REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 408. Q&AF: Giving Yourself Grace Vs. Making An Excuse, Need To But Can't Hire Someone & Dealing With Frustrations Throughout The Day

Episode Date: November 3, 2022

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to differentiate needing some grace for yourself vs. making an excuse, what to do when you've hit a glass ceiling in your business but cannot afford to hire someone on at the moment, and how to go throughout your day dealing with the all the inevitable frustrations.

What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we have q and af that is where you submit the questions and i give you the uh andy forsella answer um you could submit those questions and please submit your questions okay uh you could submit them to as email those questions in to ask andy and andy forsella.com and guys look i am here to help you understand what you're capable of okay if you think that for some reason i haven't heard all the same shit you guys have heard i didn't have my friends and my family and everybody that cared about me supposedly telling me that i was fucking crazy or that i had big dreams that were insane or that i

couldn't do this and that. And I should just go back to being a regular fucking poor me. Motherfucker, that's the way the world works. And that's what you are fighting against. And as someone who has climbed a little bit up the ladder of success, all right, that's me, by the way, I could tell you that that will never change. You're always going to have to face these things. So whatever your questions are, whatever you're dealing with, whatever you want to know about in regards to your own personal success journey, please submit those questions, dude, because that's what I want to do. I want to serve you guys. I want to help you guys. That's where I

get my most fulfillment from is when I see you guys fucking win. All right. That's why I'm starting back up the MSCO project with Vaughn. Uh, because dude, it's important and it's an obligation for you guys to go out and win. All right. If you win, someone else is going to win. If someone else wins, another person is going to win. And before you know it, we got a whole culture of motherfucking winners kicking ass and taking names in the United States of america once again all right so we have a duty to win and that duty uh i am here to serve that duty with you if you just submit me the shit that you want to know about yeah dude it's crazy

yeah like you might be one question away from fucking unlocking it all i got one question you know what gets me you know what gets me thinking about bro? Like I think about this all the time. Like you have great, great people, right? Great people in business, great athletes, uh, great authors, uh, just great greatness, right? Living, breathing, great. Yeah. yeah and and dude when people naturally look at these people they assume that these people have some that you know you and i and everybody else doesn't have right and and society beats this in us so hard through different channels right the education system all of them yeah like bro i mean just think about how whenever you you come out when you're you know a little kid and you say man hey you know

i want to be president and they're like oh little dj you could be president but if you say that same shit when you're a senior in high school they'll fucking throw your ass in a locker right so they beat it out of us they take it out of us through their own fucking failures and what they've experienced in their own lives they start to limit you based upon what they've been able to achieve and they ruin the potential of the youth through their own shortcomings and we have a major problem with that in america This is why I'm starting the fucking project up again, bro. Because the teachers of this country are fucking handicapping our kids to the point where, you know, when we talk about greatness, then this is what I was getting at.

Think of all the people who literally never try that were actually put here on this fucking planet to become the greatest ever. Bro, there's a basketball player out there greater than Michael Jordan that never fucking played. There's a fucking business icon out there greater than fucking Elon Musk that's never gotten the game because his friends and his family and the people around him told him that he was too stupid. How much wasted potential do we have in this country because of the negativity, right? And if you get out, and this is why I hate cancel culture so much.

If you get out of line one little step, they ruin your fucking life, okay? And then they definitely don't try. And you wonder why that is. Why is this? Because dude, cancel culture just isn't like something that society developed. We're seeing that right now. Who's canceling who and who's doing what?

The media, the fucking Hollywood execs, the fucking most powerful people in this fucking world. They decide what you can and can't say. And whenever they see someone step out of line line they crush them so fucking hard that it scares anybody else from ever even fucking trying to say why the fuck would i want to go through that yes right so how much greatness are we leaving on the motherfucking table in this country it's way more than people realize nobody talks about it okay so'm going to make it my fucking mission. Not that I don't already have enough shit to worry about to become the solution for these fucking younger kids. You know, the 17, 18, 19, 20, 22, 25, these people who are just getting started. And by the way, if you're 45

and you're just snapping the fuck out of it, you're like, fuck, I want something different. Guess what? You're only like 50% through your productive life cycle of your life. And you're just snapping the fuck out of it. You're like, fuck, I want something different. Guess what? You're only like 50% through your productive life cycle of your life. And you think you're too fucking old. I'm here for those motherfuckers. I'm here for every single motherfucker that wants to wake the fuck up and become something that they were told they couldn't fucking be. And like, dude, I'm going to solve the problem. I'm going to solve the problem.

