Radiolab - The Seagulls

Episode Date: June 2, 2023

In the 1970s, as LGBTQ+ people in the United States faced conservatives whose top argument was that homosexuality is “unnatural,” a pair of young scientists discovered on a tiny island off the coa...st of California a colony of seagulls that included… a significant number of female homosexual couples making nests and raising chicks together. The article that followed upended the culture’s understanding of what’s natural and took the discourse on homosexuality in a whole new direction. In this episode, our co-Host Lulu Miller grapples with the impact of this and several other studies about animal queerness on her life as a queer person. Special thanks to the History is Gay (https://www.historyisgaypodcast.com/) podcast. EPISODE CREDITS Reported by - Lulu Millerwith help from - Sarah QariProduced by - Sarah QariOriginal sound design contributed by - Jeremy Bloomwith mixing help from - Arianne WackFact-checking by - Diane Kellyand Edited by - Becca Bressler Our newsletter comes out every Wednesday. It includes short essays, recommendations, and details about other ways to interact with the show. Sign up (https://radiolab.org/newsletter)! Radiolab is supported by listeners like you. Support Radiolab by becoming a member of The Lab (https://members.radiolab.org/) today. Follow our show on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @radiolab, and share your thoughts with us by emailing radiolab@wnyc.org.   Leadership support for Radiolab’s science programming is provided by the Gordon and Betty Moore Foundation, Science Sandbox, a Simons Foundation Initiative, and the John Templeton Foundation. Foundational support for Radiolab was provided by the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation.  

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Starting point is 00:00:09 Radio Lab. From WNYC. To C. C. Yeah. C. Lots of Nosser. Lulu Miller.
Starting point is 00:00:19 You're ready to get wet. Wet? Mm-hmm. Because we are hopping in a boat. Okay. It's called, it's windy, it's 1972. So in the boat with us is a young married couple, George Hunt. Now I'm just an old douchebag. And Molly Warner. We didn't have quite here.
Starting point is 00:00:35 Back now. We got darker. Oh yeah. Picture them in flannels, big rubber boots, binoculars around their neck. Yeah, follow thanks. And they're about 30 miles off the coast of Southern California, approaching this big, imposing hunk of rock. Gold center barber island. It's about a mile across, treeless. Mostly cliff around the edges. Totally uninhabited.
Starting point is 00:01:01 There's no dock there, so you have to roll up to waves on rocks and jump off, but just the right time. And on top of that rock, Molly's gonna spot something that will change the lives of millions of people. Hmm. All things, too. Goals. Goals. Goals like seagulls? Mm-hmm. George is an ornithologist,
Starting point is 00:01:32 and they had traveled all the way out to the island because there was a wild colony out there. He really wanted to study. Okay. Only problem was that it was the middle of the spring semester. And I had to teach. Back on the mainland at UC Irvice. So I had to teach back on the mainland at UCR Vice. So I had to leave Molly out there. Oh man. After helping her get set up, he hops
Starting point is 00:01:50 on the boat back home. That's a little that's a little cold. Yeah, it is not just emotionally cold. It was cold on windy. Okay. So, but you know, George is a young professor trying to prove himself and Molly happens to be trained as an anthropologist. Yeah. So she agrees to spend a couple months out there, you know, watching. Oh, it's amazing to be in a go colony and you're just sitting there and all of a sudden there's a falcon that flies over. The entire colony jumps up into the air and screams and circles. But what she was really there to observe was,
Starting point is 00:02:29 well, mating season. The female will be big for food, going, and if I really remember what the males say. I think we actually have George doing that. You probably do. The male starts right here, cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuck cuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuckuck Kisses his cloaca to hers and fertilizes her. Can you watch a rejection happen versus an acceptance? A rejection is the female walks away. Okay, she's not, she's not subtle.
Starting point is 00:03:14 Yes, not that different from a lot of places. So anyway, back to Molly, Moon's coming out stars, when this is her existence is on this island. And one morning, coming out stars wins. This is her existence is on this island. And one morning, it's about a week after the mating has begun. Mm-hmm.
