Podcrushed - Conan O'Brien
Episode Date: November 30, 2022Conan O’Brien steals the show this week, helping Penn regain control from the normies (Sophie & Nava). He also reminisces about his disastrous first school play and reveals his Gossip Girl standom.�...�Follow Podcrushed on socials! TiktokTwitterInstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Gossip Girl is obsessed with seasons.
So it's always like, well, it's fall on the Upper East Side.
Leaves are tumbling down, and so are reputations.
Oh, my God.
That's great.
Well, you're right.
It's Groundhog Day in New York City.
The Groundhog saw a shadow, but there's no shadow.
A shadow of a doubt that love is coming to Madison in 13th Street.
This is Podcrushed.
The podcast that takes the sting out of rejection, one crushing middle school story at a time.
And where guests share their teenage memories, both meaningful and mortifying.
And we're your hosts.
I'm Nava, a former middle school director.
I'm Sophie, a former fifth grade teacher.
And I'm Penn, a middle school dropout.
Okay, so let's get into what everyone wants.
wants to hear about how do we make
a TikTok
I just want to stop I just want to shut down
as I say that
no you know what's really cool
the fact that we did anything
in the realm of a skit with
who I'm about to mention is
a little insane
bold it's really bold
arrogant it's arrogant maybe that we asked
but it's not because he's such a lovely
guy I'm just going to go into talking about our guests
a little bit we made a skit with
Conan O'Brien
And it was real off the cuff
and he was encouraging
You know and I
I want to say I was the one who asked him
Definitely I would never been able to
And I
Maybe too bold
Maybe a combination of bold and arrogant
Was why I'm the one who asked
And Conan said sure
I'm a reasonable person
And that response really struck me
Because I was thinking that
He like knew that it took courage to ask him
And that there are a lot of people in his position
Who would say no
And I was really struck by that
that he, like, even kind of acknowledge it in his response.
I would say that characterizes him in a lot of ways.
He, I mean, when I was on a show a few weeks ago,
which isn't coming out for a little bit,
but I'm real low on the order priority.
They've got everybody from...
It's a holiday episode?
Yeah.
No, no, no, no.
I'm not a holiday episode.
I'm a January episode, which means, you know,
you're just like, yeah, just put them up on the shelf.
No, no, Conan, I would say,
I don't know.
It's just a lovely, encouraging person to be such a pillar of the world of public conversations in media, you know?
I went into our recording session extremely nervous.
At one point in the beginning of the interview, I picked up my water bottle and my hand was shaking so much that I had to hold it with two hands.
I was so nervous.
Yeah, exactly.
But part of that was that, yeah, Penn and Navajo, you had met him before.
You had spent a little bit of time with him.
And so.
And we excluded you.
Yep, I know. It's going to tell me a pattern.
But this was my first time meeting him, and so I was really nervous,
but he was incredibly warm and very kind to me.
I felt like he could tell how nervous I was
and probably could tell that that dynamic existed,
that he had spent some time with the two of you, but not with me.
But he made special eye contact with me during the episode I felt like,
and I think it was because he just wanted to make me feel comfortable.
And I really appreciate that, just, like, very conscientious.
The other thing I would say about Conan,
and I hope this doesn't sound like a dig because none of it is a dig.
He's obviously hilarious when you, like, listen to him and watch him on TV.
But in person, it's funnier.
Not funny at all.
No, it's funnier.
Penn and I were reflecting on this when Penn did his interview.
Like, of course he's so funny.
He wouldn't have the career he has if everyone didn't recognize it.
But in person, it's like to another level.
And it's something about, I think, the way that he embodies it and the warmth.
It's like somehow that part, you can't necessarily feel through a screen.
But in person, it's like, I just was like, I don't think I've ever been around someone so funny.
Hey, guys, I have an idea.
Why don't we just stop talking about him and start talking to him?
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Thank you for coming.
Thank you for having me.
I saw a bit that you did on Colbert.
It was sort of like a twofer.
You talked about finding out that you were 100% Irish.
Yeah, that's a true story.
Yeah.
That's kind of rare, right?
Yes.
No, if you go to Ireland and genetically test everyone,
you'll find that people are 80% Irish,
but like 10% Spaniard, but 10% Dutch.
Everybody's a mixture of everything.
And when I find out that I was 100% Irish,
I said to the guy who gave me the result,
I went, so that's good, right?
And he said, yeah, like, I got 100%.
And I know from my college days, 100% is pretty good.
And he looked at me and he was like, no, I said, what does it mean?
He said, it means you're inbred.
It means you people are just a bunch of the Irish hillbillies that probably lived on the same farm.
But yeah, it's hard to do.
And I come from a long line of people who just married other 100% Irish people and have been doing,
and would find them in central Massachusetts because we've been here.
the Civil War, so that means that people were here in the United States where you could
meet all kinds of people, but they were living in farm country.
They chose their cousin, just again and again.
Hey, I just met you in the bathroom.
You must live in my house.
Let's get married.
That's convenient.
But in the bit, you talk about, you describe yourself as having a short tour.
So I'm not saying, yes.
So describe it.
A short tour show.
Conan, please, right now.
You seemed horrified when I walked in.
You did seem.
I was like, oh, my God, he was right.
No, I have, I was very self-conscious.
This is what I was getting to.
Yeah, what was it like in middle school?
Well, one of the things that was difficult is that my legs were always really long.
And so I always had what kids then called floods, meaning my pants didn't go down far enough.
And I hated that.
And so you could see, like, a lot of ankle, sock and ankle.
sometimes even some shin
like you know what I mean
I looked like I was wearing one of those
German
when Germans go off to the countryside
and they wear those leather shorts
I mean it was ridiculous
so my pants didn't fit
and I hated that
and kids used to make fun of like
hey where's the flood was the joke back then
hey kid where's the flood
hey Conan where's the flood
I didn't like
all the things that later on
I came to be happy
about I did not like.
