Quick Question with Soren and Daniel - Incredible Throats

Episode Date: November 5, 2024

The boys are BACK and BOTH are MARRIED! They talk about Daniel's wedding, Soren's experience with Jersey City, and their early memories of love songs.Support the pod and get an extra episode every other Friday for $5/month at www.patreon.com/quickquestion or on Apple Podcasts with a quick scan of the ol' face.Thanks to Shopify for sponsoring this episode. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/qq Thanks RocketMoney.com/qq. it could save you hundreds a year.

I've got a quick quick question for you alright I wanna hear your thoughts, wanna know what's on your mind I've got a quick quick question for you alright The answer's not important, I'm just glad that we can talk tonight So what's your favorite? Who did you get? Who will I be? Do you remember? Words without words a word at all Who's it going to be? Oh forget it Saw a movie Daniel O'Brien Two best friends and comedy writers If there's an answer they're gonna find it I think you'll have a great time here

I think you'll have a great time here. So hello again and welcome to another episode of Quick Question with Soren and Daniel, the podcast where two married best friends and married comedy writers ask each other questions and give each other answers. I am one half of that podcast, senior writer for Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, author of How to Fight Presidents, and for the first time, Mr. O'Brien! Dale O'Brien, child has always been my co-host, Mr. Soren Buie. Soren, say hello! Hello, everybody, I'm Soren Buie. I am a writer for American Dad, a dad myself, because, and you don't have to be

to be a dad, but I am married. It helps, I would say. I'm gonna say, I'm gonna go out on a limb and say it helps to be married, to have a kid. And as far as my kids understand, you have to be married to have a child and I'll keep them that in the dark on that for a very long time Thanks to Shopify for supporting quick question Shopify is a platform designed for anyone to sell anywhere giving entrepreneurs like myself the resources once reserved for Big business sign up for a $1 per month trial period at Shopify.com slash QQ all lower case. Thanks to Rocket Money for supporting Quick Question. Rocket Money will quickly and easily identify your subscriptions for you so you can stop paying for the ones you don't want. Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions and manage your expenses the easy way by going to rocketmoney.com slash QQ.

So, Daniel, I'm so excited for you. I went to your wedding. I don't know if you knew, but I was there. Yeah. I witnessed it. So sorry. We had to cut your speech for time. Really, really hated it.

It's just, it's the affiliates were cutting in and we knew we were running a little bit long. So we had to, we just had to scrap it entirely. I, it was, that was demoralizing. It was even more demoralizing that your band leader was so tall and he just held the microphone up to where I could not jump and reach it. Yeah, yeah.

That felt like- That's saying it, cause you're such a good jumper. I'm a good jumper? It's this leg. It's this darn hamstring. And holding me back, probably for the rest of my life. Anyway, you missed out on a great speech. It's fine though, because... Uh, next wedding. I'll do it.

Yeah, yeah, for sure. Whoever's wedding we go to, I'll do it then. And I'll do it for you. Yeah. I mean, a good wedding toast is evergreen. You can give it to anyone. That's the definition of a good wedding toast. Not personal. The entire weekend, I did a real fun bit with my wife, which was that the whole weekend was for her. Whenever like anything happened, like on the plane, where like she didn't have anyone sitting next

to her, I was like, I know, it's because this is all for you. And because she doesn't know a single person at your wedding other than you, which is the thing you get roped into in weddings sometimes where you just don't know anybody. And meanwhile, I know all of your friends because I went on your bachelor party and I know stories about all of them. I know your brothers. I know they're significant others. Like I was like pumped. I was so excited to go to this. You know, there were other LA people who also, like there were some Cracked folks at the

wedding. There were? And there were some people who, like, came to visit me in Los Angeles that you met when they were out to visit. Yeah. And people who felt like they knew you from podcasts and from Cracked videos. And none of that whatsoever for Colleen. Like, you, like, no. No. Yeah. So it, like, no. No.

Yeah, so it, and it was, I think it was a little surprising to her. How, like, how friendly I was with so many people at your wedding and, like, knew them already. And, like, we'd see each other and, like, give each other a big hug. And then, and then there were other people that were, like, yeah, that I did not know, but were still like, come up and be hands on shoulders, hands on cheeks even. And she was like, whoa, what the fuck was that?

