Radiolab - Radiolab Presents: Dolly Parton's America

Episode Date: October 16, 2019

Radiolab creator and host Jad Abumrad spent the last two years following around music legend Dolly Parton, and we're here to say you should tune in! In this episode of Radiolab, we showcase the first ...of Jad's special series, Dolly Parton's America. In this intensely divided moment, one of the few things everyone still seems to agree on is Dolly Parton—but why? That simple question leads to a deeply personal, historical, and musical rethinking of one of America’s great icons.  We begin with a simple question: How did the queen of the boob joke become a feminist icon? Helen Morales, author of “Pilgrimage to Dollywood,” gave us a stern directive – look at the lyrics! So we dive into Dolly’s discography, starting with the early period of what Dolly calls “sad ass songs” to find remarkably prescient words of female pain, slut-shaming, domestic violence, and women being locked away in asylums by cheating husbands. We explore how Dolly took the centuries-old tradition of the Appalachian “murder ballad”—an oral tradition of men singing songs about brutally killing women—and flipped the script, singing from the woman’s point of view. And as her career progresses, the songs expand beyond the pain to tell tales of leaving abuse behind. How can such pro-woman lyrics come from someone who despises the word feminism? Dolly explains.     Check out Dolly Parton's America here at: https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/dolly-partons-america 

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Starting point is 00:00:01 Wait, you're listening. Okay. All right. You're listening to Radio Lab. Radio Lab. From W. N. Y. See? See?
Starting point is 00:00:15 Yeah. You're dealing with somebody right now. Who's barely almost dead? Yeah. Slow brain power. Okay. I'm like half the man that you know, which is already pretty pissed poor. Well, I could just say, maybe I could say now for, yeah, I'll start.
Starting point is 00:00:34 Let me try something. Yeah. Okay. Okay. I'm Chad Abramrod. I'm Robert Krollwich. This is Radio Lab, and what we're about to do is something we have never done before. Actually, Jad did it.
Starting point is 00:00:46 It's about a lady and about a nation and about everybody listening all at once. And I really can think of no other way to do this except to say that. You know what? I thought that was actually much better than I've come up with. Two years I've been working on this project. Okay. Yeah, you summarized it perfectly. For the last two and a half years, I have been creating a side project that's going to be on a separate feed.
Starting point is 00:01:10 Dolly Partonsamerica.com is where you can sign up for. Dolly Partons America. Kind of gives it away, doesn't it? Well, there's not much more to say. No, that's true. But I've created a nine-partons series about Dolly Parton, and we're going to preview the first episode right now here. And if you want to hear the other ones, where do you go? You go to dollypartonsamerica.com or you go to Apple Podcasts, and you're going to watch.
Starting point is 00:01:34 you search on that, Dolly Parton's America, or all the other places. Okay, but to decide whether you want to do that or not, first listen to the first one. Yeah, this is the first one. Which is coming at you now. What is Dolly Parton's America? Well, Dolly Parton's America would be the same as Dolly Parton's world. Hey, I'm Chad Abramrod. Let me explain how I got here to a podcast about Dolly Parton.
Starting point is 00:02:04 I grew up in Tennessee, which means I grew up. grew up in... Dolly Parton's World. Dolly's world. She was everywhere. She was looking down at you from billboards, coming out of car radio, she was on commercials. She just infused the air. So as a consequence, I didn't really think about her a lot.
Starting point is 00:02:26 It's a little bit like that joke. One fish says to another fish, how's the water today? And the other fish says, what's water? I was that second fish. She'd created this world. and I was just swimming through it. But then, a few things happened. 2016, I'm living in New York.
Starting point is 00:02:50 Dolly is on tour, and she comes and does a stadium show here in Flushing Queens. Here you come again. And just the level of excitement of people around me was like otherworldly. Everybody around me was like, Dolly Parton is a goddess. She's a saint.
Starting point is 00:03:14 To me, Dolly is a... Superster brings herself to the level of the people. I was like, whoa, I missed this. So I was sitting in my home office. I was on Twitter. Writer Sarah Smarsh told me that her whoa moment came around the same time when she was in Austin, online, watching people live tweet that same Dolly show. The people who were tweeting were all women, and one woman in particular, she said,
Starting point is 00:03:39 that majestic bitch just started playing a goddamn pan flute. That's the best tweet. Pan flute was in all caps, which seemed important. And all this was happening, the pan flute, the tweeting, the touring. At exactly the moment when the 2016 election was turning very ugly. The racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic. How do you lie to the FBI? And now you're running for president.
Starting point is 00:04:09 Like she toured right through all of that noise, through the general election and beyond. And I kept bumping into people who had described the experience of being at a dolly show as like standing in an alternate vision of America than what was unfolding on the TV. I remember just standing out in the lobby and just people watching because it was the most diverse place I've ever been. I was seeing a multiracial audience, people wearing cowboy hats and booths. I was seeing people in drag. church ladies, lesbians, holding hands, little girls who were there with their families. You had a whole audience of people who absolutely their philosophies were in opposition to each other. Comingling and everybody is polite to each other.
Starting point is 00:05:07 So that was one thing that caught my attention, that in this very divided moment, Dolly seems to maybe be a kind of unifier. And after doing a little poking around, the data does kind of bear this out. If you look at her global Q score, this is a measure of how well people think about your brand globally. What they do is they assemble a very diverse sample of people. They ask them a bunch of questions. And out of all of these different brands that are out there, all these different performers, she is in the top 10 globally in terms of everybody's favorites.
