Pursuit of Wellness - Relationship Advice w/ Me & My Husband

Episode Date: September 12, 2024

Ep. #132 In today's episode, I am joined by my husband Greg.  After nearly 10 years together, we thought it would be great to do an episode all about relationships.  We answered all of your questions that you sent in around marriage, finances, bloom, mental health and so much more.  If you want to submit your questions to be answered on the show, click here! Leave Me a Message - click here! For Mari’s Instagram click here! For Pursuit of Wellness Podcast’s Instagram click here! For Mari’s Newsletter click here! For Greg’s Instagram click here! For POW Brand Promo Codes click here! Topics Discussed 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:02:04 - New Austin podcast studio 00:03:03 - Relationship “insights” and art investments 00:07:21 - Bloom updates from Greg 00:08:39 - POW updates from Mari 00:13:30 - Little things Greg and Mari do everyday 00:16:03 - Getting on each other’s nerves 00:24:39 - Mindfulness practices with each other 00:28:48 - Supporting your significant other’s mental health 00:30:37 - Managing finances 00:36:30 - Greg dealing with Mari’s BPD journey 00:42:36 - Nontraditional ways to support each other Sponsored By:  Head to MANUKORA.com/pow to get $25 off the Starter Kit, which comes with an MGO 850+ Manuka Honey jar, 5 honey travel sticks, a wooden spoon, and a guidebook! That’s MANUKORA.com/pow for $25 off your Starter Kit. It's time you own your health. To join Function Health, go to functionhealth.com/pow and use code POW100 to skip the waitlist. Available up to 1,000 listeners. Honeylove is not just supporting women, it's empowering women. Treat yourself to the best bras on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com/pow. Use our exclusive link to get 20% off - honeylove.com/pow to find your perfect fit.  Save time and money by getting it all in one place with Thrive Market. Go to  ThriveMarket.com/pow for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!

This is the Pursuit of Wellness podcast, and I'm your host, Mari Llewellyn. What is up, guys? Welcome back to the show. If you heard that screenshot, it's because Greg is on his phone. I'm a big screenshot guy. Put your phone down. Like, if you're going to text a friend, like, something that someone said, you just send a screenshot, right? Or no, your friend should probably send voice messages.

Sorry. Yeah, but the biggest thing about sending screenshots is like, what if you accidentally sent it to the person that you took the screenshot of? That happens to me one out of 10 times. I feel like you would do that. Thank God. Thank, that's how I know there's a God. Because I message made it so that I can do unsend now.

I've done a really bad one once where I said, oh my god, I can't believe how expensive she is. And I sent it to the person that was... To the service provider? Yes! Oh my god, that was awful. I mean, she probably knew how expensive she was. Anyway, we just jump right in, guys. Apologies if I look like I have

a resting bitch face in this episode because I've been talking the whole day. I think I did 24 ad reads. I've done three interviews. I've been talking the whole day. Like I've, I think I did 24 ad reads. I've done three interviews. I've had two different guests here. You're honestly the last one of the day and my face hurts. I'm dessert, baby. I'm like massaging my jaw right now because I just can't, but I'm so happy to have you here. Have you ever had a massage where they do a little face massage at the end? Bukul? Is that what? Bukul is when they go like this. No, I don't know. I've never had a masseuse go into my mouth.

Oh, okay. But we have had a massage go into our butt in Chinatown. Let's skip that. New York. That was crazy. Let's skip that story for today. Unless you're like needing someone to hear you out. I'm just like on like a lifelong search for the perfect masseuse okay you know but i don't let people touch my face especially

after they were dabbling in oils acne girls will get it like you don't want people touching your face you know i've actually i started the last episode with this. Skip, go. What do you think of the studio? Oh, it's crazy. I mean, I saw it. I saw it come together piece by piece. I peek in here every day. We're in the Austin based Pursuit of Wellness studio. It looks incredible. I think a podcast studio, I kind of like a smaller room. Yeah, same. We prefer it. I feel like the sound is better. It's a bit cozier. And what I felt like was very important, which you probably haven't even checked because you're obviously in here, is I stood outside. You know, because we're in a full headquarters right now. We've checked that.

