REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 401. Q&AF: Gossip In The Workplace, Potential Executive & Mindset For Huge Power List Tasks

Episode Date: October 20, 2022

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to eliminate the toxic gossip in the workplace, what's the best way to screen for potential executives in your company, and what your mindset should be for tackling a massive Power List task.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest sake of body to lies to fakeness and delusions of modern society. Welcome to motherfucking reality, guys. Today, we have Q and AF. That's where you can submit your questions, and I will answer them live here on the show. You submit those questions to- Email those questions in, guys, to askandyandandyfussella.com. Yeah, give me what you got, dude. How can I make you better? How can I help you?

How can I make you more successful? How can I make you better at whatever it is you do? That's what we do here. We are unlike most other podcasts. Okay, we have multiple shows within the show Q and AF is the one you're listening to right now But other times that you tune in we might have what's called CTI CTI is Cruise the Internet and what we do on that show is we put up headlines on the screen usually three or four We discuss them. We talk about what could be true, what probably isn't true, and why they are propagating us

with these untruths when they are happen to be untrue. We give our opinion. We make fun of it. It's a humor-based show on all the shows. We have a sense of humor here, unlike many of the people out there in the world. So if you don't have a sense of humor, this is not the show for you. Turn the channel, go listen to someone else. I don't give a fuck.

Okay. But basically our premise with CTI is for you to understand that the foundational principles of freedom are required for you to be successful in business and life. For those of you that don't know my history, I'm an entrepreneur. I've been fairly successful. And I have one of the most successful podcasts of all time called the MFCEO Project. The MFCEO Project does stand for

motherfucking CEO. And what we did on that show was we brought all of the lessons that I've learned over the number of decades that I've been in business and we taught them to people and all of those things that I taught, by the way, uh, I'd say that's probably the gold standard of entrepreneurship lessons. I think it's widely accepted. That's the case. Uh, you can go back and listen to those episodes, the first 300 episodes in this feed. What you have to understand and why we have CTI

mixed in with all of this personal development content is because without freedom, none of that shit that I did for all those years or any of the tips that I give you or any of the tools I give you or any of the hacks that I give you or any of the tools I give you or any of the hacks that I give you or any of the advice I give you about winning works. Okay. So those of you that want to win, those of you that want to be rich, you want to be successful, you want to be wealthy, you want to make a difference, whatever your reasons are for wanting that. Okay. I'm not here to judge, but what I am here to tell you is that you cannot have that without fucking freedom. Okay. So understand that it's important that you listen

to both, both kinds of content, how we preserve collectively the opportunity for freedom to win. Okay. And then also how we tactically win, which is what we're going to talk about today. Other times when you tune in, we have real talk. Real talk is four to 20 minutes of me just ranting about what I think is valuable and what I see in society that needs to be fixed collectively or individually. And then we have full length. And full length is the episode that is most like most of the other podcasts. It's sort of an interview episode, but it's not really an interview.

It's more of a conversation. And I bring on successful, interesting, wealthy, kick-ass motherfuckers. And we talk about how you can be the same because the ultimate truth that no one wants to share with you guys is that everybody's the same. And all the things that you see in myself

or anybody else that you happen to look up to or want to learn from or be like or emulate, they're all human beings, dude. They all have the same issues that you have. They've learned to overcome them. Okay. This idea of luck or being in the right place at the right time, that might be true once in a while, but it's not the standard. It's not the norm and it's not how you're going to fucking get there. You're not not gonna get lucky you know you don't have rich relatives are gonna leave you inheritance you don't have some sort of special skill that everybody else doesn't have and neither

do I and so the premise of the show is how to be individually great and while we're being individually great we make the world a better place so that's what the show is about now we do have a fee for the show. And the fee is if you like the show, share the show. If the show makes you laugh, share the show. If you learn something you didn't know before, share the show. If it's good advice, share the show. If it helps you, share the show.

Because guess what? I could make eight figures a year running ads on the show, and I don't do that. Because I don't like that when I listen to other people's stuff. And I know you don't either. So let's just leave it at that. I deliver value to you. You share the show. Now, I do have one advertisement I'm going to run. And the advertisement I'm going to run right now is for Arte Syndicate Live. And my lead and I have Arte Syndicate. Many of you know that it is one of the premier, if not the premier entrepreneurship networking group in the whole world. We are doing a live event in Nashville, November 5th, and there is a live stream available for that. I believe we

are sold out of tickets now, but there is a live stream option available that you can watch from home. That's available at artesyndicate.com so if you're interested in that i have to mention it now i only have a limited amount of time today dj so we're gonna have to get through it rapid fire yeah rapid fire uh that's the co-host dj hello children yeah and uh sometimes he tells jokes most of the time they're bad uh but that's the show man That's how we do it. So what do we got today, man? I got some good ones for you.

I know you do. You always do. Yeah, let's get into it, bro. What's going on today? I have been so busy today. Honestly, I have no idea either. Yeah, I've had my head. You're mostly kind of like productive.

