Pivot - UFOs, The State of Tech, and Guest Lakshmi Rengarajan
Episode Date: February 14, 2023Kara and Scott talk Super Bowl ads and legacy blue check wars. And what on Earth (or Mars?) is the deal with all of these UFOs? Plus, the state of Big Tech: the layoffs, the opportunities, the A.I. Al...so, Friend of Pivot and co-host of Land of the Giants, Lakshmi Rengarajan joins to dicuss all things dating. You can hear more from Lakshmi on Land of the Giants and Paired by the People. Send us your questions! Call 855-51-PIVOT or go to nymag.com/pivot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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Hi, everyone.
This is Pivot from New York Magazine and the Vox Media Podcast Network.
I'm Kara Swisher.
And I'm Scott Galloway.
Happy Valentine's Day, Scott. Did you forget to get me something? You know, I'm glad you remembered.
I'm glad you remembered. What'd you get me? Wait, am I your Valentine? Let's start with that. Let's
start with the baseline on that one. I think the better question is, what haven't I gotten you?
Yeah, no, I'm not, as you might imagine, I'm not huge on Valentine's Day.
Yeah, I can't imagine.
How about you? Do you celebrate Valentine's Day?
I'm not a big fan either, I have to say. It's kind of a cooked up thing. That said,
we're all going, all the family's going out to dinner together to get oysters tonight.
Yeah, it's going to be good.
Oh, yeah, you're that oyster thing. That's good. I always think that
stomach flu is a good way to kick off Valentine's Day.
Oh, nice.
Nice.
I never get stomach flu from oysters.
They're the best things in the world.
Or whatever it is, stomach food poisoning.
So, in other words, there's no candy on the way or flowers or anything else?
Oh, no, it's there.
Perfume.
It's already there.
Oh, okay.
All right.
So, not your holiday.
What is your holiday, Scott?
If you had to pick a holiday, what would you represent? Oh, hands down, Halloween. Come on your holiday, Scott? If you had to pick a holiday.
Oh, hands down, Halloween.
Come on.
Of course, you could dress like a lady. Women dress up like sluts and I get to wear a wig.
Hello.
Win-win.
I sometimes dress up with Kara Swisher.
It's a really good costume.
Yeah.
It's scary.
I'll give you that.
Yeah.
San Francisco is a good place for Halloween.
Shut up.
I'm here in San Francisco right now.
And again, walking down the street,
they are like, where's Scott?
Everywhere I go. Where's Scott? Why are you back
in San Francisco? I have to have some things
to do. I'm always here. I come every
month. I have a house here.
I love San Francisco. I'm looking at a beautiful view tonight.
It's a beautiful day. It's in the 60s. It's very
nice. I think you're running for mayor again.
You're like this big San Francisco
chamber of commerce thing. I think you're going to announce you're running for mayor.
No, I got some things. I got some things. My mom has moved here, so I'm helping her
sort out her stuff. So things like that. Anyway, there's a lot going on here,
not just not in California, but all around the world. Obviously, UFOs, very exciting.
The winners and losers of Super Bowl on the marketing side, I thought they were okay.
They lost my mind on them, but they were good.
We'll talk about where the opportunities lie for tech in 2023.
We always talk about the layoffs, but I want your thoughts.
I want to plumb your brain for what you think people should focus on.
And we'll also speak with a friend of Pivot, Lakshmi Rengarajan, about another kind of
opportunity, dating apps, because it's a Valentine's Day episode.
Love is all around. But first, the Super Bowl and its ads didn't disappoint this year,
but viewers in some markets saw a very different kind of car commercial.
Tesla full self-driving will run down a child in a school crosswalk. 90% agree that this should
be banned immediately. Why does NHTSA allow Tesla full self-driving?
that this should be banned immediately. Why does NHTSA allow Tesla full self-driving?
Well, that's a message. The Tesla attack was funded by tech entrepreneur Dan O'Dad. He's made it his business to talk about this a lot. He himself is very wealthy. But Tesla CEO Elon
Musk wasn't watching TV when the ad appeared. He was spotted at the game sitting besides Rupert
Murdoch. That was a pair, Two guys who both know what it's like
to lose a fortune buying social media apps, as it turned out. Musk joked on Twitter, of course,
that he and Murdoch were discussing Dogecoin, the cryptocurrency jump 5% for a short-lived bump.
You know, supermodels get talked about, but are they worth it, really? Do they cause attention,
or what's the deal? There's some good ones. A lot of them were tech-oriented, as they always are.
attention or what's the deal? There's some good ones. A lot of them were tech-oriented,
as they always are. Ram's premature electrification was very funny about EVs.
T-Mobile's grease ad with John Travolta was cute. Workday, everyone's a rock star, was cute. There was one for Jesus. What do you think about these? Is it worth the $7 million for 30 seconds of air
time? So, the ad itself is not. What may be worth the $7 million
is the attention it gets before and after.
If you can bring together sort of that creative magic.
I think it's a positive cultural thing.
I think your vendors, your suppliers,
your employees get a kick out of it.
And do you remember that commercial with the kid
dressed up as Darth Vader
trying to make the Volkswagen start?
It was such a cute commercial.
Occasionally lightning does strike.
And those commercials get exponentially,
you know, they get a fantastic ROI.
Because what I found is my 12-year-old
summarized it perfectly.
I didn't watch the Super Bowl last night.
I just could get,
I didn't even know who was in it
until the day before.
And I used to watch it for the ads.
Now I'll no longer do that.
But my 12-year-old said,
yeah, I'm watching it for the ads.
Right.
So most people do now. Yeah. You know,-old said, yeah, I'm watching it for the abs. Right. That's what most people do now. Yeah.
You know, advertising everywhere is a bug, not a feature, except in the Super Bowl, it's a feature.
So people come to play. It also usually says something about our society. Last year,
we had these commercials on crypto with Larry David talking about using a certain crypto platform.
This year, I don't know if it's because I'm a little down,
but I found it sort of,
the cultural references here aren't good ones.
And that is, as much as I like people ribbing Tesla,
you know, kind of revenge ads or shitposting ads,
I don't like.
I don't like ads on Jesus.
That's a right, good for them,
but it's like, that's where we are.
We shitpost each other and we talk about Jesus. I mean, it kind of summarizes America. Yeah. So I found the ads
a little bit. There were some really cute ones. Anything with Breaking Bad in it is cute. I saw
that on YouTube. Yeah, they were doing Popcorners, which are delicious. Yeah. What did you think of
the ads? I thought they were okay. I didn't think they soared to great heights. And usually there's
one or two that are very, very funny. I. The only one I thought that was really good was the premature electrification.
It was funny.
Are you excited about buying an electric vehicle but worried that it could leave you unsatisfied?
I don't know if they count anymore.
That's what I really wanted to get your thought on.
Yeah, I think you're right.
Because, like, you know, you could do more damage on Twitter in a second or on social media or wherever to create virality year round.
So I think the idea of Super Bowl odds was virality, right?
This is virality.
And now it wasn't, you know, the Ben Affleck one about for Dunkin' Donuts was cute.
Not the greatest idea in the world, but cute.
But I just don't, I don't know what the point is anymore, right?
I think about advertising in general, it used to really be so influential and create sort
of these year-long halo effect. And now it's just there and gone. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.
You're onto what is a bigger trend. I mean, first off, go to Cannes, and it's a bunch of ad execs
giving each other awards, trying to talk about how relevant they are as they go to their executioner's party on the beach, Google or Facebook, that are petting their hair before they shoot them in the face.
The story I always talk about or bring up is that, and I love the story because it makes me seem important, but right out of business school, I met a guy named Warren Hellman.
He was at the time kind of the top private equity guy in the world. And he took a shine to me,
and I would loosely describe him as a mentor. And he asked me, I started a strategy firm called
Profit. He asked me to attend two years worth of board meetings for what was at that point the
most valuable private company in the world,
and that was Levi Strauss & Company.
And I used to fly around the world, and he would ask me to listen to the board meeting,
and then he's like, I don't want you to talk to anybody, and I want you to stand up and tell us what you think.
