REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 372. Q&AF: Success Ladder Assessment, Pushing Through Chaos & Going From A Felon To A Business Owner

Episode Date: September 7, 2022

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to properly assess your status on the success ladder mentioned in a previous episode with Ed Mylett, why it's crucial to be able to operate through chaos when it comes to chasing your dreams, and if being a convicted felon has any weight on starting or operating a business.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have q and af that's where uh you submit the questions where do they submit them bro guys email those questions into ask andy at andy for seller.com and send me your questions as long as they're good i have to be good yeah uh and then we answer them that's q and af that's what that stands for q and answer. And don't send me stupid fucking questions. Second show, we have CTI sometimes. That's cruise the internet. That's where we throw topics up on the screen. We talk about them. We break them down. We talk about the problem. We talk about

how we can be a solution to the problem. Then we have real talk. Real talk is four to fucking 20 minutes of me just talking shit. That's what it is. Usually it's going to help you a lot. Then we have full length episodes, which is where we get in deep with some interesting, successful, kick-ass dudes and women. And we talk about things and we figure out how you could be the same. That's what we do here. So the whole goal of this show is to solve the world's problems by becoming the best version of self. And we do here so the whole goal of this show is to uh solve the world's problems by becoming the best version of self and we do that in our own special unique way uh that you either love or fucking hate and that's the that's the that's how we do it so

with that being said uh dj what's up dude what's going on brother oh you know what you got there uh well you know i don't run ads on the show so i'm not allowed to talk about it oh okay yeah i got i got yelled at oh did you yeah i don't run ads on the show so i can't talk about what i'm drinking here but i think y'all know what it is what is it starts with the uh uh b doesn't it it starts with a fucking one and it ends with a fucking p and it's orange i thought it was the best motherfucking shit on earth that is what it is it's it's you know like dude here's the deal it's so good i don't have to do an ad for it so we'll stay ad free you know what the fuck it is yeah that's right here though yeah punch your mom don't look at it 2022 don't fucking look mom. Don't look at it.

Don't fucking look at it. Don't look at it. Crop that shit out of the video. Hey, just so you know, good news. We're starting very soon. Put all of our episodes up on YouTube. Yeah. There we go. Full length.

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all right what do you got dude hey man we got some good questions people don't give a fuck about our banner bro they said get right to it hey well let's get to it bro quit fucking off yeah bro the whole show you see that russia shit the fucking oil oh i did yeah yeah yeah let's mix some of that into this shit um why not russia decided to cut off the supply of fucking fuel to all of germany completely europe too well the the the dragging effect of that is going to spread all through Europe. And for those of you in Europe, this is very bad news. And for those of you in America, this is also very bad news because we have a government that thinks it's a good idea to convert everything over to fucking electric

so that they can control everything and shut down all of our fuel systems, even though our infrastructure isn't suited for it, and basically fuck you guys for the next fucking seven years in poverty while they fucking build out the supportive infrastructure. And remember, the supportive infrastructure of green energy is designed so that they can flip it on and flip it off however they deem necessary. It's nothing about the environment.

So it looks like things are going to get fucking weird so um if i were you i would prepare myself for some chaos i personally believe the next two years are not going to get better i think they're going to get a lot fucking harder a lot of people think this election in november is going to change shit i mean it it's going to help uh but you know the damage is being done unless the military or unless people step in and fucking stop it uh it's going to continue to happen and their goal remember as we've talked on the show many times is to eliminate the middle class yeah and they're trying to push the middle class into poverty independence so they can control the whole

situation and a lot of people still think this is about the environment they still think it's about covid and they still think it's about whatever bro and they're gonna watch their whole lives just fucking melt away yeah and uh it's sad it's sad man yeah i think that's important because a lot of people don't understand that like most of i'll be honest most of the damage that they have done has been in hiding has been in secrecy has been in fucking subversion you know i'm saying like they have accomplished a lot even in the four years that trump was in there where it seems like it was winning but they're setting up these fucking chess pieces they're setting up the board the whole time they don't have to be in control to have control look look look 53 of the fucking population here in the united states doesn't pay income tax

right but then they blame the people who do pay for not paying enough right it's all listen this is all okay and until people realize that like it doesn't matter if you're left or right if you're black or white if you're gay or straight or whatever their goal is to crush us and when i say us you can hate me all you want dude but we're in the same bucket like the whole trick here is to convince everybody on the ground that we're all against each other while they fucking rape us and take everything from us and force our lives into a very painful existence of poverty meaningless yeah and fucking disruption and constant drama and constant chaos like dude i did a story last night on my Instagram. I was sitting out by my fire and you know, like it's a, I believe it's like suicide awareness month. I thought I saw

