Pivot - Epic Games challenges Google and Apple, guest host Aminatou Sow on keeping the post office public, and Friend of Pivot Mary Trump on her uncle Donald

Episode Date: August 18, 2020

Kara is joined by guest host, author of Big Friendship and host of the podcast "Call Your Girlfriend", Aminatou Sow to discuss Epic Games suing Apple and Google. They also talk about about how to save the Postal Service as the House prepares to hear testimony from the Postmaster General. Then we hear from Friend of Pivot Mary Trump to talk about her bestselling book Too Much And Never Enough: How My Family Created the World’s Most Dangerous Man” and her uncle Donald. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Go to ConstantContact.ca and start your free trial today. Go to ConstantContact.ca for your free trial. ConstantContact.ca Hi, everyone. This is Pivot from New York Magazine and the Vox Media Podcast Network. I'm Kara Swisher. Scott's out this week, and we have my very good friend of mine, Aminatou Soh, in the host seat. She's the author of a new book, Big Friendship, and the co-host of a hit podcast, Call Your Girlfriend. Hey, Amina. Hi, Kara. How's it going? Good. We just had a discussion about your name because I call you Amina all the time. Sometimes I have other names for you, but we were talking about Kamala Harris and the mispronunciation of names.

And I constantly mispronounce your entire name. I mispronounce a lot of people's names, which I do almost constantly, and I forget everyone's birthday. I don't know when your birthday is. I'm sorry. April 8th. Please remember this year. Thank you. All right. Okay. So let's talk about this concept because the Democratic National Convention is happening this week. I want to talk about anything you're looking forward to seeing in the virtual convention and also what do you think of the pick? But let's talk about this name thing, which was a controversy with Tucker Carlson, who usually does stupid things like this.

Listen, I think that calling people by their name is, I love the phrase, call me by my name. Calling people by their name is just common courtesy. You know, I have a name that white Americans try to tell me is hard to pronounce all the time. It's literally all vowels. If you can say Tchaikovsky, you can say my name. If you can say Tchaikovsky, you can say Kamala Harris.

And so it is like a very condescending point, I think, like reminding people of color or people who have foreign origins that their names are hard to say. It's really not that bad. When I interviewed her, she was really funny about it on our podcast. Well, tell me about it. Tell me about it because it's become like a weird controversy with him. He just can't. And again, for people who don't know, it's comma, as in comma, la, not Kamala. Or how else would you pronounce that? I'm not sure of the difference.

I mean, here it is. It's not controversial, Cara. It's just racist, you know, like plain and simple. What I mean is I can't believe it's not controversial, Cara. It's just racist point and you know, like plain and simple. It's, what I mean is I can't believe it's where it is. It's again, you know, it's like people who are like, don't tell me to wear a mask. Don't tell me how to pronounce your name. Don't tell me which pronouns you want to use. Um, maybe just call people what they want you to call them and call them the correct name. And we don't have to deal with that. But I, I understand that. But why do you think that is? It is in the same genre of

the masks or they and them and stuff like that. What is in that from your perspective? I mean, I think that what's in it is a refusal to admit that all Americans do not look like Tucker Carlson. All Americans have not looked like Tucker Carlson since day one of America. So it really is just another way of asserting a kind of power and really being condescending towards people who are, you know, who don't look like him. It's not hard. Her name is Kamala.

She's told us that since the beginning. Why would you, you know, I'm like, we don't call him Tucker. I'm sure he would, you know. I have another name for him. I mean, I try not to say his name, but it's just... I use a different letter. I change the letters. Well, that's fair, Cara. But you know, people who do that stuff, it always makes me laugh

because you know how enraged he would be if you said his name wrong. So it really is just a common courtesy. Also, she's a United States senator. Learn your senator's names. Right. So talk about this idea of her there, because these are the kind of things that are pop-up. Birtherism, all kinds of stuff. And how do you, how do you, what do you think of the pick? And, you know, there were so many good possibilities here.

There was at least a dozen great possibilities. The moment the Biden campaign said that they were going to pick a Black woman, I think it like narrowed down the fields to, you know, who we were thinking about. I cannot believe how they botched this rollout. The rollout was atrocious, Cara. It was, they, you know, for weeks on end, we had this conversation about who it was going to be. They kept vetting people in public and we kept having this, it's almost like we learned nothing from the 2016 election. Having this conversation about like, can women be leaders? Can black women be leaders? Is this okay? And frankly, to me, I was like, they were letting all of these candidates, they were vetting in public and just throwing under the bus,

which is a problem. The pick is obviously historic. I'm like, there's, no matter what you think about her politics, no matter how you feel about Joe Biden as the candidate, this is a historic pick. And, you know, I'm like, that's that. Now on a policy level, I have a lot of things that I would, you know, I would like for Kamala Harris to be able to address in public,

like her own record, her own, just how her own feelings have evolved around the work that she has done as a prosecutor. We're having this national conversation right now about defunding the police and how that is going to look. And so how does she square that with the job that she has?