I'm like, I don't know. I think they're big fans of Dan. And I was hesitating whether I should tell you this or not, Daniel. You can cut this if you want to. Okay. But you had said before the wedding, you were getting a little fed up with people asking if I was going to be at the wedding. Yes. And I understand why that would be frustrating. Yeah, it became like a minor pain point in like as soon as the the wedding planning was happening there were the questions that I would get would

be is your boss John Oliver gonna be there which is like easy a quick dismissal to be like no no no of course not he's a very famous person and he can't go to like if he goes to my wedding he has to go to every employee's wedding and that's an untenable situation. And when that was dispensed with a lot of the questions were, is Sorin going to be there? People who, you know, it's 10 years that you and I made videos sitting next to each other on camera together for 10 years. And it feels like even longer that we've been doing a podcast. And so there's a lot of people in my life who have like seen you and heard you

for well over a decade. And they were like naturally curious about you and excited to meet you as one would be excited to meet the best friend of anyone that they hadn't met before. And it all comes from like a very natural place of curiosity and love and affection. No one is going to come up to me and say like, I can't wait to see you at your wedding.

That would be an insane thing to say. I understand this, I recognize this. It was still just one too many people in the last six months of my life saying, is Sorin gonna be there? I can't wait to meet Sorin. And there was a part of it was like, well, I hope I'm at least the second most important person at my wedding. I was never gonna be the first, but that's gonna be my wife for sure. And I'm happy for that. But like, if I could crack the top two, that would be huge for me.

I had a realization at your wedding. Because you had told me that and I was like, oh, that's a bummer for Daniel. But I had a realization at your wedding, which was in meeting all these people and getting to know them and everything and just like the general fun of a wedding, everyone is your best friend at a wedding. And I was realizing that all of these people were curious about me because they love you so much that they're consuming everything that you make. Like they want, they're supporting you. Like they want to see you. They want to see you on camera.

They want to see you in podcast, they hear you in podcasts. And this is like, I was an ancillary treat just because I happened to have been in all of those things with them. But like, I was thinking about my own friends and I was like, my friends don't listen to my podcast. My friends, I don't think I have a single friend. Joe Chandler listens to my podcast and he might be the only one. He does. And they didn't watch the old videos. They have a dim understanding of kind of what I do, but they're not interested in the same way. And your friends from home that you grew up with, kids that you haven't seen, these are

people that usually you kind of branch out and you're like, oh, our paths are differing, we're going different ways. There's a lot less loyalty, I think, as you get older. And your friends and you have all stayed so loyal and good to each other. And you're still really good friends. And to the point where like- It's a special thing. Some of us go back to like first grade. It's a real, it's, it's borderline a cult. but it's not a cult. You should join it. They were a lot of people in white.

They love you so much. And it just so happened that because they love you and they want to know so much about you and what you're doing now, that all the things on the side that collect on you, the little pilot fish, they're like, John Oliver and me, they're like, oh, now I want to know about that one. I want to know about that one. Like, it's all born from you. And I was like, oh, that's good. That's really nice. It's very, very nice. And it was incredibly exciting for me. As much as I complained half jokingly privately to you about all of the anticipation building around Soren

coming to the wedding. It's so exciting to bring all of the different threads of our lives together in one place to get her family and her coworkers and my family and coworkers and my entire like LA life and my childhood friendship life all in one place together and like just not that I ever thought there were going to be any any fights or bad blood or anything, but just like watching everyone. It's like, look, look at those two. They're talking to each other. Look, I think they're making friends. Maybe we'll all move to New Jersey now. They're all getting along so well. That's another element that really surprised me at your wedding.

First of all, great wedding, Dan. Like, amazing wedding. I love this wedding. I want to completely cut you off for what you were going to say, because one thing that I have found, now that I'm an expert in getting married and marriage and weddings, is I... It's complete narcissism, but I haven't been able to do this with anyone

until now with you. I wanna just go through person by person and be like, did you have fun? Did you like the wedding? What did you do? Because we were obviously swept up and everything, and it was the best day of my life, and we're being very present

and seeing as many people as we can and dancing up a storm. But and then for like days afterwards the two of us are just huddled around our own photos, but also like you get to see the Instagram stories that people who attended the wedding are sharing and we got to like see it through different people's eyes and live vicariously through other people and like see what the wedding was like from in in their experience and like you truly We had a meet-and-greet the day before the wedding and then the day after that was the wedding obviously I wanted one more day where I could just like like Go to every single person and be like now tell me tell me what your experience with the wedding was because I loved it