Oh.
And what a great assignment.
Professional pain in the ass, but go ahead.
Yeah, what a great assignment.
It set off a career of being an asshole.
What a great assignment for a 28-year-old.
Right.
And they asked two other people to do it, to sit in in each of these board meetings.
One was Lee Clow.
He did the Apple ads, the Think Different ads.
And then a guy named Nigel Bogle from BBH, which was the hottest creative agency in the UK.
And the three of us, they would talk about ads.
I would talk about strategy and direct-to-consumer, whatever.
And I still go to a lot of board meetings because I have been able, I'd like to think, to sort of reinvent myself. I thought e-commerce is the next thing. I got out of brand,
then I got into tech. Anyways, I haven't, I've probably been in, I wasn't in as many board
meetings last year. I was probably in 20 or 30, but I used to be in 50 a year.
That's what you've been doing, not buying me flowers and candy, but go ahead.
You do sound like my girlfriend. Anyways, I haven't seen Kara,
an ad man or an ad woman in a board meeting in 10 years. Wow. No one cares what they think.
I mean, keep in mind that the titans of yesterday in the world of consumer were Maurice Levy,
Martin Sorrell. It was WPP, IPG, Omnicom. They were like the juggernauts. They were the Google of yesterday.
Yeah, power guys.
Google and Meta will lose the value of each of those companies or gain it in one trading day.
They have, if you want to talk about diminished power, and then the other personal story I would talk about is right when I started, moved to New York, you did summer shares out at the Hamptons. And the bells of the ball,
the masters of the universe were all these 30 something people who worked for the premier
company in the world, the most influential baller company in the world. And that was Condé Nast.
Right.
And 20 years later, almost all of them are like, kind of like they've had this slow
burn to irrelevance. You know, to be the To be the associate publisher of Vanity Fair or Bon Appetit or Vogue was the job.
In their 30s, they were making half a million bucks a year, the best parties.
And the worst thing about what happened to people in print is that it was a slow decline.
The best thing that could have happened for them is if it had just been shut off.
Instead, there were always signs.
They were always trying to reinvent themselves.
But the ad-supported ecosystem, unless you work for one of the big guys, it's a shitty business.
Well, I do think it's the here and gone thing.
Because we are titillated every day by social media, by constant news, by 24-7.
And so I don't think anything breaks through. Like, how do you break through? And that's the idea. Every now and then there's
one something, but I can't think of something that's broken through, even shows as they make
them. And then at the same time, because of the way it's done now, you know, right now Twitter
is running ads next to tweets from Holocaust deniers, according to a report from Media Matters.
In the latest blunder, ads for companies like MailChimp and The Wall Street Journal were
spotted alongside tweets from neo-Nazis and anti-Semites.
You know, Elon's getting rid of the blue checks.
He tweeted that legacy blue checks will be removed soon.
Those are the ones that are truly corrupt.
How ridiculous and stupid.
You know, and meanwhile, Twitter's making millions off of content of accounts that were
previously banned, including misogynist Andrew Tate and jailed misogynist Andrew Tate, a possible rapist, apparently. It's really, like, if you're
an advertising person right now, I don't know what I do, because the other stuff ain't so sweet
either, right? And it's declining too, and the effectiveness, the constant, and I use the word
tettelation, it's just we're constantly attacked by news and information that it cheapens all of it.
Nothing sticks out and things are here and gone, essentially.
Well, whenever you transition one substance to another for economic gain, whether it's oil to petroleum or in our instance, people don't really recognize.
And there's no real malice here.
There was delay and obfuscation.
But the transition or the refining of attention to dollars has been probably, I would argue, more damaging than carbon emissions.
And it just happened everywhere.
Whether it's getting more and more outrageous and salacious with ads, whether it's convincing 15-year-old girls to basically engage in soft porn on Instagram,
It's convincing 15-year-old girls to basically engage in soft porn on Instagram, whether it's constant catastrophizing in the news media, whether it's media that demonizes the other side to just tune, you know, after the break, why Ted Cruz's father killed JFK. I mean, it just, it has, the attention economy and the ability to translate attention into shareholder value.
Yeah.
I think it's been more damaging than carbon emissions.
Yeah, it's interesting.
I mean, how do you find out about things?
How do you find out about things?
Yeah, things bubble up for me, either on social media.
I hate to say it.
Also, I get a lot of, I'm pretty religious about reading those emails every morning,
whether it's Dealbook or The Economist or CNN or The Information.
I know you love Semaphore.
I find that I'll find something in there that tickles me.
I think Puck is what I read the most, but go ahead.
Puck, you read Puck the most?
Yeah, I do.
That's really interesting.
Yeah, I like it a lot.
It's very valuable to me.
By the way, I'm in, let's go back to me.
I'm in, you leave the apartment.
You take off. You don't even say goodbye. No, I did try. I did try. You's go back to me. I'm in. You leave the apartment. You take off.
You don't even say goodbye.
No.
I did try.
I did try.
You don't even say goodbye.
I tried.
You were in your little thing.
You were yelling at someone on the video.
But go ahead.
I was yelling at myself, Cara.
No, you were yelling.
I could hear you through the bathroom.
I was yelling into a mirror.
Anyway.
I was practicing.
What sort of dirty Valentine's laundry here?
But go ahead.
I was doing yoga and I was doing my favorite movement.
You were in one of your screamies.
I was doing my favorite movement, crippling anxiety pose.
I read that online.
Anyway.
I also texted you.
What are you?
You're so needy.
I literally texted you.
I tried to say goodbye.
I left you, Bill Cullen.
Don't even.
Go ahead.
Okay, let's be honest.
What?
If we're going to be real here, I'm the least needy person you have ever met.
As a matter of fact, one of the big reasons my relationships have ended is because I am not needy enough. I don't care. Yeah. Oh, you're leaving. Okay.
Okay. What was your point of my leaving without saying goodbye?
And I think, oh, Kara's still here.
But it wasn't you.
It was.
Bill Cohen.
I'm sitting in my podcast.
I'm trying to, like, focus on my call.
And I hear this very familiar booming voice.
And I can't.
I'm like, who the fuck is in my house?
And I go out and I see the very handsome Bill Cohen in my living room.
I'm like, what is Bill Cohen doing here?
By the way, Bill Cohen is one of the founders of Puck.
Great writer.
I'm like, this is going to be interesting. He was on some very important Zoom call talking about junk bond rates. So I
just waved at him. And he waved at me like this was not unusual. Like, oh, yeah, I'm in your house
unannounced. This is. Are you offended? And it ends up and I like having strangers in my house
because I'm lonely and I need I need people to stop by. I really do love having guests. Yeah.
And and he's like, oh, yeah, I did something with Kara. And she said to just make yourself at home. You
literally, you make yourself at home more than anyone I know.
We had to finish a call. Our call went late. And I said, I'm sure Scott wouldn't mind you
staying here.
So you don't give him a heads up. Wait, hold on. We had your sister-in-law stay at my house. I
didn't even know she was staying there. I wake up and I see this very pleasant lady.
And I'm like, hi, how are you?
And then Bill Cohen's in my living room.
And I guess I'll never get to stay there again.
Anyways, you treat it like the international co-op house at Berkeley.
You know what?
You said, whatever, Kara.
And then you don't actually mean it.
No, I do.
I'm just giving you a hard time.
All right, whatever.
You weren't supposed to be there. Okay? You weren't supposed to be there, okay?
You weren't supposed to be there and then you were.
I like that.
So you use my house when I'm not there.
I come home, the garage is on fire
and the dog is pregnant.
You're worse than a 17-year-old whose parents are gone.
No, I left you a very handsome man
and I had a very pleasant person.
Anyways, puck, back to puck.
You asked how we get information.
All right, so finish this up.
We got to get to the big story, which is UFOs.
You're absolutely right. We've rewired our brains such that we need constant stimulation.
Constant.
And there's just no getting around it. I do think TikTok should be banned. But when you have
1.7 billion people and 50% of them, or 850 million people, are creating content,
from 850 million, you're going to get 85,000 amazing
creators who, using technology, can put out bite-sized, snackable, interesting content.