But I think that we, like a lot of things can be true. It can be true that she is a historic pick. It can be true that she is a historic pick. It can be true that she is a very good pick. That woman is more qualified than the current occupants of the White House. I very much look forward to- Well, my cat is more qualified.

I mean, fair, but you know what I mean? I was like, I very much look forward to the debate with Pence. I was like, that's going to be a great debate. But at the same time, I think that, you know, it's okay to say, yes, I'm very excited about this pick from a historical perspective. I'm excited about it from a management perspective, but also like there are a lot of policy issues that I think should be addressed. And I think

that people get really nervous about wanting to criticize, you know, like the Democrat candidate. And I was like, of course, we're going to criticize them. It's the only way that we get them to be better. So it's not, you know, debate is good and debate is healthy. So two things can be done. How do you think these conventions are going to go? You know, how do you, how do you put that on display? Because I think they're going to want to go for unity and we're not him. I think that's really pretty much the... I mean, I know, but talk about like fumbling the ball again. I was looking at the format of these. They like, you know, I just like, this was an opportunity to be digital first. And I think that they are just trying to recreate

the, you know, the thing and just put it on Zoom essentially, which we all know is going to fail. They are getting like 16, what is it? 17 people are giving these like 60 second speeches. You know, who is that going to help? Who's going to remember any of that? Don't care.

So if that's the display of unity is everyone here gets like one minute participation trophy. I don't really care for that. But interesting. What would you do? What would you do? And then we get to big stories. What would you, how would you have? I mean, I think I would have picked the stars.

I would have given AOC a bigger role. I would have given Stacey Abrams a bigger role. People who are not newcomers to politics. And good speakers. Yeah, people who are not newcomers to politics. And good speakers. Yeah, people who are good speakers, people who honestly like galvanize the people that are hesitant about voting for this ticket for Democrats. So, you know, this idea that like 17 people are going to speak for a minute is so ludicrous and it's such an old school weird concept.

What do you think of the Republican plans? It's just going to be Trump, Trump, Trump, right? I mean, it is going to be Trump. I mean, you know, I'm like, that's, uh, that's definitely what's working for them. They're going to be like Trump, Trump, Trump, Trump, Trump, make America great again, say everyone's name wrong. Uh, you know, like make, make fun of people wearing masks. And then here we are, you know, it, uh, that works for some people. Do they matter? These things, are they going to matter? Cause well, there's very little exposure to any of any of these, except for Trump,

who's never, you can't turn him off. Personally, Cara, I am excited about a world in which these things matter less and less. You know, it's just pomp and circumstance. We spend so much money on them. And coronavirus this year means that they can't do business as usual, and we're watching them try to do business as usual.

This kind of stuff, it should not matter to a voter that you could do a nice speech in five minutes. It should not matter to a voter. Your record should matter. Your policy platform should matter and so many other things, not this weird prom that we have. There is an element of showing yourself off or not. You know, but isn't that what all campaigns are? They show themselves off for months on end. This is just one more part of the horse race. And frankly, I think that it is a waste of money and it is a waste of voters' time.

Well, at least none of us are in Milwaukee right now because you and I would be there. We would be there right now. I mean, we would be. Having cheese. Yeah, you and I would be hiding somewhere at the back of a conference room, like definitely having a cheese plate.

Definitely. No, cheese curds. What do they have? Anyway, we're going to get on to big stories. Epic Games, the video maker behind Fortnite, is suing Apple and Google for banning the popular game from the App Store. Last week, Epic Games encouraged its players

to pay the company directly rather than through the app, but that did not sit well with Google and Apple, who collect 30% on app transactions, usually for the first year, and then it does decline. Hours after that request, Apple banned Fortnite from the App Store, and then Epic sued Apple in federal court for antitrust violations and started a massive public relations campaign to besmirch Apple company Image. Google also pulled the game off its app store and has been sued for their move as well. And this comes just weeks after I wrote about, and we talked about Basecamp, which is another, sort of the developers are really starting to push back. What do you think about this? I mean, I am secretly very excited about this because every, you know, every once in a while, a company comes that really tries to push back on this monopoly

that Apple has in the App Store. And I feel that Epic Games are the ones that have the deep enough pockets to carry this fight on for a little while. I think that we're going to find out some things. The App Store is also not a fan of cryptocurrency.

They're always blocking features in Coinbase. I think that also not a fan of cryptocurrency. You know, they're always blocking features in Coinbase. They are, you know, I think that also being a centralized curation point for all applications on their hardware also means that they can enable bad, you know, bad governments to make decisions that I don't personally agree with.

