Pivot - A Landmark Climate Bill, Alex Jones Owes, and Guest Isaac Fitzgerald

Episode Date: August 9, 2022

Kara’s co-host for this episode is the one and only Sean Hayes! They discuss the Alex Jones verdict awarding more than $45 million to the parents of a Sandy Hook victim, and the Senate passing a la...ndmark climate, health, and tax bill. Plus, people are paying big money to be podcast guests, HBO Max and Discovery+ are merging, and theaters are making a comeback. Then, they’re joined by Friend of Pivot, Isaac Fitzgerald to talk about his memoir, “Dirtbag, Massachusetts.” Send us your questions by calling us at 855-51-PIVOT, or via Yappa, at nymag.com/pivot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:01:00 Just go to Indeed.com slash podcast right now and say you heard about Indeed on this podcast. Indeed.com slash podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. Hi, everyone. This is Pivot from New York Magazine and the Vox Media Podcast Network. I'm Kara Swisher.
Starting point is 00:01:23 Scott Galloway is the Howard Stern of podcasting, according to the New York Times, in that he's currently off in private parts unknown. So today I'm joined for Scott Free August by actor, producer, and podcaster, Sean Hayes. Welcome, Sean. Thank you for having me, Cara. This is my serious voice
Starting point is 00:01:40 because we're gonna be talking about serious topics today. We are, we are, but I want you to be funny because you are a funny guy. Okay. How much you got? Yeah. Okay. So go back to the other voice. So I want to talk a little bit about you. People don't realize all the stuff you do. Obviously, you're well known for being Just Jack on Will and Grace, but you do a lot of things. You produce shows, you produce everything, and you're podcasting. Yeah. I started a production company like, I don't 15 to 20 years ago i was doing i was on the set of will and grace it was towards
Starting point is 00:02:10 the end of the first run as we call it the first eight years before the reboot and i was looking around like how did all you'd think i would have thought about this the first season but it was the last season and i was like how did all this happen? Who started this? Who put this? Who brought the donuts? Yes, exactly. These 300 people together to build this machine. And I was like, that's fascinating. It always starts with one phone call. So who was that person? And then I became really, really curious about building these what I call machines of shows. And it just kind of opened up a whole new area in my brain, which is not very large to begin with. Well, it's large enough because a lot of actors don't do this. They sort of have a hit show and then they go off into the wilderness, essentially. Yes. Well, I needed a reason to get out of know that that's kind of what happens unless you really
Starting point is 00:03:05 dig deep and nose to the grindstone and really kind of figure it out as you go. A therapist I had once said, you seem like a figure it outer. And I was like, yeah, it's called survival mode. Like I wake up every day in survival mode because my dad left when I was five. My mom was working all the time. We had to parent ourselves. There was five kids, sometimes no food on the table, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, oh, I have to figure this out. And I'm gay.
Starting point is 00:03:31 So, oh, by the way, is that okay? Which you, yeah, that's okay. That's okay on this show. Yeah, it's accepted. Not with, you know, say Lindsey Graham, but we'll get to that in a minute. So- Well, she's in the same group.
Starting point is 00:03:41 She is, but she doesn't seem to want to talk about it. Anyway, so you created these shows. Explain the shows that you produce. A lot of hit shows. Yeah, well, I mean, there's several, luckily. One was Grimm. That was the fairy tales that were true. And then that was on for a long time, like six, seven years or something.
Starting point is 00:04:01 Hot in Cleveland with all those fabulous girls. Betty White, Valerie Bertinelli, Jane Leaves, and Wendy Malick. And then Hollywood Game Night, which started right here in my living room. And that just turned into this game show with Jane Lynch hosting. And then we did some, I don't know. Oh, what's it called? History of Comedy on CNN. We did that, yeah.
Starting point is 00:04:27 And I'll never forget the time. I flew out to CNN. I got the 6 or 7 a.m. flight, flew out to CNN in New York from L.A., shot three commercials, and flew back that night. Yeah, that's what you got to do. You got to figure it out. That's work. I don't know why.
Starting point is 00:04:44 You work just as hard as I do. I do. I. That's work. I don't know why. You work just as hard as I do. I do. I do. I do. I don't know what it is. I know. What is it? I like it.
Starting point is 00:04:52 I love it. I love it. People ask me. Someone read me that, you know, Paul Songis has a quote that you'll regret all the time you spent on business. I'm like, will I? I actually like it. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:05:02 I love that sentence started with somebody read me. So people read to you. Yes, they do. They were trying to get me to work less. It was a family member. But I was like, sorry, I like it. But wait, do you, are you one of the, this is a classic therapist question.
Starting point is 00:05:16 Okay, go ahead. Are you? Because I've never been therapized, just so you know, so here we go. But I'm going to move in closer to the mic for this. Do you worry that, does the stillness worry you? Does being still worry you? Oh.
Starting point is 00:05:31 No. All right, never mind. Moving on. I like it. I love being still. I love being alone. I'm very self-actualized, as many lesbians are, in case you're interested. Oh, God.
Starting point is 00:05:38 I got to go. Okay, okay. But here's the deal. Also, the thing that you are really a recent hit has been podcasting, which I can't believe because you came up to me. I think it was in Provincetown. You're like, should I do this podcast? And then I explained it to you.
Starting point is 00:05:51 And you have like one of the top frigging podcasts. Isn't it crazy? I'll never forget that. Because I was like, because you had one of the top podcasts. And I was like, how do you do that? What do you do? No, no, it is. It's filled with smart people.
Starting point is 00:06:03 That's why I'm a little intimidated by this today, because I'm supposed to be smart, but I'm smartless, which is the name of the podcast. But yeah, I remember that coming up to you, and you were like, well, this is what you got to do this, blah, blah, blah. And you kind of laid it all out for me. I was like, that seems like a lot of work. But once you start, it's actually kind of fun and easy. It is. I mean, it's still work, but it's super fun. Yeah, and you do it with your two friends. Yes, Jason Bateman and Will Arnett. We've been friends for over 20 years, and they're awesome.
Starting point is 00:06:33 I mean, the funniest people, we're like brothers. Yeah, and you surprise each other on the show. It's a great show. The conceit is that one of us acts as a host every episode and brings on a guest to surprise the other two. And people are like, people always say, is that true? Are you really surprised? Yeah. Why wouldn't it be true?
Starting point is 00:06:51 It's What's My Line. I was watching that the other night because there was a clip of Lucille Ball on What's My Line. Oh, you have all that. So you're watching all the recent shows. Yes. You're all up to date. Yeah, I'm all up to date on What's My Line. So one of the things that's really interesting about it is that you sold it then.
Starting point is 00:07:05 You sold it, correct? We leased it. Leased it. Okay. What does that mean? Well, like a car. You either buy a car or you lease a car. If you lease it, you have to give it back.
Starting point is 00:07:14 So Amazon Wondery leased the podcast and we made a deal for three years, which was great. They're an amazing partner and we love them. And it's been going. It's nothing but joy. Yeah. Yeah. And you've been doing live shows and it's been going. It's nothing but joy. Yeah, yeah, and you've been doing live shows. It's been great. It's been really, I'm so pleased. Yeah, we went on tour in February of this year, and we filmed it as well as a documentary for Discovery+.
