REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 370. Q&AF: Getting Back Into A Routine, Police Against Wokeness & Creating Leaders Out Of Your Employees

Episode Date: September 2, 2022

In today's episode, Andy talks about what steps you should take to get back in your routine when dealing with distractions, the best way for police officers to handle wokeness with new leadership, and how to create effective leaders out of your employees.

What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking Real. Guys, today we have Q and AF. I also have less of a voice than normal, so I'm going to try to get through this. You are listening to Q and AF. You already know that because you clicked the link and you're an intelligent human. Otherwise, you wouldn't be listening to the show. What we do on Q and AF is you submit questions and I answer them.

Where can they submit the questions DJ guys? Email those questions in to ask Andy at Andy for seller calm. Okay, so send your questions in they can be about anything can be about business Could be about entrepreneurship about personal development. It could be about what's going on in the world It could be about 75 hard if we about live hard it could be about fucking anything and we'll answer it as long as it's not stupid That's the caveat if you ask stupid questions i'm going to start reading them online and giving people out their your name and i'm going to answer them how i would genuinely answer them in real life we're going to call it dumb ass on the motherfucking day for real okay write that shit down i just made that shit up. We're going to do that though. If this is your first time listening, I love you.

Most of you. But we do not do things as normal podcast hosts do here. This is not a sit down with some dude and have a conversation. We do many different things here on the show. Today, you're going to hear a question and answer type show. For those of you that don't know, I had for a long time, one of the biggest, most successful entrepreneurial personal development podcasts of all time on the internet called the MFCEO Project. So when you ask about success and you ask about business, I'm the motherfucking guy to ask

those things too. Okay. So sometimes also when you tune in, you're going to hear CTI. CTI stands for cruise the internet. That's where we put up the ridiculous headlines of the day. We dissect the little bit of truth that there may or may not be in those headlines. And then we laugh at the idiots who believe them and the people who write them. And then we talk about the problem at hand and how to solve it on a macro level. And that's more of a comedy based, uh, reality type show. Um, and you should definitely not take anything that we say there seriously. It's all, it's all comedy. Wink, wink. Um, Then sometimes when you tune in, we have real talk. Real talk is like a rant, right?

It's like five to 10 minutes to 20 minutes of me talking a whole lot of shit. That's real shit that you may not like to hear, but I promise we'll help you figure it out in life. Then sometimes we have full length. Full length is where we bring on my successful, kick-ass, badass motherfucking friends, people I know. Sometimes we bring on people we disagree with and we have productive conversations like normal humans do. In the case of these amazing individuals that I'm blessed enough to be friends with and know, we talk about how they got to be so fucking

badass. And then we talk about how you can join them in being badass because being badass being personally excellent being a bad jacked rich kick-ass motherfucker is a fucking obligation of all american men especially and women too honestly um and that's what we do here personal excellence all the way around breakfast lunch dinner i love that shit so what's up it's a plethora it's a plethora of fucking winning all right yeah it is i lost my fucking voice i don't know i just woke up and it was like this so hopefully i'm fucking not some crazy shit they put out in the world again oh that'll get you man right right four minutes in uh it's a new record all right so what we got dude you got some good ones for me i got some good ones for you man let's

get into these guys uh andy question number one so i know you talk a lot about sticking to your routine right when something does pop up that throws about sticking to your routine, right? When something does pop up that throws you out of your routine, how do you handle it and get back on track? It seems when I get thrown a curve ball, I'll let it ruin in my entire day and I don't get shit done that I need to get done. How do you handle it? Well, I think that's normal. First of all. Okay. Most people operate how this person is asking. This is why most people are most people. This is a fundamental reality for most humans.

Most humans will have a 10 to 20 minute or 30 minute ordeal at some point in the day. Usually for me, it happens before I wake up. Because by the time I wake up and when you're at the level I'm at with the companies I own and the people I have to manage, you're going to have problems when you wake the fuck up in the morning. Okay. Now that's right. Now, if I turned over and rolled over my phone and I fucking looked at all these problems and I said, fuck, which is what I think in my head, by the way. But then I actually just let it fucking ruin my day. Where would I be? So what you have to understand is that we are all going to have these moments throughout the day. They are not unique to you. The world is not

shitting on you. God doesn't fucking hate you. This is just the way it goes. We're going to have shit that disrupts us. What you need to do is realize that 10 minutes or 20 minutes or 30 minutes of bullshit is not worth losing an entire day of your life for. It's a big deal for you to understand that because you only have so many days of your motherfucking life. And if you let a single day go by because some moron on the internet pissed you off or some crisis pissed you off or some shit going on in your life threw you off track. You traded an entire day of your whole life for that fucking minor 10 minutes of shit. That makes no sense. And at the end of your life, you're going to wish you hadn't have done that.