Starting point is 00:05:40 But she's almost number one when it comes to lack of negatives, if that may be. makes any sense? Like, people have the least amount of negative things to say about Dolly Parton than anyone besides maybe Adele. And by the way, this Q score data is fascinating. I haven't dug into it too much, so I can't claim to fully understand it, but Beyonce, number 52. What? Lady Gaga, number 41. Wild. Anyhow, the second thing that happened that made this series possible, I'll be honest with you guys, was a strange twist of fate. Dolly Pardons suffered a few minor injuries in a car crash. The accident happened just after noon in Nashville on Monday. 2013, Dolly gets into a minor car accident, ends up at Vanderbilt Hospital,
Starting point is 00:06:27 and one of the people who ends up giving her medical advice is my dad. And they became friends. She shared this with me, by the way, and was totally fine with me sharing it. But it was very unexpected. Like, my dad is not a doctor to the stars kind of. person. He's just a Lebanese guy in Tennessee. But they were friends suddenly. And so when I started getting curious about Dolly as maybe the subject of a story, I was like, you know what, Dad? I need you to introduce me. And he did. I sat down to talk with her to ask her about this Dolly moment, how she thinks about it. Does she consider herself the grand unifier? Does that include everyone? A lot of these questions, I thought maybe I would get a story out of
Starting point is 00:07:15 of it or two. But what ended up happening is simply talking with her about her life and then talking with people about her. I fell into so many different rabbit holes. Profound questions of America kind of rabbit holes. And I was like, you know what? I think we got to make nine. We're going to take nine trips into the dollyverse. This is Dolly Partons America. I'm Chad Abumrod. Let's start. I first spoke to Do Dolly Parton in November of 2017. My chair's squeaking. Squippy. It's the squeaky one, right.
Starting point is 00:07:58 Oh, I know the squeaky chair gets the grease, but we don't have time for a loob job today. We got a show to do. We sat down in a studio in Nashville in a squeaky chair in front of a mic that unfortunately had a little bit of a buzz in it. Dolly had just come off of her Pure and Simple tour. She captured the hearts of generations. That was the tour where she famously played the pan flute.
Starting point is 00:08:24 Oh yeah, just for show. I'm not great at any of it, but I can make a good show. Okay, that's good. Better take off the jewels for a hammer and mess up a good take. I had heard you play 20-something instruments, is that right? Oh, I play Adam. Okay. I can't tell you to play any of them.
Starting point is 00:08:46 Well, the guitar is my best one, but I play a lot of mountain instruments too. Dalsmer. All the harp. banjo, that kind of stuff. And you play wind, too. Well, that's the penny whistle. We do a little bit of an Appalachian thing that we, just a little woodwind, but not, it's just the mountain sounds.
Starting point is 00:09:09 It's not like something you'd learn or play in an orchestra. It's just got that old mountain sound. Gotcha. Anyhow. Well, you know me, you're just asking. I'll just tell it, like as I know it or as I feel it, or what I want you to hear. So I decided to start the interview by playing her some stuff of hers.
Starting point is 00:09:33 I'd love to play some of your early stuff. Okay. This one, just tell me what comes to mind when you hear it. Being born was the worst and the first mistake I ever made. Wow. What is that first line? Oh, being born was the worst mistake I ever made. The doctor didn't spank me.
Starting point is 00:09:53 He just slapped me in the face. Well, as a writer, are you born to come up? with all those. You want to come up with a really good line if you're a really good songwriter. Where does that come from? That was really, really early on in those early, early days. Oh, I used to write a lot of sad-ass songs. Let me explain the reason I wanted to start with the sad-ass songs. Growing up in the early 80s, I mean, one of my main associations with Dolly before this project was that She was sort of a punchline. Or like, she was her own punchline.
Starting point is 00:10:36 You know, like, I remember she would go on Leno or Letterman. You look terrific. And upstairs earlier today, we were discussing your weight. They'd talk about her weight for a little while. They didn't talk about how she looks. And then inevitably, people are always asking if they're real. Oh, I would never.
Starting point is 00:10:54 They'd start talking about her breasts. But I would give about a year's pay to peek under that. They'd joke about her breasts. But then she would make it even better joke about her breast. Do you know what's worse than a giraffe with a sore throat? And they said, no what? And the answer is Dolly Parton with a chest cold. Here's another example.
Starting point is 00:11:17 The headline on the other major news story today, to which we intend to devote some time, is very simple. Hello Dolly. Yes. The first cloned sheep was known as Dolly the Sheep. This is Helen Morales, author of the book Pilgrimage to Dollywood. Scientists managed to clone a cell. A single mammary cell from a six-year-old u.
Starting point is 00:11:36 And that cell was from a mammary gland. So these men thought it would be a good idea. I thought it would be a good idea to call a Dolly after Dolly Parton. To call it Dolly? I don't think I need to explain any more than that. But the sting in that story is, and characteristically Dolly Parton, is that when she heard about this, she invited the sheep when it had served its scientific,
Starting point is 00:12:02 purpose to come and live at Dollywood. So when you go on these shows and they make a joke about you and you double the joke, what is that? Part of me thinks, part of me loves that, part of me thinks, why wouldn't you just tell these people like, come on, I have written 5,000 songs. Ask me about my songs. So I don't know. I have two thoughts at once.
Starting point is 00:12:25 Why would I go out with my tits hanging out, showing them, pushing them out there, and not expect somebody to make some kind of a comment on it. And I know what they're thinking. So I'd rather say it before they do. And then we get that off our chest, so to speak, right up front. That's a good pun, by the way. Yeah, I know. I've said it before.
Starting point is 00:12:45 But I really do. Like, I just think, well, you know, I mean, this is how I look. Of course you're going to notice it. See, I do that, too, for the public. I mean, it's like a little comedy thing. In that last sentence, by the way, Dolly was actually referencing something she'd once told Barbara Walters, like, years ago. Show business is a money-making joke, and I've just always liked telling jokes.