Starting point is 00:07:39 So that'll be exciting. That's exciting. I'm sure David Zaslav's very excited. Anyway, so before we go on, I want to go through a few things. You understand the show. I'm going to talk about various things, and you're going to give me your thoughts on them. And if you want to go off onto a tangent, which I know you're known to do, that would be fine, too.
Starting point is 00:07:57 I love that you just explained it like I was three. So I'm going to bring up a topic, and we're going to talk about it. And if you talk about something else, that's okay too. And just make sure you finish your sandwich and your chips and your glass of milk before we're done. I have too many children. Sean, I have too many children. I know. How many kids do you have? Four. Four. We just went on a trip to Europe. Isn't that amazing? Oh, you went to Scotland. Yeah. Yeah. We have three of the four. I want to go there. Why did you go there? My wife's brother had a party in a castle because he had a COVID wedding.
Starting point is 00:08:29 And so this was the party part of it. My wife's brother had a party in a castle. Well, there's no castles in LA. No, there aren't any. So it was lovely. We did falconry. My son was able to throw its caber through the caber, you know, the log that you throw between your leg over something. Well, that's called something different for me.
Starting point is 00:08:48 We did all the Scottish things. We had haggis. We did the whole thing. It was fun. It was really good. All right. Well, that sounds fun. And so three of my four children met.
Starting point is 00:08:55 The other is in Amsterdam, and he met a girl who now has a girlfriend. A long distance? No, no. They were on a program together in Amsterdam. Oh, I thought they met there. No, they did meet there. And now they're seeing each other. And I keep getting adorable pictures of them.
Starting point is 00:09:09 That's so cute. By the way, if I ever had a second mom, I would want it to be you. Thank you. Yeah, I mean it. Because your kids are so fantastic, which is such a sign of good parenting. And my mom was great, too. But I always think that about you, just like you are all of it. You're smart and caring and loving and honest. And you have rules
Starting point is 00:09:31 and boundaries, but you're also loving. I love it. You would not have liked this morning with the potty training with the two and a half year old. That was not loving. Oh, you have a two and a half year old. That was like, go to the bathroom on the toilet. No, you could talk to me like that. Yeah, I know. I know I could do it with you. You'd be an easier person to potty train than two and a half year olds. Anyway, so there's a new report in Bloomberg that says podcast hosts are charging guests to appear in their shows. Some hosts charge guests up to $50,000. Did you bring the check? Yeah, I brought it. Don't be, it might bounce, but no, isn't that crazy? Like, I just read that. I was like, wait, what?
Starting point is 00:10:07 People pay to be on podcasts? Which I, by the way, never happened. That would be so disgusting on Smartless, on my podcast. But I don't understand. I guess I can understand, like, the desperation of needing the publicity. And if you can't get on, I don't know. It's kind of needing the publicity. And if you can't get on, I don't know, it's kind of like dating somebody. If you're not good enough or wanted enough to be on, yet you'll accept a paycheck. I think that's weird, don't you think?
Starting point is 00:10:36 It's called prostitution. But people have been doing it for years. Like a lot of magazines, it's pay to play kind of thing. So it's no surprise that it's, oh, sure. Yeah. Oh, I don't know from that. I'm sure you've been in some magazine where it was more marketing than anything else. Well, I, no, I pay for those magazines.
Starting point is 00:10:51 I don't pay to be in them. Yes, I figured. I figured. So that was weird. We don't, neither of us pay, just so you know. We never pay, we never have people pay us to be on the show. Although people really do want to get on podcasts. Like yours would sell a lot of books for someone or whatever.
Starting point is 00:11:03 I'm sure you have people. But yours too. I mean, I don't know if, would you ever do it? I don't think, well, you don't need to do it. No, no, no, never. No, no. You don't need to pay. Though some people ask. It's really interesting. I do a lot of events and they're like, what do you pay? I'm like, zero. How does that work for you? How does that work for you? How does that work for you? That's one of my favorite. How does that work for you how does that work for you that's my one of my favorite how does that work for you anyway today we have a lot of things we're going to talk about alex jones owes a fortune to sandy hook parents but will he pay up also the senate passes historic legislation around climate change while indiana makes history for something far worse and we'll speak with
Starting point is 00:11:39 author isaac fitzgerald about his new memoir, Dirtbag, Massachusetts. It's like I wrote it. Yeah, exactly. So first of all, HBO and Discovery Plus are merging. Not a surprise. Mr. Entertainment, the product will be rolled out next summer. Warner Brothers will start the process by cross-posting content to both services. Recently, HBO Max has been silently pulling down titles, also canceling projects like Batgirl. I'd love to know what your thought is and how Hollywood's feeling about these,
Starting point is 00:12:06 what's happening at Warner. I'm glad you asked because I speak for Hollywood. So yes, I'm like a one-stop shop. No, I mean, I think it's super exciting. I mean, it's like, yes, it's this huge conglomerate coming together to provide, like, I don't know. I think it's going to be as big as Netflix. And look, in the I think it's going to be as big as Netflix. And look,
Starting point is 00:12:31 in the end, it's so funny, because now a lot of streamers are talking about ad support, like a tier of ad supported content. That's what Netflix is doing. Yeah, Netflix is doing that. I'm sure. I think I read a couple others are doing that too, like maybe Disney, I don't know. And so it's like, oh, so it's just network TV again. We're just now, it's just different how we get it. So it's all, isn't it funny how it's like, oh, so it's just network TV again. We're just now, it's just different how we get it. So it's all, isn't it funny how it's all the same? But I think it's exciting. I think the Discovery HBO thing is super exciting.
Starting point is 00:12:58 Think about all those brains coming together to create such incredible content, I think. Well, they need a lot of content, right? So I don't know where Will and Grace is, for example. Do you know who it's been bought? Do you get paid for when it goes on streamers or was that ever considered? Yeah, like something little. Little, but no one ever conceived of this. Do you think about that when you're making shows, like where it's going and how you get paid for it? You know what? Isn't it funny? Sometimes you get information from agents or people in the industry of what streamers are looking for, of like, well, we're really focusing on procedural dramas or whatever the thing is. But in the end, nobody knows what they want until they see it.