a post of suicide awareness and somebody made a pretty touching caption. And I started thinking, I'm like, you know, it's kind of like what I said on yesterday's show. Like, bro, we're not meant to stare at these screens for fucking six, hours a day like that's take the information off the screen like just imagine it wasn't on there and you're just walking around staring at something with nothing on it like that's what like that's how your dogs see it right like your dogs see like you giving and that's how your kids see it too by the way they see you giving more attention to this piece of plastic than you do to them you know and um as i've been going through this detox of of my uh of the antidepressant medication that i was on

um one of the things that's like been hurting me the most is like when i look at my fucking dogs and i see them and they're fucking eight years old, they're going to be nine. And then I think back all the time that I spent staring at that fucking phone and not fucking, you know what I'm saying? And like, you know, I think a lot of people are going to have that regret. I already have it. Like I still have my dogs, so I'm trying to do better, you know, but like, we're all going to have that regret when we're old about everything. If we don't fucking fix our behavior. What do you think are some easy steps that people could just be taking right now to start weaning off of the fucking phones? You know what I'm saying?

Look, man, I don't know that it's weaning off the phone. I think that the technology is amazing. There's so many good things about it. I don't want to sit here and say this is bullshit technology because technology because bro, I fucking use it. You know, I use it in business. Uh, everybody out there listening, use it either, uh, to buy things or to meet people or to connect. There's a lot of amazing things. The problem is, is whenever they started realizing that it was more than just amazing things and it may have been designed that way from the start, but you know, now a lot of people are enslaved by it. Yeah.

You know, and the abuse that goes on online, the bullying that goes on online, the fucking cancel culture shit. Like, bro, there's people out there that fucking, you know, get attacked. And, bro, they shut their shit that we have going on, whether it be left to right or right to left or fucking groups of people versus anybody of jumping on and fucking wishing the worst, like, bro, we're just, it's just accelerating the decline of society. And, um, I think it's not about like eliminating, you know, it's not about eliminating the technology, but I think more so for your personal health, it's about controlling the shit in your real life. People have forgotten. You have a real life, dude.

It's not just on social. You know what I'm saying? Eating the proper foods, drinking enough water, moving, all of these things are are sort of getting lost because i mean bro look at these kids that are fucking like you know between the ages of 20 and 30 dude like most of them are are like what you would look at someone who back in my day you would call like a tech nerd or a computer nerd right who sits on his fucking computer until five o'clock in the morning, except now, you know, it's video games and energy drinks and fucking cigarettes or weed and all this shit all night long.

People sleep till fucking whatever, you know, like, you know, it's just, it's just a degradation of actual standards. And I think that it's important for you to remember that your whole life is happening right now. Like it's not happening later. It's not happening five years from now it's happening now you know and um you know i think technology i think there's going to be a lot of people bro in life who are you know they're going to get sick or they're going to get they're going to get fucked up or something's going to happen

to them and they're going to be like fuck dude i wasted fucking 10 years in that motherfucking phone so that's right i just saw this quote today it was like you know 10 years ago we used to use the internet to escape reality and now we're using reality to escape the internet yeah you know it's like i mean yeah but dude that that like the the guys who are running the show this is just like big just like big pharma and big food. They're doing everything possible to keep your attention. They're doing everything possible to get you to pay attention. This is like with big food where they put fucking addictive chemicals in their food. This is all about greed.

This is all about control. This is all about profit. It has nothing to do with freedom or personal excellence or getting better in life or improving and i hope that you recognize that there's a place for your social media but it certainly isn't your fucking life right you know right and i think more and more people are coming to that oh for sure sure and the people who aren't just yet they will be because the thing is bro it creates this this massive false sense of confidence when you get you believe your life is this fucking social

media platform it creates a massive false sense of reality and confidence and that that yeah i mean like look at the way some of these people walk around in life like you know they they've got some followers on the internet and they walk around like they're you know and it's like bro like no what are you doing right you know and it's weird and it's always the people who aren't truly famous who who act like that all the truly famous people that are like internet internet famous they're actually famous jocko goggins these fucking dudes like these are the humblest most humble fucking dudes ever you know what i'm saying so it's just it's weird because like the wannabe stars are the fucking ones with the attitude and the actual stars

are pretty fucking humble pretty true yeah but that's what i found to be but anyhow um let's make some people better yeah let's do that that's the point of the show you know but you guys uh real real real talk i think it's important for you guys to like truly think how bad could it get in the next two years and then what happens if you know i don't know they don't allow another election you know there's a lot of weird shit going on the mask of the communist agenda is coming off that's what people don't understand like it's coming off right now you know when biden gets up there and gives a speech where he looks like fucking hitler right and they've drenched it in

red and all this shit people like holy shit what the fuck will do that's for the history books right that's for the history books okay like you should when sake had that fucking hat on hold on bro you should believe that yeah like that is not them being incompetent that is not them being you know the next day and his questions he's like i don't want any mega republicans i don't have any problem with them no that's the coverup. So we don't revolt right now. That's the softening up. It's just like when Biden was out in Belgium and he said, we need to fucking remove Vladimir Putin from power. Oh, yeah.

