REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 418. Q&AF: Cancer Inside Culture, Success Standards & Career Gender Dichotomy

Episode Date: November 19, 2022

In today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to handle a talented employee who's cancerous to your company's culture, the best way to maintain high standards while achieving more success, and why gender does not play a role in becoming an exceptional leader.

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All right. For those of you that share the show, thank you very much. Now, don't be a hoe. Yeah. Don't be a hoe show the show that's right all right man so what's happening oh you know i got some good ones for you yeah what's uh what's going on with you dude you're closing in on 75 hard here huh we on day 71 yeah no the today is day 73 my last day saturday so huh last day saturday yeah but i'm gonna go right into phase one there's no no sense of stopping the you're fucking killing it dude yeah well i mean i'm not got a long way to go where'd you start at so this round i started at 318 well when you and i met you were 350 i was three i was like 355 yeah i mean i damn near 360 bro yeah half of that was

your fucking hair bro that's true yeah the hair you were trying to keep well i just finally fired it yeah it's still there so 350 down to 300 i'm i know i know i'm below what i'm saying is you went from 350 to 300 that first year then you you you got off a little track where you got back up to about what, 310, 315? 318. 318? Was the start of this round. And now you're sub, you're in the 80s?

I got to be at least, I don't know. I think you got to be in the 280s. Yeah. I mean, that's kind of how I feel too. I know I am. I haven't been looking at the scale. When you told me you were 290, you look significantly thinner. Yeah. And that was about three weeks ago.

Three weeks ago, yeah. I mean, everything's recomping. I will say that though. You're getting some veins yeah getting the veins are coming in like i know you'd be running around your house your underwear flex on alex well that was before anyway i mean that's not nothing new uh no man it feels good i just i do feel like i'm in a good place with momentum built up like there's no point of fucking that up yeah you talk about that a lot like don't fuck up the momentum when you got it yeah because it's hard to get that back yeah you know so i'm gonna go right into phase one and we'll see how it goes yeah bro you know that i think that's a huge key in

anything in life is when you have the momentum to be able to recognize you have it and then continue to move with it you know a lot of people when they get that momentum they mistake it and they think that it's like power like i have the power like fucking he-man shit right right motherfucker it ain't you it's the momentum you created and when you decide that you're all you know you let your ego get in front of you and you start thinking you're badass and shit and then you stop you realize real quick that it was just that momentum pushing you forward and i think that's a huge lesson that the live hard program teaches you can you guys can get that for free by the way uh it makes uh high performance humans out of you uh at episode 208 free it's fucking free i could make

millions of dollars selling my fucking program yeah it's fucking free yeah and i've been i i'm it's it's like it's funny man because like we've had a couple of uh like you know if you guys are familiar with the live hard you call them test days right yeah we've had a few yeah you know where it's i mean bro you've had you you've been how many out there i mean bro 10 10 12 times i've seen you through this cycle out at one in the morning oh yeah yeah oh yeah but like the thing is like i just had to turn it into like a game you know like like now it's like when i'm like looking ahead like i gotta go out of town uh saturday i gotta go out of town it's like i'm already trying to fucking plan it out okay cool like all right let's fucking get it then yeah but don't you think that's one of the biggest things it teaches bro is time management yeah bro because

everybody's oh you know i got so much going on how would i have the time you got the fucking time i think the choice the biggest thing i hear from people about that program is the and if they're being this is if they're being honest usually what people will say is bro i was totally lying to myself about how busy i was fuck yeah it's kind of like the same shit people say about kids the same thing i mean same thing people say about food yeah and everything yeah what do you mean it's the lies it's the lies we tell ourselves oh yeah you know i think the worst the worst day though is when we went to utah yeah dude i fucking uh fucking keys driveway bro

bro that's that fucking hurts bro that driveway made me sweat driving up it bro i did a fucking it was it took me it was seven times yeah and that was after a long ass fucking day miserable but i got it done yeah and so it was rewarding but yeah it's all good man cool all right with you uh yeah you know um i mean dude look i feel good my my body's coming back uh muscles coming back on yeah you know getting ready to flex on motherfuckers you know like i've been a little quiet the last year because like dude when i'm not at my best i don't feel as as strong and as powerful as i normally do you know it makes me a little timid um and that's not my natural state so like i'm starting to come back to my natural state which is fucking baddest motherfucker on the planet yeah and i like that

feels good um you know get you know this whole dude, has been a big test for me. The last 12 months, we're what? Today's November 17th? One month out from the surgery. Yeah, one month out from my surgery, from a year anniversary of the surgery. And yeah, dude, it's been a test, bro. I had total shoulder reconstruction. I injured my shoulder at the best physique and the best mental space I'd ever been in.