Starting point is 00:13:36 Like if I've heard like huge, huge names, which I won't mention here, getting passed on, like projects getting passed on everywhere. And you're like, I don't understand why that is. So they must have some edict that we don't know about, but it's project to project. And isn't it interesting now when you watch a show, people go, where do I see that? I don't know. Apple? Netflix? Disney? I don't know where I saw it. So you have to Google it. So I think they have a branding issue with all of this content when you don't know yeah there's it's just like a cornucopia of well it's good for content creators like yourself because they yeah no it's great i mean one of the reasons they're merging is because they like disney has an amazing ip library essentially of yeah and and others warner does to an extent
Starting point is 00:14:22 yeah and the others do to extend an extent but when you're an actor you're a producer and an actor, but when you're making these things you kind of have to be multifaceted We did it honestly truthfully as an excuse to see each other during COVID We were in our pajamas, zooming and it was like, let's just do one, let's do three
Starting point is 00:14:40 let's do six, and then we're like, I can't believe people find this interesting and then, yeah so I think't believe people find this interesting and then um yeah so i think it's i think people respond to our podcast the same uh reason yours or anybody else's authenticity and it's really truly us just screwing around right true that's true that's true what's happening but wait go ahead sorry putting a button on that other thing is it's kind of interesting though like do you agree with that branding thing about streamers because yes i think they're confusing it's confusing to customers i mean people know disney and you sort of know a disney movie but you don't know but you don't know the
Starting point is 00:15:13 shows on disney plus you just know shows so my point is the show this is my whole point sorry the show becomes the star the idea because the title is now becoming the star and stars sure are still important to add to the ingredients but to me the idea is is is there a reason to watch it'll be interesting to see how the gray man does which is a lot is chock full of stars right yeah by the way i'm an idiot i don't know it what's it's on netflix it's with um oh it's now i'm totally it's not ryan reynolds other guy. It's the guy who isn't Ryan Reynolds. We can cut that out. You know who it is. You know who it is.
Starting point is 00:15:53 I don't, I have to look it up. All right, whatever. It's him. Anyway, so that's the problem. You don't remember stars anymore. It's him. Speaking of which, by the way, in some cases they are. Theaters are making a comeback. It's him. last quarter, last year quarter. Nicole Kidman has renewed her contract as spokesperson for the company for another year, just in case you were wondering. Have you been going to theaters? I have not. I have been a tiny bit, tiny bit. I saw, well, the ones you mentioned I saw, I thought Top Gun Maverick was incredible. I do too. I thought it was so good. I do, I think that's funny that Nicole Kidman, not funny. I just think good for her. I don't
Starting point is 00:16:45 know her at all, but good for her. I just hope she wears another sparkly pantsuit in every ad. Have you seen them? I have. I'm surprised it's her. I'm like, what is she doing up there? Yeah. She's telling us to go back to the, isn't it wonderful to go back to the theater? Thanks, Nicole. Thanks, Nicole. From the seats. Everybody's like, Nicole, sit down. And then she sits down. You know what I mean? She sits down in the theater like she's really going to watch a movie.
Starting point is 00:17:11 But everybody in this town that makes the shit, they're like, no, they yelled cut and she got out of there. Yeah, that's right. Speaking of hardest working woman in show business, she works really hard. She's everywhere. Oh, God, she's everywhere. Yeah. Did you see her in the prom? Yeah, I did.
Starting point is 00:17:25 Did you like the prom? I saw the Broadway show, and I loved the Broadway show. I thought it was incredible. And yeah, I cried at the Broadway show, because the girl gets the girl at the end. I was bawling my eyes out. Yes, yes, yes. And it's, of course, the woman who won the Oscar for, was in it, for Best Supporting Actress. Yeah. And I'm also blank. I blank on everyone. Oh, my for, was in it, for Best Supporting Actress. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:17:45 And I'm also blank. I blank on everyone. Oh, my God. Why can't, it's because we're older. DuBose or something like that. Yes, yes, yes. Ariana DuBose. And so, I just wonder if theaters are really making a comeback.
Starting point is 00:17:56 I, of course, famously predicted that it's never going to be the same post-COVID because young people don't go to them. My kids don't go to theaters at all. Your crystal ball never fails. I know, that's true. But I still think I'm right but I still think I'm right. They have to have these hits. Well, no, nobody's going to go see, you know,
Starting point is 00:18:10 remember The Hours? Remember that show? Yeah, The Hours. Nobody's going to see that. I don't know why I just brought that up. Such a weird movie. Well, Nicole Kidman, that's why I brought it up, because she's got a fake nose in it. Yes, got a fake nose in it. That was chock full
Starting point is 00:18:26 of actresses being acting. That was. All great performances. Meryl Streep. That was really good. But you know what I mean? Nobody's going to rush to see the new Downton Abbey. I would. By the way, and did. But that's a plane movie to me. That's a plane movie.
Starting point is 00:18:40 For me, it's a theater movie because I love it. I only go to see Top Gun Maverick. That's the only thing I'll go. Or a Marvel movie. It's over now. So what else are you going to see? The next Marvel movie. Well, for me, it's a theater movie because I love it. Okay, alright. Okay. I only go to see Top Gun Maverick. That's the only thing I'll go. Or a Marvel movie. Well, it's over now, so what else are you going to see? Yes, I know. The next Marvel movie. Thor. I saw Thor in the theater. I saw Thor in the theater. Oh, okay, great. I was wildly disappointed. Oh, okay. Well, okay. I can't comment on those things.
Starting point is 00:18:57 But it was good in the theater. I didn't see it. But we just watched Buzz Lightyear, you know that movie? Yeah. Because I was like, oh, I'll watch a Pixar movie. They're always well-made. And I watched it. I was like, Scotty's like, oh, it's on TV. I'm like, in our house?
Starting point is 00:19:12 He's like, yeah, streaming. I was like, so I don't have to go to the theater? No. That's how dumb I am. I think that's the way it's going. Yeah, for sure. Why leave your house? Two more quick things.
Starting point is 00:19:22 Axios will sell to Cox Enterprises for $525 million. You lease, they sold. The founders will continue to run the company. Wait, I don't know any of the words you said. Axios is a media company. And they came to me for breakfast. They started Politico. And I said, you should leave Politico and start your own company. And they just sold it for $525 million. To who? To Cox Enterprises.
Starting point is 00:19:46 Cox newspapers. I'm just saying. I know. Okay. I'm not making that joke. Cox ate it up. Cox ate it up. Come on. There's all those easy jokes. Anyway, I'm just saying it's someone else I advised to go into their own business and they did. But speaking of which, not such good news. Let's get to our first big story. Alex Jones must pay $45 million to parents of Sandy. I agree. Sandy Hook, a victim, a singular one. There's more cases coming. The jury awarded that sum in punitive damages last week as Jones stood trial for defamation. It was also decided he should pay an additional $4.1 million in compensatory damages, but Jones may get a break. Texas state law caps the amount punitive damages can be. The trial judge noted the cap and said that it shows
Starting point is 00:20:31 Texans quotes, don't trust our juries. That said, there are other cases coming up in states like Connecticut where there aren't caps. And this jury did say what a lying piece of shit he is. I mean, I think that's really the point. Isn't that amazing? I mean, and by the way, did you know he has children? Yes, I did. So like, what are the, that's what's amazing to me, that he found a wife and kids that support him through all the lies, I guess? I think they have some marital problems, from what I understand. Go figure.
Starting point is 00:21:00 Yeah, exactly. He still has to pay the 4.1. Yeah, but that's nothing to him. No, well, it is. He keeps hiding money all over the place, too. He's trying to pay the 4.1. Yeah, but that's nothing to him. No, well, it is. He keeps hiding money all over the place, too. He's trying to declare bankruptcy, et cetera, et cetera. But he faces two other cases, one of which is in a state where I think it go quite high. So let me ask you something, because you're 80,000 times smarter than me.