The White House came out the next day and buffered it out. Well, that's because people here didn't want to fucking war. And the shit he's saying, that's the real shit. Like what you if you don't believe that you're you're buying into their agenda so their agenda is to say the real thing then pull back a little bit pretend like they went a little overboard but i'm telling you like we have a genocide brewing right now and that genocide is going to be on fucking patriotic american fucking men yeah and women and children it's going to be because that's going to be on fucking patriotic American fucking men and women and children.

It's going to be people that do not want to give up the idea of freedom. That's how I took when he walked back that fucking MAGA threat thing. Because how I took it, he was like, oh, I don't think they're a threat at all. I think that was like an arrogant statement of him showing he's like hey like no we will deal with them they're not threats we're not afraid of them yeah that's another way to say it that's how i mean that's kind of how i took it i don't know definitely interesting times yeah for sure so so what we got man i got three good ones for you brother let's knock these out any question number one uh you've talked before about the ladder analogy when it comes to success right there's people

above you and there's people below you my question is when you are leveling up and climbing that ladder my first part is how do you assess your level internally as far as where you are on that ladder and then two who really assesses it from the outside externally? What are your thoughts on that? I'm having problems understanding the context of the question on that. So you're climbing up the success ladder, right? Yeah, like we talked about on the Ed Milet podcast. Right, right. There's people above you, people below you. How do you assess where you are on that ladder internally?

Well, you don't need to worry about who's below you at all. Other than reaching down to pick up the pick up the ones that you you decide you want to help um but it's the ones above you that you got to worry about you know what i'm saying um i don't think that assessing where you are in the scheme of things is really that relevant you know the truth of the matter is as long as you keep going and you keep working and you keep working you get better and you keep are in the scheme of things is really that relevant. You know, the truth of the matter is, as long as you keep going and you keep working and you keep working, you get better and you keep improving, you're going to end up in a better spot than you were today. That's really all we can control, right? And along the way, you know, you start to understand the code of how it works.

And the code of how it works in success is um the only people that get to a certain level are the people that everybody gets along with and that they help each other and that they understand like we're gonna fucking do each other solids to help each other out and that's the culture of ultra successful people people have the wrong idea they think it's like all this you, disruption or fucking sabotage or this or that. Pull this guy down. Yeah. And they're going to get ahead.

And that's not reality. That's not how it works at the higher levels. That's how it works at the low levels. Like in the low, like I ain't like I haven't accomplished anything yet. People think the way to get ahead is to like sabotage and talk shit and all the shit. But notice that none of those people ever get above that level they never do yeah you know what i mean and so you have to realize that the majority of people recognize that kind of behavior as like not something they want to support you

know i see business owners who go on the internet every fucking day and talk shit about all their competitors. Like, bro, that's a terrible strategy, especially when your competitors make better products than you or have been doing things longer than you or are more powerful than you. There's a lot of reasons why you don't do that because dude, what happens is the people who are watching you, they look at what nobody ever thinks this happens, but this is exactly what happens. There you have them. And then you start talking about someone else. And what you do is you take them and they start looking at this other person. And then they start this process of evaluation. You know, everybody likes to think their word means

everything. That's not true. So when you attack someone and you're in business and you go to attack a competitive company or a competitor, right? What happens is the people who are now exclusively looking at you are now looking at your competitor and you, and they're evaluating, is this guy full of shit or is this guy that he's talking shit about full of shit? And if you talk shit on a company that does things better than you what ends up happening is your customers end up leaving and going with them so that's why like if you're doing the right things if you're building the right if you're executing properly um you will move up the ladder you don't have to worry about a strategy of this right

and if you're at the bottom and you continue to run your mouth and go on internet and act like a bottom feeder, you're going to stay a bottom feeder. That's just how the fuck it works. What episode was that? I did it with them by let, what is it? 104 episode 104 and really F I'd go back and listen to it because Ed and I have a really good conversation of how the system works that we're talking about here. Um, and it's a valuable podcast top to bottom anyway. But the truth of the matter is, dude, is like when you help people win, you win, right? And when you help people win that are better than you, guess what they do? They fucking help you win. And that's how everybody wins. So the winners will rise together. And the people who chirp and talk and this and that,