Yeah, I've had meeting after meeting after meeting. I just had like a three-hour meeting with Eric Greitens about some cool shit that he's working on. Yeah. I've had meeting after meeting after meeting. I just had like a three hour meeting with Eric Gritens about some cool shit that he's working on. Yeah. I told these guys, I came in, I'm like, all right,

we're about to record. But then I look, I'm like, oh shit, he's at a meeting. Yeah. I'm going to get my workout in real quick. Yeah.

Did you get it in? I had to squeeze it in. You know, talking about, I think, you know, what we talked about on the show yesterday might've got skipped over by most people, know what's going on in the world guys like our our our system is crumbling right and we can look at that one of two ways we can look at that as oh the system's crumbling

or we can look at that as oh the system's crumbling and we can build something that actually makes better sense than what we had before. And it's not this globalist communist, you know, you'll own nothing and fucking like it shit. It is real freedom. It is real American freedom. It is a truly free country with individual rights and opportunity. And I'm really excited about what I think will come out of all of this uh as as demoralizing and as frustrating as it can be it's chaotic yeah it's crazy i think it's

important that all the good americans and the people who believe in real freedom and the people who are looking at what's going on and getting tired of the lies tired of the deception tired of the fucking tyranny uh to realize that we do have an opportunity here to come together in common sense and build a system that actually works to benefit the people, which is what this country was founded on in the first place. So I'm slowly starting to get real excited. I'm concerned because I do think that things are going to get worse. I think they're going to get way worse. A lot of you guys in business, you're feeling it right now. Dude, business're going to get way worse. You know, um, a lot of you guys in business, you're feeling it right now. Like, dude, business is going to be harder and harder to execute. And you know,

what's going on right now, uh, for those of you who are entrepreneurs and are operating a business, um, you know, you're seeing inflation take away people's purchasing power. You're seeing your costs go up. You're seeing your shipping costs go up. You're seeing, uh, your raw material cost of goods sold go up and everything is moving up. And what's happening is customers are becoming more selective with where they spend the available money they do have left. And the best way for you to weather this storm is to become great at what you do and to become better and become the best option for them to spend their money with you. And, um, I think for the businesses that make it through what's going to happen in this country, there's going to be massive opportunity, uh, but not everybody's going to make it through.

And, you know, a lot of you motherfuckers that have been like yelling at me for the last three years while I've done this real AF project, uh, which I've done for you, by the way, and you've just chosen to listen to the personal development stuff, but ignored the societal, political, socioeconomic, world economic situation, you guys probably won't make it. You're not informed. You don't understand what's happening. And so remember, all these things going on in your business, I've explained along the way that these were going to happen. All of these things that you're having to deal with in your business right now, where things are getting a little bit constricted after the last 12 years of total fucking bliss and productive growth, the best time we ever had in this country of growth, now you're not living in the same world anymore. And it's not going to become a different world. It is a different world already. And because you've chosen to ignore what's going on in the world, the situation has gotten worse and worse and worse and worse. And so those of

you who are entrepreneurs, those of you who are wanting to build a business, you should listen to what the fuck I have to say about the shit going on in the world, because I've told you this whole entire time that this was going to happen and i've explained step by step by step by step and i've said some uncomfortable things i said some things that that you believe maybe you don't agree with or maybe you think my politics are trash but some that was uncomfortable for you to say i hate saying this you know what i'm saying yeah but i won't say it because i care about the people listening to the show more than i care about the people who hate what i have to say for how

you say it yeah i don't give a bro here's the point the point is the reason we are in this situation and the reason you're feeling a squeeze and the reason that you're having more difficulty and the reason uh you know it's up your business is because you've chosen to stick your head in the sand on all these other issues that I've been covering. And now you're reaping what you sowed. Yeah. Okay.

So now would be a good time to start paying attention. Now would be a good time to, uh, really get on the freedom train, bro. Get involved, bro. Yeah. And get engaged. I'll say this real quick. So, um, I was actually, I was going to wait, but fuck it. Uh, so I got selected to be

uh an election judge for st louis county you know i'm saying like we talk about getting involved what can we do right yeah and i got fucking selected yeah you didn't tell me that it would just fucking happen not long ago um like an hour ago um yeah i got fucking select what does that mean so that means i'm gonna be at the ballots. They're putting me somewhere in North County. We know how North County is, but they said there's no Republican demographic up there, so they need somebody up there. No, hold on.

There's a massive Republican demographic up there right now. Right now? There hasn't been before. That's what the person was saying. Yes. It was a funny phone conversation. But it's necessary. Listen, the black communities have woken up oh fuck yeah there's still some people who are still indoctrinated into that but they're getting it oh yeah well i mean how refreshing would it be to come to you know you go place your fucking vote

and you're reassured because you see a fellow black republican fucking ready that right there with you remember when tyreek came up to us when we were doing the blake schneider memorial yeah so 24 year old young man named tyreek and he's listening to the show because he listens so what's up bro love you man uh cream soda yeah we'll tell that story in a second he definitely called me out for my whiteness on my cream soda preference but it's all good yeah you know i'm saying we we had a blake schneider memorial um who was a friend of ours who was killed in the line of duty uh very close to hq our old hq um we raised some money for his family and other families who have lost um police officers in the line of duty, right?

