REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 160. Q&AF: Brilliant Ideas, Tattoo Meanings & Afterlife

Episode Date: October 28, 2021

Do you believe in the supernatural? In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on approaching your supervisor with your brilliant ideas, the meaning behind his illustrious tattoos, and what happens to us in the afterlife.

What's up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, what are we doing here? Q and AF? Q and AF. Today, we're doing a Q and AF. Let's see how that works.

Before I get into the Q and AF, I'd like to remind you of the fee. Fee is extremely important because Instagram has decided that I am not allowed to speak on Instagram anymore. So please share the show if If you get value from it, you know, put in your story, put in a post. Cool. More importantly, talk to people about it. You know, have conversations about it, have conversations about what we're talking about and our points of view and the lessons that we teach regarding how to win because they're valuable and we'd appreciate it if you shared them. So with that being said, you guys do a good job of that, by the way.

I just want to say that, you know, I appreciate, we've been able to keep a top, you know, five show on iTunes for fucking seven, eight, what is it? So 15, whatever, six years, seven years, almost, based off a word of mouth, you know, and that's how I like to do it. That's how I teach. That's how I teach. That's how I teach business building is through doing such a good job that people will naturally talk about you.

And that's what I hope to do here as well. But I do like to remind you guys that, you know, we depend on you. So share the shit. All right. Yeah. What do we got today, bro? I got three questions. And guys, you guys know how this works. I askedy three questions he has no idea what these are um and

you guys do an awesome job of emailing your questions in as always email them to ask andy at andy for seller.com and uh with that being said let's get into it all right so number one so obviously you're you're eating over there oh i'm glad you asked first form uh protein sticks look at you yeah look at you did you practice that i didn't but uh that's pretty good yeah i mean they're fucking delicious and i don't know why i brought me three why you got about 700 calories i told him i was gonna grab one of those a meal bro yeah i know that's one and a half for you i'm like i can't fucking do it all right how's it how's the program going uh so it's funny you say that so i'm i'm restarting today oh really i got sick as fuck over this past weekend yeah i know you said that but i didn't know if you're

really sick or you're playing hooky no no bro i was fucking done yeah like i mean i i said i laid in the bed for about fucking 12 hours really oh yeah that so ryan got rsv it was uh two days into daycare she got the fauci fauci virus no it wasn't that funny story though so we we did have to take her to the urgent care saturday night so ryan got sick she got sick from daycare right i mean it's kids daycare is a fucking cesspit yeah this is what it is right like i i acknowledge that i know it we're good um but saturday night her fever went over 100. I'm like, all right, urgent care time. Let's go. There's one right down the street from the house.

And so we're getting there. And I'm like, you know, preparing myself. I'm like, all right, we're not fucking doing this mass shit. They stick something up her fucking nose. We're not doing it. And me and Alex, like, we're getting riled up, getting ready for this shit. Like, we're about to go to war. Yeah.

And we go in. There's not even a mask on. The lady checking us in, she didn't say one fucking word about masks. Did you go to that uh all access urgent care uh the cardinal glenn urgent care okay uh test you know 21 in butler hill it's brand new yeah it's new all right new it's fucking to both ones they both run a good operation they're awesome you know they didn't they didn't say one fucking word yeah they the moment we walked in all they cared about was ryan making sure that she was good they didn't none of this political shit none

of the shit and it was cool even going back back, the doctor and the NP, they were great. They didn't push any crazy shit. Like, it was very, very refreshing. That's good. But I got sick as fuck. So, and Alex is working through some shit now, too. But, dude, I don't know what the fuck they got at them daycares, but it's something. And it got me.

Yeah. So, you know, Sunday I was able to manage to get my shit done. But then Monday, man, I woke up and it was almost like 10 times worse. Today I feel fine. Yeah. You might want to lightsaw the mic down a little bit, but I feel good overall, you know, but this is back to day one. So today is back to day one?

