REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 1024. Q&AF: Handling Guilt Of Wanting More, Loneliness Of Leadership & Navigating The Suck Phase

Episode Date: May 11, 2026

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to deal with the guilt of wanting more than those around you, how to handle the loneliness of leadership when your team doesn't match your drive,... and how to push through the early stages of being bad at something new.

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Starting point is 00:00:04 Now my jury bottle Count it million What is up guys It's Andy Fersela This is the show For the realist sake Goodbye to the lies The fictness and delusions
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Starting point is 00:02:11 Share the show. All right. What's up, dude? Guten Morgan. Right, German listening out there. I don't know, man. What's going on with you, though, bro? How you doing?
Starting point is 00:02:22 Doing good. Yeah? Yeah. Yeah, just wrapped up a car show. Yeah. Bro, it was fucking sick turnout. Yeah, it was awesome. Sick turnout.
Starting point is 00:02:29 There was some sick shit out there. When we get in the semi-done, dog? I don't know, man. That is one of the coolest vehicles I ever saw. It's fucking sick, dude. This guy comes out from Jacks Wax in Columbus, Ohio, with this slammed international. semi all black and chrome oh man this it's nasty dude it's fucking nasty we got we got to get one
Starting point is 00:02:49 we got to get one bro we have beautiful turnout dude it was awesome um and it is monday it's time to get people better let's do it let's fucking do it i got three good ones for you guys andy question number one Andy I grew up in a pretty average family my my parents worked hard kept food on the table and honestly gave me a good life. But now that I'm older, I want way more out of life than what I grew up around. More money, more freedom, bigger goals, all of it. And sometimes I actually feel guilty for wanting that. Like I'm somehow disrespecting where I came from or acting like I'm too good for a normal life.
Starting point is 00:03:28 Did you ever struggle with that tension between appreciating where you came from while still wanting a completely different life? Look, you guys got to understand, man. The whole point of good parents is that they are setting you up to do better than what they did. That is the point. And you can be proud of your parents and you can be grateful for what you had and still want more. And I promise you if your parents are actually good parents, which they probably are, that's what they did all this stuff for you for.
Starting point is 00:03:59 So you can't let your, because this all comes from people in society. man like and the noise from the small minority of people that are bitter and frustrated and you know have chosen to not go after their dreams and not go after their goals and not become what they could be and then pretend as if they chose this life under the guise of being humble there's there's a lot of people out there like that but you have to understand these are the people who will say things to you. Like, oh, you think you're too good for us or, oh, you think this or that. And all you have to hear it is once or twice. And it makes you feel very guilty. But you got to understand that's bullshit. That's coming from people who have never and will
Starting point is 00:04:54 never do anything with their life, even though they still had the same opportunity to do that. So what happens with these people is they feel the way that you feel. At some point in their life, they had goals, they had dreams, they had ambitions, and for whatever reason, maybe it was too hard, maybe, uh, you know, they, they succumbed to the social pressure of keeping it real and staying small, like, for whatever reason, they didn't go. And then what happens is over time, in order to deal with like the frustration and the, the anger that they have with themselves, for not going, they convince themselves that this lesser version is actually what they wanted, right? And that there's some sort of virtue to it. And that, you know, they're living at a higher
Starting point is 00:05:48 moral standard than you because, you know, I'm humble and I'm grateful. And, dude, this is just a disguise for their own dissatisfaction of their own choices in life. And these people often will say things to people who have goals and dreams and ambitions that if you're a good, you're a good person, they're going to make you hesitate a little bit. It's like, oh, fuck, I didn't like that. I don't want to be seen like that. Right. I don't want to, yeah. But what you don't understand is that by you giving up on what it is that you have in your heart and what your dreams are, those things were placed inside of you for a reason. They didn't come from nowhere. Okay. All of us were born with some sort of purpose or goal or mission here. Some people were born to build businesses.