So start seeing things a little bit different. Start understanding the perspective. How do I correct that? I have trained myself to be disciplined. And also, and this is something that's not talked about enough, okay? You have to have a certain level of, I don't fucking care. Yeah. Okay. If you're going to be the face of a business and you're, and I, and by the way,

there's two sides to this coin because on the one side you have to fucking care a lot, but when shit is like bullshit and you know, it's not true and you know, people are fucking with you or, you know, this is not worth the time or whatever you have to say, I don't fucking care. It's a requirement for peace for you to be able to say that if you're going to be running anything significant in life, if you don't have the ability to look at some shit and be like, yeah, whatever, and move the fuck on, you're not going to be able to make it. That's the reality. Okay. Some people are just going to fuck with you because they're stupid as fuck. Some people are going to fuck with you because

they want to fuck with you. Some people are just running through life, fucking up with everything they do and being around them is going to create chaos. You have to be able to identify which of the three you're dealing with. Eliminate the motherfuckers in your life that cause consistent chaos. Those people should always be cut out. The people who intentionally cause shit in your life, there's not much you can do about because those motherfuckers are everywhere now. We have a fucking epidemic of losing in this fucking world. And when people are losing at the level that they are at this point in time, you're going to have a lot of angry people and they're going to be angry with you because you're doing some shit that they fucking aren't. Okay. And then if you have someone who's just stupid, you do your fucking job to explain the truth. And if they don't like it and they don't accept it and

you did the right thing and you stood by who you are and you kept moving and you handle it the way you know that in your heart needs to be handled, there's nothing you can do. So fuck them. So you have to care a lot. And on the other side of the coin, you have to be able to say, fuck you real fast. Those things will create a situation where you don't dwell for that six hours about what somebody's fucking said to you or the tone they used or the, you know, whatever, you know what I'm saying? Are they gossiping about you? Like the amount of motherfuckers that you care about gossip out there and think they're still going to win. You're insane. You don't have the energy to win when you're dealing with that shit.

Motherfucker, there's a bunch of dudes like me and a bunch of women like me that are all in on fucking winning. And they're skilled and they have experience and they have money and they have fucking resources and they don't spend any time, zero, worried about what some fucking loser fuck is saying about them get it yeah you try to fix it you try to do what's right if they don't like it fuck them and move on yeah that's right dude because it's like the notion of like the compounding effect right that happens on the positive shit that's great right you know you winning show you're winning ripple

effect ghoul i think a lot of people forget like how the compounding effect can work on the negative side too and they take the 30 minutes of bullshit and it rolls into the rest of the fucking week and then you just there's everything goes down listen bro there's a quantum physical reality to fucking thinking like that yeah when you start fucking when you start um i just burp right on the mic on the show, just so we're fucking clear. When you start caring too much about these negative things that happen and you start dwelling on them, you attract more of them. That's why you have to be able to look at shit and be like, fuck it. Bro, I got people all over the world that fucking don't like the shit I say.

But people are fucking so stupid and so fucking uneducated on what the fuck is going on that they just want to attack people for no fucking reason. So get used to it, dude. It's reality. But I can assure you when I'm driving home in my fucking nice car to my nice ass house i don't really give a fuck what you think right right that's that's the thing it's like it's like it's worse than the fucking fan uh coaches you know i'm saying like does nick stabing give a fuck about what the there's there's 80 000 motherfuckers in the stands and there's 22 on the motherfucking field and if you do you think tom brady ever gives a single fuck about what someone says about him when he throws a couple of picks in a fucking game?

Right. Do you think during the game that fucking, you know, any of the players are going over to the stands? Hey, man, what do you think? Yeah, right. Right. What the fuck do you think? Right. Was that OK?

Did I do that right? Right. Did I do that fucking five step drop? Was that right? Right. You know, show me how to do it. That's not how it works. Right. Did I do that fucking five-step drop? Was that right? Right. Show me how to do it. That's not how it works. Right.

When the fans boo you, give them the fucking finger. Yeah. Fuck, dude. Fuck, yeah. I love it. Do the best you can and let them fall where they fucking may. That's what you got to do. It's a necessity for peace.

