for better, was a drive to succeed at the thing I was doing or to really try hard. It was so, like, deeply ingrained in what he believed was right for life that came to me and certainly had that when I was in high school. Speaking of your father, I understand he loved to run. What's your earliest memory of watching your father do that?

How did it make you feel about him? I was born in 1975, and my father started to run in the late 1970s, and this was the great American running boom. When the complete book of running comes out, you look at registrations for marathons, they skyrocket. And my dad at that time was a little bit of a rut professionally, not living up to his early promise. He was struggling him with alcohol, and he starts running. And it gives him a feeling of self-confidence. And so in about 1980s, when I was five, he would take me out to run. And we would go and we would run around. I was living in Brooklyn, Massachusetts. And we would go and we would run out the door, around the block. I remember running a mile with him.

I remember running to this place called Pine Manor College. Having had children, I can't quite square my memories with running like two or three miles with my dad with being five or six years old. But it must have been that because he left when I was six and a half. So I have all these memories of running with him. I must have been running a couple miles with my dad when I was five years old. My running actually started when I was in seventh grade. I had a paper route and I had it for a few years before that and it was an afternoon paper out. But what I was finding was I wanted to play with my friends and stuff. And so walking the

route wouldn't give me enough time to get back and study and play with my friends. I started to run that's awesome. I grew up being a heavy set kid. And so it was also my ticket to getting skinny and getting healthy. So yeah, that's how I started into it. And it really became a huge passion for me. For a lot of people, it's they come into, some people come into running because they drive the track team. Some people come into running because it's like a good way to get around, right? You're like, all, I don't know, Kenanisa Vakele, right, like runs to school, but Ethiopia and Kenya or people run for efficiency. My father's father used to hike seven miles and like Arizona drylands to get to school. That gets you in shape. And you learn.

about fitness in part because it gets you around. Well, I mean, it certainly does that. And growing up where you did and then going to Andover, you certainly had to deal with different conditions. I had to deal with them when I was in Pennsylvania too. And I remember having to go out in the sleet, the snow. And funny enough, those were some of my favorite runs. Just because it made you like notice more or it was just different.

what it was about it. I almost look forward for moments like that. Completely. It increases the intensity of the run. If you go out and it's 100 degrees or it's three below or it's pouring rain, you feel more. It just, it heightens your awareness. It heightens all of your sensory perceptions and makes you more present in your run. It's other times where I like to run where it's like nice and cool and there are times where I like to run where it's just madness out there. Before we dive into your book, which is the main reason for you coming on the show today, and the book's name is The Running Ground, a father or son, and the simplest sport. I did want to ask you a question about technology, given it something you're also

passionate about. So I have a ton of listeners who are Gen Z, like my son, who's 27, and my daughter is 21, and they all come to me with career advice because they're struggling right now in a lot of different ways, where to put their attention because they're all very fearful of what technology is going to do to industries. And I wanted to ask you, since you're kind of in the middle of this, what would be your advice to someone who's coming out of college or a young adult right now? They have some obstacles and they have some advantages. So one of the obstacles is like we're seeing unemployment rates shipped up for young people. And it seems, based on the data, that is partly because of AI. The bottom wrong of career ladders is getting knocked out. Companies are higher

hiring fewer people because AI or AI agents can do the work that young people traditionally do. So higher up the career ladder, we're seeing very few effects of AI, lower down the career ladder, we are starting to see those impacts. So that works against young people. But working for them, they actually know how to use these systems because they all grew up using them. Ideally, they have used AI as a tutor, not as just a thing to do their homework, but they understand these models at a deeper level. So they should be able to learn the skills that come with AI. The lesson, I think, for young people and the lesson for future careers is that no one can

foresee how AI is going to change businesses. And I don't know exactly which industries are going to change. I can give you a hypothesis, but I don't know for sure. But what I do know is that it's going to be jagged. It's going to input some industries and some professions here than others. And so the skill that you're going to need to cultivate is the ability to be flexible, right? be able to move and to shift, right? And it expands our capabilities, right? If you're really good at design, AI also gives you like a little bit of that ability to code. If you're really good

at coding, it gives you a little bit ability to design. So individuals are going to have a broader skill set. And so what you should cultivate if you're young. And this is what I would tell my kids or a little younger than yours. Come out. Focus on what you're curious and passionate about, right? That's the thing. You love it. You'll figure out a path to success. Be flexible and understand what AI is doing it because people deeply want that. Every company wants people who are AI need up 100%. Okay. And I have to ask you just one other question. Sure. I love talking about this stuff. Since you are right at the epicenter of writing, obviously, and I'm an author, I know one of the things in all my writing and especially being very involved on substack is the

impact of AI on kind of authenticity of writing. Yeah. What are your thoughts in this? space. Well, it's a huge question, both for me personally, right? If someone who's just written a book, then someone who's CEO of the Atlantic where we have lots of writers. My view is that AI is a tool that can make writers much more productive and much more efficient. It helps research. It can help sorting through notes. It's a very useful, quick editor. It's not as good as the best human editors, but it is a good quick editor, right? Like, I've written the substack post, please identify any parts of this post where I use redundant language, repeat words, or have unclear phrasing, right?

We should run all of our posts through that. What I don't use it for is I don't use it for writing, right? And I don't use it for writing for a couple of reasons. One, it's not a good writer. Two, there's some interesting legal implications, right? If you were to go into substack and say, hey, open AI, write a post for me in my style, it's not clear that you own that post or whether the chatbot you own owns that post, right? And eventually there'll be court cases and be settled.

And then most important, it's like people expect it to be real and to be you. And I think as time goes on, there's going to be a real premium on authenticity. And no one's going to trust people who use AI to write. So don't do it for bad, possibly illegal. And it breaks the trust bonds. I just went, for example, I went and read

the entire audio book of the running ground. It took me like 13 hours or something to go and read it beginning in. I could have used an AI voice generator and have it sound pretty much like me, but I think it's important to do these things and do it as us. Can I say one more thing about this. The other thing that's really important is this principle called cognitive offloading. And so that's the principle whereby once you start to rely on a tool, technological tool, to do something, you get worse at it. Right. So you use a calculator all the time. You forget how to do long division. You use ways. You forget how to navigate. That's fine.

who cares. Better to have a calculator do long division than we do long division. But when it comes to thinking and writing, I don't want to get worse at it. So I don't want to rely on an AI for it. I find it almost impossible to avoid AI at this point because no matter what you plug into Google or any search engine, it's using AI on the back end. But I use it in many ways that you just described. It's a great way as I'm trying to think of a framework or a way to explore a topic before I write it, to test out different ideas and get tonality and how readers will perceive it, how they'll feel stuff like that. But you're right. It always tends to repeat itself. It always tends to say things that I've heard a million times before. So I find like when I'm writing, I want to be unique.