Today is back to day one. All right. Yeah. So I'm not fucking stopping. Am I going to take a break? No, I'm going to push right through it. That's how it's supposed to do. How many days were you in?

30. 31, actually, yeah. All right. Well, that should get you – we should get you down to your 275 goal in this stretch, then. Oh, that's where I'm going. Bro, listen, I'm not – there's no fucking yeah i'm going yeah um but yeah so day one today and uh i'm right back on it man yesterday was just fucking it was literally impossible for me to

move like i was hurting so um yeah all right so questions so questions so obviously andy you're you're you're a motherfucking ceo you're a boss, right? And I saw this question. It was interesting because this is not from a, it is from a perspective of a business owner, but more so from an employee side, right? So as an employee, how should that employee handle bringing ideas to you, right? How does that employee handle bringing ideas to their leadership, to their ownership

when it contradicts what their ownership's and leadership's values or beliefs are at that time. Right. So, you know, my boss said we're going to do a, but I think B is better because of X, Y, and Z. Like, so how should that employee present that? Dude, that's a really good question because that matters. A lot of employees like to do this thing where they see the other side of the coin and they want to bring it to the

decision maker because they think it's going to make them more valuable. Right. And they do this before they have a comprehensive understanding of why things are done the way they are. So what people have to understand, I think it's very good to have input. I think it's very good to contribute. I think it's very good to have input. I think it's very good to contribute. I think it's very good to think about things and how they could be done differently to produce a better result. But I think it's also important to have a comprehensive understanding of why things are done the way they are done. Because a lot of times newer employees come with these ideas, right? What they don't realize is like, yeah, motherfucker, we had those ideas about 10 years ago and they didn't work.

It happened to me. I get it. So, so that's what people, so people's ignorance and lack of experience leads them to come with things that have already been thought of. And that could be avoided by checking yourself and thinking, okay, well, why are they done this way now? And it's impossible that this idea that I have could have already been done. And to think through those things before you go present it to your decision maker, whoever that boss is, right? So when you go to present it, understand that you should have all thought through those things. Like the worst kind of person to me, dude, is the person who's trying to come in, make an impression.

They want to seem like they're real smart and they keep coming to you with all these ideas. It's like, bro, you started here a week ago. I've been doing this for 23 fucking years. Right. You think I haven't thought of that shit? Get the fuck out of my face. Right.

For real. It's annoying. I get it. So having an awareness of what has taken place before you ever even stepped into this building is probably a good thing to have. Okay. Now I know that sounds super discouraging. People like, well, fuck dude, I don't want to shut up.

Right. I don't say shit. That's not what I'm saying. So let's just say you've worked through that scenario and you've thought through those things. How should you present that to the decision maker? The best way to do that is to go up to them or go in their office or wherever they are and say, hey, why do we do things this way?

And ask them why we do things the way that we do them because in that explanation, we'll probably tell you why the idea that you think is so great probably doesn't work. Okay. Now, if you hear the explanation, we say, Hey, why do we do this thing? Um, the next question would be, okay, why don't we do it this way?

All right. So now you've taken it from, Oh, I'm so ego. I've had this great idea and you're a stupid boss and instead of you like trying to put uh this uneducated idea onto them and making yourself look stupid yeah you just ask them in a way that offers them a simple answer right okay well why don't we do it this way because i would think this one might be a good way to do it. Right. Okay. Now you have an opening where there's no ego, right? Like now we're in a conversation about why we do and why we don't. And there's not like this.

Guard up. I feel like there's a guard up with the 100%. So now you've got a conversation going of trying to find the best solution. So like if you came to me and you said, well, why don't we do it this way? I would say, well, here we used to do it this. This is most likely what's going to happen. We did it this way, or we used to do it this way, the way you're thinking. And it didn't work. Here's what happened. And here's why. Okay. Uh, sometimes you're going to get a response of, man, I don't know. I never thought about like

that. That's a good idea. I'm going to think about that. That's a win, right? Like, okay, so someone comes to me and I say that to them. Usually it's caused me to think, right? Which makes me value that employee more, right? Yeah. So right now I'm thinking, okay, this person's smart. They're thinking outside the box. But when this person approached me with that other tone of like, hey, I got this idea, blah, blah, blah.