So I don't know. I'm excited for this fight to play out in public because I think that it pushes Apple and really pushes this platform to say what they care about. And the bottom line is that they want their cut. They want their cut, but it's like, do you get to have your cake and eat it too? Pretend you're Apple for a second. There are arguments that we're keeping the App Store safer. It's a better experience. We're keeping the App Store safer. It's a better experience. And not just Apple.

Google is in here, too. Google seems to always sort of put their head down and don't get as much flack as Facebook. But they have a bigger platform, actually. Apple spends a lot more time curating it. How do you decide how to fix this from your perspective? What's the fix? Because you have to have an organized and an App Store where there's not malevolent software and that there's some controls and at the same time charging these fees

without any kind of, should it be like a utility or what? How do you look at it? I mean, you know. Same thing with podcasts. Look at what power do you have with your podcast? You and I feel, I think that it should be a utility and I think that, you know, that it should be a utility.

And I think that Apple feels very differently about it. But I think that where they need to land is that their position is no longer tenable. It is just untenable. The more this goes on, the more the position that they've staked out is, frankly, a little bit hypocritical, if we're all honest. It's also not fair. They cannot keep having this monopoly on how all of this is distributed. So I think that, you know, I hope that the come to Jesus that they're having is that either they need to make it more fair, and that will mean like including more voices, or they can keep doing this until someone with deep enough pockets will come and fight them on it.

Well, interesting. Epic has a lot of ownership by ByteDance, I think. It's ByteDance. No, the WeChat. It's Tencent. Tencent owns a big piece of Epic Games, excuse me. And at the same time, Google is expecting a lawsuit by the Justice Department this fall. It's a really interesting time. and they were up on Capitol Hill. You watched those hearings, correct? Oh my God, those hearings? Those hearings are so painful to watch because, you know, the people who are in charge of making these laws don't even know how to attach pictures to emails.

And this is, you know, I'm like, that's the level that we're starting with. And then the rest of us are like, what about the VPN? What are we going to do about that? So that always distresses me greatly that they cannot get asked the questions that they're supposed to get asked because these people don't know what they're talking about. But I don't know, Kara, all of this makes me a little bit nervous, especially with the attitude that Silicon Valley has towards this current president because clearly they're all trying to not make them upset. They're all trying to curry some sort of favor, which is normal.

All industries lobby. Like, that is not what I'm knocking. But it just, it really makes me feel that they are, they're in a position to make, to make, like, moral claims that they really can't, you know? Well, they kind of like the Trump administration because they leave them alone. There's been no action.

There was no action on the Obama administration either, let's be clear. It's not been, I mean, neither administration has done much for tech. But this is the thing that they all love. It's like the more they're left alone and the more just like ignorant the lawmakers are, the more they get to do this stuff.

And every once in a while, they got to come in front of Congress and in bad suits and apologize. Does that, I'm going to finish up, does that change in a Biden administration? I mean, Kamala Harris has a lot of experience. She's also very close to tech, but she has done some cases against them. You have Elizabeth Warren. She has, but you know, I think that like she's definitely more, this administration has a

potential, I think, to do more. But I think that this administration, you know, Kamala's record on SESTA-FOSTA is not something that I'm psyched about. I was like, that's not great. So, you know, dangerous. They're good enough that they can be dangerous, which is not great.

But I, you know, I just think that politically, this is something that is going to have to change. Tech is shaping so much more of politics. So who is the politician? Is it Elizabeth Warren or who is the politician you see? I mean, I think that the more

left the politicians are, the more they are understanding this. Warren, Bernie, I think were like 100% on the money about what was going on. I don't think the tech people are happy. I don't think the tech people are happy with what might come from there. But I do think that the Democrats

need to really put a stake in the ground about how this is going to work. Technology is not some cute industry that we just laugh and have memes on. It is literally running our lives and our elections in this case. Yeah, I think they're going to get away with it. Anyway, Amina, we're going to take a quick break and come back and talk about the post office and the future of mail carrier privacy.

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Louis DeJoy, who's not very joyful, has been called to testify. He's the former Republican National Convention finance chairman. Over the past few days, DeJoy banned postal workers from making extra trips and crackdown on overtime hours. The post office has removed hundreds of mail sorting machines. Last week, the post office started removing public collection boxes in parts of California, New York, Pennsylvania, Oregon, and Montana. I mean, this postal thing, like I was in the post office and the postal people are like,

you have to buy some stamps and support us. And I was like, okay. Talk about this idea. Because And I was like, okay. Talk about this. Because here's the thing, Cara, the post office is a public institution that has a really clear mandate, like literally from the constitution to enable universal low cost access to information. It is a beautiful thing that it costs the same amount of money to mail a letter from New York to Hawaii than it does from New York to New Jersey. I think a thing that people forget is that the post office is not funded by taxes, like at all. The post office is funded by the revenue that they generate. And the way that, you know, Amazon in particular has really undercut that service is very dangerous. And also,