I can't fucking wait to launch this new show. Super excited about it. Anyhow, I'm ready to run through a wall. That's neither here nor there. Send me your questions because you may not realize this, but I am zero percent different than any of you. Everything you see in me that you admire about me or that you wish you had or whatever, bro, I bled for that shit.

I got my ass kicked for that shit. I lost fucking friends for that shit. Okay? I paid dues to have all these skills. You know how many podcasts I've recorded? A shit ton. And you guys think I just came out of the podcast world and started whooping everybody's ass. No.

Go back and listen to the beginning of the fucking MFCEO project, dude. That's why I leave it up because it's so fucking bad. It should inspire you to understand where you can go if you just keep going. But anyway, I could go on and on and on. Oh, and by the way, uh, live uh sold out it's this saturday but we do have a live stream it's at rta syndicate.com uh i would think about fucking buying it because you're going to get a full day worth of fucking really good shit and i don't even know what we're charging for it uh but whatever we charge i can promise you that there will be at least one thing that you take that will make you 100x that value. Okay. And it won't be just one thing. You'll have a whole list

if you pay attention. All right. So go fucking sign up for that. And I don't ever tell you guys to buy shit, but if you're trying to win, this is a good thing to invest in. What else? I think that's it. We have some other shows usually. All right. I got way fucked up today. Excuse my disorganization. Sometimes when you tune in, we have CTI. CTI is cruise the internet. That's where we talk about the social issues of the day. We make fun of the social issues, make fun of the media. We laugh at these fucking clowns and we talk about what the actual problem is and how we can overcome it as individuals, uh, collectively as a community as well. Uh, then we have real talk. Real talk is five to 20 minutes of real shit that you need to hear. All right. And then we have full length. Full length is, uh, like sort of like what you're

used to seeing on these, on some of these other podcasts where they interview people, except I interrupt the people that I interview consistently throughout the show a hundred fucking times. And if you don't like that, then go listen to someone else. But that's the basis of the show. And there is a fee for the show. And the fee is tell a motherfucker about it. As you'll notice, I don't run fucking 20 minutes of ads in a 40-minute show. All right? The reason I don't do that isn't because I wouldn't like to have the fucking money. I would, but I'm not

selling my soul to some other fucking motherfucker who wants to control what I say. It ain't ever going to happen. So in lieu of that, I would appreciate if you would share the show because I pass up on eight figures a year of income just because of that. All right. So please share the show. Now we've got Q and AF, right? Yeah. All right. We got, what do you got? I got some good up on eight figures a year of income just because of that all right so please share the show now we got q and a f right yeah all right we got what you got you got some good ones for you you always do by the way that's dj dj is the co-host of the show uh what's your instagram dj uh guys follow me on ig at uh at officially d johnson he talks a lot of shit he's a funny guy he's also highly talented what do you do man you do all kinds of stuff yeah well i mean you know mainly uh do really really well at being

you know an emotional uh shadow person yeah yeah you are good at that uh yeah and uh no dude this dude listen you guys don't understand he produces the show he's a fucking he runs the security detail for my whole fucking company and for myself personally. He fucking plays the piano. He fucking sings. He gets called all kinds of racist names. You know, the black face of white supremacy.

Uncle Tom. I mean, this guy, he's accomplishing it all. It's a long resume. Yeah. Oh, a long resume. Yeah. Oh, fuck, dude. On another note, it seems like this crazy fucker shit is falling apart in the world. Oh, it's wrong. Like, we haven't had a chance to really talk about it this week because we've been busy

for RT Live. Yeah. It's definitely crumbling. Yeah. I'm like, oh, shit. All right, cool. Yeah. I like that.

Yeah, for sure. I mean, because that's the thing the thing man i think people got like we were talking about the other day there is definitely a fog of war going on right now and it's really fucking difficult to see through that and kind of like sometimes you got to wait for the fucking smoke to clear and see where everything fucking fail you know it's uh it's definitely interesting though you know what's more interesting is motherfuckers that think like they're gonna listen to these shows the q and a f and think that cti is irrelevant yeah like bro here's the thing and this is the perspective a lot of you young bucks don't understand without freedom none of the shit that i teach you on these shows matters none of it none of it and we are an inch away from losing fucking real freedom, economic freedom in this country forever.