I didn't like, it took me a while to get really tall.
That didn't happen until later,
but I did not like my clothes.
I didn't like having an interesting first name.
And I didn't like having red hair.
I really didn't like having freckles.
I wanted to sort of look more like an Elvis Presley type.
I just wanted like black hair.
Yeah.
And I wanted to look more normal.
And I wanted a name like,
Jack Blaze you know I didn't want to be Conan and so there are all these things that just felt
I felt allergic to a lot of my reality and then it's so interesting but that's the stuff
later on that works for you and I think it's a blessing to be in touch with that later on in life
I do think there are people who have an awkward middle-aged experience,
you know, middle-school experience.
I've had an awkward middle-old experience.
But there are people that have an awkward middle-school experience,
and then things start to work for them,
and they grow into their body,
and they feel pretty good about themselves,
and they have success,
and they actually forget or act like that other part didn't really happen.
And I think it's good to remember that that part happened.
and and let other people know without mistake that that happened.
That was a reality.
And I felt, and because, you know, Penn, you know this,
like our business is filled with people who are good-looking, successful,
and because our society puts actors or comedians, you know,
puts them on a pedestal, everyone's led to believe that,
that that is what they've always been.
They don't realize that,
A, some of these people are miserable right now.
Yeah.
I mean, a lot of them are.
Yeah.
Or they're okay now,
but they had a terrible, awkward phase
when no one was photographing them, you know?
Yeah.
Well, that is the spirit of the show in a way.
I mean, I remember this period of life as the hardest.
Right.
Well, we talked about it,
And it's so funny because, you know, when you first hit with Gossip Girl,
anybody who was watching you then, any of the people that age would have thought
you are the dictionary definition of someone who's never had an awkward moment or a down moment.
Which is funny, though, because I think you're right in a lot of ways,
but I was still cast to play The Awkward Guy, which is so many levels of...
Yes, but also awkward guy, meaning...
On a TV show.
Of a TV show.
Everybody was in love with any, you know what I mean?
So it was, yes, you're right, but, I mean, I think if you had been able to tell what fans then at that time, you'd understand five years ago, I was really in a bad place and I felt really lonely and, you know, my family was moving around and I didn't feel like I belonged to anything, whatever, they wouldn't know what you were talking about.
Yeah.
They'd say, what are you talking about?
Yeah.
No, completely.
And that's the weird thing where the compounded pressure on.
middle schoolers and high schoolers
is that that version
a 20 year old who'd been through it
and was finally gaining some reprieve
although to be fair actually
some of the years during gossip girl
the specter of fame
always causes periods of intense
discomfort I think for everybody at some point
you know like it's you can go through waves with it
but still yes I presented as together
I presented as mature for a
someone playing a teen I presented as all these things
and yet I was still the version
of awkward so like kids who think that they're meant to look like this and act like this
you know and be in these like sexy relationships and suave relationships and every time you go
to a party you're just like yeah I just got to throw on this tucks you're you're being dressed
by other people you know it's it's something that I thought about a lot then and I think even that's
the case with people who aren't celebrities like I remember feeling that way we're going to talk
about people who aren't celebrities now
No, that's not what we are a podcast for me.
No, no, we, Mike, this is hours up.
Excuse me?
Was this not in the writer?
We are not talking about,
why the fuck would I talk about
regular people?
Why did you bring me here?
Excuse me, Penn,
you were talking about being really famous?
Jesus, let's keep this thing on track.
Let me talk about gossip promo.
Anyway, go ahead.
Yeah, I remember feeling that about my friends,
and recently I reconnected
with a friend from high school.
And we had fallen out, and I couldn't remember why.
And so I just reached out to her.
I was like, what happened?
Why did we fall out?
Big mistake.
Never right.
You?
From years ago.
And ask why you fell out.
No, it actually ended up in a really sweet connection between the two of us.
But one thing that we realized was we both felt like the other person was so confident,
so, like, aware of themselves and sure of themselves.
And we needed to like take time apart from each.
other to be able to feel that on our own but we both felt that about the other person right and we
just never talked about it i think that's the thing it's exacerbated now by social media and and
is that everyone's always putting out there the best version of themselves so everything's curated
i mean photos are curated yeah uh experiences are curated no one's no one's posting um just got
dumped or i'm here in a bad restaurant and they won't wait on me or
everything is a peak
that's what TikTok is for
yeah exactly
everything's a peak moment
everything's a peak
experience
and so
naturally when people scroll
they get depressed
because they are having
this
this sense
this fomo
this sense that everyone else
is living this amazing experience
which isn't true
I still feel
I mean being so conscious of that
doesn't help that feeling
by the way
I feel like when I get on
social media, I'm immediately plunged back into that dynamic. I really imagine everybody being
better than me. And it's like, that's not how I feel all the time. It's not just now. It's like
that. You usually feel like you're better than everyone else, right? Generally, generally speaking.
That again, Penn and I are on the same thing. We both think we're the best versions of a human
being. There's also this other weird thing that's happening. You're 100%. I'm 100%. So you are in a way.
Exactly. There's also this other weird thing that's happening where not only are we comparing our
to the other people we see on social media, but we have created now over the last 10, 15 years,
this archive of our own lives, and a lot of it is not real.
Like, if people are using filters, if they're editing their pictures, and even if they're not
doing any of that, if they're just taking pictures of the most beautiful moments, the times
when they're the happiest, then when you look back on your life, you're comparing your
current state to a state that doesn't actually totally exist in reality.