I had to watch my body fucking deteriorate away after all of that work, which was literal years of dedicated work. Three fucking full years of almost no fucking cheating. Um, you know, I, I had to deal with that. Then on top of it, I had to deal with, you know, what's going on in the fucking world. And then I had to deal with those, the effects that it had on our ability to execute business, you know, which in all of my businesses, which is changing things. Um, but honestly, bro, like the main thing like that I feel right now that I think I feel so good about is, um, that getting off those antidepressants. Like I was thinking about this this morning, man, you know, for those of you

that don't know, uh, I was on antidepressants for 10 fucking years. And for the last three years, watching what they did with COVID, watching what they've done with the pharmaceutical industry and just kind of learning more and more and seeing more and more of how all these things operate and how these elite motherfuckers across the world will actually make people sick or make people believe they're sick to sell them a cure. Um i realized that that was happening bro i was just like yeah fuck them you know like i was like fuck they fucking got me same thing with porn once i realized that they were fucking getting us with porn no i stopped fucking with it you know what i mean um and uh you know but getting off those antidepressants that was real shit dude and

like you know i'm finally that was what about august 1st when i started getting off of them so august september october you know it's been a hundred something days i finally feel fucking like really fucking good and dude the the first 60 days of getting off of that shit and by the way if you're somebody that wants to get off of that stuff you need to do it with a doctor's guidance because it's very very difficult to do and you're gonna have to prepare yourself for at least 60 days of more anxiety than you probably ever had before you started taking the pills, more depressive thoughts and suicidal thoughts than you ever had before you started taking

the pills. I mean, they made the shit so they make the shit so hard to come off of. And I personally believe that's entirely intentional of them. Um, but yeah, so like today, you know, like when I woke up today, it was weird, kind of popped in my head. I'm like, motherfucker, you just did something that most people can't fucking do. And that made me feel pretty good. No.

So all in all, dude, like fucking health is getting better. Mental health is fucking getting back to that bulletproof place that I like to be. My physical standards are getting back. I'm not far off from where I was when I got hurt. Right. About 10 pounds too heavy, but I'm still trying to put muscle on i'm not trying to be lean right now um but yeah feeling fucking good excited about this fucking the relaunch of mfceo project excited about um basically consolidating all the winners in our network to this new this

new program that we're getting ready to launch this new platform so yeah dude i'm excited man yeah feel fucking good how do you think those people that like you know watch you and then they haven't really seen much come out you know i'm saying and they're fucking like wondering like man what the fuck's going over there going on over there and all of a sudden boom well you got to remember the last time the last time i posted real content about my life was in 2019 you know my life has changed so much from now to then. Also, what I've learned has changed so much

from now to then. What I have to offer is much better. Quite honestly, I was the best in the world when I stopped doing it. I'm really excited, dude. I thought long and hard. You and I, I mean, fuck, dude. There's not a day that goes by that you and i don't talk about how we can make a better impact to what's going on and what i've really figured out especially with this

last election cycle where there was clearly fucking happening still um not just straight up fraud yeah okay um what i've learned is that like what we need to do as a as people is to become people who are not consuming the products that they are offering you know because if there's no customers there's no fucking demand if there's no demand they have to change so the reality of how we get them to change what the fuck they're doing is by becoming so independent and so strong and so uh you know removed from their little fucking matrix in terms of our physical health our own education uh our finances our standards and all these things like for some reason dude the media and politicians have convinced people that they direct traffic when in reality,

it's all of us collectively as individuals that direct traffic. So what can I do to make the biggest impact is something that I've struggled with. And people say, well, run for office. Okay, run for office in a fucking broken system where they're going to ruin my fucking life for running for office. So I have to play that game. I run for office once we burn the system down and we have a fucking new one that isn't fucking totally corrupt i run i'll lead us then okay but that's that's not happening right now um

so i think right now the biggest thing that i can do to serve people is to help these young people who are you know both young in the game but also young uh literally learn the reality of what it takes to become higher achieving higher producing higher income more successful mentally harder and just better people yeah and they're not being taught that you know for the last 20 years people have been taught how to be mediocre how to to fucking be soft intentionally so that the system can fucking milk everything out of them. And people are starting to realize, especially parents, like there's parents right now of 13, 14, 15, 16 year old kids who are realizing, holy fuck, dude, my kids are totally fucked because of the education system and they're looking for alternatives.

