REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 322. Successverse

Episode Date: June 29, 2022

In today's episode, Andy talks about the undeniable power of the universe when you genuinely wish the best for others, the best way to adopt this mentality on your path to success, and how collectively we can improve the world through our intentions.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusionsusions of modern society, and welcome to Motherfucking Reality. Guys, today, we are going to do something that I haven't done in a while. We're going to give you a real talk episode. If you listen to the MFCEO project, it's going to kind of remind you of Thursday Thunder, all right? Before I get into it, we have a fee for the show. If you like the show, share the show. That's it. That's all I'm going to say, because if you listen to the show regularly, you understand. If you don't, you should, and you'll figure out what the fee is. But I want to get into this because I think it's important. It's something that's on my heart, and it's something that

I think a lot of you younger people, especially in business, need to understand. And what it is, is it's managing your own intentions through your feelings for other people. Okay. And what I mean by that is this, you know, every time I go speak, I spend, you know, lots of my years of my life, public speaking, I don't do it as much anymore, but I do it occasionally still. And every time I get in a Q and a scenario, I always get these questions about haters or how to deal with haters. And I want you to understand something. I want you to understand that the reason that you feel like everybody hates you is because you hold resentment for other people and their success in your heart. That's it. Okay. You look at other people and you feel a little bit jealous sometimes. And this is natural. I'm not criticizing. I want you to understand and be aware of this because it is counterproductive to your success. All right.

When you look at someone and you say, man, that guy's got it all, or that girl's got it all, or they're killing it, or they're this and that and this, and you feel jealous about it. That is a feeling and that is an intent that will keep you from getting where it is you want to go. All right. It is extremely important for you to understand that how you feel about other people's success when you see it, whether these people are close to you, whether they're competitors of yours, whether they're friends of yours, whether they are mortal enemies of yours, it does not matter. If you want success in your life, you have to root for success no matter who is getting it. Okay. Because the way the universe works and the way this world works is that it rewards your intent in your heart. So when I say to you, like I say often, that if you want success, you have to wish success on

other people. And that goes in the combination of having a good plan, working the plan, working hard for a long time. All the principles that I've talked about regarding success over the last decade, it involves all of those. But the one that you guys consistently screw up and cross your own feet up and trip yourself up on is this idea of haters and intent and the intent around other people's success. When you look at someone who's winning and you get jealous, even in your heart, even a little bitty bit, what you're telling the universe is, I don't like winning. The universe doesn't know that that guy's your competitor. It doesn't know that that girl is your competitor. The universe doesn't know that you want to smash this person. Okay. The universe

just knows that when you look at them, you feel bad. All right. And when you look at them and you feel bad and you put the intent out in the world, the world returns that intent because what it hears from you is I don't like winning. I don't like success. I don't like kicking ass. Okay. So you have to understand that business, while it is highly competitive, you have to understand that the way you keep it competitive in a healthy way is by looking at people who are doing the things that you want to do with the attitude of, well, that's great that they're able to do that. Now I know how to do it and I can also improve upon that. And then you take the actions in your own right, in your own company, in your own business plan to improve and move forward. This is how champions win. Champions do

not win by trying to smash other people or trying to step on other people or trying to hold other people back. Okay. That is a misconception that people get caught up in when they think about competition, because there are winners and there are losers when it comes to an exact battle. Like if there's a wrestling match, right? There's a person who wins and there's a person who loses that exact match. But each battle day by day by day, each match day by day by day are what cumulatively make up our overall wins in life. So this would be the equivalent of you going into a wrestling match and winning your match, but still being thankful and appreciative that that person who gave you a really hard match, that they tested you and that they helped you improve and that they taught you how to be a better wrestler because they were so skilled themselves. And when you're in business and when you're a success, when you appreciate these qualities about people that you are in

competition with, this is how you learn. This is how you improve. And this is also how you win without having a heavy heart or a heavy conscience and this is very important okay there's a lot of people out there and a lot of you maybe that don't even fucking like me you guys look at the life I have and you say man fuck that guy or you hear what I say in my opinions you say fuck that guy that's. But you have to understand that in my heart and the way I am, I will sit down with you and I would help you fucking figure out the hardest problem in your life because I want you to win. Even if you were my worst enemy, even if you were someone who competed with me and you