Starting point is 00:06:35 some people were born to become coaches some people were born to be great parents some people were born to do all these different things that the world needs and if you don't go pursue that the only person that is going to be angry at you about it long term is you because those people that say those little things to you they don't give a shit okay this is gossip to them this is a fleeting thought this is something that comes in their mind and goes out and sometimes people say things they don't even know they're fucking saying them, right? And they don't understand how it will affect you. And the truth of the matter is, dude, is we tend to believe that when we hear those things, that that's everybody's perception, when the truth is, it's not. Nobody gives a shit what you do. Okay, people are too worried about
Starting point is 00:07:23 their own lives. They're too worried about what they have or don't have. They're too concerned with their own thing. And because someone makes a fleeting statement at some point in your life, the wrong way or the wrong tone or it makes you feel a certain way it sticks with you and then you assume that everybody feels that way and it's just not the truth most people are going to look at you and admire your ambition and admire your drive and say man I'm proud of you and I'm I would hope that your parents are going to be the most proud because dude they did struggle and they struggle for a reason they didn't struggle so that you could sit on your ass and waste your talents and your dreams and your goals.
Starting point is 00:08:04 That's not why they did that. They did that so that you would have the opportunity to go out and do more than they did. And so you shouldn't have guilt about doing better than your parents are, but you should have extreme gratitude that they did the harder work of putting you in a position to have that happen. And that is a noble thing for your parents. So the way that you should feel about it is very grateful and very appreciative. And when you get to the place where it is, you know, you should be trying to take care of them and make their lives better.
Starting point is 00:08:39 And dude, I'll be real. That's one of the most rewarding things about becoming successful is that you could take care of the people around you that took care of you and you didn't have anything. All right. So and let's take this a step further. I know a lot of you guys struggle with this feeling of guilt about trying to be successful. But dude, this is a biblical concept. Okay. There's a concept in the Bible called the parable of talents, all right?
Starting point is 00:09:06 And you need to go read it. And the whole point of it is that Jesus rewards the people who take their talents and scale them out into the world. Okay, he doesn't reward the people who hold on to him. He doesn't reward the people who waste them. He loves the people who take the talents and let them out into the world so that everybody can be inspired and everybody can learn. It can do good things.
Starting point is 00:09:32 And being coming financially successful with your talents is what you're supposed to do. And that's a biblical concept. All right. So when you have this and you know, you might hear me saying, oh, it doesn't matter. Well, I don't know. That's what Jesus said too. Okay. So if all else fails, go read that and tell me what you think.
Starting point is 00:09:55 Because this feeling of not wanting to go because of guilt, it's total bullshit, man. okay so you have to understand you were blessed with a vision you were blessed with a drive you were blessed with an ambition and if you don't put those things out in the world that's not what you're supposed to do man so dude it makes me thing too
Starting point is 00:10:20 it's like you know you kind of touch though it's like how much of that is just internal noise you're create you know what I'm saying like it's just static you're creating on your own bro dude it's the same thing look dude I can remember random people that I don't even really remember or know outside of that one or two things they said to me like that. And what it makes you believe is that that person is constantly running around saying that shit about you.
Starting point is 00:10:49 No, that person was drunk or in a bad mood or frustrated or angry and they showed their own insecurity and they projected it on you. That's what happened. That's all that is. Yeah. Yeah. It's probably a fleeting statement. I know this for sure. I remember the people who said all these things to me,
Starting point is 00:11:09 and there's been a number of times where I've run into those people, and I've said it back to them. And I've said, hey, remember when you said that? I think we're doing all right now. And I'll say it as a joke. I don't say it like, hey, fuck you. I'll smile and we'll make a joke out of it, even though on the inside I'm like, yeah, fuck you.
Starting point is 00:11:26 That's right, right, right. Eat that shit. Yeah. So, but dude, but dude, every single time, they don't remember it they don't they'll say I didn't say that and I'll be like dude
Starting point is 00:11:35 I promise you yeah right that was 20 years ago you think I'm fucking making it up I remember it and uh they never do and and dude
Starting point is 00:11:44 the reason they don't remember it is because it's a fleeting thing that they're spouting off and so many people kill their dreams and their their life and everything that they could have been because of some fucking moron
Starting point is 00:11:55 at one point in your life who said this one thing and you've probably run into three or four of those people and those things stick with you. And that's okay, dude, because you can use that shit. I mean, fuck, dude, I used all that shit to build myself into who I am. And I still use it.
Starting point is 00:12:10 I still fucking think about those things intentionally. But, you know, I know what I'm really dealing with here. What I'm dealing with is some idiot who said some dumb shit. And I'm swore enough to understand that, but I still use it. Yeah. You know? One other thing, too, that we've talked about before, all fair, bro. It hits me
Starting point is 00:12:32 because I think this is important for the young crowd too. If more people knew how much good comes from winning Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like I think you described this once to me it's like you know
Starting point is 00:12:41 Because when you were young You wanted the fucking Kuntash. Yeah. How many jobs? How many careers have you created because you wanted that fucking Kuntai? Correct. Thousands.