Starting point is 00:03:31 And she begins walking around, looking at the nest. And suddenly eggs are appearing. Okay. And so she's kind of going on this little Easter egg hunt. One egg. She's just marking two eggs. Her little clipboard, how many eggs are in each nest?
Starting point is 00:03:46 Yeah. Two eggs. Three eggs. When she sees this one nest. It had six eggs in it. Six. Right. Which is way more than these birds usually like.
Starting point is 00:03:58 It would be like having sipped upwards. And as she goes along, Chuck of the, she's seeing that about one in 10 of hundreds of nests has way more eggs than it's supposed to have. Of course, there weren't any cell phones that would have been extremely useful. Yeah. We did have a radio phone thing. So she radios to George. The communication was so awful. Like there's too many eggs and You need to come out and see what's going on. And so I did. And she shows them around the island all these nests just Brimming with eggs and I I was absolutely thunder struck.
Starting point is 00:04:45 You'd never seen or even heard of so many eggs in one single nest. So that the question was, what's going on? They figured maybe there was something going on inside the birds that was making them pump out so many extra eggs. So Molly went and trapped the birds. One of the couples from the nests with tons of eggs. I then euthanized them and trapped the birds. One of the couples from the nest with tons of eggs. I then usanized them and dissected them. Thank you for your service to science, that pair.
Starting point is 00:05:10 Oh, it's just left six eggs. I am. Yeah, gosh, yeah, that's sad. I don't even think about that. Yeah, so they left those eggs cold in the wind. Okay, it's a true, it's a very sad story. in the wind. Okay, it's a, it's a, it's a very sad story. Um, so George opens up the first bird, realizes it's the female, the species, the males, the females are, are basically identical. Um, and he looks and he sees the reproductive tract, ovaries, perfectly fine. So, then he takes a look at her mate. I opened the second bird and we can see the ovaries. It's another female. I turned to Molly and said, are you sure these two actually came from the same thing? This couldn't have been an asting pair.
Starting point is 00:06:00 Yes, they were. You know, she was really quite indignant because she's a very careful scientist. And she said, absolutely so. So at that point, we knew we had two females incubating eggs on the same nest. So they go back and check all those other nests with six eggs. They find a way of identifying the sex without euthanizing them and discover they are all all of them females and as they watch them they realize that they aren't just roommates. The females will meet with each other.
Starting point is 00:06:33 Really? They are having sex with each other. Wow. One of the females will get on top of the other female and make the clicking sound as if she's the male. And we'll raise her wings. Steady, her legs, and kiss the cloakers. It's the whole same dance. Wow. Now, they're not actually making babies this way. They'll have to go get fertilized by a male somewhere else. But after that happens, the two females come together
Starting point is 00:07:13 and incubate the eggs together. And the chicks are very cute, but they're hatching. These little fuzzy things. And when a chick does hatch, these two ladybirds take turns. Throwing up their fish for the little guys to eat. Giving them the nice baby food. Giving them the nice baby food. So the smaller girls that all in all, George and Molly found that about 10% of the nests on Santa Barbara Island had two moms inside. And that was a whole my goodness.
Starting point is 00:07:45 This is something new. As far as I know, it was the first documentation of female female pairing in any wild animal. All right, bias alert. Watch if my friend you may recall that I too am a female female paired vertebrate. I am a lady, ma'am, too, lady. We've got two kids.
Starting point is 00:08:15 And so when I first heard about this, I was totally charmed by it. And so I thought, oh, this would be a fun Mother's Day story, maybe a Valentine's Day story, whatever. I wanted to just tell a little story about it. But when I started looking into it, it turned out that the story of the gals is so much bigger than the gals.