And TikTok has immediately zeroed in on the wonky weirdos I love.
Yep, that's where you get your information.
You know what I did last night?
I sat on my computer.
I didn't watch.
I had the Super Bowl on the background.
I turned it off.
I watched SNL shorts. I watched't watch. I had the Super Bowl on the background. I turned it off. I watched SNL shorts.
I watched some stuff
from different economists.
And I just went down
a rabbit hole
on, you know,
various video platforms.
I think they're,
I think in a word,
the ad guys,
the ad-supported guys,
I always tell people,
don't be in a movie,
don't be in an industry
that is ad-supported.
Yeah.
It's just going away.
This is the insight
I wanted to get at you. I had this feeling. We took the long way home on that is ad-supported. Yeah, well, good. It's just going away. This is the insight I wanted to get at you.
I had this feeling.
We took the long way home on that one.
Okay, speaking of which, let's get to our first big story.
If you're just tuning in, the War of the Worlds has begun.
In the last week, the United States says it shot down three UFOs,
or as the military likes to call them now, unidentified aerial phenomena.
That's in addition to the Chinese spy balloon shot down off the coast of South Carolina, which was floating
over the U.S. for a while. The U.S. government has been light with the details. NORAD described
two objects as cylinder-shaped, said one was the size of a small car instead of the truck,
three trucks, things that the balloon was. Meanwhile, China's foreign ministry claims
the U.S. violated Chinese airspace with balloons of its own. China says American balloons have floated over the country 10 times in the last year.
The U.S. government denies these claims.
You know, this is, of course, taking up all the, you know, CNN has become the ancient alien network right now.
Everybody's writing about it.
But there is a bigger idea here.
First of all, why now?
The U.S. does spy on other countries.
China spies on our country.
But this is sort of bringing this idea of surveillance into sharp relief, like the idea
of surveillance and where it's going.
Aerial spying could affect private companies like SpaceX.
It launches satellites to the U.S. government, including the National Recognizance Office.
I don't even want to know what they do.
SpaceX is trying to distance itself from its work in the Ukraine with drones, etc.
There are the idea of killer satellites,
etc. So what do you think of this story? Because it's not going away. And I assume they've always
been here, these things. And I don't think they're alien aliens from like another planet. But what
are your thoughts about how this story is spinning out suddenly? It's just it's really a function of altitude. And that is, we have balloons over us, right?
But if something is literally present in your child's prefrontal cortex, we don't mind that.
And then if a satellite, if a Chinese satellite is coming over U.S. territory, but it's, whatever, 70 miles up or however far it is, we don't mind that or we can't do anything about it.
It's in the middle that we get upset, right? And so, it's interesting, but I think you're going to find
pretty much everyone is engaged in this or everyone that can afford it is engaged in this,
including us. And we're now having kind of proxy wars where we start shooting down each other's
balloons as a means of saying, okay, we don't want to go to war directly
with you, but we're going to shoot these things down. I don't think these balloons, I think we're
right to shoot them down, but I think it's much more insidious to have, you know, I think TikTok
and I think the race over intelligence comes down to two things. It comes down to something very technically sophisticated, and that is satellites and listening devices.
But still, the more advanced we get, the more we recognize that the need for soft intelligence, and that is human assets on the ground.
Right.
And the greatest kind of, I don't know, corporate espionage is humans.
And I think a lot of them come through our universities and end up at big tech firms.
And then what we do when we realize they're spying on behalf of the CCP or someone else is we turn them.
And you know how we turn them?
With America.
We just say, do you want to stay here?
Or do you want to go back to Shenzhen?
And we turn them.
But there is so much human capital.
That's the best intelligence you can find.
But I find it all fascinating.
Yeah, I know.
It's really interesting that now, of course, I always assumed they were there sort of floating around.
Everyone was spying from the top with these satellites.
There's been a million movies of that.
There's so many satellites up there.
SpaceX is one of the places.
There's a lot of tech people involved in low, low, I think they're called low orbit satellites or something like that.
tech people involved in low, low, I think they're called low orbit satellites or something like that. And so I'm assuming they're listening all the time, like all the time, and they're floating
things and they're looking at what's interesting is that you mentioned TikTok and the TikTok CEO
is scheduled to appear for a house committee next month. Is it just we should expect this,
that they're up there doing this and we should try to shoot them down? And then of course,
there's the whole, is it actually an alien here that we keep shooting at, right? Is this like peep probes from another
planet kind of thing, which is ridiculous. This is some country, likely China, who's doing it and
we're doing it to them. And so it does bring up this whole idea of like being watched constantly
or manipulated constantly or, you know, from above, from the middle and below, essentially.
Or, you know, from above, from the middle, and below, essentially.
Yeah, but we, I mean, we had the Gary Powers U-2.
We used to fly U-2s over the Soviet Union because it was a race to see who could fly higher such that you'd be out of the range of anti-aircraft missiles.
And basically now we have aircraft that fly almost to the Kármán line.
Yeah.
So we do this to each other all of the time.
I think the next war is likely going to, the next proxy war is going to break out in space.
Space, yeah. I think we're going to figure out and be able to identify which satellites are not good actors, according to us.
And we're going to come up with sophisticated technical reasons for how they malfunction in space.
Yeah, there's a whole idea about this killer satellites that take down other satellites.
And of course, this James Bond movie 25, 30 years ago.
50 years ago.
You know, it also comes down to this idea of us versus China, which is continuing to get,
I don't know if it's getting, I wouldn't, I don't mind them fighting it out with balloons.
I'd rather have that than in the Taiwan Straits, right?
So let us fight over balloons.
I don't know if it escalates to more, but certainly everybody's sort of tough on China. That's
sort of a brand, speaking of brands, for all the Republicans and the Democrats.
Well, this is the thing about war, and that is we have decided, proxy war, we've essentially
outsourced war to military families and younger kids. And then we've outsourced war to Ukrainian soldiers. And we figured out a way that we don't even have to put American boots on the ground. And we entered in these proxy wars. And then these wars that are fought with technology and means of saying, okay, we hate each other and we're going to fight each other, but we're never going to get close to something that resembles a real shooting match because we realize the downside there could be terrible because neither side wants to back down.
And that's what Ian Bremmer says is the real risk of escalating the war in Ukraine because effectively what you have now is NATO is at war with Russia.
That's effectively what – and I'm on the other side.
I'm the war hawk or part of the war hawk community that says the only way to end a war is to win it.
And that's actually not true. But I should say the best way to win a war or end a war is to
win it. But there's all these kind of different types of proxy wars popping up where we're
bumping each other, seeing what the other side is willing to endure. It's a little bit, and it
makes, at the end of the day, it makes for great media. It's kind of fascinating, right?
Yeah.
No, CNN's constant.
It's literally like, is it an alien?
I'm like, it's not an alien.
I wish it was an alien.
Do you wish it was?
I kind of wish it was an alien, don't you?
It's about time they got here and fixed it.
You think?
Or ate us.
Either one.
Yeah, I don't know.
I think if I had to pick aliens or no aliens
I would go with
the whole no aliens.
No, I totally want
aliens to arrive.
Yeah.
Be cool.
Yeah.
I'm so sick of the story now.
I want a new story.
That's the theory.
The story's getting better.
Your story
you stay at
you stay at amazing apartments
and invite strangers over.
How could your
how could your story
be any better?
You are the type of person
who says I'm not sensitive.
You've got a young wife.
You've locked and loaded with new kids.
Like, how could you stick at this story?
I also left a drone in your apartment, so I'm watching things very carefully.
I have a satellite in your apartment, and it's there.
Here's the key.
I've decided my life is so profane and outrageous and uncomfortable that you just got to go full weird.
Weird.
If you're a decent human being, like an honorable citizen 98% of the time,
you get in trouble with the 2%.
You just got to go full.
All right.
See, I'm trying to help you do that.
There you go.
I'm trying to help you do that.
Next visit, who shall I have in the apartment?
Who shall I have?
Maybe I'll party with Stephanie Rule and we'll bring all our cable friends in.
I don't know what's going to happen.
