Pursuit of Wellness - Signs Your Hormones Are Imbalanced w/ Dr. Jolene Brighten: Coming Off The Pill, Periods, Medical Gaslighting, IVF & Infertility, Endocrine Disruptors, Seed Cycling & Becoming Your Own Advocate.
Episode Date: September 25, 2023Ep. #41 Today’s guest is the highly-requested hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine - Dr. Jolene Brighten. She is board certified in naturopathic endocrinolog...y and a certified sex counselor. Dr. Brighten is the author of Is This Normal, a non-judgemental guide to creating hormone balance, eliminating unwanted symptoms, and building the sexual desire you crave. She also wrote Beyond The Pill, which was the first book that introduced me to her work. Dr. Brighten empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones. On this episode, we discuss the short and long term effects of hormonal birth control, natural birth control alternatives, why women can feel ignored or gaslit by western doctors, how to advocate for yourself at the doctor’s office, periods - what is normal and what isn’t, tangible lifestyle changes we can make to improve our hormones, suggestions for creating a less harmful environment, fertility for both men and women, seed cycling and how women can benefit during their menstrual phase, and so much more. This conversation brings to light so many important topics that both women AND men can utilize to improve their hormonal health, fertility, and overall quality of life. Super excited to announce that Bloom Greens are now RESTOCKED on Amazon! Order yours through Prime today! Use code PURSUIT10 for 10% off of everything on Dr. Brighten's website. For Mari’s Instagram click here! For Pursuit of Wellness Podcast’s Instagram click here! For Dr. Brighten’s Instagram click here! To shop Bloom Nutrition Greens click here! To download Mari’s workout plan & recipes click here! At Westin hotels, there’s amenities and offerings aimed to help you move well, eat well,and sleep well, so you can keep your well-being close, while away. Find wellness on your next stay at Westin. Save 15% AND GET FREE SHIPPING WHEN YOU USE POW AT WWW.BRANCHBASICS.COM Go to www.GreenChef.com/60pow and use code 60pow to get 60% off plus free shipping Go to www.chopmps.com/POW for 20% off and free shipping Try WHOOP for 1month free , and ge tready to unlock the best version of yourself Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Mari has grown her to fitness and nutrition brand.
Co-founder of Bloom Nutrition.
Forbes 30 under 30 list.
A successful entrepreneur.
Someone who has lost 90 pounds.
Today's guest is Mari Llewellyn.
Mari Llewellyn.
My friend Mari.
Welcome to the Pursuit of Wellness.
Hi guys, welcome back to the Pursuit of Wellness podcast.
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Now for our highly requested guest.
Today, we are joined by Dr. Jolene Brighton.
Dr. Brighton is a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women's medicine.
She is board certified in naturopathic endocrinology and a certified sex counselor.
She's the author of Is This Normal?
and Beyond the Pill. I personally
read Beyond the Pill and that's how I found out about her. It's an incredible book. Dr. Brighton
empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones. On this episode,
we discuss the short-term and long-term effects of birth control, natural birth control alternatives,
why women feel ignored or gaslit by western doctors and how to
advocate for yourself periods what's normal and what isn't tangible lifestyle changes we can make
to improve our hormones and suggestions for creating a less harmful environment fertility
for both men and women what seed cycling is and how we can benefit and so much more. I think this conversation brings
to light so many important topics for both men and women so we can all improve our hormonal health,
fertility and overall quality of life. Dr. Brighton was kind enough to give us an exclusive
code for the POW community for 10% off everything on her website. So make sure you listen to the end
of the episode to catch the code. With that said, please welcome Dr. Brighton to the show.
Okay, POW community, we have a very special guest here today, Dr. Jolene Brighton. She's a hormone
expert, author of Beyond the Pill, and her new book, Is This Normal? Dr. Jolene, we are big fans
of you here on the team. I truly think that female hormonal issues are an epidemic right now.
And having someone like you spearheading this movement is incredible.
We have so much to talk about today.
So let's start with how you became interested in hormones.
Oh, gosh, because I'm a nerd.
So I actually thought I would specialize in gut health.
That was going to be my focus.
And I have a background, so a degree in chemistry.
I loved, like when I got into organic chemistry, I was like, this is how my brain works.
Like this, I love.
And so I remember sitting in class and the first time I saw like the steroid pathways
come up, which makes any doctor who isn't in endocrinology hormones usually glaze over. And I was like, yes,
I get this. This makes sense. This is so easy. And my classmates being like, this is so ridiculously
complicated. I'm like, yeah, the GI tract is definitely a lot easier. So, you know, then I
got interested in hormones, but it wasn't really until I had this epiphany where I was sitting in
class and I remember just thinking like, gosh, so much of women's medicine is done to them.
It's not with them.
It's not in partnership.
I never learned about my body from a doctor or from school or from, I had to go to medical
school to understand how my menstrual cycle really worked.
And I was like, it doesn't have to be this way.
And in fact, the majority of things that we struggle with, we don't actually need a doctor for. And their solutions aren't great.
They're not stellar a lot of the times. And I'm like, what if we could actually teach women
about their body, how to work with it, how to identify what's going on and simply intervene
before they really do need a doctor? So I think a lot of women find that when they do go to the
doctor and talk about symptoms such as acne, pain, fatigue, cramps, they're told that this is
a normal symptom of being a woman. There's almost this narrative that being a woman sucks.
This is just what comes with it. Do you agree with that? And why do you think we're being told
it's normal? I agree that is exactly
the narrative we get from much of society and many healthcare practitioners as well. So I mean,
it was certainly like, you know, my entire experience of having seven day periods that
kept me from going to school. I was in so much pain where it was like, this is normal. Welcome
to womanhood. It sucks. You were gifted ovaries. So sorry,
you know, hate to break it to you, but your life is just going to be the lesser because of it.
And that is not true. I very much contend that your hormones give you superpowers if you know
how to leverage them. And if you have symptoms coming up, it's your body's way of communicating
to you that, hey, something is going on. And it's funny that you bring up this like,
you know, that's just normal. That's why I's funny that you bring up this like, you know,
that's just normal. That's why I named my latest book, Is This Normal? It's the number one thing that women are asking, whether they're Googling or coming to their provider is, is this normal?
And they're so often met with, yeah, it's horrible. That's normal. But how can anything
that interferes with your ability to show up in life fully yourself or even just engage in daily activities, be considered normal.
I also almost wonder, what are the doctors comparing that to?
Who else are they seeing?
Probably people who don't feel well.
Who goes to the doctor?
People who have maybe tried things, but people who are like, OK, I definitely cannot ignore this.
A lot of times I hear from patients, they say, I don't even want to go to the doctor. Sometimes I'm like, will they
believe me? Will they think this is real? Will they actually be able to help me? Or is this really as
bad as I think it is? We tend to second guess ourselves. So who goes to the doctor? The person
who is really struggling. So if that's all your doctor ever sees, and then school told them that
like, these are the told them that like,
these are the problems that women face, this becomes the normal in which they see it through
their own lens. But in reality, it's not normal. You shouldn't be in excruciating pain. Having,
you know, acne that makes you, acne that affects your self-esteem, this is not normal. And I think
that we regard a lot of these things as being like,
oh, that's just like a normal state. Or I know someone else who had it or a family member had
it. I'll hear this about women who are like, oh, I skip my period all the time. That's normal.
Other women in my family do it. I'm like, they probably also have polycystic ovarian syndrome.
Let's work you up for that. Just so we know everyone's clear, we don't diagnose anyone
until we've actually worked them up. But that's usually what's going on when someone says that.
You're telling me you have a family history is what you're telling me, not that this is
necessarily normal just because you had an aunt or a sister or someone else who experienced it.
Do you have any advice for a woman listening who wants to go to the doctor and have a productive
conversation and feel empowered and like their own advocate?