Starting point is 00:21:31 But because of this decision by the jury and the judge and the kind of high profile notion of this case that's all about kind of all about lying to make money. Right. Is it the beginning of a kind of lesson to be learned in the country that we're going to come after you if you lie as much? No, I think that, you know, there's situations like Alex Jones, which are particularly egregious. I interviewed one of the fathers of one of the kids killed at Sandy Hook. Noah Posner was killed there. I interviewed his father, Len Posner. And in this case, he's lost because of the damage that the families got because of him and not because of copyright or anything else, which is a silly way to try to beat someone like this, because it should be because of the damage he caused. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah, so it's really difficult. I think one of the things that happens is, unless they're stopped, it's very Trumpian.
Starting point is 00:22:14 Unless they're stopped, they don't get stopped, right? I mean, just today, General Milley, they put out his resignation letter that he never sent because he didn't resign, where he knew what Trump was doing, but then, of course, didn't say anything. And I think that's what happens. These people are emboldened, whether it's Audrey Taylor Greene, whether it's Alex Jones, whether it's Roger Stone, whether it's Trump himself, that lying seems to pay off. You know, crime does pay.
Starting point is 00:22:39 But what's the, I mean, that's the scary part, right? You're exactly right. Lying pays off. And that governor that just won the election. Carrie Lake. And she's like, yeah, it's stolen. I mean, so let me ask you this. Do you think that the people who vote for these people who are lying kind of know that they're lying, but they're like, you know what, whatever it takes? No, no, because literally today my mother was like, what's this QAnon thing? She watches only Fox, so she is not aware of the damage that QAnon does. So no, I
Starting point is 00:23:11 don't. I think they believe it. And of course, it picks at sort of a scab of the American public, which is someone must be lying somewhere, right? This sort of weird conspiracy. So, you know, conspiracy theories are active. Back to Alex Jones, though. Like, don't you think the people who believe the lies and harass the families also are at fault? Because you have to be really, really dumb to believe someone like Alex Jones. Right. Except, no. I mean, it's sort of like talking by the people who attacked the Capitol on January 6th.
Starting point is 00:23:43 Some of them were quite malevolent. Some of them were just going along for the ride, right? And they just decided to trespass because why not carry around the gavel of Nancy Pelosi? Why not wear an outfit and run around and sit in her chair or whatever they wanted to do? So, no, I think a lot of them are not malevolent. I just think they go along with it if it's in their worldview that someone must be at fault. And in general, the malevolent players like jones and trump and others take advantage of that because they're suckers right so they and then what and then what's the and then how does this
Starting point is 00:24:14 story end because because who's to say that the democrats if we lose all the all the hardcore democrats aren't going to be like well it's it's a stolen election. You guys said it, now we're saying it. That's correct. Well, the whole idea is to create confusion and upsetness, really, upset people. And so I think that's the problem, is discord and disruption are, and the tools to use it are online tools, as we've talked about. You and I have talked about this, is online tools are perfect. It changes people's mentality when they're seeing it online. So that's what they, these people existed since the beginning of the United States of America. There was conspiracy theories right from the beginning. The question is, you know, they had conspiracy theories about Alexander Hamilton, but it just didn't get out that
Starting point is 00:24:56 much. Right. I mean, and that's the problem. So Jones, I think is probably done for, but they keep trying to make these decisions about freedom of speech. And he said it will affect every talk show host. Of course it won't. It will affect only the malevolent liars. Right. That's fascinating. And we'll see.
Starting point is 00:25:12 He's going to be in court forever now. And I think in Connecticut, hundreds of millions of dollars. And then they're going to fine the money he's hiding. Because he's made, I mean, he sold supplements and different things. So you don't think somebody like him who is so extremely wealthy can kind of just keep fighting the courts until he dies and keep all his money while he's still alive? Well, I think he's got a tinge of mental illness. So yes, I think he can.
Starting point is 00:25:37 Just like Trump. Why not keep going? Why not keep going? Why not keep saying it? Because it raises money and does things. I think eventually, you know, he had to admit in court that he lied. And one of the things that was really interesting is this judge, he would say something, then the attorney against him would say, well, here you are saying it. And the judge says, you cannot keep lying in court, but you can keep lying in court, right?
Starting point is 00:25:58 Anyway, let's go on a quick break. When we come back, we'll look into what didn't make it into the Senate's big bill. And we'll speak with a friend of Pivot, Isaac Fitzgerald, about fight clubs and the Catholic Church. Maybe he can give us some answers. Oh, the Catholic Church. Fox Creative. This is advertiser content from Zelle. When you picture an online scammer, what do you see? For the longest time, we have these images of somebody sitting crouched over their computer with a hoodie on, just kind of typing away in the middle of the night. And honestly, that's not what it is anymore.
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Starting point is 00:28:29 Download Thumbtack today. Sean, we're back. It's finally happened. The Senate passed a landmark climate health and tax bill over the weekend. It was a big one. The bill marks the largest climate investment ever by the U.S. at nearly $370 billion. but the victory wasn't without compromise. Some of the casualties of the deal-making, no universal PK, no child tax credit, no free community college, no dental,
Starting point is 00:28:56 hearing, and vision expansions to Medicare, no expansion of earned income tax credit, no cap on the price of insulin. Republicans killed that one. And Kyrsten Sinema killed the amendment that would close the carried interest loophole. You know, Molly Jungfass tweeted, find someone who loves you the way Sinema loves private equity. So still there's a lot left in the table. What's in the bill? Medicare can negotiate directly with drug makers eventually.
Starting point is 00:29:20 Expansion of insurance premiums, subsidies for low-income Americans, tax increases on wealthy corporations, tax breaks and incentives for green technology and investments. Just a few weeks ago, we thought this agenda was completely dead. So it's sort of half full.
Starting point is 00:29:32 People are saying half full, essentially. Yeah, it's interesting. You know, I'm going to say the dum-dums. I'm always going to say the dum-dum thing. All right, please do. Because I break it down to the lowest denominator. So you look at that number. What was the number?
Starting point is 00:29:45 700 something? Bill, sorry. So you look at that number. What was the number? 700 something? Bill, sorry. It's $370 billion. $370 billion. Think about this for one second. Because this is what we never get to see. Okay, $1 million is a ton of money. $10 million.
Starting point is 00:29:59 Now think of $10 million. Oh, my God. Now think of $100 million. What $100 million? Then think of $1 billion. what a hundred million dollars then think of one billion dollars and now this is a 300 plus billion they always say okay so this is going to go here but i would love to see a line item broken down on a on a leader sheet or whatever that is of where every dollar goes because i i i never see like the street I live on is filled with potholes.
Starting point is 00:30:26 That's Los Angeles, right? I know. That's your new mayor. You have a mayoral election. That's what you should address for that one. I'm super excited about that. But I never see the change. I always see the same homeless people.