Who's to say? I don't know.'s going to happen. Who's to say?
I don't know.
And, of course, you didn't buy her any Valentine's things either.
My favorite Bond used to be James Bond, but then I started taking Viagra and decided I wanted to be Roger Moore.
Moore.
Get it?
The worst Bond.
Except for his first outings of Bond in, what was it?
Oh, God.
I love it.
Live and Let Die? Roger Moore? Live and Let Die. Yeah, that was it? Oh, God. I love.
Live and Let Die, Roger Moore.
Live and Let Die.
Yeah, that was the first one. Yeah, most beautiful Bond woman ever.
Jane Seymour.
Yeah, Jane Seymour.
She was great.
She was the card reader, the tarot card reader.
Yeah.
Yeah.
She was great.
I love Bonds.
Anyway, Scott, let's go on a quick break.
When we come back, we'll talk about where the big tech layoffs are taking the industry
and where the new jobs are.
And we'll speak with friend of Pivot, Lakshmi Rengarajan.
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scott we're back it's another week another round of layoffs meta isn't planning to lock in staff
budgets anytime soon according to the ft leading to speculation of another round of job cuts next
one month probably at their metaverse area. Microsoft cut at least 600 employees late last week,
axing its members of its Surface, HoloLens, and Xbox units, as well as its industrial
Metaverse division. Again, more Metaverse layoffs. A lot of these layoffs target the
more long-term moonshot products that they were excited about, where they were innovating.
With the budgets tightening in Big Ten, let's talk about where the opportunity might be,
because you can't just tighten your way to the next thing.
Obviously, AI.
And according to the World Economic Forum,
75 million current jobs will be displaced by machines and algorithms,
but 133 million new jobs will be created as well.
So here you are, all these things happening,
things are up and down.
I'd love to hear your thoughts thoughts first for the big companies, and then we'll talk a little bit about startups.
What is the move here for these companies?
Well, first off, and I feel like I've been a small cog in the wheel here, and that is I'm disheartened and disturbed when I read comments on my blog from young people about how down they are on capitalism in America.
And I just don't think that's an accurate reflection of where we really are.
And I think it's from the constant catastrophizing of media.
And again—
You talked about this topic.
I like it.
Go ahead.
Well, let's talk about media with all the headlines.
Okay, granted, let's talk about recent—all the layoffs through COVID and then all the hiring.
Okay, but for each company, how many people they've laid off during COVID and how many people they've hired.
Microsoft, a lot of news, has laid off 10,000 people.
It's a lot of people.
Do you know how many they've hired through COVID?
You've seen that more.
More, 30,000.
77,000.
That doesn't make headlines.
Google has laid off 12,000 people.
Ton of headlines.
Google layoffs.
How many people did they hire through COVID?
68,000 for a net hiring of 56,000.
Salesforce, world of shit, right?
Activists.
Mark has been asleep at the switch.
A lot of people have all of a sudden
second guessing Mark. They laid off 7,000 people. Oh my gosh. Through COVID, they hired 31,000.
Amazon laid off 18,000 people. Big news. Oh my God, Amazon. Oh, but wait, all the headlines for
the 18,000 layoffs, not as many layoffs around through the 30 months identified as the COVID period.
They hired 746,000 people.
Yeah, close to a million.
Meta, 11,000 layoffs, but 42,000 hires.
So it's like, okay, what exactly, what should be the headline here?
That's the layoff thing.
What is their promise if they hire all these things? I mean, if you're in that job when this is the idea of relentless year of efficiencies, where is the innovation come from that allows you to get to the next level? Or are you themselves because they had a lot of interesting AI, which they made nothing of. Google is furious that open AI is getting all this credit for what
they feel is technology that they played a big hand in. I think if you're laid off from one of
these companies, if you're somebody, there's so much opportunity right now, both in the information
economy, you find some smart people and you say, you know what, we're just going to try and find interesting data sources and see if
we can feed them into prediction engines and see what we come up with and see if it's data anyone
will buy. There's just a huge amount of opportunity to sit down, sign up for all of these things and
brainstorm. There's also huge opportunities in the main street economy. I'm coaching this young
man who's handy,
doesn't like college, was never a good student. And unfortunately, in America, his parents have
shamed him because he's not a good student. And he dropped out of college his first year,
and there's just like the whole house came crumbling down. And I feel like I'm coaching
his parents, not him. And like, that's okay. It's not the worst thing in the world. And he's amazing
with his hands. He's like a craftsman. He came over and he helped me thing in the world. And he's amazing with his hands.
He's like a craftsman.
He came over and he helped me set up my studio.
And I'm like, boss, you need to get an apprenticeship,
go for six or 12 months, become an electrician,
and you'll make a shit ton of money.
And guess what?
Everything will be fine.
We have to stop shaming.
I'm going off on a tangent here.
I like this tangent. Young men and women that don't I'm going off on a tangent here.
I like this tangent.
Young men and women that don't end up at Google or KKR.
There's a lot of ways in the mainstream economy. As a matter of fact, it's probably, I would argue, it may even be easier, especially if you don't have the certification from these luxury brands posing as education institutions that let in the rich and the freakishly remarkable.
If you're neither of those things, it's not a bad idea to get a trade job.
Yeah, I would agree. I talk to my kids a lot about that.
Because we're not letting in immigrants, you can, with any sort of skill around plumbing or electric
right now, you spend two to five years really learning the trade. And if you're good at
business and willing to work hard, I think you're making an extraordinary living. But all of these kids are like, no, I want to, if you do what your parents want,
you go to school and go into the information, high prestige economy. And if you do what your
society is telling you to do, you become an influencer. I'm like, no, there's a third lane
here. Let me ask you though, let's talk about the startups, BeReal, which is a very good product.
Their downloads are down 95% from their 2022 peak. You take a picture on BeReal, which is a very good product. Their downloads are down 95% from
their 2022 peak. You take a picture on BeReal, that's not performative. They just say, now you
have to take a picture. Their life, right, life. The venture capitalist, Sasha Kaletsky, has tweeted
that the numbers show how difficult it is to keep consumer apps growth once you've crossed a chasm.
Home fitness startup, Tonal, another pretty cool product, is looking for a buyer after spending big
on hiring. It's sort of the peloton of this year.
So if you were a venture capitalist right now, it feels like there's a lot of stuff been tried and a lot of stuff's not sticking.
This is the same theme of advertising.
It's not sticking.
What do you imagine is going to stick besides being a plumber?
Well, first off, I advise to VC firms. And my advice,
they want to talk about where do we go, what investments, what categories. My advice is to
sit on your hands and do nothing right now. Because what's happening in the housing market
is happening in the venture market. And that is everybody's anchoring off. Joe sold his house.
is everybody's anchoring off, Joe sold his house, the Smiths sold their house for $800,000 15 months ago,
so I should get 800,000.
Well, no, the market's changed dramatically.
And so they don't wanna,
even if they put their house for sale,
they don't wanna accept a lower price.
Meanwhile, buyers read everything in the news
about a recession or housing prices coming down
and think, oh wait, this house is worth 650.
So right now there's total,
as the word used was stasis or a standoff. The same thing's
happening in the small business and entrepreneurship community. And that is companies that raise money
still have capital. They raise a lot of money. They're cutting, but they don't want to think
about the next round. And they don't want to acknowledge that their valuation is probably
down 50, 70, maybe even 80%. And time is so on the side of venture investments. Now, what field would you
go into? You know, I think there's a ton of opportunity in what I'll call tech-enabled
services. And that is, I'll tell you where I'm investing. I'm investing in a company that was
very similar to the company I called L2 called Zero100 that collects a ton of data and research
on supply chain innovation. Because
every company, slowly but surely, is elevating supply chain to kind of the top level decision
making capital allocation. They're realizing that supply chain is how Amazon won, and it's also how
almost every company got taken down through COVID. So it's no longer this necessary evil.
It's a key component of strategy. And it's a tech-enabled firm, but it's a bunch of smart
people writing research, hosting events, and helping big companies figure out their supply chain. I think a company
like that, and I want to be clear, we're not going public for $5 billion, but it's a great business.