Starting point is 00:13:09 But do you ever feel that you're a joke, that people make fun of you? Oh, I know they make fun of me. But actually, all these years, the people, you know, has thought the joke was on me, but it's actually been on the public. So, yeah, growing up, and I think I speak for many people of my generation when I say this, at least many men, Dolly Parton was so. seen as this kind of joke maker, this cloud of jokes always swirling around her. You know, jokes people would make about her,
Starting point is 00:13:39 that she would make about herself, maybe on the public. I don't know, but her persona was so big that often it was the only thing that got noticed. But then, I'll be honest, one of the first bits of guidance that we got as we were embarking on this series, and by we, I mean myself and producer Shima Oliai, is Shima was talking with writer Helen Morales,
Starting point is 00:14:04 who you heard earlier. Helen was basically telling Shima, look, you can talk about the persona and the jokes. But it would be a pity if somewhere in your series there wasn't something about her songwriting.
Starting point is 00:14:17 The only thing I would say is treat her lyrics seriously in a way that Johnny Cash has had books written about his lyrics. Hank Williams has been taken seriously, but Dolly Parton hasn't.
Starting point is 00:14:34 Which brings us back to? Well, I used to run a lot of sad-ass songs. That's what was really surprising. There's some darkness in those early songs. Well, you, as a songwriter, and see, you've got to remember, too. That's how I grew up. Now, hardcore Dolly fans will know this, but Dolly's discography goes back all the way to
Starting point is 00:14:51 1967, and the songs on those first four albums, it's an ocean of pain. Those songs, which many people don't know about, they're not the ones that have made the charts, they provide an insistent witnessing of women's lives. That's how Helen Morales puts it. Women being treated really badly by men. Let me just play you another one. In this mental institution, looking up... Do you remember this one?
Starting point is 00:15:33 That was Daddy Come and Get Me. That was actually a song I wrote that was based on something that really happened in our family. Really? Yes, I need help, but nothing's come. I had an aunt loved this man, and he just drove her crazy. What'd you do? Cheating and all that. Put her in an insane.
Starting point is 00:16:00 Well, I can't say who. No, no, I don't need to know who. Oh, I thought you said who. I said, I can't call news. But it was a relative, and she was begging her daddy, trying to get a message to her daddy to come and get her out of the insane and solid. And her husband had put her in there. Wait, so he was cheating on her, and then what happened?
Starting point is 00:16:20 Well, she had a nervous breakdown. So he just called and had her put away. This is something, by the way, that if you Google it, you will fall down a rabbit hole. Well into the 20th century, this was a common thing. Husbands would commit their wives for things like, quote, nagging, excitement, disagreeing with their husband's religious beliefs. So he wanted her out of his life. Wow.
Starting point is 00:16:45 So that's, you just, I grew up with that. And I was very, you know, impressionable. Another theme that is impossible to miss from Dolly's sad-ass song period is, well, this next song pretty much captures it. This is a song that she wrote in 1967 called The Bridge. The bridge so high, the bridge so tall. Here is where it started on the bridge. It tells the story of a woman falling in love with a man. They have their first kiss under the full moon on a bridge.
Starting point is 00:17:30 He gets her pregnant, then he bolts. And month later, as she's pregnant, she returns to that bridge. Tonight while standing on the bridge, my heart is beating wild to think of me here with our unborn child. Damn to the end is where it started. And here is where I live... Damn, that ending. A couple of your songs in this period deal with suicide. Is that something that you've thought about ever?
Starting point is 00:18:23 Years ago, I don't think I got to that place, but I understood exactly how people do. This was back in the, oh, I don't know, many years ago. Early 80s, I think it was. She was in her late 30s at this point. She'd just done a movie, which caused her a ton of stress, and she was having health problems. I got overweight, and I was going through the change of life.
Starting point is 00:18:50 I was having a lot of female problems. I'd been going through a whole lot of family things, just the stress with a heartache. There was just several things going on at that time, and I was just broken down. I really was having some serious conversations with God during that time. What was that conversation? Well, I just said things like, look, this is just ridiculous. I am not happy. Arguing about what, you know, why we can't, when they say you shouldn't commit suicide
Starting point is 00:19:17 because that's a sin you can't get forgiven for. But then it was just all, everything was just confusing to me. And I was just angry and I was hurt and I was unhappy. And so I just said you're going to have to give me some answers or I'm getting out of here. And then we'll both deal with it. How close did you get when you, I don't know. I don't know how close I got.
Starting point is 00:19:41 She says there was a moment, sort of at the low point when she was sitting on her bed, and her dog jumped up on the bed. It felt to her like a sign. My little dog, Popeye at that time, he jumped up on the bed about the time I was right in my, you know, so God, G-O-D, D-O-G, G-O-D, dog, God's spelled backwards. So I always thought, you know, that might have been the very thing that. You were writing your suicide note? I was thinking about it all.
Starting point is 00:20:10 Wow. You said heartache. What was the heartache? Well, it was personal. Fair enough. We started talking about how a lot of her early songs are about women losing children. I've never lost a baby. I've never been pregnant in my life.
Starting point is 00:20:28 But I've seen a lot of people that have and have to go through that. I've seen it. I've seen the, you know, like I always say, there's two kind of women in the matter. mountains to kind of get married and have a lot of kids and kind of stay single and have a lot of kids. But I would also write things about people's lives and topics that I knew that mattered. I was writing about abortion. I was writing about adoption. I was writing about all sorts of things. Back before it was when I even wrote a song called Down from Dover about a girl that got pregnant and got sent away from home because she was pregnant because they wouldn't
Starting point is 00:21:08 accept it. I know this dress I'm wearing doesn't hide the secret I have tried concealing. The song is written from the perspective of a young teenager who's pregnant, trying to conceal it, and waiting for her man to return. If he comes back in time, she basically won't be shamed by her community. But of course, My body aches, the time is here. It's lonely in this place where I'm lying.