Republican administrations for years, for decades, really, have been gutting the post office in an effort to privatize it. So I think that remembering that they're not tax funded, I think, is the first thing here. So talk about the Amazon part. Have they played, how have they played, that they're getting these cheap rates that they get to build their business on? They're literally getting these... So you're, that's a Trump message, you know. How have they played that? They've getting these cheap rates that they get to build their business. They're literally getting these. That's a Trump message. You know,

it's a huge Trump message, but it was a message before Trump, you know, privatizing the post office, making, um, you know, the,

the, this like last mile carriage basically be insured by private companies is, uh, that's great for Amazon. And Amazon is a huge, uh, is obviously like a huge player in deliveries. Now,

you know, I was, I was talking to, um, I was talking to a teen about the post office thing. And she was like, you know, the only mail that I get is Amazon packages. And I thought, I was like, oh, that's really funny. But also I am terrified. And that is the reality of a lot of people's lives. But the post office does more than deliver packages. And so it's why it's important to really protect them.

deliver packages. And so it's why it's important to really protect them. But I'm just like, Jeff Bezos cannot be the only person that is in charge of our mail. Privatizing the mail is dangerous for a lot, a lot, a lot of reasons. And what about what the Trump administration is doing about with Louis DeJoy and what they're attempting to do here is take advantage of a situation which you seem to agree with at the same time needs to be protected. I mean, yeah, you know, it's like part of the other part of what is going on with the post office is that they were, they were forced by Congress and, you know, past administration to fund all of their, to fund all of their retirement up front, essentially, to simplify, to simplify what's going on. It's why they're in financial straits. It's not because it was like badly administered. It truly is like malfeasance from Republicans. And the only reason that Trump has

installed these people there right now is in order to completely dismantle it from the inside. And those are the reports that we're getting. I have been really heartened to see the Postal Workers Union message against this. They were like, nothing will stop your mail, not rain, not sleet, not fascism. I was like, thank you. They were very political when I was at the post office. They are very political. The post office is one of our largest employers. And also to be clear, it is like a huge employer of people in marginalized communities. And so for a lot of like Black and Brown people, it is one kind of, you know, like government job that you can have that will ensure stability.

And I think that that should not be lost in this debate about why they're, you know, like why the administration is trying to like dismantle the post office from the inside. And so before we get to Mary Jo, would you imagine, what should the post office look like then? Because, you know, in this age when there's all kinds of other digital communications and we do have constitutionally protected privacy at the post office, what should it be? we have it. And Elizabeth Warren had this plan that has been a plan that's been around in like left circles for a long time to restore banking at the post office. If we, millions and millions of Americans are completely underserved by the banking industry, the post office can do that, where it is a place where you can like cash your checks, you could like nothing fancy. We're not talking like. So it's still relevant in the digital age. Yes, the post office is hugely relevant in the digital age. And the post office has an opportunity to fix another huge

problem that we have. We used to have postal banking in the 60s and 70s. It was hugely successful. And it was dismantled because Republicans do not like the idea of the post office. This was a proposal that Bernie Sanders wanted. It is a proposal that Elizabeth Warren wanted. We have like over 31,000 post offices in this country. Imagine if all of them could serve Americans who were underbanked. That's a great idea. And what about Bezos?

What do we do about him? Just charge him more, right? Send Bezos to space. I like this. We are tired. What do we do? I mean, charge him. Kara, that man has more money than God.

What does he need like cheaper postal rates for and to dismantle another public institution that we have? Charge them the fair amount. It is not going to like cut into their business. And frankly, it is, you know, it's just, it's another way for Silicon Valley to dismantle things that are like fundamentally important to American democracy and pretend that it's about efficiency. And what do you imagine is going to

happen with the face-off with the Trump administration? I mean, we'll see. I'm glad to see that the postal workers are energized. The public seems that it's energized. But honestly, what I want to see is that where other legislators like step up to the plate. We can't like do a GoFundMe for the post office. That's ridiculous. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I just bought stamps. That's all I did. Listen, I am frequently buying stamps. I love them. You can also, the post office shop is amazing. You can buy art prints. I have never gotten a letter from you. You've gotten postcards from me. That's not true. Oh, you do. You're right. You send me postcards. You're right. I don't send you anything in the mail. You love me. I know.

I know. Speaking of the unraveling, we have Mary Trump on the line. She's a psychologist and author of the number one New York Times bestseller. Let's just say that again. Number one, Too Much and Never Enough, How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man. Welcome, Mary. Thank you. It's great to be here. Thanks. You've been really, this book could not be better timed. It's a really, I'm sure you timed it that way, but. Of course I did.