who are too dumb to understand what I just explained they will continue to give their business away by directing it to other people it's free market yeah it's a hundred percent a hundred percent dude that's why i like when people say oh i'm getting fucking attacked or i'm getting this or that or this good right good more eyes on you yeah and it's more of a chance to prove yourself to what you do fucking good well and right and the chances are you're gonna pull a percentage of those people onto your shit that's reality that's how the fucking game works so you know that's why i always say the power of intent bro that's why i always because it lines up with reality it lines up with our actions like when you're a six let's just say you're 20 years up the ladder, right? And you're a successful person and you

see someone it's two years or three years up the ladder. It's very easy to take them from three years to 10 years, like with just a fucking couple of conversations and some direction, you know, and people will do that. Like for me, I do that all the time for people who I don't even know who don't pay me, who I'm just interested in helping because I believe they're doing good work and I believe they represent what is right when it comes to building things. And that happens to bro, all my friends, everybody I know that's at that, that's at a success, like at my level or above, they all operate that way. So the best thing you can do, bro, is to support people and build relationships in a positive way. And that'll help you. And then obviously, you know, all the other stuff, make good products, or if you're a service, provide good service, be who you say you are

in terms of, you know, trying to be the best that you can be. And guess what? Sometimes you're going to fuck shit up. And then what do you do you make adjustments and you keep fucking moving that's reality so um i wouldn't concern myself too much with where i'm at on the ladder i would concern myself with doing the things taking the actions necessary to improve my status on the fucking scale right it's the same thing with like losing weight. Like, you know, what does it matter where you are right now? Like, what does it matter if you're 500 pounds right now? You can make the decision today, right this second to change your entire life. It doesn't like, dude, if you make the decision to change everything today, you are no longer that person

that you were yesterday or the day before. Now you may look in the mirror and see someone, but you have to understand that that product is the product that that old person produced. This new person that you're working to become is going to produce an entirely different product. And that just takes time. And see, what happens is the physical showing of what you have doesn't line up with what's in your brain and people just quit. But at the end of the day, if you give time enough of a chance to catch up, you will see all of these things. You start reforming your behaviors. You start treating people different. You treat yourself better. You eat better. You move. You do these

things. If you do that for one fucking day today and you get through the day with that you are no longer that person you were yesterday you have to you have to let go of that yeah you know what i'm saying because people have these ideas like you know uh they hang on to identities that aren't necessarily the truth you know a lot of people do this with victim stuff or mistakes yeah like yeah dude like you fucked up you did something really bad or uh you know you had something bad happen to you 20 years ago or fucking yesterday it doesn't matter the point is is that that becomes this identity that we continue to repeat and we continue to think about oh dude you know what i'm just a fuck up i'm just a fuck up i'm just a fuck up. I'm just a fuck up. I'm just a fuck up. I just fuck shit up. I can't do anything right.

Well, dude, the way the universe works is that when you put that shit out there, the universe fucking confirms it. So if you think that of yourself and you have these cycles of derogatory or negative talk and you're putting that out in the world, self-talk.

Yeah, bro, the world's going to create that for you in a real way so like it's very important that you guys understand like see dude the problem is most people just don't understand the game they just don't understand how it works you know they're thrown in a fucking football game without understanding any of the rules you don't know what the fuck it is and so while they're busy up looking up the scoreboard trying to figure out what the fuck is going on somebody destroys them you know what i mean and so like dude and that happens over and over and over again until you understand what the rules are right and so dude the rules are very simple you do the right thing when you fuck up you fix it

you keep fucking moving you don't fucking quit you put good shit in your brain you put good shit in your body you read good shit You limit the negative shit as much as possible and regardless of what happens you keep moving This is something that if you've completed a live hard program, you will start to learn naturally Okay, and the live hard programs a free program that I built on mental toughness toughness. You can read it It's free like most of my shit It's an episode 208 so we'll listen to that episode that will help you get on the right fucking track to doing all these things

and making those who you are love it guys question number two andy do you find that people who can operate in chaos uh in and through chaos get further than people who can't oh yeah i ask this because i feel like everything has to be in line and very strategic when making critical changes and directions for me i find it difficult to make sound decisions in times of chaos and what can i do to work on all right dude first of all what you asked it's a tremendously amazing question uh the people who can move through and continue to execute when shit's hard are the people that ultimately win like big. Okay. Your whole fucking life could be falling apart. Like your fucking relationship, your whatever, it doesn't matter. But if you're

continuing to execute on your critical tasks of life, okay, and you're continuing to get better, even on the days where it seems like everything's fucked, you can't be stopped then. That's what people don't understand. Like the only reason these bad storms in life stop people is because they quit. It's not because the storm stops them or anybody else stops them. You and me and everybody else, we are actually fucking unstoppable as long as we execute. That's the truth. Nobody can fucking stop you. Nobody can fucking, you know, can people slow you down maybe for a day? Okay. They can fuck with you.