If you worry about what every fucking knuckle fuck in the world has to say about you, bro, you'll be miserable. It's fucking real, man. To answer the question, though, when your day goes off track, it's not a whole bad day. It's a bad 10 minutes. Get the fuck back on the horse and stop being a pussy. Question number two.

What? I love it. That's a show. Share that shit right there. You know what it is, bro? I love it. That's a show. That shit right there. You know what it is, bro? I'm sick of this shit. Yeah. I'm sick of this shit. I mean, I mean.

Hold on. I've been standing on the brakes for a fucking long time. You motherfuckers don't even know what fucking Savage is. You don't fucking even know. Because when I started this show two and a half years ago. I fucking decided, you know what? And I got some bad advice. I got some bad fucking advice from somebody that I really love and trust. And he said, Andy, you need to tone it down, down bro you need to tone it down a little bit

you know you're not resonating with um you know so and so and so and so and i listened to that advice because the person who gave it to me is somebody who i have a lot of respect for and i still do by the way people you respect and give you bad advice yeah okay yeah and um that's a whole another talk it is yeah and and it's hard to decipher that kind of fucking bad advice because you respect them so you have to rip and but and this is a time where i took the advice and it was wrong advice bro that's fucking parents and kids right now you know i'm saying like you listen to your parents give they not all the advice you're giving fucking kids bro no i'm just saying like sometimes the parent your parents give you not all the advice you give me fucking kids bro no i'm just saying like sometimes the parent your parents give you advice you trust

that shit it's fucking up a lot of fucking kids right now so well my point is is that i've come to terms with it and what i've realized is that me just doing this show is not enough and so you all can expect me to come full fucking force on social media. And you can also expect a full fucking reckoning for all the bullshit that's out there.

So I'm not going to unveil all my fucking plans, but I can promise you they are heavy, they are deep, and they are strong as fuck. And they're going to run a lot of motherfuckers

right the fuck over. So I'm tired of standing on the brakes. I haven't posted in two and a half fucking years. What do you think is going to happen when I come back out and start fucking telling the truth about shit? Not just on this show where the show is huge, but on all the platforms. So get the fuck ready.

That's on the right, baby. It makes me happy too. You know what? It makes me happier when I'm fucking, when I'm not, and the bad advice was, tone it down. No, you're not ready.

You know what, bro? I ain't here for everybody. Motherfucker, I'm not trying to reach those motherfucking people. I don't give a fuck about those people. Yeah. You don't fucking like what I had to say or you don't find value in what I had to say,

change your motherfucking channel. Go listen to fucking Mr. Fru-Fru Feel Good who's never done shit tell you how you're fucking perfect the way you are. But if you like it. If you do like it. Yeah, yeah. Piggies up.

That's right. Piggies up on that first form energy, baby. We don't run any ads all right all right guys moving on to question number two andy uh i'm a i'm currently a police officer uh and fortunately i didn't have to participate in the unconstitutional infringement on the people of my community with all the COVID tyranny. However, I fear the landscape is changing in our leadership of the department and our community, and it does scare me.

What advice or guidance do you have or can you give me on moving through this? Look, man, you guys in the police force, you guys in the military, and I want to say guys, it's men and women, it's all of you. That's just a Hoosier thing we do, guys.

Relax. No shit. Calm the fuck down. Here's what I will say. Remember what you signed up to do. Remember why you, you did not sign up to be a police officer to get a fucking job. You signed up to serve. Remember why you did not sign up to be a police officer to get a fucking job.

You signed up to serve the community. You signed up to keep peace. You signed up to stand for that motherfucking flag. And that motherfucking flag does not stand for what these tyrants are doing at the top levels in our communities. Okay? For the last two and a half years, we've been fucking mentally abused. All kinds of shit that doesn't make any sense has been pushed on society. Starting with the closure of our businesses. Now there's been a lot of people out there who have spent the last couple of years trying to show you guys the truth of how this, this great reset is designed to disrupt society. I'm one of them.

I didn't stop it. It's still happening, okay? And it makes me a little bit bitter about it. But at the end of the day, I'm just one guy. This is why I encourage all of you to echo my voice so that we all have some motherfucking power to get things done. Okay. But some people don't want to do that because they'll come and listen to the

show every fucking day and never share the motherfucker one time. And honestly, I wish you motherfuckers would go listen to someone else. I'm being real because if you don't have that much courage, you don't belong in my fucking network anyway. Okay. So what I would say for the military and the police and these people who are finally realizing that,

uh, what's been going on, see, it should have been a fucking indication to you that this was fucked up when you saw a motherfucker swim out into the ocean and arrest a motherfucker who was paddle boarding or when they shut the entire country down, which has never happened in our fucking history. You should have woke up then.