I think you're a fucking idiot. You see what I'm saying? So really this is all about the approach. me with that other tone of like hey i got this idea i think you're a fucking idiot yeah you see what i'm saying so really this is all about the approach this is about how i understand and have a comprehensive understanding of why we do things and why we don't do certain things before you ever take the idea to someone who's uh your main decision maker and understand that you know the best way to approach it is in a way of like, Hey man, can you explain to me why we do this? Cause I, I get it. But have we ever thought about this? Those are the best conversations I've found. You know what I'm saying? When you run in as the new

guy trying to make an impression and you talk to someone who's been grinding it out for a decade or more, and you think you've got all the answers figured out just by the the lack of time you've put in now you may hit a home run and come up with something good but i'm going to tell you 99 of the time the shit you're about to sputter is going to make you look stupid it just is yeah and and and that can brand you for life yeah in your business right like like there's people here like like, dude, remember that guy who came in and asked me that thing about my brother. Remember how he's going to be. Yeah. And like, dude, I'm getting into South and I'm like forever. This guy's an idiot. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And, um, that's a hard thing to break. So make sure that you're doing your fucking

critical thinking in your homework and ask in the right way that's the best way to get things across i i i do that with my peers or even with my subordinates people who i people who i'm in charge of i'll ask them explain to me why we're doing it this way right you know and they'll say it just sounds better yeah and then yeah well have we thought about doing it this way or why don't we do it this way? And that's a good way to lead and introduce ideas, I think, that keeps everybody's ego not only in check, but protected. Right. You know what I'm saying? That's awesome.

All right. Question number two. Ego doesn't have any place in those kind of conversations, by the way. I'm talking to you from a realist perspective. Yeah. Ideally, your leader and you should be able to put ego aside to find the best solution. I'm just trying to warn you how to not look like a dumbass, okay,

and understand the reality that people do have egos. Sometimes you can have the best idea in the world, and the motherfucker making the decision is going to look at you and be like, fuck you. You see what I'm saying? Because of the way you present it to them. Because then you walk around thinking your idea is dumb or whatever it is that's right so a lot of it has to do with just really being good communicator and aware all right dope all right question number two so this is something i know because i've you know

i'm with you all the time right i've seen your shirt off all that stuff you have a shit ton of tattoos yeah so can we just you know spend a couple of minutes talking about your tattoos I know because I'm with you all the time, right? I've seen your shirt off, all that stuff. You have a shit ton of tattoos. Yeah. So can we just spend a couple of minutes talking about your tattoos? Like, what was your first tattoo you ever had? And what was your most recent one? What do they mean to you? People are asking about the tats, man.

Really? Yeah. I never get asked about that. You know what, man? I feel like you see them enough to want to know more about them. No, I've got hundreds of hours of tattoo work. What was your first one i've got uh this the the piece that i have between my wrist and my on my inner forearm

on my left arm between my wrist and my elbow and my first one um you know and it just went from there you know what i'm saying like i just i got into it uh growing up i always thought tattoos were cool but i never knew knew what i wanted um i didn't get tattooed my first tattoo i didn't get till i was 34 oh wow yeah so like um you know i i was always of the school of like oh you know we come from a classic uh more traditional type family in that regard my dad was very anti-tattoo growing up you know i was taught that people with tattoos were losers you know what i'm saying yeah um and i still remember when i got my first tattoo my dad saw it i could tell he was a little irritated you know what i'm saying yeah but like that's their era yeah right like that's their era and um it's funny how i got my first one uh

rob bailey who's a good buddy of mine um flag nor fail uh you guys know rob he he texted me a picture of his friend uh randomly and said dude my my buddy is the best tattoo artist on earth and i saw the picture and i was like, holy fuck, that's some good shit. That's what I want. Yeah. And I knew instantly this is who I wanted to work, do my work after all that time thinking about it. Right.