Well, I'm going to be that alternative. Okay. You might not like how I say it, but I can promise you, your fucking kids are going to hear the truth and they're going to learn the real shit of what it's going to take to win in the real world. And so I'm excited about what I'm doing because I think that's what I'm equipped to do best. And I think that's what can create the biggest impact is bringing these next generation kids up to par with what it means to be a free American that actually understands how to fucking win in this country and, and, and also how to serve through winning. So yeah, man, I don't know. All in all, I'm excited.

I feel pretty good. Yeah. I'm fucking excited. Yeah. Excited to see, man. Yeah. It's going to be cool. Well, let's make a, let's make uh let's make

some people better today yeah let's do it uh any question number one i was recently promoted to director of a company there's a manager in the organization who is blatantly eroding the culture he's incredibly inconsistent sometimes he's great and has values and other times he's just straight up awful he has mood swings and sucks energy out of people in the organization he's been challenged on this before but he isn't changing the skills he has are at a shortage in our industry and removing him would be risky is there any advice on how to proceed well my if this person who's asking the question was sitting here what i would say to him is do you want a hundred of those people oh man yeah right do you want do you want do you want here's your options do you want zero of those people or do you want all of those people

because cancer spreads and if you don't cut it the out you're gonna get more of it just like when it gets in your body so it really is irrelevant culturally what skills that person has when they're intentionally undermining the culture that you're setting in place so you know that's the reality you know ask yourself when you see someone in your system who's bucking the culture okay who's bucking what you want to do and who thinks that they have a better way and this is undermining everything you do okay and this is how i look at it i look at them and i say okay well do i want more of those people the answer is always no right okay so what do i do usually i have a conversation

then maybe i'll have a second conversation. And then the third conversation will be, uh, see you fuck later. Right. Um, and I don't say that in a negative way, like, you know, go, go do something else, go, go build your own thing. But, um, the reality is, is if you have someone in your system who uh is undermining you who is playing their own game who is deciding that uh they control shit because they're good at something else right um let them go build their own thing and you you fix stay your culture stay your course you know what i'm saying absolutely um it's as simple as that and and a lot of people will ruin their companies because they can't make that decision they can't make that

change they're afraid to uh you know because probably that guy probably his skills is probably that he sells a lot of shit right okay that's performing yeah that's probably what it is um and you think oh well if we cut this guy out we're gonna lose these sales yeah maybe you might for you might go down for a little bit but in a year from now where will you be yeah you know negative culture is bad bro it's real bad it needs to be addressed as soon as you fucking recognize it yeah and the sooner you recognize it and unless you let them go down that road the the more chances are you can salvage that person but this this kind of situation where this person is already saying like i've already addressed this and you know they continue to do

whatever like cut them the fuck loose man it's it's it's really hard right now in the real world there's still a level of entitlement amongst employees where they believe that there's unlimited opportunities outside of the one they currently had and we should go ask the 120 000 tech employees that have been laid off in the last 10 days if they think that's true anymore right or amazon yeah fucking fedex or yeah and what Or Amazon. Yeah. Or fucking FedEx. Yeah. And what people don't realize is that when the dot-com bubble burst in the late 90s, early 2000s, there were 107,000 layoffs. There's been 120,000 layoffs in the last 10 days. And it's going to get way worse.

Okay? So if people can't recognize that within your organization right now, they're going to learn a really difficult lesson because right now the opportunities that existed a year ago where everybody's saying, Oh, fuck you. You know, I don't, you know, I don't really like the way you do things. I'm going to go do this and this and this. All right. Yeah. Let me, let me ask you this, Andy. What? Cause I mean, bro, I mean, you know, fucking culture. What,

what would you say is like the, should be the end goal for like solid culture in a, in a, in a business, in a company? Well, I think that's different for the, for whoever,

whatever company. I think it's, I think it's always different. You know, um, if you ask me what my personal opinion is, it's see culture is designed to create an authentic experience in an authentic company because people don't buy from brand names anymore they buy from the name plus the people that represent the name right we see this in the