Starting point is 00:30:38 I always see the same streets. I always see the same infrastructure just falling apart everywhere we go. And I know this is California, and I know blah, blah, blah. But just like wherever I go, wherever you travel, and I was just in Chicago. I was like, where is this money going? Like, don't you want to see it broken down? Yes, it is, actually. Yeah, we're all supposed to celebrate that we got this passed,
Starting point is 00:30:58 well, a version of it passed. Great. Now, where is it all going to go? Because I feel like they celebrate, and then we never see it. Right. Well, a lot of people feel that way about the government, right? That why are they getting all this money and doing nothing with it? I think the question is how much came out of it because of political wrangling, especially with business interests. They always seem to get the money they need. Like this amendment that would have closed the carried interest loophole would have made millions of dollars for the government.
Starting point is 00:31:26 And it didn't because one single senator held up the entire thing because of the way it's done. Because she happens to like venture capitalists and get a lot of money from them. And so I think that's what happens. And it's at the expense of, say, universal pre-K, which we all know would be a good thing. Yeah, amazing. But we can't seem to spend money on. we all know would be a good thing. Yeah, amazing. But we can't seem to spend money on.
Starting point is 00:31:44 One of the problems with these agendas is they're so big and they're so massive. Yeah. And the problems are even bigger that it makes it almost impossible to understand the benefits is what you're talking about. Yeah, because the effective way to do it is to get smart people that you're doling this money out to run certain programs. But it's like, whether you hate them or love them, people in Congress, they're supposed to be smart. They went to law school,
Starting point is 00:32:09 blah, blah, blah. So they throw the money at it. But then the people that they throw the money at are like, oh, awesome. I just got $10 billion to do whatever I want because nobody's looking down my, you know what I mean? Right, right, right. I think a lot of that feels like that, unfortunately. And I think a lot of, again, like we were just talking about, people feel overwhelmed by all the problems. And when these bills come up, it's a question of whether it's positive or negative.
Starting point is 00:32:33 And then of course, Republicans will use it to try to elect themselves saying Democrats are ineffective and Democrats will say, look what we did for you. Now, they don't do enough of that, you know? So then like, what do you feel? Do you feel powerless when you get, when you read all this stuff and you've, what's that?
Starting point is 00:32:47 No, no. Because you have a voice and you're using it on Pivot. Guys, welcome to Pivot. This is Kara Swisher and I'm Sean Hayes. This is today, we're going to be talking to an author. No, you have a voice and you use it. But I tell people like, you know, I would say this, my friend Maria Shriver,
Starting point is 00:33:01 who's one of the greatest people ever to live. She's always like, she would hear me complain about whatever we're talking about. And she goes, I know, I totally agree. So what are you doing about it? That's correct, Sean. And I was like, ooh. Maria is right. Right?
Starting point is 00:33:12 She calls you and I love that. What are you doing about those potholes, Sean? Get out there. The backhoe. Me in like a construction suit listening to YMCA, just like filling the holes. That's exactly it. That's Trump's favorite song, by the way. Speaking of right-wing things, there's two things that I'd love your thoughts on.
Starting point is 00:33:27 Indiana passed a ban on abortion last week, the first state to do so. It's the overturn of Roe v. Wade. The ban has exemptions for rape, incest, and the health of the mother and some other qualifiers. But it still has Indiana businesses spooked. Indiana's Chamber of Commerce cautioned the bill can make it harder to draw tourists
Starting point is 00:33:41 and conventions to the state. When you go on tour, do you consider things like this? For example, I pulled my pivot conference out of Florida because of the Don't Say Gay Bill, for example. Oh, wow. That'll show them. Yeah, I know. I don't care. They got mad, though. I'll tell you that. No, that's good that you did that.
Starting point is 00:33:56 Governor DeSantis' press person lost her ever-loving mind. See, I love that you do stuff like that. It just shows polls are bullshit, right? Because who would have guessed Kansas? And now I wouldn't have thought Indiana would go this way. And then I was kind of like, when I read that, I was like, Indiana? Right next to Illinois? They tried to. What?
Starting point is 00:34:13 Do you remember? They tried to many years ago when Mike Pence was governor. And then Salesforce kind of forced their hand. They've been silent here. But don't you agree that the polls are like, when you wake up in the morning, that's the news you read. You're like, Indiana or Kansas. We don't know what's going on in these towns and these communities and these cities. I suspect the people of Indiana are not as positive about this as the legislators. No, of course not. Of course not.
Starting point is 00:34:41 Nobody is, by the way. Nobody is. The majority of Americaica doesn't you know doesn't agree right so would you pull out of a city would you say we're not going to go to indianapolis for the smart list tour that's a good question you don't want to like you know upset the people that are still your fans um so it's i understand the reason to pull out and the statement that that makes but at the same time, your fans want to see you,
Starting point is 00:35:07 so it's not, and they probably think how you think, so, you know. Hmm. I wouldn't go to Indiana. I wouldn't go to Indiana. Oh, no, I'm clear where you stand. Yeah, I just feel like it's,
Starting point is 00:35:18 you have to, you know, one of the things, the argument I had with the people from the DeSantis people, I was like, well, they kept saying I was woke and this and that, and I said, you know what I am? I'm a capitalist and I want to put my money where I want to, just because you're a communist and want to force me to do things. So I kept
Starting point is 00:35:31 calling them socialists and communists, which upset them. But I was like, I'm a capitalist and I don't feel like making money for your state, right? I don't feel like doing it. I just, it's my capitalistic decision to operate in cities and states that are more, and you can't do it with everything. You're right. Like, what do you do if you're a business owner with your Salesforce, you have employees there,
Starting point is 00:35:51 how do you deal with it? It's tricky. It's very tricky. I love that you, you did that. I don't know. Look, it's case by case,
Starting point is 00:35:57 right? Maybe I'll feel different. And, and next time we go on tour. When I was talking to Kathy Griffin a couple of weeks ago, she said she has a hard time now doing, she hasn't gone back to stand up after the attack she yeah withstood from the trump administration but she uh she's nervous to go to those because of guns you know she's nervous of being attacked yeah i would too i mean oh my god god can you believe that by the
Starting point is 00:36:18 way going way back to the beginning of this entire episode what about movie theaters is like yeah that's why i don't. I'll go selectively and I'll make sure I'll go when it's kind of empty because you can look online when nobody's there. And because I don't want to get shot up in a theater. That's what people think now. Can you fucking believe that? That that's where your mind goes whenever there's a public kind of anything. So, I mean, it's probably because of my age too. I'm not 20 years old where you feel invincible and whatever. And you go, yeah, I'll go to that outdoor concert. I'll go to this thing.
Starting point is 00:36:47 But it's on my mind. Yeah, absolutely. Anyway, speaking of potential bans also, something that's a little closer to home to both of us, Senator Lindsey Graham says that abortion and gay marriage rights should be decided by the states. Here's what he said. Are you saying that the 2015 Supreme Court decision that made same-sex marriage the law of the land nationally should be overturned? No, I am saying that I don't think it's going to be overturned. Nor should it be? Well, you know, that'd be up to the court. The reasoning, I think,
Starting point is 00:37:17 could be attacked, but the point I'm trying to make is I've been consistent. I think states should decide the issue of marriage and states should decide the issue of abortion. So what do you think about that, Lindsey Graham? Well, I mean, how much time do you got? I mean, I know. I don't think she's getting married anytime soon. You're speaking my language, lady. Yeah, I know. Speaking of lady. She came out of the womb kind of screwed up. Yeah. I don't know.