So, uh, I called him up, I, I text him and we started talking and he was, came to my house literally the next week. Wow. So like, I didn't have time to move it quick. Yeah. Like I didn't really have time to think about it. Yeah. Like I didn't really have time to think about it. Yeah. And, you know, we did a Prometheus on this part of my arm and then it just went from there.

We went from thing to thing to thing. And, you know, for those of you that don't know Prometheus, he was in mythology, the creator of made men of clay. That's a lot of what I do. I mold people. That's my job these days. My job is to mold you guys. My job is to mold these young people here.

It was appropriate for me. Then I did an Athena on the backside of my arm. I did Nike, the goddess of victory, up on the top part of my arm. And then it just went like, I did my whole back. I got my whole thigh from knee to hip. I got my chest done. I formed a really good relationship with my tattoo artist. We're buddies now.

He's done all your work. Yeah, yeah. I haven't had any other tattoo artists. his name is eric marcinezen and uh he's coming here to do a rib piece on me uh here at the end of november oh shit yeah eric's awesome too yeah he's a really cool dude and honestly bro like we tattooed like more so now like you know it's more so we want to hang out. Right. So it's like, you know, and, and once you start getting tattooed, you start like, once you have so much coverage, you almost forget that you have it. Like it's, it's so normal. It becomes you. Yeah. And so like when you're younger and you're thinking like, oh fuck dude, I got to think all these, I wanted the right thing. And

this has got to look perfect and this and that. you become more tattooed you care less about what's on you and more about like this like who did it what it looks like um you know and you don't like overthink it like it's just kind of like it's a it's a cool process to be a part of yeah and so you know it's just something i i've got into and i never really thought i would be one of these people that's like almost covered in tattoos. But it's fucking dope. Like, I mean, because that's the thing. I really never thought that. Yeah.

When I look at you, it's like, and to be clear, guys, this is not like Andy doesn't have fucking live, laugh, love on this fucking. No, it's art. This is real fucking art. Yeah. And it's a long process. So I saw the thigh piece you did. I sat there.

I mean, you fucking. It was four full days. Of like 12, yeah we never sat so eric is a is a guy who he'll come to you like you come to your house and do it um it's it's very expensive he's at the top of the game price wise anybody who knows tattoo industry knows where eric is he's at the very very top it's all black and gray um you know for a day a day just for one day which is an eight hour day you know uh it's i don't even want to say what it is because it's it's considerable and then you throw into like hundreds of hours of work um because we're we're in him and i figured it out last time. We're somewhere around 250 hours.

It's insane. Yeah. And, um, but you got to think of it too, that dude, that's a cosmetic procedure. It's like you, like for me, I wanted the best. I wanted to wait till I could get really good work before I got any. And now, you know, I'm really happy with what I have. Like I'm told it, like, there's not ever a time where I walk through a area, like, you know, a pool or a beach or wherever I might be.

And not like, I never think like, oh, fuck you. My tattoos are shitty. Like, I already know, like they're the shit. Oh, you're walking Picasso. Yeah. Right. So, you know, it's real art. It's just a new, a different medium and what people think of.

Well, I think socially it's become way more acceptable. Oh, for sure. I think it's, which is good to see see like you see the military opening relaxing the stand well look dude i i think it's more rare to not have tattoos i don't think everybody needs tattoos and i think people should wait until they know for sure what they want to get yeah you know like you do have to look at that shit every day you do have to fucking look at yourself every day like you better make sure you fucking like it like a lot of these dudes go out and get spongebob square pants shit like and then they're like fuck dude sure you fucking like it. Like a lot of these dudes go out and get SpongeBob square pants shit. Like, and then they're like, fuck dude. Like you look like a

clown later. You know what I'm saying? So like, I think it's important to really like, I don't want it to sound like, Oh yeah, it's just whatever. But like find someone good, you know, work through the ideas and make sure they make sense for you. Don't copy someone else's swag. Come up with your own shit. And, um, I think it's a really, it's a really enjoyable process.