stock market right now what's disney doing tanking okay what's fucking facebook doing tanking what's fucking everybody doing whoing okay what's fucking facebook doing tanking what's fucking everybody doing who's embraced the woke shit they're getting their asses beat so you when you ask me what a good culture design would be it would be one that represents what you believe this country should actually be about inside your walls for me that means freedom. That means freedom of thought. That means the freedom of opinion. That means the opportunity for growth. That means lifting each other up. That means taking care of each other. It means basically doing everything at a high level of excellence, which to me, and I could go on and on and on, but basically those are the things that I've always believed

this country should be about. So that's how I design my cultures. That's why whenever we have a guest that comes in on the show, what does fucking every single one of them say? Holy shit, dude, when you walk in here, it feels different. You just feel it, yeah. Yeah, well, it feels different because it is different because we don't fucking play with this fucking bullshit

out there in the real world that the fucking woke nonsense that all of you motherfuckers know isn't even true, that you're afraid to say anything about because you might get reprimanded or fired. If you work for one of those companies, come work for me. You're going to fucking love it. You know what I'm saying? and and that's that's the correction that's happening right now too it has to do with that woke culture yeah that's real people are not buying anymore from companies like that people are not going to buy from companies that shove fucking racism that shove fucking trans shit that that shove dude we're tired of having it

shoving our fucking faces that doesn't mean we're fucking bigots that means we're tired of having it shoved in our fucking faces. That doesn't mean we're fucking bigots. That means we're tired of having it shoved in our faces every motherfucking turn. And that's not just me as a white dude. Black people are tired of it. Fucking gay people are tired of it. Fucking everybody's tired of it. The mere fact that our government is so present in our lives that it infects our sports and it infects our fucking bro there's no escaping this social bullshit that is being jammed down our fucking throats you can't even watch a fucking commercial anymore where there's even a regular family

meaning a family of all the same race right like? Like whether it be black or white or fucking Asian, it's always gotta be this mixed shit of like 15 different fucking, you know, bro, how many families, you know, like that? None. Me neither.

Like bro, they're, they're pushing this shit down our throat so hard that people are rejecting it. That doesn't mean they're bigots. Everybody here in this company and around me, my friends, we believe in fucking leave me to fuck alone do what you want the problem is those people won't leave us alone because they don't believe in that well they're gonna fuck around find out

you know i'm saying because dude the stock prices show yeah the fuck can't lie about the numbers i told bro who said this? By the way, who told, who told all of you listening to the show, who told you fucking two and a half years ago that the trend was going to swing towards pro freedom made in America, pro American job companies who fucking told you that. I told you to get out in front of it and your fucking pussies didn't.

I did. Guess what? So it's whatever, man. Keep not listening to me and losing fucking money and your freedoms and your fucking shit. Like, dude, it's just like I'm like, guys, if you would just stand the fuck up and be patriotic Americans like y'all fucking are behind closed doors, you'd actually grow. The society has used all this technology, the media, the bots, to make people political correctness, silent majority, fucking what else am I missing? All kinds of other things to make people literally a frat cancel culture to make people

afraid to fucking love this country no that's crazy what's the easiest way to stand out bro to do the opposite of whatever the fuck they tell you to do and we're seeing it bro the companies that are kicking ass the companies that are kicking ass, the companies that are winning, the business is transitioning away from these big giant companies back down to small and medium American owned companies like my companies or like other people's companies that have been out here in the front. I told you it was a great thing to stand up for people. People hate bullies. They love people that stand up to bullies. Maybe you should start reflecting that in your culture of your company, because people will not only love your company, but they'll love to work at your company. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely.

Andy, question number two. I feel like you would agree that it's safe to say that there's a direct correlation between higher standards and success and money. And so my question is, how do you ensure that those higher standards don't start to fall when you start seeing the success and money? Well, that's a good question because that's exactly what happens every time. All right. In the beginning, when you have nothing, it's very easy to be aggressive. As you start to get a little more comfortable, you stop being as aggressive. As you get more comfortable into that success, I'm making money. You stop playing aggressive

and you start playing not to lose the shit that you have. Okay. And that's a completely different game. If you understand football, this is the difference between running an aggressive defense that you're fucking getting after it. And then running the prevent defense when you're ahead by two touchdowns. And what, what usually happens when people start running the prevent defense, when they're, they're ahead by two touchdowns. Yeah. Patriots and Falcons.