Starting point is 00:12:50 You know what I'm saying? If more people knew how much good comes from fucking Just winning. I mean how we just had cars and coffee. Yeah. Do you remember the kid that came up? He's like bro,
Starting point is 00:12:58 your Lambo was the first one I ever saw. Manchester Road when I was like eight years old. Yeah. I got a long care business. I'm doing this and this and this. Right. Okay. That's the shit that happens.
Starting point is 00:13:09 Okay. And you don't know it. And so like that's even taking it further. Like not only should you go out and win, you should let it shine a little bit and walk in that fucking power because, dude, that's extremely impactful for people. And I know it's uncomfortable.
Starting point is 00:13:24 I had a buddy of mine who sold his company for over a billion dollars. And, you know, his share was a few hundred million dollars. Okay. Shit. Now, when the transaction happened, he was like 100K in debt. You know, he didn't have a lot of money. And it changed his life. And I saw on his social media the other day, like somebody had made a comment about like kind of a hater comment, right?
Starting point is 00:13:54 And he put it on the social media and made a real. And he's like, yeah, but here's what you don't see and this and that and kind of explained himself. And I sent him a DM and I said, hey, I said, never, ever, ever let those people affect you. You have to understand. Your story is incredible. You did all that work. They could have done that same shit. They could have went out and did these things.
Starting point is 00:14:16 You did that. And that's inspired so many people that you will never even know. The ripple effect of what you've done is so impressive. And if you keep the results of that to yourself, you're hurt. hurting other people. You're hurting them. You're keeping them from, dude, there could be a kid out there like little Andy who sees that and it snaps them into like, holy shit, dude, I'm going to do something great.
Starting point is 00:14:42 Okay? And this guy, bro, he, I will say this. Okay. I know a lot of guys with a lot of money and none of them know how to spend it as good as me. Okay. Like, you know what I mean? Buy dumb shit.
Starting point is 00:14:55 They don't know what the fuck they're doing. This guy's cool. Like he built a, he built a really. cool three level uh hot loft apartment and a high rise and it's like all james bondish and super clap dude so badass and he's starting to get into cars and do all these things and he's nervous about people thinking so i'm like how can they hurt you you're already fucking sold they're not going to hurt you yeah well they're going to say shitty fucking pin house yeah bro you know it's just tie that shit into your journey, man. Let people know where you come from. Let people know your story.
Starting point is 00:15:30 So, you know, because a lot, I just shared this last week on my story for those of you that follow me on Instagram. You know, I put my before and after pictures up there, which I haven't done in a long time. And there were so many people that were like, dude, I didn't even know that you used to be that big. I've always seen you as you are now. I didn't even know that. That's crazy. That's incredible. And then right after it, I, I share a recent. shared a post off my Instagram that kind of gave the timeline of our entire success story. And I said, I said, for those of you to think that I was somehow this just was the way it was, this read this.
Starting point is 00:16:06 Everything I've earned everything I have in my life, I've earned like literally the hard way. All right. I'm not that fucking smart. I'm smart enough to not make the same mistakes over and over again. And I'm tough enough to keep going. And that's why I am where I am. But there were so much. many people that follow me now that didn't even know that. Like they didn't even know how we started.
Starting point is 00:16:28 They didn't know that we got the money to start this on $12,000 from painting parking lots. They didn't know that it took us 10 years to make 58 grand total. They didn't know. They didn't know these things. And those are the things that really show people, okay, man, well, maybe I can do this. All right. So it's very important for you guys to not only pursue, what it is you know you're supposed to pursue, but it's also important to share it. And it's also important not fucking apologize for it. You did that.
Starting point is 00:17:03 They didn't do that. There's nobody can make me feel bad for what the fuck I've done, bro. They haven't been here to last 27 motherfucking years. They're not waking up every day doing the same thing over and over and over for damn near three decades. The only thing they've done that long is eat, breathe, and take shits. That's it. Okay?