He'll build, the guy who runs it is a fantastic operator. He'll build it slowly. He'll build
enduring value. And in seven to 10 years, we'll have a company doing 30 million or 40 million in ARR that'll get sold for two to 300 million. And that's a great, that's an amazing
way to make a living. What you have, and is again, created all sorts of externalities,
is in a world of zero interest rates, where money is free. And if you can make any money,
you'll make money for your limiteds. You end up with WAG. You end up with the concept you
talk about is a Q concept. It's not a business, I don't think. And you end up with Cathie Wood
talking about Bitcoin at a million dollars. You end up with just all of this crap. And it's got
to get cleaned out. There's a lot of underbrush that needs to be burned in a bit of a super fire,
which will spawn new ideas
that kind of make... The first advice I give to entrepreneurs, and I'm old school...
Tell things.
Well, and not only that, what makes a business is not expenses, don't build a different structure.
It's not even customers. Because in order to aggregate enough customers to be able to make
money off an ad model, you have to be such scale and raise so much capital. I'm like,
the thing that makes a business is revenues.
Find something people, a person, another person
or a company will pay you for immediately.
And that's how I always built businesses.
And granted, I never had a big win.
All my companies kind of did tens of millions
and got sold for three to six times revenue.
But I found that that is a lower risk way
of building enduring value.
And I'm writing, you know,
I'm writing this book, Algebra of Wealth. And I'm like, I know how, I generally believe I know how
to get you rich. That's the good news. The bad news is the answer is slowly. It's thinking
thoughtfully about, it's trying to mean you can go cashflow negative for a little while.
Yeah. I do think this idea of boom is not, I think people have got to let go of it a little bit in tech, especially as it's the next, you know, boom.
They tried to boom with cryptocurrency.
They tried to boom, I do think AI, but now they're over-investing in it, right?
I think it's a slow growth, like this kind of thing.
And so there may not be some, unless aliens show up and give us new technology, which is my great hope, as you know, it's not going to be, it feels like we're in that
period of, even though, you know, obviously AI is the biggest thing, climate change tech,
they're going to be very slow in how beneficial they're going to be. And I would agree with you,
start off slow and stay slow for the longer, it's not going to be this sudden crop of billionaires
just out of nowhere. But there's a, one of the things you have to recognize or try to recognize as a young person, and I didn't, is that big flaw in the species,
because until literally the last hundred years, we didn't live past 38. We have a very difficult
time calibrating time. Simply put, we don't know how fast time is going to go. And young people
are all looking for get rich quick. How do I get to a hot company that's going to sell for a billion dollars in three years?
How do I buy the new cryptocurrency that will triple in the next 30 days?
And generally speaking, those businesses, there'll be a lot of very well-publicized,
small number of them that do just that.
But the majority, that doesn't happen for.
And the thing I would just tell people is imagine that the next 20 years is going to go really fast because it's going to.
I know you can't imagine it now, but what could you build that with relative certainty over 20 years, you'd make really good money?
At the end of that 20 years, you'd have real money.
If I had, you know, I've been thinking a lot this a lot because I'm writing this book.
I made hundreds of thousands of dollars a year in my 20s.
I shot out of the gates really
fast yeah I was even at one point in my 30s you know making five hundred thousand
million dollars a year and then between the Great Financial Recession and I'm
not proud of this I'm embarrassed by it between the Great Financial Recession
the dot-com bust and a divorce at at 42, when I had my first kid, I was almost broke.
And if I'd just been not so, just a little bit smarter, or quite frankly, not so fucking stupid,
and I had the same mentality a lot of these kids have. And I'm like, I'm swinging for the fence.
I'm good at what I do. I'm on the precipice of a big win. Red envelope's going to go public. I'm
going to have tens of millions of dollars. I have an investment in this tech company that I got to invest in alongside
Kleiner Perkins, who knows no more than the rest of us. I'm going to make 10 million there.
And I was always close to those big hits, but they never happened. And I had lifestyle creep,
and I kept spending more and more and more. And then 2008 comes, wham, ran over by a truck. My kid comes out. And I tell this story.
I remember being in the delivery room and I was so nauseous. I couldn't stand. I had to sit down.
I was in a bad, bad way.
Because you didn't think you could provide? Come on.
Oh, 100%. This is what I felt. I mean, granted, childbirth is disgusting,
and I don't think men should be in the delivery room,
but that's another conversation.
They should not, yes, yes.
I'm a Ricky Ricardo fan, but go ahead.
Here's why I was disabled.
It had dawned on me that with all of my blessings,
all of my luck, and all of my talent,
I was at 42, and I wasn't in the position
I should have been.
And I had not only failed myself, I had failed my son.
And that fear and that shame, like, literally washed over me like a fucking tidal wave.
And if I'd just been a little smarter, if I'd just shown a little bit more stoicism,
if I'd just been a little bit more—and here's the thing in America, we believe we're all
exceptional.
And a good thing about America is we reward the exceptional more than any nation in the world. But the better thing about in America is you don't need to be exceptional. Live below your means just a little bit. Put money away. Put it in low-cost ETFs. If I had just put, it would have been so easy for me.
Yeah, and you did it too. thousand dollars away and low-cost diversified ETFs, it would have been so easy, so easy.
And at the age of 42, instead of being in a delivery room, like, terrified, I would
have had five, seven million bucks in the bank.
Yeah.
That's how Carol Swisher invests, in case you're interested.
The most powerful force in the universe is compound annual growth rate.
But instead, I thought, I'm exceptional.
I own $20 million in red envelope stock.
Guess what?
Dot com, no no you don't.
There's an inverse correlation between return on investment in your human and financial capital and how sexy a job is.
Yep.
Full stop.
I like your dullness.
I enjoy your dullness.
You know what works at a bar?
What?
I'm saying this to the guys.
I have a plan.
I'm courageous.
I have a plan.
I'm an adult, and I make really good money. It doesn't have to
be cool. That's exactly what we're going to talk about with our next guest. So let's bring in our
friend of Pivot. It's Lakshmi Rengarajan. This leads in perfectly, Scott. He's the co-host of
Land of the Giants Dating Games. Lakshmi's work has focused on how
to help people connect in real life and how to offset the weariness of online dating. She
previously worked at Match.com and at WeWork as director of Workplace Connection. Oh my God,
this should be interesting. Welcome, Lakshmi. Can I just do a quick gushing moment? Is that okay?
You may gush. Gush away.
Kara, I've been following you for so many years.
Thank you so much for everything you do.
I adore all of your work.
Thank you.
And Scott, I have to tell you, I discovered you when I was at WeWork, and I was there for the crash and all of that.
and all of that. And I just want you to know, like, your content helped me and a lot of other people process what was a really difficult few months. And so I just wanted to, I wanted you
to know that. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you for saying that, Lakshmi. We're recording,
don't worry. Yeah, good. Well, good. We're glad to help you out. I think Scott really did a lot
of really important work during that time period. And I appreciate your things. But let me say, you also, besides, you were director of Workplace Connection there, which
is one of the big pulls of WeWork, was the idea that you could meet people and socialize
and the drinking, et cetera, et cetera.
And then you also worked at Match.com.
But now you've been working on this show, Land of the Giants, which is focusing different
things every time they do it.
And this time it's the dating games. So give us an overview of the work you've done in the field
of dating and how you feel about dating culture as it stands today, or connection culture, I guess,
because that's what you're really doing. Sure. So it's actually like back in 2009.
So online dating was already a big thing. It was like before Tinder, but people were dating online and that had started. And I started already noticing the change in people, that there was the they were with was not someone that they liked immediately, that this person had kind of grown on them over time.
100%.
That's how I feel about Scott, but go ahead.
Yeah, exactly.
It's how I think a lot of people feel about Scott.
Go on.
Go.
There's your co-host.
There's your next co-host.
Okay.
So I saw this change in people. Like we're losing this sort of gradual
attraction, this thing that happens with people. And I was at this lunch and learn where I worked
and I had just gone for the free pizza. And there was this guy there that I didn't notice at all.
