Pursuit of Wellness - Personal Life Updates (We’re Moving!)

Episode Date: January 18, 2024

Ep. #65 Join us as Fiona and I unpack the emotional baggage of relocating to Austin, Texas. We're spilling the tea on our major move and the fresh perspectives that are guiding us toward a more balanced lifestyle. We're discussing self improvement goals for the new year, exploring topics like skincare routings, late-night scrolling and dehydration.  As we respond to your heartfelt voice messages, we discuss our journeys and recommendations with managing acne purging, sifting through conflicting health recommendations, and the impact of lifestyle choices on fertility. But it's not all clear skin and clean living; we get real about the insecurities that can sneak up in spite of success. Hear how self-reflection intentional routines are shaping our goals for 2024.  Leave Me a Message - click here! For Mari’s Instagram click here! For Pursuit of Wellness Podcast’s Instagram click here! For Mari’s Newsletter click here! For Fi’s Instagram click here! Show Links: Roadway Moving Mari & Fi Christmas Special episode Oura Ring Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins Hatch alarm clock Bloom - strawberry kiwi If you want to get on my daily routine, you can get 30 days free of Open by visiting withopen.com/POW. Again, 30 days free by visiting withopen.com/POW  Get 20% off your first order of fresh venison, jerky, broth, and ‘ohana subscription with discount code POW on the Maui Nui website. Topics Discussed: 0:18 - Intro to Fi 1:00 - responding to voice messages today 01:12 - We are moving to Austin 05:00 -  Taking applications for Austin friends 05:40 - Ins and Outs of 2024 06:13 - Mari’s Ins 07:47 - Fi’s Ins 14:00 - Mari’s Outs 16:30 - Mari’s Out - saying yes to everything 17:01 - Fi’s Outs 21:21 - Opening voice messages 21:51 - Mari and Greg’s fertility journey 24:20 - Mari’s acne transformation & purging 26:04 - How to know which information to consume 28:55 - Refraining from weed while attempting pregnancy 32:57 - How to deal with weight insecurity while dating 36:18 - Mari’s perspective on her financial success 41:46 - How to submit a voice message

This is the Pursuit of Wellness podcast, and I'm your host, Mari Llewellyn. What's up, guys? Welcome back to the Pursuit of Wellness, and welcome back to another Fi and Mari episode. Round of applause. Round of applause. For anyone who is new here, Fiona is my, I hate calling you my assistant because it isn't your role anymore. I know. I really have no idea what my role is. Like the name of it. Like we're just not big on roles. Yeah. Titles here. But she's my executive assistant. She's my partner behind the scenes with the podcast.

Brand manager, possibly. Best friend. Also potentially related related and we love hopping on the mic together we love it and the power girls love it too oh my god the power girls are obsessed with fee she's the best we come on here we have girl chats we talk about you know our goals our wellness things we're trying we talk with you guys we've got some voice messages to respond to today you guys have been submitting us voice message questions and you're looking for advice, so we're going to do that. But first,

I think we have a little announcement. Fi doesn't even know what the announcement is. I'm like, wait, we didn't say anything. Is this not the episode that you wanted to announce that we're moving? Oh, yeah, the 25th. We're moving to Austin. We're Texas girlies.

We are. Yeehaw. Anything you want to say? Honestly, I feel like we internally have been talking about it for some time, months. So I think I'm just like so ready. I'm so ready for it to happen. But at the same time, I don't think, I think because we've talked about it so long, I'm just like, ready. I'm so ready for it to happen. But at the same time, I don't think, I think because we've talked about it so long,

I'm just like, okay, like, let's do it. But I think once it actually happens, like our first night we're there, we're just going to be like, holy crap. We literally picked up and moved. And I haven't done that in like seven years. And I was young and naive when I moved to LA. And I was like, I have nothing holding me back.

And now I'm like, oh, I have a dog and a boyfriend and a life. But they're all coming with me. So it's fine. Unlike me, I literally move every three years of my life. My followers are like, what are you doing? Like, why do you keep moving? Guys, I've just been this way my whole life. I literally, I was thinking about it.