Starting point is 00:08:35 They would become a kind of turning point in our understanding of how homosexuality works in the animal world, and even how we think about and talk about homosexuality in us. Okay, you sold me. All right, okay, let's go. Yeah, so to get us there, I guess, first off, you have to know that at the time George and Molly discovered these gals, the scientific establishments official stands on homosexuality was that it was unnatural, not really a part of the natural world, not a part of the animal kingdom, and that is a belief that as best as I can tell was born back in the 1200s. Wow, we're going way back. All right.
Starting point is 00:09:20 So come with me there for a brief moment. We're going to meet a man named Thomas Aquinas, the famous philosopher priest who wrote, in one of his most famous works, that homosexuality was a quote, crime against nature. And this idea, this phrase, this belief, it spread like wildfire all over Western Europe, a lot of the laws that banned homosexuality
Starting point is 00:09:43 explicitly used that phrase, crime against nature. But then with the rise of science in the 17th and 18th century, you also see how this belief gets embedded there too, because whenever scientists did stumble across same sex mating in animals, which they did, they would either not publish on it, and you can actually see records of the notes that people sat on, or accounts that got flat out rejected from publications. Or if they did write about it, they'd explain it away as a quote perversion or aberration, or even abomination. Scientists using that language. Yeah, totally. And then when Darwin comes along in the 1800s, the ideas of evolution end up kind of bolstering the notion that homosexuality shouldn't appear in nature. Basically,
Starting point is 00:10:32 if the whole point of life is to reproduce, why would you have a creature that can't reproduce? You know? And then instead of perverse, it would get labeled with words like evolutionary outlier or fluke or mistake. Right, and in what other scenario are like Darwin and the priests pulling in the same direction? You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely. And this sort of strange alignment made it so like, when a scientist would see a thing in nature,
Starting point is 00:11:00 they could still manage to label it as unnatural. Even though I just saw it in nature. Yeah, yes, 100%. And in fact, when George and Molly first tried to publish on the Seagulls in the 1970s, the Ornithological Journal, they sent it to, rejected it. They said, well, this is so unusual, we want more data. So we said, sure, we'll go get more data.
Starting point is 00:11:23 We got more data. So they did. Year after year, they kept more data. We got more data. So they did year after year they kept collecting data They took photos. They got more and more research assistance to help and finally it was sufficiently mind-boggling to us that we said Where we send this to science George finally submits a paper to the journal science and in June of 1977, a paper is released called Female Female Pairing in Western Goals Larus, Accidentalis in Southern California,
Starting point is 00:11:52 and basically, the world goes crazy. It sets off this media frenzy. The phone doesn't stop ringing. Georgia members newspaper's calling from all over the world. Can I speak to George Hunt, please? Wanting to interview him. The London Times, the Melbourne Times.
Starting point is 00:12:08 I bet I'm calling from India all over this country. Because in documenting these islands full of homosexual goals, George and Molly hadn't just challenged a central belief of science. They had clumsily detonated that centuries-old justification that people were still using to try to keep homosexuality. A crime. Alright, so quickly of the land, June 1977, when this paper drops over 100 countries and
Starting point is 00:12:38 a majority of US states still criminalized homosexuality, many based on a coinus' old phrase that it was a quote. Crime against nature. This is historian Lillian Faterman. We have heard you referenced multiple times as the mother of lesbian history. I won't call myself that, but if you want to introduce me is that I don't object. She lived through this era and said that 1977 was a very charged moment. Then the fight for LGBTQ rights.
Starting point is 00:13:10 On one hand, there had been all these strides. There were the first gay pride parades. The medical profession had declassified homosexuality as a mental illness. And more and more people started coming out of the closet and winning rights, yes. But in response to all that momentum, there came a voice. Come along with me to my little corner of the world.
Starting point is 00:13:44 The woman named Anita Bryant, maybe you've heard of her. She's a pop singer and evangelical Christian. She did like the orange juice commercials, right? Exactly. She was the spokesperson for the Florida Citrus Commission. Yeah. Coming to the Florida Sunshine Tree. And a spokesperson for the anti-game movement.