And economic freedom should be your number one priority. It should be above every motherfucking thing else because everything else is built upon it. So anyway, that's what we got today. Got some good ones. Well, let's knock these out. Question number one. Andy, what are your thoughts on giving yourself grace

when working towards a goal versus making an excuse? What's the difference there? Look, dude. To really thoroughly answer this question, we, to take a break, take it easy, rest up, love yourself. You're working too hard. You know, you need to, you need to take care of your mental health. And while all that shit is true, these people who propagate that information and who sell things that go along with that information are really fucking good at preying on people who can't do it, who won't do it, who are unwilling to put in the work and making them

believe that they have some sort of affliction affecting their ability to win or succeed because there's something wrong with them. And then people attach themselves to this and then they never try again because they have this issue, right? Uh, that they can't get past. And then, you know, all the spiritual gurus and the feel good people and the fucking people praying on this shit and force this over and over and over and over again with these people. And it becomes their identity. Okay. And their identity becomes this. And this is how it works for most people. They start out with fucking high ambition. They start out with fucking goals. They start out with dreams. They want to win. They want a better life. They want a bigger life. They want to make more money. They

want to be more fit. They want a fucking better human experience. And what ends up happening is that they try this. And the first time they get punched in the motherfucking face by life, okay, they find and they come across a meme or a fucking book or a fucking this or that or someone online who speaks with a nice accent or some shit, right? Telling you how, you know, you need to slow down and you need to, you know, love yourself. And bro, what happens after that is super destructive because what happens is people buy into this identity that's created for them because of the circumstances that they're actually experiencing that are temporary. All right. And they make that identity, their permanent

fucking identity. And then they get sold book after book after course, after fucking, you know, share memes, go to seminars from people who are making a fucking killing, making people believe that there's something fucking wrong with them. And the truth of the matter is there's nothing wrong with any of you motherfuckers. Not a single one of you motherfuckers out there is dealing with some shit that someone else ain't dealing with. Okay. It's called the human experience. There is going to be bad shit. There is going to be tough times. There is going to be sickness. There's going to be death. There is going to be depression. There are going to be hard days. That is consistent for every single fucking human that has ever existed in the history of humanity.

Okay. And what they do is they teach you that your personal challenges are unique. Right. And then it becomes, I can't do this because this happened to me. Right. And we completely forget that millions of people just like us from wherever we come from have accomplished what it is we want to accomplish, have became what it is we want to become, have conquered what it is we're looking to conquer,

and they've done so facing harder circumstances that we have. There's plenty of examples out there if you look. If you're willing to open your motherfucking eyes and have a peek, you'll see it. But these fucking victim culture propagators start to make people not even want to look because dude, they belong in this little community of victims, right? And anybody who fucking has become anything, you know, they're, they're overworked. They're overstressed. They're over this or over that. And they start labeling the people who are doing the shit as other things. Okay. And then what happens is people decide, well, those goals and those dreams and those ambitions

that I had, those are not really for me anymore. I'm in a new chapter of life. I'm in a new, I'm in a new phase of life. And this new phase of life is this, like, you know, I'm going to take it easy. And I'm going to like, you see it. You see it. Anytime someone goes out and get punched in the face, they come up with this new plan. They change careers. They change their fucking direction. And they start saying, well, now I'm just, I'm here to live.

I'm here for this. And they make up this fucking narrative about their life that isn't even motherfucking true. You're settling is what you're doing. Dude, yes. Yeah. And then they attach themselves to the idea of being quote unquote humble. All right. And then they accuse anybody who's still pursuing their dreams,

who are really just the people who get the fuck up and are willing to get punched in the face no matter how many times it takes to get where they want to go. They accuse those people of having some sort of moral fucking inefficiency that these people now have. So now they're on a moral high ground. They're in a community of victims. They're getting attention from these people and they believe that they are better than you. And those people then attack you. Okay. And by the way, those people are the shittiest motherfuckers on this planet. And you should do every fucking thing you can to get away from these people.

