REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 276. The Skewed Balance Of High Performers

Episode Date: April 15, 2022

In today's episode, Andy explains how soft people have hijacked the term 'balance,' causing a mediocrity epidemic in society, where high achievers focus their efforts to accomplish massive goals and the best way to build the life you want around your mission.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusionsusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, guess what? It's not CTI, and it's not Q and AF, and it's not a full length, so that means it's only one thing. That means it's real talk. I haven't done one of these in a while. I'm kind of excited because I actually have a point that I want to make to all of you

soft motherfuckers out there, all right? So get ready for that. Before I get into that, if you like the show, if it made you think, if it taught you something, if it made you laugh, if it brought you value, I ask that you help us grow the show. All right. You guys are always saying everybody needs to hear this. Well, I don't advertise for it. I work entirely off of word of mouth. That's how I prefer to work. If it's good value, you'll share it. If it's not, you won't. And I'm okay with that.

I think that's the way everything should be. But since it isn't, I rely on you guys heavily to help me compete with some of these guys who spend all their money on ads. So please share the show. Now, with that being said, I do have a big point that I want to make to you guys. And, you know, I talk often about how soft the world's gotten. I talked often about, you know, how people need to harden up and how people need to get tougher and how people need to get mentally tough and physically tough. Talk a lot of how the younger generation in the world has become softened by the politically correct nature, the feel good, do good, you know, oh, everybody's a winner nature and narrative that has been pushed down through these young people over the course of time. One of the concepts that really irritates the

fuck out of me is the concept of balance. All right. I see this word everywhere and it used to mean like, you know, I get up in the morning, uh, you know, I focus on work for this part of the day. When I get home, I focus on being there for my family. I focus on my fitness and I kind of have a well-rounded life. And I understand that that sounds really good. And I understand that's probably a really healthy thing to have. But this term has now been hijacked by the pussies. Okay. That's the easiest way for me to say it. So it's called real talk, not sensitive your talk. That's the truth. Okay. And now what balance has become is this idea that people can lean on when they don't feel like doing the shit that they know they need to do.

And I see this everywhere online. All right. Every time someone's doing something or posting something or taking it easy or eating some shit they shouldn't be eating because they promised the whole internet they were going to do this and this and this and this or, you know, not doing their job or not, you know, we're doing the workout or whatever, whatever it is when they're fucking off, they use this term balance. All right. And what it's become is a reason for people to do what it is they know they shouldn't be doing.

And then they wonder why they're not getting the results that they say they fucking want. Okay. So stop doing that. All right. A lot of you guys think that balance is, is something that you get to have or that you're entitled to and that you could have balance and you could still build this incredibly great life. And I'm here to tell you that is fucking bullshit. All right. In the traditional sense, what I think of balance and what I would consider for you to think of balance is to think of it like this. You're going to work for part of your

life really fucking hard. Then you're going to do other things in your life that you really want to do. Okay. And stop looking at it on a day by day by day by day scale and start looking at it over the course of your life. Okay. Because here's what happens. Young people use this term balance to skate out of all the things they know they should be doing. And what happens as a result of that is they end up in the hamster wheel of life. They end up never really getting where they want to go. And because they never really get where they want to go, they have to keep running in the motherfucking hamster wheel until they're 75 years old.

That's the reality of what balance today for young people creates for you at the end of the road. It creates a life that you can never fucking live. So you have two choices. You can either commit your youthful years, or maybe you're not so youthful now, and you've just figured out that you've been fucking up and doing exactly what I'm talking about here in life. And you can commit for the next five, six, seven years to really building something great, really becoming great, really becoming

what it is you see yourself being without balance. And then you can have balance for the rest of your life. Or you can choose to have balance now and have balance tomorrow and have balance the next day and have balance the day after that. And you can live a very stressful, a very mediocre and a very meaningless, unfulfilling life. Those are your options. So I would like for you to think about when you use the word balance, how you're actually using it. Are you using it in a way where it's, Hey, I want to enjoy some things or I'm rewarding myself after I just did what I said I was going to do. I went on a vacation after I did 75 hard. That's fucking balance. Okay. But what is not balanced is you abandoning your motherfucking plans and your set rules and the things that you set out to do because you're weak in the moment and you want to

hashtag balance on your fucking snaps. All right. There's two different, very different ways of thinking about balance. And I can tell you for sure, there is not one motherfucker out there, not a single one who is winning on a large scale, who is the kind of person that you aspire to be like, if you're a successful, driven, ambitious type of person, there's not one out there that fucking puts balance on their shit whenever they're just enjoying their life. Because they don't have to. Okay. They know they've earned it. They know they've done the work. They know they've put in the time and they feel good about enjoying it. And they're not doing what you're doing, which is advertising a cop-out to the rest of the world about why it is you're abandoning your fucking plan that you made for yourself. Let's be fucking real. Oh, I want to have French

fries today. Hashtag balance. No, you're going to you're gonna fucking lose okay oh i decided to go uh to the bar this weekend oh you know i knew i was doing 75 art hashtag balance no you're a fucking loser it's not balance okay everything i do is about making you motherfuckers become great, not good, great. And even though most of you don't even want to become great, that's still what I do. Because if you try to be great, you're still going to end up pretty fucking good. That's the reality. But I want you to really fucking think about this. Do you think when Jeff Bezos was building Amazon, he was fucking worried about motherfucking balance?