Do you have that thing where on your phone,
I have an Apple phone and an iPhone,
and you won't expect it,
but you'll just get up in the morning
and you brush your teeth, whatever,
and then you grab your phone,
and it's curated this little music video for you with your life.
Memories.
It's amazing, actually.
And it is absolutely amazing,
but I'm not ready for it ever.
I'm just like, you know, I just got out of the house
and I'm going to, okay,
and I'm just going to look down on my phone,
and all of a sudden I hear this incredible,
A incredible song, like, you know, sound of silence or something.
Hello, darkness, my old friend.
And I see, oh, my God, I'm in Bermuda.
I have come to a pumpkin with you.
Oh, my God, my wife is beautiful.
Oh, my God, my children are so young.
We're carving pumpkins.
And I'm not ready, and it's this huge emotional rush.
And I think there's no lead in to it.
You're so interesting.
There's never, and I'm, I just always put it, phone,
down and go, like, that was, I guess it's over now, but it was a great life.
Exactly.
Conan, speaking of things you're not prepared for it, we actually dug up, actually one of our
producers dug up a clip that we wanted to play for you.
Let's listen to this.
Hi, I'm Conan O'Brien, and here we are with Kate O'Brien, the softball star.
Hey, Kate, how you doing?
Pretty good, pretty good.
Hey, Kate, I understand you're on the softball team, your freshman year in high school.
Yeah, I was.
I was out there in the outfield, left, center, you know, the whole bit.
What do you consider your specialty in the field?
Oh, just about everything.
I hear you're pretty good.
Oh, a lot of people have heard that, you know.
They've heard it mostly from you, I hear.
No, that's incredible.
That was from, man, I would be, I'm going to say that's early 1970s,
and I'm probably, I don't know, 10 years old or 11 years old,
but I do sound like a kid who grew up, or who's a child in the Depression.
You really do.
You actually discovered time.
Even the tape quality sounds, yes, I know.
I know, it's ridiculous.
It's amazing.
I'm being a little wise guy
and I'm working on my timing
and my patter, but yes, that's a great
clip to play because
that guy doesn't know
what he's doing. You sound really.
But I love the little laugh at the end. That was my favorite
the little ha-ha. Yeah. They had mostly for me yourself.
That's me putting a laugh in case there is no laugh.
Yeah, yeah. It's your laugh truck. You know what I should do?
I should have done that throughout my career
whenever I made a joke.
And anyway, but if you ask me, that's more like Bill Clinton.
Nah, just in case there was no laugh.
So you were interviewing your younger sister.
Yeah, I have two younger sisters.
That's Kate.
I have another younger sister, Jane, but that's just me doing a stand-up interview with my sister Kate,
who was quite athletic.
And so I was interviewing her about all the different sports that she likes to play.
I love the banter between you, too.
It was really cute.
You know what's nice is my brothers and sisters are really fun.
I think they're proud that I've had this success,
but they don't really care,
and all of them put me down all the time, in a good way.
That's healthy.
Well, I think it's burges on abuse.
But it is healthy, and my kids are like that.
They're just, they roll their eyes.
My career is, I think on some level, they're proud of it,
but it's not a big part of their life or their world.
And when I do something ridiculous,
they let me know how stupid that was.
And I think that's good.
It's just this loving gravity.
Yeah.
It's a kind gravity that just keeps you like a weighted blanket
from spinning out of control.
My siblings are like that too.
They definitely keep me humble.
But you were one of six?
Yeah.
What was that like growing up one of six?
Did you do a lot of stuff like that with your siblings?
Yes, did a lot of, we did a lot of, a lot of fake fighting.
I used to love, and real fighting, but a lot of fighting with my brothers and a lot of people giving each other a hard time.
There was not a lot of, and this is probably very typically Irish Catholic, but there's not a lot of direct, you know, can I talk to you for a second?
You kind of hurt my feelings.
when you said that none of that happened it was everything was done with sarcasm and humor and
i learned that that was the way to communicate with people was um joking around uh and kind of letting
them know that you're unhappy but if they called you on it say no no i'm just what are you talking about
i'm just kidding i'm fine and so um i'm not saying any of that's healthy
I was like,
and how about now, you feel that's the thing?
But if taken to an extreme, you can monetize it.
Which is true of men.
Clinton has advice for 12-year-old.
Yeah, which is true.
Hey, you 12-year-olds out there, if you're feeling a lot of emotional pain, remember,
take that to an extreme and you can monetize it and be an unhealthy person in show business.
Conan, I want to ask you a middle school question just that we haven't gotten to,
which is when you had a crush on someone, what were you like?
And could you tell us about your first love and heartbreak?
Well, there was this girl in fifth grade that I had a huge crush on.
And her first name was Laura.
And I just was, I remember her last name, but I feel like if I out her, you know, she might say you creep and accused me of stalking her, you know, 50 years later.
but her name was Laura
but I remembered my
skin temperature would change
when she was around
you know what I mean?
You feel like you're running
a little bit of a fever
and I don't think
she ever really noticed me
and then I remembered
she got a little gothy later on
which I thought was even cooler
but years later
I think when I was in college
she did not go to the same college
but I saw her
once like in an outdoor cafe and she said oh hey conan and i was like oh i'm really like my voice
brag just like oh conan your voice hasn't changed but you're you're 40 what's going on but i
remembered very much being um and not knowing what to do and i was a late bloomer so not having
uh i mean i you know didn't start dating till later and you know i don't start dating till later and you know
I was not, there were kids.
I remember there were kids when I was 12.
When I was 12, I looked 8.
When these other kids were 12, they had to shave like twice a day.
And they were just confident in how they walked and with their bodies
and they had girlfriends.
And he was like, how am I even the same species is that?