Yeah. But you know, you were probably doing episodes earlier and I was walking by like, I couldn't hear anything, which is nice. Yeah. Soundproofing is tough, guys. Sounds simple, but it's tough. I mean, you just see this door on this room. It's like a thick, foamed-out door. You know Joe Rogan's been in this room? Shout out to Joey R.

He doesn't know who I am. I saw him at the cafe up the street this weekend. Insane. Joe Rogan's wife works out here, too. I mean, we probably shouldn't blurb this, but honestly, they're private people. So do you know why you're here today? No.

To give relationship advice let's call it relationship insights okay why i don't know if i'm worthy to give advice i would say we've been together for over 10 years actually as of this we're creeping up on a decade as of this october 31st it will be 10 years together, and then as of December 1st, it will be three years married. Yeah, but together is really what we... I feel like that's the thing that we count the most. Well, no, we're supposed to count the marriage now.

That's how it works. But, like, both are cool. What are you going to get me? A painting? Generally, I'm not a huge, like... If you want want we could consider the painting a gift guys i found this painting in jackson hole i went into this gallery and i saw this painting of two horses and literally had tears in my eyes and i said greg i need that piece and he said no that price tag is not. I went back to the gallery five times,

haven't stopped thinking about the painting. Guess what? We're getting the painting. Right, babe? It fits the house perfect. It goes in that hallway spot perfect. We'll be in ramen noodles for a couple of weeks, but we got the painting.

I'm spending all of our money on this piece. Yeah, I mean, it's like the first Investment I've made into art probably That's one You see the way she just phrased that Is how they trick you Into justifying expensive art She just said investing into art

That's like me saying I'm investing into cars It's because I see the vision of this artist But honestly like I don't want to sell this piece It means a lot to me Right so then you can't think of it whatever You say that I think it's a really pretty piece I just, I don't want to sell this piece. It means a lot to me. Right. So then you can't think of whatever. You say that. I think it's a really pretty piece. I just think like, don't play yourself. You're the one telling me to buy Chanel bags because they're an investment.

No, that's not what happened. Let me be very clear about what happened. We were in the Chanel store. There was two options. The more expensive option I could prove held its value better. Therefore, I said, get the more expensive one that's going to hold its value. Don't get the one that's just trendy for this season. Period. Right? So that's, you got to think, you got to have a strategy.

Greg is essentially telling you guys to go buy Chanel bags. That's not even close to what I'm doing. Or maybe he's even offering to buy you guys Chanel bags. You know what, pal, give away. If you subscribe to the show right now, Greg will send you a Chanel bag. That's crazy. That's a crazy giveaway. All right.

Do we have like an itinerary today? Okay. Yeah. There's a reason we're here. Fi is going to play us some audio messages from the audience. And we're going to give some advice. You look like you're so distracted. I get really overwhelmed the day before a trip.

Yeah. Do you? Like I feel like I have, I'm putting things in my calendar to make sure I know. It's two weeks. I know. It's two weeks. I have to pack supplements. I have to pack my, I don't even know what the weather is over there. I'm really overwhelmed. I'm really overwhelmed and I have to go ride a horse after this. Do you think we'll wear a bathing suit almost every day? Yes. Yes. That's crazy. You like live in bathing suits. I know. And also you do this every time where you say you're stressed and you wear one outfit. Actually

no, you gotta bring fits. I know. You gotta bring like Italy dinner like show up, show out Greg, lovekia feets. Just start guy feets. Do you need help no I'll help but I should pack more bathing suits I packed two

that is so not even close to enough I packed like ten yeah but like a woman's bikini is almost like a whole fit a guy could kind of wear a white bathing suit a few days you have such nice bathing suits why Why don't you bring them? I'll bring them.

I guess they don't take a lot of suitcase space. I also feel like we'll shop a little bit. How do I bring Bloom Energy? Needless to say, Bloom Energy is not in Italy. I don't think you can. I am. No pun intended. I'm putting it into my checked luggage.