Starting point is 00:21:37 He doesn't. She's ostracized. her family. And then the baby's born. Our baby has been born, but something's wrong. It's much to still. I hear no crime. And the baby died. Still born.
Starting point is 00:21:50 I guess in some strange way she knew she'd never have a father's arms to hold her. Was her way of telling me he wasn't coming. And so she felt like that God had done her a favor. God had taken the baby back.
Starting point is 00:22:15 In my mind, the baby was better off back with God than it would have been with me. And they wouldn't play it on the radio back at that time. It's one of my best songs ever. They wouldn't play it on the radio. They wouldn't play it on the radio, not because the kid died, but because she got pregnant. Because it was an illegit. At that time, see, that was when I first wrote that, that was in my early days of my career, and I wanted to put it out as a single, and RCA wouldn't do it. Keep in mind, this song was written five years before Roe v. Wade. But I suggested as a dolly that Maybe one of the reasons R.C. didn't want to put it out is that it's just too dark?
Starting point is 00:22:51 Well, you, as a songwriter, and see, you've got to remember, too, that's how I grew up. All those old mountain songs and all those old songs from the old world, all those old English, Irish, Scottish, Welsh ballads about the Knoxville girl. Getting killed and thrown in the Knoxville River. And I was very, you know. Impressionable. Okay, okay, okay. Let me just take a digression here
Starting point is 00:23:22 because that song that Dolly just mentioned sent me down another rabbit hole. In the interview, I didn't catch it when she said. The Knoxville girl getting killed and thrown in the Knoxville River. But listening back, I was like,
Starting point is 00:23:35 wait, what? A Knoxville girl thrown in a river? It turns out this is a very old Appalachian ballad that is sung from the perspective of a man who goes to meet his young wife or girlfriend, I guess, and they're taking a walk along the river. Then all of a sudden,
Starting point is 00:23:53 I picked a stick up off of the ground and knocked that fair girl down. She fell down on her being, didn't he's, thought of mercy, she did cry. She begs for mercy. This is in the song. She begs for mercy, but he keeps beating her with the stick till she's unconscious, and then I'd take her by her golden curl by drug her round and round He drags her by her hair Throwing her into the river
Starting point is 00:24:28 That flows through Knoxville town And I was like, wait, this is what she was talking about? I grew up with that What is this twisted song? Who's the girl? Why does the guy murder her? So I ended up calling this journalist Hello? Can I speak to Paul, please?
Starting point is 00:24:49 You're doing so. Hi, Jan. His name is Paul Slade. He's a music writer based in London, and he recently wrote a book all about this. Called Unprepared to Die, which looks at the real murder stories behind Knoxville Girl and a range of other American murder ballads. First thing he told me is that there are tons of these songs. So many. Almost always about a man. Killing a woman, often his wife, by her. shooting her or... My mind is to drown you and leave you.
Starting point is 00:25:24 Drowning her, that's a big one. But with the Knoxville Girl song, what Paul did was he traced it back from East Tennessee, where Dolly would have heard it back to England. The first version of the song I've seen was 1685 or thereabouts. We can't be precisely sure about that. The song was originally called The Bloody Miller. So I went looking for surviving copies of the Bloody Miller's ballad sheet. Now, obviously there are no original recordings of the song, but he did manage to
Starting point is 00:25:54 find a copy of the sheet music from the original printing 330-ish years ago, and at the top of that sheet music, there was like a little intro. And says this, a true and just account of one Francis Cooper of Hogstow near Shrewsbury, who kept company with one Anne Nichols for the space of two years, and being urged by her father to marry her, he most wickedly and barbillie. murderously murdered her. Oh, wow. So it lays it all out right there. Well, yeah, we've got the name of the killer, his victim, and we've got a location, which is Shrewsbury. Paul goes to Shrosbury, digs around in the archives, finds a copy of a diary from a shoekeeper at the time, confirms that, yes,
Starting point is 00:26:36 there was a murder that happened right at the time that the song was written. He visits the grave of the murder victim, confirms that, yes, she was a real person. He checks the burial records to confirm that, yes, her death was actually very violent. And it was the age. And it was the old story. The woman, Anne Nichols, was pregnant. And the guy, Francis Cooper, he's got this girl pregnant and he doesn't want to marry her. So that's why he's killed her. As for how it ended up in a song, Paul says what likely happened is that this guy, Francis Cooper, the killer, gets caught. And on the day of his execution, a songwriter showed up to witness the hanging and then immediately documented it in song, which was a common practice at the time.
Starting point is 00:27:25 Very often the sheets themselves were actually sold at public hangings. While the condemned man was still swinging, there'd be people wondering around selling ballad sheets, telling the story of that particular crime. So it really was like almost journalism. Yeah, yeah, that's a big part of it. And are these songs usually sung from the perspective of the murderer? Yeah, it's much more common to tell them in the words of the murderer. Paul says these songs were actually pretty big business.
Starting point is 00:27:55 Songwriters would go to the hangings and then travel from town to town singing the songs for money. They would change the name of the song to match the town that they were in, and that's probably what happened. At some point, one of the songwriters hopped on a boat, came to East Tennessee, changed the song to Knoxville Girl. And that was the song that got sung to Little Dolly Parton on her porch. perhaps one way to see Dolly's early sad-ass songs period is that she was taking these songs that she had heard as a girl, you know, these pulpy ballads of men, brutally killing, nameless women,
Starting point is 00:28:33 sung almost always from the perspective of the men, and she was flipping it. So that you finally heard from the victim. Now, Dolly was not the only person to do this, to sing from the victim's point of view. When we spoke with longtime journalist and historian Robert Orman, he told us you got to add that caveat. It's not that she's the only one, it's that she's better than anybody else. He said she just had a knack for imagining lives that weren't being seen.