Yeah.
Number one is track your data.
We know as humans who go to the doctor how they gaslight us.
I have certainly been there myself.
But we know from the medical research as well.
This is a phenomenon that is exclusively for women that your doctor will gaslight you about certain
problems. All doctors? No, of course not. But the best way to not second guess yourself, not to doubt
yourself, and to communicate in a way that's going to get your doctor's attention is by tracking your
symptoms and quantifying things. So rather than saying, oh, I have a heavy period, actually saying
I'm having to double up on like a super tampon and a pad, and that's only
lasting like an hour. By the way, I should mention that until this year, we never had a research
study that actually used blood to measure the absorbency of tampons and to help us quantify
all of this. They've been using things like saltwater. Like we've all been to the beach.
We know saltwater. Is that even comparable?
No, no, because anyone who bleeds,
if you've never bled, then you might not be familiar.
There is tissue present.
There's a lot more that's going on
than just a liquid, right?
You are shedding the endometrium,
the lining of your uterus as well.
And so it's not, and it raises the question
of have we actually been quantifying heavy bleeding accurately
and have too many women been dismissed and too many women fallen through the cracks with
all of this?
But, you know, back to the point is that you can be saying, like, I'm changing, you know,
my menstrual cup every couple of hours.
That's the kind of thing that's going to get your doctor's attention.
I am already taking ibuprofen.
It doesn't touch the pain. I'm doing
it every six to eight hours and I still have a hot water bottle and I can't leave my house for two
days. That's going to make your doctor pause rather than because a lot of times I'll hear
from patients who are like, well, I already told my doctor I have heavy periods or I have painful
periods. And they said, yeah, that's what it's like. This is not the way things should be. And
this is exactly why conditions like
endometriosis can take like a decade before somebody actually gets the diagnosis and then
starts getting help for it let's say the doctor does listen i feel like oftentimes the solution
is the pill the magic pill when did this start becoming the solution and why oh there's like
such a interesting history with the pill. A lot
of people don't even know that it was developed on the island of Puerto Rico under the guise that
it was, well, here's what everyone should know. Let me back up. So Puerto Rico was facing some
of the highest sterilization rates. If you had two babies, someone would show up at your house
and basically be like, you need to get sterilized now. There was non-consensual sterilization happening so
that nobody was consenting or understanding. Sometimes they were told it was reversible.
It wasn't. It was irreversible sterilization. So they brought in the pill and they brought
in the pill trials and they're like, this will be the solution for you. You'll no longer have to,
you know, be forced sterilized and we can use the pill they did
these trials they didn't tell women that it was an experiment they didn't even really document
and report the deaths that happened they basically used and abused the women of Puerto Rico telling
them that they would have this solution once they got to a place where they could get it approved
they then made it so expensive the women of Puerto Rico couldn't afford it. Okay, this is back in the 50s. And by the time we get to the 70s, the
Puerto Rican women suffered the highest rate of forced sterilization, of sterilization altogether
of anywhere in the world. And so this is just an important history to understand is that really
it was eugenicists and people like Margaret
Sanger, who everyone's like, she's like this queen feminist. I'm like, oh, I hate to break it to you.
But she totally used brown bodies to bring this medicine to white women and to control the
populations of anyone that she saw as undesirable. So that's the history of the pill. And we needed it because abortions were
happening in unclean ways. Women were dying and women couldn't really take control of their future.
So it should have been done better. We have it now. We started graduating college at a higher
rate. We started being able to advance in our careers. There's a lot of good that came out of
it as well. But then, you know, so pharmaceutical companies were like, hey, all you have to have is ovaries.
You don't have to have a diagnosable condition and we can market you this drug.
That's a lot of money.
That's like 50% of the population.
Then they started to go further with it for treatments of PMS, PMDD.
So Yasmin came under a lawsuit because it was approved for PMDD, not PMS, PMDD. So Yasmin came under a lawsuit because it was approved for PMDD, not PMS,
but they went ahead and marketed it anyways. They talk all about this and be on the pill.
But that's really when we saw it start to take hold and become the solution of basically you
go to the doctor and all the things that you've already said, you say, okay, I've got anything
that would be period problems or lady part problems.
And they ask a question.
Do you want a baby?
Yes or no?
You say, yes, we're going to work you up.
We're going to figure it out.
Like, let's get you pregnant.
You say, no.
They say, here's the pill.
If and when you ever want a baby,
we'll figure it out then.
You ask the question, well, hey,
if I want to get pregnant in the future, can I?
How old are you?
You might be 14, 15, maybe in your 20s.
And they're going to say, you can get pregnant as soon as you come off.
Except the way that we use the pill now, a lot of us are spacing our pregnancies a lot
later in life.
So I had my first child in my early 30s, my second child at 40.
The average woman that's over 35 thinking, oh, I'll just come off the pill and I
can get pregnant right away, she's not going to get pregnant right away. And that's not necessarily
a pill problem specific as much as it is related to age or even worse and very common, the medical
condition that was underlying this all along that was never treated, never worked up, things like
polycystic ovarian syndrome, so PCOS and endometriosis, which are leading causes of infertility. So she was given the pill,
maybe it made some symptoms better, but it never addressed what was going on. And she had no idea
until she comes off the pill, she can't get pregnant after six months to a year of trying.
And now she's finding out you've actually had this condition the whole time.
I think so many women are experiencing this, myself included. I was on the pill for
on and off for 10 years maybe and came off a year ago, lost my period for a whole year.
I want to have kids and I was panicking. I was like, am I ever going to get my period back?
I was going to fertility doctors. Luckily, through a lot of hard work with a naturopath, I did get it back. I know so many women who are either learning about
the harmful effects of the pill and wanting to come off or just deciding they're ready to get
pregnant and they can't. And infertility rates are through the roof. I think this is a huge topic at
the moment. What is actually happening to our hormones when we take the pill?
Yeah. You never get the like behind the scenes, like pull the hood back and like,
what is actually happening? So nothing. Honestly, nothing is happening with your
ovaries while you're on the pill if you're taking it daily and it works. So how the pill works
is it stops your brain hormones from communicating to your ovaries. So if the brain never signals to the ovaries,
the ovaries never spike estrogen.
So you ovulate.
Okay, good.
We can't get pregnant.
But you never get that flow of estrogen up and down.
You never get the rise of progesterone.
You get no progesterone, really, because the pill has progestin.
And if you don't ovulate, you don't make progesterone.
The only way to progesterone is through ovulation.
And we don't actually know.
It's a big void right now in the research.
What happens if you start the pill at 14
and you continue until 44
and you never bathed in your own progesterone?
We actually don't know.
There's a lot of doctors who are like,
it's fine and you don't need ovulation. So doctors will also compare us to our male counterparts.
And they're like, well, they don't ovulate and you don't ovulate when you're postmenopausal.
And so like, it doesn't matter. We actually don't know. And we do know that progesterone
is really crucial for brain health, for bone health, for cardiovascular health. I mean, it plays a lot of roles in our body. So I'm not saying that I know for sure this is bad.
I'm saying I don't know. And that's, I think, a big problem with conversations around the pill
is the lack of knowledge that we have, but even more so the inability to acknowledge that it's
a question mark. We don't know right now now and that's how a lot of medicine is and
that can feel scary but it is the reality that we don't know everything we're constantly learning
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So I have a good friend who just ended a relationship because she came off the pill and was like, oh, I don't really, I'm not vibing with him anymore. What is that?
I had this experience as well, which is anecdotal. And a lot of these stories are anecdotal,
but I feel like we're never going to get the science we need if we don't start listening
to women more, believing their stories and just being curious about what is this. So I do talk about in Beyond the Pill,
this phenomenon that can happen
where you are picking up on the scent of your partner
and that's telling you a bit
about their genetic compatibility.