It's going to explode. I'm going to Ziploc it the hell up. You're going to create an explosion and endanger the lives of others. That's not even a funny joke. Get that out. But I'm bringing four cans, one of each flavor of Bloom Energy to Italy. And I will be having an affogato with a cherry lime. Affogato. Yeah. And aperitif. Yeah. Before we hop into this advice, do you have any updates like Bloom updates, things you want the audience to know blooms out of control it's out of control i don't know if you guys have ever

rode a razor scooter down a steep hill and the front wheel completely starts shaking violently it's called the speed wobbles where i was texting our buddy andrew spalter about this earlier um i thought it's called the death wobbles apparently in different states they call it different things the speed wobbles you lose control downhill imagine Bloom's in that state right now but I'm about to recover it

and skirt off the hill I'm not about to fall off the Razor scooter is something wrong? no it's just Greens is launching regionally in Costco the energy drink is the hottest thing that's ever touched a Target shelf Colostrum's restocking on Amazon. It's about to go into Sam's Club in Target. Like, there's so many different things going on.

Good time for a Europe trip. No. Horrible time for a Europe trip. The time zone is ridiculous. I want to be up at like 5 a.m. Actually, I want to be. Their morning is our dinner time, which is kind of lame and kind of difficult to work around. But we'll figure it out.

Unfortunately, the entire business is relying on you. No, that's not true. We have an incredible team. But I'm part of the machine. Okay. Would you have any questions for me? Any updates on your end? The podcast is thriving.

We were number three on the health and fitness charts, number one on mental health, number 55 of all time. So the Power Girls are out here listening and slaying. That's awesome. That's my update. I'm going to be just the last thing I'll say about Bloom. Everyone I know who's traveling is getting sick right now in Austin. I've been slamming this colostrum.

I haven't even coughed. I don't even remember what a cough feels like. That's good. I'm going to miss Arnold the most. What do you think of our samples earlier? They were very good. Yeah, right? I'm saying those to Walmart. Arnold's going to miss me so much. Yeah, he's a good boy.

I took him to Zilker Park today, so I had so much fun. He got bullied the other day really bad. He got ganged up on by a bunch of big dogs and I had to embarrass him and pick him up. He was like, okay, Fee, roll the tape. Let's hear some questions. When it comes to nutrition,

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I know that in life and in marriage, it really is all about the little things. So my question is, what are some everyday things that you guys do to stay connected and to make each other feel loved? Thanks for the question. We love hearing from you guys. Your accent's very cute. Little things we do every day. I have some thoughts. We always kiss each other goodbye when we leave and say, I'm leaving. Have a good day. Verbal affirmations. I always ask for hugs. Having dinner together most of the time. We go to bed at the same time. We watch our show together. We cuddle. We have our weekly date nights. I like to send cute texts during the day. Greg used to be good at that, but lately he has not been. Right? Like, I love you. I can't wait to record later. How's your day going? That kind of thing. Sending cute pics,

updates. It depends. Like we go through seasons where we're really, really busy and it gets harder, but I do feel like we're pretty consistent with our evenings. And then on the weekend, we are really intentional to spend time together. Like we make plans to go on walks or go to dinner. And then when we travel, like in Jackson hall, we were together the whole time and we make these little intentional trips where we're like, okay, let on hikes let's go to dinner we're going to europe we have you know we're going with friends but we have a few days where it's just us two what would you say a good chunk of either saturday or sunday is generally dedicated to us um nothing i would you you checked everything off yeah that's the name of the game but like there's ebbs and flows you know like there's weeks where i feel like we're better

at it like this week i really haven't seen you yeah there's about to be two weeks together on a trip like that week leading up to it we're a little mia i think that's okay um no i'm just i want them to know the realness of it. But I do feel like every single, it's not like you're at work till eight and I don't see you. Like you come home, we have dinner, we go to bed together, we like chat or catch up. Yeah. Okay. Hello, Mari.

Louise here from Copenhenhagen in denmark just wanted to say i really enjoy listening to your podcast please don't ever stop and a question for you guys is do you ever get each other's nerves and if so uh how and with what have a nice day bye oh my god she's so cute she sounded like alexandra my dad's wife opening is badass do i ever get on your nerves how and why you go first i don't have a big thing that maria does that gets on my nerves that said she does stupid little shit all the time. That's just like, I don't even know what to say to you right now. Like what? You're on your way to a workout, on your way to the barn, on your way to an appointment. Should I cancel this?