So now you go what happened? How was your day? I remember that. I should have warned you about that too. It's like you, you can't do, it's like the one time you can't read the room because it's all for you and you are so happy that you're not really thinking about what other people are thinking about what's happening, which is like how I live the rest of my life. I'm doing heat checks constantly. Like I'm constantly like, is this okay? Am I, how am I reacting to this situation? Is that normal? Yes, it is. Okay, great. Here we go. And so you can't do a heat check at all during your wedding. You can only be like you're in your own experience, which is great in some respects, because the only time in your life you may ever have that. And then, but then afterwards you're like, oh shit, was that good? Was that

good for everybody? You had a great wedding, Daniel. It's like the best wedding I've ever been to. And I've got to tell you that Colleen and I, we were so charmed by Jersey City. We were like, do we, fuck, do we want to move to Jersey City? Yeah, do it! It's gorgeous. I've known... Alright, if you listen to this podcast, you're like, New Jersey's New Jersey. No, my friends, this is like, it feels like a borough of New York

that doesn't have the hustle and bustle of New York. Very few cars, because I think parking's probably shit. But very few cars anywhere. Good, tree-lined streets, gorgeous in the fall, deciduous, lovely, but very few cars anywhere. Very good tree-lined streets, gorgeous in the fall, deciduous leaves falling all over the place and changing color. And then you've got the skyline of New York

right there on the waterfront that you see all of New York. Like you're right up against it. If you want to take the path train, you just hop on it and you're in the city. But you're just outside of it. It's like being in a meadow in a forest. You're like, ah, I can breathe here. And it's, it's beautiful. And there's lots of things to eat. There's lots of good like just walking spaces that where cars aren't even allowed. It's

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That's... Embrace it. We had a fun run the morning of the wedding because as a groom, there's a lot of time to kill and also like running is my favorite thing to do. So I was going to absolutely incorporate it into my wedding to anyone who wanted to run. And as we were scoping out like the area around our hotel for what's the most convenient meeting place. There was a statue outside of the hotel, a very dramatic statue of like a soldier running and collapsing forward at the same time because a floating bayonet is stabbing him through the

back and like the blade of the bayonet is through. It's through his chest and his eyes are open, his mouth is open, he's screaming and it is, I can't pronounce the name of the statue, it's like the Katyn Memorial and it is to commemorate the time that Russian soldiers betrayed Polish soldiers by, here, artistically rendered by literally having him stabbed in the back. And it's just, it just so happens that like, there was no better landmark to meet at for this run. And he's like, guys, go to like the little, the town square area. There's a statue. You truly cannot miss it. You didn't describe it. You're just like, it's a statue.

You won't miss it. It's a very dramatic statue. If you don't see it, look for a crowd of confused, scared people. It attracts that kind of person. It attracts a lot of people who like, who need to creep up and read the inscription to see why, why this statue, what it means. Also, creeping up to read the inscription, not helpful. Because I did that, I was like, well, what's going on here? Also, he's not, he is running. He's

in mid-stride, but he's, his hands are bound behind his back and he's gagged and he's being stabbed. And it's just like pure anguish, like his fingers, the way they're contorting and everything. It's brutal. But I was like, okay, well, let's figure out what's happening here. And I went and read the inscription. I was like, no, I'm having a stroke. I can't, none of this makes any sense. It's because it was in Polish. And then I walked around to the other side and I was like, ah, great, another plaque. And this plaque has the Virgin Mother embracing the twin towers.

Yes. And I was like, okay, the connection, I will find it. I'm a writer. I will find the connection between these things. No help. I had to rely on the internet to tell me what was actually happening on this statue. Yeah.

It was great. But anyway, otherwise Jersey City, great place. Oh my God, Jersey City is gorgeous. Great pizza places, great sandwich shops. You know, let that marinate for a second, everybody. There's good, there's good sandwich shops there. And I had so much fun. And also, you know, part of that was that it was a vacation for my wife and I, that

we didn't have kids, so we were just kind of like doing whatever we wanted the whole time. But I had such a good time. It was so much fun. It was a great wedding, Daniel. And I'm really glad everybody's great. It was a great wedding, Daniel. And... I'm really glad. Everybody's great. We had a real blast. It was, uh... Like, truly the...

We won't spend the entire podcast talking about it because there's nothing funny about me just saying it was the best day of my life over and over again. But it truly was. I mean, like, and the weather held out for us for an outdoor wedding. It was 70 and clear skies for us. And it was... Everyone was 70 and clear skies for us. And it was everyone that we wanted to be there was there and everyone was happy and smiling and buzzing.