Even if it's just a house, I've moved consistently. I was born in London, lived in Switzerland, moved back to England, moved house again, moved to New York, moved house three times in New York, moved to Philadelphia, moved back to New York, moved to Colorado, back to New York, LA, and now I'm going to Texas. Yeah, you've moved a lot. I mean, it's so funny because if someone, I could tell someone how I feel about all those different places and where they should live. Yeah, well, all of them, I feel like you spend at least a year, if not a lot more. Yeah. And I feel like, I feel like a year somewhere kind of gives you a good, a good gist of it. And you've been in LA

almost three years now, I think. But I will say I'm at the point where I want to settle down now. And that's part of the reason we're moving is because I want to have kids. You want to have kids at some point. We want to live somewhere safe, wholesome, family friendly. There isn't traffic up the butt when you go everywhere. There aren't homeless people throwing bottles in your face. You know? Yeah. All the things. I love LA. Like it will always have a place in my heart deep down. But I also am very ready for all of that. LA is, listen, LA is stunning. The weather's stunning.

It's tough to beat, but at the same time, it doesn't make up for all the inconveniences. A hundred percent. I agree with that. So we actually move on the 22nd of January. Fi and I, so we're actually working with Roadway Moving.

I've worked with them before and I've had an amazing experience with them and we're working with them again and they are picking up all of our stuff on the 22nd 23rd they're actually putting me and fee in the same van which i love truck truck guys she keeps calling it a van and i'm like both of our homes are not going in a van you're lucky i'm not calling it truck you're like a huge truck you're lucky i'm not calling it a lorry babe okay a lorry um anyway and then I'm driving because Greg and I okay I feel like I have to explain the van Greg and I have had a fantasy of living in a van for the last I mean since I met him we've wanted to do van life like live in a van travel the country so we finally bit the bullet about a

month ago and bought a custom van with a kitchen and a bed we are driving said van from LA we haven't got it yet comes next week driving from LA with both dogs all the way to Austin it's gonna be so much fun oh my god I'm flying yeah Kenny and I are flying with Benny and we'll beat you three days there but it's fine I'm gonna go Yeah. Kenny and I are flying with Benny and we'll be two, three days there, but it's fine. I'm going to go get like settled. The truck might even beat Mari and Greg, depending. So like I'll get there and get everything settled for us. But classic fee, you know, the mom, the mom is going to be done. Anyway, that's our announcement. If you are an Austin or a Texas girly, let us know. We're looking.

Currently taking applications for friends. We want to socialize. Pickleball friends. Maybe people that aren't that good at pickleball, but do take it seriously. Me and Mari are really trying to pick that up. We want to work out with other girls. We want to get healthy lunches. We want to go on walks around Lady Bird Lake.

We want to go boating. Boating. We want to go on a boat. We want to go on walks around Lady Bird Lake. We want to go boating. Boating. We want to go on a boat. We are officially boat hoes. Boats and hoes. Boats and hoes, baby. So that's our announcement. Now, we thought it might be fun.

I don't know if you guys have seen the trend of the ins and outs of 2024. So we went ahead and made our own little ins and outs list. We did one on the Pursuit of Wellness Instagram page that everyone loved. That was a bit more like podcast focused, but we did our personal ins and outs. Thought we'd run through them really quick, give you guys a little taste of what we're going for in 2024, what the vibes are, and then we will answer your voice messages. Can't wait. Are you going to do all yours at once or are we swapping back and forth? Let's just do all of our ins.

Okay. So I'll do my ins. Okay. And then you do your ins. Amazing. Here are my ins. Reading before bed. 10 pages a night.

Blue light glasses at the airport. Why the airport? Because there's so many crazy lights at the airport and on the plane. And I want to sleep okay when you said airport specifically i did not know why but that makes sense yeah it's a little niche yeah and i like was wearing my orange glasses at the airport last time and people were like are you good kind of granny glasses but like i'm at the point you know what i should edit this to not caring about what other people think is in ordering meat from ranches and farms supporting your local ranch also the meat is really good having boundaries with the phone

eg no phone at the table or when i'm with my family being okay with no plans working on this i'm so you know me i literally lose my mind like if i'm i can't i can't sit still i know why like this is the reason i keep moving every three years okay mario see you monday or like maybe we'll have plans like monday morning she's like or sorry like saturday morning she's like what are you doing today i'm like you want to hang out with me too i know i know but i'm like why don't you just like have a morning to yourself? Mari's like, no, let's go to the farmer's market. Let's go do something.

Let's work out. Yeah. This is why I keep moving every three years. We're working out this Sunday. I'm so excited. I can't wait. I like those. I like our little plans on the weekends.

I'm just like, I need to be busy. I'm probably escaping my own thoughts if we're being honest. Yes. Yeah. I would say so. We'll get there. We'll unpack that later. What are your ends?

Okay. A skincare regimen, regime, whatever you want to call it. We actually just had a whole conversation about this prior to recording. Is it regimen or regime? I think it's regimen now that you're saying it in context. Yeah. A regime sounds like an army or something. I think a regime is like a, what do they call it?