So via this MHC complex that you can pick up on,
you basically know like,
could we mate together on a primal level?
So it's not the end all be all,
just so people know. There's more to relationships. So there is some research to show that
mate selection can differ. You know, there has been research to show that men are more attracted
to women during their ovulatory stage. So there is this appearance component and there is this,
like, what we smell, what we pick up on, what we are just animals at the end of the day. And there have been several studies showing that
while you're on the pill, you may be attracted to men who have more feminine features. Now,
this is where like in this modern time, people get really upset because they're like,
how dare you say that's a feminine feature and that's not
masculine? And what does that mean? And I'm like, I can only talk about the research. I didn't do
the research. But we do know that higher testosterone levels, adequate testosterone,
it is going to be associated with more masculine features. So the way the jaw structure is,
the way that you appear is signaling what your hormones are like. So as I said, women around ovulation,
lips are plumper, less fine lines and wrinkles. We look more vibrant. We look fertile, so to speak,
and attractive. And that's just biology doing what it does and being like, you know, there's the birds
that have their beautiful feathers and do their little dance. We have our own thing going on with
our hormones. So back to these other studies,
what they found is that if you're on the pill,
you may be selecting for a mate that has more feminine features,
more feminine male features.
And if you're off the pill, more masculine features.
And so this is just, you know, we've got this data.
This is not going to be true for everyone,
but it does raise the question of,
is there something to this? Whether it is the genetic compatibility that we are sensing.
And, you know, I talk about in the book how it's like some researchers have said it's like you're
attracted to more somebody who's like your cousin while you're on the pill. I know that sounds ick.
Oh, my God. But the hypothesis is, is that being on the pill and being on these hormones and not ovulating
may make you want to be closer to families.
This would be, you know, from like back in the day, living in like caves or on the plains
that we would actually want to be with our tribe closer to our people and not exploring
other like other other genetic variabilities out there that could potentially be a threat. So there might be a
mechanism there to that. So there's been scent tests. There has been visual cues. There have been
all of these things to show us that potentially you may be attracted to somebody while you're
on the pill and then no longer be attracted when you come off the pill, which is pretty scary to us.
And I talk you know,
talk about a patient story. I've had many patients who have told me this story. And it's usually like,
okay, you're going to think I'm crazy, but let me tell you. And, you know, I don't usually tell my
patients like, oh, I had that experience as well, because I did. I was on the pill. I actually
wasn't on the pill. I had met this guy, wasn't really attracted to him at all. Then I got on the pill, ended up, you know, finding myself attracted.
Like my logical self is like, why?
Like you were not into him.
Like what is going on now?
And then, you know, the rest of myself was like, ah, just go with it kind of thing.
And when I came off the pill, I'm like, no, definitely 100% not actually attracted to
this person anymore.
And so again, that's just anecdotal.
And that's my experience. I'm also the person who had like yeast infections and headaches and
migraines and, you know, depression and issues with certain formulations of the pill. I still
did it for 10 years, though, because I wanted to become a doctor. And it was a tool for that,
just all the while thinking my body was broken. Speaking of which, if someone wants to
prevent pregnancy or even monitor symptoms they may be having but want to take a more natural
route, what do you recommend? Because I've seen women lately using Natural Cycles app with their
aura ring. I saw that the second you walked in. I have one too. So what do you recommend for a
natural birth control?
Yeah, so it's not going to work for everyone.
The best birth control is the one that achieves your goals,
works for you and has the least amount of side effects.
If you do not do fertility awareness correctly,
the side effect is getting pregnant.
You've got to be okay with that.
And so that's what the aura
with natural cycles integration is,
is one component of fertility awareness method so
for fertility awareness method to work you need not just the temperature and this is the thing
to understand for anyone who wants to do this same time every day understand that if you travel if
you get sick like these kinds of temperature changes can affect your cycle and that data tracking.
So we want to look at temperature and we want to look at symptoms.
So with fertility awareness method, that's what FAM.
So beyond the pill, I talk through FAM.
In is this normal?
I actually go through like checkpoints of like, am I ovulating?
That can help you with FAM.
It also can help you get pregnant.
And I basically say like, if you want to dodge pregnancy or you want to get pregnant,
this is good to know. So looking for fertile cervical mucus. And I basically say, like, if you want to dodge pregnancy or you want to get pregnant, this is good to know.
So looking for fertile cervical mucus, am I in the mood?
Am I interested in my partner?
That's a pretty good sign that we're nearing ovulation.
And so we can take these collections of signs that we have that we are going to ovulate
along with the temperature data to dial that in. And then understand that while you only ovulate one day and you've got 24 hours for sperm
and egg to meet, that's it for you.
Your uterus will tend, so your anatomy is set up to tend to sperm and keep them alive
for about five days.
So that means you've got a six-day fertile window.
Now, whenever I hear people say like, well, I used FAM and I got pregnant,
I ask more questions. And it usually comes down to, I used FAM, but then I used a pullout method
when I knew I was in my fertile window. The pullout method is about 20% failure. So that's
huge. That's a lot of people getting pregnant. About one in five will get pregnant. So you
weren't really using FAM. You were actually using the pull-out method with like a little hack to know that you had to pull out during that
window. But still, that is not what FAM is. With that, you have to abstain from sex in any kind of
sex where sperm could be introduced into the vagina. Is this normal has a whole lot of other
things that you can do that are still considered sex and a good time, and you can orgasm or have pleasure. But if you do want to have penetrative
sex, you need to use a condom. You need to have a barrier. You need to have some kind of backup
method. Otherwise, this is not truly using FAM. So that's just important to know. The other
non-hormonal option that we have is the copper IUD. It's like 99.9%
effective, hugely effective. Someone will comment, I got pregnant, or I know someone who did. I
actually have a colleague of mine that his wife, he's like, we got that copper IUD, like we're
done. And then his wife got pregnant and he's like, who gets pregnant with the copper IUD?
It's always the like, you know, Jurassic Park moment where they're like, life finds a way.
It does sometimes.
So just know that if you're messing around with sperm and you are a fertile individual,
every single method has failure rates.
And so that's important to be aware of.
So we have the copper IUD.
We have fertility awareness method, which I think is just great for getting to know
your body, even if you have a copper IUD. And then we have barrier methods. So condoms, diaphragm,
if you can get a diaphragm, they're hard to come by these days. But barrier methods are for everyone
who's in a new relationship who hasn't had STI testing or is in a non-monogamous relationship
as well. So growing up, I personally never had the period talk, the sex talk. So that created a lot
of shame for me when I did eventually get my period. I was embarrassed, confused. I was like
stealing tampons from my mom. Smuggling them up your sleeve. Literally, I felt like what's wrong
with me? And I was super ashamed even through puberty.
And that rolled over into my adult life.
I really only learned about my cycles within the past year.
And I think a lot of women can relate to that.
Do you have advice for anyone listening who wants to have a conversation with their daughter,
their sister, whoever it may be, and empower that person?
Yeah.
So that's exactly why I wrote Is This Normal?
Is that these questions like that are coming up,
these are the things we all should have been taught before we even got our period.
And so what I've told moms, because they asked me like,
I have a 10-year-old.
I think she's going to start a period, you know, in a year or two.
So if you see breast buds, odds are period's coming in the next two years.
Like, should I just give her your book?
No, you should read the book.
You should be the expert in your household.
You should take ownership of that knowledge and teach her that.
And you can give her the book and you guys can do a little read party.
I do know several people who are like, I'm reading your book to my daughter at night
as she's going to bed and like we're having conversations.
