Passion Struck with John R. Miles - Stop Applying a Governor to Your Life w/ John R. Miles EP 31

Starting point is 00:00:00 We are living our capability, our purpose in life, our future potential with the governor that we apply to ourselves. And you know what that governor is? It's our minds. And when it starts facing fear or adversity, it shuts down. You can think of our governor as our survival mechanism, as our safety blanket, as that crutch. When things start to get very painful, your mind ends up taking control and then it tells you and your body that you need to be doing something else. Anything other than putting yourself into that uncomfortable place. But when you can start taking control of your mind, you can start removing the governor from your life. Hello visionaries, creators, innovators, entrepreneurs, and leaders of all types. Hi, my name is John Miles and I wanted to welcome you to this episode of the Passion Start Podcast where it is my job to interview high achievers from all walks of life and unlock their secrets and lessons to become in Passion Start. The purpose of our show is to serve you a listener. By giving you lessons, tools, and activities that you can use to achieve a passion-driven life.

Starting point is 00:01:07 Now let the journey begin. Welcome to Momentum Friday, an episode 31 of the Passion Struck Podcast. And today, I want to start off by giving you three quotes from retired Navy SEAL, David Goggins. This first quote he says, "...then Nile is the ultimate comfort zone." And then he goes on to say, don't focus on what you think you deserve. Hey, aim on what you're willing to earn. And the third quote, and maybe the most impactful, he says,

Starting point is 00:01:30 you are in danger of living a life so comfortable and soft that you will die without ever realizing your true potential. And I decided to pick those quotes today because I happened to be listening to a podcast that featured David Gavins on it the other day. And as I was listening to him, he came out with one of his most famous statistics, which is that 40% of people he believes are not living at their true capability. And it got me to start thinking about some of my previous shows and some of the research I had done, I talked about the demise and people

Starting point is 00:02:02 becoming entrepreneurs and an overall business fatality not only in the US but across all Western cultures. And so I decided to dig a little bit deeper. And what I found was pretty shocking. I would share with you some of these statistics from studies that I found. That not only proved that what Agons is saying is correct, but he may be way overestimating the number and I believe it could be much smaller. I'll share all these statistics with you in the show notes

Starting point is 00:02:28 so you can go back and refer to them if you'd like. The first was an April 28, 2021 article that had the wrong statistics. It first said that only 20% fall Americans feel satisfied by what they do. Went on further to say that only 55% of Americans are either completely or partially happy by their job. Another 33% feel that their current profession is an occur ending job.

Starting point is 00:02:52 And 21% from this article were keen to change jobs already. So after that, I dug a little bit deeper. And I found a 2017 study by the FAST Foundation in mental health America. And it showed that 71% of all respondents out of the 17,000 people they pulled were so unhappy that they were looking to change careers It showed that most employees are just plain stressed out and two thirds blame their job for both mental and behavioral issues It went on to say that because of war

Starting point is 00:03:23 63% of respondents said that they take part in unhealthy behaviors, such as drinking and crying regularly. And that got me searching even harder. And so I then found a 2019 partner study that showed that only 13% of workers are satisfied by the careers and what they do. And then I found probably the most damning survey of them all. I found a 2019 survey that was done by Gallup. And this survey was the most fly-reaching out of all of them. It looked at the one billion bulltime workers from across the entire planet.

Starting point is 00:03:57 And in it, it found that only 15% of all those employees, one billion of them, are actually engaged at work. If you look at that another way, that means that an astronomical 85% of the planet's full-time workers are dissatisfied with their jobs. It got me to thinking about this further and further. Why are we finding so few people are living to their full capability? My conclusion is because I think we apply governor to our life and that is what I'm going to talk to you about today. Now let's get on with the show. I was growing up in York, Pennsylvania. I was lucky to have a great friend named Chip and we were friends from around the third grade all the way through bicycle and Chip lived pretty close to me so close that we could easily ride our bikes to each other's

Starting point is 00:04:49 house. But one of the things that I enjoyed most about childhood with Chip and his family was that they had a family farm outside of town and on weekends and during the summer we would often go there with Chip's father. And if you knew anything about Chip's dad, he was one of Town's few dentists, but he was always miking around with something. He loved play with mechanical things. He loved that farm, and he loved having boys be boys. And so we had so much fun on that farm. And we did activities such as helping his dad farm,

Starting point is 00:05:19 helping him fertilize, ride the tractor, et cetera. I probably ate 2000 years of corn during my time there. He also had horses, motorcycles, but my favorite activity, and I bet you, if you ask, Chip, is as well, were racing a hundred dune vuggies that they had. And oh my gosh, they were so much fun. But as we were younger and first learning how to drive these, Chip's dad was very smart.