He's my, check, you're my, how old are you again?
I'm 12.
Why?
Yeah, I'm 12 too.
What do you share?
I just saved 10 minutes ago.
But you got a full beard.
I know.
Yeah, that's so true, actually.
Drive a truck now.
Drive a truck. You're 12.
I remember I used to teach fifth grade, and I had some students who would like bring in stuffed animals into the classroom and then some who were like dealing weed.
You know, like, it was like really.
Was that you, Sophie?
Were you the weed dealer?
No, but I think that...
No, just for legal purposes, it was not me.
The disparities then are mind-numbing.
And then there are kids who are just ready for things
and other kids that aren't ready for things.
And, you know, I have two kids,
and I remember my goal for them,
and I would talk about it with my wife,
was I'd like them to grow up slowly.
Like, our job is to make sure they grow up as slowly as possible.
Yeah.
I love that.
I want them to be excited about Christmas for as long as possible.
I want them to be kids for as long as possible.
because all the other stuff will come,
the disappointments and different kinds of pain,
but let's just see how long we can...
I want them to be giddy and excited about things
in a youthful, childish way for as long as possible.
How old would they know?
They are...
My daughter is 19, and my son turned 17 today.
Wow.
What's his name?
His name's Beckett.
He's not going to hear it today, but happy birthday, Beckett.
Yeah, and he very much, I've never missed a birthday of his,
but, and that's a pact we have.
And I said, I can't be with you today because I need to go to this podcast.
Please, no.
And he said, is it a podcast you could do another time?
And he said, I said, I said, I told Penn, I told Penn as I do it.
And he said, you're clearly joking.
And I said, I'm not.
And I'm leaving you right now.
So I flew here
and my wife says that he's despondent
and won't come out of his room.
And the purpose of your podcast
is to help children, my son's age?
Only on the surface, Conan.
Only for the numbers.
The irony.
It all comes down to the bottom line.
I flew here at my own expense.
We all work for serious.
No, but it is.
I mean, that's a whole other experience when you have your own kids.
And I know you have gone through this.
I don't know if you guys don't have any.
You've not crossed this Rubicon.
If you know anyone nice, Conan, please let me know.
To be your child.
Yeah.
I was part of the kid.
Oh, you're okay.
I thought you meant if you knew any nice people that want to be your child.
Stick around.
We'll be right back.
All right.
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That's a little bit of an aged thing to say now.
That dates me, doesn't it?
But no, real talk.
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A question that we love to ask, anyone who comes on this show is to share an embarrassing story from middle school. Do you have any that you can share?
Have any. That's like, can you narrow it down at all?
Trying to narrow it. I'm trying really hard to narrow it down. I remember in middle school, I was very interested in comedy. I was very interested in performing.
And so a friend of mine and I
I'm friends, I'll shout him out,
Jake Fleischer was my best friend
and we decided we were going to write a play
and it was actually a musical.
Now we didn't write the music.
We just took existing tunes
and wrote different lyrics to them.
Exactly. Yes, we did.
And I'm still suing the glee people
because I think they ripped me off.
So we did this, we wrote this play
it was so ridiculous because my friend and I
we wrote this thing about two guys who are down on their luck
and they meet up and they're like hey I like the cut of your jib
and the other guy's like yeah you look like you've got the skinny
hey let's form up a team you bet
we're gonna do the best we can't you know whatever
and it's like you know the year was 1974
or something and we're writing this bullshit thing
that feels like it's from 1920
But that was not even the embarrassing part.
The embarrassing part is we had a very supportive public school
and they said, you know what?
Conan and Jake, they wrote this play.
And it's got music in it.
God bless them.
We're going to let the whole school come see it.
So big school, this is the Michael Driscoll School
in Brookline, Massachusetts, big auditorium.
Everybody got out of class to come see this play.
Like a special performance.
It wasn't a talented thing.
or anything
and it was like, you know,
hey, some kids wrote a play
and it was just the two of you.
And it was just the two of us, okay.
Jake and Conan.
I'm not even at the embarrassing part, yeah.
This is the best part.
So we go to the whole school's there
and I remember us being backstage
and you can hear the crowd out there
and this is exciting.
And so it was a two act.
You know, there was one act
and then the curtain comes down like,
we're going to give it our best shot.
Dunt! Pump!
Curtain comes down
and then you see what happens when we fall from Grace
and the second act.
Keep in mind again, the whole play is maybe 18 minutes.
So we're out there for nine minutes in the top,
the curtain comes down, the curtain goes back up again,
and we do the second nine minutes, and that's the show.
I had just recently, for the first time,
been to New York and someone, my parents,
had taken me to a Broadway show,
and I, like a total ass, timed the intermission.
It's 25 minutes.
And so I remembered very clearly talking this down the day of the show
and I said, right, the curtain will go down after the nine minutes.
And then Jake said, yeah, and then we'll just, you know, change to our different hats.
And the curtain will go right back up again.
And I went, no, Jake.
A true intermission is 25 minutes.
And he went, what do you mean?
I said, it's 25 minutes.
Jake had some sense.
We had no scenery.
We had no costumes, really.
there was no changeover.
Nothing had to happen,
but I was such a dick.
I was like, I'm telling you,
I've been to a Broadway show.
So we did this nine minutes bullshit thing.
The curtain comes down and kids are out of school.
They're happy.
They're like, hey, all right, whoa.
We're backstage.
Five minutes, ten minutes.
And you can hear, like,
people are thinking, what is going on?
And then 25 minutes.
curtain goes up, and people were pissed.
I'm amazed they stayed.
They had to.
Yeah, they had to stay.
And so afterwards we're like, thanks everybody.
And then we're wandering around the Michael Driscoll School playground afterwards,
waiting just to be congratulated.