That's a great way to use the tool. But I want you to be the authority in your house. Why that's important
is because if you're not, Google, they're friends. Some random TV show is going to teach them the
things that, I mean, the incorrect things a lot of the time that you could have had an opportunity
to teach them. And it is a way to build trust so that if something goes wrong, they'll immediately come to you. That's really
the goal. I mean, I'm a parent. I'm a parent to boys. And yet, I mean, my boy who's 10,
he can tell you all about the menstrual cycle. Like he can tell you he's very body literate
about all bodies. And I my goal is always, if there is anything, I'm the one
to come to. Come to me first. Like, you're never going to be in trouble. You're not going to be
shamed. If I do ever make you feel bad in a response, you tell me. You make me own it. Like,
I'm trying to cultivate that kind of relationship. Because in four years, he's going to be 14.
And as they become teenagers, that is when it is time to experiment.
It is time to try things.
They are inherently little scientists.
You want them to be in that controlled environment where it's safe.
Like they're in the lab doing their experiment instead of a field blowing stuff up, right?
Like, so we've got the controlled environment.
Not that I'm trying to control him, but that it is, there is a net there to catch him. So if he makes the wrong decision, if he does something that he thought was a wise choice,
and in retrospect, it's not, I'm the person that he can come to. And that's what I want to see for
parents when it comes to reproductive health, because that is part of sexual health. And if
we look to the research out of Amsterdam and Germany, they changed their sex ed.
It is required.
They start with talking about consent at a very young age.
They are just very sex positive, body positive, and not shaming.
These children are, well, in their teens, this is how you know I'm old because I'm like
these children.
I'm like, well, they're young adults, really.
They actually delay sex.
So their first encounter is delaying.
They tend to be monogamous.
They report their first time as being fun.
They tell their parents about it.
In the U.S., most of the time you ask somebody about their first time, they regret it.
They felt pressured into it.
They didn't understand, like, the nuances. You ask them about sex ed, they're like, banana and condom, period, suck.
Like, I don't really know anything about it. And yet we have these countries that have changed
everything. We've had an entire cohort who are now young adults go through it and less STIs,
less teen pregnancies. I mean, all of the good that we want. But also, back to your question, very positive relationship with their parents when it comes to sex,
their reproductive health, their periods, their bodies, all the things that they experience
through those pubescent years and into adulthood. I think I was given the American Girl doll book.
Do you remember that one? No, I was never given any,
but my parents gave me
What to Expect When You're Expecting,
which had like this short,
and by parents, I mean mom,
and by gave me, I mean I found it on my bed one day.
And there was like this,
like this is how breasts form.
And I'm like, okay, yeah, weird.
I don't know where, I'm like in the mirror.
I'm like, where am I?
And will they
get that big or is there you know and this is also I talk about there's a whole breast chapter
and is this normal of like growing up in the age of Pam Anderson and like honey you do you
no judges but like oh my god Baywatch did you mess with my mind like I'm like oh my god that
what is why am I I'm just waiting like when in? Yeah. My, the book I was given was the same thing. And I love the fact that you're encouraging parents to read it first because just being given a book as a 12 year old, you're like, yeah, what is this? It makes you feel more weird, if anything. Yeah. So I love that. And I love that you have this new book now. Is this normal? Because I think that's going to be so helpful for so many people.
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phase right now myself included and there's a lot of negative bounce back that comes with coming off
oh yeah what can we do to help with that process yeah you know what's crazy is there's like the
negative bounce back in your body and then there's the negative bounce back of anyone you tell where doctors are like, oh,
I'll see you when you're pregnant. Or other people are like, this is like women like fought for this
and this is our right. And you are not a feminist unless you're on the pill. And I'm like, this is
so weird. Can people just like make their individual choice and it be theirs? And we'd be
like, good job. You made a decision for yourself.
How can I support you?
So let's talk about coming off the pill because this is the information that I never got when
I was on it, when I told my doctor I wanted to come off of it that I don't think a lot
of us.
I mean, we're just told you'll come off and it'll be fine and then it's not fine.
So I have definitely, I'm not saying this lightly, it feels like some pill PTSD. So I'm
going through IVF and I shared this on YouTube that I had to go on the pill and I only did it
for 10 days, but my God, my mood completely tanked. I was crying, depressed, but also raging
and gaslighting myself being like, it can't happen this fast. This is just because, and I'm like, I can already hear haters online being like, oh,
this is just because you like wrote a book about it. And I'm like doing this to myself. And then
I'm like, am I gaslighting myself? And like going through all of this. And my husband's like,
dude, you got to get off that pill because you are not happy. You are not yourself. And I'm like,
thank you. Okay. Like needed to hear that because I was wondering. So,
and then I developed cystic acne again. So when I came off the pill initially and everyone can
see my skin, I do not struggle with acne. It's beautiful. Thank you. Yes. I do a lot to take
care of it, but I came off the pill. I lost my period for the first time in my life. My period had gone missing, besides from being on the pill.
And I developed cystic acne.
And it was getting really bad.
People had asked me before, like,
oh, do you have any pictures from that time?
I'm like, literally none.
Because why would you take a photo?
I would not allow people to take photos.
This time around, I've been so open on social media
that I just showed people.
So I had to go on the pill twice with IVF
and both times cystic acne along my jawline.
And what I was told when I came off the pill is that I just had PCOS.
So my doctor's like, oh, you had PCOS.
I'm like, no.
And he's like, yeah, that's why you have acne and your period's gone.
I'm like, no, but I never had acne and I always had a period.
So no.
And I've done lots of testing. I don't have elevated
androgens. I do not have these PCOS pictures. And yet, even now with the pill, I experience those
coming off and having that rebound of androgens. So that is usually why I bring that up. That is
one of the top things that will drive women back on the pill. Because when your skin starts to freak out and you're getting acne, that is so horrific. Like in terms of your self-esteem, in terms of like
you start trying everything, you are devoting so much mental energy to it. And I'm fortunate that
being in my 40s now and knowing what I know, I see cystic acne and I'm like, I got you. I know.
I know what we're going to do here and we're prepped for that. So there's the acne component. There is the missing
period. So on average, women will come off the pill and not see their period return for like
three months. And that's considered normal. It could take three months. If you have PCOS or you
went on the pill because you had irregular periods, we can expect six months until your period comes back.
Something like the Depo-Provera shot could be 18 months.
So it's just important to know
if you want to plan a baby in the future.
And so for me though, as a doctor,
if somebody's period hasn't come back,
I'm like, let's just start working on that now.
Let's just start working on those components now.
So we've got the missing periods.
We've got the acne.
We've got new emotions.
Or maybe you were depressed on the pill and that continues.
So there's a lot of systems that are affected by the pill.
It's so funny to me how doctors are like,
no, it just affects your reproductive system.
I'm like, except your hormones affect every system in your body.
But somehow the pill is magical and isolated.
It just is baffling to me.
No, it could never affect your mood, really, because it actually operates at the brain level.
And natural cycling hormones affect your mood. And you'll prescribe it when their cyclical mood
changes to affect their mood. And I just want to say, not everybody's experience is going to be
the same. But what I experienced, I thought I was alone.
I thought I was a freak.
I thought there was something wrong with me.
My period did come back.
It was so horrific.
It was so heavy.
I had the wildest PMS.
And I just kept feeling like my doctor isn't helping me.
They're not believing me.
And it must just be me.
Fortunately, I was in naturopathic medical school.
I already had a background in nutrition science.
I was like, let me hackic medical school. I already had a background in nutrition science. I was like,
let me hack this. Let me figure this out. And it was once I got into practicing with patients
that so many women had a similar story. And there were women who would call my office and be like,
okay, I want to schedule an appointment because I heard this is the doctor who believes women
about their birth control. And I was like, what a bizarre thing.