I want to say something that's different and more profound than what's what I've read out there. So it's never going to do that for you. Yeah, I think you're using it the right way. You should definitely use it, right? It's amazing. It's got to be. careful. Let's get back to running. I have to ask, and maybe I'll give you mine, what's the most meaningful mile you've ever run and why that mile? The most meaningful mile, it will be when I was summer when I was 17 years old, going into senior year in high school. And there was a mountain called Kinzen Mountain in the White Mountains in Frankoni, New Hampshire. And I was a tennis instructor there is my servant job. And I remember trying to run off the mountain and I couldn't. And I kept

turning a rapid, right? You'd run up like, I was like two miles and there's a right turn. You go to Baldnob and a left turn to go up Kinsman. So you run two miles up there. And if you want to sort of chicken out, you go to Bald Knob, you look at the view, you come back or you can turn left and try to go up Kinsler. And I kept, like during breaks, you know, two hour break between teaching the kids tennis. I'd go run and I'd go and I'd turn left and then I would eventually get too tired and come back. And so there was a moment when I actually did it.

I got to the top, right? Maybe my third attempt. I was like, oh my God. And I'm using that as a mile. I probably took 30 minutes. So it's like an extra long mile. But it was the first time I'd really summited a mountain.

And I think it opened up something spiritually and opened up a connection to the sport. So even more than running a fast mile, even more than setting a record, even more than winning a race, I think it was. Maybe that is the origin of my passion for the sport. I love that story. My most meaningful mile also happened about the same age. I was a little bit younger than you at the time. I was a sophomore in high school, and we had a really good team that year.

I ended up winning a state championship, in fact. But we were in the county meet and we were, there was another team in the county that was also very strong, a bigger school than us. So they competed at a different level. But during that race at about the two mile mark, I was attacked by a Rottweiler who took out a big chunk of my leg. And I remember at the time, I was running. I was in second place on my team. The person who was the fastest on our team, you might know his name, Keith Dowling. Really? Yes. That's cool. A huge marathon runner. Yeah, of course. He was ahead of me, but one of my teammates, we ended up winning the county championship,

but it was really the first time for me that I stared at that much fear. And it was really a defining moment because I realized at that point that I could overcome setbacks. Yeah. That's a very intense story. Yes. My God. Yeah. So your father was really brilliant in pioneering the way you describe him, but do you also say he was turbulent?

And there was a period of time when you were around five years old, five or six, where your family was breaking apart. Can you talk about that moment and what it meant to him and what it meant to you? Yeah, so my father, he was brilliant. He grows up in Oklahoma, he then gets a scholarship, Andover, Stanford, wins a road scholarship, Oxford, comes back, marries my mother. And he is extremely successful, but, or extremely successful as a very young man, extremely promising. It's John F. Kennedy, and John F. Kennedy is like, this kid's going to be president before me. He's a big photograph of my dad in Life magazine when he was 20 years old, which is bonkers. But he comes back and he comes back with his road scholarship, and it's like a little harder to, he doesn't.

doesn't get elected to the Senate when he's 29 years old. And he struggles and has a hard time finding himself. By in the late 1980s, he's approaching 40. And he's starting, he's like comes a White House fellow, right? He's sort of a young Cold War hawk. He knows he's lined up for a pretty good job in the Reagan administration. But it's at this moment when he also realizes he's gay. And I don't know exactly when he first knew that.

I don't know. It's not like it's an on-off switch. It's not like a light. It's like you're gay. You're not gay. Clearly he's bisexual and he's on a spectrum of sexuality. But he like realizes that he is gay. And he leaves my mother, moved to Washington, begins dating men.

And also it's not a smooth transition, right? That's not like he goes into like monogamous long-term relationships with appropriate people. He goes into these like utterly chaotic, totally inappropriate relationships with people he picks up in DuPont Circle. And he also blows up his life financially. He can't manage his money, blows up most of his old friendships. It's just an incredibly chaotic period in his life. And obviously, my parents divorce and he's gone. And I don't know all that's going on.

I don't even know he's gay, right? I'm six years old. But that was a real transition for him. And from that moment on, his life was defined not by his professional successes, not by his ambitions, not by the roles he played in government, though he did play interesting roles in government. And he did actually have a, because he is that, I believe, the first, first Senate approved openly gay government official. He is a civil rights pioneer in some ways, but he's also just like absolute madness and chaos for the next 30 years of his life.

My roommate at the Naval Academy was actually a Rhodes Scholar, and I always thought Dave was going to go into politics and turn out that way he ended up. becoming a Navy SEAL and now he's an environmental attorney, but that's where I always thought he was going to go. Well, you know, Rhodes Scholar is hard, right? You get this stamp on your forehead and it's great because it like gives you access to all kinds of things, but if you don't live up to your promise, it can be really tough.

Yeah, I would think it's the same thing as if you win the MacArthur Genius Award. Yeah, forever a genius. And then like your new work is law. And people are like, dude, hang tight. We've got more from Nick Thompson coming up right after the, break. Thank you for supporting those who support the show and make it possible. You're listening to Passion Struck, part of the Passionstruck network. All right, this inspiring conversation with Nick Thompson.

Having interviewed Angela Duckworth a couple times, I understand why she got it. She's definitely living up to it. Well, your father's diaries as I am. understand it ended up in your possession was there something that surprised you the most about what you discovered there yeah definitely the end of my possession like he he moves away from the united states he abandons his house his house like falling down in virginia this old farm house he owned he's living in southeast as a complicated reasons i go out of the house a big filing cabinet out front like a snake in one of the doors take the leave the snake take the cabinets And then a few years later, I realized that in the cabinets, they're his diaries.