Don't listen to them. Don't be like them. Don't hang out with them because they will infect you with that same lazy, give up, settling bullshit culture that they have swallowed and fucking learned to live with. And they are miserable and they are unhappy.

So to answer your question, how do you know the difference between grace? Here's the deal. You're going to fuck up. You're going to have's the deal. You're going to fuck up. You're going to have a hard time. You're going to stumble. You're going to get punched in the fucking face. You're going to bleed.

You're going to throw up. You're going to shit your pants. Everything that could fucking possibly go wrong is going to go wrong. All of it. All of it. You're allowed to give yourself some grace sometimes and say, man, what I'm doing is really fucking hard. As long as you get back in the fucking game, right?

You take a minute, you take a breath, you take a day, whatever the fuck it takes, you get back in the game. Where people really fuck themselves is they say, well, I'm going to give myself a break. They stop and they never start again. Okay. So when you do give yourself some grace, give yourself some grace with the understanding that this is a five minute breather. This is a one day breather. This is a two day breather. I would never go more than two days ever, ever. And you know, people look at me and they say, oh, he's fucked up. His priorities are fucked.

Motherfucker. You have no fucking, first of all, I don't share with you my life. I show you what the fuck I want you to see. Okay. Second of all, you have no fucking idea what you're talking about because the truth is you belong to that first group who bought into the victim culture, who fucking says take a break after every motherfucking thing. When in the reality is the whole reason your fucking life looks the way it looks because you've always been taking a break so grace is allowed quitting is not allowed right you know

i'm saying grace is allowed excuses are not allowed you should have enough awareness inside of your body and your mind and your soul which which by the way, y'all do. If you're listening to this show, you do. Okay. You have a basic level of awareness. You know, when you're full of shit, you know, when you're bitching out, you know, when you're cutting your workout short. Okay. And here, let me tell you a little hack to get around this. You know how you get around this. I tell you, I was on the fucking elliptical trainer. I told myself, and I had this rule. If I fucking think it, okay, I got to do it. So I was on the elliptical.

I was at 45 minutes. That's a motherfucker too, Aaron. Okay, listen. I was at 45 minutes, and I said, I got to go to 50 minutes. And I thought it. I could just pop to my head, go to 50 minutes. And I allow myself to do that once because if I don't, if I allow more than once, I never stop. Right.

Right. So Ed has this, M.I. Let has this thing, the power of one more, right? Plus one. It's a thing that he does. So I just live by this rule. It's the same concept. But whatever pops in my head, if it says 10 minutes

more, if it says an hour more, if it says five minutes more, luckily for me, I'm lazy at heart. So usually it says like five minutes more, right? So I was getting done with 45 minutes on the elliptical and I was late for a fucking meeting. And, and, and because I had fucked off earlier in the day. All right. So I was backing up my cardio right to this meeting to the minute. And I got off and right as I was getting off, it said five more minutes and I'm like, fuck. And I actually almost had you pull the video cause I wanted to make a post

about it to show people what I do. Yeah. I got off the fucking elliptical. I walked fucking 13 steps the other way. I stopped. I turned around and went back out on the elliptical for five more minutes. And I made the motherfuckers wait because I am obeying my own boss voice when I do so and I am conditioning my own boss voice to win and I am loyal to my own boss voice above everything else period

those motherfuckers can wait they can wait five. Yeah. And if they're disrespected by it, fucking leave. Okay? Because I will never, ever, ever, ever disobey myself when I tell myself that I'm going to do something. And that's something that you should all adopt because it's a great hack to mold you into the kind of person who executes plus. Okay? Because lots of people execute. Very few execute execute plus right and that plus that's what separates the dude out there uh for me from the guy out there who thinks

he's doing everything i'm doing right like i always imagine there's another andy out there like i imagine in my head that there's another andy out there that thinks the same way i think that's pretty much doing the same thing i'm doing and my goal like i don't know like i don't see him like i imagine him over in europe somewhere right like there's a fucking dude that looks like me that talks like me to acts like me and uh and he's basically my like my my fucking competitor yeah okay and this is like i know it sounds crazy but this is how i see it. And, uh, and I imagine I'm like, all right, well that motherfucker, he only did 45. I'm doing fucking 50. Right.