They can make shit hard. People will quit on you. People will leave you. People will abandon you and you will have hard days. That's reality. But if you, let's just say, if you continue to execute on those days, you're not going to slow down. Your progress doesn't slow down. It just feels like it's slowing down because there's chaos going on. Whereas you're competing against most people who, when times get hard, they throw their fucking diet out the window they throw bro that shit doesn't matter right now that shit you know I got everything to worry about and then they go off for fucking six months telling them the same story of how you know well you know I got off track because of this

and this and this well dude you chose that you chose to abandon those those you chose to abandon that progress that you were making. Had you not abandoned that progress in a very practical, real way, you'd still be further along even with the chaos that's going on in your life. So one of the biggest things that any of you can do is to develop enough discipline to execute on your critical tasks every single day, no matter what the fuck is going on, no matter what. And if you do that, dude, you are at a massive strategic advantage over anybody else because other people, when they have bad days, they don't execute. And usually when they don't, when they don't execute for a day that leads into a week and a week leads into six months and then they they you know we see it right how many

of your friends do you see this happen to they get in shape something happens uh they go through a divorce they get in a fucking accident uh they get fired or they lose something and then you see them in six months and they look like total fucking shit. Okay. Well, they're, you know, obviously we all have empathetic hearts and we fucking feel bad for people, right? Like, damn, dude, that sucks. But the reality is, had that person been still drinking their water, still doing their movement, still staying on plan with their diet, they would have continued to move forward.

And not only would they have maintained where they were, they'd actually be in a better physical and mental place than they were when all this fucking storm started. So that's why, you know, guys, this is why I give these tools to you for free. Okay. The power list, you can listen to it on episode 16. You don't need to buy the journal. I sell the journal on my website. You don't fucking need it.

I don't even fucking use it. I use a fucking notebook that i've used since 2000 fucking too okay they don't even make the pages for it anymore i had to like buy like i have to like search the internet to find these bulk you're on ebay now yes no no shit dude for real so like dude this isn't about selling you motherfuckers anything bro i got plenty of businesses i'm not worried about money use it for free if you want to use it, buy it. It's awesome. It's a fucking high quality planner. A lot of people like to buy them, fill them out, stack them up and you can physically see like how much winning you're doing. I think that's bad-ass. Um, but if you go listen to episode 16, I give the system away. If you go listen to episode 80, I give away the live hard system. If you go listen to episode 208, I give away the 75 hard and the live hard system

for free. These things guys are the tools that I use. Like when I talk about developing the discipline to push through the hard times, like bro, like I talked about on yesterday's show, um, you know, this has been, this last 60 days has been one of the hardest times of my life just because of the withdrawals I've been having from the medicine that I stopped taking. And, you know, but dude, guess what? My shit's getting done. Like my shit gets done every day. Sometimes it's, it's harder than others, but it's getting done. And that's a result of me putting in that work for the last three years. People are like, oh, bro, 75 hard is a challenge. I did it once. No, that ain't enough, bro. This

is a fucking constant progressive process that you want to test yourself and fine tune your discipline over the course of your life. That's why I get upset when people say, oh, it's a challenge. No, it's a fucking program. You put yourself through it. When you first start, you put yourself through it to gain discipline. As you gain discipline, you have to continue to put yourself through these things so that you can keep it. It's a perishable skill. Just like you train with weapons, what happens if you don't train for a year? You get shitty. Fast, right? Really fast. weapons what happens if you don't train for a year get shitty fast right really fast yeah so it's a perishable skill bro discipline is a perishable skill just like your fucking muscles

are a perishable skill like if you you could look like zeus but you don't train for a year you ain't gonna look like zeus no more right that's how you got to think about your discipline your mental skills you know your grit your fortitude your mental toughness overall, um, your ability to endure your, your, your ability to not react like these things. When you start taking pride, like, dude, for me, you know, um, I have a very, I've traditionally, like I'm just high, strong and I'm wired fucking hot, bro. Like my temper is fucking on, you know, and bro, there was, there's been times where that's been useful. But for the most part of my life, it's one of the biggest regrets that I have. And it's something that I'm ashamed

of that I've let... Because bro, there's lots of people who have had interactions with me where I've lost my shit. And dude, I still think about those things so if you're listening i hope you realize that i've changed a whole lot since those times um but you know just wanting to get in control of these things once you start seeing them as a discipline and then you fail on it you feel differently than like oh i just lost my shit no you're like fuck dude because i take pride in my discipline you know what i'm saying like comes this personal yeah dude so i'm like fuck i shouldn't have fucking done that you know what i'm saying yeah like and and and that's okay we all go through these things by the way like like if you're listening to this you're like feeling what i'm saying bro that's okay that means you're getting better because you're recognizing the faults in yourself becoming aware of it yeah

and let's so become aware and then work to move away because dude just like this fucking uh medicine this antidepressant i was taking for 10 fucking years gonna take a minute to get out of my system you know what i'm saying so when you think about the things you don't like about yourself all that is is a decision that you need to make right now to work on and start. And the next time you fucking do it, you fucking catch yourself and you say, fuck, okay, make it right, move on. And, you know, eventually those times between those lapses of whatever it is for you, whatever the things you don't like is for you, the time between those lapses will get bigger and bigger and bigger. And then eventually it'll be years.