Yeah, of course you did. But I want to talk a little bit about Trump and Twitter a little bit, but I think first let's talk a little bit about how you see your uncle's mind right now and what you think of his strategy coming into the 2020 election. Because as you had predicted, it's becoming ever more unhinged, unless that's a calculated unhingement, I guess. Yeah, it's really interesting to watch because it's actually both desperation and strategy. You know, Donald doesn't employ strategy in the way most people mean. It's not like he has this long range plan and he knows exactly how to accomplish his ends. On the other hand, though, he does know from a lifetime of experience that the best way for him to get what he wants is to create division and chaos. And suddenly we find ourselves defending the post office against destruction. Well, what's interesting, what's interesting about it is when you talk about that, it's endless and exhausting. Like the other day it was there, then it was Kanye West,

and then there was something going on over here. It's a constant mess, essentially, of just, I'm going to destroy this and you're trying to pick it up over here. And then we spend a lot of time not being exhausted by it, which I assume is the goal. It is the goal. And it is unfortunately effective, which is why I had hoped after five years of this, well, actually it's been decades, but let's putting it in the context of elections and the administration, I had hoped after five years of this, the media would have gotten better at paying attention to the things that matter. But apparently that's not been the case. I mean, what do you think it's going to look like if he if he doesn't win? You know, like what kind of fight are we you know, like, do we think he's going to put up to stay in office?

It depends on two things. The first thing is if Joe Biden wins. How big is his margin of victory? If it's huge, like if it's so big that not even a traitor like Bill Barr can complain that it's illegitimate, I think it's pretty simple. Donald will be so narcissistically injured that he'll have to run away from that pain. You know, especially if there's nothing he can do to spin it. And, you know, he'll just claim that he's the greatest thing that's ever happened to this country and we don't deserve him. So he's going to do something that really, really matters, like be a commentator on Fox News or build Trump Tower in Moscow or something. If it's a close margin and, you know and if Joe Biden wins, but it's close,

Donald would, of course, not want to concede. But what worries me more are the people around him, because there are a lot of people in his inner circle who are benefiting enormously from his administration, whether through sheer power like Bill Barr and Mitch McConnell, or because they're getting their agenda, like Mike Pompeo, who apparently wants to turn us into a theocracy. Also does Bill Barr. Or who are just benefiting financially, like probably my cousins.

So that's the scary part, a close margin and his clack convincing him that he really did win and he's got to fight. All right. Talk about that fight. Because one of the things that he does, and you've talked about lots of different parts of his personality disorder, but one of them is the use of Twitter, which I call them like the greatest troll in history. He's very good at it. It's very much built for him. Good. I'm using good in a different way than this is great, but he's good at it. Talk a little bit about that because how do you, how does that manifest when you have a narcissistic personality trait and you combine it with Twitter, it works really well for him in terms of

communicating. And some people say it goes too far, but I think it works beautifully in a lot of ways, even if it divides people. Well, first of all, it's great. Twitter is not great at nuance. So it's very difficult to do Twitter in a sophisticated way. But it's a great blunt instrument. And he has a very small vocabulary. And he doesn't speak in syntactically complex ways anyway. So it's in that regard, it's perfect for him because it's a very limited and blunt. More than that, I think, you know, he's, he's the king of instant gratification. So it, it's very easy on filter on Twitter, on Twitter to filter out negative comments. So, um, I imagine him just, you know, scrolling through his, his threads, uh, or his feed rather, and just looking at all the positive comments he's getting from, you know, people he would like never condescend to have dinner with, you know? So, um, I think it works on both of those levels and it, it, it

gins up the base. It keeps them simmering and then he turns up the heat when he needs to. So yeah, unfortunately it does suit him. What about his personality sort of does work in social media and settings like this? Is it, is it, cause it seems to be satisfying to him. And, and again, I'm trying not to use words, but he, he's good at it. It's, he uses it in the neck, in the purely negative way, but it's actually effective in a lot of ways. Or do you find it not effective? I think it is. No, no, I find it effective. And I think it's yes, he is good at it, but it's skill in the same way causing division is a skill. It just comes to him naturally. And it feeds his narcissism because it's, you know, on Twitter, you don't really have to have a conversation if you don't want to.

It's a one-way street. You know, he's pronouncing whatever he's pronouncing on Twitter. He's retweeting whatever he's retweeting. And the feedback is just reflects his glory. It's not like he's interacting with people. He's just putting it out there for people to admire, which is a narcissist's dream. You had said a little earlier that the media has not learned a lot of these lessons.

