REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 43. You've Stopped Progressing, Now What?

Episode Date: June 1, 2020

Do you find yourself making these ridiculous mistakes after you get a minor taste of success? Most people do without even realizing it! Today, Andy shares common mistakes made among individuals that destroy forward progress and ultimately cause massive failure.

I told my teacher, dumb bitch, I'm gonna get millions. Watch this. In a project living. Damn. Spoke it till existence. Voila. Mode changed to 50. What up?

Got more cars than diddy. I only weigh 180, but my watch cost 250. What is up, guys? It's Andy Purcella, and you're listening to the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have a short episode, but a very important episode. It's going to help you figure out how to get yourself unstuck.

And I'm going to cover one of the biggest things that you can do, and you can literally do it right now, to help you get past that feeling of spinning your tires or being stuck in the mud where you're doing all this work, but nothing really seems to be happening. We're going to talk about how we can switch that literally almost immediately. But before we do that, I want to remind you guys, we don't run ads on the show. We don't run ads for the show. Our show is completely organic in its growth. And we depend on you guys to spread the message. That's just what we believe in. We believe that if we do a good job, if we give you info that you think is good, the show will grow because you'll share it. Our show grows by basically three different ways.

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And then also give us a little share, a little love with your friends, and that's it. So our mission here is to help you guys become realists. All right? here is to help you guys become realists. Becoming a realist is very beneficial because when we remove the idealistic mindset from our brain, we're able to produce an idealistic result because we address what is real. If you're addressing the facts to produce a positive outcome, that's how you produce a positive outcome. How you do not produce a positive outcome is by operating on the way you think things should be when they actually aren't, because that's what's going to keep you in that same spot and frustrated and angry and mad at everybody,

which we have a lot of going around right now. With that being said, guys, today, I'm going to get right into it. Today, I want to talk about one of the main things that will for sure destroy your forward progress. It's going to destroy your forward momentum and ultimately destroy your potential for success. And that thing I'm talking about is this, holding on to your past victories, also known as reliving your glory days, all right? And I'm sure by now, you guys have seen this scenario play out in person a bunch of different times. I'm sure when I just say that, you can actually remember a time where you've seen someone just stuck in the past so hard. You go back to that town where you grew up and you decide

to stop in the local watering hole that you used to visit all the time. And it's a Tuesday and the clock has barely ticked past the start of happy hour. And there he is at the corner of the bar, shit-faced, slurring the prom king from your graduating year. He's sitting right there, the captain of the football team, the star quarterback, the guy who had it all, and he's drunk, and he's sloppy, and he's drooling, and he's still talking about it. Now, I'm sure a lot of you guys can relate to this. I know I can. I could count this many, many times in my life I've witnessed this. What's our first thought when we see this, right? Did you want to run up and shake this guy's hand and pat him on the back and congratulate

him for all the shit that he did way back in 98? No, that's not what you did. Instead, you probably thought like I did. Wow, man, that sucks. I'm sorry for that, dude. You know, I'm really glad I left this all behind me. And it serves as a reminder of you making the proper decisions in life. Or if you're like me, you kind of avoid the awkwardness and you decide to skip out on the drink entirely and just avoid the possibility

that this guy might see you and rope you into some conversation. Either way, it's not a positive thought for anybody. You know, these people that peaked in high school, they're still in the same spot. They're still stuck in time. They're still rolling up in that same Trans Am they did back when they were cool as shit. Only now, that car is a piece of shit. It's faded from years in the sun there's rust on every quarter panel there you know the person's about 100 pounds overweight with male pattern baldness and

they're still hitting on the motherfucking waitress so what happened well i'll tell you what happened guys these guys these people they put such a focus on their past achievements that it's blocked their ability to see a possible future. And since you cannot relive the past as much as people constantly try to, what happens is you end up dead in the water. You're a sailboat with no wind. You're at a complete standstill in all areas of life. And you think looking back at all these great achievements that you once had will encourage you to go out and accomplish more, but it doesn't. Actually, what it does is the exact opposite. It creates a dangerous cycle of depression. You're going to realize that you've passed the time where you can match your former self and also that you spent so much time dwelling on it you haven't even learned a single new skill and guys i know this is depressing but i want you to be aware this is how you end up dead in a shitty