Starting point is 00:37:52 Look, I'm not as worried about gay marriage, the gay marriage issue. It's going to be really, really, really, really hard to undo that. Especially when, I don't know, look, I might be naive, but. You're being naive. I am? Yeah. You think? They want the gay marriage gone. They want the, a lot of the people do. I am? Yeah. You think? All right. They want the gay marriage gone. They want the... A lot of the people do. You know what's amazing about that? Go up to
Starting point is 00:38:09 somebody who's against it, right? And go, how was your life affected before gay marriage was legal and after it was gay? Your life has not changed at all. We don't see each other. I don't know you. You live your life. You go to work. You have your family. You drink your beer. You do whatever you want. And I'll go do whatever I want. But I get the same benefits as you. That's why we live in the same country. So for the people that are so adamant, what the hell? How is it changing your life in any way?
Starting point is 00:38:40 Yeah. I'm a little meaner. You're very nice about that. Go ahead. Tell me. I literally am like, get your fucking hands off my marriage or I'll kill you. Like, that's really my whole policy. You know, I really find it, I carry the 14th Amendment with me, equal rights under the law. I care. I like, it's weird because some, you know, I make the joke that only lesbians are having this many children and except for evangelicals and ours get vaccinated. except for evangelicals and ours get vaccinated. I do have actually evangelical relatives,
Starting point is 00:39:09 but I'm just going to keep having children is what I'm doing. I'm building up a group force that is going to, I of course form the militia etherage with them and we're going to fight for our rights. We're not going to, this is not- Militia etherage, that's hysterical. That's a good one. Wait, oh my God. You can join it.
Starting point is 00:39:22 Are you butch enough now? Who, me? Yeah. No, I'll organize. You can join it. Are you butch enough now? Who, me? Yeah. No, I'll organize everybody's food when they come back from the battle. But are you married? Wait, I don't even know this. Are you married? For 16 years, yeah.
Starting point is 00:39:35 16 years. Married. Well, no, married maybe like nine years, eight years. Nine years. So what would you do if they started to bring it back to the States? Then you would, once again, if you were in other States and something happened to you, say you were in Indianapolis. Yeah, I would get, well, see, that's the thing. That's the difference between me and you. I get upset when it's like about to happen or something, but there's nothing happening right
Starting point is 00:39:56 now. So I don't really, right? Like the rest of America, you don't really focus on it until it affects you. So, but what would I do? I would fight it. I would definitely fight it. And I almost feel like there's a lawsuit against the government if something like that happened, because you can't give somebody a right and take it away. How is that legal? They just did. No, I know. But I mean, everybody's fighting it, right? But what's happening is every state is almost, except for Indiana, is saying that the ban is wrong. Well, not Texas, not Florida.
Starting point is 00:40:27 We'll see. It's the legislators in charge. I think they have marriage in the crosshairs because they didn't win the first time. They lost badly. And they want to win it back. I think these are some of the things. And they're having a harder time with marriage than abortion. I think that is no question because I think most people, the numbers are higher.
Starting point is 00:40:43 I don't think it's going to happen. I just don't think it's going to happen. I just don't think it's going to happen. I just listened to Clarence Thomas and Samuel Alito and I think, well, it could happen. I know. Right? And you know, the thing that everybody brings up, which is such a smart argument, what about interracial marriage, Clarence? Yeah, exactly. Yeah, Clarence.
Starting point is 00:40:56 But I guess we're going to, I mean, where does it end? It doesn't. It's that Christian America, as Marjorie Taylor Greene says. She said that. That's what she wants. She said that? Yeah. Christian nationalists. She's crazy, man. Sean, you got to hang out with me more.
Starting point is 00:41:11 We got to keep going. Believe me. I know when you asked me to come on. My mother also asked who she was today. I was like, she only gets Fox News, so she only gets. You know what I thought you said? Who's she? I thought you meant me.
Starting point is 00:41:21 Your mom was like, well, Sean Hayes. Who's she? No, she was very. She, my mother, was very excited about knows who you are no she was very she my mother was very excited about her you being on the show she's like i love him he's so nice oh that's so sweet yeah no um well you likewise she likes the gays she likes the gays but she still has was not the best parent in that in that situation but she and i have settled that many years later. Yeah, my mom wrote me like a 12-page handwritten, both sides, legal-sized paper, you know, I'm going to hell, I'll read the Bible. And then she did a complete 180 and said,
Starting point is 00:41:58 you know, it's her favorite. She loved everything. Yeah, well, there you have it. Anyway, so speaking of which, speaking of men, let's bring in our friend of Pivot. Isaac Fitzgerald is the author of Dirtbag Massachusetts, a confessional, which follows the author from a Catholic upbringing to bartending in dive bars to missionary work dodging landmines in Southeast Asia, welcome Isaac Fitzgerald. Cara, thank you so much for having me. I have to say, your title is my—I wish I had this title. I'm supposedly working on a book, but I wish mine was called Dirtbag. And in fact, I'm thinking of calling my next podcast Dirtbag. I think it's the most perfect.
Starting point is 00:42:39 Mine's just called Bag. I love it. So I want to talk a little bit about this. But first, you had a hit children's book called How to Be a Pirate. And I did buy it, actually, for my daughter. And I think it's wonderful. But now you're writing your own coming of age story about yourself. So talk about why you called it Dirtbag Massachusetts. Obviously, you're from Massachusetts. but what was your goal in writing this? Well, so I originally had, there was a town, I moved around a lot as a kid, but a town that I spent most of my teenage years in was called Athol, Massachusetts. I'll give you one guess
Starting point is 00:43:16 what everyone else in the state called us. Asshole. Butthole. That's right. Asshole, Massachusetts. Turns out you can't call a book that, or you'd have to have an asterisk or something. And so it was actually my good friend, Jason Diamond, who's a wonderful author. And I kid you not, we were driving to Boston for an event of his. We were going to stay in a motel under the shadow of Fenway. And he just very casually said, why don't you call it Dirtbag Massachusetts? Because I was saying I couldn't call it Asshole Massachusetts. And from there, that clicked.
Starting point is 00:43:45 At that point, the book was even different than what the final product was. But at that point, it clicked. That became my lodestar. Dirtbag Massachusetts was going to be the heart of every essay that I put into this book. In the essay. And so you talk a lot about various things. But what struck me as I was looking at it, and by the way, my wife's from Massachusetts. She's from Brookline, which is very different than asshole Massachusetts.
Starting point is 00:44:07 But she still loves her Massachusetts. But it smells the same. No, it smells good. Brookline smells real nice. But one of the things I was struck by, the importance of communal space, whether it's a homeless shelter or a biker bar. Can you talk a little bit about, you know, because there's a lot of community. You talk a lot about community when you're writing this. Yeah. So I was raised in an unhoused shelter run by the Catholic worker.