Starting point is 00:05:41 He made sure we were belted in that our hands were always in hand-dress, but instead of letting us raise these things at their full speeds, he put a governor on them. There was probably one of the smartest decisions he made because he knew if he didn't, we were gonna drive these things and get hurt and place ourselves in an unsafe place.

Starting point is 00:05:58 And so years went by and we had the governor on, and we were always asking to take it off. And finally he did as we got older. And I remember we were just whipping through the fields and around this farm and as we were going around this high pin turn and I'm racing chip, I remember suddenly seeing chips doing buggy flipping over and over and over again. He somehow lands between two trees completely upside down. And if you know chips dad in any way that the last thing you want to be is the person who has to go up to him and tell him that his son is stuck in two trees and Upside down do and buggy, but that's what I had to do and I can tell you he was not very happy with us. You see a typical governor varies in engine speed by

Starting point is 00:06:37 Restricting how much fuel actually gets the engine and you'll often see governors on buses on things like tractor tractor trailers, possibly on high-end cars, where they might have a speedometer that says it can go 220 miles per hour, but maybe it upends at about 140 or 150. You see them on boats and in other mechanical equipment as well. The purpose of that governor is to keep that piece of equipment from achieving its top performance. From allowing it to go as fast as that engine could potentially go. The designers of the engine put these governors on them because they want to keep you safe, and they don't want you to take that vehicle to the top end of its performance.

Starting point is 00:07:14 And it got me thinking, so often in life, we are living our capability, our purpose in life, our future potential, with the governor that we apply to ourselves. And you know what that governor is? It's our minds. And when it starts facing fear or adversity, it shuts down. You can think of our governor as our survival mechanism, as our safety blanket, as that crutch. When things start to get very painful, your mind ends up taking control and then it tells you and your body that you need to be doing something else. Anything other than putting yourself into that uncomfortable place. But when you can start taking control of your mind, you can start removing the governor from your life.

Starting point is 00:07:54 And today I'm going to talk you through my own personal story of how I was applying a governor to my own life and why it was limiting me from achieving my full capabilities. And then I'm gonna go through three different governors that I find exist in many people's lives, how you can recognize them and what they are doing to you by you applying them. I used to think that I would really motivate myself to really live up to my full potential

Starting point is 00:08:19 by telling myself day in and day out that I really wasn't. I thought that by giving myself that birth of negativity that I could use that as a weapon to ignite that passion inside of me and I'm gonna tell you it didn't work out too well for me. Not that I didn't get any results by saying you're not living up to your full potential and I would do that when I got out of bed when I was having a drink in the morning, when I would go for a walk, when I would go to the gym, when I would eat, before I went to bed, I was trying to use it constantly as a motivator. Any time I found was a great time to remind myself that I wasn't living up to my full potential. And I got tons of results, just not the ones I expected. You see, I found

Starting point is 00:08:55 by doing that, we put out to the universe what we get back. It's using the law of attraction, an episode I did just a few weeks ago. If you want negativity, then put negativity out there. If you want positive outputs, then the inputs that you need to be putting into your own self-belief system need to be positive too. And lastly, I became an expert at driving myself absolutely crazy. With my non-stop, you are so stuck, banter, that I was filling my head with. I ended up feeling stuck, low on energy, feeling less and less passionate about my life and where it was going. These became my daily companions. So it shouldn't be a surprise to anyone that I grew less and lost fond of my motivational

Starting point is 00:09:39 technique that was becoming anything less but motivational. And through that experience, I learned that living our full potential means that we need to take governor off our own life. And I'm going to give you the three biggest governors that I think we use as a crutch to live in our life through its full capability. And if you want to truly live your life to a full escape ability and to start to accomplish what you're set out to do. It might be time to take that brutal honest look at your current reality and your life