Starting point is 00:29:13 Like, what's it like to be that woman at the bottom of the river? Let me tell her story. There are few finer songwriters, male or female. Mind you, she's writing all of these songs when she's 21. I'm 21 years old now, and I started singing, Mama said, I was squalling when I was born, and I was still squalid. But I started singing in church. My grandfather was a preacher.
Starting point is 00:29:38 And I started singing in church when I was old, as far back as I can remember, I would imagine, five, six years old. I believe this is the earliest recorded interview that exists of Dolly Parton. It's 1967, Nashville. She's been interviewed by a guy named Everett Corbyn from the Music City News. Dolly, I suppose it would help me if we just go back to the beginning. I was bored. We start was when I was born, okay? I was born on January the 19th and 1946 in Severe County.
Starting point is 00:30:06 It's a severe of Tennessee. It's a little town between Knoxville, Tennessee, and Gatlinburg, Tennessee. And you might shorten it by saying the foothills of the Great Smoky Mountains. She talks about her family, how there were 12 kids. There's six girls and six boys. How they grew up in this little cabin in the mountains, worked the fields, piled into the same bed at night. What type songs do you prefer? I like valid, real strong, pitiful.
Starting point is 00:30:29 sad crying about it. I got a lot of sad songs, and I just write about things that maybe I've seen happen or things that have been in the family. Well, I have a new album out, I didn't mention too. Or it's not out. This will be out.
Starting point is 00:30:44 It should be out by the end of this month. But it's called, Hello, I'm Dolly. Now, there's no earth-shattering information on that tape, but what I take from it is just, wow, that's a very different human being. Coming to us from a very different world. that interview was 52 years ago and Dolly Parton is still making music. So I think it would be a disservice to her to just focus on the sad-ass songs.
Starting point is 00:31:15 And one of the things you see over the next couple decades is a really interesting shift. Hello. And for this I want to bring back Helen Morales. Hi, Dad. If you recall, she was the one who wrote the book, Pilgrimage to Dollywood. She was the one who urged us, don't focus on the boob jokes. Look at the lyrics. And one of the things that you do see, she says, if you look at,
Starting point is 00:31:35 at the lyrics from the sad-ass songs of 67, 68, 6970, up until now, you see a progression that is the progression of women in America. You know, her lyrics go from songs like, The Only Way Out is to Walk Over Me. Just to prove that I love you, I'll crawl at your feet. And just to prove that I love you. I still can't believe that. That's a little BDSM, actually. Well, exactly.
Starting point is 00:32:11 The pleasure is in being treated badly. And then she moves on to songs that really are calling men out for cheating on women, for behaving badly. You Don't Know Love from Shinole, one of the great lyrics. And you ain't worth assault in my tears. Women are angry about whether the pleasure is in leaving men or in being angry. And then in the final one, she moves on to songs where men are less important. And it's just about women improving their lives. And what's a good example of that phase?
Starting point is 00:32:58 Well, things like, you know, some of her most recent music changes. Hello. I know you've got a world of problems. And you think you can't do anything to solve them. But I'm here to tell you you can. something got you down got you chained and bound well break it if you've built a wall
Starting point is 00:33:25 and though it needs to fall then shake it yes something that you know is damming up the flow tear the damn down let me explain it if you're
Starting point is 00:33:43 don't take the rain, it's going to stay the same, nothing's going to change it if you don't change it. So the progression is basically from these very vivid portraits of misery to fight songs to this third phase, which are songs that maybe they're a little more self-helpy. They're certainly not just about men and women anymore. Oftentimes there's no men involved. And sometimes you don't get the vivid detail of the sad-ass song. but what you get instead is a kind of relentless optimism, a relentless hope that you can't bring me down. You can joke about me all you want to, but I'm going to keep going. It's partly for this reason that Helen Morales refers to Dolly's music in her book as not just music, but as a toolkit for a living.
Starting point is 00:34:50 I mean, her song, Light of a Clear Blue Morning has really helped me out of many a blue period. And what is it about that song? The lyrics just convey a sense of being very confident that things are not okay now, but they will be okay. Can you describe a moment or the time in your life where that song served you or helped you? That's producer is Shimola Eli, by the way. You want me to go back to my worst moments? Yes, please. It's very undolly part in light.
Starting point is 00:35:21 That's very dolly part in life. So, yeah, well, the other words. There was a, yes, I'm not sure I want to talk about that on a movie. I'm not going to give you a specific example, actually. I do in the book. I talk about when my sister was caught cheating at Oxford. And I just played that song on a loop. I'm not sure that that's going to go down.
Starting point is 00:35:53 That didn't go down very well in the book. I'm not sure I want to talk about the show more radio. Okay, yeah, yeah, fair enough. I'd be happy to read some out of the book if you wanted a snapshot of where I used her lyrics. Do you mind? I mean... I don't mind if you want that. I'm happy to do that.
Starting point is 00:36:07 Which one would you like? You mentioned your sister, so maybe that one? Okay. Okay. It's true that one of the reasons Dolly Parton matters so much to me is that her songs have underscored special moments or heightened episodes in my life. One snapshot is of a weekend in July 1998. Newspaper journalists are laying siege outside my mother's home.