And I remembered kids coming up, and they were like, what the fuck?
What were you doing for 25 minutes?
And I said, it's called an intermission.
It's showbiz, maybe.
And then I remember teachers coming over and going,
can I quit talking to you for something?
What were you doing for 25 minutes?
Nobody came up and said like, listen, kids.
I think they, like, no one knew,
and it was, there was very much like,
well, we assume that they're building this incredible set.
They're doing something.
Then comes back up again, and we've done nothing.
Nothing's done.
It's like if we stop this podcast right now,
and I said it's time for the admission,
and we just sat here like idiots for 25 minutes and then came back.
And so everybody was mad.
And to this day, I just can't believe.
I was that stupid.
Did you have to like force Jake back from, he was like, Conan, we got to pull the corner, man.
I'm telling you, exactly.
No, Jake, to his credit.
And I've encountered Jake many times since then.
And again, shout out to Jake Fleischer, who,
also survived this terrible calamity.
But he was like, come on, what's just going out?
It's been 15.
I said 25.
Are you want to be in Broadway or not?
Dictators.
Yeah, I was so, I was an incredible.
But look who came out victorious.
I was going to ask you, did that continue for the rest of your childhood?
Your interest in performing.
Yeah, I was always interested in it, but I did think, you know, I lived in Boston and I don't, we were.
We felt like a thousand miles and a thousand years away from show business.
There was just no encounter with show business.
So I wasn't around people in show business.
My parents are professionals.
My dad's a research scientist.
My mom's a lawyer.
They're serious people.
And so I was very interested in it and then said, well, anyway, I want to make something of myself.
So I'll just buckle down in school.
And I was highly anxious kid.
and but in a good way channeled it into
I'm so worried about doing well in school
that I was a grind
so I studied a lot
and that ended up
in a crazy turn of events
enabled me to go to a really good college
that happened to have
a hero magazine
that was the oldest and most famous
hero magazine in America of the Harvard Lampoon
and so by trying to give up this dream
and work really hard to be a serious student
and go to the big school that people want to go to
and be serious.
I ended up a week after showing up there.
Someone said, you should go check out the lampoon.
And I was like, the lampoon, all right.
So I went and checked it out.
And got in first semester freshman year,
which was a bit unusual,
and then bang, that changed my life.
Then I was all comedy all the time.
so my best efforts
to not pursue
this led me right back to it
so when was your
going sorry go ahead
in your lowest moments in your career
did you ever regret it where you're like
I wish I had done this like other standard path
or have you always got like oh god no no I always
knew
I was doing a
it was when I was first a writer for Saturday Night Live
in 1988
and I was a young lad and this writer's strike,
I get hired at SNL, the dream job, so excited.
I do a couple of shows and this writer strike hits.
And so suddenly Bob Odenkirk, who was a writer that I shared an office with,
and Robert Smigel, they said to me, hey, Conan,
we're going to go to Chicago and just do like a silly show of sketches
that would never make it on SNL,
you seem like the kind of guy
that would want to come with us,
you want to do it?
And I said, yes, I do.
Right up your alley.
So I remember doing this show
at the Victory Gardens Theater
in Chicago in 1988
called Happy, Happy Good Show,
and, you know, reviews weren't good.
Audience was tiny.
I had a terrible car.
I had a 1973 Plymouth Valiant.
I had no air conditioning.
It was really hot that summer.
I was always hungry,
just because my metabolism was crazy
and I remember being very physically uncomfortable all the time
but the fact that I was doing this show
I remember thinking I will do this for free
before anything else
I've never ever ever thought
you know law school would have been good for me
I think I would have been a terrible lawyer
so what were you trying to
you said a moment ago giving up the dream
So when did that dream form and then when did you feel like you had to turn away from it?
I was very interested in show business and I was one of six kids and we would see old movies would come on and I would watch them and I would think, oh my God, I want to be like a showman.
That looks so cool.
And so I asked my parents, again, all my ideas about show business were incredibly out of time and incorrect because it's the 70s.
Some cool stuff is happening out there.
And I was like, you know what?
I'm watching movies from the 1930s where people tap dance.
So I told my parents, you know what, I'm kind of interested in show business.
I need to learn to tap dance.
Guess what?
No, you don't.
You don't have to learn.
Led Zeppelin is on the chart.
No one's tap dancing in Led Zed.
Yeah, I know.
But again, I was wrong.
But I went, and to their credit,
they found me this really old, wonderful man
who taught tap dancing near the Berkeley School of Music in Boston
named Stanley Brown,
who had learned from Bill Bojangles Robinson.
Wow.
He was this old, like, I want to say 70-year-old black man
who, and all of the people there,
everybody was black except me.
There was this one orange-haired boy
who looked like the Wendy's logo.
And I would come in and I'd be like,
Hi, everybody, got my shoes.
And they'd just be looking at me.
And these incredibly sexy women
who were doing modern tap and jazz tap.
And I'm like, hi, everybody, do you have anyone have a cane
and a straw hat, you know?
One, two, boshuffle off the buffalo.
And so I, but I was perceived.
suing that and then I think at some point I want to say probably around sixth grade I just thought what are you doing
there's no you know is that something you could pull out of your back pocket now like if someone
did you do it for your tattoos not really I know I know I know a step or two but not really and uh um no it was
you know I took tap for a moment I was like I feel like there should be a tap off yeah exactly
yeah and nothing there's nothing better for a podcast than a dance off you're just going to hear people going like
We're tapping right now.
This is incredible.
Right now, I'm imagining Conan Wright are tapped testing in this studio, but you can't see it.
The pen just took it up a notch.
No, no, no, no, Conan's in the lead.