He could have just been wallpaper to me. And he gave this presentation about sports marketing.
notice at all. He could have just been wallpaper to me. And he gave this presentation about sports marketing. And it wasn't just about sports marketing. It was sort of about his life and
how he arrived at this moment. And he had slides and he told this like really, really important,
sweet story. And I remember he started to look different to me. Like in that in the course of
those like 20 minutes, he started to look different to me. And then I was talking to this group of
women outside afterwards. And they were like, oh, that was a really good presentation. And then I said,
were any of you kind of turned on? And they were like, yes, yes. Like, what was that? What was that?
And it was because this person had sort of been dimensionalized, and we were getting context on
him. So I sort of took note of that. And then so I started experimenting with in-person events and storytelling and slides and how could I slow down the process of dating but still make it a really efficient and fun experience.
And so I did that for several years.
And then that's what caught the attention of Match.com.
And that's how I kind of went there for a while.
So you wanted to fix them.
You wanted to fix, get rid of the judgy stuff, the disposability. Yeah, I did. When you got there, what did you want to do to fix them?
Because their algorithms don't get as much scrutiny as other social apps, like how they're
doing them. Yeah. I mean, I was brought in for a lot of reasons. I was brought in to try and
change our events business. I think I was brought in to bring my opinion and what I was learning in
the field. There's a lot of people that report on dating. There's not as
many people who are actually trying to build something different. But I mean, you know,
long story short, I don't know that anyone really wanted to hear from me because I was saying I was
hired for those insights. But then when I got there, I ran into a lot of like, well, we're
going to make this button green instead of blue because green is more engaging.
So I don't even know that people knew what I was saying, quite frankly.
So let's just double click on something you said, that a lot of people over time, at least on initial encounter, weren't interested and found that they became increasingly interested.
It's very reductive, but I've generally found that, you know, guys get turned on with their eyes, women get turned on with their ears. And what do you do? One in three relationships begin at work.
And if it requires a certain level of persistence or trying again or expressing interest, first off,
you're told as a man that if you express anything resembling romantic interest at work, you're a predator and should be fired.
And two, how do you even begin to talk about the reality that sometimes it requires a little bit of persistence?
I mean, haven't we just basically said to the entire mating community that a third of all mating opportunities are going away because—
And then you rely on online, and then you rely on online.
Everyone has to go online. You're not supposed to meet at work. And
anyways, I'll just stop there. But haven't we basically, through certain norms, which are
justified because of some of the terrible things that have happened in a professional workplace,
haven't we just essentially kind of destroyed a third of the alchemy and points of inspiration for relationships?
Yeah, we have. And I've heard you talk about this, and I'm with you. And so I don't feel
like I can necessarily comment on workplace romances per se. But I think what you're pointing
at, and I think the thing that we have to remember is whether we like it or not, we have spent decades making work the de facto town square.
Yeah.
Right.
That was one of the few places where you could go and slowly get to know people over time.
Right.
So I think that's the thing that we have to take away is remember that a lot of your coworkers, a lot of your friends, a lot of the people that you adore were not people that you liked initially.
And you got to know them over moments.
You got to know them because they cleared your coffee mug,
because they spoke up in a meeting.
And whether or not,
I'm not advocating for workplace romances,
but I think that the takeaway
is that people unfold over time. And work is one of the few places is that people unfold over time.
And work is one of the few places where people can unfold over time.
So how do you not get unfolded online?
Because everyone crafts their online persona.
And it must impact, like, what you're being very, I find it all, I've never used an online
dating service, but they seem performative to me and not real.
My son took his off. He finds
them ridiculous. You know what I mean? They're not. And then, of course, it's harder to meet
in person, as you say. How do you fix the world of online dating? Because that's where people are
doing this now, if given other venues are not available to them.
No, I get it. And I know that everybody wants like advice or the way that I like to think about it is I rather than advice, because I think when we give people advice, we suggest that there's a right or a wrong way to do this.
What I like to do is give people sort of considerations and think about the pool that you have been placed in, which is what we're doing in Land of the Giants.
We're not blaming the dating industry, but we want you to know the pool that you've been placed in and what chemicals are in the water.
And I think that's where you start.
And you have been placed in a pool where marketing yourself and standing out is more
important than developing the skill of how to get to know other humans, right?
to get to know other humans, right?
So like my advice to people is to remember and be very aware of how dating online
has changed you and changed everybody else.
What about fixing the apps themselves?
Well, I don't know that anyone will listen to me
about fixing the apps,
but what I do know is that we need to care about who is building our apps and who's going to be building the future of dating.
So I tell people they want to know what app to go to.
And I'm more like I would go look at the founder.
Right.
Because that will tell you a lot about what's being built and how they, you know, like how they inform their world
and the decisions that they make. So, no. Do I think we can fix dating? No. But do I still want
to empower people to date differently and date well and be aware? Yes. I'll put forward a thesis
and I would just love to get your response to it and go more meta than just online dating.
And that is women date or mate
socioeconomically horizontally and up, men horizontally and down. Over 50% of women say
they would never date a guy shorter than them. And it's probably close to 80% because it's an
embarrassing thing to say I wouldn't date someone shorter than me. And what you have,
women now own more homes, single women than men. You have men maturing later,
getting mixed signals about being aggressive,
not being as economically viable. My friend, Chris Williamson, who has a great podcast, by the way,
he described it perfectly to me. And he said that for the last three decades, women have been
getting taller and men have been getting shorter. And I hear women, and we all hear this story,
and I know a bunch of them. I know all these great women that not only are mating, they're not even dating.
And it's not because there are men out there.
It's because we're not producing enough economically or emotionally viable men.
Have you given any thought to like big picture solutions, whether it's through technology or society or social programs that can get men growing again, if you will?
There are a few things I think about more than this. So, like, there's a lot to say here, and I know that this is a topic that you care
a lot about. And one thing that I hear in your voice, and I've heard this several times, is
I know that you are hearing a depth of
honesty that not a lot of people get to hear. You're not just hearing dating frustration.
I think you're hearing some despair. And I think we have to be very mindful of that. So as we are
talking to people about how to date better and how to find a partner, I think we also have to be really careful not to depict singlehood as this awful deficit and this awful thing that,
you know, you are. It doesn't define success. It does not. It does not. And so I just want to make
sure we're having both conversations. So one thing that I learned from designing events for
such a long time is men are visual, but they also are much more open-minded.
They're less choosy. That's the way of saying they're less choosy, right?
Well, they have a big range for what they find attractive. But what happens is when they're on
the apps, the most, I mean, we've heard of this, the most shallow side of them is being cultivated
over and over and over. And so the side of them that does,
you know, it like does have range and doesn't just look at women for how they look or how old they
are or what their weight is, that side of them gets suppressed. And then you have the same thing
happening with women. I know that the surveys say that women, you know, are obsessed with height.
Like, and I think in a survey format that is true,
if you really talk to women,
like really talk to them,
and they're not just responding to a form,
they're not as hung up on that as you might think.
They are hung up on that in the moment
when they're asked to make a snap judgment.
But the thing that I learned over and over
is if you can delay people's judgment,
and that is something that the apps do not let you do.
They prey on your snap judgment.
And that's where events and in-person is so important. If you can slow the process down, you get a different side of people.
And at one of my early – the first couple that ever got married from one of my events, I love sharing this story because I think it says a lot. The guy was 28 and the woman was 36. That was the first couple that
ever got married from one of my events. And, you know, he even, he even like told me later, he's
like, yeah, I probably would not have, you know, picked, picked, picked her out. But by the time
I got to knew her, I was, I was in. She's amazing.
So that number was not going to deter me.
So you're all talking about in-person things, that these apps, you're never going to write it because they're designed for click, click, swipe, whatever.
They're designed for click, click.
And they're designed for speed.
And I think they put forth this message of efficiency.
And efficiency is a very-
Year of efficiency.
Sorry, I have to say it every time I hear the word. Yeah. And efficiency is a very powerful message for men
in particular. They love that idea. But I would argue that this isn't an efficient way. You're
getting volume, but you're not, I would actually say it's not efficient. It's not efficient.