And there was no again, we didn't really anticipate problems. But but but for warriors, you don't need a logical problem. I was still just like, I hope nothing dramatic happens. I hope nothing crazy happens. And nothing dramatic or crazy happened. And it was never going to be dramatic or crazy because it's all of our favorite people. Like once we got everyone in one place,

it was like, well, what are you worried about now? Like this is, it's all the people that we love and that love us and they're in one spot together. They're, if something external goes wrong, that we love and that love us and they're in one spot together, they're... If something external goes wrong, this is the group that I'd want around us to help it, you know? Whether it was a natural disaster or whether it was like a bad actor coming to invade the wedding and ruin our day, we'd just be like, well, you picked the day where all of the people who most like me in the world are here. The people who are most committed to my happiness are here right now. So if you want to cause trouble at this wedding, that's a really dumb idea, but you're welcome

to it. You have to go through so many people. Right. And also you had the, I was disappointed that I had created that whole playlist for your wedding after our talk about how I was going to be the DJ, and then you decided to do a live band. But maybe the best live band I've ever heard at a wedding, and maybe anywhere. Like, other than going to like a concert where I'm like, I know who I'm going to see,

they were outstanding. They were great. Unbelievable. Incredible throats, like great musicians. Incredible throats!. Incredible throats, like great musicians. They were incredible throats. Yeah, throats. You just look up on stage and you see like every once in a while and they're like, chin is up, like, oh, just gorgeous throats.

I have a lot of pictures. I'll show you the pictures. But when you go to brunch. I was about to, I was going to say shout out Sound Society, which was the name of the band, but I don't want incredible throats to be the pull quote that gets scrubbed for an advertisement. Throats like you wouldn't believe.

We love them so much. They were wonderful. And I also, I really appreciated that we have, we had a photo booth in one of the corners of the wedding. You did? Yeah. You are in it, Sorin. I went to a photo booth? Yeah.

Oh, good. Okay, great. Good. What a night. We go through our photos at the end. It's like, here are all of our friends and family and everything. And also, early in the night, there's a couple that's just like two of the guys from the band taking pictures together in the photo booth, just having a good time before the gig started for them.

Sampling the wares at the wedding. You look nice. I don't know. Just taking advantage of the different things the wedding has to offer. That's wonderful. And the things the wedding... Dan, a bounty of food at your wedding. Yeah. We get to the drinks hour, you know, like the day new month, or I don't even want to call it, like the intermission between the ceremony and the reception.

You have a like brain worm today between good throats and the drinks hour. The drinks, this is not just today, dude. This is just, this is who I am now. I'm turning into my mom. The cocktail hour. The cocktail hour. The cocktail hour. Just a bounty of food at the cocktail hour

to the point where I'm like, fuck, is this dinner? Like, should I be eating all of this? Cause it's, there's like a whole line of great food that you could just go get and put on a plate and take into a corner and shovel into your mouth. And I was like, I think this might be dinner. This is a lot of food. There's a lot here. This is like a whole meal. I think this is the dinner. And was very concerned,

like was like asking around. I feel like, no, there's assigned tables. You're going to be fine. You're not the only one who was worried about that. And we really perhaps should have like put a program together to let everyone know that an actual dinner was coming. Because a few other people at the cocktail hour were just like because there's there was food being passed around like a pasta station and a slider station and I do think people were like this is what a great early dinner to have and then you get sort of whisked into another room with a proper dinner to come later but it was incredible it was so good all weddings should do that by the way like have like another because you know you get like and you had this you had the trays of stuff going around which But it was incredible. It was so good. That's all wedding should do that, by the way, like have like another

Because you know you get like I in you had this you had the trays of stuff going around which I find delicious I love sampling little things where they're like I put everything that I have into this one bite and Then you could just go to a pasta station and they're like it's up to you boss like you're in charge tabula rasa like you you make what you want to make and I was like fuck. All right right it's a lot of power um frosted flakes i shouldn't have done that shouldn't have done those we missed out on some of because everyone says you don't get to eat your own wedding food which to to some extent is true and we missed out on some of the stuff from cocktail hour but our venue and our handlers

there were really good to us where right after get married, there's a bridal suite where we can sort of sneak off and retire to whenever we feel overwhelmed and want to go somewhere. And they had, as soon as we walk in, there's an old fashioned for me, there is an espresso martini for her, there's champagne for both of us, and a to go box of all the food from our cocktail hour. So we could just like grab this and that. And even before then, like before the wedding started, we're getting ready.

We're still like a tiny bit nervous to get things started and our wedding coordinator comes out. It was like, do you guys need anything? Do you need water? We're like, water would be great. He's like, anything else? You need chicken fingers fries. And I was just like,

yeah, you know what? Chicken fingers would be good too. And she was like, of course. She disappears and comes back with chicken fingers. And I was like,, yeah, you know what? Chicken fingers would be good too. And she was like, of course. She disappears and comes back with chicken fingers. And I was like, holy shit. Incredible. Getting married is the best. I was really impressed.