Should I even go to this? Or like, we'll literally be taking steak out to cook for dinner. Should we even have steak? Just like last second questioning of like something that's like so explicitly in your calendar, like, you know, a commitment. I actually have a reason for that. I actually have a diagnosis. This is why I can't even bring things up. Actually, this is what bothers me. If I bring something up that's just like annoying in society, I have a diagnosis for that.

So thanks so much for bringing it up. Well, my therapist says I do have very obsessive tendencies. I actually did a brain scan with Dr. Amen and we could see that my frontal lobe was incredibly active. He said borderline the most active he's ever seen, which would indicate that I'm highly intelligent, which we already know. But what that indicates is that I have very obsessive thinking and OCD tendencies. And there's an OCD diagnosis that's like, not diagnosis, there's a sector of OCD that's about responsibility OCD. And you don't ever want to be responsible for the wrong thing. So I don't want you to be upset with the outcome. So I don't want to necessarily be responsible for the plan. Because I don't want you to not like it and me feel responsible.

And then I have some indecisiveness about doing the wrong thing because I'm like obsessed with it being the right thing. Does that make sense? Two days ago, Mari lost my car keys. Yeah, I did. That was a good one because Mari like had to take ownership of it. I said sorry. Yeah, you did. I was impressed. Guys, I went and got gas, which is had to take ownership of it. I said sorry. Yeah, you did. I was impressed.

Guys, I went and got gas, which is like a big fear of mine. And I left the keys, Greg's keys. And by the way, I borrowed his truck for a special occasion. Also to be fair, in LA, getting gas is scary. Well, as a woman, the gas station is a very vulnerable place. And I've just had multiple things happen to me at gas stations where it's like, of course, I'm scared of them. Like in LA, I would try to gas up your car for you. Yeah, a lot of women.

I want to go to an LA gas station. It's crazy. A lot of women are afraid of getting gas, I feel. But I put the car keys on the trunk with my wallet, with my credit card. And I was FaceTiming Greg because I was nervous. And I drove away with the keys and the wallet on the trunk without realizing. Somehow drove one hour and my wallet and credit card was still on the trunk, but the keys were nowhere to be found. Getting gas is kind of like the most vulnerable situation you could put yourself in. Yeah, because you're stuck. Yeah, you're stuck.

Yeah. You don't even know what to do, and you're like, do I let it finish filling up? Or you could quickly try to stop. No, I know girls who will not finish the tank, because they just feel scared. Yeah, getting gas is scary. Well, not for you.

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That annoys me. But I know you can't help it really. And that's also just like how you are. Like you could be listening to me, but your eyes are going like this. Yeah, I don't think that's true. I think, well, no, your feelings are true. But I think that I come home like and like I, let's say I want to wash my hands because I just you know walked in the door and you want my undivided attention and by undivided I mean not even wash my hands in

front of her in the kitchen sink that's like pretty reasonable thing for me to do right but you're offended that you're not having undivided eye contact the second that I just have another one oh sure how you blast rap eye contact the second that I just left the house. I have another one. Oh, sure. How you blast rap music throughout the house. That is annoying. That's fair. That is annoying. Like 7 a.m.

That is fair. Just like aggressive rap music. Honestly, most of it stems from I don't like to wear AirPods. You got what I'm saying? That's not my problem. So I just play it on the speaker on my phone. Not all of us want to listen to rap. No, no, that's not a problem.

When we have a baby in the house, you absolutely are not blasting rap music. You can blast Beethoven. Specific rap songs. No, no rap songs. Or ones about female empowerment. Those would be great. Next question. Hi, Mari and Greg.

I love your guys' relationship and how grounded you are in staying true to yourself. I recently saw all of your pictures at Jackson Hole and I loved listening to how that helps strengthen your relationship. I was wondering if there's certain actions or things that you guys do in your relationship to really feel connected away from social media and kind of ground yourself in your relationship and keep your goals and aspirations for growing together is there any kind of practice mindfulness or anything that you guys do to be able to do that thank you cute um okay do you want to go first or me? Number one, I think I've said it on Power Before, G7X. You're going to credit our whole relationship to the G7X.

