REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 204. Q&AF: 75HARD While Pregnant?, How To Say "NO" & Gratitude In 2021

Episode Date: December 29, 2021

In today’s episode, Andy answers your questions about whether or not women can do #75HARD during pregnancy, how to hone the skill of saying “NO” to others & Andy describes the things he’s grateful for during the year 2021.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcella and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. Before I get into that, I'd like to remind you guys of the fee, okay? It's likely that you're going to learn some shit on the show. So those things are valuable. And what I ask in return for what you learn on the show is that you share the show, all right? you make a post about it you can share your story uh but most importantly man you know like tell people about it when you guys talk about what's going on who's telling the truth uh where you can get good information about kicking ass in life

i feel like we're doing a pretty good job providing that kind of information sometimes we're funny too so sometimes uh yeah so share the show that's the fee okay uh not gonna fill your whole head with fucking advertisements or uh you know run ads in your fucking feet all day long like if we do good do us a solid share the show if we don't do good uh fucking we suck yeah all right that's it so uh with that being said what we got we got some goings for you do we yeah we got some goings every time you say that they suck oh fuck yeah anyway how was christmas christmas was good man christmas was good uh it was good it was first time at the house you know i had both sides so i got to see my drug dealer money and um it was cool yeah you got to have now everybody dj moved dj is not a drug dealer i'm not a drug dealer um but he moved

into his first big boy house uh what about a year ago yeah yeah about a year ago it was a year yeah so your first family christmas there yeah it was about me because dude she got a big size family i got a pretty big like i mean it was everybody that's cool man it was cool so um but yeah when i first any crazy family fights or shit? You know. Because that's usually, that goes with my family Christmas. You know, it was all. Like, everybody's happy. Yeah.

Until they're not. So, it was, everything was fine. The food was great. We didn't have any fucking bullshit issues. Yeah. Until one of the cousins, and I'm, she's not on my side. Okay. We'll just say that. Yeah. And I think part of the problem, she doesn't really only she's not on my side okay we'll just say that yeah um

and i think part of the problem she doesn't really come around that often yeah you know i'm saying she's like she doesn't know to keep her mouth shut she don't apparently she apparently has no fucking idea what i do and what i stand yeah yeah so i'm talking with my guys we're out we're outside on the patio and uh you know they're asking us about you know asking about the wedding like you know when alex and i was gonna get married i'm like you know we're trying to find our venue because a lot of these venues are doing this vaccine bullshit yeah i said it just like that and uh and i'm like i'm not doing that and then she butts in and she's like well that's good and we all fucking looked at her like what what part like what's good the back like they're making people have the vaccine

or that i'm not going to a place that's doing that so no no the fact like they're making people have the vaccine or that i'm not going to a place that's doing that it's like no no the fact that they're doing the vaccines that that's a great the vaccines are great you should absolutely get them and i said katie no but the vaccines don't work they're not effective uh no and uh how about no what i'm supposed to test my my guests coming to my wedding for stds and shit too like what are we doing it's so stupid so i mean i had to make her feel real real dumb um and you ever notice that the people who say the vaccines work are only the people that got them but then they're also the ones that reporting about how they fucking got covet exactly like when are we gonna wake up exactly like i feel i feel like i'm like one of the only humans on the planet that actually sees

what the fuck is happening or isn't afraid to say what's happening i mean fuck dude uh every time you take this shit you get sick have you figured it out yet i mean fuck every time and i mean so i put it in place it doesn't it doesn't stop you from fucking getting it it doesn't stop you from spreading it they say oh it stops it stops from uh you'll still get sick but not as sick okay well that's a benefit to you what the fuck difference does it make if i take exactly you fucking idiots like dude and and by the way there's no proof to that yeah there's none that's just some shit they're saying to that that's i said so if that is the case show me if it's so popular show it to

me show me it you have you have the whole fucking internet in your pocket. It takes two minutes. Show me. Yeah, you can't. She walked off. Exactly. That was good. Well, anyhow, like, dude, it's fucked up, man. So venues here locally are requiring people to have a vaccine.