What was that? 2000. Bro, it almost always happens. They end up losing the game. Okay. Because if you're not playing to win, you're not going to win. And if you going to win. And if you're playing to fucking not lose, you will get beat by someone who's playing to win. And so you have to figure out how to cultivate that same urgency when you are comfortable and you are ahead. This is one of the most common questions that I get personally

from other people is how the fuck do you show up every day the way that you do and go after it the way that you do when you are where you are? It's very simple. It's a mentality that I talk about and teach about and have taught for many, many years. It's called zero options mentality. In the beginning, when you're broke, do you have an option whether or not to get the fuck up and go to battle?

No, you have an option whether or not to get the fuck up and go to battle? No, you have zero option. Now, when you're on the other end of that and you've got a hundred million dollars fucking in your bank account, how do you keep that mentality? Well, you have to manufacture it. You have to remember. And what I do is I remember this. And I think of it, I think two different things to help me with my zero option mentality I think one uh if I don't get up and do what I got to do it's only a matter of time before I'm actually digging ditches okay real talk before I was fucking who I am today before I started this company and these other companies and done all this shit and fucking podcast and all this fucking shit I did concrete work okay and i painted stripes on parking lots two of the hardest jobs physically that there are when you paint stripes

on parking lots you have to push around a striper which weighs three to four hundred pounds because it's filled with fucking paint across a parking lot and you either do this in the middle of the night when there's no cars around so you can line out the lot and do it or you do it in the middle of the night when there's no cars around so you can line out the lot and do it or you do it in the middle of the day which is even worse because it's 100 fucking degrees outside and you're getting killed on the middle of fucking blacktop it sucks okay the other thing that sucks is carrying uh concrete forms in and out of a fucking hole all fucking day which is what i did okay so what i do is i convince myself that if I don't show up and give everything I got, then I'm going to go back to that. And guess what? I don't want to do that. So I cultivate a mentality in my own being that if I don't do these things, I'm going

to suffer. And then the other thing that I do is I remember that if I don't get up and do my work and do my job and do the best I can, that you guys, the people in this room and the people out there and all these people that depend on their careers and the number of projects that we have going on, they're going to suffer. So if you think about it like that, if you're a true leader that actually serves the people that work for you, you shouldn't have a problem of getting lazy. It's only if you're a true leader that actually serves the people that work for you, you shouldn't have a problem of getting lazy. It's only when you're thinking about yourself, it's only when you're thinking about how well off you are that you can allow yourself to get lazy. So if you can't figure out how to care about these other people, which should be enough for you to get the fuck out of bed and go kick ass, then you should at least remember that what you will be doing in a short amount of time,

if you don't, you'll be back to doing whatever it was you did before you started the project that you're on now. And that's real shit. I've seen it happen a hundred times or more. You guys who are out there, how many people do you know that got something going got it going pretty good for a little bit and then all of a sudden you hear from a while and you say steve what's happening bro oh man you know lost my business you know things went south blah blah blah what bro i just saw you at the fucking i just saw you you were on a fucking yacht out in the fucking middle. You see what I'm saying? This is how that happens.

It happens very fast too. So you have to be able to cultivate a zero option mentality even when you are comfortable financially because that's what's going to keep you from never being uncomfortable financially again. Love it. Yeah. Andy, our third and final question. Question number three. Love it. Yeah. once communicated. I tell her to just do it and she declines because she fears lack of respect for men. Should I be working on my communication with her or should she be working on her fears with them?

You know, I get this question a lot from women. I was about to, we just, yeah, we just had, yeah.

Like I just spoke at Emily's Women in Business event and I had this question I think three times. Is this a good, is this a good, like is that a good like sign that maybe the men in society are starting to no i don't know no i mean first

of all let's dispel the myth that there's a man's world because that's what i keep hearing i'm gonna lead in a man's world motherfucker it ain't a man's world the fuck you talking about that was 1955 it was a man's fucking world now men can't do shit. Men are fucking pieces of shit. No good men. Men that work hard their whole lives, who make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, who are great fucking dads to their kids, who do all these things are still shit on by their fucking wives because it's not enough. All right. So let's be real. Women get opportunities bigger than men. They get opportunities faster than men. Men are the fucking scum of society, and they have been for the last fucking 10 years.

So don't come at me with this is a man's fucking world. It's 10 times harder for a fucking man to do fucking anything, get any fucking respect right now. And that's a big fucking problem. Thanks. It's fucking facts. Thanks. Yeah. Men, quality men want quality women.