Starting point is 00:36:38 One of my younger sisters has been caught cheating in her final exams at Oxford University. And because she is also President-elect of the Student Union on a free education for all ticket, the press is out for blood. My mother is not taking it well and insists that this scandal will devastate my brother, her youngest child. My brother is sitting at the computer enthusiastically looking, up famous alleged exam cheats and announcing them in thrilled tones. Jeffrey Archer! We open the newspapers.
Starting point is 00:37:06 One has a photo of our mum's house, which in reality is a nice three-bedroom Victorian terraced house. The photo has the adjoining houses edited out so that it looks like a mansion. The spin in the accompanying article is how the mighty have fallen. The photograph in the next paper makes a house look like a slum. The spin in of this article is, look what happens when you let Greek Cypriot immigrants into the country. Richard Branson, yells my brother. It's not a calm summer. My mother develops agrophobia.
Starting point is 00:37:36 I put light of a clear blue morning on my stereo and wear out the cassette tape, playing it over and over. Oh my God, that sounds horrible. Oh, yeah, it was sometimes having a song that you can play over and over is really helpful. Coming up, we meet someone who, not only listened to the sad-ass songs, but lived them, and turned out to be a real-life Dolly Doppelganger. I'm Chad Aboumrod.
Starting point is 00:39:02 Dali Parton's America will continue in a moment. Hello, Chalmers here for Zorn Mattson, Portland, Oregon. Radio Lab is supported in part by the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation, enhancing public understanding of science and technology in the modern world. More information about Sloan. at www.sloan.org. You know one beautiful thing that happened to be in Nashville was one of my Uber drivers
Starting point is 00:39:37 gave me a charger for my phone portable and she had a Wonder Woman sticker on it and it was just a beautiful moment. She was like, take it. I'm like, really? No. She's like, it's yours. Wow, that's Dolly Parton's America right there. Yeah. Okay, this is Dolly Parton's America. I'm Jan Abingrad
Starting point is 00:39:55 here with producer Shima Oliai. where at the beginning of a nine-parts series where we dive into the life and music of the one and only Dolly Parton. What can she tell us about America? That's sort of the question. I know we started this episode by saying that a lot of people of my generation,
Starting point is 00:40:10 men mostly, tended to see Dolly Parton one way. But I would give about a year's pay to peek under there. And one of the reasons I wanted to do this series, and by the way, Shima is going to help me narrate this segment. Hey! Hello.
Starting point is 00:40:25 So one of the reasons we wanted to do this, Well, maybe you should just take it from here. Well, yeah, one of the big things that first got us thinking about Dolly Parton to begin with is that in the last couple of years, she seems to have gone from this thing that you described, from this idea you described, to mean something much deeper and much more hopeful for a new generation of women. I think Dolly Parton is an angel. I'm not going to say she's God, but she's definitely a heaven sent, and I think that she makes the world a better place.
Starting point is 00:40:58 She just exudes amazingness? We don't deserve her. I don't even know if that's a word. Dolly for me, like, when I see her and I think of her, I feel more confident in myself. She's like the epitome of female power. She's everything. Well, she's just the greatest person on earth. I truly think that she is one of the most underrated feminist icons of our time.
Starting point is 00:41:22 So, one of the big questions for us was, how do we even start to explain the shift? Well, I have a little bit of a theory. This is Sarah Smarsh. She wrote a book called Heartland, and she's written a lot about Dolly, a lot about class. And just to add, Sarah has been kind of a spirit guide for us in our journeys into the Dollyverse. Definitely. My vague theory is that she was like the OG third wave feminist. Let me give some context to that.
Starting point is 00:41:54 Please. First wave feminism. When people talk about that, they usually mean this group of women. women in the 1800s and early 1900s who were fighting for their rights. Second wave feminism. Welcome to the new wave of feminism. Welcome to each other. Welcome home.
Starting point is 00:42:11 This was sort of Dolly's era. Free ourselves! It was the feminism of the 1970s and 80s. It's where you had a lot of women start rejecting traditional roles and built the workplace and the home. That's a moment when women who had her business ambitions were being encouraged to sort of downplay their own quote unquote femininity. You don't need to wear makeup.
Starting point is 00:42:32 You can cut your hair short. You can put on the pants. And Sarah says that during the second wave, Dolly is one of the first to represent the future third wave. She went like in the opposite direction. It was like, you have a problem with my tits. Then here they are hanging out. My tits hanging out.
Starting point is 00:42:51 Pushing them out there. Of course I played it up. And you can deal with it while I make you my employee. And there is something about that that is sort of like, I think, a more kind of millennial spirit of approach to feminism. One of the women I spoke to Red Sagalow
Starting point is 00:43:09 talked about it this way. There's this idea of what feminists are supposed to look like that they're supposed to like not shame and they're supposed to like burn their bras and all this bullshit. And it's like, no, feminism can be whatever the fuck it is you want it to be as a woman.
Starting point is 00:43:24 You want to have big hair and big boobs and wear rhinestones. then do it. She, I believe, was the pioneer on that one. Sort of like, you know, the way that evolution happens, at any given moment, there's like some deviation, and then it takes time for that to swell and natural selection to take place.
Starting point is 00:43:51 Like among a field of second generation flowers, she was like a third generation spirit. The way that Sarah tells it, Dolly was kind of like the mutation, one of the first special flowers in this field. And then her flower power spread to all the other flowers until the entire field was filled with third wave Dolly flowers. Yeah. Brings us to present day.
Starting point is 00:44:15 Sarah was curious to see what Dolly thought of this idea. So in one of our conversations, I asked her, Do you think of yourself as a feminist? No, I do not. She shot that right down. I think of myself as a woman in business. I love men. And I really, because I have a dad, have all those brothers, all my uncles I loved, my grandpa's I love, and I relate to them.