There's a lot of them that are starting to do it, dude. And the crazy thing here, but there is a problem, Randy. The problem is because St. Louis is St. Louis, it's small. It's not a big wedding destination. So there's really not that many of them out there. And lot of them are locking down on it no way yeah it's crazy bro it's crazy i hope everybody remembers who the fuck did this shit this is fucking terrible genocidal nazi shit that's fucked up they approved some shit over in israel just today where they can actually punish people who are unvaxxed and double vaxxed without a medical reason jesus i've been telling you guys what's going to happen like wait wait until they start killing people for not having a vaccine then

maybe people will openly kill you not not not not killed from the vaccine yeah listen it's only matter it's already happening people people at this day and age are so ignorant to history and and they don't understand what the fuck's going on and bro i don't understand how people stood by and watched these fucking watch the nazis kill all the jewish people back and fucking well this is how they're doing it merry christmas yeah no shit fuck dude how long until you know yeah you got fauci on tv saying that people shouldn't fly now like that the airline should ban people who are fucking uh unvaccinated from the fucking airlines like you motherfuckers out there better stay in the fuck up and you better start voting with your motherfucking wallets yeah like you better stop spending money with companies i you give me a

list of who the fuck those things are we'll read them on the podcast because we're not giving our fucking money to those people ever again yeah i'm down for it man ever ever for it all right so we got three questions for you andy let's knock these out so the first question is i can't believe that we've gotten that far it's i mean it's sicken question is. I can't believe that we've gotten that far. I mean, it's sickening, dude. I just can't believe that like fucking people are not more enraged. Like you got like. Well, the crazy thing is you still got people.

You got you also have a very small percentage of people who are advocating for it. Like legitimately pushing for it. Like they're like Katie. That's evil shit, bro. The Christmas dinner. Like she's advocating for that. And she's a nurse in the field. They don't know what they're advocating for, bro. People are going to get punished for this and people aren't going to forget 100 man

all right so andy our first question for you andy can i do 75 hard if i'm pregnant yeah lots of people do it pregnant really i mean yeah there's lots of people who've done it while they're pregnant a lot aaron aaron who works of people who have done it while they're pregnant. Aaron, who works here in the office, did it while she was pregnant. Oh, shit. Yeah. I mean, like, there's no, I mean, if you're healthy enough to do it and you're healthy enough for physical activity, the fucking program is scalable. So why the fuck wouldn't you be able to do it?

Now, I'm not recommending and saying, hey, this is looking 75 hard, you know, while you're pregnant. You need to talk to your doctor. I don't know if you're healthy enough to exercise. A lot of shit I don't know. But, yeah, there's lots of people who you know while you're pregnant that you need to talk to your doctor i don't know if you're healthy enough to exercise a lot of shit i don't know but yeah there's lots of people who do it while they're pregnant yeah so a lot of people do it to manage the the the hormone uh changes that happen over the course of that time uh to keep clear to get mentally focused to keep you know on because like dude there's a lot of things going on um yeah you know and there's a lot of things that need to be regulated so one of the things is is keeping mentally clear mentally focused uh focused on your career and other things not just what's going on in your body you know there's all kinds of reasons people do that but yeah that's a yeah i mean they

told us like even when i was but like make sure you stay moving so i mean i could say i mean it's not like you're having to go do fucking crossfit like that's the whole thing bro like the people who criticize the program don't know what the fuck they're talking about they haven't read it they haven't looked at it and like i said the other day all these trainers that criticize the program without knowing who what the fuck it is they don't understand that they're actually discrediting themselves because the following and the people who know how 75 hard works and who have gained from it is so massive now these people are like living in a little fucking bubble they don't understand that you

just like told everybody like oh uh you're you're iron man you ran that was fucking bullshit right like you don't understand like they don't even understand what they're criticizing right so like yeah you're gonna stir up a hornet's nest when you do that. You know what I mean? Don't get mad. You got stung. Yeah. I see it almost every day. Yeah. I see some fucking trainer trying to get IG clout who's never really built shit in their

whole entire life. They bought a couple hundred thousand followers. They got a fucking blog, and they think they're fucking going to get some clout from criticizing that shit. And I've seen multiple trainers completely destroy their business from it. Yeah. Because it shows that you're not even willing to get a look into other things right you're not even willing to fucking learn about other programs that you're fucking knocking what's that say about

you right you know i'm saying so like dude i don't know it is what it is but yeah pregnant people do it you know pregnant pregnant women do it i'm gonna clarify that um. You know, but that's a personal decision. You know what I mean? So, yeah, for sure. That's awesome. All right, question number two. Andy. I guarantee you there's a lot of women right now that have done 75 hard

partially while they were at least pregnant. At least part of it. Yeah, right. Like, dude, it's a pretty normal thing I see. Yeah. So, I mean, there's plenty of women out there who have done that. Yeah. All right.