Charities called Backstoppers here in St. Louis. And it's our number one contribution. That and 30 for the kids are where we try to raise money most of the time. And so we have a 5K and Tyreek showed up. I've never met him before, never seen him before. We start the 5K. We're not even through the first quarter of the first lap. shoulders up right next to me and he's like hey man you don't know me i'm tyreek you reach out his hand shake hands start talking he walked the whole 45

or the whole 5k with dj and i and we talked the whole time and uh 24 year old young man wants to create success he's working he's in a trade right now yeah he's working hvac that's right i mean like working hard he's working yeah and you know he's from uh a bad part of the city crime-wise okay and we started talking and one of the things he was like he's like dude i grew up in a Democrat family. You know, I, I was,

I was raised a Democrat. My parents were Democrats. My grandparents were Democrats. And he said, you know, we're starting to understand what's been going on. Um, they,

my family gave me a lot of trouble when I first started trying to talking about these things, but he said, they get it. And we're starting to, you know, and, and dude that

it's reassuring that whole talk for that like i don't know if like god like put him there that day for that reason but like you know a lot of times guys you know i don't post on social anymore so i don't see you guys you know i'm saying like i don't see the support i don't see the comments i don't see and then when people talk shit you know sometimes but sometimes you guys don't come out like the way you used to come out and so i don't you know like so i'm always wondering if if like people are hearing what i'm saying or if it matters or if it and like that day particularly i was having a pretty down day and then here's this young man from my hometown who's telling me how our show has helped inform him which has helped him inform his family

and get them to understand the big picture of manipulation that's been happening in black communities for for literally 50 years and he speaks out on it too yeah and uh he speaks out on it yeah what's his social uh it's this is gonna sound real real ghetto. Sorry. Sorry, Tyreek. But it's 100 Mil Fitness. Hey. Okay. H-U-N-N-I-T M-I-L-L Fitness. We call that cultural flavor. Yeah, that's all it is. There's definitely more to salt and pepper. You know what I'm saying?

Salt, pepper, cream, soda. Fuck. You're a good young man, man. Yeah, Tyreek, you're the fucking man. And I really appreciate you coming up that day because i think it meant more to me than what you probably realize um but you know i'm seeing it i'm seeing people individually come to me or write me or or send me letters that are saying like bro you know when you first started talking about this shit i thought you guys were like

you know these far right people they said yeah and uh and and those letters almost always come from the black community so it's it's really fucking cool yeah and um i i think you know it's not republican or democrat you know like i say often on the show i don't really care for a lot of the Republicans either, but we do need someone to get in. We need people to be in our government system right now who are going to stop the bleeding and start to correct course. And we need to work towards a better reformed America that is not communist and not Marxist in its thinking, but is based on common sense freedom moving forward. You know, I offered some examples on the show yesterday, you know, about the legal system

where we should have repercussions when people falsely accuse. Um, there, there should be, uh, common sense taxing going on, not, not this overly, you know, this overly abusive tax code that we live under. There's all kinds of special circumstances for the people that make our laws and rules that we have to live by, but they don't. There's all kinds of things that need to be reformed. And the way this is accomplished, guys, is through cultural reform. It's accomplished by all of us uniting and coming together and realizing like, hey man, these powers that be, the media, the politicians, the world economic forum, motherfucker, they do not have any of our best interests in mind. They're working on their best

interests and trying to sell us on why it's in our interest to do those things when it clearly is not. And anybody who has a brain that functions can look around and say, clearly things are worse. And they shouldn't be this way. We live in a free country. We should be fucking free. We shouldn't be oppressed by our own government or paying for people to go into government

and come out worth hundreds of millions of dollars because they have special privileges that we don't have. Those things have to stop. And that's not far right. That's not alt right. That's not even fucking right. It's free. And we have to get on that same page, man.

So anyway, shout out to Tyreek, bro. Appreciate that entire conversation. I love watching you hustle every single day. So what do we got for Q&A? Because I am limited on time. Yeah, I got some good ones, brother. Let's knock these out. Question number one.

Andy, we are a small company of 35 employees. That's a good size company, dude. Most companies never get 35 employees, bro. Don't sell yourself short. And have been recently running into some issues with team members gossiping about one another. Okay. What has been your experience and what has your experience been like with gossip in the workplace and what suggestions do you have on eliminating it and the toxicity it creates?