Starting point is 00:10:10 at this moment and how you're living it. Did you know that Forbes Magazine recently cited that 70% of individuals who've been personal development masterminds and one-on-one coaching benefited from better work performance, increased communication skills, and overall better relationships. And we at PassionStruck are obsessed with self-development, coaching, and mentorship. That is why we've created a free resource to help you unlock your hidden potential. Because people doing great things in business and life are just like you, only they've had a coach along the way. And we've got

Starting point is 00:10:50 that cover too. Let us show you the systems and frameworks that we teach both minded individuals to help them step into their sharp edges, execute on their passion journeys and get predictable results time and time again. Go to passionstruck.com slash coaching right now and let's get igniting. As I said earlier, your mind knows exactly who you are. It knows you're in our most fears. It knows what you're most insecure about and it does an amazing job at taking you away from any of those things, the place of safety. It is very good at getting you back to those self-limiting beliefs that you have about yourself, your potential, and what you can do with your life. You see, we want that feeling of security,

Starting point is 00:11:34 of being in the status quo. So what is keeping you from living the life that you want? Well, I'll give you a few hints. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. Fear of taking a risk, or fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of taking a risk or fear of being wrong. And here's a big one, fear of leaving a good salary or fear of leaving that job at the top that you've worked so hard climb to. And then lastly, one that I see all the time that many people don't want to admit to is fear of losing your social status. And we do those things by applying these three governors I'm going to walk you through your life. So let's go through these three governors I'm going to walk you through your life. So let's go

Starting point is 00:12:05 through these three governors. The first type of governor that we end up putting into place is the one that is focused on looking so much externally for happiness and passion instead of putting that focus internally. When we put so much focus like I did on telling ourselves we're not good enough, we leave ourselves with little time for anything else. And don't get me wrong, I was busy all over searching for my passion. I read tons of books, I completed online tests and quizzes.

Starting point is 00:12:34 I went on LinkedIn and looked at jobs and I went out and looked at what other people were doing and spent a whole bunch of time asking everyone else for their advice. And short, I was looking everywhere except inside of me. And you see, when I read these books about finding your passion or releasing your passion or this or that, I think a lot of them have some good tips,

Starting point is 00:12:54 but many of them I find are just completely bogus. What I really find helps you get through finding your passion is the one thing that I wasn't paying attention to at all. And that is what gave me energy. I wasn't paying attention to at all. And that is what gave me energy. I wasn't paying attention to what fascinated me. Instead, I ended up sitting around right in frozen cons for potential jobs I thought I might like, but each time reaching a dead end again and again. But by doing that, it helped me come to one overwhelmingly clear answer. And that clear answer was, I believe we already know, it's inherently inside of us what it means for us to be leading a rich, fulfilling, action,

Starting point is 00:13:32 struck life. It's just a matter of paying attention. And listening to ourselves, and taking action, and checking in with ourselves, that it's never what feels good, what energizes us, and in the exact same way, what feels bad, what drains us, what doesn't fascinate us, and makes us dread doing what we're doing. It's a matter of allowing ourselves to experiment, to explore, but pride, different things out. The most important thing is to do them one tiny step at a time. And using that time to adjust where necessary, our energy levels, and our overall passion with whatever we're doing as guideposts because those guideposts will guide us into a brilliant life, a life of full potential, a life where we aren't one of those 85% across

Starting point is 00:14:16 the world who don't like what they're doing but our greater and greater percentage of people around the world who truly love and feel passionate about what they're doing. The second governor that we apply to our lives is one, filled with fear, failure, and trauma. Living up to our full potential means seeing that fear, seeing that trauma, seeing those obstacles right in front of us and doing it anyway. It means realizing we're living our full potential because of and thanks to the mistakes that we're making along the way. And more importantly, that through those mistakes, we're learning from them.