And we would actually have, and we do have like patient intakes that they would say when I'm like,
how do you think I can help you? I think you'll actually believe me when I tell you about my
birth control experience. And I'm like, the fact that so many doctors were not believing women and
still are not believing women. So what do we do? So I've talked a lot about like, okay, what can
happen? And this is what a lot of experts have termed post-birth control syndrome, which is just like
this collection of signs and symptoms. Now it can be brand new things or it can be things that you
are covering up. So if you had acne, it's coming back. If you had horrible periods, they're coming
back unless you do things to prep. So if you went on the pill for symptoms, like 58% of women do,
let's give us three months
to really prep your body.
And that's the whole protocol.
Everything is in Beyond the Pill.
Some people have been like, oh, I have to get your 30-day program now.
I'm like, no, no, it's all in the book.
Literally everything you need, you can do that.
So we want to prep your body for three months.
And if you're someone who's like, no, I just started it for pregnancy prevention.
I have no prevention. I have
no problems. I don't think I'll have problems. Let's have you come off and go right into the
program. And so what the program encompasses is looking at the different systems, the different
ways the pill affects your body, and then working on that. So number one is if you're going to stay
on the pill, get on a prenatal or a multivitamin because you are depleting nutrients by taking that
medication. It is one of many
medications that deplete nutrients out there. And if you're on any of those other medications,
your doctor would be like, yes, yeah, if you're on statins, let's take CoQ10. If you're on
metformin, let's get you some B12. If you're on the pill, doctors are like, just eat your standard
diet. I'm like, the standard American diet, the one that's devoid of nutrients, the one that you
have absolutely no education in whatsoever.
Like send them to a dietician, please.
Like somebody who's actually an expert in nutrition because it is not you.
So nutrient-dense diet, prenatal or multivitamin on top of that. Because it's very hard to out-eat what is happening while you are on the pill.
So losing B vitamins like folate, B12, magnesium.
Like you're magnesium deficient. Here come the headaches.
Here comes the twitching eye. Here comes painful periods when those come back. So we want to make
sure that we're replenishing nutrient stores. We got to work on the metabolic health. So for some
women, they take the pill. They're C-reactive protein. Inflammatory marker goes up. They can
be inflamed. And it can also affect insulin. So we
want to, again, go back to nutrition, eating an anti-inflammatory diet, and making sure that we're
eating protein, fiber, fat at every single meal. There's not a book I have that doesn't talk about
that because it's so essential for maintaining our blood sugar. So that's the metabolic component.
We've got to take care of gut health and the liver. So these two systems are how we process estrogen we no longer need, whether it's
exogenous, so outside of us, or the stuff we make. And then we move it out of our body. Also through
the kidneys. So we got to drink water. But the pill has been shown to mess with our microbiome.
And some research has compared it to antibiotics in terms
of its ability to disrupt the microbiome so that is because well you take this pill and it's a big
dose of hormones it's not like a huge dose compared to the early iterations but it's big enough that
it shuts down brain ovarian communication that has to be processed by the liver and the nutrients
that are being depleted the liver also needs to be able to detoxify.
And this is not that like,
oh, you have to do like this radical detox
to get the pill out.
You have to support the system
that is already set up in your body to do that.
But even as you digest that pill, absorb it,
not all of it is going to end up absorbed.
So it's going to make its way to the large intestine.
And we have not done extensive research to understand what is the impact of these hormones
and their metabolites on the microbiome that lives there.
So we, again, going back to the fiber,
we want to consider probiotics.
We want to make sure that we are eating in a way
that nourishes our gut,
supplies our liver with the ability to detox,
and is also going to be something that works with our gut, supplies our liver with the ability to detox, and is also going to be
something that works with our system. So I say that because if somebody jumps to like 25 grams
of fiber right now, that might not work for them. That's the ideal, the goal, what we want to work
towards, but you have to start slow usually. And so while I'm like, eat more cruciferous vegetables,
that might be like cook your cruciferous vegetables, that might be like,
cook your cruciferous vegetables, make sure that you can get them digestible and working your way up with those so that it's not an abrupt change. I think like, do you have a dog?
Of course.
Yeah, of course. We can hear it right now.
I'm not a psycho. I have a dog. Yeah. So like I explain to people like whenever they have pets, I'm like, you know how like
you can't just switch your dog's food?
Yeah.
And they're like, yeah, yeah.
Okay.
So it's same with you.
Like if you've been eating like, you know, three to five grams of fiber every day, I
can't just be like, okay, now I'm going to have you eat nothing but plants.
Like, and I, it's always something like people will be like, oh, I went plant-based and I
felt awful.
But they said that's part of the process.
I'm detoxing.
I'm like, you switch the system too fast.
Like your body needs time to adapt to that.
So I've given a few tips,
but I want to make sure like if you have questions,
because it's a huge topic and I could,
you know, wrote a whole book on it.
I could talk a ton about it.
I want to ask you specifically about seed cycling.
Oh yeah.
Because I know you speak about this
and I've heard mixed reviews.
Some people love it.
Some people hate it.
Why do they hate it?
I've just heard people say it didn't do anything for them.
And I've kind of been looking into it for myself.
Yeah.
I'd love to understand how it works and how you think it impacts the hormones.
Yeah.
Okay.
So I have been seed cycling forever.
Gosh, I think for like 12 years now,
I love seed cycling. It's a great way to be very aware and bring awareness to your cycle, but
it's also like bringing in fiber, bringing in nutrients and just working with you where you're
at. So whenever people say it didn't work for me, this is why. It is not a cure or a fix or the one thing.
It is something that is beneficial, that can be an adjunctive therapy that you can bring
in.
What is seed cycling?
Okay, so seed cycling is you're going to track your cycle, eat certain seeds at certain times
a month.
So when it comes to menstruation through ovulation,
and if you don't have a period or you're like postmenopausal, you know, whatever reason you
don't have a period, you go new moon to full moon because the moon cycle is roughly about 29 days.
And our cycles are roughly like 20, 29, 30 days, like somewhere in that range. So
what we do is we eat fresh ground flax seeds and we are
going to eat pumpkin seeds at the beginning, one to two tablespoons of each. And I say fresh ground,
but I honestly just like pre-grind like a week's worth and stick it in the freezer
and blend them together and then just do two tablespoons of each so I don't have to think
about it. And then once you ovulate, we switch over and that's going to be sesame and sunflower
seeds. Now the sesame and the flax seeds both have to be ground because you're not a cow and
you can't digest them. And so that's the way we're going to get at those nutrients. And so those are
going to provide you nutrients. And I go into detail of the science we have and the science
we don't have around this on my website at drbrighton.com. But at the beginning of your cycle, we're supporting estrogen levels, but we also have
fibers in there that are going to make it so that your estrogen is not spiking. People are always
like flaxseed will make my estrogen so high. It will not in fact do that. It is all working with
your system to help encourage the balance of those. We're going to get omega-3 fatty acids.
We're going to be in minerals and nutrients that are specific to supporting estrogen in the follicular phase
and progesterone in the luteal phase. And the whole time we are supporting testosterone levels,
which is why I think that is in part why it can help women with PCOS so much. And we actually
are seeing new research coming out showing, and there's been several studies showing that PCOS so much. And we actually are seeing new research coming out showing, and there's been
several studies showing that PCOS is one of those conditions that can be affected positively from
seed cycling. Now, again, it's not going to be the only thing you do with PCOS, but it is one
of the many things that we can employ outside of pharmaceuticals or with pharmaceuticals,
which is what I always love, is like, let's take the buffet and let's
figure out what works for you. But, you know, for example, if you have polycystic ovarian syndrome
and you're not exercising and you're not, you know, you don't even have to have a condition.
You're not exercising. You're not sleeping. You are, you know, abusing your body in terms of what
I call metabolic obscenities, where you're like, I'm binging on sugar for breakfast
and then like just guzzling black coffee.
And it's like, you're literally cussing at your body
and your whole metabolism.