She said, what are the things that you do? Okay. So yeah, like when we go out and about, instead of using the iPhone, we use the G7X. So we're not on the phone. That's a small example. I think bigger picture, we do not overexpose our relationship. I think that's a big thing. And I know that's a little niche because of the position I'm in.

You realize you're doing a podcast episode right now about our relationship. Yeah, but I don't post us kissing or crying or like we got in a fight. I wouldn't. I couldn't. I wouldn't like that. No, I wouldn't, I, I, I couldn't, I wouldn't like that. No, I wouldn't. I would do anything that you felt like, you know, you wanted us to do, but that would make me uncomfortable. It would make me uncomfortable as well. I feel like we keep a lot of our

relationship pretty sacred. Um, I also think going outside is a big thing for us. Like we've, ever since we've met, we like hiking and traveling together. We're very- It's kind of like why we can't live somewhere that regularly rains or has, you know, inclement weather. Is that the right word? Inclement?

We need to be outside. Like we kind of get, if we're in the house, on the couch, like we go on our phones, we go on our laptops, we're like,, we're getting all this stimulation from technology. We tend to go to a coffee shop, go on a walk, some basic around town errands maybe together. But we're moving. We're on the go. We're getting stimulated just because we're both so ADHD. So if we are home, that tends to be where we treat each other the worst, I would say.

Or we just are more likely to not prioritize each other, as maybe better said. You don't think that's true? I wouldn't say treat each other the worst. I think it's easy to get sucked into work and routine. Yes. I wouldn't say we're both ADHD. I think we're both a little obsessive in nature. So we kind of need to put ourselves in in nature, meaning like who we are.

I think getting outside of that Jackson Hole was really good for us. Yeah. Cause it was sunny all the time. We just went outside every extra minute that we had. Yeah. And we like contained our work time between certain hours. Like we had more time together. We went hiking. We did things that, things that we used to love at the beginning of our relationship, regardless of how much our life has changed. We kind of always go back to that. And also, I feel like we hold each other to a high standard. So like, if we're out to dinner together and one person takes out the phone, it's like, no, we're not doing that. Like we call each other out. Yeah. Cause we, we, we, we, we saw it coming early on. Like, you know, the iPhone was a huge

part of our life or an important tool for our career since day one of us being together. So we kind of had to draw and still enforce strict boundaries around it and hold each other accountable for those boundaries at the dinner table in the house. So if we're at the dinner table, it's pretty rare that a phone would come out. Even if we were like, oh, let's look up how long that drive is tomorrow and we want to pull up Google Maps really quick, we'll pretty much wait to pull up that iPhone. Because the reality is, if you pull up that iPhone, you're going to have 15 notifications.

That's at least what our iPhones look like. So it's tough to just go do that thing or check what's in your calendar the next day. So we have a pretty strict, mutually enforced, held accountable, whatever, boundary around the iPhone. Hey, Mari and Greg, this is Dana. I just want to say how much I love you both. Thank you for doing podcasts together. I am wondering how you can support your significant other if they don't really have the drive you do, but you are worried about their health and wellness.

I'm a very healthy person and my husband just doesn't have that passion as I do. And I want to, you know, care about his health and also the health of our children. And I'm trying to show by example, but he just doesn't seem to catch on. So I'm just curious of any tips that you would have for supporting your spouse when they don't really see eye to eye on your wellness. Thanks. I think you got to choose a priority. You know, there's members of my family where that's a big, the exact same issue exists. I think the number one thing would just be like, try to get that person to move every day, right?

So whether that's a morning or evening walk, playing a sport together, maybe it's even golf and walking the whole golf course. I don't think that there needs to be like this 10 out of 10 fitness lifestyle for everyone out there. I mean, shit, like people live to 100 all the time that don't live that way. Yeah, I feel like do what you can keep doing your thing. Sometimes it takes a reality check for someone to realize. I don't know if you cook for him or like you eat meals together, but showing him that eating healthy can be fun and come on a

walk with me, making it easy, not making it too intimidating. I think it's really easy to expect people to kind of meet us where they're at, even if they're in a different place. So baby steps and do the best you can, but also don't put too much pressure on yourself because at the end of the day, people have to make their own decisions. Hi guys. Thank you for answering my question. I was going to ask about finances as a couple. How did you guys manage your finances pre-marriage, like when you were just in a relationship? And how do you manage them now as you're married?

