REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 171. Q&AF: How To Handle Rejection, Winning With #75HARD & Andy's Biggest Fear

Episode Date: November 11, 2021

What's your biggest fear? In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how you should deal with rejection in business & life, what has made him most proud of the #75HARD program, and lets you in on his biggest fear.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to the lies and fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have what we good oh i thought you said something i thought he shit his pants i thought i heard a fart yeah whatever that was all right cool i guess we'll keep going well today we have uh what do we got q and a f hey man listen we keep it real here i don don't, I don't, that was weird, bro. I literally thought he just shit himself. Dude, I don't know what that was, but I thought he said something. What the fuck, man? All right. Well, Hey guys, what's up? We got a Q and a F for you guys today. Uh, maybe we should just go straight to Cruise the Internet.

Fuck it. As a reminder, there's a fee for the show. The show is not free. I can't even fucking do this shit. Bro, that was like a low-grade E-flat over there, bro. He shit himself. Let's just start with the q and a f holy fuck if you don't know the fee by now then what the fuck are you doing with your

life yeah all right uh yeah let's just go yeah man all right let's get it in how's your day going it's good i just got done talking to ed my let about this uh arte summit we got coming up this week next week in Miami. That's pretty cool. It's going to be awesome. I'm excited for that. Yeah, got my leg training in. Got my cardio done.

Got some meetings done. Productive. Yeah. Not busy. Got some shit done. Not busy. No. Productive.

Yeah. It is what it is, bro. Cool. All right. So you guys know how this works. I got three questions for Andy, as always. You guys can email your questions in to ask Andy at Andy for seller dot com. With that being said, let's get to it. So question number one, 23 years in business. I know that you've probably faced more rejections and more no's than anybody else, probably on the planet right now. Okay. How did you handle those rejections back then? And versus like, how do you handle those rejections now, if any?

I mean, look, the thing you got to remember is you're going to have, especially when you're first starting out, you have this like idea of what your business is going to be and you're trying to communicate it to people. Um, and they have no reason to believe you you know you haven't created anything you're not experienced you don't have a a line of accomplishments you're fresh you're brand new and uh they don't have any reason to believe in you and there's a you know millions of other people that say the same shit you're saying and you have to realize that so like a lot of times in the beginning when you get a no reason you get a nose, because there's so many people out there that just talk about the shit they're going to do and never do it, that people are conditioned to that. So they're like, yeah, it's not a disrespect thing. It's more like, okay, well go do something,

get some shit going and then we'll talk, you know? And I think that's important to understand. Uh, when you start out, you're going to get, you know, i think that's important to understand uh when you start out you're going to get you know you're going to get fucking 30 no's for every one yes it might be a hundred no's for every one yes uh you're going to get no's to even get people to work for you because they don't believe in you you know like managing the belief in what you do and what you're trying to do really comes down to the evidence that you have to support yourself, you know, and to get that evidence, you have to accomplish things. And that takes time. So persevering through the concept of a heavy wave of no's in the beginning of your business life, you know, it's just something you got to do. I wouldn't really

worry about it. I think it's normal. I think people, I think people have a really hard time hearing no, you know, and for me, how I handled it was always the same, still how I handle it. Um, but I could tell you that like, nobody tells me no, you know what I'm saying? Like they just don't, I've got, there's too much horsepower, too much momentum. Like if I say, I'm going to go fucking invent this, I have 50 other things that i've touched that i've built that i could show like well this is my evidence this is why it's a yes yeah so i don't get many no's anymore now if i do i do it the same way i would do it in the beginning which is i take inventory of it uh i remember that the motherfucker told me no and then i i use it as

ammunition to get me moving and i take that and i and when things get hard when things get tough uh when i don't feel like doing what i need to do i remember those things and i think about the motherfuckers that told me no and told me they didn't believe in me and told me to get a real job that's why whenever like i make you know some smart ass posts on my story, I'll post something real cool, and the caption will say, yeah, I still got that little vitamin shot. You know what I'm saying? Because that's what I used to hear all the time. Hey, Andy, you still got that little vitamin shot?

Dude, I still hear that shit sometimes from local people that don't have any clue what I'm doing. They're disconnected from you. Yeah, correct. They're disconnected from the fucking world, apparently. Yeah. But, you know, it is what it is so like i would use those those those any disbelieving voice as a useful tool for you if you understand how to fucking use it you know what i

mean but most people uh let those negative criticisms or that that voice of disbelief uh or those no's that you're going to get cripple them from actually doing anything yeah and you know that's i think you know handling that first wave of nobody believes that's going to last for your for your first five or six years in business uh is one of the most important times to push through. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. That's fucking awesome. So I want to semi-switch gears real quick. This is a 75 hard question for you. So we're, what, three, four years now into 75 hard, right? You've created this.