Starting point is 00:14:49 Living our full potential means seeing things the way they are, not the way we think they should be, and most importantly, taking action from that place. It means allowing ourselves to feel the way we do, not the way we feel we should. It means diving in and exploring why we feel the way we do, not the way we feel we should. It means diving in and exploring why we feel the way we do. And that is exactly where you will find your answers. It's where you will find what you were meant to do

Starting point is 00:15:13 and how to live your fullest capability. That's exactly where we reconnect with our full potential. That is when we start tapping into our inner brilliance. The third and final governor that I found myself and others have thought of their lives is the self-limiting belief that we're not good enough. When we tell ourselves you are not living up to your full potential, we're basically telling ourselves I'm not smart enough, I'm not good enough, I don't have the education, I'm flawed, I can't get to that point.

Starting point is 00:15:42 And this is such a disempowering line. And I've learned a hard way that you have a choice to make. And that is the choice you to choose whether or not believe that line. And I've learned that it is my choice and my choice alone to believe or not to believe that line. It's my job to take action and overcome the line. Do something about it. Step into the sharp edges I talk about on this show. Do something daily that scares me or scares you. I've learned that I get to make the choices every minute of every single part of the day. Because when I make those choices on a routine basis, it sets me up for making the choices in life altering moments. When it would be so easy to take the easy path and say I can't. Instead of putting yourself in the position that you're prepared to say I can and I will live my life to its fullest. So that's what I finally did. I made the choice. And that's what I have to do daily time and time

Starting point is 00:16:37 again. I'm being the best that I can be right here right now by taking off that governor and allowing myself, foot away, all the lies, and accept myself for who I am to do me, not do you, not do someone else, but to do me, and to do it the best that I possibly can do. I am thriving tomorrow because of the mistakes that I'm willing to make today and the failures that I'm willing to address. Because living to our full potential isn't trying to avoid mistakes. It be opposite. It's given our life wholeheartedly with all we've got in pursuit of trying to be the best that we can be knowing that we are going to fail

Starting point is 00:17:15 and fail often along the way. And that has led me to be able to reconnect with my full potential through everything that I do. I choose me and you can choose you. And so when I started Passion Struck, I set out to help the world's underdogs. David Dawgens believes that 60% of you are underdogs because you're not living your full capabilities. I think through some of the knowledge I shared today and on previous episodes, his number is drastically low and it's probably closer to 85% or not living

Starting point is 00:17:47 at their full capability. And when I break down underdogs, people often feel uncomfortable in the words I'm using because I say it's the battered beaten, broken, and bored of the world. But when you start unpacking that, I think more people realize they fit into one of these groups, but it's uncomfortable to be there. If you're like me and you face trauma, then you know what it feels like to be battered. You know what it's like to have stuck points, and how much that they can hinder you from facing your fears. How many of you out there have ever had a bad boss? A bad boss who makes you want to quit a job you might love, but they break you to the

Starting point is 00:18:20 point that you feel broken inside, or it could be partner or a spouse, another family member or a friend. How many of you feel like you've given it you're all and keep facing failure after failure to the point that you feel beaten and you don't know how to get out of this rut because the further you go down it like I did the more broken you feel or how many of you are out there and maybe you've lived this portfolio career, maybe you've reached this top position but now you're bored out of your mind and you're there because of the fears I talked about earlier.

Starting point is 00:18:49 So I think when you really come down to it, there are so many of us not living our full capabilities who meet one of those criteria and many more. If there's anything that you take from this episode today, you have got to take control of your mind. You've got to take that governor off that's prohibiting you from achieving your full capabilities. You have it within-side you to start controlling your mind.

Starting point is 00:19:10 I have put governors on my own life. And by doing so, they have only taken me farther and farther away from living at my full capability. But as soon as you start recognizing what they are, I gave you three examples. There's plenty more to be out there. You can face those fears of failure, of the unknown. start recognizing what they are. I gave you three examples. There's plenty more to be out there. You can face those fears of failure, of the unknown,

Starting point is 00:19:28 of the good salary that you have, of being at the top, of the social consequences that could happen. And if you need help along the way to make any of these changes, that is the reason passion start came into existence. Be the catalyst that helps you take action on your ideas, your aspirations, your passions in life. We want to make them go viral. We want a world for that Gallup survey is the opposite. It says that 85% of people throughout the world feel happy about what they're doing. Feel good about their

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles - Stop Applying a Governor to Your Life w/ John R. Miles EP 31

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