You know, unfortunately we live in a culture where gossip is like a currency for people. There's a lot of people who gossip. There's a lot of people who, they get attention on the downfall of others uh they like to celebrate the hardships of others and this is all a reflection of their own miserable lives okay anybody out there who gets their attention from tearing others down they're doing so because they lack something in their own lives that's the first thing to understand there's a human nature aspect aspect to gossip that really cannot be eliminated. And it is a active, intentional discipline to not gossip for every single person. I'm not saying I'm above it. I'm saying we have to work to eradicate that

from our individual character. And that's been something i've had to work on too um i was never a big gossiper but uh i don't think that gossip is a good thing at all i think gossip's for weak people i think drama's for weak people i think that's how weak people get derive the value of their own existence is to gossip and create drama right most of the time it's not even fucking true shit well well we live in an attention economy, right? So a lot of people have learned that drama and gossip actually get them attention. And so that's why we have this situation in our culture right now. And to eradicate it from your workplace is not as simple as coming in and saying, hey, no gossiping. That's not going to work. What it is, is one, you have to define the values that you expect in your workplace. Okay. And then you have to

live those values, uh, all of the time. And so, you know, we used to have this problem back, like how I corrected this problem as much as it can be corrected uh was really more so i made a rule like 10 years ago 10 years ago it's probably 12 or 13 years ago um about gossiping and here was the rule it was very simple i don't care what you say to me i don't care you can say anything to me, I don't care. You can say anything to me, open door policy. We can talk directly. Okay. But if I find out that you're saying the shit to other people, I will fire you. Okay. So what, what, and I did that a lot of times. Okay. I enforced that rule and it wasn't just about me. It was about how they did it to anybody. Okay. If someone, and what it did was it created a culture where for the most part, now I know there's obviously situations that I don't catch or don't hear about or don't see, but

for the most part, it creates a culture of direct communication where if someone has an issue, they can walk up to someone and, and discuss the issue. How it's supposed to be. That's right. Solve the issue face-to-face, give a hug, give a handshake with respect and walk out. I personally believe that as a culture,

one of the biggest things that we need to correct, and this is not just in your company, but this is in culture in the world, is that we need to get really, we need to get back to a more respectful way of dealing with each other. And that means having discussions face-to-face with issues that we truly have with a productive solution in mind. And the people who gossip and drama for attention, in my opinion, those are the people that should be shunned.

Those are the people that cause the pain for society. Those are the people that create a situation where most people won't even come out and do great things because they're so afraid of those people. Well, I have to tell you guys, those people never amount to fucking anything. They never amount to anything. They're irrelevant people. I've had many, many, many of those people in my life and I've just kept moving and they've kept doing their thing and their thing eventually quit working and they had to find a new thing. And then they disappeared in their irrelevance because they're not providing any real value. Okay. So you can't let the fear of gossip or frustration of gossip stop you from

doing what it is you want to do. Because if you stop, you're stopping for a false reality that doesn't even really affect you. What you'll find is that you continue to move and you continue to progress and you continue to do what it is you know that you need to do, you will continue to move forward and win. And this is a big myth that people have when it comes to external forces stopping them, right? Like if you say, okay, well, why did you stop that? Whatever that is, like your momentum, your business, your fitness, your this or that, it will always be some sort of external circumstance that has to do usually with someone else. And if you would have just kept moving, that situation would have changed just like the weather changes every single

day. And you would be that much further down the road and the truth of the matter is is nobody stops you you stop you nobody stopped you that think about a time in your life dude when you stop because things got upsetting or someone said something or someone's you know made up a rumor about you or someone fucking did something to you that didn't stop you you decided to stop. Sometimes it's just the thought of somebody. That's right. That's right. Oh, bro, that's the biggest thing.

People talk about haters, right? Right, right, right, right. Look, dude, for most people, they've never experienced a real hater. They've never had someone poison their dog. They've never had someone break in their house. They've never had someone pour sugar in their gas tank. They've never had someone flatten their tires. They've never had someone break in their house. They've never had someone pour sugar in their gas tank. They've never had someone flatten their tires. They've never had someone stalk them.

They've never had someone paint some shit on the inside of their fucking, uh, of their house. Guess what? I've had all of those things happen to me. That's real hate. Right. Okay.

People saying things about you. That's not real. Are you thinking they'll say something. Well, that's the thing is most people don't even get to the point where people actually say things. Are saying the shit. Yeah. They're imagining the worst case scenario.

Okay. So they tell themselves this story about what people may think if they go out and do whatever it is they're wanting to do. And what ends up happening is they create the scenario in their brain of what could happen. And so because of what could possibly happen, they choose to take zero action or they choose to stop action. And you know what that means? That means that your own biggest hater is actually you. Right.

So maybe give some thought. Come on down. Congratulations. Yes. Like give some thought to that, bro. Right. So maybe give some thought. Come on down, gradually. Yes. Like give some thought to that, bro. Yeah. Most of the time, it's you seeing the worst case scenario and choosing to not take action

because you've seen something happen to someone else or you've had something happen to you. Well, if you've already had that thing happen to you and you're trying to stop it from happening again, do you not realize that it's already happened? Right. And you handled it and you moved through it.