So I agree with you, especially for women, that society has to stop evaluating their success through the lens of romantic success or not.
I would say, though, that I do think it's actually more important and key to a successful development in maturity.
Kara, you talked about both your sons have had girlfriends.
I'm really hoping my 15-year-old son gets a girlfriend. I think men without, and it's increasingly happening, men who do not have
relationships by the time they're 30, I think women who don't have relationships have much
greater social connections, are more aware, more mature, more professionally adept, better at gas on, gas off, saving money.
I think a man, if he hits 25 and hasn't had a romantic relationship, I think he's literally
like comes off the fucking rails.
He doesn't have guardrails, doesn't develop any social skills.
I think it's actually, I think men fail if they don't have these relationships.
Well, it's interesting because one of my, my son does have a very – has a girlfriend who's gone out for a while now.
He's 17.
And the other one did have a girlfriend.
And actually, his new thing was he's going to wait until a woman asks him out, which has taken a long time, right?
He doesn't want to be the – and my other son and I are like, well, you're going to wait a long time.
I have to tell you it's not going to happen, which is interesting.
So when you're thinking about – I don't want tips for setting people up,
but you were talking about live events, this idea of constantly –
because there's not church, there's not other places, there's all kinds of things.
Obviously, we should have a pivot singles event where we all talk about Cara and Scott,
and that's what you've shared.
But I'm going to tell you something very weird.
I get approached by so many couples and several well-known couples, actually. Someone
just texted me, who listen to Pivot together, and that's their point of connection. And it makes
them, that's where they met. Like, right, I know it sounds crazy, but they had a point of connection,
and then they could debate which one they like better, me or Scott, obviously me. But it was
really interesting. And I was like, huh, so we're like helping, me or Scott, obviously me. But it was really interesting.
And I was like, huh, so we're like helping you or couples that exist that feel better with each
other because they're spending a little more time on a topic they like, right? So it's fun.
It's fun for them to debate it. So offline is just superior to online, no matter how you slice it,
even though online is the way it's going with dating. Yeah, no, well, I'll caveat that. So yes,
events are great, but most singles events are absolute garbage. So that's the problem. So like
that is like the in the hierarchy of, you know, event types, I would say singles events are
usually pretty low in terms of like quality. The standard has always been just shove a bunch of
single people into a bar, give them drink tickets and hope that something happens.
Right.
And so single events, like rightly so, have a bad reputation.
So what I was trying to do, and maybe I'll do this again someday soon, is to elevate that.
Right.
So like how do you use environment?
How do you use the size of the crowd?
How do you use stimulus?
Like, how do you use environment?
How do you use the size of the crowd?
How do you use stimulus?
Like you were talking about, yes, people need to have something other than we are all single as a point of connection.
And so all of those factors need to be put into consideration.
And if I could say something, you said something about your son and Scott about your son.
And I've never said this publicly, but I feel like this is the place
to do it. One of the reasons why I think this industry doesn't get the same scrutiny that say
Twitter or TikTok or any of these other places is that, you know, the moment when we start to
see a piece of tech and we start to see its downsides is when we see it affect children.
Right. So think about the social dilemma, you know, at the end when the product manager sees his child on Instagram, that's the
moment when he realizes the impact of the product. We don't have that in dating. We don't see adults
in the same way that we do children. The hearts of adults are just as important
as the welfare of children in this context because of the implications.
And so you have people building products that don't see their, quote unquote, children experiencing the impact of that product.
And so that is why it does not get, I believe, it does not get the same scrutiny as some of the other forms of tech.
So let's do the tip, finish up with the
tips. And Scott, if you have any more questions, but what are some of the tips you have now?
Well, I heard your episode last summer about how people always want you to set them up.
Yes, they do. I'm good at it, but I do lying, but don't do my method. I lie to them.
I make things up and I set them up via dissembling.
But here's what I would say. I get, I get the, there's a couple of things to just remember
when you're trying to set someone up.
One, never tell them that you're setting them up.
Don't use that word and never use the word match
and never say that you guys are perfect for each other
or anything like that.
This is the phrase that I like to use
and it's really simple, but it's very powerful.
It's like, I think you guys might get along.
That's it. I think you guys might get along. That's it.
I think you guys might get along.
That way you as the person that's doing the setting up, you're kind of like out of it.
So you don't feel responsibility if it doesn't work out.
You have just created a little container.
And so that is just real.
So the language is really important.
You've taken the pressure off of it.
And then those two people can decide if there's something more.
So just something as simple
as I think you might get along.
Yeah, you should meet.
Yeah, you should meet.
Professionally, personally,
I try to do that with Scott,
with friends, but go ahead.
Yeah, and I think actually, Scott,
meet is good.
Get along is better.
It just pushes the person
just a little bit more.
And that little bit
can make all the difference.
The other thing, and this is really important,
and I want to like teach you guys this,
because Kara, I know people approach you all the time
and I feel like you would crush this.
I have this thing that I call a lodge line.
And it's a little tiny thing that you say
about the person that you're trying to set up
that kind of like lodges into someone's heart
and kind of opens them up a little bit.
When people set people up, they tend to talk in these sort of like boring, well-meaning,
but boring platitudes. You know, they're amazing. They're wonderful. You'll adore them. And that
doesn't do anything. It doesn't help. You want to give a tiny, tiny line about the other person
that evokes a visual and tells you something about their character. So can I give you a quick
example? Sure. It's not like, oh, I'd fuck them, but go about their character. So can I give you a quick example?
It's not like, oh, I'd fuck them.
But go ahead.
Yeah.
Well, I mean, if you want to throw that on at the end, I'm not going to tell you not to. No, I'm not.
I mean, you are Kara Swisher.
I know.
I wouldn't do it.
You can get away with more F-bombs than most people.
So yeah, go for it.
Go for it.
But the thing that you want to do, so I'm going to give an example from this week.
So I'm sitting in the studio with Chris, Chris, audio engineer at Vox.
And I've been telling him for the past couple weeks, I was super nervous about this interview.
And then last week, I was like, oh, man, I just know my computer is going to break down.
Like the one time I get to talk to Scott Galloway and Kara Swisher, I'm going to have a tech issue.
And he was like, look, I will book a studio.
I will sit in the booth with you. And you're going to be great. And we're going to we're going to we're going to make this work. Right. So first of all, Chris is engaged. So sorry, he's off the market. But like you just heard something about him and it wasn't super deeply personal. You weren't telling me what to think about him. But you probably pictured this guy who looked out for somebody
and booked a room and he's sitting over there having my back. And that's the kind of stuff
that we need to share about each other, especially in a world where we're all getting flattened
by our screens. We as people need to do that little bit of extra work to dimensionalize people
when we try and set them up.
Yeah, I think what you're talking about is powerful in this notion of third places where random encounters or things like pheromones and humor and body language can play a role when they
can't play a role online. I'm just curious, you got a 19-year-old man and woman in front of you,
a man and woman in front of you, and what advice would you give them around trying to find or develop good skills that result in good relationships and potentially finding something
that turns into a romantic relationship? What advice? Let me add man and man, woman and woman.
Yeah. Okay. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Before you're shaming. I said a man or a woman. Yeah. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Before you're shaming, I said a man or
a woman. I didn't say gay or straight.
Alright, okay. Go ahead.
I mean, I know what
information, I know what advice I give to gay
men. What?
No means maybe and yes means anal.
Okay, and there we have
it. Sorry. Is that wrong?
Is that wrong?
I mean, I listen to the show. From the Box Media Podcast Network. We were so good. We almost got out. Okay. I prepped for this moment. Don't worry. Don't worry. Go for it. Okay. So a couple of things. One, I'm going to do one philosophical thing and then one like very practical thing. One, philosophically, please remember that most of the people that you like and care about were not people that you liked immediately. And you got to know them in moments,
right? So right now, yes. A second coffee.
So, okay, I'm going to push back on that for a second, Scott. Like I get the sentiment of be
open, like be open-minded, but when someone hears that, it kind of, it actually comes across as a
little bit condescending, right? It's like, oh, you you're you're doing it wrong.