Starting point is 00:17:20 So like. Not in that order. Yeah. Fuck me. So the point is, is that that's your reward. That's why you do this. And it shows people that are like this person right here that's young. It has ambitions that like not only do they have a chance, but it makes them think,
Starting point is 00:17:38 man, I need to be that guy for the next thing. And this ties into what we talk about about personal excellence being an ultimate rebellion. Because when you start the ripple effect and it's, how many people do we come up to us? They say, hey, I lost 70, 80, 100, 200 pounds. Hundreds. Fuck, dude. There was literally 100. literally that came up today to say that showing before and after picks bro yeah that's coming
Starting point is 00:17:58 from me choosing to say fuck it I'm going and that will happen to you too but you got to have that courage in the beginning you got to let go of this these two or three or five statements that people say that they don't even really understand what they're saying or how it affects you to wipe that shit out you know or use it the right way and go out and become what you're supposed to become man 100% dude 100% guys Andy we got question number two Andy Andy I own a small business and one thing that's been hard for me is accepting that nobody will ever care about it the way I do I'll stay up stressed about problems thinking about payroll customers meanwhile some of my employees are just there for a check and mentally clock out at five I don't even mean that in like a disrespectful
Starting point is 00:18:46 way I just didn't realize how lonely leadership could feel sometimes how did you deal with that Does it stop? Did it get better? I really need some help because I know I can't do this by myself. First of all, what do you expect? Okay? That's an entitled position that you're operating from.
Starting point is 00:19:04 There is, you look, man, that is, you are entitled. You just don't know it. Okay? You expect everybody to care about your thing
Starting point is 00:19:12 the way that you fucking care about your thing. That's not a real thing. Name me one person in a whole world that's like that. People have their own lives. They have their own problems. They have their own goals. They have their own ambitions and dreams. Your job, if you really want people to help you with it, is to create a big enough vision to where their dreams can fit underneath that umbrella.
Starting point is 00:19:34 Then you will figure out that they actually care about that. Okay. They don't care about your shit. They care about your shit when they can build their shit with your shit. And that's what you have to understand. Nobody's going to care like you. nobody's going to want to do the work you're wanting to do. And for you to expect that for other people to trade all of their life to do something that is just a job that's not real.
Starting point is 00:20:01 And if you want them to step up and help, you have to be able to create it so their dreams can be accomplished. And I'm going to be real, dude. That's the most rewarding thing of having big goals and dreams and building big shit. Because when you could create a situation where other people do have the opportunity to do that and then they do it, it's incredibly rewarding. rewarding, all right? So if you want them to care like you care, then you have to create opportunity by making a vision so much bigger than just for yourself. When you do that, you will find the right people that will step up and say, fuck yeah, I'm going to do that. Fuck yeah, that's going to be awesome. I'm going to contribute to that. Now all of a sudden they're invested in it. Now they do care. They're
Starting point is 00:20:42 still not going to care like you care. Okay. Now, to address the loneliness part, this is why it's important to be surrounded by other people who are on the same path. You can't hang around people who are quote unquote regular employees and you're that kind of person and then feel like they even understand you at all. So you need to look at things where you could be, you know, plugged in with other people with the same goals. This is why we have, and I have Aratei syndicate. This is what operator standard is. It's people who are driven. It's people who want to win. It's people who are leading. It's people who are creating and becoming and doing big things.
Starting point is 00:21:19 And when you surround yourself with people like that, you're not lonely anymore. Now you actually have shit to talk about. Okay, because if you try to hang around your old friends when you're on this new path, you're going to go to dinner with them and you're going to be talking about all the things you're doing and they're going to hear it as bragging. Okay. People who are on the same path, they just hear this as like, oh, that's my life too. That's this and this and this. So you've got to figure out how to actively surround yourself with,
Starting point is 00:21:45 people who are on the same kind of path as you are and you'll feel much less lonely and like I said that is why a art a syndicate exists that is why um the community aspect of the operator standard exists okay it's not part of the technology but it is the community part these people are driven they're hungry they want to win and when you're around people like that you don't feel lonely yeah on the on the on the piece for the employee side right like when you how first question is how long were you in business before you realized that lesson there? 11 years. 11 years, yeah.
Starting point is 00:22:18 And then how did you find was the easiest way to kind of implement? Like, how did you realize what the goals were? Or did you intend to go figure out, hey, what are your goals guys? Cool, let me make this bigger? Like, how did that work? No, I had a revelation. Like, I just realized if I want this to be big, just like she said, I can't do it alone. And that means that I'm not going to be able to, like a lot of people come in here, dude,
Starting point is 00:22:43 and they're like, well, how do you find all these people? It's like, dude, we don't, first of all, we don't find them. Okay, we hire for character, teach for skill. We hire for ambition and drive. We teach for skill. We hire for hunger. We teach for skill. So it's a different process when you go to find people.
