REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 119. Slay The Monsters

Episode Date: July 16, 2021

We all have monsters. On today's episode, Andy talks about the monsters we all face day-to-day inside our heads and gives you actionable steps to slaying those monsters and conquering your biggest goals. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Book Andy to Be on Your Podcast Follow Andy on Instagram Follow Andy on Facebook Take complete control of your life - 75 HARD Get my raw & uncensored advice about success & life delivered to you daily!

What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, and today I'm going to give you some real, real, real reality and have short, real talk. Now, if this is your first time listening to the show, welcome. Like I said, here's the thing. We have two different kinds of shows, soon to be three, actually. One is a full-length podcast where we have guests in the studio. All of my guests come in studio. We have good conversations. We talk about life. We talk about politics. We talk about policy. We talk about society. We talk about winning. We talk about losing. We talk about building. We talk about laughing. We talk about crying. We're going to

tell all kinds of stories and some are going to make you fucking laugh. Some are going to make you cringe. It is what it is. We tell the truth here. It's called real as fuck, not fake as fuck. So that's the full length format. And then we have what I'm going to give you today. Today is where we give you the real talk. These are going to be short.

Sometimes they're going to be 10 minutes. Sometimes they're going to be 20 minutes, but they're going to be bite-sized pieces of information that will help you move forward towards your goals, whether that be in fitness or business or life or wherever. This is applicable to almost every area. Understand, you will not hear ads here. We don't run ads. You won't see ads out there on the internet either because I don't run ads out there. We work on a value trade for attention. If I provide you value, if I made you laugh, if I made you think, if I educated you, if I taught you something, if I made you question something, share the show. Tell your friends. Give us a little posty post, a little sharey share. It's very, very much appreciated. And that's how we've built

one of the top podcasts in the world. Not a dollar spends on advertising. It's all you guys sharing it. And I love that we have that here because if I do good, you help me. If I don't do good, don't help me. Isn't that the way the world should work? I'm cool with it. So before I get into the episode, this is an extremely important episode. Okay. You guys have to understand what's causing you the anxiety, the stress, the fear that you're going to be exposed as a fraud, all of these things that make us frustrated and angry and make us feel like we're running through life in quicksand. All right. We're going to talk about how to overcome those things. But before I get into what this episode is really about, I want to remind you that the program 75 Hard will tremendously help you with what we're about to talk about. Okay. So as you listen to this and

you think about, you know, well, yeah, how do I develop this discipline? Look, that's what that program's for. It's about developing discipline. It's about developing grit. It's about developing fortitude. It's about building real self-confidence, not that fake affirmation bullshit where you look in the mirror and say, oh, I really like me. I'm so good when you're not. Okay. I'm talking about building it from the core, from the inside out. Okay. We do that and I give it to you for free. If you want, you go to 75hard.com, read all about it. You can go to my website, andyfrusella.com. You can order the book if you want. You don't have to have the book. The book just explains it in more detail. We've got some free podcasts. If you're not totally unfamiliar with 75 Hard, the first one you're going to want to listen to is episode 14 on the Real AF feed. And then also, after you listen to that, I think you listen to episode 80. And it's going to educate you on every single thing that you need to know about this program. All right. So what are we going to talk about today?

Today, we have a real talk. And what I wanted to talk about with you guys today was I wanted to talk to you about slaying the monster. And a lot of you guys don't know what slaying the monster is. So I'm going to explain it to you. Okay. We all have that monster, that monster that lives in our head. And that monster is the thing, whatever the thing may be, whether it's working out or whether it's following a diet or whether it's calling on that account that you're nervous to call on because you're scared of them a little bit, or whether it's asking that person out, whatever it is, we all have a monster. Okay. Sometimes it's the insecurity we feel about our bodies. Sometimes it's the inadequacies that

we feel just because of the pressures of the society we live in. Sometimes we're just pissed off and we don't know why. And whatever that why is, is the monster. Okay. These are the things that keep us up at night. These are the things that discourage us and cause us anxiety and cause us fear. You ever been walking around and, you know, you really don't know why you feel off, but then all of a sudden, you know, you do that thing that you've been kind of putting off and then you feel better. Okay. That's what slaying the monster is about. And the reason that we call it slaying the monster is because if you don't slay the monster, the monster will eat you the fuck alive. Okay. You will live a life of anxiety, of fear, of confusion, of frustration if you don't make a habit of slaying