Still here. You see what I'm saying? Yep. 100%. I know this isn't necessarily the question, but I think it's relevant to the topic. And I think the best way to rid your office of of gossip is to create a culture intentionally of direct communication if someone dude i've had employees sit down right in front of my face and say bro i don't fucking like you you know that's fine we don't have to like each other bro we gotta work together right right and through that direct communication like

i'm brother i'm not like hey you're fucking fire for not liking me like you're open to say those things it's clear communication okay and and from those clear communications resolutions usually arise okay now sometimes the resolutions aren't there sometimes the resolution is we don't work together anymore right however there's respect there because of how it was handled. And so having an open door policy when you're a manager or a leader of a small group, you know, is very important. You know what I mean? I think that having that open door policy and that open discussion is one of the main keys to having a great environment where there isn't so much cancer in the water,

right? Because dude, like a lot of these people that come to work at your guys' businesses, dude, you got to remember, they're not familiar with how you operate. They don't understand what the game is here. They don't understand how this is. And you're not intentionally designing a culture, so it's free game. So they're just bringing in all their bad habits, all the shit they've learned out there in the real world or on social media or in their Facebook group where they trash everybody into your office. So it's very important for you to have an intentional culture in regards to cancerous behavior. Okay, this isn't about gossip. It's about cancerous behavior because that'll become cancerous behavior. Gossip is cancerous behavior, but it's not the only cancerous behavior. So you want to build a culture based

around no cancerous behavior. And the way you do that is you allow for bottom up communication that is open and honest and fair and real without punishment for that communication. And so what ends up happening is people start to trust that they can come to you so they don't go to the fucking person next to them and say, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And if they do, that's cancerous behavior and it's grounds for fucking termination. Exactly. Love it. Any question number two? Andy, what do you look for in potential executives? I have about 15 employees and I've been needing someone to manage some back end things for the company. They would be leading a team of nine or so. The issue is, is that they're all amazing employees,

with the exception of one who just isn't management material. But no one has really emerged as, quote unquote, the one. How do you handle this? Well, I mean, there's a couple of different ways to handle this, and companies do this a number of different ways. How I handle it is not necessarily the only way. Most companies in that scenario would probably hire someone with a nice resume who has got a C-level executive title at some other place. You have to pay them a lot of money and they're going to come in and operate the thing. That's- Outside in. Yes. That is the solution that most companies will do. And that's also why most companies

have a shitty culture. I have always been a believer from promoting within. It sounds like the way this person worded that. It wants to do it, yeah. Yeah, it wants to do that, which I believe is the right way. It's a slower way, but it's the for sure way. And so in that scenario where no one's emerged, the reason no one's probably emerged is because they're not aware that you're actually looking for a new career for one of them. So, you know, you have to let people know in your ability to paint the vision for the upward mobility of the company that there are these opportunities, right? Like as the leader of the company, one of the biggest things that you have to do if

you want to continue to grow is that your vision has to be communicated clearly over and over and over and over again. And every single correction, every single talk, every single communication, every single contact that you have with the team should be tied into the company growing as a whole and their position that they want to achieve eventually. And so what I think is probably most likely happening here is they don't understand the opportunity that's available because if they did and they truly understood and believe that you were going to grow the company in that direction, they would be fighting over it. They'd be a fucking gladiator. Yeah, right.

And you don't want that either. You don't want to create a hostile competition. You want that either. Like you don't want to create a hostile competition. You want healthy competition. For sure. So my suggestion is to get them all in a fucking room, including the one, you know, the runt. Right. Right. Get them in there too.

Yeah. And say, hey guys, look, this is what I'm trying to do. This is what we're trying to do here. Okay. You're all part of this. Right. We're going to need this and we're going to need that and we're going to need this and we're going to need that. And I can tell you, what would they say? I have nine people. Yeah, it'd be running nine people. So a team of 10. Okay. So your whole

team of 10 for your company to get where the fuck you want it to go. And I don't even have to, I don't even have to know where your company's going. I'm just telling you to get any reasonable size of company, that team of 10 should all be brought up as leaders because you're going to need that many leaders to build a company of any sizable significance or wealth yeah period that's right let me let me ask you there's any follow-up on that because you know you're the executive team here in this company first one for uh for example man you got some you got some some tenured fucking people people that have been in the ground for you know over 10 years you know i'm saying looking back at

it now was there a way like when you when when these employees those same executives when you first saw them when you first hired them like did you know that that person would eventually no be running the company what was that like what Like, what was that like? Just quickly. Fuck no. These, all of our guys, um, all of our team members on the executive level, except one.

Yeah. Except one of them started here at $7 a fucking hour or whatever the fucking minimum wage was at the time. Right. Yeah. Um, and I did exactly what I just communicated over and over and over again. And they're, these are the people that chose to come with me. You know, there's been, there's been hundreds of people who I've given this talk to that have chosen to not come with

me. And that's okay too, because they don't have to be on my path. They don't have to be on our mission. They don't have to like, bro, sometimes people leave and they go do other things and they become successful at those things. And I personally am equally as proud of those people because what they did was they took the lessons that they were able to absorb here while they were here and go create some awesome shit. Hey, where are you going there from? Oh yeah.