Quality women want quality men. The problem on both sides of the equation is men have lowered their standards because they'd rather just fucking not deal with bullshit from women. They'd rather fucking watch Netflix. They'd rather make a couple bucks and jerk off to porn and not deal with y'all shit okay that's the first fucking thing then you got women who are so desperate for fucking men's attention the good men that they think that being naked all over the fucking internet and doing all this fucking bullshit somehow attracts and then they're mad when they can't get a fucking quality man when it don't work yeah bro we got a lot of work to do yeah that's a lot we really do yeah like i could talk about this for a long fucking time okay both men and women right now that the quality of the average men and women is fucking trash

it's both sides your men need to nut the fuck up dude and go out and get in fucking shape get your fucking money together and start fucking figuring out how to fucking win and you won't have the problems you have with women and if women you stop beating the shit out of every fucking dude that isn't fucking prince charming okay and you stop fucking selling your shit all over the fucking world trying to pretend like it's fucking quality work don't complain when those fucking men will not fucking marry you. Don't complain because they won't. They won't. Raise your fucking standards. It's not a fucking man's world. It's a fucked up world. And to answer the question, if you are a strong woman leader, you will have no problem getting respect

from men. Zero. That's a fucking fake self-imposed limitation that women have. You can't lead men. We have made enough progress in this fucking world where there are plenty of strong women leaders that completely run shit all over the place. That's a mental hang up that you tell yourself because you think we're living in 19 fucking 50. Men, the reason that men aren't assertive, the reason that men don't ask you on dates, the reason that men don't do the shit you want to do is because your motherfuckers make fun of them about every fucking time they try. How many times do we see on Instagram a fucking girl taking a screenshot of something some dude said to her and fucking posting her story, making fun of him?

I'm not talking about like, hey, baby, let me see your butt. Right. I'm talking about like, you know, a dude like a dude genuinely like trying to get to know you and you fucking shit on him. This should be a whole fucking episode. We talk about this because it's fucking bullshit and I get tired of hearing it. Oh, there's no good men. Well, yeah, because you're out entertaining every other fucking man on the planet. You want attention forever. You want

attention from every man on the internet over the attention that you get from the man at your fucking home. You ain't going to have a good man like that. A good man will get up and walk the fuck out over that shit. Oh, you don't appreciate my body, my blob. I don't give a fuck. You can fucking tell yourself whatever the fuck you want. I'm telling you the truth.

You can, you can, this is called real AF. This ain't called ideal AF or maybe AF or the way it should be af i hope af yeah it's called what it is af and what it is is this a quality man who makes quality money who has his shit together does not want his fucking woman being viewed by every other motherfucking man that is fucking fact you ask any fucking one of them, they'll tell you. It's a fact, man. So, oh, well, I'm making fucking blah, blah, blah on OnlyFans. Yeah, cool. I don't care. Right.

The quality, man, don't care because he's making his own shit. That's what you got to do to pay your bills. I get it. But don't fucking say that men are the problem. They're not the fucking problem. This culture that fucking castrates men in every possible fucking fashion is the fucking problem. Oh, Matt,

I'm toxically masculine because I speak the truth and I stand for what's right. And I stand up the motherfucking bullies and I punch them in the fucking face and I make a lot of fucking money. Super toxic. Yeah. until they fucking sound cerebral yeah yeah until they need someone to stand up for them exactly exactly i'm fucking tired of it dude that's real that's real so i mean but do you see you do you believe that she should just focus on increasing her leadership skills then because it doesn't really sound like there's this gender complex thing.

It sounds like you need to just be a fucking leader and forget if you are a man or a woman and understand that we all have equality in the fucking job place and respect. And if you say something to a man and he doesn't follow the direct he doesn't follow the directions that you follow guess what you get to do when you're a fucking owner of the company what do you get to do you fart that's right like i don't understand how hard this is to fucking grasp this person works for you man or woman they don't do what the fuck you say man or woman they don't They don't do what the fuck you say, man or woman.

They don't do it the way you like it, man or woman. What do you have the option to do? It's very simple. I don't understand how to make this any more simple. Stop letting your warped view of how the world is affect your ability to lead whoever the fuck it is that you need to lead Because at the end of the day the right people man or woman are going to execute Because they want to do a great job People who want to do a great job regardless if they have a penis or if they have a vagina are valuable Okay, so stop looking at it as these fucking hangups of men, women, this, that the woman, you guys overcomplicate the whole fucking thing.