Dictatorship. Oh, okay. Not that. A skincare regimen. I have honestly, I will say, been very blessed my whole life to not really suffer from acne or anything like that. But I am so bad about my skincare and I have very sensitive skin. So I'm really scared of skincare, to be honest. Like I'm, even though maybe I wasn't trying to resolve like an issue. Like if I tried, let's say every girl on TikTok is like, I have this new mask. I will try it and break out in hives. Like I just have such sensitive skin. So I was scared to use anything other than like the basic, basic brands.

And now I've like gone to a facialist and like they've gotten me. I literally just started a retinol. I've never used a retinol in my life you guys people are obsessed with retinol right I so because I'm just like scared it sounds so scary and they're like you have to use sunscreen or you're gonna burn but I've started using one at night and like I feel like even in a couple days it's really changed the game so that one are you gonna stop sleeping in your makeup that's my number two oh wait i'll get to that in a sec my number two we'll get there um buying clothes that fit me now versus trying to keep a full closet of clothes that do not fit me that i just am like i will fit

in one day i just went to abercrombie and got these 90s high waist whatever they're called i was gonna say those are really cute i think they're the curve love like edition of them you guys these are incredible i went i tried them on in person i found my size i got three pairs and i'm obsessed and i just feel like i'm finally okay with like i don't care what size it is like i will whatever size it says on the label i do not care like if they fit me and make me feel good then like that's what i want and that is very in for 2024. Third washing my hair twice a week. I don't know if this is gross. Is this an upgrade or a downgrade for you? This is just like a consistent I just think this is in like I would just say oh oh like from what I was doing. Yeah. It kind of just depends. I feel like you do not wash your hair babe. Sometimes I wash it once a week. but like I think that to me that that's admirable because it means you don't have a lot of oil production I have to

wash my hair every other day I know I think I honestly think two times a week I mean everyone's everyone's hair is different but like for me two times a week means like okay twice a week I will like do the whole thing even like do a mask like it's more like a maintenance kind of thing for me and then you know I will definitely go like four or five days with like a hat and then a slicked back bun and then braids and then a ponytail and I probably could have like cut it a little short and washed my hair again I just get a little lazy so two times a week so I'm like looking and feeling my best throughout the whole week cute um last two audiobook game changer. I've also been reading my 10 pages at night in an actual book, but I am obsessed with audiobooks right now.

I've been listening to You Can't Hurt Me. You can't. You Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins. You Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins. Mari has talked about this book to me so many times. I've never read it. So I'm listening to the audiobook, which is also like a live podcast version.

It is incredible. I'm on my morning walks with my dog and like my mouth is like open half the time because the things he's describing are so crazy. If you're on a journey and you want to get hyped as frick, listen to that book. I've listened to it six times on my fitness journey

because it just makes you have such a different perspective. Such like every, even in the last couple of weeks I've been listening to it, everything I've been doing in my life now, I like oh that's kind of annoying or hard I'm like you have no idea girl like this could be I'm like oh I didn't want to go it was kind of cold the other day to walk and I was like this man is running 150 miles through like Hawaii with like boars chasing him like you're good. A few months ago, my friend Celeste took me to do a breathwork class at the Open Studio here in Venice. And it was my first time doing breathwork. I have to say I was a little bit skeptical. I

didn't quite understand the process or what the benefits were. After that session, I mean, I think I spoke to you guys about it. I was mind blown. The amount of downloads I had, I cried six times, I had epiphanies, and overall just felt like so many of the emotions I'd buried down came out. I was like blown away. So I ended up downloading the open app and doing my own breathwork and meditation at home. I'm actually obsessed with the app. When you open it, and meditation at home. I'm actually obsessed with the app. When you open it, you get a quote. So for example, today's quote when I opened the app was, we must not wish for the disappearance of our troubles, but the grace to transform them. And when you go in the app, I just do a little daily reset. So today's is 11 minutes long. I

tend to do it with my red light while I'm sitting on my PMF mat and it's like the perfect way to wind down before bed. So with all that said, when Open reached out to me to do a partnership, I was like, oh my gosh, absolutely. I already use and love the app. It really is the best thing ever. And whenever I post about it, you guys ask me questions. So yeah, this has been such a great way for me to wind down in the evening my only regret is not starting it sooner if you want to get on my daily routine you can get 30 days free of open by visiting withopen.com slash pow again 30 days free by visiting withopen.com slash how How? So I'm obsessed with audiobooks. I think it's such a great way to, you know, read a book while you're out on a walk or doing whatever, you know, I think it, yeah, love them. And then my last thing, my hatch alarm clock that Mari actually got me, it was either a birthday or Christmas,