Has it changed? Just curious to learn about what's worked for you guys because you're obviously very successful, happy together, and I just need to know the answer. Thank you so much. Well, since I'm the sugar mommy, I'll answer. Good point. Since my net worth is significantly higher than yours, I'll answer this. Mari and I, we have always shared a bank account, have always shared the businesses as an even split.

So all income goes into a bank account that's shared, all assets are owned. When did we start sharing a bank account? The day we opened Mari Fitness, I guess. I wouldn't recommend other people do that necessarily. I think we were like a unique situation. the day we opened Mari Fitness, I guess. Yeah. So... I wouldn't recommend other people do that necessarily.

I think we were like a unique situation. I think we just didn't know what we were doing. We just didn't really think any other way to go about it. Like we were so like... Clueless. Clueless, but like, you know, naive to it to the point where we were just like, we're teammates, of course.

That's how it will be. Like we share all of this. Also, we weren't like trying to necessarily personally spend it on gross levels. No, we put it all back in the business. We were just so on the same page about anything related to career goals and financials. The weird thing about our financials is that they were being used to grow the businesses. Yeah. businesses. So yeah. But what did I mean from my end? I feel like, and I've said this openly, but I transparently, I rely a lot on Greg to handle our finances. It's not something that comes easily to

me. It's not my forte. I feel like it comes a bit more easily for you and you're just a bit more knowledgeable on it. Um, and And yes, I have things in place where I'm going to be fine no matter what happens. And we have a team now. But I do lean on you for that area of our life. I don't like numbers, you know that. Yeah, but you're filled in. You have access to everything, obviously.

Of course. But I'm saying like- I steer the ship generally speaking, super generally speaking, in terms of like- I don't know how much money is in our bank account. I'm saying like. I steer the ship generally speaking. Super generally speaking. In terms of like. Like I don't know how much money is in our bank account. I have no idea. I don't know either.

I just say hey. Can I get a horse? You go no. I go okay. This is horrible advice. Yeah we're not the greatest example. Like actually I would say. If one of our weaknesses. is like our personal financial management and just like understanding of it.

But we have a team now. Yeah, we do. I think. But that's very recent since the transaction. You know, it's funny. It's like, what is the right answer? Like, is the goal to be that person who like so carefully manages their money and save save saves like I don't know if that's even what we really want for each other like I think we kind of we want to enjoy having money and we want to

go we like buying nice things or spending and having fun with it um but it's weird because like you meet someone who saves really well. And you get, I guess, a jealous feeling. I'm like, damn, I wish I had some of those personality traits, some of those traits. I know. Neither of us would really like that. So when I see someone like that who's super frugal and just stacking it up and has enough in their bank account by 30 years old to live the rest of their life just with that bank

account, I'm like, ah, I need a sprinkle of that in my life. But here's the thing, your parents are like that. But the only reason I feel like that way is because of the toxic trait of comparison, right? Right, and I feel like although maybe we're not the best savers and we're not very conservative, quote unquote, we have set our finances up so that we're okay. Like we have SEP accounts.

We have, is that what I mean? Retirement stuff. Retirement things in place. You're right. You know what you're talking about. Yeah. We're going to be fine. And we made sure of that.

And we outsource that to people who do know what's going on. Like, thank God your mom is an accountant. We have, you know, our team at Crescent who sits with us for hours and explains our portfolio to us. I will be the first one to say I don't consider myself particularly financially literate. I struggle with it, but I ask questions. If I don't understand something, I say, hey, explain that to me. And I'm not afraid to sound stupid. I just ask.