Three, yeah. Three years. And, I mean, over a billion hashtags on TikTok, right? I mean, this program's changed like literally has changed a lot okay yeah out of all of that right what for you personally right as the creator of this of this program what what's been uh what's been what's been the biggest thing that's made you proud or or like like give you some type of like you know i'm saying like what's made you most proud about well i, it's not a most proud.

It's, it's, it's renewed. That's renewable. I can say the same thing every day. Anytime I see someone or talk to someone like we had Josiah here last week. Yeah. You know, when I talk to people who have truly changed who they are by going through the program, it doesn't matter it never gets old to me so it's not like you know like i don't look at it on a macro scale like holy shit dude

it's the this many it's the most popular program like i don't fucking that's not what i that's not how i look at it like i take my wins from that program uh first, first off for myself. Okay. Like I look at the changes in myself. I I'm very proud of those changes. I think about how I used to handle things. Uh, for example, this injury that I've been dealing with with my shoulder, you know, if that were three or four years ago and I couldn't track, cause I've been not able to train upper body at all. Uh, just a little bit, a little bit of arms and a little bit of back, but I mean, it's a pretty serious injury. And three or four years ago, had that happened, I would have put on 30, 40 fucking pounds. Cause I would have said, fuck it. I can't do anything. And you know, here I am basically,

uh, you know, pretty much doing the best that I can kind of holding steady to where I was. I'm up a few pounds. Um, but you know, that's a big win. You know what I mean? And so like, I I'm proud of those things first, because those things allow me to set a better example for all these people listening and all the people that are customers of our brands and our companies and our movements and the things that we do, uh, because I take that obligation serious, but like, I don't ever, I don't have one out one like big win that I said, Oh, you know, I look at an individual do because I take that obligation serious. But like, I don't ever, I don't have one out one like big win that I said, Oh, you know, I look at an individual do when I hear these individual

stories, when I get to talk to people or hear, or even just read their real stories on the internet, like, dude, I take the same amount of pride in that every time, you know? And it's not like, I don't look at like a lot of people try to over-credit me for these things. They say, Oh, dude, thank you. If it wasn't for you, you know, you saved my life. No, I fucking didn't save your life. You saved your life. And that's the fucking point. The point is, is we're all in control. We're all able to save ourselves. We all have the ability to build whatever the fuck we need, uh, skill wise inside of ourselves. If we just understood that things are skills, not traits for the most part, and that they are within our control. And once we learn how to operate within

the system of how things really are, it's not me doing it. You're doing the fucking work. I'm just show you the fucking way to do it. And, um, so there's i don't i don't know like i don't i just look at it on an individual basis bro like anytime i can hear a story or read a story and i can tell it's genuine and people really change and i'm not talking just losing weight i'm talking about like chain like where they've woken up they're a different person yeah right they've they've woken up to realize that all these things they saw in other people mental toughness discipline fortitude grit uh the ability to persevere confidence self-belief all of these things they thought that people were just born with that they didn't happen to be gifted with now they understand holy fuck i've been in control of this the whole time and i know

that if i do this i can produce this and this and this dude that's a pretty rewarding experience like i honestly it's it's like it's like taking someone out of the fucking darkness and and showing them the world for the first fucking time and like that to me is where it's at yeah you know what i'm saying and and and so like dude it's kind of hard to explain and you know if if this was a business for me like if 75 Hard and Live Hard was like a quote unquote business initiative for me, I would probably look at it and say, oh, dude, it's the most popular program that's ever fucking existed. Yeah. Because it fucking is. Yeah.