something like that. It was a little longer ago, but I, I like, I think I unplugged, something was happening with it, but I finally got it working again and like on my schedule. And it is amazing. I've been waking up at 5.30 to go work out at six in the morning and it wakes me up so nice. And like, I just think it's a game changer. So hatch alarm clocks in. Slay. Slay. You're outs. Outs. Over-consuming the phone. I think it makes me miserable. Every time I do it, I'm depressed. I deleted Instagram over, like, leading up to New Year's. I got it back on January 1st. Couldn't stand the fucking year recap. Like, it's just a flex off at the end of the day. Like, recapping our our whole year keep it to yourself like reflect on your year by yourself I just felt like it was unnecessary and it made me feel pressured to do

the recap and I didn't want to so I just deleted the whole app okay sorry I had a little whoa someone's been holding that in I agree it's a flex off yeah it's a flex off and we all need to get off our phones and in real life giving giving energy to things you can't control. I feel like I'm such a control freak and both of us, honestly, and I spiral about things that I shouldn't like, let it go, babe. It's happening, you know? Yeah. Like spiraling. Yeah. Thinking about the every, every possibility that could happen in your last solo, you were talking about just like all the things that could go wrong. I think leading up to this move too, I'm up at night just like thinking of every detail and I'll like tell Kenny and he's like how did you even like get to that like I've

literally been trying to figure out like how am I going to get my air mattress to Austin before my bed gets there yeah you're really do I check it like is it going to be $30 and he's like you're crazy you're really tripping on the air mattress just order a new one and send it to the house i know but anyway and also there's so much freedom in letting go and letting the universe take it into his hands did i say his i meant it's it's hands hers yeah period um even with this baby that i want to have like i have been really obsessing over having a baby it's all i think about yes because i'm excited but at the same time it's like the universe has it you know and it will happen when it's supposed to um oat milk need i say more yeah enough said it's starch juice and it's full of uh gross stuff what's that stuff called glyphosate glyphosate oat milk is out this

year and if you can handle dairy and you don't break out, drink real milk. It's got great nutrients in there. Wearing perfume out. If anyone's wearing perfume near me, I will be cutting you out of my life. That might not work for me, but that's okay. You don't smell strong to me ever. I've stopped wearing as much. Good.

I'll do like a spritz. Good. Because I know you're very sensitive to it so sensitive immediate headache immediately want to pass out yeah dizzy uh saying yes to everything I feel like I'm in my season of trying to say no because I feel like especially with work I'm such a yes person and I spread myself really thin and. And I, to me in my head, I'm like, if I say no, I'm being weak. But actually, I think I should just be more intentional with the things I want to do. I think actually saying no is like a stronger move. It's harder to say

no to things than yes. Yeah. And a lot of times. So true. What are your outs? Okay, hangovers. I have really, I'm doing 75 hard right now. So I'm not drinking at all for 75 days. I'm on day five. Killing it. But yeah, hangovers. Even when I do, I'm not going to do the sober thing forever as of now. But yeah, I think just decreasing my alcohol.

Like it's still fun to go out and have a glass of wine with your friends. But like, do you need to have four? No. You're doing dry Jan, right? yeah with along with 75 hard okay yeah 75 hard you can't drink at all no isn't alex earl doing 30 hard perhaps but does she not drinking perhaps i don't know anyway all these girls are doing like 50 soft ish i'm like okay that's normal life no like what are you doing not on 50 softish i don't know every to each their own if you are doing something to better yourself go for it um here we go sleeping and makeup i did this on new year's mari gets so angry when i do this but the reason i get angry is because if i did that i know i would have a

cystic breakout but fee has perfect skin like but everyone has their thing we always talk about this like for me my skin is so bad i've been through so many levels with it and yours is just like glossy every day so i can understand why you sleep in your makeup because nothing happens but like it's crusty dusty we had this whole conversation about i was like how does my skin know i'm asleep like how does it know that i'm awake versus sleep and mario was like that's that's not how the math isn't passing to be so honest everyone's gonna be like you're so vapid i got home from being out my i put makeup on four hours before and i looked really good and i was just like i look pretty i'd rather go to bed looking