Question number two, Andy. I like to think that I'm a really nice person, okay? And I want to help as many people as possible. I'm finding it literally impossible to turn people down or just simply say no. Any advice on how to get better at saying no? In what context? Just saying no for anything like i mean she's a helpful person well look dude everybody goes like dude look saying no is a skill just like anything any other skill it doesn't come naturally to people uh unless you're an asshole okay so you have to understand that developing the ability to say no is a skillset that serves

you that you have to develop just like discipline, just like, uh, you know, fortitude, just like grit, like all of these things that you guys think are traits that people have or, or, or innate abilities that people have or not their skills, bro. Back when fucking I first started in business and I was four or five, six, seven years in business and i was four five six seven years in business i would still get major anxiety when i had to say no like when i had to go to a meeting where i knew i had to fucking stand firm i would get major anxiety about saying no but what you come to learn is is that no actually gets you a lot further than playing along saying yes because when you say no that's not going to work for me.

It does a couple of things. One, it blocks you from getting something that you didn't want, that you really didn't want. Okay. Which is a great thing. So regardless of what happens after you say no, when you say no, that means you're not going to get something that you didn't want, which is a good thing. Right? So like that's a plus. Other things that happen when you say no now a lot of people who are contrarian personalities they like to say no to everything and try to act like they're standing on their own feet right those people don't really get very far in life because they're they have they they pretend to have problems with authority because they want to stand on their own two feet so they don't even go along with like good ideas they just are always and those people will always end up like they'll end up in fucking jail or they'll end up in fucking

getting fired or they'll end up in like situations where it doesn't serve them because their ego won't allow them to go with a good idea if it wasn't their idea you see what i'm saying so saying no is a simple skill that you need to practice. Okay. You need to practice saying no when you mean no. And that's scary at first. Like that's not an easy thing for most people to do. But I can tell you for sure, it will improve your life to have that skill because a lot of people say yes when they mean no. And then they end up in scenarios.

You know, we see memes about it all the time. Like, oh dude, I made plans and now I had to cancel them because you know like it's more than that shit though yeah like it's it's it has to do with like the direction of your career or the direction of uh your your health or the direction of your personal development they all will greatly benefit with your ability to say no so like saying no is kind of like uh learning how to swim man like you kind of jump in the fucking pool so so you got to start saying it when you mean it and like when you have that feeling inside of you and that feeling is is no fucking say no right and then and then have a discussion as to why it is now you don't always have to explain yourself when you say no but you know that's a big a lot of people think that yeah you don't have to yeah but you know it's appropriate to explain yourself in

certain situations right like you're having a discussion with your significant other or you're having a discussion with your boss at work or or someone who's a subordinate at work right like it's important to communicate the reasons why the answer is the way it is but no isn't always a negative thing bro i actually think the saying no to the shit that you don't want to have in your life is probably one of the most important skill sets that you could develop because it automatically blocks you from letting the shit infiltrate its way in from your soft yeses you know what i'm saying so and and and i think a lot of people you know go their whole life without ever really learning to say no and because of that life sort of they it's kind of like a bobber floating in a river, right?

Or a piece of driftwood. Like, it's just kind of like you go with where the flow is. Yeah. And you're kind of rolling the dice on what you get there, right? Like, the river may take you to a place you want to be, or it might take you to a place you don't want to be. You don't know. I know this.

I'm going to try to control as many of the elements as I can control so that hopefully I better my chances to get where I want to go. And saying no is a, is a huge, huge, huge step in that process. So understand that you don't have to always explain yourself. Understand that sometimes like this person said, Oh, I'm a really nice guy. Sometimes saying no is the fucking nice thing. Okay. Like you guys think being nice is being agreeable and being kind is being polite no being kind and being nice have to do with telling the truth because when you can deliver the truth to somebody and that doesn't mean in a harsh way like a lot of people hear it you know that means you got to be brutal with the truth no you don't have to be

right but getting to the truth will help them get to where they want to go so the truth is actually the kind thing the answer of no is a lot of times the kind thing right so we have to fucking recognize that not not only is no uh not a bad thing but it's also a lot of reasons why you end up where the fuck you want to be you see what i'm saying so it's equally as important as the word. Yes. It's the yin and the yang. You know what I mean?