Like you can't seed cycle your way out of that.
It has to be added in addition.
It's just like supplements.
Like you can't just out supplement
a poor diet and lifestyle.
They have to be in addition to the foundation
that's already there.
So with seed cycling,
though, I will say that like I say that and then somebody is going to comment like, oh, no, but
like I added that and then my acne went away. I've had so many patients who are like, I added that
and I got pregnant. And I'm like, that's not supposed to be possible. They were already doing
all of the things. So I'm a big fan of seed cycling it was actually
my mentor who taught me about it in medical school well so long ago and he wrote a book about it like
20 plus years ago uh his name is dr dixon tom and that's where i learned about seed cycling so
because i've talked about it so much people are like oh she created seed cycling i'm like no
like you are the queen of seed
cycling. I do talk about it a lot and I have been doing it forever. Okay, amazing. I think I want to
try that, actually. I've done the ground pumpkin seeds, but I haven't tried the others or in a
cycle. So good to know. I've heard you say that 90% of women have struggled with hormonal issues
at some point in their life. Yeah. Why do you think
it's so rampant today? And was it this way a hundred years ago? Yeah, I doubt it was this way
a hundred years ago. I don't have any data to support that, but why I doubt it is because our
food was coming closer from the source. We were eating more whole foods. We were obeying like the
laws of nature, like get up with the sun and go to bed with the,
you know, sun. And, you know, there was just a lot of things we were doing differently,
but life was also harder then. And, you know, in this whole evolution of the last hundred years,
there wasn't Google and there wasn't this awareness. And there was probably the acceptance
that some things were just normal and awful and horrible. So I think that what we face now,
we are much more aware of it.
And rather than bowing down to the white coat,
which I feel like has been a really like a mantra
that's been put through our society of like,
if you're a woman, just respect what the white coat says.
And I'm like, if you're a woman or a human,
be a troublemaker and question everything.
Question if it's true for you.
Question every single treatment that you are offered and really make sure you're comfortable
in understanding that treatment and going forward with it.
So there's the whole piece of like, we are definitely more aware of it now, but never
have we ever lived in a more toxic environment as humans.
And this is just something that like, I still am appalled by practitioners who are like,
it's really not that bad. Don't scare people about environmental toxins. I'm like, have you
not read about forever chemicals? And why the hell in like the 20 years I have spent in health and
wellness, does everybody wait until it's so freaking bad? We can't ignore it to be like,
okay, maybe we should talk about it. But nobody goes, and maybe we were wrong. Like maybe we were
wrong in telling women like not to worry about what they're putting on their skin. So we've got that component. And let me just
say that like we knew from animal studies far before we started talking about in humans that
these chemicals we have in our home are problematic. So the veterinarians had in their research that
dogs were getting Hashimoto's hypothyroidism
and cats getting Graves' disease, hyperthyroidism, due to flame retardants.
Okay, those are our canaries in our home.
And if people are not familiar with that analogy,
you send a canary into a mine to see if it comes back or not.
These are our canaries, and they are struggling.
So these flame retardants that we're getting exposed to are affecting our thyroid.
There are the chemicals that we come into contact.
I mean, I'm wearing makeup right now.
Have I done my due diligence in researching and trying to get the best?
Yes.
Does that mean the company didn't sneak it in?
No.
Does that mean the FDA didn't look the other way on something?
Or like, no.
Like, no.
Like, we do the best we can.
But we have to understand that
through that, through our water supply, I mean, even through like there was just a train that
derailed earlier this year. Like there are all of these ways that our environment is being impacted
negatively with chemicals that are endocrine disruptors, that are known carcinogens,
and those absolutely will impact our health as well. And so we've got that.
We've got the stress that we are under.
We've got the shattering of community that is really,
I mean, we were talking before we recorded
how different it is to be in Europe with children
and how children are integrated.
In the US, it's like, you know,
you need to be an individual.
And like you, and then we wonder like,
why am I so isolated and alone?
And I'm a communal creature and yet I am so depressed. And it's like, you know I so isolated and alone? And I'm a communal creature,
and yet I am so depressed. And it's like, oh, well, that's just you. No, it's not just us.
There is definitely something going on in our society as a whole when it comes to our environment,
our community, our stress levels, our fact that we're inundated with light. I told you I'm a city
person, but the light pollution is not good for light. I told you I'm a city person,
but the light pollution is not good for us. And so there are all these variables that have been
amplified, even in just our generation's time, although I might be older than you, but even just
in our lifetime that are definitely impacting our hormones in a negative way. I think this is so
important to talk about. And I know I'm going to get comments and feedback saying I'm fear mongering. I see that all the time. Yeah. But I do think talking about this
and talking about the solution is a step in the right direction. And it doesn't have to be
scary. And I know I too get the feeling of, OK, well, what can I do right? Because,
you know, I avoid fragrances in my home. But then I come to the office and someone's got a
Yankee candle the size of a frickin, I don't know, flower pot on their desk.
Or you take an Uber, right? And you're like, what is that smell?
Air fresheners. Like you really can't avoid it in some ways, but we can in our homes.
So I want to talk to you about what do you think are the leading culprits of endocrine disruptors in our daily lives and what can we do to correct that?
Okay, great. I'm so glad you're going here because i was going to steer you right back um if you didn't
because we can't just like drop this and be like dun dun dun like environmental toxins are the worst
they are and yet you have the capacity to detoxify these things so the taking deep breaths every day
and making sure that you're drinking plenty of water,
making sure that you've got that fiber, you've got your diet dialed in, like all of these
kinds of things I talk about in Beyond the Pill castor oil packs.
Like there are different things you can do to support your body in detoxifying.
So that is step one.
You do have the ability to detoxify in the way that you care for yourself.
So understand that.
Now, the second thing is that there are very simple things
that I recommend to everyone
that will significantly reduce environmental toxins
in your home.
And two things are completely free.
First thing I tell people to do,
take off your shoes before you walk into your house.
So at the front door,
I am always showing people online
the pile of shoes
that we have. I don't care who you are. I'm telling you to take off your shoes when you come into my
house. And my kids are even like, we don't wear shoes. We don't wear shoes because everything is
getting tracked in. Right now I'm in Mexico City, which I think is like the most dog-friendly
country in the world. And so it's just really funny because my kids are like, oh, there's
definitely poop on our shoes. And I'm like, yeah, because there's a lot of dogs, you guys, a lot everywhere.
So take off your shoes, open up your windows daily if you can, but at least once a week.
Indoor air pollution, that is so significant on our health.
In fact, there have been studies showing that our air inside is more toxic than the air
outside.
So, you know, you see, you probably grew up with this.
You see this a lot in Europe.
I was living in Paris for several months in the winter.
It didn't matter.
Everybody opens up their windows.
You open up your windows, you air out your house.
So that's two free things to do
that is going to significantly reduce your exposure.
Now, the next place I like to go is like,
what are we cleaning with? Start looking
at what you're cleaning with and phase out or just throw away right away. Because especially
the surfaces that you come into contact when you're naked or when you are in the kitchen,
that's going to come into contact with your food. So looking at those surfaces, it doesn't take much. Really,
you can do vinegar, baking soda, and get by on cleaning a lot of things. And so that's the
kitchen where we start. And then we start looking at how are we storing things. Glass containers,
stainless steel, get away from plastic. Plastic is going to leach into your food, especially if
it's acidic at all. or if you microwave it.
We never want to do that.
And this doesn't have to be expensive.
People are like, oh, I have to go on Amazon
and buy all of the glass containers.
I'm like, buy mason jars.
Honestly, I store so much in mason jars
and my children break them.
And I'm like, huh, well, that was like,
yeah, that was like 98 cents.
I'm not going to cry over that
because it wasn't the like $25 glass container.
And they look cute.
They do.