I, I like it. Yeah. So, uh, and, and it's, you know,

it's, I don't know. It's something I never really thought I would have or be, but it is. And it's funny too. Cause like, I forget I have them. Yeah.

Like I forget, I fucking forget. Yeah. You know? So, uh, yeah. All right.

Question number three. So this one is going to get maybe a little deep, but a lot of people, I know a lot of people are going to love you this answer. So very, very simple question. What happens after you die? Man, you know, something happens.

And I'm not talking like you decompose and die. I've had enough experiences in my life, paranormal, that have 100% convinced me that there is something after that. Uh, I've had instances with, uh, you know, where God's truly come through for me. Okay. So I believe in that. Um, and I'm very much so, I mean, we live in Missouri, dude, this is the show me state. So like, I'm not like, I'm a skeptical person. So like, I have to really see something to believe it. And dude, I had a fucking experience the other night, bro.

Scared the fuck out of me, dude. You know, I live in a historical property. It used to belong to Ulysses S. Grant, who was the 18th president of the United States. You know, back when, in his day day he owned this property that i live on and uh i was down in the basement of our house and we've had all kinds of weird shit dude like we've had we have a video you've seen the video we have this video seen some shit yeah we have this video of a baby carriage that we use for our dogs um literally pushing itself across the cobblestones and the bricks. Wind can't blow. I'll show the video.

We'll show it. We want to do a real AF ghost edition because this shit is like, it'll go super viral because it's one of the most convincing paranormal videos I've ever seen. Agreed. And I haven't shared it anywhere. I haven't even had Emily text me the video because i don't want it even out there right she's the only person who has it yeah it's on her phone that's it and um but i had this experience the

other night bro i was down in our basement and we have this area between the finished area and then like a utility room in our utility room uh we have like a pantry right like a freezer and pantry and all this shit so i was down there getting some shit it was like fucking i don't know probably 10 o'clock 11 o'clock at night and emily went outside to let the dogs out before we went to bed and uh so i was in the house alone and i was down there and i was walking into the basement and uh i i felt weird i felt like it felt it just felt fucking weird yeah like somebody was watching me or like you never know that feeling where your hair stands up, like for no fucking reason. It felt like that when I was walking in and I grabbed, uh, I think I was getting a pack of

beef jerky is what I was getting. I grabbed the beef jerky. I started to walk out and the, the doors to go into that unfinished area are French doors. So they, they, they open together, right? And I got like three feet outside of the door from coming back out of the utility room. And the fucking door slammed three times. Dude, as hard as someone could slam it, like my size or your size. Yeah, fuck that. Like it was like boom, boom, boom. And like, dude, it fucking froze me. Yeah.

It froze me. Fuck that. fuck that no no bro listen i froze i've never been ever in my life ever ever ever ever as scared as i was in that fucking moment like it felt like i was about to be attacked is what it felt like and my fucking all my hair stood up i fucking got so scared that i fucking froze and i don't give a fuck what any of you motherfuckers say like that's never happened to me before where i got so terrified i fucking froze and it took like every ounce of my mind to get my body to even move like it was the weirdest sensation i never felt before in my life i went went upstairs and I didn't run, dude. I like, it was like, I had to like consciously force my body to take these steps to get outside.

