REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 248. Q&AF: Business Rollercoaster, #75HARD Couples & Starting A Business Now?

Episode Date: March 6, 2022

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on handling the mental rollercoaster of wins & losses early in the business, the advantages of doing #75HARD as a couple, and whether or not it's a good idea to start a business during these uncertain times.

What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realest sake of body lies and fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. This is where you bring the Q's and I bring the AF's. I got that right this time. That was great, yeah. All right, all right. And a trophy now? Yeah, I got it.

You gonna let me use your trophy? Yeah, sure. Oh, you're such a nice guy. I kind of got to give it to you. You know, your privilege makes me. Number two, baby. Oh, shit. Oh, shit. know your privilege makes me oh shit oh shit you're on a roll stack these motherfuckers 244 episodes motherfucker finally hits two jokes all right dude so where do they submit these

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So if you get value out of the show, please share the show. That's the fee. That's awesome. All right. Well, please share the show. That's the fee. It's awesome. All right. Well, Andy, I got three good ones for you. And here we go with question number one. Andy, when you were young in business, right, just getting started, how did you handle the mental roller coasters of experiencing big wins or the losses or the lessons you had

to learn? How did you handle those mental roller coasters, bro? Yeah, you know, I'm not sure it's different than how yeah i don't see it like that like i never saw it i never saw it or or my perspective was not that it was a roller coaster um i i i see it from a different perspective so i have this huge vision in my in my head right of what i want to be what i want our company to be, what I want all my companies to become, right? All my projects, including this show. And I have this vision, it's really big. And I just understand the nature of the process is going to be up and down, right? You're going to have good days, you're going to have bad days. And at the end of the day,

as long as you execute every single day, whether it's good or bad, you will eventually create this massive vision. So I don't, I never like bought into it from an emotional standpoint. I handle it very unemotionally. I mean, dude, sometimes, yes, I get super mad. And sometimes I get, I lose my temper and I get down and all those things are very real. I'm not saying I'm immune to them. What I am saying is they don't affect my, my ability to execute.

Yeah. And I trust in the ability to execute. And as long as I execute on the days I feel down or the days I took a loss or the days this, um, I don't, I just kind of wash it off, dude, and get out of the next day. It just comes with the terror. Yeah. It's just, it's just the process of of and what you guys will find is there's no that pattern is a pattern that's consistent no matter what your life is about right if you're

a fucking drunk you're gonna have good days and you're gonna have bad days it's just nature of life it's not the nature of entrepreneurship the nature of entrepreneurship is if you execute you will eventually create what it is you're trying to create regardless of how you feel. So that's why I'm so big on discipline. That's why I'm so big on grit. That's why I'm so big on using the power list. That's why I'm so big on all of those things because it's execution. It's not how you feel. It's not emotional. And so I don't look at it like, how do I deal with the ups and downs? I just look at it like this is the life I chose and my shit has to get done right and that's

how I choose to view it and I think that's a much more steady and uh balanced way to view how this is in terms of taking it day by day and being like fuck today was great and then tomorrow like fuck today sucked me right that's just not a good way to live yeah you know so i try not to let the wins and losses of life um fuck with me too big i just understand what i'm trying to accomplish on a large scale i work backwards to create that plan um you know i use the power list consistently uh and and that's it dude you know uh you can go to episode 16 real af feed if you want to hear about the power list and what it does but as long as you execute doesn't matter how you feel eventually you'll create that vision that you have in your head that's awesome yeah so let's talk a little

bit about discipline right obviously we know we got 75 hard andy what what's your take on a couple doing 75 hard together is it a good idea a bad idea what's your thoughts and or advice on that well i think it's a great idea i think because i i think a lot first of all a lot of people do that i have literally people doing it as couples i see all the time that we do it every day yeah yeah exactly i i hear um all the same things from these couples uh i hear you know all these know, all these different things, you know, Oh, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But at the end of the day, all these messages come down to the same message and what it is, it's about earning respect for your partner. Because when you do hard shit together, you gain more respect. When you gain more respect, the relationship gets

better and you know, all the things that go with the relationship get better. So I think it's a great idea for people. I've heard from lots and lots and lots. And when I say lots, I mean literally thousands of couples, not hundreds, thousands who have done it, who have written me, who have said it saved their marriage or saved their relationship or it saved this or it created this new bond or they're having a better physical relationship. All these different things, right? But at the end of the day, they're all a better physical relationship, all these different things. Right. Um,

but at the end of the day, they're all the same thing. And the same thing is this, uh, when you learn to respect someone because you've suffered through hard things together, the relation, there's a,

there's a bigger bond created and it's just always that way, whether it's a sports team, whether it's a business team, whether it's a podcast team, whether it's a fucking relationship with your friends, whether it's, uh, you know, it's why, like when you have people that are in the military, that they come out and they're friends forever. You're like, when you suffer together, you earn respect and there's a bond that's created that is, that is undeniable.