I mean, I lived in Portland for like over 10 years.
And so that was like always something when I was drinking out of mason jars, people were
like, oh, that's because you're a Portlander.
I'm like, is that a thing?
Like, I don't know.
I'm like, for me, I'm like, I had an apple tree.
I grew all like my own food, like primarily like our produce.
And I'm like, we canned food and we did all kinds
of stuff. So we always had mason jars, but I'm even like, just buy spaghetti in a glass jar.
Oh God, unless you're Italian, please don't come for me. But you can just buy that and you can
just like take the label off and there you go. You've got a glass jar that you can store stuff
in totally free. Well, not totally free, but you were going to throw it out anyways. So really easy ways to start cleaning up the kitchen.
And then comes the like one we all dread, which is like personal care products.
And I think why we dread it is because when you find things that work, oh my God, you
don't want to hear that it's not good for you.
And it is just so expensive.
It is so expensive like to buy lotion and hair products. I mean, you name it.
And so this is where I say, just take an inventory and take an inventory of everything you have.
And whatever's the worst, that's the first that we phase out. We don't throw it out. We phase it out
because damn, that conditioner was expensive. Okay. So like phase it out. But what the phase
out does is it gives you time to research, to find the next, like what's
a better product.
And so you can just make a list and say, okay, this is going first.
This is where I start my research.
Okay, then this one's going to go.
This is where I start my research.
You start to run out of something.
Okay, this is an opportunity to research and find something better.
And then you dollar vote for those better products.
And by doing that dollar vote in the United States, you dollar vote for those better products. And by doing that dollar
vote in the United States, you make it so those products become more accessible, more affordable,
more available, because ultimately the companies are going to do whatever the consumer is going to
buy. And, you know, this is something that it's been a real trend, I think in the last year,
where people are like, I go to the French pharmacies and buy my
stuff. Y'all, I'll tell you, you are sleeping on the Mexican pharmacies. They got the same stuff
coming out of France, directly the same French products. But like in the summer, I just like
stocked up there because everything was like 25% off, like on top of like already discounted prices.
So I just want to like say people, if you are in the US, you don't have to go all the way to Paris. You can jump down to Mexico and hit up some of those pharmacies. But
Paris, the EU altogether, they don't allow a lot of the endocrine disruptors, the known carcinogens
in their products that the US does. So even the same brands, you will find that in the EU,
they are going to be, quote, cleaner. What does that really mean?
That means less potential to cause harm chemicals in there than what you're finding in the US.
There's also better sunscreen. Like in Asia and Europe, they're like decades ahead of the US in
terms of sunscreen. But that is just something to like look at how consumers are starting to be like,
I'd rather go to another country and buy my stuff than buy it here in the U.S. You better believe
that these companies are going to start changing. So I remember when I started dating my husband
now and organic food, he was like, it's so expensive and so ridiculous. And I'm like,
I know. And yet, like, I'm very conscious of where and so ridiculous. And I'm like, I know.
And yet, like, I'm very conscious of where I put my money.
I'm like a college student, like working and still trying to buy organic produce.
And I remember telling him, like, if we dollar vote now, you'll see organic food in all of
the groceries.
Like, it's going to change.
And he's like, I don't think that's possible.
Here we are now.
And he's like, OK, there's something to that.
I'm like, yes, like we are a consumer driven country.
And if we dollar vote, then we can have better outcomes.
So that brings me to organic food.
And people always ask, like, does it have to be organic?
Organic still has chemicals on it.
I think that's important to understand.
With organic food, the way I think about it
is that if we can lessen the pesticide burden on ourselves, that's a win. is that if we can lessen the pesticide burden
on ourselves, that's a win.
But if we can also lessen the pesticide burden on farm workers who we know are ending up
with cancer, that reproductive harm is being done.
I mean, these are other humans who are part of our society.
And so that's what I've always held in my mind as well is like it's not just about me and my body. It's also about the people who make my food so affordable and possible and so I don't have to go out and harvest all this stuff myself. Dirty Dozen is great guidelines. If you are going out to eat, friend, just enjoy yourself. Like the
best thing you can do for your health is take a note from Parisians and have more pleasure and
enjoy yourself and have less stress. Like if you're less stressed when you're eating, your
digestion is going to be better. Your detox pathways are going to be better. Everything is
going to work better. And so why I say that is because I think it's really easy to be like,
no, but like, I think like our avocado is
bad or banana is bad.
And like, I don't know what to order on the menu.
And it becomes this whole thing.
And it's like, if the majority of time at home, you are doing your best, then when you
go out, like you get a pass, you get a free pass to just live your life and enjoy yourself.
And there's absolutely no trophy.
I don't have like facts on this, but I am confident when you die,
no one hands out trophies for a perfect live life
or for never taking a pharmaceutical
or for never having, you know,
eaten like this pesticide or use this food
or, you know, or this skincare product.
Like you're not going to get a trophy.
But what you will get at the end of the life
is a big smile when you look back and be like, damn, I lived well. I was really living it.
Totally. I think there's so much to say in that. And I've been that person when I
learned about, you know, certain pesticides and endocrine disruptors out there, I became obsessed
with avoiding them. And that in itself takes away from the wellness journey because you're not in
the moment. You're not creating a memory. And I think you're so right for saying that. And for everyone listening, all you can do is your
best, really. Absolutely. And the point you made about Europe versus America is so valid. I mean,
when it comes to our food, skincare, everything, it's pretty shocking. Do you have any specific
brands in the U.S. that you lean towards when it comes to cleaning products, deodorant, skincare?
I can think of a couple, but I want to hear your thoughts. You know, this is the thing that's
always so tricky is because just because you use one product from a brand and you found that it was
a quality product and, you know, is less in terms of the toxic burden doesn't mean all of their
products are. So I say that because like people see that I've used Tarte, I think since Tarte came out. It's my eyeshadow right now and my mascara, but not all of their products are going
to be great. Like if you get really good foundations, I have one of their foundations.
It's on the, you know, less toxic spectrum, but like the other ones are like, oh, potentially
more harmful and it's a great foundation. So just know that there are limitations in these things.
So Tarte is one and Marie skincare. I do like their skincare. I think that there's a wild
deodorant. I do like their deodorant. The other thing I like is just doing a solution of essential
oils and spraying that. I found that actually reduces like odor. Nothing's stopping me from
sweating right
now under these lights. Like there's no product. No, it's the way it is. No, I'm not mad about it.
And then when it comes to cleaning products, that's where I'm always like the simpler,
the better. Watch out for green washing. So there's a lot of green washing that happens
where they're like, we're a green friendly product. And then you read it and you're like,
you lie. You lie. uh branch basics is one that
i love them gosh they've got like their their version of like oxyclean is like an enzyme oh
my god what it doesn't get i'm like it got period blood out like you are like you're amazing right
that's the thing right they sponsor the show and i'm i love them and i love the fact that they send
various glass bottles and then all you do is mix the
powder and the liquid together and it's like super effective absolutely also love Primally Pure I
don't know oh yes yes the deodorant and tallow yeah I actually have Primally Pure I loved it in
Mexico I had to travel with the little tiny wild one I mean not everybody's gonna like animal
products on them but so nourishing especially like I have psoriasis that I have in remission,
but it flared when I had my son, which is common. So everyone knows if you have autoimmunity,
it's very common to flare postpartum. You didn't do anything wrong. It's just your immune system
coming back into action. But their tallow was helpful. And also Quell, which is Q-U-E-L-L.
Their zinc barrier works really well for eczema and psoriasis.
And also as a diaper bomb.
Yeah.
So I'm like, oh, two for one.
Oh, we love that.
Yeah.
How are these endocrine disruptors affecting fertility?
Not just in women, because I know men's infertility rates are through the roof as well.
Yeah.
I feel like it always lands on women.