Starting point is 00:14:05 She called her organization, save our children against homosexuals incorporated. With the argument that homosexuals are very dangerous and to try to convince people of this, she would often point to nature, saying stuff like, not even barnyard animals do the disgusting things that homosexuals do. That is homosexuality is so much against nature that it's not to be found even among animals.
Starting point is 00:14:36 She was a notoriously great organizer like she could really mobilize people. Hugely. And this tactic of pointing to the supposed empirical wrongness or deviance of homosexuals, a whole man did it work. It was a decisive end to Dread County's homosexual controversy. Just two weeks before George and Molly's study dropped, she pulled off her first victory, and it was a big one. She successfully organized voters in Miami to come out and vote
Starting point is 00:15:06 to strip away legal protections for gay folks. They wanted no part of a law which protects homosexuals. And so right on the heels of that, when this scientific report on some pretty natural looking homosexuality comes out. We got some really quite nasty letters about our work that you know this was bad. We were undermining proper beliefs. There were editorials slamming George's work and even Congress jumped in. Really? Yeah. In retrospect, I shouldn't have been surprised. Yeah. He had received government funding from the National Science Foundation and some conservative congressman were so upset about this that congress held up the NSF budget. Wow.
Starting point is 00:15:49 A tiny tangent, I don't know, for me at least still kind of feels that public opinion over the morality of gay relationships or marriages has changed so drastically in the last few decades, at least in this country. It's like genuinely hard to put your mind back to understand like the Anita Bryant or the people who can't stomach even a scientist documenting this in seagulls. I don't think it's hard to go back there.
Starting point is 00:16:20 No, I mean, the Anita Bryant's are alive and well, they're banning books. They're trying to dial back queer rights based on a really similar argument. Right. Right. But the thing I feel like I need to confess that I didn't even realize until working on this story is that I held a version of this belief of a coiness's old belief too. Really? Yeah, I mean, I didn't grow up with religion. I woke into a world where I realized I was queer at a time where like, there was so much more acceptance. Right.
Starting point is 00:16:54 But if I did grow up with anything, it's like my scientist father, evolution. Like I just, I absolutely believed it was unnatural. And I would hear every so and now and then, like I grew up outside of Boston. There were like, gay swans in Boston Common, and I was like, oh, but it felt like a byproduct of captivity. Yeah. So about a year ago, when I first heard about
Starting point is 00:17:17 Jordan Molly study, like I had this 40 year delayed version of what happened for a lot of queer people when the study came out. I was absolutely thrilled. That's Lily and Thaderman again. Gay periodicals all over the country picked up and this immediately. They published cartoons of like the gay, the lesbian seagulls like pooping in Anita Bryant's eye.
Starting point is 00:17:41 Yes. Here's one. There were songs. Come with me. The. Here's one. There were songs. Come with me. Let's be in Seagull. And plays. One show actually had two women in Seagull outfits.
Starting point is 00:17:54 That's Pamela Gray. She wrote one of those plays. I went to it. And afterward, I went up and introduced myself to the director who just fell over. There were boat rides out to go see the goals. I gave up a couple of Sundays to lead trips out to the islands. We got on a boat.
Starting point is 00:18:11 This is Edgar Sochel, a queer ecologist who went out to the island to just commune. It was super loud. With his queer avian elders. It was like 24 hours. For a time, the lesbian seagull really became like a mascot in the gay pride movement. Yeah, yeah. Right. Yes. Amazing. But in the anti-gay movement, the gals did not have an effect. Anita Bryant only went on to have more wins in the following years, getting more discriminatory practices in place in other cities.
Starting point is 00:18:54 And in the 80s, when the question of homosexuality finally reaches the Supreme Court in Bowers V. Hardwick, the justices vote against legalizing homosexual sex for the whole country again, calling it unnatural in the opinion. But if you turn, if you woosmozion over to the halls of science, you see that the seagull study ushered in a flood or pardon me, a parade of queer animals tromping through onto the scientific records. Hmm, just hundreds of studies starting with The Huffed Animals.