Cause I brought, I had to bring a box back to your room afterwards. And I was like, I should make sure that nothing needs to be refrigerated in here. It turned out all of it did, but it was like beautiful, like laid out meals for each of you and like all of like these leftovers where I was like, wow, somebody put a lot of thought and care into making sure that they're gonna have these.

Huck them in the fridge. I'm ready to drink. Anyway, it was a beautiful wedding. It was not only beautiful, it was so much fun. Thank you. And everybody had to... Thank you so much fun. Thank you. And everyone had to... Thank you so much for coming and for being a great Hall of Fame wedding guest.

It was truly like nothing but ringers. Everyone that came to the wedding was happy and excited and ready to dance and party. And it was just the, the only, no regrets whatsoever, but the only thing I would do differently is like, there are, there were pictures I wanted with different groups of people who came to the wedding that I just thought would like naturally happen. You know, you come up to someone and put your arm around

and then someone would take a picture and that just didn't happen. And I think that the weddings are so good for is you plan so much out in advance and then you day of like everything is outsourced. It's the best because all of your, I get shit for saying this, but like all of our department heads, all of our vendor heads, they have their marching orders. Our coordinator knows what to do. Our band MC knows what to do.

Everyone is on board with the vision that we put together and they're so on top of it and good at everything that we don't need to think about a single thing the entire day, other than just like being present and looking at each other and enjoying each other's time and enjoying the wonderful group of people who've come out to support us, because it's all like handled. So your only job is Brian Groom is just be present. Which was fantastic. I didn't realize that if there was anything else that I wanted, like a picture of all the cracked folks together or a picture of this or that, that also needed to be like assigned to someone.

And then it would have happened. But, you know, I'm not going to focus on getting a picture. But that's just my advice for any brides and grooms listening to this show. I know that people tune in because they want to know they want wedding advice. And I would just say, if there's something that you want on your wedding day, write it down and hand it to someone and it'll happen because that's how, that's one of the great things about weddings. How was your, how was your come down the next day?

It was, I feel like it wasn't the next day. I mean, we woke up and got to have breakfast with a lot of folks. We immediately drove north to the Catskills so we could do like a two-night mini moon type thing, just to go to spend some time, just the two of us so we can like recap the wedding and to just to not immediately go from wedding back to work. That seemed strange to us. So we did some hiking and checked out some restaurants and breweries and everything. It just had a good old time up in the peaceful Catskills. But that whole like morning, as I was saying before,

we're looking at like the Instagram stories that people are posting. And every five seconds we want, you know, we're getting more pictures in and we just want to like sit and look at pictures and just truly just wanted to keep living in that the wedding moment, the wedding weekend, just wanted to like live in it forever. I feel like the come down didn't happen until days later, like when we got back from the mini moon and we're like back to work proper. And you know, it's like wedding blues are real. It's like finishing.

It's like a like, day after a marathon day after you're doing a play and the play closes. It's just anytime like any big project or thing is done there's a sense of like you know like where does this energy go and also there's it to be completely vain about it it's like a weekend where everyone is being so fucking nice to us and everyone's talking about how great we look and how excited and happy they are for us and you even get a few days we wrote like just married on the back of the car. So we've got people honking at us and saying nice things. And you're very eager, every restaurant and store you go to to say, we just got married a few days ago. This is my wife. Look, look at this

ring. I'm a husband now. And people are so amped for you days afterwards. And now they're just like, you days afterwards. And now they're just like, no one's amped anymore. To have been married two weeks ago is not as big a deal to anyone. I was like, oh, so you've had a couple of weeks back to normal life. It's like, no, but I'm not done with everyone being happy for me yet. Please, because I'm still so happy. Yeah. I found that it was like, especially with problems or like things that I'd have to take care of my life, bills even, like anything small. I was like, when it was about to be my wedding, I was like, no, we punt this and like just like kicking balls out of my yard, basically being like, fuck this, I don't have to think

about this right now. I'm not supposed to think about this. And like how good that felt. And then days after the wedding, we travel back to Los Angeles and all of a sudden I'm surrounded by all these balls where I'm like, Oh fuck, I gotta deal with all this stuff now. This is, these things just go away. Coming back to work at my political comedy show with like, all right, everyone,

we've got, I've seen election coming up and like, Hey, excuse me, John, John, hello, you didn't mention the ring at all we're not going to talk about it let's talk about it in January we'll do the election stuff in January this year is done the big thing happened it's over now Daniel Sember we're coming up on it we got it we got to talk about me um hey take a minute and just think. Think. Well, pull over first if you want to, because I think with my eyes closed, and maybe you do too. Can you name every single subscription you have? No. There's guaranteed there's some that are going to slip through the cracks. I mean, some of them, yeah, you're just gonna be like, oh no, I do use that a lot. But there