Starting point is 00:44:41 And I write a lot of songs about women because I am a woman. Or I just write songs that women experience. But I write a lot of songs for men. In fact, I've had hit songs, you know, by, you know, by. I mean, I write, you know, I write songs about my dad, the dinner bucket song. Every time I hear the sound of a train coming down a railroad track, hear a big jet plane flying high. I'd like to throw my hammer down right off to some distant town, not even take the time to say goodbye. But I got to think about my babies, about my, you know, my wife and my old ladies, about how much she'd miss me if I was gone.
Starting point is 00:45:18 So I write about working men, I write about gamblers, I write about, but I write some. songs for men and about men and their feelings too, because I know how they feel. I look like a woman, but I think like a man. But I think like a woman, too. But the idea of Dolly Parton, the feminist, bugs you in some way, I'm gathering. Well, that word, I guess when you say feminist, it's just when I think at the time, like everybody goes to extreme sometimes. I do not like extreme things. I do believe in making a point and making it well. I don't believe in crucifying a whole group just because a few people have made mistakes. To me, when you say just the word feminist is like, I hate all men. So did she say no or she just like was evasive? No, she like
Starting point is 00:46:15 recoiled. Like which surprised me. You know, I thought, I don't know. It was like, I dropped a word bomb in the room. Well, I think she knows. Of course, I can't speculate. But I think that, let me put it through my own experience. I had a very complicated relationship to the term feminist when I was a teenager in rural Kansas. Fox News was kind of a new phenomenon in the 90s. Feminists now apparently stand for nothing.
Starting point is 00:46:48 We didn't have cable news in our farmhouse, but. Families are different. disintegrating. Men are disconnected. You know, like the culture was starting to shift. The big picture here is women do earn less in America because they choose to. The sort of like backlash that is full-throated now was like burgeoning when I was a teenager. And I could feel it. And I had absorbed that just using the word feminism, it had some kind of, I don't know, it felt vaguely negative.
Starting point is 00:47:17 And I was hesitant about the term. So you would, you would now. identifies a feminist. Of course. Does it bother you a tiny bit that she won't? Yeah, but I want to say, like, the part of me that's pissed off is the part of me that got to go to college. Hmm. The thing to know about Sarah is that she grew up poor 40 miles outside of Wichita, Kansas.
Starting point is 00:47:46 She said one of her chores growing up was, quote-unquote, slopping the hogs. She ultimately was able to scrape together enough money from four jobs and a scholarship to enter the University of Kansas. which was just a few hours up the road. But she told us that you can't overstate how far those two worlds feel from each other. The world she came from of farmers and laborers who mistrust the systems that have ultimately failed them. And the world of people who live in cities, who run those systems. And she says certain words, they have a different life in those two worlds. But there are women who, as we speak, are living.
Starting point is 00:48:27 the tenets of feminism more strongly and in a more badass manner than women who wear the word on a t-shirt and march in the marches. And yet... What do you think of that word even? No. I don't think that... No. No. Would not take that term on themselves.
Starting point is 00:48:52 She gave the example of a grandma. I think that men and women should be paid equally. There's just a lot of things that I don't necessarily agree with. And you're going to ask me what it is, and I can't tell you because I don't know. But so maybe just introduce yourself. Tell me who you are. I'm Grandma Daddy. In talking with Sarah about this distance and about Dolly, she kept bringing up her grandma,
Starting point is 00:49:22 and she's like, if you met my grandma, you'd know what I mean. I'm a little nervous. Oh, yeah, yeah, no, no, that's great. This is great. Your first time being interviewed by anybody other than me, I believe. She totally didn't want to be interviewed. She did it, I think, as a favor to Sarah, and mostly because she loves Dolly.
Starting point is 00:49:41 I think that she seems like an angel. In any case, Vetti was born just a few months before Dolly Pardin. Well, he's born in 45, so... What is this? Well, that's an old thing. She showed us pictures of her from 1967 the same year that Dolly did that interview you heard earlier. I just made up my mind. That's what I wanted to do, and anything I've made up my mind. That's me.
Starting point is 00:50:07 And that's your beehive. And in the pictures... So you look just like Dolly. My hair did. Oh my God, that's... It's identical. Betty told us she was a really rebellious kid growing up. She skipped school a lot.
Starting point is 00:50:22 She got into fights, mostly with rich kids who bullied her and her cousins. Oh, yeah. I mean, that's the way that I dealt with things back then. You know, somebody didn't give me any crap. You know, you shoot it right back. You didn't walk away. She told us about this one time when she was 17 and she was at home. And then her mom's ex-husband showed up.
Starting point is 00:50:41 He was drunk, of course. They had broken up. And he came to the house one night. And he was drinking, drunk. And I had already gone to bed. And I could hear him in there arguing. And he called my mom. mother a pig. And I got out of the bed and I went in there and said, don't call my mother a pig
Starting point is 00:51:02 ever. And I went back to the bedroom. And then they continued to argue and I heard him call her a pig again. And I got up and went in there and said, this is it. I picked up a cast iron skillet that had grease in it and I slammed him upside the head and knocked him down. But he got up and he staggered to the front porch and then he fell off the porch and that's how it happened because he called my mother a pig and I told him not to do that. Wow, that's amazing. My grandma grew up working on factory floors, waiting tables and diners on interstates and highways. And so, you know, she didn't take any lip. Sarah says that her grandma was the person that all the women in the family would come to when they had problems. Nonetheless, by the time Betty was 30 years old, she'd been married seven
Starting point is 00:52:06 times. Most of those husbands had beaten her abused her. One had even shot her in the shoulder. Sarah told us about this one time when they were together, and her grandma kind of popped her jaw in and out, like clicked her jaw, and then said matter-of-factly. That was a gift from one of my sweethearts. You know, it's heartbreaking to me to think about her enduring something like that. But I also kind of thought, like, what a bad bitch, you know. But as far as, you know, ever letting on, like, just by an inch that she had been hurt or had any sense of victimhood is like, no.