Like, dude, for me, bro, I used to drink whiskey every fucking night. Every night. Okay. You don't get the 350 pounds without fucking drinking heavily. Yeah. All right. And bro, from the time I was probably 19 until I was, well, 2017, however the fuck old I was then, which was nearly 40.

I fucking drank whiskey a lot, like heavy. And I used to take pride in it. Like, oh, I fucking drink. Dude, if you go back and listen to MSCO shows from back in the day, I talk about it. It's like, dude, a big whiskey company offered me a contract for the fucking show. And I said, no, because I don't drink your shit well bro i only had a whiskey drinks 2017 you know what i'm saying yeah and if you know like now like i look back and i'm like and it's funny because

everybody keeps sending me whiskey like that's why that's why when you go up in the in my office there's 20 bottles of fucking whiskey and that this ain't no like fucking no this is all and i look bro i i appreciate the gesture yeah you know what i'm saying but like if you go home like my bar at home it's all fucking whiskey i didn't buy any of that right that's just people that's how much of a part of it it was it was a part of me so much that fucking everybody that knew me knew that they where they send that to me as the gift. You see what I'm saying? And eventually I got to a point where I don't do that anymore. So that was a big win for me. You know what I'm saying? And bro, those wins of changing who the fuck you think you are into who you want to be. That's what life's all about, bro. You know, the internet has this way of making people think you got to be perfect. There's no fucking perfection. Every motherfucker out there, especially the ones that talk the most

shit are the weakest, most insecure motherfuckers. They're not even on a journey of self-improvement at all. Because if you were, you'd have grace. You'd have grace. I have more grace than anybody because I've done the most, I've done so much fucked up shit. That's the truth. You know, and I'm not talking about like fucked up on the new shit. Like I'm talking about for me that I feel bad about. Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? Like, I know I've made bad decisions. I know I've done things. I know I'm a human being. I'm not up here trying to act like I'm fucking Jesus. I'm here trying to teach you that you don't have to feel like shit about yourself and that you can fucking change it because I fucking changed it. You know, now when I

look in the mirror, dude, I'm proud of myself. When I look in the mirror and I, it's not even about being in good shape or anything. It's about fucking knowing that I have worked and overcome and become better. And bro, that is the point of our existence and then to teach other people that they can do the same so i don't remember what the question was but that was the answer no we're good we're good was that a good answer oh yeah i don't know i don't know what was the question uh uh how do you uh operate through chaos yeah okay one more thing on that if you can figure out how to do that you will will win. Because everybody else quits during those times. Those hard fucking motherfucking times, bro. Like, bro, I'm so proud of myself right now because of how hard it's been.

This last year? This last year. Yeah. So for those of you that don't know, I fucking blew my shoulder up bench pressing with a couple dudes from the NFL that were a lot younger than me. All right? You were there. I was there.

And by the way, I was doing fucking just fine we were fine i was just fine working right but i forget that i'm 43 fucking years old and all my tendons and all that shit ain't the same yeah so anyway made a big noise didn't it it? It was pretty fucking DJ was about 15 feet away. He was like, holy fuck. Anyhow, I blew it the fuck up. Had surgery December 13th. I had I could not train like when I lift my arm up, it would fall out of socket. Like that's how bad it was.

And I kept thinking like, oh, it's going to heal. It's going to heal. Plus, I didn't want to do the mass thing that we talked about. Well, anyway, bro, I was in the best shape I'd ever been in ever in my life, bro. And I've struggled with my physique, dude. Like I've struggled with being overweight up and down, up and down, up and down. And to get hurt like that at the peak of where I was at this age, bro, it was devastating because I was afraid because of my age, I might not be able to get back. But I had to make a decision. And my decision was, well, I'm going to do everything I can to minimize the fucking regression.

Because motherfucker, this ain't going to be the end. I am not giving up right here. And during the time, I mean, you guys saw me. I was in the gym. I'm training with one arm. I'm training in my fucking sling. Like I'm doing with one arm. I'm training in my fucking sling. I'm doing old people shit, just trying to keep from withering away. And I did wither away.