What most surprised me, I went through and I read them all after he passed. What most surprised me was his relationship with his father. And I didn't really know Frank Thompson, my grandfather. I had known that he had played an important role in my dad's life. My dad often said that he could only laugh fast marathon after his father died. But the diary entries are like all. They're basically two subjects in my father's diaries. alcohol why can't he stop and then his father and his relationship with his father and like how

hard it is happened letters they wrote and also somewhat ironically his father's drinking and why can't that guy stop which you would have thought would have been a good lesson for teaching my dad to stop drinking but i was surprised by both the depth of his feelings towards his father prominence of his feelings towards his father and then most by the fact that the sins of his father were all sins that he directly repeated and imposed upon me. Like, he's psychologically, the things that he most complained about his father doing in the 1970s, with one very important exception, were things that he would then later do in his own final years.

So for you, do you think running initially was a way to hold on to him or to get some distance from him for you? Both, both, totally both. And initially, it was all the way to hold on to him. It was a sport that he'd introduced me to, it was a sport that we did together. when I would travel and see him, we'd run together at all ages. First, he was, of course, much faster than me. Eventually, I was faster than him.

It was a great sport for father-son bonding. When he died, it was a way to hold on to him and to mourn him, right? Think about him. The fact that it's a sport where you can focus, devote yourself to specific goals, excellence, achievement. That, of course, was something he taught me. But this is a man who, like, very much lost his discipline, lost his focus. And I believe that running is a way to keep your discipline and keep your focus.

And so I keep running in part to honor him and remember him and in part also to not become him. So if you had the opportunity to run one more mile with him today, is that what you would say to him? Yeah, for us. Yeah, totally. He would love hearing that. And he would like maybe fight back a little bit, but if he'd been drinking, he'd fight back a lot. But we'd have a good conversation. We always had good conversations and good arguments.

So I want to move on to your journey becoming passion struck in your running career. So like many people who run marathons, I think one of the first things that anyone wants to do is to aim for the three-hour barrier. Yeah. For you early in your running career, what did that three-hour barrier mean to you? Why was it so important? That was the line. That was like, I kind of know what you said. Like, can you have either run a three-hour marathon?

not. Like, it just seemed like that was the cutoff and the only cutoff that matter. My dad had wanted to break that. He'd run three hours and 41 seconds or something like that. He just missed. And I had watched him run that race when I was seven years old. So it was like deeply implanted in me that 259-59-1 is good. 3-0-1 is bad. And so in my 20s, I tried over and over to run a three-hour marathon. The first one I did, I was like on pace and then I bombed out and ran 318. And the second one, I think I got closer, ran 306, and then I got a flat tire on my way to the third one. And the fourth one, I dropped out. Fifth one, I was on pace and totally bombed out and ran at 343.

So it was maybe my sixth one or my sixth or my sixth to my seventh where I ran, finally ran 257. I have to ask for you when you're doing the marathon, where do you, what mile range do you find is the hardest? For me, it was always around the 18th mile mark, 1819. I mean, back then, back then it was like 21 through 24, but that was going to know how to train. I believe the insane thing that they teach people coming to the marathons, just run 20, building up. It's all you need to do. Don't run more than 20. The last 6.2, they'll take care of themselves on race day.

That's the worst advice. Run more than that. If you run 20 in your training, you will die at 20. Why does everybody die at 20? Partly you run out of carbohydrates and partly because all of these race books tell you just to run 20 miles. Anyway, so I would always die the later part of the races. Now that I'm much faster, I understand the race better, the hardest part is like staying calm, like miles four through 10.

And not, you can tell yourself a million times, right? I'm going to run this pace, this heart rate rate, stay behind this person and I'm not going to go ahead of it. And then you're out there, and people are cheering, and you feel so good. And it is easy to go away little fast. And then capuch, you're done. And so that, to me, is like the first, that's, you suffer more and you hurt a lot more in miles, 18 through 25. But the trick, right?

The moment where you're going to succeed or fail is earlier. It absolutely is. So you then join, if my history is correct, you then join a New York running club, where you end up setting a more audacious goal for yourself of trying to hit 240. Yeah. And you weren't successful at doing that for a while. Maybe you can talk about that journey. Yeah, it's funny.

I tried forever to break three hours and finally broke it. Then I get way faster. I run 243. I'm like, okay, I'm going to break 240. And then that takes forever too. That also takes seven years of just repeated failure. Yeah, I kept running 243, 243, 242, 242, 242, 245, 245, 246, 243, 242. I just couldn't do it.

And I eventually cracked it, Philadelphia Marathon. It was the year, I remember what year it was. It was the year of Hurricane Sandy, which I think was the year of the elections. That would have been 2012. And the New York Ratham was canceled, so I ran Philadelphia Marathon. And I cracked two points. And I thought that would be the fastest I'd ever go. I would have been 37.

I'm pretty psyched. It's very hard. It's almost like when you set a goal and you miss it, it becomes easier to miss it the next time. And I just got in a, I couldn't break through physically in those prime years. I couldn't break through and go much faster. I think that's a good stopping point because if you're someone who's listening to this and they're maybe facing that same mental block that they have, whether it's running or some area in their life,

what would your advice be to them? I think what I didn't do, the reasons were buried pretty deep psychologically and they dealt with the sickness I had. But for someone who hasn't gone through the medical stuff that I went through in that same period, the trick is to like you have to figure out a way to force yourself to go at a speed that you don't think you can go right and that's really hard because you have to use your mind to make yourself do a thing that your mind thinks you can't do and to tell this story about when I was in the book I tell the story about when I was 15 and I was running track and I thought I could only run two miles and 11 minutes and 30 seconds that's where I run like 1130 1140 and then I enter this race where I don't know the size of the track And because of that, I don't know how fast I'm going. And I end up running 1048, which is much better. In my 40s, where I started, I figured out how to crack this barrier and then some.

It was partly by convincing myself that a six minute mile wasn't fast. And to do that, I went out on the track and I would run 200 meters at 430 pace, right? Just to get used to seeing fours on my watch. And I'd go out and I've run two mile repeats at like 530 pace just to get used to being much faster than 559. Right. I had to like at a deep level convince my body that running a six minute mile was not fast. It was slow. And it's a very hard mental process. And whether you're trying to go under a six minute mile or eight minute a mile or a four 40 mile, you've got to figure out a way of getting past those mental limits. And the same thing applies at work. Like sometimes you just have to set a goal that seems impossible and push to it. This thing that you think is going to take you five days, right? And you're going to just do it in. a day. And you learn different habits. You learn different processes. You learn better ways of not wasting time. In a way, it happened to me. I remember this is part of the book too, but it's a pretty relevant story because it's quite similar. It was the day of the Boston Marathons. I worked

at the New Yorker at that time. Amazing magazine. I loved it. And I was the editor of the website. And I edited and I managed and I had lots of confidence. And I was like, you could give me a story and I was absolutely convinced I could make it better. I could put it on the Internet. I could help spread it through our audience. What I did not have confidence is that I could write or that I could write quickly. And Boston Marathons happens, so bombs happen at Boston Marathals in 2013.