And I'm just curious if you could elaborate a little more about what you think the media is getting wrong when they amplify. Yeah, I mean, we can start with Twitter as well. How many times has Donald violated the terms of service on Twitter? Countless, countless times. So it also appeals to his anti-social tendencies, because it's just another instance in which he's allowed to get away with egregious behavior that most people would never be allowed to get away with. In terms of the media at large, and generally speaking, the mainstream media, they continue to allow themselves to be distracted. The fact that we

are still not talking about the kidnapping and incarceration of children, that's still happening as if it's some distant memory of what are you going to do about it? Well, that's the whole thing with exhaustion. It's this week, next week, you forget. That's the whole point. Right. And this happens, same thing with Flint, Michigan. So the problem now is because he's been allowed to get away with this for so long um that the things he's doing to

distract from the previous thing are also awful and damaging in their own right you know so um now it's not like he's distracting from i don't know the mus Muslim ban by sending some tweet that's creating controversy. He's distracting from the Russian bounty on our soldiers by destroying the post office. I mean, one of the, you know, the thing I think that was the most insightful, but also so painful to read in your book is just how this affects the family dynamics. You know, like granted, your family is very different, but I think that a lot of those dynamics are recognizable for people who have mental illness in the family. And, you know, watching Trump just spew a lot of these conspiracy theories online, we are watching the rise of QAnon, and so many families are devastated, truly, by the toll of these conspiracy theories.

I am just like wondering if you have any advice for people who are, you know, have someone like this in their family, even if they're not president. Yeah, that's a great question. Well, I think first of all, you have to protect yourself. You know, families tend to organize around the most dysfunctional person, and it can be extremely debilitating for the healthier people in the family. So, but this is, this feels new, right? Because I think you're right in the sense that my family's no different from a lot of families who created somebody with Donald's pathologies. You know, he wasn't born this way. You know, it took a village to create this person.

So it's not it's not unique in that way. What seems new to me is that in terms of our society at large, I used to be able to be friends with Republicans. And now I, I mean, I lost all of my friends who were Republicans after this election. So it's much harder because we're not talking about policy differences anymore. We're talking about fact versus fiction. We're talking about kindness versus cruelty. We're talking about kindness versus cruelty. You know, it's not, it's just not, well, you know, I think that tariffs are good,

or I think tariffs are bad. We're basically talking about things that can't be argued about with logic and rationality. So it's a very difficult question. I don't have an answer really because it's, what continues to mystify me is that the 22 to 28% of our population, the so-called base, which always exists, you know, it's been there forever, which- It's called my mother. You know, I think one of the purposes of liberal democracy was to contain those people um up in from 2016 to 2018 that 22 percent was represented by 100 percent of the federal government and now it's like 85 percent so they have an outsized role they have

state-run media um echoing their craziest conspiracy theories. And, you know, more and more people are getting drawn in. So, you know, at some point, we're going to have to look at how authoritarian personalities play into this. We're going to have to talk about how the four decades long project to render our electorate ignorant and suspicious of government will have to be reckoned with as well. But it's really complicated. One last question I have is around what do we do about it? We have this situation where we're now all at home. Social media is becoming a prevalent way people communicate and sort of disassociate from each other or allowed to be apart. What do you, I'd love you to talk about solutions.

I mean, you know, you tell a very grim story of dysfunction, not just of your family, but of America, right? You're talking about something else. And again, as I was joking about my mom, but it's really, I find it hopeless. I don't know what to say. Like, there's nothing to say. I just, I had my mom the other day

and she was doing the Republican talking points on Kamala Harris. And it was sort of like exactly, and I pointed it out and I sent her the exact words and she kept saying, that's my opinion. That's how she says it. I mean, I mean, I know it's my mom. So how do you get out of it with all this influence? What, from your, I'd love you to talk a little bit about what could be done to fix that or is it unfixable? Well, I can't believe it's unfixable. That's because then why bother fighting for this particular election? But you're right to be in despair because we're in this place where people actually think science is a belief system and climate change is a matter of opinion.

No. So one is empirical and one is factual. So I don't think it's possible to meet people, as I said before, on a rational, but facts are looked at suspiciously because they're ours, right? So everything becomes opinion. Every position is equally valid. It's impossible to have that argument. So what I would say is, you know, meet people at a point of their self-interest. But honestly, I think for the time being, we need to find community that sustains us and that keeps us hopeful because there's everything at stake in November. And like right now, I'm more interested in focusing on my energy and getting people to vote than changing anybody's mind because I'm not entirely sure that can happen in this environment, first of all. Secondly, we can't have a successful democracy if half of

the electorate doesn't vote. And, you know, that's something, I mean, gerrymandering and voter suppression aside, which are horrific, but also can't be dealt with right now. We need to get people who don't typically vote to vote. Yeah. One of the things that it does, the only thing that it does gives me hope is I'm, of course, you put everything in terms of yourself sometimes and your own experience. But the shift my mom made, and you're also gay, on gay issues, she was terrible until she wasn't. And it was such a fascinating shift because she was terrible and recalcitrant and had all kinds of opinions and facts that were inaccurate. And then the whole country just shifted. It was really-