Starting point is 00:23:01 But secondly, and more importantly, you have to understand that these people are choosing to bet on you. and when people choose to bet on you, you have an obligation to them to create a path for them to accomplish what they want to accomplish. And it's hard for somebody with massive dreams to understand that not everybody wants the same shit. What you might want and see as success is generally not what everybody else wants.
Starting point is 00:23:35 What they want, like you might want to build a $10 million or $100 million company these people want to make a great living. They want to contribute to something that matters. They want to be recognized for their contributions and they want to have fun and be able to then go do their other things, you know, whatever their life is. You know, and that's another thing.
Starting point is 00:23:55 It's like, dude, when you pick entrepreneurship as a path, you have to understand. It is not a job. It is, it's an identity. Okay. It becomes your life. All right. Entrepreneurship is a life style.
Starting point is 00:24:08 It's not a, it's not a career. It's a job. lifestyle it's all encompassing it bleeds into everything if you want to win and uh not everybody wants that they just don't they see the stress they see that they see the the weight they see these things they people don't want that they want to do well and they want to do well enough so they're not struggling they can you know live a lifestyle they want maybe a vacation a year yeah or a couple or whatever you know like but most you got to understand dude if you're an entrepreneur man generally your dreams and goals for yourself are much bigger than everybody else.
Starting point is 00:24:42 And here's the beautiful part. If you could create a big enough vision where they're all bought in and they want to win, your goals happen too. So everybody wins. But you have to look at it like an obligation. Okay. Like this is how I look at it. If someone bets on me, okay, and let's just use an example,
Starting point is 00:25:04 someone comes and they say, I want to be a part of something that Andy's doing. and they have a family and they have a wife and they might have a kid. I take that obligation to them very seriously. I take that as, okay, well, they're betting on me, so I have to perform. I have to create that path. And that's the best kind of pressure you can have because once you start to have a little bit of money and you get a little comfortable and this is where a lot of business owners operate, dude. You know, you can tell when people come in here and they say things like, where do you find
Starting point is 00:25:35 all these people? They are expecting their people to trade their life for a fucking check. And that isn't how it works. They're betting on you for a career and a lifestyle that they do not have currently. And if you're someone who runs a company and you have employees and it's just about you and your mentality is, well, I pay them to do a job, you're going to fucking limit out. You're going to get to a top and it's not going to be very high. And the people around you are going to end up fucking. hating you and that's how it's going to be. So the only real way that you can do it is to expand
Starting point is 00:26:12 your vision to such a level that the people that do work for you have a path to create their dreams inside of that. And when you do that, that's when you get the buy-in. That's when you get people that do care tremendously about the outcome. And while they may not care as much as you, they're going to care a lot and that's what's going to help drive everything forward and then then as you win they're going to win too and once they understand that then it solves your problem love it man guys any our third and final question guys any question number three uh i think one of my biggest problems is that i hate being bad at things uh if i'm not naturally good at something pretty quickly i get frustrated i lose interest uh which sucks because i know every
Starting point is 00:27:00 skill worth having takes time to develop. But when you were building your business or improving yourself early on, how did you stay committed long enough to get through the phase where you honestly just kind of suck that shit? Who the fuck do you think you are? Do you think you're the only person in the history of earth that's going to step into something that you've never done before and be great at it on the first day? Like, where do you come from? Like, what, you must be really great at everything. And ruin the presence of greatness. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:32 Yeah. Like, can you please teach me that skill? Okay? Because nothing that I've ever done in my entire life, have I been good at the day I started or the next month or even the next year and sometimes the next 10 years. Who do you actually think that you are? You know what you have?
Starting point is 00:27:52 You have a fucking arrogance problem. Okay. You are not better than anybody else. You are not going to pick up a guitar and be fucking. Angus Young. You're not going to step on a football field and be fucking Tom Brady. What the fuck are you talking about? Everybody's bad as shit when they start.