Starting point is 00:44:30 And I really think if you look at my childhood on paper, you look at my whole life on paper, you would think those early years were the hardest, whereas they were actually the best years. I felt the most love there. I felt the most community. It was a wonderful, progressive situation to be in. And I'm so grateful. My parents and I, of course, have complex relationships, but I'm so grateful for the things that they gave me. One of the things was books. The other things was a strong sense of community. And I learned that there at the Catholic Worker. As I grew older, I found myself drawn more and more to places, basically home and the church. And when I say the church, I mean the institution, not so much the faith, but those became unsafe spaces for me. Places
Starting point is 00:45:09 like a biker bar, or I write an essay about the armory in San Francisco, those became more safe spaces for me. And the reason for that was because of the community that I found there. My therapist actually pointed out, I was probably drawn to those places because I thought they were going to be dangerous, but what they actually were, were filled with kind of loving, compassionate people that accepted people any which way they were. And that really, really gave me a space to be myself and maybe start to grapple with some of the issues I was trying to put in the rear view mirror. Explain the Armory for people. Why the Armory in San Francisco? So the Armory is a giant brick building in the heart of San Francisco. It's in the Mission District.
Starting point is 00:45:48 And it has been many, many things, including a few scenes for the Millennium Falcon, for Star Wars was filmed there. But at the time, kink.com, which is a porn company that was run by a man named Peter, was run out of the Armory. And I became a part of the community there and eventually became an actor for kink.com. They're wonderful people. I have to say. I've gone there many times. It's a wonderful place. Absolutely right.
Starting point is 00:46:12 Yeah. It's fascinating what you were talking about growing up. You set a shelter, correct? Mm-hmm. Well, it's fascinating that you got through all of that. I mean, it just sounds, that's all I have to say. No, no, I appreciate that, Sean. It was, let me tell you, I feel very lucky that that family, that's part of the core story of this book, too.
Starting point is 00:46:32 That family kind of explodes, not because of the shelter, but actually in some of the isolation we find ourselves in afterwards. Our family explodes, but the book is also very much about how that family comes back together in a totally new, but still very beautiful shape. Well, I can't wait to read it. It sounds fascinating. So, Sean, one of the things you talked about was your own family. You had five kids. Your mom raised you.
Starting point is 00:46:53 Your dad wasn't around. The same kind of thing. Yeah. Dad left when I was five, Isaac, and we kind of parented ourselves. So, I was saying to Kara when we first started, I still wake up every day with this kind of survival mode, where it's like, I got to hunt or gather. It's like, I got to go work hard to get the food, to get them, you know, all of that kind of mentality. So, I can relate to those kinds of struggles. And it makes you, you know, what kills you, it makes you stronger. So, that's kind of
Starting point is 00:47:24 what doesn't kill you. No, that's absolutely right, Sean. And I want you to know that I completely relate to that. And I think so many, I'm sure Tara, you have some relationship to this as well. That's what makes us such strivers. We wake up with that, oh, all right, what am I figuring out today? How am I going to keep the peace today? What's going to happen next? And it really is this kind of survival mentality. I think that's such a perfect way to put it. Do you have kids, Isaac? No, no, I've actually chosen to not be a parent. I'm going to, I wrote an essay for Esquire recently that's called The World Needs Uncles Too. And it's very much about my decision. I love that my siblings have had children. I love watching my parents who really did struggle being parents, get to become the
Starting point is 00:48:06 world's best grandparents. But I myself, I think I'm going to take an uncle role. Yeah, that's interesting. I read this quote once from this woman, which I really love. She said, I'd rather regret not having kids than have them and regret it later. And that's kind of like how I feel because it's such a roll of the dice, unless you end up with brilliant kids like Kara. Yeah, I have them for all of you. I've been having children for all of you. One of the things you talk about is this unusual social spaces in this book. One of the ones was you write a lot, very lovely, about a teenage fight club and the bonds that you create there.
Starting point is 00:48:41 Obviously, you talk about the Catholic Church. Talk a little bit about that because I just think that one of the things that Sean and I were just talking about is the lack of community of how we're all sort of isolated in these bubbles now. And where do we go from here? We're talking about Alex Jones and the people that sort of get fed his line of horseshit, for example.
Starting point is 00:48:59 And it works on them because people don't feel separate. How do you talk about these social spaces, the physical social spaces, not online ones? The internet has provided me with so much. I am one of those people. I have an essay in the book that's basically, I was looking at analog porn when I was 12. And by 13, things had become very online. I was born in 1983. So I'm very much of that last generation that had one foot in the analog world and then one foot in the internet world. The internet provided so much for me. It allowed me to meet like-minded people that I never would have met before. It allowed me to build a writing
Starting point is 00:49:35 community that started in San Francisco, but then went out across the country working with writers from all over the place. And I so love that. But the fact of the matter is, is it allowed a lot of different people to find a lot of other different like-minded people. And like you said, it has created these bubbles. And more and more, I find myself still with deep appreciation for the internet, but looking to make connections offline. I'm trying to walk more. I'm trying to go out and just meet with friends, sit with them, spend time with them. I do my damnedest not to look at my phone as much as I used to. And part of that is I think a lot of us are thirsty for that form of connection, especially, of course, after the pandemic, especially, of course, after being so limited in the spaces that we could be in. So that is community, like we mentioned before, like we touched on has always been so important to me. And I think it's going to become in the next five, 10 years, something
Starting point is 00:50:29 that people are very, very focused on. And I'm actually very excited. Physical community. Yeah, physical, exactly. Physical spaces. I'm really excited about that. So even if it was fighting, it didn't matter. It was connection. Well, so that's what's funny about the Fight Club. And I'm so glad you're bringing it back to that. So I recently, somebody, you know, I was like, oh, I wasn't a very angry kid. And it was my therapist was like, you literally told me about how you and your friends used to get together and fight. And that's when I realized what that was about, which was, you know, when you push things down and you try to ignore things, they bubble up in these weird ways. We started this group and it was about joy. It was about fun. It was about spending time together.
Starting point is 00:51:07 But what is it really about? We had violence in our homes and this was our attempt to try and control it. We couldn't control it in our own homes. Violence would roll in like a storm, unexpected. But when we were in this group, we controlled the violence. We consented to it. We agreed to it. And I think that's one of the things that deeply drew us to it. The other thing is I think we were all very lonely. And so it brought us together and it
Starting point is 00:51:29 allowed us and made a space for which we could actually, you know, crush up against one another and touch each other and like feel that. And I do really think at the time, if you had asked me, I would have just been like, we saw a cool movie and we thought it was fun. But looking back on it now, I see so many young men who are desperate for connection and desperate to try and control the violence that they felt like they didn't have control of in other parts of their life. When I was younger, I wish that group of people would have crushed up against me. Let's talk about this episode in the conventional booth then, because it is vivid. Go ahead, Isaac. Yes.
Starting point is 00:52:09 So this is a very big moment in the book. And it's a difficult moment to dissect. And I think this is part of what I'm trying to do in the book, is you want to make sure that you're facing the reality of the situation. And the reality of this situation is I don't know for sure what was happening on the other side of that lattice. So I'm in the confessional, there's a metal lattice between me and the priest. All I know is that at the age of 12, I was confessing many different things and none of them held this person's attention. They truly were just going through the motions. And then I, knowing kind of that the thing that you don't
Starting point is 00:52:46 want to confess probably means it's the thing that you should, I confessed to basically my first sexual experience, which is I was 12. There was a 17-year-old girl and she and I went into the woods and she performed oral sex. And when I started to confess that, it's like the whole air in the confessional changed. And the priest sat up and the priest was paying more attention. His ears were more alert. His breathing became heavier. And he started to ask for more details. And at first I started to give them because that's an incredibly difficult situation.