I never thought in my lifetime that there would be marriage equality. Like to the point where I was like, it's not even that important, right? Right, right, yeah. Wow, that's incredible, right? It was incredible. Yeah, so that's the only way I think,

wow, things can shift rather dramatically. I mean, looking at that experience. And I guess the only thing, again, because I don't think talking about facts is useful at this point with people who actually believe QAnon conspiracies, you know, Pizzagate, it's quite, it's insane and disturbing. But if we can talk about like the human condition on a personal level, like what, what I find astonishing, well, not astonishing. I mean, I grew up in the family I grew up in, so I shouldn't be astonished by this, but the, the sudden, the sudden societal disdain for kindness.

Wait a minute. You, why do you want, why do you think government's role is to be mean and bullying and cruel to people who are, you know, struggling? And I guess I would just say, like, is that, is that what you want for your kids? Like, imagine your child going to school and the teachers are, you know, punitive and they're not allowed to have friends and they're not, I mean, it's just, it, we would never want that to happen for our children. Why do we want it to happen for ourselves, you know? But, you know, Donald unfortunately exemplifies the kindness is weakness end of the spectrum. Amina, last question.

I mean, this is, I'm trying to not feel any despair, I guess. Can you tell us a little more about what you are doing between now and November to ensure that, you know, our democracy doesn't collapse and just things that other people can do? I think that it's easy to sit at home and read Twitter and feel that there's nothing to do. Oh, I never, never do that. No, you're excellent at Twitter, by the way. Oh, thank you. Thank you. You're very good at it. Thank you. Hopefully in a different way, but no, look, it's been a really long three and a half years and I have fallen into that trap many, many times. And what's been really fascinating for me in the last couple of months is that despite, you know, getting to have interesting conversations with interesting, smart people, nothing in my life has changed because I'm still stuck in my house.

So I don't know. I mean, I guess I just need to keep finding new avenues in which to talk and to write. And because, you know, the most important thing about writing this book for me was being able to make a difference in terms of obviously the election and helping to ensure the continuing existence of American democracy, but also, you know, gun control and climate change and, you know, get people motivated in that way. And I think it's just finding the right venues in which to meet people on their own terms. And it's a little harder now. It's complicated. But, you know, Joe Biden is our candidate, and I think his choosing

Kamala Harris was utterly necessary because, honestly, if he had picked a white guy, I would have given up entirely. So I think the fact that finally we're making a tiny step in the right direction, and we can start having that conversation as well in a way that matters or, you know, in a way that's preferenced in a way it hasn't been by virtue of the fact that our next vice president is going to be an African-American and Asian-American woman. So, you know, just hanging on to the positives and. Hang on, Amina. Why don't you work on it? Listen, I'm hanging on

that's why community is so important and um you know it's a relay uh and if we need to tap out for a little bit and recharge we have to have faith that there are other people continuing to do the work because it is exhausting and it's really unhealthy. I've never been so unhealthy in my life. You can work on a sequel, you know, my, my Stepford cousins, right? I'm looking forward to that. I cannot wait to read that book. Yes, yes, yes. The cousins. I want the cousins book.

Do we really want to read any more about them? Come on. Here's why we need to read the Cousins book. We need to read the Cousins books because the Cousins will try to reintegrate society like they were not part of dismantling American democracy. And if we don't do anything because the prevailing forces of whiteness

are also the forces of civility, we will let these people rejoin society. And that is not acceptable to me. Get typing. Get typing. I am on it. All right. Good. I really appreciate it.

I'm so heartened by how well this book is doing. It's sold more than Your Uncles, which is my favorite part. Again, Mary Trump in a week is a psychologist and author. I know. And she wrote it herself. You're an excellent writer. She's a psychologist and author. People forget that.

Many, many people can't write. You certainly can. She's a psychologist and author of the number one New York Times bestseller, Too Much and Never Enough, How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man. Mary Trump, thank you so much for coming on. Thank you. This was great. I really appreciate it. Thank you very much. She's great. She's great. She's so great, Carol. She's healthy.

Why can't she be the one in her family that's the president? No, you know. No. We're not ready for a lesbian president, just so you know. I, listen, I am so ready for... You may have had one. You may have had one. First of all, this country is so foolish for not having lesbians as president. Like, only let lesbians be president. We would not be in these messes.

Like, I am fine with that. That has been my argument the entire time. But we do secretly run things. Someone wanted to do a profile recently, and they were like, I want to talk about the gay mafia. I'm like, what are you talking about? There is none.

There just is none. There's none. Like, was the profile about just how, like, mostly gay women are competent, like, members of society? As if I, like, hang out with Rachel Maddow all the time. Anyway, I do not. All right, Amina, one more quick break. We'll be back for wins and fails.