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That's rocketmoney.com slash QQ. Rocketmoney.com slash QQ. Yeah, I know that feeling. I told you, I think, but I can't remember if I said it on the podcast, but I... First of all, where I had my wedding, there was no phone reception. You couldn't really use a phone at all. And that night after my wedding, I stayed at the same hotel again with my wife. And everyone was gone. And it had been so buzzing because we took over this town. It's a town of like 115 people and they're 120 at the wedding. So like the town, the wedding outnumbered the town. You'd see

everybody just out in the streets. You all lived basically, you bought a town together is what it felt like. And then the night after we're still there and everybody else is gone and it's quiet and nobody's out and everybody's just like going on with their lives. And I was so depressed. I was so bummed in a way that I didn't anticipate like something I hadn't felt since I was a kid and didn't realize that there was a day after Christmas where I was like, this emptiness all of a sudden.

Cause so much of your life had been consumed by this one thing. And now there's this huge hole in you where you're like but that's where I would put all of that stuff. And now I have to figure out, I either have to think of another thing to try and like pack all that in, or I have to become healthier and like find a way to just be happy in my life without it. I was really channeling my little niece Charlotte.

We did a family cruise last year and the cruise was very fun and then we're all in a... the cruise is done. We're in a big van that is taking us from where the cruise departed back to our home. It's most of my family in this car and Charlotte who is 10 years old and just had such a great time on this cruise because you're a kid and it's you know know, it's got everything you could possibly want in the world and all your family is there. And you're still young enough that you like your family. And she was just had the time of her life.

And we're all like, the adults also had a great time. We're also kind of ready to get back to normal life and get back to sleeping in an apartment instead of a tiny cabin in a boat. So we're over it. And then this whole car ride home, Charlotte, is just like, Uncle Daniel, what was your favorite part of the cruise?

And I would just be like, the fucking food. Oh, great. Grandma, what was your favorite part of the cruise? I like karaoke night. OK. Grandpa, what was your favorite? And it was just like all of us were exhausted at that point. That is 100% how I felt.

I'm Charlotte after our wedding, where I just wanna be like, can we just, can I just call, just like call everyone on the list and just say like, what was your favorite part of the wedding? What was your favorite song? What was your favorite piece of food? What did you, what was the most surprising thing? What was your favorite song? What was your favorite piece of food? What did you, what was the most surprising thing?

Did you make any friends? Like I just, I just want to, wanted to prolong the experience as, as long as, as humanly possible. I get that. Including now doing this podcast. Oh, it's been great. It's actually been really nice for me too. I wanted to do that with you.

I wanted to like talk about it. And I was like, give him his space soren, don't text him, let him have his honeymoon. This isn't about you. I had a great time. I had so much fun. Good. Me too. It's uh... I have nothing funny. It's really good. Daniel, in honor of your wedding, and I thought of this question at your wedding. I wanted to ask... Boy, you just can't turn that podcasting brain off, can you?

Just... That's a joke, but it really does haunt me. It haunts you too. I know it. I know it truly does. It sucks. Anyway, I wanted to ask you what the first love song was that like resonated with you when you were a child? Like where you started to see people in like a more romantic light and all of a sudden like a love song hit you where you're like,

this was this was written for me um and i'll give you time to think about that because i'm gonna answer first yeah i will also preface this by saying guaranteed everyone's is fucking humiliating everyone's is like a bad song because that first one that gets you is like you you're not having big complex emotions yet you're on your way but you need something accessible and so like you're not having big complex emotions yet, you're on your way, but you need something accessible. And so like you find a song to hold your hand that is these broad platitudes. The song that really got me in 1991, a movie came out called Robin Hood Prince of Thieves with Kevin Costner. And in that movie was a song by Canadian singer, Brian Adams called, Everything I Do.

And if you don't know what I'm talking about, think about any slow dance song you've ever, like any slow dance you've ever been to, they played that song, I guarantee it, up until 2024. Like, I guarantee this song still gets played everywhere. It's a shit song. It's Brian Adams sucks. But at the time I didn't know any of this. And this song, I heard it and I was like, this is, I could have written this for Tina Chukwits. There was a, yeah, I was in, I would say, I think it was in. Little Tina Chex Mix. Little Tina Chex Mix. Air to the Chex Mix fortune. I was not really expecting you to do it. They don't make names like that anymore, joke. Little Tina Chuckwitz. The Heirs of the Chex Mix fortune.

I was not really expecting you to do it. They don't make names like that anymore, joke. Are you past that? No, I pivoted it because when you get handed Chex Mix, you don't let that whiz by. Yeah. Poor Tina. Yeah. The last name, Chuckwitz, which I think was tough.