Starting point is 00:28:11 Who do you think you are, dude? Oh, man. I'm serious. Like, dude, you are fucking arrogant and you need to humble yourself and you need to realize that to be great at anything, you have to be willing to fall in your fucking face over and over and over again. And guess what? You got to be able to do it in front of the whole world.
Starting point is 00:28:30 but here's the thing they aren't willing to do it and that's why they point and that's why they laugh and that's why they giggle but I can promise you if you keep showing up day after day after day
Starting point is 00:28:42 year after year after year eventually they're not going to laugh anymore they're not going to point the finger and fucking say ha ha ha ha you're going to be saying ha ha ha you're going to be saying I told you bitch I told you I was going to do this but that doesn't come on fucking day one
Starting point is 00:28:58 and it doesn't come on year one And it doesn't come on year three. It comes after a total commitment to your craft. And eventually you become who it is you want to become. And you can go out there and you can handle the things and you can do the thing and you can become great. But like, dude, this idea. And I don't know where this comes from.
Starting point is 00:29:19 But this idea that you are going to be great at something the first day that you try or the first month or the first year that comes from a place of arrogance. You have to understand, dude. you are no better and no smarter than anybody else. I still know that about myself. Do you know why I'm here seven days a week? Do you know why I'm a student of everything else? Do you know why I still read every day?
Starting point is 00:29:43 Because I know I'm not that fucking good. I know what I am. Okay. I know who I am. I know I'm not gifted. I know I'm not talented. And for that reason, I am willing to do the shit that makes me appear that I'm really great.
Starting point is 00:29:58 but that greatness, which I am great at certain things, but that's only come after being not great for fucking years, dude. So you need to fucking get humble. That's what it comes down to, okay? You're going to be bad. You're going to suck. You're going to fall down. You're probably going to lose girlfriends.
Starting point is 00:30:18 You're going to lose boyfriends. You're going to fucking probably go broke. You're probably going to have to move into shit of your house and drive a shittier car. You're going to make mistakes. in public and especially on social nowadays. And everybody's going to be like, oh, look at this fucking idiot. All you got to do is get the fuck back up,
Starting point is 00:30:36 figure out why you fell and not do the shit again and keep going. And then that adds to your skill set. That adds to your knowledge base. And then as you go, you stop stumbling over these little things. You start learning to anticipate and how to operate and how to do things in an effective fashion. And then when you do things in an effective fashion for long enough, they become second nature.
Starting point is 00:30:59 When they become second nature, greatness is right around the corner. So, dude, you got to realize there's nothing. There's, listen, if you can't deal with that, you can't win. You can't. If you can't deal with getting laughed at or falling down or being bad at shit, you're not going to win, bro. You're not going to win.
Starting point is 00:31:18 And by the way, wherever the fuck you came from that you're great at everything, I would appreciate if you would come and teach me how to do that because I still don't fucking know how to do it. Dude, you know what I'm saying? Dude, do you think the disconnect is, man? Because, like, I look at some, okay, like Brady. You take Brady, right?
Starting point is 00:31:36 People just see Brady now. They didn't see the fucking years of practice. Tom Brady was like the last dude drafted. Bro. Fucking NFL. Bro. Okay? Do you think that Tom Brady just said, oh, man, you know, I guess I'm fucking the last guy
Starting point is 00:31:50 drafted. Fuck, I guess I'm not good. No. He said, fuck that. I'm the last guy drafted. I'm going to fucking show everybody. And this lasted through his whole career. He studied more.
Starting point is 00:32:03 He worked harder. He showed up earlier. He left later. He was willing to do the things that other people will not do or cannot do. And he did those things long enough to eventually the ball started rolling. And when the ball started rolling, he got better and better and better and better to the point where he's winning a fucking Super Bowl like 45 fucking years old, man. Okay? Which is unheard of.