Starting point is 00:52:49 She said that was just totally taboo. But Sarah says there was always this one moment where she'd get to see what was happening underneath. It was when they'd be driving to the groceries and her grandma would pop in a cassette tape of Dolly Parton's Coat in Many Colors. I just, like, never saw this woman crack. And that song, damn.
Starting point is 00:53:10 Could we play it? Sure. We sat and listened to it in the living room. Back once again to the seasons of my youth. A coat of many colors is, of course, about a little girl who is so proud of this coat that her mother sews for her from scraps. That's the only way that she's going to have warmth in the winter. She's proud of the coat. It's beautiful to her, and when she enters school, she is shamed for it.
Starting point is 00:54:07 It's about poverty. yes, but it's also about a little girl who is being told to be ashamed, and she's saying, I refuse to be ashamed. Thanks. Sorry, guys. It just brings back so many memories. What do you think of? I think about my grandma sewing my dresses, and, you know, kids making fun of it.
Starting point is 00:54:59 And I think that's why I became something. such a badass because, you know, it's hurtful when people make fun of you. And my way to react was knock the hell out of them, you know. You're crying, too. That's my story. When Grandma Betty would listen to Dolly's music, Dolly was singing the song she didn't have the space in her life to sing. Is it?
Starting point is 00:55:38 Hailing? Welcome to Kansas. It's sunny and it's hailing? That means we're a month away from tornado season. And then towards the end of the interview, she surprised us and told us something else. She said that after her seventh husband died, Arnie, he was the one guy who treated her well, by the way. After he died, she decided to sell the farm. And then as she's packing up her stuff, moving all the things out.
Starting point is 00:56:01 And we had 50-gallon barrels that we burnt trash in. And I think a little bathtub. And I took my nylons and my tight-fitting bras and threw them in the barrel and threw a match. She burned her bra. Did you really? I really did. That's legit feminism, that's by the book. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:56:22 That's why it was. Hi, Charlie. Hello, Charlie. God, that is... Charlie is Sarah's cat, and she sort of walked in to be like, okay, y'all, interview's over now. And as we were walking away, I kept thinking... Clearly, the lenses we have to see each other, the words that we use to describe each other, they're just not good enough.
Starting point is 00:56:43 And maybe Dolly moves in that space where those words fail. My friends call me the Dolly Mama, you know, and I'm going to write a whole book on just sayings and just how to... By the way, after our Kansas adventure, we went back to Dolly one more time, and I took that question that I asked her and reframed it in light of something. that we had seen and that Sarah Smarsh had told us that there are feminists in theory, but there are also the feminists in practice. That's the one. That's me. That's me.
Starting point is 00:57:20 Like it's about how you live. Yes, that's a good way to say it. I think that's a good way of saying it. I live it. I work it. And I think there's power in it for me. By the way, the idea that feminists burn their bras, total myth. Didn't happen.
Starting point is 00:57:54 Never happened. They almost did. They couldn't get the fire started, is that right? No, it was they needed a permit to light the bra on fire, and they didn't have the permit. Really? And that's why they were like, oh, I guess we can't do that. So they just threw the bras in the trash. Never set it on fire.
Starting point is 00:58:11 Wow. Grandma Betty's the only one. Excellent. going to go burn bras right now. Okay, I'm going to read the credits then. Dolly Partons America was produced, written and edited by me and Chimoliayi. Brought to you by Awesome Audio, that's OSM Audio, and W.NYC Studios. We had production help from W. Harry Fortuna and original music from Alex Overington. And huge thanks to the folks at Sony for allowing us to use some of Dolly's early music.
Starting point is 00:58:42 Thanks also to the Everett Corbin Collection at the Center for Popular Music. Special thanks to Lynn Sacco, Danny Niselle, Kyle MacLean, Theresa Hughes, Randy Schmidt, Pat Walters, Lulu, Susie Lechtenberg, and Soren Wheeler. And a very special thanks to my dad, Nodgy. Check out dollypartonsamerica.com for more information, for playlist, and to see the absolutely beautiful artwork created by artist Christine de Carvalho. I'm Jad Abumrad.
Starting point is 00:59:11 Thanks for listening. And on the next episode of Dolly Partons America. He would say, this is my damn show. I say, I know, but this is my damn life. and we're not talking about the show. I'm talking about my life. I'm talking about my future. We'll have the story of Dolly Parton's Peter Parker moment,
Starting point is 00:59:27 the moment she became a superhero. So that was episode one, and we have eight more coming out, and dollypartonsamerica.com, Apple Podcast, search for Dolly Partons America, and it's going to go in some really weird places. Like, it's not all. hours, it can't be straight. It's got to go, it's got to get a little bit odd. It bridges, it bridges out from
Starting point is 00:59:52 biography and it goes into some strange kind of mental, imaginary places that I'm excited to see if people stay with it. I think they're going to be like, this is kind of trippy. You can be on your knees. I think they do. But I'm, yeah, I'm really excited to, it's very different than anything that I've ever done. So everybody, goodbye for now. Listen to Dolly Parton's America. If you want to, stay here. Regardless. Yes. And I'll mention that other name again.
Starting point is 01:00:22 Well, we're Radio Lab, of course, one word. And the other thing is, I think it's Dolly Parton. It's D with a P. I think you know how she spells her name. Yeah, Dali Parton's America. Okay. Okay. Well, thank you.
Starting point is 01:00:34 Robert, thank you for humoring me on this. You're welcome. And thank you all for listening. Bye. Bye.

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