And David Remick, who runs the New Yorker, one of the greatest journalists of our lifetime, comes into my office, my boss. And he's Nick, you're going to write about this. I was like, no, David, I got other things to do. I'm an editor. I can't do this. blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, all these excuses, all these reasons why it's not right for me and

oh, this other guy, he's a runner and a writer. Like, why don't we get? Like, we're a commie. David has, shut up. And he, like, he says to me, he doesn't say, shut up. He's way too gentle. Nice for that. He, like, listens, but you can tell he's, like, rolling his eyes.

And he's like, Nick, this is what's going to happen. You can put down your phone. I'm going to walk out of this door, Ross's office. I'm going to close the door. And in one hour, I'm going to come back. I'm going to open the door. And when I do that, you're going to take a story you've written and you're going to give it to me. And then he walks out, closest the door, an hour later, he comes back and I did it, right?

And like, it basically was this forcing mechanism that was like, you have to do it. Stop thinking about your limits and stop thinking that you're a bad writer or stop thinking that you're incapable of writing quickly or doing this particular thing because you can't. And so sometimes you need a boss or a teammate or a coach to force you into that uncomfortable position. There are, like, Linlitz, if he'd said, I'm going to come back in 12 seconds. Like, I couldn't have written the story in 12 seconds, right? You need someone who actually knows what you can do. So he was the right coach and the right manager at that moment.

Other people have been the right coaches and right managers at different moments who have forced me into uncomfortable situations, which is how you improve. Do you think part of that, and thank you for sharing, it goes back to your father's line, never take on mice when you can take on tigers? Yeah, that's what it made me think of when you were talking about. It was an email. He sent me back when I was a kid. Nick, I want to go back to this period of your life because I have found that anything that's ever been worth accomplishing in my life has taken far more effort and I've encountered far more setbacks than I ever possibly could have imagined. And long before you broke 240, you were faced. You, you, were faced. You, mention it, a help crisis that stopped you in your track. You heard the one word that no one

ever wants to hear. Yeah. So you described that in the book is like the, after getting that diagnosis of thyroid cancer is like the worst year of your life. Can you take us back to that moment in that period? Because it wasn't just running. I mean, there were a ton of things going on in your life. Yeah, it's everything. So, well, a lot of stuff is going on my life at that moment. I was 30 years old and I've just been married, which is important. I had been in a professional rut and was like coming out of it. It had just gotten a good job. And really, I had been in a professional rut for 10 years. It just like gotten the job that it pulled me out like two months before. And then I'd run this awesome marathon. I'd run a 243 marathon. And so I went to go see

the doctor right after the race. I was supposed to see the doctor before the race that I didn't want to because I was worried he would tell me not to run the race because there's something wrong with my knee, which is not the best way to operate, but it's the way all runners operate. And so I go and see him like a week after the marathon and he puts his hands on my throat, does the stuff and he like sees a little nodule, right? And it says we have to get that tested out. And I've like, whatever, it's whatever. But then over time, it becomes thyroid cancer and then they have to operate.

You actually have to operate at me twice. See it's a little bright, but you can see I have the scar. It was a little bit like a necklace right there. And this made me confront mortality in a way that was quite different. I was 30 years old. I was healthy. I've never had. I'm sick as a baby, but I've never been sick in a real way.

And I was convinced I was going to die. I wasn't doctors and rational people look at the numbers. I know that a healthy 30-year-old male gets thyroid cancer is almost certainly going to get through it. But you go through radiation treatment, you spend all these hours, like lying on the floor, just feeling the worst. And then you come out, live in isolation for a little while, you come out, you can't walk, there's two beat down, exhausted. And it had been right after, like, it was inextricably tied to my running because it had been right after I had run this awesome marathon, right? You spent all these years trying to break 230. And then you're 243, and you're like, I'm on top of the world.

And then you're like, no, you're not. And so it was a big shift. And so then I came back, you eventually, I got healthy. I figured out the dose of lebitroxin that I was supposed to take to modulate my internal systems. Get back on it and get back to running. It was really important to run another marathon once I was healthy. I came back to the New York Marathon two years later. So in 2005, I ran the New York Marathon in two hours, 42 minutes, and 51 seconds.

in 2007, after all of that, I run it in two hours, 43 minutes, and 38 seconds. Pretty awesome. Now, what did those 13 seconds mean for you? When I started that race, I wanted to break 240, just because basically every race I wanted to break 240, and I ran on pace to try to run 240. I wasn't trying to.

But when I remember coming, you turn, you run down like Central Park South, coming from a circle, you turn it into, turn back into the park, then you run it up towards Tavern on the green, and you're running to this beautiful place. It's like profoundly important in my memory. It's where my track team used to meet.

It's where my aunt uncle used to live. Aunt said uncle used to live. This is an awesome part of New York. And I'm running up there and I'm like looking at the clock. And I'm like, oh my God, I'm like on the exact same time as two years ago. And I just, the emotions when I crossed that finish line were when I realized that I was faster than I'd been, even though I hadn't run 240, even though I hadn't run the race exactly right and all that. That was a very profound moment that I'll never go.