Starting point is 00:53:22 This is why the Catholic Church got away with the pedophilia that got away with it. It's why the Catholic church got away with the abuse that it did was because we are talking about oftentimes low income children or low income families who look to the church for guidance, who believe that these priests have the ear of God and thus can do no wrong. And I'm sitting there saying more and more, but even then at the age of 12, I knew something uncomfortable was happening. Again, I can't tell for sure what was going on on the other side of that lattice. I don't know if that was an interest that he was just taking in an audio, if there was more that was happening there, but I did eventually just get up and leave. And that- It's a really vivid scene. It's a very-
Starting point is 00:54:03 Difficult moment for me. Yeah, exactly. And something I've wrestled with for a very long time because my mother and father were both involved with the church. So when Spotlight comes out in the early 2000s, the work of the Boston Globe investigative team, the things that they showed were part, I was very close to all of that. And my parent, I remember my mother just asking with such a heavy heart, did something happen? And I'm not going to give away too much of the book here, but you can read it. But that, you know, it's a tough thing that happened to so many different Catholic families. Indeed.
Starting point is 00:54:32 I think we're all Catholic. Are you Catholic? Yeah. We're raised Catholic. Yeah. I, of course, when I went in the confessional, because they're not interested in women at all, they're like, do you have anything to confess? And I said, no, I've not done anything wrong.
Starting point is 00:54:42 And they said, everyone is a sinner. And I said, were you mean to your brother? I said, that's not a sin. I'm not saying anything. I refuse. And they were like, get out of here. And I was like, okay, good. Sounds good. Have a good day. You were like, that was self-defense. I was like, there's nothing wrong with me. Like, there's nothing wrong with me. I remember those confessionals where they forced you to do them as children. And then, so you had to make something up. I was like, I don't know. I pulled my sister's hair, which I didn't do. I was like, I don't know. I don't do anything wrong like you.
Starting point is 00:55:09 I was like, nothing. It's the whole thing is so crazy. Well, there is the gay thing. There is the gay thing. Oops. Oops. Anyway, this is a really wonderful book. And you are a really wonderful writer.
Starting point is 00:55:19 I think that's the best part of it. I can't wait to read it. And it's a really fun and easy read and also full of just really vivid writing. And again, it really strikes me how you talk because you had been one of the first books editor at BuzzFeed News, which is the social media driven outlet of all time, really.
Starting point is 00:55:37 And so it's really interesting that you talk a lot about community and creation of physical community on the thing. It's a wonderful book. I think a lot of people should pick it up. Anyway, the book is Dirtbag, Massachusetts. Thank you, Isaac Fitzgerald. Cara and Sean, thank you so much. I so appreciate it. And thank you for having me on. Like I said, big fan. So thanks for having me. Nice to meet you. Yeah. All right, Sean, one more quick break. We'll be back for predictions.
Starting point is 00:56:02 Oh, great. break we'll be back for predictions oh great okay sean let's hear some predictions i want a really good prediction for you besides britney spears's latest whatever i i didn't understand i didn't know we had to do homework for this predictions what do you think is going to happen in something about what anything anything i didn't know it was supposed to happen. What is your prediction? My prediction? I think Liz Cheney is going to lose her thing, which is not much of a prediction, but she is probably going to run for president. You know what? I predict that this country is tired of the divisiveness and we're going to come together in a community fashion, as Isaac said, very soon, sooner than later.
Starting point is 00:56:45 Oh, I like that. I like that. That is a really nice, that's a prediction. That's a good prediction. I do think that. I think everybody's sick and tired of all this bullshit. How is it going to manifest itself? It's going to manifest itself through elections.
Starting point is 00:56:57 You wait and see. People are going to be like, you know what? We didn't talk about this new party that's been formed called Forward. Yes, that's Andrew Yang. Yes. Yeah, I would do that. I'd sign up for that's been formed called Forward. Yes, that's Andrew Yang. Yes. Yeah, I would do that. I'd sign up for that. Yeah, all right.
Starting point is 00:57:08 Okay, I'll call him. Yeah, because I think that's where people are. It's like both sides are so crazy right now that that's, right? Right. One is more crazy than the other, though, I have to say. Yes, I agree. I agree. But would you sign up for the Forward Initiative?
Starting point is 00:57:19 Not that particular one, but I do think a third party is really, we're at that moment. Who would you like to see be the next president? Oh, God. Stacey Abrams, maybe. I think she's really smart. Yeah. There you go. I think Buttigieg would be great.
Starting point is 00:57:36 You'd like a gay in the White House, wouldn't you? You'd like a gay. Wouldn't you? Yeah. Yes, I would. Yes. He's a very different kind of gay than you and I, I think, though. Yes.
Starting point is 00:57:46 Well, he's smart. I'm going to leave it on that. Anyway. Anyway, we want to hear from you. Send us your questions about business tech or whatever's on your mind. Go to nymag.com slash pivot to submit a question for the show or call 855-51-PIVOT. Sean, that is the show. I really, really recommend everybody.
Starting point is 00:58:04 I know everyone knows you from Will & Grace, but your podcast is the show i really really recommend everybody i know everyone knows you from will and grace but your podcast is wonderful it really is it's really great and i you're my favorite part of it don't say that to the other boys thank you it's called smart list by the way smart list it's called smart list it's on the top of all the lists and it's really it's quite smart actually and quick and quick little plug i also do another one called hypochondriac actor which i do with a doctor friend of mine because i'm an actor who's a hypochondriac. It's a great podcast. What happened to you last week? Pick a body part and I'll tell you a story.
Starting point is 00:58:32 Okay. That's what it's about. Okay. Hypochondriactor with Sean Hayes. Listen, Andy, you're a wonderful podcast. I'm glad I bugged you that time to do it because you're really such a clever man. Thank you. I wouldn't be here without your advice. Yes. no, you would. You would. Anyway. No, I wouldn't. Yes, you would. Yes, you would. Scott Galloway, no, absolutely not. And Axios would not have sold for 525 million without my help. But you, you thrive whatever you do. Anyway, we'll be back on Friday for more. I will read us out, Sean. Today's show was produced by Lara Naiman, Evan Engel, and Taylor Griffin. Ben Woods engineered this. You can keep talking during it.
Starting point is 00:59:07 I will. Make sure you subscribe to the show. Subscribe. Wherever you listen to podcasts. Thanks for listening to Pivot from New York Magazine and Vox Media. We'll be back later this week for another breakdown of all things tech and business. And Sean Hayes is a boss. What does your t-shirt say? Lesbians Who Tech.... And Sean Hayes. Tech and Business. Yeah. Is a boss.
Starting point is 00:59:25 Lesbians, what does your t-shirt say? Lesbians who tech. Lesbians who tech. Okay. Thank you, Sean. Bye, everybody.

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