It's just not my specialty. I'm good at other things. And although we're not conservative, we have things in place to make sure we're good. And we also just work really hard. Yeah. The reality is generally our answer to financial health has always been like, let's just work harder. Yeah. And then we can go buy that thing. It hasn't been let's save up. I also just think you love working. And I love spending. It's why I'm a really good CEO. Like Bloom is really good

at spending money on marketing, on influencers, on activations. You're not like afraid. Look at this podcast studio. We just built this because we were like this. You build dope things and dope things happen. That's kind of always been the mantra. I don't know how long we could keep that up, how sustainable that is. But so far that's always worked out for us.

Do I think that we could be way better at our saving? Yeah, I do. But what makes us good business people, it happens to be a strength for us in our business. So it's a tough one to choose how you would change that trade about yourself. That's why it's a good idea for me to get a rodeo horse because it could compete for money. My name is Jess and I have a question for Greg. So when Mari was going through some of her emotional struggles, you know, the borderline personality disorder and really just at her, maybe considered her worst.

How did you handle her emotions? Was it frustrating for you? Was it easy to be sympathetic? Or was it really hard for y'all to understand one another during those times? And how did y'all work through that? I think there's nothing logical or rational about what's going on in somebody's mind when they're going through that. So if you're trying to come to the situation and help it through bringing rationale or logic, that's not the answer that they're looking for. And so for a while I tried to, and this is just like my family's nature is you, you come to a, a panicked scenario with the first solution that comes to your mind or a solution type of problem solving mindset, uh, which sounds logical when I say it out loud, even right now, it's like, why wouldn't you come with solutions? But like,

all you really needed was comfort and support and just like the feeling of support around you for me as well. You know, we could call it years of us knowing each other. Was there times where like, did I have a feeling of frustration? Of course. I was probably just more annoyed at the situation. I don't think I was ever annoyed at you. But it's definitely a marathon, not a sprint. There's not like some cure. Like I remember constantly trying to come up with like, we were trying new supplements or like random shit. I would see at Whole Foods or, or literally Whole Foods that we would just like ginger makes you

happy, babe. Let's go have ginger. Like, or, you know, you're doing ice baths and saunas because they're being compared to antidepressants and you're trying to like come up with these solutions and then the craziest thing is like sometimes the placebo is so hard i remember when cbd came to the market we're like babe cbd antidepressant uh you know what's the word i'm looking for uh alternative yeah let Yeah. Let's try this. And we're like, you're still sad. What's going on? It's been two weeks. So I think marathon, not a sprint. And we're talking potentially years, of course.

Yeah, it's kind of sad to think about everything we tried. I'm just so far from that now. I'm thinking about me locking myself in the bathroom and slamming doors and all the... It's just weird for me to think about because I feel like I don't do that anymore. We would come up with all these crazy things to try to make it better because it was a very, very painful thing for me.

It was really excruciating. And on the other end, it's really excruciating to feel misunderstood by your partner. But like you can't expect them to get it because it's a reality that exists in your mind. And Greg could obviously never understand what I was experiencing. But it's like, the feeling of it was so frustrating. Like, please just like understand what I'm going through. Cause it's so painful to experience it by myself. Um, but like he was pretty involved, not involved, but I definitely like did my own therapy and my own internal work and it took a long time.

But like a lot of the healing was on me. Like there really wasn't much you could have done. I think the best thing you did for me was like when I was having freak outs or panics, like bringing me ice and reminding me like there's better solutions than cutting and stuff like that. And also just seeing how much it upset you helped me understand like, oh, this isn't really a normal response. Yeah. Like how is therapy today?

Like, oh, that's awesome. They had a therapy call today. Yeah. That's the drive you to therapy. I was never in a therapy session with you. Yeah. You drove me to group therapy. Try to give you like the reality is these therapists

and psychologists whatever they're just one person and they're just trying they're i assume they're trying to make the best decision they can make but like you should probably bounce their suggestion off of somebody that you trust and sometimes more i would have a suggestion i'd be like generally i would try to lean into it. And hey, that's an expert. But sometimes it's like, that's a super shitty idea. Seriously, right? So, you know, just being someone that they could bounce solutions off of. Yeah.

And being a safe place for that. Because they're weird fucking ideas. Like if the person's like, hey, instead of doing this, try this. Or I don't know. I don't know. I feel like at one point I was looking at going to live at this bpd place and you were like i don't know it was as soon as california yeah yeah which is you know since the beginning of covet like that's very recent if you really think about it you know crazy and now i don't even meet the criteria that is crazy to think about wow Wow. That was not that long ago. Oh my god. That's so cool that it exists.