Starting point is 00:19:35 Dear Trap, Anelo, Pngasel. This is John Megahan. He illustrated a whole book of queer animals. Wild Sheets, goats, and buffalo. Then you got Prime mates. Jin's Pinobos, Gorillas, and Blanetans. That's Elliott Shreffer, who just came out with a book on the science of queer animals. Pinobos females having sex.
Starting point is 00:19:50 We'll get face to face to do it. They will rub their clitoris against each other to have loud, rapturous orgasms. Ooh! Heading underwater. We have the clownfish. This is Christine Wilkinson. She's a biologist and ecologist.
Starting point is 00:20:05 And the Amazon River dolphin. Is that the pink one? Yeah, they're pink. Okay. They love cuddling, which I think is very sweet. Oh, that's nice. There's also like whales, seals, medities, bottled noose dolphins.
Starting point is 00:20:18 Nails will bond for life. And a study put it at 2.4 times an hour on average that the males are having sex with each other. That's so much. It sounds exhausting. Just when I thought I'd covered all of them. Rattle steaks, tinas, morsoothials, hedgehogs, rodents. Just kept coming.
Starting point is 00:20:36 Batch. Having oral sex with each other in flight? Upside down. Oh, I love it. And you have birds, geese, swans, and ducks, swallows, more mursfinches, sparrows, black birds and crows, birds of paradise, other birds. But the animal vet really took the cake for me. Is this striped little lizard called the new Mexico Whiptail Lizard? This entire species is made up of females. You can have a species with no
Starting point is 00:21:05 males. Turns out you can. These lezzy lizzies actually simulate compilation with each other, which increases their fertility. They then reproduce asexually, but instead of popping out a clone, they produce twice the number of chromosomes, okay, which get recombined to form more genetically diverse offspring just like they would in a fertilized egg. No, yes, no. Never heard of that before. So they're freaking gonna persist.
Starting point is 00:21:35 What the last nearly 50 years of scientific study has revealed is that there is not a single banana slug corn earthworm Of this planet, where animals are not being super freaking weird. Wow. Right? And I do want to just say that I'm focusing on same-sex mating, but the story of sexual fluidity in nature, animals being multiple sexes at once or changing sexes over a lifetime, that
Starting point is 00:22:13 has been discovered to be such a deep part of nature too. But for the same sex mating thing, as scientists looked closely and measured oxytocin levels are counted off-spring survival rates are done. The science thing on it, they're seeing all these benefits, like evolutionary benefits. Same-sex mating can strengthen hunting alliances. It can help resolve conflict during resource scarcity. It can reduce stress and strengthen social bonds, which is really good for fitness. And it can even increase the survival rate of offspring.
Starting point is 00:22:49 Huh. How? So my favorite example of this is in white-tailed deer. Males will mate with one another, and they're these societies. These all male societies of deer called velvet horns that roam the forest in packs of like two to seven and they don't have full-on big antlers. They have these little velvet ones so they don't fight. And so that leaves them healthier than the other ones because they're not getting injured. And these all male packs will take in orphaned fawns and raise them and protect them. And learning about the sheer breadth of how queerness is a part of nature, this thread
Starting point is 00:23:39 that was there all along but we missed, but I missed. It changed my understanding of how I fit on the tree of life. There can be a loneliness to being LGBT that in a kind of broad existence sense. Elliott Shreffer again. We are a blip of a strange time of human culture that created us and that without foundation in the past and without future, that this kind of, it can feel annihilating. And I love the idea that queerness
Starting point is 00:24:19 does not make us an anomaly, does not separate us from the natural world, but instead it is our heritage as animals. I would love to end the story right here, but I can't, because after a short break, I have a lesson to learn about the dangers of finding your belonging in nature. Stick with us. We'll be back. Lutthiff. Lulu. Radio lab.