And that goes for anything that I do. Like if I read 10 pages, I'm reading fucking 15, you know, and 15 sometimes turns into 50. Yeah. Right. But my goal is to make sure that no matter fucking what, I am kicking that motherfucker's ass. And every single thing that I do, I want to do it better than that motherfucker. And those are two little hacks that I use to get me to outperform basically anybody else that's

trying to compete with me. It's not anybody else directly. I don't look at people. I'm friends with most of the people I legitimately compete with, because I believe in the power of collaboration. I believe in the power of good intent for people. I believe that I believe one of the biggest reasons that consistently winning life is because I help other motherfuckers winning life. Okay. And so like, in real life, I don't like look at competitors and like I actually help my competitors, which sounds counterint life, I don't like look at competitors and like, I actually help my

competitors, which sounds counterintuitive, but it works. Um, so I imagine this dude out there, right? Like this other dude. And I, I, you know, maybe he's out there. I don't fucking know, but I can tell you this. I'm going to fucking beat him. Yeah. I love it.

Yeah. Love that. Uh, question number two, Andy, talk about pivoting a little bit. Andy, I'm 32 years old and I'm running my own lawn and landscaping business. I started four years ago after turning wrenches for 13 years. I took my business full time in April of 2021 and I just cleared six figures last year. And that's awesome. My question is, I feel as if I'm hitting a glass ceiling of having more work than I can handle on most days, but I'm not sure that I can afford to hire someone else to help.

Do you have any suggestions on this of how I can pivot to get through this challenge and break into the higher six figures without compromising quality and reliability? Yeah, work for free. Take all your money that you make and fucking invest in other people live as cheap as you can live live as frugal as you can bro see when people hear my story first year first three years i made zero dollars next seven years i made 695 dollars and what they assume they assume that that's all i could have made right right but what they don't understand is that i chose to make 695 dollars right and the rest of the money went back into investing bro i had fucking 20 22 employees making more money than me the first time i made 100 grand

okay so when you own a business and you own an operation, you have to live as cheap and as frugal and as embarrassingly modest and meek that you possibly can. And you'll know when the time to not do that is. So get yourself some fucking ramen. All right, get downgrade your fucking apartment uh maybe get a less expensive truck uh and and lower your fucking expenses to the minimum that they can be take the money that you're making invest in more equipment invest in some more labor and scale this bitch out that's what you do okay and people want to people don't like to hear that because they don't want to live that life but let me tell you something dude uh you go to my house every day.

Is it pretty fucking sweet? It's pretty fucking sweet. It's all right, huh? Yeah? Well, 10 years ago, or 12 years ago, I was living in a fucking shit. Actually, 12 years ago, I was living at my fucking dad's house still.

Okay? That's the payoff on the delay gratificationification okay so so a lot of you guys out there you are guilty of this you you get caught up in instagram culture you see fucking 22 year old dumbass who hasn't done shit with a fucking lamborghini huracan with his arms crossed like he's some kind bro that motherfucker is going to be fucking broke that person will be broke let's see where he is in 12 years that's right that person will be broke your goal should be 10 years from now not two weeks from now and if you think about it like that and you you like right now this guy you should be thinking like i'm going to build the bro i know a dude in long care that makes millions, tens of millions of dollars.

Okay. Tens of millions of dollars. All right. But guess what he did? The same shit I'm telling you to do. He lived very cheap. He invested in his company, invested in his people. He created fucking jobs.

And bro, if you're willing to suffer on the front side, the backside is that much more fruitful. And that's reality. That's how it works. So, uh, get yourself some fucking ramen. You know what I'm saying? Cancel your fucking Netflix, start reading some motherfucking books and, uh, and get as cheap as you can, as lean as you can, as flexible as you can, and start investing in the actual company. Like you're trying to build a fucking empire. And that's what you end up with. Uh,

guys, that's a great question. By the way, far too many people out there are, are, are, and by the way, I love balling out.

Okay. I love cool shit. I love cars. I love fucking pimp homes. I love all the fucking bad-ass shit, bro. I love it. I fucking love it. I love it. it all right there's nothing wrong with it yeah but the reason i love it is because it's not actually

costing me anything all right i've paid my dues to get to that point there's nothing wrong with that but there's far too many people that think they're going to pretend to be that and they don't pay their dues. And because they pretend to be that on the front side, the backside never happens. A good indicator of success is how people behave when they're fucking broke. Like, are they pretending to be rich even when they're broke? Are they pretending to have a successful company even when they don't? Are they paying their dues or are they flexing on the gram? See what I'm saying?