By the way, her brother, John Chuckwitz, was the DJ for all of our dances. Oh. Yeah, so he saw everything. But, I don't know, I guess I was nine, maybe ten, but I heard this song, and I was like, everything I do, I do it for you.

And I was like, oh my god, that's like every basketball shot I make, every time I raise my hand in class, and I got a really good joke, And I was like, oh my God, that's like every basketball shot I make. Every time I raise my hand in class and I got a really good joke, like, like all of this is just like, I'm just compiling a bunch of stuff for her. Like everything I'm doing is like, oh, I'm doing everything for a girl. And not realizing that the rest of my life I would be doing everything to try to impress girls and that that's just normal. But at the time I was like, I had one focused on, I was like that's all I could handle at the

time. And I was like, I will figure out like everything, everything in my life I'm going to put around and just like be the best person in front of her. And that song was like, yes, Brian Adams gets me. Brian Adams is a very smart man. And you know the song, you know it, you can hear it, you can play it in your own head. It's a bad song. It's a bad song. It's not a bad song.

It's just the present and I've heard it so many times. It's so cloying. And like, maybe that's actually just the age talking. I don't know. It might be that we're different people now in 2024, but, and we're so much more earnest with our love songs at some point, where you didn't have to be tongue in cheek at all. But that seems very silly now. It's a very, very cloying song.

Yeah. I'm trying to think. I don't know that anything really resonated with me as far as you are in love now, listen to this song and internalize the lyrics and think about it. My humiliating answers would be a whole new world from Aladdin where it's incredibly literalized love and it's done in cartoons to appeal to my brain or also completely, this is going to sound like self-parody but Brick by Ben Folds Five, it's not a love song, it's not romantic at all but I'm in sixth grade and like I have, I'm sure we've talked about this before, that

like my like very screwed up ideas of romance always carried some air of unrequited affection. There was always something like, like loosely tragic and one-sided about like my understanding, even though I had a very, like my parents are still together and I had like this very clear, strong example of like modern romance and love. Things that I was pulling from pop culture were like, Doug Funny, it's the nerdy imaginative kid who spends the entire series crushing on the girl

who they never like, in the run that I saw, they don't end up together. That was a very common thing. Rocco from Rocco's Modern Life having crushes, not going anywhere, and just like, well, this is just what love is. Love is like a little bit sad all the time and isn't the feeling of love love even if it's unrequited

like the feeling is the thing that you want and That'll pacify me for a couple of years Maybe decades and so hearing brick at an early age Not being able to piece together what the lyrics were about or what the song meant But just knowing like it's piano and it's sad and it's soulful. So that's probably love. That's, there's definitely a lot of fucking feeling in the song.

So this is- That's so interesting. I hear it in my head in sixth grade and being like, yeah, I could slow dance to this. I could slow like, or I could like nod as a woman, a girl tells me she's not interested in me, I could like nod to this song while she walks away. That is sort of what, I mean, in sixth grade, that's sort of what love is, because you don't have, you don't have a lot of the other elements

of adult love yet. You certainly don't have like the sexuality of it. You barely have the kissing, maybe, at 11. And then, so the elements you have left over are like the other stuff you see in movies like the pathos of it. And like that's all you know love is. And it's a big, big feeling for another person that you chose, like not a family member. It's somebody you picked out. So it's like very specific to you. And it's feelings towards that person. And some of those big feelings are going to be, they're not matching my big feelings. And like, that becomes what love is. I totally get that trajectory. That makes perfect sense in my brain. That's what, that's all love can be at that age is like, oh, these are the big feelings I'm supposed to be having. This is good. It does

feel very right though, doesn't it? It's like when you're that age. I feel like I had a similar reaction to, used to be my playground by Madonna when League of Their age. I feel like I had a similar reaction to Used to Be My Playground by Madonna when League of Their Own came out. And I would just like listen to that song on the radio and be like, she sounds so sad. That must be love. Yeah, totally. Yeah, no, I get that entirely.

There was another song, I think around the same time that was I'll Get Over You, I Know I Will, I'll Pretend My Shit, King of, King of Wishful Thinking. Do you remember that song? Yeah. I'll get over you, I know I will. What movie was that prominently featured in? It's not important. Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves.

Um, it was, I don't know what it was in, but it was, that was another one where I was like, that was a feeling of love for me too, where it was like, but it was a song about not wanting to feel that way. And like, that's, I mean, that's a better way to describe it is that that pathos is like, you're supposed to want, you're supposed to be feeling that and not want to feel it. And that's what you're like trying to emulate. You're here trying to like get into that headspace of like, oh, I love her so much.