But dude, I don't even need the credit. I fucking think it's awesome. You know what I mean? So um, the you know, I think it's important to remember that everybody has their own path. Everybody has their own journey. Everybody wants their own life and some people you know, you could have the greatest opportunity in the world. It's just not gonna be for them. And that's that's fucking okay. That's a healthy way to think you know what i'm saying just no different than a

relationship like like a lot of you motherfuckers out there in these relationships tied up with these people and you're like i fucking have to have them and if they leave i'm fucking devastated and i'm this and that well how much you know and then they break up right and then they're fucking trashing each other they're talking shit on each other bro you motherfuckers that do that are the clowns of the internet. Most annoying people out there, bro. People who are together and then trash each other publicly are the clowns of the fucking internet. Oh, like we all didn't just watch you for the last however many years make post after post after post after post of how awesome this person was. And now because they want to move

to something else or you wanted to, or now they're a total piece of shit. The fuck out of here, bro. Nobody buys that shit. The internet's smarter than that now. You know, it's just like when, when I don't know, it keeps receipts now, bro. It's just like 10 years ago when a customer would just destroy a company online and everybody believed it now people are smart enough to understand that there's perspective and sides to a situation yes so the internet has gotten smart so stop doing that you look fucking ridiculous but the point is if you had an attitude of okay i understand that i appreciate everything that we've had together, but I can appreciate that we're doing this. Yeah. And bro, think how much heartache and frustration and pain having a perspective like that will actually save you. You see what I'm saying?

Right. But you have to have self-confidence and you have to believe in yourself too many people out there are attaching their identities to a relationship or a job or a career or a fucking outcome that is dependent on someone else your happiness should never be dependent on a partner or a fucking job or a. It should be dependent on who the fuck you are and the standard you hold to yourself. This is why 75 hard and live hard is such a great way to live because what it does is it teaches you to believe in yourself and know your own worth, your real worth as a human being. So you don't need things. You don't need people to believe in you. You know what you're capable of and you're able to truly believe that.

And if someone walks away from you, you're okay with it because you're a bad motherfucker. Like you see what I'm saying? And most people have never lived in that reality themselves. And so they suffer because they're afraid to lose the thing. Right. And so a lot of you guys have a lot of work to do. The Live Hard program is a great place to start, episode 80. You can listen to it there.

You can also listen to it on episode 208. But this is what will teach you how to get to this point of what I'm talking about, of not fearing separation, right? But it goes into business, just like we're talking now. And, you know, you have to be, your intent has to be right for your team, bro. They could sense that shit. Like if you have fucking nine people

and you go up there and you tell them some bullshit story about how the fuck you're going to grow the company and this and that, you know, they might believe it once if you're really good. Right, but they're going to start building this track history of you. Well, no, they're going to observe, are you actually doing that, you know, they might believe it once if you're really good. Right. But they're going to start building this track history. Well, no, they're going to observe. Are you actually doing that?

Right. Like a lot of you guys out there as bosses, CEOs, entrepreneurs, like you're, you're looking at your, your employees the complete wrong way. Like you're seeing them as a revenue generator for your personal life. And if that's all they are to you, then you can't expect them to ever really give a fuck about your company. Okay. But if you actually do give a fuck about their career and you see it as what I think, what I call, you know, uh, responsible capitalism or ethical camp capitalism, which is how I see things. I look at every person in this building and I say,

fuck dude, I'm responsible for all these motherfuckers, all their bills, all their fucking life, all their progress. Like if we don't win, like as a company, regardless of me, right? Like, cause I'm in a good spot in life, regardless of my own spot. If we don't win, I fucking fail them. And that's how I look at it. That's how our team looks at it. You see what I'm saying? And so it's a perspective switch that you have to, it's really leadership maturity is what it is. Because dude, you should just assume

that you'll eventually get everything that you want. Everything you fucking want, you will get, okay? What about after that? What about when you have the income you want and you have the home you want and you have uh the lifestyle whatever it is i'm not saying what it is or it isn't but okay let's just assume as an entrepreneur right now you have that now what now what do you think it's cool that you have all that shit and those employees of yours are fucking having a hard time? What about their goals? What about their dreams? Yeah, that's real, bro. You see what I'm saying? And that's that, if you want a special company, that's the key. The key is the true intent. Okay. And that's an intent that you have to continue to

audit in your leadership team. You have to continue to audit in your culture. You have to continue to audit in yourself because even when you are in tune with this, you could still have moments because we are human beings of selfishness, right? That's like why one of our core values here is be selfless, all right? But regardless, dude, the point is you could solve this really fast in two ways. One, be better at painting the vision. Actually, three ways. Two, follow up on the vision that you promise. Okay.