That's like, you know how that is in my house, right? Go upstairs through the kitchen, back out the back room. Like every step I had to like think about and I got outside and, and, and I just looked at Emily and she's like what's wrong I couldn't fucking talk she's like what's wrong and I I like like that's how fucking terrified I was it wasn't it wasn't the door slamming it wasn't like the air conditioner right like this was fucking something really not good and it scared the fucking shit out of me so because of things like that and i've had other

situations like that in my life uh not to that extent of like bad things like other things have just happened and i've seen them and i have stories and we'll save those for that show but um there's something else and i don't know know, I've always thought that a lot of what they talk about in the afterlife is a bait to, and this is my honest belief. I've always thought they tell these stories to create morality in society, right? So we don't have fucking just crazy shit going on. For sure. Which every society has to have a set of morals, which, uh, you know, that's a lot of what we've been talking about lately.

Yeah. But so I've always been of the opinion that these stories have maybe been to create this illusion of something after so that you will behave when you're here. Right. But bro, the more I look into it, the older I get. And a lot of people who are younger will say, yeah, that's because you're questioning your own mortality. No, it has nothing to do with what I feel about myself. No. Like I was not aware for millions of years before I was born, bro. And I wasn't mad about it. You know what I'm saying? Like, we don't know.

Yeah. So that's what happens. If that's what happens after you die, do you really fucking care? Do you really know? You know what I'm saying? Yeah. There's, if that's what the worst thing to be afraid of is, what difference does it really make?

So, but I have seen enough as I've gotten older and experienced life to where I could truly, truly, truly say that I believe 100% there's a God. I believe 100% there's universal quantum physical powers that have to do with God that create reality in our existence. And I believe 100% that there's something that happens afterwards. Now, to answer the question, what? I don't know, but I could tell you that I've had enough personal experience. And I think you guys trust me enough to know that I wouldn't fucking bullshit you, um, to say those three definitive things, you know, yes, there's a God. Yes. there's quantum physical, metaphysical properties in the universe that are probably related to God. And there's something afterwards.

Sean Whalen and I took a famous photograph at Billy G's. I remember this. That has a ghost in it. Yeah. And that was another situation where we caught something on actually on camera. Um, I had a situation at my old house where I lived in Springfield, Missouri. So, I mean, I've had a lot of these weird, these weird things and they've been going on my whole life.

Like, uh, I think I've always been more open to these things. Um, and I think the more you open to them, the you see more it comes yeah yeah for sure uh so yeah that's my that's where i'm at on it you know and i know that's a long way around saying that but i don't know but i know there's something and i think it's a good idea to live your life as if there's something and all those things they tell us about being a good person are true for a couple reasons one um it's a good way to live yeah you know it helps other people live cohesively and in harmony and happy and helpful and it's a good way are you going to be perfect on all those things all the time probably not but that's the point of life what'd you learn how'd you improve what did you what did you know what i'm saying um and then you know

understanding that uh you know if you live that way and it is that way you're a good spot yeah you know i'm saying he will be slamming doors in his basement so yeah so like dude i you know a lot of people will a lot of younger people have been brought up to belief that's all bullshit and this and that but like dude look man i'm 42 years old now i've seen a lot of shit i've had a lot of shit happen and enough to convince me a very skeptical realist person that this shit is real and uh nobody could convince me otherwise like you could sit there and tell me you know bro it's my belief you know what i'm saying so i actually think that's a big problem in society right now i think people have lost faith in god and the moral compass is definitely out well that

well that well and that comes from the apathy towards towards god and living a higher purpose life because when you don't think there's any repercussions for what the fuck you do why why would you keep your line in check? You see what I'm saying? Yeah. So I think, you know, I think a lot of people here, especially in this point in time in history, are going to be really fucked up later on in life over some of the shit they've been living. But, you know, that's the point of life, dude. Recognize you've been living wrong. Try to make it right and be good from there on out and use those lessons to help other people achieve the same thing that's that's how i kind of see it yeah that's real well guys that's three

now go pay the fee yeah three and pay the fee yeah all right all right guys i love you guys i appreciate you guys i'll talk to you next time Jury box froze, fuck a bowl, fuck a stole Counted millions in a cold Bad bitch, booted swole, got her on bankroll Can't fold, that's a no, headshot, case closed