Now, Penn!
This is sounding like F1.
Yeah, backflip, front flip.
So how do you feel in terms of your, I don't want to say career,
but in terms of this craft that you've been developing for decades now,
right?
You, I think, very much are a case of,
evolution because
look I've done
I was never on your show
I wouldn't allow you on
remember
we had a you know the way
if someone passes a bad check
at a supermarket
they put up a picture of them
and say this person is not allowed
we had a picture
in Rockford's Center
and Badgeon said
this man is not to be allowed
on the late night program
yeah
and it's because he passed a bad check
so it all comes back around
but no it's
funny because we, you know, we managed to just pass each other but never really connect.
I don't know. I mean, I think I wasn't quite in a, I didn't, look, I was on your show recently
and I didn't feel worthy then. I mean, this goes back, this is why I, we have a show about
middle school exploring the ideas of self-worth. But anyway, this is not about me not being on your
show. What I, what I was interested, we can talk about that more.
That's right. For reasons of criminal trespass. Yeah, which I kind of like the ring of that,
but you now are able to do something in a format that was just simply not available.
Yeah. Or feasible. It wasn't interesting. It wasn't marketable. And you are, you know,
like amongst one of the early adapters, as we say in the realm of podcasting. Yeah. I think we say.
I just loved being able to be on your podcast
and to speak for
because I just love speaking at length
And so it was great
We know about this
No no he did a six hour podcast
I didn't get a word in
Edgewise
I believe it
How do you feel about
Your ability to evolve this format
And to well first of all I feel very fortunate
That there was people working for
You know 15 20 years on podcasts
you know, trailblazers
that started this thing
and what I feel really fortunate
about is that
and it's total luck
but I had some really smart people around me
five years ago who said
you should do a podcast and at the time
I was thinking well I have a TV show
and so why would I do a podcast
and they said well just
why don't you just go down we've set up a microphone
and screw around a little bit
and I had a blast
and so that's how it started was just
trying things.
And so one of the messages that I've tried to impart to younger people
is you're not penalized for failing as much as you think you will be.
Clearly, if you try to jump a canyon and you don't make it,
the penalty is quite high.
But for the most part, I try to encourage people in middle school
and also people in high school, college.
We have this society that can be quite forgiving.
of screwing up.
So you can try things
and they don't necessarily work out
but you'll learn a lot
and I think having that philosophy
has helped me a lot
because a bunch of things
haven't always worked out
but you just keep throwing things out there
you keep trying, keep moving,
keep trying to evolve a little bit
and people tend to remember you
for the things that do work.
I like that.
Which is nice.
I think you're remembered
for most of the things.
Most often you remember, someone told me years ago,
it's this brilliant Simpsons writer named George Meyer.
He said, I think people are remembered for their good work.
It's not like people walk around and recite, you know, man, they just,
when they talk about Herman Melville, they talk about, you know, Moby Dick.
They don't talk about, oh, my God, you see me that third book, the one that's about the cracker.
You know, the salty cracker, that's terrible.
They don't talk about that.
They talk about the good tends to stick in people's thoughts and minds.
So why not try?
Why not try a bunch of things and don't sweat?
That's so encouraging, Conan.
It is.
Do you think that's true in middle school, however?
Because it does seem to be a bit inverse.
Well, the thing in middle school, I think, is people feel like everything, any mistake.
Yeah, you're hyper aware.
You're hyper aware, and you're so self-conscious.
And so you think, oh my God, I just destroyed my life.
Yeah.
Just destroyed my life because I embarrassed myself in front of the class
or I screwed up and I'm done.
And I remember feeling that way all the time when I was young.
Like, I am done.
Yeah.
I remember, you know, I'd be like, there are 15-year-olds.
You're like, well, it's over for me.
I remember I knew a kid in middle school who thought,
that he had peaked in fourth grade
and it was like
and it was like three years later
and he was like remember me in fourth grade
and I say like
yeah he just thought that he had hit it
he was really cool
he was new to the school
everyone thought he was a great guy
and then he thought yeah
fourth grade I thought
oh my god
to think that that was your peak
and I think somewhere
I swear to God this kid
this guy now who's my age
is wandering around telling people
fourth grade man
she's seen me in fourth grade is a good year
I like the mission of this podcast
because I think
I try to be very honest with people
about awkwardness
and I think it's been a big part of my career
and various difficulties
and seeing the humor in it
but I think
kids
I call them kids but middle school
kids that are middle school age
get incredibly
they're bombarded with so much
and they do the biggest mistake
is they don't realize that other people
are feeling the same stuff that they're feeling
they don't understand that other people
and that people
grow and mature
at different rates and so
it's really fascinating to me
to see
all of this wisdom
does come with age like I know we have a
youth obsessed culture but
I do think that
when you're around longer,
you do start to understand things
that you can't understand
in any other way than just being alive
long enough.
Which kids don't have that perspective.
It's totally true.
So our podcast is called Pod Crushed with the ED
and the reason sort of initially was
our idea was like, let's take the sting out of rejection.
It looks good on a T-shirt.
Yeah, it just looked better than Podcrest.
No, like take the sting out of rejection.
Like send us your stories of like a time in life
that you were like crushed by something
because that's universal and you'll get past it
and one day you'll even laugh about it.
That was like our initial premise.
And I think that we've seen that it's true.
No one escapes it.
And also sometimes that's like character building
and it's actually important that we have those moments.
I think a lot of it is confidence
and confidence comes with time.
Now, as I said earlier, some people have it
at a very early age,
but it took me so long to build up my confidence.
It just felt like it took forever.
In middle school,
I don't care who you are.
You need something.
You don't know what it is other than attention.
Maybe you call it love,
but you're probably not comfortable with that word.