It does.
So is somebody going through fertility treatments right now, if you, for people who are like, wait, what?
Okay. I had a baby, my last baby at 40. I got pregnant then at 41, four times and miscarried.
I can get pregnant every time I try, boom, pregnant. I cannot maintain the pregnancy due
to the embryos not developing correctly due
to genetics. That is why my husband and I opted to go through IVF, which is make the embryos
outside of me, which is just like such a weird concept that we do, and test them so that
genetically I can pick the viable embryo and not go through the heartache of repeat miscarriages.
So that is why I'm going through IVF.
And I have just like, seriously, I feel like I've hacked it. We could have a whole episode about
like how much I've hacked, like not having side effects, like, you know, recovering all of it.
But with that, I think it's so important that we have these advanced reproductive technologies
because so many women are struggling. And as you go through this journey, if you are struggling with infertility, you absolutely get the finger
pointed at you because you have ovaries. And in part, that is because you are the seed and the
soil. You are the egg and the place where the egg and sperm meet, the embryo develops, and you get a
baby. However, as we've understood through the research, I it's always been like we're just going to
look at like the motility and the morphology of the sperm and how many do you have so motility is
like it's not just like are they moving it's like are they spinning in circles like in the corner
and you're like what are you doing dude like are you actually going the direction you should
the morphology you're the sperm head has to be correct If it's not or you've got two, we've got a problem.
And that is all that's been looked at.
Now we're understanding through, for the research that there's DNA fragmentation to where there
can be the male component contributing to genetic issues.
And forever it was like, women, you get old and you can't have babies, but we can have
babies forever.
Research has shown that there can be problems the older the sperm is. And so there's all of those components that like,
yes, the male factor matters. I mean, it's 50%-ish of the equation. I mean, it takes 50% to put it
together, but it's, you know, in terms of getting to a live baby, we are doing a lot more. However, what we are now seeing through the research is a decline
in the number of sperm that men have. So the actual count. And not all of those are going to
be good, even if you're the healthiest person. So some estimates say that men today have about
50% of the sperm that their grandfathers did. And we are seeing more abnormalities. And the
big reason why epidemiologists believe
this is happening is because of environmental toxins. If we go back to animal data again,
we have seen that animals in captivity, so in zoos who are exposed to BPA, for example,
in like their pool liners and the water that they're drinking, they have abnormalities in
their sperm. They have issues reproducing. And so this is just important for people to understand is that all of these things
do have an impact, which is why it's like if you are starting to freak out right now, back it up,
go back to like what I said before about the things that you can do, because those are the
exact things that are going to help improve fertility as well as looking at like what else
could be going on for you. But men are definitely impacted by environmental toxins. So endocrine disruptors, these are
things that disrupt your hormones. There is the potential that EMFs are playing a role. So keeping
your cell phone in your pocket, laptop on your lap. And then there are the things that we know
and we've always known, but it's 2023. And as a doctor, I'm like, am I still telling people they shouldn't smoke? Like, is that still a thing? Yeah, it's still a thing. So like cigarette
smoke, high alcohol consumption, people that live in certain states enjoying a little too much
cannabis, that can also be problematic. And so there's a lot of variables that come into this
and why there's so much emphasis, I believe right now about the environmental toxins
on fertility is because of how it's impacting men. And it's much easier to look at that than it is
to look at women. And I know as somebody in my forties going, you know, into these fertility
treatments, everything is just like, well, because of your age, because of your age, because of your
age. I have gone through three egg retrievals and I've improved each round with this recent round,
us getting eight embryos, which is insane at my age. Like getting four is like, oh my God,
like amazing. And that's due to having a healthy hormone lifestyle. Yes. That in like, and I've
like talked about this on my YouTube, just the different things and components that I've brought in as I've learned more.
And because like IVF is such a trial and error.
It is like such a maddening process, I think, because we feel like science and medicine
should be like, this is the protocol.
And yet everybody responds differently.
And there are things that you can introduce that can absolutely impact outcomes.
But I will say my doctor actually
before I flew here just a couple days ago, he was like, you know, we were talking about like,
are we like, what are we going to do going forward? And he's like, listen, like, I just
want you to know that you're just really lucky. Oh, every time they talk about luck, it just like
guts me. You're just really lucky because at your age, like most women don't have as good of
outcomes as you and you have so many eggs and like that all is done they're just talking and he's
like you're just so lucky i'm like can we just like for a moment thank my 20 something year old
self who was studying nutrition and decided to start eating six to nine servings of vegetables
a day and like can we just take a moment to like appreciate like the lymphatic drainage the you
know near infrared and red light therapy I've
been doing all these supplements I'm gagging down and like that my husband's doing all this stuff
and like like all can we just like pause and just appreciate all of that rather than just being like
oh you're just lucky because it feels so dismissive of like what I've put into this but
as a woman like this is what you just hear through the fertility journey is
like, oh, you're lucky or it's just the numbers. And it's as if like there's nothing you can do.
And I haven't. There's Dr. Laura Shaheen and the egg whisperer. Dr. Amy goes by the egg whisperer.
These are two reproductive endocrinologists that I hear talk ad nauseum to some people. I'm here
for it, about environmental
toxins. They talk about it with their patients. They talk about it with everyone else. They're
reproductive endocrinologists. And I think they put out wonderful, wonderful information for people
who really want to deep dive on that even further. I think if I took anything from this conversation,
it's that you can work your way out of an unhealthy hormone
situation. I know I've been on that journey personally. I've seen such improvement. You can
improve your diet. You can make tweaks in your home environment. You can exercise differently.
And I love the fact that you gave us so many tangible tools to do so, whether someone just
wants to feel better while they're having their period or if someone wants to have a baby. I think there's so much you can do and so much you can change over
time with new habits. To end us off, how would you say we can teach women to embrace womanhood
and lean into their cycles and really enjoy being a woman? Oh, yeah. I mean, I really hope Is This
Normal does that because I've really poured like three years of my life into helping with that.
I think the biggest thing is that we stop teaching about there's this period and it's
awful.
And, you know, teaching from just like this, also this just reproductive health as well
of like period, ovulation, be afraid of babies, like, you know, instead coming from the perspective
of your hormones are
made to give you superpowers.
They literally give you superpowers.
And when they're not working for you, these are the ways that they can show up.
And this is the way that you can support your body.
But recognizing that you are in relationship with your body.
It's not betraying you.
It's not trying to make your life hell.
It is trying to compensate and work for you.
And just as you were saying, you know, you can work your way out of hormone issues.
Absolutely.
You are so resilient.
And it isn't until we're no longer able to compensate that we notice symptoms.
But all the while, you may have been doing, you know, everything that I did wrong in my
early 20s in terms of like, let's not sleep.
And like, let's, you know, just like get by on a bagel and different things like that.
You know, the things that happened before you had the knowledge, you just have to let
that go because as you learn things and you bring them in, you have the capacity to change
things for the better.
And you may develop those symptoms because of those habits you had, but know that that's
just your body saying,
I actually would like it if you'd stop. I would actually need these things instead. And so you have that capacity. So I really think we need to start teaching really all women, no matter your
age, really from that perspective of how do your hormones work for you? What are the superpowers
that they give you? And how can you support your endocrine system,
your hormones, so that you feel your best? Amazing. Dr. Jolene, where can people find
you online? Where can they buy your books? Give us all the info. Books are everywhere.
You can find me all over social media at drjolenebrighton. And then my main hub is drbrighton.com. My last name is a little tricky, so it's going to be drbrighton.com.
And that's where I have a ton of free resources of pretty much any hormone question you could ask.
Amazing. And you guys very kindly gave my audience a code so they can use code PURSUIT10 for 10% off everything on Dr. Brighton's website.
So thank you so much.
And thank you for coming on today.
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