But here we are, 2022, and you're finally waking up. Congratulations. They are absolutely going to ask you to do immoral shit that you didn't sign up to do. And your answer and how you handle that should be to eat motherfucking shit. And you should get with all your other like-minded soldiers and police officers and say, I ain't doing that. And don't fucking do it. That's the fucking answer. It's having some fucking balls. It's having some courage. It's understanding what's going on and it's standing for the right thing.

We got half of these three letter in these three letter agencies across the country, half the people in there are corrupt right now. And the other half are people who are fighting for what this country stands for. And there's little civil wars happening in the CIA and the FBI and, in the fucking ATF, in the fucking police departments, in the military. And the media is making it look like all of you guys are about to come in and take our shit and oppress us. And they're putting you all in a very dangerous situation.

Because no matter who you are, none of you people really want to go to a door of someone who truly doesn't believe in what the fuck you're about and try to confiscate their fucking weapons. Do you? Right. I don't think you do. So the way to fucking get around having to do that

is to stand up now. There's lots of people that believe in freedom. There's lots of people that are anti-tyranny. And you say, well, who should I listen to? Who should I believe? Motherfucker, there's a fucking document they wrote a couple hundred years ago, okay, that you can go read.

It's called the United States Constitution. And there's fucking amendments to it. Go read those things and start to understand what it is you signed to protect because that establishment and that document is not outdated. It does not need to be redacted or rewritten. And any motherfucker that says they're going to dissolve the constitution and rewrite it. And this doesn't mean this and this and this, they're the enemy of motherfucking America. And you motherfuckers can remember what the fuck you signed up for

and you can have some courage to stand up for it. We're waiting on you guys to stand up. I've been saying this for two and a half fucking years. It's going to come down to the law enforcement community and the military community to draw the line in the sand that says we are not about it. And until you guys do it, it won't happen. The only reason all this crime is happening is because we're afraid that if

we go handle it, you'll fucking arrest us. Exactly. The only people being restrained by the law right now are the fucking good guys. The criminals are allowed to shoot and kill anybody in these motherfucking blue cities and not even go to jail for 24 fucking hours. We had a case in here in St. Louis with one of these Soros funded prosecutors where a motherfucker went, he killed a fucking eight year old girl.

He went in and admitted to it and they didn't press charges. So you tell me what you need to do. If I was you guys, I'd fucking join up with the people who fucking stand for constitution, who stand for freedom, who stand for what America has always stood for, and who are committed to building the best America

ever, and fuck these fucking far-left crazy fucking world economic fucks. I was just following orders, bro. So were the motherfuckers that put a bunch of Jews on a fucking boxcar. That's what you guys are close to getting to.

And you need to fucking organize now and stand the fuck up now. The simple, the simple, simplest thing in the world. Uh, no, I'm not doing that. Well, you're blah, blah, blah. I don't care. Takes fucking courage, dude. You shouldn't have signed up for those jobs. You don't have any motherfucking courage. Guys, Andy, our third and final question, question number three, Andy, what's the best way to get an employee, I guess,

ready for a leadership role? How do you go about promoting employees? I have 10 employees right now and I feel like it's time to divide and conquer. Divide and conquer what? Your own team? That's about the dumbest shit I ever heard. Okay. Your point is to build a team, not divide and conquer your own fucking team. But that's neither here nor there because I realized that you don't really actually know what the fuck you're asking. What you're asking is, is how do I create leaders out of my team? Okay. And the answer to that is you have to let people lead. All right. You have to understand that when people start to lead, they're going to make leadership mistakes. And you have to understand that when they make those

mistakes, you are not to fire those people and send them home and then promote the next guy. Yeah. Like most big companies do. What you do if you want to build an amazing team is you allow those mistakes to be an investment in that leader's education and then you sit down you say okay well you really that up dj yeah sorry you know um it cost us this much money you know it cost me that mistake cost me a hundred fucking grand, bro. Yeah. You understand that? That's a big deal, right?