It's really simple. What's likely happening here and what likely happens in this scenario, every motherfucking time is that this woman has told herself a story about leading that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You don't think the motherfuckers will follow you, so you don't assert yourself in a leadership role. And because you don't assert yourself in a strong leadership role, they don't follow you, then they're misogynists. Then it's them.

That's what happens every fucking time. I'm tired of hearing it. Like fucking lead or don't lead. If you don't have that ability to understand what I just said, you don't belong in fucking business. It's real shit. People who cater to these things, people who can't get over these things, business is going to become very, very, very difficult for a period of time moving forward. Understand that if you don't muster up the courage to lead your team the way that you need to lead it, whether you're a man or a woman, and whether they're men or women, you're going to lose. And it should come down to just that. But I don't want to hear about this

man's world shit anymore. Don't fucking come with me with that because i don't want to hear about this man's world shit anymore don't fucking come with me with that because it ain't that way it just ain't well guys andy that's three go pay the fee subscribe to my feet pics i'll tell you this you can start my only calves you can charge a lot more than five bucks bro yeah dude it's just like i get so tired of hearing it. Like, bro, I see on the Internet, like people talking about narcissists and fucking victimhood and fucking no good men and no good women. No, y'all suck. Y'all suck. That's why there ain't no good nothing out there.

Because you've all accept a lower standard from everybody else as a passable standard. You are what you accept. You women who complain about dudes not taking you on a date are not holding the line and forcing dudes to actually come to that to take you out. You say, oh, everybody wants to Netflix and chill. Yeah, that's because you're Netflix and chilling. You're creating the acceptable standard. It makes sense to me. No, it makes sense to everybody.

Like dudes who's saying, oh, there's no good women while they're fucking simping out for these women who offer nothing except their bodies. And women have learned this behavior that that's all they have to offer to have a life so when you have a learned behavior on one side that is enforced by the other side you can't be mad at the way it turns out it's fucking incredibly frustrating for me to watch

dude because one of the biggest things that i get from you guys is you either get the men saying there's no good women or I got the women saying there's no good men. Well, all of y'all should look in the mirror. What do you bring to the table? Men, what do you bring to the table? Do you bring a great career to the table? Are you a fucking fat as fuck? Are you actually in shape? Are you intelligent? Are you watching fucking cartoons? Are you playing Call of Duty all fucking day? What are you doing? Are you high value yourself?

And if you're not high value, what makes you think that you deserve high value in return? And that goes for the women exactly the same. Your body and your fucking big titties and your fat ass ain't enough to attract a quality man it ain't enough it might be enough for a man that doesn't give a fuck about you or quick hit yeah like and and that's that's what gets them right they get attention from these dudes that get them believing that that's what they got to do. And it's sad, bro. It's fucking sad, bro. It's a fucked up cycle. It is.

That's exactly what it is, dude. It's a fucked up cycle. Women, you got to stop fucking losers and men. You need to get fucking better. Real talk. Yeah.

Those girls. That'll correct something. That'll correct. Stop fucking with. Because ultimately it comes from women. Cause women, women are the ones, most men never get to the level women women are the ones most men

never get to the level where they're the ones that choose who they fuck very very few men get to that level okay it's true very few men very few men on this planet walk around with unlimited options of who they fuck you have to be you have to have all your shit in line okay you got to look right you got to earn right you got to fucking talk right you got to be the your shit in line. Okay. You got to look right. You got to earn, right. You got to fucking talk, right. You got to be the fucking man. There's one out of every fucking 10,000 men are like that. Yeah.

Okay. Women on the other hand have control that since they were, they hit puberty since women have been 13 years old and they started to get some boobies. They've had every dude they've ever known trying to fuck them. Okay. And they've, they've grown up with that power you women need to start restricting that and stop fucking dudes because you think they're gonna fucking you know like you can't find another dude you know oh i

can't find any good men so you know i'll deal with this guy but i know he's a fucking piece of shit but i'll still deal with him do you see what i'm saying fucked up yeah if women would raise their standards men would raise their standards have no choice there you go and you men out there that that have trouble meeting women go out and get yourself a fucking nice earning career go out and get your fat ass in shape go out and get your life together and then see what kind of problems you have with women because you won't have any i'm tired of seeing it dude i love it yeah well i know a lot of people won't i don't really care but guys andy that is three so go pay the fee. Yep.