I lost a ton of muscle. But I think the fact that I trained during the time minimized it. Yeah, I want to say because we could have been way further off. Yeah, bro. The truth is, if I would have not put in the three four years of hard work on my brain yeah i would have been 350 fucking pounds right now and i'd be sitting here fucking going through this fucking shit being like fuck i'm gonna blow my fucking brains out you know what i'm saying so that's a big fucking storm bro that i had to keep it moving

if you guys remember um I came from surgery. For those of you, like, this isn't bullshit. I told you to go fucking home. Yeah. So did Emily. Everybody got mad at me. Yeah. But I wanted to make a fucking point. There's no fucking excuses.

I had my surgery that morning. I did cardio fucking straight after surgery, bro. I'm all fucking hyped up on fucking bullshit they put in you. But you know what? We got it done. Yeah. And that's the point. That's the point.

Like that day that you and I went out and it was a foot of fucking snow and we did cardio and it was supposed to take 45 minutes, took an hour and a half. We're freezing. Like my fucking dick actually froze. Okay. Because what happened was I peed while we were out there and there was a little pee left in the fucking tube. I ain't lying, dude. This is real shit.

You remember this? Yeah, bro. And it was so fucking cold that I think, dude, at least it felt like the shit in the little drop or two left in the pee tube like froze. Yeah, that's what it felt like, bro. It was like this. Anyway anyway it was not good but the point is the shit was hot yeah it was but not in the way you like yeah but like dude uh the

point is is that you know i i think back of that and i'm like fuck yeah bro that's why i'm you know like i've been telling you guys for uh for the last year like i would be better than i was on the day i was injured i'm not going to be better than i was on the day i was injured i've done everything i can it the fact is is i i to get where i was i have to be able to train at a high level i haven't been able to train at that high enough level yet um so but like dude i guarantee you by the time the date of that surgery comes around in December, I will be far fucking better than I was when I got hurt. Yeah. Guaranteed.

So you guys like to see me take L's. I know some of you fucking listen. That's an L. I said publicly, I would be better like 20 times. I fucking ain't. Another thing is a lot of these dudes beat me in this transformation contest we just had. I'm fucking proud of them. Okay. So don't think I don't take my fucking L's, bro. Some of these motherfuck me in this transformation contest we just had. I'm fucking proud of them.

Okay. So don't think I don't take my fucking L's bro. Some of these motherfuckers going to be getting paid. Yeah. Yeah. But like, dude, that was,

that was, that was good for me though. Even though I couldn't train properly and I couldn't move, it kept me moving and doing what I could, which is the point of the fucking question, which is do when shit is fucked up, you do what the fuck you can. You get it done. done even if you gotta crawl to get that 45 minutes done you fucking get it done that's what it's about dude because you can look back just like i look back at that cardio

session right after my surgery and i'm like man i can fucking do anything you know what i'm saying so there's a thing i think most people forget, it's not about proving this shit to somebody else. No, it's about building your ability to persevere. Yeah. So, like, dude, but dude, I'm telling you, like, no bullshit. If you can develop that skill that this person asked about moving through the storms effectively, you cannot be fucked with. You cannot be fucked with. The entire fucking world can fucking come down on you, bro. And you will continue fucked with. You cannot be fucked with. The entire fucking world can fucking come

down on you, bro. And you will continue to improve. Guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three. I'm at a turning point in my life. I'm 29 years old. I want to quit my dead end job and go back to school and get a degree and some trade and start my business. My issue is I have a felon on my record and I'm afraid with the current cancel culture, my business won't be able to gain any traction or be successful because of the felon. What are your thoughts on the best way to navigate the situation?

Bro, you know how many fucking big time fucking CEOs got fucking felonies, bro? A shit ton of them. If you went through the Fortune 500 list of fucking CEOs, bro i would bet it's a high percentage to have i would bet at least 30 of them that's a cop out that's a bullshit excuse if you did your fucking time you did your fucking time and if anybody doesn't like it they can fucking eat shit unless you touch kids you belong in the wood chipper yes so that's it i think society's a cop out we tell ourselves all

these stories about why the fuck we can't do shit i'm a felon i'm fat oh i come from poverty too old yeah i'm too old i'm too young like bro we tell ourselves all these fucking stories about these things that we are and at the end of the day, man, the real reason we're not materializing anything in life is because we aren't executing. And if, if I followed you around all day long, no matter what you think of what I just said, you could think, bro, you're full of shit. You don't know. Motherfucker. I do know because I've lived it. I've lived it. Okay. I understand what the fuck this is. If I followed you around and if you hate me for what I just said, let me ask you this. If I followed you around and I could go back in time and follow you around for your last