And three, have the proper intent and responsibility for the livelihoods of your employees. That's right. If you do those three things, you will not have a problem with leadership emerging. Andy, guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three. Okay. You've talked about long-term goals, short-term goals, right? Tagging in this question specifically about the powerless. When you're about to attack a massive obstacle for the day or you have a huge critical task, what's your mindset like and what steps do you take to prepare yourself for it? Well, first of all, you got to realize

I've been doing this for a very long time, okay? I've been using this system for more than 20 years. I've also been in business for a very long time. So for me, I don't really think about it. Like there's no thought, like I don't have this, like, you know, rain dance or some shit I do before I fucking go. I've seen it. Yeah.

Uh, bro, come on. You're gonna do me like that. All right. I, it was a good dance. I love it. Secret sauce, baby. I got it. Yeah. There's going to do me like that? All right. It was a good dance. That's secret sauce, baby. I got it. Yeah. There's no salt and pepper in that motherfucker.

All right, look, dude. The truth is, you know, I've put in so much work for so long that it's just me checking things off as critical tasks is just part of my life and who I am at this point. Yeah. So there is no... It's like tying your shoes. Yeah your shoes yeah bro like i don't wake up in the day like like that's so like you know like when people say like oh i got this what's your morning routine right and they're like oh it's 15 minutes of tai chi right you know like fucking 10 more minutes of reflection and all these things i can appreciate that but there is no right way first of all okay and second of all i would only listen

to the motherfuckers who actually have the results to prove that this actually is a good way right like like if you know i don't know i'm not gonna get names but my point you guys know what the fuck that means yes if they haven't produced real shit and they aren't real and they don't know i'm not gonna get names but my point you guys know what the fuck that means yes if they haven't produced real shit and they aren't real and they don't have real success on a mass scale their morning routine uh doesn't necessarily work that's about the nicest way i can put it okay uh there has to be real world results that's the problem i have with like so many of these fucking coaches out there it's like you're coaching but what do you have to show for your methods of coaching like honey rambod has won 20 motherfucking olympias he's a pretty

good coach okay uh that's a real result tells me to boil water before i drink it i'll fucking do it that's what i'm saying dude but like you know there's especially in entrepreneurship and life coaching yeah there's a lot of people with shitty lives calling themselves lives coaches. There's a lot of people with no successful business other than, you know, selling you how to win shit. Like that doesn't make sense. Like it shouldn't make sense to you. So validate the real world results that the person's producing If they're trying to sell you on their morning routine.

Um, and by the way, it's not just their financial success. Like what the fuck does their life look like? What is their, where, where is their company? What are their employees like?

Right. Where, what's their, uh, you know, what's their lifestyle? What's their fitness look like? Are they like,

are they fit and healthy and in good shape and like taking care of business? Are they some like weasel little wormy dude, uh, that, you know, looks like shit that is trying to tell you how to fuck it on your morning routine. Motherfucker, what the fuck are you? What are you like? Let's be smart here. Right. That's all I'm saying. Um, so I can appreciate this for the beginner, right? Like you need to create an effective routine. But the mindset really ultimately comes down to what I call zero options mentality. Okay. Zero options mentality is the mentality that I just don't have another choice.

I don't have a choice. My other choice for not doing my critical tasks is actually digging ditches. I don't want to dig ditches. Right? Right. You have to understand this. This is the reality. You either are going to succeed or you are going to be everything that you're afraid of. You should consider that.

Everything you're afraid of becoming is the alternative to you not executing on your critical tasks. So what's better? And you should choose the harder path, like the immediate harder path, the delayed gratification path. Because I can tell you this, I've executed consistently for a very long time and it's been very difficult and it's been very, very frustrating and it's driven me literally insane a couple times. But the alternative was me living a life of digging fucking holes, which would have sucked way fucking worse.

And that's your choices. If you're 20 years old and you're listening here, that's your choice. Your choice is a little bit different than what mine probably was. Your choice is either win and become everything that you think you can be and everything you should be. And everything, in my opinion,

that you're obligated to be so that other people can see it's possible. Or you're probably going to be on government assistance you're probably going to be hooked up to metaverse you're probably going to be uh highly medicated you're probably going to be very overweight uh you're probably going to be very frustrated unhappy and depressed and uh you're probably gonna be fucking miserable and you won't be able to break out of it because you're in it too hard. So you have two choices. You can either become what you're afraid of becoming, or you could become the best version of your whole fucking life that you dream about, that you are afraid to tell anybody about because you're afraid they'll laugh at you.

And then you go out in public and execute against that for the next fucking 15 years, every single fucking day. So to me, I have no other choice because I'm not willing to accept digging holes. I'm not, I'm not doing it. I've dug enough fucking holes. Yeah. Okay. My life, whether what happens, it doesn't matter every single day, I'm going to wake up, I'm going to execute and I don't have a choice. And this is why the plan B mentality is so fucking toxic to success. You know, every, every time I say this, every time one of my videos goes viral about this, I get all these fucking idiots in the comments. Oh, only a moron doesn't have plan B. Okay. Let me see your results. Right. Right. Let me see your platform to talk on. Hold on. Hold on. Let

me see your life. Let me see your relationships. Let me see your relationships. Let me see your body. Let me see your fitness. Let me see your blood work. Let me see your fucking, your, uh, your financial statements. Let me see your company. Okay. And then maybe I'll listen to what the fuck you have to say. But until that, I'm telling you as someone who has a good representation of all those fucking things I just said, if you have a plan B, you're going to lose to someone who doesn't. That's the thing that people don't get, okay? Because a motherfucker who goes all in with zero option mentality, I'm going to do this or I'm going to fucking die doing it, will always beat the person who says, well, here's my plan.