Oh, why does anyone have to feel this way? And you're like jumping to that immediately because you don't have blow jobs yet. Yeah. I feel like I don't think the youth of today realize how easy they have it. When superstars like Chappell Rhone are writing songs with lyrics like, hey, I wrote this song because I wanna fuck you.

It's so literal, it's so clear. There's no, you don't have to worry about what is this song about? Is this song about love? Or like, no, don't worry. It's all explicitly laid out for you. Knee deep in the passenger seat. Eat me out. Yeah, it's funny.

I think that's probably true for a lot of people is that the first song is always like a... It is not a work static to be together. This is love. It's a, oh, fuck, why do I have to feel this way? Oh, that's so bad and certainly for this will be very unique to my experience because we spent so much time growing up listening to Beatles tunes because my because my

parents love the Beatles so we listen to a lot of that and like you when you grow up and your understanding of love songs there a lot of early Beatles, like, I want to hold your hand and can't buy me love, that kind of like very poppy thing. When you start to get older and you start to connect the idea of being in love with music, you want it to sound more mature than, I wanna hold your hand. You know, like all that stuff that you grew up on, that poppy stuff feels very preschool.

And it's like, I want something more mature so I can connect it to these complicated feelings that I'm grappling with. And because I'm 10, mature means sadder and it means piano. And it means rain. That's a really good point. Mature is hating it. Like the loving it is so kid.

Like it's like, that's silly. But it's like, I want to be out of control. I want these feelings to be so bad that I'm like sick with it. Yeah. It's been very interesting. I didn't even think about that. Everything I do, I do it for you is not that.

Yeah. Yeah. That is just a song that is so face forward blunt. Hey, I really like you and everything I'm doing is for you. Yeah. I don't, uh, I don't want to come on too strong, but I don't exist without you. If you moved, I'd probably disintegrate. I know we're, I know we're 12, but...

Yeah, I'll just die! I'll die if you don't look at me, I guess. It also haunted me when, as I was beginning to tell you mine, I was trying to figure out my age. And you know, I'm not great with numbers, but like 1991... Did you run on it? Yeah, I did. It's nine, which is the age of my son right now. Wow. which is the age of my son right now. And, yeah, I don't know that he... If he's, if he is experiencing, like, thoughts of attraction to anybody,

he is not sharing that with his family. I don't, as far as I know, he's not having any of that yet. But, I don't know, I think that's probably natural. I don't see, I don't see it in his friends either. Like, I'm not hearing it on the playgrounds when I'm sneaking onto his campus and listening in on the kids I don't hear the kids talking about love at all or like boys and girls or like dating or anything like that

I was neck deep at that age For me it's it It started not with like Girls in school and not as a thing I would talk about on the playground like girls in school, and not as a thing I would talk about on the playground with boys in school. It was always like the babysitter. It was somewhat like, or like the crossing guard.

Like an adult female figure was like, I guess I'm in love with this person because you know, because a lot of, I think a lot of kids very naturally like love their parents so much. And that's like a reasonable transition from like, I need, what's another like, what's another mommy type? Ah, look at this older female authority figure. That's got, that's got some real strong mom vibes. And that's what I'm into at nine years old. So I don't know if Ronan will like talk to his classmates

about a cute girl, but maybe if you have like a babysitter or if he's got an older cousin somewhere or something like that. Not in a weird gross way. Yeah, he has crushes that he doesn't really know what they are yet. Yeah. Yeah, it just seems, I don't know why I was like,

I was so interested early in a way that seems now unhealthy as an adult, like when I can look back on it and I have children that are that age. Like how like, and I remember being in Mrs. Tindall's class in kindergarten and being like, well, who is going to be my girlfriend here? Like which one of these is going to be my girlfriend? And like thinking about that at that age, which seems it's like almost haunting now that that was, took up space in my brain. It clearly does not in his as far as I can tell, which is good. I think that's really nice. Yeah. Anyway, I'm not looking forward to when he has these types of feelings and when he like starts

relating to these songs. Oh, I'm sure you're going to crush it. I'm sure you're going to you'll you'll navigate it well and You won't screw him up in any profound way. Thanks, man. I mean that sincerely. I know it's it's yeah It's it sounds like I'm disinterested I am NOT disinterested in what we're talking about. I'm just as interested in podcasting I get it. I get it. Let's wrap it up Thank you for listening everybody. This has been Quick Question. You know that. We've been on the air for hours. I mean, if you compile them all together, there's lots of hours. You can find us on X if you just look for Quick Question there. I'm not really sure what gets posted. I assume video clips of

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