Starting point is 00:25:03 Goals. And where are we going next? All right, so we need to take a brief pit stop in Washington, D.C. because about 30 years after George and Molly first discovered the Goals. The quote unquote lesbian seagulls make an appearance at the Supreme Court. The Gauls did? Kind of. Yeah. So in 2003, Lawrence, we text us the case that will overturn the remaining bands on queer sex
Starting point is 00:25:33 and legalize it for the whole country. Make it a constitutional right. It's this huge victory. There was a brief that was filed that said, basically, you can't call homosexuality a crime against nature because look how common it is in nature. a brief that was filed that said basically you can't call homosexuality a crime against nature because look how common it is in nature. And they footnote this book in the middle of which is a section complete with illustrations on the lesbian goals. Wow. And so whether or not any justice like open that book and change their mind because of that, um, I do love to just know that the homosexual seagulls were there that day. Like, like cheering,
Starting point is 00:26:14 cheering from the rafters. Sharing from the footnotes. Yeah, cheering from the footnotes. Molly, this all kind of started with your eye. That's right. It started with you noticing something and I think whether or not it's a big part of your life now, I know that I at least feel this odd gratitude to the grueling spring you spent out there, because in a real way, it is part of why I feel a deeper sense of belonging than maybe like a queer woman 50 years ago. So I guess I just kind of wanted to say thank you.
Starting point is 00:27:00 Well, I appreciate that. Thank you. So what I'm really hoping I can do next is actually go out to the island. I'm trying right now to get my editor to send me with my wife and our two little boys to go camp there for a night so we can, you know, collect the sounds of the gals and then at night be nesting down with our little brood and our little nest and picturing that there's like female female pairs with their little nest and and just feeling like this oneness. But you know, if you have female pairing died out. Wait, what? What?
Starting point is 00:27:36 There aren't, there's still seagulls, but the island is head around now. How did that happen? Well, Georgia's theory is that back in the 70s, chemicals like DDT were getting into the birds, but for some reason were more toxic to the males, which left an island without that many males around. And a female that's primed to mate will mate with the best prospect available. So they pair up with another female. And once DDT was banned, the male population could rebound so the females didn't need to pair up anymore another female. And once DDT was banned, the male population could rebound so the females didn't need to pair up anymore.
Starting point is 00:28:08 That's his theory. Has it been seen since on the islands that you know of? Not that I know of. Do you guess that like in these 30 years, 40 years, do you think sometimes it happens just because of... I have not seen it since. Okay. 30 years, 40 years. Do you think sometimes it happens just because of? I have not seen it since. Okay.
Starting point is 00:28:29 Nobody has told me they saw them. But isn't it hard to see? It's the early 70s. Isn't it hard to see with the naked eye? Sorry to interrupt, but couldn't it be happening without us realizing? It could be happening without us realizing, but the eggs are big and obvious and there are
Starting point is 00:28:46 enough people walking around and go colonies and dealing with gals in one way or another. People would be aware of lots of eggs, especially after what we had. But no, I don't think it's going on now. Sorry. I know. I was like as a queer person that's... I can hear you. Please tell me they still like doing that. No, no.
Starting point is 00:29:17 But I appreciate you, George Hunt, as a just man, wed to the facts and the observations, which is how we got here. But yeah, there's a deflation in the like, you know, you want to, you want, you want a certain story sometimes. Yes. So to just sum that all up, it means that the animal that opened the flood gates to all the research which has helped us see the naturalness of homosexuality in nature was, most likely, a fluke. which honestly knocked the window out of me. It made me feel embarrassed.
Starting point is 00:30:11 Okay, I mean, what is your deal with these queer animals? Okay, so, animals. This is someone very close to me. My wife's grace. Is this the first time I've dragged you on to the microphone in 10 years of being together? I think. Yeah. Well, welcome. And I asked her to talk to me because the whole time I've been working on this, Grace has been side-ying what she calls.