gorgeous oh and wake up maybe still kind of gorgeous don't get me wrong I hate taking my makeup off but like you gotta do it I just got home well I was literally in bed by 12 15 and we were out at 1201 for the clock so that's it's because I didn't take my makeup off I got right into bed um okay scrolling at night enough said like staring at your phone at 10 30 when you should be sleeping stop it i get notifications from my tiktok like hey it's time to go to bed and i'm like wow have you ever gotten one of those from tiktok oh yeah no i haven't oh i have quite a few times if you were scrolling for like a long time which i feel like i'll just do with not even

knowing it'll be like it's time to go to bed yeah it tells you i'm shocked i feel like they'd want to keep you in that i must be on it for a very long time fiona okay fourth being dehydrated i am pretty bad about drinking my water can i take a sip yeah take a sip i'll take a fat sip i being dehydrated is oh i guess being dehydrated no out out yeah oh my god whoa I'm like being dehydrated being dehydrated is out and I to be honest struggle with just drinking water like I have plenty of Mari's like oh I just love a big cup of water not not it for me I have to put something in it so whether it's greens specifically strawberry kiwi that is my go-to right now just restocked guys it's sold out because it is legit the best in my opinion right now it has been like the best seller now i know it's doing well it's unreal all the greens flavors are amazing strawberry kiwi is a game changer so whether it's

greens even like lemon in your water like just something to spice it up really helps me with my water consumption so we don't want to be dehydrated in 2024 and my last thing this is kind of out of pocket matching sets I'm gonna be the first to say it I was a matching set girly for the last like two years I really was and I I don't know I've just recently not been doing that it sounds maybe matching sets slash over consumption of things I don't need I think I'll be at the gym or a class and I see a girl in a matching set and it just is so like pleasing to the eye.

But I agree with you. I think matching sets are out. Yeah. Like I just feel like that was really in for a while. The last two years, I would say. Like matching workout sets specifically. Like the matching bra and bottom, whatever. I have been mixing and matching

and I've been loving it. So that's all I'm going to say about that. Except navy and black. Except navy and black. We talked about that. Yes. That does not go. They're too close. They're too close. If you're wearing it, I'm so sorry, but take it off. It doesn't match. Okay. Great. Well, I love our ins and outs. I hope you guys like them too. With that said, guys, let's hop into some voice messages. We have not listened to these. This is the first time we're hearing them. Hopefully, none of them are outrageously inappropriate.

I kind of hope so. I know. I love a little one. You guys suck. Oh, thanks, babe. I hate this freaking show. Hey, Mari. Okay.

And Fi. And Fi. She's the worst. She makes it the worst. Get her off the mic. Who let this girl on the mic? Hi, Mari and the POW team. My name is Melissa. And I just wanted to hear more about your fertility journey and Greg's fertility journey. I know you had mentioned that Greg ices and red lights his man know man area and I thought it was cool that you opened up about that

kind of stuff like no matter how like raunchy or crazy anything may sound like I liked that you guys opened up about that so any other things that you and your husband do any tips and tricks that'd be great thank you oh thank you melissa well how do you tell are you gonna go here hell i was a bit off the cuff in that episode if you guys are wondering where that information comes from it's from mine and fee's christmas episode so go listen to that. I was ovulating in New York. We did have sex every single day, like machine vibes. By the end, we were both like, oh, and I was like, I know, baby, we just have to. It is fun at first. But by the time we were like, we had to fly back to LA six hours, we were tired, we were crusty. And I was like, we have to have sex. And he was like, come on. I was like, I know. Soz. So just a lot of sex and timing it perfectly with your ovulation,

using the aura ring, using natural cycles, peeing on the LH strip tests or dipping them in your pee, whatever, making sure I'm ovulatingulating I've been confused since then because there's a lot of things popping up symptom wise to where I'm not sure if I'm pregnant or if I'm just getting my period because freaking Fi has the strongest hormones and we both came back from the holidays and she got her period and now I think she gave me my period because she just sways the whole room. Sorry. We're together so much. That's a real thing.

Like that happens. I think it. We'll see. I'm not going to put anything out there. I know. But anyway, yeah. Red light, icing the balls, making sure you're not in like hot tubs, things of that nature. Good tips.