So like to get where you want to be in life, you've got to learn to say no to the shit doesn't serve that. And a lot of people can never do that, which is why they never get where they want to go. So, you know, dude, I'd love to tell you there's like a secret hack to this,

but like the, the reality is, is just practice saying, you know, Hey, no, thank you. You like a secret hack to this, but like the reality is, is just practice saying, you know, Hey, no, thank you. You know what I'm saying? Like, and, and then don't, cause like what you'll find out, dude, is at first, like, and I can tell you, cause I've experienced this at first, people think there's something wrong. Like, and this is something to look forward to, by the way, because this is a great thing. This is something I really appreciate about the people around me. Um back when I started this, like people would like, when I said no, they would be like, man, what's wrong with you? Like, what's up your ass today? Like nothing's up my ass. It's just no. Right. And that's because we tie all these emotions to it. And then also the people

around you directly are so used to you just being agreeable that they don't know how to understand you saying no without being like, there something wrong right so understand there's nothing wrong with it you just haven't been telling the truth okay uh but secondly and the good thing is is eventually what happens is you kind of train everybody around you um and what happens is they won't ask you shit that fucking they know is going to be no right so like you stop getting ass dumb shit you stop getting peer pressured into shit you don't no right so like you stop getting ass dumb shit yeah you stop getting peer pressured into shit you don't want to do like you know my friends and family sort of know what i'll do and what i won't do right and you know i mean you're fucking with me every day like i have rules there

are certain rules i have you know what i mean like like i don't fucking work out with you like if you come here like if you come here to visit i don't here to visit, I don't work out with you. Like you will work out on your own. I work out on my own. That's just a rule for me. No offense. The times I've worked out with another person, I always end up getting hurt. Okay. So that's it. I do that on my own.

There's certain things I, there's other certain things I do, which you could probably name more than me. But my point is, is like, I have fucking boundaries in my life. And that all started with saying no. And I'm to the point now where I don't really have to say no that much because everybody around me sort of appreciates where my boundaries are. They respect it. Yeah, for sure.

And it makes life easier and it makes our relationship better because I'm not having to awkwardly explain why I'm not fucking showing up at your kid's birthday, bro. Right. I don't do that shit. You know what I'm saying? So I've set standards to what I will or won't do. i live by them and it makes my life easier it makes my friends understand me better and we have a better relationship because of it yeah so you know

the next time you have that feeling of like i need to say no like because we all know where that is right you're like you like for me i don't think about it anymore it just comes out it's like yeah no not happening yeah and and you've been in enough meetings with me where that's how exactly how it is it's like yeah bro sorry i hope i didn't waste your time but it's no and you know but the truth is is like you know to get to that level you've just got to say no at the little things that you know you you get that little feeling on your twinge on the inside you start to get a little anxiety maybe your palms get a little bit sweaty you're like you just gotta say no you said man you know like i appreciate you and like dude if you gotta start off soft to deliver it that's okay like hey andy i do i

appreciate that i really do man but it's it's really just not what i want and i'm gonna do this and like dude that's respectable people respect that yeah you know what i mean and part of the reason nobody fucking respects you motherfuckers is because you don't say no you know and then some people like i said will take that shit and go tell everybody no be an asshole and say no to everything those motherfuckers that try to be contrarian about everything they end up in bad news they always lose so if that's you like if you're the guy that thinks oh well you know i'm gonna tell andy the truth and you come and tell me some rude shit like because you think oh well nobody ever tells motherfucking first of all i'm the most

aware fucking human on the planet like i know where i'm fucked up and if i'm fucked up it's probably because i fucking choose to be fucked up yeah okay um so when you come to me and you start to fucking like try to play that contrarian shit like i'm gonna smell it right away i'm gonna shut it down yeah you know what i mean so you know yeah but those people never fucking get ahead you know what you know what i'm talking about like the people who come to you and they're like you know i'm just gonna say this because no one else will tell you this and then they use it as an excuse to say some rude shit yep those people always losing life yeah because they think they're the anti-fucking the people who win are the people who acknowledge good and acknowledge not good when it's good or when it's not good.

Truthfully, not to manipulate. Yeah. You know what I mean? 100%. So practice saying no, dude. Like next time you say no, just fucking say no. And, you know, at first it's going to be hard for people to understand that, but I'm going to tell you, you'll be proud of yourself for being someone who can say no and other people respect you for it as well.