the monster, all right? So you have to understand this is normal for people to do. We all have days where we don't feel like doing what we need to do. We all have days we struggle. We all have days that we dread getting out of bed. We all have these days, guys, every single one of us. But the reason that we have these days usually comes down to we are not doing something that needs to be done. All right. That's the monster. So think about what that is in your life right now. Think about what it is that you're not doing that you could do right now that will actually relieve the stress,

the frustration, the anxiety that you're walking around with. Maybe it's having a conversation that needs to be had. Maybe it's talking to your coworkers. Maybe it's talking to your boss. Maybe it's talking to your coworkers. Maybe it's talking to your boss. Maybe it's talking to your significant other. Who knows? But something is causing you to feel this way. And unless you understand that you have to slay that, meaning take care of it, get done with it, you are going

to continue to live in anxiety, frustration, fear, and the way you feel right now. And you don't want to feel that way. Okay. So a lot of us go our whole lives not understanding why we're walking around with extra stress and extra frustration and extra anxiety. And when you feel yourself feeling this way, I want you to think about what the monster is. What's the monster? Okay. Because here's the thing, and we are all guilty of this, me included. Okay. The longer we allow that monster to live in our brains, in our minds, the bigger and stronger it gets, the scarier it gets, the more powerful it's perceived to be. And what ends up happening is we build this thing up to be so much stronger and so much bigger and so much scarier than it actually is,

that it causes us a disproportionate amount of anxiety, fear, and frustration in our day-to-day lives. All right? Nothing's that hard. Nothing's that bad. And if you would just learn to take care of these things as they come to you, you would learn that there's a lot of freedom in understanding how to kill this monster in your brain when it's a little bitty monster, not a big, bad, scary monster. And the reason I was inspired to talk to you about this today, guys, is because I had a project that I've been putting off and I've been putting it off and putting it off and putting it off, literally putting off the project for like a year because I was so frustrated with how the project

was going. And what happened in that time was the project got scarier. It got more difficult. It got, and I'm laughing because literally I sat down yesterday and knocked it out in an hour. And I spent a whole entire year having anxiety and stress and frustration about not having it done. And the minute that I had it done, I felt great. Okay. So it's necessary for us to understand a couple things. One, we have to identify what that monster is. It's causing us all this negativity and all this anxiety and all this energy that's bad. And two, we've got to go slay the motherfucker. All right. That's what has to happen. And the reason it has to happen is because unless we take care of these issues,

we end up making them into something that sucks all of our positive energy, all of our momentum, all of our positive brain projection and activity and creativity that we would have because we're worried about something that isn't even that bad. Okay. Once you get done with this, you're going to be reminded how great it feels to overcome these situation guys. And isn't that when we feel the most alive? Isn't that when we have the best feelings about ourselves right after we do something that we've been dreading to do? It is. And you know it is because every single one of you, no matter how frustrated or how much you may be struggling right now, you all have experienced what I'm talking about. You've all slayed a monster in the past, which means you could slay plenty of these motherfuckers

in the future. Okay. So if you're feeling stressed and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling fearful and you're feeling frustrated, identify what needs to be done. What is the thing? What is the monster that needs to be slayed? Okay. And then go slay it. And your life's going to be a hell of a lot better. And not only is it going to be better, it's going to be lighter. You're going to be able to move faster. You're going to get excited about accomplishing things. You're going to be better. It's going to be lighter. You're going to be able to move faster. You're going to get excited about accomplishing things. You're going to get a momentum that you didn't have before in a positive way. All right. This is something that all ultra successful people do. They take the biggest motherfucking thing they have in their face and they smash it.

And then they turn their attention to the next thing. And this is why a lot of the people that you see in the world who have the most responsibility are actually the most relaxed. You ever notice that? These big time CEOs, you don't see them running around like crazy. And it's not because they don't have a bunch of fires going on either. These guys have tons and tons and tons of monsters on a daily basis. And the reason they're able to live without feeling anxious and crazy and destructive and all of these things that you feel like is because they've made a habit of slaying their monsters every motherfucking day. And guess what? You should do it.