could ask the people I've competed with because the people I compete with when they call me up on the phone, I'm a friendly, helpful voice. And they're confused by it a lot of times. And a lot of times they think I'm trying to manipulate them or get something. No, I understand very clearly that when I help other people win, no matter who they are, that more winnings come to me automatically. And this is the way the world works. And so a lot of you guys have to get out of your own way and your own insecurities when it comes to your intent for your competitors or for people that may be your rivals or people that, you know, you knew from back in the day, or maybe, you know, you're caught up with competing with the Joneses or your neighbors. We all have that one or two people that we're a little bit jealous of because they're doing

great and they're doing shit that we want to do. And we as humans, as higher level, higher thinking, higher enlightened humans have to understand how the game actually works and how the game actually works is that when you wish well for people, good things happen to you. When you wish well for people, good things happen to you. When you do well for people, good things happen to you. When you help people win, good things happen to you. When you are able to forgive people for things they may have wronged you on, good things

happen to you. Okay? The universe is very black and white. When you do good, you get good. When you intend good, you get good. When you intend good, you get good. And while this may sound like a lot of abstract, hocus pocus shit, I'm telling you, and I am the most real practical motherfucker you will ever meet in your life, I'm telling you that from my experience, this is the way it is. And the benefit of working this way and the benefit of feeling this way and the benefit of doing life this way is this.

Not only do you win, but your friends get to win. And the people who you compete with become your friends. And they become the people that you call upon. And then you create this little network of all these people that are helping each other win. And now you've got something that's great because not only are you not in the heavy cycle of anxiety and frustration and competition, okay? Not only are you not feeling the heaviness of that, but you're also at peace because you know you're doing the right thing.

And the right thing is this. If you know something, help someone else know something. If you know how to be better, help someone else be better. If you could pull someone up, do it. All of those things come back to us in the collective good. It doesn't work like this. Oh, I went out and I did this one thing and then nothing good happened today. That's not how it works. You have to think of it like a karmic bank account where you're making deposits all the time. Okay. Every time you do something good for someone, you're making deposits into these accounts. And then what happens is in your life, you get little withdrawals

and these withdrawals collectively add up to a really great, a really fulfilling and a really special existence that most people never get to have. Okay. So here's my recommendation for you. Audit yourself, audit your intent, audit how you feel when you see other people win. When you find yourself getting jealous, stop yourself and have a conversation and say, you know what? That's actually a great thing. And this is why, because I can do that too. And I can do those things that that person is doing too. And I actually am not jealous of that person. I'm happy for them. And what this does is this releases resentful energy that you might have inside and makes you

feel lighter. And when you feel lighter and you feel better and you feel more positive, you're able to execute better and be a lot happier and less overwhelmed and less stressful. All right. Maybe you need to make some phone calls and make up with some people that you have resentment with. Maybe you need to, you know, reach out and clear up some of these misunderstandings that you have in your life. But removing this negative energy and making these things calm is not weakness. A lot of people think that burying the hatchet or removing a karmic negativity is some sort of a weakness. No, that is the ultimate strength and the ultimate foundation that you can build upon. Okay. For me, my door is always open. You guys know where to find me. If anyone has a problem

with me, I am willing to sit down and talk about it. And not only will you sit down and talk about it, bro, I'll probably become one of your fucking solid friends because I help you win. All right. That's how you guys need to start being. The world is in enough distress as it is. We have enough negativity as it is. We on the ground level as entrepreneurs, as higher level thinkers, as entrepreneurs, as people who want to affect change and create new wins and big wins and bigger, bigger wins and legacy wins. We have to work together, even within your own little space. Some of my best friends are people that compete with me. Some of my best friends in the world that I have are people who own other

companies in the spaces that I own companies. And we work together. We help each other. We tell each other the little things that, hey man, you should maybe think about this, or have you ever thought about that? Or you ever do this? And we work together, even in the fact of like actually doing business together. You know, my company, Supplement Superstores, the retail company, we carry almost everybody else's products and we sell a lot of them. Okay. That helps my competition, right? Yeah. But it also helps me too. And we get to learn together. We get to build together. I root for them. I think it's amazing. And ever since I got to that point of maturity in my life where I understood that it works this way,

