REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 100-0: It's A Lifestyle, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO179

Episode Date: October 5, 2017

When we're little, most of us are encouraged to be great. But when we get older, for some reason, the script changes. We're told to be practical, realistic. The people who used to support us now discourage us--so we can be average, like them. You need to learn how to react to people like that. You need to learn to get p*ssed at their negativity and drive it into productive action. Learn to do whatever it takes to "live a life that says 'I told you so' without having to say a word."

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys before I get into Thursday Thunder which is going to be Thunder I've got some housekeeping as you know if you listen to Tuesday, which I know you did because you're not stupid, we are doing a testimonial contest and the grand prize is going to be, I'm going to fly out a group of people who make a one minute video or less, not a one minute and 10 second, not a one minute and 10 second, not a one minute and 40 second, not a seven minute, one fucking minute explaining how the content of the MFCEO project has changed the direction of their life. Tell us about your benefits. Tell us about the progress you're

seeing. Tell us about the struggles that you saw before it. Tell a good fucking story. We are going to do this contest to celebrate our 200th episode. Okay. To enter this contest, you're going to need to post your video on YouTube. You're going to need to send the link to testimonials, plural, testimonials at the mfceo.com. So you make the video, you host it on YouTube, you send us the link, testimonials at the mfceo.com. We will watch the videos and then we will pick someone. Actually, I think we're going to pick like five people to bring out here for our VIP exclusive MFCEO experience, which is going to include top notch accommodations, hanging out, going through your business questions, going through any issues you might be having with yourself one-on-one with me,

having you on the podcast, answering some of these questions on the podcast, because if you have the questions, pretty much everybody probably has the same questions. And then we're going to go to dinner. We're going to have some drinks. We're going to eat at my favorite place and we're just going to hang out and have a good time. So it is going to be a fun time. It's going to be a really cool experience. And if you want to be a part of that, make sure you enter the contest. Now, with that being said, guys, I have something that I want to talk about that is near and dear and important to me and something that I honestly cannot fucking grasp why this doesn't exist with everybody. Okay. All through our lives, we're going to have people tell us that we can't do shit, which is really weird because when we're little and when we're dreaming and we're growing up, most of us grow up in a situation where our parents, people around us, our schooling, when we're little, they say, dream big. They say, you could be anything you want.

They say, you could be an astronaut. You could be a professional athlete. You could be a millionaire. You could be president. But somewhere along the line, when we get to a certain age, that changes. Okay. And instead of saying you can be all these things things we have the same people look at us and tell us things like this you need to be more realistic you need to be more practical you need to quit being such a dreamer you need to get more focused on reality you need to quit talking about all these things that you want to do and get something realistic. We all go through this. We all go through the process of trying to figure out how to become what it is we want to become. And when we're little, we're encouraged to become great. But once we get to a certain age, for some reason, the script changes. And the people who supported us now are telling us that we shouldn't think like that.

I've never understood that about society. I've never understood why that is. I've never understood why people are encouraged to dream big and then the same people come around and discourage us to not dream at all so that we could be more like them, so that we could be realistic, we could be practical, we can be average. I don't think that's right. I don't agree with that. And to be completely fucking honest, I remember every single comment that has ever been made to me about not dreaming big. I remember every single comment that has ever been made to me about not achieving my goals. People who say

these things, you need to be realistic. You'll never be able to do that. Andy, do you still own that little vitamin shop? What are you doing with your life? When are you going to get a real fucking job? Every single comment. And this goes for all areas of your life. This goes for your career. This goes for your family. This goes for your fitness. It goes for the way you think. You know, not long ago, I had people saying, Andy, you're fucking fat. You own supplement companies and you're a fat ass. You don't even use your own products. You don't even represent your brand. Now, when most people have these comments, they get angry, they get mad, they get pissed off. And what do they do? They go pout, they cry, they whine, they go do more of the things

that has got them in that situation. And let me ask you something. When people make comments that hurt you, why do they hurt you? Because people are poking on that very sensitive area that you know is the fucking truth. And I'm going to tell you something, guys. This podcast is twofold. One, you have to learn how to react to criticism. You have to learn how to take criticism and look at yourself and say, you know what? They got a fucking point. And use it as an opportunity to improve. Use it as an opportunity to get better and stronger and faster and smarter and more productive. But most people can't do that because they get so caught up in their little delicate feelings getting hurt that they can't see that what that person said has a lot of truth to it.