And, and so I think it's a great idea, you know, and I don't want to tell you what to exactly expect. I think it's important for you because one of the biggest tools about 75 hard and live hard program is developing the awareness for your life. So like if I go and say, hey, this is what you're going to expect. It sort of takes away, you know what I'm saying? So my my my advice to this person would be to go fucking do it, do it the right way, stick to it hard as fuck, do it with intent.

And I bet when you're done, you're going to say gonna say fuck that was the coolest thing we ever fucking did that's fucking awesome yeah and our third and final bit uh question for you andy what's your take on starting a business or making a big move right now with all the uncertainty in the world i think it's a great time i think it's a great time. I think it's a great time to start a business because I think most people are sitting on their hands waiting for everything to get better. I think a lot of people are playing defense. They're going into their shell.

And, you know, I think the companies that are highly offensive right now are going to win. And I know there's supply chain issues and there's things that hold back certain industries. But at the same time, there's a lot of people who weren't prepared for these issues that are closing, right? There's a lot of businesses that just closed because of the pandemic. 600,000. And I hate to say this, but that's an opportunity, right? Like there's an opportunity for those people that are looking to become entrepreneurs to fill some of these holes that have been left closed or left open because our government is tyrannical and unreasonable, you know?

And, and so as much as I hate to say, you know, oh, they're one person's losses, another person's gain, that's reality of the situation. You know, um, there's one person's losses. Another person's game. That's reality of the situation. You know, um, there, I can think of two or three buddies that own gym franchises that are kicking ass because a lot of these big box gyms closed during the pandemic.

Right. Right. So it leaves a vacuum for new, new people to come in. And so, uh, I think there's a big vacuum with restaurants. I think there's going to be a huge,

uh, want and need for these smaller restaurants, these mom and pops to reopen. And I think there's all kinds of opportunity. I think that the times in my life where we've done the best in business have been in the worst times of society. The five years after 2008 crash, we grew 100% because no one in our industry was trying to grow. They all tried to go in their shell. And all those companies that went in their shell during that time, they're all closed now. We took their shit, right?

Same thing the last couple years. Our company has grown incredibly, incredibly fast because we were poised to take advantage of the technology that would allow us to do things remote and all these different things. We were at that point. And so I always see hardships in society as an opportunity to start a business or to grow a business and get offensive. When everybody's going left, that's when you need to go right. And that's how I believe.

That's how I've always operated with very few exceptions. And I think that if you're a real entrepreneur and you're really, because like, dude, look, at the end of the day, entrepreneurship's been overhyped where people think that it's for them when it's really not. And I think a lot of not savvy entrepreneurs right now are scared shitless. They're trying to just survive. And a lot of people are seeing this this situation with uh their their companies maybe forcing certain things or making

them do things they didn't believe in and there's a lot of really highly skilled people that are working for companies that that are that are woke that are looking to leave yeah and they're looking to find and ask me how i know i've hired almost 300 fucking employees in the last year and a half right 200 what two is 275 yeah so you know and most of those people come from these places and our team has got infinitely stronger and infinitely better and much bigger because of the policies of some of these bigger places that you know people just don't want to do that shit i'm not buying it no yeah like people don't want to work for globo fucking coca-cola they don't want it they don't want to do that shit like it's not their heart ain't in it there's no mission to be had right there's a mission here there's a mission in what we do there's a mission

in some of these smaller companies that are out there trying to do things. And I think Americans are really getting to understand the danger that big corporations pose to society. You know, they're seeing the funds go to these politicians that make these ridiculous laws and these, these tyrannical mandates and these, these, these judges that don't prosecute anybody and let the cities burn.

I think people are noticing where that money goes and they're seeing all these companies that support things like the World Economic Forum and they're staying the fuck away from them. They're getting the fuck out. And that's not me guessing. I'm telling you that's happening. That's actually happening because I see it every day here.

People are still, business-wise, they're way behind what's the next trend is going to be the next trend is going to be pro-america american-made etc etc etc and they're still afraid you know like and they're still fucking saying oh yeah dude i love this free country of america motherfucker uh the reason you call yourself the silent majority is because you ain't fucking free yeah you can't even people are waking up to that yeah you can't you couldn't even wear a fucking trump hat to most of these companies without getting fucking fire no shit and that and dude how is that right regardless of what you think of trump you see what i'm saying right right so you know people have an opinion and they have the right

text to have their opinion and and we've had corporate America do the work and the bidding of these giant woke agencies to stifle the opinion of most of America. And people are tired of it. They want to support companies that aren't scared of it. They want to support companies that understand job creation. They want to support companies that contribute to their own local economy. They want to support companies that stand for the right shit. And people are catching on to this bullshit. So I think there's tremendous opportunity to be had right now. And I think if you don't take advantage of it, you're probably going to get eaten up.

That's what I think. That's awesome. Guys, Andy, that is three. Let's go pay the fee. Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove. Counted millions in the cold. Go pay the fee Yeah