recliner surrounded by some shitty carpet with an empty six pack of fucking stag in a room full of trophies that no one gives a shit about. Think about that. When you're gone, do you think your kids are going to keep all those trophies from high school and proudly display them in their own home as your legacy to them? No. Best case scenario is they end up in a box in someone's attic, but the most likely case scenario is they'll end up in a motherfucking dumpster. So congrats on being good at something at one time. But what do you do today? Okay, this is the mindset you need to adopt and put into practice. Every day, every week, every month is a new opportunity to get better and to move yourself forward. And you have to be able to take that

rush of achievement, acknowledge and be proud of the work you did to get there, and then immediately move on to the next thing at hand. I see it all the time, guys, and you do too, if we're being honest. Someone wins employee of the month and all of a sudden they're walking around with a puffy chest and they're the shit, right? But then they start to slack off and then they become more lax on the exercises that got them to that point. They stopped doing the things that got them there in the first place and they assume that they've reached this level and they're going to stay there. And so what do they do? They go into cruise control mode and they think that they're just going to be employee of the month forever. And what happens the next month? They're the shittiest employee in the business. Successful people, guys, they realize that you have to keep moving

forward. While you're congratulating them on their success, they're already planning their next move. Dude, let's talk about Kobe, right? Do you think he won a championship and then went home to cuddle with his trophies or go to the club and tell everyone to listen for the next four fucking years? No, that's not what made Kobe great. Instead, he woke up even earlier the next day, ready to go to battle. He stayed even later than everyone else so that he could keep his focus. He looked at his complacency and his winning as something that he needed to attack aggressively to keep him from getting complacent. And if it wasn't for this truly unfortunate

helicopter accident, you all know that he'd still be working to strengthen that legacy today. Okay. We can, we can go down the list of people here. Let's take Elon Musk. In 95, he started Zip2 with his brother. In 99, his company was purchased by Compaq for $300 million. He personally got $22 million off that deal. Now, if you gain $22 million today, people would think they're going to retire for life. Elon didn't do that. He kept going. And one month after this huge payout, he co-founded x.com. And three years later, he was able to sell that to eBay for over a billion dollars, a billion and a half to be accurate. Okay. Within three years, he was able to sell it to eBay for one and a half billion dollars of stock under a new name, a name you know as PayPal. This time he accumulated $165 million for himself. Surely,

now's the time he could sit on his success sipping some fruity umbrella drink on a private island. But if you're familiar with the current events, you already know he didn't do that. Instead, he formed SpaceX and then Tesla and then SolarCity. He became one of the richest and most powerful people in the world and continues to create new ventures and foster progress in science and mathematics and business. That's impressive. That's legacy. That's the mentality you have to keep if you want to become the boss like everybody claims they want to be you can't be that guy sloshed at 7 p.m in the bar blaring springsteen's glory days okay that's it's fucking ironic anyway even springsteen's make fun of these guys and that's song you have to learn to take your little wins

and use them as a foundation for progressing further. If you find yourself at the highest possible point in some area of your life, that's the time to reevaluate, learn some new skills, and then build upon it to create something even better. All right. The only limits to a successful career or a successful life are self-imposed. All right. Basically what I'm saying guys is this milestones are huge and they're important and it's important to celebrate your wins for a short period of time, but you can't just hit one home run and quit. They're meant to be built upon. They're meant to be strung together. Those stones should eventually form a path, a path to success and what your legacy will ultimately be. It doesn't matter what you did yesterday. It doesn't matter what you did last month. It doesn't matter what

you did last year. It doesn't matter what you did 10 years ago. What are you doing today?