Starting point is 00:30:36 This is your pathological obsession with finding queer animals. Like, one book after another of gay animal stories started popping up. In our home. No matter how many times they put them away, they would be back where they started. And like I thought it was cute at first. But then it kept going. And almost to me it felt like you were seeking validation of our relationship in a certain way. felt like you were seeking validation of our relationship in a certain way, almost. Oh, whoa, of our relationship. No, like our relationship specifically, but of like your own experience of being queer. And though at first, I kind of denied that. The more we talked, I thought you said at some point
Starting point is 00:31:20 that it like brought reassurance to you. Yeah, the more I did realize that maybe they were giving me something like a shield against a message that you can get as you walk through the world as a queer family. What do you mean? I mean, then this state next door, the attorney general, three years ago wanted to scratch me off my son's birth certificate. We each have a kid who's biological and one who's not, and for the non-biological parent, we're currently allowed to
Starting point is 00:31:51 both be on the birth certificate, but anyone in the gay community knows that you want to also adopt your child because you don't know where rights are going, and the process of adopting your own child to have the state officially recognize each of us. You've just submit yourself to background check, you've just submit yourself to a house visit. Knowing that the presumption is you're probably not fit, you have to like experience looking at your floors and like your body and wondering,
Starting point is 00:32:23 oh God, there's dust bunny under this part of my kitchen. What is in my cupboards? Am I too messy today? There's literally a coffee stain on my pants right now. And just that process, like any brock of lock on the street, it seems can go make a baby on the state's fine with it, but should it be two women or should it be two men? Or should there be a trans person involved and you'd like to adopt that child, your own child,
Starting point is 00:32:49 you have to prove that you're fit. I mean, I get that. You know, when we're in public, sometimes with our kids, and it's like, you know, if they're misbehaving, it feels worse because we're two moms and you're like, oh, I don't want it to reflect badly on us. Right, and they're like, see, it is bad for them.
Starting point is 00:33:08 I don't know, there's just something so profoundly like a fresh drink of water to just like, you know, and that's why I'm cherry picking the studies where the homo animals have higher offspring survival rates and where it's about like species, like where I'm like, it's good for a community, it's good for a kid. I mean, it just makes me sad that you think of it like that.
Starting point is 00:33:30 It makes me sad that those laws are still contributing to you feeling gross, or to de-legitimizing our relationship. I'm mostly feel angry, FYI. But I think the salient feeling is discussed or like wrongness. Yeah, I don't know. It's like the fear that there are some people who think you would be dangerous to their kid. And I, there's a low grade always trying to prove otherwise, yeah.
Starting point is 00:34:20 But I feel like those just like all the discriminatory practices should be taken away just because not because we get to where like even beings, not because we also exist in nature. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Like why do we need to prove our worth by existing in nature? Why not just acknowledge that like whatever the relationships are put like it's love like it's all it is is like it's just loving people and there's nothing wrong with that Oh my god, what time is it? Do we have to pick up our kids? Holy sh**. Oh my god, we gotta go. Okay, um, oh god, we're gonna be late.
Starting point is 00:35:17 Last mom's a daycare and then they'll be like, let's be and so pick up their kids on time. She's putting on her jacket. She's leaving. All right, am I getting the kids ready? We want a book. I'm going to go. I'm going to go.
Starting point is 00:35:29 I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go.
Starting point is 00:35:37 I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. I'm going to go. Sorry, with help from Tanya Chaula, Heather Radke, Andrew Vinyalis, and Eketi Foster Keys.
Starting point is 00:35:46 It was edited by Becca Bressler, sound design by Jeremy Bloom and dialogue mixing by Arian Wack. Special thanks to Michael Chedo, Harsha Dostrati, Sean McKeethen, and Sarita Butth. We want to give a huge shout out to the podcast Breaking Green Ceilings, which amplifies underheard voices in nature and ecology. That's where Lulu first learned about the Seagull study on their episode with Edgar Socho, who you met in our piece.
Starting point is 00:36:11 Elliott Shreffer's book on queerness in nature is called Queer Ducks and Other Animals. It's a great read if you want to go deeper on some of the science of this stuff. And I am excited to say that our resident artist on Staff Jared Bartman designed a patch, an embroidered patch of the gay seagulls. It is retro, it's got a sunsetty rainbow, and you can get it if you become a sustaining
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