And if this doesn't work, then I can do this. Go back to doing this. Yes, because that person is so much more heavily invested that even if they are a lesser skill set and have lesser resources, they will still beat the person who is not completely invested mentally. It's math, bro. No, no, no. It is, but it's mental investment.

Yeah. Do you get what I'm saying? Hell yeah. Does this make sense? Absolutely. Because every time I say it, I get all the internet experts saying, well, you're only a fucking idiot would have a plan B. Well, then I'm an idiot. Right. Okay. Because my plan is this. I'm going to fucking win or I'm going to die

on the process of winning. That is it. There's no other alternative for me. And there never will be an alternative. This is why most of the very successful, very wealthy people I know are also the hardest working people I know. The people who don't have to work anymore are the people that usually work the hardest. Do you think there's a coincidence in that? Do you see what I'm saying? You either have to decide to get hungry for life or at some point you will be starving this is not a temporary thing this is not three years it's not five years you have to build yourself into this machine that executes regardless of what the fuck is going on in the world regardless of what's going on in your life, regardless of, especially whether you feel like it or not, which most people can't even get past that, which is why most people are

most people. So we have to be honest with ourselves. If you want to win, if you want to dominate, if you want everything that you fucking say that you want on the inside of your heart, that you're embarrassed to even admit you have no other fucking option but to execute. So you're either about it or you're really full of shit and your actions tell the story. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm saying as a matter of fact, okay, your goals really are your goals and your actions will back that up or you're just spouting off bullshit like most people do. And most people, here's the

fucking great tragedy in this. Because people are like, Andy, why do you do this? Why do you care? Well, first of all, I have a huge fucking heart. But second of all, I've won being that person. I am the lazy motherfucker. I am the weak motherfucker. I am the flawed motherfucker.

And I was still able to figure out how to win with these simple systems of execution. So if I can do this coming from fucking nowhere in the middle of nowhere out here in Missouri to most of the world, most of the world came point where the fuck I live on a fucking map. Right. Okay. You can do the same. And that's why I'm so passionate about it. That's why you guys, you guys say, oh, he's so intense. Why is it? What the fuck? Is that's why I'm so passionate about it. That's why you guys, you guys say, oh, he's so intense. Why is it? What the fuck? Is that a character? No, I care because I know

what you are capable of. You just aren't aware of what you're capable of. And if you were aware of what you're capable of, you would be pouring yourself into that because it's a real outcome. It's a real outcome. You can have that, but you're not going to have it by spreading your resources across multiple plans and contingency plans because there's too much competition and there's too many people who are obsessed with becoming the best at what they do and obsessed with becoming the best that they can be in all areas that there's too many of those people to win half-assing it, no matter how much talent you have. So when I say don't have a plan B, that's what I mean. When I say have zero option mentality, this is what I'm talking about. I'm talking about a mentality of no other choice.

And by the way, that's an easy mentality to have when you don't have shit because you really don't have any options. And that's the most people, most people have that, right? The reason they get up and they go to work and take to a job they fucking hate is because they don't have any other options. They have to do it or they're fucking starved. But if you could trick your mind to always believe that to be the truth, as you escalate up through the ladders of success, holy shit, you can't be stopped because you don't have all the options. Yes, because comfort kills this mentality for most people. So my question to you is you might be doing pretty good. You might be pretty fit. Your bank account might look real nice. You might have a nice home,

drive a nice car, have a nice fucking life. But what could you be doing better? What could you be doing better? And if we're honest with ourselves, there's a whole lot of shit we could be doing better. And that shit that you could be doing better, that you're not doing better, somebody else is doing better. And that's the point and the realization that I talk about all the time. We live in the natural order. They may make you think that we don't. They may propagate you to the point of believing that everything is going to be equal,

even if they legislate it and do all these things. It never will be because of this fucking principle of natural order. There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their bank account. There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their fitness. There will always be people who are unsatisfied with their relationship capacities. There will always be people who want to get better in every single fucking area of life. It's just who the fuck they are. And those people will be the people who fucking win. End of story. So you don't really have a choice, bro. So you ask what my mindset is, what my routine is. I don't need a routine because I understand that if I don't execute,

I'm going to become what I'm most afraid of. Fucking love it, man. Fucking love it. Guys, Andy, that's three. Go pay that fee. Yeah, guys, I appreciate you guys. I love you guys. Please share the show. And as a reminder, the MFCEO project is coming back. I will have announcements on that over the next few weeks. I'm very excited about it. And I know you are too. So with that being said, please share the show.