I've had a much happier life. I've had a much more successful life. I've had a much more abundant life. And these are all things that we're in search of. And a lot of times we are just in our own way because we feel jealous or we feel negative, or we imagine that somebody hates us when they actually don't because they don't. Most people are worried about their own shit. And if you can help them solve their shit, they will help you solve your shit. That is just the way the world works. So think about how you're living. Think about the energy you're putting out. Think about what you feel like when you see your biggest rival have a big win or live in a nice

house or get a new car or see something. How does that make you feel? Does it make you feel anxious? Does it make you feel behind? Does it make you feel jealous? And if it does, what actions are you taking to improve not only your mindset, but your own actions to get to the point that they're at? Okay. Because that's what we do, right? We look at other people, we observe them. We say, okay, that worked pretty good. Now I'm going to try to do something like that. I'm going to do it a little bit this way. And that's what competition does. Healthy competition is a great fucking thing because it teaches us how to innovate. It pushes us to our next potential. And I got to tell you this, the businesses I'm in are all highly competitive

and I have massive amounts of respect for the people that push me to be better every single day. The difference is, is that I'm not blinded by my resentment or my jealousy or my frustration for my competitors winning. I'm able to see how they won because I'm not emotional about it and I'm happy for them. And when I to see how they won because I'm not emotional about it and I'm happy for them. And when I can see how they won and I'm not clouded by jealousy or frustration or anger,

that gives me a logical path to move forward on my own. Okay. And a lot of times our emotions are what keep us from actually putting into play the things that are going to progress us forward. So think about these things. Think about how you can more adopt these things. Think about how you could be a better representation of these things. Because from what I can tell, and I don't have any secret book, I don't have a crystal ball, I don't have any special knowledge. All I do have is my experience. And what I can tell you is this, when I adopted this mentality versus the mentality of trying, and by the way, you can also want to crush people and still root for people. Those are two different thoughts that can coexist because you're not really wanting

to crush them into nothing. You're just wanting to be better than them. And that's okay. But how can you be better than them. And that's okay. But how can you be better than them? You have to be better than them by observing, not getting frustrated, and then rooting and saying, man, that's fucking awesome. You know what? I could do this over here. All right. And then you go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. And ultimately, everybody gets pushed forward into a successful position. This is how it really works.

Okay. So be thankful for your competitors. If you have resentment with people or you have problems with people, pick up the fucking phone and solve it. Okay. If you, if you have a problem with feeling angry all the time, ask yourself, are you rooting for other people when they win? Are you getting angry when they win? Because if you're one of the people that gets angry when other people win, you will never win ever, ever, no matter how good you do, no matter how much you execute, no matter how much you practice, the universe will not allow you to win because what you're doing is an emotional way.

You're sending out the frequency that says, I don't fucking like winning. And that's what's holding most of you back. So think about it, make the adjustment, audit yourself and work towards this place because this place that I'm speaking of is the place of prosperity. It's the place of abundance and it's the place of peace without the frustration, the anxiety and the negativity. All right. That's what we all want. We all want to win and we also all want to feel good. And there's a lot of people out there that grind out little wins and they get here and they get a little bit more successful. And they even may talk about how they want to see people win.

But in their heart, they don't mean it. And that's why they have a hard time seeing it through. And guys, we spend so much time talking about what's going to make the world better. We spend so much time talking about what's going to make the world better. We spend so much time talking about what's going to make America better. This is what makes it better. When you root for your fellow Americans, when you root for your fellow, you know, competitors, when you have camaraderie and you have respect and you have good intentions for your fellow citizen. These are the things that will fix society.

These are the things that will help all of us win and be peaceful and prosperous together. I want you to win. I don't care if you hate my guts. I don't care if you think I'm the biggest, cockiest, opinionated, big mouth piece of shit. I've heard it all. But I promise you in my heart, I want you to fucking win. You should want other people to win too. Try that out because I promise you it'll change your life. I love you guys. I appreciate you guys. And I'll talk to you next time. On the floor, now my jewelry box froze Fuck a bowl, fuck a stove Counted millions in a cold Bad bitch, booty swole

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