Let's listen to this one. Hi, Mari. I first and foremost want to say thank you so much for all of the content that you put on this podcast. I have been listening since day one and I absolutely love it. So thank you. My question is actually about your acne transformation because I am an acne prone girly myself trying to heal it. So I was wondering if you had experienced purging while you were going through your journey. And I only ask really because I am on week nine or 10 of following a lot of the recommendations and protocols that you and Emily,

your integrative health practitioner, had talked about over your podcast and on her Instagram. And I'm still just purging so bad after, you know, almost nine weeks. So I was just wondering if this had happened to you as well. And any advice you might have to share on it would be amazing. So thank you. Oh, what a cutie. 100% I purged. And what Emily explained to me was that when you kill off, like the things you're killing off in your body, whether it be candida, parasites, mold, it doesn't want to be killed off and it can result in purging. I'm not sure the exact science behind that,

but while it's like you're attacking those toxins, it comes out of your face, you know? So I definitely purged. And I still purge after facials and things like that because when you do chemical those toxins, it comes out of your face, you know? So I definitely purged. And I still purge after facials and things like that, because when you do chemical peels, it brings everything to the surface. I know it's hard and those purging periods suck, but it's necessary to get to the other side. I remember being with you when you were going through that, like more recently. And I remember you were just like, it feels like forever. You were like, is it ever going to get better? And then and then it did I know but it just took time I remember I kept

telling you like time and you were like I I'm tired I'm tired of this grandpa hi guys I love you both so much um I have so many questions and now I'm realizing I only have 60 seconds okay I think my first question that I want to know both your opinions on is how do you know which information you should really be listening to or really consuming? Like your podcast is doing such a great job of giving us different perspectives and different experts, but still at the end of the day, there's people on your podcast that say, eat oats, don't eat oats, be plant-based, only eat meat, don't eat vegetables. Like how do you know, how meat. Don't eat vegetables. How do you know what's right? How do you know what to listen to? Everyone thinks they're an expert too right now. So I feel

like that's a part of the problem. When there's just so much information at our fingertips, how do we know what we should be listening to? How do we know what is right? And I appreciate your podcast for helping try to kind of sort through that and I love you guys thanks bye oh okay I run into this a lot I mean especially being the host of this show I'm confused sometimes I'm like you know we had Simon Hill on recently and he brought a whole new slew of information that contradicted a lot of how I live my life. And it was confusing for me. And I think the way that I come back to center is, okay, how do I feel eating this or that? How do I feel implementing that in my routine? And then also

having the blood work to back it up. Because if I have perfect blood work and I feel amazing, I'm going to stick with what I'm doing. I'm open to learning and potentially improving things here and there for sure. But like, let's say something is off in my blood work and someone says, hey, maybe it's because of this, try this, then I'll do it. But like, also everyone is so different. That's the thing. Like, you kind of need to just take the information in

and be like, okay, does that really match up with my lifestyle and what I believe in? Yeah. And like she said, like all the guests, they come on, like they may feel like they're experts in something because that's what they have been doing and what works for them specifically.

And anyone that's experiencing like the positive benefits of a certain way to eat or a certain whatever way to exercise, whatever it is, they want to spread that information and share it with people because it worked for them. You know what I mean? And it could work for you, but it could not. But I think the importance of having all the different kinds of people on and sharing their different perspectives and what they believe in all just helps everyone, including myself as a listener, determine what's best for them. Yeah.

You know what I mean? And like having someone on that's a carnivore diet, maybe I don't feel like that necessarily is exactly what I want to do for myself. But you bet like I have eaten way more protein lately than I was because I took that bit of information. Like I think you can kind of pick and choose what you take from each episode and from each person. Very well said. Yeah. I agree. Hi, Mari. Hi, Fi. This question is for Mari. My name is Chelsea and I am also looking to be a 2024 mama to be. My question is, how are you able to stop smoking the good stuff? I know it's really impactful for fertility and our goal this year is to conceive.

So I will have to lay off of the weed and I'm wanting to know what you're doing to cope and relax. I think more people use weed than we've realized, honestly. Oh yeah. Well, it's so especially like where we are in California, it's so normal. Yeah. And for context, like for people wondering why people are asking me that question, I used to smoke regularly at night to relax. And I still think it's really fun. However, I've listened to Andrew Huberman talk about the statistics with fertility and smoking, and I just don't think it's worth it. It is a harder route, but I think learning to self-soothe with meditation, sauna, grounding, a nighttime regimen is crucial. So I've been tapping into that and just trying to figure it out on my own. The reading really helps. Reading makes me really sleepy and tired and putting the phone away. So

yeah, unfortunately, it's a little bit more challenging. But I think in this season, temporarily, like it's just not worth it. I feel like you and Greg both pretty drastically just like kind of stop. Yeah. Like I remember when I first started working with you guys. Guys, I'd come into work and there were joints everywhere. And I was shocked. I was like, these like yoked fitness people smoke weed. Like, I don't even really I didn't even indulge like that. And I was just like, that's crazy. uh i think you guys really just kind of like stop yeah we also would eat too much we would go crazy on the food munchies so you guys know that protein is a really big deal in my household, especially high quality protein. Greg and I are really concerned with where our food is sourced from. And that's where