I'm still not comfortable with that word.
I've never called it love.
I'm 77 years old, and I'm not comfortable with the concept
of telling someone I love them or I need love for them.
I was like, wow, you look really good for 77.
When Penn first met me, he was just stunned by the amount of work I've had done.
And how bad it is.
I went for the least expensive.
You can't beat this guy's prices.
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Yeah.
So, yeah, well, you know, first of all,
I'll tell you the title of my podcast is Conan O'Brien needs a friend.
That's right.
Which is a joke, but also not a joke.
Yeah.
But also a joke.
So it's one of those things that just kind of flips around.
But, you know, it's interesting because I, you know,
you're talking about this.
period of life, you know, middle school, where you don't realize it at the time,
but you're only like half cooked at that point as a, you're like if you took a muffin out of
the oven after six minutes, it's not, it wouldn't be bad or anymore, but it's not a muffin.
How long does a muffin cook for?
Well, it depends.
Your altitude.
It's not the point.
Sorry, I do a lot of my baking.
No, I do a lot of my baking at the top of Machu Picchu,
where it takes up to nine hours.
But yeah, people are not, they're not formed yet.
And when I look, I remember very clearly in middle school thinking,
this is, I guess, who I am and being very dissatisfied with it.
And not understanding that, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You've got, there's, you're...
So long.
It takes so long.
So long.
Like now, I just turned 36.
And I feel like I'm honestly just starting to really lighten up.
Right, you know?
Right.
I've heard 40 is even better.
Well, I've got some bad news for you.
No, no.
But see, the thing is, you're all very young,
and you are going to still keep evolving.
That's what people don't realize is that there's this evolution that happens that continues.
So I think that I'm somewhat mellower now than I was even 10 years ago
when I'm by the definition of anyone in this room.
I was old then, you know?
I'm 59.
So I still think I was forming in my 40s and into my 50s.
Like it just takes a long time.
That's very hopeful.
The other day I had this realization.
Actually, I was watching This Is Us.
I was watching the finale.
and I don't, you know, it gets a little cheesy, it's a little cheesy, but I realized like I'm 28 and I can sometimes feel like I am put out to pasture.
Like, it's over.
Are you a millennial?
I'm on the cusp.
I'm like, I'm 94 and I think 96 is Gen Z.
So it's like, you know, cuspy.
And, yeah, I just find that really hopeful that there's so much that happens throughout life and that you continue evolving and that it's not over in middle school.
completely hopeful because what happens soon as I'll start de-evolving.
That's the problem.
I'm going to start losing.
So where's that peak moment?
I am two years, I think right now I'm two years into de-evolving.
I think my peak was like two years ago.
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We don't have to get specific.
No, I can we go.
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So I know, because I was able to sit in on your interview with Penn,
that you are a gossip girl, Stan.
And I wanted to know.
Stan seems like a...
I feel like Conan was a Stan.
Well, what happened was I...
My kids discovered the show, the original show, like two, three years ago,
and we just started...
It became...
That would be the thing that we would all watch together as a family
because it was kind of fun,
and there were elements of the show.
that, you know, the whole Chuck Bass character
was so hilarious to me and to my kids
that this person who's basically like 15 years old
is drinking a scotch, drinking a scotch
and wearing a smoking jacket
and telling a man in his 50s,
you're through it, Bass Industries.
I bought out your controlling chair 15 minutes ago
and the board has seen you out.
Good day to you, sir.
You're done.
There's a plane waiting for you on the tarmac.
You're like, I can't do that now.
So we started watching it, and then I never do this.
I never do this because I get to interview all these, you know, really cool, great people.
I never asked, but when Penn did the show, I said, I hate to do this, but can I get a selfie with you?
No.
And tell them what I said.
What did you say?
No.
He said no.
And he shut me down, yeah.
And he said, don't.
Did you not take a selfie?
No, of course.
No, he said, no, no.
So I said, I never do this, but can I send, can I take a selfie with you?
And he was like, oh, yeah, sure, of course he was really nice about it.
And I took it and I sent it to, we have a group chat for our family, which is just my wife, myself, my two kids.
And I sent it, and they were all flipped out.
That's pretty amazing.
You know, and it's just funny because it's, I like, it was just this moment of, that's been
something we've bonded over, so it's really fun.
I think as a family, you should start watching the one where I put people in cages.
That's the next.
You know? Once Beckett graduates.
Yeah, yeah. Anything that encourages people to masturbate in a public space.
But I did want to ask you, so as a gossip girl fan, what did you think of the reveal that Penn Badgley
slash Dan Humphrey was Gossip Girl?
Well, thanks for the spoiler.
That's the one thing I never...
Did you know that? No, I did know that.
I was like, oh, no.
No, I did know that.
The only thing it blew my mind is it's not something I saw coming, but...
No one did.
But...
The writers didn't do there.
No, no, trust me.
Also, if you go back and look at all the episodes and try and see how someone would have...
It's not at all possible.
So I just thought like, okay, I see what they...
You know, they were in a corner and so why not?
They wrote their way out.
They wrote their way out.
You have to.
I mean, you know, what show is?
in that position at some point.
Yeah, exactly.
But I think it's cool
that you go down.
Actually, I agree.
As a person who is somewhat transparently,
publicly, maybe inappropriately
sometimes shared about the resistance
and the conflict I had of being on a show
like that or just always kind of being in a public eye.
I think it's interesting
that I am the, I'm gossip girl.
You're gossip girl.
I take that as like a...
I thought it was, I think it's a cool move
and it's just, I encourage people
not to go and look through all the episodes
and try and make it line up.
Yeah, I know.
Because there are times where gossip girls
like, well, if you ask me, and like,
no, no, no, you're not even, you weren't there for that.