Do you think Kobe Bryant getting up at 3 a.m. to shoot fucking free throws, he was talking about balance? Do you think the Wright brothers, when they fucking wrecked their plane 25 fucking times before they ever got to go

100 fucking feet, were worried about fucking balance? No. Nobody that's ever done anything motherfucking great has been concerned with fucking balance when they've been trying to execute on it. And you need to understand this because a lot of you guys want to become great. You tell me you want to become great. You message me, you talk about it. You're you're you fucking pretend to be about it online, but you ain't. Because every time the motherfucking shit gets hard,

you're talking about fucking balance. Balance and greatness do not fucking go together. You think Elon Musk was worried about fucking balance when he was living in the fucking business that he was building, sold his company for $22 million, and reinvested all of it in the rest of the companies, went back to sleeping in his company again? No. Nobody that changes the world talks about balance.

But yet you motherfuckers make it your main talking point every time you want to cut a corner. Once you're great, you can have some balance. But until you get there, until you're Tom Brady and you've won fucking however many Super Bowls motherfuckers won and might win again, you ain't going to have balance. Tom Brady's going to have balance when he's done with fucking football. Great people have balance when they're done being fucking great. You ain't there yet. So understand that. And I'm not judging you. You get to pick and choose how you want to live your life. Nothing I do here, nothing I say here, nothing I live like. Not the cars I drive,

not the companies I own, not the way I treat my friends, Not the way I treat myself. None of it is fucking balance. I'm a motherfucking extremist. I love extremely hard. I work extremely hard. I give extremely hard. I do everything with fucking passion. I hate balance. Balance is for weak, average, mediocre motherfuckers. And if you buy into the idea of balance as some sort of reward for you to cut corners and live your life like everybody else, you are going to get exactly what the fuck you're asking for. You're going to get a mediocre life like everybody else. You're going to get a life filled with problems paying the bills. You're going to get

a life filled with wondering why you can't ever fucking get anywhere, even though you get up every motherfucking day and run as hard as you can for 80% of the time. But 80% of the time doesn't motherfucking cut it. I'm not running 80% of the time. I'm running 98% of the time. And 2% of the time, I get some motherfucking balance. This is why I suggest to people that they build their life around their mission. Because if you want a really, truly fulfilling, balanced life, it should all go together. It should all roll together. It should all go together. It should all roll together. It should all fit together.

And however you see balance, however you think of balance, I can assure you of one thing, because I understand that not everybody lives the way I live, but I'm not here for everybody. I'm not here for average motherfuckers. Nothing I do is for average people, not the fucking content I put out, not the podcast I have, not the views I have about this country. Nothing, nothing I do is for the average. Everything I do is to help motherfuckers like you become better. Everything I do is to help people like you become the best motherfucking version of themselves. That's what I do. That's what I'm here for. That's what I'm about. So don't fucking email me your average bullshit because I don't want to hear it and I don't fucking care. But I am telling you this.

If you use the term balance and you think that it's an excuse for you to come off your plan to deviate from your grand plan of where you want to be in life and you use that consistently, you will never fucking get there. Ever, ever, ever. You'll run, you be in life and you use that consistently, you will never fucking get there. Ever, ever, ever. You'll run, you'll run, and you'll run some fucking more and you will never get off that motherfucking wheel. That's what balance will get you. You could take my word for it or not. No offense either way, but I'm going to tell you this. Not one of my friends, not one of the many billionaires that I know, not one of the highly successful multimillionaires I know, not anybody who I consider an exceptional human

talks about fucking balance in any sort of way at all. They're all extremists. They all work extremely hard. They all give extremely hard. They all earn extremely a whole lot. They provide an extremely large amount of jobs. They're fucking extremists in every single fucking sense of the term. But what do you hear in society? Oh, we got to, you know, that's what that's. Oh, you burn yourself out. Oh, mental health.

Let me tell you something, motherfuckers. My mental health is 100 times better When I'm focused on my fucking mission The real problem with mental health here Is that most of you don't have a fucking purpose Most of you aren't committed to anything And you haven't been committed to anything your whole motherfucking lives That's what you have a problem with your mental health for So if you want to fix your mental health

Figure out a big purpose Go at it full fucking speed Give it everything you fucking have day in and day out and fuck everybody who talks about balance and you'll find some motherfucking fulfillment there. But this idea of sitting on your ass, eating fucking Doritos and watching fucking TV and Netflix and shit and calling that balance, that ain't it, bro. That ain't it. It's going to ruin your fucking life. So what's my goal here? What's my take here? What's my reason for putting this message out? Because I see a lot of you

falling in to the soft ass narrative that's put down by soft ass people who have never accomplished a motherfucking thing. And I don't want that life for you. So think about it. Think about balance. Think about what kind of balance you want. Do you want daily balance or do you want life balance? Are you going to go all in on whatever it is that you want to be? Or are you going to wash it down the drain by going 80% every motherfucking day and hashtag imbalance whenever you decide to cut a corner? The choice is yours and there's only two of them. So you get to make it