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You get one of each, whatever you want. Oh my gosh. I mean, who is failing? Ben Silberman at Pinterest is failing. Failing. He shouldn't have. Oh my God. First of all, I can't believe that we're in a new round

of these like intense sexism allegations. But this is appalling. The quotes, I can't believe that we're in a new round of these like intense sexism allegations. But this is appalling. The quotes, I got them to talk. Oh my gosh. What the women and the people of color at Pinterest are going through is awful, awful, awful, awful, awful. Yeah. And his quotes in my column were just people were, I think, juxtaposing them to the two cases. And one is a lawsuit of the COO and the others have been complaining about persistent racial bias at the company.

But here's the thing, Kara. This is a product that mostly serves women. Yeah. You would think you would not be a dick to women at your job where you make a product for women. There you have it. And it's interesting because one of the people told me, he's not your typical Silicon Valley bro kind of personality. He's quite quiet and introverted. And someone at the company who was there who was suffering, a person of color there, said you don't have to have a K-cup to be a bro. You know what I mean?

It was interesting because I think he doesn't track on that thing. But it's the same exact idea of not a meeting after the meeting, not being in the meeting, not being aware. And the most disturbing thing is when I pointed out to him during this interview, you know, he does a lot of sighing and he's, you know, very thoughtful kind of thing. When I pointed out the page, the management page for Pinterest had three, he's, he's Chinese and white and the two other white guys, had only the three of them on the management page and nobody else. And I said, do you see what this looks like? I said, I've never seen it.

At least Google pretends they put up all kinds of people, whoever they can grab. They actually do have quite a diverse management staff. But it was really, he didn't know it. And the second later, they pulled it down and then put up another page. It looked like the United Colors of Benetton. I know, but this is the thing. If you don't even know that you're supposed to be pretending to care,

if you don't even know that, then I cannot save you. So, all right. What is your win, then? We want to go out on a... Well, who is winning? AOC, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, always, always winning, but winning recently because she tweeted at Trump that she would like to compare her college transcript with his. And I mean, no contest there.

Her family did not buy her admission into university like his did. She actually works very hard. She understands the systems that made her own success possible. So I too would like to see those transcripts side by side. A Tale of Two Americas. I would like to see those, except that she probably took her SATs.

Those are two good ones. I like those. You're right. She's really quite something. I'm excited for her 60 seconds. I know. I'm excited for her 60 seconds at the duet. I know. I'm excited for her 60 seconds at the DNC. Let me just say, she'll get a shit ton in 60 seconds. Can I also make a plug really quickly?

Please do. If you are on Instagram, to follow AOC on Instagram, because her Instagram account is amazing. This weekend, she tweeted about getting braces as an adult and about dental care in this country. She is constantly demystifying how this like process of power is supposed to work. And so if you're on Instagram or you have teens on Instagram, she is a very good follower. Oh, yeah. My kids, I think they follow her. I don't know.

Who knows? But they are, but that is a great one. She's really good at all of the social media. Speaking of someone who's the polar opposite, I wrote a column a while back about that. They're both very good at what they do, but she's better because she speaks native internet. You know what I mean? She really does. She knows how to use all the mediums. She's not on TikTok yet. Is she active on TikTok? I haven't Amina T... Sorry. Amina T... Amina T... Oh, God, I'm such a Tucker Carlson.

Kara, you are... You're just white. You're just white, and it's fine. We're going to work on it, but I am just like, as your friend for a long time, I am appalled by you. I have to say that. And I'm like, we'll talk about this in private, but I am loving this. In any case, you have a wonderful book.

I'm going to mispronounce your author or co-author's name. Anne Friedman. Friedman. It's Friedman. No, it isn't. Anne Friedman. Friedman. Oh, you're killing me.

I did that with Karen Friedman once wrong many times. Anyway, Big Friendship, How We Keep Each Other Close is her book. It is wonderful. It's a speaking of wonderful books. Mary Trump's book is great, but your book is doing great too. It was on the bestseller list, correct? Is that correct? That is correct.

Absolutely. It was. Same week as Mary Trump. Look at us. I know. It's a great book and it's all about, and we'll talk about that on Thursday too, along with Kim Kardashian and some other things. Amina, thank you for coming on the show. What kind of question are you looking for,

for listeners this week? What topic are you interested in talking about? I am really interested in talking about how we are all negotiating our boundaries when we are communicating with people about hanging out during COVID. I know it's a big topic, but I am just like very curious how other people are doing this. All right. That's a good question. So what do you want? They want, you want them to ask a question about this, how they're negotiating boundaries. Yeah. Like how are you, how are you telling people that you can't hang out? How are you telling people, you know, like how the hang is going to happen? How are you asking if they've had a COVID test? Right. Because it all seems like it should be very delicate, but I, you know, I'm like,

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