They can't see that what that person said is actually an opportunity for you to get closer to your goals. Now, the second part is a lot of people will tell you that having a chip on your shoulder and taking what people say and using it as fuel is not right. But I'm going to tell you right now, it is fucking right. I don't know one motherfucker that is successful and makes seven figures a year, and I know a lot of them, that doesn't operate with a chip on their shoulder. That doesn't take inventory of every fucking comment that anybody has ever made to them, whether they let that know publicly or privately, doesn't matter. Just because they don't show you publicly that they're fucking crazy doesn't mean they aren't actually crazy. And you know what?

I don't think it's crazy. Society tells you it's crazy. People who haven't done shit tell you it's crazy. But I'm going to tell you right now, I've done some shit and I'm going to tell you it's not fucking crazy. It's normal. All my friends that are successful operate this way. All the people I've met that are successful, far more successful

than I've ever been financially operate this way. Every time somebody doubts them, they get fucking pissed. And when they get pissed, they go out and do productive things. They don't dwell. They don't sit at home crying their beer. They don't go fucking eat shit. They go to the gym. They get their business plan together. They do whatever the opposite of that criticism is to take positive action, to smash people in the fucking mouth with their progress. Okay. And it's okay to want to do that. It's okay to want to step on motherfuckers' throats that say shit to you. It's okay to want to cut motherfuckers' heads off whenever they fucking say, you're not going to do this, and you're not going to do that, and you're not going to do this. And you know what? It's okay to run the fucking score up. People don't think that's okay. That is okay. That's reality. A hundred to fucking nothing.

A hundred to zero. That's how I operate. That's how I want to win. That's how I want to fucking dominate. And that's how you should be thinking about it too. It's not about anything else, but taking what people say you can't do and shoving it down their motherfucking throat. A hundred and nothing. It's a mentality. It's something that people either get or they don't get. They either understand that they are completely offended that somebody would even doubt them and they're willing to go to the ends of the fucking earth to fucking shove it down their fucking throat

or they don't understand it and they think you're crazy and they think you're you're delusional and they think you're getting mad for no fucking reason well you know what those people are not the people that you need to listen to you need to listen to that inner crazy motherfucker that wants to shove shit all over and and down people's throats and make them doubt every single fucking thing that they ever said to you. I heard a really good quote yesterday. And the quote was this. It was from my friend, Mark Bell. This is an amazing quote. It said, build the kind of life that says I told you so without having to say a fucking word. Build the kind of life that says I told you so without having to say a fucking word.

Build the kind of life that says I told you so without having to say a fucking word. And you either understand that or you fucking don't. And I'm going to tell you right now, guys, if you're going to be successful in life, if you're going to make millions of dollars in life, if you're going to make a career where you make a lot of money or do something great, you better have a fucking chip on your shoulder. You better be fucking pissed when people doubt you. You better learn how to take that pissed off energy and put it into productive action because most people can't do that. Most people just get mad. They never connect the dots to the second point. Yeah,

they get mad, but they don't go out and produce productive action. They don't use it as a flip or a trigger or a pivot to make you go work. When somebody calls you fucking fat, your ass should be at the fucking gym five seconds later. When somebody says you're a fucking loser, you should be working on fucking getting to become fucking Mark Cuban a millisecond after that. Every fucking negative comment should trigger you into fucking productive action. Every time somebody says something to you, you should go do whatever it is that is going to make them have to eat their words right then, right now. Anytime you doubt or have second thoughts about going to the gym or doing the work you're supposed to do,

you should be thinking about and recalling all the shit that anybody ever told you about not becoming what it is you say you're going to become. Don't give in. Don't be like everybody else. Don't give up. Don't settle because things are hard. Don't let people talk you into their life. Don't let

people convince you that their life is somehow morally better than your life. Cause it fucking isn't. There's no fucking nobility and being broke and insignificant. There's lots of nobility in setting an example for the rest of your fucking family, for society, and for future generations about what success is all about. And I can tell you right now, if you're lucky enough, if you're fortunate enough to have a chip on your shoulder, if you're fortunate enough to have this mentality of a hundred and nothing, dominate every fucking thing that you actually possibly come across in life and stop the fuck out of everybody that says you couldn't or won't or shouldn't, count your fucking lucky stars because I'm going to tell you right now,

using that energy is going to propel you to success. Don't ever lose it. Don't ever let that chip fade off. Don't ever let somebody convince you that's not a good thing because it's a fucking great thing. The only people who are ever going to tell you it's not a good thing are people who don't fucking have it. They don't understand it. They'll never understand it. It's quit trying to make them understand it. Use your gift. Use the negativity. Use it for productive action and become stronger, become better, become faster, become smarter, become more productive. And you know what? You will build a life that says, I told you so without having to say a fucking word.