Right. It's a big difference. There's a time and a place to flex on the gram. But it isn't when you're fucking in your first couple years of business or you're fucking 20, bro, all that's going to end up doing is blowing up in your face when you got to make the post that says, you know, guys, life gets hard sometimes. And, uh, you know, we have to reevaluate our priorities and I've reevaluated my priorities. And, you know, I've decided that, you know, I don't buy into this materialistic life anymore.

And I don't, I, what I want to do is I'm going to live as a nudist, uh, and, and lay against the trees all day. And, you know, I'm going to basically enjoy my life and, you know, fuck all that noise that I just preached about for the last fucking five years. And they resigned themselves to a bullshit existence. Okay. So don't be the guy that has to write that post later on because you're fucked off now. That's real. Make the fucking deposits now.

That's it. Keep making deposits now that's it keep making deposits bro i make it you know how much you know how many big deposits i'm making right now to grow our company yeah like bro i'm investing in the machine investing in the machine investing in the machine you don't see me out on fucking yachts on you know flexing and bro by the way i could if i actually flexed i could flex your motherfucking dick right off yeah okay all you little boys out there your little fucking pps will fucking go inside all right the thing is i don't flex i intentionally don't show my life because the truth is it's so good that everywhere i point the motherfucking camera it's a massive fucking flex and people get their little fucking vaginas hurt. Yeah.

Okay. So it's a truth. It's a fucking truth. Yeah. Where do I go? It isn't a flex. What do I do? It isn't a flex.

No. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And by the way, I am going to start showing a little bit of lifestyle shit again. My point in saying this whole thing is this. Pay your fucking dues be solid be the person who fucking you know is trying to buy lamborghini the company not a lamborghini

huracan base model spec that every other motherfucker has get it yeah if you think like that you're gonna have a much much better life it's gonna be more fun you know only fucking weak people complain about the journey that you go on during this you never hear someone who's who's actually done shit turn around and say it wasn't worth it you never fucking hear it no who do you hear that from yeah you only hear that from people who couldn't make it you only hear that from people who never tried period you never hear someone by the way even when they lost their because you can lose your can happen bro the world might fall apart i don't know and if it does everybody's but i ain't worried about it bro because if it does everybody's

right so i'm staying on my guns i staying on offense. Even the guys who lose it, even the guys who fucking lose it, bro, they will tell you it was worth it because of all the skills they gained. They will say, okay, I fucked. Because I know a lot of guys who have built some shit, lost some shit, and then rebuilt some better shit okay the reason they're able to come back so quickly is because of the journey no one ever regrets that journey no one no matter how bad no fuck no no one does no one bro i've had two nervous breakdowns bro no one regrets it i'm like fuck that was shit was hard guess what can't fuck with me now exactly you see what i'm saying yeah so like dude we have to understand

that that hard-ass journey that people criticize the only reason they truly criticize it is not in the name of mental health it's not in the name of rest it's not in the name of anything it's in the name of they couldn't fucking do it or they're making money by you not doing it it's the truth it's the fucking truth man It's the truth. It's the fucking truth, man. It's the truth. You should never take advice from someone who is making their living, making you accomplish less in life. It's fucking terrible.

Don't buy their books. Don't buy their shit. Because these people are handicapping you. And when they handicap you, they handicap their kids. And when you handicap your kids, you handicap their fucking kids. And this becomes a generational curse. It's your job to break that. It's real.

I hate the fucking victim culture in this world right now. I fucking hate it. It's not true. I think the most, from being like you know with you every single day right for the last three years right i think to me i think the most shocking thing is like the fact that like you know you you see these successful people like okay yeah like you work fucking hard but then like really seeing it like i don't think most people understand like like they don't they can't comprehend actually like how much fucking work really fucking goes into it.

Bro, I was thinking about this on the ride in today. I was actually talking about this on the fucking treadmill earlier today with my brother and Trevor Rosenthal, who's a buddy of mine who plays pro ball. I said, Trevor, how long did it take you to become a professional baseball player? My whole life. How many fucking games of cash did you play? Exactly. A million.