So I want to go back to your sickness just for a second because I think it's an important point. You write that we don't think about death most days, which means we also forget we're alive. And that line really struck me. For someone who's listening today, what practice helps you remember you're alive on the ordinary Tuesday? Partly running. I mean, like running reminds me, and part because running is so tied up with my. my sickness, I don't think about my sickness often. I do think about it often when I run. And so there are a number of things that just remind me that I'm here for a short period

of time and it matters. One, of course, is having children and being with my children, thinking about them and their options in their life. Same sort of questions that you and I were discussing with your kids a few minutes ago. Running is a practice that helps remind me of that. And then just whenever I seek beauty in the world, whenever I saw a dance show the other night with my wife, it was just amazing. And I think it triggers a feeling of being alive in a way that when I was in my teens and 20s, I appreciated art and music and life, maybe in ways that were deeper, the spiritual highs, the emotional highs that you'd reach, the kind of the emotional meaning I could find in music was a young man's mind versus an old man's mind,

but I didn't associate it as much with being alive as I do now. And I think that's a function of having been through my sickness. For those who listen to the podcast, you might remember an episode I did in episode 670 with a gentleman named Joel Beasley, host of the Modern CTO podcast. And the reason I'm bringing this up is Joel talks about the importance of setting ceilings for yourself. And he was telling me when he started Modern CTO, we set this ceiling for him that he ended up breaking seven years later. So he decided that he wanted to become a stand-up comedian. And so now he's setting a ceiling that for him, him success means that he's going to sell out

Madison Square Garden someday. So that's, that's awesome. That's awesome. The ceiling he is set. Yeah. You were at this ceiling of 240 for a while. And in fact, I heard you say in another podcast that the people in your running club started to call you Mr. 243, which I know. That's so annoyed. I mean, they weren't wrong, but like,

well, I love this story. So you get approached by a major brand who is doing an experiment on can they take people who are amateurs, not professionals, and change their performance trajectory? And, man, I would love for you to talk about this because I found this so interesting. I know it's crazy in retrospect. It's this whole trajectory of my running life changes.

I get this email from a Combs executive at Nike guy named Matt. And he's like, hey, at that point, of the editor-in-chief-of-Wired, right? So I'm not exactly what's not like to take my name out of a half, right? I cover Nike. But they know that I run, and I had written a story about their new shoes in the New York City Marathon. And he sends an email,

I said, hey, we're starting this program. We pair elite coaches with non-elite runners. You want to be part of it. And I, like, legit, almost didn't write them back. And I didn't write them back for a few days because I was like, oh, man, running is getting old. Do I need to do this? It's a selfish sport.

I spend enough time on it. I really want to have to deal with a bunch of elite coaches. just trying to coax a little more speed out of this broken down. I was 43 years old. And I, like, didn't write him back for, I'm very fast on email, but I didn't write him back. And then he wrote on the Monday or Tuesday. And then that weekend, it was my 25th high school reunion. And I go out and it was like super intense because a lot of my friends on that team die. I had one of them in his early 20s, like died while like on a stage before they fell off the stage and died. I had two of them who, like, died from cancer.

I had the one I was struck by life. It just had the worst, all the different cohorts in my life. This is the cross-country team of Andover when I was there has just had the most misery. My closest teammate, the guy who like beat me at New England, right? The guy I trained with goes to college as Top Runner Williams and then has given a cancer diagnosis and given like a 5% chance of survival. And he makes it and comes to doctor treating people. But just the tragedy that falls a scroop.

And so I'm like thinking about that and I'm going for this run. where I go and run this route up whole hill that I used to do. A friend of mine had just died, this guy, too, really close to it. And it's been a year since my father died. And there's something about the intensity of the emotion. And I remember on that run, I was like, you know what, I'm going to try this. I'm going to try to be more intense. I'm going to try to be a little bit like I was as a high schooler.

And then I was thinking about my dad. I was like, what would my dad say if I had offered this chance to get much better? So I write back, finally, maybe it's on that Monday. I write back to Matt. I'm like, okay, let's talk, right? And so then that begins this process. The next step, he organizes a conference call where I get on the phone with the three coaches, one of whom is Joe Holder, who's an expert in motion mobility.

Another is Brett Kirby, who's this like mad scientist, spiritual leader. He, like, designs a lot of the programs for Elliott Kid Chogay. And then there's Steve Finley, who's like a coach who go and run the Brooklyn Track Club. He becomes epic coach. And I talked to the three of them, and they're like, okay, tell us about you're running. like, well, I'm this old guy. I have this intense job. Nicknamed Mr. 243. I'd love to run, love to. I told my goal is to run better than two hours plus my age in minutes. So that meant run faster than 243. And they would later tell me, they listened. And they're like, what's

wrong with this dude? You can go so much faster. And so they have this conversation in the background. And they're like, look, given what this guy has done, given his training, given his natural ability, like, we can get him faster. And so they put me on our program, they start training me, and then everything shows. So Coach Finlay tricked you past a mental cap. For listeners, what's the practical playbook for bursting a ceiling that looks like data but is actually belief? That's like the best anybody's ever said it.

Looks like data, but it's actually belief. That's so good, John. That's so good. I love it. I told you I'm a writer. That's beautiful. No AI could write that. So he basically decides that he needs to convince.

me that I can fit myself into a younger man's body and that I can be as strong and fast as I was when I was 18 year ago. And so he starts having me run faster. He has me go to the track and run 400 meter repeats. I haven't done since college. He used to have me go out there and run like fast miles. And he's starting to just reset the calibration in my mind about what is fast and what is slow. And he wants me to run 238. Basically wants me to run 6 minute miles. Six 200 miles, 237, 12. He wants me to run that for us. And so we start to, he doesn't tell me this is what he's doing. He only tells me later. He's trying to convince me that I can do these things that I couldn't do, but he's not telling me directly. He's not saying, Nick, you can run it 237. Let's go, bro.

No, he's just like setting these schedules that slowly are shifting my perception about what I can do. And he's setting them at exactly the right way so that I'm hitting them and succeeding. And I'm, like, feeling like I'm accomplishing them and you lays out a Google Doc with a schedule. Joe tells me what to eat, tells me the cross-trading to do. Brett observes from a distance, but then weighs in on these sort of deep physiological questions about, of course, because I'm a reporter and a journalist. I'm always like, explain what happens to your mitochondria as you get older. Brett's there to walk through everything.

And I start seeing them getting faster, right? I started like running these faster mile repeats. start hitting these workouts. I haven't hit before. I do really well in a race. I'm like, huh. I run the Aspen marathon part of a workout. I'm like, wow, I did that pretty quickly. It's up and down mountains, not in a fast time, but impressive finish. And then I go out and I run the Chicago Marathon and I run it in 238. And then I come back and I'm like, you know what, I feel good. I'm going to run the New York Marathon four weeks later. And I run that in 238 too. And I'm like, huh, something's shifting. And then I'm like, you know what, guys?

And then the Nike experiment ends. Like Nike experiment was supposed to run to end the Chicago Marathon. I think those guys like Brett, Joe and Steve were probably paid to like train a cohort through the Chicago marathon. And then I'm like, Steve, can we keep going? And he's like, yeah. And so then he

trains me, trains me for more. One thing that I really wanted to ask you about is so you hit 229. Yeah. But after you do it, You wanted to get right back at it. Yeah. And this is how I really got injured in running.