Did you expect that, by the way? No, I didn't. Did you know that was going to like. No, but I knew that it was the only mental. It's a mental development program. Right right and it's only fucking one and and there's really no way to make it better yeah so it is what the fuck it is bro you know like i did something cool with my life you know what i'm saying like uh but you know i i don't i don't look at it like that dude i just look at it like one at a time man that's how i look to everything that's how i look at building businesses it's don't look at it like that, dude. I just look at it like one at a time, man. It's how I look to everything. It's how I look at building businesses. It's how I look at building

movements. It's how I look at building cultures. It's how all of you guys who have businesses should look at your business. It's one at a time, one at a time, one at a time. And, and, uh, you know, it never gets old hearing it because dude, as you know, you've been with me for almost two years now, every single day. Um, I get people to come up to me almost every day and it's not uncommon for them to get emotional or or to to cry or and it happens all the time and uh and and all different places and bro it's it's it's really fucking cool and and i think on the bigger on the bigger side like you know where i'm proud is i know that those people are going home and they're becoming better leaders they're becoming better uh leaders in their community they're standing up for what they know is right because

now they have the confidence to do so and those things all make our country better which i think when i think about like when i think about it like that on the big impact yeah that that's what gets me most excited yeah they're better they're better mothers they're better fathers that's right they're better at fucking everything yeah and and so um you know that's where those are where i get my my little you know fulfillment from with those things yeah that's fucking awesome yeah okay so that that's that's two questions our last question um and i'm really really curious to see see your answer or hear your answer to this andy what is your biggest fear uh man leaving leaving shit on the table for me you know it's um

it's i don't want to i don't want like dude i think about this like people think i don't know i don't know if it's normal to think about this but like i think about things like what would my actual last thought be right so like when i when i got uh misdiagnosed with a brain tumor um back in 2012 ended up having a cyst still have it um i remember when i first was told that i remember my first thought was holy fuck dude i haven't fucking done anything my life is over that was my first thought like literal first thought and it was like a panic thought like my stump like your stomach dropped yeah like it was it's hard to describe unless you've experienced it and um you know i've had two like two instances where i had to really come to

terms with the fact that i might actually die and one was when i got stabbed but that happened so fast and it was so traumatic that i didn't have time to think about it it was more so shit was just happening yeah and so there was no reflection you know what i'm saying like as it was happening yeah now afterwards there was right but then you realize how close you actually yeah yeah but when I got that diagnosis, which thankfully was wrong, you know, that I got to think about it. Right. You know, I had to fucking drive home from getting that news. You know what I'm saying? And I remember my first thought was definitely fucking panic.

Like, holy fuck. I haven't accomplished anything. I haven't done any of the things I'm capable of. I fucking half-assed most of the shit in my life. Like I thought back, like I thought about all the things I could have done that I didn't do because I was like, I like pussed out.

Yeah. Right. You know what I'm saying? And like all of those things like came at me at one time, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. And so, uh,

that, that is a feeling i don't want to experience again so i think what my biggest fear probably is now is leaving so much shit on the table that i have that feeling like no matter what like like whether it was a car accident or a fucking, uh, uh, sickness or whatever, if I had any time to think about it, like, I don't want to have to have that feeling when I'm thinking about it. You know what I'm saying? I want to say, well, fuck dude, it is good shit because we're all going to die. That's right. That's something we all, we know that. And I want to think, you know, that my existence fucking mattered. Is my existence perfect?

Absolutely not. Are there people out there that probably don't like me? Sure. But I've done the best that I could fucking do. Like I could honestly say, like if that happened to me right now, I could say, okay, all right,

I did some, some shit. I at least set a bunch of people in the right direction. You know what I'm saying? That matters, bro. That shit matters. And I believe that,

you know, people talk about legacy and they talk about wanting to leave shit behind and they, but nobody ever really thinks about cultural legacy. They never think about like, did I show people how to live? Right. You know what I mean? Did I show people how to, um, you know, be better the right way, but through my example like i think i think people underestimate how important that really is because you know um like you said we are all going to deal with those whatever we're gonna have to take inventory and those fat can at that at some point in life we have to be real with ourselves and that's where the basis of the show comes from this is why i tell the fucking truth as i see the truth okay um because i don't ever want to look back and be like man i wish i had spoke up i wish i had stood up i wish i had fucking done this or i wish i had done that or you know i wish i had built that company to the best way that i could

or i wish i had done my podcast every day like all you know what i'm saying i wish i would have gotten shade yeah i don't want to fuck i don't want i don't want to think about nothing like that i want i want to be able to say okay well at least i did what the fuck i was here to do yeah and and uh so so not fulfilling that probably would be uh pretty big fear of mine outside of that like i don't i don't I'm not saying I'm not scared of anything. Spiders. None of that. Yeah.

I don't like snakes. Like, but you know, real, real talk. That's, that's where I'm at. That's fucking powerful, man. Cool, man. Well, Andy, uh, this was a quick one, but I, I think this, this was deep. And that's three. I think the fee.

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