Yeah. How many games of baseball did you play? 10,000. Yeah. You understand? Yep. If you don't go all in, if you don't go all the fuck in, all of it, all of it, and become obsessed with what it is you're trying to accomplish, you will get beat by someone who does.

This is natural fucking order. I would love for it to be a little easier. I would love for it to take a little less time. I would love to be able to tell you that it's going to be fun. And all of that shit would be a lie. The truth of the matter is, and I'm one of the only motherfuckers telling you this, is that natural order is a real fucking thing. And if you're going to compete in anything, you have to go all in. And other areas of your life are going to suffer. Okay? your life are going to suffer. Okay. You can only be great in one area because other motherfuckers

will sacrifice everything to be great in that area, which requires you to sacrifice that much. And I didn't make the rules of the game. I'm not saying it's healthy. I'm just saying what it is. So if you want that, you have to understand. And that doesn't give you an excuse to fuck the rest of your life. Do the best you fucking can recognize your mistakes, be better. Okay. Improve in those areas, but understand what your main focus is. Understand what your priority is. I think a lot of people are very unclear on what their priority is. They are led to believe that if you don't live this life of perfect balance and have the perfect everything, that you are somehow a fucking failure. That is not actually the way it

is. True greatness, true winners, true people who accomplish what it is you're trying to accomplish. Okay. They focus all their energy on that outcome. And the rest of it is kind of like, all right, it's there, but I'm doing the best I can. But there is a top priority. All right. So you have to understand that's the way it is. That's the fucking rules of the game. Other people might not tell you that, but that's the truth. Okay. So if you want to fucking become an NFL player, you want to become a fucking a hundred million dollar CEO, or you want to fuck it, whatever it is you're trying to do. Okay. That's a high enough goal where most of the people who, all of the people who are at that level have, have given their total focus to that fucking goal. If you're operating any other way,

and you're listening to this idealistic shit about balance and all this other bullshit, you will end up getting fucking your ass beat by someone like this. And there's those people in every area of life that are at the top level. I'm not here to tell you how to be fucking good. I'm not here to tell you how to be okay. All right. I personally am here for the motherfucking winners. I am here for the number one, not the number one through fucking eight, not the pretty good. I'm here for the number one. That's where my mentality is. My mentality is to be the fucking best. I know I'm not the best. That's why I show the fuck up here every day and give it everything I have. So I'm not saying I'm the best. I'm saying that's my mentality. That's my mindset. That's who the fuck I want to be.

And if you want the same, I'm communicating how to do that. And then bro, you play this clip on Instagram and you'll get fucking 10,000 comments of everybody saying how I'm fucking full of shit. Show me what those motherfuckers have done. Show me what they've done. Show me. Because I guarantee you it ain't much.

Real shit, man. I know it is. I fucking really know it is because I'm 43 fucking years old and I've gone down the gauntlet. You motherfuckers are trying to go down. The victim culture in society is handicapping and keeping so much greatness on the fucking table. And it's a big problem in our culture.

True. Guys, Andy, our third and final question for you. Question number three. And you've said before that it is a skill that you have developed to be able to walk into a meeting and still get shit done when you've had to deal with frustrations or heated emotions previously in your day. What tools do you use to develop those skills for you to focus on the task and not have those emotions and frustrations? That's a good question. How do you handle that? I think that's maturity.

When I was a less experienced, less skilled leader, I would not have any reservations or filter about that. I was a fucking tornado, bro. Like I was a force of fucking nature. Like once I started, there was no stopping it. And so I would go from person to meeting to person at level fucking 100 intensity, bro. And while it got the job done, it could have been done much more enjoyably, had a lot more fun, built a lot better friendships and relationships than had I acted that way.

And by the way, I'm embarrassed of that. Like when I have regrets about myself, one of my regrets that I have the most is that I lacked emotional self-control for a long time. Okay. And, and I was hard on people that, that harder on people than what I should have been. Does that make sense? Yeah. Because I was dealing with other things and it wasn't. And by the way, that still happens occasionally, but I recognize that I made a mistake, right?