My coach at the Naval Academy, Coach Al, like, never gave us a break and ended up just pounding us into the ground. And on top of everything else at the Naval Academy that you have to deal with, my body just started collapsing on me. And it was terrible. So there's definitely this rest that you need to take that oftentimes you don't want to. What convinced you to stop and what did you learn from taking a pause? So I run those two, 238s, and then I come back in the next spring, I run 234, and then the next fall I run 229. And that's the fall of 2019.

And so I run this 229. I've had this, like, magical sequence, right, where I've gone. I've taken 15 minutes off my time in a year. And I finished the race, right? And I'm like, oh, Ravi, 229. And so I don't think I've ever admitted this before, John. So I'm giving you some breaking news here. I didn't even admit this to my wife or my kids.

It's so embarrassing. I finished that race, and I'm like, I think I can qualify for the Olympic trials, right? Which is like 2019 a year, right? And for 218, right? And for those of you who are runners, like it may seem like 229 isn't that far from 218, like it's phenomenally different, right? Like, even at that moment, I could run like two miles or three miles at the pace. Like, people don't quite understand. Like, I'm a very good runner.

I could not keep up with the marathon leaders for like more than 400 meters. Like, they go so much faster. And so I finished the race and I'm like, Steve, and I think I wanted to run it because I can't remember the qualifying window, but I was like, maybe I'll run the CIM marathon in eight weeks. And I was like, Steve, maybe we can make a program to try to run like 219 in eight weeks. And he was like, Nick. He didn't say you can't do it. And if I had said we have to do it, he probably would have done it. But he's, look, I've been watching you and I'm looking at you.

And I got to tell you that the night before the marathon, every other rice we've run, I've known you're going to get it. I can't tell you. I've known you're going to get it. I've known you're going to get. He's like, but I looked at you and I was worried before this one. He's like, he looked skinny. He looked worn out. It looked like we'd gone to the max.

And he's like, you don't need to go to try to run a 219 now. You need to sleep. And so it's interesting, right? Because what he had done in both cases at the beginning, he had reset my expectations to make me go faster because that was rational. And at the end, he reset my expectations. No, you can actually do that. You're not going to run too next thing.

You're not thinking all you're going to do. is wreck your Achilles or whatever. And so he gets me to dial it back and slow it down. And then a couple months later, we start going. And then I get in the best shape of my life. So this is then the winter of 2020. And I was assuming I was going to go fast in 229, but then we have COVID.

So everything gets reset. Well, one of the phrases that I caught in the book is pain is information, not truth. Yeah. And I think you got this from running ultra distance. races. How did you teach yourself mid-race or mid-life to tell yourself how to figure out protective signals from genuine red flags? Every runner struggles with this. But it's so interesting. This is partly from talking with Kirby. It's partly through reading a lot of the literature. But as you get deeper into the sport, you realize this phenomenal thing, right? It's a theory it initially

began with this guy Tim Noakes, called the central governor theory. But the theory, which I believe absolutely is that most of the pain you feel in running is not strictly physiological. It is psychological. And what's happening is that your brain has expectations about what your body can do. And it believes that given the current temperature conditions and your current level of fitness and your heart rate and your body heat and everything else it's measuring, if it worries that you're going to head out of homeostasis and go to an unsafe spot, it sends a pain signal, right? And that is useful because your brain is trying to protect you, right? It's an evolutionary signal. If you are, it knows you're going to go around 100 miles across the Savannah, and it has a sense of how hard it is to run 100 miles across the savannah.

And if it's too hot, it's going to send a pain signal. And where that pain signal appears, it's not quite random, but it's not related to where the most exertion it, right? You might feel it in your elbow, right? Your elbow does nothing with your run. You might feel it in your digestive system, right? You might feel it in your calf, right? So you get all this pain that is information, but it's not real. On the other hand, you might actually have torn your Achilles, right?

And so your Achilles might hurt, not because your brain is sending a signal that you're about to lose homeostasis. You might have literally torn it. You might have broken your femur. And learning when you run, like, what is real and what is not? I just went through this on Saturday where I went out and I was like my hamstring was hurting. I injured my hamstring playing soccer with my kids. Wow. And it's hurting when I was running.

It started. It's all right, it's going to clear up. I'm good. And then, like, eight or nine miles in, I'm like, this is just body worried. I'm good. And then 10 miles in, I'm like, oh, my God, I can't move. I have to walk home. So probably would have been useful for me to have recognized this at mile six. And so they're just all pretty good at it. I'm not perfect. And recognizing, like, what is real pain and what is not. It prevents you from getting injured. It's what allows you to go faster. It's a very complicated process. And it's like a huge part of coming a successful runner. Yeah, man, I remember, especially in critical races, my mind would always have that crossfire debate when I am trying to push myself to someplace that I've never gone before. And sometimes I lost the debate and sometimes I won the bait. Yeah. Yeah, everyone knows this debate. Like, part of your brain is like, stop.

Part of your brain is, no, I'm still going. And you have it and you keep going. So what's it? Because I think this is applicable to life, too, because we do the same debate in any goal we're trying to chase. What have you learned to get yourself through that debate and come out on the other side of it positive? Yeah. Sometimes you just can't do it, right? So we'll say that. But maybe I'll tell you the story about a race I just ran. So the last, I guess two races ago was the Lake Waramog 50-miler. And I was trying to set the American record in the 50-mile run for men over 45, which means running 6.35 pace.

And I did it, and I was right on pace, a little head of pace through like, mile 35, and I thought great, right? And I'm hydrating well, I'm eating well, it's a good day. And then 35 starts to feel it, right? And for the first thing you do is you try to push it aside, right? It's okay, right? Like steady, you're doing it, right? And you just concentrate.

It's like a form of meditation. You're trying to like, you know what? I'm just going to stay in my mind. I'm going to concentrate. I'm going to relax. I'm going to push this pain aside. I'm going to think about different things. All I'm going to do is I'm not going to worry that I have 15 miles to reset my expectations because my brain is sending these signals because it's worried I can't run 15 more miles. I'm going to try to convince myself that this is just a race about getting to the next mile or the next aid station or that telephone pole, right? As you've reset what you think

you're trying to do, right? Or you reset it like there was another person. There's a guy I have laughed. But he's like good. He was like highlighting people and I was like, dude, can you do me a favor? I'm trying to set the American record. You look like you're fine, even though I just lapped you. Will you run with me at 6.30 pace? And he's like, yeah, dude, let's do it. Right.