But here's the thing to remember to your your coffee comment is most dates right now are
happening in coffee shops and at restaurants, which makes sense.
But this is a terrible environment to get to know somebody.
It's not it's not I understand that why people do it.
But if you look at all the dating advice that is out there, it is all around navigating this very narrow box, right?
It's like, did he pay for the check?
Did they order something?
Were they nice to the server?
And so you're trying to get to know somebody in this very, very limited context.
And so you're putting so much pressure.
It's like being in a fucking Law & Order episode, right?
But it's just here, right?
And everything is being determined at that moment.
So please just like keep that in mind.
Like these are not the best ways to get to know people.
I understand you have to do it,
but like don't try and draw a complete picture
about somebody in a Starbucks.
I just want to press pause.
I couldn't agree with more.
I describe every date I had in a restaurant
as me as like controlled boasting.
Me just sitting there trying to be more impressive than I was.
Yes, exactly.
It's just, it's not, even though that's, and that's what everyone's doing.
So just remember, this isn't like the best environment.
The second was you have to work on getting people to share like bits of their story as
opposed to like their pitch, right?
Because most people are trained to pitch themselves and you have to
get people out of pitch mode. And I'll give you an example of how people do this very inadvertently.
So a very common question when people are dating is, what's your family like? Are you guys close?
Right? Sounds like a good question, right? It's not a good question because first of all,
it puts people in this state of being judged.
Not everyone identifies with the word family.
That is a very privileged word.
Not everybody has good associations with family, and you're putting someone on the defensive.
But it seems like a good question.
Here's the question I tell people to ask, and it will change the trajectory of your conversation.
What was one great thing about your upbringing?
Okay.
That's good.
Very different.
Nothing I was beaten daily.
There could be a bad answer.
Very different.
But think about it.
Like, you know, Scott has talked a lot about his upbringing.
Yeah.
And that, I'm going to hear more of that.
And everybody has had an upbringing.
But not everyone has had a family in the way that we tend to think about family.
That's really good.
And you're going to get a great story.
Yeah, you don't have to tell everything. Interesting.
Someone, my son, is not dating, but he's meeting different people.
And one thing that he's doing is not telling people that his moms are lesbians, right?
And there's one woman who he likes him who's super anti-gay. So he's like, oh, interesting. And like, I said, have you
told her? And he's like, not yet. Not yet. And then he moves on to tell me something wonderful
about your upbringing. Anyway, this is so helpful. Lakshmi, we're going to have you back on again.
Thank you so much. You can hear more from Lakshmi on this season of helpful. Lakshmi, we're going to have you back on again. Thank you so much.
You can hear more from Lakshmi on this season of Land of the Giants, as well as on her podcast, Paired by the People, wherever you listen to podcasts.
Thank you so much.
This was delightful.
Thank you so much.
That was riveting, Scott.
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Okay, Scott, let's do some wins and fails.
I'm going to start this week.
We're going to have them on on Thursday, but this
book, The Epic Battle for
Meaty Empire and the Redstone Family Legacy
by James Stewart and Rachel Abrams
covers Sumner Redstone's manipulation
of family and girlfriends, according to the Times.
We see in precise detail the misogyny
of Redstone's lust as he decides
that his wealth and professed love for these women
give him something like the rights of a king.
Inevitably, though, he determines that each of them has betrayed him in some terrible way. One
by one, he cuts them off. Just this story. It's also real dirty. It's crazy. You got Les Moonves
and Sherry Redstone, who managed to wrest it all away from all of these terrible men.
Seems like this is going to be a great book. It's a great story. Very enjoyable.
I love a good media succession.
It's the real-life succession.
I like that.
And then with Fail, a story that just appeared in The Washington Post today, and it's sort of something you talk a lot about.
The CDC did a report, and let me just read the top.
Teen girls in the United States are, quote, engulfed in a growing wave of violence and trauma, according to federal researchers who released data Monday showing increase in rape and sexual violence, as well
as record levels of feeling sad and hopeless.
Nearly one in three high school girls reported in 2021 they were seriously considered suicide,
up 60 percent.
Almost 15 percent of teen girls said they were forced to have sex, an increase of 27
percent over two years, the first increase since the CDC was doing it.
Almost three in five teenage girls
reported feeling persistently sad or hopeless every day for at least two weeks in a row
during the previous year. So girls are really not doing well. You talk a lot about men not doing
well, but this report is, I just, it's so disheartening to read it. And it's a failure
of our society, both girls and boys. But this one's
really a tough one to read. Anyway, that's my fail. Just picking up on what you were talking
about, there was some other interesting housing data that came out. So a third of all houses sold,
I believe it was in 2022, were all cash buyers. So one in three houses being sold, someone shows up and pays all cash.
At the same time, you think, oh, great, the economy is doing really well. People are flush
with cash. At the same time, the first time home buyers is at a 40-year low. So what does that tell
us? It tells us if you're already rich, you're killing it. But if you don't yet own a home or
you're young or trying to establish a family,
it's increasingly difficult to buy a home. And this kind of nimbyist culture we have that skews favor to the incumbents and people already with capital is just making it more and
more difficult for young people to acquire an asset that is the primary means for building
wealth in America. And that is it's for savings. You take pride in it.
It has these huge benefits of creating a space for you and loved ones. And over time, a lot of
people end up at the end of their lives with the majority. My mom retired. The only reason she
could retire is because she had a home in Westwood that we bought for $72,000 in the early 80s. And
we ended up selling for $300 when she needed to retire.
And this is how the majority of America builds. It's kind of their safety netter, builds wealth.
And first-time buyers, like literally young people, are just giving up. So, my loss is in
America, we continue to have this rejectionist luxury positioning that favors the incumbents.
We need massive and massive new permitting.
We have a housing crisis.
We could build dramatically more homes in the next 10 years and not have enough.
So the housing data is my fail and the continued what I call transfer of wealth from young people to old people.
My win is I was on TV with you last week.
I won't say names,
but we were on and someone could probably figure out pretty easily. And I went home. I was with
you. I wasn't feeling great. I didn't. I'm like, why the fuck was I on there talking about this?
I know nothing about this. You complained at the place, but go ahead. Yeah, it wasn't a bad minute.
That's like me. And the anchor is someone who I would call a friend called me at one in the
morning and said, are you doing OK? Are you all right? And I said, yeah, I'm call a friend called me at one in the morning and said, are you doing okay? Are you
all right? And I said, yeah, I'm just a little bit jet lagged and I was pissed off. I don't think I
did very well, but it got me thinking, and this is a skill I did not develop until I was in my 40s.
And that is if you want, the easiest way to express concern and actually just tactically,
the easiest way to get someone to like you and care for you is to express how much you like and care about them.
And so often you register in your life. I get the sense they're not doing well.
And I didn't reach out to people and say, hey, are you doing okay? And I remember thinking,
I feel so much closer to this person that they would take the time to call me and just ask that
one simple question. So, that's my win. I think it's really nice.
I think it's an easy way to just reach out to people and say, you know, are you doing – I notice.
I care about you.
And so I'm reaching out to see if you're doing okay.
Yes, it is.
In person, absolutely.
I agree with you.
I agree with you.
But we actually – it was interesting because not just you, but many of your friends talk to each other about other friends, and that's another thing you should do.
Like say, hey, that person seems sad.
We should do something.
I do that a lot with lots of members, including you.
So it's really important to do that.
It takes two seconds.
It takes two seconds to do so.
Or say leave them a man in their apartment so they can have a nice chat.
There you go.
Leave them Bill Cohen.
I did say goodbye.
I texted you.
Drew wouldn't let me interrupt you, by the way, FYI.
So I wanted to.
I feel bad now.
But I was meant to say goodbye, but he wouldn't let me.
So let's blame Drew on this one.
There you go.
Message, Scott.
I care.
Anyway, we do also want to hear from you.
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have James Stewart and Rachel Abrams here to talk about this book, and we're very excited.
There you go. All right. Today's show was produced by Lara Naiman, Evan Engel, and Taylor Griffin.
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Kara, have a great rest of the week.
You too.