So the first thing is, is this person is clearly aware. And so you're ahead of where I was because I operated that way for a long time. What I do now is I try to be present in the moment. I try to handle the tap. And by the way, this makes you a lot more productive too. Okay. Because like when I'm in here to record the show, I'm giving my all to you guys. Okay. When I go in into that boardroom over there and I walk in, I am automatically not thinking about anything else. I'm thinking about this. Okay. So it's about being present and it's about being

focused and understanding that those emotions from that whatever happened 10 minutes ago or an hour ago or a day ago or fucking when you were a kid are irrelevant. That all they can do is hurt you if you allow them to bleed onto other people in other situations and you have to learn how to get them to serve you. And how do you get bad situations to serve you? Well, here's how you do it. You get yourself a chip and you put it on your motherfucking shoulder. Okay. And every bad thing that happens to you, take it personally and you put it in that motherfucking chip. Okay. So when someone, when your, when your girlfriend says you ain't ever going to be what the fuck you say it is, you fucking take that shit. You, and you,

you fucking chisel it into your brain forever. And you put it into that fucking chip on your shoulder. Okay. And then when you're tired and when you're angry or when you don't fucking feel like it, or you're trying to cut corners or you're trying to be lazy, fuck. All right. You fucking remember what the fuck they said. and that's how you use negativity to your benefit most of you try to avoid negativity most of you are scared of negativity most of you don't know how to use negativity but if you can harness negativity into productive action you've won the game because most people can't do it so when i see someone say something about me or when someone talks poorly about me, or when a situation happens that disturbs me emotionally, I don't get mad. I don't say shit.

I deposited into my motherfucking chip knowing that how I handle this is to go do something right now that helps move me forward. Yeah. Right? Yeah. So, dude, so what I'm saying is when you're emotionally disturbed, all right, like they're asking, hey, I'm coming from one place, I'm going to another place. I'm going to this fucking meeting.

How do I not let it carry over? Yeah. You fucking take the shit that's pissed you off and you put it into this chip that you've created on your shoulder and then you go into the meeting knowing that the best possible fuck you is to execute that meeting the best possible way and when you start to

operate that way bro you become unstoppable because everything that anyone throws at you actually ends up blowing up in their fucking face right i'm here is my fuck keeps getting better yeah exactly and bro that's how i am as a human like dude every day every day every day for the last i don't know fucking seven eight years consistently since the podcast got popular i can open my phone and i can look and see hundreds of people that fucking think i'm a fucking idiot or see i'm a piece of shit or say bro and i like it i like it it's free motivation yes yes yes so fucking give it to me motherfucker because i take the shit i swallow it up and then i'm running even faster

you got to use what is given to you yeah let me let me let me follow up real quick on this though annie because i think it's a powerful point about the being aware but i think would you agree that most people feel like majority of shit is just out of their control and that's why they can't you know i'm saying like what's the the hold up on the production pivot you know most people i think move through thinking that oh well well yeah wasn't my fault so it just is it is what it is day's fucked up now fuck that meeting fuck everything you know what i'm saying look man you like french fries yeah fuck yeah somebody's gotta cook them oh fuck yep yeah yeah that's real shit yeah i know it is good god yeah i know it is yeah so like bro i can't help

everybody you know you if you're gonna fucking crumble because of the actual real things that every single person that wants to be successful has to go through to be successful maybe success isn't your fucking purpose on this planet and by the way uh that could be okay because you could do a lot of good shit. And I mean that. Not everybody's meant to do it. Not everybody's meant for it. Right? There are all kinds of different people, bro.

There's people who are artists. There's people who are writers. There's people who are, you know, they do other things or serve other purposes so like the entrepreneur culture has on instagram and social media has really kind of fucked people's mentality right because not everybody is built for that game it's a very difficult game seven to eight percent of the population are entrepreneurs but only fucking one- 10th of 1% is actually successful. All right. And I don't say that to discourage you because you can become someone who's built for the game. This is why I developed the whole live hard program. You can fucking listen to it. Episode a two Oh eight. All right. I built that so that people could condition themselves to become

someone who's built for the fucking game but it's not everybody's purpose so i'm when i talk this shit and i say these things never think that i'm looking down on someone else because i'm not i am here for the motherfuckers where that is their purpose and so i'm going to tell you the truth about it see what i'm saying absolutely because somebody's got to was that three that's fucking three, man. Damn, dude. Yeah. That was a good little...

I felt good about that. Yeah, I had a good time. Same time next week? Yeah, same time. All right, guys. That's the show. Don't forget about that live stream this Saturday. You can go to rtasyndicate.com.

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