And so I like run behind this guy at 630 pace, right? And so I'm like holding on to him. And then he gasses out at about mile 42. And I'm going back to like high five and the stuff he does. And so I'm still on pace at mile 42, right? And I've held on. And so then I'm like, oh boy. Right.

And so then I'm like, okay, now I'm going to focus on my mantras, right? So I have these things I think about when I'm running to try to push the pain aside. And the main one I do is I like think about one, two, three, one, two, three, one, two, three, one, two, three. And so I'm like putting the emphasis, it's like a drummer, putting the emphasis on my right foot and my left foot, my right, my left foot, right? And I'm like, trying to keep myself balanced and like straight and steady, but also just trying to calm the mind and shut everything out. And so I'm like doing that.

I'm like trying to think about other moments where I've succeeded. I'm trying to think about other things that have done that are hard and doing what I can't. But to no avail, I like started to slow. I was in agony. I pushed so hard. And I actually crossed 50.0 miles ahead of the second American record for one age group and not both age groups. But the loop course, you can't run perfect tangent. So I ended up finishing and missing both records.

I tried, I wasn't, I was not able to overcome whatever signal were going on in my body, but man, did I try? Man, I love that story. So I understand another race. You finally win the race you vowed to win as a kid. And then later you pace your son through his own breakthrough. What did those two finish lines teach you about things like pride, pressure, and letting your own kids tell their own story?

Oh, I love that so much. So, yeah, there's this race. When I was a kid, I spent all this time in this place called Northeast Tarborough near Acadia National Park in Maine. You know, I was just there. Oh, really? Yeah. It's great, right? It's like the best place in the world to run, like these carriage trails.

That's gorgeous. Yeah. Honestly, like if I were to, if I didn't have a job and if I were just a runner, I would move there. So there's always a race. Sadly, it's been canceled. If anybody listening wants to restart it, that would be God's work. But when I was a kid, there was always this five-mile race that would end in town. And I remember watching it as a kid.

My dad ran it one year. And I remember just bowing. I would win it and like making this pledge while I walk around my backyard as a child and then I tried to and I couldn't and I like ran it when I was undergraduate and I was strong and good third or fifth I ran it like a bunch of times and I never won then in the summer of 2019 summer where I'd end up running I would run 229 I pledged that I would win and I did right and I win and my kids are there at the finish line cheering and everybody's exciting and you know who cares it's like a local road race you have to be fast to win like they're good people who run that race and so two years later it's canceled the next year 2021 I come back and my son my middle son who's then 11 is like you know what dad I'm going to run it awesome and we train together

and I try not to put pressure on him right they may dispute this but I do my very best to my My goal is apparent is to be available for them anytime they want to do something. If they want to push themselves, they want to get good at something, I will help them. They want to get good at chess. I will play chess with them every night. I'm not going to tell them to play chess, right? If they want to get good at soccer, I will train them every night, but I'm not going to tell them to go practice. Right. And so he wants to get better at running.

And so I go out and I take him to the track and he gets better. And then we go out and he runs the race. So I run, I finish. I think he comes third that year. and then I circle back, and there he is. Like, a mile to go, he's trucking, doing a running nine-minute mile pace as an 11-year-old. And I get with him, and I like tell him, listen to his breathing and I run a little bit with him. And I, like, tell him to, actually, I think I have to tie his shoes at one point.

His shoe gets untied. But I try to help him focus, and, like, he speeded up, accelerates. And then he, like, guns it to the line. And his cousins are there cheering. And it was an amazing experience for him. And a great experience for me to see him. do something to support and love it. And like, he and I now, he's now 15.

On my 50th birthday, we went out and ran, I wanted to run a sub five-minute mile for my 50th birthday. So he went out and paid me for the first 1,200 meters of it. We'd go to the track and we'll do 8 by 400 where I'll lead one, he'll lead one, I'll lead one, he'll lead one. It's awesome. Yeah, so cool. Well, I want to end talking about Michael Westfall.

You're right that Michael says there's more to running than just beating people. He then goes on to say, I realized that when I was 58. Yeah. What did Michael change in your understanding of things like excellence, dignity, and community and what they mean? And Michael Westfall is a hero. So this race, the Northeast River Road race, when I'm running with my son and we're finishing, I was with this guy. My training partner out there is this cop, guy named Judson, killer runner, right? That year where I came in third, he came in second.

And I see this guy. I think at that point in the race, he was just ahead of Zachary. And I was like, Judson's okay, right? He's, like, running his arms flailing all over and, like, circling up, right? And Judson said, that's Michael Westlaw, man, he's a legend. And I was like, well, okay. And then I run with Zachary, Zachary ends up finishing just ahead of this guy. And so, like, Michael Westlaw, who's Michael Westlaw?

And I look up and he had actually won the Northeast Harbor Roan race the year my dad had run. And so I say to Judson, it's like, where's this guy, live? What is this story? And so I write to him, and I'm like, hey, my name's Nick. I love running. You finish just ahead of my son. I love to come talk to you. And so he has this incredible story.

He grows up on this island, Cranberry Island, and it's this little island off the coast of Maine. So there's Mount Desert Island, which is off the mainland. That's where Acadia is. That's where I was. And then off of Mount Desert Island is Cranberry Island. And it's got a year-round population of about 50. And there's one road. It's a two-mile road, runs through the middle of the island.

And then there's, like, little off-roads and beaches. And he grows up there. And, like, when you grow up a little island, like, I'm not. of kids to go to high school. His mom has to get power of milk. His dad, like, works in Boston Monday through Thursday, comes up Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Mom is like raising the kids in the little house. They didn't have electricity. They're in a tiny island off coast of Maine. And there's not a lot to do. And so everybody runs. And there's like a population, whatever, 40 or 50, and seven of them becomes sub three-hour marathoners, which is crazy. And so Michael becomes this awesome runner. And he runs

He's 229, 228. He's this great runner, wins all these races in Maine. He's also a carpenter, strong man. He builds a lot of the houses. There are all these sort of affluent families who come for the summer and the people who live here around. And he builds the houses for everybody. He builds his tennis courts.