Sorry, man. Yeah, it fucking sucks, dude. What'd you learn? Well, I learned not to do this again and maybe do this a little bit better. And then you have to trust that the leader that you're training has the capacity to not make that same mistake again. Now, if they make that same mistake again. Now, if they make that same mistake again, you fucking fire. Okay. But to create, you know, competent leadership inside

your company, all the guys and the girls on my executive team started out at very low level positions and worked their way up. Okay. The way they were able to develop was that we allow people to make mistakes. We talk about the mistakes and I just don't allow them to make them twice. Okay. Right. So there's only two things that you need to really win in life. You need to not quit and you need to have the ability to not make the same mistakes

over and over again. If you can do those two things, there's no limit to what you can do. That's it. So I look for those qualities in my leadership development in people, no matter what, no matter if it's on this podcast team or if it's in first form or S2 or fucking any of these other things that we're doing. You want to allow people the space to learn. And a lot of companies do not allow that. And that's why they don't have good leadership. Yeah. Okay. So I think that's the biggest thing. And that's that perspective on your part needs to be fuck. Like, I remember this one time, dude, uh, I had this, this girl that was a, she was a huge part of our brand. She ended she was a huge part of our brand she ended up being a huge part

of our brand uh and now she went and started her own company um but she made a mistake on fucking dude she cost us 12 grand okay and this is back in the day when like 12 grand was like a million fucking dollars i mean 12 grand is still a lot now i know but like when you're a fucking small business bro and you're like talking about hundreds of dollars making a difference 12 grand is like would be like the equivalent of someone in here today making a mistake of like 20 million dollars you see what i'm saying like it's a huge fucking mistake yeah and you know it sucked but guess what she never made this mistake again and she was able to help us grow from where we were then to a tremendous level before she decided to go do her own thing

yeah you see what i'm saying if i had just said hey and by the way i wanted to pay fucking your father right like i was mad because that comes out of my pocket oh it makes sense but now you know she learns the lesson she moves on she improves yeah and that's a deposit into her skill set would you say she's also she also became more invested too absolutely bro it wasn't like she did on purpose right like nobody does these things on purpose but like dude as the owner of a company especially a small business when you gotta fucking write a check for 12 grand when you don't fucking got it that's incredibly frustrating yeah that's real you know what i'm saying so like dude we have to allow people to learn by allowing them enough space to

make mistakes that are going to you know and then you sit down you have a conversation you say hey what'd you learn if they learn now you have a more competent leader than you had yesterday. It's really that simple. So, you know, and that's another thing, bro. You guys out there that own these companies, you think you're going to hire in leaders. You're fucking not. I was just about to ask you my follow-up question. You're never going to fucking do it.

Yeah. You have to become their personal development leader. You have to sit down with them and have discussions. You have to show them what to read. And see, this is why, this is why a lot of people can't succeed in business, bro, because they're not willing to read the books or do the shit or fucking listen or learn or actually be able to teach. And they don't want to sit down with their people. And they have this attitude because the internet's created this now that you get to be this totally uninvested quote unquote CEO or owner of a business because you are the owner.

And you think these dudes are going to come in that you're paying and you think you're going to pay these dudes a hundred or 200 grand or something to become a great leader coming in and build your company. Bro, if they were that great of a leader for 200 grand, guess what they'd be doing? Their home company. That's right. So you're a fucking idiot if you think that. So unless you could become the person who develops the people, you're dead in the water, dude. So if you're a business owner and you're not into personal development, you're not reading personal development books, you're not working to get better, you're not doing things like

live hard program consistently to improve, and they don't see you trying to improve. And they just see your fat ass out on the golf course, smoking a fucking stogie and drinking a fucking Miller light. Guess what they're going to do the minute they leave work. They're going to come to the golf course and they're going to be a fat fuck. And they're going to fire up a stogie and they're going to drink a Miller light. And then they're going to come into work the next day and fuck your business up.

So it's all about how big you want to go and how bad you want it. Because at the end of the day, they're going to follow your fucking lead. Yeah. Why do you think I come in here every day and work the way I do? Seven days a week. Why do I do that? Why do I come in the gym every day and let these motherfuckers see me kill myself? Why am I doing cardio with my fucking arm and a motherfucking sling or lifting weights with one arm you get it yeah they have to

fucking see it you ain't fooling nobody like these ceos think they can fool people bro if your team sucks it's because you suck it ain't their fault. It's your fault. It's really simple. That's it, man. Well, guys, Andy, that is three. Go pay the fee. Yeah. Stole, counted millions in the cold Bad bitch, booted, swole Got her on bankroll, can't fold, that's a no Headshot, case closed