we found Maui Nui. You guys have probably been seeing me post about it on Instagram. We got a huge box and we flew through it in about one week. Greg is like inhaling the venison sticks and I made meatballs. And guys, I have to be honest, I was a little bit weirded out by venison in the past. I was like, I feel like weird eating it. I'm a little grossed out by it. When I tell you this is such delicious meat and you don't even realize that it's venison. Plus, it's the only stress-free 100% wild harvested meat on the market it's truly the best meat you can find and it's not gamey at all so just for context Maui Nui harvests axis deer in Hawaii and it's an overpopulated species so these animals need to be controlled anyway and they're harvesting them at night so that they are stress free when they're killed.

So I know that's a little bit weird to think about, but this really is the best way to source your meat. And it's so high quality. Researchers at Utah State have shown this meat to be the most nutrient dense red meat available. I'm actually obsessed with it, guys. It's our new thing in our household. We really are so into it. You can get 20% off your first order of fresh venison, jerky, broth, and ohana subscription with discount code POW. Discount code POW, P-O-W, for 20% off your first Hey, Mari, I just actually messaged you. I'd be so surprised at what you put out there,

how it can change somebody's life every day. Thanks. Oh, that's lovely. That was a sweet little message. That was. Hold on, I want to grab a couple more, guys. This is a good one for fee because it has dating in it hi marie hi fee i love listening to you girls i'm so happy to

leave a voice message um i my question is um how do you deal with weight insecurity during dating? So I have recently been struggling with my hormones, especially after getting COVID. They're just a little out of whack and working on getting them back under control. And I gained weight with all of that, like with the hormone imbalances and just trying to work on balancing my hormones, getting back to a weight that I feel more confident in. So I'm single and dating, but I just feel a bit insecure about the way I look now or my weight now. And I know the guy doesn't really care, but any confident tips that you girls have would be.

Oh, I love it. Yeah. That was a great message. Do you want to start? You want me to start? You go ahead. So I have been there. I totally get where you're coming from. I think the first five years after I moved to LA, I was single. And I think that was for a lot of reasons. But one big reason I think I was very insecure. I think I came to LA and it made me even more insecure. And add that to just like not feeling good about myself or you know, the way my weight maybe the way I looked. I, I think even without realizing it, I was not putting myself out there. Or I want to say even like putting myself out there for the right kind of person I think I was if anything going for the wrong type of person or a person did that did not treat me

the way I should be treated because I was valuing myself lower because I felt bad about myself in a way so I totally understand where you're coming from it's it's tough but you know as long as you are working on yourself like that's what matters the most and yeah like I get you want to feel good about yourself and like I think as long as you keep promises to yourself and work on those things like that is a huge way to feel confident even if maybe the way you're looking in that moment is not what you want to look like but also and I know you said like you know some guys don't care which is very true but like the person you want to ultimately be with should not want to be with you because you're 20 pounds lighter than you are right now or something like like I've always felt that way and you know I hope

whoever I end up with long term that like they love me at any way and yes I want to take care of myself and like look the best for me and for my partner always. But like I think like they should love you no matter what. Like they should love you for being the person. I feel like I've actually talked to Mari a little bit about this like on your journey. Yeah. With that with Greg. So true. So true.

Greg has seen me at my best, at my worst, my lowest moments, my best moments, when I've had a six pack, when I've been 60 pounds overweight. And he's been my best friend through it all and I think actually it makes you so much stronger to meet someone when you're maybe not your best and then grow with them I think there's a lot of value in that too but I feel like you summed that up really nicely that was a great question I could put one more hi Mari I am so freaking excited to be doing this right now I'm almost a little nervous um but I'm currently walking on the treadmill just finished your podcast

um and I just have become obsessed with you guys so and hi Fi can't forget about you either um my question is I feel like you have been so humble throughout all of your success over the last couple of years. And obviously compensation comes with that. What is your perspective of this major life change and what change do you want to make on others that surround you and your business? Cute. I think she means like in terms of financial success right yeah definitely a big change i mean just for some perspective when i got into social media i was making minimum wage at the front desk of orange theory and i did not grow up in a wealthy family i grew up around wealthy people and it took me a long time to realize actually that they were wealthy. Like I knew they had huge houses with indoor pools, but I was like, I don't know, maybe they just weren't born that way. But I like,

definitely did not grow up that way. And wealth was never something that was encouraged in my house. You and I have spoken about this. But actually, I think there's a little bit of a culture. My dad is from Wales and grew up in a working class family. He actually was born into government housing. And a lot of my Welsh family were minors, working class. And there's almost this perception of the wealthy that it's not a good thing. Like you kind of make fun of people with money and it's not like we relate to them at all. It's like, oh, we'll never be like that.