He's flowing like rock gardens. Graber Island's awesome. And he builds a lot of it. And he's the caretaker for all the homes. And then when he's like 49 years old, he gets this sort of shaking his shoulder. And he's like, what is this? I'm sore. and then eventually he realized he's got Parkinson's.

And so then his arm starts to flail and he gets the symptoms of Parkinson's. We've all seen Michael J. Fox. We've all seen the consequences. And at first he's embarrassed, right? He's this strong guy who builds the island. These are his customers. He tries to hide it. And then he's like, I'm not going to hide it and I'm going to run.

And so he learns to run with it, right? And he, like, ties his hand back with string. And he learns how to, like, handle it with Parkinson's. And he's phenomenal. I think he runs like a 3-16 marathon with Parkinson's, right, in his 50s, right? He comes in, like, the top of his age group competing in people who don't have Parkinson's. Like, it is amazing. And so when I go and see him, he's in his 60s.

And I get on to get off the boat. I'm going to go up. And there he is. And he's like, his arms are flailing all over the place. I brought my eldest son. And we go and we drive with him. We're getting a car. And I'm like, oh, my God, right?

This can't be safe. I brought my child. old. And I'm like, you know what? This guy knows this island. I'm going to just trust him. And so we talk about his life. We talk about what he learned. We talk about his embarrassment initially and then his pride and learning how to handle it. And that quote, he was him describing what he got from running. And when he was young, he just wanted to beat everybody, like everybody. Right. He wants to run and win. And he ran 230. He wants to run 229. You run 228. Right. And then once you get Parkinson's, and once it's a little bit like my experience with cancer,

but you multiplied by 100, he starts to really fall in love with the community that comes from it and the people he meets and like other people who are struggling with different forms of Parkinson's, different kinds of medical treatments, different kinds of reactions. And he travels around talking to people running, racing, he learns that he has to run with support because he might fall. He might need, it's very hard to get a water cup, right? There are a lot of things that are hard when you control your body. And he just becomes this amazing runner. He sets the world record, I believe for fastest marathon by someone with Parkinson's, and he keeps going and going. And then eventually he can't go any further.

He can't do it anymore. It becomes too sick. He goes to a retreat that gets in more control, but he can't really run, except who went out to see him this summer? So five years after I first home or four years after I first saw him, and I bring my youngest son this time. And my youngest son is also a great runner. He's now allowed. We go out there and we talk for a while. I'm just catching up.

Like the book is already done. I've written about him, and I've just seen him because I like him and admire him. And then he's well, let's go for a run. And we go out and the three of us go and run a mile on that road on Cranberry Island. And he's one of those people who I just, I feel blessed. Well, I just have to ask you one and one last thing, and you can answer it quickly. But given his story, tomorrow morning, a listener who's heard this wants to start, maybe not running, but their own version of it. What's the smallest, most durable step you recommend and what would you say they should stop doing that's been camping their own ceiling?

They just should go out the moment they want to go out. That's the beautiful thing about running is you get to decide and you get to control. You won't play tennis. You need someone else. You need a racket. You need a ball. You want to run. And you also need to reserve a cork.

You want to run. You can just go. You turn the knob. Right. And so whatever's limiting them, whether they don't want to run because it's hot, they don't want to run because they don't want to run. because they don't have the right shoes. They don't want to run because your knee hurts or whatever. They're worried about something.

Like, let's go out, run around the block, run five minutes, run 10 minutes, or walk, five minutes, 10 minutes. Try to identify the thing that's holding you back and making you not want to do it. And one of the reasons I think this, one of the reasons I wrote the book is because there's this realization that, like, you really can just do, you really can just run, just you. Like, it's all on you. There's nothing else. There's no one out there is stopping you from running.

You don't need to rely on anybody else. Like, you can run anywhere, right? If you, like, I've done long runs. I've run 10 miles around a parking lot, right? You can go and run wherever you are. I run, I have run when it's 110. I have run when it's negative 10, right? You can go out there and you just make something Michael Westball said.

I was like, how many days that? I was like, how many days did you not run because of the weather? Right? on the island, right in the middle of Maine. It's like, how many days did you, like, not run because it was icy or the snow pile up front of the front door you couldn't get out or stormy or tree had come down? He's like, never. He's just a choice.

And so that's one of the beautiful things about running. So just take advantage of that. It's one of the things that it makes this sport so special. So whether it's running, whether it's walking, going out on your bike, whatever it is, just go try to do something that's like a little further, a little faster, a little more intense that you've done before. awesome well next such an honor to have you today what's the best place that people can go to learn more about you and your work so i'm on nick thompson dot com i'm ceo of the atlantic the atlantic dot com i'm all over

social media usually at annex thompson you can see all my runs on strava i posted video every day about ai and tech on lincoln so i'm all over the internet thank you so much for joining us and congrats on book thank you so much john i'm so glad that you like it i'm so glad you read it It was a real pleasure to talk with you, and it's a real pleasure to meet your audience. That's a wrap on today's conversation with Nick Thompson. What I love most about this episode is how much it reminds us that endurance isn't just physical. It's emotional and spiritual. Running for Nick was never just about miles.

It was about meaning. Here are three reflections to carry forward as you get through the rest of your week and your weekend. First, pain is information, not true. Sometimes what feels like a limit is really an invitation. Second, growth happens in the space between resistance and renewal. And lastly, the most powerful finish lines aren't the ones we cross. They're the ones we create within ourselves. If this episode helped you rethink your relationship with effort, struggle, or discipline,

consider paying the fee by sharing it with someone who needs encouragement and leaving a five-star writing or review. You can find the companion workbook and takeaways for today's episode at the ignitedlife.net. Where I share reflections and science-back strategies for living a life that matters. And don't forget to check out our YouTube channel at John R. Miles or our clip channel at Passion Struck Clips. Next week, we're starting a new series for the month in November on the inner irreplaceables, resilience and emotional mastery. We'll be joined by Dr. Zach Seedler, global director of men's health research at Movember.

And together we'll explore the evolving crisis of men, identity, and mattering, and how redefining masculinity could be the key to our collective healing. I think with anyone, if you're going to get up each and every day and do something that really matters to you that you have a sense of purpose and meaning around, it has to resonate on a personal level. It has to light your fire one way or another. And really, there are many different interweaving narratives that led me to where I am today. The more I reflect on it through conversations like this, I pick up different threads along the way that really turn me into the man that I am and led me down the path to doing the work that I do. Until then, stay resilient, stay curious, and as always, live life, passion struck.