That's the episode where you're trapped in a mine in Mexico.
And, you know, XO, XO, XO, you're like, no.
You, what, you tweeted that from the mine?
Now people are going to go looking for the episode.
You're trapped in a mine.
Part of me wants to just for the enjoyment of the real stands out there
to re-record the Gossip Girl voiceover,
which, you know, Kristen Bell did so iconically.
But it's interesting that I've now done a somewhat comparably iconic voiceover show
like this show that I'm on now.
And then to do Gossip Girl in my voice.
Yeah, that's what you do it right now.
I mean, if they have $10 million.
He's got to get paid first.
Well, winter came early to New York, but the real chills on the Upper East Side.
Oh, that's a good one.
Oh, trust me, they love their, they always take, Gossip Girl is obsessed with seasons.
So it's always like, well, it's fall on the Upper East Side, leaves are tumbling down, and so are reputations.
Oh, my God.
That's great.
Well, you're right.
It's Groundhog Day in New York City.
The Groundhog saw a shadow, but there's no shadow of a doubt that love is coming to Madison in 13th Street.
It's too low.
Too low.
That's at the mine in Mexico.
My other favorite observation about Gossip Girl is that the parents are six years older than the children.
that's always my favorite thing is
you're like
wow I gotta go ask my dad
you know hey Rufus
and he's like hey son
I'm like wait a minute
that guy's 29
you're 23
when I remember when I had you
when I was six
it really makes me
it really makes me laugh
the parents are all incredibly young
and fit
smoldering
yeah and it's kind of confusing
like wait a minute
who's who
Who's the father here and who's the kid?
Yeah.
We ask everybody, so you're not special.
This is getting intense.
Yeah.
If they could give us some money.
If you could go back to your 12-year-old self.
Yep.
What would you say?
What would you do?
More sunblock.
Would be the first person I would say.
There's a thing called skin cancer, and you were a ticking time bomb.
I would say, you know, it's funny
because they do encourage you in some therapy
to really picture yourself at that age
and what would you say to that person
and mine would be, it's going to be, it's all going to be good,
it's all going to be fine, you're freaked out right now,
you're anxious, trust me, things get better,
it's going to be okay.
And I would have loved to have heard that.
If I could have appeared to myself, I would have been, you know, the kid would have been frightened.
When did I become an older woman?
Do you comb your hair up like that on purpose?
You're missing the point.
I'm coming to you from the future.
What is that hair spray?
Did you put hair spray in your hair?
Why would you do that?
Listen, quiet.
You're missing the point.
I come from the future.
Wait, Trump becomes president?
Isn't he like a real estate?
Shut up!
I'm not here long.
I don't have much time.
I don't have much time.
It's going to be okay.
Yeah, so what?
I don't think it's going to be okay.
I'm looking at you and you don't look okay.
I'm medicated.
Why are you medicated?
There's depression.
I think if I showed up in person to my younger self,
it would go terribly.
I mean, it would end up bickering and yelling at each other.
But, yeah, the core message and the core message to young people listening is it does get better.
And everything you're feeling is exactly what you're supposed to be feeling right now.
And that's just the way it is.
And just onward, it will get so much better.
That's what I say.
Of course, a bunch of young people listening right now are like,
I like things now, Dork.
Shut up, Conan.
What's wrong with Conan?
I don't relate at all to his childhood.
I know that an intermission is not 25 minutes long,
especially if the show is only 18 minutes long.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for having me.
And this worked out really nicely
because you came on my podcast,
in Los Angeles, and I always try to leave town when it's my son's birthday, at his request.
This is my gift to my son.
Today's listener submitted middle school story involves a toilet.
I'm actually surprised that it took us this long in a show about middle school to include a toilet,
but it's a good one. Stick around.
Oh, shit.
I think you got to keep that.
It's pretty good.
Yeah, for sure.
I'm from Tamil Madhu, South India.
My family, like a lot of middle-class families in my culture,
were against me dating anyone.
So I had to hide all of my relationships from them
and sneak out all the time to meet my boyfriend.
I was in a relationship with this guy for my tuition,
just extra classes, coaching is very common in India.
It was new, and everything was exciting,
especially because it was a secret.
So there was this old, unfunctional toilet room
outside my tutor's house where my boyfriend and I would make out,
and this kept going on for a while,
until some auntie figured it would be a good idea
to store some old stuff in this place.
So one day, she tried opening the door while we were inside.
The door was never locked, and there was no reason for it to be now,
so she got really suspicious and starts knocking
and asking if anyone is in there.
Obviously, we didn't answer,
but more and more people gathered outside,
and they're trying to break down the door.
They were convinced there was a burglar inside.
Miraculously, the door was holding,
but now 10 minutes had passed
and Charrett and I were panicking
if we'd been caught alone together
it would have been the end of us
so we texted our friends
to see if they had ideas to help us out of this situation
and at the end of a chaotic group chat
we came up with a plan
my boyfriend decided to take one for the team
slowly he opens the door
and he told the auntie that he'd had an upset stomach
and had to use the toilet
that he was too embarrassed to come out
as he had no water or paper to clean himself.
So Auntie asked everyone to leave
and went upstairs to get some paper towels and water for him.
And as soon as she left, I bolted out of there
and ran all the way home.
You know, we were both so scarred by this incident
that we never saw each other again.
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I've had that happen many times where the talent has been like, of course, no problem.
And then someone else comes in and goes, that's not happening.
Oh.
It will not be done.
I'm like trying to make eye contact with your team.
Yeah.
if they're going to, like, kill your TikTok.
My team is completely, and I say this,
knowing they can hear me, they're, you know, very
lame and they have no power.
There's nothing they can do.
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