That's sort of like elitist. Like they don't want to be like that. Like you shouldn't be flashy and talk about money. Exactly. Like I kind of had a negative relationship actually with wealth growing up. So to start my business and kind of go into it because I loved it and

because I wanted to like expand this community, money was never the goal. Greg is much more financially literate than me and has a healthy relationship with money. And everything I've learned about finances has kind of been through him and his family. Still not really my thing. I'm not a numbers person. But having wealth has allowed me to create a life where I have a lot of freedom. So for example, I, if I want my dad to visit me, I can buy him business class tickets and make sure he's comfortable and make sure he's able to come stay in LA and have a great experience. Or we went to Switzerland recently and I was able to support a family member going because it can be a very expensive trip. Or some of the cool vacations we take as a friend group

and Greg and I are able to get that for everyone and be, I don't know. I think it's allowed me to actually be a better version of myself because I've always been someone who enjoys sharing experiences and I like being generous and I feel like it's allowed me to do that and also do things like horseback ride and have that kind of freedom and also think about my future child but with that said I've kind of had a little bit of an identity crisis with it because as I said I never grew up respecting it I wouldn't say I'm someone who's like loud and proud about it if anything if it's if it's brought up to me I feel like a little uncomfortable and like a little embarrassed and I try to tone it down yeah Yeah. Which I probably shouldn't do.

Like I probably should be a bit more confident about it, but I just, it doesn't match my personality, I guess is what I'm trying to say. I think it's the personality, it's the upbringing. It's also like it happened fairly quickly. Yeah. Like as an outsider looking in, even from when I started working with you,

it like you guys have become very, very successful in a very short period of time. Something that a lot of people probably do, maybe don't ever do in their lifetime or if they do it over a lifetime, you know what I mean? So I think the rapid pace of it happening, I think could definitely be in that. But I think it also is a bit isolating. I think people would be surprised how it,

you have a very different life, especially at this age. I have a very different reality, especially at this age. I have a very different reality to a lot of people my age. And that sounds like it would be a good thing. And we've made it a good thing because we have such great people. We're around and we're able to kind of like experience this life with them. But at the same time, you can't relate to a lot of other people and it is quite isolating. Yeah. And also, you know how they say more money, more problems? Yeah. It's kind of true.

Yeah. Your problems are bigger and more stressful. And life was kind of simpler before. Yeah. I think, I don't know. Money definitely doesn't fix everything. I can tell you that. You know what I mean?

I feel like any celebrity will tell you that. Like any, like you can have all the money in the world and like you still will be dealing with a lot of problems. Which, not to say being able to have a lot of money is not amazing. Like, Mari, just as an outsider looking in, is, like, very grateful and humble about it. And, like, as a friend of hers, and, you know, someone that obviously works with her,

like, her and Greg take very good care of everyone that they work with. And, like, I've always, well, I haven't always experienced that in the past with other positions or whatever. And I think you guys do a great job at that. So I just feel like what's the point otherwise? Like what's the point of being successful if you can't share it with the people you love, you know? I think I love that you guys have that mentality.

I think a lot of people are like, I did all this for myself and like I'm keeping it. Like, you know, it's, it's, yeah. Anyway, I hope that answered the question. We have a bunch more voice messages, but I feel like we should save them for another day. But thank you guys so much for submitting. If you want to submit a voice message, the link is in the show notes.

We'll also post it again on Instagram. Fi, thank you so much for joining us today. Of course. It's also always linked in the podcast page links, like in the bio. Perfect. Amazing. But yeah, so much fun. We have a really great 2024 in store. I know we keep saying it, but I hope you guys are enjoying the in-app video, the full YouTube videos, amazing guests on the way, potentially

some Texas guests. Yes, we have a lot. Oh, you guys, it's been crazy over here. I'm so excited for the show and for Mari and for you guys to hear who we have coming up in you guys it's been crazy over here but I'm so excited for the show and for Mari and for you guys to hear who we have coming up in the next couple months and yeah 2024. Reminder to subscribe, follow, leave a review, helps us grow the show, helps us grow this lovely community. We love you guys so much. See ya. Bye. Thanks for joining us on the Pursuit of Wellness podcast. To support this show please rate and review and share with your loved ones. If you want to be reminded of new episodes, click the subscribe button on your preferred podcast or video player. You can sign up for

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