We happened to move to a zip code that happened to have the best live-in facility for people with borderline personality disorder. And it was like the only place in the country. And we happened to move to that zip code. I totally would have checked myself in there just a couple years prior. I needed that.

But I don't think I needed it when we were at that point. I forget what was going on where we felt like we were close, but yeah. I still struggled. We inquire. Yes, I did inquire. I struggled really badly being alone still. I think we asked if they had the option

to not live there but to go participate. Every day. Yeah, go participate. It was still a big part of my life but i don't think that that was an option it was living only it was like a uh what do you call when you're you know coming off drugs or whatever rehab rehab was like a rehab some hollywood rehab shit yeah hi greg and mari it's me how fun is this i wanted to send a question for you guys. So what are some maybe like non-traditional ways that you guys would say you support one another or show up for one another? I'd love to hear it.

Thanks. That girl sounds happy. Non-traditional ways? We kind of have a non-traditional life. I make you sourdough bread. I feel like you like that. I feel like that's as traditional as it gets. Yeah, you're right. That's the origins of support right there. I know one.

Make your husband sourdough. I know one. What? I don't know if this is support, but I know that you love how close I am with your mom. That brings me an outrageous amount of comfort, especially if I don't have the time to call my mom, which breaks my heart all the time. Sorry, mom. She definitely is listening.

Oh, my son, that doesn't exist. Thank you for calling me. But it's not like I call her for you. Of course. I like talking to her. Like, I want to call her. I love having a relationship with her but like I know family is very important to you and me so like that makes you happy um yeah I feel like figuring out each

other's like things that we like you know values yeah like you riding horses with me yeah or talking about horses with me. Or like you want to start socializing more. And I'm trying to participate. Things like that. Shout out to our new friends. You know how I am. Yeah, whenever they're like, why didn't Greg come?

I'll be like, oh, he didn't want to. And then I'll go out like the next night. And they're like, they're acting like I, you know, haven't been out in months. Greg, what's up? Like, yeah. It's nice that people are getting like that's just how you are. It's not like you

don't like people. It's not that I'm too busy. Like I want to go hang out with Arnold on the couch or like walk the dog for an hour and then just call it a night. Like I'm not an extrovert. What about Lulu? Do you neglect Lulu? Did you rehouse her? Oh, is this, do they know about this? Of course they know. Okay. Okay. Okay. I mean, yeah, it's like my number one hate comment. Where's Lulu? That's crazy. No, Lulu's thriving. Lulu's doing better than any of us. She's with

my mama. We just got a photo of her looking like a beached whale. Yeah, seal. Seal, sorry. How dare you. They're really going to feed into that. That's going to get clipped. Yeah. Mari calling her dog fat.

I decided I'm going to do a day in a life vlog of her just to prove to people how good her life is. You know, one of our original… First thing first, I wake up at 6 a.m. with my daddy. Then I go into work. She'll be back next month. We're very excited to have a full house. our original. 13th I wake up at 6am with my daddy. Then I go into work. She'll be back next month. We're very excited to have a full house. She'll be back in a couple weeks. The reality is

we are no longer working out of Bloom's headquarters here in Austin. She can't come your way. We're working out of a Nutribolt headquarters which is like that pre-workout called C4. They've welcomed us in. So I don't know if I want to impose and pretend this headquarters is pet friendly. She would be a good dog though to bring. She would. I could say I need it. She

just needs a bed. She doesn't need a bed. In this place. All right, team. I got to wrap. It's Friday. We travel tomorrow. This was a huge treat. Thank you for having me. Congrats on the new studio. Thanks, babe. Thanks for joining us on the Pursuit of Wellness podcast. To support this show, please rate and review and share with your loved ones. If you want to be reminded of new episodes, click the subscribe button on your preferred podcast or video player. You can sign up for my newsletter to receive my favorites at marilowelland.com. It will be linked in the show notes. This is a Wellness Loud production produced by Drake Peterson,

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