fucking thousand days and I played the video on the internet. That excuse that you're saying right now, you would look like a fucking clown because you didn't do your shit. Okay. That's the truth that nobody wants to admit. You either are, or you fucking aren't. You're either doing it or you're not doing it. And all the shit we tell ourselves, you know, all I'm stupid. I come from fucking white trash, all this shit. It's all bullshit. If you're fucking do it,

the results will be there. Eventually it might take you a little bit longer. It took me a really long time because guys, the truth is I'm not that fucking smart. You know, you got like, like i played up like dude yeah it took me 23 years to get here but yeah because that's a fucking idiot

you know what i'm saying like you guys should be able to do it a lot faster than me and the only reason that i know all this shit now that makes me sound smart is because i fucked up every motherfucking way you can fuck up like all the fuck ups bro i did them all and i could tell you all about them and that's why i sound like i know what the fuck i'm talking about so if i can fucking do it bro we call that experience yeah bro and i got a lot okay but like dude if i can do that this is why i'm so fucking passionate about it and this is why take, take my passion the wrong way. The reason I'm so fucking passionate about winning for you fuckers is because if I could fucking do it, I know that you can do it. I know you fucking can. I know you can because I know what the fuck I am. I'm a fucking idiot,

dude. I'm a fat little fucking idiot from south st. Louis, missouri that Is just willing to get his ass beat over and over and over again and and not step in the same fucking place again you know like That's it and I keep moving bro. And that's my only fucking secret. That's all I got Dude, every fucking team I have in this building the motherfuckers are smarter than me But you guys think that the people like me have some sort of fucking superpower. They fucking don't. They're just willing to fucking move no matter what's going on. And when they fucking learn a lesson, they don't try. They try not to repeat the fucking mistake again, you know,

and that is fucking it, bro. I am convinced. If you are willing, whatever your dream is, if you are willing to go after your dream and you are willing to not quit and you are willing to, and you have the, you have the mental capacity because you do have to have a certain level of mental capacity, but it's not like what you think. Like your motherfuckers think you got to be Elon Musk or some shit. No. If you have the mental capacity to do what we're all taught when we're literally two or three years old, which is this, when you touch that hot stove and it burns your fucking finger and you don't touch it again, if you have that lesson in you and you can live that

lesson and you can not quit, bro, you, you will get where the fuck you want to go. It's, I believe it. It's inevitable. Yeah. It's inevitable. It's inevitable result of the pursuit. It's what's going to happen because along the way you're go, all these little mistakes

that you make when you touched, cause there's going to be a million stoves that you're going to touch, right? And they all going to look different. Yeah. You're going to, you're going to not understand that that's not something, you know. So you're going to get burned a whole bunch of times. But what happens is through the time of you getting burned,

because you lack the capacity mentally to not make the same mistake, what happens is you learn a whole lot about a whole fucking lot, okay? And as you progress in time because you're not quitting, your skill set is getting sharper. You're getting more dialed in. You're starting to able to see all the fucking stoves

and all their forms much more quickly. Right? Yeah. And that allows you to use the tools that you've created through experience to navigate things quickly that would take inexperienced people long periods of time. This goes back to the success ladder thing that I said. If somebody who's at 20 years wants to take you from three to 15, they can do that in a fucking

day. If you're cool, if you're a dick, they kick you off the fucking ladder, push it back 15 years. That's right. Cause they tell all their motherfucking friends, hey, don't ever fuck with that guy. See how that guy's doing me? They'll do you like that too. And those motherfuckers will never be fucked with. It's the truth. It's how it works.

Go listen. What was the episode? 108? 104 with me and Ed? Go listen to that episode. We had a good conversation about it. But I'm convinced, bro, that's all it episode. We had a good conversation about it, but I'm convinced, bro. That's all it takes. That's all it fucking takes, but people, but it's, you know, that's hard. It's hard to wake up every day and execute over and over and over and over and over and over

and over again. It's hard to get burnt over and over and over and over and over and over. Bro, if I did an episode on all the ways I've been burned, it would be a long episode, right? But I'm thankful for every single time because every single time I was able to take the burn and create the positive solution out of it and move forward with that. And that's all you can do, dude. And if that's how you play the game, you're going to win. You're going to win at some level. You know what I mean? Maybe you're going to're gonna win in your office maybe you own a company your company will start to win but like you have to be willing to go and you have to be willing to endure and you have to train yourself to endure and that's why we talk about the live hard program because that's what it teaches you so that was a fucking awesome awesome show was it yeah Yeah. I don't know, man. No, it was three. That was fucking, that was fire.

All right, cool. I know, well, I pay you. You have to say that. So I hope you guys enjoyed the show. That's more important. DJ definitely likes the show. Well, if you'd like it, share it. Yeah.

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