Yeah. Fire. Fire. Okay. Andy, our third and final question for you. So we're coming to the end of 2021, okay? Looking back on this last year for you, what are you most thankful of or for? Well, dude, I think, like, honestly,

I mean, bro, like, there's really not much in my life that I wouldn't be thankful for. But I think one of the coolest things that I've started to like really value more than like I ever have even in the past is how much of an impact like our companies have on people like in real life. Because like yesterday, for for example i was sitting around and i felt like shit i even did a story about this yesterday yeah um yesterday now it would have been sunday some of you guys saw it um where i was talking like i didn't feel like doing my shit bro like i i there's days i don't feel like it yeah you know um now i have discipline enough to where my shit gets done but it's always nice to be able to open up your fucking phone and read literally thousands of fucking posts if i wanted to sit there that long about people that changed their lives and the more i guess like i don't know they don't want

to sound old but like the more the older i get in business the more I'm ridiculously fucking grateful of the fact that that's what we do for a living. Because I have a hard time thinking of other careers or jobs where you can literally pour into people the way that we do and then get some sort of like fulfillment back. I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about seeing these motherfuckers actually change yeah you know like like all these people that do 75 hard that actually do it that change their fucking lives um that shit means something man and you know when i was younger and i was like maybe less mature um people would tell me you know thank you and like and like i always thought like i'm always of of the opinion. Like I know people fluff my shit. Right. Like I already know, like a lot of people, like, they're like, Oh, you're like, fucking, you're great. When,

when in reality, it's like, they're trying to be cool. Cause they think that's what I want to hear. You know what I'm saying? And so I write a lot of that shit off and I haven't really like sat down too much in my life and really thought about the impact that we make, um, whether it be through RTA or first form or supplement super stores or 75 hard or fucking anything, anything.

Yeah. Right. Um, you know, the public speaking or we'll fucking ever, like I never really stopped to think about like, Holy fuck dude. Like we're like,

like, you know what I mean? But this past about like, Holy fuck dude. Like we're like, like, you know what I mean? But this past year it's been a little bit different because of what's been going on with the world. What's been going on with like, you know, the fucking tyranny and the fucking anti-freedom shit. And like,

you know, that's been very frustrating for me. Um, because it goes against what I believe. And the main source of satisfaction and fulfillment that I've had over the last couple of years has been from all of you guys out there who listen to what we talk about when it comes to 75 hard or, or,

you know, the, my transformation program, first form or fucking a Legionnaires first or fucking whatever we do. Right. Yeah. And literally seeing the, the,

the growth, like these guys in our day, you know, who, who I see, you know, a couple of times a year, but I fucking see them,

you know, one August and the next August, their business up $10 million, shit like that. Like, dude, that's real shit. And so,

um, you know, a lot, I get a lot of messages from people who worry about like me not like ever like stopping to smell the roses in that way but i think that's something that this year i've been i've been more conscious of and it's it's um it's not only it's not made me feel good like i'm not sitting here like thinking oh man it's so awesome even though it is but what it has done is it's like motivated me more to my purpose to where i understand like um you know i'm not here just to make some fucking money

bro i made a fuck ton of money right and the more money i've made the less important it is to me the money is to me right and the more important the impact is and so i've gotten to the point now where like my finances personally are in a place where, and I'm not saying this to be a fucking cocksucker or whatever, but I'm good. You know what I'm saying? And I'm good whatever fucking happens for the rest of eternity. I'm good. And, uh, being able to still wake up in that position and be fucking hungry, but not,

not to go just like sell shit, but like to go change people's fucking lives, like on a daily basis and fucking awesome feeling. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like you just like, like I wake up with a sense of obligation to help these motherfuckers through their shit you know what i mean and like it gives me purpose that's that's deeper than uh you know just running

a business or or you know having kids or whatever the fuck you know what i mean like i feel like i have i guess what i'm saying is like dude i feel like my purpose has been validated because we've produced enough results in the real world yeah that now i feel like holy fuck dude i feel like my purpose has been validated because we've produced enough results in the real world yeah that now i feel like holy fuck dude like like if i stopped right now i have accomplished what the fuck i'm supposed to do yeah you know what i mean and that's really cool feeling but it's even cooler knowing that if i stopped right now but but what's cool like like the cooler thing to think about is what i'm trying to say is like but this is just the beginning you know what i mean so like i don't know it's a it's a it's a

fucking i would say out of all the things you know that have happened just that realization becoming more of a reality in my brain uh probably the probably the thing I'm most grateful for. You know what I mean? And that comes from, and like, dude, that comes from like, you know, being surrounded by good people every fucking day. You know, I come in here every day. I love being here. I love being around everybody that's here. Um, I love seeing these people win. I love seeing our customers win. And, um, you know, I think being able to be in a point where we're not fucking starving like i'm not starving i'm not worried and so fucking stressed that i can actually look and like say man that's fucking cool what we're doing yeah yeah you see what i'm saying so like that's

that's that's something that i think is has been the coolest thing for me in the last, the last year. Yeah. All right, man. That's all I got. That's three. So we'll pay the fee. Cool. See you guys later.

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