Starting point is 00:32:26 All right. but this does not come on day one it doesn't come on month one it doesn't come on year one we're talking about a decade we're to even get kind of good and the timeline gets skewed I think a lot because of what you said right they see the end result but they don't see the path and a lot of people don't share the path okay because a lot of people when they do become great they love to appear as if it's them. Okay? Like a lot of people on social media and even a lot of athletes and, you know, they like to,
Starting point is 00:33:05 they like to make it seem like they're just superhuman person because it feeds their ego. But the truth of the matter is, dude, that's not true for any of them. What the truth is is there was a time when everybody laughed at them. There was a time where they got embarrassed. There was times where they fell on their face, tons of them. And those are the things that ended up making. them great. So you have to look at this completely different than what you're looking at it. And instead of like trying to avoid the mistakes, be happy and be grateful when they happen
Starting point is 00:33:37 because of what you're learning and understand and keep in mind that that mistake that you made today that was embarrassing as fuck, you're not going to make that mistake again. And other people are. All right. And this is why the gap between this is why it's so hard to close the gap on someone who's got momentum in like business. Like for example, I never had anything handed to me. Okay, I never had anybody invest in me. I never,
Starting point is 00:34:07 nobody ever helped me. We, we didn't have the fucking social media, which is probably a blessing because I didn't get my mind filled with a bunch of bullshit. I had to figure it the fuck out. Okay?
Starting point is 00:34:19 The hard way. I had to try, fail. Try, fail. Try, fail. For years. And here's why that's such a good thing. Because a lot of people in business that you will compete with may have a connection or they may get an investment or they might have rich parents or they might have parents to finance them. And so they appear to grow very fast and they get in a place where, you know, oh, they're doing better than you.
Starting point is 00:34:49 But here's the thing. Just because they might be doing better than you right now, they didn't learn any of those lessons that you have to learn. when you start from nothing. They didn't have to learn that. So what happens is they make those mistakes that you would make when, you know, relatively there's no real risk at making them. And they're making them with a big company, which fucks their company. That's why you see them go away quicker.
Starting point is 00:35:11 A quick dude, quick. So, and, you know, and usually those same people get real cocky about how great they are too. Okay. Because they went from zero to hero so fast. But here's the thing. Somebody like me who went, who had to grind at the fuck, dude, I will, fucking destroy those guys. All the lessons that they never learn,
Starting point is 00:35:33 those are just things I understand. Like I have to think about them, right? So it makes you far more competitive down the road. You become a fucking savage that nobody can fuck with. Because the people, like right now, all the people on my level, barely any of them started from zero with no help. Or did it?
Starting point is 00:35:51 I actually don't know any, okay? I don't know any. I don't know anybody. that owns a company or companies or business portfolio, the size of mine, that has done it with no investment, no VC capital, no parents or no any of these shit. And because of that, they cannot compete with me in the game. You understand?
Starting point is 00:36:17 And dude, that compounds over time. Those lessons compound. So when you have a lot on the line and you don't know exactly what you're doing, big mistakes happen. When you've had to grind it out and you've invested and you built all these skill sets coming from nothing, now you are in such a huge competitive advantage, even if the playing field appears to be equal from a sales standpoint or whatever, right? You want to be the guy who had to grind it out.
Starting point is 00:36:46 I'm telling you right now, it might take longer. It's going to be more frustrating. But in the long run, and by the long run, by the time you're 40, okay, if you start when you're in your 20s, you're going to be so. fucking effective and being an operator that really other people can't fuck with you, man. So, and I'm not saying that shit to brag. There's a lot I don't know, but I know this. There's been a lot of guys who have come and gone who had a lot of investment, a lot of money.
Starting point is 00:37:12 And at some point in time, they may have been ahead of us or think they're ahead of us or whatever they think. And then they go away. Okay. And we're still here. It's 27 years. Okay. Like, nobody gets lucky for 27 years.
Starting point is 00:37:26 Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. I want to hit some nuance too because you hit on this about, you know, people not showing the fuckups or the failures, right? Especially now on social media. Yeah. And I feel like there's a dichotomy there because you could easily cross in. Okay, well, maybe I do need to show some failures, right?
Starting point is 00:37:41 But you can easily cross over into that victim shit, right? Yeah. What's the line there? Tell the story. Tell how you overcome it. Show the way are now. And you keep moving. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:37:50 It's a formula. Yeah. It's actually this. Show where you are now. Tell the story of how you got there. Show where you started. Okay? That's how you get people to connect all the shit.
Starting point is 00:38:02 Yeah, I love it, dude. That's easy, bro. That was three, dog. Yep, that's three. A little short one today. Huh? Yeah. Hey, 38.
Starting point is 00:38:09 Yeah. All right, guys, we will see you tomorrow on CTI. Don't be a ho. Show the show. Went from sleeping on the flow. Now my jury box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stole.
Starting point is 00:38:21 Counted millions in a cold. Bad bitch, booted swow. Got her on bank row. Can't fold. No hit shot case closed.

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